What if the goal isn't to stop your kid's challenging behaviors, but to better understand them? In this episode, Kelsie Olds, an occupational therapist, writer behind The Occuplaytional Therapist, and author of Your Child's Point of View, joins the podcast to explain why curiosity works better than punishment, why "teach them a lesson" often means something harsher than we admit, and how to give ourselves the same grace we're trying to give our kids. It's honest, practical, and occasionally a gut-check.
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The Occuplaytional Therapist
Featuring Kelsie's writing on parenting, behavior, and occupational therapy.
Kelsie on Facebook
Long-form, story-driven posts on parenting and behavior.
Kelsie's Book
Your Child's Point of View: Understanding the Reasons Kids Do Unreasonable Things
A one-page-at-a-time book reframing common parenting struggles from the child's perspective, with practical solutions and a bonus section on the parent's own inner child.
Kelsie's parenting season song pick:
Chris Patrick - Alley Oop
Additional resources mentioned:
The Explosive Child by Ross Greene
Referenced for its philosophy that kids do well if they can, and that challenging behavior often means a child is missing a skill needed to meet a demand.
The Good Inside by Dr. Beck Kennedy
Referenced for her point about the mental health cost to a child who is consistently treated as "the bad kid."
Terms referenced:
Gestalt language learner
A language-development pattern where a child learns and communicates in whole memorized scripts, phrases, or songs before breaking them down into their own original speech.
Proprioception
The sensory system responsible for body awareness and regulation; often a factor in why kids seek out physical actions like hitting, kicking, or throwing.
Restorative justice vs. retributive justice
Restorative justice focuses on repairing harm and community; retributive justice focuses on punishment for its own sake.
We are not experts — just parents sharing what we're learning in real time. If any of these terms are new to you, you're not alone. We're learning too.