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In this bite size episode, hosts Matt & Liza turn their attention to another popular question that clients frequently ask: How much does it cost to get divorced? 

They talk through typical costs, the different ways to reduce costs, for example reaching agreement together or using mediation, and what you can do personally to save money during the process. 

All in just under 8 minutes.

00:33 The cost of the divorce application 
01:15 How much does a typical financial settlement cost? 
02:05 What are the ways to keep costs down and save money?  
04:59 What can you do personally to keep costs down? 

Please note the prices quoted in this video were correct in August 2024 and are subject to change.

Additional resources

Where do I start? A beginner’s guide to divorce: https://bit.ly/3v0md9g
The first things to do if you are getting divorced: https://spoti.fi/4bH3OxP
How to prepare for a financial settlement: https://shorturl.at/bnpQT
The dangers of a DIY divorce: https://bit.ly/3Tsvql7
How to get a financial consent order: https://youtu.be/-FlSjw4tTXM 
How to get divorced online: https://youtu.be/-LWs1MrGnT4
Representing yourself in the family court: https://bit.ly/472zXhd

Download our free in-depth handbook on how to complete a Form E: https://bit.ly/3A7MMvN 

If you need support with the issues raised in this podcast, or would like to speak to a family lawyer, contact Stowe at: https://bit.ly/35WPSj2

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In this bite size episode, hosts Matt & Liza turn their attention to a popular question they hear from many of their clients: How long does it take to get divorced? 

They talk through the process, how long it takes, the impact of the family court, the myth of the quickie divorce, before closing on their top tips to help speed up the process as much as possible. 

All in just under 8 minutes. 

00:30 What is the process for getting divorced?
02:20 How long does it take to get divorced? 
03:10 How does the family court impact timescales?
04:24 Are there any ways to speed up the divorce process?
05:15 Can you have a quickie divorce? 
06:20 What are the top tips to speed up your divorce?

Additional resources

Where do I start? A beginner’s guide to divorce: https://bit.ly/3v0md9g
The first things to do if you are getting divorced: https://spoti.fi/4bH3OxP
How to prepare for a financial settlement: https://shorturl.at/bnpQT
The dangers of a DIY divorce: https://bit.ly/3Tsvql7
How to get a financial consent order: https://youtu.be/-FlSjw4tTXM 
How to get divorced online: https://youtu.be/-LWs1MrGnT4

Download our free in-depth handbook on how to complete a Form E: https://bit.ly/3A7MMvN

If you need support with the issues raised in this podcast, or would like to speak to a family lawyer, contact Stowe at: https://bit.ly/35WPSj2

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No longer the preserve of the ultra- wealthy, prenups, postnups and petnups are on the rise. But what are they, what can they cover, and do they stand up in court?

Take a listen as Matt & Liza dive into nuptial agreements, the advantages, the challenges, and the laws surrounding them. Along with when and how they are useful, especially for people marrying later in life, wanting to protect family assets or preserve inheritance for their kids, and when they are not. 

Conversation then moves to the rise of the petnup, how pets are viewed in divorce, the need to recognise the importance of people’s fur-babies, and whether this will change over time. 

Before closing, with a discussion around the pitfalls of making these agreements legally binding, and surprise guest appearances from Matt’s dog Crumble and Liza’s dog, Duke. 

00:00 What is a prenup? What is a postnup?
01:22 Why would you get a prenup or postnup?
01:38 What are the advantages of prenups and postnups?
04:16 What are the disadvantages of prenups and postnups?
05:52 What is the law surrounding prenups and postnups?
11:44 What are the benefits of prenups?
15:00 Who should consider a prenup or postnup?
16:05 The role of property, unequal assets, inheritance, marrying later in life, and second and third marriages
17:39 What are the challenges of a prenup and postnup?
20:00 The importance of review dates within a prenup and postnup
23:47 The importance of understanding the power of these agreements
23:51 Celebrity prenups and postnups are sometimes not helpful
24:31 Prenups can be for everyone - it's about setting expectations.
24:49 Protecting family wealth, trusts and inheritance
25:58 What is a petnup?
26:25 Pets in divorce proceedings
27:44 Are petnups legally binding?
29:08 A final hearing about a dog
29:54 Should prenups and postnups become legally binding?
30:34 The importance of safeguards and disclosure to protect vulnerable people

If you need support with the issues raised in this podcast, or would like to speak to a family lawyer, contact Stowe at: https://bit.ly/35WPSj2

Additional information
What is a prenup?  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=twKKM-kL5Uc
A guide to prenups https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/wp-content/uploads/2022/08/Client-Guide-What-is-a-Prenup-Agreement.pdf
Five reasons to get a prenup

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A staggering 95% of survivors of domestic abuse experience economic abuse, leaving them isolated, trapped, dependent and confused. 

So, we asked Tamsin Caine, a Chartered Financial Planner from Smart Divorce, to join us to look at how to recognise the signs of economic abuse and what you can do about it. 

A financial specialist in advising people going through a divorce or separation. Tamsin covers: 

• What is economic abuse? 
• What are the red flags of economic abuse 
• What is the effect of the abuse on survivors? 
• Reducing the stigma around economic abuse 
• The support available for survivors 
• The role of financial education and empowerment 
• The importance of building a support team 
• How to access support with limited financial resources 
• How to take back control of finances 

And, a powerful message for survivors on how to rebuild your life following the abuse to create a financially stable and safe life.

Support with economic abuse

Economic abuse rarely happens in isolation. It often occurs alongside other forms of domestic abuse. If you are in immediate danger, call the police on 999.

You can access help and support from the 24-hour National Domestic Abuse Helpline on 0808 2000 247 or the Mankind Initiative support helpline: 01823 334 244 

For support with economic abuse, please contact the charity Surviving Economic Abuse, at https://survivingeconomicabuse.org/ and Respect: Mens Advice Line: https://mensadviceline.org.uk/legal-information/economic-abuse-steps-to-economic-safety/

If you need support with the issues raised in this podcast, or would like to speak to a family lawyer, contact Stowe at: https://bit.ly/35WPSj2 

Additional information

• Surviving economic abuse - https://bit.ly/3v7uAA4 
• Divorcing or separating from a narcissist - https://bit.ly/3ROxpyQ 
• Domestic abuse - how can a family lawyer help? https://youtu.be/bto4CXasGz0 
• Dealing with post-separation abuse - https://bit.ly/3veGwzR 
• Taking control of your finances on separation - https://youtu.be/CIp6n4pgd9k 

If you need support with the issues raised in this podcast, or would like to speak to a family lawyer, contact Stowe at: https://bit.ly/35WPSj2

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This podcast is brought to you by the Stowe talks team at Stowe Family Law - https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/

Surrogacy is a wonderful way for people to build their family outside traditional norms, but it comes with legal complexities that often surprise people. 

In this episode, Matt & Liza were delighted to welcome Andrew Powell, one of the country’s leading children's law barristers from 4PB, who specialises in surrogacy law, to explore how surrogacy works in the UK and internationally. 

An expert on surrogacy and the modern family, Andrew covers: 

• What is surrogacy?
• What are the surrogacy laws in the UK?
• What is a parental order? And the role of parental responsibility?
• What causes the most issues with surrogacy? 
• What to consider when looking at international surrogacy? 
• What is the best way to prepare for surrogacy including the importance of research, planning and due diligence?

And closes with the joy of building your family through surrogacy and the wonderful gift it can bring, and key takeaways for anyone considering surrogacy. 

You can access the full details of how to obtain parental responsibility in England & Wales following surrogacy here.

If you need support with the issues raised in this podcast, or would like to speak to a family lawyer, contact Stowe at: https://bit.ly/35WPSj2 

Additional resources 

• Creating your family through donor conception with The Donor Conception Network https://youtu.be/30A3rHm-Z4g 
• Surrogacy in the UK with TwoDadsUK® https://youtu.be/8AJmaurSDzY
• What are the surrogacy laws in the UK - https://youtu.be/quENvsYUAU4 
• Further resources and guides on alternative parenting https://bit.ly/3uPkX9v 

🔎 Access further free resources to help you through a relationship breakdown and beyond at Stowe support. 

🎬 Watch on YouTube - https://bit.ly/3Mwa4wG 

If you need support with the issues raised in this podcast, or would like to speak to a family lawyer, contact Stowe at: https://bit.ly/35WPSj2

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One in 6-7 men is a domestic abuse survivor*, but only half of male victims (49%) fail to tell anyone they are a victim. Stigma, fear, shame, misinformation and societal pressures all contribute to men suffering in silence and not reporting their perpetrator. 

In this episode, hosts Matt & Liza were joined by Tom Nash, aka Mr Divorce Coach, a specialist Divorce, Separation and Family Coach, to talk through the challenges faced by men struggling and trapped in abusive relationships. 

Using his expertise and insight from supporting male clients, Tom talks about the different types of abuse, red flags and signs to look for, and the far-reaching and life-changing impact.

The conversation then turns to what holds men back from reporting abuse, and that men actually want to talk, they just need a safe and non-judgmental place to do so. Before exploring the different support available, and how to plan and create a safe exit strategy. 

If you are in immediate danger of domestic abuse, please call 999 and ask for the police, or alternatively you can access support at: Mankind Initiative support helpline: 01823 334 244 and Respect, mens advice line: 0808 801 0327.

Or visit: mankind.org.uk and mensadviceline.org.uk/

If you need support with the issues raised in this podcast, or would like to speak to a family lawyer, contact Stowe at: https://bit.ly/35WPSj2  

Additional resources 

• Supporting male victims of domestic abuse: https://youtu.be/mdZQzIDksRs
• Domestic abuse - how can a family lawyer help? https://youtu.be/bto4CXasGz0  
• How to get a non-molestation order: https://youtu.be/qxb6TTC3Ujw  
• Divorcing or separating from a narcissist: https://bit.ly/3ROxpyQ 
• Dealing with post-separation abuse: https://bit.ly/3veGwzR 
• Representing yourself in the family court:  https://bit.ly/472zXhd
• Rebuilding your life after narcissistic abuse: https://youtu.be/Yv2pHLV43k4 

🔎 Access further free resources to help you through a relationship breakdown and beyond at Stowe support. 

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If you need support with the issues raised in this podcast, or would like to speak to a family lawyer, contact Stowe at: https://bit.ly/35WPSj2

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Divorce and separation can be difficult for any child, but supporting teenagers through it can bring a host of different issues. 

In this episode, Matt & Liza were joined by one of the UK's leading relationship and family coaches, Nichole Farrow, as she shared her advice on how to support teenagers, including the best way to tell them, how to avoid overexposing them to what is happening, the importance of putting in boundaries, and creating a safe space to enable them to share their views. 

She also discusses role-modelling the right behaviours, showing your emotions, helping them build positive support networks (and real people, not just online), and solid examples of how to meet them where they are to rebuild connection and trust.

If you need support with the issues raised in this podcast, or would like to speak to a family lawyer, contact Stowe at: https://bit.ly/35WPSj2 

Additional resources

• Supporting children through divorce https://bit.ly/41vTaa3 
• Parenting alongside a narcissist - https://youtu.be/b10mkX4Y3og 
• How to co-parent calmly and navigate the challenges of blended families - https://bit.ly/484giyD 
• How mediation can help you separate - https://bit.ly/3MdX4y4 

🔎 Access further free resources to help you through a relationship breakdown and beyond at Stowe support. 

 🎧 Listen to our podcast on Spotify - https://spoti.fi/3L6VFcE 

🎬 Watch on YouTube - https://bit.ly/3Mwa4wG 

If you need support with the issues raised in this podcast, or would like to speak to a family lawyer, contact Stowe at: https://bit.ly/35WPSj2

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Reaching a financial settlement in divorce requires people to gather a wealth of information and paperwork, so they have a clear picture of their finances and the evidence required to complete the 30-page plus daunting Form E.

In this episode, hosts Matt & Liza offer practical advice to help people prepare, including where to start, what the process to reach a settlement is, the role of financial disclosure, how to complete the Form E, what information you need to gather, and what you can do if your ex won’t provide the information.

They also cover how to work out your future financial needs, the importance of thinking long-term, not just short-term, why you should make the agreement legally binding through a consent order, and then close with their top tips to help get you moving.

If you need support with the issues raised in this podcast, or would like to speak to a family lawyer, contact Stowe at: https://bit.ly/35WPSj2 

Additional resources 

• The dangers of a DIY divorce - https://bit.ly/3Tsvql7 
• Taking control of your finances on separation: https://youtu.be/CIp6n4pgd9k  
• Understanding pensions on divorce: https://bit.ly/41ryik4  
• Creating financial well-being https://youtu.be/SHADBMdHf4Y?si=xodKZkigxaAZvsgd 
• How to prepare for a financial settlement: https://youtu.be/ixzT30CyMo0
• How to get a financial consent order:  https://youtu.be/-FlSjw4tTXM 

🔎 Access further free resources to help you through a relationship breakdown and beyond at Stowe support. 

Join our list to get the latest from our lawyers, divorce coaches and relationship experts sent monthly to your inbox. Everything you need, in one https://mailchi.mp/69a5d247d3ba/stowetalks 

 🎧 Listen to our podcast on Spotify - https://spoti.fi/3L6VFcE 

🎬 Watch on YouTube - https://bit.ly/3Mwa4wG 

If you need support with the issues raised in this podcast, or would like to speak to a family lawyer, contact Stowe at: https://bit.ly/35WPSj2

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 In this episode, we welcomed Jodie Phelps, a leading Financial Planner, about the importance of, and how to achieve financial wellbeing following a divorce or separation.

We begin our chat exploring what lies beneath financial well-being, the importance of understanding your relationship with money, managing your mindset, and identifying and learning to avoid your spending triggers.

Jodie then turns to where to start when faced with managing your finances solo - don’t bury your head in the sand, get everything out on the table, take it step by step and plan, plan and plan some more.

Jam packed with practical tips, she goes on to share her advice on how to create a realistic budget you can stick to, how to become more financial savvy, and the top things you need to focus on to create financial well-being.

You can download Jodie’s budget planner here - https://bit.ly/3vCGaU0 

If you need support with the issues raised in this podcast, or would like to speak to a family lawyer, contact Stowe at: https://bit.ly/35WPSj2 

Additional resources 

• The dangers of a DIY divorce - https://bit.ly/3Tsvql7
• Taking control of your finances on separation: https://youtu.be/CIp6n4pgd9k  
• Understanding pensions on divorce: https://bit.ly/41ryik4  
• Creating financial well-being https://youtu.be/SHADBMdHf4Y?si=xodKZkigxaAZvsgd 
• How to prepare for a financial settlement: https://youtu.be/ixzT30CyMo0  

🔎 Access further free resources to help you through a relationship breakdown and beyond at Stowe support. 

 🎧 Listen to our podcast on Spotify - https://spoti.fi/3L6VFcE 

🎬 Watch on YouTube - https://bit.ly/3Mwa4wG 

If you need support with the issues raised in this podcast, or would like to speak to a family lawyer, contact Stowe at: https://bit.ly/35WPSj2

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This podcast is brought to you by the Stowe talks team at Stowe Family Law - https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/

In this episode, Matt & Liza were thrilled to be joined by award-winning comedian and creator of global hit podcast and book The Breakup Monologues, Rosie Wilby, to look at the unique challenges faced by the LGBTQIA+ community during a relationship breakdown. 

Rosie shares her passion for understanding the impact of heart break, before exploring monogamy, the history of relationships in the community, the various forms of cheating, how lesbians pioneered conscious uncoupling way before Gwyneth Paltrow, and how the gay community approaches the adversity caused by separating differently. 

She explores the expectation that marriage and relationships are considered the ultimate goal, especially for women, so it can considered a crashing failure when it falls apart. And that whilst tough, you can find joy in heartbreak, and embrace freedom and growth in the vibrant period afterwards.

Rosie closes with the unique challenges that arise when separating in a smaller, tight-knit community, the pressure to remain on good terms, different reasons for separating, potential lack of family support, fighting over family pets, and the challenges that surrogacy and IVF may bring. 

If you need support with the issues raised in this podcast, or would like to speak to a family lawyer, contact Stowe at: https://bit.ly/35WPSj2 

Additional resources 

You can buy Rosie's book The Breakup Monologues: The Unexpected Joy of Heartbreak here

• Finding the unexpected joy of heartbreak with Rosie Wilby  https://youtu.be/nmXO_2Rgv70 
• Where do I start? A beginner’s guide to divorce: https://youtu.be/EhFpi8K9VZQ
• Creating your family through donor conception: https://youtu.be/30A3rHm-Z4g 
• Surrogacy in the UK withTwoDadsUK®: https://youtu.be/8AJmaurSDzY 
• What are the surrogacy laws in the UK: https://youtu.be/quENvsYUAU4 

 🎬 Watch more on YouTube https://bit.ly/3Mwa4wG

🔎 Access further free resources to help you through a relationship breakdown and beyond at Stowe support. 

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