I Hate James Dobson – Details, episodes & analysis

Did you enjoy that break from Dobson? Thinking about how we can make the world a better place for everyone? That was nice, huh. Anyway, that's not what this episode is. Today Jake and Brooke are talking about perhaps THE Dobson book, "The Strong-Willed Child" and talking about what the hell Dobson means by "strong-willed".

Check out "The Worst of All Possible Worlds": https://www.worstpossible.world/

References:

"Before you donate to Autism Speaks, Consider the Facts" from AutisticAdvocacy.org

"Personality" from APA.org

"The Autistic Horror of Don't Hug Me I'm Scared (season 1)" by Patricia Taxxon on Youtube

"The Controversy Around ABA" from ChildMind.org

"What are the Big 5 Personality Traits" from VeryWellMind.com

"Why The Myers-Briggs test is totally meaningless" from Vox.com

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Let's not talk about James Dobson, for once! After spending 3 long episodes talking about the plague known as "purity culture", today Jake and Brooke explore what an actually healthy model of relationships and sexuality can look like. Be ready to hear the words "penis and vagina" a bunch of times.

Citations:

Braun-Harvey, D., & Vigorito, M. A. (2015). Treating out of control sexual behavior: Rethinking Sex Addiction. https://openlibrary.org/books/OL30396741M/Treating_out_of_control_sexual_behavior

Comprehensive sexuality education. (n.d.). https://www.who.int/news-room/questions-and-answers/item/comprehensive-sexuality-education

Green, P., Psy. D., & Penrod, J., LMFT. (n.d.). Sexual diversity, sex positivity, and kink.

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We back to finish out Dobson's confusing and upsetting book What Wives Wish Their Husbands Knew About Women. In episode 1 we covered women's top 4 problems (according to Dobson): low self-esteem; fatigue; loneliness, isolation, and boredom; and lack of romantic love in marriage. Today, we are covering the rest of them and trying to understand why Dobson thinks it's a great idea to trick a teenage girl into doing free manual labor for you. Gosh what a freak.

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I'm just as frustrated with this title as you are, I promise.

In this episode, Jake and Brooke talk about Dobson's feminist manifesto, What Wives Wish Their Husbands Knew About Women. I'm sure we are all so glad to have Dobson mansplain women's problems to us, I'm sure he's super insightful about it.

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In this episode, Jake and Brooke dive into Dobson's first book, Dare to Discipline, aka the reason you were spanked as a kid. And oh boy, Dobson comes out swinging in this one.

Content warning for: child abuse, violence, and overly long explanations of operant conditioning.

References and further reading:

• APA Resolution on Physical Discipline of Children By Parents (2019)
• "Physical discipline is harmful and ineffective" by Eve Glicksman for the APA's Monitor on Psychology, explaining the Resolution of Physical Discipline (2019)
• "The case against spanking" by Brendan L. Smith for the APA's Monitor on Psychology (2012)
• "The Research on Spanking and Its Implications for Intervention" by Elizabeth Gershoff, Ph.D. from the University of Texas at Austin
• "Fractioning Human Intelligence" by Adam Hampshire et al. (2012) in Neuron, complicating the oversimplistic understanding of intelligence as a singular variable (IQ)
• "The Bell Curve" by Shaun on Youtube (2020), analyzing how IQ has been, and continues to be, used by people to perpetuate white supremacy
• Engle v. Vitale explainer, and why it doesn't ban prayer in public schools the way Dobson claims it does.

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On this premiere episode, Jake and Brooke travel through the sordid history of Dr. James Dobson, clinical psychologist turned Evangelical figurehead. Join us as we begin to discover all of the many reasons why I hate James Dobson.

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Today we are reading our first non-Dob book, though unfortunately his spirit remains with us. This book will help you not become a childless cat lady or whatever, because it wants to tell you the right way to have a relationship. I'm sure things all check out this time and there's nothing bad in this episode at all.

Citations:

Joshua Harris’s apology: https://joshharris.com/a-statement-on/

No, kids weren’t starting to have sex earlier: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4011992/

Van Der Wyngaard, J (Director). (2018). “I Survived I Kissed Dating Goodbye” [Film]. DOCSology.

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Let's get into it, what an absolute nightmare. On this episode, Jake and Brooke break down what exactly 'purity culture' even means, down to its rotten roots. Horrifying histories, awful anecdotes, and blood-boiling beliefs abound in this one.

Citations (hyperlinks do not work on every platform)

About the AIDS quilt

Abstinence-Only-Until-Marriage Programs from Planned Parenthood

Can Antibiotics Affect My Birth Control? From Planned Parenthood by Attia

Purity Culture and Its Effect on Mental Health from VeryWellMind by John Loeppky

Rickabaugh, T (2022), Leaving Church, Learning Love: Experiences of Queer Women in Purity Culture. University of Missouri.

Sex and HIV Education (2023) from the Guttmacher Institute

The FAQs: What You Should Know about Purity Culture from TheGospelCoalition by Joe Carter

The Flaw at the Center of Purity Culture from The Atlantic by Angie Hong

The Impact of Christian Purity Culture is still being felt – including in Britian from TheConversation by Christabelle Thwaites

The Racist Link Between Purity Culture and Christian Nationalism and Why It Matters In Elections from Reckon.news by Anna Beahm:

What is Purity Culture from Lindakayklein.com

Why Nearly Every 2000s Disney Channel Star Wore a Purity Ring from Cracked.com by Carly Tennes

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James Dobson does it again: he wrote another book that makes me want to crawl out of my skin and die. The hits really don't stop coming, huh. This time, we are reading the toxic sludge known as "Bringing Up Girls". This is the start of a series about Purity Culture, the Evangelical philosophy that says holding hands is basically the same as having an affair (and both will earn you a scarlet A). Hold on to your lunches because this gets downright disgusting.

References:

“An Ecological Approach to Obesity and Eating Disorders. Chapter 10: Prevalence of Eating Disorders in Men versus Women.”

Randy Wilson’s Page on the FRC website

The Colorado law Dobson misconstrues so he can fear-monger about queer people

FotF Media Commitment (previously Covenant)

Why Abstinence Only Education suuuuucks

Dobson’s challenge

• Legkauskas, V., & Stankevičienė, D. (2009). Premarital sex and marital satisfaction of middle aged men and women: a study of married Lithuanian couples. Sex Roles, 60, 21-32.
• Legkauskas, V., & Jakovlevaitė, V. (2005). Rizikingo seksualinio studentų elgesio ir jų psichosocialinių savybių ryšys [Relationship between risky sex behaviors and psychosocial characteristics of students]. Psichologija, 32,35–46.
• Rochlen, A. B., McKelley, R. A., Suizzo, M. A., & Scaringi, V. (2008). Predictors of relationship satisfaction, psychological well-being, and life satisfaction among stay-at-home fathers. Psychology of Men & Masculinity, 9(1), 17.
• Levenson, R. W., & Gottman, J. M. (1985). Physiological and affective predictors of change in relationship satisfaction. Journal of personality and social psychology, 49(1), 85.
• DeClaire, J., & Gottman, J. M. (2001). The relationship cure: A five-step guide for building better connections with family, friends, and lovers. Crown Publishers.

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Let's get personal! On this episode, Jake takes Brooke and Jordan through his experience becoming an Evangelical in order to understand how anyone could get sucked into Dobson's obvious lies. We talk about everything from AWANA to Adventures in Odyssey, from bell choirs to Christian rock bands, from racist chipmunks to youth group lock-ins.

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