Explore every episode of the podcast Let's Talk Polyamory Podcast
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| Part 1: How to Get Back on Track When Your Communication Goes Off the Rails | 21 Apr 2026 | 00:10:22 | |
It’s a quickie, but a good one! An unfiltered special episode recorded from our bed! In it, we break down a real-life situation where things built up, our communication took a nosedive, and it felt like our communication went completely off the rails. We take full ownership of the destructive patterns we fell into - practicing responses, layering/stacking, “yes, but”-ing, and how HALTA (Hungry, Angry, Lonely, Tired & Anxious) was impacting us. We walk you through exactly what happened, how it unfolded, and what we did to repair, pausing, resetting, and coming back to the conversation with intention. And in Part 2, we go deeper into these patterns and show you how to shift them into more effective, connected communication + we'll share the worksheet we refer to at the end! Show Resources:
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| 80: Traveling When Non-Monogamous: What to Know Before You Go | 06 Apr 2026 | 00:33:43 | |
Planning a trip and your'e non-monogamous? Traveling comes with its own unique dynamics and things to plan for, whether you're heading out on a solo adventure or exploring with a partner or partners. In this episode, we dive into what that really looks like, and how those experiences can expand not just your world, but your relationships too. We talk about:
We also share our personal experiences and practical insights around communication, honesty, safety, and staying grounded in your relationships, no matter where you are in the world. And of course, how we make traveling fun—because yes, you can have adventure and emotional security. ✈️ Your action list if you're planning travel:
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| 79: Lifestyle Lingo | 30 Mar 2026 | 00:55:48 | |
Ever feel like the lifestyle has its own language? Well… you’re not wrong. In this bonus T&A Alphabet Series episode, we’re breaking down some of the most common and less common terms used in swinging and the lifestyle, including:
All of this is designed to help you feel more confident and informed as you explore—whether you’re brand new or already have some experience. And as we’ve said throughout this series, it’s always important to ask people what their definitions are—because these terms can mean different things to different people. Show Resources:
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| S is For Everything You Wanted to Know About Sexual Issues But Were Afraid to Ask! | 26 Mar 2026 | 00:45:44 | |
We are back with another instalment of our T&A Alphabet Series and this one is all about the letter S! We give you: S is For Everything You Wanted to Know About Sexual Issues But Were Afraid to Ask! Sexual issues are something so many people experience—but few people actually talk about. In this episode, we open up the conversation around sex, desire, identity, and connection—sharing both insights and our own real-life experiences along the way. We cover: ✨ What sexual apathy actually is—and why low desire isn’t always a problem ✨ The many emotional, physical, and relational factors that can impact sex drive ✨ Desire discrepancies in relationships and how to navigate them collaboratively ✨ The spectrum of sexual identity, orientation, and expression ✨ Why sexual health matters ✨ Common causes of sexual anxiety and how communication can shift everything Sexuality isn’t one-size-fits-all—it exists on a spectrum, and what feels right will look different for everyone. As always, we come back to one of the most powerful tools in any relationship: 💬 Talk about it. Open, honest communication—with your partners and with professionals—can change everything. If something in this episode resonates with you and you want support navigating it, you’re always welcome to reach out. We’re here to help you take your next step. Links below to connect. Show Resources:
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| 77: Let’s Talk About Sex (When We’re Not Having It or Enough of It) | 17 Mar 2026 | 00:43:29 | |
Salt-N-Pepa had it right in 1990… It’s also important to talk about sex when we’re not having it — or not having enough of it. This episode explores the complexities of mismatched sex drives in relationships, and why the difference itself is often less of a problem than the meaning couples attach to it. From our own experiences and the work we’ve done with clients, we share three things we know to be true:
When partners want different amounts of sex, it can quickly lead to resentment, pressure, and painful assumptions about attraction, love, and unmet needs. In this conversation, we explore how these dynamics develop and why communication, understanding, and creative solutions are essential for maintaining intimacy and connection. We also get personal, sharing how differences in desire show up in our own relationship — including how menopause and pain have impacted Tara’s desire and what she’s been exploring to navigate that. Along the way, we discuss concepts like responsive desire and how understanding different desire styles can shift the conversation. We also share practical tools and conversation approaches couples can use to move away from the blame game and toward solutions that honour both partners’ needs — whether they’re in monogamous or non-monogamous relationships. Chapters: 00:00 - Understanding Different Sex Drives 02:42 - Navigating Relationship Dynamics 05:29 - The Importance of Communication 08:22 - Resentment and Its Roots 11:12 - The Role of Internal Narratives 13:59 - Breaking the Silence on Sex 16:44 - Building Trust Through Open Dialogue 22:52 - Exploring Non-Monogamy as a Solution 25:14 - The Importance of Communication in Relationships 26:18 - Redefining Intimacy Beyond Sex 28:04 - Tools for Reestablishing Intimacy 30:35 - Understanding Desire Styles 34:29 - Finding Solutions Together 38:47 - Final Thoughts on Navigating Desire Differences Show Resources:
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| 76: R is for Really Great Relationship, Sex and Polyamory R-Words | 03 Mar 2026 | 00:47:46 | |
We’re back with another episode of our T&A Alphabet Series! This is an all-new episode on the letter R — and you’re REALLY going to REVEL in this jam-packed conversation. We’re covering a range of relationship, sex and polyamory/non-monogamy terms grouped into three themes:
It’s a truly robust episode filled with really helpful R words like:
We cover over 20 different words — with deeper dives into topics like relationship agreements and relationship reviews using the RAADAR method, rope play (Shibari), and responsive desire. Get ready for a rich, reflective, and maybe even a little risqué ride through the Rs. Many of the words we explore here (and throughout our T&A Alphabet Series) are also part of our upcoming project, The Little Book of Poly Love 💖 Join the waitlist to be the first to know when it’s published and pops into the world: https://go.letstalkpolyamory.com/polylovebook-waitlist Show Resources:
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| 75: Q is For Queer: Understanding Queer Identity | 02 Mar 2026 | 00:41:16 | |
We’re back with another episode of our T&A Alphabet Series! Many earlier episodes were originally delivered as live trainings inside our Let’s Talk Polyamory Podcast private Facebook community. In this episode, recorded in 2021, we dive into the letter Q — Queer — exploring identity, fluidity, heteronormativity, mononormativity, intersectionality, visibility, mental health, and the intersection of queerness and consensual non-monogamy. We talk about definitions of queer, how marginalization can impact mental health, and common misconceptions about being queer and polyamorous. We also share some statistics—though at the time of recording, specific data on people identifying as “queer” was limited. We share our personal experiences with queerness: what it was like growing up, coming to queer identity later in life, and how our relationship has opened us to limitless sexual and emotional expression. Tara shares her journey coming out to family as queer and dating a woman before embracing polyamory, and André shares his experiences with family and how the reactions varied. We also invite your reflections in the comments:
Note: We did our best with the video and audio quality, but it isn’t perfect. As we felt the content is worth sharing, we're sharing it anyway! Chapters 00:00 - Introduction 00:35 - Exploring the Term 'Queer' 02:37 - Personal Identities and Experiences with Queerness 07:10 - Definitions and Understanding of Queerness 10:48 - Navigating Heteronormativity and Mononormativity 15:04 - Reflections on Coming Out and Self-Identification 19:21 - Redefining Queerness: Beyond Labels 26:42 - Intersectionality and Mental Health in the LGBTQ+ Community 30:08 - Navigating Polyamory and Queerness 31:00 - Coming Out Stories: Personal Experiences and Family Dynamics Resources:
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| 74: P is for Polyamory and a Plethora of P Words | 03 Feb 2026 | 00:27:43 | |
We’re back with another playful, passionate, and slightly provocative instalment of our much-loved T&A Alphabet Series! These episodes originally began as live trainings inside our Let’s Talk Polyamory private Facebook community, and this one has been freshly updated and pleasantly packed just for you. In this episode, we dive playfully into the letter P — and as the title suggests, it’s not just about polyamory. Oh no. It’s a plentiful, punchy, and sometimes polarizing collection of P words that show up in conversations about relationships, sex, and non-monogamy. Here’s a taste of what we cover:
And if you patiently persevere to the end… the sexiest P words make an appearance too 🔥 Think PIV, promiscuity, period sex, and more. Preparing for this episode was pure pleasure given the practically limitless P words we could have covered. Not all of them made it into the podcast — so yes, this episode is “just the tip.” 😏 Many of the words we explore here (and throughout our T&A Alphabet Series) are also part of our upcoming project, The Little Book of Poly Love 💖 Join the waitlist to be the first to know when it’s published and pops into the world: 📖 Chapters 00:00 Introduction to Polyamory and P Words 01:30 Understanding Polyamory and Its Types 03:18 Exploring Polyfidelity and Polycules 06:02 Defining Poly Intimates and Polysaturation 08:06 Polyamory Under Duress 09:52 Primary Partners and Power Dynamics 13:50 Pansexuality and Paraphilia Explained 15:54 Passive Aggressive and Direct 16:46 Sexual Terms: PIV, PIA, and PIM 17:41 Promiscuity: Gender Perspectives and Cultural Views 20:14 Play and Period Sex: Breaking Taboos 23:36 The P-Spot and Male Pleasure Show Resources:
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| 73: Am I Still Polyamorous (Even If I'm Not Actively "Practicing" It)? | 27 Jan 2026 | 00:35:12 | |
Welcome to Season 3! We’re so excited to be back with a brand new season filled with all the conversations you love — and more. This season, we’ll be continuing our T&A Alphabet Series with episodes dropping throughout the year, and we’ll also be welcoming new guests to the podcast. If you’d like to be a guest, or know someone who would be a great fit, we’d love to hear from you. The idea for this episode emerged while we were in Mexico over the holidays, where we found ourselves revisiting a question we return to often: Can someone still be polyamorous — an identity we both hold — even when they’re not actively “practicing” it? In this episode, we explore the evolving nature of polyamory as both an identity and a practice. We reflect on our recent experiences with dating and not dating, what has shifted in our personal and professional lives, and how our priorities continue to change over time. André also shares about a recent connection with someone who does not identify as non-monogamous, including what it was like to navigate that experience (spoiler alert: it's been very positive), how it felt to share it with Tara, and the real-time conversations that followed. Tara reflects on her own experience of learning that André was feeling new relationship energy (NRE), and what that brought up for her. Along the way, we dive into the importance of communication when navigating new connections, explore NRE in long-term relationships, and discuss the values that underpin polyamory / non-monogamy as a relational identity. We also share listener reflections around identity, values, and how these ideas show up in different seasons of life. This conversation emphasizes that identifying as polyamorous can remain true even during phases of less active dating, and invites listeners to reflect on their own relational identities, values, and intentions for the future. Chapters 00:00: Welcome to Season Three 01:31: Reflections on Identity and Polyamory 04:47: Exploring Relational Identity 07:24: Navigating New Relationships 10:08: The Dynamics of Non-Monogamy 12:53: Understanding New Relationship Energy 15:32: Balancing Relationships and Personal Growth 18:07: Navigating Non-Monogamy: Embracing Other Connections 21:38: Defining Polyamory: Identity vs. Practice 25:15:The Emotional Landscape of Polyamory 28:08: Polyamory as an Evolving Identity 31:51: Listener suggested reflections Show Resources:
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| 72: O is for Open Relating, Orgasms, Oral and Other Ohs… | 23 Dec 2025 | 00:43:16 | |
We’re back with another juicy instalment of our T&A Alphabet Series! Many of these episodes began as live trainings inside our Let’s Talk Polyamory private Facebook community, and this one has been freshly re-recorded, updated, and expanded just for you. In this episode, we dive into the letter O — and yes, we save the biggest O for last 😉 O is for Open Relating, Orgasms, Oral, and Other Ohs… We explore a wide range of O topics while providing thoughtful insights into each one, with a strong emphasis on consent, communication, and understanding. Along the way, we share personal experiences and offer practical, real-world advice to help you deepen intimacy, navigate complexity, and enhance pleasure in your relationships in ways that feel aligned and sustainable. This episode covers:
And finally, our perfectly timed CLIMAX: ORGASMS ✨ We talk about what orgasms actually are, different types of orgasms, what happens in the body when we orgasm, facts and myths, faking it, common challenges, and what you can do to increase pleasure — with or without orgasm as the goal. Equal parts educational, playful, and grounding, this episode supports listeners who are exploring relationship dynamics, strengthening intimacy, or simply wanting better conversations about sex, pleasure, and connection. 📖 Episode Chapters: 00:00 Introduction and Episode Overview 02:22 Open Relating Definition 03:10 Orgies & Consent 04:48 Being Out and Outed 09:08 Understanding Obligations in Relationships 09:55 Oral Sex 12:37 Outer Course 14:46 Understanding Orgasms & The Types of Orgasms 20:56 What Happens to Your Brain & Body During Orgasm 24:23 Studies and Facts about Orgasms 30:22 Faking It 34:00 Techniques for Enhancing Pleasure 37:58 Sensate Focus and Intimacy 39:45 The Importance Self-Exploration & Masterbation 42:08 Conclusion and Call to Action Show Resources:
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| 71: N is for the Nine N Words You Need to Know | 08 Dec 2025 | 00:29:54 | |
We’re back with another episode in our T&A Alphabet Series! Many earlier episodes were originally delivered as live trainings inside our Let’s Talk Polyamory private Facebook community. This one is a freshly re-recorded instalment — updated, expanded, and shaped by listener requests. In this episode we are diving into the letter N with The Nine N Words You Need to Know! We explore key “N” words that often come up in non-monogamous relationships. We talk about non-negotiables, the meaning and impact of names and titles, necrophilia, and neediness in relationships—when it can be a call for support and when it might negatively impact the connection. We also cover nesting partners, the importance of the word no and recognizing both verbal and body-language cues, and what it looks like to normalize non-monogamy in everyday life. Plus, we touch on numbers (a.k.a. body count of sexual partners) and nudism, and why these conversations matter. This is a fun, thoughtful, and wide-ranging episode we know you’ll enjoy! Want to hear T&A live? Join them on December 10, 2025 for Reconnect Wednesday at the Mermaid Lounge just outside Toronto. Information about the Mermaid Lounge at https://mermaidlounge.ca/. Tickets at https://thexclub.net/event_description.php?event=452. 📖 Episode Chapters: 00:00 - Introduction 01:38 - Exploring Non-Negotiables in Relationships 03:56- Names and Titles in Non-Monogamous Relationships 05:46 - Understanding Necrophilia 10:30 - Navigating Neediness 12:11 - Nesting & Nesting Partners 13:08 - Nipples and Nipple Play 15:45 - No when shared verbally or through body language 17:53 Normalization of Non-Monogamy 21:21 Nudism and Naturism 24:25 Discussing Numbers in Relationships Show Resources:
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| 70: M is for the 5 Ways to Make Sure Your COMMUNICATION is not MISCOMMUNICATION | 25 Nov 2025 | 00:52:20 | |
We’re back with another episode of our T&A Alphabet Series! These episodes were originally delivered as live trainings on Mondays inside our Let’s Talk Polyamory private Facebook community, and over the last few months we’ve been uploading them to all major podcast platforms. Today’s episode is all about the letter M — and it’s a good one. In this episode, we explore:
We also share an analogy that highlights the difference between genuine communication and miscommunication, plus a personal example of a moment between us where emotions were high and things got a little “heated” — and what we learned from it. Want to hear T&A live?Join us on December 10, 2025 for Reconnect Wednesday at the Mermaid Lounge just outside Toronto. Learn more about the Mermaid Lounge at mermaidlounge.ca. Grab tickets at thexclub.net/event_description.php?event=452 Show Resources:
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| 69: Consent is Sexy: Why Enthusiastic Consent Is So Important | 11 Nov 2025 | 01:02:14 | |
Consent isn’t just about saying yes or no, it is much more complex than that. In this episode, Tara and André discuss and explore the nuances of consent in intimate interactions, emphasizing that consent is not a one-time agreement but an active, ongoing conversation that involves both people every step of the way. They unpack what enthusiastic consent really means, how it plays out in different settings like dates, parties, and clubs, and why the idea of “ongoing consent” or “ask once” don’t apply. Instead, consent is a living, dynamic process — one that deepens trust, connection, and genuine desire. And each person plays an active role and responsibility in ensuring mutual comfort. You’ll also hear about some of the most common frameworks used to understand consent — from FRIES (Freely given, Reversible, Informed, Enthusiastic, Specific, developed by Planned Parenthood) and CRISP (Considered, Reversible, Informed Specific, Participant) to frameworks used in the kink community such as SSC (Safe, Sane, Consensual) and RACK (Risk-Aware Consensual Kink). As well as the Yes, No, Maybe List. Each of these helps shape awareness, yet none replace real-time communication. Tara and André share examples of what consent can sound like in the moment even in non-sexual environments - for example a recent example where Tara asked someone - Would you be open to me giving you a compliment?”, why asking builds connection rather than killing the mood, and how saying — or hearing — a clear no can be just as sexy as an enthusiastic yes. And finally they talk about consent and law. This conversation reminds us that consent is the heartbeat of healthy intimacy — an evolving, mutual agreement that requires awareness, communication, and care. Want to hear T&A live? Join them on December 10, 2025 for Reconnect Wednesday at the Mermaid Lounge just outside Toronto. Information about the Mermaid Lounge at https://mermaidlounge.ca/. Tickets at https://thexclub.net/event_description.php?event=452. 📖 Episode Chapters: 3:07 Understanding Consent 6:07 Ongoing Consent: Myths & Realities 12:21 Consent Frameworks 23:14 The Nuances of Consent 34:25 Navigating Compliments & Consent 40:20 Consent in Different Scenarios 55:50 The Legal Landscape of Consent Show Resources:
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| 68: Sex & Lifestyle Clubs 101: What to Expect and How to Prepare (Live from the Mermaid Lounge) | 04 Nov 2025 | 00:33:01 | |
Ever wondered what it’s really like to go to a sex or lifestyle club for the first time — and what to do to prepare? Or maybe you’ve been before and the experience wasn’t what you hoped? In this special episode Tara is live on location at the Mermaid Lounge just outside Toronto, Ontario, joined by Event Host Amy,! Together, they explore what to expect when visiting a lifestyle space — from atmosphere and etiquette to safety, consent, and connection. You’ll get an insider tour of the newly renovated Mermaid Lounge and adjoining X-Club and hear practical guidance for what to do before, during, and after your visit to spaces like these so the experience feels positive, secure, and aligned with your personal values and boundaries. Included in this discussion is how to plan before the event with a partner — including what scenarios you’re open to exploring and how you’ll check-in throughout the visit and communicate if one of you feels uncomfortable or needs support once you’re there. Even with the best planning, emotions can arise, so having a shared plan for navigating them helps everyone feel safe and connected. Whether you’re curious, nervous, or simply exploring new sides of your sexuality, this episode will help you feel prepared and confident. 🎧 Tune in for:
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| 67: Breaking Taboos in Sex & Relationships - Part 2 | 14 Oct 2025 | 00:52:55 | |
In Part 2 we continue our deep dive into the complex world of sex, relationships, and the taboos that shape them. We explore what makes certain topics so charged, how our personal experiences influence what we consider “off-limits,” and why breaking taboos can lead to more honest and connected relationships. 💬 In this episode:
It’s a thoughtful, candid conversation about where our edges come from, how they evolve, and why it’s worth questioning them in pursuit of deeper authenticity and connection. ✨ Catch us live!We will be at Booth 322 at the Toronto Taboo Show, October 17–19, 2025. We will be giving seminars Friday at 6:30 PM and Saturday at 8:30 PM on Non-Monogamy Essentials: Making it Secure, Satisfying, and Sexy! 📖 Episode Chapters: 00:00 — Breaking Taboos in Sex and Relationships 05:20 — Exploring Non-Monogamy and Its Misunderstandings 10:48 — Personal Experiences with Sexuality and Openness 16:37 — Addressing Common Taboos and Myths in Non-Monogamy 25:08 — Navigating Relationship Taboos 29:14 — The Complexity of Secret Partners 31:55 — Reprioritizing Partners in Non-Monogamy 36:21 — Challenging Myths About Polyamory 38:58 — Sexual Health and Multiple Partners 40:40 — Consent and Altered States 41:43 — The Pressure of “Best” Sex 44:11 — The Importance of Breaking Taboos Show Resources:
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| 66: Breaking Taboos in Sex & Relationships - Part 1 - With Special Guest Darryl Rosengreen from the Taboo Show | 11 Oct 2025 | 00:18:56 | |
In this episode, Tara sits down with Darryl Rosengreen, VP of Marketing and Promotion—and one of the owners—of The Taboo Show, to explore breaking taboos in sex and relationships. Together, they talk about how events like The Taboo Show create safe, inclusive spaces for people to learn, explore, and get curious about sexuality, kink, and relationships. Tara and Darryl share how these environments can inspire conversations you may not have had before—or didn’t know how to start—and help normalize talking about sex, sexuality, and intimacy in fun and educational ways. 💬 In this episode:
✨ Catch us live at Taboo!T&A will be at Booth 322 at the Toronto Taboo Show, October 17–19, 2025. We'll also be speaking on Friday at 6:30 PM and Saturday at 8:30 PM on Non-Monogamy Essentials: Making it Secure, Satisfying, and Sexy! 🎟️ We’re also doing a draw for free tickets to the show! Enter at https://events.letstalkpolyamory.com/taboo2025draw before October 12 for your chance to win. 📖 Episode Chapters:00:00 — Introduction to Taboo Topics in Relationships03:46 — Exploring Taboos in Sex and Relationships07:56 — The Taboo Show Experience13:51 — Breaking Down Taboos Around Sex 16:46 — Advice for First-Time Attendees Show Resources:
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| 65: L is for Lube, Libido, Lingerie, Lifestyle, L’Amour + More | 30 Sep 2025 | 00:38:18 | |
We’re back with another episode in our T&A Alphabet Series—where we explore the big topics around non-monogamy, relationships, and sex, one letter at a time. These episodes were originally live trainings in our Let’s Talk Polyamory private Facebook group, and over the past year we’ve been releasing them onto podcast platforms. At the very start of Season 1, we shared L is for 5 Steps From Limitations to Liberation. Now, we’re circling back with a brand-new episode—because “L” deserves way more LOVE. In this episode, we dive into a lineup of L’s: Lube, Libido, Latex, Lingerie, Love, Lies, Lust vs. Longing, Layering, Lifestyle, Leather, and Labia. We take a playful and practical approach to breaking these down, sharing our own personal stories and examples from our work. You’ll hear why lube is a game-changer (at any age), what lingerie really means (and if men have it too), and how destructive communication like layering sneaks into relationships. We also dive deeper into libido and desire — what spontaneous vs. responsive desire actually looks like, how libido shifts over time, and what to do when there’s a mismatch in your relationship. Spoiler: it’s not all about “fixing” it — it’s about planning ahead, knowing mismatches are inevitable at some point, and building the communication skills to talk about it openly when it happens. Join us for a mix of humour, honesty, and depth in exploring love, sex, and polyamory! Show Resources:
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| 64: K is for Kink, Kitchen Table Polyamory & Kissing + Other K Words | 20 Sep 2025 | 00:54:08 | |
We’re back with our T&A Alphabet Series! These episodes were originally live trainings in our Let’s Talk Polyamory private Facebook group. Over the last few months, we’ve been uploading them onto podcast platforms, but this time we’re bringing you a brand new episode. Today’s episode is all about the letter K! We bring you: K is for Kink, Kitchen Table Polyamory & Kissing + Other K Words Here’s what we cover in this episode:
And a few others! We also slide in some other topics like vetos, consent, communication, poly-saturated, metamours and more! What did we miss? Let us know in the comments! ✨ Bonus: We’re also linking our original K is for Kink talk in the show notes, where we go much deeper into all things kink, including how to get started if you’re curious. Want more? Sign up to be the first to know when our Little Book of Poly Love is released—a pocket-sized guide to the words and wisdom that make relationships work. https://go.letstalkpolyamory.com/polylovebook-waitlist Show Resources:
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| 63: Labels in Non-Monogamy: What’s Right (or Not) for Me? | 09 Sep 2025 | 00:29:24 | |
Do labels in non-monogamy give you clarity—or do they feel like a box you don’t want to fit into? Labels in non-monogamy—love them or hate them, they’re everywhere. For some people, labels bring clarity and a sense of belonging. For others, they feel restrictive or unnecessary. The truth? Whether labels are important is a personal choice. In this short but powerful episode from our Let’s Talk Polyamory Facebook group archives (saved before Facebook removed all group livestreams), we explore the role of labels in consensual non-monogamy and ask: What’s right for me? We start with the basics:✅ What do labels actually mean, and why do some people use them?✅ Introducing GSERD—Gender, Sexual, Erotic, Relational Diversity—as one way of identifying yourself.✅ A high-level overview of Jessica Fern’s Styles of Non-Monogamy diagram, which maps different relationship styles onto quadrants of high-to-low sexual and emotional exclusivity—and how you can use it to explore what feels right for you. (For a deeper dive into these styles, check out S1, Episode 7: How We Love: What Style of Non-Monogamy is Right for Me? episode.) From there, we talk about:✅ Deciding what labels (if any) align with your values and relationships✅ What you’d like your partners to call you—whether that’s boyfriend, girlfriend, boo, FWB, or something entirely your own ✨ If you haven’t already, download our free worksheet—What Style of Consensual Non-Monogamy is Right for Me?—which includes Jessica Fern’s diagram and reflection prompts to help you map out your own place on the spectrum. Get it here: https://worksheet.letstalkpolyamory.com/cnmstyle Other Show Resources:
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| 62: Carversations: Can Love Be Repaired | 25 Aug 2025 | 00:22:22 | |
We’re continuing our summer 🚗 road trip through the Gaspésie in Quebec and into the Maritime provinces—New Brunswick, Nova Scotia (including Cape Breton), and Prince Edward Island and it's been beyond what we ever imagined! We've discovered parts of 🇨🇦 Canada we hadn’t visited before, and, using the Home Exchange platform has not only saved us money ($0 for accommodations using points earned from others staying in our homes) but has allowed us to stay in some pretty awesome places and meet really great people along the way! Link in the the show resources to find out more and get a bonus 250pts when signing up! As we travel, we’re recording these bite-sized Carversations just for you! In this episode, we dive into a question that comes up often in relationships: Can love be repaired? We explore what conditions need to be present for real repair to happen—like willingness from both partners, acknowledgment of what has happened, and the ability to take responsibility for our part. We talk about how different factors may influence whether repair is possible: loss of trust or an egregious action, attachment styles, misaligned values, or differing visions for the future (such as whether or not to live together). We also dig into why “determination” alone isn’t enough, and how time—or even taking breaks—can sometimes play a role in the repair process (and yes, we have a healthy debate about this!). Along the way, we highlight the importance of reflection, honest communication, and taking concrete action toward change—not just talking about it. We’d love to hear from you, too—have you ever had to repair a relationship? What did you do, did it work (or not), and what advice would you share with others? Share your thoughts in the comments on this episode, answer the poll or join the discussion in our Let’s Talk Polyamory Facebook Group. We refer to our 36 Questions episode and recommend that you listen to it and download our free resources which both the original 36 questions plus our 36 additional ones. Links below. And if you’re in the middle of trying to repair a relationship and want support, we’ve got you covered:
Since we were recording on the road, the sound isn’t studio-perfect—there was a bit of background noise and static we did our best to fix—but we hope you’ll still find this Carversation practical and helpful. Show Resources:
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| 61: Carversations: Road Trip Relationship Reviews & Check-Ins | 13 Aug 2025 | 00:34:55 | |
Sometimes the best place for a relationship check-in isn’t over coffee or at the kitchen table—it’s in the car, somewhere between snack stops and scenic views. 🚗✨ We’re continuing our summer road trip through the Gaspésie in Quebec and into the Maritimes, and along the way we’re recording these bite-sized Carversations. In this episode, we share two different versions of relationship check-ins you can try, including the RAADAR Method—originally from the Multiamory Podcast but with our own extra “A”. RAADAR stands for Review, Agenda, Affirm & Connect (our add-on), Discussion, Actions, and Reconnect - a practice we teach to our clients and in our Poly Newbies Digital Course - which helps keep these reviews structured, connected, and productive. We also share a few easy starter questions you can use for your next road trip check-in, and we get personal by answering them ourselves:
🎧 Heads up: This episode was recorded on the road, so you’ll hear a bit of “road trip ambiance” in the background—consider it part of the experience! 💬 We’d love to hear your ideas!
Join the conversation in the episode comments or in our Let’s Talk Polyamory Facebook group. Show Resources:
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| 60: Carversations: Travelling When Polyamorous or Open | 09 Aug 2025 | 00:25:24 | |
It’s summertime in 🇨🇦Canada, and we’re on a road trip adventure! Following the gorgeous Route 132 along the St. Lawrence in Gaspésie, Quebec, and winding our way into the Maritimes, we’re discovering more of this big, beautiful country… and, as we do we end up having plenty of short, topical chats from the car. Or as we like to call them—Carversations which we've decide to share with you! Our first Carversation? Travelling While Polyamorous or Openly Non-Monogamous! In this episode, we dive into:🚗 Choosing destinations that fit your vibe💖 Finding community wherever you roam 🌈LGBTQIA+ travel⚡️ Doing your pre-trip research🧳 Solo poly travel tips🛠 Special travel considerations 🔥General hot tips for any travel - like downloading Google offline maps + eSIM cards …and more! 🎧 Heads up: This episode was recorded while driving, so you’ll hear a little road trip ambiance in the background. We used microphones and cleaned up the audio as much as possible—consider it part of the travel experience. In this episode we refer to our T&A Sex Clubs, Lifestyle Destinations and Communities Around the World—a community-sourced guide where you can add clubs or destinations you’ve visited, along with insider tips (think special features, facilities, or what makes them unique). If you’ve got a recommendation, we’d love to hear it! You can also add local community groups or organizations that are poly-friendly! Link below! Show Resources:
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| 59: How to Attract (And Keep) Better Poly Partners | 16 Jul 2025 | 00:39:17 | |
In this episode we’re digging into the archives to bring you a conversation that originally aired live in our Let’s Talk Polyamory private Facebook group. Since Facebook now only stores live videos for 30 days, we’re working behind the scenes to download and share some of those gems here on the podcast. In this episode, we dive into a question we hear all the time: How do I attract (and keep) better poly partners? Whether you’re new to non-monogamy or have been dating for a while, this episode is full of insight, real stories, and practical tools. We talk about:
We also share how our Securely Polyamorous Framework—which we teach in our course and coaching program—applies directly to dating and the process of meeting and keeping great partners. We explore things like communication attunement, knowing what you want, setting personal boundaries, creating values-based agreements and nurturing connections that are built to last. And if you’ve ever found yourself attracting people who aren’t a fit (or who vanish after a great first date), we talk about the unconscious ways that might be happening—and what you can do to shift it. 🎁 BONUS! This week, we’re sharing our Online Dating Guide which includes:✅ A list of our favourite dating sites for non-monogamous folks✅ Tips for writing a standout profile✅ An online dating checklist✅ Links to related trainings and podcasts👉Download it for free here: https://go.letstalkpolyamory.com/onlinedatingguide 💬 Want to connect with others who get it? Join our private Facebook group:🔗 https://www.facebook.com/groups/letstalkpolyamory ⚡️ Curious about Coaching? Sign up for a Pay What You Can Coaching Call with Tara at: 🔗 https://go.taraandandre.com/pwyccoachingsession ⚡️Looking for Therapy? Book a complimentary therapy consultation with André Turcotte at https://book.a-psych-online.com/therapyconsultation ✨You can also explore other ways to work with us as well as access other great resources at:🔗 https://www.taraandandre.com | |||
| 58: What Does It Mean to Be Visible? Being Out and Open as Polyamorous | 09 Jul 2025 | 00:51:53 | |
At the time of recording this episode, it’s the Week of Visibility for Non-Monogamy — July 7–13, 2025. This global campaign and week of action, created by Open Love NY, celebrates the many ways people love, connect, and relate outside of monogamy—including polyamory, open relationships, relationship anarchy, swinging, and more. The Week of Visibility exists to:
In this episode, we explore what it means to be visible as people who practice consensual non-monogamy. We reflect on our own experiences around coming out—Tara shares in detail what it was like to come out as non-monogamous to her family, why it mattered, how we prepared, what happened, and how it’s going now. André shares about coming out to his mother—and her openness to the idea and her love. We also walk through each day’s theme from the Week of Visibility: History & Culture, Identity & Inclusion, Myths & Misconceptions, Public & Private, Law & Advocacy, and Integration & Reflection. For each, we offer personal reflections and suggest actions you can take to explore what visibility looks like for you—whether that means being out and proud, private and processing, or somewhere in between. 💜 IMPORTANT NOTE:We’re offering visibility as an invitation, not a prescription.Visibility is powerful—but it’s not always accessible or safe. You are allowed to choose what’s right for you. 🔗 Mentioned in the Show:
📝 Connect with Us We’re Tara & André—coaches, educators, and polyamory advocates helping people create secure, satisfying, and sexy non-monogamous relationships. 📱 Instagram → https://www.instagram.com/taraandandre/ ⚡️ TikTok →https://www.tiktok.com/@letstalkpolyamory 🌐 Learn more about our programs and services or book a consultation call → https://www.taraandandre.com | |||
| 57: Relationship Burnout: How to Make LRE feel like NRE Again | 30 Jun 2025 | 00:51:22 | |
Feeling disconnected or depleted in your long-term relationship while totally lit up by someone new? You're not broken—and neither is your relationship. This is a natural progression of relationships, but it doesn't have to be the death knell! In this episode of the Let’s Talk Polyamory Podcast, we explore what happens when burnout shows up in your long-term relationship—often the one where you share a home, kids, responsibilities or calendar—while you’re riding the high of New Relationship Energy (NRE) somewhere else. Inspired by a recent CNN article and relationship expert Esther Perel’s insights, we unpack the real causes of burnout: emotional labor, domestic imbalance, identity loss, over-functioning, and the exhaustion of being the constant container for your partner’s emotions. We also share our own personal stories about what helps us keep our long-term relationship feeling playful, connected, and fresh—even while managing real-life stressors. From RAADAR Relationship Reviews and quality time rituals, to creating intentional transitions around new connections, we’ll walk you through practical ways to rekindle the energy you crave—including simple habits backed by research, like the Gottmans’ 5:1 ratio of positive to negative interactions that helps relationships stay strong and emotionally resilient. In this episode, we cover:💡 What burnout really looks like in long-term relationships🧯 The top causes of relationship fatigue (hint: it’s not just about desire)💘 Why NRE feels so good—and how to channel that energy intentionally into other relationship🛠️ Tools for making LRE feel exciting again (without pretending it’s brand new)👫 Our own practices for keeping long-term love feeling alive 💌 Ready for deeper support? Check out our Poly Newbies Digital Course or join us in the next round of our Polyamory Mastery Program. Links in the show resources below👇 Show Resources:
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| 56: Should Polyamory Be Part of 🏳️🌈Pride Celebrations? | 23 Jun 2025 | 00:21:35 | |
Re-released in honour of Toronto Pride! June is 🏳️🌈Pride Month in many parts of the world, including here in Toronto, where we've proudly participated in both official and unofficial Pride events over the years—including walking in the parade. One question that often sparks lively debate is: Should relational identities like polyamory be included in Pride? Some argue that Pride is about celebrating sexual and gender identities, and that polyamory and other relational identities don't belong under that umbrella. Others believe that polyamory is a valid identity that deserves visibility—especially when legal recognition, social support, and relationship rights are still lacking. In this episode, we make an intentional effort to explore both sides of this discussion—sharing different perspectives on where polyamory fits within the broader 2SLGBTQIA+ movement. We also touch on the history of how Pride began and the deeper roots of what this celebration represents. We’re revisiting a conversation originally recorded in our private Let’s Talk Polyamory Facebook group. At the time, we had been running our weekly livestream series Mondays with Tara and André there —something we started during the pandemic as a way to stay connected, offer support, and spark real conversations. You’ll hear us share a little bit about how that came to be at the beginning of the episode. This particular livestream was recorded just before the 2022 Toronto Pride Parade, when we organized a walking float with members of our community. We did it again in 2023, that time in collaboration with Polyamorous Living Toronto! ⭐️ The sound and video quality isn’t studio-perfect (neither are we!), but we’ve done our best to clean it up. We hope this episode sparks meaningful dialogue—because that’s what Pride is all about. Let us know in the Comments what you think: And share your PRIDE stories and photos in our Let's Talk Polyamory group - https://www.facebook.com/groups/letstalkpoly Show Resources:
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| 55: The 36 Questions that May Lead to Love… and the Other 36 to Stay in Love | 10 Jun 2025 | 00:45:14 | |
In 1997, psychologists Arthur Aron and Elaine Aron published the results of a study in the Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin exploring how emotional intimacy between strangers could be accelerated through structured vulnerability. Their method? A series of 36 questions, divided into three sets that become increasingly personal—and it worked. The list became more widely known in 2015 when writer Mandy Len Catron shared her experience with the questions in her viral New York Times article, “To Fall in Love With Anyone, Do This.” She tried the questions herself—and fell in love. But what happens after you fall in love? We recently revisited the original 36 questions as a couple, and while we loved the experience, we felt there were some essential conversations these questions didn't cover, especially if you’re planning to live together, share a life, or deepen a long-term relationship . The result...our own follow-up list: The Other 36 Questions You Need to Ask to Stay in Love These are questions we believe every couple (or triad, or quad!) should ask—regardless of how you identify across the spectrum of monogamy to non-monogamy. Here’s what we felt was missing—and what we intentionally added:
In this episode, we share our experience answering the original 36 questions together, highlight a few of our favourite prompts and how we answered them, and introduce you to our full list of additions—including why we believe they matter! 📝 Free Resource: We created a downloadable one-pager with all 72 questions—the original 36 plus our “Other 36”—grouped by theme, so you can explore them at your own pace. Whether you're starting something new or rekindling a long-term relationship, these questions are a powerful way to build deeper intimacy, open honest conversations, and get to know your partner(s) on a whole new level. Show Resources:
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| J is for JEALOUSY & the 7 Things You Can Do to Feel More SECURE | 28 May 2025 | 00:34:58 | |
Jealousy… no one wants to feel it, and many of us hope if we ignore it, it’ll just go away. But like going to the dentist, it’s something that’s good for you—and like a cavity, jealousy has to be addressed. This episode is part of our T&A Alphabet Series, where we explore the big topics around non-monogamy, relationships, and sex—one letter at a time. Originally broadcast as a live training in our Let’s Talk Polyamory private Facebook community, we bring you J is for Jealousy! Whether you like it or not, you’re going to encounter jealousy—your own or someone else’s. How will you be affected by it? How will you handle it? That’s what we’re exploring in this conversation. We talk about what jealousy really is, and the deeper emotions that often fuel it—like insecurity, fear, lack of safety, and uncertainty. We might sense a threat that our partner could be “taken” from us, and that fear can lead to reactive behaviors that don’t serve us or our relationships. We also offer practical guidance for working through jealousy, including 7 strategies to shift your mindset, communicate better, and reconnect with what’s good in your relationship—rather than clinging tightly or spiralling into worst-case scenarios. And we remind you: jealousy isn’t all bad. It’s an internal alert system. It means there’s something worth paying attention to. This episode touches on one of the core modules of our Polyamory Mastery program—our deep dive signature group coaching experience for people ready to create secure, satisfying, and sexy non-monogamous relationships. We’ll be running a small-group spring cohort. If you’re interested, reach out to tara@hello.taraandandre.com and visit taraandandre.com/polyamorymastery for more details on the program. Show Resources:
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| 53: Where Are We Now? De-escalation One Year Later | 20 May 2025 | 00:49:17 | |
Almost a year ago and just shy of 7 years of being together, we made a decision to de-escalate our non-monogamous relationship. It was met with a lot of questions and concerns from close friends and family - are you breaking up? Do you no longer love each other etc. We even released a special podcast on this topic - (S1. Ep 16) Is It Time To Deescalate My Relationship - and yet there were still some skeptics! And now, over 365 days later, reflecting on this experience, we know it was the absolute right decision for us (even though there were some tough spots to navigate) and has in fact strengthened our connection! In this deeply personal episode we catch you up on what prompted the decision, how we felt at the time, how it went and how things are now! We also review what de-escalation means and how it differs from breaking up, and the types of situations that might prompt this kind of change in a relationship. And for those who don’t intend on de-escalating, or stop living together, we share examples of how you can breathe more life into your relationships by spending intentional time together and creating space and time to restore your own independence. Exciting news: As we announced in this episode we are considering running a Spring cohort of our Polyamory Mastery group coaching program—but we need at least 5 couples (or individuals) to commit to make it happen. This is our deeper dive group coaching experience for people who are looking for real transformation, and support that actually makes a difference in creating secure, satisfying and sexy non monogamous relationships! This program includes:
You can find out more about the program here - https://go.taraandandre.com/polyamorymastery and to apply, drop us an email at tara@hello.taraandandre.com. To get a bit of background on where we were when we decided to do this we suggest you catch up on the podcast we recorded and listen to our Poly Diaries journal entries from last year! See links in the show resources below. Show Resources:
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| 52: I is for INSECURITY and the 3 Things You Can Do to Feel More Secure | 13 May 2025 | 00:32:07 | |
We’re back with another episode in our T&A Alphabet Series, where we explore the big topics around non-monogamy, relationships, and sex—one letter at a time. Originally broadcast as a live training in our Let’s Talk Polyamory private Facebook community, this episode is all about the letter I: I is for Insecurity and the 3 Things You Can Do to Feel More Secure. Insecurity can show up as self-doubt, anxiety, or the sense that you're vulnerable to harm or rejection. In open or polyamorous relationships, it often feels like living on high alert—waiting for the next fire to put out. In this episode, we dig into the connection between insecurity and jealousy, and share three key practices to help you feel more grounded and secure:
We also explore:
If jealousy and insecurity are keeping you from feeling at ease in your consensually non-monogamous relationships, check out our self-paced Poly Newbies Digital Course https://courses.letstalkpolyamory.com/polynewbiescourse or go deeper with our Open Relationship and Polyamory Mastery - https://go.taraandandre.com/polyamorymastery - program, which includes live coaching with us. Show Resources:
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| 51: Non-Monogamy and Your Mental Health | 05 May 2025 | 00:48:54 | |
Non-monogamous relationships can offer joy, freedom, and deep connection—but they can also stir up intense emotional waves. In honour of Mental Health Week in Canada, this heartfelt and practical episode explores what it really looks like to care for your mental health while navigating non-monogamy. Whether you're facing overwhelm, burnout, comparison, or jealousy—or just want to feel less alone—this conversation is for you. In this episode we cover:
💛 Special episode resource: Non-Monogamy and Your Mental Health: Worksheet + Action Planning Guide — a free tool to help you reflect, reset, and take practical steps toward improving your mental health and your relationships! Get it here 👇 https://worksheet.letstalkpolyamory.com/mentalhealth This episode is your reminder: struggling doesn’t mean you’re doing it wrong—it means you’re human. Seeking support is a sign of strength. Please share this episode with someone who might need it. If you’re considering self-harm or harming others, please reach out to a local crisis line, call 911, or go to the nearest emergency room. You are not alone. Show Resources:
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| 50: Rules vs Boundaries vs Agreements: How to Set Your Non-Monogamous Relationships Up for Success | 29 Apr 2025 | 00:44:00 | |
You’ve opened up your relationship or decided to explore non-monogamy, and at first, you’re excited — until BOOM — you're hit with a wave of feelings: jealousy, insecurity, anger, hurt... You pump the brakes and set up rules to try to protect yourself and your partners from all this discomfort. But it doesn’t work. The rules feel punitive, like you're on a leash (and not the fun, kinky kind), and you're still overwhelmed with emotions. In this episode, we’re talking about the difference between rules, boundaries, and agreements — and why shifting from punitive rules to collaborative agreements is the real key to feeling secure. We introduce the Values-Based Agreement™ Model we developed and teach our clients, and share what it looks like in our own relationship! We also dive into:
As a bonus, we also dig into communication tools like active listening, plus tips for dealing with feedback, criticisms, and resentments — all key skills for creating stronger, more resilient relationships. It’s a jam-packed episode full of practical tools, real talk, and real-world examples! ✨ If you want to dive even deeper into boundaries, check out our episode: Pardon Me But You’re Stepping On My Boundaries. Show Resources:
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| 49: H is for Sexual HEALTH and HAIR | 13 Apr 2025 | 00:38:01 | |
We’re back with another episode in our T&A Alphabet Series, where we tackle big topics around non-monogamy, relationships, and sex — one letter at a time. Originally broadcast as a live training in our Let’s Talk Polyamory private Facebook Community, this episode is all about the letter H - H is for Sexual HEALTH and HAIR! While it can be an uncomfortable subject for some (at least until you get used to it), being open about sexual health and regular testing is crucial — especially when you have multiple sexual partners. For us, getting tested regularly has become a badge of honour, not something to be embarrassed about. In this episode, we break down the difference between an STD (Sexually Transmitted Disease) and an STI (Sexually Transmitted Infection), and why the shift in terminology matters. We talk about removing the stigma around testing, STIs, and sexuality — and how to navigate those conversations with partners in a way that’s honest, caring, and responsible. We share the kinds of tests you should ask for (because not everything is included by default), and discuss ways to reduce or prevent the incidence of STIs. Yes, we talk about condoms and barriers — but also about vaccines (like HPV and Hepatitis), rinsing your mouth and washing your hands between partners, and even bringing our own safer sex kits to parties and clubs. And then we shift gears — but stay close to the skin — with a chat about HAIR ... especially the hair down there. We unpack how history, pop culture and media have influenced how we feel about hair, and how that connects to our sense of self, body image, self-worth, and how we show up in intimate moments. Some people love it, some hate it, some wax it, some grow it — and some braid it if they’re feeling fancy. Whatever your vibe, we’re here to say: there’s no “right” way to be hairy… or not. What matters is choice, consent, and comfort — just like every other part of your sexuality. Oh — and yes, we throw in a few bonus “H” words along the way. 😉 As always, there’s some laughter, some real talk, and important info for anyone who is sexually active — no matter your relationship style. Show Resources:
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| 48: The First 3 Steps to Opening Your Relationship (Without Crashing It) | 07 Apr 2025 | 00:25:39 | |
You know that feeling when you get a new car? It’s shiny, exciting, full of possibilities—and your imagination runs wild. But then reality hits: taxes, car payments, insurance, maintenance… and suddenly, the fantasy doesn’t quite match the day-to-day. Opening up a monogamous relationship can feel the same way. The excitement of exploring non-monogamy can cause folx to skip over some crucial steps—only to find themselves overwhelmed or unprepared. In this episode, we break down three essential things to do before (or even after) you start dating others:
Whether you're just beginning your journey or already navigating the waves of non-monogamy, these steps can help prevent common pitfalls and keep your connection strong. Think of our Poly Newbies Digital Course as the “insurance policy” for your open relationship journey. And if you’ve already hit a few bumps in the road, it’s the perfect tune-up to get you back on track. Find out more here - https://courses.letstalkpolyamory.com/polynewbiesspecialoffer 🎧 Related episodes to check out next:
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| 47: Polyamory & Transgender Inclusion, Visibility & Allyship | 01 Apr 2025 | 00:34:15 | |
⚠️ Trigger Warning: This episode includes discussions about discrimination, bullying, aggression, and suicide. Trans and non-binary people continue to face widespread hostility, including physical and verbal attacks, online harassment, exclusion in schools and workplaces, and restrictive laws that limit their rights. If you need support, please reach out to:
March 31 is International Transgender Day of Visibility, a day to celebrate trans and non-binary people while recognizing the challenges they continue to face. In this important episode of the podcast - Polyamory & Transgender Inclusion, Visibility & Allyship - we cover:
Trans people are facing increasing threats to their rights, from healthcare restrictions to limitations in schools, sports, and public spaces. Many also experience harassment, violence, and exclusion, making visibility and allyship more important than ever. It’s crucial for all of us—especially in polyamorous communities—to stand up, advocate, and create spaces where everyone belongs. Listen now and let’s work together to build a world where everyone has a place. Please comment with your favourite trans voices to follow! 📢 Share this episode to spread awareness, uplift trans voices, and help create a more inclusive world. Learn more. Be visible. Be inclusive. Be an ally. Show Resources:
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| 46: G is For GGG, G-AREA, GROOL and Other Great G-Words | 18 Mar 2025 | 00:39:24 | |
We're back with another T&A Alphabet Series episode, where we break down big topics in non-monogamy, relationships, and sex—one letter at a time! Originally aired as live trainings in our Let’s Talk Polyamory private Facebook Community and on YouTube, this episode is all about the letter G—and trust us, it’s a GREAT one! We start with ⚡️GGG - Good, Giving, and GameDan Savage coined this term, and we break it down with a special clip from him (link in show notes!).
We also share how to invite feedback so you can become good, practice being giving, and embrace being game in both polyamory and sex. Then it’s all about the💥 G-AREA, unpacking it’s history, why it’s not just a spot, and share hot tips (plus handy diagrams!) to help you find it—along with other fun zones like the O and A spots! 💦 And then there’s GROOL… If you’ve never heard of it, you’ll definitely want to tune in! Plus, we discuss GSERD, GANGBANGS, and even the different types of ejaculate from people with vulvas. (Yes, we go there!) Want to go from GRRR… to GREAT in your open or polyamorous relationships? Our Poly Newbies Course is here to help—it's truly the GIFT that keeps on GIVING 🎁🔗 https://courses.letstalkpolyamory.com/polynewbiesspecialoffer Show Resources:
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| 45: F is For Our Favourite F-Words: F*ck, Fetish, Foursomes, Fellatio & More | 11 Mar 2025 | 00:42:25 | |
We’re back with another episode in our T&A Alphabet Series, where we tackle big topics one letter at a time (with plenty of laughs along the way)! Originally aired as live trainings in our Let’s Talk Polyamory Facebook Community, this episode is all about the letter F—and oh boy, do we have some fabulous F-words for you! From the most famous F-word (F*ck, obviously) to all the fun, freaky, and fascinating F-words that spice up our sexual & polyamorous lives, we’re diving deep into: 🔥 The 4 Fs (there’s more than one version—listen in to find out!)💋 First dates (the good, the bad, and the fumbly)👩❤️👨 Foursomes (and the juicy dynamics of 3+ connections)🌈 Sexual Fluidity (because labels are flexible, just like us)🍆 Fornicating & Fellatio (because we’re here for pleasure)🎩 Fly Jockey (with a throwback to '70s porn & why sex clubs need coat hooks!)🏳️🌈 Friend of Dorothy & Friend of Bill (and the fascinating origins of these phrases)🚃 Frotteurism & Frotteuristic Disorder (yep, we go there)😱 FEAR (the F-word we love to hate—and all the ways it shows up) But that’s not all! We also take a deep dive into Fetishes, Fetishism, and Racial Fetishization—breaking down stigmas and normalizing sexuality in all its fantastic and fluid forms. So grab your favorite F-drink (Fireball?? Fanta?), find a comfy spot, and let’s f*cking talk about it! 🔥🎧 If opening your relationship or exploring polyamory is a lot less FUN than you imagined or your constantly putting out FIRES, (and not the sexy kind) our Poly Newbies Course can help. It’s designed to guide you step-by-step on building a secure foundation so you can experience the pleasure and enjoyment you imagined when you first decided to become non-monogamous. Find out more here: https://courses.letstalkpolyamory.com/polynewbiesspecialoffer Show Resources:
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| 44: E is for ETHICAL NON-MONOGAMY: What Makes it Ethical? | 04 Mar 2025 | 00:41:27 | |
Welcome to the fifth instalment of our T&A Alphabet Series, where we break down big topics one letter at a time complete with stories and some laughs along the way! Originally recorded as a live training in our Let’s Talk Polyamory private Facebook community and on YouTube, this episode is all about the letter E: ✨ E is for Ethical Non-Monogamy: What Makes It Ethical? You might be thinking…Wait… Didn’t you already cover this in C is for Consensual Non-Monogamy, Communication… and Cookies!? Great question! While consensual non-monogamy (CNM) and ethical non-monogamy (ENM) are often used interchangeably, there are some subtle differences which is why someone might use one or the other. We explore what those differences are and what truly makes a relationship ethical (or not). 💡 Other Key Topics:🔹 Why transparency is essential for avoiding misunderstandings & drama🔹 The risks & rewards of openly declaring your non-monogamy🔹 What happens when one partner wants to be monogamous and the other doesn’t We also answer some community questions including:✅ Is a Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell (DADT) policy still ethical?✅ Is breaking an agreement unethical?✅ Can there be cheating in ENM?✅ When and why do we need to announce that we’re non-monogamous? 📢 Plus, we toss in some bonus E words: ejaculation, erotocentrism, and the difference between envy vs. jealousy! Tara also shares personal experiences from coming out to her family as polyamorous and the challenges that followed. Want more? Check out related videos in our Let’s Talk Polyamory private Facebook group (links in the show notes!). 🎧 Hit play & let’s talk polyamory! Show Resources:
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| 43: D is for DRAMA: 5 Things to Address Drama & Chaos in Relationships | 25 Feb 2025 | 00:45:04 | |
Welcome to the fourth instalment of our T&A Alphabet Series where we tackle big topics one letter at a time (and throw in some laughs along the way). Originally broadcast as live trainings in our Let’s Talk Polyamory private Facebook Community and on YouTube, this episode is all about the letter D with our topic D is for DRAMA: 5 Things to Address Drama & Chaos in Relationships. With so many fun D-words out there (we know what you’re thinking… 🍆), why focus on drama? Because at the time of recording, we had just navigated a “dramatic episode” in our own relationships—something rare for us but important to work through. In this episode, we break down exactly how we handled it and the lessons we learned. Unnecessary relationship drama often comes down to a few key issues: a need for control, poor communication, a craving for validation, or a lack of self-awareness. Drama doesn’t just show up uninvited—you either create it, invite it, or surround yourself with people who bring it. In this episode we cover:✅ How drama manifests in relationships✅ How to recognize when you’re escalating it (or causing it)✅ The 5 things you can do to de-escalate drama and restore balance✅ The connection between attachment styles and drama And a lot more! If opening your relationship or exploring polyamory has felt like a never-ending cycle of drama, conflict, and emotional fires, our Poly Newbies Course can help. It’s designed to guide you step-by-step on building a secure foundation so you can experience the pleasure and enjoyment you imagined when you first decided to become non-monogamous. You can find out more here - https://courses.letstalkpolyamory.com/polynewbiesspecialoffer Show Resources:
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| 42: Time Management in Polyamory: How to Avoid Burnout & Overcommitment | 18 Feb 2025 | 00:44:31 | |
After jealousy, time management is often the number 2 reason why people feel that being non-monogamous and having multiple relationships wouldn't work for them at all. And one of the most common things we hear from our listeners is that they struggle with balancing multiple relationships, personal time, and life responsibilities. In this brand new episode of the Let's Talk Polyamory Podcast, we discuss a much requested topic - Time Management in Polyamory: How to Avoid Burnout & Overcommitment. In this episode we cover:
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| 41: C is for Consensual Non-Monogamy, Communication and ... Cookies! | 09 Feb 2025 | 00:49:56 | |
Welcome to the third instalment of ourT&A Alphabet Serieswhere we tackle big topics one letter at a time (and throw in some laughs along the way). Originally broadcast as live trainings in ourLet’s Talk Polyamory private Facebook Community and on YouTube, this episode is all about theletter C! We kick things off with the most obvious C-word:Consensual Non-Monogamy (CNM). We break down what it is and explore11 different CNM relationship styles—from monogamish to swinging, open relationships, polyamory, and relationship anarchy. Not sure which style fits you best? We’ve got a handy worksheet for that -https://worksheet.letstalkpolyamory.com/cnmstyle Of course, no discussion of C-words would be complete withoutcommunication, communication, and… you guessed it, more communication! We dive into why talking about all the things (yes,all the things) is the key to making non-monogamy work. And then there’scookies—because what’s an episode without a little sweetness? 🍪 What do cookies have to do with polyamory? You’ll have to listen to find out. Sprinkled throughout, we’ve got bonus C-words from ourLet’s Talk Polyamory community, including:✨ The “underrated sexiness” of Canadians 🍁✨ The power ofcock-fidence 😉✨ And, of course, deliciouslysexy French pastries that start with C! 🔥COMING IN 2025: Many of the terms and insights from this series will be featured in our upcoming book,The Little Book of Poly Love! A playful, visual, and accessible guide to navigating non-monogamy, relationships, and identity. Want to be the first to know when it’s out? Join the waitlist here:https://go.letstalkpolyamory.com/polylovebook-waitlist Hit play and let’s get into it—cookies and all! 🎧 Show Resources:
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| 40: Debunking Common Myths About Polyamory | 28 Jan 2025 | 00:33:00 | |
Ever had someone question your polyamorous or non-monogamous relationships—or share misconceptions about what polyamory really is? If you’re new to exploring non-monogamy, you might even find yourself wondering the same things! In this episode, we bust five of the most common and persistent myths that have shaped public perceptions, created unnecessary fears, and discouraged people from exploring non-monogamous relationships—even when they know monogamy isn’t the right fit: 🚫 Polyamory is only about sex🚫 Polyamorous people can’t commit or do the work of being in a monogamous relationship🚫 Polyamory is unnatural🚫 Polyamory always leads to jealousy🚫 Polyamory is just a phase until you find the "right person" + if you truly loved someone, you wouldn’t need anyone else We dive into why these myths simply aren’t true, sharing personal stories, real-life examples, and insights from our years of coaching, therapy practices, and lived experiences in the polyamorous community. 💡 Whether you’re poly-curious, have been practicing non-monogamy for years, or simply want to understand more about consensual non-monogamy, this episode is packed with eye-opening truths and valuable takeaways. We’d love to hear your thoughts! If you’re listening on Spotify, drop us a comment. Join our Let's Talk Polyamory private Facebook group to ask questions, share your experiences, and connect with others. 🎧 Tune in now to debunk these myths and discover the truth about polyamory and non-monogamy! Show Resources:
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| 39: B is for BISEXUALITY: Identity, Expressions, Myths & Realities | 21 Jan 2025 | 00:56:30 | |
What does being BISEXUAL mean to you? Is it simply about who you're attracted to, or does it extend to your identity, expressions, and how you move through the world? Are you proudly out or navigating life in the closet? In this episode, B is for BISEXUALITY: Identity, Expressions Myths & Realities, we explore bisexuality in all its rich and wonderful dimensions. We unpack what it means to identify as bisexual, debunk common myths, and dive into the stats behind this often-misunderstood identity. We also explain other related identities and expressions including fluid, omnisexual, pansexual, queer, bigender, and androgynous. We examine how bisexual people are sometimes perceived by stereotypes - like the “tourist” trope or the idea that bisexuality is “just a phase”—and highlight research (like a study from Cornell University) that challenges those narratives. We confront invisibility, erasure, and biphobia, exploring the ways these challenges shape the lives of bi folks. Of course, it wouldn’t be one of our episodes without a few detours! Along the way, we also chat about squirting, the G-area (aka the G-spot), P-spot stimulation, orgasms, and pleasure. This is one of our most personal, revealing episodes yet—full of insights, humour, and plenty of thought-provoking moments. Don’t miss it! This is part of our T&A Alphabet Series, originally broadcast as live trainings in our Let’s Talk Polyamory private Facebook Community and on YouTube. The series covers a wide range of topics related to non-monogamy, relationships, identity, and sexuality, and we are thrilled to share it with our podcast audience throughout Season 2 and beyond. ✨ COMING IN 2025: Many of the terms and insights from this series will feature in our T&A Picture Book, a visual and accessible guide to navigating non-monogamy, relationships, and identity. Join the waitlist to be the first to know when it’s available! Need support in having wildly successful, secure and sexy non-monogamous relationships? Join us for POLY NEWBIES - The Course! https://courses.letstalkpolyamory.com/polynewbiescourse Show Resources:
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| 38: A is for Anorgasmia and How to Have Awesome Sexual Pleasure! | 13 Jan 2025 | 00:38:40 | |
Many people think of orgasms as the ultimate destination when it comes to pleasure, but the truth is, they’re just one part of the journey. If you’ve ever struggled with orgasms or thought it was just about physical stuff, buckle up—this episode will have you rethinking a lot of things, taking notes and maybe even laughing along the way! In this episode A is for Anorgasmia and How to Have Awesome Sexual Pleasure we take a playful, yet deeply informative dive into:
We give an up close and person view into our own relationship and individual experiences with pleasure and sex. This is also a special episode as we share a story about talking to André’s 78 year mom about our openness as well as her own desires for dating and a long-term partner. Sadly Maman is no longer with us but there’s some lovely memories of her at the beginning of the episode. 💖 This kicks off our Alphabet Series a collection of trainings that were originally live broadcasted to our Let’s Talk Polyamory private Facebook group. In these lively talks, we unpack everything from non-monogamy and relationships, to sexuality, identity and everything in between. We’re thrilled to bring these fan-favourites to the podcast throughout Season 2 and beyond, alongside brand-new episodes! ✨ COMING SOON: Many of the terms and concepts from this series and more will feature in our Little Book of Poly Love (working title) set to release in 2025. Add yourself to the waitlist to be the first to know when it’s available! Show Resources:
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| 37: 5 Steps to Have Holly Poly-Days and Start 2025 Feeling Secure | 17 Dec 2024 | 00:49:29 | |
Who doesn't want to make their way through the holidays with ease and comfort and as little drama as possible? The holiday season means time spent with friends, family and lovers. And it also can mean a few other things…
And if anything is feeling shaky in terms of your non-monogamy journey, the holidays can be, as André describes "miracle grow for your feelings" and amplify those issues making things stressful or uncomfortable. In this podcast episode we talk in detail about 5 things you can do now to set your holidays up for success and start 2025 feeling much more secure:
Interwoven in this discussion as always are a ton of gems of knowledge and stories from their personal experiences and those of friends and people we work with. And if you're looking for holiday gift that keeps on giving for your partner and yourself that will allow you start 2025 feeling FAB-U-LOUS-LY SECURE, sign up for our 7-module Poly Newbies Digital Course! And don't worry about having to do it all right away, you'll have a full 6 months to get it all done! We have a special offer for our podcast listeners and Let's Talk Polyamory community. Find out more here - https://courses.letstalkpolyamory.com/polynewbiesspecialoffer Show Resources:
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| 36: Your Poly Newbie Survival Kit Essentials | 02 Dec 2024 | 00:23:19 | |
What essentials need to be in your Poly Newbie Survival Kit? Are you new to non-monogamy or opening up a relationship? In this episode, we’ll equip you with a list of the tools, insights, and strategies you need to thrive—and avoid some of the most common challenges along the way. These essential steps are drawn straight from our 7-module Poly Newbies Digital Course, designed to set you up for success: 1️⃣ The Basics of Non-Monogamy: Key definitions, identifying your “why,” and navigating your hopes and fears. 2️⃣ Choosing Your Style: Exploring what kind of non-monogamy aligns with your needs and desires. 3️⃣ Mastering Communication: Building connection, eliminating toxic patterns, and speaking your truth effectively. 4️⃣ Rightsizing Jealousy: Understanding this complex emotion and cultivating greater security. 5️⃣ Attachment Styles: Discovering yours and moving toward secure attachment. 6️⃣ Boundaries & Agreements: Creating personal boundaries and our signature Values-Based Relationship Agreements™. 7️⃣ Keeping It Awesome: Relationship check-ins, dating tips, and maintaining the spark! ✨ Plus, we dive into juicy extras, including:
All this and personal stories from our own non-monogamy journey! 🎉 Hit play and start your journey toward thriving in non-monogamy! 🎧💖 Show Resources & Special Offers:
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| 35: Building, Rebuilding, and Maintaining Trusts in Relationships - Part 2 | 26 Nov 2024 | 00:55:20 | |
When there's been dishonesty, a betrayal or cheating in a relationship, it can result in a loss of trust that's hard to recover from. This episode is part 2 of a two part-series on Building, Rebuilding, and Maintaining Trusts in Relationships. In Part 1, we explored:
In Part 2, we pick up where we left off with a recap on what trust is and how trust can be lost specifically in non-monogamous relationships. We then share specific strategies on how you can rebuild trust as a result of any of these things or other setbacks such as:
We also share how you might recognize if is an isolated situation or if this person is not trustworthy and it isn’t in your best interest to trust them again. This episode is perfect for anyone navigating trust challenges and looking for practical, compassionate advice to create more secure, resilient relationships. And, in celebration of Polyamory Day on November 23 our gift to you is that you can get our Poly Newbies Digital Course for just $27—a 90% savings off the regular $297 price until Cyber Monday. Learn more at https://courses.letstalkpolyamory.com/polynewbiesblackfriday Show Resources:
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| 34: Casual Car Conversations: STIs, Testing & Acceptable Risk | 19 Nov 2024 | 00:57:17 | |
You may not find it surprising but we talk about non-monogamy, relationships, sex and related topics A LOT, especially when we are driving or travelling. We were having one such conversation recently and decided to record it as we felt our listeners would find it helpful to hear as we work through and discuss a situation that arose for us personally around possible STI exposure and how we might handle sharing how we feel about upcoming plans with friends. In this episode we cover:
We encourage you to do your own research, inform yourself, talk to your doctor, talk to your partners and figure out what’s right for you! And as we asked during the podcast are these things you’ve considered and/or has this podcast changed what you think about wanting to be non-monogamous or in the lifestyle? Let us know in the comments! Show Resources:
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| What to Say? How to Talk to Kids About Non-Monogamy, Sex, Kink and Other Stuff | 12 Nov 2024 | 01:16:35 | |
Talking to kids about topics like non-monogamy, sex, intimacy, kink and relationships can sometimes feel daunting parents. It's easy to worry about saying the wrong thing, making things awkward, or just plain messing it up. In this episode, we sit down with sexuality educator Ms. Ashley Robertson for a deep dive into guiding these conversations with kids of all ages—from toddlers to teens and beyond! Together, we share practical tips, advice, and recommended approaches for discussing these topics at every stage. We cover what the focus should be, how to approach these subjects, which words to use, and even how long these conversations should go. We also discuss what not to say, how to avoid oversharing, and ways to build a “scaffold” of knowledge that helps your kids climb layer by layer without falling off. We touch on essentials like when and how to introduce non-monogamy and partners to kids, what to say if a partner is no longer in your life, and how to manage those moments when kids bring up people from your past that you’d rather forget. And we explore concepts like “chosen family,” the “onion” and “buffet” analogies, being an “askable adult,” consent and how kids are “bystanders”, the “skipping stones” strategy for teens and more! Plus, we answer questions from our Let’s Talk Polyamory community. And… spoiler alert ...a lot of these tips are great for adult conversations, too! Tune in for practical advice, a few laughs, and all the insights you need to make these talks a little less intimidating and a lot more meaningful! You’re going to love it! Resources:
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| Building, Rebuilding and Maintaining Trust in Relationships - Part 1 | 28 Oct 2024 | 01:01:36 | |
In this two-part series we take a deep dive into one of the most essential—and sometimes challenging—aspects of relationships: TRUST! Recently many our the Let's Talk Polyamory private Facebook group and in our individual coaching and therapy practices have raised TRUST as an issue they are currently facing in their relationships. For some it is because of a specific situation that occurred, like a betrayal, while for others, the issue of trust goes a bit deeper and stems from past experiences in relationships with previous partners, friends or family. In this special series we explore the ins and outs of building, maintaining, and restoring trust, whether in monogamous or non-monogamous relationships. In Part 1 we cover:
In Part 2, we will tackle the tough topic of rebuilding trust after it’s been lost. Whether you’re looking to set up a rock-solid foundation or need tools to heal from trust setbacks in your relationship or yourself, this series has you covered. This is the perfect starting point for anyone navigating trust challenges and looking for practical, compassionate advice to create more secure, resilient relationships. Comment with your stories of trust or loss of trust and if this episode resonated with you! Please 💖comment, ✅subscribe, ➡️share and 📝write a review so others can find us! We really appreciate it! Show Resources:
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