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This podcast is intended for both family law practitioners and separating couples - explaining in detail the process of hybrid mediation and the benefits which it can provide. 

Following the change to the Family Procedure Rules in April 2024 there is now a much greater obligation to explore Non Court Dispute Resolution (NCDR) options with an application to Court being very much the last resort.

 In circumstances where there is high conflict or some form of domestic abuse mediation has historically been considered 'unsuitable'. The suitability of the court process in these situations is however undoubtedly questionable. 

Hybrid mediation creates a much 'safer' space for couples to resolve the issues between them. The mediator's ability to hold confidences means that each of the couple can share their fears and concerns without these being shared with the other person. each of the couple, if they so choose, can be supported by their legal advisor throughout the process and the couple can remain in separate breakout rooms, either on screen or in person ensuring that they do not need to have any contact at all during the meetings with their spouse/partner should they prefer not to do so.

Without doubt hybrid mediation will be more time and cost efficient that an application to the court. Hybrid mediators have specific training in the area of high conflict and personality disorder making this process ideally suited if one of the couple is believed to be narcissistic. The opportunity for the narcissist to take 'centre stage' is removed through the separation of the couple during the meetings - yet they are likely to be attracted to the sophistication of this process.

Suzanne Kingston is widely known for her expertise in all aspects of family law work and has one of the most varied practices in London. She trains all forms of dispute resolution not just in England and Wales but around the world. She has a thriving mediation practice and indeed is credited with spearheading  family law arbitration worldwide. Suzanne knows the benefit of 'finding the deal' and is exceptionally skilled at guiding clients to find a sensible settlement hence why she is held in such high regard, both nationally and internationally, as a dispute resolution expert.

Narcissists are very poor at forming relationships with others in every area of their life. As a consequence they will often be self-employed. Their lack of empathy can  make them extremely successful in business but with that comes a lack of desire to be clear and transparent about their business ventures. It is therefore highly Likely to involve the services of an accountant to provide a valuation as a Single Joint Expert to value the business(es) or to act as a shadow accountant to advise on information provided.

In this episode Karin Walker discusses the complex issue of business valuations with Kate Hart of Quantuma. Kate acts as an expert witness and advisor for individuals and corporates, with her experience ranging from owner-managed businesses and partnerships to large multi-nationals. She has over 20 years experience as a forensic accountant and is most frequently instructed as an expert witness (both as a party-appointed and single joint expert) although she also provides advice to clients at the preliminary stages of legal disputes.

Kate focuses on producing work that can be readily understood by the non-accountant and is often told that her ability to explain things in plain English sets her apart.

The discussion covers what to look out for and how to get the best out of the accountant instructed (on either an individual or joint basis) and is intended to provide information and tips both for the client and their legal advisors.

Nova Gibson is the Director and Founder of Brighter Outlook - Narcissistic Abuse Counselling Service, where she is the Primary Counsellor. She is the 'go to' Counsellor/expert on narcissistic abuse recovery in Australia. In the last 10 years she has supported over 3,000 individual clients, who believe they were abused by an undiagnosed narcissist to leave their relationships, heal once their relationships have ended and lead happy and fulfilled lives without their abuser.

Nova's book 'Fake Love' is a number 1 best seller on Amazon in Australia and a 'must read' for anyone who finds themselves locked in the  trauma of the narcissistic cycle of love-bombing, devaluing and discard. 

In this interview I explore with Nova the importance of therapeutic support when leaving a narcissistic relationship and discuss strategies for breaking free from the horror of narcissistic abuse.

Family Lawyer, Karin Walker discusses the impact of post separation narcissistic abuse and how to deal with this -  ensuring that you do not unwittingly continue to provide narcissistic supply - even after the relationship is over