Inner Work with Steli Efti – Details, episodes &amp; analysis

163: Krishnamurti on the Simple Truth Within You

mardi 16 août 2022 • Duration 12:05

We won't find truth outside of us. There's no system, no organized set of teachings, no framework of thinking that will lead us to truth. Ultimately, the only place where we find truth is within ourselves. Reading passages from Jiddu Krishnamurti's Total Freedom reminded me once again of this big adventure that awaits each of us: to seek within ourselves.

Shownotes: https://steliefti.com/ep163

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154: Don't Be Spiritual. Be Honest Instead.

mardi 7 juin 2022 • Duration 17:13

There’s a quote by Byron Katie that’s been stuck in my mind. It reads, “Don’t be spiritual, be honest instead. It’s very painful to pretend yourself beyond your true evolution.”

I love it because it ties back to this inner work journey I’ve been on of going deeper within my own psyche and emotions and learning to be fully present and in the moment. I haven’t fully internalized many of the moments of clarity that I’ve had throughout my journey yet. Sometimes I will pretend myself beyond my true evolution, because often times the truth is not that pretty. We stumble around truth and pretend to be spiritual when in reality, simply being honest is the highest level of expression of spirituality.

Shownotes: https://steliefti.com/ep154

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063: Don't Solve Other People's Problems

dimanche 21 mars 2021 • Duration 36:13

One of the questions that reading Kafka has brought up in my mind is: How much pain are we causing others by trying to carry their burden? How much of the help I'm providing to others is really in the long run taking away their potential blessings?

Part of Inner Work is about looking beyond the surface of what's obvious and see the deeper ramifications and motivations of our actions, and this episode is me digging into that.

Shownotes: https://steliefti.com/other-peoples-problems/

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062: My Ridiculous Subconscious Thoughts

mardi 16 mars 2021 • Duration 21:34

Here's another episode that can be tagged with "aftereffects of reading Kafka".

Little Voice In My Head A: "Steli, it's 11am and you've not done anything yet".

To which Little Voice In My Head B responded: "Well, fuck you, I don't have to do anything if I don't have to!"

And both of them got into an argument they've been through thousands of times over the past couple of years. But it always happened kinda just below the level of consciousness, where I've never really been fully aware of this micro-battle.

Shownotes: https://steliefti.com/ridiculous-subconscious-thoughts/

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061: Fatherhood Odyssey: Remember to Have Fun

lundi 15 mars 2021 • Duration 12:50

Another beautiful insight that came out of some time I spent with my two sons recently was this: Remember to have fun when you do fun stuff.

Shownotes: https://steliefti.com/remember-to-have-fun/

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060: Reading With Steli: The Trial by Franz Kafka

jeudi 11 mars 2021 • Duration 29:56

I recently started reading The Trial by Franz Kafka, and there's one thing I really love about this book: It has already raised so many questions in my mind and made me think thoughts I wouldn't have pondered if it weren't for this book. This episode is just me sharing my reading experience while I'm halfway through the book.

Shownotes: https://steliefti.com/the-trial-kafka/

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059: Fatherhood odyssey: The power of nonjudgmental encouragement

mercredi 10 mars 2021 • Duration 12:11

Now that I'm back in Germany, I'm spending a lot of time with my two sons, and there was a beautiful experience of trust and courage we've shared together that I want to capture here.

Shownotes: https://steliefti.com/fatherhood-nonjudgmental-encouragement/

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058: Steli returns to Germany: A lesson in presence and priorities

samedi 6 mars 2021 • Duration 13:39

I've never had a great relationship with my Germany, even though I was born here, I grew up here, I have family and friends I love here. I never liked living here. And whenever I came back to spend time in Germany, I always like coming back to a place I didn't belong, nor wanted to be.

But because Germany is such a big part of my life, I wanted to find a way of coming back without feeling that way. And this time around, I asked myself a very simple question to create clarity. I asked myself: What's the most important thing for me during the first few weeks here in Germany?

To me, the answer was simple: I want to spend quality times with my loved ones here. And as long as I accomplished that every day, as long as I shared real quality time with loved ones, where I'm fully present in the moment, then for me, that's good enough.

I won't stress about anything else. If I'm not as productive as I want to be, if I don't get all the things done that I want to get done, if I don't work out as much as I want to work out, if I don't give my time and energy to every friend in Germany that asks for it right away, if I say no to people when they make requests I don't want to fulfill, if I don't eat as healthy as I want to eat, if I don't sleep as well, if I don't stick to the routines and habits I've established for myself, if I don't practice being the best version of myself in every aspect of my life—that's fine. I won't stress about it, I won't beat myself up about it.

It means that I'm fine saying no to a lot of things. Funny enough, I've given entire talks on that topic for startups.

Shownotes: https://steliefti.com/steli-returns-to-germany/

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