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Tyler is flying solo again and welcoming Jessica Graham (author of Good S* x: Getting Off Without Checking Out) for an honest, nuanced conversation about s* x, connection, and everything we get wrong. 

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Tyler welcomes Jason Ritter to the ILYSM stage for a heavy, raw, and deeply human conversation. We go deep on Gravity Falls, alcoholism, relationships, and John Ritter. What unfolds is an honest reminder that everyone carries a story we rarely see.

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This week on ILYSM, Reed & Tyler welcome Mel Rodriguez to the table. You’ve seen him in Better Call Saul, Getting On, and The Last Man on Earth, but here you’ll meet the man behind the roles. Together, we talk about the hard stuff; battling addiction, weight struggles, and the pressure men feel to stay silent about their emotions. Stay tuned for timeless advice from men on what truly leads to happiness.

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Rage, acceptance, and tolerance; we’re diving into it all this week on ILYSM. Steph Barkley joins us to unpack the emotional tug-of-war between doing the work that pays the bills and chasing passion projects that sometimes leave us resentful. There's laughter, there's vulnerability… and yes, we may or may not be booking a rage room by the end of it. Tune in to see how it all unfolds!

We take a look back at some of our favorite conversations from ILYSM so far.    Did we miss any? Which ones did you like best? Let us know down in the comments!

Featuring  Nik Dodani, Fiona Dourif, Ethan Suplee, Mireille Enos, Devon Sawa, Gina Minardi, Will Forte, Eliza Coupe, Judy Greer, and Ian Fidance.

On this episode of ILYSM, we welcome the incredible Proof of Life author and TED Talk speaker, Jen Pastiloff, for a conversation about resilience, honesty, and belonging. We talk about what it feels like to have your last words to a loved one be the wrong ones, the pressure to hide sobriety, and how self-doubt can take root in our daily lives. Jen shares openly about living with deafness, how abandonment shaped her, and the difficulty of not always being able to express what’s inside. Reed admits he hasn’t read a book all year, Tyler opens up about pretending to be sober to keep the peace, and together we reflect on the idea of “factory default settings,” our shortening attention spans, and how to take self-doubt out of our lexicon.

Above all else, always remember: "You belong here."

On this week’s ILYSM: Nik Dodani (Tyler’s Escape Room co-star) stops by. We cover why silence in politics is never innocent, the anxiety of raising children, and yes… we admit we’re kinda okay with g*ns. We talk about the optimism we all felt 2016. And Tyler? He leaves us with an extra DEEP confession that further reinforces the safe space that is ILYSM.

The brilliant comedian Ian Fidance stopped by for a full-on love sesh on ILSYM this week. We laughed! Reed cried! The dudes talked grief, addiction, wild childhood stuff, and coping with those brutal, inescapable moments of self-doubt - the worst. 

There are so many reasons to love Ian, but more than anything, it’s his commitment to being unapologetically himself always in all ways <3 . Go listen/watch for yourself! 

We’re breaking the fourth wall this week with Gina Minardi — Tyler’s former EMDR therapist and a licensed mental health professional <3. 

We get into imposter syndrome, self-sabotage, the EMDR experience, psych meds, and more. An honest, insightful, and low-key hilarious episode - go watch/listen now!! 

Judy Greer stopped by the ILYSM studio to talk likability as a superpower, the female urge to punch down with the boys, working the program, and being the ultimate funny girl — all while charming Reed & Tyler into oblivion.

This week we’re joined by our producer Stella Young to dig deep into daddy issues, depression, the humor in grief, intellectual gender fluidity, and why it always feels like the nice guy finishes last.

Let’s. Get. Vulnerable. 🥲🎙️

This week, forever heartthrob Devon Sawa joins us for a wholesome (and hilarious) dude sesh 🇨🇦🥊 We get into the big stuff: hockey fights, growing up Canadian, Hollywood’s chaos, and the legendary “I’m proud of you” moment from your pops. Devon’s the best—tune in for a laugh, some feels, and classic bro energy but make it emo🤝

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Tyler is BACK & flying solo this week and welcoming the incredible Hana Mae Lee (Pitch Perfect) to the ILYSM stage; and boy, do we get into some sh*t. 

Hana and Tyler dive into the emotional, physical, and neurological healing power of music. This episode is a full-on love letter to music and the ways music has helped keep us grounded, inspired, and alive.

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This week, the boys get meta — reacting to the podcast’s reactions. From family texts to fears of oversharing, we dive into anxiety, vulnerability, and whether putting ourselves out there was a huge mistake. We said you’re coming on this ride with us… so here 👏🏻we👏🏻go.

Eliza Coupe (Happy Endings, Future Man) and her wonderful husband Billy visited us from their peaceful life in the desert, and we couldn’t be more grateful. Our conversation with Eliza focuses heavily on body shaming and online criticism—issues she’s recently faced firsthand on the red carpet. We also dive into Tyler’s road rage, Reed’s skepticism about a higher power, and much much more. we love eliza and we love you sm! 

Mireille Enos (The Killing, World War Z) is our guest today and charmed us all with her ability to be so tiny yet so powerful like her character Sarah Lindon from the beloved TV Series, The Killing. Tyler, Reed and Mireille discuss the pain of going to the gym, Mireille’s blackbelt, putting your kids in therapy & the devastating but relatable thought every artist has whether true or not —> “I am not part of the conversation.“

It’s Will Forte day on the ILYSM pod. what a friggen treat. The hilarious actor joins Reed and Tyler to talk about injuries & going to the doctor, kid life & getting older, marriage & Will’s v real addiction to ice cream that’s left us all craving —> chocolate chip. But not chips. Chipped chocolate. 

Ethan Suplee—best known for My Name Is Earl and Remember the Titans—joins us in the studio this week for a deeply personal and wide-ranging conversation on male body image, diet culture, Ozempic, and the often misunderstood world of fitfluencers.

In a space where these topics are still taboo for men, Ethan, Reed, and Tyler open up about growing up as bigger kids, navigating toxic diet trends, and the silent burden of being cast as the “fat, funny sidekick” in Hollywood.

This episode meant a lot to us—we hope it resonates just as much with you.

Fiona Dourif aka Dr. Cassie McKay from The Pitt is swooping in as ILYSM’s first official guest! While we <3 diving deep into the male experience, it is equally beneficial to learn about the female one. Enter Tyler’s bestie, the hella self actualized & talented— Fiona Dourif. Reed, Tyler, and Fiona talk grief, vulnerability, lying to your therapist, dating in LA, Fiona’s controversial take on free will, her relatable character on The Pitt and much more! 

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Welcome to Ilysm’s very first episode! Meet Reed Fish & Tyler Labine 2 divorced Dads from Ojai, California trying to get better. Today the hosts introduce themselves, the thesis of the show & what to expect in the weeks to come.  We’ll introduce a segment called “Confessions” where Tyler & Reed own up to a tough moment they had this week. The guys talk vulnerability! Shame! Infidelity! Peacocking! Ping Pong! Sobriety! Hydrocortisone! Rashes! And much more. This has  been a wild, cathartic, terrifying ride. We thank you so much for joining us and please don’t ever forget - we love you so much ❤️

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Reed goes solo this week with therapist Amber Robinson for a grounded conversation about loneliness, connection, and the complicated ways we seek love. Amber breaks down insecure attachment, love-bombing, and the quiet cruelty of “I’m sorry you feel that way.” They also dive into the emotional burnout of entrepreneurship and why building real connection has to be treated like a job if we want to thrive.

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Reed sits down with Dan Parziale of Mesa Farm and Jeff Gaddess of DignityMoves; two men who do real work at the heart of the homelessness crisis. 

Jeff opens up about his journey through mental illness and homelessness, and how it called him to a life of service. Together, he and Dan share what it really means to rebuild: not just homes, but community.

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We're excited to be joined by Logan Miller (I’m in the Band, Ultimate Spider-Man) for a raw talk about identity, recovery, and the unpredictable world of Hollywood.
From nicotine to caffeine, we dive into how quickly habits become vices. Logan gets real about his Disney past, carving out a new path, and what it’s really like to hustle as a working actor. The guys also trade stories about coming of age in Hollywood, and a few unforgettable nights out. 

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Reed’s flying solo with the brilliant Nicole Sachs (Mind Your Body, The Cure for Chronic Pain). Nicole shares her own insight on how to actually reprogram your brain. 

Together, Nicole and Reed dive into radical acceptance, why we’re built to remember pain, and how to break the cycle of self-loathing. 

If you’ve been struggling; in your body, in your mind, or in your heart, this episode’s for you

This week on ILYSM, we welcome the incredible Chris Sullivan; Emmy-nominated actor you know from Guardians of the Galaxy Vol. 2, This Is Us, and Hadestown.

Together, we dive into;  selfishness, self-pity, and patience; and what it really takes to grow through pain instead of getting stuck in it. The guys get honest about complaining, perspective, and the possibility that maybe… we never fully “find” ourselves; and that’s okay.

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This week on ILYSM, we’re joined by actor, comedian, and Vine star Manon Mathews! Tyler comes clean about a childhood lie, and Reed admits to ghosting someone. Manon opens up about her experience being cheated on, and Tyler shares his own perspective from the other side; a raw, vulnerable conversation about infidelity, trust, and the messy human side of love. It’s funny, honest, and deeply real... just how we like it on ILYSM

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This week on ILSYM, the legendary Will Sasso (MADtv, The Three Stooges, Happy Gilmore) joins Reed & Tyler to discuss health, self-care, and what it really means to show up as a man. We discuss taking antidepressants, CPAPs, mouth guards, and why taking care of yourself isn’t weak; it’s how you show up for the people who love you.

Cheers to the men who inspire us; may we all know them, may we all be them.

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