This week I want to talk to you about procrastination. I have so many people telling me I want to do this thing but I can't get myself motivated to do it. What I've found is that procrastination is not a time management issue, but an emotional management issue. This week I dig into why we procrastinate and how to start overcoming it.

That inner critic you have that drones on and on every day about how bad you are at being a human is NOT your voice. It was put there by society - capitalism, religion, patriarchy, white supremacy, school, religion - in an attempt to control you. And it's time we undo it. 

This is Part 2 of a 2-part series that will help you get rid of your inner critic. If you haven't listened to Part 1, definitely start there because the first step is truly becoming aware of what it is and where it came from and that's what I'll cover in this episode.

Part 2 will start giving you the rest of the steps to move you from a harsh inner critic to unshakeable self-trust.

In this episode, we explore why so many of us rush through our lives believing happiness waits on the other side of achievement. As I prepare for a sabbatical, I share my philosophy of choosing one meaningful goal each year—not to fix yourself, but to deepen your experience of the life you already have. We talk about the trap of chasing "there," the shame cycle of over-goal-setting, and how slowing down helps you reconnect with joy, presence, and purpose. Instead of racing toward a future version of yourself, this episode invites you to savor the chapter you're in while intentionally shaping what comes next.

In this episode of Lessons from a Quitter, I dive deep into the systems for setting yourself up for success. Listen to explore the intricate balance between strengths and weaknesses and how to leverage them for success. The three-step process I swear by involves eliminating tasks that don't serve you, delegating when possible, and understanding what you truly need to excel. I share personal anecdotes, highlighting the power of strategic planning and self-awareness from my own entrepreneurial journey. Tune in to discover how anticipating obstacles and strategically addressing them can pave the way for achieving your goals and crafting a life you love.

In the latest episode of Lessons from a Quitter, I dive deep into the eye-opening realization that success doesn't have to mean sacrificing balance. Reflecting on a recent $90k month, I share my journey of building a business that not only has high earnings but affords me the luxury of time off, intentional work hours, and the freedom to speak up on social issues. I debunk the myth that scaling means working more, emphasizing the power of scaling without compromising your desired lifestyle. Join me in exploring untapped possibilities and learn how you too can create a thriving career on your terms.

In today's episode, I'm sharing what I call "Living in the 'And.'" For so many of us, we trap ourselves in the illusion of either/or thinking—believing we're either good or bad, successful or failure. But here's the truth: you're not a single-faceted person. By embracing the 'And,' acknowledging that we're both flawed and fantastic, we can alleviate the pressure to conform to rigid binaries. Join me as I share personal experiences and practical tips on changing our self-prescribed narratives, fostering self-acceptance, and building richer, more compassionate relationships. Listen to break out of the either/or trap and find freedom in the 'And.'

In this episode, I'm getting real about the overwhelming world we live in. I used to carry the weight of the world on my shoulders, feeling guilty for having a good life while others suffered. But guess what? That doesn't help anyone. From the slow progress of history to the chaos of information overload, I share my strategies for staying sane. Spoiler: Focusing on your own thoughts, feelings, and actions is the only way to be able to show up the way you want. Tune in for a dose of empowerment and a reminder that you're allowed to feel okay amidst the chaos.

In this episode, I explore the shame and societal judgments around pursuing joy. You know that feeling when you're guilty for enjoying something that's seen as "childish" or not "intellectual" enough? We've all been there. But, I'm excited to share my personal journey of rediscovering joy through romance and fantasy novels and why it's totally okay to prioritize what makes you happy, even if society disagrees. We'll talk about shaking off the shame, embracing new passions, and the flexibility of our identities. Listen to redefine what brings you joy!

In this episode, I discuss a powerful concept: doing less to live a life you truly enjoy. We're bombarded with messages about work-life balance and the need to prove ourselves through constant productivity. But it's time to challenge these notions. The key is to learn how to do less and reject these toxic beliefs. I dive into the benefits of delegating tasks and question why we're so hesitant to ask for help. Listen to reclaim your life, embrace the idea of doing less, and find joy and fulfillment in the process.

In this episode, we explore the transformative side effects of chasing your dreams. We often expect achieving goals to guarantee happiness, but it's not that simple. Life is a mix of good and bad, no matter where we are. The real value lies in who we become during the process. When we stop avoiding obstacles and setbacks, we can practice self-discipline, courage, and personal growth. The journey itself shapes us more than the destination. Listen to learn how to embrace the challenges, as they're your path to self-discovery.

We often waste precious time and energy arguing with reality – insisting that things should be different than they are. In this episode, I reveal the common pitfalls of waiting for a perfect, non-existent option C and explain why it's crucial to accept the 50-50 nature of life's choices. By letting go of the illusion of control and focusing on how we want to respond to the circumstances we face, we can gain clarity, make better decisions, and reclaim our power. Tune in to discover how to stop the exhausting cycle of arguing with reality and start moving forward with intention and purpose.

Welcome to another exciting episode of Lessons from a Quitter. I'm thrilled to have you tuning in today because we've got a special guest, Melody Wilding, joining us. Melody, a licensed social worker and professor at Hunter College, dives deep into the world of Sensitive Strivers–individuals who feel things intensely, often grappling with criticism, the need for validation, and more. Melody shows us how these qualities can be superpowers, not weaknesses. Listen for her insights on leveraging our sensitivity and overachieving nature to thrive in the corporate world and banish imposter syndrome along the way. 

To learn more about Melody's work and read her book, you can visit: www.melodywilding.com/book

In this episode, I have a candid conversation with three incredible women who share their personal journeys and the transformations inside their yearlong membership to the Quitter Club. Marissa, Sarah, and Rithu reveal how they found themselves feeling stuck and overwhelmed in different aspects of their lives, from careers to personal struggles. They discuss their initial reasons for joining the Quitter Club and how the powerful approach to managing their minds has helped them regain control, find hope, and make positive changes. Their stories illustrate that regardless of the circumstances, the resources inside the Quitter Club offer relatable and life-changing tools that can reshape your perspective and empower you to lead a more fulfilling life. Tune in to discover how they learned to separate thoughts from reality and apply these concepts to various areas of their lives.

In this episode, we dive into the hidden reason so many of us stay stuck: the paradox of choice. In a world overflowing with career paths, business ideas, and "perfect" next steps, too many options can keep us spinning in fear of choosing wrong. I talk about why our brains get overwhelmed, how endless possibilities dilute satisfaction, and how this shows up when we're burnt out and unsure of our next move. More importantly, I walk you through building the skill of making confident decisions, embracing "good enough," and moving forward without regret so you can finally redesign a life you love.

In this episode, I dive deep into the powerful concept of deciding why something is worth it before you even know the outcome. It's not about just knowing your why; it's about embracing the journey and the growth it offers, regardless of the result. I share examples that resonate with busy professionals seeking change, whether it's venturing into entrepreneurship, running a marathon, or contemplating a new job. By uncovering the intrinsic value of your choices and understanding the lessons they bring, you can make decisions with confidence, build self-trust, and transform your approach to life's challenges. It's time to stop fixating on outcomes and start savoring the wisdom gained from every step of your journey. Tune in for a new perspective on decision-making and personal growth.

In this episode, I explore the power of long-term thinking and breaking down goals into manageable building blocks. Instead of succumbing to the pressure of quick fixes, I share personal examples of how taking a more gradual approach to change, whether it's in business or your personal goals, can lead to lasting transformation. By giving yourself the time and flexibility to evolve over several years, you can achieve meaningful, sustainable growth. Embrace the journey and discover the compounding effect of patience and persistence.

In this episode, I'm sharing a realistic approach to goal-setting and decision-making that I practice in my own business and coach on inside the Quitter Club. The societal pressure to meticulously plan out our success can be tough to shake and leave us spinning, going nowhere. Listen to learn how to let go of the need to know every step, accept change, and embrace uncertainty by focusing on short-term, achievable objectives in just 90 days. This approach helps prevent overwhelm, decision fatigue, and procrastination. By setting 90-day goals, evaluating your progress, and adjusting course as needed, you will be able to move towards your goals far faster than if you simply went hard for 2 weeks while operating solely on motivation. 90 days is the perfect length to build consistency and discipline for staying committed to your goals while still giving you the flexibility to redirect and change course, if needed.

In this episode, I dive deep into the concept of the messy middle – the space where most of life happens, filled with shades of gray rather than absolutes of right or wrong. Our brains often gravitate towards black-and-white thinking because it feels safe and certain, but this episode explores how embracing the ambiguity of the middle can lead to personal growth and understanding. From the way we perceive truth and engage in discussions, to our political beliefs and the pursuit of success, I encourage you to let go of the need for clear-cut answers. Instead of striving for an unattainable perfection, I suggest finding beauty and learning in the messy middle. By acknowledging that life is a continuous journey without an ultimate destination, we can release ourselves from the pressure of always being right and open ourselves to new perspectives. So, let's explore the gray areas, accept our imperfections, and thrive in the space where life truly unfolds.

In today's episode, we're diving into the three crucial steps you need to take when you're feeling stuck in your career. We all know that feeling of being trapped in a job that's making us miserable, but before you rush to quit, let's take a deep breath and think strategically. I'll be explaining how to slow down and take an honest audit of your situation. Is it all the job's fault, or are you contributing to your own unhappiness? Next, how to redirect your focus on what you can change: about yourself, your reactions, and your boundaries. You can't change everything around you, but you can control your responses. Finally, how to understand your financial runway – what you have saved, what you need, and what options it gives you. Whether you're planning to quit or just make your current situation better, these steps are your roadmap to designing a life you truly love.

In the latest episode of Lessons from a Quitter, we're diving deep into the world of entrepreneurship. I share my personal journey of embracing that little voice urging me to become an entrepreneur and debunk some common myths surrounding entrepreneurship. Like the belief that it's only for a special few. Truth is, anyone can be an entrepreneur with the desire and willingness to try. There's no one-size-fits-all approach either; different types of entrepreneurs thrive in various ways. Listen to learn how to separate the truth from the lies that float around online about entrepreneurship.

In the latest episode of Lessons From a Quitter, I share how our jobs often become a significant part of our identity, making it challenging to detach from them. I discuss the underlying fears and shame that drive this attachment, as well as the pressure to be perfect in our roles. Listen and learn how to challenge the notion that our worth is tied to our work and encourage self-acceptance beyond titles and achievements. This episode offers valuable insights for everyone, whether you're considering quitting or not. Join me in this discussion of self-discovery and find liberation from the limitations of societal expectations.

In the latest episode of "Lessons from a Quitter," I dive into what to expect after quitting your job and how to navigate the challenges that come up. Many people believe that once they quit their jobs, their problems will disappear. However, the reality is that your brain will quickly start panicking and doubting your decision. I explain why this is normal and why our brains are wired to prioritize safety and productivity. I provide strategies for managing these fears, including creating a plan before quitting, acknowledging that your brain's panic is normal, and detaching yourself from fearful thoughts. By understanding and managing these challenges, you can confidently move forward and design a life you love.

On today's episode, we're talking all things consulting. If you've ever wondered what a consultant actually does or how to get started, this episode is for you.

Amy Rasdal is on the show today to help so many of you figure out whether you could start your own consulting business with the skills you already have. 

And she's the perfect person to help us navigate the world of consulting. Amy traded her corporate job for consulting 15 years ago and makes more money than most executives. The advantages are freedom, flexibility, control, interesting work and excellent pay. She has been running her own multiple 6-figure consulting business for more than 15 years. As the founder of Billable at the Beach®, Amy has helped hundreds of people start their own successful consulting businesses through speaking, workshops and various programs over the past 10 years. 

If you'd like to get in contact Amy to learn more, here is all you need:

Email: amy@billableatthebeach.com

Website: https://www.billableatthebeach.com/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/amyrasdal/

Free Email Course 3 Action Steps to Generate Revenue NOW! https://www.billableatthebeach.com/free-course/

Book Land a Consulting Project NOW!: Build a life of freedom, flexibility, and inspiring work running your own 6-figure business https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0B1B4Y7D8

In this week's episode, we explore one of the most important—and most overlooked—keys to redesigning a life you love: honoring your own capacity. As I prepare for my upcoming sabbatical, I reflect on why so many high-achievers feel broken when they can't operate like everyone else. Using stories from my son's soccer team and my own burnout, I break down how our brains, bodies, and nervous systems are uniquely wired. When we stop fighting who we are and start working with our natural rhythms, we can make clearer decisions, reduce shame, and build a life that actually fits.

I gotta say, this podcast episode might just be the most important one I've ever recorded. We often beat ourselves up, wish we were different, and blame our brains for not working like everyone else's. But what if all that self-judgment is actually holding us back from enjoying life and pursuing our dreams?

It's okay to be different, and it's okay to seek growth while accepting ourselves. Let's explore this idea together and find ways to be kinder to ourselves.

This is a continuation of recordings from the 3-day Love it or Leave It Challenge. This episode is from Day 3 where I help you make a decision to leave it. We'll cover the following:

• The lies that keep you stuck
• How to decide to leave your current career
• How to start making better decisions
• And so much more.

If after listening, you want more help in learning how to make decisions, create a plan, and actually go after it, join me in my monthly membership, the Quitter Club. We're starting a new program called 90-day decisions where I'll teach you how to make any decision bite-sized, how to evaluate and pivot, and how to avoid all the overwhelm that keeps you paralyzed. It'll change how make any decision. 

This is a continuation of my recordings from the 3-day Love it or Leave It Challenge. This episode is from Day 2 where I help you make a decision to love it. We'll cover the following:

• The lies that keep you stuck
• How to decide to love your current career
• How to start making better decisions
• And so much more.

If after listening, you want more help in learning how to make decisions, create a plan, and actually go after it, join me in my monthly membership, the Quitter Club. We're starting a new program called 90-day decisions where I'll teach you how to make any decision bite-sized, how to evaluate and pivot, and how to avoid all the overwhelm that keeps you paralyzed. It'll change how make any decision. 

Today we're doing something a little different on the podcast.

I'm replaying Day 1 of my Love it or Leave it Challenge. I normally only share the trainings with people who have signed up for it but the material in this challenge was too important not to share.

Over the next 3 days, I'm going to share all 3 days of the challenge. In it you're going to learn:

• The lies that keep you stuck
• How to decide to love your current career or leave it. 
• How to start making better decisions
• And so much more.

If after listening, you want more help in learning how to make decisions, create a plan, and actually go after it, join me in my monthly membership, the Quitter Club. We're starting a new program called 90-day decisions where I'll teach you how to make any decision bite-sized, how to evaluate and pivot, and how to avoid all the overwhelm that keeps you paralyzed. It'll change how make any decision. 

Join us at www.lessonsfromaquitter.com/quitterclub

In this episode of the Lessons from a Quitter podcast, we dive into the topic of "Massive Action." Many of us struggle with taking action because we fear making the wrong decisions. But the importance of moving forward, even when we're uncertain about the "right" choice, is to embrace the concept of massive action, where we actively pursue our goals and dreams, gather data from our experiences, and learn from the outcomes.

By embracing action and analyzing the results without self-judgment, we can navigate our paths, make decisions, and live a fulfilling life. To learn more about this topic and join Goli in her Love It or Leave It challenge, visit quitterclub.com/challenge.

This week I finally put out a bonus episode! It's something I've been wanting to do for about four years so I'm counting this as a win! So what's this bonus episode about? I want to talk about decision debt. If you haven't heard I'm doing a live three-day challenge next week. As I've been preparing the content for the challenge, I've realized just how much we give in to decision debt.

I want us to stop the ridiculousness of going back and forth and never make a decision. If you've felt stuck and if you listen to this and you realize that you are paying a hefty fee in your decision debt, then I want you to join me in the Love It or Leave It Challenge next week. You can go to quitter club.com/challenge and finally make that decision. Even if you don't have all the answers, even if you don't know what you're going to do, even if [insert all the excuses we love to have come up for you], you're going to come out of this with a decision. I know you're going to want to believe that your situation is different but I promise you, it's not.

On this podcast episode I want to share something that changed the way I think about certain emotions. I've noticed that there are some emotions that we tend to indulge in, even though they don't actually feel good. These are emotions like confusion, worry, and overwhelm. It's like your brain keeps going back to those emotions over and over again, almost on autopilot, which can create a cycle of being stuck. 

What's interesting is that when we're in this cycle, it feels like we're being productive. Our brain convinces us that we're solving a problem by constantly thinking about it. We believe that gathering more information, seeking others' opinions, and waiting for certainty will lead us to the right decision. But the truth is, 100% certainty doesn't exist. We need to be aware of when we're simply indulging in confusion out of fear rather than genuinely needing more information.

In this episode of Lessons from a Quitter I talk about the different mindsets people have towards their jobs and how those mindsets can affect their overall experience. I want to help you look at your job as a means to an end, which can free up mental space and energy for other aspects of your life that you want to focus on. 

I want to encourage you to make the most of your job, even if you find it boring or unfulfilling, by using any extra time to work on a side hustle, passion project, or new hobby.

I also spend some time talking about people who hate their jobs and are making their situation worse by constantly ruminating on negative thoughts about their job. I go over how our thoughts about our jobs can create suffering and energy that take up mental space and prevent us from taking action to change our situation. That's why I suggest treating your job as an investment in your business. So let's start focusing on what we can do to make the most of our situation, whether it's finding a new job, starting a side hustle, or simply changing our perspective.

In this episode on Lessons from a Quitter we talk about vulnerability and how the ability to show vulnerability can be hindered by fear. Over time we develop fears about what others will think, fear of being judged, fear of being seen as imperfect. This fear often prevents people from fully showing up and being themselves.

We have been conditioned to believe that we should only show up if we are perfect, which is unobtainable, so we are constantly hiding half of ourselves. We need to understand that we are human beings and we are going to be 50% good and 50% bad. We need to learn to embrace our imperfections and not be afraid to show our vulnerable side. Vulnerability is the key to true connection with others. We have been taught to hide our negative emotions or struggles, but this only creates a group of people who are putting on an act. By allowing ourselves to be vulnerable we create deeper connections and can live a more authentic life.

I've been coaching more and more people on the issue of layoffs as it's been coming up frequently in my membership, the Quitter Club. In this episode, I talk about the practical and emotional aspects of dealing with layoffs.

While the practical steps like updating resumes and networking are important, a significant source of pain and anxiety comes from our thoughts and emotions surrounding the idea of being laid off.

It's important to understand how our thoughts about potential layoffs, dread, anxiety, and uncertainty can add so much unnecessary drama and suffering to an already difficult situation.

Learning how to process our emotions, and not solely focus on trying to control the uncertainty of the situation, can help us navigate this difficult time. I share strategies and techniques for managing the emotional impact of layoffs, drawing on my experience coaching clients in similar situations. Tune in to learn how to navigate the challenges of layoffs with resilience and self-compassion.

In this week's episode of Lessons from a Quitter, we sit down with special guest Dinesh Melwani to explore how small, intentional shifts can completely change the trajectory of your life and career. We talk about delegating without guilt, reclaiming your time, and building confidence through consistent, incremental action. Dinesh shares how he's redesigned his own life—juggling law, real estate, coaching, a podcast, and now a children's book—by narrowing his focus, embracing seasons, and letting his day job fund his bigger dreams. This conversation is a powerful reminder that you don't have to quit everything to build a life you love.

Follow Dinesh Melwani at @dineshmelwani and check out his book on amazon.

Today, we're going to talk about choosing one goal. Every time I talk about this, I get the most responses that I get to really anything that I talk about. People are upset and they want to explain to me why they should have more than one goal, why it's different for them, why they need to do so much more. And there's a lot of misconceptions of what this one goal rule is.

It's perfect timing for this episode as we finished the first quarter of the year, and it's time to check in and see how you did on your goals. How did that work? If it didn't work out the way you wanted I want you to maybe suspend your concerns or your skepticism of this concept for quarter two. Just try it. You can always go back. You can have all your goals in Q3 if you want, but just try for the next three months. If I just choose one goal to focus on, let's see how I do.

In this episode of Lessons from a Quitter, I talk about accepting what is. Sometimes we create so much drama around discomfort that, which only adds unnecessary suffering to an already stressful situation.

Today we talk about one of the biggest skills you can have, which is accepting what is and accepting the circumstances in your life. Coming to the realization that you don't control and can't control everything can free up so much more space to problem solve. Then going about your life not adding all of the unnecessary drama to it, which we've discussed before as dirty pain. You can learn to take care of yourself and your needs despite the uncontrollable and ever-changing variables in your life.

In this episode of Lessons from a Quitter, we talk about the importance of taking vacation time. I emphasize on the fact that taking a break is not a luxury, but a necessity. The capitalist system has conditioned us to believe that productivity equals worth, and as a result, many of us struggle to take time off work. We need to change our mindset around vacation time and stop equating rest with laziness.

The Puritan work ethic, combined with the capitalist system, has led to the idea that hard work equals godliness. This narrative has been ingrained in us for decades, and it can be hard to break free from it. However, taking time off is essential for our mental and physical health. Tune in to this episode to check in on your thoughts around taking a break. Are you able to enjoy your vacation without feeling guilty or trying to maximize that time to do more?!

Do you know the difference between the problems you were hired to handle and your employer's problems? I'm assuming you don't. Because the vast majority of my clients are burned out and exhausted taking on the problems that have nothing to do with their jobs. Corporate America loves to take advantage of employees' perfectionism and people-pleasing tendencies to pile on extra work that they are not paid to do. If we're ever going to maintain our sanity, let alone a work/life balance, we have to get really clear about what we are hired to do. Our jobs are transactional relationships and we get paid for performing a specific set of tasks. That's it. 

In this episode I encourage you to evaluate the tasks you were hired to do and what you are doing that is beyond your pay grade, figure out when you agreed to take on extra work, and how you can change this situation. There are four common problems that arise from employees taking on work they are not paid to do, including doing more work than we are paid for, taking on someone else's responsibilities, working beyond regular hours, and fixing other people's mistakes. Listen in as I encourage you to set boundaries, advocate for yourself, and give back work that is not your responsibility.

This week, I'm replaying an episode I did in 2019 with Dave Hollis. Unfortunately, Dave unexpectedly passed away last month from heart failure. I wanted to replay this episode as a tribute to him. But, more importantly, I wanted to replay it because there is so much we can learn from Dave and how he lived his life. 

In this episode, I dive into what I learned from Dave during our brief interaction on the podcast, how focusing on the fact that life is short can help drive you towards the life you want, and why tragedies like this really put into focus how little it matters what other people think about you and your choices. 

This week, I'm sharing a podcast that I LOVE and had the pleasure of being a guest on: The Get Paid Podcast with Claire Pelletreau. 

Claire has a way of asking all of the questions we want to know but are usually afraid to ask: How much money do you make? What do you spend it on? How did you get here (literally step by step)?

If you want to hear my entire journey and get the juicy details of every step, make sure to check out this episode.

One of the biggest lies we love to believe is that it's "easier" to just stay where we are. It's easier to not go after those dreams. But it's not easier, it's just more familiar. And that familiarity leads to resentment, bitterness, hopelessness, despair, and dread. It's not easier living like that. So if you're not going to go after your dreams, at least stop lying to yourself by saying that it's easier this way.

This week, we dive into this topic and how we can start seeing the price we pay for staying in that comfort zone. 

Studies have shown the most important factor for reaching your goals isn't more motivation or willpower. It is being surrounded with people that will hold you accountable and support you. You already know you're more likely to give up on your goals if you're the only one who knows about it. On this week's podcast, I talk about how being in communities that supported me through this journey of career change is the only reason I have the business I have today and how you can start finding your community too.

One of the main principles I try to live by and teach my students is to focus on one thing

Focus on one goal for the year. Focus on one area to improve. Focus on one limiting belief. 

Just slow down and take as much time as it takes to get the result you want in that ONE area and then move onto the next thing. But most people push against this because we've been conditioned to believe we need to change it ALL…and FAST. So we set a ton of goals, tell ourselves we're behind, and scramble because we think there isn't enough time. 

But we all know what happens. We get overwhelmed and give up. The irony is that if you slow down to work on one thing until you've mastered it, you actually start solving your problems. 

That's exactly what Betty Dao did. She was in my program Pave Your Path and she took my advice to focus on just ONE thing. She got to work on that. She even stopped coming to the coaching calls because she didn't want to be influenced to work on other things and she changed her life!

She's on the podcast today to talk about her journey.

Here's why self-love is CRITICAL. 

You think your problem is:

People pleasing 

Perfectionism 

Caring too much about what other people need 

Overachieving 

Imposter syndrome 

But the root of all of those is a lack of self-love. And this isn't in some woo-woo "all we need is love" kind of thing. I've coached thousands of people and the root of almost every problem is some underlying belief of:

I'm not good enough. 

It's a worth issue. Think about it. 

That's why we so desperately need other people to approve of or like us. 

That's why we try so hard to be perfect. 

That's why we keep checking off all the boxes society tells us to in order to be "good enough". 

They're all defense mechanisms. 

Because we're terrified that somehow our deepest insecurity might be true…that maybe we're really not good enough in some way. 

And so we hustle…we perform…we give and give…

But no amount of other people's love or accomplishments or perfection will ever outrun that thought. 

If it would, you would've done it by now.

It only changes when we decide to change our own thoughts about ourselves. 

It's available to you right now.

No need to do or be anything else. 

And it's one of the most important skills to cultivate. 

On today's podcast episode, I dive deeper into why self-love is critical.

In this week's episode of Lessons from a Quitter, we dive into an unpolished but powerful reflection on Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs and how understanding it can help us navigate uncertainty and reduce unnecessary suffering. We explore the difference between "clean" and "dirty" pain and how our brains are wired to always look for problems—even when life is objectively good. By recognizing where we are on the hierarchy, we can cultivate more compassion for ourselves, redirect our minds toward meaningful goals, and find gratitude for the structure and challenges that keep us grounded, even in seasons of self-doubt or transition.

My friend, Scarlett Cochran, is back on the podcast today to talk about how to think about your money in a way that lets you create the rich life you want today. 

If you didn't catch Scarlett's first episode on the podcast where she talked about her incredibly inspiring story (she went from single teen mom in the military making $25k a year to putting herself through Yale Law School to becoming a Banking and Consumer Finance Attorney to growing her platform One Big Happy Life to multiple six figures as a side hustle) make sure to check it out here.

But after coaching thousands of people on how to build wealth, Scarlett started seeing a pattern: People were living by other people's money rules…even if it made their lives miserable. 

So she set out to change that. 

She wrote her first book, It's Not About the Money, to change how people approach their money. The book gives a simple system for understanding and managing your money in a way that feels good to YOU so you can create the life you want to live TODAY and every day after that. 

And she's on the podcast to talk about it with us today. 

Make sure to snag her book and follow her here: 

Everyone focuses on teaching you how to set goals. But what happens after you set it? We all know that the hard part comes from following through. Most of know what we want to do but we just feel like we can't get ourselves to do it. On today's podcast, I'll teach you why that's a myth (you really can follow through) and how to start doing it. 

One of the main issues I see with people who give up on their goals is that they're setting too many. 

You get 1 goal per year. That's it. No exceptions. 

On today's episode I explain how picking one goal can 

• help you skip overwhelm 
• give you a filter to make decisions 
• and get you to be nicer to yourself

It's the difference between hitting your goals and giving up.