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In Bed with Koaty & Sumner

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Frequency: 1 episode/14d. Total Eps: 29

Join adult influencers and reality TV personalities Koaty & Sumner as they explore the world of love, dating, and relationships from a reality and adult film world point of view. So take off your clothes, it’s time to get in bed with the duo that does more than each other.

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Blayne It On Us: Live Confessions from the Queer Chaos

Wednesday, October 22, 2025 • Duration 21:38

What happens when your ex keeps sending you money, your boyfriend disappears into afterparties, or your “open” relationship starts feeling more like an Olympic event in emotional regulation? This week, we’re diving into five confessions that live at the messy, magnetic intersection of ego, intimacy, and queer identity.

In this episode of Blayne It On Us, Sumner and Koaty unpack stories that hit a little too close to home — from the “Jealous Saint” who calls his anxiety enlightenment, to the guy who’s still texting his ex’s mom, to the Pride-goer who loves the community but hates the crowds. It’s a lineup of stories that remind us how queer relationships are rarely neat, often hilarious, and always human.

💸 A partner splitting everything 50/50 but ignoring the income gap.❤️‍🔥 A boyfriend who swears “it’s just dancing and vibes.”💭 A listener trying to come out not just to the world — but to himself.

Sumner brings the heart and psychology, Koaty brings the bite and brutal honesty. Together, they say what everyone’s thinking but no one admits: we’re all just trying to find balance between being enlightened, horny, and slightly emotionally unhinged.

💌 Got something to confess?Tell us your story anonymously at https://tally.so/r/mZro1o — no judgment, no names, just vibes.

Whether you’re the saint, the sinner, or somewhere between, this episode’s for you.

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Jealousy, Thirds & the Open Relationship Hangover | Blayne It On Us

Wednesday, October 15, 2025 • Duration 13:55

This week on we have a full episode of Blayne It On Us, where we read your confessions on are and give our take on it. We had lots of submissions this time, and we picked 4. We’re diving deep into the messy, magnetic, and totally relatable world of jealousy and open love. From silent resentment to throuple drama, we are breaking down listener confessions that prove one thing — even the most healthy relationships have their limits.
💚 Stories this episode:

“The Jealous Boyfriend Who Says He Isn’t” — when support turns into quiet control.
🔥 “Our Third Made Me Feel Second” — how an open door became a revolving one.
🧃 “He Wants a Third… But Only If I Pick” — when “being chill” means avoiding accountability.
⚖️ “Jealousy Made Me Realize I’m Not As Open As I Thought” — when your fantasy of openness meets your reality of attachment.

🎧 Tune in for the laughs, stay for the therapy you didn’t book.

💌 Submit Your Confession or Question:

Have your own wild, unfiltered, or “oh no, we did that too” story? Submit it anonymously for future episodes of Blayne It On Us!
👉 https://tally.so/r/mZro1oor visit KoatyandSumner.com/BlayneItOnUs to share your story.
You can submit about:

Relationship drama
Jealousy
Threesomes gone wrong (or right)
Open relationship rules
Sex, friendship, kink, or “did that really happen?” moments

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James Ash: Rising OnlyFans Star with Parents Who Support His Career

Wednesday, September 24, 2025 • Duration 39:15

What does it mean to come out, build a community, and launch a porn career at 21 in 2025? In this episode, we sit down with James Ash, one of the newest young voices in queer adult entertainment, to talk about growing up in London, moving to Australia, and what Gen Z is doing differently in porn.

We compare our own coming out journeys to his, swap stories about queer culture shocks, and dive into how being digital-native shapes fan relationships, kink exploration, and brand building. And because it wouldn’t be our show without some chaos, we wrap things up with rapid-fire questions and future fantasies that only James Ash could answer.

💡 Expect laughs, vulnerability, and a generational mash-up of queer perspectives you won’t want to miss.

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Growing Apart: Moving On from Friendships in Your 30s

Wednesday, September 17, 2025 • Duration 40:33

In this raw and hopeful episode, Koaty and Sumner Blayne dive into the reality of friendships shifting in your 30s. From recognizing when friends no longer fit the life you’re building, to spotting signs it’s time to move on, they explore grief, growth, and gaining clarity. With a mix of humor and honesty, they share personal stories, couple banter, and practical advice for letting go gracefully — and making room for relationships that celebrate who you are now. Perfect for anyone navigating friendship breakups, personal growth, or redefining connection in adulthood.

We also do Blayne It On Us segment, where we answer your anonymous confessions live. Submit yours here for a chance to have us discuss it in the next episode here: https://tally.so/r/mZro1o

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Game Day Love: Football, Relationships & Confessions | Blayne It On Us

Wednesday, September 10, 2025 • Duration 38:44

It’s football season, and in this episode of In Bed with Koaty & Sumner we talk about what the game means for our relationship. 🏈

Koaty grew up surrounded by football—at home, at Penn State, and while living in Philadelphia—while Sumner wasn’t really exposed to it much at all. Over time, he’s become a fan through Koaty’s love for the sport. We share how trying the things your partner loves can actually bring you closer together.

We also dive into our annual tradition of celebrating the Super Bowl at The Big Gay Super Bowl Party in LA, and play a hilarious game where Koaty quizzes Sumner on real vs. fake football terms.

Finally, we close with our newest segment, Blayne It On Us!, where listeners send us anonymous confessions for advice.
This week: • A guy discovers his dad is secretly gay. • A husband is using Grindr without his partner knowing.

Grab a drink, crawl into bed with us, and let’s talk love, football, and confessions. 💋

👉 Don’t forget to like, comment, and subscribe for more weekly episodes!📲
Follow us everywhere: https://direct.me/koatysum
Submit your confessions here: https://tally.so/r/mZro1o

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Launching Our New Segment: “Blayne It On Us” | Queer Relationship, Sex & Friendship Advice

Wednesday, August 13, 2025 • Duration 20:43

Koaty and Sumner Blayne are taking In Bed With Koaty and Sumner overseas—podcasting from a bed in Japan while Koaty’s on a work trip. After a quick life update, we debut our brand-new segment, Blayne It On Us, where listeners send anonymous confessions and questions about relationships, sex, friendship, money, and other gay topics. We respond with unfiltered humor, raw honesty, and our trademark mix of comedy and vulnerability. The unqualified advice you asked for!

Submit your anonymous question for a future episode here: https://tally.so/r/mZro1o

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Beyond the Bedroom: How Sex Toys Deepened Our Relationship

Wednesday, July 30, 2025 • Duration 31:05

This week, we’re diving deep—literally and emotionally. Koaty and Sumner open up about how adult toys transformed our sex life and brought us closer as a couple. From our first unrealistic dildo to designing our very own double penetration mold with Mr. Hankey’s Toys, this episode is all about pleasure, trust, and play. We’re talking:

Why toys aren’t a last resort—they’re the gateway to emotional safety
How we use them to explore power dynamics and deepen communication
What it was really like getting our dicks molded in buckets of silicone
Our honest reviews of toys we’ve tried (yes, even the punching dildo machine)
Plus: tips for couples navigating their first toy experience

We also share why we partnered with Mr. Hankey’s Toys—a brand that gets it. They don’t just make fantasy toys, they make real tools for connection. Our custom DP dildo is now live on their site, and it’s built with platinum-cured, medical-grade silicone—aka, the good stuff. Whether you're curious, kinky, or just ready to laugh at us oversharing (again), this episode has something for every couple looking to keep things hot, honest, and hella fun.

👉 Check out our collab toy at https://www.mrhankeystoys.com/

Search the KoatySum Dildo

(P.S. Use water-based lube. Your toys will thank you.)

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Why Gay Men Feel Disconnected—And How to Fix It (w/ Dr. Hector)

Wednesday, July 23, 2025 • Duration 55:52

In this special “first-in-bed” episode, Koaty & Sumner welcome their first actual in-bed guest: psychiatrist, entrepreneur, and emotional edge-walker Dr. Hector.

Together, they get real about why so many gay men struggle to feel emotionally connected—even in hyper-social, hyper-sexual spaces. From intimacy issues to trauma loops, hookup culture to healing, this episode peels back the layers with insight, humor, and zero shame.

⚡ Topics we cover:
• Why high-functioning doesn’t mean emotionally fulfilled
• Shame, identity, and sex: the invisible triangle
• Rebuilding trust with yourself (before anyone else)
• What gay men really want from connection—and how to get there

This isn’t therapy, but it might feel like it.

🦋 Guest: Dr. Hector
Psychiatrist. Creative. Sacred outcast. Founder of The White Butterfly.
@drhector.rodriguez | doctorhector.com

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What is sex therapy with Dr. Chris Donaghue, author of Rebel Love

Wednesday, July 16, 2025 • Duration 46:47

This week, we’re in bed with the one and only Dr. Chris Donaghue—sex therapist, author, and queer truth-teller behind the book Rebel Love. We dive deep into the messy beauty of queer intimacy, ethical sex, and rewriting every outdated rule we’ve been told about love and relationships.

From emotional differentiation to kinky exploration, Dr. Chris helps us unpack how shame-free pleasure and radical honesty can actually heal our relationships. We also get personal about sex work, queer partnership, and what it means to reclaim love outside the heteronormative script. Oh—and we may have gotten a little too honest. But hey, that’s the point, right?

💬 Let us know what part cracked you open the most.

📚 Grab Rebel Love here: https://www.amazon.com/Rebel-Love-Break-Free-Relationships/dp/0593443025

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Differentiation, Exploration, and Red Flags with Author Tom Bruett

Wednesday, July 2, 2025 • Duration 54:19

We’re joined by therapist and author Tom Bruett, whose book The Go-To Relationship Guide for Gay Men has genuinely impacted our relationship. In this honest and vulnerable conversation, we dive deep into the two stages that rocked us the most: Differentiation and Exploration.

We talk about what it really means to stay emotionally connected while becoming your own person, how to ask for what you want in bed (without shame), and why open relationships often bring up the deepest communication work. Tom shares what it was like writing his most personal chapter, and we open up about how the book has helped us become better partners.

💬 Learning to set boundaries without shutting down
🧠 The power of sex-positive, vulnerable conversations
❤️ Why differentiation can feel scary—but lead to deeper love

And of course, we close it out with a classic Koaty and Sumner game: Red Flag or Growth Lag? We throw out spicy relationship scenarios, and Tom tells us whether it’s a dealbreaker—or just a couple stuck in one of the book’s core stages.

This episode is heartfelt, hilarious, and deeply helpful for anyone in a queer relationship (or hoping to be in one).

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