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| Fall 2026 Men's Update: Fight Club, Marriage & Faith | 31 Jul 2026 | 00:21:27 | |
Big things are coming this fall for the men of Southland! In this episode of the Locker Room Podcast, Scott Hatfield shares several ways to connect, grow and lead—including Fight Club at the Richmond Campus, new Fight Club resources for leading your own group and an upcoming Marriage Workshop. Scott also honors the life of his friend Rob Preston, whose courageous faith throughout his battle with ALS offers a powerful reminder to live intentionally, share the hope of Jesus and finish well. Upcoming events: • Fight Club at the Richmond Campus • Fight Club Leader Interest Meeting • Fight Club Table Leader Training • Marriage Workshop Interested in leading a Fight Club group or learning more? Email shatfield@southland.church. Please join us in praying for Rob's family and for his Celebration of Life service on August 21. "I have fought the good fight, I have finished the race, I have kept the faith." — 2 Timothy 4:7 Locker Room, let's fight the good fight, finish the race and keep the faith. What we do, how we invest, how we model and what we say matters. Let's build something that lasts beyond us. | |||
| Southland Men: Being Available to Jesus (James Dickey) | 08 May 2026 | 01:09:35 | |
Our guest this week is James Dickey, a long time servant leader at Southland. James' mentality in life is "This is all about you Jesus, what do you want me to do? What do you want me to give?—the answer is yes." James has gotten to be a part of some really amazing God moments because he's stacked up a bunch of yes's, and trusted God to lead him into new opportunities. There's nothing better than a man who stays available to Jesus. Our greatest ability is our availability. This episode wraps up this season of the podcast. Keep fighting and looking for ways to be available this summer to the opportunities God puts in your path to serve and love on others. Have a great summer and we'll catch you back here in August for Season 17 of Locker Room. --- Opening Questions
Discussion Questions: James has stayed faithful serving at the same church through a lot of different seasons and leadership changes.
Hearing James talk about serving on the Prayer Team was powerful because he's walked with people through some really heavy moments.
One of the biggest themes from this episode was just being available to God.
James kept faithfully showing up for Jeep year after year before he ever saw life change happen.
Read Luke 4:18-19.
James saying "yes" to God eventually led to him giving away one of his kidneys — something he probably never could've imagined when he first started following Jesus.
James and Kathy walked through a lot of health struggles together.
"Things you can change, change. Things you can't change, let go and let God." This quote is hard, but there is a lot of truth to it.
Toward the end, Scott challenged men to make their default answer to God "yes."
After listening to this episode, what's one thing we haven't touched on that stuck out to you?
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| Southland Men: Ups and Downs in the NFL, with Jason Dunn | 01 May 2026 | 00:59:54 | |
"When a good thing becomes an ultimate thing, it becomes a destructive thing!" It's so easy for us as men to pursue identity in external things. The enemy loves to deceive men to put our identity in anything and everything other than resting and being anchored in our God-given identity in Christ. We'll chase anything or anybody who will tell us that we're loved, valued and important. It doesn't matter what it is—our appearance, achievements, job titles, our successes, or our bank account. But it's critical for us to find our true identity in who God says we are, instead of trying to find it in what we do or what we have. Our guest this week is Jason Dunn. Jason is a homegrown Kentucky boy who grew up on a farm, went to Harrodsburg High School, and received a scholarship to play tight end at Eastern Kentucky University. After an amazing college career, Jason earned a spot on EKU's Hall of Fame and was drafted as the 54th pick in the NFL draft to the Philadelphia Eagles. Jason played twelve years in the NFL with the Eagles and the Kansas City Chiefs. His story is filled with a lot of mountains and valleys. In our conversation today, we'll talk about football and life after football. Jason is a husband and dad. He and his wife Susan are foster care parents, and their family is a part of our church. --- Opening Questions
Discussion Questions Jason went through a long season of running from the Lord & chasing the world. Jason talked about having a hard conversation with his mom.
Jason talked about losing football and realizing his identity was tied to it.
Jason said he wants people to feel the love of Jesus when they meet him.
Worldly vs. Godly Definitions of Manhood
Jason talks about the importance of stepping up specifically for foster children.
Is there anything from this episode that we didn't touch on that sticks out to you? What is one tangible thing that you can do this week in response?
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| Southland Men: Jesus Rebuilds a War-Torn Veteran, with Matthew Bradford | 24 Apr 2026 | 01:29:47 | |
Our guest today on the podcast is Matthew Bradford. Matthew is a decorated Marine veteran with many awards, a husband, and father. He has gotten to tell his story on 60-Minutes, the Jocko Podcast, literally all over the world. His story is unique. Matthew is a hero, but Jesus is the hero in his story! You may be a veteran. You may have veterans in your friend group or family. Regardless, this episode is going to inspire you, challenge you and equip through to navigate through the hard stuff that you're in the middle of or that will come your way! -- Opening Questions
Discussion Questions Matthew's life changed instantly on January 18th. Have you ever had a moment where your life took an unexpected turn? How did you respond in that moment?
After his injury, Matthew battled guilt, identity, and hopelessness.
Matthew described being at a crossroads: self-pity and purpose.
"Life is 10% what happens and 90% how we respond."
Matthew talked about God giving him a new mission.
What's one thing from this episode that stuck with you the most? What's one way you can actually apply it this week?
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| Southland Men: Redemption from Infidelity and Pornography (Jonathan Fisher) | 17 Apr 2026 | 01:23:09 | |
Your story doesn't have to end in betrayal. It doesn't have to end in addiction. It doesn't have to end in shame. In Christ, there is a path forward—one courageous step of honesty, one humble act of repentance, one powerful moment of grace at a time. What feels like the end may actually be the beginning. All you have to do is take the step. Join us today as Scott sits down with our guest Jonathan Fisher for a raw, real discussion on pornography addiction, infidelity, its impact on a marriage and God's power to redeem, restore and rebuild. -- Opening Questions
Discussion Quesitons Jonathan's struggle started in his teenage years and stayed hidden for a long time. Why do you think sexual sin (or sin in general) thrives in secrecy? Have you ever believed the lie that a future change (marriage, a new season, more discipline) would fix something going on inside of you? What happened? The episode says: "Sin will take you farther than you want to go, keep you longer than you want to stay, and cost you more than you want to pay."—Billy Graham. Where have you seen that play out in your own life or in someone close to you? Do you know of men and marriages that have been impacted by pornography, sexual sin or infidelity? Describe the pain and carnage that it brought on?
Bible: Psalm 32:1-8
Not every story ends the same way some marriages are restored, some aren't. Why is it important to pursue honesty and repentance even when the outcome isn't guaranteed? Jonathan and Jill had to rebuild their marriage with accountability, counseling, and community. Which of those (accountability, counseling, community) do men resist the most—and why? The episode emphasizes: "Trust is rebuilt through consistency, not words." What are some practical ways trust is rebuilt over time? Jesus raises the standard by addressing lust, not just actions. What are some everyday situations where men tend to let their guard down (phones, work, travel, etc.)? How can we set better boundaries?
Bible: Matthew 5:27-30.
Challenge: Do the drastic thing! What is the drastic thing that comes to mind for you and how will you act on it? What else in the episode challenged you? How did the Holy Spirit speak to you?
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| Parenting: Blended Families, with Edgar and Michelle Saborit | 10 Apr 2026 | 01:29:01 | |
Marriage is hard. Parenting is harder, and the only thing harder is parenting in a blended family. This week on the podcast we are wrapping up our series on parenting. If you missed any of the other 3-weeks, feel free to go into the podcast feed and grab those. If you have a blended family—the other three weeks will be really helpful but we want to aim our focus on this specific topic today. You may be listening to this podcast and you're not a blended family... This episode will still be helpful because it will give you greater understanding about the people in your life that are in a blended family , and it may provide greater clarity on how you can love, serve and support them. Join us as we sit down with Edgar and Michelle to talk about the challenges and beauty of a blended family and how it is so often written into God's story. -- Opening Questions
Discussion Questions The podcast describes blended families as complex and challenging. Where have you personally seen or experienced that kind of complexity in family, either your own or someone close to you? How does it change your perspective to realize how many blended or complicated families show up in the Bible? The idea was shared that divorce creates real loss—not just for spouses, but for kids too. Where have you seen unprocessed loss show up in someone's life—or even your own? Where do you think parents (maybe even you) underestimate how much kids are affected by family tension or change? Blended families are described as being "born out of loss and into ambiguity." Where do you see confusion around roles, expectations, or identity showing up in family dynamics? From the challenges discussed (loyalty tension, different parenting styles, unclear roles, etc.) Which challenge stood out to you the most—and where do you see that playing out in real life? The conversation highlighted the importance of compassion. Think about a difficult relationship… what would it actually look like for you to lead with compassion instead of frustration? Instead of focusing on what others aren't doing, the question was asked: "What is one thing you can bring to the situation that benefits the child?" How would you answer that personally? The phrase "always moving toward unity" came up. What does that practically look like in real relationships, especially when it's hard or not reciprocated? The podcast ends with the idea that love is a decision, not just a feeling. Where in your life do you need to choose love right now instead of waiting to feel it?
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| Parenting: Love, Sex and Dating, with Connor Hall | 03 Apr 2026 | 01:18:51 | |
"Prepare your child for the path, not the path for the child." — Tim Elmore. Our job as parents is not to remove all the obstacles in the road, on the path. We can try and spend too much time trying to clear all the obstacles on the path, but in reality our role is to prepare our kids for the path. It's up to us to teach, train, invest and equip our kids to navigate the path in front of them. This is discipleship. Discipleship is our job as parents. Helping our kids love God, develop a Biblical Worldview where God's Word is the filter by which they discern what's right, good and beneficial for them. Today's episode is all about their identity in Christ, God's design for love, relationships and holiness. It's our job. We have to do our jobs and prepare our kids for the path. -- Opening Questions
Discussion Questions Scott says, "Prepare your child for the path not the path for your child." Where have you seen parents try to prepare the path for their child? Where have you seen parents try to "clear the path" for their kids?
Did your parents talk with you about dating, sex, or relationships growing up?
Connor mentions kids are hearing messages about sex and gender as early as 4th grade.
Scott says, "Just because something is normal doesn't mean it's good."
Where have you seen this idea of a practice dating relationship? How can these be dangerous? Scott uses teaching our kids to learn how to swim as an illustration of what it should look like to teach them how to date. What do you think holds parents back from looking at the two the same way? Why is it important for a father to be involved in who his daughter dates?
How can you help your kids handle breakups in a healthy, God-honoring way?
What is one takeaway from this episode that you want to apply to how you parent? How can you do it practically? Resource: Single, Dating, Engage, Married: Navigating Life and Love in the Modern Age –Ben Stuart.
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| Parenting: Weed, Seed and Water, with Jason Byerly | 27 Mar 2026 | 01:24:45 | |
"In the Kingdom of God, it may not be what you did, what you achieved, or where you lived…but who you raised!" The Bible commands us as parents to teach and train our kids to grow up knowing Jesus and to walk in His way. It's important work. If you have them—it's a critical part of the mission that God has called you to. Join us this week on the podcast as Scott sits down with Jason Byerly to discuss practical tools we can all use as parents to help our kids have roots planted in the fertile soil of a strong faith. -- Opening Questions
Discussion Questions Read 1 Corinthians 3:1-9.
Jason asked what might be taking time away from your kids—what's one thing you know is stealing your attention right now?
When it comes to your faith, where do you tend to give your kids answers without explanations?
Two Key Questions for our Locker Room community:
Scott addresses this lie that we are entitled to comfort.
Two Weeding Questions to wrap up this point:
Challenge: This week, regardless of how old your kids are. We want to challenge you to reach out have a shepherding, loving, affirming conversation with each your kids (including adult children).
Helpful Book: Keeping Your Kids on God's Side: 40 Conversations to Help Them Build a Lasting Faith Natasha Crain Wrap Up:
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| Christ-Centered Parenting, with Tim Aulick | 20 Mar 2026 | 01:21:33 | |
Welcome back! This week on Locker Room we are kicking off a four week series on parenting. We've got some solid guests lined up each week to tackle a different aspect of parenting. FIrst up this week, Scott sits down with our guest Tim Aulick to talk about how to raise our children from a Christ-centered perspective. We'll also talk about some of the faulty parenting methods we can easily fall into, and how we can get back on the right track. -- Opening Questions
Discussion Questions Four different pitfalls parents slip into…
Which of these do you see yourself drifting toward the most right now? What are some things that bring that out? Why is it so important to lead from your own walk with Jesus? What are some practical ways you are (or could be) reminding your kids of their identity in Christ?
"A parent's example is either a stepping stone towards Jesus or a stumbling block away from Him."
Tim talks about the mistake of reacting too quickly.
"God isn't after rule followers. He is after transformed hearts."
What does it practically look like to raise kids who love God, love people, and are prepared to leave home well?
Our values should dictate culture. What values do you hold in your household and how has that impacted the culture of your home?
What is one specific step you can take this week to be more intentional as a Christ-centered parent?
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| Marriage: Resilient Grit, with Scott and Sarah Hatfield | 13 Mar 2026 | 01:20:29 | |
This week on the podcast, we have a very special guest. Scott sits down this week with his wife, Sarah Hatfield. It's a special episode. Our topic of discussion this week is how we all need to build resilience and grit into our marriages. When we talk about resilient grit in marriage, we're talking about a relationship bond with the capacity to withstand all the hard things that are going to come our way in life together.. It's the ability to weather all the intense storms that come, through the power of God, and the power of our marriage covenant together. -- Opening Questions:
Discussion Questions: Scott and Sarah grew up in very different families. How has your family background shaped what you think is "normal" in marriage?
"It's about choosing in the midst of extreme pain and circumstances to choose to move towards one another instead of away from one another." Why is this so important to choose? What makes that hard? When you look back at your marriage, what is one hard season that actually made your relationship stronger? Why do you think many couples quit or drift apart during hard seasons instead of growing closer? The podcast challenges the phrase "God won't give you more than you can handle." The episode says marriage vows are built on "even if," not "if."
When hard seasons hit your life, what do you tend to do first and why do you think you lean more towards that response?
Why do you think laughter is important in marriage?
If your wife were answering honestly, which of these areas would she say you need to grow in most?
What is one specific thing you could do this week to intentionally strengthen your marriage? How can this group pray for you and your marriage this week? Wrap Up
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| Marriage: Healthy Communication, with Nate and Stefany Head | 06 Mar 2026 | 01:08:56 | |
Our topic this week is incredibly important—healthy communication. It's important in a dating relationship, and It's important in a marriage. If there's a skill every relationship should be working on, it's learning how to better communicate with each other. Join us this week as we sit down with our guests Nate and Stefany Head to talk about how we can work together to build healthy communication into the bedrock of our relationships. -- Opening Questions
DISCUSSION: Nate talks about wanting to "win" arguments and mentions having an inner lawyer that wants to prove his point.
Stef talks about being on the opposite side of the spectrum in how she communicates.
Scott talks about the idea that things naturally move toward disorder unless intentional effort is applied.
Nate talks about how couples must fight for time together.
Scott says that no one is naturally a great listener—it's a skill that must be developed.
Stef talks about never speaking negatively about your spouse to other people, even jokingly.
Nate talks about the importance of resolving conflict instead of ignoring it.
"Little and consistent deposits are better than big and inconsistent ones." How can you be more consistent with the small things? What is one major takeaway from this episode that you want to apply to your marriage?
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| Financially Wise Marriage, with Kurt and Lori Braun | 27 Feb 2026 | 01:18:03 | |
This week on the podcast, we are talking about how to be financially wise in marriage. This topic is super important for married couples. A lot of us grew up in homes where finances were never talked about. We weren't taught how to spend wisely, or how to budget. Many of us grew up in homes that were upside down in all kinds of debt. Then we stand up on a stage in front of friends and family, say some vows and suddenly begin our new life together without the financial tools to navigate. This can put us behind the 8-ball from the very beginning. Paul tells us Christ-followers to live different than the world. We're called to a different standard. He spells it out plainly in Romans 12:2 (NIV): "Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God's will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will." This week on the podcast, our guests are Kurt and Lori Braun. Kurt recently retired from 20+ years at Southland, managing our church's finances and has helped guide us to a very healthy place. In this conversation we'll dive into how to apply the same methods and wisdom to financial health in our marriages. -- DISCUSSION: Opening Questions
Discussion Questions Romans 12:2 says, "do not conform to the pattern of this world." What are some ways that the world manages finances and how does that differ from how we should? What money habits did you learn growing up? Which ones still help you today and which ones do you need to unlearn? Scott emphasizes the importance of our first fruits. What makes giving "first" hard for most of us? What would it look like for you personally to put God first financially? Life is unexpected. Why is it important to have a savings or emergency fund? We know how important communication is in marriages, but sometimes that doesn't carry over to how we spend our money. How can the lack of communication specifically around money be so dangerous to our marriages? If you have kids, how are you teaching them about money? If not, how do you hope to model financial wisdom in the future? Have you tried the 10 10 80 rule Kurt talks about? Was it helpful? Kurt closes by saying we have to confront the brutal facts and be honest about where you are. What is one conversation, habit, or change you will commit to this week to improve how you and your spouse handle money? Bottom line: What's your next steps? Implement the right plan. Develop the right rhythms. Dig out of debt, live within your means, trust God and steward money and set an example by what you're learning and through how you impart financial wisdom to them. This matters. Make it a priority!
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| Christ-Centered Marriage, with Mike and Debbie Breaux | 20 Feb 2026 | 01:41:06 | |
The path God has laid out for us in marriage is straightforward: You walk with Jesus and allow Him to transform you into the person another person is looking for. You pray for your future spouse. You date with Godly intentions; you date on purpose. You seek to keep Jesus in the middle and at some point, you take the step—and it's a daunting step—into marriage. You can do your due diligence, but at the end of the day, it's a risk…you are trusting that your spouse will go all-in and stay all-in. You're trusting that they'll partner with you to chase God's purposes and cultivate deep intimacy as you seek to live on-mission. In this episode of the podcast we sit down with our guests, Mike and Debbie Breaux, to learn more about how to live out a Christ-centered marriage.
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Discussion: Mike talks about the danger of living "multiple lives." Why is integrity—being the same person everywhere—so important in marriage and leadership? Debbie mentions Soul mate vs Soil mate. What are you currently doing to create healthy soil for spiritual and relational growth? Mike mentions that Fruit grows with humility and gratitude. Why do pride and entitlement hurt relationships so quickly? "Death to self is the pulse that keeps love alive." What does this look like practically in everyday marriage and relationships? What patterns from your upbringing have shaped how you love, communicate, or handle conflict? What's the difference between "if" love and "even if" love? How does that change the way you approach commitment? What is one practical step you will take this week to love and serve your spouse (or future spouse) better? "Breakfast Questions"
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| Big Words: Persecution | 13 Feb 2026 | 00:50:55 | |
There's something really powerful going on right now in our nation, on college campuses and in healthy, bible-based, mission-driven churches. We're seeing lots of people coming to church for the first time, people coming back to church and people investigating faith and then being baptized into Jesus. Why is this happening? One of the big reasons we've seen this significant movement of God is because the church has been under attack. It's always been under attack but over the last 5+ years we've seen a dramatic shift that's been aggressively challenging the church. The old quote has become popular again: "Comfortable times create weak men, weak men create hard times, hard times create strong men, and strong men create good times." Hard times produce great students, great men and women, great marriages, great families and great churches. Our big word for today is persecution.
DISCUSSION QUESTIONS Opening Question
Discussion: Scott says persecution is one of the biggest reasons churches are growing right now. Does that surprise you? Why or why not? "Comfortable times create weak men, hard times create strong men." Where has comfort made you spiritually soft? What hard season has actually strengthened your faith? Read Matthew 5:44 and Luke 6:27-28. Who is hard to love or pray for right now because of how they've treated your faith? What would it look like to "do good" to them this week? The apostles refused to recant their faith even facing death. Where are you most tempted to compromise your beliefs right now? Scott mentions we are "playing an away game." Where do you feel the most resistance to your faith right now? (work, family, school, social media, friend groups) Why is it important for men to be anchored, resilient, and willing to persevere in hard seasons? "The way that you respond might open a door to a relationship with Jesus." Have you seen this happen in your life? Does this change the way you think about the way you respond to persecution? What fear most keeps you from being bold about your faith? "My prayer is that when I die, all of Hell will rejoice that I am out of the fight." What would it look like for you to live with that kind of faith right now? What is one specific way you can stand for Jesus this week—at home, work, or with friends? Wrap Up:
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| Big Words: Battle, with Matt Robison | 06 Feb 2026 | 01:19:37 | |
In our walk following Jesus, we have enemies. But our enemy is not only Satan and demons. We have another enemy that is even closer. If you want to know the other big enemy standing in the way of what God wants to do in your life…take your finger and touch your chest. It's you. It's our flesh. We all have an inclination to buck against authority and rebel against God. We see it rooted in Adam and Eve's disobedience. It manifests itself as selfish desires, inclinations toward evil, and an inability to perfectly follow God's will. We're locked in an internal struggle between doing what we want and doing what is right, requiring spiritual rebirth through Christ for transformation. For the Godly man, it's an internal struggle between doing what we want and what is right, requiring spiritual rebirth through Christ for transformation. Our guest this week, Matt Robison has a powerful story from the trenches, fighting the battle of drug and alcohol addiction. Matt shares how choices and circumstances led him to the bottom, and how by trusting in God and the Holy Spirit for each step—even after relapses—he has retaken ground in both his own life and that of his family. DISCUSSION QUESTIONS Opening:
Discussion: Matt talks about the difference of recovery being between abstinence and healing. Why is it so important to distinguish between the two? Matt talks about doing good things out of a faulty performance mindset. What's the danger in doing good things out of a performance mindset? Read 2 Corinthians 12:6-10. What sticks out to you about how God responds to Paul's weakness? Matt touches on the physical, emotional, and spiritual aspects of healing addiction. Why is it so important to address all three instead of just one? Matt mentions a common belief especially amongst men: "I have to perform to be valuable." When have you felt this way? Where does that belief come from? "Love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul, and with all your mind. It's really hard when your heart is broke, your mind is sick, and your soul is covered with shame." What part of you feels most broken right now, and how is that affecting your relationship with God? "Jesus is more interested in the wounds behind the sin than he is in the behaviors." We often focus on stopping sinful behaviors while ignoring the deeper wounds underneath. What would it look like to bring those wounds from the past to Jesus, instead of just trying harder to change? What's a habit in your life that keeps you from God's best? What's a sin that the enemy is using to blanket you in shame with? What is your next step of obedience? Resources
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| Big Words: Discipleship, with Kevin Comp and Tim Hurd | 30 Jan 2026 | 01:24:43 | |
Today on the podcast we are talking about discipleship. This word is really important! It's important to Jesus, and it's plastered throughout the pages of the Bible. It's important to our church, and it should be important to us. Discipleship is the lifelong process of following Jesus, learning his ways, becoming more like him (Christ-like), and helping others do the same, involving deep commitment, spiritual growth, and active obedience to his teachings and mission.
DISCUSSION QUESTIONS Opening Questions
Discussion Questions "Jesus didn't climb on a cross to make us simple casual church goers." When did you realize following Jesus was more than attending church, and what actually changed in your life? What does 'dying to yourself' actually look like in everyday life, not just in theory? When have you ever realized you were calling the shots instead of Jesus? What exposed that and how did you respond? How does the image of a snare change the way you think about the seriousness of sin? Tim talks about how kids will either look at the Bible through the lens of the world, or they will look at the world through the lens of the Bible. He also mentions this is something we have to wrestle with as well. What helps you recognize when you're viewing life through the world's lens, instead of Scripture? And why does that matter? 7 Discipleship Markers
What has being in a Locker Room group revealed about your faith that you wouldn't have seen on your own?
What are you doing well? Where are you winning in these 7 areas? What needs some work? What steps is the Holy Spirit challenging you to take? Wrap Up:
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| Big Words: Grace, with Ian Schweitzer and Gordon Walls | 23 Jan 2026 | 01:18:18 | |
God tells us from the very beginning that he is holy and he calls us to be holy. He also tells us sin leads to death. Here's the predicament our sin puts us in with God: He loves us. He's told us of the consequences of our sin. We've sinned. God loves us so much yet sin has to be paid for. God could simply punish us and He would be right if He did. God could turn and go back on what He said because he loves us, but then he wouldn't be just. God's attributes of love and justice seem to be at odds when it comes to our condition before Him. So God figures out a way to continue to be both loving and just. The answer is found in God sending his son to put on flesh, live a perfect life and then die in our place for our sin. The cross is where God's love and justice collide. Welcome back to Locker Room. This season we're going to tackle four important series. The four series are called Big Words, Marriage, Parenting and Southland Men. This week, Scott is joined by our guests Ian Schweitzer and Gordon Walls to open up a discussion about God's gift of grace, given to us all.
DISCUSSION GUIDE Opening Questions
Discussion Questions Most of us are wired to earn respect, success, and approval. How has that mindset shaped the way you think about God and salvation? What's hard about believing grace can't be earned? "Sometimes this idea of grace can seem too good to be true." Have you ever felt this way? In our parenting: the place our kids need to run to when they do something wrong is us. We have to help them understand over and over again that we're the right place, the safe place to run regardless of what they've done. It's all dependant of their view of us as father. How can we help our kids understand this? The same is true for us–it depends on our view of God the Father. When you mess up–what your natural action–to run to God or run away from Him? Read Ephesians 2:8-10. Talk about the phrase, "Not your own doing." Everything in this world is conditional. What does it mean to you to know this grace He offers us is unconditional? Read Romans 6:1-4. How does this challenge the idea that grace gives us a free pass? The enemy lies and says, "You are not worthy. Don't share what you've done with anyone." When have you seen this in your life and what does Jesus say in response? How does Gordon's story about the Auburn linebacker reinforce the importance of sharing the gospel with people? Who might God be asking you to show up for, even if you never see the impact? "The grace of God is dangerous. It's lavish, excessive, outrageous, and scandalous. God's grace is ridiculously inclusive. Apparently, God doesn't care who He loves. He is not very careful about the people He calls His friends or the people He calls His Church." -Mike Yaconelli, Messy Spirituality. What blows you away about this quote? Is there anything else that spoke to you from this episode? Where did the Holy Spirit challenge you? Additional Resources
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| Season Wrap Up with Jon Weece | 28 Nov 2025 | 01:15:01 | |
This week on the podcast Scott sits down with Jon to reflect on topics from this past season and talk about favorite moments from their many years of ministry. Circle up with us as we close out the season! If you're wrestling with Christianity, interested in getting baptized or need help figuring out your next step…shoot us an email at lockerroom@southland.church. Locker Room will be back in mid-January for season 16. | |||
| Man of God, with Ross Barnette | 21 Nov 2025 | 01:16:09 | |
Every man listening has been invited by Jesus to follow Him, and be in relationship with Him. Jesus wants to be our Lord, Savior and Friend. This week on the podcast we will look at four characteristics we should have in our walk: We'll look at what it means to be fully devoted, responsible, intentional and resilient. Ross Barnette is our guest this week. Ross has been involved in leadership at Southland for many years and is currently one of our Elders.
DISCUSSION GUIDE Opening Question:
Ross (in talking about the people that impacted his life) said, "All had grace in common. They didn't treat me the way I deserve." What does it mean to treat someone in a way that they do not deserve? Ross spoke about his story and how God was chasing him throughout his whole life. Look back in your own life. Is there anything you went through that was hard in the moment, but now--looking back--you can see how God was at work in that hard time? Ross talked about the importance of structured times of prayer. Why is this important and what can you do to develop structured times of prayer in your life? Scott and Ross talked about some practical ways a single man, a husband, and a dad can apply responsibility in their lives. Focus on the group you are in and talk about some takeaways you had. Read Luke 14:25-35. How does this passage speak to the importance of being intentional about our walk with Jesus? What area of your life needs more intentionality? Your spiritual walk, marriage, kids, work, friendships, or health? What helps you stay resilient? What helps you stay in the fight when life gets hard instead of tapping out or checking out? Which Scripture from the episode (Phil 1:6, Gal 6:9, James 1:12, Hebrews 12, etc.) encourages you the most right now? Closing questions: Scott & Ross highlighted 4 characteristics of a man of God.
Share with your LR Group men in your life that are great examples of these areas? How do you Jesus model these in the gospels and toward us? Of the four, which of these are you stronger at? Which of these 4 areas are you needing to grow? What are some ways/next steps that you can take to do grow? Was there anything else in the episode you resonated with? Are you feeling any prompting from the Holy Spirit? Key Scripture Philippians 1:6 (NIV) 6 being confident of this, that he who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus. Romans 5:3-4 (NIV) 3 Not only so, but we also glory in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance; 4 perseverance, character; and character, hope. Galatians 6:9 (NIV) 9 Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up. James 1:12 (NIV) 12 Blessed is the one who perseveres under trial because, having stood the test, that person will receive the crown of life that the Lord has promised to those who love Him. Hebrews 10:36 (NIV) 36 You need to persevere so that when you have done the will of God, you will receive what he has promised. Hebrews 12:1 (NIV) Therefore, since we are surrounded by such a great cloud of witnesses, let us throw off everything that hinders and the sin that so easily entangles. And let us run with perseverance the race marked out for us, 2 fixing our eyes on Jesus, the pioneer and perfecter of faith. For the joy set before him he endured the cross, scorning its shame, and sat down at the right hand of the throne of God. 2 Timothy 4:7 (NIV) 7 I have fought the good fight, I have finished the race, I have kept the faith. Wrap Up:
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| Share Good News: Your Workplace is Your Mission Field | 14 Nov 2025 | 01:26:42 | |
Today on the the podcast, we're going to talk about how we can light up the darkness in a place where we spend at least 8 hours a day, 5-days a week: our work. Some of us are fortunate to work in a place where we can freely proclaim our faith. But for many of us listening, that may not be the case. You may have some other people you work with who are Christ-followers, but for the most part you know every day when you walk in, you're walking into an environment resistant or hostile to Jesus. You're playing an away game. Today's conversation with our three guests—Matt Hall, Yancey Marcum and Jordan Heflin— is about encouraging you to do what you can to walk into your workplace and see it as your mission field. DISCUSSION GUIDE Opening Questions:
"Our work is an opportunity for us to bring life, light, joy and hope into it regardless if we can utter a word about Jesus." What are some of the opportunities to share the gospel in your workplace? 5 components that Christ-followers should bring into their workplaces:
When you think about these five components together:
Read Daniel 6:4-5. What sticks out to you? What does this passage add to our day to day lives? "Preach the gospel and when necessary, use words." What does that look like for you? "Your job today is to positively impact everyone around you" What are some changes you need to make in order to better display the gospel without using words? Sharing your story: "The more you practice, the easier it becomes." Who are some people that can help you practice sharing your testimony? After listening to this episode, Is there anything/anyone you think God is putting on your heart to move toward to pray for, serve and connect with? "When he came there was no light; when he left there was no darkness!"
What has the Holy Spirit laid on your heart? What's your next step? Key Verses Colossians 3:17 (ESV) 17 And whatever you do, in word or deed, do everything in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through him. Matthew 9:35-38 (MSG) 35-38 Then Jesus made a circuit of all the towns and villages. He taught in their meeting places, reported kingdom news, and healed their diseased bodies, healed their bruised and hurt lives. When He looked out over the crowds, His heart broke. So confused and aimless they were, like sheep with no shepherd. "What a huge harvest!" He said to His disciples. "How few workers! On your knees and pray for harvest hands!" 1 Peter 3:15 (NIV) 15 But in your hearts revere Christ as Lord. Always be prepared to give an answer to everyone who asks you to give the reason for the hope that you have. But do this with gentleness and respect.
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| Share Good News: The Power of Your Story, with Aaron Ross and Clay Mossbarger | 07 Nov 2025 | 01:12:22 | |
Jesus has changed the lives of most of us listening to this podcast. Your job is to talk about it; tell your story. Each of us needs to figure out ways to share our testimony. Your story is one of your greatest weapons! Your testimony is simply God's rescue story in your life! And it doesn't matter what it is. Today on the podcast, Scott is joined by Aaron Ross and Clay Mossbarger. We'll get to hear each of their stories, and for those of us who haven't shared our story yet, we'll dive into how to do that, one step at a time. Outside of the Word of God and the Spirit of God, your story is one of your greatest weapons. There's power in your story. Tell it!
DISCUSSION QUESTIONS Opening Questions
3 critical parts of our stories that make up our testimony:
In your own words, explain why these 3 areas are critical in our story and important in how we share our story with others? How does it make us "relatable"? 'That moment' What was that moment like for you? Why is remembering and sharing that moment with people so important? What is a part of Clay's story that stuck out to you? What stuck out about Aaron's story? "And I still need him today." Why is it so critical to remember this statement every single day? Read Ephesians 2:1-10. Reflect on what word or phrase sticks out to you? How does that word or phrase appear in your story? Biblical example of Testiomony–Paul:
Why is the power of our testimony one of our greatest weapons in engaging in gosple conversations? If you've done this, share about a time in your life when you were able to share your story with someone that didn't know Jesus? What's your story? What might Jesus be wanting you to share with people in your life that you care about? Homework:
Key Verses Acts 1:8 (NIV) 8 But you will receive power when the Holy Spirit comes on you; and you will be my witnesses in Jerusalem, and in all Judea and Samaria, and to the ends of the earth." 2 Corinthians 5:17 (NLT) 17 This means that anyone who belongs to Christ has become a new person. The old life is gone; a new life has begun! Ephesians 2:4-5 (NLT) 4 But God is so rich in mercy, and He loved us so much, 5 that even though we were dead because of our sins, He gave us life when He raised Christ from the dead. (It is only by God's grace that you have been saved!) Revelation 12:11 (NIV) 11 They triumphed over him by the blood of the Lamb and by the word of their testimony; they did not love their lives so much as to shrink from death.
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| Practical Tools for Gospel Conversations | 31 Oct 2025 | 00:41:41 | |
In this series on the podcast, we're talking about the importance of living on mission and sharing the Good News with people in our lives that don't know Jesus. In this episode we'll dig deeper: providing insight and practical tools to help you understand how God has already armed us with way more than we ever realized. We can do this. We should do this. We must do this. Our hope is that the Holy Spirit will empower you to light up the darkness and share the greatest news on the planet.
DISCUSSION GUIDE Opening Questions
Who was the first person that helped you understand the gospel in a personal way? How did that impact you? Two ships were near, only one was responsive. Which ship are you? What are the next steps you need to take to be more like the Carpathia? Read Romans 6:23 and John 14:6. How do these verses remind us of both the urgency and hope of the gospel? Scott talked about "unleashing the power of prayer."
Be Curious… "It's not about trying to be interesting, it is about being interested." What's one way you could use curiosity to start a gospel conversation this week? How does finding commonality help you start a gospel conversation with that person? Paul said in 1 Corinthians 9:19–23 that he became "all things to all people."
Scott reminded us that the Holy Spirit gives us the words when we open our mouths. How does this truth encourage us to share the gospel with others even when we don't always know the words to say? "Pain points create openings." When has God used pain in your life (or someone else's) to open a door for a gospel conversation? Who in your life might be "sending up flares" right now? Someone hurting, searching, and how could you respond? "If sinners be damned, at least let them leap to Hell over our dead bodies. And if they perish, let them perish with our arms wrapped about their knees, imploring them to stay. If Hell must be filled, let it be filled in the teeth of our exertions, and let not one go unwarned and unprayed for."-Charles Spurgeon.
Key Verses: Romans 6:23 (ESV) 23 For the wages of sin is death, but the free gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord. John 14:6 (NIV) 6 Jesus said to him, "I am the way, and the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me. 2 Peter 3:9 (ESV) 9 The Lord is not slow to fulfill His promise as some count slowness, but is patient toward you, not wishing that any should perish, but that all should reach repentance. Ezekiel 36:26 (NIV) 26 I will give you a new heart and put a new spirit in you; I will remove from you your heart of stone and give you a heart of flesh. 1 Corinthians 9:19-23 (ESV) 19 For though I am free from all, I have made myself a servant to all, that I might win more of them. 20 To the Jews I became as a Jew, in order to win Jews. To those under the law I became as one under the law (though not being myself under the law) that I might win those under the law. 21 To those outside the law I became as one outside the law (not being outside the law of God but under the law of Christ) that I might win those outside the law. 22 To the weak I became weak, that I might win the weak. I have become all things to all people, that by all means I might save some. 23 I do it all for the sake of the gospel, that I may share with them in its blessings. Matthew 10:19-20 (NIV) 19 But when they arrest you, do not worry about what to say or how to say it. At that time you will be given what to say, 20 for it will not be you speaking, but the Spirit of your Father speaking through you.
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| Share Good News: Gospel Conversations | 24 Oct 2025 | 00:58:37 | |
Evangelism simply means to share good news. It's the Greek word gospelize: to spread good news. It means to share, tell, proclaim and make known. Most of us are already good at it…we just don't realize it. We share good news all the time without even thinking about it. We share stuff that we like, that has worked or something good that we've experienced all the time. We share news about sports, movies we've seen, books we've read or podcasts we've listened to. We just need to apply this to our own stories and share what Jesus has done for us with those around us. Today's on the podcast, Scott unpacks three stories—three conversations—that have shaped him. "These conversations have shaped my whole life. You're going to quickly find out this episode is extremely personal to me. I hope it encourages you!" DISCUSSION GUIDE Opening Questions
Read Romans 10:1-17. What sticks out to you? Do any of Paul's questions in verses 14-15 stick out to you Scott talks about crucial conversations that have happened in his own life. Are there any gospel conversations that stick out in your own life that have impacted you? Scott's life changed because a friend never gave up on inviting him to church.
Scott said, "Everybody deserves an opportunity to know how much Jesus loves them."
Scott told his dad, "Your shame is not an obstacle for Jesus."
John 3:16-17 (NIV) 16 For God so loved the world (insert your loved ones names, the people that you care about) that He gave His one and only Son, that whoever believes in Him shall not perish but have eternal life. 17 For God did not send His Son into the world to condemn the world, but to save the world through him. Key verses Matthew 28:18-20 (NIV) 18 Then Jesus came to them and said, "All authority in heaven and on earth has been given to me. 19 Therefore go and make disciples of all nations, baptizing Romans 10:9-13 (ESV) 9 because, if you confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved. 10 For with the heart one believes and is justified, and with the mouth one confesses and is saved. 11 For the Scripture says, "Everyone who believes in him will not be put to shame." 12 For there is no distinction between Jew and Greek; for the same Lord is Lord of all, bestowing his riches on all who call on him. 13 For "everyone who calls on the name of the Lord will be saved." Wrap Up:
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| Share Good News: Called to Go, with Bart Stone | 17 Oct 2025 | 01:10:05 | |
After the resurrection Jesus gives the disciples some daunting marching orders. It's called the Great Commission—not the great suggestion!—Jesus commanded them and He's commanding us to embody this mission. Men, if you're walking with Jesus, you've got to know the Great Commission isn't for someone else. It's for you. God's put a calling on your life. He's calling you to light up the darkness and share the good news, the greatest news with those that God puts in your life. There's a lot of us who think the Great Commission is for the paid professionals, the church staff, that's their job! No it's not. It's for all of us. God's placed you in certain places for such a time as this, to take the gospel into the places and bring hope to a world that is desperate for hope! Join us today as Scott and guest Bart Stone dig into practical ways we can share our faith story, right where God has placed us. DISCUSSION GUIDE Opening Questions
Bart and Scott talk about how Bob was a great example to them for ministry. Do you have a mentor? If so, how has that helped you? If not, is there anyone in your life that would make a good mentor? Jesus' mission is crystal clear: Luke 19:10 (ESV) 10 For the Son of Man came to seek and to save the lost." Matthew 20:28 (NLT) 28 For even the Son of Man came not to be served but to serve others and to give His life as a ransom for many." John 3:16-17 (NIV) 16 For God so loved the world that He gave His one and only Son, that whoever believes in Him shall not perish but have eternal life. 17 For God did not send His Son into the world to condemn the world, but to save the world through Him. Read Luke 4:18-19. "This is why Jesus came! It's the greatest news on the planet and we've gotten comfortable living in it and sharing it with others." How does this passage and statement reinforce you in some ways and maybe challenge you in others? What are a couple key things that stuck out to you from the conversation about the great commission? "The enough that was enough for you is enough for the people God wants you to share the good news with."
Talking about fears when having conversations about Jesus, How does knowing the fact we don't have to know everything help you? What does it mean to 'go' for you? How does that look practically in your every day? Scott closed with Philippians 2. Paul tells us that every knee will bow and every tongue confess that Jesus is Lord. That's either the best day or the worst day of your life. We either choose to do so lovingly, or after it's too late…we will do so out of deep regret.
God has plans for you today. Who is your one? Wrap Up: Anything else they spoke to you about the podcast? Anything that the Holy Spirit is saying to you? More Key Verses Luke 4:18-19 (NIV) 18 "The Spirit of the Lord is on me, because He has anointed me to proclaim good news to the poor. He has sent me to proclaim freedom for the prisoners and recovery of sight for the blind, to set the oppressed free, 19 to proclaim the year of the Lord's favor." Matthew 28:18-20 (NIV) 18 Then Jesus came to them and said, "All authority in heaven and on earth has been given to me. 19 Therefore go and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit, 20 and teaching them to obey everything I have commanded you. And surely I am with you always, to the very end of the age." John 9:27 (NIV) 27 He answered, "I have told you already and you did not listen. Why do you want to hear it again? Do you want to become his disciples too?" Ephesians 2:8-10 (NIV) 8 For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith—and this is not from yourselves, it is the gift of God— 9 not by works, so that no one can boast. 10 For we are God's handiwork, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do. John 10:10 (NIV) 10 The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy; I have come that they may have life, and have it to the full. John 3:18 (NIV) 18 Whoever believes in him is not condemned, but whoever does not believe stands condemned already because they have not believed in the name of God's one and only Son. John 3:36 (ESV) 36 Whoever believes in the Son has eternal life; whoever does not obey the Son shall not see life, but the wrath of God remains on Him. Next Steps
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| In the Fire: Forgiveness, with Gary Black | 10 Oct 2025 | 01:01:01 | |
Locker Room listeners: we truly believe God wants to help us in the middle of our pain. Whatever it is you've experienced. He wants to draw close. The Holy Spirit wants to comfort, heal and restore whatever it is that has caused you so much pain. Jesus wants to give you the grace and strength as you make the decision to forgive. In this episode, we want to make sure we unpack what forgiveness is, what it's not, and what it looks like when we make that call—the difference between forgiveness and reconciliation. Join us in the conversation this week with returning guest Gary Black, to talk about the healing available to us through forgiveness.
DISCUSSION GUIDE Opening Questions:
Think about two people that you have the hardest time forgiving. What comes to mind? What about forgiveness is so hard? Unhealthy ways that Men attempt to process hurts:
Have you seen any of these 5 unhealthy ways in your own life? How does that affect those around you? "Resentment didn't change the past, it just changed the future." Do you agree? If so, how should this statement impact your own life? "Forgiveness is not a feeling, it's a decision." How does this truth revolutionalize the way we think about forgiving someone? "The desire to change is the beginning of change." Why is that significant? Reasons why we need to forgive
Which one of these points ring most true for you? Gary described forgiveness as a process, not a one-time decision. What might it look like to "recommit" to forgiveness when old feelings resurface? What does freedom or healing look like/feel like after choosing to forgive someone? What would it mean for you to make a "forgiveness list" like the one Gary mentioned? Who might need to be on it and are you willing to start that process? Scott mentioned there's a difference between forgiveness & reconciliation. Forgiveness involves us and Jesus. Reconciliation involves both parties and Jesus. Why is this critical for us to be able to discern? Two questions to discern the difference:
"Forgiveness is: I will no longer--I refuse--I choose to not be a slave or a prisoner anymore for what somebody did to me." How does this statment reframe how you view forgiveness? "You will never have to forgive someone as much as God has forgiven you." How does that truth motivate or humble you? Closing Questions: How would your life, relationships, and relationship with Jesus look different if you fully lived in the freedom of forgiveness? What's one practical step you can take this week to begin releasing resentment or bitterness in your life? If I were to ask you to name the one person who has hurt you the most in your lifetime, who would that be? If you haven't forgiven them…OR others… It's time. Process for Forgiveness: Pray and make a list Simple Prayer: "God, please bring to mind all the names of people I need to forgive so that I might extend the same forgiveness to them that I've received from you. I have sometimes held onto anger, bitterness, and resentment. My desire is to be free from these things. So I pray that you will bring their names to mind so that I might forgive. In Jesus' name. Amen." After you go through some names, acknowledge the significance of the cross, and work through your list one name at a time praying… "Lord Jesus, I choose to forgive (name the person) for (say what they did to hurt you) even though it made me feel (express the painful feelings out loud…). " "And now, Lord, I choose to forgive (name) and I resolve not to hold on to my resentment. I thank You for setting me free from the bondage of my bitterness. I ask you to help me find a way to express kindness to him/her. Help me not to have unrealistic expectations about his/her response. I am choosing forgiveness, knowing that trust may take a long time to restore. I leave that with You. Today I choose to forgive. I release my bitterness and ask you to heal my damaged emotions. In Jesus' name, I pray, amen." Key verses Ephesians 4:31-32 (NIV) Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice. Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you. Hebrews 12:15 (NLT) Look after each other so that none of you fails to receive the grace of God. Watch out that no poisonous root of bitterness grows up to trouble you, corrupting many. Ephesians 4:26-27 (ESV) Be angry and do not sin; do not let the sun go down on your anger, and give no opportunity to the devil. Romans 12:17-21 (NIV) Do not repay anyone evil for evil. Be careful to do what is right in the eyes of everyone. If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone. Do not take revenge, my dear friends, but leave room for God's wrath, for it is written: "It is mine to avenge; I will repay," says the Lord. On the contrary: "If your enemy is hungry, feed him; if he is thirsty, give him something to drink. In doing this, you will heap burning coals on his head." Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good. Next Steps
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| In the Fire: Lies, Wounds and Strongholds, with Allen Connor | 03 Oct 2025 | 01:39:04 | |
"We truly live at the mercy of our ideas." —Dallas Willard. The ideas we believe in our minds and then let into our lives give shape to the trajectory of our souls. They shape how we live and who we become. No one talks more to you than you do! Most men would never let another man talk to them the way that they talk to themselves. You wouldn't be friends with them! You might even fight them! Men, we've got to stop all this brutal talk and inner dialogue. Shut that guy up! Our guest this week on the podcast is Christian counselor Allen Connor. Allen has been in ministry and counseling for forty years. Allen was on staff at Southland for many years before leaving to focus on his counseling practice. Join us this week as we talk about the ways the enemy plays our thoughts against us, and how to fight back. DISCUSSION GUIDE Opening Questions:
"The enemy weaponizes thoughts in the effort to destroy men and keep them from the abundant life that Jesus promised." How important is it for us to be aware of this? The enemy is a created being and is also a 1 trick pony. He says, "well, did God really say...?" Have you heard the enemy say this to you? How are you able to identify this lie? Our thoughts dictate our actions. How have you seen this truth? Scott talks about how throughout the Bible there is this huge theme that words have power. What were some examples he used? What are some other examples in the Bible? Words are powerful. Are there any words or lies that you have been believing and telling yourself that are not true? Allen mentioned his parents constant comments, "Good job, but…" Does this statement sound familiar? How has that affected you into your adult life? "Words stick with us and they stick with others." How should this challenge us to be careful with our words? Who are the recipients of the sting of our words (wife, kids, parents, friends)? Proverbs 23:7 (NKJV) 7 "For as he thinks in his heart, so is he." 4 Steps to processing our neurological pathways:
Here's what it looks like Biblically: Step 1: Identify the Lies Step 2: Remove/Renounce the Lies Step 3: Replace the lies with God's Truth! Why is this passage critical?
We have all struggled with one or more of the scenarios Allen and Scott talked through. Is there anything from the podcast that stuck out to you for addressing these scenarios? This week…
If you are interested in getting in touch with Allen Conner for Christian Counseling, contact him at the following: 859.433.8515 or Kairosconner@gmail.com. Surrender prayers: Lies: Lord, I renounce the lies of that I have believed. Please forgive me for believing that lie and I acknowledge that I need your truth. Thank You for Your Word and I am choosing to trust it as my authority & source of life! Strengthen me through the power of your Word. In Jesus' name, amen. Feelings: Lord, I also lay down any feelings of . I recognize that feelings aren't facts and renounce them. They are vehicles that the enemy uses to accuse & condemn me in an effort to assault my identity in Christ, to weaken my resolve to follow Jesus and impact my relationship with God. I give these feelings and their impact in my life to You. I ask that You'd heal my heart, remind me of who I am and what the price that you paid to redeem my life. I will trust you! In the powerful name of Jesus, amen. Strongholds: Lord, I confess and lay down the current struggle of . I acknowledge that it has weighed me down, held me hostage, and been a stronghold that the enemy has used to kept me from the life that You have wanted for me. Lord, break the chains that have had such a grip on my life and fill me with Your peace. In the authority of Christ, amen. Additional scripture: Philippians 4:8 (NIV) 8 Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things. James 4:7 (NIV) 7 Submit yourselves, then, to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you. John 1:12-13 (ESV) 12 But to all who did receive Him, who believed in His name, He gave the right to become children of God, 13 who were born, not of blood nor of the will of the flesh nor of the will of man, but of God. 2 Corinthians 5:17 (NIV) 17 Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, the new creation has come: The old has gone, the new is here! Hebrews 12:1-3 (NIV) Therefore, since we are surrounded by such a great cloud of witnesses, let us throw off everything that hinders and the sin that so easily entangles. And let us run with perseverance the race marked out for us, 2 fixing our eyes on Jesus, the pioneer and perfecter of faith. For the joy set before Him He endured the cross, scorning its shame, and sat down at the right hand of the throne of God. Romans 8:1-2 (NIV) Therefore, there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus, 2 because through Christ Jesus the law of the Spirit who gives life has set you free from the law of sin and death. 1 John 4:4 (NIV) 4 You, dear children, are from God and have overcome them, because the One who is in you is greater than the one who is in the world. Additional Resources: Victory Over the Darkness, Neil T. Anderson Bondage Breaker, Neil T. Anderson
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| In The Fire: Purity, with Connor Hall | 26 Sep 2025 | 01:24:48 | |
Purity is a battle for most every man. It's a consistent battle. We are constantly at war against the enemy, our own flesh. We have to stay vigilant in guarding our eyes, mind and heart because the enemy is serious about taking men out. Purity is a big weapon that he uses to destroy the work of God in men, marriages and families. We're praying this episode will be helpful not only for you, but also for your middle and high school students—even your daughters. You know your kids and their maturity level. Listen to it and then discern if they're ready for it. DISCUSSION GUIDE Opening Question:
Purity is a battle for most men. "Men: waiting until middle school to address puberty, sexuality and dating is a real problem and it puts our kids in harm's way." Why is it important for us to take on the difficult and uncomfortable conversations with our kids? 73% of teen respondents age 13 to 17 have watched pornography online and more than half (54%) reported first seeing pornography by the time they reached the age of 13. Why do we have to be proactive instead of passive when dealing with this topic? "The enemy has sown those weeds in our culture and it's choking out the sacred stuff like purity, dating relationships, and marriage." How does this problem of Purity affect our relationships? Our kids? Their future relationships? "We have to be able to engage and parent students in the world they are living in, not the world we wish they were living in." Why is this important? Three Mindsets around Sex and Sexuality:
How have you seen these 3 mindsets? Talk about the result of them. All sins make us fall from God in the same way. But the consequences of those sins cause drastically different damage. Why does sexual sin always cause so much damage? What are some ways you can play defense in your own life? Myth #1: The Fire Won't Hurt Me. Point: What we see often shapes what we think about.
What is the drastic thing you need to do right now to protect yourself against getting burned up in this fire of sexual temptation? Myth #2: I Can Get Close to the Fire Without Getting Burned. Point: What we think often shapes what we do.
How does Galatians 6:7-8 shape the way we view this topic of Purity? Myth #3: If I Get Burned, He Can't Heal It. Point: What we've done doesn't have to shape who we are
"What you've done doesn't define who you are."
"Have a hard conversation now, rather than having a horrible conversation later."
What were some things that really spoke to you about Connor's story? What has God been saying to you during this podcast? What is the drastic thing that you need to do? Key Verses 1 Corinthians 6:18-20 (NLT) 18 Run from sexual sin! No other sin so clearly affects the body as this one does. For sexual immorality is a sin against your own body. 19 Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; 20 you were bought at a price. Therefore, honor God with your bodies. Psalm 119:9 (ESV) 9 How can a young man keep his way pure? By guarding it according to your word. Ephesians 5:3 (NIV) 3 But among you there must not be even a hint of sexual immorality, or of any kind of impurity, or of greed, because these are improper for God's holy people. James 1:13-15 (NIV) 13 When tempted, no one should say, "God is tempting me." For God cannot be tempted by evil, nor does He tempt anyone; 14 but each person is tempted when they are dragged away by their own evil desire and enticed. 15 Then, after desire has conceived, it gives birth to sin; and sin, when it is full-grown, gives birth to death. 1 Corinthians 10:12-13 (NIV) 12 So, if you think you are standing firm, be careful that you don't fall! 13 No temptation has overtaken you except what is common to mankind. And God is faithful; He will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, He will also provide a way out so that you can endure it. Matthew 5:29-30 (NIV) 29 If your right eye causes you to stumble, gouge it out and throw it away. It is better for you to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to be thrown into hell. 30 And if your right hand causes you to stumble, cut it off and throw it away. It is better for you to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to go into hell. Galatians 6:7-8 (NIV) 7 Do not be deceived: God cannot be mocked. A man reaps what he sows. 8 Whoever sows to please their flesh, from the flesh will reap destruction; whoever sows to please the Spirit, from the Spirit will reap eternal life. 1 Corinthians 6:9-11 (NIV) 9 Or do you not know that wrongdoers will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: Neither the sexually immoral nor idolaters nor adulterers nor men who have sex with men 10 nor thieves nor the greedy nor drunkards nor slanderers nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God. 11 And that is what some of you were. But you were washed, you were sanctified, you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and by the Spirit of our God. Philippians 2:13 (NLT) 13 For God is working in you, giving you the desire and the power to do what pleases Him.
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| In The Fire: Anger, with Parker Sherwood | 19 Sep 2025 | 01:09:30 | |
It's critical for us as men to take some personal inventory around anger. We have to know our tendencies in order to take care of our own hearts and to respond—not react—in a way that moves us towards building and not destroying, towards peace and resolution—not resentment and hatred. We must learn to handle our feelings with grace and truth—the way that Jesus has done with us. This week on Locker Room, guest Parker Sherwood and Scott sit down to dig into the fire of anger and talk about healthy ways we can identify, acknowledge and take responsibility for our emotions. DISCUSSION QUESTIONS Opening Question
Questions to think about as we get into this episode
Different examples of Conflict styles:
Look at these 6 examples. Is there one that you lean more towards? Why do you think that example comes more naturally to you? Scott and Parker talk about how our parent's family wounds can impact our lives as their children. How does this change the way you view your family of origin? How does this change the way you view the importance of addressing your own family wounds so they don't spill onto your kids? Give the devil no opportunity. Don't give the devil a foothold. "One of the greatest weapons the enemy will use to take out men is unaddressed, mismanaged anger." Why do you think the enemy loves to attack men by using anger? Scott lists a few things that anger can come from. What is the importance of addressing the first emotion before the second emotion comes? How have you seen this play out? It's not about behavior modification, it's about living out of a new heart that Jesus is trying to create in us. Have you ever thought about the topic of anger under this behavior modification lens? What does it mean to live out of the new heart that Jesus wants to give us? When anger arises, pray. Why is it important to examine your heart before going to someone that has angered you? If it's not transformed it will be transferred. How does this emphasize the importance of transforming our anger? James 1:19-20. We have to enter a hard conversation with the mindset of, 'How can I understand, and then resolve?' How does it impact our relationships with our spouse, friends, etc.? Why is it important to pray sooner rather than later? "The prayer of a righteous man is powerful and effective." What does that statement mean to you? What else in the episode spoke to you? "We either walk in the spirit or we walk in the flesh." How would your life look if you did this? Your family? Your work? Your neighbors? Let's wrap up with a challenge:
Key Verses Ephesians 4:26-27 (ESV): Be angry and do not sin; do not let the sun go down on your anger, and give no opportunity to the devil. James 1:19-20 (NIV) My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, because human anger does not produce the righteousness that God desires. Psalm 139:23-24 (NIV) Search me, God, and know my heart; test me and know my anxious thoughts. See if there is any offensive way in me, and lead me in the way everlasting. Matthew 18:15-16 (NIV) "If your brother or sister sins, go and point out their fault, just between the two of you. If they listen to you, you have won them over. But if they will not listen, take one or two others along, so that 'every matter may be established by the testimony of two or three witnesses.' 1 John 1:9 (NIV) 9 If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness.
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| Nuts and Bolts from Proverbs, with Scott Nickell | 12 Sep 2025 | 01:13:40 | |
Scott Nickell returns to the podcast this week to explore building blocks found in the book of Proverbs, from which God shows us how to build a life—a life that looks like Jesus. DISCUSSION GUIDE Opening questions
Nickell talks about the importance that he has found in surrounding himself with people in similar roles with similar responsibilities as him. How have you seen this principle ring true in your life? What is the difference between direction and vision? There are a lot of upcoming changes in our church. What are some things you're excited about? Is there any way that you feel the Holy Spirit tugging on your heart to serve? "When we are at war, what really matters becomes really clear." How does understanding the fact that we are constantly in a battle with the enemy change how you prioritize things in your life? Do you agree that our hobbies need to be called into question? Why or why not? Who is it in your life that is close to you but far from God? Are you praying for them? Have you invited them to church? Have you ever had a serious, real conversation with them? Time is limited and heaven and hell are real. What would it look like if you actually believed that? How would your life be different? What would you not have time for? "What you feed grows, what you starve dies." What would it look like if you prioritized the search for wisdom in your life? "Be killing sin or it will be killing you." What is the importance of killing sin early before it grows? How can we spot pitfalls in our own lives? Biblical worldview: Seeing the world the way Jesus sees the world and loving the world the way Jesus loves the world. Does having a biblical worldview matter? Why or why not? What do things look like when men that claim Jesus don't have a biblical worldview? What happens to the church, their families, the people around them? Young men, how can you avoid boredom and take on responsibility? What can you be apart of that matters College students, what kind of man do you want to be when you're 40? How can you look like that man now New husbands, how can you get around some couples that are further along the walk than you? How do you think that could help you see what it looks like to have a Godly marriage? Fathers, Just like you are in a war, your kids are in a war and the enemy is real. How does this fact change the way we view raising up our kids to defend themselves agianst the enemy? Key Texts: Ephesians 6:10-11 (NIV) Finally, be strong in the Lord and in his mighty power. Put on the full armor of God, so that you can take your stand against the devil's schemes. 2 Timothy 2:3-4 (NIV) Join with me in suffering, like a good soldier of Christ Jesus. No one serving as a soldier gets entangled in civilian affairs, but rather tries to please his commanding officer. Luke 2:52 (ESV) And Jesus increased in wisdom and in stature and in favor with God and man. Read Proverbs 2:1-13 Proverbs 4:23 (ESV) Keep your heart with all vigilance, for from it flow the springs of life. Galatians 6:7 (NIV) Do not be deceived: God cannot be mocked. A man reaps what he sows. Whoever sows to please their flesh, from the flesh will reap destruction; whoever sows to please the Spirit, from the Spirit will reap eternal life. 2 Timothy 3:16-17 (ESV) 16 All Scripture is breathed out by God and profitable for teaching, for reproof, for correction, and for training in righteousness, that the man of God may be complete, equipped for every good work. Psalm 127:3-5 (ESV) Behold, children are a heritage from the Lord, the fruit of the womb a reward. Like arrows in the hand of a warrior are the children of one's youth. Blessed is the man who fills his quiver with them! He shall not be put to shame when he speaks with his enemies in the gate.
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| Cultivating Faithfulness, with Ernie Coburn | 05 Sep 2025 | 00:50:43 | |
This week on the podcast we welcome a very special guest: Ernie Coburn. Ernie has been a leader and a source of wisdom around Southland for many years. He was there serving and leading alongside Wayne Smith, Mike Breaux, Jon Weece, and has continued being a part of leadership during our current transition to Scott Nickell stepping into this role in this very important season for Southland. In this conversation, Scott and Ernie lay out a road map for faithfulness and integrity over the long haul in our walk with God, our marriages and how to finish strong.
DISCUSSION GUIDE Scott described Ernie with a lot of words, two of which were wise and old. Who comes to mind in your own life when you hear the description of wise and old? Ernie described the changes our church has experienced over the past 30 years or so. When have you experienced change in church? What have you learned about how to do it well? Ernie spoke about how he spends time reading the Bible and in Prayer. What wisdom did you learn from him in those areas of connecting with God? "God is either your steering wheel or your spare tire" - Corrie Ten Boom. Ernie shared wisdom from his 67 years-and-counting marriage. What were you encouraged by from the faithfulness to his wife that he discussed? Is there anything in your marriage that you need to fight for so you can reach "until death do us part"? Read Romans 12:9-12. What does Paul say about evil/sin? Do you hate sin? How is that evident in your life? We are always at the crossroads of obedience and sin? What do you need to do to better understand God's desire for our life and to live in obedience? Read Titus 2:2. What is Paul saying here about finishing strong? Who is someone you know that finished their race of faith really well? What do you think about dying? Is it something you consider often? Take some time to think about what might be said of you at your funeral. If you could write a 1-2 sentence eulogy for yourself, what you hope will be said of you at your funeral, what would it be? What can you do today that will help that eulogy become true? What else from the podcast spoke to you? What did God/Holy Spirit speak/prompt/say to you? What's God asking you to do? What does He want to give you? What does He want you to lay down?
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| Leadership Lessons, with Jon Weece | 29 Aug 2025 | 01:07:55 | |
Welcome back! This week on Locker Room our guest Jon Weece sits down with Scott to unpack 16 'Laws of Leadership' that should define us as we lead in our families, our workplace and ain our relationships. In this discussion we'll lean on scripture and talk about ways we can grow in these key areas.
DISCUSSION GUIDE Opening Questions:
Jon's 16 Laws of Leadership
Read through some of Jon's laws of leadership again. What are 5 laws that really stick out to you?
Law #1: Most men tend to lean one way or the other in regards to grace and truth. Which way do you lean? What steps can you take to better embody both?
Law #2: "When we look at the life of Jesus, sin was not his fault. Yet he willingly took the weight of sin upon himself." Is there anything going on in your life right now, that may or may not be your fault, but God's prompting you to move towards it and make it your responsibility?
Read Philippians 2:3-11
Law #5
Law #6
"Don't let compliments go to your head. Don't let criticism go to your heart."
Jon says that one of his goals is to grow in kindness and humility. He talks about steps that he is now taking to continue in growth.
Aim for health
Replace complexity with simplicity
"Words will either help people or hurt people." Why is it so important to keep control of what comes out of our mouths?
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| Follow The Leader | 22 Aug 2025 | 00:36:01 | |
Welcome back! We're kicking off this season with a series called Lead!
DISCUSSION GUIDE Get to know you questions:
"We have a man problem." God has put a high calling on us as men to lead and when we don't, it has a dramatic impact on everything around us. What are some ways that you see this "man problem" in our world, or for you personally? Scott said, "Everyone ends up somewhere, but few people end up somewhere on purpose." How can you be more intentional and deliberate about leading yourself so you can better lead those around you to better follow in the example of Christ? Follow the Leader. Hatfield gave us three practical ways that we can do that: #1 Study the Blueprint. If we're going to follow our leader, we have to see how Jesus led.
#2 Carry heavy things. God has entrusted men with responsibility. Scott mentioned things like stewarding his creation, using our gifts to build up the church, spiritual leadership in our families, the gospel and its commission, and walking out the calling that God's given us.
#3 Walk a Path for Others to Follow.
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| Season 14 Wrap-up, with Ian Schweitzer | 04 Apr 2025 | 01:10:50 | |
Season 14 has been a great one for Locker Room. There have been so many stories of men and encouragement we can apply daily in our fight. This week on the podcast, Ian Schweitzer joins Scott to reflect on all we've learned in this season together. — We want to challenge you to ask this question over the next several months in your quiet time: Jesus/Holy Spirit: What's my next step as a Christ-follower, husband, dad or kingdom worker? The book Scott referred to in this episode is Tempered Resilience by Tod Bolsinger.
NEXT STEPS The live version of Fight Club—the men's group Scott leads—will be at our Nicholasville Campus in August 2025. If you've not jumped in with us, or know someone who needs to—get the word out. We'll have Fight Club on the Groups Directory at the end of July or early August so you can sign up. If you want to be a Table Leader at Fight Club who invests in the men, shoot an email to Scott at shatfield@southland.church. Before we sign off for this season we ask our Locker Room family to be praying for unity and protection in this year of transition at Southland (Weece to Nickell). Pray for Jon Weece, Scott Nickell, and their families, our Eldership, our staff and our church. There's nothing the enemy would love to do more than attack us in the midst of this transition. Southland has been a remarkable place where we have had God's favor. Locker Room, we want to keep it that way. Let's pray for unity, fight for unity and seek to guard and protect the mission and character of our church. Thanks for listening. Keep fighting! Keep leading! Keep investing! We'll catch you next time in August for season 15 of Locker Room.
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| Southland Men: Mike Mueller (The View From Rock Bottom) | 28 Mar 2025 | 01:21:28 | |
Most of us know a family member, a friend, a co-worker, or someone we went to school with that is in a battle with some kind of addiction. The truth is, it may be you, reading this now. Maybe you've never acknowledged it. Maybe you've lived in denial about the daily struggle that you're experiencing. Regardless of how this subject has impacted you, we hope that you're encouraged in our conversation today. Our guest this week is Mike Mueller. Mike is a husband, father and coach in our community who has been a part of Southland for 13 years. On this episode Mike shares the story of how God changed his life and is now using him to impact lots of people who have struggled with some of the same things.
DISCUSSION GUIDE Have you ever coached at the youth sports level? What is your favorite story from coaching kids? Mike has served in several areas in the church (Connections, security, small groups, Men's Retreat). What areas have you served in? If you don't currently serve, what areas of ministry would you be best suited for? Scott talks about how even if we don't have the big name vices, most people have an addiction to something. What do you find yourself going back to time and time again despite the negative consequences? What are you addicted to? Mike describes himself as a functional alcoholic. He did so much to cover up his addiction. Have you experienced this yourself or with someone you know? Why is this so dangerous? Scott & Mike discussed the beauty of Rock Bottom. It's the pivot point, it's your opportunity to change, and to meet God. Have you ever had a Rock Bottom moment? What did God teach you there? What changed about you? Read James 4:8-10. What does this passage teach us about how we deal with sin? What do you need to take from this passage to utilize in your own life? Read Luke 9:23-24. What do you need to deny yourself of to follow Jesus? What are you still holding onto that's keeping you from full life in Jesus? Read Psalm 40:1-10. What does it look like to be fully authentic in front of God and others? Do you have a place to share the good, the bad, and the ugly of your story? For those who have shared their story, what was that experience like? How did God use that to grow you? We want men to experience freedom. Is there something you are hiding and need to reveal to somebody? Will you confess it in this group? If not, will you email lockerroom@southland.church and let us connect you to somebody to confess to? What else from the podcast spoke to you? What did God/Holy Spirit speak/prompt/say to you? What's God asking you to do? What does He want to give you? What does He want you to lay down?
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| Southland Men: Bryan Taylor (Even If You Don't) | 21 Mar 2025 | 01:24:04 | |
"I need you to know that God seems to throw me hard things. You just need to know what you're getting into." - Kailen Combs Taylor This week on Locker Room our guest Bryan Taylor sits down with Scott to share a powerful story of love, loss and hope. Bryan and Kailen shared five years together before they were separated by her death from cancer in 2015. In our conversation today, Bryan shares about navigating the grief that began with Kailen's diagnosis and what life was like after she passed away. Bryan also shares how he was able to move forward, choosing hope and rediscovering life after such a profound loss.
DISCUSSION GUIDE If you had to give a title to the last 9 months of your life, what would it be and why? "War" is the title of the story that Bryan labeled such a hard period of his life. Has there been a time in your life that looking back you would label as "war?" In grief you often don't know what to say, and sometimes people say things that aren't helpful. What is something someone has said to you that was helpful in a moment of grief? Read Hebrews 2:17. Jesus was fully human. He knew exactly what it was like to have to navigate grief and feel the weight of life being thrown at him. Jesus understands what it is like to experience loss, because he experienced loss during his life. When you're navigating grief, is it easy for you to run to Jesus? Why or why not? Scott and Bryan talked about how the physical act of writing and journaling has been helpful as they navigated grief. When you listen to the concept of writing and journaling, what does that make you think? Is it something you are open to trying? Read Isaiah 55:8-9. How does choosing to accept the truth of these verses help us to navigate grief by putting it in the proper perspective? "It's not the load that breaks you down; but the way you carry it." What are some healthy ways we can choose to carry the circumstances life throws our way that won't break us down? Read Romans 8:35-39. The promise we can hold onto is that there is absolutely nothing in all creation that can separate us from the love of God that is in Jesus Christ. Of the three insights Bryan gave at the end of the podcast, which one is hardest for you to hold onto when navigating hard times? (1) No amount of agony is enough to dim Christ's love for you. (2) If you make your pain available to God, he won't waste it. (3) Hold onto the hope of the resurrection. What else from the podcast spoke to you? What did God/Holy Spirit speak/prompt/say to you? What's God asking you to do? What does He want to give you? What does He want you to lay down? RESOURCES
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| Southland Men: Daniel Mitchell (Hope Dealer) | 14 Mar 2025 | 01:09:44 | |
Providential relationships and pivotal circumstances are critical parts of great stories. Providential relationships are significant people God orchestrates to guide, support and shape our faith journey. Pivotal circumstances are events—both good and bad—that mark us, shape us and become a critical part of our story and testimonies. Our guest this week—Daniel Mitchell—has lived a life marked by many providential relationships and events. Daniel joined the U.S. Marine Corps at age seventeen, landing in Tactical Air Navigation and later becoming a SERE instructor, also serving as a Chaplain. Daniel and his wife Angela met while serving together at Southland's Lexington campus. Daniel now runs a handyman business/ministry and is also a counselor specializing in PTSD and sexual assault. Jump in with us this week as we hear Daniel's story, pivotal moments in his life and how, with God's help, hope can drive out despair.
DISCUSSION GUIDE If you could have any accent besides your own what would it be? (British, Western, Boston, etc.) What is your favorite military movie of all time? Daniel shared a miracle healing story from when he was 5 years old. Have you ever witnessed or experienced a miracle? Will you share that story? "God has the best detours." Daniel shared how God detoured his night of drinking to experience God's love in a church. What detours has God placed in your life that showed you His grace and goodness? Take 5 minutes or so for everyone to write down those 8-10 pivotal circumstances (good and bad) that have marked and changed your life. Does writing it down help you see how God was moving throughout your mountains and valleys? Who have been the providential relationships that have guided, supported, & shaped your faith journey? Will you reach out to them and express gratitude for them? Will you look for opportunities to be that person for others around you? "Where there is hope, despair doesn't live." Did you get a bit of joy or hope out of Daniel's dog park story? Where do you find hope? In what ways can you manufacture hope if you don't have any resources right now Read Acts 9:15-16, 2 Corinthians 11:23-29, & 2 Corinthians 12:7-10. What can we learn from the suffering of Paul, how he handled it & how God handled it? What suffering or weakness do you need to bring to Jesus so He can be sufficient for you? Read Romans 8:28 & 2 Corinthians 1:3-4. How can you cling to the promises God has made to us even in the darkest of time? "Where you stare is where you will steer." What have you been staring at (focusing, dwelling on) in your life? Does where you stare need to change? What else from the podcast spoke to you? What did God/Holy Spirit speak/prompt/say to you? What's God asking you to do? What does He want to give you? What does He want you to lay down?
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| Southland Men: Brian Ray (Man on Purpose) | 07 Mar 2025 | 01:24:48 | |
For most men, the key to our future and the quality of their life is in direct proportion with how we engage our past. We have to move towards our wounds in order to find healing. Regardless of our earthly father/step dad/absent dad, we need our good Heavenly Father to begin the work of healing us by fixing our past. Our guest this week is no stranger to a challenging past. Brian and Scott sit down at the table to share from his life story of being put up for adoption and growing up in a tough family, but then allowing Jesus and godly people to help by acknowledging his wounds and finding healing. We'll also dive into investing in our marriages, being an intentional dad, and expanding the circle through mentoring and discipling others.
DISCUSSION GUIDE Brian takes the first 5 minutes of the episode to brag about his wife. It is so important to verbally express the things that you love about your wife. What are 2-3 things you are grateful for related to your significant other? Be sure to also express those feelings to them this week. Brian mentions that despite everything that has happened in his life, he is a victor through Jesus, not a victim of the enemy. What have been the times in your life where you have felt like you were a victim of the enemy instead of being a victor through Christ? How has God been faithful through those times? Scott and Brian take some time to talk through their relationship with their wives and kids and a word that summarizes their conversation well is intentionality. As men, we have to intentionally fight for what is most important. What are some ways you have been intentional in your relationships and what are some ways that you need to be more intentional? Love for Jesus overflows into your love for your wife, which then overflows into your love for your kids. It has to be in that order. Do you find yourself prioritizing your kids over your wife? Do you find yourself prioritizing your wife over Jesus? What can we do to prioritize the right relationships so that we can best serve those we are about? Read Ephesians 5:1-2. Think through some people who have made a strong impact on your life. Who is someone in your sphere right now that is doing what you want to be doing? Make a plan to talk to them this week to learn from them and to hear their story. What are the areas in your life that you feel like you have to be perfect? Don't put a burden on yourself that Jesus hasn't placed on you. You don't need to be perfect, because Jesus is perfect. Read 1 Thessalonians 5:11. One of the best ways that we can love people as Jesus loves them is by speaking encouragement. Who is someone in your life that you can serve by encouraging them? It could be your wife, one of your kids, a co-worker, someone in your small group. Shoot them a text or give them a call and see how the Holy Spirit will move. What else from the podcast spoke to you? What did God/Holy Spirit speak/prompt/say to you? What's God asking you to do? What does He want to give you? What does He want you to lay down?
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| Breaking Chains: Navigating Grief, with Gary Black | 28 Feb 2025 | 00:55:22 | |
Today's episode is big topic in this Breaking Chains series: Navigating Grief. It's not called overcoming grief, it's not called conquering grief or dismantling grief, because—like it or not—grief is part of the story. You have to go through it. It's not good for us to avoid it or go around it. Grief is universal. Join us In this episode as Scott and Gary walk through many different types of profound loss we may experience in life, including stories from their own experiences. Along the way, we will find wisdom and hope in God's word on how to move forward.
DISCUSSION GUIDE Grief is a heavy topic so let's start with a light question: Can you remember the time you laughed the hardest? (Or one of the times you've laughed the hardest?) Share the story with the group. How do you define grief? The podcast defines grief as feelings of great sorrow, distress and emotional pain that stems from significant loss. What significant losses have you grieved in life? The 5 stages of grief: Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression, & Acceptance. When you look back on your times of grief are these stages evident? Gary's 5 emotions connected to grief: Profound sadness, guilt, fear, physical fallout/symptoms, & aimlessness. Which of these emotions have you experienced the most in your times of grief? Scott's 7 things to help navigate grief: Community, anticipate awkwardness, lean into your faith, support groups, grief counseling, anticipate and plan for "grief triggers", & grieve well. Which of those help you the most in times of grief? "A good friend won't lecture, correct, or react to our insanity [in times of grief]." What does it look like to help others when they are dealing with grief? The enemy will lie to us in our grief. Read 1 Peter 5:7 & Matthew 11:28-30. What do these passages say about God's heart for us during our grief? Gary and Scott talked about grieving the loss of people to suicide. What from that discussion did you need to hear? Read Revelation 21:4. Some grief will never go away on this side of Heaven. What hope can we place in this truth from Revelation about when Jesus returns? "Please, don't turn the helpers away." - Paul David Tripp. Are you in need of help right now? Who can be your helper? What else from the podcast spoke to you? What did God/Holy Spirit speak/prompt/say to you? What's God asking you to do? What does He want to give you? What does He want you to lay down?
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| Breaking Chains: Overcoming Habitual Sin, with Will Briggs and Matt Williams | 21 Feb 2025 | 01:03:42 | |
Our enemy understands the power of sin: the impact it can have on our lives and those we love. He knows if he can tempt, lie and deceive us into choosing sin—anything other than God's best—then he can send us down a path that can really destroy our lives as men and wreck the things that matter to God. Guests Will Briggs and Matt Williams join us this week on the podcast as we look at how we can recognize the plays of the enemy, the temptations and tendencies in our own hearts, and move forward on God's path, breaking free of the chains of habitual sin.
DISCUSSION GUIDE What are some of the daily habits in your life? Did these parts of your day become a habit intentionally or unintentionally? What comes to mind when you think of the term "habitual sin." Is it a specific sin? It is a certain memory? Is it a particular feeling or emotion? The guys talked about how no one chooses to just blow up their life one day, but that sin begins to creep into our lives in small ways. Sometimes just a "small" lie of asking for a water cup to fill up with a coke. These "small" sins are ways that the enemy can get a foothold into our lives and a foothold can easily become a stronghold where the enemy has control over our actions. What are the "small" sins that the enemy is attempting to use to pull you away from Jesus? Share a time when you struggled with habitual sin and the freedom you now have. What is a habitual sin that you struggle with right now? Celebrate the victory and acknowledge the struggle now. Read Romans 6:5-7. When it comes to habitual sin, what do you believe is true? The enemy tries to convince us that we will always struggle with this and that we will never be truly free. But followers of Jesus are promised that they have everything they need to overcome this sin. Who are you listening to? The guys mention 5 keys to overcoming habitual sin. Which of these keys have you overlooked in your struggle with habitual sin that you need to implement?
"You can't heal from what you hide." The Bible teaches us that we do not have to hide in our sin and our shame but we can confidently come to God in our sin so that we may receive mercy and find grace. Is there a specific habitual sin that you need to confess to God and to another follower of Jesus? What else from the podcast spoke to you? What did God/Holy Spirit speak/prompt/say to you? What's God asking you to do? What does He want to give you? What does He want you to lay down?
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| Breaking Chains: Demolish Perfectionism, with Gary Black | 14 Feb 2025 | 00:49:34 | |
This week on Locker Room we're starting a three-part series called Breaking Chains, looking at three things that can lock us down and stop the work Jesus wants to do in us. First up is perfectionism. Join Scott and returning guest Gary Black as we talk about some of the downsides of perfectionism and offer practical suggestions to get a handle on it, so we can step onto the path of freedom—freedom from self-imposed guilt, needless anxiety, unnecessary pressure, and the many compulsions associated with perfectionism that can drain the joy from our lives.
DISCUSSION GUIDE Who was your favorite teacher growing up? What made them so great? Has anyone made an impact on your life that you only met once? Who was it and what impact did it have? What comes to mind when you hear the word "perfectionism"? Is that something you struggle with? Or are you on the other side and no one would ever call you a perfectionist? The Dangers of Perfectionism: It destroys your initiative. It damages relationships. It destroys happiness. It leads to a rules-dominated life. It leads to constant over-analysis and fear-based decisions. Which of these dangers have you witnessed from your life or those around you? Action Step 1: Admit you have a problem. Read Psalm 32:1-5. Is there a problem of perfectionism you need to admit today? Or anything else you need to confess? Action Step 2: Stop demanding perfection from others. Read 1 John 1:8. No one is perfect, including you! Where do you find yourself demanding perfection from others? (Friends, coworkers, kids, wife, etc). How can you release them from those demands? Action Step 3: Develop a realistic awareness of God's love. Read Romans 8:38-39. Do you really believe God the Father has adopted you and loves you unconditionally? Even in the highs and lows? What does it look like to "relax and enjoy God's love" as Gary says? Action Step 4: Go out of your way to love others. Read Colossians 3:12-14. Who are you serving in life? Where are you serving? Where are you living out what Paul calls us to in this passage? The best time to change is now. What will you change today to start becoming who you want to be tomorrow? What else from the podcast spoke to you? What did God/Holy Spirit speak/prompt/say to you? What's God asking you to do? What does He want to give you? What does He want you to lay down?
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| Watch Your Mouth: Speak Life, with Rob Campbell and Rob Workman | 07 Feb 2025 | 01:16:33 | |
The words we speak should reflect a heart transformed by God. Grace and truth should drive us in our conversations, whether it be with our wives, our kids, our friends, people at church, people at work, people that don't believe what we believe, and those who aren't fans of Christianity at all. Grace and truth, in every conversation. Our special guests this week are two of Southland's elders, Rob Campbell and Rob Workman. Join us as we dive into how to speak life with our words.
DISCUSSION GUIDE What is something you learned from the guys as they talked about the ways other men have invested in them and how they're investing in their marriages & their kids? Scott mentions a number of times in the Bible where the words that are said have power. God speaks creation into existence. Jesus literally speaks life into Lazarus. Jesus speaks the words "Be still!" and a storm ceases. What do these passages say about the importance of words? Read Matthew 12:36-37. What is Jesus saying about the impact our words have? Has there been a moment when someone has spoken life into you? Scott and the guys talked through 4 points of how we can be better at using our words to speak life. Below are some thoughts and questions to reflect on each of these points: (1) Bring grace and truth into every conversation. One of the best things we can do to gauge how we use our words is to ask someone close to us what they think of the language we use. Who can you ask this week? What do you imagine they would say? (2) Using our words to talk to people about Jesus through telling your story. Vulnerability and authenticity lead to curiosity. When we're talking to people who don't follow Jesus, two of the best ways to reflect the love of Jesus to them are to be vulnerable and authentic. Is it easy for you to do these two things? What can you do to be more vulnerable or more authentic in your relationships with people? (3) Own it when you mess up. Who do you need to have a conversation with to own a way that you've messed up? Is there someone at work? Your wife? One of your kids? If you never apologize, you cannot expect other people to apologize to you. You need to own it and take the first step in order to set the culture. (4) Express gratitude, appreciation, and encouragement. Encouragement means to breathe courage into people. It is easy to forget what is true. Who is one person in your life you can encourage by telling them you are thankful for or proud of them? What can you tell your wife to remind her that you love her and want to serve her? What can you tell your kid to remind them that you are proud of them? What can you tell a friend to show them you're thankful for them? What else from the podcast spoke to you? What did God/Holy Spirit speak/prompt/say to you? What's God asking you to do? What does He want to give you? What does He want you to lay down?
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| Watch Your Mouth: Out of the Overflow, with Jason Byerly and Kevin Comp | 31 Jan 2025 | 01:28:05 | |
This week on the podcast we've invited returning guests Jason Byerly and Kevin Comp to kick off a two-part series called Watch Your Mouth. Even though this series is short, be prepared for it to get into your business and step on your toes. Today's episode is about the power of our words—an area that all of us men need to work on.
DISCUSSION GUIDE The Super Bowl is just a week away. Who are you picking to win? Who will be the MVP? Is the NFL rigged Three important Questions: What did you learn from Kevin & Jason about how they are investing in their marriages & kids and the men that made an impact in their lives? What comes to mind when you hear the phrase "Watch your mouth"? Share a story of when your words got you into trouble. Read Luke 6:45. What would you say your heart is full of based on what comes out of your mouth? Read James 3:1-12. How have you seen words set things on fire and cause destruction? Why do you think man cannot tame his tongue? If this is impossible for man, what are we to do? What areas of leadership do you carry? How have you been utilizing your words in these spaces? What did you take from the challenge of Kevin and Jason? Talk through these Biblical principles. Which of these principles do you need to apply to your life now to watch your mouth?
What else from the podcast spoke to you? What did God/Holy Spirit speak/prompt/say to you? What's God asking you to do? What does He want to give you? What does He want you to lay down?
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| Encounters with Jesus: Come on Out (Peter Walks on Water), with Ian Schweitzer and Ariea King | 24 Jan 2025 | 01:19:58 | |
Every day we have to choose between comfort or growth. Comfort may be the American Dream, but it's not God's heart for us. God calls us to grow, and grow up. We have to take risks, step out on faith and trust Him if we're going to become the men He created us to be. This week we are looking at a story found in Matthew 14, Mark 6, and John 6. It's the account of Jesus walking on water and Peter asking Jesus to call him out to walk on the water too. Join us as Scott and our guests, Ian and Ariea break down what it looks like to push through fear and step out on faith.
DISCUSSION GUIDE Winter has been in full swing the past couple weeks. What are your thoughts on the winter season? Do you love the cold and the snow? Do you hate it because scraping off your car in the morning is annoying? Are you somewhere in between? What is one way you've been winning this past week? This could be in your marriage, with your kids, with your career, or any other part of your life. Read Matthew 14:22-32. Is there anything from this passage that sticks out to you? What does this passage say about who Jesus is? What does this passage say about how we should respond to Jesus? When Jesus says "Take courage! It is I. Do not be afraid." what comes to mind? Our relationship with Jesus is one where we can come to him no matter how we have fallen short or how much we have failed. Do you believe that to be true? Read Matthew 14:29. Take a moment and imagine you are one of the disciples sitting in the boat. You see this figure walking out towards you. You hear this figure tell you to not be afraid. Then you see Peter step out of the boat and onto the water. Then you see Peter WALKING on the water towards Jesus. What would your initial reaction be? What would you be feeling? Where in your life do you need to trust Jesus? What circumstances in your life have the chance to get in the way of keeping your eyes on Jesus? Is there anything you can be doing to best set yourself up to keep your eyes fixed on Jesus even when these circumstances come up? As Christian, we are called to treat others as Jesus has treated us. Is there anyone in your life you need to treat with the same tenderness as Jesus treated Peter? Is there anyone you need to ask forgiveness from because you have treated them without tenderness? Which of these applications that Scott mentioned stood out to you the most? Which of these are hardest for you to run after? (1) Taking risks are necessary for growth. (2) Faith in God is crucial. (3) Failure is not the end. (4) Overcoming fear is essential. (5) Stepping out in obedience leads to life change and missional impact. What else from the podcast spoke to you? What did God/Holy Spirit speak/prompt/say to you? What's God asking you to do? What does He want to give you? What does He want you to lay down?
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| Encounters with Jesus: Get Up (The Man at the Well), with Mike Allen and Neil Gregory | 17 Jan 2025 | 01:19:24 | |
Sometimes when we bring our pain and circumstances before God—if we don't see results or quick fixes to our lives instantaneously—we just give up. Or we forget that we've journeyed off the path for years or even decades and we think we can microwave it and just instantly be better, healed or whole. Jesus isn't looking for you to give him the one thing that's keeping you up at night—He wants you. He wants everything. He wants your heart. He wants all of you. He wants to build our faith. He wants to build our relationship with Him. This week on the podcast, Scott sits down with our guests Mike Allen and Neil Gregory to unpack a conversation Jesus had with a man at a pool, when he asked, "Do you want to get well?"
DISCUSSION GUIDE Did you grow up going to the pool? What comes to mind when someone says "Let's go to the pool?" Share any good pool stories you have. Read John 5:1-15. What stands out to you about how Jesus interacts with this paralyzed man? What came to mind when the guys were discussing the prosperity gospel and churches that lean too heavily on supernatural healings & miracles? Do you have any experience with this? How would you feel if you or someone you loved was sick for 38 years? Have there been any moments in your life where you felt stuck, hopeless, or frustrated at God like this? Jesus asks this man "Do you want to get well?" When have you tried to "get well" in the wrong ways? When have you given up on "getting well" too easily? Is there something you need to do to "get well" that you have been unwilling to do? What circumstances has Jesus called you up out of to get you where you are today? What is Jesus telling you to "Get Up" from in your life right now? What do you need to heal from that can only come from God's power? Do you follow Jesus and have the power of the Holy Spirit? If yes, how can you listen to the Holy Spirit and what he is convicting you of? If not, what is holding you back? What else from the podcast spoke to you? What did God/Holy Spirit speak/prompt/say to you? What's God asking you to do? What does He want to give you? What does He want you to lay down?
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| Encounters with Jesus: Through the Roof | 10 Jan 2025 | 00:33:39 | |
Welcome back to Locker Room! We're kicking off Season 14 with a series called Encounters with Jesus. We'll be zeroing in on some cool moments Jesus had with different people in the gospels. We'll learn about who Jesus is, the mission he's on and gain practical insight on who we are as men, and how we are called to live our lives. The first encounter we're looking at is described in Mark chapter 2, when Jesus was moved by the faith of four men who acted by any means necessary to get their paralyzed friend in close proximity to him so he might be healed. Join us this week for Encounters with Jesus: Through the Roof.
DISCUSSION GUIDE What were some highs and lows of your Christmas season? What were the best parts? What were the worst parts? For all the new Locker Room groups, how have you been involved with Southland? Have you gone through Fight Club? Are you part of a serving team? Do you attend Sunday mornings with your family? Read Mark 2:1-12 with your group. Stop after each verse and discuss anything that catches your attention. What does this verse say about Jesus? What does this verse say about you? Is there anything that we can apply from this verse? "Sometimes Jesus gives us what we need before he gives us what we want." Presence before joy. Grace before freedom. Hard conversations before a healed relationship. Are there any ways in your life right now that Jesus is giving you what you need rather than what you want? Jesus forgives sin. This is one of the most important messages of the Bible. Jesus has the ability to forgive sins because he is God and because he was the one who took the punishment of our sins when he went to the cross. What sins do I need to bring to Jesus and be forgiven of? Imagine how the crowd reacted to this interaction between the paralyzed man and Jesus. How would you have reacted if you saw this interaction? Make no mistake, the greatest miracle in this story is that this man received salvation. Have you received the salvation that Jesus offers? If so, tell your group the story of how you came to know Jesus. How do you view the interruptions in your day? Do you find them frustrating? Are you listening for the Holy Spirit in your day to day in order to love people like Jesus loves? Do you want Jesus to be moved by your faith? What about your faith do you need to be more intentional about? Is it the way you parent your kids? Is it the time you spend in the Word before anything else? Is it the way you intentionally spend time with your wife? What else from the podcast spoke to you? What did God/Holy Spirit speak/prompt/say to you? What's God asking you to do? What does He want to give you? What does He want you to lay down?
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| Battle Ready: Declare War and Fight | 13 Dec 2024 | 00:54:34 | |
We've just wrapped up Season 13 of Locker Room, but we wanted to bring you four bonus episodes from our Men's Retreat in October. We've had a lot of guys talking about it, and a lot of men who couldn't be there. We've released one each week to remind our men who attended, and to share with those who couldn't be there. This message was from the final session of the retreat, and is called Declare War and Fight. Locker Room will be back in the new year for season 14 on January 17. | |||
| Battle Ready: There Will Be Blood | 06 Dec 2024 | 00:44:37 | |
We've just wrapped up Season 13 of Locker Room, but we wanted to bring you four bonus episodes from our Men's Retreat in October. We've had a lot of guys talking about it, and a lot of men who couldn't be there. We're releasing one each week to remind our men who attended, and to share with those who couldn't be there. This message was from the third session of the retreat, and is called There Will Be Blood. Locker Room will be back in the new year for season 14 on January 17. | |||
| Battle Ready: Warrior King | 29 Nov 2024 | 00:30:29 | |
We've just wrapped up Season 13 of Locker Room, but we wanted to bring you four bonus episodes from our Men's Retreat in October. We've had a lot of guys talking about it, and a lot of men who couldn't be there. We're releasing one each week to remind our men who attended, and to share with those who couldn't be there. This message was from the second session of the retreat, and is called Warrior King. Locker Room will be back in the new year for season 14 on January 17. | |||
| Battle Ready: Open War is Upon You | 22 Nov 2024 | 00:48:18 | |
We've just wrapped up Season 13 of Locker Room, but we wanted to bring you four bonus episodes from our Men's Retreat in October called Battle Ready. We've had a lot of guys talking about it, and a lot of men who couldn't be there. We'll be releasing one each week over the next four weeks to remind our men who attended, and to share with those who couldn't be there. This first message was the opening night from our retreat, and is called, Open War is Upon You. Locker Room will be back in the new year for season 14 on January 17. | |||
| Giants to Fight: Doubt, with Dusty Bailey and Kevin Comp | 15 Nov 2024 | 01:11:29 | |
This week we're wrapping up season 13 and this Giants series with a big one: DOUBT. Men doubt God's existence, God's Word, His promises, making sense of the problems in our world and they even have doubts around God's Son, Jesus. The cool thing about God is He's not afraid of our doubts and questions. He actually invites us to bring our doubts and questions to Him. God has given us a mountain of evidence to draw us into an encounter with Him. If you've got doubts and questions, that means you're normal. In this episode, we won't answer every big question. But we'll try and create some clarity for some of the bigger ones we run into in life. Join us this week as we sit down with guests Dusty Bailey and Kevin Comp to talk about the Giant of Doubt.
DISCUSSION GUIDE Have you ever participated in a Trust Fall? Were you the faller or the catcher? What did it teach you about trust? Doubt: the wavering between two minds or lacking confidence, assurance, or complete trust in God. How have you defined doubt in the past? How did this conversation help you reshape it? The driving question of the podcast was "What if doubt isn't the enemy of faith but the primary element of it?" For your own faith, has doubt been an enemy or primary element of it? What specific ways does the enemy use doubt to discourage and destroy you? Read Genesis 1:1 - Creator and Creation - how were you encouraged in your faith by what was shared about the world and universe we live in? What do you still struggle with when it comes to fully trusting Genesis 1:1? Read 2 Timothy 3:14-17. What does your relationship with the Bible look like? Do you see a correlation between spending time in the Word and having a stronger faith? How can you rely more on God's Truth and less on yourself/the world? How has the enemy used pain and suffering to cause you to doubt? What has been the hardest season for you to cling to your faith? Scott, Kevin, & Dusty all mentioned times of doubt in their own lives. They also mentioned several heroes of the faith in the Bible who doubted God. Which of those stories encouraged your faith the most? Why? What else from the podcast spoke to you? What did God/Holy Spirit speak/prompt/say to you? What's God asking you to do? What does He want to give you? What does He want you to lay down?
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