Leaderhood & Parentship – Details, episodes & analysis

#71 - Welcome back! This week we’re talking about the science of happiness. First, we banter about marketing trends and how they relate to Shane’s work with leaders. Then, we dive into what the “science” of happiness is. Can happiness really be measured? Is it what we think it is? What does it mean for those of us who don’t experience it deeply? And, can it be disordered? Then, Shane breaks down the key distinction between eudaemonic and hedonic happiness. 

If you have follow-up questions, you can always reach us at podcast@culturesmithinc.com. 

To learn more about today’s topic, visit:

https://www.linkedin.com/in/shanewallaceculturesmith/ 

https://www.culturesmithinc.com/

Show Notes:

1. [00:30] Updates on how Morgan’s Trend Report performed. 
2. [04:00] Some of our favourite podcasts. 
3. [09:35] Are brands afraid of nicheing down?
4. [11:00] Getting into today’s main topic: The Science of Happiness. 
5. [13:00] Why pain is required for happiness. 
6. [17:00] What is the science of happiness?
7. [20:00] What is happiness?
8. [23:00] Happiness vs contentment and what happens for high achievement oriented people. 
9. [29:50] The day Shane gave up golf.
10. [31:50] What is the “science” component of happiness. 
11. [33:15] Normal happiness vs disordered thinking. 
12. [37:00] Explaining the terms we’ll be discussing on next week’s episode. 
13. [40:10] Eudaemonic vs hedonic happiness. 
14. [42:00] Why authenticity is critical for happiness.

Mentioned in this Episode:

• Trend Report: https://scanclub.substack.com/p/what-digital-audiences-want-in-2024 
• Podcasts: 99% Invisible; Exit 5; Content, Briefly
• Dynasty Documentary on Apple TV
• CultureSmith Inc.: https://www.culturesmithinc.com/
• Shane Wallace on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/shanewallaceculturesmith/ 
• Morgan Berna on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/morgan-berna/ 

#70 - In most episodes Shane will reference books that have transformed the way he thinks and how CultureSmith operates. For this episode, we break down the 3 most transformational books he’s ever read. With each book he shares the key points that are important for leaders and parents, anything he disagrees with, and what moment sticks with him. Shane even shares the story that always makes him emotional. Then, we get his to-read list for Q1 of 2024. If you enjoyed this episode, let us know and we’ll do a follow-up!

If you have follow-up questions, you can always reach us at podcast@culturesmithinc.com. 

To learn more about today’s topic, visit:

https://www.linkedin.com/in/shanewallaceculturesmith/ 

https://www.culturesmithinc.com/

Show Notes:

1. [00:40] The inspiration for this episode. 
2. [04:30] Book 1: The Culture Code by Daniel Coyle. 
3. [06:30] The key takeaway from the book. 
4. [09:30] The part of the book that makes Shane emotional.
5. [18:30] Leadership and loneliness. 
6. [20:50] Was there anything Shane disagreed with the author about?
7. [22:35] Book 2: Atomic Habits by James Clear. 
8. [33:30] The law of consistency. 
9. [34:50] Was there anything Shane disagreed with the author about?
10. [35:45] Book 3: Good Inside by Dr. Becky Kennedy. 
11. [47:00] What’s on Shane’s list to read this year. 

Mentioned in this Episode:

• The Culture Code by Daniel Coyle
• Atomic Habits by James Clear
• Good Inside by Dr. Becky Kennedy
• Anatomy of a Breakthrough by Adam Alter
• Psych by Paul Bloom
• How Minds Change by David McRaney
• Article about “languishing,” by Adam Grant: https://www.nytimes.com/2021/04/19/well/mind/covid-mental-health-languishing.html 
• CultureSmith Inc.: https://www.culturesmithinc.com/
• Shane Wallace on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/shanewallaceculturesmith/ 
• Morgan Berna on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/morgan-berna/ 

#61 - If you’ve been listening for some time, you’ve likely heard Shane mention the enormous impact a 360 review had on his life and career. But, what we haven’t discussed is how these reviews are performed. This episode breaks that process down. First, we talk about a negative podcast review we got (this review was removed by the poster before this episode aired) as an example of feedback. Then, we transition into the role of 360 reviews and why they’re a crucial way for leaders to get feedback. Shane explains what a 360 review is, why they are important to do, how to tell when it isn’t appropriate, and the common challenges companies face when doing these reviews. Then, we flip it to the home and talk about the synergy created when leaders are reviewed both at their work and as parents. 

If you have follow-up questions, you can always reach us at podcast@culturesmithinc.com. 

To learn more about today’s topic, visit:

https://www.linkedin.com/in/shanewallaceculturesmith/ 

https://www.culturesmithinc.com/

Show Notes:

1. [00:40] A discussion around reviews and providing effective feedback. 
2. [02:45] Using feedback as punishment.
3. [08:00] Why CultureSmith Inc. insists that behavioural frameworks are connected to emotion. 
4. [13:00] What is a 360 review?
5. [14:50] Why a 360 is so important to do. 
6. [20:00] When a 360 review is not appropriate. 
7. [25:40] Common challenges companies face when doing these reviews. 
8. [28:00] Who should request the 360 review?
9. [34:15] The steps Shane uses to run a 360 review with a client. 
10. [38:00] Why CultureSmith Inc. uses sensory questions (and what that means). 
11. [41:00] How our Cognitive Colours affect us both as reviewers and reviewees. 
12. [52:30] Similarities and differences between 360 reviews in the workplace and at home. 
13. [58:40] Challenges with trying this in both environments. 
14. [1:00:30] Key takeaways from this episode. 

Mentioned in this Episode:

• CultureSmith Inc.: https://www.culturesmithinc.com/
• Shane Wallace on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/shanewallaceculturesmith/ 
• Morgan Berna on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/morgan-berna/ 

#60 - If you are a manager looking to make the transition to a leader, or a company looking to add current managers to your leadership team, this episode is for you. Recently, CultureSmith Inc. has seen an increasing need for companies to shift their managers into leadership positions. But, he cautions against only positioning this change as a positive. We have deep identity ties to our roles that can be disrupted when we make a role change. Undergoing a process framed by emotional intelligence helps facilitate a smooth(er) transition. In this episode, Shane breaks down the process CultureSmith Inc. uses to help managers move in a meaningful way to a leadership role. He first shares the differences between the two roles (and how one isn’t better than the other), strategies to determine if a role change is a good fit, and finishes by walking through the 6-step process CultureSmith Inc. uses to make the transition. Then, we flip it to the home and talk about adolescent identity and the challenges of discovering who you are. 

If you have follow-up questions, you can always reach us at podcast@culturesmithinc.com. 

To learn more about today’s topic, visit:

https://www.linkedin.com/in/shanewallaceculturesmith/ 

https://www.culturesmithinc.com/

Show Notes:

1. [00:45] Fighting against the iCloud. 
2. [04:15] Breaking down this episode’s topic. 
3. [09:00] When would a company want to help a manager become a leader?
4. [12:15] Demographic shifts in the workforce and the need for leaders. 
5. [17:45] What to do if someone wants to be a leader but the company doesn’t think it’s the right choice. 
6. [21:15] The process to take someone from manager to leader. 
7. [24:45] The 3 phases required to shift someone’s identity. 
8. [34:45] How the Cognitive Colours affect the shift from manager to leader. 
9. [41:15] Warrior vs diplomat. 
10. [44:35] Managing your personal identity as your shift to leader.
11. [46:45] Turning this to the home, a deep dive into the challenges with adolescent identity. 

Mentioned in this Episode:

• First part of this series: https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/the-key-distinction-between-leaders-and-managers/id1647450164
• CultureSmith Inc.: https://www.culturesmithinc.com/
• Shane Wallace on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/shanewallaceculturesmith/ 
• Morgan Berna on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/morgan-berna/ 

#59 - There’s this perception that anyone who wants to be a leader needs to be a manager. Or that managers naturally will become leaders. In this episode, Shane breaks down the reality of these two distinct roles and why they don’t exist on a linear trajectory. Shane explains the method CultureSmith Inc. uses to identify leadership and management traits in employees and how they help companies fill their leadership gaps. On the home front, Shane answers the question, “is there such thing as a born leader?” If you’re unsure which roles you need at your organization, or which role is right for you, this episode is a must-listen. 

If you have follow-up questions, you can always reach us at podcast@culturesmithinc.com. 

To learn more about today’s topic, visit:

https://www.linkedin.com/in/shanewallaceculturesmith/ 

https://www.culturesmithinc.com/

Show Notes:

1. [00:30] Shane doesn’t have a cozy season. 
2. [02:00] Personalities and falling into misinformation funnels. 
3. [07:00] Getting employees to make an emotional investment in a company. 
4. [15:00] Into today’s topic: distinguishing between managers and leaders. 
5. [19:15] You might not want to be a leader.
6. [22:00] Why delegation can be such a challenge for employees moving to new roles. 
7. [24:00] Common misconceptions between the two roles. 
8. [27:40] Does management and leadership exist on a spectrum?
9. [30:00] Are certain Cognitive Colours more present in management vs leadership and vice versa?
10. [36:00] What can companies do to notice emerging leaders better?
11. [41:00] Should people be shifting between leadership and management?
12. [47:00] How does this apply in the home?
13. [51:00] Is there such thing as a “born leader?”

Mentioned in this Episode:

• Armchair Expert episode: https://armchairexpertpod.com/pods/dan-ariely 
• CultureSmith Inc.: https://www.culturesmithinc.com/
• Shane Wallace on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/shanewallaceculturesmith/ 
• Morgan Berna on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/morgan-berna/ 

#58 - How do you know when a relationship needs repair? And if it does, what can you even do to fix things? In this episode, Shane walks through the 3 phases of relationship repairs. He begins by explaining the “toxic triangle” and how it is used to create an imbalance in power. Then, he explains the role it plays in relationships and quickly runs through the 5 types of power. After, he explains in-depth the 3 phases needed to repair relationships both at the workplace and in the home. 

If you have follow-up questions, you can always reach us at podcast@culturesmithinc.com. 

To learn more about today’s topic, visit:

https://www.linkedin.com/in/shanewallaceculturesmith/ 

https://www.culturesmithinc.com/

Show Notes:

1. [00:40] What inspired this episode’s topic. 
2. [04:00] How to know if a relationship needs to be repaired.
3. [05:30] The Toxic Triangle and how it relates to relationships. 
4. [09:45] How this ties into relationships.
5. [10:50] The 5 types of power. 
6. [23:30] Which phase do we start with to repair a relationship?
7. [28:30] Managing insecurity in a relationship. 
8. [32:50] How to know a relationship is worth repairing vs falling to toxic positivity. 
9. [35:00] Applying this in the home. 

Mentioned in this Episode:

• CultureSmith Inc.: https://www.culturesmithinc.com/
• Shane Wallace on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/shanewallaceculturesmith/ 
• Morgan Berna on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/morgan-berna/ 

#57 - Previously, we talked about the different stages of organizational change. This time, we’re taking a deep dive into the 6 why's leaders need to address with each team member in order for change to happen effectively. Shane explains what the 6 whys are and how to address each one with team members, how our Cognitive Colours factor-in. Then, we flip things to the home and talk about how change shows up and strategies to handle it.  

If you have follow-up questions, you can always reach us at podcast@culturesmithinc.com. 

To learn more about today’s topic, visit:

https://www.linkedin.com/in/shanewallaceculturesmith/ 

https://www.culturesmithinc.com/

Show Notes:

1. [00:30] Shane’s emotional check-in and a discussion around the “4-letter” words to never say in a team.
2. [08:00] Why we’re talking about organizational change again today. 
3. [10:20] What qualifies as “organizational change?”
4. [14:00] The reason organizational change starts with “why.”
5. [16:30] Why change?
6. [19:30] Why now?
7. [22:00] Why the ______ (philosophy)?
8. [25:10] Why task/process/function?
9. [29:20] Why me?
10. [33:00] Why spend?
11. [36:40] How does our Cognitive Colour affect how we perceive and process the why’s?
12. [40:00] Would this apply in the home? How?

Mentioned in this Episode:

• Organizational Change episode: https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/the-5-laws-of-organizational-change/id1647450164?i=1000611437533 
• CultureSmith Inc.: https://www.culturesmithinc.com/
• Shane Wallace on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/shanewallaceculturesmith/ 
• Morgan Berna on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/morgan-berna/ 

#56 - Recently, we talked about psychological safety and the various ways it shows up in the workplace. What we haven’t broken down yet is a tangible way to look at the different levels of safety present at your organization or home. In this episode, Shane breaks down the 4 levels of psychological safety: individual, team, organization, and leader. Shane explains what each of the 4 levels are, how to distinguish between them in the workplace, what to watch for to see if they’re at risk, and how to talk to an employee that reports a safety concern. Shane walks through what leaders can do to remedy safety at the 4 different levels. Then, we flip things to the home and talk about what shapes our Cognitive Colour and ways to help kids become the most balanced versions of themselves. 

If you have follow-up questions, you can always reach us at podcast@culturesmithinc.com. 

To learn more about today’s topic, visit:

https://www.linkedin.com/in/shanewallaceculturesmith/ 

https://www.culturesmithinc.com/

Show Notes:

1. [00:30] Catching up after some time away from recording! Morgan’s trip to Italy and CultureSmith’s new website. 
2. [07:00] Being Green after time away. 
3. [08:00] Why CultureSmith shares so much free content. 
4. [10:30] What prompted today’s topic: Do you need to bubble wrap your workplace for it to be safe?
5. [13:45] A quick refresher on what psychological safety is. 
6. [15:40] The 4 levels of psychological safety.
7. [17:40] How to distinguish the 4 levels from each other in the workplace. 
8. [19:10] How to identify and remedy a safety issue at the individual level.
9. [24:40] How to identify and remedy a safety issue at the team level. 
10. [31:30] How to identify and remedy a safety issue at the organizational level.
11. [39:50] How to identify and remedy a safety issue at the leadership level. 
12. [43:20] Disengagement and social loafing. 
13. [51:20] What shapes a kid’s Cognitive Colour (primary and secondary). 
14. [57:20] Exploring the 3 final stages of the framework at home.

Mentioned in this Episode:

• Psychological Safety Episode: https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/4-ways-to-kill-psychological-safety-in-a-team/id1647450164?i=1000630027899 
• CultureSmith Inc.: https://www.culturesmithinc.com/
• Shane Wallace on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/shanewallaceculturesmith/ 
• Morgan Berna on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/morgan-berna/ 

#55 - The Five Dysfunctions of a Team is a business book written by consultant and speaker, Patrick Lencioni. In it, he breaks down 5 issues teams face: absence of trust, fear of conflict, lack of commitment, avoidance of accountability, and inattention to results. CultureSmith follows a similar structure where conflict, accountability, and commitment rank extremely high as culture builders. However, Shane takes a unique approach to these dysfunctions to suit them to a modern workplace. In this episode, Shane breaks down what the 5 dysfunctions are, the specific way CultureSmith looks at them, and how leaders can recognize the emotion in each one. Then, we flip things to the home and talk about how these similar concerns show up there.

If you have follow-up questions, you can always reach us at podcast@culturesmithinc.com. 

To learn more about today’s topic, visit:

https://www.linkedin.com/in/shanewallaceculturesmith/ 

https://www.culturesmithinc.com/

Show Notes:

1. [02:00] Chat about being tired and how Shane looks at sprints in Q4. 
2. [06:30] Why we’re talking about The 5 Dysfunctions of a Team today & how CultureSmith sees the dysfunctions.  
3. [08:20] Reviewing the 5 dysfunctions. 
4. [13:35] Why Shane looks at the 5 dysfunctions as a flywheel. 
5. [15:30] What leaders are getting wrong when they look at team dysfunction. 
6. [18:00] Conversation around in-person work environments, Zoom chat, and having effective conflict. 
7. [24:00] The role our Cognitive Colour plays in influencing these dysfunctions. 
8. [26:00] Where Shane recommends leaders start in addressing these dysfunctions. 
9. [29:40] Can this be discussed in a family context?
10. [34:00] Can dysfunction be kept out of the home?

Mentioned in this Episode:

• Accountability Episode: https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/how-to-increase-accountability-in-the-workplace/id1647450164?i=1000622263220 
• Conflict Episode: https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/avoiding-conflict-is-eroding-your-team/id1647450164?i=1000614132602 
• Confrontation Episode: https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/the-power-of-a-conscious-confrontation/id1647450164?i=1000630817724
• Psychological Safety Episode: https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/4-ways-to-kill-psychological-safety-in-a-team/id1647450164?i=1000630027899 
• CultureSmith Inc.: https://www.culturesmithinc.com/
• Shane Wallace on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/shanewallaceculturesmith/ 
• Morgan Berna on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/morgan-berna/ 

#54 - How do you motivate your team? Do you lead with rewards and punishment, or use something unique based on people’s individual needs? If you’re unsure how to do the latter, this episode is for you. We kick off this episode with a discussion around AI and emotional intelligence, then we dive right into our main topic; motivation. Shane shares the definition, the 2 types of motivation, different ways leaders can motivate their teams, and strategies to motivate yourself. Then, we flip it to the home and discuss motivation with kids, teens, partners, and spouses. 

If you have follow-up questions, you can always reach us at podcast@culturesmithinc.com
 

To learn more about today’s topic, visit:

https://www.linkedin.com/in/shanewallaceculturesmith/ 

https://www.culturesmithinc.com/

Show Notes:

1. [00:40] The intersection between AI and EQ. 
2. [08:50] Why we’re talking about motivation today. 
3. [11:55] What motivation is: extrinsic vs intrinsic motivation.
4. [16:50] How is hybrid and remote work impacting motivation?
5. [22:50] How the different Cognitive Colours experience motivation. 
6. [24:30] How CultureSmith helps organizations structure jobs based on employee personalities. 
7. [26:30] How Shane would coach a leader through motivating someone. 
8. [30:30] How does motivation change in the home?
9. [32:25] How Shane motivates his kids with Yellow-profiles. 
10. [33:20] Motivating a partner or spouse.
11. [36:45] Something to try this week. 

Mentioned in this Episode:

• CultureSmith Inc.: https://www.culturesmithinc.com/
• Shane Wallace on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/shanewallaceculturesmith/ 
• Morgan Berna on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/morgan-berna/