What does it really mean to give a child a secure attachment — and how can we do that if our own early experiences weren't secure?   In this episode, I'm joined by psychotherapist Anne Power, who has written extensively about attachment theory and how our early experiences shape not only how we parent, but how we relate to others throughout life.   Anne explains the two key attachment behaviours — caregiving and care seeking — and breaks them down into simple, practical elements that parents can notice and strengthen. Together we explore how attachment patterns are formed and passed from one generation to the next, what secure, avoidant, anxious and disorganised attachment might look like in family life, and how we can use this knowledge to nurture a secure bond.   We talk about what it means to be available and responsive, how to interpret your child's signals more accurately, and how your own attachment history may influence the way you respond when they are upset. Anne also offers practical ways to reshape your patterns as an adult — from creating small moments of repair with your child to finding tools for reflection and self-compassion that make change possible.   This conversation offers both compassion and clarity. You'll come away with a new understanding of how your own story influences the way you show up for your child, and what small, powerful changes you can make to help them feel safe, loved and understood.

Welcome to this special Must-Have Moments episode for ADHD Awareness Month.   In this compilation, Dr Bettina Hohnen revisits highlights from four expert conversations exploring ADHD and executive function through different stages of development — from early childhood right through to young adulthood.   We begin with Dr Laurie Faith, who explains what executive functions are, how they develop, and why joy and connection are essential for helping children's brains grow.  Then Dr Peg Dawson shares her "perfect intervention" — a simple, sustainable way to strengthen executive skills in teenagers.   Next, Linda Phillips guides us through how to support neurodivergent students as they transition to university — when independence increases but challenges may still remain.  And finally, Dr Jo Steer offers practical strategies for parents waiting for an ADHD assessment, focusing on meeting a child's needs right now rather than waiting for a diagnosis.   Together, these must-hear moments offer a developmental roadmap and a wealth of practical insights to help parents understand, support, and empower their children with ADHD and executive function differences.   Whether your child is just starting school, preparing for exams, or beginning university life, this episode will help you see the strengths behind the struggles — and remind you that small, consistent steps make a real difference.

Welcome to our second "Must-Hear Moments" episode, featuring highlights from four of our earliest interviews with teenage development experts. In this compilation, we dive deep into understanding teenage behavior, exploring their intense emotions and shifting identities as they navigate the path to adulthood. Our experts shed light on fascinating research that explains why teens act the way they do, offering valuable insights into their world.

You'll get practical advice on what to say (and what to avoid) during those crucial interactions with your teenager. With the UK summer holidays in full swing, many parents are spending extended time with their teens. This episode is perfect for a quick listen during a short walk, especially if you're feeling stuck or overwhelmed. 

Welcome to this special episode highlighting key insights from four of our earliest interviews with child development experts. We'll revisit valuable tips on supporting children who are struggling, covering topics like anxiety, trauma, communication, and problem-solving skills.

Whether you're a long-time listener or new to the podcast, these must-hear moments offer practical advice for parents, especially timely for those navigating challenges during the summer holidays. Join me as we explore essential strategies to help our children thrive through difficulties.

I have been excited about this episode as I interviewed the incredible and inspiring Hilary Kennedy who developed Video Interactive Guidance (VIG) which has such a strong evidence base for making change.

She talks us through some transformative and often counterintuitive strategies for building stronger relationships with our kids. Learn about the "serve, catch, return" approach from video interaction guidance (VIG) and discover how doing less and having more fun can lead to deeper connections. Hilary introduces the "love, play, work" framework, and explains the "take five" concept for more meaningful conversations.

Whether you're a parent of a newborn, a teenager, or anywhere in between, this episode has something for everyone.

In today's episode, we dive deep into the hidden scripts that shape our parenting journey with behaviour expert Andy Baker.

In it you will discover how seemingly harmless phrases like "children shouldn't argue" or "eat your peas, there are starving children" can actually be detrimental to our kids' development and self-esteem. Andy sheds light on these generational "should" and "shouldn't" scripts that not only affect our children but also impose unrealistic expectations on us as parents.

Andy offers practical strategies to break free from unhelpful scripts and shift towards more nuanced and reflective parenting approaches. Whether you've caught yourself repeating phrases from your own childhood or struggle with parental guilt, this episode offers valuable insights and actionable advice that will transform the way you think about family communication and nurture healthier relationships with your children.

As if parents and teachers didn't have enough to worry about before, now they have to get their heads round AI in education. In this podcast episode, I chatted with Claire Badger, an experienced teacher and head of teacher professional development at InnerDrive. Claire breaks down the complex world of AI in learning, outlining the key issues and highlighting some fascinating research that has been done to look at children, homework and AI. We talk about why banning AI in schools isn't practical, how AI can help (or hinder) with homework, and whether it's useful as a bespoke tutor.

 

Claire offers down-to-earth advice for parents and teachers on how to use AI wisely, encourage real learning, and keep the lines of communication open. While there's a risk that AI could limit children's learning if used improperly, it also has the potential to enhance skills development for kids from all backgrounds when applied wisely.

In this enlightening podcast episode, Clinical Psychologist and family therapist Manuela Sapochnik shares her insights on enhancing parenting through couples therapy, drawing from two decades of experience. She explores how attachment patterns shape relationships and how misaligned behaviors can create tension between partners.

 

Manuela explains that this tension often spills over into parenting, but can be addressed through increased awareness and intentional change in interaction patterns. As couples work together to improve their relationship, they naturally begin to interact differently with others, including their children. 

 

This shift can lead to profound changes in family dynamics. By developing more adaptive ways of managing relationship challenges, parents can model and instill secure attachment patterns in their children.

 

Remarkably, Manuela notes that as couples engage in this work, they often see improvements in their children's behavior before even addressing specific parenting issues.

 

Please tune in for a deeper understanding of this transformative approach.

When your child tells you they think they have a mental health problem parents can feel frozen. How should they respond and what action should they take?

I was joined by Rachel Acheson, a psychotherapist with years of experience in adolescent mental health services and schools to discuss this issue. Rachel offers clear, balanced advice on this potentially daunting situation, breaking down what parents can do, what to say, when it might be time to seek professional help, and what kinds of support are available.

From the importance of staying calm and validating your child's feelings, to knowing the signs that professional support might be needed, Rachel covers it all. Whether you're currently facing this situation or want to be prepared for the future, please have a listen to my interview with Rachel.

In this episode of Just One Thing For Parents, Child and Adolescent Psychiatrist Jon Goldin discusses the crucial role of boundaries in children's development. He emphasizes that consistent, predictable boundaries provide psychological safety and promote secure attachment. Jon likens teenage boundaries to flexible rubber tires, allowing some give while maintaining stability.

 

The conversation covers challenges parents face in setting boundaries, including generational changes and social media influences. Jon and Bettina stress the importance of parental unity in boundary-setting, even in separated families. They explore the balance between kindness and strictness, the significance of emotional boundaries, and practical advice on issues like social media use and sleep routines. Please have a listen.

 

This is a really important and often tricky topic for parents. 

I was joined by Jenny Peters, family therapist, who addresses the parental panic that often arises when tried-and-true strategies suddenly falter. In those moments when parents feel stuck she advises us to turn to the "Three C's" approach: Curiosity, Compassion, and Courage. We talk about why these three core skills are so important for a parent to embrace and give examples and offer practical advice - from calming breathing techniques to navigating public tantrums. The key to our stuckness often lies in our own experience of being parented and having this insight can help compassionately unlock difficulties.

Whether you're grappling with a toddler's tantrums or a teenager's resistance, Jenny's wisdom provides a roadmap for reconnecting and resolving conflicts. This episode is a must-listen for any parent seeking to foster stronger, more understanding relationships with their children, regardless of age or stage.

Navigating the choppy waters of family separation is a journey that touches countless lives, with a staggering 1 in 3 children under 16 experiencing this significant shift in their family dynamics. As parents, we often grapple with the burning question: "How will this affect my little ones?" It's a valid concern because yes, separation is undoubtedly a seismic event in a child's world. However, parents have the power to shape this experience, as I found out in my discussion with Dr Marielle Quint, Clinical Psychologist. Marielle has a vast amount of experience in this area and her advice will help any parent finding themselves in this situation. She emphasises the importance of conflict management, maintaining a delicate neutrality when discussing ex-partners and the importance of ongoing conversation with kids for nuance and understanding. Ultimately, Marielle leaves us with a hopeful vision: children thriving in separate, loving, stable homes where conflict gives way to understanding. It's a challenging ideal, yes, but one that's deeply worth striving for. Below are useful organisations, websites and books for parents to access: 

 

Organisations for parents

• CAFCASS (Children and Family Court Advisory and Support Service) Publishes the "Parenting Plan" to help separating parents keep child-focused planning at the center.
  https://www.cafcass.gov.uk
• Gingerbread: A charity for single parents with emotional and legal guidance.
  https://www.gingerbread.org.uk
• Family Lives: Offers a helpline and guidance for parenting through separation.
  https://www.familylives.org.uk
• The Parent Practice: Delivers training for parents on communication skills and managing family transitions. https://www.theparentpractice.com
• Relate: Counselling services for families and children going through separation.
  https://www.relate.org.uk
• The Spark (Scotland) / Tavistock Relationships (England): Offers therapy and parenting support from a psychodynamic and systemic perspective.
  https://tavistockrelationships.org

 

Book recommendations:

• Understanding Children's Needs when Parents Separate by Emilia Dowling and Di Elliott
• Mum and Dad Glue Paperback – by Kes Gray  (Author), Lee Wildish (Illustrator)
• Living with Mum and Living with Dad: My Two Homes Paperback –  by Melanie Walsh (Author)
• It's Not Your Fault, Koko Bear: A Read-Together Book for Parents and Young Children During Divorce (Lansky, Vicki) Paperback –  by Vicki Lansky  (Author), Jane Prince (Author, Illustrator)  
• I Don't Want to Talk About It: A Story of Divorce for Young Children by Jeanie Franz Ransom  (Author), Kathryn Kunz Finney (Illustrator)
• The Divorce Journal for Kids by Sue Atkins (Author) and Amy Bradley (Illustrator)
• The Split Survival Kit - 10 Steps for Coping with your Parents' separation by Ruth Fitzgerald (Author)
• When Mom and Dad Separate: Children Can Learn to Cope with Grief (Drawing Out Feelings)
• Helping Children to Cope with Change, Stress and Anxiety: A Photocopiable Activities Book 

When your affectionate child suddenly transforms into a teenager who rolls their eyes, snaps back, or avoids you completely, it can feel painful and personal. In this episode of Just One Thing for Parents, Bettina Hohnen speaks with journalist, mother of four, and bestselling author Lorraine Candy about why teenagers often act like they "hate" their parents — and how understanding what's happening in their developing brains can make all the difference.

Lorraine reflects on her own experience of raising four children through adolescence, and how learning about the neuroscience of the teenage years helped her stop taking their behaviour so personally. Together, she and Bettina explore the physiological and emotional shifts that happen between 12 and 25, when the teenage brain is being taken apart and rebuilt, and why this process can leave young people overwhelmed, irritable, or quick to anger.

They also discuss the power of recognising what Lorraine calls the "rupture and repair" cycle – the inevitable conflicts that arise in family life, and the vital opportunity to reconnect and rebuild afterwards. Lorraine offers reassurance that this stage, though challenging, is both normal and necessary for teenagers to become independent, emotionally intelligent adults. 

This episode is a reminder to parents that the teenage years are not about losing connection, but reshaping it.

In this episode Dr Nicky Greaves helps us think about how to support children on the autism spectrum with emotional regulation. She has some really innovative ideas about how we can use the special interests of these individuals to help them understand a context.

She gives clear examples and interesting insights. For any parent supporting a young child with autism who is finding it hard to manage every day life it is an episode worth tuning into.

In this episode of "Just One Thing for Parents," host Bettina Hohnen delves into the crucial topic of building healthy resilience in children with guest Dr. Netali Levi, a clinical psychologist. They explore how modern parenting has rightly emphasized emotional support for children, but sometimes to the extreme of centering family life entirely around children's happiness.

Netali introduces the concept of "family-centric parenting," which balances the needs of all family members and encourages age-appropriate contributions from children. This approach aims to foster resilience by avoiding overprotection and allowing children to face and overcome challenges. The discussion offers practical strategies for implementing this balanced parenting style, highlighting its benefits for both children's development of coping skills and parents' well-being.

It's a great episode for parents seeking to nurture emotionally healthy, resilient children while maintaining a harmonious family dynamic.

In our latest episode of "Just One Thing For Parents," I welcomed back Leonie Kenny to explore the challenges autistic children face in developing friendships and how parents can support them. Leonie delves into the complexities of social interactions for autistic kids, explaining how their weaker shared imagination, tendency towards black-and-white thinking, and reduced flexibility in interpreting others' behavior can lead to misunderstandings and conflicts. She also highlights how social anxiety and sensory processing difficulties, common in autism, can overwhelm these children, affecting their ability to respond appropriately in social situations.

This insightful discussion offers parents valuable perspectives on why their autistic children might struggle with friendships and provides practical tips on how to nurture their social skills. Tune in to discover what parents can do to support their autistic child in navigating the often tricky terrain of friendships.

Navigating the ups and downs of children's friendships can be a source of significant anxiety for parents. Whether our kids are on the receiving end of unkind behavior or we're concerned about their own actions towards others, these situations often leave us feeling helpless. In this enlightening episode, I'm joined by Leonie Kenny, an experienced Speech and Language therapist, who addresses the crucial question: "What is just one thing parents can do to help their children to manage and develop good friendships?"

 

Leonie offers valuable insights, reminding us that friendship skills are learned, not innate. She emphasises the vital role parents play in this learning process. Key takeaways include the importance of allowing children to experience some social discomfort, learn from their missteps, and create space for them to problem-solve independently.

 

Whether you're dealing with friendship challenges now or want to proactively equip your children with essential social skills, you won't want to miss this discussion.

In this enlightening episode, Sheila Redfern joined Bettina for a conversation that delves deep. Sheila is an expert in an approach known as Reflective Parenting. She explains that we often find ourselves caught up in trying to change our child's behavior and forget to check in with ourselves, yet that's where the magic can happen. Sheila introduces the concept of "mentalizing," which is all about reflecting on our own feelings as well as those of our children to create deeper connections.

This episode was recorded the same week as the highly talked about Netflix series Adolescence. Sheila and Bettina observe through discussing this series that even the most loving parents can unintentionally slip into 'benign neglect' by not being curious about or engaging with their children's worlds. Sheila has some tried and tested ways to help parents begin to use this approach with their children. Ultimately, Sheila drives home the point that emotional regulation is essential for fostering positive behavioral change. By prioritizing our emotional well-being, we equip ourselves to better support our children on their journeys.

Please check out Sheila's latest book "How Do You Hug a Cactus? Reflective Parenting with Teenagers in Mind" published in March 2024

In this insightful episode, Bettina is joined by psychotherapist Anastasis about how parents can effectively support teenagers facing body image concerns. Anastasis discusses the challenges of talking about bodies as kids grow, particularly in the teenage years in context of what is going on in the teenage brain. This can be a tricky conversation for parents to start and something many parents might avoid for fear of saying the wrong thing. There is often high sensitivity and even shame around their body for teenagers.

He advocates for normalising conversations focused on acceptance rather than pressure to 'love' one's body. He encourages parents to begin tentatively and start with observations, aiming to match where the young person is in terms of their privacy and openness. Try to avoid polarisation - talking about it all the time or not at all. This will be different for individuals, depending on their profile, whether there is neurodiversity present or sensory sensitivity.

He recommends parents talking about their own experience, both the pride they felt about their body as a teen and the challenges. All of this creates a supportive environment for their teenagers' body image journey.

In this insightful episode of Just One Thing, Bettina chats with Anne Ozsivadjian about the important journey that follows an autism diagnosis. If you're a parent navigating this new chapter, this conversation is for you.

Anne breaks down what to expect after your child receives an autism diagnosis, emphasizing the vital difference between a diagnosis and a detailed formulation that gives you a better understanding of your child's unique needs. She encourages parents to take their time processing the diagnosis and to tap into reputable resources.

You'll discover practical tips on how to communicate the diagnosis to your child in a way that feels right for their age and understanding. Plus, Anne shares valuable strategies for making your home environment more autism-friendly, ensuring your child feels safe and supported. 

By the end of this episode, you'll have actionable ideas and resources that can help you and your child navigate this journey together, including ways to find professional support and connect with other families. Join us for this enlightening conversation and empower yourself with the knowledge to support your child every step of the way!

Many parents of neurodiverse young people struggle with how to support their children when they transition to University. It's a huge step and a time when these these young people are quite vulnerable. Linda Philips is a Speech and Language therapist who specialises in this area and in this episode she answers the question - What's Just One Thing Parents can do to support their neurodivergent child while they are away at university.

Linda highlights the unique challenges faced by university students with autism and ADHD as they transition and how parents can support them. She emphasizes the importance of regular check-ins for parents, shifting from giving advice to facilitating problem-solving through active listening.

We also cover strategies for building resilience, understanding individual needs, and fostering social connections through clubs and interests. Please have a listen and I know all parents will find some useful ideas from this episode. 

In this episode, we explore how parents can support teenagers in building resilience through healthy stress. Matilda, an expert in evidence-based parenting, explains that healthy stress involves manageable challenges that help teens develop coping skills for future difficulties, without exposing them to toxic stress or leaving them unsupported.

We discuss the science behind this approach, including studies on squirrel monkeys and controlled tree growth, highlighting the benefits of mild stress exposure. Matilda also shares practical strategies for recognizing normal stress versus serious issues, emphasizing the importance of understanding your child's unique behavior patterns.

In today's social media-driven world, where normal variation in emotions can be misinterpreted as disordered, this conversation provides valuable insights for fostering resilience and raising confident, capable teens.

In this episode of the podcast Just One Thing For Parents, we tackle the question of how parents can help their children develop a healthy relationship with screens.

 

Our guest, Dr Naomi Fisher challenges the traditional focus on screen time, which can become somewhat of an obsession for well intentioned parents. Doing this distracts from more important considerations when it comes to screens, such as what children are actually doing on the screen, how they connect with their activities and helping them to develop those all-important self-regulations skills.

 

She encourages parents to engage with their kids' screen-based interests rather than just limiting time,  showing an interest and perhaps joining them. When we look closely, there is usually a developmental value of children's chosen screen activities. As we share interests with them we build trust in our relationship which will serve them and our relationship (and therefore influence on them) well in the long term.

 

Ultimately, the message is to join children in their digital experiences, validating their interests and building a foundation for communication as they grow.

We often use praise as a way to boost our children's confidence — but does it always have the effect we hope for? In this episode of Just One Thing for Parents, Dr Bettina Hohnen speaks with Dr Barry Hymer, teacher, academic and author, about why feedback may be a far more powerful parenting tool than praise.

Drawing on decades of research, Barry shares how praise, though well-intentioned, can sometimes chip away at a child's motivation and resilience. He explains the famous Stanford study showing how rewards can dampen children's intrinsic drive, and explores what happens when our words of encouragement shift from genuine feedback to subtle forms of judgement.

We talk about what it really means to nurture a growth mindset, how parents can model resilience when things go wrong, and the small changes that make a big difference — like noticing effort, curiosity and persistence instead of simply saying "well done."

Barry also reflects on his own experiences as a father, and how learning to replace praise with thoughtful feedback helped his children grow in confidence and self-belief.

In this episode of JOT for Parents, Bettina is joined by the renowned Peg Dawson to explore effective interventions for executive skill difficulties in older kids.

Executive functions, like planning, organizing, paying attention, and managing time, are crucial for managing everyday life and reside in the brain's frontal lobes. Many children struggle with these skills, leading parents to mistakenly think their kids are being difficult or lazy when they actually haven't developed the necessary brain circuits or habits.

Peg Dawson, the author of "Smart but Scattered," shares her expertise and introduces a simple yet powerful five-minute intervention designed to help parents enhance their child's executive skills. This episode is a must-listen for every parent, as it addresses a universal challenge in supporting children's development.

Professor Roz Shafran is a highly experienced Clinical Psychologist who really knows about what works for parents. She talks about the power of problem solving as a parent and problem with our kids. It is not only incredibly helpful for us to approach something we feel stuck on but when we do it with kids we built their future ability to manage their lives/ Most importantly, it works.

Roz talks us through the the IDEAL method—Identify the problem, Describe the outcome, Explore strategies, Anticipate outcomes, Act, and Look and learn. I always think a template is helpful for parents to find new skills in these highly emotive situations.

Roz talks us through some everyday examples all parents will struggle with - when a child won't leave a playdate or with a child who has an eating disorder. This is a technique parents can use when they are struggling but also can be used with adolescents to collaboratively problem solve how they could find a solution to their difficulties.

It's an episode that everyone can get something from. 

This is an episode for any parent whose children are 'demand avoidant' (i.e. resist being told what to do). Actually all kids have a drive for autonomy particularly as they get older, but some kids (often those on the autism spectrum) are highly avoidant of any request or demand by an adult and this can cause huge family problems.

Responding to a listener's request, Bettina interviewed Linda Murphy with a big focus on the concept of declarative language. Linda explains what declarative language is and how it encourages young people to cooperate more effectively. She discusses the numerous benefits of this communication style for children's development and how it strengthens the parent-child relationship.

Tune in to hear as Bettina and Linda explore this powerful approach to communication.

In this episode, Jo Steer joins us to discuss actionable steps parents can take while awaiting an ADHD assessment for their child.

We highlight the importance of adopting a needs-based approach, focusing on each child's unique strengths and challenges. Parents can access valuable resources from organizations like the ADHD Foundation (https://www.adhdfoundation.org.uk/) and ADDISS (http://www.addiss.co.uk/) without needing a formal diagnosis. We cover key strategies for identifying and addressing struggles such as impulsivity, hyperactivity, and emotional regulation.

Jo says that while medication can be helpful, it's always advised to combine that with behavioural intervention - making small adjustments to the child's environment that can really help. One key bit of advice is to talk to your child's teacher to get them onboard to help. We touch on how ADHD can present differently in girls, often leading to underdiagnosis due to less visible hyperactivity.

Understanding the individual nature of ADHD and tailoring strategies to meet each child's specific needs is crucial during the waiting period.

This week I was joined by Courtney Adamo who is the mother of five children ranging in age from 7 to 19 years of age. Courtney has created courses and provides resources for parents including a great programme for parents of tweens and teens that I contributed to when I wrote The incredible teenage brain.

I asked her the question 'What's just one think you've learned about parenting so many children". She emphasises how each child requires personalized strategies due to their distinct temperaments, needs and developmental stage. Effective communication with one child may not work with another, so we have to tune into what they need from us. She also encourages parents to view parenting as a journey of self-discovery, reflecting on personal triggers and growth opportunities presented by each child.

Courtney is so warm and engaging in how she discusses her children and I know all parents will learn something from listening to her.

In today's episode of Just One Thing for Parents, Bettina had the pleasure of talking to Callum Brown, founder of Be More Me. Callum assists young people post education to find a career pathway. With A level results just released in the UK this week, young adults and their parents are likely to have this topic on their mind. And it's often a stressful journey for everyone.

How do parents guide their kids to make the right choices? What distinguishes Callum is his holistic approach to this topic. He talks about the importance of helping young people discover their true selves, enabling authentic and fulfilling career choices. He offers valuable advice for parents on nurturing their children's self-reflection and motivation, along with practical tips to help young individuals take the first steps towards their career goals.

Join us to learn more about Callum's insightful methods and discover how to confidently navigate this critical transition.

In this episode - the third in this mini-series about technology - we delve deeper into the relationship between technology and young people, emphasizing the importance of children's ages when managing their use of social media and phones. Beth Kerr, a teacher by profession and consultant on wellbeing learning and digital habits, joins us. We discuss how understanding the science of the teenage brain and using that knowledge enables adults to protect and guide teenagers.

Beth highlights that developing skills, such as managing impulses and resisting the temptation of phone notifications, takes time. We also tackle the recent movement led by Jonathon Haidt, advocating for a ban on mobile phones for under-16s. We debate whether such a ban is sensible and feasible, with Beth providing a critical analysis of Haidt's research. She argues that his solutions, while well-intentioned, are overly simplistic, impractical, and fail to consider the individual needs of young people.

This episode is essential listening for parents and teachers, who are navigating the complex world of social media, phones, and teenagers.

In this episode, we dive into strategies for parents to support their children's use of AI in learning. Our guest, Daniel Emmerson, who recently published a comprehensive guide on integrating AI into school life, shares his expertise. We discuss the benefits and potential downsides of AI in education and emphasize the importance of exploring AI together with your kids rather than restricting it out of fear. Daniel provides valuable resources and websites for families to explore. He advocates for families to develop a comprehensive plan for AI use, similar to internet and phone guidelines, to ensure it aligns with educational goals. Packed with examples and practical insights, this episode offers a roadmap for successfully navigating AI with children at home. Below are links to some of the resources he recommends: 

Mid Journey AI: https://midjourney.co/generator

Common Sense Media: https://www.commonsensemedia.org/

Goodnotes research on generative AI in schools: https://www.goodnotes.com/research/generative-ai-in-schools

In this episode, we explore the best strategies for managing teenagers' social media use with insights from expert Dr Marc Tibber. He advises parents to stay curious and foster open conversations, avoiding punitive measures that can drive teens to hide their usage. Instead, focus on understanding how they use social media and its effects on their lives. Try to focus on the quality and purpose of social media use rather than just screen time, and recognize that it can foster connections and offer opportunities for young people that are really positive.

He advises parents to discuss the impact of social media on sleep and lifestyle with their teen and to remember, that parent's own behavior serves as a model for their child, so we must be mindful of our actions. Also, understand that the impact of social media on mental health varies; address issues of social comparisons and support your teen in developing self-awareness and reflection skills.

Tune in as Marc provides a thoughtful and nuanced perspective on navigating social media's impact on teenagers.

In this episode, we delve into the implications of the phrase parents often use: "I just want you to be happy." While well-intentioned, this can inadvertently pressure children and young people to constantly seek happiness, which is elusive, especially for teenagers with raw emotions. Instead, Christine Dunkley suggests encouraging kids to find activities that feel worthwhile and rewarding, helping them act their way out of negative emotions.

This approach fosters self-awareness and shifts the focus from merely feeling to doing something meaningful. We discuss how teenage years are a time for emotional exploration and how parents should maintain a balance by acknowledging emotions without amplifying them.

Parents, take heart—it's okay to model changing your mind and showing adaptability. Join us for this insightful discussion on nurturing a healthy emotional landscape for your children.

Teenagers are wired to explore the world — but for parents, that can feel terrifying. How do you let your teen take healthy risks without putting them in danger?   In this episode, Dr Bettina Hohnen is joined by Professor Deborah Christie, a leading expert in adolescent health at UCL. Together, they explore the delicate balance between keeping teenagers safe and giving them the freedom they need to grow. Drawing on her extensive professional experience and her personal insights as a parent and grandparent, Deborah explains why risk-taking is not only normal but necessary, and how parents can reframe it as exploration rather than danger.   Their conversation covers how to manage parental fear, keep communication open, and recognise that our own backgrounds shape the way we perceive risk. They also discuss how to balance consequences with connection, so teenagers can develop the judgment and confidence they need to become capable young adults.   This discussion offers practical ways to stay steady through the ups and downs of adolescence, reminding parents that bravery, patience and perspective go a long way — and that this phase, too, will pass.   Here is a link to Deborah Christie's website where she shares many useful resources for free: https://www.deborahchristieconsulting.com/

In this episode, Dr Laurie Faith begins by breaking down the concept of executive functions, using relatable analogies to demystify these essential but often misunderstood brain-based skills. She delves into actionable strategies for parents to help strengthen their young children's executive function skills, emphasizing that early childhood is a critical period for this development.

Laurie's key advice is for parents to be fully present and engaged with their children. This means putting away phones and immersing in a variety of experiences together to nurture their child's growing mind.

Tune in for invaluable insights and practical tips to support your child's cognitive development from an early age.

I was joined by Sue Knowles who is a Consultant Clinical Psychologist and author of many books including "My Anxiety Handbook," a highly recommended resource for parents of anxious children. In this episode, we dive into the critical topic of parental emotional regulation and its impact on children's well-being. We'll explore the concept of 'emotional contagion' and how important it is for parents to be aware of how their own emotional reactions impact their child.

Listeners will gain practical strategies for self-regulation and learn why addressing their own emotional needs is essential in effectively supporting their children through the ups and downs of family life. Tune in for an informative discussion filled with valuable insights and advice for parents.

Today I was joined by Dr Tara Porter, Clinical psychologist and author of You Don't Understand Me: The Young Woman's Guide To Life. Tara has a journal book to accompany You Don't Understand Me coming out in August this year and a new book coming out next year called Good Enough: A Manifesto of Modern Parenting.  

We talk about eating and how to help our children and teenagers nurture a wholesome relationship with food. Her insights are especially valuable in today's world where abundance can often lead to complexity in our dietary choices.

Whether you're a parent, educator, or anyone navigating the food landscape of modern life, today's discussion promises to equip you with practical advice to foster a healthy approach to eating. Join us as we explore these fundamental themes with profound implications for our daily lives.

In today's episode, we're diving into the midst of revision season, a crucial time for many students in the UK and around the world. Join us as we explore essential strategies for parents aiming to effectively support their children through the pressures of exam preparation.

Our guest, Lucinda, is a seasoned teacher who brings a treasure trove of tips and tricks, including a comprehensive plan she's implemented for her own son. We discuss the challenges faced by students at both ends of the spectrum—from those who are disengaged to the perfectionists consumed by revision. How can parents help their children strike a healthy balance during this stressful period? Tune in for insightful advice and practical ideas that can make a difference.

In this heartfelt episode, we welcome Dr. Rebecca Chilvers, a leading clinical psychologist who works with children, parents, and staff in neonatal care. Dr. Chilvers talks about just one thing she wishes every parent navigating the daunting world of neonatal care could know.

She paints a vivid picture of the emotional rollercoaster parents embark on, feeling as though they've tumbled through a trapdoor into a realm where their role seems unclear in the maze of medical procedures. Amidst the overwhelm of emotions like guilt, sadness, fear, and uncertainty, Dr. Chilvers offers a beacon of hope in her guidance for parents to remember "You are the most important person for your baby."

She encourages parents to focus on what they can do, seek and accept support from their surrounding healthcare team, and cling to their core values as parents – those things that define what truly matters to them. Navigating this challenging journey may feel isolating, but Dr. Chilvers assures parents they are not alone and that support is within reach.

In this enlightening episode, we're joined by Professor Will Mandy to discuss a profoundly important topic: identifying and supporting girls with autism.

Professor Mandy highlights a critical first step for parents who suspect their daughter might be on the autism spectrum: the significance of a thorough assessment for providing essential understanding and support. He brings attention to the diagnostic challenges and biases girls face, where their symptoms are often misinterpreted or overlooked, potentially leading to misdiagnosis and a lack of needed support. Exploring how autism presents differently in girls compared to boys, we delve into why many girls go undiagnosed and the mental health vulnerabilities they face, particularly during their transition from primary to secondary school.

A significant part of our discussion centers on "masking," a strategy where autistic individuals hide their true selves to blend in, a practice especially common among girls that can lead to increased anxiety and depression. Professor Mandy advocates for the importance of a timely diagnosis, allowing girls to embrace their true identities.

Tune in to uncover the nuances of autism in girls and how we can better support and understand their journeys.

In this compelling episode, Bettina sits down with Dr. Anna Hutchinson, a Clinical Psychologist specializing in adolescence, to delve into the complex world of teenage identity formation. Dr. Hutchinson shares her insights into the challenges teens face as they explore who they are, what they're passionate about, and who they aspire to be as adults.

With identity often being in flux for many teenagers, parents can find themselves wondering how best to respond and support their teen. Dr. Hutchinson offers invaluable advice, answering the crucial question: What is just one thing parents can do in discussion with teens about their identity? Her approach is universally applicable, providing a crucial starting point for any parent navigating these transformative years with their teenager.

Join host Dr. Bettina Hohnen as she talks to Clinical Psychologist Dr Tara Murphy and asks What's Just One Thing Parents can do when their child presents with tics. She explains what tics are including Tourette's Syndrome and how they typically present. The top piece of advice may surprise you—it's not about seeking an immediate cure or fix, but about education and communication. Tara explains more in this bitesize episode, so tune in and if you like what we are doing here, leave a review and share this episode with parents who you think might benefit. 

 

Books on tics by Tara:

 

Tic Disorders: A guide for parents and professionals by Uttom Chowdhhury and Tara Murphy, published by Jessica Kingsley Publishing

The Tourettes Survival Kit: tools for young adults with tics by Tara Murphy and Damon Millar, published by Jessica Kingsley Publishing

Episode 4: When Your Child is Struggling, This Will Really Help with Anita Cleare

Join host v in this insightful episode of Just One Thing for Parents with special guest Anita Cleare, a psychotherapist, parenting expert, coach, speaker, writer, and co-founder of the Positive Parenting project. Dr. Hohnen poses the question to Anita: "If you could pick just one thing that you think is important for parents to remember to do when their child is struggling, what would it be?" Discover Anita's expert advice and the one crucial action parents can take. Tune in for new episodes for a quick, helpful tip on Just One Thing for Parents. Subscribe, leave a review, and share this episode with fellow parents. 

Episode 3: Helping Our Children Manage Trauma with David Trickey

Join host Dr. Bettina Hohnen in this new episode of Just One Thing for Parents with special guest David Trickey, a Clinical Psychologist specializing in working with traumatized children and their families. David is co-director of the UK Trauma Council and lectures at the Anna Freud National Centre for Children and Families. He is known for his talent in translating complex ideas into accessible tools for families. Tune in for new episodes for a quick, helpful tip on Just One Thing for Parents. Subscribe, leave a review, and share this episode with fellow parents. 

How can parents support their children to eat healthily without slipping into diet talk or passing on their own body worries?   In this episode of Just One Thing for Parents, Dr Anna Colton — clinical psychologist and eating disorder specialist — shares what decades of experience have taught her about food, families and children's wellbeing.   We talk about: - Why the language we use about food matters more than we think - How to model a balanced, relaxed approach at mealtimes - Supporting children and teens to self-regulate, rather than laying down rigid rules - Why acceptance, not body positivity, is the goal that helps children thrive   Anna also shares her "one shift that changes everything": becoming aware of your own patterns around food and body image, so you have the choice not to pass them on. Listen now to hear how you can raise children with a healthy, confident relationship to eating.

Episode 2: The Number One Dilemma Parents Bring to their Child's Psychotherapist with Cynthia Rousso

Join host Dr. Bettina Hohnen in this insightful episode of Just One Thing for Parents with special guest Cynthia Rousso. As a psychotherapist, parenting expert, coach, and speaker, Cynthia shares her expertise on the number one dilemma parents often bring to their child's psychotherapist. Tune in for new episodes for a quick, helpful tip on Just One Thing for Parents. Subscribe, leave a review, and share this episode with fellow parents. 

Episode 1: How to Support an Anxious Child with Dawn Huebner

In this episode of Just One Thing for Parents, join host Dr Bettina Hohnen and special guest Dawn Huebner, author, parent coach, and anxiety management expert, as they explore the crucial topic of supporting anxious children. In just 5-7 minutes, discover practical insights backed by science and real-life experience. Tune in for new episodes for a quick, helpful tip on Just One Thing for Parents. Subscribe, leave a review, and share this episode with fellow parents. 

In this episode of Just One Thing for Parents, I'm joined by Clinical Psychologist Dr Alex Leedham to explore the idea of the "social battery" in autism — a simple but powerful way of understanding why children with autism can so easily become overwhelmed.   Alex explains how everyday demands, from noisy classrooms to social chit-chat, can drain energy far more quickly for autistic children than for their peers. She introduces the idea of creating a battery-draining list and a battery-charging list - practical tools families can use to spot triggers, plan ahead, and build in restorative breaks.   We talk about how parents can help children tune into their own needs, develop emotional literacy, and learn what really recharges them — whether that's quiet time with headphones, preparing in advance for transitions, or connecting with close friends over a shared interest. It's different for everyone.   If you've ever wondered how to protect your autistic child's energy and prevent overwhelm, this episode offers both clarity and practical strategies you can start using straight away.

In this episode of Just One Thing for Parents, I'm joined by family therapist Shadi Shahnavaz to talk about how to reach teens who won't engage — why some adolescents shut their parents out, and what parents can do to gently rebuild connection.   We explore the everyday struggles families face when communication breaks down: parents feeling rejected, teens retreating into silence, and the cycle of criticism and withdrawal that leaves everyone exhausted. Shadi explains why trust is often lost on both sides, and how small, respectful shifts can make all the difference.   Most importantly, Shadi offers guidance on what parents can try this week: listening without judgment, setting fair and boundaried rules, and creating everyday moments of connection that build safety and trust. From bringing a hot chocolate to their room to sharing dinner together, these small acts open the door to bigger conversations.   If you've ever felt shut out by your teenager — or wondered how to reach them without pushing them further away — this episode will give you both reassurance and practical steps to bring the relationship back to life.