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"You need to work on your executive presence."

Most executives hear some version of that feedback at some point in their careers, and it's hard to act on because it sounds so vague. What does that mean?

It can also sound like a request to be more formal, or more like somebody else. In this episode of In The Arena, Shaun Dyke and Chris Stemp break down what executive presence really means and how to build it.

Start with a simpler definition: presence is what your behavior does to a room, and putting "executive" in front of it just raises the bar. There is a core set of traits most organizations expect from their senior leaders. Past that core, it depends on the room, which is why speaking up forcefully can be expected in one company and read as combative in the next. And the person who gave you the feedback usually knows what they meant by it. That makes the most useful next step asking them. Once you're a director or a VP, though, asking can feel like admitting you don't know what you're doing. Shaun's experience with senior executives points the other way. What you'll learn: - Why "executive presence" is vague to you but not to the person who says it - The four core standards: composure, clarity, ownership, and judgment - Why the better question walking into a room is "How do I create clarity?" and not "How do I get clarity?" - The CEO who flew in expecting an update and was asked to say a few words - Karaoke leadership, and finding a version of presence that's actually yours - Kendra Scott's "high care, high bar," and how a company's own standards add to the list - Suit and tie, sleeves rolled up, then a hug: three client visits in Boston - Why the same behavior reads as meek in one room and combative in another - The sales executive in cufflinks who lasted 30 days - The most important question Shaun asks in a 360 interview - What to do when the standard you're given is a single word like "courage" - Why, in DoorTwo's data, only about 10% of people naturally ask for help - When the feedback isn't really about executive presence at all - A real gap, or a perception you have to manage? If you've been told you need more executive presence and didn't know where to start, you'll come away with four standards to check yourself against and a better question to take back to the person who said it.

⏱️ Chapters

00:00 Told you need more executive presence

02:13 What executive presence actually means

04:20 The four core standards

07:07 Create clarity, don't just go get it

10:42 Chris's story, and karaoke leadership

14:11 Handshake, high five, hug 17:47

Too quiet for one room, too loud for another

20:26 The Leadership Chain, and the 30-day hire

23:41 "So what do I do with it?" 29:03 Will asking for feedback hurt you?

32:12 When it isn't executive presence at all

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Why do certain people get under your skin so easily?

The frustrating answer is that it may have less to do with them than you think.

In this episode of In The Arena, Shaun Dyke and Chris Stemp break down why we assign meaning to other people's behavior, why our brains so often assume the worst, and how insecurity, identity, and negativity bias can turn a small interaction into hours of irritation.

They explore the difference between someone actually behaving badly and the story we create about what their behavior meant, plus what to do when someone really is being rude, dismissive, or difficult. You'll learn how to recognize when your reaction is bigger than the event, why being offended can sometimes serve us, and how to stop handing other people control over your emotional state.

If you've ever replayed a conversation, obsessed over someone's tone, or wondered why the same types of people keep annoying you, you already know how much of a day that can take.

⏱️ Chapters

00:00 The people who annoy us

02:26 More offense is taken than is ever given

04:28 Real offense, or your interpretation?

07:22 "The behavior is theirs. The story is yours."

10:59 What color is your lens?

13:59 Reason one: negativity bias

17:50 The movie, the hand let go, and "We okay?"

20:13 Reason two: identity threat

23:56 "I'm not a puppet"

29:35 Knowing is not doing, so what do I do?

32:00 The three life positions

36:23 The recap, and "you get what you invite"

42:09 Final words

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In The Arena is a podcast about what it really means to live and lead well: the patterns that run us, the scripts we inherit, and the beliefs we reinforce without realizing it. Hosted by Shaun Dyke of DoorTwo.

Leaders often believe their current challenges are unique. But after working with four executive teams across different companies, industries, and locations in four consecutive weeks, Shaun kept hearing the same concerns and seeing the same behaviors.

In this episode, Shaun Dyke and Chris Stemp go behind closed doors to examine the recurring patterns that quietly slow leadership teams down, even when the people in the room are smart, experienced, and fully aware that something needs to change.

You'll hear how these patterns take hold, why capable leaders repeat them, and what it takes to interrupt them before another offsite, crisis, or strategic plan leads back to the same place.

Four patterns. The uncomfortable part is how ordinary each one looks from inside the room.

1. The word every leader used, in every room, without realizing it

2. The gap between knowing the answer and actually doing it

3. The problem nobody in the room will say out loud

4. What being great in a crisis actually reveals

If your team keeps revisiting the same conversations, struggles to turn insight into action, or feels most aligned only when pressure is high, this episode will give you a useful way to see what's happening beneath the surface.

⏱️ Chapters

00:00 Four executive teams, four weeks

01:12 Were there patterns?

02:19 Pattern 1: "Unprecedented"

03:44 The same word, a different city

05:15 All behavior is purposive

06:20 So why does everyone say it?

07:36 Ego protection, and the grace it buys

09:12 Why nobody says "best six months ever"

09:46 "I don't know what I'm doing"

11:18 A Navy analogy: could we have done some recon?

12:12 Say it, then follow it with confidence

13:18 Pattern 2: The knowing-doing gap

14:41 The charter, the champagne, and the same list a year later

16:16 "Replace the executive team, or replace me"

17:24 Reinforced behavior is repeated behavior

17:58 Why the firefighter gets promoted

22:36 The bystander effect in the boardroom

24:02 Pattern 3: Nobody will name it

24:07 "You made 70 percent of your free throws"

27:30 How to name it without accusing anyone

28:02 "May I offer?" and the request of channel

29:21 Pattern 4: Misapplied pressure-prompted pride

30:13 What "we're great in a crisis" actually admits

32:57 Why saving the day beats preventing it

33:04 The gas leak and the proud technician

35:33 How all four patterns connect

37:09 "The solution is rarely as big as the problem"

38:13 What Shaun saw in every room

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Most successful leaders would proudly call themselves overachievers. But put the word "insecure" in front of it, and things get uncomfortable.

For many of us, the drive to achieve isn't fueled by purpose. It's fueled by a quiet fear that we're not enough.

In this episode, Shaun and Chris unpack the "insecure overachiever". This is the high performer whose self-worth is tied to their output. If I do enough, sell enough, earn enough… then I am enough.

It works, until it doesn't. Shaun shares stories of leaders who were winning by every external measure while privately falling apart, and why organizations often unknowingly reward the very pattern that's burning their best people out.

They dig into:

• How to tell the difference between healthy ambition and achievement that's masking an identity gap
• Why this pattern gets more costly (and more contagious) once you're leading people
• The two deceptively simple questions Shaun asks every executive he coaches
• Why "uncommunicated expectations are premeditated grievances"
• "And furthermore". The awkward, powerful exercise that teaches you to let positive feedback actually land

The goal isn't to stop achieving. It's to become a secure overachiever, upgrading your internal narrative to match your external impact, so you're driven by confidence instead of chasing ghosts.

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Rank gives you authority. It doesn't make you a leader.

In this episode of In The Arena, executive coach Shaun Dyke (Managing Partner, DoorTwo) sits down with Chris Stemp to unpack four leadership lessons from his years as an enlisted sailor on an F/A-18 fighter squadron, and how each one still shows up in the executives he coaches today:

1. Why people may not be who you want them to be

2. Why rank isn't leadership, and why leading well is uncomfortable

3. How the halo effect and the horn effect distort your read on your team

4. Why a chief once offered to demote Shaun for doing the hardest job himself

No frameworks yet, no theory. Just the raw experiences that shaped how Shaun leads, told as stories first and principles second, which is why they stick.

In this episode:

• Why "they should already know this" quietly wrecks teams

• The senior leader who asked, "Why has no one ever told me this?"

• "Lazy leadership": why defaulting to the style you like fails the people you lead

• Situational leadership, and why we revert to our comfort style under pressure

• The CFO who changed how his company saw him with three coffee-break conversations a day

• "Authenticity is important. You've got to learn to fake it."

• The halo effect vs. the horn effect, and why people won't change until you let them

• The chief, the fighter jet, and the four words that rewired how Shaun leads

If you've ever wondered what's really happening behind the closed doors of senior leadership, and what it would take to get there yourself, this one's for you.

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This week, Shaun goes solo. No guest, no script, just Shaun Dyke doing an AMA (ask me anything) and answering the real, submitted questions our listeners have been sitting on about reaching the top.

The team curated a list and handed it over cold, so what you'll hear is Shaun working through them in real time:

**In this episode:**

• The "hidden gap" that separates C-suite leaders from career VPs
• Why the behavior pattern that got you here becomes the liability that stalls you
• What the best CEOs actually focus on: culture, strategy, and competence
• The biggest myth ambitious leaders believe about life at the top
• What a CFO confessed when the door finally closed
• How to know when it's time to leave vs. stay and fight for the next level
• The first 90 days in a bigger role — and the Shu-Ha-Ri rule most people break
• The real cost of the seat: loneliness, lost feedback, and the weight of the crown

If you've ever wondered what's really happening behind the closed doors of senior leadership, and what it would take to get there yourself, this one's for you.

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What if you are the problem?

Or maybe more accurately, what if the environment you are creating is shaping the exact behavior you are trying to change?

As leaders, we spend a lot of time trying to influence other people by focusing on them.

Why won’t they speak up? Why aren’t they taking ownership? Why are they disengaged?

So we coach. Correct. Challenge. Give feedback.

But what if the better lever is not the person?

In this episode of In the Arena, Shaun and Steph challenge one of the most common instincts in leadership: the instinct to fix people first.

Because behavior does not happen in a vacuum.

And the thing shaping it may be something leaders have more control over than they realize.

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Chapters

0:00 Intro: leaders bring the "weather"

0:40 Behavior = Person × Environment (the 94/6 rule)

2:49 Why the room shifts when a leader walks in

3:47 "But I'm the same everywhere" — the church test

6:19 How environment and behavior feed each other

7:51 You ARE the environment for your team

8:29 The weather you bring home

10:43 Presence: autopilot vs. on purpose

12:08 How to read the room (the "open-door" leader story)

15:06 Designing environments on purpose

17:48 Content vs. process: running better meetings

20:47 This isn't about being "nice" — and does it affect results?

24:49 The 24th-floor experiment & owning your presence

28:07 Two doorways: fix the person or change the environment

31:39 Lazy leadership, the 1% shift & where to start

34:53 Wrap-up

Why do smart, capable people still get stuck in the same patterns - at work, at home, and in the relationships that matter most?

In this episode of In The Arena, Chris sits down with Shaun Dyke to unpack what executive coaching actually does, and why the work is much deeper than advice, tactics, or quick leadership tips.

Shaun explains why behavior drives results, how leaders shape the climate around them, and why even high-performing executives need a place where they can be honest, challenged, and seen clearly. The conversation moves from the boardroom to real life, showing how the same behavioral science that helps leaders create better outcomes can also change the way we parent, communicate, connect, and understand ourselves.

You’ll hear how DoorTwo uses tools like Process Communication, motive theory, and the behavior equation - behavior as a function of the person and the environment - to help people see what is really happening beneath the surface. From giving feedback without ego, to recognizing distress patterns, to learning how different people need to be reached, this episode is a practical look at what it means to lead with more awareness.

Because whether you are leading a company, a team, a family, or yourself, the work starts with seeing behavior more clearly.

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AI has every employee quietly wondering if they're next.

Certainty is gone. Change is constant. And team confidence is likely at an all time low.

If you're the leader trying to steady your team and rebuild their confidence, it can be hard to know what the right words are.

In this episode of In The Arena with DoorTwo, Shaun Dyke sits down with Dr. Jeff Miller to walk through what great leaders actually do when their team's confidence is on the floor, and why the moves most of us default to ("you'll be fine," "we've got this," "just push through") won't work.

The first 10 minutes lay down what confidence really is, Albert Bandura's work on self-efficacy, why confidence drops in seconds and rebuilds in seconds, and why it's nothing like self-esteem, certainty, or competence.

From minute 12 on, it's the leader's playbook itself: what to do in the first hour after a miss, how to debrief without blaming or excusing, the trap of false confidence, and the deceptively simple question that should sit on every leader's desk:

"Are you going to judge them, or are you going to coach them?"

If you're leading through an AI shakeup, a layoff aftermath, a client loss, or just a quarter where the wind is in your face, this is the one to send to your peers.

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⏱ Chapters

00:00 Cold open

00:46 Welcome to In The Arena

00:54 What this episode is for

01:50 What confidence actually is — and isn't

02:02 Self-efficacy: the only confidence lever that actually moves

04:05 Does a confidence dip in one area spread to others?

04:46 Coaching after a hard conversation

06:39 Self-esteem doesn't move much. Self-efficacy does.

08:02 The fender-bender effect

09:13 Goal clarity is a confidence multiplier

10:26 Why elite athletes train themselves to forget

12:11 The trap of false confidence

12:44 What great leaders have at their disposal — the playbook starts here

13:32 Automated expertise: the leader's blind spot

16:06 The billion-dollar miss — what to do when the team gets rocked

20:02 The "I" word: how to debrief without blaming or excusing

21:10 What "no decision" actually tells you (sales leaders, this one's for you)

22:06 Stop guessing. Start asking.

23:14 The 1% accountability rule

24:03 The first-time CEO who said "I don't know what I'm doing"

26:07 Confidence is the memories you choose to remember

28:48 Confidence ≠ certainty

30:57 Blue runs vs. blizzard chutes

31:53 Confidence is not competence

32:55 The rebuild playbook: get proactive, not reactive

34:27 Are you going to judge them — or coach them?

Most conflict doesn't start with bad intent. It starts with the gap between what you meant, what you did, and how someone else experienced it.

In this episode, Shaun Dyke sits down with Stephanie Au to break down a framework called Intent → Behavior → Impact.

They also cover why leaders walk away thinking "that landed great" while their teams walk away resentful, why "advertising your intent" changes everything, and how to take ownership of the felt experience you create at work and at home.

In this conversation, you'll hear:

• Why only about 10% of people effectively clarify intent and check for understanding, and why that gap is the one DoorTwo gets hired to fix

• A CEO whose post-COVID return-to-work mandate was meant to drive engagement and instead drove badge monitoring, resentment, and disengagement

• The exact language to "advertise your intent" before a hard conversation

• How confirmation bias and fundamental attribution error trap leaders in a story they don't realize they're telling

• Why this is a skill, along with the smallest, low-risk way to start practicing it this week

If you've ever walked away from a conversation thinking, "That's not what I meant," this one's for you.

CHAPTERS

0:00 Cold open

0:30 Why this episode matters

2:03 Stephanie's engagement (and a $1,000 wedding invite)

3:52 The framework: Intent → Behavior → Impact

7:23 Case study: the return-to-work CEO who lost the room

12:18 Counsel for the sender and the receiver

14:20 How to actually "advertise your intent"

16:21 Parenting and the intent–impact gap

18:42 Why this is a skill, not a switch

20:10 Confirmation bias and the power-distance trap

22:13 Fundamental attribution error

25:30 A sender's playbook: verbal processing & advertising intent

27:32 The curse of knowledge: "start small, start safe"

31:27 A leader who got it right

33:36 Final takeaway: own the felt experience

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Success can look right on the outside and still feel wrong on the inside.

In this episode of InThe Arena, Shaun sits down with Bo Burick for an honest conversation about what happens when the life you’ve worked hard to build no longer feels fully like your own.

Bo shares his path from achievement, service, and professional success into anxiety, dissatisfaction, and the growing realization that he had been following a script shaped more by expectation than alignment.

Together, Shaun and Bo unpack the tension between external success and inner truth, the ways people cope when something feels off, and the courage it takes to step back and ask a harder question, “Is this really my life?”

This episode is for anyone who has ever felt the quiet disconnect between who they are and who they’ve become. It is about identity, pressure, purpose, and what it means to stop climbing the wrong mountain so you can find the right one.

If you’ve ever felt stuck in a life that looks good but feels off, this conversation will stay with you.

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What if the things you're chasing are actually making you LESS happy, and you've designed it that way without realizing it?

Mark Kasdorf bootstrapped a mobile software company into a $25M acquisition by Accenture. Then he walked away from the corner office to start over, this time building Forge, a company tackling the skilled trades labor shortage.

But the most interesting thing about Mark isn't what he's built. It's how deliberately he's designed his life around it.

This conversation covers Mark's framework for happiness: why he believes all desire is suffering, how he and his wife run biweekly sprint planning sessions for their marriage, the end-of-year calendar audit that changed how he spends his time, and why he thinks most high performers are great at setting goals but terrible at being honest about where they actually are.

Then the conversation takes a sharp turn into AI. From vibe coding to an open-source tool called OpenClaw that controlled his home speakers, wrote messages on his living room display, and started talking to him through his Sonos. All without being told how.

This is one of those episodes where you'll want to pause and rethink a few things.

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Most people can only name 2-3 people in their entire life who have truly listened to them. Not partially. Not while checking their phone. Truly listened.

In this episode, DoorTwo Principal Anna Baldwin unpacks why listening is the most underdeveloped leadership skill, and why your dog might be better at it than you are.

Anna draws on 20+ years of leadership experience, from leading Verizon Wireless teams to the top 1% nationally to serving as COO at two companies, to share a framework she's been using with clients for years.

You'll hear about what dogs do that most leaders don't, the difference between "yes, but" and "yes, and" cultures, the Gallup finding that 10 minutes of authentic engagement per week can transform your team, and why 2025 saw the lowest employee engagement scores in years at just 31%.

If you've ever walked out of a conversation wondering whether the other person heard a single word you said, this one's for you.

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Most ambitious professionals don’t fail because they lack goals. They fail because they’re fixing the wrong problems.

Our guest is Keith Butler, President and CRO of Observe, Inc., the cloud observability company recently acquired by Snowflake in a deal reportedly valued at approximately $1 billion.

After years inside high-growth startups, Keith says the hardest part of leadership isn’t setting direction. It’s knowing, accurately, where you actually stand.

Because if your starting point is wrong, everything you “improve” from there may just be reinforcing the wrong thing.

In this conversation, we explore why high performers misread their current reality, how that quietly stalls careers, and the uncomfortable discipline required to see yourself clearly.

If your internal map is wrong, your strategy will be wrong.

If you’re serious about making it to the top of your game, this episode will challenge the way you think about feedback, growth, and the problems you’re choosing to solve.

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Why is it so hard to communicate with people who lead with emotion when you don’t?

Why do some people shut down and need space, while others take action and bend the rules to get results?

When you understand what’s driving these behaviors, communication gets easier fast.

In our third and final episode of our Process Communication Model series, we break down the last three of the six personality types and the very different ways they move through the world:

• The Harmonizer, driven by emotion, connection, and being liked

• The Promoter, driven by action, momentum, and intensity

• The Imaginer, driven by imagination, solitude, and internal processing

This episode isn’t about labeling people. It’s about understanding why people do what they do, so you can connect more easily, stop misreading intent, and interact with others in a way that actually works.

This is Part 3 of a 3-part series on the Process Communication Model. If you haven’t listened to Part 1 or 2 yet, start there for the foundation (last two episodes).

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Why do some people need a plan before they move forward, others want to convince you their plan is the right one, and others just want to have fun and see what happens?

Why do some people need clarity before they act, others need agreement before they act, and others need freedom to act?

Those differences aren’t random. They’re patterns.

In Part 2 of our Process Communication Model series, we break down three of the six personality types and the very different ways they move through the world:

• The Thinker, driven by logic and structure

• The Persister, driven by conviction and belief

• The Rebel, driven by fun, reaction, and energy

You’ll start to recognize yourself quickly. And then you’ll start recognizing everyone else.

This episode isn’t about labeling people. It’s about understanding why people do what they do, so you can connect more easily, stop misreading intent, and interact with others in a way that actually works.

If Part 1 was the instruction manual, this is where you start reading your chapter.

This is Part 2 of a 3-part series on the Process Communication Model. If you haven’t listened to Part 1 yet, start there for the foundation (last episode).

Watch or listen now, and make sure you’re subscribed so you don’t miss Part 3, where we cover the remaining personality types.

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What if the way you think, communicate, react under pressure, and connect with others isn’t random at all?

And much of your experience could actually be decoded using a very specific behavioral model.

And this model could explain why certain conversations energize you while others shut you down, why stress brings out patterns you don’t recognize, and why people who care about each other still miss each other completely.

In this episode, we introduce the Process Communication Model, a powerful framework originally developed in a therapeutic setting to improve human connection and outcomes.

It has been used quietly for decades, helping millions of people better understand themselves and others, yet many people have never heard of it.

This model reveals the patterns that run us, the lenses we use to interpret the world, and the predictable ways we respond when things go well and when they don’t.

Many describe it as a secret owner’s manual for being human.

In this episode, you’ll hear why self-awareness is the starting point for real change, how this model improves communication and influence, and why understanding yourself is the fastest way to improve relationships at work and at home.

This episode sets the foundation. In the next two episodes, we’ll go deeper into the six personality types within the model and how they show up in everyday life.

If you’ve ever felt confused by people, including yourself, this is where it starts.

All growth starts with self awareness.

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Leadership doesn’t usually fail in obvious ways. More often, it drifts.

In this brief, solo episode, Jeff Miller, Partner at DoorTwo, shares a story from his executive coaching work that captures a familiar experience for many senior leaders, being busy, capable, and not fully present.

The CEO in the story wasn’t burned out or disengaged. Results were strong. Meetings were full. Decisions kept moving. And yet, something felt off. Jeff uses this moment to explore how leadership can slip onto autopilot through habit and efficiency, especially as responsibility and pace increase.

Grounded in behavioral science and decades of real-world work with executives, the episode introduces the idea of high altitude blindness and why autopilot often feels productive while quietly reducing awareness, feedback, and clarity.

You’ll hear a handful of simple, intentional interruptions leaders can use to regain presence without changing everything about how they work. Small pauses. Better questions. Moments of attention that change how leaders show up and how teams respond.

This is a shorter episode than our typical 30–40 minute conversations, a focused check-in and reminder. We’ll be back soon with our usual long-form discussions.

So many people are exhausted, overloaded, and trying to push through each day on empty.

We’re living in a culture that rewards grinding, reacting, and always staying “on”, but no one ever taught us how to take care of the one thing that makes everything else work: our capacity.

In this episode, Shaun Dyke and Jeff Miller break down why exhaustion is showing up for so many of us, why skills and effort stop mattering when you’re burned out, and how a few simple daily habits can help you feel more grounded and in control of your day.

You’ll take a closer look at your self-care habits, see how early ideas about productivity show up in your day, and learn why ignoring yourself never works for long.

More importantly, you’ll learn what actually helps; practical, repeatable habits that support your energy, attention, and overall well-being.

If you’ve been feeling stretched thin or stuck in old patterns, this conversation will help you reset your mornings, your energy, and the way you move through your day.

All growth starts with self awareness.

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Most people feel pulled in different directions without realizing why.

In this episode, Stephanie Au joins Shaun Dyke to talk about the shift that helps you cut through the noise and live on purpose.

They explore purpose, values, courage, and the habits that quietly shape how you lead and live.

Stephanie shares why clarity is fuel, how authenticity anchors you, why purpose takes time to define, and what happens when your inside finally matches your outside.

If you’ve been feeling stretched thin, unsettled, or out of sync, this conversation offers a clear way forward.

All growth starts with self awareness.

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Leading at the top of the business world requires more than strategy, it demands a mindset.

In this conversation, Shaun Dyke sits down with John Carmichael, President of Kimberly-Clark North America and former CEO of Nestlé Canada, to explore how great leaders think, decide, and create clarity when the stakes are high.

John shares lessons from more than 30 years in the consumer-goods industry, such as how to build trust inside large organizations, lead through change, and scale culture without losing focus on people.

It’s a candid look inside the leadership mindset behind some of the world’s most recognized and trusted brands.

All growth starts with self awareness.

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Leadership isn’t about titles or authority. It’s about skillfully using one specific skill.

In this conversation, Shaun Dyke and Chris Stemp unpack what it is, exploring how true leadership is measured by behavior change, not job title.

From parenting to corporate life, they reveal why so many attempts to influence fail, and how self-awareness transforms your ability to lead anyone, including yourself.

All growth starts with self awareness.

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Most people don’t realize they’re living by patterns they didn’t choose.

In this episode, we talk about why so many of us lead by default — and how to start leading by design.

Shaun Dyke and Chris Stemp unpack the invisible scripts that keep us stuck and the self-awareness required to break free.

This isn’t about quick fixes or motivation. It’s about understanding the patterns that drive you — so you can finally change them.

All growth starts with self awareness.

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Welcome to In The Arena — a different kind of leadership podcast.

This isn’t about quick tips or surface-level advice. It’s about the deeper work — uncovering the patterns that run you, the scripts you’ve inherited, and the beliefs that quietly shape how you lead and live.

Hosted by Shaun Dyke, Managing Partner at DoorTwo, this series draws on five decades of behavioral science and real-world leadership experience to help you move from leading by default to leading by design.

Because when you start doing the work, it doesn’t just change how you lead — it changes how you live.

All growth starts with self-awareness.

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