Explore every episode of the podcast Kink in 10

Should you decide who you’re going to be in kink before you enter the scene? Probably not.

In this episode of Kink in 10, Jules Darling talks about the difference between cultivating a persona and building a reputation, why authenticity matters when meeting potential play partners, and how your identity in kink naturally changes as you gain experience.

We get into beginner’s mindset, experimenting with roles you never expected to enjoy, why vibes matter more than looks, and kink as a form of shadow work.

Your reputation shouldn’t be a character you invent. It should emerge from who you actually are, how you treat people, and what you discover about yourself along the way.

Ear play is one of the most overlooked forms of sensation play. In this episode, Jules Darling breaks down how whispering, storytelling, ASMR, licking, and slow escalation can turn the ear into an entire scene.

Learn how to build anticipation, read your bottom’s reactions, layer sensation, and use fantasy to create an experience that can get surprisingly intense without traditional sexual play.

How do you negotiate a scene with someone new at a play party? Jules breaks down what to ask about desires, limits, medical considerations, aftercare, drop, references, and check-ins, plus how to turn vague interests like “sensation” into an actual scene.

Free negotiation guide: departmentofconsent.com/negotiate

In this episode of Kink in 10, I give you a guided tour of a San Francisco play space, from checking in and learning the consent rules to socializing, negotiating scenes, dungeon equipment, aftercare spaces, and dungeon monitors. I also cover what first-timers should expect, why you don’t have to play, and why a dungeon can actually be a safer place to meet and explore with a new play partner.

If you’re dungeon-curious but intimidated by the idea, this is your no-pressure walkthrough.

What if the goal of every scene wasn't just pleasure, but leaving someone feeling safer, more seen, and more confident than before?

In this episode of Kink in 10, Jules Darling explores one of the simplest principles that can transform your relationships: leave people better than you found them. Whether you're into BDSM, exploring kink for the first time, or just trying to be a better partner, this mindset changes how you think about consent, aftercare, communication, and power.

You'll learn why consent doesn't end when the scene does, how small acts of care create lasting trust, and what it means to be the kind of person others feel excited to play with again.

If you're kink-curious, new to BDSM, or want healthier, more intentional relationships, this episode is for you.

I share a bit about my own journey into kink, what I've learned along the way, and why I think good education can make people safer, more confident, and a lot less intimidated. Kink can seem overwhelming from the outside, but it doesn't have to be.

New to kink and not sure where to start? In this first episode, Jules breaks down what Kink in 10 is, who it’s for, and what you can expect from the show. Quick, practical kink education for beginners, without the gatekeeping or awkward lectures.