In this episode, Ted and Patrick tackle your questions—no filters, no fluff. They talk about what they’d tell their younger selves, the frustrating reality of feeling out of sync in dating, and what to do when motivation is nowhere to be found. Plus, they dive into one of the weirdest relationship dilemmas yet: what happens when friends refuse to call a partner by his nickname? Expect real talk, a few laughs, and the kind of honest advice you wish you’d heard years ago. Follow us on our Socials: YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCLzsGH4hM9TxHC4hHPvgMJwX: https://x.com/ManDownPodcast Bluesky: https://bsky.app/profile/did:plc:lm4shifbvs6k63eb54k2gmho Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mandown.podcast/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@mandownpodcast Timestamps: 00:00 Intro 00:10 Episode intro 01:11 Q1 Reflections on Being 1707:25 Q2 Navigating Relationships in Your 20s 11:54 Q3 Motivation and Habit Formation 19:42 Q4 Workplace Gossip 27:12 Reddit Post: Navigating Nickname 35:10 Quick Fire Round Questions 35:49 Q1 Two Favourite Female Musical Artists 40:33 Q2 Favourite Male Actor 45:36 Q3 Thing Most Evangelical About From The Last Year 47:25 Q4 Thing Trying to Change About Self 53:58 Patrick’s Other Podcast ‘Unseen Incidents’ 55:34 Kitchen Appliances 56:09 College American Football Names (The Humour in Names) 58:51 Outro 59:16 Broll (College Football Name Winner)

Most self-improvement advice focuses on productivity hacks or getting in shape — but what if there’s a different side to growth that we rarely talk about? In this episode, Ted and Patrick explore how self-improvement can mean reconnecting with beauty, curiosity, and joy in everyday life. It’s about going beyond the grind, finding meaning in small moments, and developing yourself in ways that actually make life richer and more fulfilling. If you’re tired of hustle culture’s narrow view of success and want to discover a broader, more meaningful approach to self-improvement, this conversation is for you. Follow us on our Socials: YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCLzsGH4hM9TxHC4hHPvgMJw X: https://x.com/ManDownPodcast Bluesky: https://bsky.app/profile/did:plc:lm4shifbvs6k63eb54k2gmho Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mandown.podcast/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@mandownpodcast Timestamps: 00:00 Intro 00:08 Episode Intro 00:55 The Balance of Sadness and Happiness 04:35 Time it Takes to Become Emotionally Available 05:07 Running vs Lifting 07:44 Patrick on Running and Fitness 09:27 Love and Hate Relationship of Running 11:28 Patrick’s Love for Lifting 12:08 Patrick on Making Running Fun 12:31 Going Full Coffee Nerd 13:42 Romanticising Your Life: A New Perspective on Self-Improvement 15:57 Patrick Alternative Ideas of Self-Improvement 16:57 Your Job Doesn’t Have to Be Your Purpose 18:04: Why We Started This Podcast in the First Place 18:33 The Good Life Is Simpler Than You Think 19:10 Screw Hustle Culture. Just Care About Something 19:52 Patrick’s Self-Improvement Check-List 20:28 The Importance of Diverse Interests 23:00 Challenge Yourself For Growth 26:00 Comic Books Were My First Cinematic Universe 27:00 Low-Load, High-Load: Why We Reach for Different Things 28:12 Your Media Habits Are Emotional Clues 29:00 Growth Means Giving Up a Bit of Comfort 30:50 Romanticising Your Life: What It Means 33:15 Diagnostics for a Richer Life 36:50 Transforming Chores into Pleasures 37:09 Creating Beauty in Everyday Life 43:00 Rekindling the Spark in Relationships 45:26 You Don’t Have to Choose Between Masculine & Beautiful 46:23 The Men You Admire Were Artists Too 46:41 You Can Be a Man and Like Nice Smells 47:00 Patrick on Passion Beyond the Basics 47:58 Entertainment Choices: Quality Over Quantity 52:52 Ted on Reading Smut 53:30 Ted on the Surprising Intimacy of Reading Together 54:52 Patrick & Ted on Unexpected Movie Discoveries and Timeless Soundtracks 56:37 Living in a Rich Media Environment 56:47 Assessing Life and Entertainment Choices 59:15 Outro

What if your clothes weren’t just about looking good — but about being seen? In this episode, Ted and Patrick dive deep into the intersection of fashion, masculinity, and identity. Why do so many men keep it muted, minimal, and safe — and why does anything beyond that feel off-limits? They explore: The fear of standing out vs. the desire to be respected The myth of “I’ll dress better once I’m in shape” How minimalism became the emotional safe zone for men Why style is still seen as feminine unless you’re famous or jacked And how dressing well can change your self-image — even if you’re a dad with no time Also: watches, knits, trainers, and why you don’t need to be stylish to start caring about style. This isn’t about trends. It’s about ownership. Of your look, your energy, and your right to feel good in your skin. Follow us on our Socials:YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCLzsGH4hM9TxHC4hHPvgMJwX: https://x.com/ManDownPodcastBluesky: https://bsky.app/profile/did:plc:lm4shifbvs6k63eb54k2gmhoInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/mandown.podcast/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@mandownpodcast Timestamps: 00:00 Intro  00:45 Fashion and Masculinity: How Menswear Got Deep 01:47 Expressing Yourself Through What You Wear 05:05 When Clothes Feel Like a Spotlight: Fear of Being Seen 06:16 Minimalism: Love or Loathe?  08:28 How Dressing Well Became an Act of Self-Respect 10:39 What Set Ted on His Style Path 12:10 Body Image and Clothing Choices 14:51 Why Good Shape Doesn’t Equal Good Style 15:30 The Awkward Phase of Teen Fashion 15:57 Ted’s Cashmere Hoodie: Casual Meets Class 16:40 Practical Fashion: Finding Joy in Dressing Well 18:37 Breaking Free from ‘Minimalism’ and Embracing Expression 19:54 Elevated Basics & The Myth of Effortless Style 21:26 The Thrifting Experience  25:23 When Style Meets Sustainability 28:00 Why Men’s Fashion Can Feel Like a Body-Shaming Club 30:03 Cultural Influences on Fashion Choices 30:50 Finding Your Unique Look and Owning It 33:30 How to Peacock Subtly: Suits, Ties, and Statement Pieces 36:18 Why Knitwear Is Worth the Investment 37:08 Ted’s Watch Collection 41:44 Ted’s Favourite Shoes 43:33 Fashion as Personal Expression  45:00 Breaking the Mold: Dressing Outside Traditional Masculine Silhouettes 45:48 The Danger of Getting Hooked on Watches & Sneakers 47:03 Why Dropping 30K on Brunello Cuccinelli Is a Pose 47:33 Outerwear: The First Step into Men’s Fashion 48:22 Male Fashion: More Than Just Trousers and T-Shirts 48:30 Breaking Down Men’s Jewelry Preferences 50:24 Ted’s Leather Bomber Quest 50:38 Ted’s Top Knitwear Picks and Brand Recommendations 56:12 Why Thrifted Knitwear & Vintage Coats Are Worth It 01:01:53 Ted’s Thrifting Adventures with a Model 01:02:55 Patrick’s Simple Trick for Finding Quality Fabrics 01:04:02 When Fashion Talk Turns to Rap 01:07:05 Practical Thrifting Tips 01:13:00 Ted and Patrick: London Meet Up 01:14:52 Patrick & Ted on Comfort, Confidence & Having Fun With Clothes 01:15:15 Finding Your Style: Embracing Individuality in Fashion 01:22:12 Exploring Fashion Beyond Gender Norms & Finding Your Personal Style 01:23:24 Outro

In this episode, Ted and Patrick explore the important topic of male anger and masculinity. Feeling angry is completely normal—and it can actually be useful. Anger isn’t just something to fear or bottle up. It’s a powerful signal that something needs your attention. But many men struggle to express it in healthy ways, which can lead to either shutting it down or letting it explode in damaging ways. Ted and Patrick break down the anger cycle, explain why many hide their anger behind other feelings, and share practical, constructive tips to help you manage anger without losing control or hurting the people around you. If you want to understand your anger and learn how to work with it, this episode is for you. Follow us on our Socials: YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCLzsGH4hM9TxHC4hHPvgMJw X: https://x.com/ManDownPodcast Bluesky: https://bsky.app/profile/did:plc:lm4shifbvs6k63eb54k2gmho Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mandown.podcast/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@mandownpodcast Timestamps- 00:00 Intro 00:29 Growing Up with Anger 02:15 The Two Types of Anger: Feeling It Too Much or None at All 02:40 Ted Reflects on His Own Anger and Emotional Growth 03:20 Realising You Don’t Have to Bottle Emotions Up 04:00 How Fatherhood Changed Ted’s View on Anger 04:33 Anger is Normal and Healthy Emotion 05:10 The Problem Isn’t Anger, It’s Control 06:10 Men Report More Anger—But Seek Less Help 06:27 Verbal Aggression Isn’t Just a Male Thing 06:40 Uncontrolled Anger Peaks in Young Adulthood 07:30 The Long-Term Cost of Persistent Anger 08:44 Self-immolation as expression 09:30 Would You Rather Be Right or Influential? 11:15 Anger into Influence: Ted's Practical Walkthrough 14:14 Breaking Down The Anger Cycle 17:22 Reclaiming Power by Choosing Not to React 18:30 The Fuel Behind the Fire: Understanding What Triggers You 20:20 Why Anger Can Feel Like Power and Addiction 23:00 When Anger Becomes a Weapon and a Source of Identity 24:58 Understanding Anger as a Normal Emotion 25:45 The Gender Dynamics of Anger 26:30 Processing Anger and Apologies 29:40 Unresolved Anger in Relationships 31:28 The Concept of Closure in Relationships 34:30 The Art of Setting Boundaries with People Who Don’t Change 37:13 The Dangers of Repressed Anger 39:00 Childhood Experiences Shape How Deal With Anger 40:22 Scared of Letting Anger Out 41:30 Conflict as a Path to Growth 43:00 Navigating Disagreements Constructively 44:40 Signs Repressing Anger 45:40 Accepting Emotions and Finding Balance 49:00 Constructive Concepts 1:02:33 Outro

In this episode, Ted and Patrick answer your questions — from diet scams and supplement lies to what happens when you fall for someone you can’t be with. They then react to a Reddit thread and share their insights and opinions on the authors’ posts. It opens up a raw conversation about money, career sacrifice, power dynamics, and what fairness really looks like in modern relationships.  AITA thread: https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/d7b5e1/aita_for_calling_off_my_wedding_because_my_stbh/ 00:00 Intro 01:18 Diet and Fitness Lies - Reader Question #1  01:39 Why Dieting Feels Impossible for Some People 02:07 Ozempic & Wegovy: The New ‘Cheat Code’ for Willpower? 03:12 The Dark Side of Keto 03:29 Cutting Through Diet Scams: Focus on Protein 04:42 Patrick & Ted’s Go-To Protein Shakes 08:25 Increase Your Fibre Intake 08:52 Ditch the Diet Myths: Focus on Protein and Real Food 09:58 No More Cheat Meals: Balance Your Diet Without Guilt 11:07 Healthy Habits: Meal Prep & Consistency 12:35 Fasting, Willpower Hacks & How to Beat Soda Cravings 14:23 No Magic Bullets: Real Talk on Supplements  15:02 Huel and Protein Shakes to Stop Snack Attacks 16:00 Build Your Routine Slowly 16:35 Ted’s ‘Boy Dinner’ & Finding What Works for You 17:14 The Truth About Sugar-Free Sodas 18:11 Food Prep, Fitness, and Self-Compassion 19:20 Listen to Your Body 20:34 Are You Absorbing Vitamin D? 20:50 What Salt Cravings Really Mean 21:46 Cravings as Your Body’s Natural Signals 24:00 Keep It Simple: Basics Before Complexity in Fitness & Diet 26:15 Letting Go of One-Sided Love - Reader Question #2 27:27 Focus on Those Who Choose You 29:12 Moving on from Unrequited Love 30:53 Letting Go to Grow 32:49 Balancing Cost and Effort in Relationships - Reader Question #339:43 Prenups & Financial Conversations - Reddit Question 43:30 Trust and Tough Conversations in Love 51:30 Outro (Subscribe, Comment, Follow us on social media)

In this episode, Ted and Patrick talk about how the fear of being “cringe” is keeping you from real connection—and why embracing romance might be the most powerful choice you make. Romance isn’t weakness. It’s intention. It’s action. It’s courage. And it has nothing to do with clichés—unless those clichés matter to you. This is about showing up fully. Because the moment you stop performing and start caring, everything changes. Follow us on our Socials: YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCLzsGH4hM9TxHC4hHPvgMJw X: https://x.com/ManDownPodcast Bluesky: https://bsky.app/profile/did:plc:lm4shifbvs6k63eb54k2gmho Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mandown.podcast/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@mandownpodcast Timestamps: 00:00 Intro 01:40 Defining Romance and Its Misconceptions 08:01 The Research Behind Romance and Relationships 11:56 Communication and Connection in Romance 14:49 Maintaining Passion in Relationships 16:17 Societal Views on Romance and Cringe 20:04 Ted’s Take on Love and Romance from Experience 22:53 Why Romance Isn’t a ‘Cheat Code’ in Relationships 25:40 The Importance of Romance in Relationships 28:10 Defining ‘Cringe' 28:40 Why Cringe is Killing Authenticity 29:50 Embracing Awkwardness for Growth 32:50 From School Judgments to Adult Social Fears 35:55 Rejecting Cringe and Embracing Authenticity 37:27 Attentiveness: The Foundation of Real Connection 41:05 Maintaining Attentiveness in Long-Term Relationships 43:15 Romance Is About Growth, Not Comfort 45:00 Your Relationship Is a Potted Plant—When to Repot It 47:54 Ted's Cringe-Worthy Romance Story 54:04 The Right Gift Is a Lesson in Who They Are 55:07 Patrick's Top 3 Tips on How to Reignite the Spark 55:30 #1 Maintain Connection in Relationships 1:02:04 #2 Show You Care 1:07:13 #3 Break Your Habits 1:08:48 Ted's 2 Sexy Habits That Build Intimacy 1:12:38 Embrace Vulnerability and Rejecting Cringe 1:15:20 Outro (Follow us on Social Media)

In this episode, Ted and Patrick explore how cultural ideas about masculinity prevent many men from taking care of their skin, causing them to avoid basic skincare—often at the expense of their own comfort. They explain why this mindset needs to change, how to identify your skin type, and how to create a simple, affordable skincare routine for under $20. No fluff, no complicated 10-step processes—just clear skin and common sense. Enjoy! Follow us on our Socials: YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCLzsGH4hM9TxHC4hHPvgMJw X: https://x.com/ManDownPodcast Bluesky: https://bsky.app/profile/did:plc:lm4shifbvs6k63eb54k2gmho Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mandown.podcast/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@mandownpodcast Links to references mentioned in the episode CeraVe https://www.cerave.com Truck driver's severe sun damage on his left side after 28 years of UVA exposure through his window. https://www.reddit.com/r/interestingasfuck/comments/10ke8k6/28_years_of_sun_exposure_made_the_left_side_of/ Timestamps 00:00 Intro 01:53 Demystifying Skincare 03:18 What Got Patrick into Skincare 04:53 Men and Skincare Challenges 06:05 Ted's Top 2 Tips for Skin Protection 07:02 Masculinity vs Skincare 10:53 Skincare Isn’t New – It’s Always Been a Thing 11:20 Ted on Being Fabulous—Take the Steps 12:27 The Basic Principles of Skincare 13:22 Know Your Skin Type 15:36 Skincare Doesn’t Need To Be Complicated 17:46 Patrick’s Skincare Tips 21:44 Patrick’s Skincare Non-Negotiables 25:09 How Ted Handles the Sun 27:23 Hygiene Rules Every Man Should Follow 31:00 Sunscreen and Skin Protection 32:22 Be Willing To Try Things 33:04 Ted's Skin Concerns and Routine 36:00 Patrick's Simple Skin Regimen 41:47 Facials, Pedicures & Spa Vibes 44:17 The Best Anti-Aging Secret 46:19 Retinol Basics and Tips 49:07 Scrubbing and Exfoliation Tips 50:27 Men's Makeup and Aging Gracefully 56:44 Key Takeaways 1:00:50 Outro 1:01:36 B-roll (TV References and Nostalgia, Dating Preferences and “Type”, Cultural Perceptions of Beauty)

In this episode, Ted and Patrick dive into the world of age gap relationships—breaking down the stigma, the history, and the real reasons behind why people choose partners much older or younger than themselves.From sugar daddying to genuine connection, they explore everything from Tracee Ellis Ross's preference for dating younger men to what age gap relationships can actually teach us about emotional maturity, relationship dynamics, and being honest about what we truly want. Enjoy! Links to videos mentioned in the episode Tracee Ellis Ross speaking with Michelle Obama https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HsnPE5Hauio Dennis Rodman Vice animation https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=p3zDKkoNMcg&rco=1 Follow us on our Socials: YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCLzsGH4hM9TxHC4hHPvgMJw X: https://x.com/ManDownPodcast Bluesky: https://bsky.app/profile/did:plc:lm4shifbvs6k63eb54k2gmho Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mandown.podcast/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@mandownpodcast Timestamps 00:00 Intro 01:19 The Social Stigma Around Age Gap Dating 01:58 The History of Age Gap Relationships 06:30 What Ted and Patrick define as an age gap relationship 10:53 Distinguishing between sexual relationships and those more than that 11:53 Tracee Ellis Ross shares her preference for dating younger men 18:20 Ted’s Lessons on Why Younger Women Date Older Men 24:00 Why Ted chooses to date younger women 33:42 Sugar daddying 37:45 What Age Gap Dating Can Teach You 39:55 Be Honest About What You Want in a Relationship 47:04 Ted's dating story 52:00 Patrick's thoughts on age gap dating now 54:30 Takeaway points on age gap dating 1:00:22 Follow us on social media 1:00:46 Broll (Michael Douglas, Dennis Rodman)

On this episode, Ted and Patrick answer reader questions, starting with emotional suppression. Learn how to express yourself, build better habits, and why crying is ingrained in us. Next, long-term meaning and fulfillment. How do you avoid short-term gratification to build the life you want? Then, Olly Murs got fit, but why do Men and Women disagree on which part of his transformation looks better? After a quick detour on Ryan Reynolds, James Corden, Hugh Jackman, and Kieran Culkin, the episode ends with the hosts' responses to an “Am I The Asshole” Reddit thread exploring grief, family, and enforcing boundaries. Links to referenced material: Carl Rogers therapy session: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uRCD3anKsa0 Sabrina Zohar reels: https://www.instagram.com/sabrina.zohar/reels/?hl=en Jillian Turecki reels: https://www.instagram.com/jillianturecki/reels/?hl=en Come as You Are by Emily Nagoski: https://www.amazon.com/Come-You-Are-Surprising-Transform/dp/1476762090 Olly Murs Twitter thread: https://x.com/imbethmccoll/status/1916513232845484340 Reddit thread: https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/1kad2je/aita_for_refusing_to_go_to_my_grandmas_funeral/ Listen to us on Megaphone (or find our RSS Feed!): https://cms.megaphone.fm/channel/VI9326253269?selected=VI1151133526 Follow us on our Socials: YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCLzsGH4hM9TxHC4hHPvgMJw X: https://x.com/ManDownPodcast Bluesky: https://bsky.app/profile/did:plc:lm4shifbvs6k63eb54k2gmho Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mandown.podcast/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@mandownpodcast Timestamps: 00:00 - Intro 00:50 - Plan for the episode 01:50 - Question about emotional suppression 03:50 - Crying isn’t the only way to feel sad 04:42 - Crying is deeply ingrained in us 06:00 - A habit of avoiding emotions 06:50 - Sad music as a release + Allowing yourself to feel sad 08:15 - Patrick’s visualization exercise 09:52 - These habits take a long time to break 11:13 - Patrick’s experience with not taking the time to process his emotions 13:24 - The inverse can also be true - too much time on emotions 15:03 - Emotions do NOT mean you’re broken 16:35 - Long-term meaning and fulfillment question 17:18 - Society tempts men with short-term gratification 18:06 - Build for YOUR future instead 19:12 - These don’t have to be chores 20:06 - Long-term meaning and fulfillment changes over time 21:03 - Build things that last for you and other people 22:37 - The person you spend your life with is YOU 23:20 - You don’t want to maintain every aspect of your life 24:26 - Creativity comes from doing 25:41 - Do not be afraid to fail 26:31 - Being interested in improving yourself is the first step 27:05 - Crucial concepts to get started with? 28:44 - Sharing book recommendations + Interesting people to listen to 30:30 - Surround yourself with stuff you’re interested in 32:45 - As long as it doesn’t hurt you it works 33:10 - Olly Murs and Attractiveness to men vs women 34:25 - Olly Murs fitness journey 34:59 - Men’s vs women’s opinions 36:45 - Your own lens of body image + Ryan Reynolds getting in shape 37:45 - Ted gets reasons from women 38:18 - Too self absorbed/committed? 39:02 - Guys have a different impression 39:58 - Do you want that body? 41:05 - Don’t try and be in a different category 42:14 - Fitness is what’s sustainable for YOU 44:09 - Women notice insecurities IMMEDIATELY 45:32 - Hugh Jackman and phases of being ripped 46:29 - Patrick’s opinion of Ryan Reynolds and James Corden 47:27 - English vs American perception of James Corden 48:20 - Kieran Culkin 50:11 - Am I the asshole? 55:35 - Only remembering the positive about someone is detached 56:58 - Neither angel nor devil 58:26 - It takes strength to push back on this 59:25 - Family is volatile 01:00:56 - B-roll (Fondling parchment, veiny goat skin, and funny kids stories) #emotions #fitness #fit #fitnessgoals #grief #podcast #bodyimage #selfacceptance #reddit #redditstories

Becoming a parent doesn’t just change your life — it changes you. In this open and thoughtful episode, Patrick and Ted reflect on how fatherhood has shaped them as people. They share the challenges they’ve faced, the unexpected rewards they’ve discovered, and how their parenting styles have influenced not only their children but also their own personal growth. This conversation dives into how the way we parent doesn’t just affect our kids — it mirrors who we are and shapes who we become. From emotional ups and downs to the quiet lessons no one talks about, this is a real and honest look at the journey of parenthood — and why it may be the most powerful transformation of all. Israeli parole board 2011 study: https://www.abajournal.com/news/article/study_of_israeli_parole_board_shows_why_good_scheduling_promotes_decisions Follow us on our Socials: YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCLzsGH4hM9TxHC4hHPvgMJw X: https://x.com/ManDownPodcast Bluesky: https://bsky.app/profile/did:plc:lm4shifbvs6k63eb54k2gmho Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mandown.podcast/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@mandownpodcast 0:0:00 Intro 00:44:23 Navigating the Challenges of Parenthood 0:03:09 You are not truly busy until you have kids 0:05:15 Loneliness of parenthood 0:06:05 The toll newborns can have on the relationship - renegotiating your relationship with your partner 0:06:26 Postpartum Depression and loss of identity especially for women 0:07:00 You can never truly prepare for parenthood 0:08:56 The blessing of having grandparents or extended family around to help 0:10:04 How things can go wrong 0:10:54 Israeli parole board 2011 study 0:11:27 The impact of being depleted and stressed on our decision making 0:12:20 The importance of taking care of yourself so you can parent better 0:13:09 Understanding parenting frameworks 0:13:58 Imposter Syndrome and Feeling Incompetent as a Parent 0:14:26 You need a parenting framework to not impact the raising of your child 0:14:48 Philip Larkin - This be the verse 0:15:02 What parenting reminds Patrick of 0:15:20 The Balance of Discipline and Freedom in Parenting 0:16:30 Ted sharing example of gentle parenting 0:16:53 Older Generation Parenting styles (authoritative) 0:17:15 Downside/Impact of authoritative parenting on the child 0:17:35 Kids Need Connection, Not Control 0:20:08 parenting is harder than you think 0:20:53 Your Child Wants Connection—And Control 0:21:10 Gentle Parenting: A Modern Approach 0:21:51 Gentle parenting closely matches Authoritative parenting 0:23:11 Parenting by Default or Design? 0:23:43 Parenting Isn’t That Different from Coaching Football 0:24:49 Navigating Parenting Through Generational Changes 0:26:28 Parenting Without Shame: Choosing Gentleness Over Guilt 0:27:26 Gentle Parenting Starts With Self-Reflection 0:29:24 Patrick and Ted’s Parenting Experience (The Joys & Challenges) 0:37:26 It's Okay Not to Be Ready 0:39:58 Raising Kids in a Better World 0:41:34 Worrying About Being a Good Parent Means You’re On the Right Path 0:44:58 Principles of Gentle Parenting 0:50:29 How to React Better - Teaching Kids Consequences 0:55:52 Things to Remember 1:00:16 Points to Takeaway

On this episode, Ted and Patrick discuss the world of fitness, emphasizing the importance of body composition, weight training, and sustainable habits for longevity and quality of life. They share personal experiences with body image, fitness journeys, and the common mistakes people make when pursuing fitness goals. Enjoy! Listen to us on Megaphone (or find our RSS Feed!): https://cms.megaphone.fm/channel/VI9326253269?selected=VI1151133526 Follow us on our Socials: YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCLzsGH4hM9TxHC4hHPvgMJw X: https://x.com/ManDownPodcast Bluesky: https://bsky.app/profile/did:plc:lm4shifbvs6k63eb54k2gmho Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mandown.podcast/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@mandownpodcast 00:00 - Intro 01:01 - Preconceptions of fitness 01:55 - Being fat kids 03:16 - Your goals will change as you age 04:55 - How did you feel about your body in different periods? 07:11 - Everybody who can exercise should do it 08:41 - “Fit” for what? 10:00 - Looking better = attracting higher quality partners 11:13 - Living in a period with more information than ever 12:30 - Mistakes Patrick made starting out 14:59 - Ted’s fitness journey 16:46 - Combining diet and exercise = sustainable 18:14 - Find something you love doing, or that you love the results of doing 19:28 - Fitness changes your life + increases in mobility/flexibility 20:49 - Is Patrick a masochist? + Gamifying running 22:08 - What was Patrick eating? 23:40 - Way to change your diet + How bad breakfast can be 25:26 - Drinking and liquid calories 26:13 - Moderation and not having a magic pill 27:55 - fitness is a lifestyle - make it sustainable 29:41 - Patrick is evangelical about weight lifting 30:30 - How easy it is to find a program online 31:49 - Pat’s pet peeve- going through the motions at the gym 32:18 - Focus on improvement every workout 33:37 - Ted disagrees - you can be casual and see massive results 34:07 - Choosing a body style that you are looking for 35:15 - Different expectations as you age 37:04 - Massive gains when you start and maintaining on less than you think 38:32 - Ted’s ex and strength vs size 40:15 - The benefits of yoga and stretching 41:51 - The 3 pillars of fitness 42:57 - Improving your quality of life is the goal of fitness 43:42 - Back issues can ruin your life 44:05 - Fitness also helps you have a better sex life 47:15 - NEAT and gaining/losing weight after parenthood 48:25 - Gaining muscle and cardio + footballers after retiring 49:11 - Take the walking options and conscious snacking 50:33 - Don’t do something you hate - find what’s right for you 51:40 - Don’t be intimidated 53:21 - Find programs who have the same issues as you + Story time 55:19 - Your body is going to change 56:17 - Your goals will take time, get comfortable with the process 57:42 - Give yourself compliments as well 58:47 - Topics we will cover in the future 59:37 - Respect that past you has made an effort for future you #fitness #weightloss #musclebuilding #bodyimage #gym #cardio #workout #fitnessmotivation #fitnessjourney #fitnesslifestyle #selfimprovement #fyp #foryou

In this episode, Patrick and Ted talk about what makes relationships last. They discuss choosing the right partner, the skills needed to keep love strong, and the tough decision of whether to stay or leave. They also explore the grief of losing shared memories and the often-ignored regrets people have in relationships. They challenge stereotypes about divorce, discuss the role of romance (especially for men), and share personal stories about love. Referenced articles:Gretta Duleba – https://integrationbyparts.substack.com/p/how-relationships-actually-workAella – https://aella.substack.com/p/the-difficulty-in-dating-good-men Follow us on our Socials: YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCLzsGH4hM9TxHC4hHPvgMJw X: https://x.com/ManDownPodcast Bluesky: https://bsky.app/profile/did:plc:lm4shifbvs6k63eb54k2gmho Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mandown.podcast/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@mandownpodcast Timestamps: 00:00 Intro 02:19 - Introducing the Topic of Relationships 03:49 – What We Mean by 'Romantic Relationships' 04:46 – Pressure on Romantic Partners Today 05:17 – Most Important Conversation to Have 05:46 – Clarifying Needs and Expectations Expectations Early On 06:46 – Understanding Boundaries and What You’re Looking For 06:19 – Age Gap Relationships and Shifting Viewpoints 06:36 – Cornerstone vs. Capstone Relationships 07:30 – Life Stage and Relationship Expectations 08:51 – The Myth of "The One" 08:26 – The Dangers of Over-Complicating Your Partner List 09:13 -  Compatibility Beyond Red Lines 10:04 - Avoiding Blind Commitment in Relationships 10:22 - Knowing When to Leave 10:44 - Balancing Flexibility with Non-Negotiables 11:15 - Gretta Duleba's Article 14:29 - Unspoken Assumptions in Relationships 15:19 – Matching Relationship Structures 16:00 - Relationships as Tightropes 18:20 – Conversations and Skills for Relationship Health 19:32 – Renegotiating Relationships as Life Changes 20:40 – Cultural and Familial Influence on Relationship Beliefs 22:07 – Power of Open Conversations 23:30 - Navigating Unspoken Agreements 24:00–Balancing Companionship and Intimacy in Modern Love 25:40 - Adapting to Changes Together 27:42 - The Reality of Your Twenties 29:50 - Aging, Longevity, and How Relationships Change 30:21 - Finding Stability in a Changing World 31:00 - Listen to How You Feel in Relationships 32:04 - Friendships and Emotional Health 32:18 - The Importance of Self-Awareness in Relationships 33:12 - Understanding Fear in Relationships 33:40 - Relationship Skills That Really Matter 34:10 - The Importance of Decision Making in Relationships 35:08 - Repairing Emotional Wounds 35:24 - Ted's Breakup Story and Self-Reflection 38:00 - Why Repair Is Essential in Relationships 38:11 - Rebuilding Parent-Child Relationships 38:38 - Swallowing Ego for Relationship Resilience 39:28 - Rupture and Repair in Therapy 41:22 - The Challenge of Being Comfortable in Therapy 41:43 - Confronting Difficult Family Dynamics 43:26 - How Honest Conversations Repair Relationships 44:33 - Co-Creation: Building Relationships Together 45:14 - How Life Transitions Change Relationship Phases 47:12 - Resilience and Safety 48:07 - Co-Creation Commitment 51:17 - Navigating Differences in Relationship Expectations 51:40 - Understanding the Limits of What Partners Can Give 52:46 - Turning Conflict into Growth 53:10 - Personal Growth and Boundaries 54:30 - Self-Discovery in Relationships 57:45 - The Future of Relationships 59:03 - Approaching Relationships as a Curiosity Project 1:00:00 - Modern Dating Challenges and the Pursuit of a Match 1:05:58 - High Expectations in Modern Dating 1:10:42 - Patrick Questioning Religion and Personal Identity at 16 1:13:38 - Addressing Anger 1:15:37 - Ted on the Impact of Abandoned Relationships 1:16:51 - Developing Real Relationship Skills 1:17:25 - What’s Next 1:17:45 - Ted on Romance and Relationship Skills for Men

In this episode, Ted and Patrick dive into why it’s so hard for men today to make and keep close friends. From the rise of loneliness to the disappearing social rituals that once held men together, we unpack the crisis facing modern brotherhood. They also explore real ways men can rebuild connection, step up to the challenge, and find meaningful friendship again. If you’ve been feeling isolated, disconnected, or unsure how to reach out, this conversation is for you. Follow us on our Socials: YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCLzsGH4hM9TxHC4hHPvgMJw X: https://x.com/ManDownPodcast Bluesky: https://bsky.app/profile/did:plc:lm4shifbvs6k63eb54k2gmho Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mandown.podcast/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@mandownpodcast 🎧New episodes every Tuesday & Thursday - Subscribe & hit the bell so you never miss one. Timestamps: 00:00 Intro 00:07 Episode Intro 01:28 Friendship in Your 30s 02:45 The Challenges of Adult Friendships 04:05 Navigating One-Side Friendships 08:50 The Importance of Vulnerability in Friendships 10:40 Being Honest to Save the Friendship 13:02 Some Friendships Drain You More Than They Should 15:00 Building Meaningful Connections 15:19 ManDown & TTF Meet Up 15:55 When Guy Time Gets Replaced by Group Time 17:20 The Impact of Life Changes on Friendships 18:17 Navigating Male Friendships 19:06 The Challenge of Making New Friends 27:35 Ending Friendships and Moving On 30:24 Test the Relationship — See What Happens 32:55 The Awkward Truth About Men Making Friends 35:31 Cultural Shifts in Social Interactions 38:18 The Art of Ending a Friendship (With Style) 40:20 Friendship Isn’t Easy—But It’s Worth It 41:22 TikTok Trend: Men Calling Each Other Good Night 42:17 Calls Over Texts in a Digital World 43:44 Quick Fire Questions (New Podcast Segment) 44:10 Q1 Biggest Waste of Money Ever 48:31 Q2 Most Complimented On 49:09 One Compliment That Scares Ted 50:39 Q3 Do You Believe in Free-Will? 52:20 Q4 Piece of Art You Would Recommend to Anyone 56:52 Q5 Is There A Piece of Art That Everyone Loves, But You Hate 59:46 Q6 What Moment Divides Your Life Into Before and After? 1:02:36 Politics & Religion 1:03:27 Outro

On this episode, Ted and Patrick discuss the challenges of long-distance relationships, the complexities of masculinity and anger management, and the joys and hardships of becoming a father. Then, they react to Reddit threads and share their insights and opinions on the authors’ posts. How should you navigate conversations in your relationship and when should you go to therapy to deal with trauma? Enjoy! AITA thread: https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/1j0qx5w/aita_for_not_hugging_my_girlfriend_after_she/ Sexuality Thread: https://www.reddit.com/r/TwoXChromosomes/comments/1jyph9f/how_to_get_rid_of_shame_around_sexuality/ Listen to us on Megaphone (or find our RSS Feed!): https://cms.megaphone.fm/channel/VI9326253269?selected=VI1151133526 Follow us on our Socials: YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCLzsGH4hM9TxHC4hHPvgMJw X: https://x.com/ManDownPodcast Bluesky: https://bsky.app/profile/did:plc:lm4shifbvs6k63eb54k2gmho Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mandown.podcast/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@mandownpodcast Timestamps: 00:00 Intro 00:36 Going through reader comments and Reddit therapy 02:16 Navigating long distance relationships 03:01 There are many ways to make a long-distance relationship work 07:48 The Challenge of Transitioning to Close Proximity After Long-Distance 08:25 The Importance of Space in Early Relationships 09:32 Patrick and Ted Discuss How Independence Strengthens Relationships 11:12 Understanding masculinity and anger 17:27 Anger can be a tool - not just a reaction 24:06 The Challenges of parenting 25:18 The Joys of Parenthood 28:59 Finding balance in parenting and personal life 30:57 The Evolution of Parenting Practices 31:54 Ted Discusses Aging and the Shift in Parenting and Society 33:45 It’s Okay to Say No to Lending Money 34:15 Exploring Sexuality and Shame - Reddit Question #1 40:39 How long does trauma therapy take? 45:40 Communication in Relationships: Navigating Conflict - Reddit Question #2 51:10 B-Roll - The wildest Sushi Date ever 56:48 Why Ted’s Dating Life is Taking Him to Eastern Europe 58:58 The Mystery Behind Russian Women’s Anger 01:01:32 Is Our Attraction to Certain Ethnicities Hardwired? #masculinity #longdistancerelationship #anger #angermanagement #parenthood #dad #reddit #redditstories #therapy #longdistance #relationship #selfimprovement #podcast #fyp #foryou

On this episode, Ted and Patrick are joined by Alina, a dating coach. They go over the do's and don'ts of a dating profile (with examples!), how to choose the best photos for the apps, and why you might not be getting matches. Then, they improve the profiles of two of our listeners! Enjoy. Singles Party: https://zalevska.webflow.io/korporatyv-eng Alina's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/alinazalevska/reels/?hl=en Alina's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@alina_in_london Listen to us on Megaphone (or find our RSS Feed!): https://cms.megaphone.fm/channel/VI9326253269?selected=VI1151133526 Follow us on our Socials: YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCLzsGH4hM9TxHC4hHPvgMJw X: https://x.com/ManDownPodcast Bluesky: https://bsky.app/profile/did:plc:lm4shifbvs6k63eb54k2gmho Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mandown.podcast/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@UCQ6DefpjKgqp7nT-h30CO5w Timestamps: 00:00 - Intro 02:17 - Why Alina may sound familiar 03:30 - Quality and Quantity 04:50 - The initial reaction to Ted's profile 06:18 - Ted's shirtless photo + why it was bad 08:23 - How do you adjust women's profiles to get higher quality matches? 10:51 - Choosing photos that represent you well 12:50 - Different levels of connection 13:57 - READ the profiles! 15:26 - Patrick can't handle it anymore 16:00 - How profiles differ between men and women 17:25 - Good vs Bad examples 20:42 - The first picture must be a selfie/portrait, #2 = Full body 22:36 - You can't be lazy with your profiles 24:19 - Bad photo examples 25:53 - Male friends should go on photograph sessions 27:30 - The other pictures must tell us about your life 28:45 - The wrong way to present your life 31:57 - Should women post their children? What about men? 34:46 - Alina's profile if she was lazy 37:00 - If you don't have the pictures you MUST invest time to get them 39:08 - Do men need to be told what's attractive about them? 42:08 - Write what you are looking for 46:42 - Our first volunteer (kyle) 47:55 - The photos had potential, he just needs to show it 48:30 - The first photo needs to not be so close up 49:08 - Kyle's written descriptions and more photos 50:09 - Your profile gives off subconscious signals 50:43 - How guys can show off their body 52:31 - Don't be too specific in your descriptions 54:21 - The music is appealing, but it's not about him? + Better photos 55:47 - We want to see you - not your friends 57:04 - How Kyle's profile should look 58:25 - Examples of a bad profile 59:35 - Choosing questions on Hinge 01:03:53 - The impact of better photos 01:04:48 - Volunteer #2 (Will) 01:05:14 - The pictures Will chose 01:06:37 - The description 01:07:37 - He has to give more information, but in a certain way 01:09:44 - Instead of writing about selfies - learn to do it! 01:10:56 - The second part of the description (+ a huge mistake) 01:12:11 - This profile could be so interesting with a few tweaks 01:14:10 - Additional photos of Will 01:15:44 - Alina's version of his description 01:18:11 - Give us feedback Kyle and Will! 01:19:52 - Alina's singles party 01:22:31 - Where to find Alina 01:23:13 - B-Roll (Color coordinating, sex party clothes, and Patrick committing crimes)

On this episode, Ted and Patrick explore the concept of fear casting, a technique for overcoming anxiety and overthinking by defining worst-case scenarios and analyzing potential outcomes. They discuss the importance of acknowledging fears, understanding the likelihood of negative outcomes, and taking actionable steps to mitigate risks. They also share personal stories from their lives and what they learned from them. Enjoy! Tim Ferriss’ Fear-Setting: https://tim.blog/2017/05/15/fear-setting/ Andrew Garfield on Grief and Heartbreak: https://www.yahoo.com/entertainment/andrew-garfield-says-movies-that-explore-grief-like-we-live-in-time-give-people-a-chance-to-be-together-in-our-sorrow-110027071.html?guccounter=1 Listen to us on Megaphone (or find our RSS Feed!): https://cms.megaphone.fm/channel/VI9326253269?selected=VI1151133526 Follow us on our Socials: YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCLzsGH4hM9TxHC4hHPvgMJw X: https://x.com/ManDownPodcast Bluesky: https://bsky.app/profile/did:plc:lm4shifbvs6k63eb54k2gmho Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mandown.podcast/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@UCQ6DefpjKgqp7nT-h30CO5w Timestamps: 00:00 - Intro 01:17 - Fear casting/Fear-setting 02:45 - People with a bias towards action vs bias towards thinking 03:39 - The earlier you encounter these ideas the earlier you can improve choices 05:26 - Ted doesn’t use it 06:58 - Why it works for Tim Ferriss 07:21 - Ted’s experience with this 08:16 - The unknown is more terrifying than reality 09:10 - Jaws is scary for this reason 10:52 - Step 1 - Write down your fear to define it 11:45 - It also gives you something to talk to someone else about 12:40 - Step 2 - What do I do if the nightmare came to be? 13:23 - Patrick’s fear and how he overcame it 14:26 - Overthinkers think they’re less in charge than they are 15:41 - People like helping other people 16:09 - Step 3 - What are the more probable outcomes? 17:39 - Failure doesn’t kill you 19:28 - What is it costing you to postpone action? 21:09 - What are you waiting for? 22:26 - A process Ted designed 24:54 - Fear can make intelligent people behave in stupid ways 26:00 - Saying “Do it” just does not work 26:34 - Giving your fear form makes it concrete 27:29 - This process is much easier in retrospect + Patrick’s worst nightmare 29:58 - Patrick could have done this originally without freaking out 30:38 - Ted shares a similar story about a horrific night 32:42 - This taught him he could deal with things 33:06 - The funniest moment Ted shares about his kids 33:54 - An Interesting transition 34:19 - Andrew Garfield on grief and heartbreak 35:20 - You can love stronger if you’re willing to take risks 37:13 - Great people failed before they succeeded, failure isn’t the end of the world 37:56 - Think “how can I feel this again” instead of shying away from it 38:39 - Is this going to change my value as a person? 39:57 - Give this a try and let us know your experiences! 40:58 - Nobody’s judging what you do - internalize that 42:52 - B-Roll (creating mythology around their lives and attributing things to the wrong friend)

In this episode, Ted and Patrick dive deep into the 5 classic love languages (and why they actually matter), explore how they show up in real relationships, and call out the common ways men miss the memo completely. From physical touch and acts of service, to why gifts aren’t greedy, we unpack it all. Enjoy! Esther Perel’s 7 verbs: https://www.estherperel.com/blog/7-verbs Social Clip discussion: https://x.com/CandiceHorbacz/status/1906775409452048592?t=E45VojhWxhmsrecgRN2LNQ&s=19 Study by Impett, Park and Muise: https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/10.1177/09637214231217663 Listen to us on Megaphone (or find our RSS Feed!): https://cms.megaphone.fm/channel/VI9326253269?selected=VI1151133526 Follow us on our Socials: YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCLzsGH4hM9TxHC4hHPvgMJw X: https://x.com/ManDownPodcast Bluesky: https://bsky.app/profile/did:plc:lm4shifbvs6k63eb54k2gmho Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mandown.podcast/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@UCQ6DefpjKgqp7nT-h30CO5w Timestamps: 00:00 - Intro 00:58 - How Patrick was introduced to love languages 01:53 - Kanye Interlude 02:44 - The 5 love languages and what they mean 04:06 - Better versions of these quizzes 05:12 - You’ll likely have one that’s dominant 06:10 - Ted’s absent love language 07:09 - How he’s tried to improve the deficit 07:25 - Difficulty with quality time 07:42 - Patrick’s dominant love language + Ted’s hard boundary 08:51 - The assumption that underlies love languages 10:11 - Degrees of physical touch and sleep separation 11:29 - The complexity of gift giving 12:09 - Ester Perel’s 7 verbs 13:34 - Expected gifts vs unexpected 14:30 - Social media clip discussion 15:39 - Being thoughtful about cooking vs doing it as a duty 17:02 - Unseen acts of service 18:39 - Expecting to read each other’s mind 19:31 - You NEED a highly communicative, vulnerable relationship 21:25 - Don’t treat your partner like a roommate 22:25 - A lot of people try to get away with doing as little as possible 24:14 - Working back up after a period of less affection + Quality time varieties 25:21 - Banning phones to have REAL conversations 26:29 - Downsides to this approach to love languages 27:34 - Linklater’s series 28:52 - Communication doesn’t have to be verbal 30:08 - Love languages as a tool, not absolutes 31:18 - Thoughtful gift giving 33:09 - Songs as subtle gifts or acts or service 35:11 - Love languages in conjunction with attachment styles 36:14 - Sharing memes as a love language 37:49 - FUNTY 39:31 - Would sharing memes be quality time? 40:06 - Reacting to peoples voices 41:03 - The importance of doing this with children 41:33 - More on Ted’s efforts to intentional and vulnerable 43:23 - Patrick’s efforts to work on love languages 44:40 - Internal dialogue and how you speak to yourself 45:35 - Why you should read the 7 Verbs (linked above) 47:15 - Love languages are a result of childhood absence or fondness? 49:19 - Scarce things feels precious 50:37 - Leave follow up questions down below! 51:39 - B-Roll (Instagram, Enjoying lifting, Patrick’s treasured memory, and My Fair Ladying a friend)

On this episode, Ted and Patrick dive into Success and Failure. The conversation starts with how failure is taught to be a bad thing from an early age, yet it often leads to the most growth. Next comes risk taking, which can be scary due to finding the limit of your abilities, which can lead to someone not trying. To end the episode, Ted shares the success and failures of his career, what he learned from each failure, how he learned from his failures to propel himself forward, and finding the thing the gives you purpose. Enjoy! Listen to us on Megaphone (or find our RSS Feed!): https://cms.megaphone.fm/channel/VI9326253269?selected=VI1151133526 Follow us on our Socials: YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCLzsGH4hM9TxHC4hHPvgMJw X: https://x.com/ManDownPodcast Bluesky: https://bsky.app/profile/did:plc:lm4shifbvs6k63eb54k2gmho Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mandown.podcast/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@mandownpodcast Timestamps: 00:00 - Intro 01:19 - Failure is a good teacher 02:47 - Go out and do interesting/hard things 03:58 - 2 kinds of failure 06:28 - No risk, no story 07:10 - Patrick’s experience not trying 08:56 - There’s a limit somewhere 10:00 - Imposter syndrome 12:43 - We’re programmed to be risk averse, but we have so many fewer risks now 15:38 - Life is not school, failure is ok 17:33 - Ted and Pat are real people with real experiences 19:25 - Statsbomb 20:14 - Ted’s history of success - starting as an athlete 21:27 - College and learning how to try 22:05 - Dropping out of graduate school 22:31 - The meandering path of Ted’s career 23:36 - Success at age 25, but not happiness 24:33 - Magic the gathering and sports betting 25:54 - Getting into football and winning a title 27:04 - Founding Statsbomb and gaining financial independence 28:47 - The failures along the way - a boring job with a horrible boss 29:42 - The .com crash and delivering pizza 30:12 - Editing starcitygames and then Magic 30:54 - quitting/getting fired 31:48 - Getting into sports betting with no training 32:56 - How did these choices feel to you at the time? 33:55 - Accepting interesting opportunities 34:37 - Knowing you have value so the failures don’t question your self-worth 36:28 - Divorce when young 37:27 - Rebuilding pinnacle + losing $63K on the day 1 38:36 - Learning to be successful at sports betting 39:29 - Was the stress addicting 40:33 - Nearly getting fired in 2010 42:25 - Not letting it stop his career 43:27 - When did you realize your political naivety? 44:55 - Choosing to spend more time with children 45:59 - The football side of things + getting fired for job hunting 47:07 - Starting statsbomb due cancer 47:59 - Great timing 49:05 - Great people in history have failures that lead to success 50:25 - Larry Miller and spending no time with family 52:30 - The stress of the last 2 years of Statsbomb 53:43 - The crowning moment of your career and everything is falling apart 55:13 - Acknowledging the good 57:20 - The biggest thing people look back on 58:14 - This conversation wouldn’t be happening without Statsbomb 59:00 - New projects to keep yourself occupied 59:42 - Writing, video games, and finding meaning in something 01:00:40 - Pat’s time at Football Daily 01:01:41 - Finding YOUR OWN definition of success 01:02:40 - Learn to love the work 01:03:57 - Not just the work, but other things in life 01:05:57 - Embrace failure, learn to feel better and find meaning in life 01:07:53 - It’s a marathon not a sprint 01:09:32 - Volunteer to having your dating profile reviewed by an EXPERT

On Today's episode, Patrick and Ted dive deep into attachment styles and how it shapes our relationships and self-understanding. They look at the origins of attachment style, the "Strange Situation", and the different categories people fall into. They also discuss their own attachment styles, how their styles have impacted relationships, and strategies to combat the difficulties your attachment styles may bring you. Enjoy! Listen to us on Megaphone (or find our RSS Feed!): https://cms.megaphone.fm/channel/VI9326253269?selected=VI1151133526 Learn more about attachment styles: attachmentproject.com Dr. Kirk Honda: https://www.youtube.com/c/PsychologyInSeattle One option to find a therapist (changeable locations): https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists Another option (UK only): https://www.counselling-directory.org.uk/ Slutstack podcast: https://sluts.substack.com/p/slutstack-ep1 Timestamps: 00:00:00 - Intro 00:01:27 - Attachment Theory 00:02:24 - Attachment specialists in the therapy world + attachmentproject.com 00:03:23 - Dr. Kirk Honda - Psychology in Seattle 00:04:33 - Attachment theory overview 00:05:45 - Questions about the research 00:07:19 - The “Strange Situation” 00:08:00 - The procedure and roles 00:09:09 - Categories of attachment and what they mean 00:11:58 - We are not locked into these categories 00:13:12 - Engagement preferences 00:13:52 - What these styles look like in adulthood 00:14:51 - You seek out the familiar in relationships 00:16:19 - The first time you have a healthy relationship it feels WRONG 00:16:48 - How anxiously attached people handle things 00:18:10 - Ted’s experience with making choices 00:19:18 - Certain styles make you prone to self sabotage + Anxious vs avoidant behaviors 00:20:52 - Avoidant people and independence + Extreme stress 00:23:11 - Disorganized attachment is a little bit of both 00:24:18 - Ted being mildly avoidant + experiences 00:25:59 - Rejection and attachment styles 00:28:14 - Patrick’s attachment styles vs his wife’s 00:30:09 - Anger and conflict resolution 00:31:34 - Argumentational style 00:33:52 - Anxious people can remain calm yet be mad for a long time 00:34:51 - Avoidance and being afraid to get too close 00:37:02 - Secure could actually be avoidant 00:38:21 - Are things bugging you? 00:39:09 - Hedonism’s real meaning 00:39:58 - Avoiding highs and lows vs. choosing potential pain 00:41:47 - Start by recognizing within yourself 00:43:20 - Recognizing red flags 00:44:37 - Donkeys in our comments (just a few!) 00:47:33 - Attachment styles compared to medicine 00:50:10 - Ted’s thoughts on the back metaphor + Yoga 00:52:10 - There’s no magic bullet and CBT 00:53:18 - The power of writing things down 00:55:22 - Are we stuck with out attachment styles? 00:56:13 - Recognizing patterns 00:58:37 - Resisting our impulses and instinctive reactions 01:03:26 - Look at the core beliefs you have developed 01:05:04 - Ted’s worry about being alone 01:06:23 - He knows it’s incorrect, but can’t get it out of his head 01:07:01 - The process yields results 01:08:25 - Look for resources produced by people in the field of psychology 01:10:26 - B-Roll (Slutstack, Patrick’s haircut, Pajama rich, and Ted’s hair)

On this episode, Ted and Patrick do a deep dive on dating apps. What are the differences Men and Women see on the apps, which apps are best for which purpose, and which one is the right app for you? Then, Ted shares his experiences with improving his dating profile thanks to help from his friend Alina. What mistakes did he make, how did he fix them, what impact did they have on his matches, and what can YOU learn from them? Enjoy! Follow us on our Socials: YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCLzsGH4hM9TxHC4hHPvgMJw X: https://x.com/ManDownPodcast Bluesky: https://bsky.app/profile/did:plc:lm4shifbvs6k63eb54k2gmho Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mandown.podcast/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@mandownpodcast Timestamps: 00:00:00 - Intro 00:01:28 - Demographics matter on dating apps, and so do populations 00:04:50 - Go where the ratio is favorable to you + optimizing your energy spent 00:06:15 - Ted’s experience and why we’re doing this episode 00:07:30 - Women are getting between 5x and 20x more matches 00:09:13 - Match.com owns 80% of all app traffic 00:10:32- Men are responsible for 96% of revenue + Grindr was first 00:11:47 - AI’s influence on these apps 00:13:04 - The distribution of attractiveness + Male to female ratio on apps 00:14:39 - Reported male heights on Tinder 00:17:30 - More Male vs Female statistics on apps 00:18:36 - Other dating apps besides Tinder (Bumble and Hinge) 00:20:44 - How do they differ and how are they the same? 00:21:57 - Check your local area to determine which app is best for you 00:22:24 - Raya and Ben Affleck 00:23:54 - Age gap relationships 00:25:59 - Fetish sites + Feeld 00:29:51 - Seeking Arrangements + their new marketing pitch 00:33:05 - The meat of the episode (Ted’s profile getting eviscerated by Alina) 00:36:13 - Ted’s profile before help 00:37:44 - DO NOT just scroll photos 00:39:35 - Patrick shows off + Alina’s comments 00:41:27 - Think ELEGANT + sober 00:43:30 - Ted’s shirtless photo + Alina audio 00:44:35 - Ted’s thought process behind the photo 00:46:02 - When shirtless photos are ok + MORE audio from Alina 00:50:10 - Male mindset + feeling good about yourself because of discipline 00:52:43 - The prompts before help + Patrick’s hatred of misspelled words 00:54:50 - Humor in messages after you match, but be interesting to create conversation in your prompts 00:57:17 - Why Ted hated answering these prompts 00:57:47 - Alina wasn’t all mean! + photo improvements 00:59:48 - Consider professional photographers to help your pictures stand out 01:02:41 - Improved prompts after Alina’s input 01:05:02 - Adding depth gives more for people to go off of + experts are so quick to make massive changes 01:06:03 - The changes Ted noticed + doubling his matches 01:08:39 - Ted’s dating range + factors that matter more than age 01:10:58 - Experts focus in on the right things + Has it made the experience more enjoyable? 01:13:10 - Women get so many matches it’s overwhelming - don’t get frustrated 01:14:30 - Women are tired of men being too insecure to let someone get to know them 01:15:54 - DON’T bring up your exes 01:16:52 - Fun social media post about red flags 01:21:06 - Dating mindset + Actions speak louder than words 01:25:03 - B-roll (zoomers, Americans, religion and Thanosing people)

On this episode, Ted and Patrick dive into the complexities of dating, exploring its various phases, the importance of connection, and the significance of understanding one's own needs and boundaries. They also talk about the evolution of dating from casual to partnership, being the product on dating apps, and open communication and learning from bad dates. Enjoy! Follow us on our Socials: YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCLzsGH4hM9TxHC4hHPvgMJw X: https://x.com/ManDownPodcast Bluesky: https://bsky.app/profile/did:plc:lm4shifbvs6k63eb54k2gmho Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mandown.podcast/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@mandownpodcast Timestamps: 00:00:00 - Intro 00:01:27 - Dating and ways to think about dating 00:02:59 - Dating as a construct 00:03:40 - Phase one: Sex 00:05:26 - Phase two: Connection 00:10:20 - The exciting elements of dating 00:12:43 - You must understand your hard boundaries 00:13:40 - Phase three: Partnership 00:14:44 - Navigating Responsibilities and anchors as you age (especially children) 00:16:20 - Open relationships/polyamoury 00:18:14 - Knowing yourself allows you to find the right partner for you 00:20:01 - Dating commentators + actions speak louder than words 00:23:17 - Getting through the door + texting is not a relationship 00:25:00 - Be honest about your needs 00:26:20 - You want somebody who LOVES to see you 00:27:48 - Matching Libidos 00:30:05 - The sexual side of culture has shifted in the last 10 years 00:31:08 - Phases where relationships are mostly sexless 00:32:34 - YOU are the product 00:33:45 - Presenting yourself as a Partner + What qualities women look for in men 00:35:46 - 1989 dating section anecdote + How we’re going backwards 00:38:09 - Engaging in meaningful conversations 00:41:27 - Being a product on dating apps 00:43:23 - Patrick’s INSTANT NO 00:44:23 - BE MORE FIT 00:45:23 - Be funny and charming 00:47:32 - Intelligence is an indicator that you might be a good partner 00:49:06 - Are you able to remove the gendered element? 00:51:25 - It’s all about getting through the door initially 00:52:48 - Be interested 00:55:59 - Listening proves active involvement in a relationship 00:58:13 - These concepts are applicable to many aspects of life, not just dating 01:00:10 - Be Interesting + don’t talk too much about your past 01:02:49 - Love languages on a first date? 01:04:25 - Listen to people when they tell you who they are 01:07:33 - Dating past a certain age means you’re done with BS 01:09:38 - Don’t waste other people’s time 01:11:26 - The many things to consider around having more kids 01:14:12 - Dating should be FUN 01:14:50 - Dating as a process and learning to filter better 01:16:11 - Does Ted enjoy dating now? Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

On this episode, Patrick and Ted dive into Radical Honesty. What does it mean, how should you implement it, and when do people take it too far? They also get into the helpfulness of meditation, arguing in constructive ways, two truths, and benefit of the doubt. Enjoy! Follow us on our Socials: YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCLzsGH4hM9TxHC4hHPvgMJw X: https://x.com/ManDownPodcast Bluesky: https://bsky.app/profile/did:plc:lm4shifbvs6k63eb54k2gmho Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mandown.podcast/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@mandownpodcast Timestamps: 00:00:00 - Intro 00:01:50 - Radical honesty and how much dishonesty is in our lives 00:03:12 - Ted's history with Radical honesty 00:05:09 - Is our internal monologue honest? 00:06:51 - Being Self-Centered 00:08:18 - Honesty when interacting with other people 00:09:58 - If you find problems everywhere, maybe you're the problem 00:11:09 - How people misuse radical honesty 00:13:29 - Applying the stick but never the carrot 00:15:01 - Charlie Munger's wish for his children 00:17:08 - Compassionate self-talk 00:18:23 - Where to draw the line 00:19:01 - To what extent do you practice radical honesty? 00:21:53 - It can take away your self control 00:23:45 - Differing cultural expectations 00:25:02 - Holding feelings in can lead to explosions 00:26:29 - Meditation 00:29:57 - Two truths 00:33:20 - Shared truths when relationships end 00:35:01 - Learning to hate the person you love to end relationships 00:36:59 - Different styles of reasoning 00:39:18 - Arguing in constructive ways 00:41:57 - When compromise is not possible 00:43:14 - Benefit of the doubt and being offended is a choice 00:46:12 - Develop an unshakeable core 00:48:48 - Knowing that you've done all you can 00:51:50 - B-Roll - Ted decorating his house from scratch 00:56:04 - Americans and their perception of the UK 00:56:37 - Paris Syndrome and Parisian attitudes 00:59:20 - Parisian/London Underground style 01:02:45 - Big cities are generally similar, no matter where they are| 01:03:20 - Overstimulation from foreign countries #honesty #selfimprovement #selfimprovement #wellness #menswellness #mentalhealth #podcast #radicalhonesty #selfhelp #relationship #foryou Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

On this episode, Patrick and Ted discuss all things sex. They start with the evolution of sexual culture, the role of dating apps, and the importance of understanding attraction and preferences. Along the way they dive into peak age of attraction differences between men and women, submissiveness and what we can learn from it, the benefits of physical touch, and the importance of self-reflection. Enjoy! Follow us on our Socials: YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCLzsGH4hM9TxHC4hHPvgMJw X: https://x.com/ManDownPodcast Bluesky: https://bsky.app/profile/did:plc:lm4shifbvs6k63eb54k2gmho Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mandown.podcast/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@mandownpodcast Timestamps: 00:00 - Introduction to the Podcast and Topic of Sex 02:44 - Navigating Changes in Sexual Norms 05:35 - The Impact of Dating Apps on Modern Relationships 08:29 - Exploring Sexual Attraction and Preferences 11:24 - The Role of Kinks and Submissiveness in Relationships 13:20 - The difference in Age of peak attraction between Men and Women 20:30 - Kinks and the awareness of them 23:10 - Submissiveness, Height, and what we can learn from Aella's study 27:04 - Compatibility and the ethics of desires 34:57 - Learning from Disagreements/Arguments 38:28 - Exploring Sexual Identity 44:14 - The Complexity of Attraction 49:27 - Navigating Personal Boundaries 55:32 - The Importance of Self-Reflection 58:33 - Evolving Relationships and Communication Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Therapy can be uncomfortable. But avoiding it costs way more. In this episode, Ted and Patrick break down what holds men back from starting therapy, how to get the most out of it, and what to expect once you’re in the room. Whether you’ve been thinking about going or still feel unsure, this is a good place to start. Follow us on our Socials: YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCLzsGH4hM9TxHC4hHPvgMJw X: https://x.com/ManDownPodcast Bluesky: https://bsky.app/profile/did:plc:lm4shifbvs6k63eb54k2gmho Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mandown.podcast/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@mandownpodcast 🎧New episodes every Tuesday & Thursday - Subscribe & hit the bell so you never miss one. Timestamps: 00:00 Welcome Intro 00:09 Episode Intro 00:35 The Podcast as Therapy 01:08 Two Perspectives: The Therapist and the Newcomer 01:21 Starting the Conversation on Mental Health 01:47 Why People Resist Therapy 05:38 The Breakdown That Started the Healing 11:30 Men and Emotional Processing 15:30 The Importance of Therapy as a Diagnostic Tool 15:47 Signs You Might Need Therapy 21:08 Navigating Grief and Future Relationships 22:33 The Value of Professional Support 24:20 Communication and Understanding in Therapy 26:15 Understanding Trauma and it's Misuse 29:30 The Role of Therapy in Self-Discovery 30:16 The Therapist-Client Dynamic 35:25 Navigating Emotional Vulnerability 36:16 Self-Reflection and Future Goals 38:30 The Importance of Self-Discovery in Therapy 40:07 Recognising Personal Strengths 41:48 Embracing Emotional Experiences 45:42 The Challenge of Self-Identity 51:15 Building Trust and Repairing Relationships 52:55 The Importance of Hard Conversations 54:30 Therapy as a Tool for Self-Understanding 55:20 Worthy of Love: Rebuilding Self-Worth 58:40 Navigating Therapy: Finding the Right Fit 1:24 Outro

On this episode, Ted and Patrick discuss all things male friendship related. Why are these friendships so important, where do people find their friends, and what are steps you can take to improve these relationships? They also discuss how to find a therapist, having to relearn how to cry, and the challenges of parenthood and friendship. Enjoy! One option to find a therapist (changeable locations): https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists Another option (UK only): https://www.counselling-directory.org.uk/ Follow us on our Socials: YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCLzsGH4hM9TxHC4hHPvgMJw X: https://x.com/ManDownPodcast Bluesky: https://bsky.app/profile/did:plc:lm4shifbvs6k63eb54k2gmho Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mandown.podcast/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@mandownpodcast Timestamps: 00:00 - Introduction and Podcast Mission 02:03 - The Gap in Culture for Male Conversations 02:46 - Incorporating Guests and Improving Lives 04:27 - Male Friendships and Emotional Support 05:00 - Generational Stoicism and Masculinity 06:10 - Impact of COVID on Friendships 07:33 - Support Systems in Relationships 08:45 - Vulnerability in Friendships 09:30 - How to Build and Improve Friendships 10:55 - Creating More Social Connections 12:03 - Building Habits in Friendships 14:52 - Expanding Social Networks and Finding Partners 15:43 - Ted’s Experience with Friendships and Leadership 20:29 - Struggles with Maintaining Friendships 24:25 - The Emotional Toll of Startup Life 25:34 - Finding a Therapist and Mental Health Support 27:20 - The Importance of Processing Emotions 28:46 - Ted’s Support System and Friendship Check-ins 30:27 - Patrick’s Journey with Male Friendships 33:19 - The Challenges of Parenthood and Friendship 35:19 - Shared Experiences Strengthen Friendships 36:44 - Coping with the Physical and Emotional Strain of Parenting 38:26 - Reconnecting with Old Friends 39:41 - Maintaining Long-Distance Friendships 41:05 - Double Standards in Friendships 42:32 - The Importance of Being Vulnerable in Friendships 43:40 - Breaking Out of Isolation and Building Friendships 45:25 - Finding New Social Activities and Interests 47:33 - Complimenting Strangers and Building Warmth 49:06 - Planting Seeds in Friendships 50:16 - Learning How to Cry and Process Emotions 51:54 - Emotional Control and Repression in Startup Life 52:42 - Telling Friends You Love Them 54:07 - Exploring the Spectrum of Male Relationships 55:45 - Realizing You Have Agency in Friendships Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Originally recorded on the 17th of February, Ted and Patrick start by discussing the reasons behind them starting this podcast. They then explore the complexities of male vulnerability, dating culture, and the challenges faced by men in modern relationships. Along the way they discuss the impact of dating apps, personal experiences with breakups, and the importance of emotional growth and connection. Enjoy! Follow us on our Socials: YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCLzsGH4hM9TxHC4hHPvgMJw X: https://x.com/ManDownPodcast Bluesky: https://bsky.app/profile/did:plc:lm4shifbvs6k63eb54k2gmho Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mandown.podcast/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/ ⁨@Mandownpodcast⁩  Timestamps: 00:00 - Introduction to the Podcast Journey 01:05 - Exploring Male Vulnerability in Film 02:43 - The Impact of Dating Culture on Men 04:00 - The Dating App Experience 06:47 - Understanding Dating Dynamics 09:22 - The Role of Marketing in Dating 11:17 - The Therapist's Perspective on Loneliness 13:29 - Navigating Expectations in Relationships 15:31 - Personal Reflections on Breakups 20:05 - Learning from Mistakes in Relationships 22:55 - Embracing Vulnerability and Romance #mentalhealth #vulnerability #emotionalgrowth #dating #datingculture #datingapps #friendship #risktaking #loneliness Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Are we just close friends — or something more? In this episode, Ted and Patrick dive into the grey areas of modern dating and masculinity, sparked by real questions from our listeners. We unpack what it means when emotional chemistry feels like more than friendship, how to deal with dating burnout, and the unspoken fears many men have around sexual inexperience and insecurity. Whether you're stuck in the friend zone, tired of being the only one putting in effort, or wrestling with body count anxiety — this one's for you. Show Notes Cera Gibson clip credit @ceradaddygibson https://www.youtube.com/shorts/3dFHa31qxQ8 Come as You Are - Book by Emily Nagoski Follow us on our Socials: YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCLzsGH4hM9TxHC4hHPvgMJwX: https://x.com/ManDownPodcastBluesky: https://bsky.app/profile/did:plc:lm4shifbvs6k63eb54k2gmhoInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/mandown.podcast/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@mandownpodcast Timestamps: 00:00 Intro 00:04 Episode Intro 01:14 Reader comment #1 People-Pleasing 08:03 Is the Friend Zone Really a Problem? 01:47 Reader comment #2 Navigating Emotional Intimacy With Friendship 09:51 Reader comment #3 Taking Breaks from Romance and Focusing on Self 11:05 Comment Part 1: Dating Burnout 13:33 Comment Part 2: Dating Expectations vs Reality 16:39 How Ted Approaches Dating 17:50 Cheap Date Ideas 18:32 Don’t put some much pressure on yourself 19:50 Ted’s Two Low-Key Date Ideas 21:37 Rejection Feels Better When You’re True to Yourself 22:27 Reader comment #4 Body Count 24:00 Inexperienced Doesn’t Mean Inadequate 31:08 Why Bigger Isn’t Always Better 38:22 Reader comment #5 Friendship Fallout 41:03 Patrick’s Tips on How To Approach Repairing Broken Friendships 41:52 Ted Thoughts on Approaching Broken Friendships 47:31 Outro 48:31 Broll (Impressions, Accents and Nostalgia)

Why does dating feel so much harder for men today? In this episode, Ted and Patrick dive into the hidden struggles men face in the age of dating apps and swipe culture — from feeling invisible and overlooked, to battling confusing “rules” and social atrophy that’s making real connection almost impossible. They break down why dating apps, instead of helping, might actually be making us worse at connecting — and why so many men feel lost and unsure of who to be in modern dating. If you’ve ever felt frustrated by ghosting, “confirm the date” pressures, or just the overwhelming noise of digital romance, this episode is for you. Finally, they also explore how distorted ideas of masculinity are shaping men’s experiences — and what real, meaningful connection could look like in today’s world. Follow us on our Socials: YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCLzsGH4hM9TxHC4hHPvgMJw X: https://x.com/ManDownPodcast Bluesky: https://bsky.app/profile/did:plc:lm4shifbvs6k63eb54k2gmho Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mandown.podcast/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@mandownpodcast Show Notes: slutstack article referenced in the episode https://sluts.substack.com/p/play-stupid-games-win-stupid-prizesJohn Mulaney credit WIRED 2018 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=psbIKH5tqiM Timestamps: 00:00 Welcome Intro 00:11 Episode Intro 01:06 Challenges of Real-Life Connection in the Dating World 03:07 The Decline of Dating Apps and Social Engagement 07:11 Why Everyone Feels Like an NPC 12:47 Social Media Controversies in Dating Culture 17:00 Navigating Compatibility and Blind Dates 18:38 The Role of Community in Dating 22:20 Masculinity and the Modern Man 26:00 Gentleness and Emotional Intelligence 30:00 Creating Opportunities for Connection 33:46 Respecting Boundaries and Self-Worth 35:40 The Human Connection in Online Dating 36:44 Tate, the Manosphere, and Faux Masculinity 38:40 Our Real Enemy: Simplistic, Misogynistic Thinking 40:00 What Is a Good Man Anymore? 40:53 Make Yourself the Product — Then Choose Wisely 41:03 Let People Fail You — Then Set Boundaries 42:11 Know Your Value, But Stay Humble 43:27 Do Men Mature Into Tenderness? 44:22 Personal Development and Relationships 46:40 Understanding Fatherhood and Self-Forgiveness 48:26 Finding Role Models and Intentional Living 51:05 Outro 51:38 Broll (Exploring Celebrity Crushes and Kinks, fun vs funny)

In this episode, Ted and Patrick answer listener questions about careers, dating, and meaning. They dive into the frustration of being stuck in a 9-5 with no clear path forward, the emotional toll of job rejections despite having degrees, and the disconnect between achievement and fulfilment. They also unpack one of the biggest unspoken fears: how to actually approach women — not just with confidence, but with intention. Follow us on our Socials: YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCLzsGH4hM9TxHC4hHPvgMJw X: https://x.com/ManDownPodcast Bluesky: https://bsky.app/profile/did:plc:lm4shifbvs6k63eb54k2gmho Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mandown.podcast/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@mandownpodcast Timestamps:  00:00 Intro  01:23 Question #1 Emotional Expression & Empathy Gap 08:14 Question #2 Finding Purpose With Work 08:29 The Upsides of a 9-5 Job 09:16 Finding Meaning and Fulfilment Beyond Work 11:29 Question #3 Navigating the Job Market 13:08 Find Work That Feels Like Play 14:15 Are Degrees Worth It? 15:31 Current Job Market Realities17:51 Question #4 How To Approach Women 22:35 Outro (Give Us Feedback!)

In this episode, Ted and Patrick unpack the blurry line between confidence and arrogance. They explore what it means to build real confidence—not just perform it—and how to root it in genuine self-worth. Drawing from their experiences as public voices in football commentary, they ask: How do you know when you’re veering into arrogance? What does it take to stay grounded while still backing yourself? From handling criticism to building inner systems for self-belief, this is a sharp, honest conversation about identity, feedback, and the work of becoming truly self-assured. Show Notes: The Transfer Flow newsletter referenced in the episode https://www.thetransferflow.com/p/be-intellectually-honest-but-f-ck-a-hater-89d0 Follow us on our Socials: YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCLzsGH4hM9TxHC4hHPvgMJw X: https://x.com/ManDownPodcast Bluesky: https://bsky.app/profile/did:plc:lm4shifbvs6k63eb54k2gmho Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mandown.podcast/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@mandownpodcast Timestamps: 00:00 Intro 01:43 Why Patrick and Ted’s Football Takes Get Called Arrogant 02:48 Defining Self-Worth, Confidence and Arrogance 04:13 Why Ted Responded to Arrogance Criticism: Cultural Clashes & Track Record Explained 09:28 Patrick Shares His Perspective on Being Labeled Arrogant  11:28 Ted’s Reply to Criticism — Featured in the TransferFlow Newsletter14:58 Abilities vs. Qualities: The Arrogance Line 16:00 What does it mean to be self-confident? 19:38 The Roots of Ted’s Self-Confidence 22:06 It’s Okay to Fail — Your Worth Isn’t Defined by One Outcome 24:30 Confidence grows from self-worth 27:00 Expertise vs. Overconfidence 29:35 We learn self-worth at school, but not how to explore it. 29:50 We all share the same journey of failure and growth. 30:18 How Patrick earned the right to claim more confidence31:50 Ted’s Advice on Confidence  35:20 Patrick’s Take: Internal Qualities and Self-Worth 38:38 Social Media: Where Toxicity Meets Opportunity 41:40 Low Self-Worth: Influences & Inner Voice 46:30 Two Paths After Arrogance: Denial or Growth 47:40 Ted on Dismissing Earned Praise and Compliments 52:39 Why Some People Struggle to Accept Compliments 55:00 Patrick’s Struggle With Praise and Self-Worth 56:40 How to Respond When Your Partner Rejects a Compliment57:30 Why Working on Your Self-Worth Matters 58:52 Patrick’s Thoughts on Being Called Arrogant 1:02:19 Ted on Constantly Growing His Expertise 1:04:34 Patrick on Saying ‘I Don’t Know’ 1:07:20 Tips for Rebuilding Self-Talk and Setting Boundaries 1:16:55 Wrap-Up & Reflections 1:19:12 Outro  1:19:27 Broll 

Avoiding hard conversations can hold you back in your relationships, career, and personal growth. In this episode, Ted and Patrick dive into practical frameworks to help you start and navigate those tough talks with confidence — without losing your cool or shutting down. You’ll learn: - Why we resist difficult conversations and how to overcome it - How to mentally prepare before the talk to minimise emotional triggers - What to say, what not to say, and how to express yourself clearly - How to stay calm and listen actively, even when things get tense - Ways to reflect on the outcomes and decide your next steps Whether it’s about money, family, or your relationship, this episode is for anyone who’s been avoiding “that talk.” Real change starts with speaking your truth — and we’re here to guide you through it. Follow us on our Socials - YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCLzsGH4hM9TxHC4hHPvgMJwX: https://x.com/ManDownPodcastBluesky: https://bsky.app/profile/did:plc:lm4shifbvs6k63eb54k2gmhoInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/mandown.podcast/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@mandownpodcast Timestamps: 00:00 Intro 01:05 Hard Conversations for Ted 02:08 Hard Conversations for Patrick 03:43 Avoid the Talk. Pay the Price. 06:13 Intro into Navigating Hard Conversations 07:30 Where Does the Stress Start? 13:30 Hard Conversations Ted is Good at Having 14:12 Understanding Personal Triggers in Conversations It Starts With an Honest Conversation 16:09 Negotiating Vulnerability in Tough Talks 18:41 Finding Common Ground in Hard Conversations 20:08 Navigating Hard Conversations 24:50 How to Prepare for Tough Talks 28:20 Strategies for Effective Communication 28:50 Prepare, Script, and Influence: Keys to Effective Hard Talks 33:00 The Importance of Follow-Up 34:11 How to Stay Open and Collaborative in Hard Conversations 39:30 Building Long-Term Relationships Through Communication 44:15 How Patrick Approaches Hard Conversations 46:45 Navigating Unexpected Conversations 52:55 The Importance of Reflection and Follow-Up 53:31 Wrapping It Up: Patrick’s Advice on Hard Conversations 56:55 If Patrick and Ted Had a Hard Conversation… 58:05 Outro (Wit vs Puns, Mission Impossible, Jackie Chan, follow us on social media)

In this episode, Ted and Patrick dive into the relationship opinions no one wants to admit — but everyone needs to hear. From the myth of the “spark” on the first date to body count, casual sex, and whether men and women can really just be friends — we’re unpacking the unpopular takes that actually make sense when you look a little closer. If you’re tired of surface-level dating advice and want something real, intentional, and honest — this one’s for you. Follow us on our Socials: YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCLzsGH4hM9TxHC4hHPvgMJw X: https://x.com/ManDownPodcast Bluesky: https://bsky.app/profile/did:plc:lm4shifbvs6k63eb54k2gmho Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mandown.podcast/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@mandownpodcast Timestamps: 0:00 Intro 00:50 Unpopular Opinion #1 Cut Ties with Your Ex Before You Date 02:49 Unpopular Opinion #2 Men and Women Can’t Be Just Friends 09:48 The Versions of Ourselves We Close Off 11:57 Parenting and Personal Identity 14:13 When Your Toddler Repeats the Unrepeatable 15:26 Unpopular Opinion #3 Losing Your Virginity Is Overhyped 22:00 Unpopular Opinion #4 Expecting spark on first date 24:00 Signs There’s a Spark on a Date 25:45 Reasons/causes of no spark on first date - why you should give a person a second chance 27:45 First Impressions & Attraction 29:00 Passive vs Active Dating 32:11 Unpopular Opinion #5 If It’s Not a Special Occasion, Go Half 33:37 Unpopular Opinion #6 There Is One Person for Everyone 35:40 Unpopular Opinion #7 If It’s Right, It Will Be Easy 38:47 Unpopular Opinion #8 High Body Count? I’m Out 43:00 How Important is the Number? 48:33 Bonus Unpopular Opinion 48:15 The $15k Girlfriend: When Dating Gets Transactional 48:38 Old School vs. New School: Dating as a Marketplace 49:13 Patrick filling Ted’s emotional hole 49:50 Dating, But Make It a Business Deal 52:24 Marriage Math: What Is a Stay-at-Home Parent Worth? 53:38 Talking Money, Kids & Roles — Before Marriage 58:50 Love Can’t Be an Equation — Can It? 59:20 It’s Not Romance — It’s Strategy 1:00:20 The Dynamics of Financial Support in Relationships 1:05:40 The Complexity of Emotional and Financial Support 1:08:29 When Sex Work Enters the Relationship Zone 1:09:15 Relationships Are Never 50/50 1:12:37 Outro (send us your questions!)

In this episode Ted and Patrick dive into real-life listener questions, tackling topics like staying present with your partner and kids while managing a demanding career, navigating dating when someone isn’t your “type” but has a strong emotional connection, and finding self-forgiveness while making peace with past mistakes. 💬 Send us your questions in the comments or at mandownpodcast@varianceincorporated.com Follow us on our Socials: YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCLzsGH4hM9TxHC4hHPvgMJw X: https://x.com/ManDownPodcast Bluesky: https://bsky.app/profile/did:plc:lm4shifbvs6k63eb54k2gmho Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mandown.podcast/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@mandownpodcast Timestamps: 00:00 Welcome Intro 00:07 Episode Intro 00:42 Why Hiring a Cleaner Isn’t as Simple as You Think 04:38 Reader Questions 05:04 #1 Navigating Physical and Emotional Attraction 14:17 #2 Balancing Work and Family Life 25:45 #3 Finding Self-Forgiveness and Peace 43:55 #4 Rewiring Your Brain for Better Habits 50:00#5 What Scene in Lost in Translation Made Patrick Cry? 52:08 Art Doesn’t Always Need to Make Sense 54:00 Outro (Subscribe and Send Us Your Questions)

Why do we keep getting in our own way — even when we want something badly? In this episode, Ted and Patrick dig into the deeper psychology of self-sabotage: what it really is, why it happens, and how to break the cycle for good. We’ll unpack: - Why “self-sabotage” isn’t a diagnosis — and what it’s really a symptom of - How fragile self-worth and old beliefs quietly shape destructive patterns - The many ways self-sabotage shows up in your career, creative work, and relationships - Why some of these behaviours feel protective — even when they hurt you - The traps that keep you stuck on repeat (and how to see them before they happen) - Practical ways to break the cycle and move forward with confidence Follow us on our Socials: YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCLzsGH4hM9TxHC4hHPvgMJw X: https://x.com/ManDownPodcast Bluesky: https://bsky.app/profile/did:plc:lm4shifbvs6k63eb54k2gmho Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mandown.podcast/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@mandownpodcast Timestamps: 00:00 Welcome Intro 00:07 Episode Intro 00:49 Ted’s Trip to Santa Barbara 02:29 When It’s Time to Stop Wallowing 02:49 Holding Space Without Holding On 03:13 How We Torture Ourselves With Old Pain 03:55 The Power of Putting It Away 04:14 Patrick’s Life Updates & Milestones 05:19 The Third Child Nightmare 06:47 When Your Partner’s Dream Turns Into Your Problem 08:24 Seeing Self-Sabotage Across Life 09:39 Understanding Self-Sabotage 10:21 Patterns of Behaviour and Fear of Failure 10:55 Self-Sabotage as a Symptom 12:35 The Inertia Behind Self-Sabotage 16:03 Embracing Failure and Taking Risks 20:01 The Fragile Sense of Self and External Validation 22:47 Embracing Failure in the Creative Process 23:42 The Cycle Of Learning and Self-Improvement 26:57 Understanding Procrastination and its Roots 27:51 Finding Limits and Overcoming Imposter Syndrome 30:16 Creating for Yourself vs. Seeking External Validation 33:06 The Impact of Procrastination on Life Choices 37:31 Self-Sabotage in Relationships 48:34 Avoidant Behaviour and its Consequences 53:11 Summary & Final Thoughts on Self-Sabotage 54:29 The Value of Vulnerability and Effort 57:49 Outro

We’re back with another round — and this time, the producers put Ted and Patrick through the wringer. 20+ rapid-fire questions. No prep. No time to think. Just off-the-cuff answers. You’ll hear which guilty pleasure Patrick refuses to feel guilty about, the fictional characters they irrationally relate to, and why Ted’s had a horror movie aversion since he was 10 years old. And trust us — it only gets better from there.If you love honest, funny, and unexpectedly revealing stories, this episode is for you. Follow us on our Socials: YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCLzsGH4hM9TxHC4hHPvgMJw X: https://x.com/ManDownPodcast Bluesky: https://bsky.app/profile/did:plc:lm4shifbvs6k63eb54k2gmho Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mandown.podcast/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@mandownpodcast Timestamps: 00:00 Intro 00:05 Episode Intro 00:31 From Desk Fans to Deep Questions — Things Escalated Fast 04:35 Quick Fire Questions 05:15 The Moment Everything Shifted 09:01 Ted & Patrick’s Life Warning Labels 10:11 Ted’s Opening Book Scene 12:50 The Compliment That Low-Key Insults You 14:03 What People Totally Get Wrong About Us 18:29 Known for Mind, Heart, or Impact? 22:47 Guilty Pleasures Ted and Patrick Own 24:41 The Habit That Keeps Relationships Strong 27:34 Fictional Characters We Secretly Relate To 28:21 When Did We Last Surprise Ourselves? 32:29 Trend Phases We Fully Committed to (And Regret) 33:47 Qualities We Admire but Struggle to Cultivate 35:44 Surprising Bucket List Dreams 38:00 Whose Creative Brain Would We Steal for a Day? 41:44 The Boldest Clapback in Classical Music History 42:24 The Skill We Wish We Had 43:08 Favourite City/Country to visit 44:10 Advice That Actually Stuck 45:31 Favourite Thing About Each Other 49:24 Go-To Comfort Meal 52:04 Things We Changed Our Mind About Recently 55:23 Top 5 Favourite Films 59:27 A Mistake We Made Once—and Never Repeated 1:03:23 Outro

Sleep impacts everything—from your physical health to mental clarity—but it’s often overlooked. In this episode, Ted and Patrick break down why sleep matters and how small changes can lead to big improvements. No guilt, no pressure—just practical tips to help you fall asleep easier, stay asleep longer, and feel better every day. Prioritising your sleep could be the key to a better, longer life. Show Notes 🧠 Therapist Anne Brown https://www.annebrownpsychotherapy.com/ Sleep Research Huberman: • View sunlight within 30–60 mins of waking & before sunset • Wake/sleep at consistent times—don’t push past sleepiness • No caffeine within 8–10 hours of bedtime • Use the Reveri app (iOS) for sleep-focused self-hypnosis (3x/week) • Avoid bright overhead lights between 10 pm–4 am • If awake at night, try NSDR or Yoga Nidra (on YouTube) • You might consider taking (30-60 min before bed): 145mg Magnesium Threonate or 200mg Magnesium Bisglycinate 50mg Apigenin 100-400mg Theanine (3-4 nights per week I also take 2g of Glycine and 100mg GABA.) *I would start with one supplement (or none!) and then add one at a time as needed. **Don’t take theanine if you have overly intense dreams, sleep-walk, or have night terrors. ***Also, some people (~5%), get an agitated stomach from magnesium supplementation, in which case, do not take it. Bryan Johnson Habits: • Build a nightly wind-down routine (30–60 mins) An online randomized clinical trial on 991 subjects concluded that reading a book in bed improved sleep quality in a majority of participants, as self-reported by the participants using SQS scoring. In a wide meta analysis, mindfulness meditation outperformed controls and proved equivalent to medications in treating sleep disturbances. In a study on 94 students, soothing classical music outperformed a negative control and an audiobook at improving sleep quality and reducing depression. In older adults too, a meta analysis of 9 studies with 489 participants showed significant improvements with sleep latency, duration, and efficiency with various music interventions in multiple settings and countries. • Cool room temperature between 60-67°F (15-19°C). • Eat your last meal 2–4+ hours before sleeping • Try to avoid caffeine, alcohol, and other stimulants at least 10 hours before sleep. Caffeine has a half life of 6 hours in the blood. That means that consuming a cup of coffee 6 hours before bedtime is equivalent to drinking half a cup immediately before going to bed! Alcohol reduces REM sleep, increases sleep fragmentation (frequent awakenings), and can exacerbate existing medical conditions Follow us on our Socials: YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCLzsGH4hM9TxHC4hHPvgMJw X: https://x.com/ManDownPodcast Bluesky: https://bsky.app/profile/did:plc:lm4shifbvs6k63eb54k2gmho Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mandown.podcast/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@mandownpodcast Timestamps: 00:00 Intro 00:05 Episode Intro 01:20 Thank You For Coming To The Meet Up 01:48 Live Podcast? 02:35 Sleep Hygiene and Its Challenges 03:48 Why We Are Talking About Sleep 05:37 Sleep Training and Family Dynamics 07:13 How Patrick Optimises his Sleep 08:09 Quality vs Quantity 09:15 The Impact of Sleep on Cognitive Function 10:32 Your Morning Routine Cannot Outrun Terrible Sleep 10:51 What Made Ted Prioritise Sleep 12:46 Tired Ted vs. Sleep-Deprived Patrick 14:35 Research on Sleep in Sports 18:24 The Importance of Sleep for Athletes 19:18 Sleep Fuels Performance 21:23 Circadian Rhythms and Performance 22:35 Optimising Sleep for Daily Life 25:06 Therapist Recommendation 26:29 Sleep Research from Huberman and Johnson 29:13 Sleep Tips and Strategies 36:05 The Importance of Sleep Awareness 38:43 Recap of Tips and More Hygiene Strategies 42:29 Supplements and Sleep Hygiene 48:25 Better Sleep, Better You 50:09 The Role of Nutrition in Sleep Quality 51:19 Outro