What if forgiveness isn't the next step?

In this deeply honest coaching session, Christine works with Sylvie, who has been trying for years to reach forgiveness after a profound betrayal involving her ex-husband and a longtime friend. Despite therapy, spiritual work, and understanding that "forgiveness is for you," she finds herself stuck.

Christine helps Sylvie uncover something powerful: sometimes forgiveness isn't blocked because we're not spiritual enough — it's blocked because we've skipped a step. When betrayal runs deep, especially when it touches childhood wounds of not being seen or valued, forgiveness may not be the first doorway. Confrontation, anger release, and self-advocacy might be.

If you've ever tried to forgive but couldn't get there — or felt ashamed that you're still angry — this episode will help you understand why and what may actually need to happen first. 

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Consider / Ask Yourself:

• Is there someone you feel you "should" forgive but can't?
• Are you trying to spiritually bypass anger or confrontation?
• Do you avoid conflict, even when something deeply hurt you?
• Are you holding onto resentment because speaking up feels harder?
• Is there a clearing conversation you've been postponing?

Key Insights and A-HAs:

• Forgiveness is not condoning someone's behavior.
• Forgiveness is about releasing the beliefs and judgments keeping you stuck — not excusing the action.
• Sometimes the growth edge isn't forgiveness — it's confrontation.
• Anger is not unspiritual; it's information and energy that must be processed.
• Avoiding hard conversations can keep betrayal alive in the body.
• Peace often comes from self-advocacy, not silence.

How to Deepen the Work:

• Ask yourself if there is a conversation that needs to happen before you can move forward.
• Explore somatic or anger-release work to move stored emotion out of your body.
• Notice where you are confusing forgiveness with people-pleasing.
• Practice being a stand for yourself in small ways before having larger confrontations.
• Shift the goal from "forgiveness" to "peace and acceptance."

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We're moving from the introspective Year of the Snake into the bold, forward-moving Year of the Horse.

Snake energy has been about shedding — old roles, patterns, identities that no longer fit. The Horse brings movement, courage, and momentum.

But if you haven't fully released what surfaced this year, you may feel pushed instead of propelled.

In this episode, I share what this energetic shift symbolizes and how to consciously move from reflection into aligned action — without burnout, without rushing, and without dragging the past forward.

And if you're ready to go deeper into untangling the patterns that keep repeating in your life, I'm teaching a free masterclass at christinehassler.com/untangled.

The New Year is just around the corner along with the tradition of making resolutions, which are usually promises to do something "more, better, or different." Most of us start the New Year with the greatest of intentions, yet by March (or even by the second week in January) we may not find ourselves so resolved. We revert back to old patterns and beat ourselves up for not sticking to our resolutions. Could there be a way to ring in 2026 that serves us better?

YES! And it has been my New Year ritual for the past fifteen years.

Many of you have joined me in this ritual, which is a co-creative process of reflection and intention setting over the years.

The night of December 31st will come and go (and no one will remember what you wore) so instead of just trying to plan an epic evening, set your sights on co-creating an epic year!!

I invite you to follow this step-by-step process and amend it any way that inspires you:

PART ONE: Completing 2025

1. On December 31st (or around that time) carve out at least an hour of uninterrupted time for yourself. Create the mood – get comfy, quiet, light a candle, put on some music. Begin by writing in a journal your "Year in Review." Month by month recall events that happened, people you met, places you visited, lessons you learned, accomplishments, blessings, struggles, funny moments and so on. What is so great about looking at the year in this way is that you are able to notice how you have grown and express gratitude for all your learnings.
   
   

2. After you have gone through the year, consider the behaviors, beliefs or habits that you'd like to leave behind. We all have our regrets, bad habits, and learning experiences; yet, a lot of us tend to cling to them much longer than we need to. On a separate sheet of paper, write down what you would like to leave behind in 2025. For example: being obsessed with an ex, bad eating habits, going to bed too late, limiting beliefs, repetitive/disruptive thoughts, overuse of social media, consistent self-scrutiny, road rage and so on. When you complete this list, burn it or rip it up into tiny pieces to really let it go!
   
   

3. If you so choose, share your year in review with someone close to you. See what they recall, reminisce, and share a couple laughs. (Optional)
   
   

4. Make a toast to the end of the year. Say a prayer of gratitude for 2025, declare you are letting it go, and toast to releasing anything that no longer serves you.
   
   

PART TWO: Co-Creating 2026

1. Begin to co-create/manifest 2026. Light a new candle, set the mood. Meditate for at least five minutes using the guided meditation included in this episode. Meditation is important to do before you begin to manifest so you create and visualize from the authentic self rather than the ego.
   
   

2. After your meditation is complete and you are tuned into your most authentic channel, you are ready to start visioning your 2026! Begin by getting a blank sheet of unlined paper. Write at the top: "This or something better for the highest good of all concerned. And so it is."
   
   

3. Without thinking or analyzing, write down anything and everything that comes to mind that you would like to co-create/manifest in 2026. Be specific, be creative and think big; however, your list should be at least 70 percent possible and believable. Write until your brain is empty – don't worry about being greedy! The Universe loves to be generous!!! Important: write everything in present tense using "I am" and use verbs to enthusiastically and specifically express what you want. For instance, "I am joyfully and easily securing a new job that is professionally fulfilling and offers me the opportunity to do what I love." Include how you will FEEL - this is crucial because we're actually chasing the feeling, not just the goal.
   
   

4. Choose a place to display your list where you can see it regularly and treat it as something sacred. Better yet, record yourself reading your list aloud with feeling and emotion - your own voice is hypnotic. Listen to this recording daily, multiple times a day if possible.
   
   

5. Create a playlist of 3-5 songs (at least 20 minutes) that make you feel enlivened, connected to your purpose, and energized for the future. Choose forward-thinking songs that uplift you, not songs that make you nostalgic or sad. Listen to this playlist frequently - ideally while taking a walk and listening to your recorded manifestation audio.
   
   

6. Frequently throughout the year, review your list (every day is ideal). Read what you wrote aloud and feel free to add to it. January 1st is not the only day of the year in which you can call in what you want! Believe in the possibility of your manifestation power.
   
   

7. Observe with gratitude as things in your life begin to manifest. Celebrate AND do not beat yourself up or get discouraged over what is not happening. Focusing more on what is abundant in our lives ALREADY is the best way to generate more abundance. Remember that sometimes our timeline and the Universe's timeline may be different.
   
   

Resolve to live your life in alignment with what you truly want to manifest. Rid yourself of any emotional, mental, physical, or interpersonal clutter so that you can get out of your own way. Co-creating and manifestation takes action as well as thought and belief, so resolve this year to take steps to truly LIVE your best life.

Love,
Christine

In this episode of Over It and On With It, Christine Hassler speaks with Hyesha, who seeks advice on managing her empathic tendencies, especially the overwhelming emotions she feels when witnessing suffering. Christine helps Hyesha navigate the delicate balance between feeling deeply and maintaining emotional boundaries, particularly when her empathic abilities make her overly sensitive to the pain of others.

Hyesha opens up about her experiences of being triggered by everyday situations involving children or animals, which leads her into "worst-case-scenario" thinking. Christine assists Hyesha in understanding how her heightened sensitivity stems from unhealed childhood wounds and limiting beliefs. Through this powerful coaching session, Hyesha learns practical ways to embrace her empathic gifts without being consumed by them.

Christine emphasizes the importance of distinguishing between empathy and sympathy, encouraging Hyesha to hold space for others' suffering without taking it on herself. She also guides Hyesha in recognizing her own triggers and using them as opportunities for self-compassion and healing.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

• Do you find yourself feeling overwhelmed by others' emotions, to the point that it drains you?
• Are you an empath who struggles to maintain boundaries between your feelings and those of others?
• How do you respond when you're triggered by the suffering of children, animals, or even people on the news?
• Can you hold space for others' emotions without going into "rescue mode" or becoming emotionally paralyzed?

Hyesha's Key Insights & A-HA's:

• Hyesha shares how hearing a child or animal cry often triggers a response that doesn't match the reality of the situation, rooted in past trauma.
• Christine helps Hyesha identify the emotional patterns that cause her to react so strongly and teaches her how to use her empathic abilities constructively.
• Hyesha recognizes the need to mother herself and attend to her own emotional needs when triggered by outside stimuli.
• The session highlights the difference between empathy and sympathy, showing how Hyesha can feel deeply without becoming overwhelmed.

How to Get Over It & On With It:

• Practice distinguishing between empathy (feeling without judgment) and sympathy (feeling sorry for others), and strive to stay in an empathetic space.
• Acknowledge that your reactions to certain situations may be based on unresolved emotional wounds, and use these moments as invitations to self-care.
• Use grounding techniques to regulate your nervous system when you start to feel overwhelmed by others' emotions.
• Recognize that feeling deeply is a gift, but it doesn't require you to take on the burden of fixing or saving others.

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Happy Holidays!! This is a beautiful and sweet time of year, which can bring forward so many feelings and experiences. Some of you may be absolutely blissful – you love this season and are in a place of peace. Others of you may be really struggling this time of year.  Perhaps you feel alone. Or family dynamics are challenging. And some may be feeling a mix of both. You have moments of peace and joy and other moments of loneliness, anxiety or even sadness. Wherever you are is okay.  Please remove the expectation that your holidays are supposed to be any certain way – otherwise you will just keep waking up with an expectation hangover! My intention in sharing this meditation with you today is to remind you about what is most important not only this time of year but in every moment of every day, which is LOVE.

Regret. We've all felt it at some point. Some of you are feeling it right now and you are suffering because of it. Something did or did not happen the way you wanted. You did or didn't do something the way you wished you would have. And you want more than anything to be able to rewind time and get a do-over. You've replayed scenarios over and over in your head thinking of all the things you could have done or said. You're trapped in a shoulda/coulda/woulda perspective and it's a miserable place to be, isn't it? As much as you are aware that regret is a miserable place to hang out in, you cannot seem to be free of it. But I have good news: liberation from regret is 100% possible!! And it is essential to your well-being that you commit to letting go of regret. In this Coaches Corner, I explain how.  Listen closely to this episode…or you'll regret it! ;)

Seasons change and so do we. We all have expectations as to how our lives should be, what our family should think of us and how we will feel after making a big change.

When we cannot come to terms with the decisions we have made, we experience regret and consequently an Expectation Hangover. But regret is useless and we often beat ourselves up over nothing. We cannot move forward by living in regret.

What if instead of suffering from regret, we found peace and experienced connection by reprogramming our unconscious mind to fully accept the decisions we have made? What if instead of dwelling on the past, we fully opened ourselves to receiving all the gifts in the present?

In today's call, Jenny is uncertain about her decision to move, in order to be closer to her family. She is having difficulty creating her new life, because she is stuck in her old one. She is also physically sick from the stress. She thinks geography may be a factor, but we discover she may need to stop pushing against the change and allow things to happen.

Taking a step back and seeing the impression her indecisiveness is leaving on her children, might be the key that helps Jenny to accept the decisions she has made and to move forward towards creating the story she wants to tell.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

• Is there a recent decision you made you currently regret?
• Are you in a situation where you think that changing things is the answer to your problems?
• Are you feeling physically drained and apathetic?
• Are you an adventure junkie?
• Are you a parent and feel it's important to make your child feel safe and secure?

Jenny's Question:

Jenny is making herself physically sick and tired, because she regrets moving a long distance to be closer to her family and would like to know how to get over it and on with it.

Jenny's Key Insights and Aha's:

• She is living half in Wyoming and half in Wisconsin
• Her fatigue is a signal from her body
• Self-judgment is sucking her dry
• She's stuttering on decisions

How to get over it and on with it:

• Fully accept the reasons for making previous decisions
• Be fully present wherever you are
• Begin a spiritual practice such as yoga and/or meditation
• Create the feeling you are missing
• Learn to live more inside out and less outside in
• Embody safety and acceptance
• Create a community where you are

Tools and Takeaways:

• Write out a list of emotions you want to feel and generate them, reorient yourself from inside out
• Write out these 3 things:

              ○   The reasons why it was the best decision you could have made, given the information you had

              ○   The reasons why you feel safe and secure

              ○   The reasons why you can trust yourself

• Collect evidence about the story you want to tell
• Inspect your health problem to see if it could be a lack of self-love; also check out "Choosing me before we" for in-depth analysis
• Examine what you are teaching your children, they feel your energy

Resources:

Christine Hassler

Expectation Hangover 

@christinhassler

Coaching Corner - Getting Over Regret

Choosing ME Before WE - Christine Hassler

Courage. It's a desirable quality to have and an empowering way to be. Our heroes and inspirational leaders are labeled courageous.  We are told throughout our life to "be courageous," but that isn't always easy. In fact, courage is often one of the most difficult qualities to truly integrate. Why is being courageous not as easy to embody as the heroes make it look in the movies?  There are two main reasons.  First, being courageous means being willing to face fear and embrace uncertainty.  YIKES! We don't like being scared or not knowing what is ahead.  Second, most of us do not truly understand what courage really means.    In this coaches corner, Christine shares how to become more courageous and go after the things in life that scare us.

Absolute certainty is rare. If you are waiting to be absolutely certain before making a decision, you may find yourself spinning in confusion.

Today's session is with Marie, who believes she is ready to make big changes in her life, but fear and unresolved issues from a recent break-up are keeping her from taking the first step. She is distracting herself by considering multiple changes at once and it's depleting her energy. 

When we fear something we create roadblocks for ourselves. Roadblocks can be waiting for certainty, attempting to move forward before dealing with issues from the past and talking a lot about what we want, but not taking the first steps to get to it.

Marie realizes she may be lingering on open issues from a past relationship. She needs closure before she is able to move forward, but she's unsure of how to get past the breakup. We work through how Marie can use her inner wisdom to remove the residue from the past and pursue her career dreams with a clear mind.

When we accept change and allow it to happen, we discover our challenges are leading us somewhere. 

Read the emotional and mental chapters of the treatment plan in my book, Expectation Hangover, to gain a deeper understanding on grieving and closure.

If you want to get unstuck join me on January 8th - 10th for my "for women only" Winter Retreat.  

Consider/Ask Yourself:

Are you waiting to do something until you are completely sure?

Are you attempting to make too many decisions at once and not making progress on any of them?

Are you a creative person who feels the need to do everything all at once?

Are you still wanting something from a previous relationship and are unable to move on until you get it?

Marie's Question:

Marie feels she is in a rut and wants to make a big move, including getting over her last relationship. She is a motivated person but has a fear of moving forward.

Marie's Key Insights and Aha's:

• She wants to feel certain about something before she moves forward
• She's trying to do too many things at once
• She's making a reactive choice and not a proactive one 
• She needs other people's opinions
• Listening to her intuition will help her move on

How to get over it and on with it:

• Clean up old residue first before moving forward
• Focus on one thing at a time
• Own the part you played in the relationship
• Listen to your intuition

Tools and Takeaways:

• Focus on the problem or the question you don't want to deal with first 
• A closure conversation or letter should include
  • ○ What you learned
  • ○ What you are grateful for
  • ○ What you forgive the other person for
  • ○ What you forgive yourself for
  • ○ Acknowledge the other person
  • ○ A thank you and a goodbye

Resources:

Christine Hassler

@christinhassler

jill@christinehassler.com

2016 Winter Retreat

Expectation Hangover

Are you carrying around an unspoken question or assumption about something? Did someone do something or behave in a way that stumped (and possibly hurt) you but you haven't had the guts to ask them about it? Are you being a wee bit wimpy when it comes to speaking your truth? I see so many people suffer under our own assumptions, pretend everything is fine, and take things personally rather than just having the chutzpha to be real, raw and vulnerable with another person. In today's coaches corner I give you tips for mustering up the courage to take action and actually say what you need (and want) to say.

If you have ever dealt with the pain of rejection, this episode will help!  Perhaps you've heard, "Rejection is God's Protection" but the process of rejection feels pretty awful until we learn what it is really about. Our caller today, Alex, has courageously opened up to another person and shared her truth with them. But the other person did not reciprocate her feelings. She asks me how she can get over her heartbreak and rejection and get on with her life. 

If you have ever felt the pain of rejection or find yourself in an avoidance trap, listen to the tips I give Alex at the end of our call. You can also find resources in my book, Expectation Hangover, to help heal yourself. 

We also talk about speaking our truth - which takes takes courage. We ponder on how our message will be received; but if we believe in our truth, there is value in getting it out into the world.  

When our truth needs to be told to another person and they don't realize the outcome we are hoping for we often take it personally. We perceive their response as if something is wrong with us or we did something wrong.

Our fear of the possible rejection is an avoidance trap. An avoidance trap is spending our time and energy avoiding what we don't want rather than working towards what we do want.

By understanding that we consistently attract experiences to help us heal our core wounds, we realize rejection doesn't really exist. It is merely a projection of unowned, unseen qualities inside us.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

What are you construing perceived rejection to mean about you?

What was so attractive about the person or situation you feel didn't choose you?

Is there someone you have feelings for but are too scared to tell them?

Has something upset you but you don't have the guts to speak your truth?

Alex's Question:

Alex wants to know how to best handle the heartbreak and rejection she is feeling after telling someone she loves them and finding out the feelings are not mutual.  

Alex's Key Insights and Aha's:

• She struggles with feeling as though she didn't fit in while growing up
• She feels she gave away her power
• She is learning to read people
• She realizes she is stronger than she thought she was
• She doesn't need to look outside herself for her worthiness

How to get over it and on with it:

• Don't look to others to find your own worth
• Trust your desires and have faith
• Be kind to yourself during this time

Tools and Takeaways:

• Let go of anger and resentment - Empty out your "negative" emotions in a letter and then rip it up
• Write a goodbye letter you don't intend to mail that includes:
  • ○ I'm saying goodbye because …
  • ○ I learned from you …
  • ○ I thank you for …
  • ○ I forgive myself for …
  • ○ I forgive myself for ...
  • Say what you need to say - Speak to the person even if they are not there
  • Set boundaries with yourself and move on
  • Engage in activities that encourage self-acceptance
  • Do a positive projection exercise

Resources:

Christine Hassler

Expectation Hangover 

@christinhassler

I love the week of Thanksgiving here in the U.S. because gratitude is on everyone's mind. Cultivating a consciousness of gratitude is a spiritual practice – it's a MUST for anyone who is committed to living a life of love. Plus, when we are aware of what we do have, we are a lot less inclined to obsess about all the things we don't (and have fewer expectation hangovers!). Enjoying this special Coaches Corner from me where the focus is on gratitude.

This special episode has two career coaching sessions, the first with Nick and the second with Lindsey. Both Nick and Lindsey are searching for a way to use their passions and to share their gifts with the world.

Nick's session focuses on his spirituality and whether or not his current position allows him to elevate the consciousness of others with his law practice.

Lindsey's session concentrates on her transitions and her indecisiveness around using her creativity to reach her end goal.

Lessons from both calls are that we don't need to leave jobs that are not creative enough; we can be creative and passionate in our current situations. If we honor where we are now by embracing our passions and our spirituality, we will end up spreading light to others.

If you yearn to make more of an impact in your work life, drastic changes to satiate your desires are unnecessary and often cause additional discomfort.

Increasing our vibrations will make everything we do a more spiritual experience.

Coaching Session #1 - Nick

While Listening to this Call Consider/Ask Yourself:
Do you feel a calling to make an impact?
Are you in a job that does not seem spiritual enough and you feel inclined towards doing something different?
Do you feel like you are compromising and paying your dues now in order to gain financial security?
Are you actively spreading light where you are or are you waiting for better circumstances?

Nick's Question:
Nick wants to integrate spirituality into his current life but doesn't want to break his life to fix it.

Nick's Key Insights and Aha's:
● He may be a light worker in the subtle sense
● He doesn't have to change what he's doing to make a difference
● He could focus on being and interacting with people

How Nick can get over it and on with it:
● Honor his calling to spread light through his existing work
● Bring more consciousness into what he is doing
● Try deepening his vibration when communicating with others in his work
● Try the 25/5 rule of working for 25 minutes and taking 5 to do something you enjoy doing

Tools and Takeaways:
● Become dedicated to your spiritual practice in your work
● Consider bringing beauty into your work environment
● Ask God on a daily basis to use you and pay attention to opportunities that may arise from it
● Implement practices that reconnect you to your higher power

Coaching Session #2 - Lindsey

While Listening to this Call Consider/Ask Yourself:
● Do you feel apathetic or stuck in your current career?
● Are you craving more creativity and passion in your life?
● Do you put a lot of pressure on yourself to figure everything out at once?

Lindsey's Question:
Lindsey is having a hard time figuring out if her job transition was the right thing to do and if she should continue investing in her passion, music.

Lindsey's Key Insights and Aha's:
● She loves helping children with crafts
● She needs more of the creative aspect in her job
● She should focus on the next steps and not the end goal

How Lindsey can get over it and on with it:
● Lindsey could listen to her intuition in order to be more creative
● She should honor this phase of her life
● Ask her higher power to show her the people and situations she can serve

Tools and Takeaways:
● Ask yourself what is the next step, not the end goal
● Honor where you are and allow your passions to unfold
● Don't expect a job to make you feel creative or passionate

Resources:

Christine Hassler

@christinhassler

There seems to be a lot to worry in life that we cannot control everything. But worrying is a HUGE drain of your energy and completely useless so in this Coaches Corner, Christine offers you a way to stop worrying, or at the very least dramatically reduce it.   Worry gives us a false sense of control when we are uncertain about someone or something. When faced with the unknown, worrying is often the default habit we slip into as it gives us a way to seemingly deal with whatever our concern is. In today's episode, Christine breaks down worry for you and teaches you a technique that you can start using today to transform from worrywart to dream manifestor!

Topas Adizes joins me for a beautiful conversation about how to deepen our connections through listening and curiosity. 

Our caller today is Sha who is a millennial. Millennials are today's 20 and early 30 somethings. Many millennials are unjustly thought to be narcissistic, entitled and said to have no work ethic.

Sha is experiencing residue from having many of her decisions made for her during her adolescence. And it's not just Sha who is confronting these issues; many millennials feel the effects of over-parenting and the accompanying pressures that linger from missing out on important developmental stages.

Sha and I uncover her validation issues and examine her inability to stick to a routine. She becomes aware of her past programming and I offer her tools to assist her in reprogramming herself. One important tool is to understand that what she wants to hear from others is what she actually wants to hear from herself.

We also explore ways to relieve anxiety and self-trust issues through being in the present.

After the coaching session, I offer a special guided meditation; so go to a quiet place where you can close your eyes and get serene with me.

Consider/Ask Yourself:
Do you have trouble making decisions?
Do you consult multiple people before you make a choice?
Is it hard for you to stick with a routine or stay disciplined?
Do you have a hard time quieting your mind?

Sha's Question:
Sha finds it hard to make decisions and is having trouble relaxing.

Sha's Key Insights and Aha's:
● She was peacocking all the time
● She wasn't seeing herself
● She may have missed out on fundamental developmental stages
● She has difficulty with discipline and routines
● She doesn't trust herself

How to get over it and on with it:
● Practice telling yourself "be here now"
● Repair yourself by giving yourself the developmental stages you didn't have
● Take actions to support autonomy and decision making
● Add some routines to your life
● Start making decisions

Tools and Takeaways:
● Validation seekers should write a list of everything they want to hear from others and say these things to themselves
● Make a solo decision making challenge
● Write out a routine for yourself. Have one commitment every morning and one commitment every evening
● Start a meditation practice

Resources:

Christine Hassler

The Solo-Decision Making Challenge

Christine's Meditation Rx CD

@christinhassler

In this coaches corner Christine discusses whether or not it's possible to change someone else.  Consider: Is there someone in your life you really hope will change? Do you find yourself taking on the responsibility for other people's transformation? Do you even get annoyed when you see someone you care about not living into the potential you see in them? Christine explains why we are tempted to change others and teaches you how to let go of expectations of other people. You will learn that it is not your job or your right to save anyone along with some tips on how you actually can make an impact on the lives of others.

This episode will support you in getting through and to the other side of any kind of loss. My coaching call with Regina today uncovers the challenges she is having with grief over the loss of her husband. She says she regrets not being the best mother in the world and not living the life she wanted to live. She's is questioning her purpose and experiencing quite a bit of apathy in her life.

Regina experiences an "aha" when she realizes she is able to create the positive future she desires.

Take note of Regina's tone of voice before my coaching as she describes beating herself up and then again after we discuss her ability to practice self-love.

Regina shared her progress with me in an email after our session. She writes "I've started forgiving myself and when I find myself in a negative thought I stop and think "this isn't self-love".

It's a reminder to all of us to live, not just exist. Find something you want to live for, even it seems silly and give yourself permission to love.

Consider/Ask Yourself:
Have you recently been through a loss and can't seem to move on?
Have you been through a loss and are aware you need time to grieve?
Do you tend to look back on your life and wish you could have done things differently?
Are you at a point in your life where you are just existing and need to start living again?

Regina's Question:
Regina would like to move past her sadness and regret of not living the life she wanted.

Regina's Key Insights and Aha's:
● There is a part of her that doesn't want to "be" anymore
● She doesn't believe we get more than one love in our lives
● She beats herself up a lot
● She knows if she could create a negative story for herself she is capable of creating a positive story too

How to get over it and on with it:
● Make a choice to start creating a future which is enlivening
● Give yourself permission to live
● Speak to yourself like a loving mother would to a child
● Write out some promises you will keep to yourself

Tools and Takeaways:
● Practice self-love
● Consider that loved ones who have transitioned are angels and guides in your life
● Accept that you did the best you could with the tools you had at the time

Resources:

• Christine Hassler
• Expectation Hangover
• How to Liberate Yourself from Regret Blog
• @christinhassler
• Secret Sauce training and mastermind

Hi and welcome back to my over and on with it podcast. I'm recording today from my home state of Texas. I love being here and spending time with my family, especially my two nephews. They live in a realm of never-ending possibilities and abundant curiosity. It's refreshing.

Our call today is from Maya. Maya wonders if she should use her proven brute force tactics to manifest her dreams, but she understands it might not be the way to manifest this one.

Realizing that the mind doesn't know the difference between a well-imagined thought and reality can help Maya start manifesting her dream right now. If she aligns her vibrations to her desires she will start to make choices which pull her closer to her dream.

So, how do we pursue our dreams and not get disappointed? How do we not experience an Expectation Hangover?

If we pursue our dreams with high involvement and high intention, but low attachment we are not overly disappointed when our dreams don't manifest in the manner we thought they would. This allows us to follow our dreams without being afraid of being let down.

A good example of someone who aligns themselves vibrationally to what they desire is Jill. Jill is the amazing person who coordinates all of my retreats. She has a special place in her heart for Taylor Swift. She loves her. Jill has manifested concert tickets and opportunities to see Taylor Swift because she believes she can, almost as if it's magic.

If you would like coaching from me in an upcoming episode, go to christinehassler.com/podcast.

Consider/Ask Yourself:
Are you longing to go down a non-traditional path?
What is the first step towards your goal?
Is there an experience you would like to have, but not sure how to make it happen?
Are you downgrading your dreams because you're afraid to be let down?

Maya's Question:
Maya has a vision for her life but believes she is going down an uncharted path. She would like to manifest being in the pope's presence. She wonders if she should use brute force to make things happen or should she go with the flow.

Maya's Key Insights and Aha's:
● She may be attached to certain aspects of her dream
● She should make choices which keep her vibrational alignment
● She needs to think about how she would feel in her manifestation

How to get over it and on with it:
● Ask your inner knowing what your first step is
● Focus on the essence of the manifestation
● Visualize yourself experiencing the moment

Tools and Takeaways:
● Do positive projection work to create the conditions to get what you want in your world
● Record a voice memo of the experience you would like to have and listen to it every day

Resources:

• Christine Hassler
• @christinhassler
• Secret Sauce training and mastermind

In this Coaches Corner episode, Christine guides you through a step-by-step process get over betrayal and on with your life!! Betrayal is one of the human experiences that can be so painful and hard to understand. It hurts when you feel lied to or when someone you thought you could trust shows you something different. When we feel betrayed or like our trust is broken, it's natural to want to hang on to the anger, resentment, blame and "how could she" or "I can't believe he" thoughts. But this keeps us in victim consciousness and only perpetuates our suffering.  Listen to learn how to get over it and on with it!

Do you know that every challenge you face presents an amazing opportunity for healing and growth? That is why I am so passionate about Expectation Hangovers - because they are doorways to transformation.

We do not want to relate to Expectation Hangovers as victims because it prevents us from leveraging the learnings! Disappointment happens FOR you, not TO you.

Expectation Hangovers teach us:
1. Control is an illusion
2. Our comfort zone is a trap
3. True fulfillment comes from inside
4. The Universe does not punish us

My call with Nadine is about overcoming the Expectation Hangover of a job loss and breakup We explore why we put pressure on ourselves to not make mistakes and how our past is able to influence us even though we may not recognize it.

Remember, if you point your compass towards spirituality and honor your feelings, you can use your soul's inner wisdom to learn to love and to heal yourself. The door of opportunity exists for you to heal and transform after you experience an Expectation Hangover.

Consider/Ask Yourself:
What am I learning?
What am I healing?
What is my outer experience teaching me about my inner reality?
Can I relate to putting a lot of pressure on myself?
Do I think there is something I need to do to be loved or worthy?
Do I have negative self-talk which perpetuates high expectations of myself?

Nadine's Question:
In February, Nadine was working her dream job and she had the perfect man. Now four months later, she finds herself in a new job she is not interested in and her man left.

Nadine's Key Insights and Aha's:
● She may be looking at herself as a home improvement project
● She engages in negative self-talk
● She has the same relationship over and over again
● Her childhood is not her fault

How to get over it and on with it:
● Ask your inner counselor what am I learning
● Ask yourself "in order to be loved I need to"
● What would you say to yourself as a child?
● Take a deep dive into your spiritual practice

Tools and Takeaways:
● Spend some time single and fall in love with yourself
● Write down "In order to be loved, I need" and then finish the sentence
● Talk to your younger self and reassure them
● Practice self-care by nurturing yourself
● Allow yourself to feel your own emotions with compassion
● Understand you are not broken and become who you truly want to be

Resources:

• Christine Hassler
• @christinhassler
• Expectation Hangover

This call is for all you do-ers and over-achievers out there.

We find ourselves in a time in which we wear our busyness like a badge of honor. We define ourselves by what we do. And when something we define ourselves by, such as a job, goes away we find ourselves with an Expectation Hangover.

An Expectation Hangover is disappointment. It's when one of three things happen:
1.) Something doesn't turn out like we planned
2.) Something does turn out like we planned, but we don't get the feeling we thought we would have
3.) Life just throws us an unexpected curveball

My coaching session with Lisa today uncovers her Expectation Hangover as a huge opportunity for her to just be.

If you would like coaching from me in an upcoming episode, contact me at christinehassler.com

Consider/Ask Yourself:
Can you relate to being busy all the time?
Do you often use busyness as a distraction?
Do you panic during times when you aren't busy?
Do you have a busy life, but not a fulfilled life?
Is it challenging to receive loving support, including financial support from a family member?
Are you paying attention to all the things which are going right for you when you experience an expectation hangover?

Lisa's Question:
Lisa feels she has accomplished a great deal this year. She completed her MBA, got married and will soon be moving to a new city. During her job search, she is encountering some rejection and the disappointment that goes along with it.

Lisa's Key Insights and Aha's:
● She kept herself busy as a distraction
● She relies on herself too much
● She doesn't have to handle so many things on her own
● She has her worthiness attached to having a job

How to get over it and on with it:
● Ask yourself what am I learning during this expectation hangover?
● Surround yourself with your soul friends and family
● Give yourself full permission to relax and let go
● Break up with the idea that you are what you do
● Press pause on the goal line and re-orient yourself to the soul line

Tools and Takeaways:
● Give yourself permission to stop chasing results
● Get a copy of Expectation Hangover and work through the exercises and guided meditations
● Ask someone for support
● Take some quiet time for yourself
● Make an agreement with yourself to just be

Resources:

Christine Hassler

We can want to do things in life but just wanting is not enough.  Are you committed to really taking the steps to get there?   Difference makers have commitment and discipline. Passion is not enough. If you feel stuck, invest in yourself, take risks and learn to be comfortable with uncertainty. One thing we need to commit to is shifting our internal states and stories, which means updating our beliefs to get into alignment with what we want. Remember, our outside world is a reflection of our inside world. In this call with Gail, she is at a crossroads when she is thinking of leaving a more analytical job to pursue a more creative path.  She is  getting mixed messages and whether "just follow your passion" is good advice for her to follow. We cover those topics in the call along with a conversation about how her logical mind is an obstacle – and how to make it more of an ally. Please keep your comments and questions coming. It's so exciting to connect with you.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Does your logical and reasonable mind get in the way of hearing your intuition? Do you think you have to know all the steps of your plan before you can take a step? Are you confused about the messages the universe is sending? Do you feel too "in your head" most of the time? Would you say your inside world is the reflection you want to project to the outside world? Do you feel you are in vibrational alignment with that which you want to attract?    Gail's Question: Gail recently left her corporate job and wants to move into a more creative role. But she feels like she is getting mixed messages from the universe. She asks for Christine's insight.   Gail's Key Insights and Aha's: ● Gail needs to trust her creative skills ● Her energy shifts when she talks about her desired career ● She needs to satiate her creative hunger ● Understanding she's on a journey ● She needs to feel the vibration within herself How to get over it and on with it: ● Get in vibrational alignment ● Give yourself permission to explore ● Self-acknowledge and connect yourself to the passion ● Feel into things instead of figuring them out Tools and Takeaways: ● Give yourself permission to pursue something you are passionate about ● Practice vibrational manifesting ● Get in to your creative ● Ask for support along your journey in the form of prayer Resources: Association of Transformational Leaders Christine Hassler

If you've ever had challenges with other people in your life, especially parents, you will identify with this episode. On some level, we choose our parents to be our spiritual teachers. Being close becomes complicated as we transition from being a child to being an adult.  Listen in as Jessica is feeling conflicted between wanting to live her own life and wanting her parents approval.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Can you relate to wanting to please people you love? Do you feel obligated to do what your parents want from you? Do you feel guilty if you don't do what is expected of you?   Jessica's Question: Jessica's conservative parents get mad, impose guilt trips and cause her stress when she talks about her boyfriend, who has a daughter. She would like insights on how to hold on to her relationship and respect her parents feelings.   Jessica's Key Insights and Aha's: ● It's her time to have a relationship ● She allows her parents to emotionally manipulate her How to get over it and on with it: ● Be ok with your parents not being ok with your life ● Don't be ruled by fear ● Take a break - try a 30-day hiatus ● Be clear about what you are willing to do for relationships ● Send your parents love and light ● Take responsibility for your own inner experience Tools and Takeaways: ● Keep a picture of your loved ones and send them love and light every day ● During meditation have your higher-self speak with their higher-self ● Keep choosing love Resources: Christine Hassler @christinhassler

I know an area many of you dream about has to do with your finding your purpose and serving others.  You may also long for more freedom. Freedom not only to do something you love, but also have the money and time to spend more time with people you love.  This is the dream of today's caller, Mike.   . His constant search of products and materials lead him to believe his next steps need to come from outside himself. We discuss how he may be stalling by continuing to do research instead of listening to his internal inspiration and moving forward.  I help Mike realize what his dream truly may be . . . . Often when we feel dreams and longings in our hearts as part psychic ability we all have. We somehow know fulfillment is coming, like a premonition. We just don't know when. And, even though we may want it now our dreams take time to evolve.   Consider/Ask Yourself: What heartfelt dreams are calling you forward? Do you have a sense of what you want to do but not taking action? Do you start many things but not follow through? Are you waiting for some kind of answer or sign from the universe? Are you stalling and calling it research?   Caller's Question: Mike, a self-proclaimed product junkie, has a dream of having a home based business.  He lacks confidence in his decision-making process and would like to break his cycle of never moving forward. Key Insights and Aha's: ● Mike could be the product and sell himself ● He could inspire other people ● He should let his inspiration drive his next steps How to get over it and on with it: ● Ask yourself the question as if it was someone else coming to you for guidance ● Don't let your head get in the way ● Let God use you as an instrument ● Meditate and recognize your unique gifts ● Start with the big vision and work backwards Tools and Takeaways: ● Write a life experience resume ● Re-orient towards an internal direction, try it for 30 days ●Answer these questions: Who am I here to serve What can I offer How can I deliver it Resources: Christine Hassler Secret Sauce Mastermind jill@christinehassler.com  

In this episode of Over It and On With It, Christine Hassler dives into a heartfelt and profound coaching call with Anna, discussing the difference between healing the body and trying to fix it. Christine emphasizes the importance of understanding that when we focus too much on "fixing" ourselves, we often remain stuck in a mindset that something is inherently broken. Instead, she encourages Anna and listeners to approach the body with love, acceptance, and gratitude, viewing physical symptoms as opportunities for emotional and spiritual growth rather than burdens.

Anna opens up about her experiences with PCOS and the struggles she's faced with rigid control over her health. Through this vulnerable conversation, Christine highlights how past unmet emotional needs can manifest physically and explores how healing requires addressing those emotional roots.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

• Are you approaching your health and body from a mindset of fixing rather than healing?
• Do you trust your body, or do you feel like you're in a constant struggle with it?
• How do your past experiences, especially from childhood, affect how you relate to your body today?
• Can you shift your perspective on physical symptoms from frustration to gratitude?

The Guest's Key Insights & A-HA's:

• Christine helps Anna uncover how her childhood experiences of needing to control everything have carried over into her health journey, contributing to her PCOS symptoms.
• Healing starts with self-love, trust, and understanding that symptoms often have emotional and spiritual roots.
• The body isn't something to fix; rather, it's an ally that signals where healing is needed.
• Embracing vulnerability and releasing the pressure to be perfect can lead to deeper emotional and physical well-being.

How to Get Over It & On With It:

• Acknowledge the emotional wounds: Recognize that the physical symptoms you experience, such as PCOS, may have emotional roots stemming from unmet needs in childhood. Allow yourself to feel the sadness, frustration, or grief that comes with these realizations, and begin the healing process by acknowledging these emotions.
• Release the need for control: Understand that rigid control over your health and body can often stem from past experiences. Let go of the need to micromanage every detail of your health, and trust that your body is not something to be fixed but an ally in your healing journey.
• Shift your perspective on symptoms: Instead of viewing physical ailments as obstacles, see them as signals from your body asking for deeper healing and attention. Embrace the opportunity to heal not just the physical, but also the emotional and spiritual wounds that contribute to your well-being.
• Be compassionate with yourself: Just as Anna learned to approach her body with love rather than criticism, practice giving yourself the same grace. Recognize that healing is a process, and it's okay to not have everything figured out. Offer yourself the nurturing and care you needed as a child.

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When Eileen called she said she wanted to move past the breakup of a 3-year relationship. The relationship ended abruptly and she was still searching for closure from the other person. Knowing the purpose of any relationship is for healing and growth, and not happily ever after, we worked through the issue based relationship Eileen had and what the relationship may have taught her about herself. Listen in as Eileen discovers herself in the present and works to nurture her inside reality. Consider/Ask Yourself:

Are there any unresolved hurts from previous relationships you are carrying around?

Can you see how you have drawn romantic relationships in to help fill a void?

Do you feel like you can't move forward in life because you are stuck in the past? Eileen's Question:

Eileen is ready to move on from a past relationship but doesn't know what steps to take. She also is seeking closure with the other person, she didn't feel she received when the relationship ended abruptly. Eileen's Key Insights and Aha's:

● She doesn't trust herself with making decisions

● Certain qualities eroded during her relationship

● She felt somewhat addicted to the relationship

● Her past life includes a pattern of chasing love

How to get over it and on with it:

● Recognize your soul is ready to heal past issues

● Let go of any belief that the relationship could have worked out

● Reassure your younger self there is nothing she has to do to earn love

● Never underestimate the power of doing the invisible, internal things Tools and Takeaways:

● Write a letter and start with Dear Name,

 ○ I'm saying goodbye because ...

 ○ I learned ...

 ○ I forgive you for ...

 ○ I forgive myself for ...

 ○ Thank you for ...

● Write a letter to reassure your younger self

● Commit to 40 days of connection/forgiveness work

● Acknowledging your growth and your blessings   Resources: Christine Hassler @christinhassler

Welcome to my first official episode. I went through 25 different coaching sessions in preparation for this show and trying to decide which one would be first was difficult because all my callers were amazing. I ended up choosing Anneke's call because we get into the question "Who am I?" and because of the level of vulnerability in this session. We often feel embarrassed and apologize for our emotions, but I think of vulnerability as strength. Remember, we get to choose who we are and not being who we are can be suffocating.  We are not defined by other people's views of us. We are all born with natural gifts from the divine. It's up to us to embrace them and use them.   Consider/Ask Yourself:

Who am I?

Do you feel like you are really living authentically?

Are you fully expressing who you are or are you being a version of yourself?

Do you struggle with loneliness?

Are you in touch with your emotions?

Are you concerned about what other people think of you? Anneke's Question: Anneke is about to make a big career change and would like to know how to be open and honest about who she really is and to shift from her pattern of keeping herself small and not seen. Anneke's Key Insights and Aha's:

● Acknowledging she sugarcoats her difficult emotions.

● She doesn't want to be a burden on others.

● Loneliness is has been her friend because it's when she gives herself a break.

● It's ok for other people not to like it when she is her authentic self.

● Recognizing she is staying in her comfort zone because those emotions are familiar. How to get over it and on with it:

● Try taking actions to trust yourself and be consistently authentic.

● Don't compare yourself to other people, embrace your own essence.

● Be willing to remember the essence of who you truly are.

● Invite spirit into your space.

● Practice self-forgiveness.

● Don't be defined by what other people have told you about you. Tools and Takeaways:

● Write out who you are, what is your unique essence? Then, for 30 days get in front of a mirror and make "I am" statements with your answers.

● Pick 2-3 people to practice intimacy and authenticity with.

● Write this sentence "Sometimes I pretend I am (fill in the blank) but I am not".

● Write a thank you letter to loneliness for giving you time alone. Resources: Light Worker Workshop Expectation Hangover Christine Hassler Coaching

Hello and welcome to my introductory podcast. This podcast is fulfilling a dream I had as a little girl. Ever since listening to Dr. Laura Schlessinger on the radio, I have wanted to have a call-in advice show. I loved to hear people gaining insight and having aha moments on the radio in just 5-10 minutes. This show will be a mix of practical and spiritual information to help callers (and the rest of us by default) break free from suffering and disappointment. I'll be talking a lot about "Expectation Hangovers" which was the tile of my last book.  If you are new to my work you are probably wondering, just what is an expectation hangover? An expectation hangover is when things don't go according to plan, when we don't get the sense of fulfillment after something does happen or when life throws us a total curveball. To get our friendship started, I am sharing my story with you and sharing the moment I had of peace and connection. It only lasted a second, but its effects will last a lifetime. I welcome you to shift your consciousness, to heal your mind and ease your transitions. Consider/Ask Yourself:

Who am I?

What do I want and how do I get it?

What makes time stop for me?

What am I learning?

What's here for me to heal? Key Insights and Aha's:

● Visualization through meditation told me to serve more. This podcast gave me the outlet.

● When you listen to someone else being coached your defenses are down allowing you to take in the information more freely.

● Self-imposed shame and judgments can stunt our growth. How to get over it and on with it:

● Milk it for all that it's worth.

● Recognize that even the things which feel miserable are in service to our growth learning and healing.

● Understand your suffering could be the catalyst for your passion. Tools and Takeaways:

● 5 Key Valuable Lessons of Expectation Hangovers

○ They illuminate that we all put a lot of expectation on ourselves.

○ They teach us we don't have control.

○ They push us out of our comfort zone.

○ They teach us to live inside out instead of outside in.

○ They teach us to move out of the victim mentality.   Resources Mentioned: Christine Hassler @christinhassler #overitandonwithit Expectation Hangover 20-Something, 20-Everything

In this episode of Over It and On With It, Christine Hassler coaches Katie, who is struggling with her husband's undiagnosed ADHD and its impact on their relationship. Christine helps Katie reflect on how her husband's behaviors trigger old wounds from her childhood and offers insights into how couples can navigate challenges when their brains and emotional needs function differently. The episode dives deep into relationship dynamics, particularly how unresolved past wounds can surface in present-day partnerships.

Christine encourages listeners to think about their own relationships, especially when they are generally good but contain aspects that are frustrating or triggering. She stresses the importance of taking responsibility for one's own emotional reactions rather than expecting the partner to change or fix things. Additionally, Christine highlights how acceptance of a partner's limitations and clear communication about non-negotiables can strengthen a relationship.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

• Are you in a relationship that's generally good but with aspects that bug or trigger you?
• Do you tend to focus on evidence that your partner isn't meeting your expectations?
• How do you handle your emotional reactions when your partner frustrates you?
• What would change in your relationship if you fully accepted your partner for who they are?

Key Insights & AHA's:

• Katie's frustrations with her husband's forgetfulness are linked to her childhood wounds of abandonment and not feeling important.
• Christine helps Katie see that her husband's behavior, including conflict avoidance, may be a result of his trauma, and encourages Katie to approach the situation with more acceptance.
• By focusing on what Katie can control—her own emotional responses—rather than trying to change her husband, she can create more peace within herself.
• Clear communication about non-negotiables, such as her husband seeking treatment, can help Katie and her husband move forward.

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• Email: jill@christinehassler.com — For information on any of my services!
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In this episode of Over It and On With It, Christine Hassler delivers a heartfelt reminder about the importance of self-care, rest, and prioritizing our well-being over external obligations and people-pleasing tendencies. Christine shares her own recent experiences as a busy mom and life coach, explaining how taking time for herself—even when it meant canceling podcast recordings—has been a powerful practice in maintaining integrity with her own needs.

Christine encourages listeners to reflect on the ways they may be abandoning themselves by prioritizing the expectations of others over their own health and happiness. She highlights the significance of slowing down, saying "no" when necessary, and learning to trust that others will understand when we make self-honoring choices.

This episode serves as a powerful message for anyone feeling overwhelmed by life's obligations, reminding us that true healing and clarity can only come when we give ourselves permission to rest and recharge.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

• Are you abandoning your own needs to meet others' expectations?
• What is it costing you to keep pushing yourself without rest?
• Can you give yourself permission to slow down, even if it means disappointing others?
• How can you incorporate moments of self-care, even in a busy schedule?

Key Insights & AHA's:

• Christine reflects on how she has shifted from people-pleasing and feeling obligated to meet commitments at the cost of her well-being.
• The importance of slowing down, not just for physical rest, but for nervous system regulation and emotional healing.
• She reminds us that healing happens at the pace of the slowest part of us that feels safe, and rushing through life can prevent true restoration.
• Self-care is not a luxury, but a necessity for maintaining alignment and integrity with oneself.

Social Media + Resources:

• Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment
• Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner
• Christine on Facebook
• Expectation Hangover by Christine Hassler
• @ChristineHassler on Twitter
• @ChristineHassler on Instagram
• @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram
• Email: jill@christinehassler.com — For information on any of my services!
• Get on the waitlist to be coached on the show!
• Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches!

In this episode of Over It and On With It, Christine Hassler coaches Marla, a professional singer who bravely shares her experience of being publicly shamed and attacked after performing the national anthem at a major rugby event. 

Marla opens up about the intense wave of negative reactions she received from the press and social media, as well as the personal toll it took on her and her daughter. Christine helps Marla process the deep wounds this experience triggered, drawing connections to childhood trauma and longstanding beliefs of unworthiness and fear of rejection.

Through the coaching session, Christine guides Marla to reclaim her voice and inner power, emphasizing the importance of healing from past trauma and addressing limiting beliefs that may have reinforced feelings of shame and isolation. Marla's journey is a powerful example of how, even in the face of overwhelming negativity, we can find strength, regain our self-worth, and take a stand for ourselves.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

• Have you ever felt attacked, bullied, or shamed in your personal life or public spaces?
• Do you struggle with feelings of rejection or fear of judgment?
• Are there wounds from your childhood that still influence how you handle criticism or rejection today?
• How do you respond when you're unfairly criticized? Do you retreat or stand up for yourself?

The Guest's Key Insights & AHA's:

• Marla shares how being publicly shamed reignited deep fears of rejection and criticism that date back to her childhood.
• Christine helps Marla understand that her experience is not just a random occurrence but a reflection of longstanding limiting beliefs that are ready to be healed.
• Marla recognizes the importance of expressing her feelings and standing up for herself, not only in the present moment but also for her inner child, who was silenced in the past.
• The session highlights how reclaiming our voice, even in the face of fear, is a powerful way to shift out of victimhood and into empowerment.

How to Get Over It & On With It:

• Acknowledge the feelings of hurt and rejection that may arise when you're attacked or criticized, but don't allow them to define you.
• Revisit any limiting beliefs from your past that may contribute to how you perceive criticism or bullying.
• Practice giving voice to your feelings and standing up for yourself, even when difficult.
• Remember that reclaiming your voice and power is a process—allow yourself to move through the emotions and find strength in your vulnerability.

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Upcoming Events:

• Christine Hassler's retreat is in Austin, Texas, in late September 2024. This immersive experience offers a deep dive into healing, self-awareness, and nervous system recalibration. Register now at christinehassler.com/retreat.

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Kelly Brogan, M.D. is a holistic psychiatrist, author of the NY Times Bestselling book, A Mind of Your Own, Own Your Self, the children's book, A Time For Rain, and co-editor of the landmark textbook, Integrative Therapies for Depression. She is the founder of the online healing program Vital Mind Reset, and the membership community, Vital Life Project. She completed her psychiatric training and fellowship at NYU Medical Center after graduating from Cornell University Medical College, and has a B.S. from M.I.T. in Systems Neuroscience. She is specialized in a root-cause resolution approach to psychiatric syndromes and symptoms. Learn more at https://www.kellybroganmd.com/

In this episode of Over It and On With It, Christine Hassler coaches Charlotte, a woman grappling with feelings of unworthiness and a deep-seated fear of being seen. Charlotte's inner struggle stems from a belief that she does not deserve love and attention, which leads her to hide her true self in many of her relationships.

During the coaching session, Christine helped Charlotte uncover how her childhood experiences of growing up with siblings with special needs and feeling responsible for minimizing her own needs contributed to her pattern of people-pleasing. This has resulted in Charlotte often putting others before herself, even to her detriment. Christine guides Charlotte to understand that this pattern, which was once a coping mechanism, no longer serves her as an adult, especially in her role as a mother.

As they work through these deep emotions, Christine helps Charlotte recognize the importance of self-love, boundaries, and allowing herself to be seen and supported rather than always being the one to please others.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

• Do you often feel like you are not deserving of love or attention?
• Do you have difficulty receiving love and support, even though you crave it?
• Are you prone to people-pleasing and putting others' needs above your own?
• Can you identify patterns from your childhood that influence how you show up in your relationships today?

The Guest's Key Insights & A-HA's:

• Charlotte's belief that she doesn't deserve love stems from her childhood, where she felt she needed to make things easier for her family, especially her mother, who had other children with special needs.
• Christine helps Charlotte realize that her habit of being "low maintenance" and avoiding taking up space prevents her from fully experiencing love and connection in her adult relationships.
• By identifying this belief and the behaviors it drives, Charlotte can start to reclaim her sense of worth and build relationships where her needs are met, too.
• The session emphasizes the importance of healing old wounds, setting boundaries, and embracing self-worth.

How to Get Over It & On With It:

• Acknowledge that you are just as deserving of love and attention as anyone else.
• Begin setting boundaries that protect your emotional well-being and ensure your needs are met.
• Practice receiving love and support without guilt or fear of being a burden.
• Reframe any childhood beliefs that make you feel less worthy of care and attention.

Upcoming Events:

• Christine Hassler's retreat is in Austin, Texas, in late September 2024.
• Register now at christinehassler.com/retreat.

Social Media + Resources:

• Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment
• Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner
• Christine on Facebook
• Expectation Hangover by Christine Hassler
• @ChristineHassler on Twitter
• @ChristineHassler on Instagram
• @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram
• Email: jill@christinehassler.com — For information on any of my services!
• Get on the waitlist to be coached on the show!
• Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches!

In this episode of "Over It and On With It," Christine Hassler coaches Marcus, who is grappling with the emotional aftermath of a breakup. Marcus has a long-standing pattern of being the dependable "rock" everyone can rely on, but this role costs him dearly in his relationships.

During their coaching session, Christine helps Marcus see how his childhood experiences, particularly taking on the role of the "man of the house" from a young age, have influenced his adult relationships. Marcus often finds himself in situations where he is taking care of others' emotional needs at his own expense, leaving him feeling depleted and unsupported.

Christine explains that this dynamic stems from childhood coping mechanisms where Marcus learned that being responsible and reliable would earn him love and acceptance. By recognizing these patterns and setting healthier boundaries, Marcus can start to prioritize his own needs and break free from the caretaker role that has dominated his life.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

• Do you find yourself being the rock for everyone in your life but feel like no one is there for you?
• Are you struggling to set boundaries because you fear disappointing others?
• Do you often feel emotionally drained because you always put others' needs before yours?
• Can you identify patterns from your childhood that may be influencing your current relationships?

The Guest's Key Insights & A-HA's:

• Marcus's need to be the dependable one comes from his childhood experience of having to take care of his mother after his father left, making him feel responsible for others from a young age.
• Christine identifies that Marcus's pattern of being the caretaker has left him feeling like he has no one to rely on in return, perpetuating feelings of loneliness and exhaustion.
• By acknowledging these childhood influences, Marcus can start to shift his mindset and create space for relationships that also meet his needs.
• The coaching session emphasizes the importance of setting boundaries and learning to be comfortable saying "no," even when it might disappoint others.

How to Get Over It & On With It:

• Please recognize that you don't have to be the rock for everyone; it's okay to need support yourself.
• Start setting boundaries in your relationships to protect your energy and emotional well-being.
• Practice saying "no" lovingly that honors your needs and respects your limits.
• Understand that it's healthy to have reciprocal relationships where support is mutual rather than one-sided.

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Upcoming Events:

• Christine Hassler's upcoming retreat will occur in late September 2024 in Austin, Texas.
• Register now at christinehassler.com/retreat.

Social Media + Resources:

• Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment
• Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner
• Christine on Facebook
• Expectation Hangover by Christine Hassler
• @ChristineHassler on Twitter
• @ChristineHassler on Instagram
• @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram
• Email: jill@christinehassler.com — For information on any of my services!
• Get on the waitlist to be coached on the show!
• Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches!

In this deeply moving session, Christine supports Sheylee—a devoted mother who is pregnant with her seventh child and struggling under the weight of shame, overwhelm, and fear. After believing she was done having children, this unexpected pregnancy has stirred painful emotions, identity confusion, and unresolved relational patterns in her partnership.

Christine helps her gently unravel the layers of guilt, inner criticism, and pressure she has carried for years. Together, they explore how to hold two truths at once: loving a child while not feeling joyful about the circumstances, being grateful and overwhelmed at the same time, and honoring both human emotion and spiritual perspective.

If you've ever felt shame for how you feel, feared getting "stuck" in a hard season, or struggled to access compassion for yourself, this conversation offers relief, grounding, and a renewed sense of permission to be honest about your emotional reality.

Consider / Ask Yourself:

• Is there something in your life you believe you "should" feel happy about—but you don't?
• Do you fear that if you let yourself feel your emotions, you won't be able to stop?
• Do you often feel unsupported—emotionally, spiritually, or relationally?
• Are you harder on yourself than anyone else is?
• Do you hear an inner critic more loudly than your own compassion?

Key Insights and A-HAs:

• Shame about how you feel is often more damaging than the feelings themselves.
• It is possible—and healthy—to hold two truths at once ("both/and").
• Emotional release is not falling apart; it's moving energy through the body.
• Many women confuse caretaking with connection or worthiness.
• Inner critics often come from childhood patterns of control, hypervigilance, or judgment.
• Spiritual support (God, Mother Mary, or a higher loving presence) can hold us when people cannot.

How to Deepen the Work:

• Practice the both/and: "I love this baby AND I am overwhelmed."
• Create space each day to sit with your feelings rather than suppress them.
• Replace harsh self-talk with compassion through simple practices like Ho'oponopono:
  I'm sorry. Please forgive me. Thank you. I love you.
• Call on unseen spiritual support when human support feels unavailable.
• Identify where old survival strategies are still active—and begin updating them with gentler internal dialogue.
• Explore ways to communicate needs in your partnership with clarity rather than collapse.

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Social Media + Resources:

• Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment
• Christine Hassler Podcasts, including Coach's Corner
• Instagram: @ChristineHassler | @SacredUnionCouples
• Facebook: Christine Hassler
• Book: Expectation Hangover by Christine Hassler
• Email: jill@christinehassler.com — For information on Christine's services
• Apply to be coached live on the show: christinehassler.com/waitlist

In this episode of "Over It and On With It," Christine Hassler coaches Tina, who struggles with fear and doubt regarding her dreams of finding a partner and starting a family. 

At 41, Tina has done significant personal work to connect with herself and remain grounded in her feminine energy. However, she often experiences panic and doubt, mainly when influenced by external messages about age and time. Through their coaching session, Christine helps Tina explore the root causes of her panic and teaches her how to form a deeper connection with her inner child. This approach enables Tina to navigate her fears more effectively and stay aligned with her desires.

Christine explains that Tina's fear and panic are not just obstacles but are rooted in protective mechanisms formed in her childhood. By addressing these fears with compassion and understanding, Tina can move past them and create space for her dreams to manifest.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

• Do you sometimes believe in your dreams but get pulled off course by doubt and fear?
• Do you panic when doubt and fear arise, thinking you're sabotaging your desires?
• Have you done personal work but still find specific patterns, like fear or doubt, that are hard to change?
• Do you have a deep, nurturing connection with the younger parts of yourself?

The Guest's Key Insights & A-HA's:

• Tina's fear and doubt are deeply connected to her inner child, who experienced instability and uncertainty in her early years.
• Christine identifies that Tina's panic is a form of protection, a response she developed to feel safe when her environment was unpredictable.
• By acknowledging and communicating with her inner child, Tina can begin to alleviate her fears and doubts, allowing her to stay aligned with her dreams.
• The coaching session emphasizes the importance of developing a deeper relationship with oneself, especially the parts that feel fear, doubt, and insecurity.

How to Get Over It & On With It:

• Recognize that fear and doubt are not signs of failure but messages from parts of yourself that need care and attention.
• Develop a consistent practice of checking in with your inner child or younger self, offering reassurance and understanding.
• Allow yourself to feel your emotions fully without rushing to fix or change them. This will create a more authentic and healing experience.
• Integrate new, supportive beliefs by connecting with your inner child and affirming that you are safe and supported in your journey.

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Upcoming Events:

• Christine Hassler's upcoming retreat will be held at the end of September 2024 in Austin, Texas. Early bird pricing is available until the end of August. Register at christinehassler.com/retreat.

Social Media + Resources:

• Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment
• Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner
• Christine on Facebook
• Expectation Hangover by Christine Hassler
• @ChristineHassler on Twitter
• @ChristineHassler on Instagram
• @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram
• Email: jill@christinehassler.com — For information on any of my services!
• Get on the waitlist to be coached on the show!
• Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches!

I am thrilled to share with you the parenting expert whose work I resonate the most with. No matter how old your children are, this is a must listen! Janet Lansbury's parenting advice (www.janetlansbury.com) is quoted and shared by millions of readers worldwide. Inspired by her mentor Magda Gerber, Janet popularized "respectful parenting" and is the author of two bestselling books, Elevating Child Care: A Guide to Respectful Parenting and No Bad Kids: Toddler Discipline Without Shame. Janet is also the creator and host of "Janet Lansbury Unruffled," one of the most downloaded parenting podcasts on the web and recommended listening by The Washington Post, New York Times, The Cut, USA Today and more.  

In this episode of "Over It and On With It," Christine Hassler coaches Cassandra, who struggles with indecision. She often feels stuck, drifting through various aspects of her life rather than fully committing. At 39 years old, Cassandra is beginning to confront the deep-rooted patterns that have held her back, stemming from a traumatic and dysfunctional childhood.

Christine helps Cassandra understand that her indecision is not a personal flaw but a survival strategy developed during her chaotic upbringing. Through their coaching session, Christine encourages Cassandra to reconnect with her inner child, offering her the safety and nurturing she never received as a child, which is crucial for healing and moving forward with clarity and purpose.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

• Do you struggle to make decisions, often feeling stuck or paralyzed by overthinking?
• Have you had a chaotic or traumatic childhood that makes it difficult for you to trust yourself and others?
• Do you often find yourself drifting through life, unsure what you truly want or how to commit to it?
• Can you communicate your needs openly or bottle up emotions until they explode?

The Guest's Key Insights & A-HA's:

• Cassandra's indecision and drifting are deeply rooted in her childhood trauma, where she felt trapped and unsafe.
• Christine highlights that Cassandra's struggle is not about a lack of decision-making ability but rather a lack of self-trust and safety.
• By reconnecting with her inner child and practicing self-compassion, Cassandra can begin to break free from the patterns that keep her stuck.
• The coaching session underscores the importance of nurturing oneself and creating a safe space for personal growth and decision-making.

How to Get Over It & On With It:

• Begin to see indecision not as a flaw but as a survival mechanism that can be transformed through self-compassion and nurturing.
• Practice reconnecting with your inner child by providing the safety and love you needed growing up.
• Communicate your needs clearly and honestly in your relationships, even if it initially feels uncomfortable.
• Create small, actionable steps towards the life you envision, focusing on integration rather than over-analysis.

Show Sponsor: This week's episode is sponsored by Organifi. Organifi offers a line of organic superfood blends that provide plant-based nutrition, high-quality ingredients, and less than three grams of sugar. One of Christine's favorites is the Red Juice, a delicious superfood berry blend packed with adaptogens, antioxidants, and a clinical dose of cordyceps. It's a perfect alternative to coffee, promoting energy without caffeine and supporting your overall health. You can get 20% off all Organifi orders by visiting organifi.com/overit or using the promo code "OVERIT" at checkout.

Upcoming Events:

• Christine Hassler's upcoming retreat will be held at the end of September 2024 in Austin, Texas. Early bird pricing is available until the end of August. Register at christinehassler.com/retreat.

Social Media + Resources:

• Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment
• Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner
• Christine on Facebook
• Expectation Hangover by Christine Hassler
• @ChristineHassler on Twitter
• @ChristineHassler on Instagram
• @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram
• Email: jill@christinehassler.com — For information on any of my services!
• Get on the waitlist to be coached on the show!
• Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches!

In this episode of "Over It and On With It," Christine Hassler coaches Angela, who is struggling to connect with her inner child while grappling with anxiety. Angela's journey is marked by a history of complex PTSD, making it difficult for her to feel safe within her own body. 

Christine guides Angela in understanding that instead of trying to manage or eliminate anxiety, she can transform her relationship with it by embracing it with compassion and care.

Through a powerful coaching session, Christine helps Angela uncover the underlying fears and beliefs fueling her anxiety. The session emphasizes the importance of being present, acknowledging inner feelings, and nurturing oneself in moments of discomfort.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

• Do you spend a lot of time, energy, and effort trying to manage or eliminate emotions like anxiety?
• Have you experienced complex PTSD or other traumas that have left you feeling disconnected from your body?
• Do you feel overwhelmed with fear when stepping out of your comfort zone or putting yourself out there?
• Have you connected with the younger parts of yourself and provided them with a sense of safety and belonging in your current life?

The Guest's Key Insights & A-HA's:

• Angela's anxiety is deeply rooted in her childhood trauma and complex PTSD, leading her to feel unsafe in her own body.
• By observing and communicating with her anxiety, Angela begins to understand that it is a part of her, but not all of her.
• Christine demonstrates the power of separating oneself from overwhelming emotions, which can help one regain a sense of control and calm.
• The coaching session highlights the importance of nurturing inner parts of oneself, primarily when those parts are related to past traumas and fears.

How to Get Over It & On With It:

• Begin to view anxiety not as something to eliminate but as a part of you that needs understanding and compassion.
• Practice grounding techniques and self-soothing methods to help your nervous system feel safe in the present moment.
• Consider using the empty chair technique to separate yourself from anxiety and other overwhelming emotions, creating a dialogue that helps you manage them better.
• Embrace all parts of yourself, especially those that feel scared or vulnerable, and bring them into the present where they can feel safe and seen.

Upcoming Events:

• Christine Hassler's upcoming retreat at the end of September 2024. Early bird pricing is available until the end of August. Register at christinehassler.com/retreat.

Social Media + Resources:

• Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment
• Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner
• Christine on Facebook
• Expectation Hangover by Christine Hassler
• @ChristineHassler on Twitter
• @ChristineHassler on Instagram
• @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram
• Email: jill@christinehassler.com — For information on any of my services!
• Get on the waitlist to be coached on the show!
• Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches!

In this episode of "Over It and On With It," Christine Hassler coaches Sarah, who struggles with the complexities of a relationship that appears both deeply meaningful and deeply troubling. Sarah's situation involves a partner who alternates between emotional closeness and sudden, unexplained withdrawal, triggering Sarah's abandonment fears.

Christine helps Sarah recognize the unhealthy patterns and offers guidance on finding the strength to set necessary boundaries. Christine's compassionate yet direct approach aims to support listeners who may find themselves rationalizing toxic behaviors in their relationships due to unresolved childhood wounds.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

• Do you find yourself attracted to relationships that cause you significant stress and anxiety?
• Are you making excuses for someone's unhealthy behavior because of their past trauma or because they express emotions sincerely?
• Did you grow up in a household where you felt neglected or unloved, leading you to accept less than you deserve in relationships?
• Do you struggle with setting firm boundaries and often talk yourself into staying in relationships that don't serve you?
• Are you ready to take bold actions to change unhealthy patterns in your relationships?

The Guest's Key Insights & A-HA's:

• Sarah's intense connection with her partner is rooted in unresolved childhood abandonment issues, making her more tolerant of behaviors like ghosting and emotional withdrawal.
• Despite the partner's ability to articulate emotions, his repeated blocking and disappearing acts are red flags that cannot be overlooked.
• Christine highlights the importance of evaluating how someone handles stress and whether they take responsibility for their triggers and actions.
• The episode underscores the necessity of setting clear boundaries and recognizing when a relationship is unhealthy, regardless of the depth of emotional connection.

How to Get Over It & On With It:

• Acknowledge and address the old childhood wounds influencing your tolerance for unhealthy behaviors in relationships.
• Practice emotional and physical grounding techniques to reconnect with your sense of self-worth and power.
• Seek out trauma-informed therapy or coaching to work through past wounds in a supportive and healthy environment.
• Establish firm boundaries and recognize that justifying toxic behaviors is a coping strategy rooted in past trauma.
• Affirm your worthiness of love and respect, and take bold actions to protect your emotional well-being.

Upcoming Events:

• Christine Hassler's upcoming retreat at the end of September 2024. Early bird pricing is available until the end of August. Register at christinehassler.com/retreat.

Social Media + Resources:

• Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment
• Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner
• Christine on Facebook
• Expectation Hangover by Christine Hassler
• @ChristineHassler on Twitter
• @ChristineHassler on Instagram
• @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram
• Email: jill@christinehassler.com — For information on any of my services!
• Get on the waitlist to be coached on the show!
• Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches!

In this episode of Over It and On With It, Christine Hassler coaches Mia, who struggles with self-blame and guilt following a challenging divorce. Mia's feelings of inadequacy and self-loathing stem from a history of emotional abuse and neglect in her childhood, compounded by her recent breakup. 

Christine provides a compassionate and insightful discussion, helping Mia recognize that her pain is not her fault and offering strategies to address deep-seated beliefs and patterns. The episode aims to support listeners who might feel responsible for their suffering and struggle to break free from negative self-perceptions.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

• Do you struggle to move past events because you believe it's your fault?
• Are you stuck in a pattern of self-blame and self-loathing that prevents you from healing?
• Did you grow up in an environment where you felt neglected or abused, leading you to believe you deserve lousy treatment?
• Are you aware of any patterns of gaslighting or unhealthy relationships in your life?
• Do you find it challenging to let go of beliefs and thinking patterns that aren't serving you?

The Guest's Key Insights & A-HA's:

• Mia's self-blame and feelings of inadequacy are deeply rooted in her childhood experiences with a narcissistic family system.
• The belief that she deserves to be treated poorly is a result of internalizing abusive and neglectful behavior from her parents.
• Christine highlights that Mia's recent breakup and the blame placed on her by her ex-husband are symptoms of unresolved trauma and not reflective of her worth.
• The episode underscores the importance of differentiating between childhood trauma and current situations to avoid projecting past pain onto present circumstances.

How to Get Over It & On With It:

• Recognize and challenge the old beliefs stemming from childhood trauma that are influencing your current self-perception.
• Engage in physical and emotional grounding techniques, such as standing with feet on the floor and deep breathing, to reconnect with your sense of power and presence.
• Seek trauma-informed therapy and inner child work to address and heal from past abuse and neglect.
• Write down the facts of your situation to distinguish between reality and distorted beliefs.
• Affirm that the abuse and neglect you experienced were not your fault and that you are worthy of love and respect.

Upcoming Events:

• Christine Hassler's upcoming retreat at the end of September 2024. Early bird pricing is available until the end of August. Register at christinehassler.com/retreat.
• Free coaching call on July 31st focused on reducing stress and anxiety. Sign-up at christinehassler.com/freeworkshop.

Resources:

• Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment
• Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner
• Christine on Facebook
• Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler
• @ChristinHassler on Twitter
• @ChristineHassler on Instagram
• @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram
• Assist@ChristineHassler.com
• Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services
• Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show.
• Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

Dr. Melillo is one of the most respected specialists in neurological disorders in America, Dr. Robert Melillo has been helping children overcome learning disabilities for over 30 years. His areas of expertise include: autism spectrum disorders, PDD/NOS, ADD/ADHD, OCD, dyslexia, Asperger's, Tourette's, bipolar disorder, and other mental, attention, behavioral and learning disorders. He is also an expert in diet, nutrition and neuroimmune disorders in children and adults. He is best known for his best selling book, Disconnected Kids. He has a brand new version of this book coming out the first week of August (and is available now for pre-orders on Amazon).

 In this episode, Christine Hassler coaches Niamh, who struggles with the fear and inner critic preventing her from pursuing her passion for music. Niamh shares her journey of reconnecting with her love for music after being laid off from her corporate job.

Despite her progress, she faces a recurring block of fear, especially around visibility and judgment. Christine guides her through strategies to work with her fear rather than trying to overcome it, emphasizing the importance of nurturing and comforting the inner child.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

• Do you want to pursue a passion but feel paralyzed by fear?
• Do you have a loud inner critic that stops you from taking action?
• Do you take fear as a sign that you shouldn't do something?
• Are you afraid of judgment from others?

Guest Insights:

• Niamh has a deep passion for music but is hindered by a protective part that triggers fear and self-criticism.
• She recognizes that fear stems from childhood and struggles with visibility and harsh self-judgment.
• Niamh has tried forcing herself through fear but finds it counterproductive and re-traumatizing.

A-Ha Moments:

• Fear is not the absence of courage but moving forward despite fear.
• The inner critic often stems from past experiences where visibility and vulnerability were met with harsh judgment or unsafe situations.
• Working with fear involves nurturing the inner child and compassionately acknowledging the inner critic.

How to Get Over It and On With It:

• Slow down and break down fast-paced, subconscious thoughts to create separation from the inner critic.
• Bring the inner child into the process, comforting and holding her hand through fearful moments.
• Have a plan to support yourself if faced with negative feedback, such as deleting comments and seeking comfort.
• Write and perform songs that express the journey of dancing with fear rather than trying to overcome it.

Social Media Info:

• Follow Christine on Instagram @ChristineHassler
• Tweet your insights to Christine @ChristineHassler on Twitter

Join us next week for another insightful episode where we help you get over it and on with the life you love.

ana James MS, CNS, CDN, is a triple certified nutritionist, functional medicine practitioner and cogitative behavioral therapist. She takes a rare approach to women's weight loss and hormonal health – putting self-worth at the center of the conversation. As a self-worth expert, James has spent the past 22 years studying the complex relationship between food, metabolic issues, and emotions.

Dana has a Master of Science in Medical Nutrition from Columbia University. She is trained by Institute for Functional Medicine and the American Academy of Anti-Aging Medicine. She wrote the Amazon best selling book, The Archetype Diet, which weaves together food, hormones and self-worth. She now splits her time between Europe and US. 

In this heartfelt episode, Christine Hassler works with Pamela, who is struggling to overcome an unhealthy relationship with food stemming from unresolved childhood trauma. Pamela seeks guidance to heal herself for her well-being and to prevent passing these issues on to her daughter. Christine provides compassionate and insightful coaching, helping Pamela make significant connections and encouraging her to seek ongoing support for her healing journey.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

• Do you have an unhealthy relationship with food or another aspect of your life?
• Are there unresolved childhood traumas affecting your current behaviors?
• Have you noticed that your children are modeling unhealthy behaviors that concern you?
• Are you seeking a solution for a long-standing issue but feel stuck?

Guest Insights:

• Pamela connects her unhealthy relationship with food to childhood sexual abuse by her stepfather.
• She realizes that her behaviors are affecting her daughter, who believes confident food choices equate to receiving love.
• After disclosing her trauma to a friend, Pamela noticed a temporary improvement in her relationship with food.
• Christine guides Pamela in acknowledging her inner child's pain and understanding the roots of her trauma.

A-Ha Moments:

• Pamela understands that her obsession with food is a coping mechanism for her unresolved trauma.
• By addressing her inner child's need for validation and safety, Pamela experiences relief.
• Christine emphasizes the importance of ongoing support to heal from deep-seated trauma fully.

How to Get Over It:

• Seek therapy or coaching to address unresolved childhood traumas.
• Validate your inner child's experiences and emotions.
• Commit to a healing journey, recognizing that aha moments are just the beginning.
• Engage in inner child work and somatic practices to release trauma from the body.

Resources:

Social Media Info:

• Follow Christine on Instagram @ChristineHassler
• Tweet your insights to Christine @ChristineHassler on Twitter

Join us next week for another insightful episode where we help you get over it and on with the life you love.

In this episode I talk about the three things we *must* do if we desire freedom from the issues that are holding us back.  I also go into more detail about what to expect at my live retreat in September that you can register for here: Christinehassler.com/retreat