Explore every episode of the podcast How To Make Love™
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| 107: the Revolution of Reinvention | 20 Nov 2024 | 00:12:52 | |
In this episode, we explore the art of personal reinvention — what it means to choose change on your own terms and imagine new possibilities for your life. Reinvention is more than self-discovery; it’s the training ground for transforming the world. Apply to UNscript here. Download the transcript here. Connect with laura about the episode here. Become a patreon of the podcast here. | |||
| 106: Self, Family, and Organizational Care During Election Week [Bonus Episode] | 28 Oct 2024 | 00:11:26 | |
| 98: "Relationships are what have rescued me." (ft. Alli Myatt) | 31 Jul 2023 | 00:41:33 | |
Belonging. Repair. Lines of difference. Today, guest Alli Myatt and I discuss radical relationships — especially at work. What makes them hard, what makes them complex, and what makes them beautiful. AND the things we need to unlearn so we can be in radical relationship with one another. Plus, a 🔥🔥🔥 book/resource list you don't want to miss out on here. New Feature Alert: Transcripts! We've added episode transcripts to our website. Now you can download written transcripts, share them, copy/paste those reflection questions, or read along while you listen. Check out this episode's transcript here. Want to give a little love back to How To Make Love? Become a patreon of the podcast. | |||
| 09: "To put love to the test is to see love expressed as justice." (ft. Rev. angel Kyodo williams) | 13 Nov 2018 | 00:47:17 | |
Join guest Rev. angel Kyodo williams and laura as they discuss making love and justice. Rev. angel is a Zen priest, educator, and activist who ignites long overdue conversations about the liberation of self and society. The episode summary and its resources can be found here. Want to give a little love back to How To Make Love? Become a patreon of the podcast. | |||
| 08: "All of the connections break when you are utterly broken." (ft. Yolonda Coles Jones) | 30 Oct 2018 | 00:39:34 | |
Join guest Yolonda Coles Jones for a raw and honest conversation about making love when you are broken wide open. Artist, musician, mother, and entrepreneur, Yolonda's transparency, wisdom, and expression will shake your heart into greater openness. The episode summary and its resources can be found here. Want to give a little love back to How To Make Love? Become a patreon of the podcast. | |||
| 07: "There is a relationship between silence and suffering, and by God I'm going to break silence." (ft. Dr. Robin DiAngelo) | 16 Oct 2018 | 00:55:43 | |
Join guest Dr. Robin DiAngelo for a provocative discussion about making love through disrupting white fragility and white supremacy. DiAngelo is a sociologist and educator whose work centers around racial justice through an examination of white identity. The episode summary and its resources can be found here. Want to give a little love back to How To Make Love? Become a patreon of the podcast. | |||
| 06: “You just have to trust that there are enough people who will respond in a positive way that it’s worth it.” (ft. Megan Amram) | 02 Oct 2018 | 00:38:18 | |
Guest Megan Amram shares how to make love through comedy, laughter, satire, and in 140 characters or less. Amram is an Emmy nominated writer, comedian, and actress who offers wisdom about creating comedy that centers the social issues of our time. The episode summary and its resources can be found here. Want to give a little love back to How To Make Love? Become a patreon of the podcast. | |||
| 05: “I have as much passion as I have insecurity.” (ft. Tre Johnson) | 25 Sep 2018 | 00:43:40 | |
Join guest Tre Johnson, a writer for Rolling Stone and Vox, for an exploration of making love through writing, self-expression, and the nexus between pop culture, politics, and race. The episode summary and its resources can be found here. Want to give a little love back to How To Make Love? Become a patreon of the podcast. | |||
| 04: "We’re holding back the tide of darkness but that does not mean we’re creating light.” (ft. Norma Wong Roshi) | 11 Sep 2018 | 00:40:39 | |
Join guest Norma Wong for a discussion of making love through aloha and activism. Norma Wong is a Zen Master, teacher of Mu-i Tai Ji Zen, and a former Hawai'i state legislator who calls all of us to a deeper practice of activism through aloha. The episode summary and its resources can be found here. Want to give a little love back to How To Make Love? Become a patreon of the podcast. | |||
| 03: “She went down in the airport, and she never woke up.” (ft. Rev. Kendall Cooke) | 28 Aug 2018 | 00:36:22 | |
This is an exploration of How To Make Love at the end of life. Guest Reverend Kendall Cooke -- a hospice chaplain who has sat with thousands of people as they've prepared for death and taken their last breath -- shares her stories, insights, and personal experiences with death and dying. Together, we explore how to create love, even at the end of life. The episode summary and its resources can be found here. Want to give a little love back to How To Make Love? Become a patreon of the podcast. | |||
| 02: "I had to undo the terrorism of conditional loving." (ft. Lama Rod Owens) | 27 Aug 2018 | 00:50:56 | |
This is an exploration of how to make radical self love with Lama Rod Owens. Acclaimed Buddhist teacher, author, & activist, Lama Rod shares his wisdom about the inner work required for self-love as an ethic of freedom and justice. The episode summary and its resources can be found here. Want to give a little love back to How To Make Love? Become a patreon of the podcast. | |||
| 01: "Together we’re going to figure out how to MAKE love." (ft. laura brewer) | 26 Aug 2018 | 00:26:48 | |
Welcome to the pilot episode of How To Make Love, a podcast by laura brewer that will provoke and challenge you to create your own recipe for and practice of making more love and justice--in your life, and in our world. Subscribe & join the conversation. The episode summary and its resources can be found here. | |||
| 97: How To Be A Good Loser | 31 May 2023 | 00:15:27 | |
Becoming a bad winner and a good loser is ... a little counterintuitive, to say the least. Learn how and why in this episode. And what all of that has to do with our collective and personal practice of liberation. New Feature Alert! Transcripts! We've added episode transcripts to our website (ps: we have a new website, too)! Now you can download written transcripts, share them, copy/paste those reflection questions, or read along while you listen. Check out this episode's transcript here. Want to give a little love back to How To Make Love? Become a patreon of the podcast. | |||
| 96: UNperforming | 28 Apr 2023 | 00:11:32 | |
We all perform. We've all been socialized to perform. And: none of us are truly free in a performance. Today's episode will take you into the what, why, how of performance and assimilation, and leave you with reflection questions for your healing and UNperforming. New Feature Alert! Transcripts! We've added episode transcripts to our website (ps: we have a new website, too)! Now you can download written transcripts, share them, copy/paste those reflection questions, or read along while you listen. Check out this episode's transcript here. Want to give a little love back to How To Make Love? Become a patreon of the podcast. | |||
| 95: "I didn't understand the toll that survivalism took on my Self." (ft. Chrystal Toop) | 31 Mar 2023 | 00:40:35 | |
The path of healing is paved in UNlearning. In today's episode, we'll hear examples of what there may be to UNlearn and how that UNlearning has played out in our guest's life. Featuring the incredible storyteller and doula Chrystal Toop, we take a journey survivalism, enoughness, wholeness, and healing. All through the lens of what there is for each of us – for all of us – to UNlearn. New Feature Alert! Transcripts! We've added episode transcripts to our website (ps: we have a new website, too)! Now you can download written transcripts, share them, copy/paste those reflection questions, or read along while you listen. The transcript and other resources from this episode can be found here. Want to give a little love back to How To Make Love? Become a patreon of the podcast. | |||
| 94: "You can’t create without breaking something." (ft. Oceana Sawyer) | 28 Feb 2023 | 00:32:33 | |
There is bracing. And there is breaking. In today’s episode, learn why the latter is so essential to healing, to liberation, and to creation. Featuring the amazing liminalist Oceana Sawyer, this is a conversation about what we gain when we “lose” (control, fear, conditioning…), and what can be received only when we truly open. New Feature Alert! Transcripts! We've added episode transcripts to our website (ps: we have a new website, too)! Now you can download written transcripts, share them, copy/paste those reflection questions, or read along while you listen. The transcript and other resources from this episode can be found here. Want to give a little love back to How To Make Love? Become a patreon of the podcast. | |||
| 93: How To Think | 31 Jan 2023 | 00:11:51 | |
What's the thing that: a) humans do constantly, b) shapes our life in resounding ways, and c) we're never taught how to do? –– think. Our thoughts can be assets or liabilities in our life, and laura shares 5 tips in this episode to help all of us think a little better. New Feature Alert! Transcripts! We've added episode transcripts to our website (ps: we have a new website, too)! Now you can download written transcripts, share them, copy/paste those reflection questions, or read along while you listen. Check out this episode's transcript here. Want to give a little love back to How To Make Love? Become a patreon of the podcast. | |||
| 92: 5 Essential Skills for Practicing Justice | 30 Nov 2022 | 00:13:50 | |
What––for you––is the single most essential skill or tool right now in your practice of justice?––love?––courage? That's the question the podcast will invite a whole new suit of guests to share and explore in the coming new year. laura kicks us off with her own reflections to the question, and her answers may surprise you. New Feature Alert! Transcripts! We've added episode transcripts to our website! Now you can download written transcripts, share them, copy/paste those reflection questions, or read along while you listen. Check out this episode's transcript here. | |||
| 91: Consent As A Way of Being | 31 Oct 2022 | 00:20:39 | |
When we learn to think of consent as a way of being and a practice in ALL domains of our life, we expand the work of justice, liberation, and love. Join laura for a discussion about why we should think about embodying consent across all our life, how to deepen our practice of consent when making requests of others, and how to deepen our embodiment of consent when saying yes/no/maybe. We'll also talk about the direct link between consent and anti-oppression/anti-racism. And of course, there's reflection questions for you too. New Feature Alert! Transcripts! We've added episode transcripts to our website! Now you can download written transcripts, share them, copy/paste those reflection questions, or read along while you listen. Check out this episode's transcript here. | |||
| 90: Scarcity | 29 Sep 2022 | 00:22:51 | |
Sometimes called 'scarcity thinking,' laura breaks down and reframes the notion of scarcity – what is is, where it comes from, and how to heal it. Tune in for concrete suggestions, reflection questions, and tools for healing scarcity all through a lens of equity. While this episode is designed for individuals, it's also applicaple to teams and organizations struggling with scarcity orientation. New Feature Alert! Transcripts! We've added episode transcipts to our website! Now you can download written transcipts, share them, copy/paste those reflection questions, or read along while you listen. Check out this episode's transcript here. [Hyperlink] Want to engage more?
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| 89: How To Make (Dis) Ease | 30 Aug 2022 | 00:15:49 | |
Join laura for a conversation about how we make ease and how we erode ease in our personal relationships. Plus, we'll look at some common culprits (personal responsibility, thoughts, and feelings) that can create generate an unhealthy sense of urgency and chip away at ease. That and much more! New Feature Alert! Transcripts! We've added episode transcipts to our website! Now you can download written transcipts, share them, copy/paste those reflection questions, or read along while you listen. Check out this episode's transcript here. Want to engage more?
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| 105: The Costs of Courage | 21 Oct 2024 | 00:23:31 | |
We rarely confront the true costs of courage—social, emotional, physical, personal, professional. This episode unpacks why, despite the steep price, courage is worth the choice for personal and collective liberation—helping you understand the cost and truly consent to it. Download the transcript here. Connect with laura about the episode here. Become a patreon of the podcast here. Leave a review on itunes by scrolling down a little futher. We appreciate it! | |||
| 88: The Shadow Side of Purpose | 28 Jul 2022 | 00:13:46 | |
Purpose can be a guiding light. It can also be a dark shadow. But we rarely talk about the latter. We explore that conversation in this episode. | |||
| 87: Freedom From The Inside-Out | 30 Jun 2022 | 00:13:37 | |
We can value freedom. We can treat it as an outcome. Or. And: we can train in making it our way of BEing. Resources from the podcast: Read My Grandmother's Hands, by Resma Menakem. Send laura a question from the episode. Love How To Make Love? Return the love by writing a review on iTunes or joining our incredible inside supporters on Patreon. ❤️ | |||
| 86: How To Hold Your Bits Responsibly | 05 May 2022 | 00:14:42 | |
No part of you is bad. And also: some of your bits likely create harm in the world. Find out why, how, and what to do about it. Send laura a question from the episode. Love How To Make Love? Return the love by writing a review on iTunes or joining our incredible inside supporters on Patreon. ❤️ | |||
| 85: How To Judge Other People | 19 Apr 2022 | 00:12:53 | |
😮 Since we all judge other people, let's be sure we understand the whats, whys, and hows of it. Especially the hows that connect us to oppressive ways of being in the world so that we can operate – and judge – with more critical consciousness, more compassion, and less harm. Episode Resources: Send laura a question from the episode. Love How To Make Love? Return the love by writing a review on iTunes or joining our incredible inside supporters on Patreon. ❤️ | |||
| 84: How To Be Selfish | 30 Mar 2022 | 00:17:34 | |
Most of us consider selfishness a bad thing...but what if that's an oppressive lie? Episode Resources: Reflection Questions:
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| Listener Question Minisode: feeling vs. inflaming emotions | 16 Mar 2022 | 00:05:41 | |
laura tackles a listener question from episode 82: "How can you personally tell the difference between feeling an emotion and inflaming an emotion?"
Do you have questions from any of the episodes? Let laura know here: https://www.speakpipe.com/laurabrewer
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| 83: Consensual Expectations | 28 Feb 2022 | 00:22:27 | |
High expectations can be helpful -- and they can create harm. For ourselves, and for others. How do we know the difference? What can be done to mitigate the harm? All in today's episode.
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Access the show notes page here: www.laurabrewer.love/episode83 | |||
| 82: How To Feel Like Sh*t | 08 Feb 2022 | 00:18:50 | |
Let's talk about the importance of feeling emotional pain and "negative" emotion in both our lives and in the work of justice. In this episode, you'll learn ways to feel sh*tty -- better.
Access the show notes page here: www.laurabrewer.love/episode82
Love How To Make Love? Return the love by writing a review on iTunes or joining our incredible inside supporters on Patreon. ❤️ https://www.patreon.com/howtomakelove
If you'd like to work with laura 1:1 to build a radical practice of feeling all your feelings and rehumanizing the world around you, you can do that here. | |||
| 81: How To Be Alive | 18 Jan 2022 | 00:15:28 | |
Join host laura as we dig into the whats, whys, and hows of aliveness. What prevents us from being and feeling alive? What helps us be and feel alive?
Access the show notes page here: www.laurabrewer.love/episode81
Questions from the episode for reflection:
Love How To Make Love? Return the love by writing a review on iTunes or joining our incredible inside supporters on Patreon. ❤️ https://www.patreon.com/howtomakelove
If you'd like to work with laura 1:1 to build a radical practice of aliveness, you can do that here. | |||
| 80: BEing Gentle | 11 Jan 2022 | 00:14:24 | |
Access the show notes page here: www.laurabrewer.love/episode80
Love How To Make Love? Return the love by writing a review on iTunes or joining our incredible inside supporters on Patreon. ❤️ https://www.patreon.com/howtomakelove
If you'd like to work with Laura 1:1 to build a radical practice of gentleness, you can do that here. | |||
| 104: Love-Ability | 30 Sep 2024 | 00:15:46 | |
Loveability is a mess. But love-ability? Now we're talking. Tune in to hear why shifting from "loveability" to "love-ability" might change your life, and the world around us. Download the transcript here. Connect with laura about the episode here. Become a patreon of the podcast here. Leave a review on itunes by scrolling down a little futher. We appreciate it! | |||
| thank you ❤️ | 21 Dec 2021 | 00:01:31 | |
Thank you times a million. I'll see you for episode 80 in the new year. love. laura | |||
| 79: Your Own Adversary | 30 Nov 2021 | 00:12:21 | |
Do you have your own back? Would you like to?
If you'd like to explore working with laura to build a radical practice of self compassion, you can do that here.
You can find the show notes page: www.laurabrewer.love/episode79
Love How To Make Love? You can return the love by writing a review on iTunes or joining our incredible inside supporters on Patreon. ❤️
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| 78: Impact > Intensity | 16 Nov 2021 | 00:12:34 | |
We've all heard of 'intent vs. impact' -- but how are 'intensity' and 'impact' related? And does our intensity produce the impact we mean to have?
If you'd like to explore working with laura to change your life's impact or your life's intensity, you can do that here.
You can find the show notes page: www.laurabrewer.love/episode78
Love How To Make Love? You can return the love by writing a review on iTunes or joining our incredible inside supporters on Patreon. ❤️
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| 77: Listener Love Pick -- "Pleasure is at the heart of understanding how to get free." (ft. adrienne maree brown) | 26 Oct 2021 | 00:51:03 | |
It's another listener love pick!--a listener-selected replay episode while we take a short October hiatus.
Join guest adrienne maree brown for a conversation about learning to make pleasure, science fiction, and freedom. And how they're all tied together. adrienne is a writer, social justice facilitator, pleasure activist, healer and doula living in North Carolina. She is also the cohost of the How to Survive the End of the World podcast.
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| 76: Listener Love Pick -- "Do you love this person enough to be yourself & also change yourself?" (ft. Yolonda & Will Jones) | 19 Oct 2021 | 00:56:41 | |
It's the first ever listening love pick!--a listener selected replay episode while we take a short October hiatus. Join former guest Yolonda Coles Jones and her partner Will Jones for a frank discussion about making partnership, freedom, intimacy, conscious parenting, and raising free children. Will and Yolonda are both entrepreneurs, home-based educators, and the curators of The Real Life Joneses. Welcome to a conversation about making love and justice through practicing intimacy and freedom.
Find links to all of the resources from today's conversation at: https://www.laurabrewer.love/episode47 Love How To Make Love? You can give a little love back by writing a review on iTunes or joining our incredible inside supporters on Patreon. ❤️
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| 75: Well-Resourced vs. Not Depleted | 30 Sep 2021 | 00:12:25 | |
In today's episode, we will:
If you'd like to explore working with laura to create a deep, permanent sense of being well-resourced, you can do that here.
You can find the show notes page: www.laurabrewer.love/episode75
Love How To Make Love? You can return the love by writing a review on iTunes or joining our incredible inside supporters on Patreon. ❤️
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| 74: How To Courage | 16 Sep 2021 | 00:16:31 | |
In today's episode, we will:
If you'd like to learn more about laura's 100 days of courage program, you can do that here.
You can find more info on the show notes page: www.laurabrewer.love/episode74
Love How To Make Love? You can return the love by writing a review on iTunes or joining our incredible inside supporters on Patreon. ❤️
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| 73: How To Feel Overwhelmed | 26 Aug 2021 | 00:14:43 | |
Must of us don't feel overwhelm, we think overwhelm. Learn the difference in today's episode, and why it matters.
You can find more info on the show notes page: www.laurabrewer.love/episode73
Love How To Make Love? You can return the love by writing a review on iTunes or joining our incredible inside supporters on Patreon. ❤️
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| 72: Love On Your Terms | 17 Aug 2021 | 00:09:33 | |
Join laura for a discussion about the importance of defining and making love for yourself.
You can find more info on the show notes page: www.laurabrewer.love/episode72
Love How To Make Love? You can return the love by writing a review on iTunes or joining our incredible inside supporters on Patreon. ❤️
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| 71: Imposter Syndrome | 29 Jul 2021 | 00:15:46 | |
Join laura for a discussion about what imposter syndrome is, how it uses and connects to oppression, and four strategies to heal it.
You can find more info on the show notes page: www.laurabrewer.love/episode71
Love How To Make Love? You can return the love by writing a review on iTunes or joining our incredible inside supporters on Patreon. ❤️
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| 103: “I needed to understand – why do you believe these things?” (ft. Jada Hebra) | 17 Sep 2024 | 00:49:21 | |
How do we love people we really, really disagree with? Join today's guest Jada Hebra to hear her personal story of crossing a giant divide with her spouse. As the election cycle heats up and divides between people are more inflammed than ever before, this conversation is a must-listen –– especially for those who want to practice rehumanizing our culture and our relationships. Fun things to click🌟: Watch Jada's TEDx talk here. Check out Jada's suggested resources and/or download the transcript of this conversation here. Connect with laura about the episode here. Become a patreon of the podcast here. Leave a review on itunes by scrolling down a little futher. We appreciate it! | |||
| 69: How To Take Up Space (Without Causing Harm) | 29 Jun 2021 | 00:11:10 | |
Join host laura brewer for a discussion about what we mean by 'taking up space,' why that's historically harmful, and 5 concrete whys/hows on learning to take space as a practice of liberation and wholeness.
You can find more info on the show notes page: www.laurabrewer.love/episode69
Love How To Make Love? You can return the love by writing a review on iTunes or joining our incredible inside supporters on Patreon. ❤️
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| 68: Wholeness | 17 Jun 2021 | 00:13:59 | |
Join host laura brewer for an exploration of wholeness as a noun and a verb.
You can find a summary of the episode on the show notes page: www.laurabrewer.love/episode68
Love How To Make Love? You can return the love by writing a review on iTunes or joining our incredible inside supporters on Patreon. ❤️
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| 67: Decolonizing Desire | 31 May 2021 | 00:12:15 | |
Join host laura brewer as she explains how learning to hear and validate our desire can be a practice of love and justice.
You can find a summary of the episode on the show notes page: www.laurabrewer.love/episode67
Love How To Make Love? You can return the love by writing a review on iTunes or joining our incredible inside supporters on Patreon. ❤️
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| 66: Life-Changing Lessons | 11 May 2021 | 00:13:51 | |
Join host laura brewer as she shares 5 personal lessons that changed her life.
You can find a summary of the episode on the show notes page: www.laurabrewer.love/episode66
Love How To Make Love? You can return the love by writing a review on iTunes or joining our incredible inside supporters on Patreon. ❤️
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| 65: Liberatory Consciousness (ft. Tanya Williams & Bari Katz) | 29 Apr 2021 | 00:46:14 | |
Join guests Tanya Williams and Bari Katz for a discussion about making love and justice with and through a liberatory consciousness. Steeped in the work of Dr. Barbara Love, Bari Katz and Tanya Williams have developed a relationship over the years deeply rooted in their shared beliefs and values around social justice and liberation.
Find links to all of the resources from today's conversation at: https://www.laurabrewer.love/episode65
Love How To Make Love? You can give a little love back by writing a review on iTunes or joining our incredible inside supporters on Patreon. ❤️ | |||
| How To Die: Final Episode | 20 Apr 2021 | 00:08:14 | |
Join end-of-life doula, coach, and host laura brewer for an exploration of death, love, and justice. Welcome to a special series and set of critical dialogues about how we can all live -- and die -- more courageously.
You can find a summary of the episode on the show notes page: www.laurabrewer.love/miniseries6
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