we're back after a long old break whilst we navigated therapy and some big personal growths :) thanks for being patient, we missed you!

today we're talking antidepressants, funerals, school, co-dependency, moving to london, age and advice.

on todays ep we discuss therapy, the pain of nostalgia, coping mechanisms, what we’ve been up to and really effed up dreams

t/w eating disorders and extremely brief mention of suicide, strokes and seizures.

welcome to the first episode of if we don't laugh, we'll cry! in today's episode we cover funerals, revisiting old hobbies, music as a coping mechanism, having to take on motherly duties and being treated differently after loss.

TW: dark humour, grief and loss.

'if we don't laugh, we'll cry' is a self-produced, light-hearted podcast that aims to normalise conversations around grief, and everything that comes with it, whilst building a community through humour and shared experience.

by sisters, amie and alicia fretter.

TW: dark humour, grief and loss.

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listen back to our live talk and q&a joined by the one and only Amber Jeffrey from the Grief Gang and Amelia from the amazing charity Suicide&Co.

joining us is special guest Amber Jeffrey; podcast host, online community facilitator, grief mentor and consultant. Her work & podcast, The Grief Gang, specialises in normalising grief and welcoming people with love into the gang that you never asked to be a part of.

alongside us is Amelia Wrighton, co-founder and CEO of charity Suicide&Co who support bereaved individuals and open the conversation around suicide-related grief.

t/w suicide

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in todays episode we talk about embarrassing grief conversations and having to talk about things when you don't want to. we also answer your submissions about people avoiding you, living in your family home, how to get yourself out of a depressive rut and feeling guilty after loss xxx

today we discuss antidepressants, nightmares, triggers and how to help, social media, memory tattoos, free online therapy resources and with our very first (surprise) guest appearance from our lovely friend Evie.

t/w mention of suicide (around 22 minutes)

in todays episode we chat about all things grief including starting EMDR, therapy, relationships, dark humour, pessimism, conflicting emotions and needs, life timelines, signs from the people we've lost and the kind acts of strangers.

T/W grief, loss, dark humour

we're back with our most chaotic episode yet (sorry!)

discussing: grieving when you're poorly, birthdays, the loss of a mother role in your life, griefy breakdowns in fluffy socks, depression behaviour, suppression, growing into independence and fundraising for funerals,

T/W: mention of self harm (1min30seconds)

after a long old break we are backkkk discussing our views on therapy, seasonal depression, mothers day, grief porn and trigger warnings.

t/w- grief and loss, dark humour, suicide, 13 reasons why, fake gagging noises at 45minutes-46minutes (emetophobia), reference to stabbing.

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t/w grief and loss.

our sold out podcast launch event at feel good club with a live q&a! our advice and views on what not to say to someone grieving, life milestones, advice to our younger selves, traumatic hamster deaths, being in education whilst grieving and christmas.

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in todays episode we're joined by our lovely little special guest, jess, alicia's old pal from school.

we cover... coming back to school after the loss, people pretending to care, jess' memories of our mum and alicia's initial experiences of grief, funny messages, posting on anniversaries and ham the pig.

sorry for the horrific cackles.

love you, enjoy! x

today we are answering your submissions!

we discuss jobs whilst grieving, how we found out the news, our journeys, visiting the grave, parents new partners, friends complaining about their mums, graduation, memorial items, lying.

t/w mention of the "r-word" at 58 minutes

also this one camera technical fault makes one of us look like a giant and the other a tiny little bug sorry

hi everyone! in today’s episode we cover alicia's adhd/autism assessment, our most disturbing dreams, maladaptive daydreaming, pet death, taking our anger out on strangers, distraction and dream guests on our podcast.

trigger warnings: we mention the following words but don’t go into much (if any) further detail: abduction, fire, rape, suicidal ideation, assault, stabbing.

we also described our dreams that involves depictions of violence.

also a last of us series spoiler at 58 minutes!

apologies for how chaotic this episode it and for the cackles. we hope you can still take what you need from it. love you!

we're back from a short break whilst amie went off on her travels. this episode was recorded back in may.

today we talk about suppression, your inner child, time blindness, idolising the people you've lost and coming to terms with the bad parts about them. we also look back on how we spent previous anniversaries.

t/w mention of suicide and fake gag warning 10:07

hey everyone, we're back and joined by our dear friend and sister in grief amber jeffrey from the grief gang! we spoke for so long we've split this episode into two parts, so here is part one for you!

we talk about mortality, christmas, fears, anticipatory grief, accepting their faults and guilt.

expect lots of cackling, singing, and raw honesty (as always)

sending everyone the biggest hug ever through this god awful festive period xxxxxx

we're back with part 2 with none other than amber jeffrey from the grief gang! on todays episode we're answering your questions and discussing your submissions.

we cover guilt, friends letting you down, film triggers, grieving multiple people, victimisation, inner child and the weird things grief has made us do.

t/w mention of medical terms: coma, heart attack and brain damage at 1minute.

it’s our final episode of season one! 

guys! you have been so patient for a new ep but the wait is finally over. we come bearing great news about our season 2 plans that we have been so excited to share!

in todays ep we start off with some good old fashioned sisterly bickering, we discuss how it’s been self producing the podcast, our relationship, breakups, relationships, growth, masking, trigger towns and revisiting alicias old journal.