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Embracing Gratitude and Breaking Barriers with Javeno McLean05 Jan 202500:32:41

In this powerful episode of The Inadequate Mother, host Hayley welcomes Javeno McLean, founder of the multi award-winning J7 Community Health Centre in Manchester. Renowned for his work with individuals facing disabilities, life-altering illnesses such as cancer and Parkinson’s, and the elderly, Javeno has redefined inclusivity in fitness and community health.


Javeno shares his perspective on gratitude and how it fuels his energy and dedication to others. From helping individuals with dementia reconnect with cherished memories to empowering young people with disabilities to break through their limits, he reveals the moments and philosophies that have shaped his extraordinary journey.

The conversation also delves into the challenges Javeno faces balancing his emotionally demanding work with family life, the lessons he’s learned from his clients, and how he’s used his platform to inspire millions around the world.


This episode offers a profound exploration of humanity, connection, and the power of seeing beyond limitations. Javeno’s work, his humour, and his unwavering belief in human potential make this an episode that will leave listeners inspired and uplifted.


Follow Javeno McLean on Instagram @j7healthjaveno and Hayley on Instagram @hayleybrown_andco.

Learn more about Javeno’s work at the J7 Health Centre.


This Podcast is produced by Bloody Vegans Productions

Codependency as a result of addiction Confidence coach Claire Elizabeth05 Jan 202500:47:36

In this episode of The Inadequate Mother, Hayley is joined by confidence coach Claire Elizabeth to unpack the complex and often misunderstood concept of codependency. Together, they explore how codependent tendencies can stem from childhood experiences, impact romantic relationships, friendships, and most importantly, shape parenting styles.


From personal stories of being raised in households affected by addiction to the emotional challenges of motherhood, Hayley and Claire discuss:


  • What is codependency? A deep dive into how codependent patterns develop and manifest in everyday life.
  • Parenting and codependency: The struggle to balance connection with fostering independence in children.
  • Romantic relationships: Breaking free from unhealthy dynamics and recognising patterns like over-giving and emotional rescuing.
  • Practical tips for overcoming codependency: Claire shares actionable steps, including boundary-setting, journaling, and tools to build self-awareness and emotional resilience.


Key Takeaways:


  • Codependency is often rooted in early life experiences and can manifest as either over-giving or over-relying on others.
  • Setting boundaries and fostering internal emotional resilience are crucial steps toward healthier relationships.
  • The importance of allowing children to navigate challenges independently to build emotional strength.


Recommended Resources:



Connect with Claire Elizabeth:


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Join Hayley and Claire for an open, heartfelt discussion filled with personal revelations and insights into navigating codependency in relationships and parenting. If you’ve ever felt the weight of over-giving or struggled to set boundaries, this episode is for you.


This podcast is produced by Bloody Vegans Productions

Alcohol killed my mother - how to fight back from the family disease 05 Jan 202500:26:09

In this episode, Hayley reflects on the loss of her mother to alcoholism and how it shaped her life. From the early signs of addiction to the challenges of grief and healing, Hayley shares her honest perspective 13 years later.


This episode is for anyone navigating the impact of addiction in their family or relationships. Hayley talks about guilt, forgiveness, and the importance of focusing on your own well-being while supporting others. It’s a candid and relatable conversation for those who’ve been affected by addiction and are looking for connection and hope.


Links Mentioned:



Listen now and share with someone who might need it. It’s time to talk about the things that matter.


This podcast is produced by ⁠Bloody Vegans Productions⁠


Why Inadequate - The theory behind the name and a welcome from me05 Jan 202500:14:09

In this first episode, I’m sharing why I started The Inadequate Mother. The name isn’t about feeling like I’m not enough – it’s about challenging society’s impossible standards on mothers. This podcast is in honour of my mom, who struggled with feeling inadequate and lost her life to alcohol addiction.


I want this to be a space where we unpack those feelings of not measuring up and find comfort, growth, and maybe even a little laughter. It’s for anyone who feels like they’re getting it wrong – parents, caregivers, or anyone just trying their best. We’ll talk about parenting, self-discovery, and building confidence in who we are by understanding the world around us – not who we think we should be.


I’m also on a journey to make this podcast more accessible, including to the sign language community. So, let’s explore this together.


Connect with Hayley: @HayleyBrownAndCo on Instagram


Listen now and share with someone who might need it. It’s time to talk about the things that matter.

Introducing The 'Inadequate Mother' Podcast05 Jan 202500:02:01

Welcome to The Inadequate Mother, a podcast dedicated to tearing down the walls of mum guilt, perfectionism, and the endless feeling of not being enough.


Join the conversation as we challenge societal expectations, embrace honesty, and create a space for confidence, connection, and community. This isn’t about being the perfect parent—it’s about being real, giving yourself grace, and finding solidarity in the shared experience of raising humans in a world full of judgment.


Subscribe now and be part of a movement that celebrates the perfectly imperfect. Together, let’s redefine what it means to be a parent.

👉 Follow on Instagram: @hayleybrown_andco


This podcast is produced by ⁠Bloody Vegans Productions⁠

Solo, Co- or Single Parent? The labels that shape you're motherhood and p*** others off13 Jan 202500:19:27

In this episode of The Inadequate Mother, Hayley dives into the topic of parenting labels and the mixed emotions they can bring. Whether you identify as a single mumsolo parent, or co-parent, the terminology we use often sparks debate, and Hayley explores why.


Drawing on her 11 years as a single mum, Hayley shares her experiences of navigating life with that label and why she's questioning it now that she’s in a supportive relationship. This episode looks at:


  • What these labels mean: Why terms like "single mum" can be a source of tension and how they’re shaped by individual circumstances.
  • Generational shifts: How definitions and expectations of parenting roles have evolved—and why it’s okay if they mean different things to different people.
  • The unseen load: Inspired by Paloma Faith’s reflections, Hayley discusses the mental and emotional weight that often falls on mums, even in co-parenting arrangements.
  • A new chapter: Hayley opens up about adjusting to life with a partner who’s fully invested in her and her family—and how it’s changed her perspective.


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This episode isn’t about choosing the “right” term—it’s about understanding your own journey and giving yourself the space to embrace it.


Join the Conversation:How do you define your parenting role? Hayley would love to hear your thoughts—connect with her on Instagram to share your story.


💬 Tune in, join the conversation, and own your parenting story—whatever it looks like.


Connect with Hayley:


Instagram: ⁠@hayleybrown_andco⁠

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TheInadequatemothers


This podcast is produced by ⁠Bloody Vegans Productions

STEP PARENT TRUTHS stepping in as mum with Lisa Quait21 Jan 202500:31:12

Step parenting can be one of the most rewarding yet challenging roles in a blended family. In this episode of The Inadequate Mother Podcast, I sit down with Lisa Quait, an experienced life coach and stepmum, to talk about the realities of step parenting, setting healthy boundaries, and building strong relationships with stepchildren. If you're a single mum, co-parenting mum, or navigating blended family life, this episode is packed with parenting advice on how to foster connection, manage teenage emotions, and overcome the challenges of raising children that aren’t biologically yours. Lisa shares her journey of stepping into a motherly role for her late husband’s three children, alongside raising her own. 💡 Topics covered in this episode:

✅ Step parenting advice – How to bond with stepkids ✅ Blended family struggles – Managing different parenting styles ✅ Single mum life – Dating with kids & introducing a new partner ✅ Co-parenting tips – How to create harmony with an ex ✅ Building family routines – The power of consistency 📌 Don’t forget to LIKE, COMMENT, & SUBSCRIBE for more parenting support & real-life mum stories! #StepParenting #BlendedFamilies #SingleMumLife #ParentingTeens #CoParenting #StepMumTips #MumLife #ParentingAdvice


0:00:00 Hayley Brown introduces the topic and Lisa Quait 0:01:36 Lisa Quait discusses her first marriage and divorce 0:06:07 Lisa talks about not wanting to be a stepmother initially 0:09:45 Lisa describes meeting Adam and the timing with his wife's passing 0:15:38 Lisa discusses the challenges of becoming a stepmother to Adam's children 0:21:39 Lisa shares strategies for navigating the stepmother role 0:29:45 Hayley provides advice for stepparents Connect with Hayley: @HayleyBrownAndCo on Instagram Listen now and share with someone who might need it. It’s time to talk about the things that matter. This Podcast is produced by Bloody Vegans Productions - https://www.bloodyvegansproductions.com

Co-Parenting, Burnout & launching a Podcast with Hayley Owens.03 Feb 202500:58:24

0:00 - Launching a Podcast: Motivations and Challenges

2:30 - Diverse Podcast Topics and Guest Selection

5:28 - Navigating Motherhood and Personal Identity 

9:57 - Balancing Personal and Professional Life

13:37 - Financial and Emotional Challenges of Single Parenting

18:59 - Navigating Co-Parenting and Conflict

22:30 - Support Systems and Self-Care

26:41 - Balancing Work and Family Life

30:18 - Financial Pressures and Parenting

34:44 - Supporting Children's Individuality

42:27 - Final Thoughts and Advice


Being a single mum isn’t easy. Between juggling co-parenting, handling the mental load, and trying to have a life of your own, it can feel overwhelming. In this episode, I chat with Hayley Owens, solo mum and host of Spin Justice Podcast, about the highs, the lows, and everything in between.


We talk about:

✔️ Co-parenting struggles – sharing time with your ex, handling holidays & keeping things fair.

✔️ Being a solo parent – carrying the mental and emotional load on your own.

✔️ Finding purpose – how starting a podcast gave Hayley something just for her.

✔️ Self-care & mental health – why looking after yourself helps you be a better mum.


This is a real, honest conversation about the challenges of motherhood, rebuilding life after a breakup, and creating something meaningful for yourself.


🎙 Subscribe for more real talk about motherhood, mindset & making it work!


📩 Let’s chat! Drop a comment below: What’s the hardest part about co-parenting for you?



📩 Let’s connect! DM me on Instagram ⁠⁠@hayleybrown_andco⁠


#Parenting #SingleMum #CoParenting #MumLife #SoloParent #Podcasting #Motherhood #SpinJusticePodcast



This Podcast is produced by Bloody Vegans Productions - https://www.bloodyvegansproductions.com 



Your Kids Having a Stepmum: Blended Family Tips & Positive Role Models27 Jan 202500:24:09

Navigating step-parenting and blended families can be an emotional rollercoaster, especially when your ex introduces a new partner into your child's life.


In this episode of The Inadequate Mother, Hayley shares her raw, honest experience of co-parenting and adjusting to her children having a stepmum. Whether you’re a single mumsolo parent, or managing co-parenting challenges, this episode is packed with blended family advice, practical tips, and a refreshing perspective on how to embrace step-parents as a positive role model in your child’s life.


💡 Topics Covered in This Episode:

  • The emotional challenges of your child bonding with a stepmum
  • How to overcome resentment and embrace the positives
  • Why step-parents can actually be a huge support in your child’s life
  • Setting healthy boundaries in a blended family
  • Coping with comparison, guilt, and parenting insecurities


This conversation is for any mum navigating step-parenting, struggling with ex-partner dynamics, or simply trying to let go of mum guilt. If you’ve ever felt territorial, anxious, or inadequate about your child having another parental figure, this episode is for you.


📩 Let’s connect! DM me on Instagram @hayleybrown_andco


📩 Tag a stepmum who deserves some appreciation!

🔔 Subscribe for More Parenting Support & Honest Conversations!


This Podcast is produced by Bloody Vegans Productions - https://www.bloodyvegansproductions.com

Raising a Deaf Child: A Mother’s Journey & the Fight for BSL Access02 Mar 202501:12:21

Welcome to Inadequate Mother! In this episode, I sit down with Tilly Hawkes, the inspiring mother behind Learning Ada’s Language, to discuss raising a Deaf child, navigating the medical system, and advocating for British Sign Language (BSL) access.


💬 Topics we cover:


✔️ Discovering her daughter Ada’s deafness & CMV diagnosis
✔️ Overcoming challenges in deaf education and school placement
✔️ The barriers to learning sign language & why BSL should be free
✔️ How social media has been a game-changer for Deaf awareness
✔️ Fighting for interpreter access in hospitals & public spaces
✔️ Breaking myths around Deaf culture, cochlear implants & Makaton


🎙️ If you're a parent of a Deaf child, a BSL learner, or passionate about deaf rights, this episode is for you!


📌 Subscribe for more conversations on parenting, disability rights & sign language advocacy!


👉 Follow Tilly on Instagram: @LearningAdasLanguage
👉 Follow me for more: @HayleyBrownAndCo


🔔 Like, comment, and share to support Deaf awareness & inclusive parenting!

Life as a CODA and solo parenting a deaf son with Andy Palmer from Cambridge Deaf Association23 Feb 202501:00:16

Welcome to The Inadequate Mother Podcast! In this episode, I sit down with Andy Palmer, CEO of Cambridge Deaf Association, a single father of 23 years, and a child of deaf parents (CODA). Andy has a truly unique perspective on parenting, raising a deaf child, and navigating the challenges of fatherhood, deaf culture, and communication barriers in society.


As a primary carer, Andy shares his personal journey of raising his son, Will, who is also deaf, while breaking down stereotypes around single dads and deaf parenting. We discuss everything from sign language acquisition, early childhood language development, and the education system for deaf children, to his experiences with football inclusion, special educational needs (SEN), and deaf representation in media.


💬 Topics covered:

✔️ The reality of single fatherhood

✔️ Challenges of raising a deaf child as a CODA

✔️ The importance of sign language & communication access

✔️ His work with Cambridge Deaf Association & deaf sports

✔️ How society treats single dads vs. single mums

✔️ The struggle of educational support for deaf children

✔️ Dating & relationships as a single parent


📌 Connect with Andy Palmer & Cambridge Deaf Association:

🌍 Cambridge Deaf Association: https://cambsdeaf.org


📖 Limping Chicken (Deaf News & Blogs): https://limpingchicken.com


📲 Join me on Instagram: instagram.com/hayleybrown_andco


🎧 Subscribe & let’s talk!


💡 Join the conversation! Drop a comment below if you’ve faced similar challenges or have insights into single parenting, deaf culture, or special needs education.


🔥 Don’t forget to SUBSCRIBE for more real, raw, and unfiltered conversations about parenting, mental health, relationships, and self-growth!

Valentine's Day Special: Dating Mums14 Feb 202500:54:43

0:00 – Introduction & guest Claire Elizabeth

2:44 – Claire on single life & self-reflection

6:07 – Dating apps & challenges for single moms

9:30 – Comparing relationships & feeling inadequate

14:19 – Situationships & intentional dating

19:05 – Choosing partners based on emotional safety

22:35 – Dating other parents & scheduling struggles

25:50 – Valuing time & seeking fulfilling relationships

29:50 – Combating loneliness with self-care & friendships


In this special Valentine's Day episode of the Inadequate Mother Podcast, host Hayley Brown engages in a heartfelt conversation with confidence coach Claire Elizabeth. Together, they delve into the unique challenges and experiences of dating as single mothers. Claire, a single mother herself, shares her journey of navigating the dating world while balancing motherhood and personal growth. The discussion touches on topics such as the dynamics of dating apps, the importance of self-awareness, and the societal pressures single mothers often face in the realm of relationships. Hayley and Claire also explore the significance of self-love, setting boundaries, and the role of personal development in building healthy relationships. This episode aims to provide support and encouragement to single mothers who may feel disheartened during Valentine's Day, emphasising that the journey of finding love is unique for everyone. Tune in to gain insights on maintaining confidence, understanding personal needs, and embracing the journey of dating as a single mom.


Connect with Claire Elizabeth:



📩 Let’s connect! DM me on Instagram ⁠@hayleybrown_andco


This Podcast is produced by Bloody Vegans Productions - https://www.bloodyvegansproductions.com

Javeno McLean on Breaking the Rules & Making Fitness Inclusive12 Feb 202500:48:25

00:00 Intro – Meet Javeno McLean

01:20 The Power of Human Connection in Fitness

03:45 Why Inclusivity in Gyms Is Failing People

06:30 Single Motherhood & Balancing It All

08:15 Overcoming Self-Doubt as a Parent

11:00 Why Motivation Isn’t Enough – The Importance of Discipline

14:10 Javeno’s Approach to Training People with Disabilities & Chronic Illness

17:50 The Mental & Emotional Side of Strength Training

20:05 Javeno’s Advice for Parents Struggling with Confidence

23:30 How to Build a Positive Mindset as a Mum

26:45 Javeno’s Personal Journey in the Fitness Industry

30:15 How to Stay Strong When Life Feels Overwhelming

34:00 Breaking the Rules to Make a Real Impact

37:20 Javeno’s Message to Mums Feeling Inadequate

40:00 Final Thoughts & Where to Find Javeno McLean


In this episode of The Inadequate Mother Podcast, I sit down with Javeno McLean, the inspiring founder of J7 Community Health Centre and a fitness coach making a real impact. We dive into parenting, fitness, mental resilience, inclusivity, and breaking down barriers in the fitness industry. Javeno’s approach to training people with disabilities, chronic illnesses, and the elderly has gone viral for all the right reasons—because he believes everyone deserves to feel strong and valued.


We talk about motivation, discipline, and self-belief—whether you’re a single mum juggling everything, a co-parent struggling with balance, or just someone feeling like you’re not enough, this conversation will hit home. Javeno shares his thoughts on the power of human connection, why traditional gyms fail so many people, and how fitness can be a tool for self-worth.


We also discuss the realities of raising teens, dealing with self-doubt, and why putting yourself first as a mum isn’t selfish—it’s necessary.


💬 Drop a comment if you’ve ever felt inadequate as a parent or struggled with finding time for yourself.


Follow Javeno McLean on Instagram @j7healthjaveno https://www.instagram.com/j7healthjaveno/ 


Follow Hayley Brown on Instagram @hayleybrown_andco https://www.instagram.com/hayleybrown_andco/


Learn more about Javeno’s work at the J7 Health Centre - https://j7healthcentre.co.uk


📩 Let’s connect! DM me on Instagram ⁠@hayleybrown_andco


This Podcast is produced by Bloody Vegans Productions - https://www.bloodyvegansproductions.com


🔔 Subscribe for more real conversations about motherhood, self-worth, and resilience.


#Parenting #MumLife #JavenoMcLean #SingleMum #CoParenting #FitnessForAll #Motivation #InadequateMother #MentalHealth #Inclusivity

Autism diagnosis Processes and emotions- Inclusive story telling _ Pamela Aculey 29 Jun 202501:03:25

Welcome to the “Inadequate Mother” podcast a space dedicated to real conversations about feeling inadequate, breaking barriers, and building true inclusivity. Each month, we feature a special guest to explore powerful stories and random topics that challenge the single narrative and help us all feel less alone. This season, we’re diving deep into issues like representation, neurodiversity, and the impact of technology on accessibility.

Weekly, join us as we learn to embrace the inadequate feeling when learning British Sign Language (BSL) together, discussing the challenges and triumphs of integrating into the Deaf community as hearing learners. We’ll share honest reflections on feeling lost, misunderstood, or anxious, and offer practical tips to promote understanding


Today’s episode features Pamela Aculey, award-winning author, entrepreneur, and founder of Just Like Me Books and MIXD Reality. Pamela pioneered the UK’s first inclusive, interactive children’s picture books using augmented reality (AR) technology—transforming how stories are told for children of all backgrounds and abilities. Inspired by her autistic son, Pamela’s mission is to champion diversity, neurodiversity, and accessibility in education. We discuss how her technology could revolutionise communication and representation in the Deaf community, and why inclusive storytelling matters for everyone. Listen now to hear how Pamela’s journey is changing the narrative for children and families everywhere.

Why BSL Felt Like Home: Dyslexia, Interpreting & the Power of Sign Language 23 Jun 202500:32:14

If you’ve ever found yourself drawn to British Sign Language and thought, Why does this just make sense to me? — You’re not alone.

This Part 2 of my signlanguage series

In this week’s episode of Inadequate Mother, I’m going full Hayley Brown waffle about how BSL became not just a job, but part of my identity. I share how learning sign language helped me come to terms with my dyslexia in a whole new light, and how it shaped my career as a sign language interpreter.


This episode is part of the honest, messy series where I open up about becoming an interpreter while dealing with all the other hats we wear — mum, friend, daughter, all while battling the never-ending voice of feeling not enough.


I talk about:

• Why sign language made sense for my dyslexic brain

• How interpreting helped me understand myself

• The absolute chaos of jumping from BSL Level 3/4 to Level 6

• Short-term memory struggles (cheers, menopause)

• And why we need more honest conversations in the BSL community


If you’re a single mum trying to build a career, a student trying to get through your BSL levels, or just someone who’s felt like a bit of an outsider – this one’s for you.


I’ve been chatting about all this over on Instagram @hayleybrownandco — come and say hi, share your thoughts, and let’s keep this conversation going. We need more interpreters, and we need to talk about how hard it actually is.


Subscribe, share, and stick around – I’ll be here waffling as long as you’re listening


#BritishSignLanguage #DyslexiaAndProud #InadequateMotherPodcast #SingleMumCareer #BSLInterpreterJourney

How to Stop Losing Your Temper with Your Teenager20 Apr 202500:31:47

0:00 - Introduction and podcast overview

1:37 - Importance of talking about parenting challenges

2:20 - Hope for reconnecting with teenagers

4:46 - Teenage brain development and natural rebellion

6:22 - Discussing family conflict and emotional expression

9:36 - Generational gap and societal changes

13:32 - Impact of past trauma on parenting

15:55 - Bringing subconscious patterns into conscious awareness

17:19 - Teenage brain development

19:09 - Identifying personal trigger points

23:08 - Body language and facial expressions

26:46 - Importance of repair in parent-teen relationships

29:31 - Asking for help and being a good parent


😤 Are you struggling to keep your cool with your teenager? You're not alone. In this heartfelt solo episode of An Inadequate Mother, Hayley Brown opens up about losing her temper, feelings of failure, and how to repair the connection with your teen. She shares deeply personal stories, practical strategies, and emotional insights to help other mums navigating the toughest stage of parenting.


💬 Topics covered:

  • ​Parenting from fear vs. love
  • ​The generational gap between parents and teens
  • ​How trauma influences parenting
  • ​Strategies for calming conflict before it erupts
  • ​The importance of repair and reconnection



💡 Whether you're a solo parent or just feeling overwhelmed, this episode is a reminder that you're not an inadequate mother — you're just a human one.


🎧 Listen now and follow @hayleybrownandco for more real talk on parenting.


#parenting #mumlife #anadequatemother #teenagers #parentingteens #mentalhealth #connection #gentleparenting

Mother. Comedian. Interpreter. Enough - with Award winning comedian, Siobhan Dodd13 Apr 202500:55:36

[00:00] Introduction and podcast overview

[02:28] Welcoming Siobhan, discussing interpreting and comedy

[03:08] Talking about being a comedian

[04:12] Siobhan winning a comedy competition

[05:00] Discussion about financial inadequacy

[06:35] Bedtime challenges with children

[07:19] Parenting and children growing up

[09:27] Parenting advice and information overload

[11:46] Discussion about young motherhood

[12:46] Talking about Siobhan's mother and motherhood challenges

[14:57] Discussing neurodiversity and childhood experiences

[16:09] Social media and neurodiversity

[19:00] Interpreting profession and confidence[

22:31] Balancing interpreting and comedy

[25:29] Professional boundaries in interpreting

[28:45] Importance of attitude in interpreting

[30:43] Comedy and audience interaction

[33:47] Experiences with comedians and interpreting

[36:39] Discussion about mixed-race identity

[41:18] Siobhan's podcast "Following Through"

[48:56] Social media and podcast challenges


This week on An Inadequate Mother, Hayley sits down with the hilariously honest and wonderfully eccentric Siobhan Dodd — a comedian, mother, and British Sign Language interpreter.


Together they explore the complex identities that mothers juggle: from freelance careers to creative pursuits and parenting pressures. Siobhan shares her journey in comedy (including winning a national award!), embracing her neurodiversity, and why she finally owns the title of comedian after 13 years.


The conversation also dives into interpreter culture, confidence, the evolving definition of professionalism, and how social media intersects with creative identity. And yes… there's also some solid chat about bedtime battles, childhood chaos, and the odd poo story.


Whether you're a mum, multi-hyphenate creative, or just trying to figure it all out — this one’s for you.


This episode includes discussions around mental health, alcohol addiction, grief, and references to childhood trauma. These topics may be sensitive or triggering for some listeners.


If you or someone you know needs support, here are some helpful links:

You’re not alone.


  • Follow Siobhan Dodd on Instagram: @unclesiobhan

  • Listen to The Following Through Podcast on SpotifyApple Podcasts, or wherever you get your pods

  • Book recommendations: Both, Not Half by Jassa Ahluwalia

The power of talking to yourself with Say it out loud author, Vasavi Kumar06 Apr 202500:37:21

⚠️ Trigger Warning


This episode of Inadequate Mother features an open and honest conversation about mental health, including discussions of bipolar disorder, addiction, trauma, and suicide.

These themes may be distressing for some listeners and viewers. Please take care while listening and feel free to pause or skip the episode if needed.


If you or someone you know is affected by any of the topics discussed, you're not alone. Support is available:


Samaritans (24/7 free support): 📞 116 123 – samaritans.org

Mind (Mental Health Charity): 📞 0300 123 3393 – mind.org.uk

Shout (Text support service): Text SHOUT to 85258 – giveusashout.org

YoungMinds (Support for young people and parents): youngminds.org.uk


You matter. And we're glad you're here. 💛


In this episode of Inadequate Mother, I’m joined by the incredible Vasavi Kumar – licensed therapist, visibility coach, podcast host, and author of Say It Out Loud. We talk all about the power of our inner voice, how verbalising our thoughts can help us make sense of the chaos, and why talking to ourselves might just be one of the healthiest things we can do. Vasavi shares her journey with bipolar disorder, addiction, and ADHD, and how mirror work, vocal journaling, and speaking our truth have transformed her life and the lives of her clients.


We also discuss parenting, breaking (or at least acknowledging) generational trauma, and what it means to be “too much” in a world that often wants us to be less.


Whether you’re neurodivergent, a parent, or just someone trying to figure themselves out – this episode is for you.


🌍 ⁠www.vasavikumar.com⁠


🎧 Listen in and start talking to yourself – for all the right reasons.


📲 Connect with Hayley:

Instagram: ⁠@hayleybrown_andco

Mother’s Day Special: with Cindy Powell, Host of Diary of a Young Mum31 Mar 202501:05:14

This Mother’s Day special is all about celebrating young mums. Hayley is joined by Cindy Powell – a powerful voice for young mothers and host of Diary of a Young Mum – for a raw and relatable chat about growing up fast, raising two babies under two, and starting a podcast at just 22.


Cindy opens up about becoming a mum at 20, how she handled unexpected pregnancies, overcoming cannabis addiction, and learning to navigate parenthood on her own terms. Hayley reflects on her own experiences of being a young mum, and the two connect over the challenges, stigma, and unexpected strength that comes with motherhood at a young age.


This is more than a Mother’s Day episode – it’s a real, unfiltered look at what it means to show up for your kids, yourself, and your purpose.


🎧 Listen to Diary of a Young Mum on Apple Podcasts & Spotify:


https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/diary-of-a-young-mum/id1794148137


https://open.spotify.com/show/5dTVH7Yrq93KGzgKqyJ0fn?si=44d804f809464dbf


📲 Connect with Cindy:
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/diaryofayoungmum/


📲 Connect with Hayley:
Instagram: @hayleybrown_andco

ADHD, Relationships & Turning 40 | Embracing a New Chapter23 Mar 202500:35:28

In this personal solo episode of Inadequate Mother, Hayley Brown opens up like never before. From questioning whether she has undiagnosed ADHD to navigating her relationship, planning a house purchase, and reflecting on the legacy of her mother—this episode is raw, real, and refreshingly relatable.


Hayley shares her unfiltered thoughts about ADHD symptoms, sensory sensitivities, hormonal changes, solo motherhood, and why she might skip living with her partner altogether. She also gets candid about the guilt of quitting alcohol, solo travelling, and the relentless pressure to have it all figured out before turning 40.


If you’re a mum, a woman in transition, or someone working through identity, hormones and the chaos of life — this one’s for you.


Timestamps:

0:00 - Introduction and Podcast Purpose
9:52 - ADHD Characteristics and Self-Reflection
19:48 - ADHD in Relationships
28:03 - Personal Updates
35:20 - Property and Housing Plans
40:00 - Reflections on Mother and Personal Growth
41:30 - Closing Thoughts and Community Connection


📲 Follow Hayley on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/hayleybrown_andco/


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Relationship Red Flags & Dating as a Mum | Expert Insights from Relationship Coach, Anne Skelton16 Mar 202500:48:07

Relationships can feel overwhelming—especially as a single mum. In this episode of Inadequate Mother, host Hayley Brown sits down with professional relationship coach Anne Skelton to dive deep into the challenges of dating, friendships, and personal growth as a parent.


💬 Topics covered in this episode:

The stigma around single mums dating and finding love.

Solo travel for mums—how it helps self-discovery and confidence.

The importance of understanding love languages and attachment styles.

Why friendships in motherhood can be complicated and how to navigate them.

Setting healthy boundaries and maintaining fulfilling relationships.


👤 Guest: Anne Skelton – Relationship Coach

Website: AnneSkelton.com

Facebook: Anne Skelton - Relationship Coach

Instagram: @anneskelton


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Share your thoughts in the comments or DM me your experiences.



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Solo Travel for Mums Overcoming Anxiety & Mum Guilt09 Mar 202500:24:49

Have you ever felt anxious about booking a solo trip? As a mom, it can feel overwhelming to travel alone, especially when you’ve spent years prioritising your kids. In this episode of Inadequate Mother, Hayley Brown shares her personal journey of solo travel—why it felt so daunting, how she overcame her fears, and why taking time for yourself is essential for both you and your children.From dealing with mum guilt to rediscovering yourself outside of motherhood, this episode explores the emotional challenges and empowering breakthroughs that come with solo trips. Whether you're considering a yoga retreat, a wellness getaway, or just a short solo escape, this conversation will inspire you to take that leap.We also dive into the importance of self-discovery, personal growth, and breaking free from societal expectations around motherhood and independence. If you've been holding yourself back from taking that trip, this is your sign to book it now! ✈️✨🔹 Have you taken a solo trip as a mom? Share your experience in the comments!🔹 Follow Hayley on Instagram: @HayleyBrownAndCo📩 Want more conversations like this? Subscribe and turn on notifications!

My Journey Into Sign Language PART 1 | Becoming a BSL Interpreter | An Inadequate Mother Podcast15 Jun 202500:35:37

In this heartfelt episode of INADEQUATE Mother, I share my personal journey into the world of British Sign Language (BSL) and becoming a BSL interpreter. This is the first in a series where I’ll speak openly about the path into this beautiful, challenging, and often misunderstood career — especially for those of us who didn’t grow up in the Deaf community.


👉 If you’re learning sign language, training to become an interpreter, or simply curious about what it takes to step into the Deaf community as an outsider — this episode is for you.


🎓 I answer some of the questions I’ve received from the trainee BSL community on Instagram, reflecting on everything from mental health, imposter syndrome, and motherhood, to identity, purpose, and perseverance.


For me, becoming a sign language interpreter wasn’t just a job — it was a calling. I found this path during one of the hardest chapters of my life: I was grieving the loss of my mum to alcoholism, navigating life as a single parent, and surviving a toxic relationship. Amidst the chaos, I graduated with my degree (while pregnant with my second daughter, Ava!) — and that moment changed everything.


✨ Learning sign language is more than just gaining a skill — it’s a mirror into how you connect, communicate, and care. I truly believe sign language belongs in all schools, not just for Deaf pupils but for hearing ones too.


📺 This episode is fully BSL interpreted on YouTube.

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💬 Got questions, worries, or doubts about learning BSL or becoming an interpreter? Share them in the comments — let’s build a supportive space for everyone trying to find their way.


Reshaping mixed heritage with Jassa Ahluwalia: Actor and Author of 'Both not Half'08 Jun 202501:21:07

00:00 Introduction & welcoming Jassa Ahluwalia  

01:47 Jassa's background and dual heritage  

05:22 Growing up British-Indian and navigating identity  

09:10 Language, accent, and being ‘not Punjabi enough’  

13:35 Jassa’s journey into acting and early career experiences  

17:20 Being mixed race in the media industry  

21:45 Creating #BothNotHalf and its impact  

27:12 The power of storytelling and reclaiming narratives  

33:00 Shifting perspectives on masculinity and emotions  

39:05 Reflections on privilege, responsibility, and allyship  

45:50 Jassa’s advice for young creatives  

48:30 Final thoughts and where to find Jassa online


In this episode of The Inadequate Mother, Hayley Brown sits down with actor, writer, and dual heritage advocate Jassa Ahluwalia for an open and honest chat about identity, belonging, and breaking binary thinking. Known for his work on TV (including Some Girls and Unforgotten) and for his powerful online movement around the phrase “Both Not Half”, Jassa shares his experiences growing up with mixed British-Indian heritage, feeling disconnected from both cultures, and the journey towards embracing all sides of who he is.


Hayley and Jassa delve into the language of identity, the limits of labels like “half-Indian” or “not Indian enough”, and how parenthood, society, and systemic thinking can shape the way we see ourselves. It’s a heartfelt and reflective conversation full of real talk, mutual discovery, and compassion—for ourselves and our children.


Find out more about Jassa’s work and his book Both Not Half here:

🌐 https://www.jassaahluwalia.com


📘 Order the book: https://www.jassaahluwalia.com/book


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What’s Changing in Botox? Aesthetician Leanne Edge Explains01 Jun 202500:45:08

0:00:09 - Introduction of Leanne Edge and her background

0:05:00 - Discussion about working as a single mom and business flexibility

0:11:48 - Challenges of parenting teenagers

0:20:00 - Conversation about family dynamics and single parenting

0:34:57 - Discussion about Botox regulations changes

0:40:35 - Introduction of PRP (Platelet-Rich Plasma) treatment for hair loss

0:42:00 - Details about PRP treatment and its benefits


In this episode of Inadequate Mother, Hayley Brown sits down with aesthetician and salon owner Leanne Edge of Edge Studio (Nuneaton) to chat about motherhood, business, and the beauty world — including the major changes to Botox rules coming into effect on June 1.


Leanne explains what these UK Botox regulation changes mean for practitioners and clients, how it will impact pricing, and what women need to know if they are booking treatments.


They also dive into:


  • Life as single mothers balancing teens and business

  • Setting boundaries and handling mom guilt

  • PRP treatments for hair loss and skin rejuvenation

  • The emotional load of parenting and why repair matters


This is an open, relatable, and insightful chat about beauty, self-care, and motherhood, with plenty of tips and laughs along the way.


Don’t forget to subscribe, comment, and follow for more accessible, honest conversations.


Find Leanne at: https://www.instagram.com/edge.studio.uk/
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Weight Loss Drugs, Gym Confidence & Parenting Transitions25 May 202500:41:37

In this insightful episode of Inadequate Mother, host Hayley Brown sits down with returning guest Andy Palmer for a candid conversation spanning weight loss drugs, body image, gym confidence, parenting challenges, and societal pressures.


Andy bravely shares his personal journey using Mounjaro (a weight loss drug), the psychological struggles around food, and how he’s transforming his health while navigating gym culture. Hayley opens up about the emotional rollercoaster of her daughter preparing to leave for university, the societal pressure mothers face, and why self-acceptance — especially around feelings of inadequacy — is so important.


Together they dive into big topics like:


- The stigma and science behind weight loss medications

- Masculine vs. feminine energy in single parenting

- Economic privilege and environmental responsibility

- Why younger generations hold the key to future social change

- The power of saying things out loud and talking to yourself for mental wellbeing


This is a raw, funny, and thoughtful episode that reminds us we’re all figuring it out — and that’s okay.


Don’t forget to like, comment, and subscribe for more open, accessible, and real conversations.


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Follow Andy on Instagram: @palmer_j_andy

Deaf Motherhood, Identity & Lipreading in a Pandemic Episode with Amy Morton19 May 202500:53:22

0:00:00 - Podcast introduction

0:02:23 - COVID mask campaign details

0:10:40 - Identity journey discussion

0:22:16 - Birth and communication challenges

0:29:34 - Making friends as a deaf mother

0:38:52 - Advice for deaf mothers

0:42:46 - Hearing aid technology discussion


Deaf Motherhood, Identity & Lipreading in a Pandemic Episode with Amy MortonThe Inadequate Mother Podcast I sit down with the brilliant Amy Morton, founder of Living with Hearing Loss, to explore her powerful journey through Deaf motherhood, identity, and advocacy.


Amy shares how becoming a mother reshaped her sense of self, and why she launched Living with Hearing Loss during the COVID-19 pandemic—a time when lipreaders like her faced immense challenges due to mask mandates and inaccessible communication.We’ve known each other for years, and this episode gave us a beautiful chance to reconnect and reflect on everything that’s changed in the last five years.

From navigating motherhood as a Deaf woman to building community and raising awareness, Amy’s story is both moving and inspiring.✨ This episode is fully interpreted in British Sign Language (BSL) to ensure accessibility for our Deaf audience.


🎥 Watch now and join the conversation about inclusion, motherhood, and the power of shared experience.


💬 Drop a comment to share your story or tag another mum who needs to hear this

Deaf gain is Kori Bella, Spiritual coach - Deaf Awareness week special11 May 202500:57:08

[0:04:15] - Start of the main podcast interview

[0:06:16] - Discussion about being a psychic

[0:08:00] - Difference between intuition and psychic abilities

[0:14:01] - Conversation about masculine and feminine energy

[0:22:56] - Discussing challenges for mothers

[0:34:37] - Twin flame experiences

[0:45:25] - Discussion about deaf intuition and access to information

[0:52:22] - Self-acceptance and setting boundaries

[0:53:42] - Future plans and retreats


Welcome back to The Inadequate Mother Podcast! This week, I’m deeply honoured to introduce my very first Deaf guest—the incredible Kori, an intuitive spiritual guide whose Deaf identity strengthens her connection to the spiritual world in powerful, profound ways.


As its deaf awareness week I thought what a perfect time to show case deaf gain.In this episode, we explore how spiritual gifts can be deepened through Deafness and neurodiversity.


Kori shares her journey of embracing her identity, not just as a Deaf woman, but as a healer, guide, and light for others. We discuss twin flames and what it means to hold masculine and feminine energy.


Her insight has helped me—and now hopefully you—understand the many layers of self-improvement, healing, and inner wisdom.


This conversation is more than just inspiring—it’s a reminder that our so-called “limitations” often amplify our intuitive abilities. Where we may lack in one area, we gain in another—and in Kori’s case, her Deaf identity is not a barrier, but a spiritual amplifier.


If you’re part of the Deaf community, interested in intuitive coaching, or navigating spiritual growth. this episode is for you.


BSL-interpreted | Deaf-accessible podcast episode


Find out more about Kori at https://www.koribella.com


Connect with Kori https://www.instagram.com/iamkoribella?igsh=NjNvcGRmdjN3dXlm&utm_source=qr


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Is Gentle Parenting actually for EVERYONE?04 May 202500:54:00

In this open, honest and insightful episode of An Inadequate Mother, Hayley Brown sits down with Lenny, a devoted father with a background in the military and police, to talk about the myths and realities of “inadequate parenting.” Together, they explore what it truly means to parent in today’s high-pressure society, the importance of emotional repair, and how gentle parenting differs from permissive parenting.


Lenny shares real-life examples from his parenting journey, explains how emotional intelligence is the foundation for lifelong learning, and offers practical tools for managing mistakes and building stronger connections with children.


Whether you’re a single parent, a co-parent, or simply navigating your own healing while raising little ones, this powerful episode will inspire, challenge, and support you on your journey.


Watch Lenny, Cruz and Moana on their YouTube channel https://www.youtube.com/@UCiSF4aZWaCARJhiOFzPBeyw


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Modern day relationships, why mine ended and how we see the future27 Apr 202500:43:16

0:00 - Podcast Introduction

0:03 - Meeting Andy Palmer

0:04 - Relationship Breakup Discussion

0:08 - Parenting Transitions

0:10 - Changing Masculinity

0:13 - Women's Changing Needs

0:22 - Single Life Insights

0:29 - Vulnerability and Attractiveness

0:33 - Social Media and Relationships

0:38 - Dating Apps Talk

0:41 - Closing Thoughts


In this candid and heartfelt episode of An Inadequate Mother, Hayley Brown is joined by Andy Palmer, CEO of Cambridgeshire Deaf Association, for a raw and real conversation about relationships, parenting, emotional growth, and navigating single life.


Hayley opens up about her recent breakup and the emotional journey of preparing for her eldest daughter to leave for university. Together, Hayley and Andy reflect on how masculinity and relationship expectations are evolving, the pressures facing modern parents, the loneliness of single life, and the importance of emotional intelligence in today’s world.


If you're a single parent, someone feeling inadequate about love and relationships, or just looking for a relatable chat full of warmth, wisdom, and humour, this episode is for you.


🌱 Topics we explore:


  • Breakups, resilience, and emotional growth
  • How parenting evolves when children become adults
  • Changing concepts of masculinity and emotional support
  • Loneliness and self-development in single life
  • Dating, apps, and societal pressures on relationships


🎧 Tune in for Part 1 of this beautiful, real conversation — Part 2 is coming soon!


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