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Falling In Love Again: Valentine’s special with Sophie Ziegler founder of single club The Otto Connection10 Feb 202600:46:59

Sophie Ziegler is the founder and creative force behind The OTTO Connection, a real-world social community designed to reconnect single people through relaxed, fun, low-pressure events and friendships. After finding traditional dating scenes uninspiring, Sophie launched OTTO in 2022 to build a welcoming space where being single feels vibrant and where people can expand their lives alongside like-minded friends rather than swiping through apps. Today, OTTO thrives as a growing community that champions genuine connection, shared experiences, and joyful socialising beyond the digital dating treadmill. 

  • The Otto project, and why it was set up.
  • Why being single can be a good thing!
  • Later life love. What is it?
  • The 80 year olds that fell in love!
  • The odd pressure to be part of a couple.
  • Why accomodating the baggage is difficult.
  • How we can be sideswiped by our hurt young feelings.
  • Drawing for freedom. What is it?
  • Can we make a decicion to love?
  • Self love and self validation.

http://www.theottoconnection.com


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It was never about food; Weight Loss and the Psychology of being Overweight with Lucy Cavendish and Sarah Vine | S4 Special Episode05 Feb 202600:54:53

A subject that has caught the imagination of the nation.

Fat Jabs!

A special episode with Sarah Vine and Lucy Cavendish, with role reversal - Sarah interviewing Lucy!

A fascinating, relatable and insightful conversation.

Hello and welcome to the podcast where we talk honestly about weight loss, body image, and everything that comes with it, emotionally, socially, and psychologically.

Two brilliant voices: journalist and author Lucy Cavendish, and columnist and commentator Sarah Vine.

Together, we’ll be exploring the realities behind the headlines, from the rise of weight loss injections to the lifelong mental load of being overweight, and what it really means to change your body in a world that never stops having an opinion.

This is a conversation about more than pounds and calories. It’s about confidence, shame, freedom, identity… and the complicated journey of feeling at home in yourself.

Let’s begin.


Key points of the episode:

  • The wrongness of fat shaming, including fat shaming of people on jabs.
  • Lucy's theory on when her weight problem started.
  • How people are put on the pill for virtually every reason, and it's connection to weight loss.
  • How modern fashion does not cater for women with shapes.
  • "The only thing you can control"
  • How the root of the problem can have started at a really early age.
  • The revelation from her Dr that led her to the fat jabs.
  • The transformations experienced by both of them.
  • An important message from Lucy about this subject.
  • Possible reasons from an evolutionary point of view.
  • How society has changed, but we haven't.
  • How our bodys hormones are very strong drugs.
  • How partly it was an identity shift for Lucy.
  • Lucy's "Sliding Doors" wonderings, if I had found this earlier, would my life have been better?
  • How being overweight can be a kind of "suit of armour"
  • How Lucy's world changed when her doctor recommended Mounjaro.
  • The Webinar Lucy is doing on this - ATTEND HERE

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When the dust settles; how to survive life changing challenges and disaster with specialist Lucy Easthope (S4 Special Episode)18 Nov 202500:55:00

Lucy Easthope - The UK's Number One Disaster Recovery Expert!

Easthope is one of the UK’s foremost experts on disaster recovery, emergency planning and the long-term aftermath of major incidents. 

Among her roles, she has been:

  • Professor-in-Practice of Risk & Hazard at Durham University. 
  • Visiting Professor (Mass Fatalities & Pandemics) at the Centre for Death & Society, University of Bath.
  • Research Associate at the Joint Centre for Disaster Research, Massey University in New Zealand. 

Her work spans the real-world consequences of disasters: implementation of recovery, supporting bereaved families and communities, and critiquing the “recovery myth” (the assumption that communities return to “normal” after a disaster) in her academic writing. 

Major works & impact

In March 2022 she published her memoir When the Dust Settles: Stories of Love, Loss and Hope from an Expert in Disaster, which brings together her experiences with major incidents (including 9/11, the 2004 Indian Ocean tsunami, the 7/7 London bombings, the 2017 Grenfell Tower fire and the COVID-19 pandemic) and reflects on what recovery really means. 

Her work emphasizes how disasters reshape lives permanently, how response must account for human and social dimensions (not just infrastructure) and how voices of impacted people must be heard. 

From interviews, she speaks candidly about hope, fragility and the human dimension of her work. For example, she says:

“I think one of the things is … just take incredible joy from a moment in the day … My work is one of the greatest privileges … just seeing people being great a lot. So that gives me a lot of hope."


Lucy and Lucy dive deep into a fascinating conversation here:

Key Points of the Episode:

  • How she got into this line of work.
  • A typical week in her life (it won't be like yours!)
  • How she loves advocacy and social media.
  • How there are more emergency planners than you might think!
  • How some disasters are political.
  • The "Reasonable Worst Case Scenario"
  • How there has been an attitudinal shift towards her work.
  • Her thoughts on Grenfell.
  • How she feels like a "Cassandra" or seen as a "Debbie Downer"
  • How her work has been seen as "foresight", not "hindsight"
  • How children respond and engage differently to crisis, and the different help they need.
  • What she has learned.
  • Mental health maintenance and self care.
  • "Fallow" time, and the use of it.
  • How a "slump" is a natural part of healing and it to be expected.
  • The difference between "Hope" and "Hopeium"
  • First response to disasters.
  • Potential disasters people worry about.

Reach Out To Lucy On:

www.whatevernext.info

Insta: @whenthedustsettleslucy


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Stories of Espionage and Nazi wives - The Dark Side of Life | Jane Thynne (S4 E3)12 Nov 202501:01:09

Jane Thynne is a British novelist and journalist, best known for her historical fiction set in pre-war and wartime Germany. Born in Venezuela and educated at St Anne’s College, Oxford, she worked as a journalist for publications including The Sunday Times, The Daily Telegraph, and the BBC. Her acclaimed Clara Vine series — beginning with Black Roses (2013) — follows an Anglo-German actress drawn into espionage in 1930s Berlin, blending meticulous historical research with compelling storytelling. Writing also under the pen name C. J. Carey, she is the author of Widowland (2021), an alternative history imagining a Nazi-occupied Britain. Thynne’s novels are praised for their atmospheric detail, strong female protagonists, and exploration of politics, culture, and power in turbulent times. 

  • How Nazi women are not often talked about through history.
  • How Magda Goebbels went from being a devoted Zionist to a committed Nazi.
  • Her experience of living in "Widowland", and the experience of her researched "Cemetry Women"
  • Why she stopped being a journalist for a while.
  • The sad loss of her husband.
  • How the experience changed her and the way she thinks.
  • How the "Good Cop/Bad Cop" dynamic then changed with her parenting.
  • Some fascinating WW2 history.
  • The only correct answer to the question, "Why do you want to do this job", when being interviewed for the secret services!
  • Why Herman Goerings brother is commemorated as Righteous Among the Nations.
  • A fascinating example of how one mans infactuation with an actress caused thousands to die and affect world geopolitics.

All her books are in good bookshops and Amazon

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/AuthorJaneThynne

Insta: https://www.instagram.com/janethynne_cjcarey

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Sex, Death, and Living Life Outside of the Ageing Archetype…. Rose Rouse and Suzanne Noble on the Advantages of Age. (Special episode)05 Nov 202501:00:44

Advantages of Age is a UK-based social enterprise and community platform founded by Rose Rouse and Suzanne Noble. Created to challenge the negative stereotypes surrounding ageing, the initiative celebrates the creativity, vitality, and entrepreneurial spirit of people over 50.

Through its online magazine, workshops, and community network, Advantages of Age promotes a positive, empowered view of later life. It highlights stories of reinvention, creative expression, and business innovation, showing that ageing can be a time of growth and opportunity rather than decline.

The founders bring a dynamic mix of experience to the project. Rose Rouse, a journalist, writer, and poet, has written extensively for The Guardian, The Independent and others, often exploring themes of identity, community, and social change. Suzanne Noble, an entrepreneur and jazz singer, co-founded the app Frugl and later created Startup School for Seniors, helping over-50s develop new business ventures.

Together, they’ve built Advantages of Age into a movement that celebrates wisdom, creativity, and resilience—encouraging people to live fully, regardless of age.


Key Points of the Episode:

  • How it all began auspiciously in a hot tub.
  • A feast from "Death World"
  • Facebook Live Sessions - live from the hot tub - "Mini Salons!"
  • The enjoyment of connecting people.
  • The problem solving in the community they have created.
  • The negative aspects of aging.
  • ...and the positive aspects.
  • Sex advice for mature people- and the success of a random Facebook page.
  • How it became a massive podcast that now attracts worldwide experts.
  • The joy of people finding their tribe.
  • The balance of age being significant - with life experience, but not letting it define you.
  • Some things on their bucket lists...
  • The book, "Sex, Death and Inspiring Stories" - available on Amazon.
  • What they would say to their younger selves.

Reach out and learn more here

https://advantagesofageawards.com

https://suzannenoble.co.uk

https://presenterly.com/profile/suzanne-noble

https://www.roserouse.co.uk



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How to grieve; death, the dead and one woman’s relationship with learning how to live . Halloween special with writer Hannah Betts (S4 E2)29 Oct 202500:58:59
Hannah Betts is an award-winning feature writer, interviewer and columnist across a range of subjects for an array of British newspapers and magazines, principally The Times and The Telegraph. She has been a journalist for almost three decades.

After a career as a junior Oxford academic, Betts spent nine years at The Times, writing and editing in a number of guises, including op-ed columnist and Deputy Chief Leader Writer. She went freelance in 2007. Betts’s interests cover all aspects of the zeitgeist: not least, feminism, social and sexual mores, mental health, fashion, royalty, the arts, literature and history.

Since July 2021, she has written a popular weekly column for The Daily Mail entitled: “Better…Not Younger”. She is also Senior Contributing Beauty Editor for UK Harper's Bazaar, and has consulted widely in this field. Perfume is her particular passion and expertise.

She pens a monthly style column for The Critic, writes internationally for Air Mail, and is a frequent radio and documentary guest.

Her interview subjects include Margaret Atwood, Taylor Swift, Jean-Paul Gaultier, Jean-Paul Guerlain and Mona Hatoum. For journalistic purposes, she has played the part of Scarlett O’Hara, Marie Antoinette, a Victorian servant, lighthouse-keeper, dairy farmer, Arctic explorer, red-carpet celebrity, naked diner and ferret handler.

In 2019, Hannah Betts was awarded a President’s Medal by the Royal College of Psychiatrists for improving the lives of people with mental illness through her journalism. She is a respected voice on the subjects of depression, sobriety and relationships.

Betts is a Londoner with a penchant for blue whippets. Her favourite periods are the 1590s and the 1180s BC.


Key Points of the Episode:

  • Her mental health medal and her writings on mental health
  • Her atheism and her thoughts on it.
  • Why people judged her on writing about depression and the magic of "Dr. Journalism"
  • Why she is a "Born Again Snowflake"!
  • Her famous dog "Pimlico"
  • Why nice woman and gay men are her people!
  • Why her mother stopped talking to her and why.
  • Her thoughts on self love and her therapy.
  • How her and all her four siblings had radically different childhoods.
  • Why there is no "wrong way" to grieve.
  • Her ghost podcast "Uncanny" and her story.
  • The horiffic death of her father.
  • Why she laughed when a Dr. gave her bad news.
  • What she does believe in even though she does not believe in God.
  • Where to find this fascinating lady online.


Her podcast links:

Ghosts

https://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/m0012pcb
 

 Drink

https://podcasts.apple.com/podcast/id1501716010?i=1000672152841
 

 Troy

https://www.theoldie.co.uk/podcasts/troy-the-cradle-of-a-thousand-heroes-and-heroines
 


hjbetts@googlemail.com

Subscribe on hannahbetts.substack.com
 

Follow Hannah Betts on X & Instagram: @HannahJBetts


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Raw reflections from the woman who spent her life editing others - Jo Elvin Unedited (S4 E1)15 Oct 202500:52:23

Jo Elvin is an Australian-born journalist and editor best known for her influential role as the founding editor of the British edition of Glamour magazine. Born in Sydney, Elvin began her career in journalism in Australia, working for publications such as TV Week and Cleo. She later moved to London, where she established herself in the UK media industry.

In 2001, Elvin launched Glamour UK, pioneering the concept of the “handbag-sized” glossy magazine. Under her leadership, Glamour became the UK's best-selling women's magazine, known for its accessible tone, celebrity features, and focus on modern women’s lives. Her innovative editorial approach earned her multiple industry awards and cemented her reputation as one of Britain’s most successful magazine editors.

After leaving Glamour in 2017, Elvin became the editor of You magazine, the Sunday supplement of The Mail on Sunday. Beyond her editorial work, she is also known for her charity involvement, witty public commentary, and presence on various media panels and podcasts.

Elvin remains a respected voice in fashion and lifestyle journalism, admired for her sharp editorial vision and trailblazing influence on women’s media.


  • How angry she was that she was nearly deported, although there was no legal reason for it.
  • How her desire to be a writer was based solely on wanting to meet pop stars.
  • How it was a relief for her to hear pop stars that she looked up to say they hated high school too!
  • How a comment from a comedian boosted her confidence.
  • How magazines helped her feel what she truly wanted to feel.
  • The success of her magazines about feminism post Sex in the City.
  • How she became institutionalised and was scared to leave magazines....
  • ....and how she finally took the leap.
  • How she feels bad about some decisions she made.
  • A very cool hashtag she has in Insta!
  • An epic quote she uses daily.
  • Some wisdom garnered from life lessons.

Reach out: www.instagram.com/jo_elvin


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S3 E11 Natural Medicinal Healing | Menopause Month | Melinda McDougall08 Oct 202500:42:12

Melinda McDougall is a registered Medical Herbalist (MSc, MNIMH) specialising in women’s health, based in London. 

She holds a Master of Science degree in Herbal Medicine, where her training included anatomy, physiology, pathology, pharmaceutical medicine, botany, biochemistry, diagnostic skills, and traditional herbal knowledge. 

Melinda is particularly passionate about supporting women through key life transitions such as menstruation, perimenopause, and menopause. She works holistically, aiming to discover and treat root causes of symptoms rather than merely masking them. 

She has consulted with women across the UK and internationally, offering support and guidance via an online clinic in addition to her London-based practice. 

McDougall has also served as Vice President of the National Institute of Medical Herbalists (NIMH), a professional body for medical herbalists in the UK (founded in 1864). 


In addition to her clinical practice, she speaks at conferences, webinars, and podcasts, especially on herbal medicine and menopause. 
Before becoming a herbalist, she worked in journalism and documentary-making, a background that she says helped her develop listening skills and the ability to dig into complex issues. Originally from Australia, she now lives and works in London. 

Melinda’s professional philosophy blends scientific research with traditional herbal wisdom, emphasizing an integrative, patient-centred approach.


Key Points of the Episode:

  • How medical herbalism adds a whole new layer to diagnosis and treatment.
  • How we stand on the shoulders of our genius ancestors who worked it all out.
  • How she spotted a massive gap in treatment.
  • How we would not be here without plant medicine
  • How the menopause can be a loss of some things, but a great gain in others.
  • How many women have patterns that do not serve them, and how to address that.
  • Archetypes and wise women.
  • What young woman are simply not taught (but really should be)

Reach out to her here:

www.melindamcdougall.com

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S3 E10- The Ghostwriters Handbook | Imogen Edward-Jones30 Sep 202500:46:05

Imogen Edwards-Jones (born June 1968) is a British author, journalist, and broadcaster best known for her sharp, witty exposés of hidden worlds and her bestselling Babylon series.

Born in Birmingham, Edwards-Jones grew up in the Midlands and was educated at Malvern Girls’ College before going on to study Russian at the University of Bristol. Her fascination with language and culture led her to spend time in Russia, an experience that would later inspire her first book, The Taming of Eagles: Exploring the New Russia, an account of life in the early post-Soviet years. She later trained in journalism at City University, London, setting the stage for a career that would combine reportage with a flair for storytelling.

Edwards-Jones first gained recognition as a novelist with works such as My Canapé Hell, Shagpile, and Tuscany for Beginners. But it was the Babylon series that made her a household name. Beginning with Hotel Babylon in 2004, the books offered an insider’s view into glamorous but tightly guarded industries—from aviation to fashion, restaurants, hospitals, and even weddings. Written with a blend of humour and scandal, and often based on real insider testimony, the series sold over a million and a half copies in the UK alone and was translated into dozens of languages. Hotel Babylon went on to be adapted into a BBC1 drama, bringing her work to an even wider audience.

Her writing has also taken a more personal turn. The Stork Club is a candid and moving account of her own experiences with IVF treatment, while The Witches of St Petersburg draws on her love of Russian history and culture, re-imagining the story of two aristocratic sisters in the court of Tsar Nicholas II.

Alongside her books, Edwards-Jones has written widely as a journalist, contributed to newspapers and magazines, and appeared frequently as a broadcaster. Her style—part investigative, part satirical—makes her a distinctive voice in contemporary British writing.

She lives in London with her husband, television producer Kenton Allen, and their daughter, whose godmother is the Sex and the City author Candace Bushnell. Outside her professional work, she has a long-standing interest in the esoteric, counting herself as a member of London’s College of Psychic Studies, and she jokingly describes herself as an “honorary Cossack.”

With a career spanning more than two decades, Imogen Edwards-Jones has carved out a niche as a storyteller who thrives on lifting the lid on closed worlds, whether glamorous, absurd, or deeply personal. 

The secret of a 27 year successful marriage.

*Why ghostwriting is a learning curve each time.
*How she can "spend months" working on a project for someone and they would not recognise her!
*An odd hotel fact!
*Some delicious naughty stories!
*Some unfortunate things that happen on flights.
*How she studied Russia and loved the contrast and starkness of it.
*How she feels about Russia now.
*How narcissism does not really exist in Russia.
*How she was interviewed on Wogan.
*More on a happy marriage and red flags to watch for.
*A fascinating anecdote about Marylyn Monroe.

All her books are on Amazon, and her website is here: www.imogenedwardsjones.com

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S3 E9 - The Psychology of Love - Dr Kalanit Ben Ari 24 Sep 202500:46:20

Key points of the episode:

  • Her big news announcement!
  • How the environment affects the child in their future relationships.
  • How all have the conflicts and disagreement, but tools to help and heal.
  • Unconscious unspoken agreements.
  • A surprising health statistic.
  • And an even more surprising relationship statistic.
  • How therapy is not an easy fix, but when stuck with will lead to stronger bonds eventually.
  • How working through what you dislike shows commitment to that relationship - once no longer a secret.
  • How the space of "hope" is always held- at least to make things conscious.
  • How we are changing beings and we cannot put people in a box, as much as we think we know them.
  • How whole new parts of ourselves are ready to be discovered! Exciting! -if you are willing to look.
  • "Still waters run deep"
  • How being spontaneous is synonymous with well being and play.
  • How the first born generally holds the unconscious expectations of the parents.
  • Her work on "Married at First Sight" - the Israel version.


Insta: @drkalanit


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S3 E8 - Pleasure, Empowerment and Healing Through Kink | Miss Erica Storm17 Sep 202500:49:22

Miss Erica Storm, formerly Madam Storm, is a former International Dominatrix. 

Her infamous Mistress training was featured in a Louis Theroux documentary on channel 4, “Sex Actually” with Alice Levine, where she showcased her teaching and coaching of female empowerment using the art of BDSM to help women find their voice and be sexually liberated. 

Miss Erica has recently launched her Power of the Pussy Retreat and the “Yoni Circle”, both of which were featured in the Metro Newspaper, featured on the front page and interviewed by ELLE Magazine, BBC London, and currently being documented by Channel 5’s new show.

Her work is constantly being documented as her style is unique, fun and liberating, featured in Timeout, Daily Star, The Sun, Chat Magazine, New Magazine, The Metro, BBC, and The Mirror, just to mention a few. 

Miss Erica has rebranded herself as she evolves to the next level of her career as a qualified Yoga teacher and Clinical Sex and Relationship Therapist; her new YouTube Channel “Ask Miss Erica” showcases her work as a qualified confidence coach and sex educator. Subscribers send or call in their questions, which range from how to introduce kink into your relationship to how to walk into a room and own it.

Miss Erica Storm first hit our TV screens with her powerful “STRUT Masterclass”, which shows women how to walk correctly in their high heels, whilst owning their space. featured on the Channel 5 TV show, 10 years younger, helping the programme subject recapture her confidence and self-esteem.  

Miss Erica is also a powerful Motivational Speaker; she has shared the stage with Mayor Sadiq Khan and worked with companies such as WeWork, Red Run, Meetup, Platform 9 and Ann Summers. 

She is regularly booked for her sexy, fun and empowering speaking style, appearing on panels for women's events, radio shows and podcast.

Miss Erica was the face of  Ann Summers's Halloween campaign. Her role involved personal appearances and delivering her Masterclasses in their flagship stores, helping couples to introduce kink into their relationship and educating consumers on how to use BDSM toys correctly. 

She has gone on to work with several brands, such as LELO, Hot Octopuss and Killing Kittens, where she delivered her Sexual and Body Confidence Masterclass to their members. 

Miss Erica has written several blog pieces for brands, magazines and charities, sharing her expertise in sexual confidence and female empowerment; her work has been featured in Refinery 29, Galdem Magazine, and The Metro; more articles of her work can be found here https://www.missericastorm.co.uk/press.

In January 2021, Miss Erica Storm launched her blog, “Power of The Pussy” she created her blog to educate and inspire women to become connected to their pussies and embark on a journey of sexual confidence; you will find stories of her life as a Dominatrix and saucy events with her lovers.

Miss Erica believes every woman should feel sexy and confident; she continues to empower women one STRUT at a time, advocating  Pussy Power!

For more information, please visit Miss Erica Storms' website www.missericastorm.co.uk.


Key points of the episode:

  • How to find your kink! Or use it for pleasure! And authenticity.
  • How being a dominatrix helped her.
  • How integrating and workin

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S3 E7 - The Burned Haystack Dating Method | Jennie Young05 Sep 202500:55:28

Key points of the episode:

  • The root of the "Burned Haystack" method
  • How women think online dating is going to be bad - and it's worse!
  • Her lightbulb moment.
  • How she is helping women.
  • The science and application of "rhetorical patterns"
  • How to mainly spot the toxic patterns, and avoiding self gaslighting.
  • The "test and apologise" technique.
  • How pre burned haystack most of her dates were a waste of time, and how less but better matches come when you follow the 10 "rules",
  • Example: Rule#1 - The app is a tool not a place to live or a game.
  • How and why men seem to mainky have a lot of spare time.
  • How messaging is preferable to swiping and scrolling.
  • The "Block to Burn" technique.
  • The rest of the techniques overview.
  • The biggest challenges women face.
  • How men may well need to change.

Get in touch to learn more:



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What To Do When Your Life f**** up! with Eve Simmons | S4 Special Episode03 Feb 202600:59:27

Eve Simmons is an award-winning journalist, author, and broadcaster known for making complex topics feel human, practical, and refreshingly honest. As co-author of What to Do When Life Fcks Up*, she draws on years of reporting on health, psychology, and wellbeing to offer clear-eyed guidance for navigating life’s messier moments. Alongside her writing, Eve is a familiar media voice, regularly contributing expert insight on mental health and resilience, with a style that blends compassion, credibility, and straight-talk reassurance. 


Key points of the episode:

  • The book and how it came about.
  • How she lost everything in the space of 2 months.
  • The overwhelming amount of women that had had the same experience.
  • A phenomenon that divorce lawyers are familiar with.
  • How everything fell apart and she had to rebuild over again.
  • Her spontaneous trip to New York and what it did for her.
  • Her experience with anorexia.
  • The benefits of her experiences and what she does now to help others.
  • Her experience of healing.
  • Her explorations of loads of different ways of being.
  • HINT: Choose one that brings the most joy!

 Her book: What She Did Next- What to Do When The Life You Planned is F**ked Up

 CLICK HERE

Tik Tok: www.tiktok.com/@evesimmonsjourno

Insta: https://www.instagram.com/eviesimm


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S3 E6 -The Spirit of Style | Barbara Ayozie Fu Safira27 Aug 202500:43:05

Barbara Ayozie Fu Safira is a remarkable Italian-Nigerian creative powerhouse based in London. She is celebrated as a creative director, art director, costume designer, and fashion stylist, whose work spans across editorial, commercial, film, music, and more. 

 Her styling and creative direction have appeared in prestigious publications, including Vogue Italia, GQ, Elle, Glassbook, Metal, and Aesthetica. Her editorial work “Unfolded Love” was published in both Vogue Italia and Nataal


Key points of the episode:

  • How they met and how people were taking pictures of her!
  • How she is treated like a celebrity even though she is not really one!
  • How she is of Nigerian origin but has never lived there.
  • How living in London has helped her appreciate multiculturism.
  • Her signature style.
  • The first time she experienced avant-garde
  • Her parenting and her parents values.
  • How iconagraphy and religion has influenced her work.
  • How she broke into the industry of art direction.
  • How she keeps focused and grounded.
  • The things she had to negotiate being Italian/Nigerian first generation.
  • Her time in Paris.
  • Her future direction and dreams.


Check her out!


Insta: @fu_safira

Web: www.barbarafusafira.com

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S3 - On The Far Edge of Humanity | Wendy Holden19 Aug 202500:53:40

Wendy Holden, also sometimes known as Taylor Holden, is an experienced author and novelist with more than thirty books published, fifteen of which are bestsellers. She has also had numerous works transferred to radio and television, and four of her books have been optioned for film.

 

A journalist for eighteen years, her first novel THE SENSE OF PAPER was published by Random House, New York, to widespread critical acclaim and has recently been released as an ebook. Her second novel THE CRUELTY OF BEAUTY has been published in English as an ebook and in Czech as a hardback. Her non-fiction titles have chiefly chronicled the lives of remarkable subjects, including the international bestseller BORN SURVIVORS which tells the true story of three young mothers who hid their pregnancies from the Nazis and gave birth in the concentration camps.
TOMORROW WILL BE A GOOD DAY chronicles the amazing life story of Captain Sir Tom Moore, the 99-year-old war veteran who raised almost £40m for the NHS during the coronavirus pandemic.

 

ONE HUNDRED MIRACLES tells the true story of the teenage piano prodigy Zuzana Ruzickova who survived three concentration camps to become one of the world’s foremost Baroque musicians.

FIVE MINUTES OF AMAZING is the moving memoir of a young soldier with early onset Alzheimer’s and how he chose to deal with the hand Fate dealt him. Her other memoirs include that of the only woman in the French Foreign Legion in TOMORROW TO BE BRAVE (soon to be a film), the mother of a woman killed after marrying a Sudanese warlord in TILL THE SUN GROWS COLD, A LOTUS GROWS IN THE MUD the memoir of actress Goldie Hawn and LADY BLUE EYES, the autobiography of Frank Sinatra’s widow Barbara – all of which were New York Times and Sunday Times bestsellers.

 


Key points of the episode:

  • How she became a journalist...
  • ...and why she took a big leap to become an author.
  • Her incredible (yet terrible) historical knowledge garnered from the research for her latest book, "The Teacher of Auschwitz".
  • How her father is an incredible inspiration.
  • How she ended up with PTSD.
  • ...and the surprising experience of it.
  • How "Born Survivors" was the first book in 70 years that chronicled babies being born in the holocaust... and survived.
  • ...and how she discovered the story.
  • Her new incredible project on someone who's true character has never been truly shown, even though there are over 1000 books about her.
  • What she does to relax.
  • Her experience of "flow"
  • Her life philosophy.

www.wendyholden.com


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S3 E5 - The Youth Code | Dr. Alka Patel12 Aug 202500:50:08

From her website:

I don't just study longevity — I've lived the cost of ignoring it.

After 25 years in medicine, leadership, and entrepreneurship, I've seen firsthand what relentless drive can do to a body.

But I’ve also seen what precision, strategy, and lifestyle mastery can rebuild.

My journey began at the University of London, Guys and St Thomas’, where I earned my MBBS in medicine and surgery.

A fascination with the body and brain led me to deepen my expertise further — gaining advanced qualifications in lifestyle medicine, functional medicine, coaching, therapy, gynaecology, obstetrics, and dermatology.

But true mastery comes not just from study, it comes from lived experience.

A hospital bed became my greatest teacher — not knowing whether I would see my three children again. That was when I finally realised: success means nothing without sustainable health.

Since that day, I've devoted my career to helping ambitious individuals secure the energy, clarity, and resilience their future demands. Using data-backed biohacking and personalised longevity strategies, I put tour healthspan potential back in your hands.


What if you could have the vitality of 20, 30, 40 years ago??

It's feasable.

Key points of the episode:

  • Living longer, fitter, better, healthier.
  • Redefining "old" and "aging"
  • How an optimist can add 7 years to their lives.
  • How lifespam is determined by lifestyle.
  • The importance of purpose.
  • The "LQ" - Longevity Quotient.
  • How to blend mindset and physical actions to optimise health - using leading edge technology.
  • The AHEAD acronym.
  • How self care should be bespoke to the individual and fun!
  • The Million Hour Club - and what it is.
  • How what we do in this decade determines the next one...
  • "Sniper alley" - What is it and is it a thing?
  • "Inflammaging" - what is it?
  • How to take control of your own health and how the choice is yours.
  • The incredible opportunities to thrive that exist as you read this.


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S3 - Not That I'm Bitter | Helen Lederer05 Aug 202500:48:48

Helen Margaret Lederer (born 24 September 1954 is a British comedian, writer and actress who emerged as part of the alternative comedy boom at the beginning of the 1980s. Among her television credits are the BBC2 sketch series Naked Video and BBC One's Absolutely Fabulous, in which she played the role of Catriona.

In 2015, her comedy novel Losing It was published by Pan Macmillan It was nominated for the P.G. Wodehouse Comedy Literary Award and the Edinburgh Book Festival First Book Award.

She recently released a biography,  " Not That I'm Bitter" she wanted people to connect with her experiences in a humourous way. At the time of writing she is in a run starring in the stage version of Fawlty Towers.

In 2018, Lederer launched a new literary prize for comic fiction written by women. The 2019 published winner of the CWIP award was The Exact Opposite of Okay by Lauren Steven- Kirsty Eyre was the inaugural winner of the unpublished prize with her comic novel, Cow Girl, which was published in 2020. The 2020 awards added a humorous graphic novel prize.

The award was created because of dissatisfaction with the Bollinger Everyman Wodehouse Prize , which was not awarded in 2018 and had up to that point only been won by a woman three times.


Key points of this episode:

  • How writing her book gave her a second confidence,,
  • How people were not mean about woman in comedy back then as such, but it was simply a different time.
  • How she "accidentally" stole someones comedy partner for a year!
  • Her thoughts on comedy, connection with an audience and performance.
  • What can make an audiance angry.
  • Her book - "Not that I'm bitter"
  • Her run being on the stage version of Fawlty Towers.
  • Her appearance on "The Pilgrimage"

You can see more about this talented lady here:

@helenlederer on X and Instagram


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S3 E4 - Spirit and Story | Santa Montefiore29 Jul 202500:52:42

From her website:

Since I could first hold a pencil I have been writing stories. It was my most enjoyable hobby and one I never expected would become a career in adulthood. I am so lucky to do something I adore and luckier still that you, my readers, enable me to do it. For that I am incredibly grateful.

Over the last four decades my love of storytelling has never changed, the only thing that has changed is my audience (once only me), which now includes you! I hope to carry you away to sunnier shores, while at the same time to remind you of all that is wonderful about England. Above all, my novels are about love – not just romantic love, but Love with a capital L, because when you boil life down to its essence, love is what you’ll find. I hope to sweep you away, to make you laugh and cry in equal measure, but most of all to make it possible for you to escape for a while.

Key Points of the Episode:

  • How her extraordinary childhood spiritual experiences now influence her writing.
  • The complex and enthralling (yet hard to plot) storyline of her new book.
  • How we all lose (but can relatively easily regain) our psychic ability.
  • How she was visited by her sister (who was not alive) - seriously!
  • How people many times come round to the idea.
  • Her ghastly book tours!
  • How she came back from the ghastly book tours- and how you need to be a rock star to break America!
  • How she never believed she would have 34 books in her!
  • Her key to a 34 year marriage!

www.santamontefiore.co.uk

Email through contact in website

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S3 E3 Inside Dementia Prevention | Susan Saunders16 Jul 202500:46:36

From the website:

My determination to reduce my dementia risk grew out of my personal story.

I spent 12 years caring for my mum, who had severe dementia. When she was diagnosed, I was 36 years old with a toddler, new born and a full-time job. My world was turned upside down – not only was I mum, wife, boss, I was now a carer too. What made this even harder to bear was that, as a teenager, I’d watched my mum going through the same thing with her mother. Now, I have two teenage daughters myself and I do everything I can to reduce the chance that they will have to look after me.

I started researching everything I could about ageing well. I read a PhD paper, claiming that a healthy lifestyle at 50 reduces the risk of dementia, by up to 90%. This research is controversial – that’s a huge reduction – but at the time it felt like the sun bursting through some very dark clouds. Most importantly, it gave me a sense of purpose: an idea that I could change the way I age.  

So I spent years studying scientific data on healthy ageing, Qualifying as a health coach and overhauling my own health. And guess what? I’ve found that as I’ve worked to do all I can to prevent dementia, I feel better than ever right now. And I want to share that with you.


Key Points of the episode:

  • How the greatest relationship you can have is with your brain.
  • How to interpret the information without the hype...
  • And how it can be applied to your life (especially as a busy working mum!)
  • How her Mum was diagnosed with dementia at when Susan was 36.
  • How suspected dementia is not always accurate and needs addressing differently.
  • How she helps people with the 6 pillars of brain health.
  • (eg bright coloured and crufiferous veg have been shown to lower dementia risk)
  • ...and strength training...
  • How novelty and difficulty are really helpful.

www.agewellproject.com

http://www.susansaundershealth.com

See her 3 books available here.

More group coaching coming soon.


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S3 E2 - Music in the Darkness | Anne Sebba02 Jul 202500:45:56

From her website: 

Anne Sebba Historian

Welcome to 2025! Worries about Covid may have receded but war, brutality and uncertainty are still with us four years on. So it has seemed fitting that I have been researching a new book about a grim subject for grim times… the extraordinary story of the Women’s Orchestra of Auschwitz. It’s about female solidarity and the redemptive power of music as well as survival against the odds and will be published in March 2025 in the UK to commemorate the 80th anniversary of the liberation of the camps. there are various translations planned in the course of 2025 and 2026! watch this space. 

 2023 was the 70th anniversary of the execution of Ethel Rosenberg, electrocuted for for Conspiracy to Commit Espionage without any evidence against her, and I was very honoured that my biography of Ethel was published in France. Having spent years thinking about one woman in one prison, I am now contemplating the lives of hundreds of women in one of the most appalling prisons in history.  Living in isolation during Covid helped me a little in my understanding of the tragedy which befell Ethel.  But entering imaginatively into the lives of women in Auschwitz is a far harder task and listening to their testimonies (thankfully there are hundreds of these online) does keep me awake at night. I never forget that as the great giant of biography Richard Holmes wrote, self identification with one’s subject is the first crime of the biographer, but it still is a kind of duty to try and help the women who survived as well as those who did not bear witness to what they saw. I tried to tell the story of an era through the story of a woman, Ethel Rosenberg, I shall try and do the same with the current book.

Incidentally Ethel has a variety of titles – An American Tragedy in the US Ethel Rosenberg: A Cold War Tragedy in the UK and for the paperback it is called The Short life and Great betrayal of an American wife and mother.

My previous book was published on July 14th 2016 – Bastille Day –  Les Parisiennes, about women in Paris from 1939-49, in US, UK, France, Czech Republic, China and other countries. There are stories in it about resisters, collaborators, spies, writers and actresses, couturiers and jewellery designers, housewives, concierges and prostitutes. It won a prize and is being turned into a multi-part screenplay for TV (watch this space!)  I have always been fascinated by French History and the reverberations from this period are still being felt in the country today. Although I loved writing the story of Wallis Simpson (and she even has a cameo role in this book) I wanted to write a book of history this time and move away from biography for a change.

For two years of my research I was chair of the Management Committee of Britain’s Society of Authors, a great honour and privilege in  difficult and challenging times for authors as the Society fights for Authors’ rights in a number of areas and is desperately needed. I am now on the SOA Council. But when I am not busy reading or reviewing someone else’s book, I will be concentrating on talking about my books, including Les Parisiennes. As any writer will tell you, you never quite leave your old books behind. New material keeps coming your way and you are constantly re thinking your work!

In 2011, I published That Woman: a life of Wallis Simpson Duchess of Windsor in the UK alongside a C4 television documentary ba

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S3 E1 - Life Behind the Headlines | Sarah Vine18 Jun 202500:47:02

WELCOME TO SEASON 3!

Sarah Rosemary Vine was born in Swansea, Wales on 16 April 1967.

When she was five, the family moved to Italy, initially staying in Rome before moving to Frascati. 

After graduation, Vine worked in customer services for the retailer Hobbs Ltd. She then worked in a series of jobs within journalism, including TV listings sub at the Daily Mirror and features editor for the magazine Tatler before joining The Times. She was promoted to arts editor at that newspaper.

And now, she ia an author and in this podcast you will understand why and perhaps have a shift in perception....


Key points of the episode:

  • Her new book, as the ex of Michael Gove, "How not to be a political wife"
  • How being in those circles makes you very much having (if you'll pardon the pun)  -toe the party line.
  • Her "Lady Macbeth" moment
  • ....and the fallout of that.
  • What it feels like to have horrible things written about you in the paper.
  • How she feels the need to "have a conversation" with the reader and share who she really is.
  • Her parents, and how they have affected her.
  • Her people pleasing tendencies.
  • How she feels about her upcoming book tour.



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S2 E11 - When love turns to control.16 May 202500:39:13

In this anonymous episode we talk to "Mary" who shares her experience of coercive control. **TRIGGER WARNING**

  • How coercive control is hard to notice until you are out of it.
  • How it tends to happen slowly.
  • How, 30 years ago, the words "Coercive Control" wew not even in our lexicon.
  • The stages of coercive control and how red flags can be innocently and easily missed.
  • How she hated being married and how it started to go wrong in a year.
  • How it lasted over two and a half decades.
  • When the physical violence kicked in and how to the police at the time it was "just a domestic"
  • The divorce process and avoiding manipulation.
  • Her experience of gaslighting.
  • How materially "on paper" she had everything, but was screaming inside.
  • How she has recently- very very recently found her sensible side.
  • The reasons why people stay - the rationale they use to stay.
  • Her new, free life and what she most desires now.


For obvious reasons there are no contact details here.

We hope this podcast has helped and inspired you.

If you have been affected by anything you have heard here - support and help can be found here:

https://www.womensaid.org.uk

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S2 E10 - Catherine Ducker14 May 202500:41:39

Since studying at Central Saint Martin’s in the 90s, she has been farming, and planting, and growing, and mothering, but always, at heart, painting.

She sees myself as someone who watches, quietly, but also as someone who gets on and does, so I’ve grown multiple biodiverse wildlife corridors around her home in Oxfordshire, and painted magical and challenging moments.

 She is surrounded by plants at all times, and whenever something takes her eye and moves her, she works with the feeling and paint, using colour to evoke the emotion. Sometimes her work veers towards the abstract, but she always circles back to the use of flowers, as a metaphor for my feeling of the fragility of life;the need to be in the moment.

She chooses to make uplifting work which reminds her to be present, to live fully, to be the best she can be, both aesthetically and in her life.

She also chooses to express her need for peace, and her determination to be conscious of the way she lives and its impact.


 Key points of the episode:
 
 

  • How she was a high achiever (and why) and how she nearly drove herself to burnout.
  • Her painting and her thoughts on it. 
  • Her time at art school and how she loved it thanks to a wonderful teacher.
  • How there is more love in her art now.
  • How she is in a much better place now.
  • How we should not be dis-eased with ourselves.
  • What has worked for her with trauma release
  • How she had found a way of "getting it all done" without burnout.
  • The connection between farming practices, soil health and gut health.
  • How her workaholism got in the way of her relationships.
  • How she recovered from Burnout and working out how to work without panic  and burnout.


 Inspired and interested? Reach out:
 
 www.thecoachingbarn.com
https://www.youtube.com/@catherineducker

 

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Men In Love: Dating and friendships and AI relationships with author and journalist Nick Harding27 Jan 202600:46:30

Nick Harding is an award-winning British freelance journalist and feature writer known for his engaging, often personal take on health, lifestyle, relationships, science and well-being topics. He regularly contributes articles to The Telegraph, writing about fitness experiments, ageing, food, and everyday life challenges, mixing evidence-based insight with first-person reflection. His work also appears across other major publications and platforms such as Daily Mail and MSN, and he has bylines on a wide range of subjects from scientific explainers to real-life stories that connect with everyday readers. He explores also the world of dating and relationships from the male perspective often with hilarious results!

Key points of the Episode:

  • Why it is percieved as being hard for men in dating.
  • "Heretopessimism" - what it is.
  • The way dating websites allow you to filter your preferences
  • The 3 inch "Chasm of Lonliness!"
  • How people get sucked into negative extreme views (and how it is unnecessary)
  • How general disaffection can be mistaken for mysogyny.
  • The different "rules" of the dating world today.
  • The main complaint of women about men on dates.
  • The importance of same sex friends.
  • His experiment with "Sharon the AI girlfriend!!"
  • How some people cannot distuinguish between the two worryingly. and a funny story.
  • What it's like being married to an alpha woman!

Reach out - Google "Nick Harding Telegraph"


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S2 E9- Bibi Lynch30 Apr 202500:50:52
  • Her therapeutic experience
  • Her struggles and philosophy on relationships.
  • How she cares much less about how she looks
  • WHIPS- What is that?
  • (not what you think!)
  • Her current interesting and fun philosophy.


Reach out to Bibi and see her work here: www.bibilynch.com

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S2 E8- Lindsay Nicholson16 Apr 202500:44:01

Lindsay Nicholson has worked Editor-in-Chief of Good Housekeeping magazine and is now Editorial Director of the National Magazine Company. Her articles have appeared in many leading newspapers and magazines including the Guardian and the Observer. 

From her website:

It’s natural to fear it - but to be alive is to experience loss. The only way to avoid loss is to die first. (Not recommended!) I am a former magazine editor, now a writer and researcher, who has experienced tragic and painful bereavements, specifically the tragic early deaths of my husband and young daughter. In the course of my life and work I have met many people whose experiences mirror my own and discussed ways of coping with grief with renowned experts. In these posts I will bring you the valuable lessons I have learned and remind you that whatever you are going through, there will come a day when you will smile again. I promise! These posts are currently free so do pass on to anyone in your life who is suffering. Together, we will get through this

Interested? Sign up here: www.lindsaynicholson.substack.com

Key points of the episode:
 
 Her family tragedies and following big wake up call and why she changed her life

  • Her workaholism
  • A litany of disasters over a 365 day period
  • Her way of coming back -eventually!
  • Her revelation and wake up moment. (with a pony!)
  • Why we are so much more than "brains in meat suits"
  • Her busy yet much more "embodied"  life nowadays.

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S1 E7- Xanthe Clay01 Apr 202500:40:53

With 25 years of experience as a Telegraph columnist, chef and food writer Xanthe Clay provides guidance on everything from roasting a Christmas turkey to baking the perfect loaf of bread. As the Telegraph's thrift expert, Xanthe can regularly be found taste-tasting staple supermarket products to find the best value, as well as taking a deep-dive into topical issues such as ultra processed foods, ethical farming and sustainability.


How she will eat all things- apart from one!
How she learned to cook in the first place…
…and how some of the family were appalled!
Early culinary experiences – was the quality of the food higher?
How she became a chef
Her fascinating journey
The foodie explosion
How celebrity chefs affected her
Her signature dish
A meal that blew her mind
Her relationship with food in her life
Do people have an emotional connection to food? Is it more than just nutrition?
If she had to choose only one countries cuisine..


Follow her! : www.instagram.com/xantheclay

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S2 E6 - Rosie Wilby19 Mar 202500:42:04

Rosie Wilby is an award-winning comedian, writer and podcaster who has appeared on BBC Radio 4 programmes including Woman's Hour, Saturday Live, Unsafe Space and Four Thought and TV programmes including Good Morning Britain and Sunday Morning Live. Her latest book The Breakup Monologues is based on her acclaimed podcast (a British Podcast Award nominee and recommended by Chortle, The Observer, Psychologies and more) and is published globally by Bloomsbury. She regularly contributes to The Guardian, The Independent, Stylist, Cosmo and Perspective and has hosted programmes for Virgin Radio, BBC and Resonance FM. 


See her LIVE on the 24th April https://wegottickets.com/event/651454

Check out her book at:

https://www.amazon.co.uk/gp/aw/d/1472982282/

Key points of the episode:
 
 The many exciting things she does, and how she juggles them!

  • How she got into comedy in her mid 40s
  • How she got a comedy show out of being dumped in the most outrageous way!
  • Her love for breakups (in a way) - really!
  • Her personal quest to conquer the psychology behind it and her participation in a sex lab!
  • The high divorce rate of lesbian women.
  • The unacknowledged aspects of female sexuality.
  • The blessing and the curse of comedy.
  • Her novel- "The Break Up Monologues"
  • And her earlier book "Is Monogamy Dead?"

Find out more here:
 
 Insta:@breakupmonologues
 X:@rosiewilby
 Tik Tok:@rosiewelbyauthor

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S2 E5 - Anna Murphy05 Mar 202500:51:59

From her biog: 

"I didn’t come across anyone who practised yoga until my first job in London in 1994. She was called Catherine, and there was obviously something suspect about her. Her erect posture seemed a deliberate challenge to my already slouchy one. Even now, 20 years on, I can remember how her eyes twinkled and her skin shone. And, gosh, she was serene. Always smiling. Which I somehow also took as a personal affront. And all this in an office ruled over by a tyrant, a boss who once sent me a poison-pen letter because she didn’t like my hair. Catherine somehow rose effortlessly above all the swirling bile."

Fascinated in what Yoga can do for you? Listen on!

Key points of the episode:

  • Yoga, and the relationship we have to our body.
  • How her 20-30 year old self would have dismissed Yoga as "Hippie Nonsense!"
  • The odd situation we have educationally in the West.
  • The "crazy Yoga" that she practises and where it came from!
  • How "relishing the discomfort" can be a good thing.
  • How "life mapmaking" can be optimised.
  • How fashion can be not superficial but a part of true self expression.
  • How do YOU want to be seen in the world?
  • Why clothes have to serve us rather than just be aesthetic - and why things go in and out of fashion.
  • How Queen Victoria inspired a new fashion trend!
  • How fashion and anti aging combine.
  • Clothes, empowerment and visualisation
  • Grey is the new cool?



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S2 E4 - Liz Jones19 Feb 202500:51:23

She began her career as a fashion journalist, but her work has broadened into confessional writing. Jones divides opinion. While she has gained positive responses, a "beautifully natural writer, as well as a funny one" according to Deborah Ross in The Independent, some of her articles have been fiercely criticised

A former editor of Marie Claire, she has been on the staff of The Sunday Times and the Evening Standard. As of 2019 Jones writes columns for the Daily Mail and The Mail on Sunday.

Now, she talks to Lucy all about relationships and just about everything else...


Key points of the episode:

  • Why people are so fascinated with her!
  • Bridget Jones or Liz Jones?
  • Her relationship with a much younger man.
  • Her disastrous holiday.
  • How the "bad" things become "good" and kind of self perpetuate!
  • Her growing up years and her disability.
  • And how it has continued into this day.
  • Kissing necks and whistling ears!!
  • How she was finally ready to let someone new in.
  • How she really should not have written about knitting!
  • How she was responsible for an injunction being placed on the Sunday times magazine.
  • How she learned her stripes - without internet!
  • Her launch of "Style Magazine" at the Sunday Times
  • Her move to the Evening Standard - and the hours she worked!
  • Her thoughts on her ex-husband.
  • ....and his on her.
  • The story of David.
  • And her new man...



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S2 E3 - Eleanor Mills05 Feb 202500:50:34

Eleanor Mills (born 1970) is a British journalist formerly associated with The Sunday Times and The Times. She was the editorial director of The Sunday Times and editor of its magazine until March 2020.[1] Mills was employed by Times Newspapers for 22 years.

Now the creator of an online community called "Noon" and a self confessed Queenager. From the website:

"At Noon, we call ourselves Queenagers. We’re pioneering midlife women who are in our prime, starting new chapters, a bit hormonal but most importantly becoming the women we are supposed to be. More than ever, our lives are in our own hands and we want to make sure you’re getting all the joy, fun and good stuff you deserve. I’m proud to say that my newsletter is a Substack Bestseller and my interview with Sheryl Sandberg was featured in the top 10 most-read posts on the site."

Key points of the episode:

  • The sudden change in her career - the Editor, the head of HR, and the box of tissues on the desk.
  • The experience of that and how she knew everything was going to be different.
  • Why she did not want another job in journalism. But wasn't quite sure of the new phase.
  • "Who am I without this defining huge job I have had since since my 20s"
  • The one person she did NOT want to tell and her insights on that.
  • Her thoughts on "achievement"- overrated.....?
  • ....and who sets the standards anyway?
  • The age of becoming- "Queenager Years" -"mid Life Pivot"
  • The lens that women view themselves through- a male one? "Brexit/Legsit!"
  • Eleanors view- a rainbow - not black or white.
  • Why the male lens is limiting (and the rainbow isn't)
  • How the women lead change in this stage of their life.
  • A helpful philosophy to deal with sudden change.
  • Her (legal) Magic Mushroom retreat!
  • (and Health and Safety's opinion on it!)
  • And her vision for new possibilities and midlife shifts.
  • The importance of a sense of curiousity.
  • The greater possibilities that are open to all of us, but our conscious mind has not cottoned onto yet.
  • Saying YES to joy!


The Book - "Much More to Come", published by Harper Collins, and if you buy from Waterstones before the end of August using the code "muchmore50" - get it for half price!

Her platform- http://www.noon.org.uk


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S2 E2 - Livvy Bentley22 Jan 202500:40:14

Made in Chelsea star - Livvy Bentley talks to Lucy today..

To give you a reminder...

Debuting at the start of the eleventh series, fine art photographer Olivia Bentley has featured prominently across two main series, and summer spin-off Made in Chelsea: South of France.

Introduced as a former love interest of Sam Thompson, she initially clashed with Tiff Watson, though the two have since become friends. Olivia has since enjoyed a "holiday romance" with Francis Boulle, creating a love triangle and feud with Georgia "Toff" Toffolo resulting in a divide between the girl groups. Olivia later began dating Francis' close friend Fredrik Ferrier, and the two have since entered a relationship.

And there's a lot more to her - listen on!





Key points of the show:

  • How she got started on Made in Chelsea
  • The problem with social media (mainly Insta)
  • Why it's good to be yourself on a reality show (even if that means being a dick!)
  • How her world changed after Made in Chelsea
  • Which newspaper has the most ferocious comments!
  • And how much she cares!
  • What an open conversation about sex led to!
  • Her sex positive open attitide.
  • JOMO - what does it mean!!!!
  • What 6 months of not drinking did for her.
  • What the generations need to know about each other!
  • How some people judge her for her life choices.
  • Some positive sex tips.
  • And a sneak peak of the soon to be launched vibrator!
  • And a somewhat USA woman with the same name!!!!


Reach out www.jomolondon.com
Insta @jomolondon


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S2 E1 - Bryony Gordon08 Jan 202500:49:02

Bryony Naomi Gordon is an English journalist, author, broadcaster and podcaster. She is the author of the novels, Mad Girl, You Got This, and The Wrong Knickers which were all nominated for British Book Awards. She founded Mental Health Mates in 2016 and hosts the Mad World podcast.

Key points of the episode:

  • How she thought she was having a great time but was not really- and drinking too much.
  • How writing about the dark stuff helped her heal from it.
  • Her now thoughts on mental illness.
  • Her life as a journalist.. and author and Mum!
  • How being a Mum has changed her.
  • Her thoughts on sobriety.
  • Her books and her advocacy for mental health.


Insta @bryonygordon


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S1 E14 | Season Two Look Ahead26 Dec 202400:05:18

Some incredible and interesting guests coming up in Season 2.

Here, we look ahead.

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When the Drugs Don't Work - One Woman’s Descent into the Madness of Antidepressants | Katinka Blackford Newman (S4 - E5)20 Jan 202600:49:59

Katinka Blackford Newman is a London-based documentary filmmaker, author, journalist, and life coach. 
 
She trained with the BBC and has worked on a variety of high-profile factual programmes for broadcasters such as BBC, Discovery, ITV and Channel 4. 

In 2012, during a personal crisis connected to divorce and insomnia, she was prescribed an antidepressant which triggered a severe adverse reaction.
 
 The experience nearly cost her life and sparked her deep involvement in exploring medication safety.
 
 After a year of intensive treatment and recovery off all the drugs, she began investigating antidepressant side effects and advocating for greater awareness.
 
 Katinka founded Antidepressant Risks, a platform aimed at giving voice to people affected by psychiatric drug harm, collecting stories, and promoting more informed consent in prescribing.

 She is also a published author: her book The Pill That Steals Lives recounts her ordeal and research into the risks of psychiatric medications.

Her work has been featured in national media and was adapted into a BBC Panorama episode titled “A Prescription for Murder”.

Beyond her advocacy and writing, Katinka now also works as a mental fitness life coach, helping professionals manage overwhelm, develop resilience, and reclaim direction in mid-life transitions. 

Throughout her career, Katinka remains committed to telling human stories with empathy, exposing hidden risks in medicine, and supporting people to find agency over their mental and physical health.

Key points of the episode:

PART 1

  • How, because of her personal development, she kind of became the "poster girl" for a marriage split up. At first.
  • How she started taking sleeping tablets to cope.
  • How she was given a diagnosis of depression and prescribed anti-depressants....
  • ...and how she had a rare toxic shock.
  • ....and how her mind went into psychosis.
  • How the medical professionals did not entertain the idea that it was the antidepressants that caused it.
  • How it became so desperate she decided to take her life....
  • ....and what stopped her.
  • The eventual joyful resolution.
  • How she then used her investigative journalist training to change the course of her career.
  • How the drug companies have known for years about this.
  • The unbelievable information she has found out since...
  • How the book was turned into an episode of Panorama.
  • How she was inundated by people who told her their similar stories.
  • How she set up a charity called "Antidepressant Risks"

PART 2

  • How she has this knowledge she can never forget and the responsibility she feels.
  • How the transformation was immediate and extraordinary.
  • How it was almost like a rebirth.
  • How there was a lot going on in her personal sphere.
  • How her children know more about drug side effects than most medics!
  • How she has recognised empowering and disempowering beliefs, and catastrophisation in her thinking.
  • How she is now able to consciously change her thought process, and how fear is no longer in it.

 

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S1 E13 CHRISTMAS SPECIAL - Author Jenny Colgan20 Dec 202400:49:50
  • The tens of books she has written.
  • How she loves a full on Christmas!!
  • Sacks and satsumas? 
  • Movies Movies Movies!
  • Advent calendars?
  • How hard it is to buy for people!
  • (Can you wrap a digital download code?!!)
  • How kids can be frightened of food!
  • How living in France teaches kids how to eat!
  • What people look for in a book, and a little on structure.
  • How some writers like to surprise themselves!



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S1 E12a | Season Two Look Ahead11 Dec 202400:06:15

Some wonderful and interesting guests are coming in Season 2 - here we look ahead.

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S1 E12 - Jessica Yip11 Dec 202400:43:30

In conversation with Jessica Yip - from her website:
 
 I always thought if I did things “right,” love would just happen like it seemed to for everyone else.

But underneath my material success, I was reliving all the toxic patterns that I was raised with:
 — Hot/cold relationships,
 — The inability to navigate conflict,
 — Martyring my needs/desires/goals for those of others.

Even so, I was no stranger to self-development. A lifelong learner, do-er, and achiever — just like you — I read, listened to, and practiced it all. For years.

But the many tools I had weren’t the ones I needed to put a stop to this cycle of heartbreak.
 
 Calling in “The One”
finally broke the spell.

LOVE IS NO LONGER A MYSTERY, A STRUGGLE, OR A FANTASY.

When I tell you that I’m healthy, I mean that I feel confident and connected to myself in a way that I didn’t know was possible. All of my dreams — of being in love, of being an entrepreneur, of making a music album, of belonging to a community, of writing a book — have become a miraculous reality.

I coach because, despite all the ways we may have been actively and/or passively taught otherwise, everyone deserves to love and be loved. I coach because the joyful future you want is more than possible. It’s waiting for you, and I’m here to help you get there.

Key Points of the Episode:
 
 
 ·        How she had a great life on paper but felt an aching incompleteness.

·        How an on/off situationship she realised was not serving her.

·        How she reclaimed her voice in every sense- the journey.

·        The two incredible brothers she met that worked magic in he life.

·        Her musical heroes journey.

·        The unhealthy patterns and beliefs we carry and how to break them.

·        How we find our voice in relationships.

·        How we do not need anyone to be anything for us to be happy.

·        How to cultivate generosity of spirit in relationships.


 Reach out www.jessicayip.com

 

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S1 E11 - Sophie Slade27 Nov 202400:48:32

Sophie is a senior Imago Clinic instructor, a global citizen, speaks multiple languages, and has a highly successful relationship. Lucy has also trained with her.

She brings a fantastic energy to the room.

 

Key points of the episode:

 

·       How she never expected to focus so much on sex, and why she does.

·       How talking about the pain, never helps one to feel “hot and horny”

·       Where she thinks the wounds come from.

·       How people do not know what their sexual needs are – or express them badly if they do.

·       The adaptive strategies we develop if our needs are not met.

·       Spontaneous desire contrasted with responsive desire.

·       How she wanted to reclaim her own sexuality which she had disconnected to.

·       Sexual appreciation dialogues

·       Curiosity. Connection. Capacity. Willingness.

Reach out here:

Slade.imago@icloud.com

www.sophieslade.com

 

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S1 - E10 Anna Anderson13 Nov 202400:43:58

Anna Anderson is an established spiritual coach, and author, and has her own podcasts too. She empowers women to tune in and lead from their heart.

Key points of the episode:
 
 

·        How she guides people to do their own work and lead in Love

·        How women come to her when they have "ticked the boxes" but are still not happy.

·        How she teaches an inner connection of "I am" consciousness.....

·        to find a life where we are self validating.

·        How we are supposed to have all the good things, but not be defined by them.

·        How we are all going through alchemical stages - "shedding the old to allow the new"

·        Her story and where she came from we do not have to hit rock bottom.

·        How growth happens.


 Reach out to Anna here: www.annaa.com
Insta @iamannaanderson

 

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S1 E9 - Jeanne Byrd30 Oct 202400:31:52

Jeanne Byrd- from her website:

I have been creating a safe space for men and women to transform their bodies and relationships since 2008. Using intuition, nutrition and transformative practice, I help my clients achieve results that were impossible with their old lifestyles and beliefs.

My desire for you…

I want to help you create a successful, soulful love life that matches your most intimate desire for partnership.

I want to help you nourish and support your physical body so that you feel congruent and comfortable in your own skin, able to offer your heart and body to your Beloved as a gift, without shame or ambivalence.

I want to help you catalyze heartbreak and suffering so that the people and experiences that informed you, no longer define you, or impact your future.

I am a Senior Certified Calling in “The One” Coach and Facilitator, a Senior Certified Conscious Uncoupling Coach, a Certified INHC Institute of Integrative Nutrition Coach, and a Senior Certified Feminine Power Transformative Coach. I have over 10 years of transformative coaching experience and have successfully worked with hundreds of men, women and couples.



Key points of the episode:

·        How nutrition, yes nutrition is key to love relationships.

·        How mood is the missing link - Food=Mood

·        How stress and her eating was breaking her body down.

·        How stress absolutely has an effect on our immune systems.

·        And how self care is absolutely necessary.

·        Bring ALL parts of yourself to the table.

·        Why we struggle with self care.

·        What the "Calling In The One" process is.

·        How our patterns run us, but are ultimately not true.

·        How as a child, we blame ourselves for other peoples behaviour.

·        Films that portray happy healthy love. (Jeanne has a film background)

·        A little on conscious uncoupling.

Reach out to Jeanne here www.jeannebyrd.com

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S1 E8 Lynn and Sam Crilly16 Oct 202400:46:22


Lynn Crilly is an author, counsellor and filmmaker but more importantly a mother, grandmother and has been married for 34 years!
 
 Sam Crilly is an actress, a professional poet, a creative and co-creator of the Troublemuncher, an app that helps young people express their feelings.
 
 Key points of the episode:
 

·        How the Troublemuncher and the poetry came into being.

·        Samantha's  journey with anorexia and OCD.

·        How the whole family and the local GP was very supportive.

·        How the OCD manifests in Samamtha. (in a somewhat unusual way)

·        How Lynn removed Samantha from all the mental health services and nursed her back to health - a true story of a mothers love....

·        ...and how this helps Lynn serve her clients now.

·        How the family dynamics were affected.


If you would like to reach out to Lynn - please do so here: www.lynncrilly.com

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S1 E7 - Louisa Young02 Oct 202400:58:16

Louisa Young is a writer and songwriter whose twelve novels include the award-winning ‘My Dear I Wanted to Tell You’ trilogy. She’s half of the children’s author Zizou Corder (with her daughter Isabel Adomakoh Young), and half of the band Birds of Britain (with Alex Mackenzie). She’s a Londoner, a former journalist, a singer, a feminist, a reader, and ‘a masterly storyteller’ –  The Washington Post.

Her latest novel, Twelve Months And A Day, is published by Borough Press in June 2022. ‘A tale of two love stories with a supernatural twist, Twelve Months and a Day is poignant and sad as well as funny, and beautifully written and imagined. What if our beloveds lived on as ghosts and watched us grieve, what if they never really leave us, and what if some of these ghosts even meet?’ — Monique Roffey

 Her ‘beautiful’, ‘heartbreaking’. spectacular’, ‘unflinching’, ‘bruising’, ‘brilliant’, ‘honest as the morning after’ memoir, You Left Early: A True Story of Love and Alcohol, is out in paperback. She released her debut album, You Left Early, also about love, death and addiction, in 2018.

Louisa has taught at Arvon, Skyros, Moniack Mhor, at Guardian Masterclasses, and for Birkbeck (University of London). She has been a Visiting Specialist Lecturer in Creative Non Fiction at the University of Kent at Canterbury. 



Key points of the episode:

  • How she was depressed in her early years, and how she finally beat it and how life got better.
  • How her (and many other) work worlds have changed so much over the years.
  • Young children and their critique of her work!
  • A close call with the IRA.
  • Her thoughts on the riots (August 2024)
  • What she will and wont write about and why.
  • "All about the approach, not about the topic"
  • The difference betwen "fault" and "responsibility" and the need for tough love sometimes.
  • Her new "romcom" book.
  • ... and a secret new project!

Reach out on www.louisayoung.co.uk

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S1 E6 - Dr. Joe Kort18 Sep 202400:46:14

In this interview a truly leading edge conversation with an extaordinary man Dr. Joe Kort - from his website:


… I believe in finding new and constructive means of communication for couples so they can better understand their partners and use their relationships for mutual healing and fulfillment.

Also - there is no shame in erotic orientation. As a heterosexual couple or individual, learn how to have a sex-positive attitude toward your sexual fantasies and minimize any shame you carry about your erotic interests. From the taboo topic of masturbation to more complex subjects such as emotional landscape and attachment, Dr. Joe Kort sheds light in the dark by sharing his more than thirty years experience in sex therapy. The key to happy, healthy sexuality is to not deny ones core erotic orientation.

And - we live in a world that is deeply confused and conflicted about all matters sexual. If we talk about it at all it is often in whispers, “dirty” talk, or from a negative perspective such as sexual abuse, sexual trauma, or negative and incorrect messages we heard during our formative years.


Key points of the episode:

  • How he keeps up with the latest in therapy.
  • A surprising revelation about sexuality.
  • His claim to fame on Tik Tok!
  • Surprising solutions to seemingly impossible sexual problems.
  • The difference between sexual attraction and trauma urge.
  • How there is no such thing as sexual addiction.
  • The difference between sexual orientation and erotic orientation.
  • New term -"Erotic empathy."
  • How we anaesthetize our pain by eroticising it, and how it has nothing to do with sexual attraction.
  • New sexual term - not a "top" or "bottom" but a "side"!
  • New term - "Outercourse"
  • A definition of "kinky" and the difference of a "fetish"
  • Why auto-erotic asphyxiation is dangerous.
  • How he has kept his 31 year old marriage to his husband fresh.
  • The difference between "porn use" and "porn watching" and a new take on porn addiction.
  • How his job is "To help you find an answer that is not even on this planet right now!"
  • New term "Gaytricarhy"
  • How we can be more sexually fluid at times.


Reach out to learn more about this fascinating man on https://joekort.com/

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S1 E5 - Lis Cashin04 Sep 202400:41:59

Liz is a a female leader with purpose - just like you (?)  Her mission is to lead a self-worth revolution for women leaders.

As women leaders, we often find ourselves battling the negative voices in our heads, questioning our worth, and doubting our abilities. But I'm here to tell you that it's time for a change. It's time to join the self-worth revolution and start leading from a place of authenticity, empowerment, and knowing the value that you bring.​

I work with organisations and individuals to enable transformation. Currently studying for an MSC in Applied Positive Psychology, Organisations and Leadership, I am a qualified and experienced Business & Leadership coach, Master NLP and Mindfulness practitioner. I'm also a multi-award-winning speaker , trainer and best-selling author.  My 121 sessions, training programmes & retreats bring the best of what I have learned in over 20 years researching personal development that I develop into tailored programmes. No more holding yourself back. No more hiding. It's time to shine your light so brightly - they're going to need shades!

Key Points of the Episode:

  • How the most important relationship is the one with yourself. 
  • Cliched that it is, the "journey" of it.
  • How in the formative years of building her identity she thought there was something inherently wrong with herself.
  • Her relatively recent diagnosis of PTSD.
  • How a car crash was a wake up call to her victim mindset.
  • How she decided that sharing her story was valuable at one point in her healing process, but now just the positive learnings from it.
  • How who she really was/is a wonderful person, but she did not realise it!
  • Her first (and a bit scary) experience of setting boundaries.
  • A simple (if not easy) way to be responsible for our feelings.
  • The "F" word - Forgiveness. A healthy definition.
  • How the "Just Need To" school of thought does not work.
  • How she feels she can help so many people.

Reach out on www.liscashin.com

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'Hair loss was my worst nightmare,'; Sarah Vine on wigs, hair systems, female baldness and what the future holds14 Jan 202600:44:12

Sarah Vine is a British journalist and columnist best known for her opinion writing on politics, culture, family life, and social change. Over the course of her career, she has written for major UK publications including the Daily Mail and The Times, establishing herself as a prominent and often polarising voice in British media. Her columns are characterised by a highly personal style, combining political commentary with reflections drawn from her own experiences, relationships, and domestic life.

Vine is particularly known for her confessional approach to journalism, frequently using her platform to examine issues such as marriage, motherhood, ageing, and female identity in midlife. She has written openly about personal challenges, including her experience of hair loss, treating it not simply as a cosmetic issue but as part of a broader exploration of vulnerability, self-image, and the pressures placed on women in the public eye. By addressing such subjects candidly, she has contributed to wider conversations about honesty and stigma around women’s health and appearance.

Alongside personal themes, Vine’s work often engages directly with contemporary political debates, reflecting her interest in conservatism, culture wars, and the shifting nature of British society. Her writing style is direct, provocative, and unapologetically subjective, attracting both loyal readership and strong criticism. Through this blend of political opinion and personal disclosure, Sarah Vine has carved out a distinctive place in modern British column writing.


Key Points of the Episode:

  • How she has suffered hair loss her whole life and thinks she is genetically predisposed to it.
  • The difference between wigs and "interlace" systems.
  • How she wants people to understand the issue better and what women (and men) experience.
  • Why she wanted to talk publically about it.
  • The importance of early intervention in hair loss.
  • The emotional impact of her condition.
  • The effect it had on her relationships.
  • The bad choices she made in relationships.
  • The surprising statistic on the amount of woman that have hair loss.
  • The treatment she is having.
  • The desire to simply look "normal"


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S1 E4- Madeleine Black21 Aug 202400:46:37

Madeleine has an unusual personal story which she uses to inspire and motivate others. A deeply moving and empowering story, as she discovers that life is about how a person chooses to recover from adversity.  We are not defined by what knocks us down – we are defined by how we get back up.

Violently gang raped when she was thirteen years old, and raped three more times before the age of eighteen, Madeleine has experienced more trauma in her life than most ever will. Living in a state of shock and self-loathing, it took her years of struggle to confront the buried memories of that first attack and begin to undo the damage it wrought, as men continued to take advantage of her fragility in the worst possible way.

Yet, after growing up with a burden no teenager should ever have to shoulder, she found the heart to carry out the best revenge plan of all; leading a fulfilling and happy life.  For Madeleine, forgiveness was the key.  True forgiveness takes genuine effort.  It takes a real desire to understand those who have done us so much harm.  It is the ultimate act of courage.



Key Points of the episode:


  • A terrible traumatic event that changed her life, and how she finally shifted and worked through it, and why.
  • How she went through denial to acceptance.
  • A healthy and powerful definition - and the power of forgiveness.
  • How sexual violence is "virtually decriminalised" in the UK, and why.
  • How she has broken up with her "friends" shame, anxiety and fear.
  • How the responsibility for sexual violence does not lie with alcohol or dress code but squarely on the shoulders of the perpetrators.
  • The power of the ripple effect when we share our stories
  • The wonderful well being she has now, no trauma!
  • A way out of her comfort zone- bit by bit!



Reach out www.madeleineblack.co.uk


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S1 E3 - Nick Breau07 Aug 202400:38:22

Nick Breau is a multifaceted spiritual and personal development teacher, currently running two online programmes one being The Breakthrough Club, assisting people in many areas of their life - personal development, health and well being and spiritual growth. He brings his wealth of varied life experience to his current work - formerly in IT - he's gone from "computer hacker to people hacker!"

  • How he realised that most people were not happy while working in tech.
  • How he had a deep down feeling that life was supposed to be easier than this.
  • How life was not “bad” but he felt that there was so much more to be experienced, and more happiness to be had.
  • His own unique “internal” take on Law of Attraction and the successful process he uses with clients.
  •  A “radical” yet much easier and more delicious way of living.
  • The source of, and how to heal problems.
  • The difference between the “old” and “new” reality.
  • The amazing synchronicities on how he met his current partner.
  • How we all have the capacity to experience life in a different way, and how it is all inside of us!
  • The two programmes he currently has. 
  • His take on the current state of the planet- and why.

Reach out to Nick on www.nickbreau.com
nick@nickbreau.com


Thurs "Loving your reality is they key to a lovely reality"
"Doing nothing is doing something!"

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S1 E2 - Kat Byles24 Jul 202400:41:46

Kat is currently based in the Caribbean, does "PR with heart", is the authour of "Creative Happy Work" (with a quote from Lucy in it!), she is deeply involved in cleaning up the shores and the seas, was involved with the homeless world cup, she podcasts,  creates wonderful meditations, and seems very chilled out!



Key Points of the Episode:

  • How connecting with your heart is the key to the truest relationship of all- with ourselves.
  • The “Before” and “After” of when she started listening to her heart
  • How transformation comes step by step
  • Her experience of burnout
  • “Grey Mind”- a definition
  • “Red Mind” – a definition
  • “Blue Mind” (the good one), a definition and an idea to get there
  • How connecting to your “lifeforce” gives you the power in your life
  • How a client of hers ended up cooking for the “Black Eyed Peas” (not cooking Black Eyed Peas!!)
  • A day in her life
  • How she tried to get her current partner to match her visualisations, and how her intuition stepped in with wise words!
  • The work she does with the environment 

Fascinated? Reach out to her here: https://www.katbyles.com

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S1 E1 | Clover Stroud10 Jul 202400:48:39

In this inaugural episode, I talk to Clover Stroud, she is an author, writer, journalist, podcaster, teacher and a Mum andbased in Washington.

She chat about her transition from journalism to what she is doing today, and how she has captured the hearts and souls of her readers.

Key Points of This Episode:

  • How her words resonate with so many people which is why she has such a good following.
  • The profound love and desire for “home”.
  • The importance of unconditional love, even when times are tough.
  • How she would have loved to know her mum as an adult, but this is not possible because if an accident she had when Clover was 16.
  • Her thoughts on grief (including the “beauty”), and the ongoing relationship with people around her.
  • The emotional connections with places.
  • How she connects with her audience by connecting with how life feels.

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