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#416 Why Your Therapist is Weird: Behind The Scenes26 Aug 202400:47:03

Wondering why your therapist acts a little... strange? What are all those long, awkward silences about? Why won't they follow you on social media? You made DIRECT EYE CONTACT with them at the grocery store but they didn't acknowledge your presence. Why?? In this episode, we’re diving into the surprising truth behind therapist boundaries and why they matter for your personal growth.

 In this episode of Love, Happiness, and Success, I’m pulling back the curtain on some of the “weird” things therapists do (like, why won’t they just give you a hug already?!), and why those boundaries are actually super important for your healing journey.

We’ll also break down the difference between therapy and coaching, why therapists never give direct advice, and how these boundaries create a safe, effective space for you to thrive. Plus, I’m sharing insights that will help you build a strong, healthy relationship with your therapist. If you're in therapy, you’ll walk away with some major a-ha moments!

Timestamps:

00:00 - Let’s Get Real: Why Do Therapists Have Such Weird Boundaries?
02:25 - The Surprising Power of Therapist Boundaries
06:43 - Why Your Therapist Won’t Steer the Conversation (Hint: It’s for YOU)
09:10 - Therapist vs. Coach: Which One Do You Really Need?
12:35 - The Ethics Behind the Scenes: How Good Therapists Keep You Safe
24:25 - Why Your Therapist Stays Neutral (Even When It Feels Weird)
31:55 - Session Time Limits & Contact Rules—What’s Up with That?
35:51 - The Secret to a Healthy Therapist-Client Relationship
45:44 - Wrap Up: Final Thoughts and Takeaways

Wanna Learn More?

Don’t forget to like, subscribe, and hit the bell so you never miss an episode on all things therapy, coaching, and personal growth! Let’s keep this conversation going! 💖

#415 How To Become More CONFIDENT19 Aug 202400:47:48

Ready to shake off low self esteem for good, and grow into the confident, competent person you want to be? Good news: Confidence isn't born, it's BUILT, meaning you have more control over how you feel about yourself than you might think.

On today’s podcast you’ll learn the essence of authentic self-worth, and how to grow into the kind of person that exudes confidence (in a good way). As a licensed psychologist, marriage and family therapist, and board-certified coach, I’m sharing why confidence isn’t just a feeling you magically have—it’s something you build through consistent, value-driven actions. 

Together, we’ll explore practical ways to develop self-respect, trust your judgment, and foster a deep-rooted belief in your worth. Whether you're looking to overcome self-doubt or grow into the confident person you aspire to be, this episode offers steps you can start taking today.

Here’s what you’ll learn:

00:00 Introduction to Authentic Confidence

01:43 Understanding Authentic Confidence


04:23 Building Confidence Through Actions


06:12 Overcoming Misconceptions About Confidence


07:53 Identifying and Aligning with Your Values


13:26 Personal Story: The Journey to Self-Respect


17:10 Developing a Growth Mindset


34:50 Practical Tips for Exuding Confidence


44:42 Conclusion and Free Resources

Want more guidance? Join me LIVE on Thursday for a Q&A, where I’ll answer your questions about building confidence and self-esteem. Submit your questions in advance through https://www.growingself.com/dear-lisa for personalized advice!

Don’t forget to take our free "How Healthy Is Your Self-Esteem?" quiz at https://www.growingself.com/self-esteem-test/ to see where you stand and discover next steps for boosting your self-worth.

See you there! 👏💪 #Confidence #SelfEsteem #ExudeConfidence #PersonalGrowth #LiveQandA #GrowingSelf

 

Let's Talk About YOU! Thursdays @ 12pm MT20 Jun 202400:01:54

Have you ever listened to an episode of the Love, Happiness, and Success podcast and thought, "I wish I could talk to Dr. Lisa about this"? Now you can!

When: Every Thursday at 12:00 PM Mountain Time (2:00 PM Eastern Time)
Where: Live on YouTube, Instagram, and Facebook

Each week, after dropping a new podcast episode on Monday, I'll host a live stream on Thursday to discuss that week's topic, answer your questions, and give you personalized advice.

How to Participate:

  • Live: Tune in on any of my social channels: YouTube, Instagram, Facebook.
  • Submit Questions in Advance: Visit growingself.com/dear-lisa to ask questions ahead of time and get a reminder before the live stream starts.
  • Recap: If you can't make it live, sign up through the link to receive a recap video via email.

I love making the Love, Happiness, and Success podcast for you, but live streaming adds a special touch by allowing me to interact with you directly. I can't wait to chat about your life and your unique situation.

Mark Your Calendar: Every Thursday at 12:00 PM Mountain Time (2:00 PM Eastern Time). See you there!

xoxo, 

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

#318 - Equality in Relationships10 Oct 202201:06:04

Over the past few decades, we’ve made some huge strides toward building equality in our relationships. It’s no longer rare for a woman to be her family’s primary breadwinner, or to see a dad perusing the produce aisle with a Baby Bjorn strapped to his chest. 

Yet, for many couples who arrive in couples counseling or relationship coaching, the division of household labor is still a perennial source of conflict and resentment. Many couples still fall into traditional gender roles when it comes to who’s doing the cleaning, the cooking, and the shopping, even though it’s now the norm for both partners to work full-time. 

Furthermore, tasks or roles associated with “women’s work” are often viewed as being less valuable and important than activities associated with traditional male roles. Even relationships between career-focused women and stay-at-home dads can have issues with power imbalances and inequality because we value these types of work differently based on our attitudes about gender.

Relationships that feel imbalanced and unfair are not only bad for the partner who’s doing most of the daily household tasks. They’re bad for the relationship itself, and for both partners inside of it. Becoming truly equal partners is often the path to creating a happier, more connected, and more fulfilling relationship (and, interestingly, a better sex life), and that’s what we’re discussing on today’s episode of the podcast. 

My guest is Kate Mangino, a gender expert, speaker, and the author of “Equal Partners: Improving Gender Equality at Home.” Kate is sharing wisdom from her extensive social science research, her two decades of work within the international development sector, as well her own life and relationship, to help you find more balance and create a truly equal partnership that feels fair and fulfilling. 

I hope you’ll tune in to this important conversation on equality in relationships, which not only applies to heterosexual couples, but to anyone who has some internalized gender scripts to interrogate (in other words, everyone!)

 

With love, 

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

www.GrowingSelf.com

#317 - Dos and Don’ts of Step Parenting03 Oct 202201:18:05

When you become a step-parent, you’re walking into a tricky situation. You may have the warmest feelings for your step-kids and a heartfelt desire to be a positive figure in their lives, and still find yourself thrust into the role of “wicked step-mother” (or step-father), with the pain of their parents’ broken marriage heaped onto your back… while your partner stands by helplessly.

As a longtime marriage counselor, I know blended family problems like these are common, and incredibly challenging to overcome. It’s one of the reasons I advise couples to seek blended family counseling as a preventative measure, before problems arise. I also advise taking a very thoughtful approach to blending your families, and examining your expectations for what the role of step-parent will look and feel like. 

 

Listen to “the dos and don’ts of step-parenting” to get real-deal advice on how to avoid the most common step parenting mistakes, and learn an approach to step-parenting that helps you release unhelpful expectations so you can create a happy, harmonious blended family.

 

With love, 

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

GrowingSelf.com

#316 - The Apology Languages26 Sep 202200:43:52

What is your apology language? And, more importantly… what’s your partner’s? 

As an experienced marriage counselor and couples therapist, I know that apologizing is an essential skill for healthy relationships

But not all apologies are created equal. Just as partners must learn to speak each other’s love languages to help each other feel cared for, they must also learn to apologize in ways that feel meaningful to their partner and pave the way to genuine forgiveness.

Tune in to learn all about apology languages, the anatomy of a good apology, and how you can repair “relationship injuries” and get things back on track with the people you love the most. 

Xoxo, 

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

#315 - Military Relationships19 Sep 202200:59:23

On today’s episode of the podcast, we’re covering a topic that doesn’t get nearly the attention it deserves: the unique challenges of maintaining a relationship when you or your partner are members of the military, and how you can keep your military relationship healthy and strong. 

If you or your partner (or both of you!) are service members, you know that the military can feel like a mistress, always meddling on the edges of your relationship… and sometimes high-jacking it completely. No matter how in love with each other you are, or how committed to your partnership you feel, it’s hard to be moved from place to place because of distant orders that you had little or no say in. It’s hard to have a career that takes you away from your partner and your children for extended periods of time. It’s hard to take care of everything on the home front by yourself, especially if you’re stationed far away from family and friends. 

And it can be especially hard to find a marriage counselor or a long-distance relationship counselor who understands these unique challenges, and how to help military couples overcome them. Luckily, we have just such an expert joining us on this episode of the podcast. Jesse S., M.S, LMFT, is a marriage counselor and relationship coach here at Growing Self. He’s also a member of the military with over two decades of service, currently serving in the Connecticut National Guard as a First Sergeant in the 141st Ground Ambulance Unit. In addition to treating bodily wounds, he’s passionate about helping other service members heal and grow as individuals, and within their relationships. Today, he’s sharing his insight and guidance with you. I hope you’ll join us!

With love, 

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

#313 - What Makes a Good Life Partner?05 Sep 202200:54:39

When you’re crushing on somebody, you’re not dreaming about how supportive they’d be if your mother was in the hospital, or how adept they’ll be at receiving your feedback in the midst of a furious argument. No — you’re much too focused on how cute their eyes look when they smile, or how nice they smell. 

 

That’s because we’re attracted to people based on their physical appearance, and their personalities (insofar as we can know someone’s personality within a few months of dating).

 

This isn’t because we’re all shallow jerks — it’s just that we’re biologically primed to hone in on the qualities that make for an excellent short-term mate (short-term as in, long enough to make a baby and keep it alive until it can walk), rather than the deep personal qualities that actually make for a good life partner

 

Whether you’re dating or in a relationship, it’s to your benefit to learn about these deeper qualities, so that you can recognize them in others and cultivate them in yourself. If you can focus on character over chemistry in your relationships, you can create a partnership that’s healthy, strong, and truly built to last. 

 

On this episode of the podcast, I’m going to tell you how. Using insight I’ve gained through working with countless couples over the years in marriage counseling and relationship coaching, I’m going to tell you what actually makes a good life partner — and how you can develop your own “good partner” skills to create better relationships. 

 

With Love, 

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

GrowingSelf.com

#312 - Couples Communication For Stressful Times29 Aug 202200:52:38

It’s no secret that good communication is the key ingredient to a healthy relationship. But, as we all know, couples communication can be challenging — especially when you're under stress.

 

When you and your partner are under stress, communication gets hard. It’s so easy to forget everything you know about active listening and “I-statements” when you’re feeling emotionally elevated, and to slip into a communication style that’s heavy on criticism, blame, and defensiveness. This tendency is totally human — but it’s also a bad habit that we all must overcome for our relationships to truly thrive. 

 

On this episode of the podcast, we’re discussing couples communication strategies that will not only help you manage feelings of stress without damaging your relationship, but that will tap into the power of your deep love and support for each other so you can get through stressful times while strengthening your connection. 

 

My guest is Silas H., M.S., MFTC, a couples counselor and relationship coach on our team at Growing Self. Silas has helped many couples improve their communication patterns and overcome adversity as a team, and he’s sharing his original and highly actionable advice with you today. 

 

All of this and more is here for you. I hope you’ll join us!

 

Xoxo, 

 

Dr. Lisa Marie bobby

GrowingSelf.com

#311 - Six Signs Your Relationship is In Trouble22 Aug 202200:55:13

All couples have differences, and having “spirited conversations” (aka, “conflict”) as you work towards resolving them is a normal part of every healthy relationship.

That said, there are certain types of relationship conflict and emotional experiences that you should never minimize, or underestimate the importance of.

These are the warning signs your relationship may be in real trouble, and when those are happening it's vital to deal with them. Understanding what they are can help you take positive action to repair your relationship so that you can heal your bond.

Learn about the six signs your relationship is in trouble, and what to do if they’re present, on this episode of the podcast. 

Your partner in growth, 

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

GrowingSelf.com

#310 - How to Deal With Trust Issues15 Aug 202200:55:51

Is it hard for you to trust your partner, or feel secure with them? If you've ever caught yourself double checking them (and then wondering to yourself, "Do I have trust issues?") this podcast is for you.

We're talking about what trust issues are (and what they are not), signs of trust issues, what causes trust issues, how unresolved trust issues damage relationships, and what you can do to overcome them — so you can feel confident and secure.

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

Ps: Access all the resources I mention in this podcast on the blog at GrowingSelf.com!

#309 - How to Stop Being Codependent08 Aug 202201:10:06

Are you in a codependent relationship? If so you're probably feeling anxious, frustrated, and exhausted from trying to create positive change in your relationship single-handedly. (Or feeling like you're never quite good enough to meet the standards of your partner). Not fun for anyone!

On today's episode, we're taking a deep dive into codependent relationships. Listen, and learn:

- What codependent relationships are

- Why they happen

- The stages of codependency recovery

- How you can get un-fused from each other so that you can both grow and flourish.

How to stop being codependent: All for you!

xoxo, 

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

GrowingSelf.com

#308 - Managing Up for Career Success01 Aug 202200:51:19

Managing Up for Career Success

Have you ever worked in a truly terrible environment? Think back to that job now. What made it so bad? 

If you’re like most people, the difference between a great job and a horrible job doesn’t have all that much to do with the work itself. Instead, it usually comes down to your relationships with your coworkers — and especially your relationship with your boss. 

Having a positive, healthy relationship with your boss, based on genuine trust and respect, makes your working life so much easier, and ultimately helps you both reach your career goals. 

So how can you build that kind of relationship? And how can you repair your relationship with your boss if it’s not off to a great start? 

On today's episode, we are talking about “managing up,” a professional development strategy that will help you build better working relationships, find more satisfaction on the job and remove the trickiest obstacles between you and your ultimate career goals. 

In this episode, we discuss…

[00:58] What Is Managing Up?

[14:19] What Managing Up Is Not

[24:15] Why Managing Up Matters

[34:53] How to Manage Up at Work 

My guest is Dr. Lisa S., PhD, LPC, CCC. She is a career coach and counselor at Growing Self, as well as the past president of both the National Career Development Association and the Colorado Career Development Association. Today, she shares her insight and wisdom with you. 

I hope you’ll join the “Doctors Lisa” for this lively and useful conversation about building an empowered, satisfying career by learning how to manage up.

Xoxo, 

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

www.GrowingSelf.com

406: Is it a mistake to get back together with an ex?17 Jun 202400:34:59

Have you been thinking about getting back together with your ex? It's completely natural to wonder if getting back together with an ex is a mistake, or if it might be the beginning of a beautiful new chapter in your relationship.

In this episode, I'm here to offer you the clarity you need. We'll walk through FOUR ESSENTIAL QUESTIONS that you must ask yourself and your ex before getting back together.

These questions are designed to help you understand whether giving your relationship another chance is the right move. Doing this introspective work will either set you up for a successful reunion or save you from investing time and energy into a relationship that may not have a future.

So, make yourself a cup of tea, grab your journal, and let's dive deep into these pivotal questions together. By the end of this episode, you'll feel empowered and equipped with the insights needed to make the best decision for your heart and your future. Let's get started! 🌟

xoxo, 

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

GrowingSelf.com

P.S. Let's talk! Every week on Thursdays at 12pm MT / 2pm ET I'm hosting a live stream on Monday's podcast topic to answer YOUR questions. If you're wrestling with this "should we get back together or not" dilemma, I hope you join me!! Submit your question in advance here: https://www.growingself.com/dear-lisa, and then tune in on the socials: Instagram, YouTube or Facebook. See you Thursday!

P.P.S. In the meantime, take advantage of the free resources I mentioned on today's show including tons of insightful articles and a curated podcast playlist all about how to get "relationship clarity." They're all for you! https://www.growingself.com/stay-or-go

 

#307 - Feeling Sexually Rejected By Your Partner? Here’s What to Do…26 Jul 202200:49:09

No matter how secure your relationship is otherwise, it hurts when you feel sexually rejected by your partner. That’s because sexuality is vulnerable and often bound up with our feelings of love, and worthiness — particularly if one of your top love languages is physical touch.

 

Every long-term relationship involves some ebbs and flows in sexual desire, but how you manage those fluctuations matters — especially if you're feeling hurt, or resentful. To help you approach these conversations with vulnerability, empathy, courage, and grace, I’ve invited my colleague Dori B. to join me on this podcast episode. 

 

Dori is a certified sex therapist and couples counselor here at Growing Self, and she’s helped countless couples navigate differences in sexual desire, while building even better relationships in the process. Today, she’s sharing her wisdom and guidance with you. 

 

I hope you’ll join us for her warm, actionable advice about handling hurt feelings related to sex, and getting back in synch with your partner.

 

Xoxo, 

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby 
www.GrowingSelf.com

 

#306 - Is Jealousy Healthy in a Relationship?18 Jul 202200:53:47

People often wonder, “Is jealousy healthy in a relationship?” 

Here’s the short answer: It depends. Jealousy can be healthy when it signals that it’s time to draw your partner close in response to a real or imagined threat. This is a good thing that helps preserve and strengthen your relationship — but only if you’re able to handle jealousy in a self-aware, intentional way.

When jealousy gets out of control (particularly if it’s due to past relational trauma, rather than a current relational threat), it can be a destructive force that harms your relationship, your partner, and you. 

In this episode, we’re talking about jealousy’s ancient roots, when it’s healthy and when it’s a problem, and how you can use feelings of jealousy to start important conversations, establish healthy boundaries, and strengthen your relationship. 

Tune in for a discussion about:

[03:23] What is Romantic Jealousy?

[09:49] What Causes Jealousy in a Relationship?

[17:49] When Jealousy is Healthy 

[23:56] What to Do When You’re Feeling Jealous

[41:56] When Jealousy Turns Abusive

[46:01] Learning from Your Jealousy

And more! 

Xoxo, 

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

www.GrowingSelf.com

#305 - The Power of Believing In Yourself11 Jul 202201:03:00

“Believe in yourself” is more than a soundbite. It’s a necessary ingredient in a happy, self-directed life. 

It’s also easier said than done. If you (like basically everyone) have internal narratives about the things you can’t do or changes you can’t make, you’re going to need more than a pep talk or some positive affirmations to shake those narratives loose. You’re going to need a self-belief-building plan. 

On this episode of the podcast, we’re discussing how to believe in yourself, and the real steps you can take to build self-confidence, self-efficacy, and self-esteem, so you can start living life by your own design.

Our guest is Elise R., M.Ed., NCC, CCC, LPCC. Elise is a therapist, life coach, and “holistic life design” expert here at Growing Self. After helping countless people build their self-belief and reach their most ambitious goals, she’s sharing her sage wisdom and actionable advice with you. 

We are discussing:

- Self-efficacy
- Shifting internally
- Raising kids that believe in themselves
- Mastering experiences
- Building an empowered career
- and more! 

I hope you enjoy this episode and find the power of believing in yourself! You deserve it. 

With love, 

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

www.GrowingSelf.com

#304 - Shifting From Emotional To Intuitive Eating04 Jul 202200:50:21

Eating is one of the most basic ways we care for ourselves every day. But having an unhealthy relationship with food can leave you feeling stressed, emotionally drained, and bad about yourself, rather than nourished, energized and empowered. 

 

Unfortunately, many of us have a fraught relationship with food. Emotional eating, shame, and anxiety around food or body image, and negative cultural messages about what we “should” be doing or how we “should” look, can get in the way of mindful, compassionate, and self-aware eating practices. 

 

Intuitive eating is all about listening to yourself, trusting yourself, and having a positive relationship with the food that nourishes your body and brings you pleasure. 

 

Today we're talking about how to shift from emotional to intuitive eating with an intuitive eating counselor who’s sharing some radical wisdom for making peace with food and your body. Tune in to learn all about: 

 

[03:53] Emotional eating

 

[07:32] Unhealthy relationships with food

 

[17:06] Changing your relationship with food

 

[23:29] Adopting healthier coping mechanisms

 

And much more.  

 

With love, 

 

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

www.GrowingSelf.com

#303 - Personality Type Compatibility in Relationships27 Jun 202200:54:01

Are we a good fit? Do we have enough in common? Is my partner really “The One?” 

Personality type compatibility in relationships isn’t about being alike or agreeing on everything — it’s about learning to understand your differences and use them for the benefit of each other and the relationship. 

In today's episode, you’ll learn all about what really makes a couple compatible, and how you can harness your differences for a stronger relationship.

With love, 

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

www.GrowingSelf.com

#302 - Feeling Lonely In a Relationship? How to Reconnect.20 Jun 202200:42:47

We all dream of having a close, connected relationship that fulfills us on every level. If you're feeling lonely in a relationship, it hurts. It can be hard to know how to reconnect, especially if the distance has been growing for a while — or if negativity has crept in.

Deep connection is created through the intentional cultivation of emotional intimacy. In this episode, we’re exploring how to do that, so you can create the loving, satisfying relationship you want and deserve.

With love to you both, 

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

GrowingSelf.com

#301 - Dealing With Control Freaks13 Jun 202200:52:46
Dealing with control freaks is aggravating, but when you know what’s behind it, it’s easier to have understanding and empathy for them — and also create healthier boundaries for yourself. 

In this episode, you'll learn all about the psychology of the control freak: What drives their behavior, and how you can maintain a relationship with the control freak(s) in your life while still being authentically yourself.

xo, 

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

GrowingSelf.com

 

#300 - Us: Getting Past You and Me06 Jun 202200:47:08

Our relationships are priceless. They can’t be bought, they can only be built. Without them, our lives would be empty.  But all of that is easy to forget when you’re in the midst of a furious argument with your partner, or anyone you love. When we’re emotionally elevated, we say and do things that damage our connections with others. But it doesn’t have to be that way — conflict can be an opportunity for deeper connection and better relationships. 

On today’s episode, internationally recognized marriage counselor and author Terry Real shares how to get past "you and me" to build your "we." Tune in for advice on shedding the individualist mindset and bringing more love into your life.

Made with love, for you!

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

GrowingSelf.com

#299 - Life After Loss30 May 202200:57:12

On today’s episode we’re discussing the unwelcome territory we all have to navigate eventually: life after loss. 

Whether you’ve lost a loved one, a dream, a job, or a relationship, adjusting to your new reality requires a grieving process. Giving yourself permission to fully mourn heals you, and fosters new growth too.

In this episode, I'm speaking with two expert grief counselors about coping with grief and loss, finding peace, and moving forward when it feels like you can’t.

If you've experienced a loss, I'm sorry... and this one is for you.

With love, 

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

GrowingSelf.com

#298 - Can You Be Friends With Your Ex?23 May 202200:49:20
Should you be friends with your ex?

After a divorce or breakup, being friends with an ex can seem appealing, especially if you're co-parenting. Making the transition from partners to pals is possible. But without radical self-honesty and clear intentions, it can be challenging — and may even create new problems.

Can you be friends with your ex? If so, how do you go about this transition in a healthy way? That's what we're exploring, in this episode.

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

GrowingSelf.com

#405 - How to Take Your Power Back After a Breakup10 Jun 202400:33:47

If your heart is hurting and your confidence is MIA after a breakup or divorce, I see you. That stripped-down, shell-of-yourself feeling? It’s real. But here’s the truth that can change everything: You can take your power back after a breakup—and in this episode, I’m going to show you how.

On today’s episode of the Love, Happiness, and Success podcast, we’re diving deep into what it really means to reclaim your sense of power after a breakup. Whether you were left, or you were the one who walked away, breakups can leave you feeling helpless, obsessively stuck on your ex, and questioning your self-worth. This episode is your permission slip to start choosing something better for yourself.

Timestamps:
01:48 – Why Breakups Feel So Disempowering
03:44 – How to Reclaim Your Power (Starting Today)
13:30 – Self-Love as a Rebellion
18:11 – Rewriting Your Story for Good
22:00 – Transforming Pain Into Growth
29:24 – How to Move Forward

If this episode resonated with you, I want you to take a deep breath — because that in itself is proof of your strength. You’re not hiding from the pain. You’re facing it, seeking to heal, and learning along the way. That’s what taking your power back looks like.

👉 Take the next step with my free Breakup Recovery Quiz: How Over Your Ex Are You?
It’s an insightful tool to help you understand what stage of healing you’re in — and what specific actions will move you forward. You’ll walk away with a clearer sense of what’s going on emotionally, and a personalized roadmap for reclaiming your energy, confidence, and future.

And if you’re realizing that this heartbreak is bigger than you expected — that it’s shaken your sense of self, made you question your worth, or left you feeling stuck— come talk to one of the expert breakup recovery therapists and coaches on my team.

👉 You can schedule a free consultation with someone who truly gets it. Together, we’ll explore how breakup recovery coaching or counseling can help you process your grief, rebuild your confidence, and start feeling like yourself again — or even the version of you that you’ve always hoped to become.

You deserve to move forward — not with bitterness, but with strength, insight, and genuine emotional freedom.

And friend? That next chapter you’ve been longing for? It starts now.

Xoxo
Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
www.growingself.com

P.S. If someone you care about is stuck in heartbreak too, forward them this episode. Help them take their power back, too.💛

#297 - Why Relationships Fail16 May 202201:13:46

Every committed couple begins with the best of intentions, believing they’ll love each other forever.

But we all know it doesn’t always work out that way. The truth is that people often accidentally damage their relationships beyond the point of repair... without even realizing it. 

Today, we’re talking about the real, hidden reasons why relationships fail, so you can take positive action now to keep yours healthy and strong. 

With love, 

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

GrowingSelf.com

#296 - Attachment Styles in Relationships09 May 202200:51:26

Why do we react the way we do? Attachment styles in relationships are a powerful force. Understanding your attachment style, as well as that of your partner, can help you create a more compassionate partnership.

In this episode, you'll learn about attachment patterns, identify yours and your partner's, and how to develop healthy and secure relationship systems.

With love, 

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

GrowingSelf.com

#295 - Building Confidence in Dating02 May 202200:48:28

Confidence is sexy. But when you're dating —and dealing with the rejection modern dating involves — it takes a toll on your confidence. Oh the irony.

Fortunately, building confidence in dating is possible, if you know how. On this episode, we’re discussing how to build your self-confidence, bounce back from rejection, and continue to put yourself out there until you find the love you want and deserve.

All for you, 

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

GrowingSelf.com

#294 - Change Your Story, Change Your Life25 Apr 202200:57:07
We all use stories to make sense of the world and our place in it. But what happens when the stories we tell ourselves hold us back, make us feel bad about ourselves, or force us into boxes that don’t fit who we truly are? 

When you change your story, you change your life. In this episode, you'll learn how to tap into your unconscious narratives, challenge them, and then rewrite your story to create the life you want.

Here's to your empowerment!
Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

GrowingSelf.com

#293 - Signs of a Healthy Relationship18 Apr 202201:02:11

A happy, loving, healthy relationship is the most valuable thing you can have. But so many people struggle in this area, and without understanding the signs of a healthy relationship, it’s hard to know how to begin making it better.

This podcast will teach you all about the fundamentals of healthy relationships.

FYI, this comes in two parts: First, listen to the podcast. Then, take the "How Healthy is Your Relationship" quiz, to discover the strengths and growth opportunities in yours.

All the best, 

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

www.GrowingSelf.com

#292 - Dealing with Commitment Issues11 Apr 202200:45:13

Commitment: I know the word alone is enough to send a shiver up the spine of many a listener. And for the partners of the commitment-adverse, it’s not any easier. If commitment issues are present in your relationship, it’s likely to become a sore subject. You’re probably feeling a bit rejected, and you may be wondering if there’s any way forward. On today’s episode of the podcast, we’re going to be exploring the path of dealing with commitment issues, so you can get unstuck!

xoxo,
Dr. Lisa

GrowingSelf.com

#291 - How to Stop Procrastinating Right Now04 Apr 202200:39:29

We all know that procrastination is a recipe for disaster leading to stress, rushing around, and disappointing people (including yourself.) Yet the little voice that says “let’s do it later” can be hard to resist. 

 

On today’s show I’m sharing new ideas and a fresh perspective that will help you use your natural strengths to focus on (and do!) the most important things… and stop beating yourself up about the rest. 

 

Stop procrastinating! Listen now! ;) 

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

GrowingSelf.com

#290 - How to Stop Dating Jerks28 Mar 202201:08:24

If you find yourself with partners who mistreat you again and again, it’s time to explore that pattern, so you can find a healthy relationship. On today’s episode of the podcast, we’re talking about why you keep dating jerks, and the steps you can take to break free from bad relationships and find real, healthy love.

You deserve it!

xo, 

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

GrowingSelf.com

#289 - What Happy Couples Know — with Director Roger Nygard22 Mar 202201:02:34

Wonderful, healthy and fun relationships can seem magical. But the truth is that awesome relationships don't happen "magically." Not at all. Long-term couples who love their relationships are simply reaping the rewards of the intentional effort they've put in to their partnerships.

Sounds easy, right?

In theory, it is. But here's the issue: No one teaches you how to have a fantastic relationship. So even though many people would love to have a stronger, more satisfying connection with their partner and would be very happy to do the working of making their good relationship great... they literally do not know what, exactly, to do differently.

The intention is there, but the knowledge is not.

To fill this knowledge gap, award-winning documentary film director Roger Nygard spent over seven years sitting down with the thought leaders in the fields of marriage counseling and couples therapy to get ALL THE ANSWERS. 

The result is his film, The Truth About Marriage. And he's here on the podcast with me today to share all his insights and discoveries with YOU.

For love, 

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

GrowingSelf.com

#288 - Navigating a Quarter-Life Crisis14 Mar 202200:44:51

Recognizing that the life you’ve created is not the one you actually want is an uncomfortable experience. But, believe it or not — it’s good. Why? It allows you to reflect, and recalibrate.

Whether you're in your 20s or your 30s having a “quarter-life crisis” is your chance to reconnect with who you are now, reimagine your future, and pivot in the direction of the life you want.

On this episode of the podcast, we’re talking about how you can use a quarter-life crisis as a launchpad for a new chapter of growth and success.

Here's to you!

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

GrowingSelf.com

#404 - Overcoming the Fear of Being 'Single Forever'03 Jun 202400:33:29

Will you be single forever? If you've been dating for a while and struggling to find your person, then I'll bet this thought has crossed your mind at some point. Maybe it's something you think about a lot. 

And the prospect of being single forever can be scary! We all crave deep connection and true, enduring love. The possiblity of never finding the relationship we desire is daunting, especially if your dating experiences have been grinding you down. But facing the fear of being alone may just be the key to not only loving your life as a single person, but also dating successfully. 

On this episode, we're talking about the fear of being single, how it holds you back, and how you can stop feeling afraid and choose to love your life — no matter what. 

Tune in to learn: 

  • 03:11 Understanding the Fear
  • 05:28 Working on Healthy Relationships
  • 06:28 Impact of Fear on Relationships
  • 09:17 Impact on Mental and Emotional Wellbeing
  • 10:43 Behaviors Driven by Fear
  • 13:31 Overcoming the Fear
  • 14:01 Making Peace with Being Single
  • 15:02 Shifting Mindset
  • 16:00 Growth Mindset and Personal Development
  • 17:24 Identifying Obstacles and Making Changes
  • 22:36 Challenging Core Beliefs
  • 25:01 Developing Meaningful Connections
  • 27:46 Finding Fulfillment in Other Areas of Life
  • 29:34 Building a Fulfilling Life
  • 31:22 How Authenticity Makes You Attractive
All of that and more on this episode for you. I hope you'll join me!   xoxo,    Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby    P.S. — Ready to stop spinning your wheels and start dating with intention? Schedule a free consultation: https://www.growingself.com/schedule-free-consultation/   
#287 - Passive Aggressive People — How to Deal.07 Mar 202200:49:00

Was that a compliment, or a jab? Did they really “not see” your text, or are they punishing you? On this episode of the podcast, we’re talking about how to deal with passive-aggressive people, so you can stand up for yourself with compassion and confidence. 

With love, 

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

GrowingSelf.com

#286 - Seize The Opportunity Of The Great Resignation28 Feb 202200:49:37
Ready to make a big, positive change in your career? This may just be your moment. On this episode of the podcast I'm discussing the Great Resignation  with a master career coach, who's sharing ALL kinds of tips and ideas to help you seize this opportunity to create a career you love — whether or not you decide to quit your job.

All for you! 

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

GrowingSelf.com

#285 - Financial Infidelity21 Feb 202200:43:09

Secret spending or hidden debts are a unique type of infidelity that is not often discussed. This kind of financial betrayal creates major relationship issues, and takes a special healing process to mend.

Fortunately, it is possible to save your marriage after financial infidelity, and to come through it together, stronger and more solvent than ever before. In this episode of the podcast, I’m discussing how to heal after financial infidelity, with an expert in financial counseling for couples.

I hope you listen, or share this episode with someone in your life who should! 

xo, 

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

GrowingSelf.com

#284 - Healing Relationships14 Feb 202200:46:31

We all carry around at least a little emotional baggage from past relationships. But by seeking out new, healthy experiences with safe people, we have the power to help ourselves heal and grow.

Today, we’re talking about healing relationships, and how you can create positive experiences with others that help you become a happier, healthier version of you.

Join me! 

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

GrowingSelf.com

#283 - People Pleaser? How to Stop.07 Feb 202200:47:34

Do you have a hard time saying no? Do you feel guilty when you can’t do what others want? If so, you may struggle with people pleasing, a habit that can add a lot of stress to your life and resentment to your relationships.

Never fear — this episode of the Love, Happiness and Success podcast is full of tips for how to stop saying yes to everything, and start prioritizing your own authentic wellbeing.

#282 - Parenting Teens31 Jan 202200:52:15
Do you ever look at your teen and wonder, who is this person? Your child is on the path to adulthood, and they are bound to do some confounding things along the way. If you’re parenting a teen, this episode of the podcast is for you. We’re talking about keeping your bond with your child strong, while being the parent your teen needs.

xo,

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

GrowingSelf.com

#281 - Dating in 202224 Jan 202200:47:32
If you’re navigating the pandemic dating scene, you know how many minefields it contains. But if you're like many singles, the past two years have been a time of inner expansion and self-development as well. Of course, your inner transformation shows up in your love life too — often in very positive and empowering ways.

Join me and my pal, OK Cupid's resident dating expert Damona Hoffman, for a conversation about how to bring this authentic "new you" into your new relationships in 2022 — as well as timeless advice on creating true and lasting love in every phase of life.

xo, 

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

GrowingSelf.com

#280 - Becoming Anti-Racist17 Jan 202201:06:55

George Floyd’s murder in 2020 sparked an outpouring of grief, and a renewed motivation to change the world for the better. But to truly fight racism we first have to look inside ourselves.

In honor of Martin Luther King Jr. Day, I'm re-releasing this episode about antiracism, and the steps you can take to create a more just, peaceful world.

xoxo, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

GrowingSelf.com

#279 - Divorce With Kids10 Jan 202200:57:40

Worried about how divorce will affect your kids? On today’s episode of the Love, Happiness, and Success Podcast, we’re talking about divorce with kids, and the best way to support your children if you're navigating the end of your marriage (or thinking about it).

I hope this episode helps you find clarity and confidence about the next best steps for you and your family.

xo, 

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

GrowingSelf.com

#139 - The Power of a Keystone Habit03 Jan 202200:45:26

I want you to be successful at creating the change you desire in this new year. So for that reason, today's episode is all about how to find and lovingly cultivate one solid keystone habit.

This surprisingly simple technique launches a chain of successes that will carry you forward. Join me and learn how to make great things happen — the easy way!

With love,

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

www.GrowingSelf.com

 

#403 - Sex After Infidelity27 May 202400:40:01

How do you have a healthy sexual relationship with your partner after the trauma of infidelity? It's possible, and in fact, going through the process of healing your relationship together can bring you closer in unexpected ways. 

But the road to recovery is not an easy one, especially when it comes to sex. Many couples struggle to heal, reconnect, and feel safe again after feeling violated by an affair. But there is a path to repair — for your relationship and your sex life — and that's what we're talking about on today's episode. 

Tune in to learn about: 

  • 04:32 The Mental and Emotional Well-being of the Injured Party
  • 06:00 Moving Through a Structured Healing Process
  • 07:51 Stages of Sex After Infidelity
  • 12:34 Managing Trauma Triggers During Sexual Encounters
  • 19:16 The Desire for Detailed Sexual Information
  • 29:45 Positive Growth and Conversations About Sexuality
  • 34:37 Educating Yourself and Making Informed Decisions
And more. If you are struggling with sex after infidelity, I hope this episode gives you hope and direction. You deserve it.    xoxo,    Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby    P.S. — Want support with healing from infidelity? Schedule a free consultation: https://www.growingself.com/schedule-free-consultation/ 
#278 - How to Start a New Chapter In Life28 Dec 202100:55:18

Ready to turn the page and create a bright new reality for yourself? Whether you're ready for a new era in your career, your relationships, or a new sense of ownership in your personal narrative... today's episode is for you.

My guest today is a Jedi-caliber therapist and career counselor, on a mission to teach you how to write a new story for yourself. Ready to start your next chapter? Join us! 

There's so much in store for you, 

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

GrowingSelf.com

#277 - How to Have Hope21 Dec 202100:37:35

Sometimes, it all seems like a losing battle: Everywhere you look, there's a new challenge or adversity that seems too big for any one of us to fix. 

But the universe has an odd way of working on our side, even when we're not aware of it. Listen to this episode for a reminder of how much power you have to create positive things for yourself and others — even when you don't feel like you do.

You're already amazing. 

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

GrowingSelf.com

#275- Do What You LOVE06 Dec 202100:59:55

We’ve all heard that phrase, “Do what you love, and you’ll never work a day in your life.” It may sound like a fantasy, but it really is possible to build a career that’s so in line with your true self that it doesn’t feel like work at all.

But how exactly do you do that?

On this episode of the podcast, I'm chatting with an expert career coach about finding your passion, and cultivating the mindset that leads to work you truly love.

Join us! 

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

GrowingSelf.com

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