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In this episode of hosts Ben Welch and Mike Clark are joined by Essex County FA Coach Development Officer Jake Ling to breakdown the FA’s brand-new Grassroots Coaching Fundamentals.

Jake walks through the eight updated pillars - from maximising active ball-rolling time and designing game-realistic practices to praising specific effort and actively seeking player feedback.

The conversation turns raw and honest as Ben and Mike open up about the overwhelming emotional strain and late-night fixation that comes with being a parent-coach on the touchline.

Together with Jake, they tackle the delicate dynamic of coaching your own child and discuss how to overcome the fear of parent judgment. The team also breaks down practical solutions like the FA’s "Stepping Over the Sidelines" initiative and local Monday night CPD workshops designed to give volunteer coaches a safe space to vent, learn, and collaborate.

Whether you are a brand-new volunteer or a seasoned grassroots manager, this episode delivers practical frameworks and a needed reminder: at the end of the day, it's just kids' football.

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In this episode, hosts Ben and Mike kick off with Grassroots Hero or Bizzy Rascal to call out the latest over-the-top sideline behaviours. The hosts quickly dive into match day realities, debating the frustrating costs of insisting on playing out from the back.

Ben opens up about a challenging touchline moment where a referee called out his aggressive shouting towards his son, sparking a vulnerable reflection on dad-coach pressures, tone of voice and avoiding treating young players like personal projects.

The pair also tackle operational headaches, contrasting the chaotic logistics of managing 3v3 formats with traditional 5v5 matches, alongside the struggle of balancing equal game time with bloated substitute benches.

Finally, drawing on insightful advice from youth performance coaches and AI perspectives, Ben and Mike explore how to alleviate parental "FOMO" and ensure the post-match car ride home remains a safe space for young players.

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In Part Two of this deep dive with Paul Barry — Head of coaching at Football DNA with experience at Crystal Palace, Arsenal, and Watford — Ben and Mike breaks down how to bring professional academy standards to grassroots teams.

Paul moves beyond sideline shouting to explain how academies systematically teach pressing, focusing on small-sided games (3v3s) and reading visual cues like heavy touches or backward passes.

He unpacks methods for escaping an intense press through brave positioning, goalkeeper management and making intentional "space passes" over pressure rather than aimlessly clearing the ball.

The conversation pivots to player psychology, revealing practical anchoring techniques, such as physical gestures like brushing off shoulders or tapping heads, that help young players reset instantly after mistakes and maintain concentration for their "next action."

Finally, the episode highlights team culture, introducing the "PROUD" framework (Progressive, Respectful, Optimistic, Unified, Dedicated). Paul explains how grassroots coaches can adapt top-level habits to foster maturity and discipline while keeping the game enjoyable, engaging, and age-appropriate for young players.

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In this episode Ben and Mike get honest about the pressure, obsession, and guilt that come with volunteer coaching. After taking their U11s to play Ipswich Town’s Category 1 Academy, a tough 80-minute lesson prompts a powerful reality check on expectations, burnout and remembering that at the end of the day, you're just a dad doing your best.

The episode takes an emotional turn as Ben shares the agony of missing his son Charlie’s match, only to hear how his U7s staged a sensational 4-3 comeback win. That pure, unforgettable victory feeling captures exactly why we fall in love with youth football in the first place.

Packed with relatable Sunday league banter—including the hilarious new "Grassroots Hero or Busy B*stard" debate—plus actionable coaching tips and listener Q&As on equal game time, this episode is a must-listen for every grassroots coach, volunteer, and parent navigating youth football today.

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What actually happens when a grassroots team takes on a Premier League Academy? In this episode, Ben and Mike break down their recent clash against Ipswich Town Under-10s —from holding their own in a 3-2 thriller to facing a brutal second-half reality check. Joined by Paul Barry, Head of Coaching at Football DNA with experience at Arsenal, Crystal Palace, and Watford, the guys dissect the massive gap between grassroots and academy setups.

Paul reveals why contact time changes everything, how to implement Individual Development Plans (IDPs), and why volunteer coaches must stop beating themselves up over results. The conversation dives deep into tactical masterclasses: teaching off-the-ball movement, coaching rest defence, and using the "IDEA" Framework to dramatically boost player decision-making.

Learn how to ask your players the right questions on the sideline, understand pitch perspective from a child’s eye level, and steal elite academy principles you can drop directly into your next Tuesday night session. Whether you are a parent managing expectations or a volunteer coach seeking practical training ideas, this episode delivers actionable, real-world advice.

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Ben and Mike break down a bittersweet weekend on the touchline. The main talking point revolves around the Under-11s’ gutting 3-1 derby opening-day loss to their local rivals, the Blues.

Despite a strong performance and a momentum-building equaliser, a mid-game overhaul of four simultaneous substitutions disrupted the team’s rhythm, leading directly to conceded goals and an elusive penalty call that went against them. The hosts candidly debate whether prioritising equal playing time and prepping for 9-a-side football is actively costing them results in tight matches.

Counterbalancing the defeat, Ben celebrates his younger son Charlie’s sensational 3v3 debut, where he netted 13 goals. The episode also covers their latest training drills and upcoming fixture against Ipswich Town's Premier League academy.

Finally, the hosts reflect on emotional listener feedback about parenting, emphasising the importance of staying present and cherishing every moment before the kids grow up.

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In the final episode of this six-part series, Ben and Mike join child development early childhood learning specialist Laura Mellor-Bachman to reveal how grassroots football coaches can build a united front with parents.

The episode addresses the real-world challenge of managing sideline expectations, shifting the narrative from rigid adult-style drills to essential play-based frameworks. Laura shares practical communication strategies for addressing challenging child behaviour, emphasising private consultation and treating parents as experts on their own children. The discussion highlights the balance between setting firm boundaries and avoiding people-pleasing, offering clear ways to delegate responsibilities to prevent coach burnout.

Additionally, the episode explores pitch-side conflict resolution, demonstrating how coaches can leverage neurological "mirror neurons" and "connection before correction" to de-escalate heated moments with adults and young players alike. Packed with actionable advice, this episode provides grassroots volunteers and coaches with the relational tools needed to build trust, foster long-term player retention, and ensure no coach ever becomes a child's last.

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Ben and Mike relive the Ballers Elite showcase game at Tottenham's training ground, where Ben's frustration watching his son turns into one of his proudest parenting moments. They share a new way of reviewing match clips, asking kids what they were thinking rather than telling them what went wrong and unpack why confidence at home doesn't always travel to unfamiliar pitches.

There's a fun new warm-up drill worth stealing, an honest SOS about giving 11 players fair game time in a 7-a-side squad and a heavy listener story about a tournament meltdown that spiralled out of control. As ever, the takeaway is the same: rehearse difficult moments before they happen, because staying calm matters more than any tactic ever will.

There's also a candid moment where Ben opens up about the hidden pressure that comes with being the coach's own child — the added scrutiny, expectation and subconscious weight that kids of coaching parents carry, simply because they're always around it and always want to make their dad proud. Honest, unfiltered grassroots talk for parents and coaches.

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In part five of their coaching masterclass with Little Kickers, Ben and Mike sit down again with early childhood learning specialist Laura Mellor-Bachman to tackle grassroots football's most-asked-about topic: the parent-coach relationship.

Laura explains why sideline meltdowns almost always come from one place, care, not chaos, and shares practical ways coaches can set expectations early so parents know exactly what to expect from day one. The trio get personal too, recounting a touchline incident where things turned genuinely nasty, and unpacking a strange encounter with aggressively positive opposition parents who unintentionally frightened their own players.

Along the way, they explore why every sideline blow-up ultimately comes down to ego, how to keep a child's experience separate from a parent's own memories and expectations, and why Vygotsky's zone of proximal development explains why struggle is essential for kids to actually improve and build real, lasting confidence on the pitch.

Honest, practical listening for any parent, coach or volunteer who's ever felt their blood boil on the touchline, with just one episode left in this six-part series.

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Ben and Mike are back with a double dose of grassroots chaos: tournament tales, a brand new format, and a lot of soul-searching. Their Barking FC tournament run swings from two straight wins to a possible academy-ringer thrashing, before ending in heartbreak with a cup exit against old rivals.

Ben opens up about the harsh words he regrets shouting at his own son mid-meltdown, and how tough love in another game got Alfie back out on the pitch to help the team storm to an 8-1 win. Then it's Charlie's turn, as the youngest Welch is thrown into the confusing, chaotic new world of 3v3 football, uneven numbers, unclear rules and all.

Along the way there's a listener's kind message about Raph's newly diagnosed asthma, a LinkedIn post that changed how Ben parents, and honest reflections on season goals: calmer team talks and learning to treat your own kid like everyone else's.

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In part four of our six-week masterclass with Little Kickers, Ben and Mike sit down with early childhood learning specialist Laura Mellor-Bachman to tackle one of the toughest moments in youth sport: the meltdown.

Whether it's tears after losing the ball or a full-blown tantrum mid-match, Laura reveals why phrases like "suck it up" make things worse, and what to say instead.

She breaks down the science behind emotional outbursts, explaining why kids can't just "snap out of it" and how acknowledging their feelings first is the fastest route back to calm.

The episode also digs into spotting performative crying versus genuine distress, with a real example from Ben's own home. Packed with practical techniques, this is essential listening for any coach, volunteer or parent who's ever frozen on the sideline wondering what to say next.

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In this episode, Ben and Mike travel to Copenhagen to meet Henrik Teisbæk, co-founder of Veo, the AI-powered sports camera used by over 50,000 grassroots football clubs worldwide.

Henrik reveals the real story behind Veo, born from a missed goal and a father who arrived too late to film his son's first strike, and how that frustration sparked a mission to bring professional-level video and analytics to Sunday League football.

They explore how AI coaching technology is levelling the playing field for grassroots coaches and parents, why filming games quietly improves sideline behaviour and how to use match footage and data to give young players constructive feedback without overwhelming them.

Henrik also looks ahead to Veo's new analytics tools, personalised player insights, and a future where every grassroots team could have elite-level coaching support. A must-listen for parents, coaches and volunteers passionate about improving youth football.

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Giving feedback to young footballers after a game is one of the trickiest balancing acts in grassroots football. Whether you are dealing with a silent ride home, defensive reactions or outright disinterest, traditional post-match lectures often fall on deaf ears.

In this episode, Ben and Mike sit down with expert Laura Mellor-Bachman to reveal how coaches and parents can transform full-time reactions into meaningful learning moments.

Discover why swapping emotional car journey critiques for objective, observation-based feedback completely changes how children receive guidance. Learn practical sideline techniques - such as simple mid-game note-taking - that help you step back from matchday stress and deliver calm, targeted recaps.

Packed with real-world examples and actionable communication tips, this episode provides the ultimate playbook for fostering intrinsic motivation, improving player engagement and ensuring your matchday advice actually sticks.

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In this episode, Ben and Mike stagger back from their holidays to face the glorious, chaotic mess of youth football pre-season. First up, Mike delivers a classic dad-guilt moment after realising his son wasn't just being lazy—he actually has severe asthma.

The boys then dive into the training pitch, breaking down high-energy 1v1 reaction drills, the 'Rivals' game, and how to stop screaming at your own flesh and blood when a drill goes sideways. Throw in the absolute nightmare of arranging 3v3 friendlies, snide football kits from abroad, and a quick reality check on why we’ll actually miss these freezing, muddy Sunday mornings, and you’ve got classic touchline therapy. Put the kettle on!

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Why do some coaches instantly capture a group's attention while others spend an entire session repeating themselves? In this episode, hosts Ben and Mike are joined by Laura Mellor-Backman, Director of Curriculum and Training at Stronger Youth Brands and an early childhood learning specialist, to uncover the secret to getting young footballers to actually listen.

Drawing on child development research and years of experience designing programmes for young children, Laura explains why listening isn't about speaking louder - it's about communicating differently.

Together, they explore how body language, storytelling, questioning, structure and play all help children stay engaged, while sharing practical strategies for supporting shy players, managing challenging behaviour and creating sessions that are both fun and purposeful.

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From scoring the winning goal on his Premier League debut for boyhood club West Ham to coaching his own children on a Sunday morning, Freddie Sears has experienced almost every level of the game. But despite a career spanning more than 460 professional appearances, it’s grassroots football that now gives him some of his greatest enjoyment.

In this episode, Freddie joins Ben and Mike in the studio to reflect on growing up playing grassroots football, the coaches and parents who shaped him, and the unforgettable moment he fulfilled his childhood dream at West Ham. He also opens up about the challenges of coaching his own children, managing expectations, dealing with nerves and finding the balance between pushing young players and simply letting them enjoy football.

For parents and coaches, Freddie’s message is clear: football should be fun. His story is a powerful reminder that the friendships, memories and experiences created on a Sunday morning can mean far more than the result.

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Why do young players ignore instructions, forget skills they've mastered in training or simply want to play instead of listening? In this episode, hosts Ben and Mike, are joined by Laura Mellor-Bachman, Director of Curriculum and Training at Stronger Youth Brands and an early childhood learning specialist, to explore what's really happening inside a young footballer's brain.

Drawing on child development research and years of experience designing programmes for young children, Laura explains why play is the foundation of learning, how emotional safety shapes confidence and why coaches often expect more than children are developmentally ready for.

Whether you're a grassroots coach, volunteer or football parent, this conversation will help you better understand how young players think, learn and develop—giving you practical insights to create more enjoyable sessions and help every child build a lifelong love of football.

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What does it really take to help a young footballer become a better goalscorer? In this episode, Ben and Mike are joined by former Football League striker and specialist finishing coach Dan Holman to uncover the coaching principles that develop confident, clinical finishers.

From improving ball striking and mastering different finishing techniques to making smarter runs, finding space and bouncing back after missed chances, Dan explains how goalscorers are made through practice, patience and repetition—not just natural talent.

The conversation also explores how parents can support their child's development at home without over-coaching, why confidence is built through keeping promises rather than chasing perfection, and the small mindset shifts that can make a huge difference on matchday.

This episode is packed with practical advice that parents, volunteers and grassroots coaches can start using immediately.

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What separates the young footballers who keep improving from those who stand still? According to ex-professionals and Complete Football Academy coaches Kudus Oyenuga and Garry Richards, it isn't talent — it's mentality.

Joining Ben and Mike, they explore how parents and coaches can develop resilience, intensity and self-belief without crushing a child's confidence or love for the game.

Through stories from academy football, grassroots coaching and parenting their own children, they discuss why kids need to be challenged, why protecting them too much can hold them back, and how the right standards can unlock potential both on and off the pitch.

They also share practical advice on coaching your own child, giving feedback that motivates rather than discourages, and creating environments where young players learn to embrace mistakes, work harder and push beyond their comfort zone.

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In this webinar, hosts Ben and Mike host an expert panel, featuring the FA’s head of grassroots coach, John Folwell, elite academy coach Michael Fox, professional goalkeeper Mark Howard, and youth league chairman Ryan Walker—to dissect the FA’s new 3v3 format for under-7s.

Drawing on extensively tested research and real-world rollout experience, John and Ryan explain how 3v3 maximises active playing time, touches, and player autonomy while simplifying match logistics for grassroots clubs.

The panel explores the core philosophy of giving the game back to the kids, highlighting how small-sided matches foster creative decision-making and fundamental movement skills without early parental or sideline pressure.

Beyond the general format, the discussion tackles heat-button debates—including the controversial removal of goalkeepers, logistical pitch setups, parent-facilitator roles, and managing mixed-ability squads. Packed with practical advice on matchday execution, training adaptations, and navigating adult mindset shifts, this session offers an essential roadmap for coaches and parents embarking on the 3v3 journey.

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Ben and Mike dive into one of grassroots football's biggest debates: will playing a year up actually make your child a better footballer? Using their own team's pre-season as a real-life case study, they share what happened when they tested their Under-10s against older, stronger opposition—and the surprising lessons they learned.

They discuss how physical challenges can accelerate development, why confidence and resilience matter just as much as technical ability, and the signs parents should look for before making the leap. Along the way, they explore pre-season training, helping younger players build confidence, coaching intensity, and why more football isn't always the answer unless it's the right football.

This episode gives parents and coaches practical insight into making the right long-term decision.

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Why do some young goalkeepers thrive under pressure while others lose confidence after a single mistake? In this episode, hosts Ben and Mike are joined by former professional goalkeeper and experienced academy coach Andy Collett to explore what it really takes to develop confident, resilient young shot-stoppers.

Drawing on years of experience working with players of all ages, Andy explains why coaches and parents often expect too much from young goalkeepers, how confidence is built—or damaged—and why the way adults communicate can have a lasting impact on a child's development.

The conversation also covers concentration, decision-making, handling mistakes, age-appropriate coaching and the unique challenges of playing the most demanding position on the pitch.

This episode is packed with practical advice that will help you better understand, support and develop young goalkeepers.

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In this episode, Ben speaks to youth athlete development expert Dr Ben Pullen, to smash the biggest myths holding young players back. He completely dismantles the classic misconception that strength training stunts a child’s growth, revealing that avoiding physical preparation actually leaves young athletes vulnerable to injuries during peak growth spurts.

You will discover how 3G pitches and explosive changes of direction subject young joints to dangerous forces, frequently triggering painful overuse conditions like Osgood-Schlatter knee pain and Sever's disease.

Listeners will walk away with an exact step-by-step blueprint packed with practical coaching tips and at-home drills. Dr Pullen shares how to run highly engaging chase games that naturally build explosive sprint speed, how to integrate 5-minute plyometric jumping and landing routines into team warm-ups, and how to use clever bodyweight challenges to safely build core strength without any gym equipment.

Learn how just 30 to 60 minutes a week of these games-based exercises can unlock genuine acceleration and agility. Most importantly, this physical level-up directly boosts a child’s confidence, combatting the 70% youth sports dropout rate and keeping them in love with football for the long haul.

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Ben and Mike are joined by former professional footballer Damian Scannell and mental performance coach Michael Hilton for an honest conversation about what it really takes to help young players thrive.

Together, they explore how parents and volunteer coaches can build confidence, resilience and a lifelong love of football without adding unnecessary pressure. From handling disappointment and managing emotions to knowing when to step in and when to let children learn for themselves, the discussion is packed with practical advice and real-life experiences.

This episode offers valuable insights into raising confident young footballers while helping them develop the life skills that extend far beyond the game.

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Ben and Mike reflect on another unforgettable weekend in grassroots football, where the highs of great performances were matched by the heartbreak of a cup final defeat. In this honest and relatable conversation, they unpack what really happens behind the touchline - from managing pressure, emotions and expectations to supporting young players through both success and disappointment.

They discuss the lessons learned from tournament football, the challenges of coaching their own children, the psychology of big games, and the everyday chaos that every volunteer coach and football parent knows all too well.

They also look ahead to presentation night, sharing why celebrating every player's journey, recognising individual progress and creating lifelong memories can often mean far more than lifting a trophy. 

This episode is packed with candid stories, practical insights and plenty of laughs. It's a reminder that grassroots football isn't just about winning trophies—it's about helping young players grow, creating lasting memories, and learning something new every single week.

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What really helps young footballers improve? In this episode, hosts Ben and Mike sit down with Jason and Neil from Rondos Academy to uncover the coaching principles they've learned from more than 15 years of developing grassroots players.

From the importance of patience and creating engaging training sessions to the technical skills children should really be practising, this conversation is packed with practical advice for volunteer coaches, parents and anyone involved in youth football.

They discuss why competition can transform learning, how to support players of all abilities, what children should focus on during the summer and why long-term development matters far more than short-term results.

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What does it really take for a young player to make it in academy football and what are parents and grassroots coaches getting wrong? In this episode, Ben and Mike sit down with Sean Conlon, a former Chelsea and QPR academy coach and scout, to get honest answers from inside the system.

Sean, now the ceo of We Make Footballers and founder of Project Footballer, breaks down the reality of youth football in the UK - from why early talent means nothing long-term, to what scouts actually look for (and it’s not just skills).

The conversation dives into mindset, habits, and the huge influence parents have from the sidelines. Ben and Mike ask the questions every grassroots parent and coach is thinking, while Sean shares practical, no-nonsense insight on how to support young players properly, without adding pressure or taking the joy out of the game.

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Episode 100 marks a milestone beyond numbers, as Ben and Mike reflect on how three years of coaching and honest self-examination have reshaped them from reactive, emotionally driven dads into more self-aware, confident coaches.

What began as sideline frustration, post-match “crash outs,” and sleepless nights has evolved into a calmer, more thoughtful approach built on accountability and experience. They revisit early mistakes—shouting, letting results dictate emotions, and struggling to separate parenting from coaching—while sharing how expert advice and reflection helped them improve communication and focus on development over winning.

Alongside practical lessons in training, confidence, and team culture, this episode highlights the power of honesty, showing how growth comes not from perfection, but from learning, adapting, and showing up better each time.

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In this episode, hosts Ben and Mike are joined in the studio by Football DNA's head of coaching, Paul Barry, to break down the FA’s brand-new 3v3 format for under-7s—and what it really means for coaches, players and parents.

Drawing on over 30 years of coaching experience, Paul explains why 3v3 is “football in its purest form,” designed to maximise touches, decision-making, and enjoyment. The conversation explores how removing goalkeepers, referees and rigid structure creates a more creative, player-led environment—and why that’s crucial for long-term development.

The episode goes beyond theory, offering practical coaching advice on what to prioritise in training, how to build decision-making through small-sided games, and why concepts like ball mastery, attacking intent, and transitions should take centre stage. Paul also shares powerful insights on coaching behaviours—from reducing sideline noise to using language that actually resonates with young players.

Alongside the benefits, the discussion tackles real-world challenges, including over-coaching, parental pressure, “ball hogging,” and how to handle difficult grassroots scenarios. Whether you’re unsure about the format or excited to embrace it, this is your complete guide to coaching 3v3 the right way.

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This week, Ben and Mike, two grassroots dads doing their best not to ruin their kids’ football journeys, are joined by Kate and Fran from Performance Canteen, specialists in youth athlete nutrition who’ve worked with elite academies and young players across the UK.

While Ben admits his go-to meal plan involves oven chips and panic, Kate and Fran drop a bombshell: most grassroots kids aren’t overfed - they’re under-fuelled. And it’s quietly wrecking their performance, mood, and love for the game.

They dive into the biggest myths around “healthy eating,” why sugar isn’t the villain it’s made out to be, and how modern nutrition advice is confusing parents more than it’s helping. If you’ve ever wondered why your kid fades in matches, gets grumpy after training, or constantly asks for snacks—this one’s for you.

Grab a bowl of cereal, ditch the guilt, and get ready to rethink everything you thought you knew about feeding young footballers.

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In this episode, Mike Clark and Ben sit down with Colin Windrow, the visionary club manager behind MSB Woolton—officially the largest grassroots football club in England.

Colin shares the fascinating journey of scaling a local Liverpool side into an institution supporting over 2,400 players and 400 volunteers. Beyond the logistics, he reveals the club’s secret approach: an internal league designed to foster a love for the game without the crushing pressure of early competition.

From practical community hacks like "boot exchanges" to managing the high expectations of parents, this conversation is essential listening for any coach, volunteer, or parent navigating the complex world of grassroots football. Discover how to build a legacy that values people over points.

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In this special episode, hosts Ben and Mike travel to St George’s Park to investigate "Future Fit"—the FA’s biggest youth football restructuring in over a decade.

The episode dives into the new 3v3 format for under-7s, exploring why more touches and game time are the key to developing confident, skilful players.

Featuring insights from former England internationals Glen Johnson and Rachel Yankey, alongside Clare Daniels (Senior National Development Manager for Innovations & Solutions) and John Folwell (Head of Grassroots Coach Development), the episode tackles the "no goalkeeper" controversy and offers advice for parents on navigating the often-toxic grassroots sideline.

Whether you’re a coach worried about logistics or a parent wondering where the keepers went, this is a must-watch guide to the new era of the English game.

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Ben and Mike dive into one of grassroots football’s biggest debates: should every player get equal game time in tournaments? Drawing from real tournament experiences, they unpack the tension between fairness and competitiveness, where short matches and high stakes force tough decisions.

From squad rotation challenges to the impact on team flow, they explore how equal minutes can both support development and disrupt performance. Alongside this, they reflect on coaching emotions, player confidence, and the pressure-filled environment of tournament football.

It’s an honest look at how coaches can balance inclusion with the desire to win, while keeping the focus on creating positive, meaningful experiences for young players.

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Ben and Mike are joined by Mark Thompson, UEFA A Licensed coach and International Technical Coaching Manager at Everton, to explore a simple truth: kids don’t need more coaching - they need clearer coaching.

From summer training to tournament chaos, they discuss why overcomplicated instructions hold players back and how using simple language like “always see the ball” can transform understanding instantly.

Mark shares why unstructured play, repetition and “brilliant basics” matter more than flashy drills, while also tackling the pressures of tournaments and sideline behaviour. It’s a practical look at how small changes in communication can massively improve development and enjoyment.

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In this bonus episode, Ben and Mike tackle the realities of grassroots football through listener questions and stories from the community. They explore key debates like competition vs development, managing long losing streaks and what to do when training sessions fall apart.

They reflect on the pressures volunteer coaches face, the importance of parent support, and the risk of burnout, while also celebrating the emotional highs — last-minute winners, promotions, and proud dad moments.

From sideline behaviour to player development and grassroots chaos, it’s always worth it.

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As the season wraps up, Ben and Mike take a brutally honest look back at the highs, lows, and everything in between — from standout performances and unforgettable goals to moments they’d rather forget as coaches and parents.

They revisit the team’s development across the year, celebrating the progress in confidence, teamwork, and style of play, while also acknowledging the emotional challenges of coaching their own children. The conversation digs into the reality of end-of-season reflection: the pride in how far the boys have come, mixed with regret over moments where frustration took over and lessons were learned the hard way.

Beyond the football itself, they explore how their coaching mindset has evolved—learning to let go of results, communicate more effectively, and understand that effort, decision-making, and consistency are all part of a child’s development journey. It’s a candid look at what improvement really looks like, both on the pitch and on the sidelines.

Along the way, they share their favourite memories, toughest moments, biggest lessons, and what they want to do differently next season.

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Why does your child sometimes look like two completely different footballers? Ben and Mike explore the frustrating but fascinating reality of inconsistency in youth players—where confidence, mood, environment and even small moments in a game can completely change a child’s performance.

From training intensity to matchday mentality, they unpack why the “switch” can flick on and off so dramatically. They also reflect on how factors off the pitch—like school, health worries, or even the dynamic of being coached by a parent—can quietly influence effort levels and decision-making. It’s a reminder that what looks like laziness or lack of focus is often something more complex, and understanding the “why” is key to supporting development.

Along the way, they discuss the impact of confidence swings, the importance of patience when progress isn’t linear, and how coaches and parents can respond when effort drops without damaging a child’s love for the game.

They also tackle a range of listener questions, including how to manage parent behaviour on the sidelines without burning out, setting boundaries as a volunteer coach, and navigating the challenges of growing squads.

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In this episode, Ben and Mike welcome Chris Ramsey onto the pod. One of the most respected voices in player development and coaching in the English game, Ramsey's career spans roles at QPR, Tottenham, and the FA. He has worked across academy football, first-team management, and coach education, helping shape not just players, but better coaches and environments.

Together, they unpack the real challenges of grassroots football: coaching mixed ability groups, building confidence in young players, and managing the pressures that come from parents and expectations.

You’ll learn why keeping sessions simple often beats copying elite tactics, how repetition and structure accelerate development, and why communication—not drills—is the most important coaching skill.

They also tackle the debate around positions, explain how to create a positive environment where kids enjoy the game, and share practical insights to help volunteer coaches get the best out of every player.

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Is advertising for specific positions in youth football the right approach for development? Ben and Mike debate whether recruiting for roles like “defenders only” is a practical necessity or risks pigeonholing players too early, shaping how they see themselves on the pitch.

They also discuss why losing is essential for growth, how competition builds resilience, and what lessons really stick when things don’t go your way. It’s a reminder that, while winning feels great, it’s often the tough moments—the missed chances, poor decisions and defeats—that teach children the most, even if they’re harder for parents to watch.

They also look at how the close proximity and constant instruction between parent and child in training can quickly spark tension, misunderstandings and those all-too-familiar flashpoints. There are positives too, as elements from recent training—particularly around shooting and decision-making—begin to show up in matches, reinforcing the idea that repetition and patience do pay off over time.

Alongside this, they tackle the practical realities of grassroots football, including how best to trial a new player without disrupting the group or placing too much pressure on the individual.

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What’s it really like for a child playing the most pressured position on the pitch? In this episode, Salford City goalkeeper Mark Howard shares honest insights from academy football at Arsenal to parenting his own son.

Coaches and parents will learn how to build confidence, handle mistakes, and support kids through the emotional highs and lows of goalkeeping. From simple “reset” techniques to smarter warm-ups and sideline behaviour, this conversation is packed with relatable stories and practical advice.

If you’ve ever watched your child struggle after conceding or wondered how to help them enjoy football again this episode is essential listening.

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In this episode, Ben and Mike, talk about their experience of loud adult spectators unintentionally overwhelming young players. The hosts reflect on balancing resilience with responsibility, questioning when to step in and highlighting how adult behaviour on the sidelines can shape a child’s experience.

They discuss the science of "preclude constraints", using the powerful analogy of Kyrie Irving practising on a broken backboard to explain why intentionally making training difficult—by blocking the "easy path"—is essential for developing player creativity and resilience.

Beyond the tactics, the duo explores the "happiness of the pursuit", a concept inspired by a Jimmy Carr podcast, where the comedian makes the point that the satisfaction of the journey comes from the struggle itself, rather than just the result.

They discuss the eeriness of playing a match during a "silent weekend", and Ben shares a poignant realisation: the day his son stops playing is approaching faster than he would like. It is a timely reminder to coaches and parents to stop wishing away the tough times and instead cherish the messy, rewarding reality of the grassroots journey before it is gone.

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Every grassroots coach faces the same nightmare: a defence that’s "all over the place" and young players who just want to be on the ball.

In this episode, Ben and Mike, chat with Mac Smith, a football director and coach at Moreton City Excelsior FC in Australia’s Queensland NPL, who reveals why traditional tactical plans fail young players and how to instead build "defensive habits" that stick.

Learn the high-reward scoring game that makes kids love winning the ball back, the "Gabriel & Saliba" method for teaching positioning, and the "click moment" for stopping ball-watching.

Mac explains how to stop treating defending like a boring chore and start building a solid foundation.

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Ben and Mike break down two intense matches, from a muddy “battle” to a frustrating defeat after a brilliant first half and reflect on the fine margins between development and results. The conversation dives into defensive organisation, why kids lose concentration and the challenge of coaching your own child without letting emotions take over.

The discussion becomes particularly honest when Mike reflects on a moment where frustration got the better of him while coaching his son during the game. Looking back, he questions whether his reaction was really about tactics or influenced by the emotions that come with being both a parent and a coach.

Alongside the emotional side of coaching, they analyse the football itself—talking through missed chances, defensive lapses, and the importance of communication and positioning. They also reinforce a key philosophy: prioritising development over results by giving every player meaningful minutes, rotating positions, and allowing kids to learn the game through experience, even when it costs the team in the short term.

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What happens when a football insider with 165,000 followers, Premier League contacts and a career around the game ends up managing his son’s Under-7s team?

In this honest conversation, Ben and Mike, meet the man behind the famous @ExWHUEmployee X (Twitter) account joins the podcast to reveal the emotional rollercoaster of grassroots football.

From overthinking line-ups and man-of-the-match decisions to the unexpected joy of watching kids score their first goals, this episode dives into the psychology, pressure and pride of coaching your own child. It’s funny, brutally honest and surprisingly relatable.

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Ben and Mike deliver an honest reflection on the reality of being a football dad, diving into the difficult balance between coaching a player and raising a son. They explore stoicism, discussing how to handle your emotions and unrealistic expectations.

The conversation gets raw as they break down a gut-wrenching defeat played in "war zone" conditions, questioning why some losses stay with a coach longer than they do with the players. They challenge every parent to look in the mirror and ask: "Are you gutted for them, or are you just gutted for you?"

Beyond the mindset, they share practical coaching strategies to keep kids focused, from eliminating downtime during sessions to using 6-4-2 ball mastery to build a child’s skill and confidence.

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In this unfiltered episode, former academy coaches Michael Fox and Olly Porteous join Ben and Mike to tackle the biggest issues facing grassroots football right now.

From 3v3 formats, silent weekends and heading bans to kick-ins, league tables and parent behaviour, the conversation goes beyond surface-level opinions and into what’s actually helping — and what might be quietly harming — player development.

Are we overcorrecting youth football? Are rule changes solving the real problem? And is adult behaviour, not structure, the issue that needs fixing most?

Drawing on years inside academy systems and grassroots environments, Fox and Porteous break down what needs to change, what needs to be protected and why balance—not extremes—is the key to developing confident, resilient young players.

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Ben and Mike are joined in the studio by Josh Paul, the social media powerhouse behind @fit_4_football to dissect the parental pre-game pep talk. Josh reveals why giving technical instructions to a young child is not only ineffective but also ignores the reality of how children actually learn and play.

The conversation explores the dangers of comparing grassroots players to the "wonder kids" seen in highly edited social media clips. From managing chaotic training sessions to using professional players as positive role models, this episode is a deep dive into keeping the pressure low and the fun high.

Ben and Mike get honest about their own past coaching mistakes and why the most important job a parent has is simply being their child's biggest fan.

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In this episode, Ben and Mike are joined by John Curtis — former Manchester United player and founder of NCE Soccer — for a wide-ranging conversation on what really drives youth football development.

John reflects on his own journey from grassroots football to Manchester United, sharing how early environments, coaching culture, and emotional support shape confident, resilient players.

Drawing on his experiences in elite academies and now working in the US, he explains why many development systems prioritise results, money, and status over long-term growth — and the damage this can cause to young players’ belief and enjoyment.

The discussion dives into coaching children at different ages, managing emotions when confidence dips, the challenges of parent-coaches and positional changes.

John also outlines the philosophy behind NCE Soccer, how it differs from traditional club models, and what aligned players, parents, and coaches can achieve when development — not winning — is the priority.

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Ben and Mike tackle one of grassroots football’s biggest false divides: the idea that fun and development can’t coexist. From debates around training more than once a week and mixed-ability teams, to the realities of repetition, confidence-building and unseen work away from the pitch, they unpack what actually helps kids improve — and enjoy the game more.

The conversation weaves through emotional challenges of coaching your own child, managing expectations of volunteer coaches, the role of parents in development, and why creating the right environment matters more than results.

They also dig into a question that frustrates almost every parent-coach: why your child seems to listen intently to other coaches but completely switch off when it’s you speaking?

Through personal experience and reflection, they explore how familiarity can dilute authority, how unconditional love removes consequences, and how emotion — even when unintentional — changes the way messages land. It’s an honest look at why being both parent and coach is uniquely hard, and why the answer isn’t better instructions, but better awareness.

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In this episode, Ben and Mike welcome back Michael Fox, former Peterborough United academy coach and now head coach at Focusing on Excellence Football Academy, to tackle one of grassroots football’s most debated topics: playing out from the back.

Drawing on his first season coaching in grassroots, Michael shares how academy principles can work at under-9s and under-10s level—despite the retreat rule, mixed ability squads and limited game time. The conversation explores how to teach children to stay calm under pressure, use goalkeepers effectively, create overloads and understand space without overwhelming them with tactics.

They also dive into emotional regulation on the sidelines, why consistency in coaching behaviour matters more than results, and how simple language, repetition and visual cues help players learn faster. Along the way, Michael explains concepts like “fishing passes,” starting again, and why mistakes at the back are a necessary part of long-term development.

The episode finishes with a wider discussion on mindset—what separates academy players from grassroots, whether resilience can be coached, and why helping kids enjoy learning the game matters far more than winning on a Sunday morning.

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