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What can a divorce lawyer teach you about choosing the right person to marry?

James Sexton, New York City divorce attorney, bestselling author, and one of the internet’s most recognizable voices on marriage, divorce, dating, sex, and infidelity, joins Alexandria Rizik on Love Sex LA: Unfiltered to reveal the relationship red flags people often ignore before marriage — and the problems that eventually lead couples to divorce.

After more than two decades of watching relationships fall apart, James explains what separates someone who is great to date from someone who is actually great to marry.

In this episode, Alexandria and James discuss:

• The biggest red flags to look for while dating • How to tell if someone is marriage material • Chemistry vs. compatibility — and whether “the spark” is overrated • The most common reasons couples get divorced • The warning signs that often appear before cheating • Whether a marriage can survive infidelity • Sex, desire, and sexual compatibility in long-term relationships • Money, separate finances, and financial incompatibility • Whether everyone should get a prenup • The questions every couple should ask before getting married • The qualities James sees in couples whose marriages actually last • His most controversial opinions about modern dating, hookup culture, relationships, and marriage

They also get into celebrity and high-net-worth divorce, crazy prenup clauses, dating after divorce, falling in love with someone’s potential, whether people really change after marriage, and James’s perspective on what actually makes love last.

If you’re dating, considering marriage, engaged, navigating a long-term relationship, or simply wondering how to avoid choosing the wrong partner, this episode is a masterclass in relationships from someone who has spent his career seeing exactly how marriages fall apart.

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Vanderpump Rules Season 12 star Jason Salvatore Cohen joins Alexandria Rizik on Love Sex LA: Unfiltered for a candid conversation about reality TV, relationships, OnlyFans, and the season that put his dating life under a microscope.

Jason opens up about his experience on Vanderpump Rules, his approach to dating and attraction, whether he was actually ready for a relationship, and how it felt having his personal life play out in front of millions of viewers.

He also talks about the season’s most talked-about relationship moments and what he wishes people understood about him off camera.

We also get into Jason’s path from studying medicine to modeling, acting, working at SUR, reality TV, and OnlyFans, plus his dynamic with his cousin Chris and the attention surrounding some of their content.From dating and chemistry to cast dynamics, DMs, and life after Season 12, Jason gives his side of the story completely unfiltered.

In this episode of Love Sex LA: Unfiltered, Alexandria Rizik sits down with Mark L. Walberg, longtime host of Temptation Island, to talk about love, cheating, red flags, commitment, and what really makes relationships last.

After spending years watching couples put their relationships to the ultimate test, Mark has had a front-row seat to some of the most complicated relationship dynamics on reality TV. He shares what Temptation Island has taught him about infidelity, trust, communication, emotional connection, and why some couples stay together while others ultimately walk away.

Alexandria and Mark get into the difference between chemistry and compatibility, the warning signs people ignore in relationships, whether cheating always means the relationship is over, and how to know when a relationship is worth fighting for. Mark also opens up about marriage, lasting love, and the relationship lessons he’s learned both on and off camera.

If you’ve ever wondered why people cheat, why we ignore red flags, whether trust can be rebuilt after infidelity, or what makes a relationship survive long-term, this episode is for you.

Topics include: Temptation Island, Mark L. Walberg, cheating and infidelity, dating red flags, toxic relationships, marriage advice, relationship advice, trust after cheating, commitment, communication, reality TV relationships, healthy relationships, and lasting love.

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Venus Binkley is opening the vault. 👀

After spending Vanderpump Rules Season 12 as the cast’s go-to confidante, Venus is finally telling his side of the story—and nothing is off limits. On this episode of Love Sex LA: Unfiltered, Venus gets candid about the Vanderpump Rules cast drama, the friendship fallout with Marcus, the Marcus, Kim & Natalie triangle, what really happened behind the scenes, and the major difference between what viewers saw on TV and what actually happened when the cameras weren’t rolling.

We’re getting into the secrets, hookups, betrayals, alleged lies, leaked information, unaired moments, and Vanderpump Rules reunion drama that fans didn’t get to see. Venus reveals what really happened between him and Marcus, whether he believes Marcus and Natalie ever hooked up, what Kim knew, which cast members were hiding the most, and whether some of the season’s biggest storylines told the full story. Plus, we talk about the tension between the OG Vanderpump Rules cast and the new generation, his history with Scheana, reunion apologies that didn’t land, what happened after filming stopped, and whether Venus would trust this cast enough to return for Vanderpump Rules Season 13.

And because this is Unfiltered, we put Venus in the hot seat with Date or Ghost, rapid-fire questions, and F*ck, Marry , Divorce before asking the question everyone wants answered: What’s the one secret Venus has been protecting that he’s finally ready to tell?

If you love Vanderpump Rules spoilers, Bravo reality TV, cast interviews, reunion breakdowns, behind-the-scenes gossip, reality TV drama, Vanderpump Rules Season 13 speculation, and unfiltered celebrity interviews, this episode is for you.

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When life doesn’t go according to plan, it doesn’t mean you’re behind—it might mean your best chapter is just beginning.

Alexandria and her sister Angelica get honest about dating in your 30s, unexpected life changes, modern relationships, and why being single in your thirties can actually be a superpower.

They play “Play Date or Ghost,” answer hilarious rapid-fire questions, and review dating etiquette from the 1950s. Were old-fashioned dating rules more romantic than modern dating—or completely unhinged?

In this episode:

• Why dating in your 30s can be empowering • How to embrace life when your timeline changes • Modern dating, ghosting, and mixed signals • “Play Date or Ghost” • Rapid-fire dating questions • Dating etiquette from the 1950s • Old-school dating advice that might still work today

Whether you’re single, dating, starting over, or learning to trust your own timeline, this episode of Love Sex LA: Unfiltered is for you.

Some friendships carry us through every version of ourselves—but how often do we stop and appreciate the women who continue to show up?

In this friendship episode of Love Sex LA: Unfiltered, we sit down with screenwriter and author Laura Lekkos to celebrate the beauty, importance, and lasting impact of adult female friendship. Inspired by Laura’s novel “All The Little Ways,” we discuss why friendships between women deserve to be valued just as deeply as romantic relationships.

From the friend who answers your late-night call to the one who stands beside you through motherhood, marriage, career changes, and unexpected life pivots, it’s often the little ways our friends love us that make the biggest difference. Laura shares why we shouldn’t take meaningful friendships for granted, how to nurture our connections as life becomes busier, and why making space for our friends matters—even when we’re entering different chapters.

We explore growing together without having to follow the same timeline, making new friends as an adult, and embracing the women who support us through every version of who we are becoming. We also discuss how motherhood can reshape friendships, the pressure women feel to become the “perfect mother,” and why the friends who support us through life’s detours often become the family we choose.

Plus, Laura takes us behind the scenes of “All The Little Ways”—a heartfelt women’s fiction novel about two unlikely friends, their journeys toward motherhood, and the unexpected bond that changes both of their lives.

And because no friendship episode is complete without a little chaos, Laura joins us for: 👻 DATE OR GHOST We give Laura dating scenarios, and she decides whether that person deserves another date—or an immediate ghosting. 🔥 RAPID FIRE Laura answers quick questions about friendship, motherhood, relationships, writing, and who she would cast if “All The Little Ways” became a movie tomorrow.

IN THIS EPISODE:

• Why female friendships deserve to be celebrated

• The little ways our friends show us they care

• Why we shouldn’t take meaningful friendships for granted

• How to nurture adult friendships when life gets busy

• Growing together while following different life paths

• Making new friends as an adult

• Friendship through motherhood, marriage, and career changes

• The importance of chosen family

• Supporting friends through major life transitions

• Maintaining your identity as your life evolves

• Laura’s transition from screenwriting to novel writing

• The inspiration behind “All The Little Ways”

• Laura’s dream cast for a movie adaptation

Whether you have a lifelong best friend, a new friendship you never expected, or someone who has quietly supported you through every chapter, this episode is your reminder to cherish the women who show up—and to let them know how much they mean to you.

Send this episode to a friend you never want to take for granted.

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Shayne Davis from Vanderpump Rules joins Alexandria Rizik on Love Sex LA: Unfiltered for an honest conversation about sobriety, sex, commitment, non-monogamy and the complicated relationships viewers watched unfold on reality television.

Known as the “player with a heart of gold,” Shayne opens up about who he really is beyond his on-screen persona—and what people may have misunderstood about him after watching the season. He discusses the challenges of dating sober in Los Angeles, defining casual relationships, navigating jealousy and determining whether female attention, sex or the chase can become substitutes for other addictive behaviors.

Shayne also gets candid about his fear of heartbreak, emotional vulnerability and why receiving the safety and nurturing he wants can sometimes make him pull away. The conversation explores ethical non-monogamy, monogamy, marriage, children and whether keeping relationships casual offers genuine freedom—or protection from the risks of commitment.

Alexandria and Shayne break down his Vanderpump Rules situationships, including his dynamics with Natalie and Angelica, unresolved chemistry, “playing house,” communication issues and what viewers did not see behind the scenes. He also explains why he chose to speak publicly about erectile dysfunction and what he wishes women understood about men’s sexual health.

Later, Shayne reflects on addiction, relapse triggers, protecting his peace and rebuilding his life after survival mode. He shares what sobriety has taught him, how he now helps others in recovery and the man, partner and entrepreneur he hopes to become.

The episode balances playful Bravo tea with a deeper conversation about addiction, intimacy, masculinity, trauma and personal transformation. 

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Can a situationship actually turn into a committed relationship—or are you wasting your time waiting for someone to choose you? Dating and relationship expert Kimberly Rae joins Alexandria to break down the truth about situationships, mixed signals, emotional unavailability and commitment in modern dating. Kimberly reveals the difference between a connection that is genuinely progressing and one that is keeping you trapped in uncertainty. They discuss why situationships have become so common, the attachment styles that can create commitment issues and whether someone can genuinely like you while still refusing to be in a relationship with you.

Kimberly also explains what people may really mean when they say, “I’m not ready for a relationship right now.”

In this episode:

How to tell if you’re in a situationship

Why people avoid commitment

Signs your situationship could become a relationship

Signs they have no intention of committing

Whether giving someone more time actually works

When patience becomes self-abandonment

How to define the relationship without issuing an ultimatum

Exactly what to say when you want clarity

How to respond to “Why do we need labels?”

The difference between hope and denial

When to stop waiting and walk away

Kimberly and Alexandria also play Date or Ghost: Situationship Edition, covering no-label relationships, Instagram soft-launches, jealous non-partners, dating someone fresh out of a relationship and the classic promise of wanting commitment “someday.” If you’re texting every day without commitment, receiving mixed signals or trying to decide whether to fight for the relationship or finally let it go, this episode offers the clarity you need.

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How do you know if someone is truly meant for you—or if you’re forcing a relationship that God is asking you to release?

In this episode of Love Sex LA: Unfiltered, Alexandria Rizik sits down with bestselling author and relationship coach Stephan Labossiere, better known as Stephan Speaks, for an honest conversation about faith-based dating, divine alignment, soulmates, and recognizing the person God has for you.

Stephan reveals how to tell the difference between a healthy, God-aligned relationship and a connection driven by chemistry, attachment, fear, or unresolved trauma. They explore whether everyone has one soulmate, why people repeatedly choose the wrong partners, and whether “it wasn’t meant to be” is spiritual discernment—or simply an excuse for ignoring reality.

They also break down some of the biggest struggles in modern dating: situationships, hookup culture, dating apps, emotional unavailability, choosing potential over reality, and staying too long because you’re afraid you won’t find someone better.

Plus, Stephan plays Date or Ghost, shares the biggest red and green flags people overlook, and answers one of dating’s most complicated questions: Can someone be the right person at the wrong time?

If you’ve been asking whether someone is “the one,” wondering if you should keep trying, or struggling to let go of a relationship that isn’t working, this conversation will help you approach love with greater faith, wisdom, and clarity.

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Are dating apps making us better at dating — or just better at swiping past the right person?

In this episode of Love Sex LA: Unfiltered, we’re sitting down with celebrity matchmaker, Alessandra Conti, to talk about what matchmakers know that dating apps don’t. We get into modern dating, compatibility, chemistry, red flags, green flags, dating mistakes, dating outside your type, and what actually matters when you’re trying to build a real relationship.

We talk about the biggest ways people sabotage their dating lives, from unrealistic expectations and first-date mistakes to misreading the spark, ignoring healthy connections, and over-prioritizing the wrong things on dating apps.

We also break down the difference between chemistry and compatibility, whether attraction can grow, how long you should give a connection before deciding there’s “no spark,” and why dating outside your type might be the thing that finally changes your dating life.

Plus, we play Date or Ghost where we decide whether dating scenarios are worth pursuing or worth ghosting, followed by a Rapid Fire round of quick dating questions and honest matchmaker advice.

This episode is for anyone who is tired of dating apps, stuck in the same dating patterns, questioning their type, confused by chemistry, or ready to date more intentionally.

What do you do when the ghost comes back?

In this episode of Love Sex LA: Unfiltered, Alexandria sits down with dating expert and author Benny Hart to talk about exes, ghosting, second chances, situationships, and the question every girl has asked herself at least once: is this actually worth revisiting, or am I just emotionally bored?

Sometimes a ghost doesn’t fully disappear. Sometimes they’re still watching your Instagram stories, liking posts, orbiting your life, or reappearing months later with a casual “how’ve you been?” And when that happens, it can be hard to tell whether they genuinely miss you, want another chance, or just want access again.

Benny and Alexandria unpack why ghosts come back, what it means when an ex or situationship is still keeping tabs on you, and how to know the difference between real change and someone trying to soft launch their way back into your life.

They also talk about when it’s actually acceptable to get back together with an ex, what red flags and green flags to look for, and why getting back together only works when the reason you broke up no longer exists — not when you’ve just gotten lonely enough to ignore it.

Plus, they play Date or Ghost, breaking down modern dating scenarios like read receipts, exes on Instagram, guy best friends, female roommates, location sharing, waiting until marriage, and the classic ghost who comes back with “I miss your energy.”

This episode is for anyone who has ever been ghosted, haunted by an ex, tempted by a second chance, or stuck wondering whether they miss the person — or just the fantasy.

Are we actually choosing who we’re attracted to — or are our bodies making that decision before we even realize it?

In this episode of Love, Sex, LA: Unfiltered, we explore the intersection of attraction, hormones, scent, synthetic fragrance, birth control, culture, and modern dating — and ask whether modern life is interfering with the natural signals that once helped us choose partners.

From perfume, cologne, deodorant, body wash, hair products, skincare, laundry detergent, and fragrance-filled products to hormonal birth control and shifting emotions, we talk about the ways we may be masking natural attraction externally and changing it internally.

Because attraction isn’t just about looks, personality, or chemistry on a dating app. In person, we may be picking up on scent, body language, energy, hormones, and subtle cues we don’t even consciously notice.

So if we’re constantly covering up natural scent and altering hormones, are we still choosing each other naturally?

Maybe dating isn’t broken. Maybe dating has become artificial.

Plus, we play Date or Ghost, breaking down modern dating scenarios and deciding what’s worth a date, what’s an immediate ghost, and what deserves a deeper conversation.

This episode is for anyone curious about modern dating, relationship chemistry, hormone health, birth control, scent attraction, wellness, culture, and the strange biology behind why we want who we want.

Jordan Ngatikaura is joining Love Sex LA: Unfiltered for a candid conversation about the headlines, the healing, and the next chapter.

Known from the world of The Secret Lives of Mormon Wives, Jordan opens up about the AI photo controversy, navigating public criticism, divorce, faith, fatherhood, DadTok, and what it means to start over without burning your life down.

We also get into his upcoming cooking chapter on 100 Cooks, what he would cook for a first date, Mormon dating culture, modern dating red flags, green flags, relationship non-negotiables, and whether DadTok can survive.

Plus, Jordan plays Date or Ghost, weighing in on exes on social media, OnlyFans, double texting, casual dating, kids, Instagram behavior, and the messy little things that make dating today so complicated.

This episode is for anyone who loves reality TV, The Secret Lives of Mormon Wives, DadTok, dating debates, food, faith, controversy, and main character energy.

Going through a breakup, getting ghosted, or dealing with heartbreak? It’s time for a healthy reset. In this episode of Love, Sex, LA, we are redefining the "revenge body." Forget starving yourself or trying to make your ex jealous—we’re talking about turning emotional chaos into confidence, strength, discipline, and deep self-respect.

Joining us is celebrity fitness trainer, business owner, and podcast host Jeremy Scott. Jeremy breaks down exactly how to use fitness and nutrition as the ultimate emotional healing tool so you can feel hot, healthy, and back in control of your life.

🔥 Inside this episode, we dive into:

• The Breakup Reset Mindset: How to shift from heartbreak to empowerment.

• The "Bulky" Myth: Why women shouldn't fear weightlifting and how strength training actually creates a toned look.

• Workout & Fat Loss Strategy: Cardio vs. lifting weights, and how to structure a realistic weekly routine that fits your social life.

• Non-Toxic Nutrition: Why protein matters, the truth about carbs, and the foods you need to stop demonizing.

• Alcohol & LA Lifestyle: How to see fitness results in 30 days without giving up your social life.

• The 7-Day Revenge Body Reset: Jeremy’s exact step-by-step blueprint for anyone who just got dumped and wants to feel better immediately.

Plus, don’t miss our hilarious "Date or Ghost" segment where Jeremy gives his unfiltered hot takes on gym selfies, guys obsessed with "Pilates bodies," and splitting the bill 50/50. We also wrap up with a rapid-fire fitness myth-busting round (sauna vs. cold plunge, intermittent fasting, and if abs are actually made in the kitchen).

If you’re ready to stop spiraling, start sweating, and rebuild your self-trust, this episode is your ultimate guide.

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Season 1 of Love, Sex, LA: Unfiltered comes to a close with a solo episode from host Alexandria Rizik reflecting on the dating, relationship, and life lessons she’s learned entering her thirties.

After turning 32 and stepping into what she calls her “Season One of Sex and the City era,” Alexandria shares the mindset shifts that come with dating in Los Angeles, setting boundaries, protecting your time, and learning the difference between men who are exciting and the man who could actually be your husband.

From saying “no” without apology, to walking away from misaligned relationships, to taking accountability for your growth, this episode is about stepping into the next season of life with clarity and standards.

Whether you're navigating modern dating, building your career, or redefining your priorities in your 30s, this episode explores how small decisions shape the life you ultimately create.

Topics in this episode include:

• Dating in your 30s • Setting boundaries in relationships • Why “no” is a complete sentence • The difference between chemistry and alignment • Walking away from relationships that no longer serve you • Accountability, self-growth, and personal standards • How your priorities shape your future

Season One was exploration. Season Two is alignment.

Welcome to the next chapter.

Martini in hand.

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Love, Sex, LA: Unfiltered is a podcast about modern dating, relationships, lifestyle, and personal growth in Los Angeles, hosted by Alexandria Rizik.

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In this Valentine’s Day special of Love, Sex, LA: Unfiltered, we’re asking the question everyone in modern dating is low-key afraid to say out loud:

Are they actually pursuing you… or just love bombing you?

Alexandria is joined by her longtime friend Ryan Lu for a real, unfiltered conversation about:

• The difference between genuine pursuit vs. love bombing

• Why situationships feel intense but go absolutely nowhere

• The signs someone wants a relationship… vs. just the attention

• How Valentine’s Day exposes the truth about your “almost relationship”

• What it really looks like when someone is intentional about you

We also get into Ryan’s new music, the emotional side of creativity, and how friendship, timing, and growth shape both love and art. It’s dating advice, relationship psychology, and personal stories all in one episode — with the chaotic honesty you expect from Love, Sex, LA.

If you’ve ever wondered: “Does he like me… or does he just like how I make him feel?” This episode is your Valentine’s Day reality check.

Perfect for anyone navigating: modern dating, situationships, talking stages, commitment issues, love bombing, relationship red flags, and emotional availability.

💔✨ Press play before you text them back.

Can you actually find love online—or are dating apps just playing games with your emotions?

In this episode of Love, Sex, LA: Unfiltered, Alexandria sits down with a dating-tech insider to break down what’s reallyhappening behind the screen. From dating algorithms and AI matchmaking to catfishing, shadow profiles, and swipe psychology, this episode pulls back the curtain on how modern online dating truly works—and why so many people feel stuck in endless situationships.

We dive into how dating apps decide who you see, how long you stay on the app, and why “the one” can sometimes feel just out of reach. If you’ve ever wondered whether online dating is designed to help you find love—or keep you swiping—this episode is a must-listen.

Whether you’re single in Los Angeles, navigating dating apps in your 30s, or curious about how AI is reshaping modern relationships, this conversation will completely change how you approach online dating.

💔🏨 Welcome to Heartbreak Hotel.

This episode is for anyone healing after a breakup — whether you were the one left, the one who walked away, or the one who knew it had to end but still feels the ache.

In How to Heal After a Breakup, we talk about why heartbreak lingers, how to move on without rushing your healing, and what it really means to choose yourself again. From emotional baggage and grief to self-kindness and new beginnings, this episode is a safe space for anyone navigating breakup recovery and emotional healing.

Breakups aren’t failures — they’re turning points. And healing doesn’t mean forgetting. It means remembering without breaking.

🎧 Press play if you’re: • healing after a breakup • struggling to move on • missing someone you know isn’t coming back • learning how to let go • rebuilding your sense of self

Welcome to Heartbreak Hotel. Your stay is temporary — your growth is permanent.

In Episode 26 of Love, Sex, LA: Unfiltered, we’re joined by special guest Alissa DeRogatis, author of Call It What You Want, for a candid conversation about boys, books, and the messy gray area of modern dating.

We dive into situationships, Raya dates, dating in Los Angeles, and how real-life romantic chaos inspires fiction. Alissa opens up about her writing journey, what dating has taught her about love and boundaries, and what’s next for her upcoming projects.

If you’ve ever wondered whether he’s your boyfriend or just a chapter, this episode is for you.

✨ In this episode, we talk about: – Situationships vs. relationships – Dating apps & Raya stories – Writing romance inspired by real life – Boys who don’t know what they want – Dating in LA & modern love culture – Alissa’s upcoming books and creative projects

Whether you’re navigating modern dating, obsessed with romance novels, or just love unfiltered conversations about love, sex, and self-worth — this episode delivers.

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It’s our Christmas episode, and this one is extra real. 🎄✨

In Episode 25 of Love, Sex, LA: Unfiltered, I’m joined by all my sisters for an honest, unfiltered conversation about cuffing season, holiday dating pressure, and why it’s completely okay to find yourself single under the mistletoe.

From seasonal situationships to the emotional whiplash of cuffing season, we break down why the holidays can bring up loneliness, nostalgia, and the urge to settle — and how to shift your mindset instead. This episode is for anyone navigating being single during the holidays, questioning where they stand romantically, or learning how to choose peace over pressure.

If you’ve ever felt behind because you don’t have a plus-one at Christmas… this episode is for you.

🎙️ In this episode, we cover:

• The realities of cuffing season

• Why holiday relationships can feel confusing

• Being single during Christmas without shame

• Letting go of situationships before the new year

• Why alone doesn’t mean lonely

Whether you’re cuffed, uncuffed, or somewhere in between — you’re not behind, and you’re not doing it wrong.

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Are men actually single anymore — or just emotionally on standby?

In this episode of Love, Sex, LA: Unfiltered, I break down The Epidemic of the Partially Single Man — the modern dating phenomenon where men claim to be single while still emotionally tethered to their exes. From lingering attachments and “healing eras” to situationships that never fully move forward, we unpack why so many men are half in, half out — and why women keep getting caught in the middle.

This episode is about recognizing the red flags, understanding emotional unavailability, and knowing when to walk away instead of waiting to be chosen. If you’ve ever felt like someone couldn’t fully show up for you, this conversation is for you.

✨ You deserve to be the person they never want a distraction from.

In this episode, we cover:

• What it really means to be a partially single man

• Emotional unavailability and unresolved exes

• Situationships vs. real commitment

• Why familiarity often beats growth in modern dating

• How to stop being someone’s distraction and start choosing yourself

In this episode, Alexandria sits down with Chris Nappi — dating coach, creator, and host of the Confidence Podcast — to decode the chaos of social media and dating in 2025.

We break down the biggest social media red flags, mixed signals, and modern dating confusion, including: • Why he’s active online but not texting you • Why she never replies but always says yes to dates • Asking for IG before the number • Boundaries in modern dating • How hookup culture + social media changed everything • Red flags women ignore • Red flags men ignore

If you're navigating modern dating, online behavior, mixed messages, attachment styles, or dating apps, this episode will save you time, energy, and heartbreak.

The holidays can feel magical for some and lonely or overwhelming for others — but no matter where you’re at, there is always something to be grateful for. In this Thanksgiving special of Love Sex LA: Unfiltered, Alexandria dives into how practicing gratitude can transform your dating life, your career, your healing journey, and every manifestation you’re calling into your next era.

In this solo episode, we explore how mindset shifts open doors you didn’t even realize were unlocked — and how gratitude can help you release old patterns, stop clinging to the wrong people, and attract the opportunities that are finally aligned with you.

Whether you're healing from a situationship, craving clarity in your dating life, manifesting a new chapter in your career, or simply needing grounding during the chaos of the season, this episode is your Thanksgiving reset.

In this episode, we cover:

• The power of gratitude in modern dating

• Why mindset shapes your manifestations

• Breaking toxic patterns & seeing red flags clearly

• How to stop comparing your journey to everyone else’s

• Attracting aligned relationships through emotional healing

• Using gratitude to unlock new doors in love, career, and self-trust

• A guided visualization for your next era

If the holidays are hard for you — or if you’re stepping into a season of growth — let this be your reminder that nothing lasts forever, especially hard times. You’re not where you started, and your next chapter is already forming.

✨ Happy Thanksgiving, babe. Gratitude is your superpower — and your plot twist.

Your healing era can be your most magnetic one. Alexandria and Ryan Lu talk manifestation, modern dating, and what to do when you’re getting over someone you saw a future with. This episode is all about shifting from heartbreak to high vibration—and becoming the version of you that your future person is already manifesting.

In this episode of Love, Sex, LA: Unfiltered, Alexandria sits down with dating coach & matchmaker Nelly Sudri to unpack what it really means to stop chasing love — and start choosing alignment.

Together, they dive into how to heal your dating energy, date with discipline, and raise your value so you attract emotionally available partners who actually show up. They explore why so many women fall into “chasing mode,” how to embody feminine energy without losing yourself, and the hidden dangers of hookup culture — from emotional confusion to attachment mismatches to the false sense of intimacy that keeps you stuck in cycles you never meant to choose.

Plus, they break down why we’re so drawn to emotionally unavailable men, how to rewire your attraction patterns, and how to choose connection with clarity instead of chaos. And of course… a round of Date or Ghost, decoding real-life dating scenarios.

They say if he wanted to, he would… but sometimes, he just needs an invitation. In this episode, Alexandria sits down with Taylor McPherson — aka Sparkle Queen LA — to talk about the soft power of feminine energy, the difference between pursuit and invitation, and how to give the perfect nudge without losing your sparkle.

From subtle signals to confident body language, this is a masterclass in magnetism, modern femininity, and giving the perfect nudge.

Tune in for flirty wisdom, unapologetic self-worth, and a few “Date or Ghost” scenarios that’ll make you rethink who’s really in control of the chase

This week, Alexandria sits down with writer, filmmaker, and podcast host Rory Uphold to talk about her brand-new book The Final Girl’s Guide to the Horrors of Dating — a darkly funny, brutally honest survival manual for anyone trying to find love in a world full of ghosts, vampires, and walking red flags.

Together, they dive into why modern dating feels like a horror movie, the “monsters” we date (and sometimes become), and how to step into your Final Girl era — the one where you stop chasing chaos and start choosing peace.

From The Vampire who drains your energy to The Zombie Ex who keeps rising from the dead, Rory and Alexandria swap war stories, laugh through the trauma, and unpack what it really means to heal, date consciously, and still believe in love after all the jump scares.

Because in the love story of your life, you’re not the victim — you’re the heroine.

This one’s for the girls in relationships, situationships, or even friendships that have left you questioning yourself. In this episode, we unpack why it’s not you, it’s them—and why giving your body, mind, time, and energy to someone before they’ve truly committed might be putting the cart before the horse. We’ll talk about how intentional dating means protecting your peace, and why it's time to stop replaying those old texts and wondering what you did wrong. Spoiler: you didn’t.

He stood her up twice — and now they’ve been married 33 years.

In this special Anniversary Episode, my parents join me for an unfiltered deep dive into how dating has changed, what rejection used to look like, and why maybe ghosting isn’t that different from just… not showing up.

We talk about old-school romance vs. modern chaos, second chances, and play Date or Ghost + Guess the Dating Term to see if my parents can survive the world of 2025 dating. Spoiler: they had no idea what “DTR” meant.

Three sisters, martini talk, and a game of Date or Ghost—what could go wrong? Chaos, comedy, and brutally honest takes.

In this episode, I sit down with two of my sisters, Angelica and Julia, to tackle two big dating questions: - How do you cope with rejection (especially when it stings)? - Does anyone really deserve a second chance?

Of course, I couldn’t resist sharing my own cringe confession—like that time I told my crush (two martinis deep) that I was offering them the “golden ticket” and it was “take it or leave it.” Spoiler: they left it.

Come for the laughs, stay for the sisterly banter, and leave with a fresh perspective on rejection, resilience, and knowing when to ghost vs. give grace.

I sit down with singer/songwriter Lily Kincade to talk all things Cinematic—her brand new album dropping October 24. We get into the stories behind the songs, how her first love became a muse, and what it really means to keep chasing your dreams when the path isn’t always perfect. We also dive into falling in love in LA, the inspiration that fuels her artistry, and so much more. And of course, it wouldn’t be Love, Sex, LA: Unfiltered without a round of our favorite game, Date or Ghost.

LA dating, but make it honest (and hilarious). I sit down with my friend Ben Jacob to talk gay dating in LA, sober first dates, age gaps, the hardest parts of finding real love here, and Ben’s craziest dating stories. Plus, we play our favorite game: Date or Ghost.

Expect green flags you can’t fake, boundaries that actually work, and a standards reset you’ll feel tomorrow.

Would he make the cut? On this episode of Love, Sex, LA: Unfiltered, I’m joined by my casting-producer bestie, Cheech, to turn reality-TV casting criteria into a foolproof way to vet your love life IRL. We kick off with our game Cast or Cut (our spin on Date or Ghost) and rapid-fire the red flags: mid-divorce but still wearing the ring, only FaceTiming from the car, “it’s chill—I live with my ex,” endless texting with zero dates, and more. Then Cheech pulls back the curtain on how she casts men for dating shows—and how those same filters (accountability after past relationships, family dynamics, ideal first-date tells, subtle red flags, and whether he’s a pursuer, slow-burner, or collector) map perfectly to your next situationship. We also get personal—Cheech shares the wild story of discovering a partner’s infidelity mid-interview—and she leaves singles with grounded advice for getting back on set (aka back on the apps) after a heartbreak. Hit play for laughs, tea, and a casting-call level standards reset.

Is it a red flag…or your nervous system asking you to regulate? Sabrina Zohar joins Alexandria for a candid, zero-shame conversation about attachment, intuition, and the difference between chaos and chemistry. We kick off with a game of “Date or Ghost”, then get personal about the moments that shaped Sabrina’s work and worldview.

We move into Attachment Styles 101—secure, anxious, avoidant, and disorganized—what people misunderstand about “secure,” and how regulation (not perfection) shifts your patterns. In the main segment, we map out red flag vs. trigger, quick self-checks before you spiral, and how to tell intuition from a trauma response. Consider this your dating audit: practical tools, zero shame, receipts included.

Dating in LA is a stage — and Cameron Carr and I are here to judge the auditions. We break down the city’s performative dating culture (image, access, “brand-safe” chemistry) and answer the only question that matters: do you make him a Lover, or Exile him? From soft-launch purgatory and “audition energy” to consistency vs. potential, we spell out clear walk-away cues and green-flag keeps. Swiftie Court is in session, the gavel is tiny, and the verdicts are practical: how to stop chasing applause and start choosing partners who show up off-camera. Rate/review if this helped you exit stage left at the right time.

Little Miss Fix It reports for duty. This week I unpack why the black cat boyfriend is suddenly everyone’s type, why your love life is not a home renovation project, and what my DJ saga taught me about fixing men who don’t want to be fixed. We talk attachment patterns, red flags disguised as “potential,” and how to step out of the contractor role and back into main character energy.

He’s hot. The chemistry is crazy. But he’s consistent at being inconsistent. In Episode 8, we’re getting brutally honest about moving on—whether it’s from a long-term ex, a messy situationship, or That Guy you never quite dated.

In Part III of our “If He Wanted To” series, Alexandria sits down with dating expert and author Benny Hart, who doesn’t mince words when it comes to modern love. Benny dishes out practical advice, calls out emotional games, and shares why he thinks one of the biggest mistakes women make in dating is playing too cool. From whether “no contact” actually works to whether you should ghost the guy who just got out of something serious, this episode is your no-fluff guide to dating with clarity. Watch to find out when to hold on, when to pull back, and when it’s time to stop playing defense.

We’re back with part two of the conversation that broke the internet — and this time, we’re bringing in the male perspective. Niko Emanuilidis joins Alexandria to unpack the 80/20 rule of “if he wanted to, he would,” why some men ghost (and then reappear), and how real transparency is the new sexy. They talk dating games, emotional availability, Mr. Big vs. reality, and Niko's personal rule for when you should “date or ghost.” It’s honest, unfiltered, and exactly what you need in your queue right now.

We’re kicking off our new series by unpacking the phrase that launched a thousand spirals: “If he wanted to, he would.” But is it gospel…or just glorified gaslighting? From Coldplay cheating scandals to the fall of Jeremiah Fisher (sorry, Team Nice Guy), we’re breaking down what real effort looks like—and why charm without consistency just doesn’t cut it. Plus, I went on a first date. Yes, a real one. And against all odds (and dating app horror stories), he actually followed through. It proved that sometimes… if he wants to, he will. And he did.

This is your reminder: You are the Super Bowl. And the right man? He’ll move mountains just to make kickoff.

Rachel Friedman of Unwell's radio show, Dialed In, breaks down the modern dating game—and nothing’s off-limits. From ghosting and red flags to crying it out on the StairMaster, we get into the unhinged chaos that is today’s love life.

We talk about her viral TikTok term “cardboard energy” (spoiler: it’s exactly what it sounds like), why dating in NYC might just be superior to LA, and the story of that two-week fling that unexpectedly catapulted her into crying over someone else at the gym to Taylor Swift.

Whether you're navigating situationships, dating app burnout, or just trying to decode that “let’s be friends” text, this episode is for the chronically romantic, the emotionally unwell but self-aware, and anyone who's ever confused a situationship for a soulmate.

Hit play. Let’s get unfiltered.

Ever been told you’re “too much”—especially by the wrong guy? This week on Love Sex LA: Unfiltered, Alexandria sits down with Emma Paige from the Too Much Podcast to unpack why being ‘a lot’ is actually your biggest flex. Emma breaks down her iconic Five Box Theory, shares why you should never shrink yourself for someone who can’t handle you, and gets brutally honest about outgrowing the wrong men (and the wrong rooms).

It’s all the things your situationship won’t talk about: dating in LA, self-worth, and why the right person will never make you feel like you’re “too much.”

If you’ve ever felt like you’re just too big for his little life, this episode is your permission slip to be even louder.

Get ready for hot takes, bold laughs, and zero apologies.

Modern crushes aren’t cute—they’re chaotic. In this episode of Love Sex LA: Unfiltered, I spiral (hard) over a green-eyed Capricorn and reflect on how to break old patterns, stop the overthinking, and enjoy the crush without crashing. Plus, I read your wildest “relationship allergy” stories. Let’s breathe, touch grass, and romanticize reality—not red flags.

Ever been in a situationship that left you more itchy than infatuated? Welcome to the pilot episode of Love, Sex, LA: Unfiltered. In this episode, Alexandria Rizik—your resident millennial Carrie Bradshaw—spills the real origin story behind LA’s most relatable dating newspaper. From inspiration to launch, we break down why Love, Sex, LA isn’t just a publication, it’s a community.

We’ll get into the modern dating world: the highs, the cringe, the ‘was that love or just a reaction to bad cologne?’ Some relationships are soulmates. Others? Total allergies. Let’s talk about the difference. Plus, how Love, Sex, LA became the safe space for all of us who have swiped, spiraled, or survived another “let’s just see where this goes.”

Tune in if you want stories that sting, heal, and make you laugh—because in LA, love is never boring, and neither are we. Whether you’re sipping oat milk lattes in LA or swiping from somewhere far away, modern dating is the world’s unofficial language—one we all speak, even if we’re still searching for subtitles.