Explore every episode of the podcast How Work Actually Works
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| AI, Leader Burnout, and the New Grad Problem | Episode 20 | 14 Jul 2026 | 00:42:07 | |
Some episodes go deep on one idea. This one doesn't. For their 20th episode, Joe and KayLee try something different: a mixed bag of what people are actually wrestling with at work right now. AI. The manager role that keeps growing. And what it's like to be brand new in a job market that feels locked shut. In this episode of How Work Actually Works, Joe Marques and KayLee Hansen move fast across three topics that don't share a neat theme, except that everyone's thinking about them. On AI, they land on a simple truth: it can polish good thinking, but it will happily polish weak thinking too. Joe compares it to forging a blade. The AI can hone it and sharpen it, but you have to bring the raw material. KayLee shares the coaching prompts she uses to make it push back instead of just agreeing with her, including the one she now treats as the cheapest executive coach she's ever had. Then they turn to the manager who keeps getting handed more. More direct reports. More responsibility. The same paycheck. They name the quiet math behind it, why efficiency always has a cost, and why the strongest people watch their overloaded boss and decide they never want that job. Joe offers his sucks less theory for anyone stuck in the cycle. Finally, the entry-level door. Recent grads are facing unemployment well above the national average, and nearly half are working jobs that don't use their degree. KayLee reframes the whole entitled-generation complaint: it isn't entitlement, it's impatience, and those are different things. When everything in your life has been instant, being told a promotion is five years away feels impossible. The question isn't how to fix young people. It's whether the rest of us are willing to adapt. A few things to remember:
Key Takeaways:
Three topics, one thread. AI, overloaded managers, restless new grads. None of it gets better by reacting. It gets better when we slow down enough to think, and adapt. | |||
| Most Performance Problems Aren't People Problems | Episode 19 | 16 Jun 2026 | 00:39:36 | |
Most leaders think a performance problem is a people problem. Usually it isn't. It's a clarity problem. An environment problem. A leadership problem. The trick is knowing which one you're staring at before you start fixing the wrong thing. In this episode of How Work Actually Works, Joe Marques and KayLee Hansen take performance management apart and rebuild it as something useful. Not the annual review. Not picking a number on a five-point scale and delivering it in December. The real thing underneath it: why people thrive, why they stall, and why the score was never the point. KayLee brings the boat. A few people pull at the front, in sync, driving the whole thing forward. Most sit in the middle, paddling part of the time, capable of more if the conditions were there. A few sit at the back doing nothing, and some are rowing the other way. Here's the catch: most leaders pour 80% of their energy into the back of the boat and assume everyone else has it handled. Joe pushes back on the starting point itself. How do you even know where people sit? That's your score. It isn't the truth. So they work through three lenses worth checking before you label anyone: the conditions you set, the clarity you give, and the person in the seat. On conditions, they get into hiring for talent instead of a resume, whether the culture actually fits the person, and why you shouldn't pretend you're Disneyland in the interview when you're not. On clarity, Joe lands the bowling test: bowling tells you what a perfect game looks like from the first frame, so why does work feel like a mystery box you don't get to open until year end? And on the person, they separate competence from commitment. Some people can't. Some people won't, and the won't is a signal you haven't earned their best yet. KayLee tells the story of the high performer everyone saw walking out the door, except leadership. Joe shares the leader who rewrote every performance review around each person's style, changed not one word of content, and got a wave of feedback on how thoughtful she'd been. Same scores. Better experience. They also share a few simple ways to lead performance like it actually matters:
Because when you treat performance as a number to manage instead of a signal to read, you miss the talented person in the wrong seat, the top performer quietly burning out, and the hidden gem who's just waiting for a reason to row. Key Takeaways
Performance is a signal. Stop managing the score and start reading what it's pointing at. | |||
| The Three Selves and the One Worth Bringing to Work | Episode 18 | 02 Jun 2026 | 00:43:41 | |
Most of us don't say the real thing at work. We say the safe thing. The polished thing. The version that won't rock the boat. And the more we do it, the more the whole place starts to feel like theater. In this episode of How Work Actually Works, Joe Marques and KayLee Hansen take apart corporate theater: the language we hide behind every day, and the LinkedIn posts that put it on full display. All the world's a stage, Shakespeare wrote in 1599, and it still describes most workplaces. They start with the humble-brags, the four-year-old who somehow delivers profound business wisdom, and the everyday phrases we all lean on. Let's circle back. Let's take that offline. Great discussion. Sounds like we're aligned. Then they ask the harder question: why do we do it? The answer starts with threat. We seek safety and we feel threat, and our very old brain treats social risk the same as physical danger. Say the wrong thing and you might get left out, and somewhere deep down that still registers as a matter of survival. Joe and KayLee dig into the strange experiments that prove how strong this pull is: the waiting-room video where strangers stand up at a random beep for no reason at all, and the monkeys who keep enforcing a rule none of them remember learning. Every workplace runs on the same conditioning, a set of unwritten rules nobody hands you but everybody expects you to follow. From there they land on the heart of it: the three selves we carry. Your whole self is everything you are, and you don't bring that to work, or to most relationships. Your false self, the safe self, is the sanitized version that plays it safe and says the approved lines. Your best self sits in between: real, capable, willing to say the true thing and ask for help, edited by choice instead of fear. As KayLee puts it, the best self isn't the edited self, it's the chosen one. They also share a few simple ways to drop one layer of the act, starting today:
Because the cost of all this theater isn't just awkward meetings and cringey posts. It's a culture where nobody says what actually needs saying, and the real work never gets done. Key Takeaways
You don't need to bring your whole self to work. You need to bring your best self. The rest is just theater. | |||
| The 3 Coaching Questions Every Leader Should Steal | Episode 17 | 19 May 2026 | 00:41:56 | |
Most leaders think they’re coaching. But too often, they’re answering faster than people can learn. They solve the problem. They give the answer. They step in, clean it up, and wonder why everyone keeps bringing every decision back to them. In this episode of How Work Actually Works, Joe Marques and KayLee Hansen talk about what coaching actually looks like in real life, not as a buzzword, not as HR wallpaper, and definitely not as “grabbing people by the face mask and telling them what to do.” Yes, that story is real. They break down the difference between helping people and quietly creating dependency. Joe shares why leaders should ask before they tell, why “Have you thought about…” is usually advice pretending to be a question, and how good coaching helps people discover the answer without making them feel small. Joe and KayLee also get into the invisible tax of over-helping, why high performers often get ignored until something goes wrong, how delegation builds trust when it happens in stages, and why silence may be one of the most underrated leadership tools you have. And they leave you with three questions you can use immediately: What are you seeing that I’m not? Key Takeaways
Coaching is not about having the best answer. It’s about helping someone become more capable because of the conversation. | |||
| Four Beliefs That Shape a Culture | Episode 16 | 05 May 2026 | 00:35:09 | |
The same workforce. The same equipment. The same town. One system produced absenteeism, low quality, and a factory GM had to close. The other system produced GM's number one plant. What changed wasn't the people. It was what the people were allowed to do, allowed to say, and allowed to care about. In this episode of How Work Actually Works, Joe Marques and KayLee Hansen dig into the NUMMI story — the joint venture where Toyota reopened a shuttered GM factory in Northern California with the same workforce GM had given up on — and use it to surface four beliefs that quietly shape any healthy culture. People are thinkers, not just a pair of hands. Problems are discussable, not buried. People care about the outcome, not just their piece. The system is built for learning, not blame. They walk through what each belief looks like when it's real, and what it looks like when it's faked. KayLee tells the story of pushing back on a two-week training rollout, winning six months instead, and building the program with the people who'd actually use it — to a waitlist. Joe makes the case for why he'd have killed his own executive program if leadership had cut the coaching. They get into the buried Gallup survey, the militant manager whose terrified team gives him perfect scores, and Marilyn's pocketful of coins — start the day with coins in your left pocket, move one to your right every time you catch someone doing something well. They also tackle why installing a yellow cord doesn't matter if pulling it gets you fired, why "what happens in the five seconds after someone names a problem" tells you everything about a team's safety, and why surveys keep failing the cultures they're supposed to measure. And yes — there's a horse named Salty who was a saint in the big pen and a menace in the small one. You'll understand. Key Takeaways
Same people. Different system. Everything changes. | |||
| You Don’t Need More Time. You Need Better Choices. | Episode 15 | 21 Apr 2026 | 00:41:58 | |
Most people who say they do not have enough time are not really talking about time. It happens slowly. In this episode of How Work Actually Works, Joe Marques and KayLee Hansen take on a question that came straight from a listener: how do you actually get more time back in your week? Their answer is simple, but not simplistic. This usually is not a time management problem. It is a choice problem. They break the conversation into three practical areas: protecting your time, delegating in a way that actually works, and planning proactively instead of living in constant reaction. Along the way, they challenge some of the usual advice people hear but rarely find useful. Joe talks about the value of protecting time before it disappears, whether that means blocking work time on purpose, shortening meetings, or creating harder boundaries around when work is allowed to enter your life. KayLee brings in the role of energy, making the case that managing your time well also means knowing when you are at your best and when certain kinds of work are more likely to drain you. They also dig into delegation in a more honest way than most workplace conversations do. Delegation is not just dumping work on someone else or getting things off your plate. Done well, it builds capability. Done badly, it creates confusion, frustration, and a task that keeps boomeranging back to the leader. Joe and KayLee talk through why delegation often fails, what leaders need to clarify up front, and why letting go does not have to be all or nothing. And in the final part of the conversation, they look at proactive planning. Not as a productivity hack, but as a way to stop living at the mercy of urgency. They explore why so many people confuse being busy with being effective, how status and crisis can become addictive, and why important things like relationships, health, and real priorities often get pushed aside until they become urgent the hard way. They also share a few practical ideas leaders and professionals can use right now, including:
Because the problem is not always that there are not enough hours in the day. Key Takeaways
You do not get your time back by squeezing more into the day. | |||
| The People-First Sales Leader | Episode 14 | 07 Apr 2026 | 00:42:00 | |
Most sales teams are built on pressure. Hit the number. Check the pipeline. Watch the leaderboard. And when the numbers slip, push harder. But what if pushing harder is exactly what's breaking the team? In this episode of How Work Actually Works, Joe Marques and KayLee Hansen sit down with Graham Nordin, VP of Business Development and Sales at Latitude Wines, a leader with 18 years of progressive leadership across the U.S., Canada, Europe, and the UK. Graham has built and rebuilt high-performing sales teams across industries and borders, and he's done it by leading with people first, not performance metrics first. Graham makes the case that leaders can hold a high standard and still be deeply invested in the people doing the work. He calls it separating standard from style: the targets don't change, but how you help someone get there can be flexible, personal, and human. He shares the story of being promoted to lead the very team he was on, calling the most senior person first, and what happened when he said the six words most new leaders are afraid to say: I can't do this without you. Joe and KayLee dig into what happens when the leader above you doesn't lead this way, how to manage up without putting yourself at risk, and why the old leaderboard culture of who's winning and who's losing misses everything that actually drives long-term results. Graham challenges the idea that focusing on outcomes is the fastest path to outcomes, arguing that training the process and uncovering friction is what builds teams that sustain. They also explore what it really takes to make the shift from top performer to leader, why that transition is one of the biggest gaps in leadership development today, and how the move from execution to empowerment changes everything about the way a team operates. Key Takeaways
People don't perform for pressure. They perform for people who see them, believe in them, and build something worth showing up for. | |||
| Three Reasons People Stay (or Don't) | Episode 13 | 24 Mar 2026 | 00:35:03 | |
People don’t stay because of one big thing. And they usually don’t leave because of one big thing either. They stay, or start to drift, based on three everyday experiences at work: Do I feel seen here? Do I feel like I belong here? Am I still growing here? In this episode of How Work Actually Works, Joe Marques and KayLee Hansen break down the three human conditions that shape whether people stay connected to the work or slowly start checking out: being seen, belonging, and growth. They explore what each one really means in practice, how leaders tend to overestimate how well they’re doing, and why people often begin leaving internally long before they ever resign. Joe unpacks why being seen is about more than recognition. It’s about knowing someone’s strengths, understanding what energizes and drains them, and caring enough to see the person behind the output. KayLee reflects on how even small moments of being remembered can change the way someone shows up and why people work harder when they feel genuinely known. They also dig into belonging as something deeper than inclusion on paper. It’s the feeling of being part of something, being trusted, being included in decisions, and knowing the team has your back. They talk about what happens when that kind of leader leaves, how quickly belonging can collapse, and why connected teams can handle hard conversations better than disconnected ones. And on growth, they challenge the usual organizational clichés. Growth is not just access to training or a list of courses. It’s whether the work is stretching you, whether someone sees what’s possible in you, and whether development is built into the work itself rather than pushed off to personal time. They also share a few practical ideas leaders can use right now, including:
Because retention doesn’t start when someone gives notice. It starts much earlier, in the daily experience of whether this place still feels like somewhere I matter. Key Takeaways
People stay where they feel known, connected, and still becoming. | |||
| 3 Trade-Offs People Make When Trust Is Gone | Episode 12 | 10 Mar 2026 | 00:40:12 | |
When trust breaks down, people don't just disengage. They adapt. They go quiet in meetings, cc: six people on every email, and stop asking questions they actually need answered. They trade truth for peace, ownership for CYA, and curiosity for safety — not because they're weak, but because they're surviving. In this episode of How Work Actually Works, Joe Marques and KayLee Hansen unpack what happens when people stop feeling safe at work — and the invisible trade-offs that follow. Joe shares a metaphor that hit him after two friends described their breaking points: a frozen lake in springtime, where every step feels uncertain and the only goal is not falling through. They break down each trade-off — why people stop speaking up, why "just confirming" emails multiply like rabbits, and why no one admits they don't know something. Joe tells the story of the McDonald's CEO whose team let him post a cringe-worthy burger video because nobody felt safe enough to say don't. KayLee shares a technique where she handed out job descriptions from other departments and told her team to solve problems as if they were the CFO. They also get into the parking lot moment — that gut-check when you turn off your car and stare in the rearview mirror, rehearsing how to survive another day. And why that feeling is the clearest signal a leader could ever get. Key Takeaways
Trust isn't a value on the wall. It's what people feel in the parking lot. | |||
| Why You Should Facilitate, Not Present | Episode 11 | 24 Feb 2026 | 00:44:07 | |
Most meetings follow the same script. Someone builds a deck, reads the slides, asks "any questions?" at the end, and calls it a success if nobody pushes back. But getting through your slides isn't the same as getting through to your audience. In this episode of How Work Actually Works, Joe Marques and KayLee Hansen break down the real difference between presenting and facilitating — and why borrowing even a few facilitation tactics can transform your next meeting from a monologue into a conversation that actually moves things forward. They cover why presentations feel safe (and how that safety works against you), what happens in your brain when someone takes you off-script, and why the most powerful thing you can do in front of a room is stop talking. KayLee shares her go-to questions for creating engagement on the spot, and Joe explains why the order you ask those questions matters more than most people realize. They also get into the practical stuff: where to stand, how to handle silence without panicking, what to do when someone gives you the wrong answer, and why "what questions do you have?" works better than "any questions?" Whether you're leading a team meeting next Tuesday or presenting to senior leadership, this episode gives you small shifts that make a big difference. Key Takeaways
Your slides aren't the point. The room is. | |||
| 5 Invisible Threats You're Creating at Work | Episode 10 | 10 Feb 2026 | 00:40:35 | |
Every interaction moves people in one of two directions. Toward threat. Or toward safety. Most leaders don't set out to put their people on the defensive. But it happens anyway—in the meeting where someone gets publicly corrected, in the rumor that goes unaddressed, in the project that went to someone else without explanation. In this episode of How Work Actually Works, Joe Marques and KayLee Hansen break down the SCARF model—a neuroscience-backed framework developed by David Rock and the NeuroLeadership Institute that explains both why people shut down and what makes them come alive. They walk through all five drivers—Status, Certainty, Autonomy, Relatedness, and Fairness—exploring what puts people on guard and what creates reward. Joe shares a brutal story about a leader who told employees their location was like "the company's right arm"...weeks before security showed up and the whole place was eliminated. KayLee brings a legendary Ritz-Carlton story about a room attendant who booked a plane ticket to Hawaii just to hand-deliver a guest's forgotten laptop. They also tackle the return-to-office tension, why "connect before you lead" matters more than proving you earned the promotion, and what happens when fairness gets confused with equality. And yes—there's a cutout face taped to a conference phone. You'll understand. Key Takeaways
People are always scanning for threat or safety. You choose which one you create. | |||
| Reframe, Don't Reset | Episode 9 | 27 Jan 2026 | 00:38:47 | |
There's a difference between resetting and reframing. Most organizations treat a new year or new quarter like a magic eraser—turn the page, set new goals, pretend last year's struggles disappeared. But people don't forget what they experienced just because the calendar changed. And that "fresh start" energy? It often feels more performative than real. In this episode of How Work Actually Works, Joe Marques and KayLee Hansen challenge the pressure-filled rituals of goal-setting and explore what it actually takes to build momentum that lasts. They unpack why clarity beats speed, how trust erodes fastest under pressure, and what happens when leaders confuse a beautiful plan with real progress. Joe shares a story about flipping engagement planning on its head—putting it in employees' hands instead of leaders'—and what his team reflected back that he'd never seen himself. KayLee brings the sports analogies (Blue Jays heartbreak included) and a square dancing reference you didn't know you needed. They also introduce the "15 Minute December Look Back"—a simple exercise that helps teams define what a great year actually feels like before it's already over. Whether you're in a final push or staring down a fresh planning cycle, this episode offers a different way to approach goal-setting—one that honors what happened and focuses on what actually matters. Key Takeaways
Better years don't start with turning the page. They start with telling the truth about what's already written. | |||
| 5 Questions That Make People Feel Seen at Work | Episode 8 | 13 Jan 2026 | 00:39:44 | |
There's a difference between being watched and being seen. In this episode of How Work Actually Works, Joe Marques and KayLee Hansen explore five practical questions that help leaders move from surveillance to connection. These are the kinds of questions that shift one-on-ones from status updates to real conversations—and create the conditions where trust and engagement can actually grow. KayLee shares her “magic questions” approach, including the story of the Hot Wheels Lamborghinis and why knowing someone’s exact coffee order matters more than most leaders realize. Joe adds perspective on why recognition often misses the mark, how motivation goes deeper than money, and why the first, polished answer people give is rarely the real one—until you slow down and dig a little deeper. They also talk about how to introduce this approach without it feeling performative or forced—especially if this isn’t how you’ve led before. Whether you’re a new manager or a seasoned leader looking to reset how you connect with your team, this episode gives you questions you can use immediately. Key Takeaways
Better leadership doesn’t start with better answers. It starts with better questions. | |||
| What Makes People Want to Follow You | Episode 7 | 30 Dec 2025 | 00:35:37 | |
What actually makes people want to follow a leader? In this episode of How Work Actually Works, Joe Marques and KayLee Hansen break leadership down to its simplest—and most misunderstood—ingredients. Using an unexpectedly sticky metaphor (apple pie), they explore why leadership isn’t about confidence, competence, or ambition alone—and why those traits, without something deeper, often fall flat. They unpack a practical “recipe” for real leadership:
Along the way, they challenge common leadership myths, talk candidly about fake care and performative humility, and share real workplace stories that show how trust is actually built—or quietly broken. You’ll leave with:
Simple ingredients. No shortcuts. And no cinnamon-by-the-cup mistakes. | |||
| Change People Choose (with Tria Deibert) | Episode 6 | 16 Dec 2025 | 00:38:57 | |
What happens when you stop trying to fix what's broken and start building on what works? In our first guest episode, Joe and KayLee welcome Tria Deibert, SVP of Culture and Team Member Wellbeing at Hackensack Meridian Health—and one of the most authentic leaders we know. Tria shares how she went from marketing executive to culture architect (with plenty of imposter syndrome along the way), and why she scrapped the consultant "market shaper" language in favor of words that actually sound like real humans at work. You'll hear about:
This conversation is proof that when you focus on what works, involve people in shaping the future, and lead with heart, culture shifts. And when culture shifts, everything else follows. | |||
| The Six Things That Make Culture Actually Work | Episode 5 | 02 Dec 2025 | 00:54:29 | |
Episode 5 opens with a surprise: Joe reveals the first physical proof copies of The Unmasking: Why We Hide and How We Find What’s Real—the moment the book finally becomes real (coming to Amazon December 9th) From there, Joe and KayLee dive into what the data finally proves about people and profit, including the 17-year Irrational Capital study showing how “culture-first” companies significantly outperform the S&P 500. Then they break culture down into something practical and usable—not a perk, not a poster, not a pizza party—but a practice. They walk through the six conditions every team needs if they want a culture that actually works:
Expect real stories (the Quad, potato projectiles, crappy computer mice), practical examples, and their new “Triple T” closing: a trio of Tips, Tactics, and Tools you can take back to work tomorrow. If you’ve ever wondered what truly creates sustained performance—and what kills it—this one’s worth a listen. | |||
| The MASK Framework™: Why We Hold Back at Work | Episode 4 | 18 Nov 2025 | 00:42:50 | |
Most teams aren’t quiet because they lack ideas — they’re quiet because they’ve learned it isn’t safe to speak. In this episode, Joe and KayLee dig into the MASK Framework™ — the four protection patterns people carry into work without even realizing it: Muting, Approval-Seeking, Security-Driven behavior, and the Kryptonite we hide to avoid looking weak. They break down why smart people hold back, how leaders accidentally teach teams to stay silent, and the small shifts that reopen trust — including the “Thank You AND” move that changed how one team handled ideas. If you’ve ever walked out of a meeting and heard the real opinions afterward, this episode explains why. | |||
| The False Choice: Why Profit and People Aren’t Enemies | Episode 3 | 12 Nov 2025 | 00:40:36 | |
For decades, leaders have been told to choose: results or relationships, performance or people. It’s a lie. In this episode, Joe and KayLee dismantle that false choice. From Bob Chapman’s “touch lives” philosophy to the cautionary tales of Wells Fargo, Uber, and the bankrupt studio behind Life of Pi, they show how success built only on metrics collapses — and how culture built only on heart can’t last. Then they reveal the bridge: the 3Cs of Authentic Leadership — Clarity, Connection, and Collaboration — and the real-world stories that prove it works. | |||
| The Unmasking: Vulnerability, Reinvention & Being Real | Episode 2 | 12 Nov 2025 | 00:38:47 | |
In this intimate conversation, KayLee Hansen turns the mic toward Joe Marques to explore the story behind his forthcoming book The Unmasking — Why We Hide and How We Find What’s Real. Joe opens up about the health scare that changed his life — and the five versions of his manuscript that taught him clarity doesn’t make life easier, it makes it unavoidable. Together, they unpack masks, mirrors, self-forgiveness, and the moment you stop pretending and start living. | |||
| Why We Started “How Work Actually Works” | Episode 1 | 12 Nov 2025 | 00:26:31 | |
Work is broken — and we’re here to talk about how to fix it. In this first episode, Joe Marques (Founder & Chief Creative Officer, Authentic Unlimited) and KayLee Hansen (Senior Director of Culture & Client Experience) share how their friendship, philosophy, and frustration with traditional “leadership talk” turned into a podcast about what really makes work work. From skeptical first meetings to the moments that shaped their purpose, this is the story behind Work Made Human™ — and what happens when two people decide to build something real. | |||
| How Work Actually Works | Trailer | 11 Nov 2025 | 00:01:35 | |
Welcome to How Work Actually Works. Most people talk about how work should work. We're here to talk about how it actually works—the good, the messy, and what it takes to make it better. Join Joe Marques and KayLee Hansen of Authentic Unlimited for real conversations about leadership, culture, and what happens when you stop treating people and profit like competing priorities. Turns out, when you lead with authenticity and actually care about the humans in your organization, both thrive. No corporate jargon. No bullshit. Just decades of experience helping organizations get this right. If you're skeptical that any of this "soft stuff" actually works in the real world, good—we love skeptics. 🎧 New episodes every two weeks. Work Made Human™ | |||