Explore every episode of the podcast Lessons in (Anxious) Attachment
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| 5-Step Therapy Framework for Feeling Stuck in Cycles & Patterns | 13 oct. 2025 | 00:36:07 | |
Join stuck to Secure HERE Feeling stuck in a cycle, habit, trigger, or mood you just can’t seem to break? You’re not alone - and you don’t have to stay stuck. Other useful links:
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| How to Change for Good: The Therapy Insights You Haven’t Heard Before | 08 oct. 2025 | 00:11:07 | |
If you’ve ever promised yourself “this time will be different” only to end up back in the same cycle... the same relationship problems, the same habits, the same procrastination - this episode is for you. Carly Ann breaks down the key areas to focus on if you actually want to create change that lasts. She shares therapy insights that no one else is talking about, sharing the psychology of what it really takes to rewire your mind and behaviour for good. Whether you’re stuck in love, habits, or life itself, this episode will help you understand what you need to focus on in order to break free Other useful links:
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| Rewire Your Brain: Therapy Backed Insight to Break-through Your Limiting Beliefs Today! | 05 oct. 2025 | 00:18:29 | |
Do you have feeling you are made for more? Do you see yourself repeating the same cycles and pattern even though you KNOW it’s not meant for you. You may or may not be aware of your thoughts… especially negative thoughts. In this podcast, I am talking about the beliefs that pull you back, keep you in a loop, and drive anxiety/low mood. As well as key therapy insights, you will also receive motivation to get out of this, and of course - I’ll share a technique with you that you can then use again and again! You are the leader of your life, you get to make a choice, and you can make a change. Listen to this episode if you get stuck in your head overthinking, obsessing, worrying, and losing yourself Other useful links:
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| Worrying, Obsessing, & Struggling to ACCEPT How Things Are & Let Go? Acceptance & Commitment Therapy (ACT) Can Help | 01 oct. 2025 | 00:09:43 | |
Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) is a proven approach that helps you stop fighting your thoughts and feelings, make peace with what you can’t control, and start living a life guided by what truly matters to you Other useful links:
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| Want to Build New Habits Fast? Try These 3 Visualisation Techniques | 27 sept. 2025 | 00:09:55 | |
Ever wonder how elite athletes stay consistent, how top business leaders keep showing up, or why your favourite podcast hosts seem to have it all together? It’s not just willpower, so many of them use mental training & visualisation. Visualisation is a powerful mental technique - one of the most underrated tools for building habits that actually stick. It’s used by high-performers in sport, business and media to stay focused, motivated, and aligned with their goals (day in, day out0! If you’ve ever felt frustrated by stop-start habits, struggled to stay consistent, or found yourself slipping back into old routines, you’re not alone. The truth is, most people rely on motivation... but that runs out fast. In this episode, you’ll learn what visualisation really is, why it works (even if it sounds a bit “woo”), and three simple techniques you can start using straight away to finally stay on track with the goals and habits that matter most to you. Other useful links:
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| Signs Your Abandonment Wound Is Behind Your BIG Reaction (or Overreaction) | 04 sept. 2025 | 00:12:13 | |
Do you have an abandonment wound? Or are you questioning if you have one? An abandonment wound can affect your daily life in very subtle ways. An abandonment wound is usually the result of past experiences and it can hugely impact your life today, as an adult. The question is, how does your abandonment wound show up in your daily life? Seeing these patterns improve your wellbeing, choices, and relationships. Let's dive into the different ways your abandonment wound might show up at work, in relationships, and other areas of your life. You will hear what a recap of what an abandonment wound is, and key signs of how it shows up. I will also share the details of my CBT course, Becoming Secure. As always, at the end of the video I give you big value - one shift you can make when your abandonment wound is triggered. I would love to hear from you in the comments, what is the main takeaway that can help you live happier? FREE WORKSHOP: https://carly-ann.mykajabi.com/5-steps-to-breaking-the-rules Other useful links:
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| 5 Step Framework to Rewire Anxiety, Mood, & Self-Worth | 02 sept. 2025 | 00:47:34 | |
This workshop is sponsored by my signature 6-week course, Becoming Secure. It does exactly what it says on the tin... it helps you move from feeling insecure, lost, or anxious, to feeling grounded, confident, and secure. It’s six weeks to rediscovering yourself..and right now there’s a special early bird offer available. Other useful links:
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| Feeling Stuck in Life and Love? It Might Be Your Inner Rules & Guidelines (Part 5) | 29 août 2025 | 00:06:48 | |
FREE WORKSHOP (Breaking The Rules) Part 5: Other useful links:
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| Listen to THIS If You Want to Know The TRUTH About Low Self-Esteem and What Keeps You STUCK (Part 4) | 28 août 2025 | 00:06:06 | |
FREE WORKSHOP (Breaking The Rules) Part 4 Other useful links:
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| Break Free from Your Old Rules in 10 Minutes: A Somatic Reset & Affirmations (Part 3) | 27 août 2025 | 00:09:17 | |
FREE WORKSHOP (Breaking The Rules) Today's bitesize episode is for those of you that prefer a real exercise compared to theory and ideas. Rules for Living help you live a life where you feel OK, so long as those rules are met. The second they are not, that's when you spiral. E.G. If you believe you should make everyone happy, you will lose yourself the second you think you might have upset someone. In this mini episode, I am delivering a somatic exercise combined with music, affirmation, and visualisation. A great way to regulate yourself and cut ties with old rules that are not serving you. Other useful links:
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| This Is A KEY Reason Why You Start Obsessing, Overthinking, & Feeling Anxious (Part 2) | 26 août 2025 | 00:08:04 | |
FREE WORKSHOP (Breaking The Rules) PART 2: Rules That Lead to ANXIETY In today's bitesize episode I am sharing with you a key reason why you fall into panic, worry, & obsessing at certain times in your life. There is something that triggers this cycle and knowing about it has truly changed my life and how I manage my mood and thoughts. If you care what others thinking, or notice yourself doing things you think you SHOULD or MUST do rather than what you WANT), this one is for you! Other useful links:
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| The Rules That Make You Obsess and Overthink (RULES FOR LIVING) - (Part 1) | 25 août 2025 | 00:07:44 | |
In this mini episode Carly Ann introduces a popular concept (Rules for Living) that is discussed in Cognitive Behavioural Therapy. Other useful links:
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| LIMERENCE - This is Why You Can't Stop Obsessing Even When You Logically Know Better | 24 août 2025 | 00:16:38 | |
Have you heard of limerence? The longing, obsessing, and thinking about someone you like. In this episode Carly Ann talk about what limerence is, what keeps you hooked on them (why you can't let go). What makes this different to any other episode? I talk about the fact that logically you do know better. You have read the books and you're doing the inner work, yet you still hold on Other useful links:
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| The MOST Powerful Affirmations You’ll Try This Week!! Guided Imagery for Real Results | 21 août 2025 | 00:09:08 | |
Brand New Free Workshop HERE These are not your usual affirmations. In this video, you won’t just repeat words, you’ll be guided to see, feel, and imagine the outcome as if it’s already real. This combination of affirmations and guided imagery creates a powerful shift in your mind and body, making it easier to attract what you desire and rewire old patterns that hold you back. Other useful links:
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| THIS Is Why You Keep Repeating the Same Patterns (Even Though You Know the Logic) | 16 août 2025 | 00:14:55 | |
You know the logic. You know what you should do. And yet… you keep repeating the same patterns. Why? In this video, I break down what’s really going on beneath the surface when logic and self-awareness aren’t enough to create change. You've read the books, done the work, and yet you keep defaulting to old patterns. You chase people, you over-give, you self-criticise - even though you know better. Let's get clear on what is going on, plus you will receive your practice of the week! If you’ve ever asked yourself “Why do I keep doing this even though I know better?” - this episode will explain what is happening Other useful links:
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| TRY THIS: 5 Steps That Will Help You Overcome Your Biggest Fears | 10 août 2025 | 00:17:09 | |
TRY THIS: 5 Steps That Will Help You Overcome Your Biggest Fears Other useful links:
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| MINI TRAINING Day 6: Feeling Panic, Numb or Physically Overwhelmed? Let's talk about it | 31 juil. 2025 | 00:10:29 | |
If your body feels like it’s either buzzing with anxiety or completely shut down, you’re not alone. In this mini training, Carly Ann explores how physical sensations like overwhelm, tension, or numbness can keep you stuck in the same painful cycles.
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| MINI TRAINING Day 5: Ready to Take Action? This One Question Can Move You Forward | 30 juil. 2025 | 00:10:13 | |
Did you know your behaviours influence so much of how you feel and what you do? Other useful links:
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| MINI TRAINING Day 4: Managing Your Emotions & Not Feeling Good Enough | 29 juil. 2025 | 00:16:28 | |
In this episode, we explore the power of emotions - how they show up, how they influence what we do, and why managing them matters so much, especially when you don’t feel good enough. You’ll hear insights on how emotions can hijack your thoughts and actions, and simple ways to work with them instead of against them. If you’re ready to get curious about your feelings and stop letting them run the show, this one’s for you. ✨ Stuck to Secure starts 1st August - 21 days to reset and break the cycle: https://carly-ann.mykajabi.com/21-days-course Other useful links:
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| MINI TRAINING Day 3: NEGATIVE THOUGHTS - This Tool Will Help You Take Back Control of Your Mind | 28 juil. 2025 | 00:12:01 | |
Welcome to Day 3 of Becoming Unstuck – today is all about your thoughts. If you ever feel owned by your mind, trapped in spirals of overthinking, self-doubt, or fear, this episode is yours. If you know you have negative thoughts that move you away from who you want to be - listen now or save for later! Carly Ann shares a brilliant, practical tool to help you stop being a prisoner of your mind and start becoming its leader. This mini training is a must-listen if you're ready to quiet the noise and reclaim your inner calm. Let’s set you free. 🎧 Want more? Dive deeper in the free workshop I mentioned: https://youtu.be/IE-MJ4OqZ6E ✨ Stuck to Secure starts 1st August - 21 days to reset and break the cycle: https://carly-ann.mykajabi.com/21-days-course Other useful links:
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| MINI TRAINING Day 2: Your TRIGGERS Are Trying To Tell You Something | 27 juil. 2025 | 00:10:10 | |
Triggered? Feeling stuck in the same painful loops? Rejected, blamed, out of control? Whether it is a specific person or a song on the radio, your triggers aren’t the enemy.. they’re the message. If you keep spiralling in love or life, this training is part of your RESET! ✨ Stuck to Secure starts 1st August - 21 days to reset and break the cycle: https://carly-ann.mykajabi.com/21-days-course Other useful links:
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| MINI TRAINING Day 1: THIS One Exercise Helped Me (FINALLY) Stop Chasing and Start Changing & Become Unstuck | 26 juil. 2025 | 00:09:15 | |
Training 1/6 - Becoming Unstuck Other useful links:
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| Guided Grounding Meditation for When You Feel Triggered / Worried / Anxious and Need to Calm Down | 16 juil. 2025 | 00:04:49 | |
FREE WORKSHOP: https://carly-ann.mykajabi.com/free-btc-workshop This meditation is your emergency pause button when you need to soothe and regulate right now. To help with the spiral, the overwhelm, the noise in your head - this 5 minute audio will bring you back. Back into your body. Back into the present. Back into safety. Whether you’re feeling anxious, triggered, heartbroken, or like you’ve left the room entirely, press play. Let these few minutes shift everything MUSIC: Cylinder Nine by Chris Zabriskie is licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution 4.0 license. https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/ Other useful links:
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| This Helped Me Stop Worrying, Obsessing, and Seeking Reassurance...So I Could Finally Relax | 13 juil. 2025 | 00:21:59 | |
If you’ve ever been stuck in a worry spiral...the kind that hijacks your mind, interrupts your sleep, and makes you question everything (non stop)..this episode is for you. I was in one recently. And while I didn’t fix it overnight, I found something that helped in the middle of it. This isn’t a neat “5 steps to stop overthinking” episode. It’s a real look at what happens when anxiety takes over, and how to unmerge from the panic long enough to find your self. Carly Ann shares exactly what she did to stop spiralling, and then you can do the same for yourself If you overthink, seek reassurance, obsess over decisions, or just want your peace back, listen today Other useful links:
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| NON-NEGOTIABLES FOR SELF-WORTH & FEELING GOOD ENOUGH | 06 juil. 2025 | 00:22:01 | |
We all fall into patterns – but some of them silently chip away at our self-worth. In today’s episode, Carly Ann is uncovering the sneaky habits and thought loops that keep you stuck in low self-esteem and anxiety. These are 3 common patterns that damage your self-worth if left ignored. In this episode you will receive practical, powerful tips to start rebuilding your self worth from the inside out. Plus, stay tuned for a self-worth challenge you can start this week to begin showing up as the most confident, secure version of you. Other useful links:
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| Mid-Year Guided Manifestation: Cut Ties & Call in What You DESIRE | 02 juil. 2025 | 00:07:57 | |
Ready for a powerful mid-year reset? This guided manifestation meditation is designed to help you get back on track, reconnect with your goals, and start attracting the life you truly desire. It will guide you to cut ties with what does not serve you and call in what you desire Whether you're manifesting love, success, confidence, or a fresh start... this is your chance to pause, reflect, and realign with your highest self. This is the perfect time to raise your vibration and set powerful intentions for the second half of the year. 💫 Manifest your dream life Listen now if you're ready to stop holding back and start calling in what’s meant for you. It’s not too late... in fact, this is just the beginning. #GuidedManifestation #MidYearReset #ManifestationMeditation #LawOfAttraction #ManifestingConfidence #AnxiousAttachmentHealing #SelfWorth #MindsetShift #BecomeSecure #ManifestMore Other useful links:
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| Why You Obsess Over the Good Times (Even If a Relationship Wasn’t Good for You) and What to Do Instead | 29 juin 2025 | 00:15:31 | |
Do you you keep going back to the good times with someone who’s no longer in your life? Whether that’s an ex, a situationship, or something that never fully got off the ground. In this episode of Lessons in Attachment, Carly Ann (therapist & coach helping you heal anxious attachment) breaks down the real psychological reasons why we play the positives and stay stuck on a loop feeling bad about it all, wishing it was different. If you’ve ever thought, “Why can’t I stop thinking about them and remembering how good it was?” this episode is for you. I do not want you think think you’re not weak for caring. You’re human for remembering. But you don’t have to stay stuck, so let me help you. Other useful links:
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| Holding On to the Good Times? Here is a 6 Step Radical Acceptance Practice for Letting Go | 25 juin 2025 | 00:05:44 | |
A Radical Acceptance Practice Other useful links:
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| BE PREPARED: This Is Where Your Inner Critic Will Attack You the Most + How to Respond | 22 juin 2025 | 00:15:14 | |
Your inner critic knows exactly when to strike, and if you can be ready for it - you can stop it in its tracks! In this episode, Carly Ann shares the common moments where self-criticism hits hardest, especially for those with anxious attachment, low self-worth, or a constant fear of not being good enough. Plus stay tuned because you will because you will get so much value - Carly Ann will guide you through simple steps to notice and start responding to your inner critic. If you’re tired of the same old thought loops and want to finally quiet the inner critic that holds you back in relationships, self-love, and everyday life - this one’s for you. Other useful links:
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| Guided Confidence Boost: Motivational Pep Talk for When You’re Nervous & Overthinking | 18 juin 2025 | 00:07:23 | |
A motivational episode - consider it your personal pep talk to manage your inner critic and give you a confidence boost. Carly Ann is here to help if you’ve got something coming up that’s making you nervous. Whether it’s a date, a job interview, a boundary to set, or a tough conversation, this episode will help settle your mind and lift your energy. It’s for those moments when your inner critic gets loud and tries to convince you to stay small, quiet, or hidden. Carly Ann is speaking directly to that inner critic and guiding you back into your body - back into your power. This pep talk helps you reconnect to the present moment with calm, strength, and self-belief. If you’re done playing small and ready to feel grounded and capable, this is the boost you’ve been waiting for. Other useful links:
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| 4 Powerful Ways to Build Self-Esteem (When You Feel Not Good Enough) | 15 juin 2025 | 00:13:07 | |
For Low Self-Esteem Do you ever feel like you’re not good enough no matter how hard you try? Do you second-guess your worth, wonder if you’re truly lovable, or compare yourself to everyone around you? If your confidence feels fragile and your inner critic is running the show, this episode is for you. In this episode, Carly Ann shares 4 powerful, evidence-based ways to start healing low self-esteem, drawn from her own experience and the work of psychologist Melanie Fennell. You’ll learn 4 common ways therapists support their clients to create lasting self-worth. If you’re ready to stop believing the worst about yourself and start feeling more secure, capable, and worthy, definitely don’t skip this one. Other useful links:
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| 6 Minute Self-Esteem Reset Meditation | Build Confidence, Stop Overthinking, & Feel Good Enough | 11 juin 2025 | 00:06:14 | |
This self-esteem reset meditation is for you if you struggle with self-worth, overthinking, people-pleasing, or anxious attachment. Other useful links:
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| Always Worrying, Catastrophising, & Expecting the worst? Let's Turn Down the Volume on Negative Thinking | 08 juin 2025 | 00:16:04 | |
Do you find yourself constantly preparing for the worst? Playing out disaster scenarios in your head? Comparing yourself to others and feeling like you’re always coming up short? In today’s episode, we’re diving into a sneaky but powerful habit many of us don’t even realise we’re stuck in, the automatic pull toward the negative. Whether it’s fear, comparison, or imagining everything that could go wrong, this pattern is draining your energy, confidence, and joy. Plus, I’m giving you reflective questions and a motivational boost to help you shift your focus, feel more grounded, and stop letting fear run the show. Other useful links:
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| You Get It Logically... So Why Do You Still Feel Stuck & Keep Repeating Patterns? | 04 juin 2025 | 00:04:23 | |
You know they’re not right for you. You know you deserve better. You know the anxious spiral is hurting you. So why does it still feel like your heart hasn’t caught up with your head? In this episode, Carly Ann is diving into the frustrating phenomenon known as head-heart lag...That all-too-familiar space where your logic is crystal clear, but your emotions and behaviours aren’t playing ball. If you’ve ever said, “I get it, but I just can’t seem to do it” this one is for you. Other useful links:
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| Anxious Attachment: Why You Keep Asking the Same Questions & Seeking Reassurance (+ Why it Doesn't Work) | 01 juin 2025 | 00:13:56 | |
Struggling with anxious attachment? Always asking “Do you still love me?” or “Are you sure you’re not leaving?” even when you know the answer won’t help for long? In this episode, Carly Ann unpacks why anxious attachers seek constant reassurance, how it keeps you stuck in a loop, and why your nervous system never quite feels safe. If you're stuck overthinking, spiralling after silence, or chasing reassurance through asking non-stop questions, this one is for you Other useful links:
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| The Anxious / Disorganised Attachment Trap: Stuck, Lost & Unsure How to Change | 28 mai 2025 | 00:10:35 | |
JOIN STUCK TO SECURE BEFORE JUNE 1ST Everything seems fine… but you still feel stuck or lost? This episode is for the anxious attachers who keep finding themselves here: things look okay on the outside, but inside it’s the same fog, the same fear, the same cycle. Or you cant seem to stop yourself falling into old, painful cycles. You've had enough! Carly Ann explores feeling stuck and lost with you, what keeps it going, and how to start breaking free - today! Other useful links:
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| When You Think You're Being Abandoned & You Become Someone You Don’t Even Recognise | ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT | 25 mai 2025 | 00:14:00 | |
JOIN STUCK TO SECURE BEFORE JUNE 1ST Struggling with feeling panicky or desperate when you think someone you love is pulling away? Do you find yourself turning into a version of yourself you barely recognise - anxious, overwhelmed, even irrational…whenever you fear abandonment or rejection? If you’re tired of the emotional rollercoaster with avoidants or feeling stuck in cycles of panic and overthinking, this episode is made for you. Join me as we unpack what’s really happening beneath the surface of anxious attachment, why your panic feels so overwhelming, and, most importantly, how you can start reclaiming your calm and grounded self, even if you don’t believe it’s possible! If you want to finally stop letting fear control your relationships and start coming home to yourself, hit play now. Other useful links:
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| Struggling with Self-Worth and Relationship Anxiety? These Two Behaviours Only Make it Worse! | 21 mai 2025 | 00:18:03 | |
JOIN STUCK TO SECURE BEFORE JUNE 1ST Struggling with relationship anxiety/anxious attachment? Feeling like you are struggling with self-worth and showing up as your true self? Today, I am sharing 2 common patterns that actually keep you stuck in a cycle of insecurity, fear of rejection, and low self esteem. If you’re ready to get out of the anxious cycle and build your self worth - this episode makes it clear how you can start today! Other useful links:
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| (WORKSHOP): Break Your Anxious Attachment Cycle Today | 18 mai 2025 | 00:56:34 | |
If you know you're stuck in an anxious cycle, like overthinking, chasing, second-guessing, or feeling like you just can't relax in love, this episode is your lifeline. In this free workshop, I’ll guide you through powerful and practical steps to break the cycle you're in right now. It doesn't matter if you're single, dating, in a situationship, or in a relationship that leaves you feeling unsure. Grab a pen and paper, or simply follow along in your mind. This isn’t just something to listen to. It’s a hands-on experience to help you get clear on your patterns, understand what’s really going on underneath, and shift how you respond to your triggers. Expect reflection, real talk, and gentle prompts that go straight to the heart. You don’t have to stay stuck in anxious attachment. Let this be the moment things start to change. Other useful links:
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| Anxious Attachment? Then This One Question Matters Most (Especially if You're Healing) | 10 mai 2025 | 00:09:43 | |
If you have an anxious attachment style and you’re doing the work, trying to heal, build self-worth, and stop losing yourself in relationships, there’s a question you need to be asking. In this episode, I bring that question to the table. It’s the kind of conversation most anxious attachers skip over, but without it, the healing can only go so far. If you’re still getting triggered, still chasing reassurance, or still forgetting who you are in love, this episode is a must-listen. Other useful links:
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| When You're Scared You've Messed Up & Anxious Attachment Has Ruined Everything | 07 mai 2025 | 00:13:35 | |
If you’re feeling like you’ve messed it all up… again, like you’re back at square one, stuck in the same old anxious attachment spiral than this episode is for you. Maybe you’ve texted when you said you wouldn’t. Maybe you’re beating yourself up for caring too much (again). Maybe your mind is screaming: “Why am I like this?!” Before you disappear into shame or start rewriting the story that you’re too much, too needy, or never going to change, listen to me in this ep. Carly Ann shares the one thing you need to hear in this moment. It’s the thing that will help you soften the spiral, reconnect with yourself, and start moving forward again (without pretending it doesn’t hurt). It’s not a quick fix.. but it is a powerful shift, and will certainly help you get back on track. If you’ve ever searched:
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| Common Anxious Attachment Triggers that Set You Off into Worry, Overthinking, & Acting Out | 04 mai 2025 | 00:19:41 | |
Feeling triggered in love, dating, and relationships? Constantly worrying, acting out, and obsessing? This episode is for anyone with anxious attachment who finds themselves overreacting, spiralling, or shutting down. Learn the most common attachment triggers and even get some bonus tips on how to manage them. Perfect for anyone healing anxious attachment, exploring their reactions, and ready to feel more secure in relationships. 🎧 Attachment triggers, relationship anxiety, anxious attachment podcast, reacting in relationships, healing attachment wounds. Other useful links:
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| When Healing You Anxious Attachment Feels Like It's Not Working (You're Stuck in a Cycle & at Rock Bottom) | 30 avr. 2025 | 00:10:29 | |
Register for the free workshop: Breaking the Cycle of Anxious Attachment You've been working hard to heal your anxious and/or disorganised attachment and right now you just feel like nothing is working? All the tools, the therapy, the journaling - none of it seems to be helping, and you're right back where you started? This episode is for you. Whether you're feeling a heavy dip right now, stuck in a familiar loop, or questioning if healing is even possible for you, this episode is going to give you what you need right now. Carly Ann speaks from both professional and personal experience, plus shares expert insight about what these "stuck" moments really mean, and what to do when your attachment wounds flare up despite all the work you've done. If your inner critic is loud right now, if you're caught in anxious spirals or shut down, tune in. This is for your healing heart. Other useful links:
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| Motivation for Anxious Attachment. Listen When You're Triggered, Overthinking, & Feeling Like You're Not Enough | 24 avr. 2025 | 00:09:33 | |
Anxious Attachment is often maintained by low self-worth.. If you’ve ever felt like you’re not good enough in love, dating, & relationships (especially when they pull away or act cold), this episode is 100% for you. In this raw and honest moment, Carly Ann speaks straight from here heart to anyway that has anxious attachment, low self-worth, and knows the pain of being caught in a cycle you just want to break! Listen when you’re feeling low, hurt, triggered, or just stuck in that familiar spiral of overthinking and self-blame. Or even when you just need a motivational boost. This one’s here to remind you, it’s not you, it’s the pattern...and guess what? it can change. Other useful links:
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| Ghosting! This is Why People Ghost Instead of Speaking with You | 19 avr. 2025 | 00:09:44 | |
Why do people ghost? If you have anxious attachment, being ghosted can feel devastating..like rejection, confusion, and obsession all rolled into one. In this episode, Carly Ann is diving into the reasons that different people ghost. If you have recently been ghosted, I hope this gives you some clarity around what is going on. Other useful links:
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| What Is Self-Soothing? A Must-Listen for the Anxiously Attached | 13 avr. 2025 | 00:13:24 | |
If you've ever found yourself obsessing over a message or an ex, worrying they've lost interest, or feeling completely triggered by distance or mixed signals...this episode is for you. Whether you're in a situationship, dating an avoidant, or constantly battling your own anxious attachment style, you’ve probably heard the advice: just self-soothe. But what does that actually mean? This episode is your go-to if you’ve been confused about what self-soothing really looks like when your anxious attachment is in overdrive, your thoughts are spiralling, and all you want is reassurance. Hit play if you’re tired of being stuck in anxious spirals and ready to learn what it means to self-soothe Other useful links:
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| TWO CBT Tools to Help with Worry & Uncertainty Around Your Relationships (For Anxiously Attached) | 06 avr. 2025 | 00:13:45 | |
If you find yourself constantly worrying...Why haven’t they texted back? Did I say something wrong? Are they losing interest? this episode of Lessons in Attachment is for you. When you have an anxious attachment style, waiting and overthinking can take over your whole day. In this episode,Carly Ann is sharing two powerful CBT-based tools to help you cope with uncertainty and worry! You’ll hear real-life examples (including my own!) and learn how to gently shift out of panic mode, no matter what someone else is doing. Whether you’re dating, in a situationship, or navigating your own healing, these simple steps will help you feel more secure, grounded, and in control. Other useful links:
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| This is How They Really Feel About Ghosting You | 29 mars 2025 | 00:09:32 | |
Have you been ghosted? Ghosting is one of the most painful and confusing ways to be left behind, but do ghosters actually feel anything? In this episode, Carly Ann dive into a fascinating study by Freedman et al (2022) to uncover what’s really going on in the minds of ghosters. Do they feel guilty? Do they regret it? Or do they just move on without a second thought? Spoiler: It’s not as simple as you might think. Other useful links:
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| Obsessed and Overthinking? Here are 3 Signs of Limerence You Need to Know | 23 mars 2025 | 00:09:15 | |
Do you ever feel crazy? like your thoughts are spinning out of control over someone? That intense, obsessive longing where every little thing they do feels like a sign? You might be experiencing limerence. It’s more than just a crush - it’s an all-consuming obsession that can feel like an addiction to this person. It feels crazy - but I assure you you're not In this episode Carly Ann give 3 major signs of limerence, how it differs from real love, and how people are healing. If you've ever felt stuck in a cycle of longing and obsession, this one’s for you Other useful links:
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| The Real Reason Your Breakup Feels Worse, Your Heartbreak Is Intense, and You Feel Stuck Compared to Others | 19 mars 2025 | 00:09:22 | |
If you’re going through a breakup right now, you already know how painful it is. But have you ever wondered why some breakups feel so much worse than others? Why, for some people, the pain feels overwhelming, like it's impossible to move on? Well, research suggests there’s a reason for that. And in today’s episode, we’re breaking down exactly what makes a breakup feel so unbearable for some people, and what you can do to start feeling better. Stick with me, because by the end of this episode, you’ll have a whole new perspective on your breakup and the tools to move forward. Other useful links:
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