You know us as social researchers and best selling authors. You may have also heard us speak at a marriage event. But do you know how Jeff and I met? In episode 1 you will hear that story, as well as why Jeff and I do what we do.

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Experiencing God

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Divorced and remarried, Scott and Sherry Jennings share their journey from a marriage marked by control, addiction, and infidelity to a transformed relationship rebuilt on faith and kindness. They discuss their early lives, the patterns they brought into their marriage, and the pivotal moments that led to their healing and reconciliation.

Resources & Links Mentioned: 

The Rendezvous Project (https://www.therendezvousproject.com)  

Scott and Sherry guided the creation, production, and such for this resource.  

They are speaking at several events coming up. 

You can reach out via email Scott@zoweh.org / Sherry@zoweh.org  

Shaunti.com 

In this conversation, Jeff and Shaunti Feldhahn explore the fundamental differences in how men and women process thoughts and decisions. They discuss the implications of these differences on relationships, emphasizing the importance of understanding and communication. The episode highlights the brain wiring differences, the significance of verbal versus internal processing, and practical strategies for couples to navigate these challenges effectively. Through real-life examples and insights from neuroscience, the Feldhahns provide valuable advice for fostering stronger connections between partners. 

Discover all the Feldhahn's books: https://amzn.to/3khpzgC

In this conversation, Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn interview Michelle Lentz, an Instagram influencer and author, who shares her journey through marriage, parenting, and overcoming significant life challenges, including a devastating earthquake. Michelle discusses the importance of community support, the power of prayer, and treating your spouse like a friend to build a strong marriage. Her insights are particularly valuable for young couples navigating the early stages of marriage.

Visit Michelle's website

Order Hey Beginner Wife on Amazon

Summary: In this podcast episode, Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn take a look at one of the main sources of conflict and heartache in marriage—looking at how to transform this source of conflict into a source of connection. The episode is rooted in decades of nationally representative research—making their insights much more than just their opinion or an unscientific poll of social media followers. After tuning in, you’ll understand the main insecurities that most men and most women face, and you’ll leave knowing how to support your spouse rather than unintentionally nicking their most raw nerve. 

Resources & Links Mentioned:    

For Women Only 

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Today’s podcast features the type of game-changing, research-based findings that will strengthen the marriages in your church. If you are interested in bringing Shaunti and Jeff to your next event, please contact Nicole Owens at nowens@shaunti.com.  

Summary: In this heartfelt conversation, Gary Thomas shares his personal journey through trials, the legacy of love from his family, and the profound impact of marriage on spiritual growth. He reflects on the challenges of writing and the importance of perseverance in the face of rejection, all while emphasizing the beauty of relationships and the lessons learned through life's hardships. Also in this conversation, Gary and the Feldhahns recalled the power that a simple phone call can have to encourage someone in their life and ministry. 

Resources & Links Mentioned:   

https://garythomasbooks.substack.com/ 

https://garythomas.com/ 

Books On Amazon 

Shaunti and Jeff explore the secrets behind the happiest marriages, focusing on the importance of believing the best of your spouse's intentions, even during conflicts. They share insights from their research, personal experiences, and practical applications to help couples navigate challenges and enhance their relationships. The conversation emphasizes the significance of communication, understanding, and the power of good intentions in fostering a loving and supportive marriage. 

Resources & Links Mentioned:   

The Surprising Secrets of Highly Happy Marriages 

Speaking Agent: Nicole Owens nowens@shaunti.com  

More info about having Shaunti and Jeff speak HERE 

Bonus Episode 13: Looking Back, Moving Forward

Description:
In this heartfelt Season 1 finale bonus episode, Shaunti and Jeff take listeners on a reflective journey through the most powerful insights shared over the season. This bonus installment isn’t just a recap—it’s a spiritual reset button that captures the highs, lessons, and most touching moments that moved both guests and listeners alike.

Episode 12 Release Date: June 17, 2025    

Duration: Episode 11: 44 minutes     

Summary: Shaunti, Jeff, and Jenilee Samuel (host of the Java with Jen podcast) explore the complexities of being a woman leader in ministry, the challenges of marriage, and the importance of understanding the male psyche. Jenilee shares her journey from being a missionary kid to a co-pastor and her experiences with raising boys. The discussion emphasizes the need for empathy, learning, and the balance between strength and sensitivity in both personal and professional realms. Jenilee also shares her insights on parenting teenage boys, the importance of emotional intelligence, and the challenges of maintaining a healthy marriage. 

Link Mentioned:       

Java with Jen Podcast 

Jenilee Samuel Website 

Hearing God’s Voice for Everyday Life Journal 

For Women Only 

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Summary: In this engaging conversation, Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn are joined by Arlene Pellicane, author of Making Marriage Easier. Arelene shares insights on how to prioritize marriage, avoid the roommate syndrome, and implement small, practical actions to strengthen relationships. The podcast also explores the profound effects of social media on relationships, emphasizing the need for intentionality in how we engage with technology.  

Link Mentioned:       

Book: Making Marriage Easier  

https://arlenepellicane.com/ 

The Happy Home Podcast 

Important questions from this week’s podcast: 

• What’s it like to be married to me? 
• When was the last time we had fun together? 

Summary: 

In this conversation, Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn, along with clinical psychologist Dr. James Sells, explore the phenomenon of young adults going “no contact” with their parents. They discuss the emotional turmoil this causes for both parents and children, the factors contributing to this phenomenon, and the importance of family therapy in addressing these issues. The conversation highlights the need for understanding, communication, and the potential for healing within family dynamics.  

Link Mentioned:      

Parent–adult child estrangement in the United States by gender, race/ethnicity, and sexuality. 

https://doi.org/10.1111/jomf.12898 

Summary: In this conversation, Montel and Kristin Jordan share their transformative journey from the music industry to marriage ministry. They discuss the challenges they faced in their marriage, including a crisis that led to a renewed commitment to each other and their faith. Through their experiences, they emphasize the importance of prioritizing marriage and the lessons that now guide their work in helping others strengthen their marriages. The Jordans also discuss Marriage Masterpeace, which offers retreats for couples to heal and grow together.  

Resources & Links Mentioned:     

Marriage Masterpeace 8-Week Study Bundle  

Marriage Masterpeace Retreat at Jordan River 

Montellandkristin.com 

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Episode 8 and 9 Details

Summary: In this conversation, Montel and Kristin Jordan share their transformative journey from the music industry to marriage ministry. They discuss the challenges they faced in their marriage, including a crisis that led to a renewed commitment to each other and their faith. Through their experiences, they emphasize the importance of prioritizing marriage and the lessons that now guide their work in helping others strengthen their marriages. The Jordans also discuss Marriage Masterpeace, which offers retreats for couples to heal and grow together. 

Resources & Links Mentioned:     

Marriage Masterpeace 8-Week Study Bundle  

Marriage Masterpeace Retreat at Jordan River 

Montellandkristin.com 

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Episode 7: One of You Wants More Sex? Here’s What’s Going On. 

Release Date: April 22, 2025   

Duration: 33 minutes    

Summary: In this podcast episode, Jeff and Shaunti Feldhahn look at the disconnect that some couples experience around intimacy—especially focusing on the statistically common scenario of one spouse (typically the husband) desiring more intimacy than the other. They discuss common myths that feed this disconnect, and provide practical advice for couples. This episode will help you not feel alone! In fact, you’ll gain an understanding of each partner’s unique desire type—fostering a healthier and more fulfilling marriage. 

Resources & Links Mentioned:    

Secrets of Sex and Marriage website: secretsofsexandmarriage.com  

Secrets of Sex and Marriage     

Unlocking an Intimate Marriage   

If you are interested in having Shaunti bring research-based strategies, practical wisdom and biblical principles to your next event, please contact Nicole Owens at nowens@shaunti.com

Summary: This conversation explores the profound journey of Dan Defenbaugh, a former law enforcement officer who faced trauma and addiction, leading him ultimately to try to take his own life. Through his story, we learn about the struggles first responders face with mental health, the impact on their families, and the hope found in recovery and ministry. Dan's transformation from despair to purpose serves as a beacon of hope for others in similar situations. In this conversation, Dan recounts a pivotal moment where he sensed God leading him to establish a support organization for first responders struggling with mental health issues. 

Resources & Links Mentioned:    

10-42project.org 

Shared Voices podcast (available on most streaming platforms) 

Shaunti.com