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Center For Relationship Wellness

Drs. Don & Carrie Cole

The Center for Relationship Wellness, founded by Drs. Don Cole and Carrie Cole, offers an approach to marital therapy that is based on the 40+ years of scientific research of Dr. John Gottman, recently voted as one of the Top 10 Most Influential Therapists of the past quarter-century by Psychotherapy Networker. Don Cole and Carrie Cole are both frequent contributors to media articles on relationships.Most couples struggle with some problems in their relationships at some point. Oftentimes they are able to work through them, but sometimes they need outside help to manage their differences.Many of us find it hard to take the first step to seek out guidance for lots of reasons. People want to believe they can solve their own problems. After all, we are intelligent human beings. And many have heard horror stories about marriage counseling gone terribly wrong. No one wants to expose themselves psychologically only to be criticized or told that they are wrong. After struggling with those anxieties, how does one go about choosing a therapist for marriage counseling?Certified by The Gottman Institute, Don and Carrie offer a practical approach that teaches couples how to build marital intimacy, renew respect for one another, and develop problem-solving skills to manage conflict.


Don ColeD.Min, LPC, LMFT

Dr. Don Cole is the Clinical Director for The Gottman Institute and a licensed mental health counselor in the state of Washington. As a Certified Gottman Method Couples’ Therapist and a member of the Gottman Relationship Institute and an advanced trainer in Gottman Method Therapy, he teaches all levels of the Gottman Method Certification Program.He received his doctorate in ministry with a specialization in psychotherapy from Garrett-Evangelical Theological Seminary in 1993. He has more than 30 years of experience working with individuals and couples in various capacities including marital therapy, affair recovery, depression, anxiety, trauma recovery, parenting, and personality disorders.

Carrie ColePh.D., M.Ed., LPC

Dr. Carrie Cole is the Director of Research for The Gottman Institute and a licensed mental health counselor in the state of Washington. As a Certified Gottman Method Couples’ Therapist and an advanced trainer in Gottman Method Therapy, she teaches all levels of the Gottman Method Certification Program.She is a licensed professional counselor in the state of Texas and an approved LPC Supervisor. She received her Master’s degree in Educational Psychology with a specialization in Counseling Psychology from the University of Texas at Austin in 1994. She received her PhD in psychology from Capella University.She has more than 25 years of experience working with individuals and couples on a wide range of issues including marital therapy, affair recovery, depression, anxiety, sexual abuse, eating disorders, parenting, trauma recovery, divorce recovery, and personality disorders. Carrie has also provided seminars on relationships, parenting and divorce recovery.

The Shameless Sexual Revolution can only be liberated and spread if we escape the oppressive ideology of the past that has been allowed to corrode the deep passion that lies in all women for the explicit objective to advance a morality that holds NO validity today, yesterday or of anytime in the history of all mankind. We, women of the world, together shall forge a new path –NOT because we are weak alone - but because we are stronger as a single sharp point of power with one mind, one body and one soul channeling a revolutionary vision of our design and our values. Are you willing to wait for a better tomorrow to magically appear without sharing in the struggle we all know is required to generate any change in this world? We, SHAMELESS REBELS, are NOT going to wait one more day.

The Shameless Sexual Revolution can only be liberated and spread if we escape the oppressive ideology of the past that has been allowed to corrode the deep passion that lies in all women for the explicit objective to advance a morality that holds NO validity today, yesterday or of anytime in the history of all mankind. We, women of the world, together shall forge a new path –NOT because we are weak alone - but because we are stronger as a single sharp point of power with one mind, one body and one soul channeling a revolutionary vision of our design and our values. Are you willing to wait for a better tomorrow to magically appear without sharing in the struggle we all know is required to generate any change in this world? We, SHAMELESS REBELS, are NOT going to wait one more day.

The Shameless Sexual Revolution can only be liberated and spread if we escape the oppressive ideology of the past that has been allowed to corrode the deep passion that lies in all women for the explicit objective to advance a morality that holds NO validity today, yesterday or of anytime in the history of all mankind. We, women of the world, together shall forge a new path –NOT because we are weak alone - but because we are stronger as a single sharp point of power with one mind, one body and one soul channeling a revolutionary vision of our design and our values. Are you willing to wait for a better tomorrow to magically appear without sharing in the struggle we all know is required to generate any change in this world? We, SHAMELESS REBELS, are NOT going to wait one more day.

The Shameless Sexual Revolution can only be liberated and spread if we escape the oppressive ideology of the past that has been allowed to corrode the deep passion that lies in all women for the explicit objective to advance a morality that holds NO validity today, yesterday or of anytime in the history of all mankind. We, women of the world, together shall forge a new path –NOT because we are weak alone - but because we are stronger as a single sharp point of power with one mind, one body and one soul channeling a revolutionary vision of our design and our values. Are you willing to wait for a better tomorrow to magically appear without sharing in the struggle we all know is required to generate any change in this world? We, SHAMELESS REBELS, are NOT going to wait one more day.

The Shameless Sexual Revolution can only be liberated and spread if we escape the oppressive ideology of the past that has been allowed to corrode the deep passion that lies in all women for the explicit objective to advance a morality that holds NO validity today, yesterday or of anytime in the history of all mankind. We, women of the world, together shall forge a new path –NOT because we are weak alone - but because we are stronger as a single sharp point of power with one mind, one body and one soul channeling a revolutionary vision of our design and our values. Are you willing to wait for a better tomorrow to magically appear without sharing in the struggle we all know is required to generate any change in this world? We, SHAMELESS REBELS, are NOT going to wait one more day.

The Shameless Sexual Revolution can only be liberated and spread if we escape the oppressive ideology of the past that has been allowed to corrode the deep passion that lies in all women for the explicit objective to advance a morality that holds NO validity today, yesterday or of anytime in the history of all mankind. We, women of the world, together shall forge a new path –NOT because we are weak alone - but because we are stronger as a single sharp point of power with one mind, one body and one soul channeling a revolutionary vision of our design and our values. Are you willing to wait for a better tomorrow to magically appear without sharing in the struggle we all know is required to generate any change in this world? We, SHAMELESS REBELS, are NOT going to wait one more day.

The Shameless Sexual Revolution can only be liberated and spread if we escape the oppressive ideology of the past that has been allowed to corrode the deep passion that lies in all women for the explicit objective to advance a morality that holds NO validity today, yesterday or of anytime in the history of all mankind. We, women of the world, together shall forge a new path –NOT because we are weak alone - but because we are stronger as a single sharp point of power with one mind, one body and one soul channeling a revolutionary vision of our design and our values. Are you willing to wait for a better tomorrow to magically appear without sharing in the struggle we all know is required to generate any change in this world? We, SHAMELESS REBELS, are NOT going to wait one more day.

The Shameless Sexual Revolution can only be liberated and spread if we escape the oppressive ideology of the past that has been allowed to corrode the deep passion that lies in all women for the explicit objective to advance a morality that holds NO validity today, yesterday or of anytime in the history of all mankind. We, women of the world, together shall forge a new path –NOT because we are weak alone - but because we are stronger as a single sharp point of power with one mind, one body and one soul channeling a revolutionary vision of our design and our values. Are you willing to wait for a better tomorrow to magically appear without sharing in the struggle we all know is required to generate any change in this world? We, SHAMELESS REBELS, are NOT going to wait one more day.

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The Shameless Sexual Revolution can only be liberated and spread if we escape the oppressive ideology of the past that has been allowed to corrode the deep passion that lies in all women for the explicit objective to advance a morality that holds NO validity today, yesterday or of anytime in the history of all mankind. We, women of the world, together shall forge a new path –NOT because we are weak alone - but because we are stronger as a single sharp point of power with one mind, one body and one soul channeling a revolutionary vision of our design and our values. Are you willing to wait for a better tomorrow to magically appear without sharing in the struggle we all know is required to generate any change in this world? We, SHAMELESS REBELS, are NOT going to wait one more day.

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The Shameless Sexual Revolution can only be liberated and spread if we escape the oppressive ideology of the past that has been allowed to corrode the deep passion that lies in all women for the explicit objective to advance a morality that holds NO validity today, yesterday or of anytime in the history of all mankind. We, women of the world, together shall forge a new path –NOT because we are weak alone - but because we are stronger as a single sharp point of power with one mind, one body and one soul channeling a revolutionary vision of our design and our values. Are you willing to wait for a better tomorrow to magically appear without sharing in the struggle we all know is required to generate any change in this world? We, SHAMELESS REBELS, are NOT going to wait one more day.

https://www.soniamarienutrition.com

The Shameless Sexual Revolution can only be liberated and spread if we escape the oppressive ideology of the past that has been allowed to corrode the deep passion that lies in all women for the explicit objective to advance a morality that holds NO validity today, yesterday or of anytime in the history of all mankind. We, women of the world, together shall forge a new path –NOT because we are weak alone - but because we are stronger as a single sharp point of power with one mind, one body and one soul channeling a revolutionary vision of our design and our values. Are you willing to wait for a better tomorrow to magically appear without sharing in the struggle we all know is required to generate any change in this world? We, SHAMELESS REBELS, are NOT going to wait one more day.

The Shameless Sexual Revolution can only be liberated and spread if we escape the oppressive ideology of the past that has been allowed to corrode the deep passion that lies in all women for the explicit objective to advance a morality that holds NO validity today, yesterday or of anytime in the history of all mankind. We, women of the world, together shall forge a new path –NOT because we are weak alone - but because we are stronger as a single sharp point of power with one mind, one body and one soul channeling a revolutionary vision of our design and our values. Are you willing to wait for a better tomorrow to magically appear without sharing in the struggle we all know is required to generate any change in this world? We, SHAMELESS REBELS, are NOT going to wait one more day.

The Shameless Sexual Revolution can only be liberated and spread if we escape the oppressive ideology of the past that has been allowed to corrode the deep passion that lies in all women for the explicit objective to advance a morality that holds NO validity today, yesterday or of anytime in the history of all mankind. We, women of the world, together shall forge a new path –NOT because we are weak alone - but because we are stronger as a single sharp point of power with one mind, one body and one soul channeling a revolutionary vision of our design and our values. Are you willing to wait for a better tomorrow to magically appear without sharing in the struggle we all know is required to generate any change in this world? We, SHAMELESS REBELS, are NOT going to wait one more day.

The Shameless Sexual Revolution can only be liberated and spread if we escape the oppressive ideology of the past that has been allowed to corrode the deep passion that lies in all women for the explicit objective to advance a morality that holds NO validity today, yesterday or of anytime in the history of all mankind. We, women of the world, together shall forge a new path –NOT because we are weak alone - but because we are stronger as a single sharp point of power with one mind, one body and one soul channeling a revolutionary vision of our design and our values. Are you willing to wait for a better tomorrow to magically appear without sharing in the struggle we all know is required to generate any change in this world? We, SHAMELESS REBELS, are NOT going to wait one more day.

We are on the frontlines FIGHTING for all women that love sex. JOIN US as we destroy the shame that has infected women all over the world, causing needless suffering and providing NO value to women whatsoever. JOIN US in this FIGHT TODAY! Go to our website www.makemorelovenotwar.com and email us letting us know you want to be a SHAMELESS REBEL. Spread our mission by forwarding a link to our podcast to friends and family! Together, one day, we will celebrate our Victory with all the glory it deserves but for today we FIGHT.

JOIN US NOW!!

www.makemorelovenotwar.com

The Shameless Sexual Revolution can only be liberated and spread if we escape the oppressive ideology of the past that has been allowed to corrode the deep passion that lies in all women for the explicit objective to advance a morality that holds NO validity today, yesterday or of anytime in the history of all mankind. We, women of the world, together shall forge a new path –NOT because we are weak alone - but because we are stronger as a single sharp point of power with one mind, one body and one soul channeling a revolutionary vision of our design and our values. Are you willing to wait for a better tomorrow to magically appear without sharing in the struggle we all know is required to generate any change in this world? We, SHAMELESS REBELS, are NOT going to wait one more day.

We are on the frontlines FIGHTING for all women that love sex. JOIN US as we destroy the shame that has infected women all over the world, causing needless suffering and providing NO value to women whatsoever. JOIN US in this FIGHT TODAY! Go to our website www.makemorelovenotwar.com and email us letting us know you want to be a SHAMELESS REBEL. Spread our mission by forwarding a link to our podcast to friends and family! Together, one day, we will celebrate our Victory with all the glory it deserves but for today we FIGHT.

JOIN US NOW!!

www.makemorelovenotwar.com

The Shameless Sexual Revolution can only be liberated and spread if we escape the oppressive ideology of the past that has been allowed to corrode the deep passion that lies in all women for the explicit objective to advance a morality that holds NO validity today, yesterday or of anytime in the history of all mankind. We, women of the world, together shall forge a new path –NOT because we are weak alone - but because we are stronger as a single sharp point of power with one mind, one body and one soul channeling a revolutionary vision of our design and our values. Are you willing to wait for a better tomorrow to magically appear without sharing in the struggle we all know is required to generate any change in this world? We, SHAMELESS REBELS, are NOT going to wait one more day.

We are on the frontlines FIGHTING for all women that love sex. JOIN US as we destroy the shame that has infected women all over the world, causing needless suffering and providing NO value to women whatsoever. JOIN US in this FIGHT TODAY! Go to our website www.makemorelovenotwar.com and email us letting us know you want to be a SHAMELESS REBEL. Spread our mission by forwarding a link to our podcast to friends and family! Together, one day, we will celebrate our Victory with all the glory it deserves but for today we FIGHT.

JOIN US NOW!!

www.makemorelovenotwar.com

It's everywhere. Accessible anytime, on any device, with just the click of a button. It's the dirty little secret most of us don’t talk about, at least not in polite company. Some people hide it, lie about it, and are ashamed of it. Others are comfortable with it and enjoy it as a healthy part of their daily lives. It can destroy relationships. It can also create an intensity that connects couples together and leads to mind-blowing sexual intimacy.

Porn.

Why is it so polarizing? Why does it scare us? Why does it turn us on? Why do some find it shameful while others can’t live without it?

Today, I’m joined by clinical psychologist and sex therapist David Ley. David is an internationally-recognized expert on issues related to sexuality, pornography and mental health. We discuss the myths and realities about porn, how men and women use and view porn, and how porn can enhance sexual intimacy when couples use porn consensually in their relationships.

No matter where you stand on the subject, you’ll learn a lot from our discussion. So let’s do it – let’s talk about the dirty little secret: porn.

The Shameless Sexual Revolution can only be liberated and spread if we escape the oppressive ideology of the past that has been allowed to corrode the deep passion that lies in all women for the explicit objective to advance a morality that holds NO validity today, yesterday or of anytime in the history of all mankind. We, women of the world, together shall forge a new path –NOT because we are weak alone - but because we are stronger as a single sharp point of power with one mind, one body and one soul channeling a revolutionary vision of our design and our values. Are you willing to wait for a better tomorrow to magically appear without sharing in the struggle we all know is required to generate any change in this world? We, SHAMELESS REBELS, are NOT going to wait one more day.

We are on the frontlines FIGHTING for all women that love sex. JOIN US as we destroy the shame that has infected women all over the world, causing needless suffering and providing NO value to women whatsoever. JOIN US in this FIGHT TODAY! Go to our website www.makemorelovenotwar.com and email us letting us know you want to be a SHAMELESS REBEL. Spread our mission by forwarding a link to our podcast to friends and family! Together, one day, we will celebrate our Victory with all the glory it deserves but for today we FIGHT.

JOIN US NOW!!

www.makemorelovenotwar.com

She is the progeny of when East meets West, when Yin meets Yang. An avid lover of life and life’s forever student, Wei “Amy” Lu has been experimenting and refining the art of achieving peace and balance through her unique understanding of Eastern philosophy and Western learnings.

At the age of thirteen, Wei and her family were among the first group of immigrants allowed to emigrate from Communist China on its new “Open Door” policy of the 1980’s. Wei’s parents were college professors who gained the rare opportunity of coming to the United States to further their higher education. Life was difficult, at first, with the entire family living on an eight-hundred-dollar student stipend, as well as facing an incredible language barrier and culture shock. These difficulties, however, did not deter the eighth grader as she treasured the blessing of being in the “land of opportunity.” In school, she adopted her American name “Amy” given by her ESL teacher. Amy studied diligently and learned the English language in three short months. As she advanced in school, she never forgot to be grateful for everything she had been given and always strove to do her best. She finished at the top of her graduating class and earned a full scholarship to Texas Tech University. After receiving a BS degree in Electrical Engineering, Amy worked for Motorola as an RF design Engineer for cell phone base stations. She is currently the senior product manager for an inorganic chemical company.

Amy has been married for 23 years; she and her husband live in the DFW area and are the proud parents of two amazing young men.

In her spare time, Amy enjoys learning modern medicine and traditional holistic healing. She has completed all pre-med classes at a local college. She is learning the Chinese traditional medicine of meridians and acupressure techniques as a complimentary therapy to promoting the body’s natural healing mechanisms. She is currently a certified Reiki practitioner. As a scientist and engineer, Amy finds the body’s subtle energy system of health and well-being both intriguing and powerful. Her YouTube channel “Mother Healer” is dedicated to sharing with others her knowledge of holistic healing insights.

Through the years, Amy has realized her purpose in life is to “combine the best of East and West.” Her unique understanding and experiences from both traditional Asian and modern Western cultures are invaluable to establishing her world view. She proposes that the key to achieving satisfactory life experience is through the “Four Pillars of Joy and Freedom,” which are the pillars of Compassion, Forgiveness, Gratitude, and Love.

In many ways, Amy is the embodiment of the remarkable union of opposite, yet complimentary forces: East and West; modern and traditional; Yin and Yang; solid science and intangible energy. She looks forward to sharing her knowledge and her light with others, as we are all ONE

What I want to do is just share a four step process that I use and that I have my students use, my clients use. And that process I think gives us some insights into how mindfulness can work every day, every moment in some very helpful ways that are useful. All right, so the four step process. Let me, let me just give you some basics here of the major categories. Um, the force that model has these pieces. Notice who were pause, breathe, reflect, and choose. And let me go into each of those a little bit more specifically so that you know what that means. The first one is to notice or to bring awareness of a negative feeling or the trigger as quickly as possible.
And practice recognizing the early warning signs of emotional reaction saying or reminding yourself this feeling is a reaction that I can pay attention to right now. Right? Oh, I just got triggered. Oh Gosh, I'm feeling this anger, or I'm feeling this emotion. Or, ah, I'm noticing in this moment that something is coming up for me. That's number one. Number two is to direct attention to the breath. Now lie the breath. The breath is really important because think about what you do when you get triggered. I don't know about you, but when I get triggered, the first thing I do is I go and I stopped breathing, which is horrible because my heart starts going crazy. My central nervous system thinks that I need to fight something and it's just terrible, so allowing yourself a sense that you can breathe in that moment and just take a breath and let go of any physical tension and I know that that's easier said than done, but just take a moment and breathe and we can do that right now.
Wonderful, and allow that natural quality of the breath to be a calming source of comfort where you're just breathing and allowing a very natural sensation of the air coming in and out of your body and just relax. Then the third step is this idea of reflection and reflection is just taking a moment to ask some very important questions. One is, is there a pattern in this reaction? The second one is, have I seen this reaction before, or what is this reaction about what's going on here? Um, the next one might be how does this reaction come up?
And in response to all those questions I might find, for example, ah, there's anger, or I'm feeling hurt or I'm feeling nervous, or whatever it is. So let's just go with anger. I'm feeling angry and usually I'm feeling angry because there's something underneath the anger and underneath the anger might be a feeling of hurt or frustration or not being seen. And then once I realized that, once I say, ah, there's this anger, I can then do step number four and make a choice, choose all right, what am I going to do with this anger? What can I do that is under my control to make a positive change? Or what would be helpful in this situation? What would be useful? What might I do to make things better? And then I just pause. You can just pause and give your mind and your body of woman to think, ah, maybe I need to take a break.
Maybe I need to hit the pause button and say, Hey, listen, I feel very angry right now and I just don't think I can continue the conversation. So can we talk about this later? Or Hey, I'm really feeling angry right now. Can we? Can we just have a conversation about that? Or can you just pause for a moment because I'm feeling triggered or attacked or hurt by what was just said. Those are all different ways of choosing to speak in a way that doesn't amplify the anger but acknowledges it and then allows it to be okay or to pause. I'm one of the things that is very important to realize as we talk about anger, for example, is that sometimes we just need a break. We just need to hit the pause button. There's no name to continue a conversation to its logical conclusion, especially in the midst of anger because anger, you're likely to say things that you might regret or that come from the voice of anger and not from the voice of love or compassion or understanding.
So hitting that pause button, taking a break, letting your partner know, hey, listen, I care about you. I'm concerned about you. I, I, I want to have this conversation, but right now I just feel angry and I just need a break, so let's circle back to this conversation in 20 minutes or an hour or maybe tomorrow or let's watch a movie so that when we come back to have this conversation, we can come from a place of caring about each other and using our language in a way that is helpful to the relationship. So those are the four steps I'm noticing. Reflect a great breathing, reflecting, and she was a notice. Pause, breathe, reflect, and choose. Does that make sense?
It does. And what I really liked that you would like to point out and what you said is in the last step of how to communicate this to your partner, where a lot of times what I see as people say things like your making me angry, you're making me so frustrated and it's really more directed to the other, but what I want to highlight, what you're saying is taking responsibility and acknowledging your own feelings. Not Directing it towards the other end saying, I'm really feeling angry. I'm feeling disappointed. I'm really feeling frustrated with this situation. Doesn't happen. Not necessarily you with the situation and being really mindful of how you communicate that back to your partner and then letting them know that you need a break. Not that your creating the break that everyone has to take, but you need it. And then also that you're going to get back to them and 20 minutes or an hour or tomorrow, but letting them know. Because a lot of times with couples where the situation happens, where one person wants to resolve in the other person needs a break, is that person that wants to resolve, fills, abandoned, but if that person needing a break is able to say, I need this amount of a break and I'm going to come back to it, then that has a much better resolution. So I just wanted to highlight those things that you pointed out. I think those are really important.

The Shameless Sexual Revolution can only be liberated and spread if we escape the oppressive ideology of the past that has been allowed to corrode the deep passion that lies in all women for the explicit objective to advance a morality that holds NO validity today, yesterday or of anytime in the history of all mankind. We, women of the world, together shall forge a new path –NOT because we are weak alone - but because we are stronger as a single sharp point of power with one mind, one body and one soul channeling a revolutionary vision of our design and our values. Are you willing to wait for a better tomorrow to magically appear without sharing in the struggle we all know is required to generate any change in this world? We, SHAMELESS REBELS, are NOT going to wait one more day.

We are on the frontlines FIGHTING for all women that love sex. JOIN US as we destroy the shame that has infected women all over the world, causing needless suffering and providing NO value to women whatsoever. JOIN US in this FIGHT TODAY! Go to our website www.makemorelovenotwar.com and email us letting us know you want to be a SHAMELESS REBEL. Spread our mission by forwarding a link to our podcast to friends and family! Together, one day, we will celebrate our Victory with all the glory it deserves but for today we FIGHT.

JOIN US NOW!!

www.makemorelovenotwar.com

Peggy J. Kleinplatz, Ph.D., is Professor in the Faculty of Medicine and Director of Sex and Couples Therapy Training at the University of Ottawa, Canada. She was awarded the Prix d’Excellence in 2000 for her teaching of Human Sexuality. She is a Certified Sex Therapist and Educator. She is Director of the Optimal Sexual Experiences Research Team of the University of Ottawa and has a particular interest in sexual health in the elderly, disabled and marginalized populations.
Kleinplatz has edited four books, notably New Directions in Sex Therapy:
Innovations and Alternatives (2012), winner of the AASECT 2013 Book Award, Sadomasochism: Powerful Pleasures with Charles Moser, Ph.D., M.D. (2006) and Sexuality and Ageing with Walter Bouman, M.D. (2015). She is the author with A. Dana Menard, Ph.D. of Magnificent Sex: Lessons from Extraordinary Lovers (routledge.com/9780367181376) . In 2015, Kleinplatz received the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists? Professional Standard of Excellence Award.

optimalsexualexperiences.com

She is the progeny of when East meets West, when Yin meets Yang. An avid lover of life and life’s forever student, Wei “Amy” Lu has been experimenting and refining the art of achieving peace and balance through her unique understanding of Eastern philosophy and Western learnings.

At the age of thirteen, Wei and her family were among the first group of immigrants allowed to emigrate from Communist China on its new “Open Door” policy of the 1980’s. Wei’s parents were college professors who gained the rare opportunity of coming to the United States to further their higher education. Life was difficult, at first, with the entire family living on an eight-hundred-dollar student stipend, as well as facing an incredible language barrier and culture shock. These difficulties, however, did not deter the eighth grader as she treasured the blessing of being in the “land of opportunity.” In school, she adopted her American name “Amy” given by her ESL teacher. Amy studied diligently and learned the English language in three short months. As she advanced in school, she never forgot to be grateful for everything she had been given and always strove to do her best. She finished at the top of her graduating class and earned a full scholarship to Texas Tech University. After receiving a BS degree in Electrical Engineering, Amy worked for Motorola as an RF design Engineer for cell phone base stations. She is currently the senior product manager for an inorganic chemical company.

Amy has been married for 23 years; she and her husband live in the DFW area and are the proud parents of two amazing young men.

In her spare time, Amy enjoys learning modern medicine and traditional holistic healing. She has completed all pre-med classes at a local college. She is learning the Chinese traditional medicine of meridians and acupressure techniques as a complimentary therapy to promoting the body’s natural healing mechanisms. She is currently a certified Reiki practitioner. As a scientist and engineer, Amy finds the body’s subtle energy system of health and well-being both intriguing and powerful. Her YouTube channel “Mother Healer” is dedicated to sharing with others her knowledge of holistic healing insights.

Through the years, Amy has realized her purpose in life is to “combine the best of East and West.” Her unique understanding and experiences from both traditional Asian and modern Western cultures are invaluable to establishing her world view. She proposes that the key to achieving satisfactory life experience is through the “Four Pillars of Joy and Freedom,” which are the pillars of Compassion, Forgiveness, Gratitude, and Love.

In many ways, Amy is the embodiment of the remarkable union of opposite, yet complimentary forces: East and West; modern and traditional; Yin and Yang; solid science and intangible energy. She looks forward to sharing her knowledge and her light with others, as we are all ONE

The Shameless Sexual Revolution can only be liberated and spread if we escape the oppressive ideology of the past that has been allowed to corrode the deep passion that lies in all women for the explicit objective to advance a morality that holds NO validity today, yesterday or of anytime in the history of all mankind. We, women of the world, together shall forge a new path –NOT because we are weak alone - but because we are stronger as a single sharp point of power with one mind, one body and one soul channeling a revolutionary vision of our design and our values. Are you willing to wait for a better tomorrow to magically appear without sharing in the struggle we all know is required to generate any change in this world? We, SHAMELESS REBELS, are NOT going to wait one more day.

We are on the frontlines FIGHTING for all women that love sex. JOIN US as we destroy the shame that has infected women all over the world, causing needless suffering and providing NO value to women whatsoever. JOIN US in this FIGHT TODAY! Go to our website www.makemorelovenotwar.com and email us letting us know you want to be a SHAMELESS REBEL. Spread our mission by forwarding a link to our podcast to friends and family! Together, one day, we will celebrate our Victory with all the glory it deserves but for today we FIGHT.

JOIN US NOW!!

www.makemorelovenotwar.com

The Shameless Sexual Revolution can only be liberated and spread if we escape the oppressive ideology of the past that has been allowed to corrode the deep passion that lies in all women for the explicit objective to advance a morality that holds NO validity today, yesterday or of anytime in the history of all mankind. We, women of the world, together shall forge a new path –NOT because we are weak alone - but because we are stronger as a single sharp point of power with one mind, one body and one soul channeling a revolutionary vision of our design and our values. Are you willing to wait for a better tomorrow to magically appear without sharing in the struggle we all know is required to generate any change in this world? We, SHAMELESS REBELS, are NOT going to wait one more day.

We are on the frontlines FIGHTING for all women that love sex. JOIN US as we destroy the shame that has infected women all over the world, causing needless suffering and providing NO value to women whatsoever. JOIN US in this FIGHT TODAY! Go to our website www.makemorelovenotwar.com and email us letting us know you want to be a SHAMELESS REBEL. Spread our mission by forwarding a link to our podcast to friends and family! Together, one day, we will celebrate our Victory with all the glory it deserves but for today we FIGHT.

JOIN US NOW!!

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Dr. Bianca Acevedo is the Director and Founder of the Foundation for Healthy Relationships and Lives (2011), a research scientist at the University of California, Santa Barbara (UCSB), a private consultant, writer, and public speaker. She earned her B.A. in Psychology from NYU and a PhD in Social/Health Psychology from Stony Brook University. She has conducted research at the Department of Public Health at Weil Cornell Medical College in New York City; Albert Einstein College of Medicine, the NYC Department of Health and Mental Hygiene, and at the University of California, Los Angeles (UCLA). Dr. Acevedo teaches courses in Interpersonal Relationships, Positive Psychology, and Research Methods. She has published several widely-recognized articles on the science of love and being a Highly Sensitive Person, which have appeared in media outlets around the globe and which she has presented both nationally and internationally. She was the recipient of the 2012 International Woman in Science Award.

https://biancaacevedo.org/

The Shameless Sexual Revolution can only be liberated and spread if we escape the oppressive ideology of the past that has been allowed to corrode the deep passion that lies in all women for the explicit objective to advance a morality that holds NO validity today, yesterday or of anytime in the history of all mankind. We, women of the world, together shall forge a new path –NOT because we are weak alone - but because we are stronger as a single sharp point of power with one mind, one body and one soul channeling a revolutionary vision of our design and our values. Are you willing to wait for a better tomorrow to magically appear without sharing in the struggle we all know is required to generate any change in this world? We, SHAMELESS REBELS, are NOT going to wait one more day.

We are on the frontlines FIGHTING for all women that love sex. JOIN US as we destroy the shame that has infected women all over the world, causing needless suffering and providing NO value to women whatsoever. JOIN US in this FIGHT TODAY! Go to our website www.makemorelovenotwar.com and email us letting us know you want to be a SHAMELESS REBEL. Spread our mission by forwarding a link to our podcast to friends and family! Together, one day, we will celebrate our Victory with all the glory it deserves but for today we FIGHT.

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Dr. Justin Lehmiller received his Ph.D. in Social Psychology from Purdue University. He is a Research Fellow at The Kinsey Institute and author of the book Tell Me What You Want: The Science of Sexual Desire and How It Can Help You Improve Your Sex Life. Dr. Lehmiller is an award-winning educator, having been honored three times with the Certificate of Teaching Excellence from Harvard University, where he taught for several years. He is also a prolific researcher and scholar who has published more than 50 academic works to date, including a textbook titled The Psychology of Human Sexuality (now in its second edition) that is used in college classrooms around the world. Dr. Lehmiller's research focuses on topics including casual sex, sexual fantasy, sexual health, and friends with benefits. His studies have appeared in all of the leading journals on human sexuality, including the Journal of Sex Research, Archives of Sexual Behavior, and The Journal of Sexual Medicine.

https://www.lehmiller.com/

Jen intended to be a minister or spiritual teacher early in life. She never expected to end up studying sexuality or devoting her life to furthering research on the topic. However, after profound healing happened through intimacy with her partner, Jen was convinced that sex could restore your soul, that it could heal you emotionally. That’s what happened to her. After suffering from depression and anxiety much of her life, she found her symptoms were transformed through accessing altered states of consciousness during sexual intimacy. She sought to learn the science behind this phenomenon and began to study how the brain can be rewired by states of intense pleasure during lovemaking. Jen went on to graduate studies in psychology and sex therapy. She has now started an organization to bring together leading researchers to further our understanding of sex and nonordinary states of consciousness. You can learn more about her work at ReThinkSex.org. She is also blogging a fictional story based on her journey at jenhennessey.com. You find her on twitter at @drjenradio

The Shameless Sexual Revolution can only be liberated and spread if we escape the oppressive ideology of the past that has been allowed to corrode the deep passion that lies in all women for the explicit objective to advance a morality that holds NO validity today, yesterday or of anytime in the history of all mankind. We, women of the world, together shall forge a new path –NOT because we are weak alone - but because we are stronger as a single sharp point of power with one mind, one body and one soul channeling a revolutionary vision of our design and our values. Are you willing to wait for a better tomorrow to magically appear without sharing in the struggle we all know is required to generate any change in this world? We, SHAMELESS REBELS, are NOT going to wait one more day.

We are on the frontlines FIGHTING for all women that love sex. JOIN US as we destroy the shame that has infected women all over the world, causing needless suffering and providing NO value to women whatsoever. JOIN US in this FIGHT TODAY! Go to our website www.makemorelovenotwar.com and email us letting us know you want to be a SHAMELESS REBEL. Spread our mission by forwarding a link to our podcast to friends and family! Together, one day, we will celebrate our Victory with all the glory it deserves but for today we FIGHT.

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Evolutionary Psychology

Evolutionary psychology is a hybrid discipline that draws insights from modern evolutionary theory, biology, cognitive psychology, anthropology, economics, computer science, and paleoarchaeology. The discipline rests on a foundation of core premises:

Manifest behavior depends on underlying psychological mechanisms, information processing devices housed in the brain, in conjunction with the external and internal inputs that trigger their activation.
Evolution by selection is the only known causal process capable of creating such complex organic mechanisms.

Evolved psychological mechanisms are functionally specialized to solve adaptive problems that recurred for humans over deep evolutionary time.

Selection designed the information processing of many evolved psychological mechanisms to be adaptively influenced by specific classes of information from the environment.

Human psychology consists of a large number of functionally specialized evolved mechanisms, each sensitive to particular forms of contextual input, that get combined, coordinated, and integrated with each other to produce manifest behavior.

The Shameless Sexual Revolution can only be liberated and spread if we escape the oppressive ideology of the past that has been allowed to corrode the deep passion that lies in all women for the explicit objective to advance a morality that holds NO validity today, yesterday or of anytime in the history of all mankind. We, women of the world, together shall forge a new path –NOT because we are weak alone - but because we are stronger as a single sharp point of power with one mind, one body and one soul channeling a revolutionary vision of our design and our values. Are you willing to wait for a better tomorrow to magically appear without sharing in the struggle we all know is required to generate any change in this world? We, SHAMELESS REBELS, are NOT going to wait one more day.

We are on the frontlines FIGHTING for all women that love sex. JOIN US as we destroy the shame that has infected women all over the world, causing needless suffering and providing NO value to women whatsoever. JOIN US in this FIGHT TODAY! Go to our website www.makemorelovenotwar.com and email us letting us know you want to be a SHAMELESS REBEL. Spread our mission by forwarding a link to our podcast to friends and family! Together, one day, we will celebrate our Victory with all the glory it deserves but for today we FIGHT.

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Dr. Marianne Brandon is a clinical psychologist and Diplomate in sex therapy. She works with individuals and couples in her Boston office, and via the internet with folks in New York State, Washington DC., Maryland, and Missouri. Outside of these jurisdictions, she offers sex coaching for those eligible. Dr. Brandon is the author of Monogamy: The Untold Story and the ebook Unlocking the Sexy in Surrender: Using the Neuroscience of Power to Recharge Your Sex Life. She is co-author of the book Reclaiming Desire: 4 Keys to Finding Your Lost Libido. Dr. Brandon served as a board member for an International Sexual Health Society, and also co-hosted an exciting sex therapy radio show called “In Bed with Dr. B and Ted. She completed her doctoral training at Ohio University and her internship at the University of Connecticut School of Medicine. Dr. Brandon is also a graduate of a post-doctoral fellowship in eating and weight disorders from the Sheppard and Enoch Pratt Hospital in Baltimore. Dr. Brandon contributes regularly to professional publications, and lectures to sex therapists, physicians, psychologists, and the public. Her more recent professional writing includes articles and chapters on female sexuality, female low libido, male and female sexual dysfunction, aging and sex, and the challenges of monogamy.

Dr. Brandon is a member of the Massachusetts Psychological Association ; Maryland Psychological Association; the National Register of Health Service Providers in Psychology; The American Association of Sex Educators, Counselors, and Therapists; The Society for Sex Therapy and Research; The International society for the Study of Women’s Sexual Health; The Sexual Medicine Society of North America, and the Human Behavior and Evolution Society. Dr Brandon is licensed to practice in Massachusetts, Missouri, Maryland, Washington D.C., and New York.

The following are among the issues in which Dr. Brandon has special interest and training: sex therapy, sexual desire disorders, marital/relationship problems, hypersexual behavior, monogamy and fidelity, affair recovery, depression, cultivating passion in long-term relationships, stress, anxiety, alternative sexual relationships, pain during intercourse, and erectile concerns. She has presented seminars on topics relating to personal growth, sex therapy, low libido in women, sexual dysfunction, and on stress-related disorders such as depression, anxiety, and eating disorders.

https://www.drbrandon.net/

The Shameless Sexual Revolution can only be liberated and spread if we escape the oppressive ideology of the past that has been allowed to corrode the deep passion that lies in all women for the explicit objective to advance a morality that holds NO validity today, yesterday or of anytime in the history of all mankind. We, women of the world, together shall forge a new path –NOT because we are weak alone - but because we are stronger as a single sharp point of power with one mind, one body and one soul channeling a revolutionary vision of our design and our values. Are you willing to wait for a better tomorrow to magically appear without sharing in the struggle we all know is required to generate any change in this world? We, SHAMELESS REBELS, are NOT going to wait one more day.

We are on the frontlines FIGHTING for all women that love sex. JOIN US as we destroy the shame that has infected women all over the world, causing needless suffering and providing NO value to women whatsoever. JOIN US in this FIGHT TODAY! Go to our website www.makemorelovenotwar.com and email us letting us know you want to be a SHAMELESS REBEL. Spread our mission by forwarding a link to our podcast to friends and family! Together, one day, we will celebrate our Victory with all the glory it deserves but for today we FIGHT.

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Could there be anything more interesting than a “Love Lab”? I’m talking about a scientific study on LOVE. How cool is that? I know what you’re thinking….”Sign me up. I want to be part of it even if I don’t know what it is.” Let me tell you what this awesome lab is all about. It rose to fame when Malcolm Gladwell featured it in his wildly successful book Blink: The Power of Thinking Without Thinking. The book is about people that are masters of a particular field at such a high level that they can see things that others miss in a very short amount of time. The claim to fame from the book Blink is that the “Love Lab” can predict in less than fifteen minutes whether a couple will stay together or divorce with a 90% accuracy. That is amazing! They are not shooting from the hip either. They are getting all kinds of data from the couples that goes far beyond what anyone else has ever done. The “Love Lab” is stepping up it’s game even more, taking it to a whole new level and we have one of the key people behind this huge step forward.

On today’s show we interview Carrie Cole. Carrie Cole is the Director of Research for The Gottman Institute and a licensed mental health counselor in the state of Washington. As a Certified Gottman Method Couples’ Therapist and a master trainer in Gottman Method Therapy, she teaches all levels of the Gottman Method Certification Program. She is a licensed professional counselor in the state of Texas and an approved LPC Supervisor. She received her Master’s degree in Educational Psychology with a specialization in Counseling Psychology from the University of Texas at Austin in 1994. She has over 20 years of experience working with individuals and couples on a wide range of issues including marital therapy, affair recovery, depression, anxiety, sexual abuse, eating disorders, parenting, trauma recovery, divorce recovery, and personality disorders. Carrie has also provided seminars on relationships, parenting and divorce recovery.

She is awesome and you’re going to love her. Let’s get started!

www.makemorelovenotwar.com

The Shameless Sexual Revolution can only be liberated and spread if we escape the oppressive ideology of the past that has been allowed to corrode the deep passion that lies in all women for the explicit objective to advance a morality that holds NO validity today, yesterday or of anytime in the history of all mankind. We, women of the world, together shall forge a new path –NOT because we are weak alone - but because we are stronger as a single sharp point of power with one mind, one body and one soul channeling a revolutionary vision of our design and our values. Are you willing to wait for a better tomorrow to magically appear without sharing in the struggle we all know is required to generate any change in this world? We, SHAMELESS REBELS, are NOT going to wait one more day.

We are on the frontlines FIGHTING for all women that love sex. JOIN US as we destroy the shame that has infected women all over the world, causing needless suffering and providing NO value to women whatsoever. JOIN US in this FIGHT TODAY! Go to our website www.makemorelovenotwar.com and email us letting us know you want to be a SHAMELESS REBEL. Spread our mission by forwarding a link to our podcast to friends and family! Together, one day, we will celebrate our Victory with all the glory it deserves but for today we FIGHT.

JOIN US NOW!!

www.makemorelovenotwar.com

The Shameless Sexual Revolution can only be liberated and spread if we escape the oppressive ideology of the past that has been allowed to corrode the deep passion that lies in all women for the explicit objective to advance a morality that holds NO validity today, yesterday or of anytime in the history of all mankind. We, women of the world, together shall forge a new path –NOT because we are weak alone - but because we are stronger as a single sharp point of power with one mind, one body and one soul channeling a revolutionary vision of our design and our values. Are you willing to wait for a better tomorrow to magically appear without sharing in the struggle we all know is required to generate any change in this world? We, SHAMELESS REBELS, are NOT going to wait one more day.

We are on the frontlines FIGHTING for all women that love sex. JOIN US as we destroy the shame that has infected women all over the world, causing needless suffering and providing NO value to women whatsoever. JOIN US in this FIGHT TODAY! Go to our website www.makemorelovenotwar.com and email us letting us know you want to be a SHAMELESS REBEL. Spread our mission by forwarding a link to our podcast to friends and family! Together, one day, we will celebrate our Victory with all the glory it deserves but for today we FIGHT.

JOIN US NOW!!

www.makemorelovenotwar.com

She is the progeny of when East meets West, when Yin meets Yang. An avid lover of life and life’s forever student, Wei “Amy” Lu has been experimenting and refining the art of achieving peace and balance through her unique understanding of Eastern philosophy and Western learnings.

At the age of thirteen, Wei and her family were among the first group of immigrants allowed to emigrate from Communist China on its new “Open Door” policy of the 1980’s. Wei’s parents were college professors who gained the rare opportunity of coming to the United States to further their higher education. Life was difficult, at first, with the entire family living on an eight-hundred-dollar student stipend, as well as facing an incredible language barrier and culture shock. These difficulties, however, did not deter the eighth grader as she treasured the blessing of being in the “land of opportunity.” In school, she adopted her American name “Amy” given by her ESL teacher. Amy studied diligently and learned the English language in three short months. As she advanced in school, she never forgot to be grateful for everything she had been given and always strove to do her best. She finished at the top of her graduating class and earned a full scholarship to Texas Tech University. After receiving a BS degree in Electrical Engineering, Amy worked for Motorola as an RF design Engineer for cell phone base stations. She is currently the senior product manager for an inorganic chemical company.

Amy has been married for 23 years; she and her husband live in the DFW area and are the proud parents of two amazing young men.

In her spare time, Amy enjoys learning modern medicine and traditional holistic healing. She has completed all pre-med classes at a local college. She is learning the Chinese traditional medicine of meridians and acupressure techniques as a complimentary therapy to promoting the body’s natural healing mechanisms. She is currently a certified Reiki practitioner. As a scientist and engineer, Amy finds the body’s subtle energy system of health and well-being both intriguing and powerful. Her YouTube channel “Mother Healer” is dedicated to sharing with others her knowledge of holistic healing insights.

Through the years, Amy has realized her purpose in life is to “combine the best of East and West.” Her unique understanding and experiences from both traditional Asian and modern Western cultures are invaluable to establishing her world view. She proposes that the key to achieving satisfactory life experience is through the “Four Pillars of Joy and Freedom,” which are the pillars of Compassion, Forgiveness, Gratitude, and Love.

In many ways, Amy is the embodiment of the remarkable union of opposite, yet complimentary forces: East and West; modern and traditional; Yin and Yang; solid science and intangible energy. She looks forward to sharing her knowledge and her light with others, as we are all ONE

The Shameless Sexual Revolution can only be liberated and spread if we escape the oppressive ideology of the past that has been allowed to corrode the deep passion that lies in all women for the explicit objective to advance a morality that holds NO validity today, yesterday or of anytime in the history of all mankind. We, women of the world, together shall forge a new path –NOT because we are weak alone - but because we are stronger as a single sharp point of power with one mind, one body and one soul channeling a revolutionary vision of our design and our values. Are you willing to wait for a better tomorrow to magically appear without sharing in the struggle we all know is required to generate any change in this world? We, SHAMELESS REBELS, are NOT going to wait one more day.

We are on the frontlines FIGHTING for all women that love sex. JOIN US as we destroy the shame that has infected women all over the world, causing needless suffering and providing NO value to women whatsoever. JOIN US in this FIGHT TODAY! Go to our website www.makemorelovenotwar.com and email us letting us know you want to be a SHAMELESS REBEL. Spread our mission by forwarding a link to our podcast to friends and family! Together, one day, we will celebrate our Victory with all the glory it deserves but for today we FIGHT.

JOIN US NOW!!

www.makemorelovenotwar.com

Gwen L. Hodrick, MA, LPC, LCDC is a therapist, an influential motivational speaker, a life coach, and a best-selling author.

My career background includes being a Licensed Professional Counselor (TX), and a Licensed Chemical Dependency Counselor (TX), with a private practice in Richardson, TX where my roles incorporate being a Clinical Consultant, Primary Therapist, Speaker, and Career Coach at Ask Coach Gwen. In education, I have achieved a bachelor’s degree in psychology with a Minor in Family Studies, a master’s degree in Professional Counseling, and am currently a Doctoral Student in General Psychology.

My professional background as a dually Licensed Professional Counselor has provided me with extensive knowledge and a fully equipped toolbox when it comes to addressing issues such as Chemical Dependency, Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder, Mental Health, Behavioral Health, overcoming obstacles, career coaching and understanding the path we are on. As I have grown as a counselor, I feel a calling to help women en masse create a better life for themselves, this is where my signature Better Me, Better Life Program stemmed from.

My counseling approach utilizes Cognitive Behavioral and Dialectical Behavioral Therapy for Individual, Family and Couples Counseling, as well as Group Therapy, with experience serving adolescents, adults, seniors, and individuals involved in the criminal justice system and community supervision.

While I believe educating the public on mental health, chemical dependency, and personal development are my purpose and life calling, I also adore devoting my time to giving back to the community. Outside of working to enhance the emotional and mental health of those around me, I am focused on raising two beautiful teenagers, and enjoy traveling and adventure.

AskCoachGwen.com

Emily Nagoski is the award-winning author of the New York Times bestseller, Come As You Are: the surprising new science that will transform your sex life and The Come As You Are Workbook, and co-author, with her sister Amelia, of Burnout: the secret to unlocking the stress cycle. She began her work as a sex educator at the University of Delaware, where volunteered as a peer sex educator while studying psychology with minors in cognitive science and philosophy. She went on to earn a M.S. in Counseling and a Ph.D. in Health Behavior, both from Indiana University, with clinical and research training at the Kinsey Institute. Now she combines sex education and stress education to teach women to live with confidence and joy inside their bodies.

http://www.emilynagoski.com/

The Shameless Sexual Revolution can only be liberated and spread if we escape the oppressive ideology of the past that has been allowed to corrode the deep passion that lies in all women for the explicit objective to advance a morality that holds NO validity today, yesterday or of anytime in the history of all mankind. We, women of the world, together shall forge a new path –NOT because we are weak alone - but because we are stronger as a single sharp point of power with one mind, one body and one soul channeling a revolutionary vision of our design and our values. Are you willing to wait for a better tomorrow to magically appear without sharing in the struggle we all know is required to generate any change in this world? We, SHAMELESS REBELS, are NOT going to wait one more day.

We are on the frontlines FIGHTING for all women that love sex. JOIN US as we destroy the shame that has infected women all over the world, causing needless suffering and providing NO value to women whatsoever. JOIN US in this FIGHT TODAY! Go to our website www.makemorelovenotwar.com and email us letting us know you want to be a SHAMELESS REBEL. Spread our mission by forwarding a link to our podcast to friends and family! Together, one day, we will celebrate our Victory with all the glory it deserves but for today we FIGHT.

JOIN US NOW!!

www.makemorelovenotwar.com

They say breaking up is hard to do..... and it IS! The loss of a relationship can be completely devastating, gut wrenching and life changing. You may find yourself doing some good old fashioned crazy - I’m talking country music kind of crazy…. like following and unfollowing all of his exes on instagram….. considering your cooky cousin’s idea of sneaking into his room to put an app on his phone that tracks all of his communications and location starts to seem like…. eh….. maybe not that bad…. or maybe just the classic drive by his house and hide in his bushes for a couple of hours starts to seem like genuine concern for his well being (you know…. just to make sure he’s okay)..... you start to become someone you don't even recognize and frankly if your best friend told she was doing this, you might arrange an intervention- or at least a girl’s night out to get her mind off him.

We are truly wired to connect and the loss of love is the ultimate disconnection. What if there were a way to fully honor ourselves and the love we once had and fully heal and learn something to benefit future relationships? Wouldn't it be awesome if a therapist or somebody developed a game plan for that?

Guess what.... someone did! It is called Conscious Uncoupling and was made popular by Gweneth Paltrow and Chris Martin but it was developed by Katherine Woodward Thomas, a rockstar therapist and really cool person all around. Well, what are we waiting for? Let's hear about it from her. Let's Get Started!

https://katherinewoodwardthomas.com

She is the progeny of when East meets West, when Yin meets Yang. An avid lover of life and life’s forever student, Wei “Amy” Lu has been experimenting and refining the art of achieving peace and balance through her unique understanding of Eastern philosophy and Western learnings.

At the age of thirteen, Wei and her family were among the first group of immigrants allowed to emigrate from Communist China on its new “Open Door” policy of the 1980’s. Wei’s parents were college professors who gained the rare opportunity of coming to the United States to further their higher education. Life was difficult, at first, with the entire family living on an eight-hundred-dollar student stipend, as well as facing an incredible language barrier and culture shock. These difficulties, however, did not deter the eighth grader as she treasured the blessing of being in the “land of opportunity.” In school, she adopted her American name “Amy” given by her ESL teacher. Amy studied diligently and learned the English language in three short months. As she advanced in school, she never forgot to be grateful for everything she had been given and always strove to do her best. She finished at the top of her graduating class and earned a full scholarship to Texas Tech University. After receiving a BS degree in Electrical Engineering, Amy worked for Motorola as an RF design Engineer for cell phone base stations. She is currently the senior product manager for an inorganic chemical company.

Amy has been married for 23 years; she and her husband live in the DFW area and are the proud parents of two amazing young men.

In her spare time, Amy enjoys learning modern medicine and traditional holistic healing. She has completed all pre-med classes at a local college. She is learning the Chinese traditional medicine of meridians and acupressure techniques as a complimentary therapy to promoting the body’s natural healing mechanisms. She is currently a certified Reiki practitioner. As a scientist and engineer, Amy finds the body’s subtle energy system of health and well-being both intriguing and powerful. Her YouTube channel “Mother Healer” is dedicated to sharing with others her knowledge of holistic healing insights.

Through the years, Amy has realized her purpose in life is to “combine the best of East and West.” Her unique understanding and experiences from both traditional Asian and modern Western cultures are invaluable to establishing her world view. She proposes that the key to achieving satisfactory life experience is through the “Four Pillars of Joy and Freedom,” which are the pillars of Compassion, Forgiveness, Gratitude, and Love.

In many ways, Amy is the embodiment of the remarkable union of opposite, yet complimentary forces: East and West; modern and traditional; Yin and Yang; solid science and intangible energy. She looks forward to sharing her knowledge and her light with others, as we are all ONE

The Shameless Sexual Revolution can only be liberated and spread if we escape the oppressive ideology of the past that has been allowed to corrode the deep passion that lies in all women for the explicit objective to advance a morality that holds NO validity today, yesterday or of anytime in the history of all mankind. We, women of the world, together shall forge a new path –NOT because we are weak alone - but because we are stronger as a single sharp point of power with one mind, one body and one soul channeling a revolutionary vision of our design and our values. Are you willing to wait for a better tomorrow to magically appear without sharing in the struggle we all know is required to generate any change in this world? We, SHAMELESS REBELS, are NOT going to wait one more day.

We are on the frontlines FIGHTING for all women that love sex. JOIN US as we destroy the shame that has infected women all over the world, causing needless suffering and providing NO value to women whatsoever. JOIN US in this FIGHT TODAY! Go to our website www.makemorelovenotwar.com and email us letting us know you want to be a SHAMELESS REBEL. Spread our mission by forwarding a link to our podcast to friends and family! Together, one day, we will celebrate our Victory with all the glory it deserves but for today we FIGHT.

JOIN US NOW!!

www.makemorelovenotwar.com

Bryan Falchuk, is a best-selling author, professional speaker and life coach.
He’s also been a C-level executive and part of several startups. He’s also committed to helping
people overcome and achieve in their lives after overcoming his own challenges. Bryan's bestselling first book, Do a Day, teaches his approach to overcoming what stands in our way in life.
His latest book, The 50 75 100 Solution: Build Better Relationships, helps people see their power
to make their relationships healthier and happier in business, in their family and in life overall,
He has spoken at TEDx events, and has written articles for many major publications like Inc.
Magazine, the Chicago Tribune, and LA Times. He’s transformed his life inside and out, and he’s
here today to share how with all of you.

Key Web Links & Social Media
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Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/bryanfalchuk
Twitter: @bryanfalchuk (http://twitter.com/bryanfalchuk)
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TEDx Talks: http://www.bryanfalchuk.com/tedx