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| 107: the Revolution of Reinvention | 20 nov. 2024 | 00:12:52 | |
In this episode, we explore the art of personal reinvention — what it means to choose change on your own terms and imagine new possibilities for your life. Reinvention is more than self-discovery; it’s the training ground for transforming the world. Apply to UNscript here. Download the transcript here. Connect with laura about the episode here. Become a patreon of the podcast here. | |||
| 106: Self, Family, and Organizational Care During Election Week [Bonus Episode] | 28 oct. 2024 | 00:11:26 | |
| 105: The Costs of Courage | 21 oct. 2024 | 00:23:31 | |
We rarely confront the true costs of courage—social, emotional, physical, personal, professional. This episode unpacks why, despite the steep price, courage is worth the choice for personal and collective liberation—helping you understand the cost and truly consent to it. Download the transcript here. Connect with laura about the episode here. Become a patreon of the podcast here. Leave a review on itunes by scrolling down a little futher. We appreciate it! | |||
| 104: Love-Ability | 30 sept. 2024 | 00:15:46 | |
Loveability is a mess. But love-ability? Now we're talking. Tune in to hear why shifting from "loveability" to "love-ability" might change your life, and the world around us. Download the transcript here. Connect with laura about the episode here. Become a patreon of the podcast here. Leave a review on itunes by scrolling down a little futher. We appreciate it! | |||
| 103: “I needed to understand – why do you believe these things?” (ft. Jada Hebra) | 17 sept. 2024 | 00:49:21 | |
How do we love people we really, really disagree with? Join today's guest Jada Hebra to hear her personal story of crossing a giant divide with her spouse. As the election cycle heats up and divides between people are more inflammed than ever before, this conversation is a must-listen –– especially for those who want to practice rehumanizing our culture and our relationships. Fun things to click🌟: Watch Jada's TEDx talk here. Check out Jada's suggested resources and/or download the transcript of this conversation here. Connect with laura about the episode here. Become a patreon of the podcast here. Leave a review on itunes by scrolling down a little futher. We appreciate it! | |||
| 102: Celebrating 5 Years of Making Love | 26 août 2024 | 00:13:19 | |
Happy Birthday/Anniversary to How To Make Love! 🎈 We're back after an extended sabbatical and ready to take on more making of the love, justice, courage, and other important things listeners value. Hear laura share what's been up, and what's getting going. Connect with laura – leave a speakpipe here or send an email here. Transcripts – You can download written transcripts, share them, copy/paste those reflection questions, or read along while you listen. Check out this episode's transcript here. Want to give a little love back to How To Make Love? ❤️ Become a patreon of the podcast. Read More | |||
| Minisode: Winter Love | 30 nov. 2023 | 00:05:53 | |
The winter can pose unique challenges and opportunities to our practice of making love, courage, justice, and liberation. Tune in for a couple of things to remember and consider as you move through the world this winter. Want to give a little love back to How To Make Love? Become a patreon of the podcast. | |||
| 101: The Feelings of Freedom | 30 oct. 2023 | 00:12:12 | |
There's the idea of freedom and the somatics of freedom. Today's episode tackles how and why we should learn to cultivate the sensations of freedom in our bodies. Welcome. New Feature Alert! Transcripts! We've added episode transcripts to our website (ps: we have a new website, too)! Now you can download written transcripts, share them, copy/paste those reflection questions, or read along while you listen. Check out this episode's transcript here. Want to give a little love back to How To Make Love? Become a patreon of the podcast. | |||
| 100: Welcome to My/Your Crisis | 30 sept. 2023 | 00:15:39 | |
Who's ready for a mid-life crisis?! Me! You? Come on in for a lovingly honest and personal conversation about those feelings of falling apart –– midlife, or any other time. New Feature Alert! Transcripts! We've added episode transcripts to our website (ps: we have a new website, too)! Now you can download written transcripts, share them, copy/paste those reflection questions, or read along while you listen. Check out this episode's transcript here. Want to give a little love back to How To Make Love? Become a patreon of the podcast. | |||
| 99: UNcontrol | 31 août 2023 | 00:10:18 | |
Ethic. Process. Aspiration. Practice. Come learn what else UNcontrol is and means and why we should engage it in the work of personal and collective freedom. New Feature Alert! Transcripts! We've added episode transcripts to our website (ps: we have a new website, too)! Now you can download written transcripts, share them, copy/paste those reflection questions, or read along while you listen. Check out this episode's transcript here. Want to give a little love back to How To Make Love? Become a patreon of the podcast. | |||
| 98: "Relationships are what have rescued me." (ft. Alli Myatt) | 31 juil. 2023 | 00:41:33 | |
Belonging. Repair. Lines of difference. Today, guest Alli Myatt and I discuss radical relationships — especially at work. What makes them hard, what makes them complex, and what makes them beautiful. AND the things we need to unlearn so we can be in radical relationship with one another. Plus, a 🔥🔥🔥 book/resource list you don't want to miss out on here. New Feature Alert: Transcripts! We've added episode transcripts to our website. Now you can download written transcripts, share them, copy/paste those reflection questions, or read along while you listen. Check out this episode's transcript here. Want to give a little love back to How To Make Love? Become a patreon of the podcast. | |||
| 97: How To Be A Good Loser | 31 mai 2023 | 00:15:27 | |
Becoming a bad winner and a good loser is ... a little counterintuitive, to say the least. Learn how and why in this episode. And what all of that has to do with our collective and personal practice of liberation. New Feature Alert! Transcripts! We've added episode transcripts to our website (ps: we have a new website, too)! Now you can download written transcripts, share them, copy/paste those reflection questions, or read along while you listen. Check out this episode's transcript here. Want to give a little love back to How To Make Love? Become a patreon of the podcast. | |||
| 96: UNperforming | 28 avr. 2023 | 00:11:32 | |
We all perform. We've all been socialized to perform. And: none of us are truly free in a performance. Today's episode will take you into the what, why, how of performance and assimilation, and leave you with reflection questions for your healing and UNperforming. New Feature Alert! Transcripts! We've added episode transcripts to our website (ps: we have a new website, too)! Now you can download written transcripts, share them, copy/paste those reflection questions, or read along while you listen. Check out this episode's transcript here. Want to give a little love back to How To Make Love? Become a patreon of the podcast. | |||
| 95: "I didn't understand the toll that survivalism took on my Self." (ft. Chrystal Toop) | 31 mars 2023 | 00:40:35 | |
The path of healing is paved in UNlearning. In today's episode, we'll hear examples of what there may be to UNlearn and how that UNlearning has played out in our guest's life. Featuring the incredible storyteller and doula Chrystal Toop, we take a journey survivalism, enoughness, wholeness, and healing. All through the lens of what there is for each of us – for all of us – to UNlearn. New Feature Alert! Transcripts! We've added episode transcripts to our website (ps: we have a new website, too)! Now you can download written transcripts, share them, copy/paste those reflection questions, or read along while you listen. The transcript and other resources from this episode can be found here. Want to give a little love back to How To Make Love? Become a patreon of the podcast. | |||
| 94: "You can’t create without breaking something." (ft. Oceana Sawyer) | 28 févr. 2023 | 00:32:33 | |
There is bracing. And there is breaking. In today’s episode, learn why the latter is so essential to healing, to liberation, and to creation. Featuring the amazing liminalist Oceana Sawyer, this is a conversation about what we gain when we “lose” (control, fear, conditioning…), and what can be received only when we truly open. New Feature Alert! Transcripts! We've added episode transcripts to our website (ps: we have a new website, too)! Now you can download written transcripts, share them, copy/paste those reflection questions, or read along while you listen. The transcript and other resources from this episode can be found here. Want to give a little love back to How To Make Love? Become a patreon of the podcast. | |||
| 93: How To Think | 31 janv. 2023 | 00:11:51 | |
What's the thing that: a) humans do constantly, b) shapes our life in resounding ways, and c) we're never taught how to do? –– think. Our thoughts can be assets or liabilities in our life, and laura shares 5 tips in this episode to help all of us think a little better. New Feature Alert! Transcripts! We've added episode transcripts to our website (ps: we have a new website, too)! Now you can download written transcripts, share them, copy/paste those reflection questions, or read along while you listen. Check out this episode's transcript here. Want to give a little love back to How To Make Love? Become a patreon of the podcast. | |||
| 92: 5 Essential Skills for Practicing Justice | 30 nov. 2022 | 00:13:50 | |
What––for you––is the single most essential skill or tool right now in your practice of justice?––love?––courage? That's the question the podcast will invite a whole new suit of guests to share and explore in the coming new year. laura kicks us off with her own reflections to the question, and her answers may surprise you. New Feature Alert! Transcripts! We've added episode transcripts to our website! Now you can download written transcripts, share them, copy/paste those reflection questions, or read along while you listen. Check out this episode's transcript here. | |||
| 91: Consent As A Way of Being | 31 oct. 2022 | 00:20:39 | |
When we learn to think of consent as a way of being and a practice in ALL domains of our life, we expand the work of justice, liberation, and love. Join laura for a discussion about why we should think about embodying consent across all our life, how to deepen our practice of consent when making requests of others, and how to deepen our embodiment of consent when saying yes/no/maybe. We'll also talk about the direct link between consent and anti-oppression/anti-racism. And of course, there's reflection questions for you too. New Feature Alert! Transcripts! We've added episode transcripts to our website! Now you can download written transcripts, share them, copy/paste those reflection questions, or read along while you listen. Check out this episode's transcript here. | |||
| 90: Scarcity | 29 sept. 2022 | 00:22:51 | |
Sometimes called 'scarcity thinking,' laura breaks down and reframes the notion of scarcity – what is is, where it comes from, and how to heal it. Tune in for concrete suggestions, reflection questions, and tools for healing scarcity all through a lens of equity. While this episode is designed for individuals, it's also applicaple to teams and organizations struggling with scarcity orientation. New Feature Alert! Transcripts! We've added episode transcipts to our website! Now you can download written transcipts, share them, copy/paste those reflection questions, or read along while you listen. Check out this episode's transcript here. [Hyperlink] Want to engage more?
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| 89: How To Make (Dis) Ease | 30 août 2022 | 00:15:49 | |
Join laura for a conversation about how we make ease and how we erode ease in our personal relationships. Plus, we'll look at some common culprits (personal responsibility, thoughts, and feelings) that can create generate an unhealthy sense of urgency and chip away at ease. That and much more! New Feature Alert! Transcripts! We've added episode transcipts to our website! Now you can download written transcipts, share them, copy/paste those reflection questions, or read along while you listen. Check out this episode's transcript here. Want to engage more?
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| 88: The Shadow Side of Purpose | 28 juil. 2022 | 00:13:46 | |
Purpose can be a guiding light. It can also be a dark shadow. But we rarely talk about the latter. We explore that conversation in this episode. | |||
| 87: Freedom From The Inside-Out | 30 juin 2022 | 00:13:37 | |
We can value freedom. We can treat it as an outcome. Or. And: we can train in making it our way of BEing. Resources from the podcast: Read My Grandmother's Hands, by Resma Menakem. Send laura a question from the episode. Love How To Make Love? Return the love by writing a review on iTunes or joining our incredible inside supporters on Patreon. ❤️ | |||
| 86: How To Hold Your Bits Responsibly | 05 mai 2022 | 00:14:42 | |
No part of you is bad. And also: some of your bits likely create harm in the world. Find out why, how, and what to do about it. Send laura a question from the episode. Love How To Make Love? Return the love by writing a review on iTunes or joining our incredible inside supporters on Patreon. ❤️ | |||
| 85: How To Judge Other People | 19 avr. 2022 | 00:12:53 | |
😮 Since we all judge other people, let's be sure we understand the whats, whys, and hows of it. Especially the hows that connect us to oppressive ways of being in the world so that we can operate – and judge – with more critical consciousness, more compassion, and less harm. Episode Resources: Send laura a question from the episode. Love How To Make Love? Return the love by writing a review on iTunes or joining our incredible inside supporters on Patreon. ❤️ | |||
| 84: How To Be Selfish | 30 mars 2022 | 00:17:34 | |
Most of us consider selfishness a bad thing...but what if that's an oppressive lie? Episode Resources: Reflection Questions:
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| Listener Question Minisode: feeling vs. inflaming emotions | 16 mars 2022 | 00:05:41 | |
laura tackles a listener question from episode 82: "How can you personally tell the difference between feeling an emotion and inflaming an emotion?"
Do you have questions from any of the episodes? Let laura know here: https://www.speakpipe.com/laurabrewer
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| 83: Consensual Expectations | 28 févr. 2022 | 00:22:27 | |
High expectations can be helpful -- and they can create harm. For ourselves, and for others. How do we know the difference? What can be done to mitigate the harm? All in today's episode.
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Access the show notes page here: www.laurabrewer.love/episode83 | |||
| 82: How To Feel Like Sh*t | 08 févr. 2022 | 00:18:50 | |
Let's talk about the importance of feeling emotional pain and "negative" emotion in both our lives and in the work of justice. In this episode, you'll learn ways to feel sh*tty -- better.
Access the show notes page here: www.laurabrewer.love/episode82
Love How To Make Love? Return the love by writing a review on iTunes or joining our incredible inside supporters on Patreon. ❤️ https://www.patreon.com/howtomakelove
If you'd like to work with laura 1:1 to build a radical practice of feeling all your feelings and rehumanizing the world around you, you can do that here. | |||
| 81: How To Be Alive | 18 janv. 2022 | 00:15:28 | |
Join host laura as we dig into the whats, whys, and hows of aliveness. What prevents us from being and feeling alive? What helps us be and feel alive?
Access the show notes page here: www.laurabrewer.love/episode81
Questions from the episode for reflection:
Love How To Make Love? Return the love by writing a review on iTunes or joining our incredible inside supporters on Patreon. ❤️ https://www.patreon.com/howtomakelove
If you'd like to work with laura 1:1 to build a radical practice of aliveness, you can do that here. | |||
| 80: BEing Gentle | 11 janv. 2022 | 00:14:24 | |
Access the show notes page here: www.laurabrewer.love/episode80
Love How To Make Love? Return the love by writing a review on iTunes or joining our incredible inside supporters on Patreon. ❤️ https://www.patreon.com/howtomakelove
If you'd like to work with Laura 1:1 to build a radical practice of gentleness, you can do that here. | |||
| thank you ❤️ | 21 déc. 2021 | 00:01:31 | |
Thank you times a million. I'll see you for episode 80 in the new year. love. laura | |||
| 79: Your Own Adversary | 30 nov. 2021 | 00:12:21 | |
Do you have your own back? Would you like to?
If you'd like to explore working with laura to build a radical practice of self compassion, you can do that here.
You can find the show notes page: www.laurabrewer.love/episode79
Love How To Make Love? You can return the love by writing a review on iTunes or joining our incredible inside supporters on Patreon. ❤️
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| 78: Impact > Intensity | 16 nov. 2021 | 00:12:34 | |
We've all heard of 'intent vs. impact' -- but how are 'intensity' and 'impact' related? And does our intensity produce the impact we mean to have?
If you'd like to explore working with laura to change your life's impact or your life's intensity, you can do that here.
You can find the show notes page: www.laurabrewer.love/episode78
Love How To Make Love? You can return the love by writing a review on iTunes or joining our incredible inside supporters on Patreon. ❤️
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| 77: Listener Love Pick -- "Pleasure is at the heart of understanding how to get free." (ft. adrienne maree brown) | 26 oct. 2021 | 00:51:03 | |
It's another listener love pick!--a listener-selected replay episode while we take a short October hiatus.
Join guest adrienne maree brown for a conversation about learning to make pleasure, science fiction, and freedom. And how they're all tied together. adrienne is a writer, social justice facilitator, pleasure activist, healer and doula living in North Carolina. She is also the cohost of the How to Survive the End of the World podcast.
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| 76: Listener Love Pick -- "Do you love this person enough to be yourself & also change yourself?" (ft. Yolonda & Will Jones) | 19 oct. 2021 | 00:56:41 | |
It's the first ever listening love pick!--a listener selected replay episode while we take a short October hiatus. Join former guest Yolonda Coles Jones and her partner Will Jones for a frank discussion about making partnership, freedom, intimacy, conscious parenting, and raising free children. Will and Yolonda are both entrepreneurs, home-based educators, and the curators of The Real Life Joneses. Welcome to a conversation about making love and justice through practicing intimacy and freedom.
Find links to all of the resources from today's conversation at: https://www.laurabrewer.love/episode47 Love How To Make Love? You can give a little love back by writing a review on iTunes or joining our incredible inside supporters on Patreon. ❤️
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| 75: Well-Resourced vs. Not Depleted | 30 sept. 2021 | 00:12:25 | |
In today's episode, we will:
If you'd like to explore working with laura to create a deep, permanent sense of being well-resourced, you can do that here.
You can find the show notes page: www.laurabrewer.love/episode75
Love How To Make Love? You can return the love by writing a review on iTunes or joining our incredible inside supporters on Patreon. ❤️
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| 74: How To Courage | 16 sept. 2021 | 00:16:31 | |
In today's episode, we will:
If you'd like to learn more about laura's 100 days of courage program, you can do that here.
You can find more info on the show notes page: www.laurabrewer.love/episode74
Love How To Make Love? You can return the love by writing a review on iTunes or joining our incredible inside supporters on Patreon. ❤️
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| 73: How To Feel Overwhelmed | 26 août 2021 | 00:14:43 | |
Must of us don't feel overwhelm, we think overwhelm. Learn the difference in today's episode, and why it matters.
You can find more info on the show notes page: www.laurabrewer.love/episode73
Love How To Make Love? You can return the love by writing a review on iTunes or joining our incredible inside supporters on Patreon. ❤️
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| 72: Love On Your Terms | 17 août 2021 | 00:09:33 | |
Join laura for a discussion about the importance of defining and making love for yourself.
You can find more info on the show notes page: www.laurabrewer.love/episode72
Love How To Make Love? You can return the love by writing a review on iTunes or joining our incredible inside supporters on Patreon. ❤️
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| 71: Imposter Syndrome | 29 juil. 2021 | 00:15:46 | |
Join laura for a discussion about what imposter syndrome is, how it uses and connects to oppression, and four strategies to heal it.
You can find more info on the show notes page: www.laurabrewer.love/episode71
Love How To Make Love? You can return the love by writing a review on iTunes or joining our incredible inside supporters on Patreon. ❤️
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| 69: How To Take Up Space (Without Causing Harm) | 29 juin 2021 | 00:11:10 | |
Join host laura brewer for a discussion about what we mean by 'taking up space,' why that's historically harmful, and 5 concrete whys/hows on learning to take space as a practice of liberation and wholeness.
You can find more info on the show notes page: www.laurabrewer.love/episode69
Love How To Make Love? You can return the love by writing a review on iTunes or joining our incredible inside supporters on Patreon. ❤️
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| 68: Wholeness | 17 juin 2021 | 00:13:59 | |
Join host laura brewer for an exploration of wholeness as a noun and a verb.
You can find a summary of the episode on the show notes page: www.laurabrewer.love/episode68
Love How To Make Love? You can return the love by writing a review on iTunes or joining our incredible inside supporters on Patreon. ❤️
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| 67: Decolonizing Desire | 31 mai 2021 | 00:12:15 | |
Join host laura brewer as she explains how learning to hear and validate our desire can be a practice of love and justice.
You can find a summary of the episode on the show notes page: www.laurabrewer.love/episode67
Love How To Make Love? You can return the love by writing a review on iTunes or joining our incredible inside supporters on Patreon. ❤️
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| 66: Life-Changing Lessons | 11 mai 2021 | 00:13:51 | |
Join host laura brewer as she shares 5 personal lessons that changed her life.
You can find a summary of the episode on the show notes page: www.laurabrewer.love/episode66
Love How To Make Love? You can return the love by writing a review on iTunes or joining our incredible inside supporters on Patreon. ❤️
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| 65: Liberatory Consciousness (ft. Tanya Williams & Bari Katz) | 29 avr. 2021 | 00:46:14 | |
Join guests Tanya Williams and Bari Katz for a discussion about making love and justice with and through a liberatory consciousness. Steeped in the work of Dr. Barbara Love, Bari Katz and Tanya Williams have developed a relationship over the years deeply rooted in their shared beliefs and values around social justice and liberation.
Find links to all of the resources from today's conversation at: https://www.laurabrewer.love/episode65
Love How To Make Love? You can give a little love back by writing a review on iTunes or joining our incredible inside supporters on Patreon. ❤️ | |||
| How To Die: Final Episode | 20 avr. 2021 | 00:08:14 | |
Join end-of-life doula, coach, and host laura brewer for an exploration of death, love, and justice. Welcome to a special series and set of critical dialogues about how we can all live -- and die -- more courageously.
You can find a summary of the episode on the show notes page: www.laurabrewer.love/miniseries6
Love How To Make Love? Return the love by writing a review on iTunes or joining our incredible inside supporters on Patreon. ❤️
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| How To Die: Episode 5 (ft. Dr. BJ Miller) | 16 mars 2021 | 00:47:20 | |
Join guest Dr. BJ Miller for a transformative conversation about grief. What it is, how it feels, the different shapes it takes, how to work with it, learn from it, and deepen our experience of life and love as a result.
You can find a summary of the episode on the show notes page: www.laurabrewer.love/miniseries5
Love How To Make Love? Return the love by writing a review on iTunes or joining our incredible inside supporters on Patreon. ❤️ | |||
| How To Die: Episode 4 (ft. Nora Menkin & Anna Swenson) | 02 mars 2021 | 00:51:33 | |
Two minisodes in one! Join guests Nora Menkin & Anna Swenson for two in-depth conversations about death care: legal considerations, body disposition options, and agency at the end of life. We'll also dig into laura's current choice for her own body disposition: natural organic reduction with Recompose. There is lots of info in this episode and on the show notes page below.
Quick links to the three orgnanizations featured are: Recompose; The Co-Op Funeral Home; and the People's Memorial Association.
You can find a summary of the episode on the show notes page: www.laurabrewer.love/miniseries4
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| How To Die: Episode 3 (ft. Daisy Sharrock) | 16 févr. 2021 | 00:30:21 | |
Join guest Daisy Sharrock for a deeply personal, moving story about loss. And intimacy. This is a conversation about creating intimacy with death, and the healing and love that can subsequently be made.
You can find a summary of the episode on the show notes page: www.laurabrewer.love/miniseries3
Love How To Make Love? Return the love by writing a review on iTunes or joining our incredible inside supporters on Patreon. ❤️ | |||
| How To Die: Episode 2 (ft. Iana Sundari Malcolm) | 04 févr. 2021 | 00:43:20 | |
Join guest Iana Sundari for a powerful conversation about death and justice. Iana is a birth and death doula, and the Director of BIPOC Well-Being for The Dinner Party. Welcome to a special series and set of critical dialogues about how we can all live -- and die -- more courageously.
You can find a summary of the episode on the show notes page: www.laurabrewer.love/miniseries2
Love How To Make Love? Return the love by writing a review on iTunes or joining our incredible inside supporters on Patreon. ❤️ | |||