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We’re starting a new “back to basics” series for power exchange. The topics may be things we’ve talked about in the past, but with 400+ episodes, it’s probably been a while since we talked...

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This week, a Daddy Dom worries that they aren’t being a good Dom because they promise fuckery at the end of the day and then change their mind. Here’s the question: Am I unreliable...

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We asked for your questions over at that handle we hate on Instagram, and you delivered! In this episode: The Kinkery is having a sale through Labor Day! JB’s vanilla Etsy shop “sponsored” us,...

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We’re a bit late to our own party, but we’re celebrating our 9th podcast anniversary! We’re sharing things we’ve learned, discovered, and figured out about ourselves and our power exchange relationship after nine years...

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This week, a kinkster is figuring out their switchy self but isn’t sure how to navigate wanting different things in different ways than their partner. Here’s the question: My husband and I have been...

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With great power comes great responsibility…or something like that. The weight of the responsibility a Dom carries can sometimes feel like pressure, so let’s talk about it. But it’s worth noting that the power...

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After life got in the way, this kinky couple is ready to get back to their fuckery – including free use – but the Dominant partner isn’t initiating, even after plenty of communication. Here’s...

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Anyone and everyone can experience imposter syndrome. While it’s most common in professional settings, it’s definitely possible in personal situations – like your kink life. In this episode: The Kinkery exists! What is imposter...

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We’re willing to bet that this question comes up more than some Dominants are willing to admit. Here’s the full question: What should you do if you’re a dom who doesn’t want to take...

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This week, we react/respond to BDSM questions shared on the kinky side of Reddit. In this episode: Oh yeah, Kayla has a vanilla Etsy shop that’s book-themed. If you’re into that kind of thing....

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A kinkster wants to know when the right time is to take things from dating apps or Fetlife to in person. Here’s the question: How do I know when to move from a dating...

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This week, we’re letting Therapy Jeff tell us what to talk about – by answering several “cute and spicy” relationship questions he posted about on Instagram (and probably TikTok too). In this episode: There’s...

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A submissive has gone through a lot with their Dominant partner with consent violations, a broken D/s agreement, and just being made to feel awful. And they want to know if it’s possible to...

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A moment when Kayla admitted wrongdoing has us thinking about the concept of “radical honesty” which potentially has a deeper meaning for kinksters in general. In this episode Register for the free and online...

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A submissive who was once the Dominant in their power exchange wants to add their Dom energy back to the dynamic but isn’t sure how to talk to their partner about it. Here’s the...

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External (extrinsic) motivation is about doing something because of outside expectations – your partner set a task, you were asked to do something, etc. It might be something you know needs to be done,...

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We’ve experienced “task creep” – the act of taking on tasks/routines that weren’t specifically negotiated. Thankfully for us, we figured it out quickly and worked it out in a quick conversation. But like job...

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We don’t know how we’ve made it to 400 full-length episodes, either, but here we are! We didn’t get a lot of questions for this one, so we just sort of chatted until we...

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We’re one week away from our 400th episode, so we’re starting the celebration early with a BDSM Reddit response episode! In this episode: Ask your questions for our Monday episodes. We’re celebrating 10,000 subscribers...

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Most kinksters aren’t communicating too much, but some of us (like Kayla) could be, so let’s talk about it. In this episode: We need your questions for our Monday episodes. The most common issue...

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A submissive has a recurring issue about aftercare with their Dominant partner and wants to know: are they the problem or is it me? Here’s the question: I’ve been dating a dom for about...

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We joke about Kayla’s control issues, but they’re definitely a thing we both have to navigate in our power exchange. In this episode: We joke about Kayla’s control issues all the time.  The stereotype...

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This week, a submissive is ready to get back to their previous kink life but their partner might not be as ready. Here’s the question: I have a question with no easy answer. I...

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Hair pulling inspired this week’s episode – because it was a grounding and/or centering moment in kink. So let’s talk about it. In this episode: Friday night live stream on May 17 starting at...

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A submissive needs more commands and strictness from their Dominant to feel the power exchange, but they’re not getting what they need. Here’s the question: My kind sadist seems to be under the impression...

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Each partner has responsibilities to the other, to yourselves, and to the power exchange relationship. We’ve talked about this in the distant past, but it’s worth discussing again. In this episode: This week’s episode...

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This week, a kinkster asks if it’s time to let their kinky relationship go. Here’s the question: My BDSM relationship is disintegrating. I don’t know what to do. Other than let him go and...

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This week we answer relationship questions that are supposed to make us feel “warm and fuzzy.” In this episode: Our Wednesday live streams are changing times starting May 8 from 12pm ET to 7pm...

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This week, a submissive has been assigned the task of coming up with ideas for punishments and rewards in their new D/s relationship, and they’re not what to put on their list. Here’s the...

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If Kayla Rants™ are one of your kinks, our BDSM Reddit episodes are made for you. In this week’s Reddit response, we talk about spanking “ugly” butts, learning to be a Dominant, soft limit...

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This week’s question is something both of us have dealt with – and there aren’t any easy answers. Here’s the question: How do you handle family members and/or friends who disagree with your kink...

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We didn’t have it in us to focus on a single topic, so this is a bonus section episode – rambly, pointless, and chaotic (on purpose!). If you prefer a topic-based discussion, feel free...

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A kinkster feels like they’re the only monogamous person in their local kink community, and it’s really bothering them. Here’s the question: I recently got involved with a local kink community, although I’ve been...

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This week’s topic came straight from a recent Patreon live stream where we were asked about how to be confident in a power exchange dynamic and within your kink identity. Here are our thoughts....

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We are so sorry for the sound quality on this episode. We knew we had issues with the video, but we didn’t realize the mics wouldn’t be picked up when we switched cameras. The...

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We are so sorry about the audio quality! We had tech issues for the live stream/video side of things and didn’t realize until afterwards that the fix for the video had caused our mics...

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A kinkster’s ex-spouse figured out they were kinky during the divorce, and it impacted the divorce decree. Now they want to introduce their sub but are worried about being found out later. Here’s the...

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We’re back from our break and answering some random relationship questions we found on Instagram! In this episode: Get your free ticket to the Dom/sub Dynamics Virtual Summit, April 8-11! Questions: What’s your favorite...

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A kinkster is part of their local community but still finds it difficult to make connections, especially with a possible long term partner. Here’s the question: I’ve been an active member of the community...

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We’re going on break next week but before we do, we asked for your kinky hot takes and unpopular opinions over on Instagram! Here’s what we think… In this episode: We’re taking next week...

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A kinkster had a question about specific items they wanted to use in kink which gave us a great excuse to talk about pervertables in general! Here’s the question: I am on a budget....

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For this week’s episode, we asked for your questions over on Instagram. In this episode: Check out our newest products on our Etsy shop! Disclaimer: Yes, we’re answering the questions that allow us to...

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The person who submitted this question said it was complex, and they weren’t wrong. Here’s the question: I have a question on how to handle loyalty conflicts in complex situations. I live in Europe,...

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This week’s episode isn’t meant to be a continuation of the pleasure Dom discussion from last week – though it seems that way. Instead it’s a reminder to (too many) kinksters that yes, submissives...

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This week’s question comes from a submissive who’s getting their desire for kink and sex back but doesn’t want to feel like they’re telling their Dom what to do. Here’s the question: I (31F...

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Pleasure Dominant is a relatively new term, probably born from the internet, but what does it even mean? Let’s talk about it. In this episode: New products available on our Etsy shop! Disclaimer: Regardless...

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This week’s question comes from a submissive who wants to be told what to do in power exchange, but their Dominant can’t handle the mental load. Here’s the question: I ask my Dom, “What...

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It’s been too long since we’ve responded to the BDSM side of Reddit, so here we are! In this episode: We’re live streaming on Friday, February 16 at 9:30pm ET. Help kinksters in Atlanta...

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A kinkster wants to be their most authentic self with a close friend but isn’t sure it’s working. Here’s the question: I am currently struggling in a friendship and wondered if yall had any...

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Think of this like a “state of the union” but for a D/s relationship – specifically ours. In this episode: One week left of our Patreon membership drive! Thanks to Beducated for sponsoring this...

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