Struggling with where to start in getting over your ex? This episode dives into the different starting points based on your unique situation. Whether you’re longing for your ex back, overwhelmed by emotions, obsessing over them, or uncertain about your future, we've got you covered. I break down the essential steps: decide to move on, commit to your healing journey, and practice becoming the person who’s already over their ex. Additionally, I provide specific tools tailored to where you're starting from. Join me for practical advice and actionable steps to help you navigate your breakup and start building a brighter future. Click to listen and take the first step toward reclaiming your life.

Yasmin Bahrami is a Braveheart alumni that took her heartbreak and turned into a successful career through art. Tune in as we talk about her heartbreak journey and how it led to not only art but also money and a career. If you’re struggling to figure out what to do with your pain, you’ll leave this episode knowing exactly what to do to turn into your power.

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/moonkissedcollective/ 

Website: https://moonkissedcollective.com/

If you feel like you lost yourself in your last relationship, today is the day we talk about how to feel like yourself again after a breakup. Leave with brilliant insights and mind blowing moments that will help you feel like yourself again TODAY.

The Get Over Your Ex COURSE: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourexcourse

Are you having a difficult time co parenting with your ex? Perhaps you're triggered by the good things your kids say about your ex and maybe even the new partner. OR triggered by the bad things that your kids are exposed to when they are forced to be with a parent you don't align with. Join us in today's episode while we have expert parenting coach Crystal on as she discusses parenting and provides us with tangible tools to help us co parent during heartbreak.

In today's episode:
Understand what you can do to parent your children when you have no control over your ex Learn how to overcome triggers (good or bad) that appear while co parenting
* Become a parent who can positively influence their child no matter what the ex is doing (or not doing)

IG: www.instagram.com/the.parenting.coach
Website: www.coachcrystal.ca
Program: www.coachcrystal.ca/group
The Parenting Coach Podcast with Crystal: www.coachcrystal.ca/blog (on all platforms)

Have you ever had a conversation with your ex that left you feeling confused? Or maybe your ex said one thing and then did another thing that went against what they just said. Instead of spending your precious time and energy being confused, spinning, and not making forward movement in your heartbreak journey, listen to today’s episode where we break down what’s really happening so you can gain clarity.

In today’s episode:

• Understand what’s causing the confusion
• Learn what steps you can take to create clarity
• Become clear about what next steps you can take today to get over your ex no matter how much confusion there is

Enrollment for the Get Over Your Ex in 3 months or less program is OPEN: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex

Limited time breakup boxes/breakup first aid kit - DEADLINE 11/18/22 at 8pm ET

Limited time How to Handle Heartbreak During the Holidays bonus course - DEADLINE 11/25/22 at 8pm ET

Open House house on Tuesday, November 11/22/22 at 6:30pm CT - join the zoom here.

Sending all the love,

Dorothy

Were you in a “situation-ship” that’s ended and now you’re left feeling heartbroken and ashamed that you feel so miserable when it wasn’t a defined relationship? Today, Braveheart Miranda and I discuss what heartbreak is like when you are going through a breakup of an “undefined” relationship. 

In today’s episode:

• Learn how to create closure without a breakup conversation
• Understand why anger feels productive after the ending of a situation-ship
• Become connected with yourself so much so that you don’t reach outside of yourself anymore for validation, worth, or comfort

The Get Over Your Ex in 3 months or less program is open for enrollment Thursday 11/17 - if you sign up by Friday 11/18 you'll receive a complimentary breakup first aid kit in the mail along with your physical GOYE workbook and the how to handle heartbreak during the holidays course - see you inside! 

https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex 

Have you ever been in a situation where you loved everything that came with the relationship (like the house, family, friends) but then the relationship itself was lack luster? You then find yourself convincing yourself that “it’s not that bad” out of fear of losing what the relationship brings.

In today’s episode:

• Learn what’s really happening when you’re convincing yourself it’s not that bad
• Understand what’s holding you back from the greatness
• Become someone is confident that they are in control of having everything they had in the relationship even outside of it

Don't forget the LIVE 5 day immersive event where you can accomplish 5 months of healing in just 5 days happening SOON! Save your spot here: http://breakupcoachdorothy.com/nextsteps

Are you ready to learn tangible tools that go along with the How to Get Over Your Ex podcast? In need of Breakup Coach Dorothy’s advice but haven’t yet signed up for the Get Over Your Ex program? Come join me in a LIVE 5 day immersive event for only $17. This is where you’ll accomplish 5 months of healing in only 5 days to catapult your breakup journey so that you can get to building the bigger and better life! You do not want not want to miss this!

Sign up at: http://breakupcoachdorothy.com/nextsteps

After a breakup it’s easy to feel like you’ve lost yourself. Maybe you spent all your time morphing yourself into the ideal person for your partner. Maybe your partner questioned you so much that you’ve lost a sense of direction. Regardless of why you’re feeling like you’ve lost yourself, there’s a solution. 

In today’s episode:

• Learn how to get direction to your life again
• Understand what’s been keeping you stuck in feeling lost, confused and purposeless
• Become the you that has drive, focus, and intention in their daily life

The quality of my life is a direct reflection of the quality of my thoughts. If my life feels like a hot mess, it’s a direct reflection that my mind/brain/thoughts are a hot mess. No matter where you are in the breakup process, no matter how much you know about thought work, no matter how good you are at coaching - you will never be omitted from needing to be reminded that your circumstances do not cause your suffering. 

In today’s episode: 

• Learn one simple technique that will change everything
• Understand the problem that’s holding you back no matter where you are in your breakup or dating journey
• Become the one who’s in control of your experience

Are you over your ex and ready to start the dating process but don’t have a real step by step guide to follow? Join me today as I share the entire dating to engaged process that not only worked for me but many of my clients.

In today’s episode:

• Learn what the dating process is
• Understand where you can improve your dating experience
• Be the person who actually enjoys dating (or become the person who gets engaged - if that’s what you’re looking for)

Links:

- wants episode (117) found here

- falling madly in love while practicing non attachment (128) found here

A much needed breakup pep talk to uplift you through the rest of your week.

Recently inspired by Living Untethered by Michael A Singer - https://www.amazon.com/Living-Untethered-Beyond-Human-Predicament/dp/1648480934

Sending so much love,

Dorothy

Bravehearts, to truly learn something is not to simply “know it”. To truly learn something is to “master it.” You cannot master something unless you put it to practice. When I hear Bravehearts saying “I’m trying, I’m trying, I’m trying” or “I logically know…” it shows me they’ve learned to the point of “knowing” but not to the point of mastering. 

You’re worth it to master the art of non attachment. You’re worth more than 5 days. You’re worth the time, energy, and effort you put into your last relationship. 

THE GOYE COURSE (start today for only $185): https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourexcourse

The way someone else treats you isn’t your responsibility. Oftentimes we get confused about the “ownership” piece of “letting people treat you poorly”. Today I demystify this idea of letting someone treat you poorly and what to do with the shame you experience around your past relationship.

In today’s episode:

• Learn what it actually means to let someone treat you poorly
• Understand what’s been holding you back from letting go of the shame and potentially even embarrassment of what you allowed in your life
• Become proud and clear about your past so that you can let go of shame and move forward

After a traumatic heartbreak, many of us want to make sure that we pick the right person next time, that we don’t get hurt like we did and that we don’t avoid the red flags like we did that time. In today’s episode I’m going to help you pick the right person next time and provide you with the confidence you need to move forward in your healing journey.

In this episode:

• Learn how to pick the right person next time
• Understand what it means to pick the right person 
• Become someone who’s confident in their decision making around dating

After a breakup it’s easy to turn to the idea that we will never meet anyone as great as our ex again. It’s a common thought error that many of us have. Join me today as I explain what the real problem is about this thought (it’s not what you think) and how you can use this story to catapult your healing journey.

In today’s episode:

• Learn the real issue when you’re telling yourself “I won’t meet anyone like my ex again” (it’s not what you think)
• Understand how you can use this story to your advantage
• Become the version of you that catapults your healing today

Staying in a relationship that is “almost” everything you’ve ever wanted is pretty common. Typically it’s fear that keeps us from moving forward and exiting the half ass energy loop that is creating a half ass relationship. Join Nikki this week as she talks about what it was like to leave the half ass energy of a half ass relationship and build a bigger and better life for herself!

In today’s episode: 

• Learn how to leave when it’s almost everything but not everything you ever wanted
• Understand what’s keeping you stuck in a mediocre relationship/life
• Become someone who only shows up for the bigger and better life and never settles for less than

https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex 

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You have the ability to get over your ex AND you could choose to do it differently. Not alone, not trial and error, not struggling your way through but in a way that is supportive, where you're held, given proven steps that get you to self security and oblitorates the fear of your future without your ex in it.

Be ready to blow your own mind: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex

First come first serve, will be closed once all spots are filled. From the bottom of my heart, I cannot wait to meet you inside.

So much shame is created and cultivated by believing that we should already be over this… no matter our age, no matter how long the relationship was or how long the breakup happened - this seems to be a reoccurring theme among Bravehearts. Join me today with Gracie as she gives us words of wisdom around shame, what to do when your problems don’t feel big enough, when you think your best days are behind you, and when you care a lot about what your ex thinks of you.

In today’s episode:

• Learn how to no longer hold onto shame because you should already be over him
• Understand what’s holding you back from getting over your ex
• Become someone who is no longer obsessing over what your ex thinks of you

https://dorothyabjohnson.com/morethanmoveon/

The Get Over Your Ex in 3 months or less experience is almost open. Here's everything you need to know to be prepared to save your spot! 

No matter how long you were together and have beent trying to heal, you can Get Over Your Ex in 3 months or less. I want you to feel fully secure in yourself and confident in your choices -- so much so, you're no longer pining over someone who left you, but you're rapidly calling in all the things that are FOR you.

Let's do this!

https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex

Divorce after 24 years of marriage can be difficult. You took your vows seriously and your ex didn’t. How do you recover from that? Not only recover but can you even thrive after something like that? Listen in today as Lisa shares her story. She was committed to her ex, she took those vows seriously but after an affair while your mother was dying from cancer, she said enough was enough. 

In today’s episode:

• Learn how you can let go of anger no matter your breakup situation
• Understand why celebrating along the way is so important to your healing
• Become the version of yourself your kids can be inspired by

www.breakupcoachdorothy.com/morethanmoveon

After a traumatic breakup experience it’s easy to feel like what you wanted with your ex is no longer available to you. Or at least it feels like it’s on pause until you find another partner. Listen in on today’s episode where Janet talks about her heart healing journey going from feeling like her future was gone at age 32 to feeling empowered to take the next step regardless of her relationship status. 

In today’s episode:

• Learn the key to creating the life you want regardless of what your ex is doing
• Understand what the biggest obstacles is to creating the future you wanted with your ex
• Become someone who is no longer attached to their ex for their future

www.breakupcoachdorothy.com/morethanmoveon

Save Your Spot Today: https://breakupcoachdorothy.com/morethanmoveon

I’m ready to help you do more than move on - I want you to build a life your ex regrets leaving!! To build a life you deserve regardless of what your ex is doing. Come join me in a live 2 day immersive event FOR FREE where I’m going to give you tangible steps/”how tos” to actually creating the life that’s better than the one you had with your ex.

You do not want to miss this. Seats are limited, do not wait to sign up: https://breakupcoachdorothy.com/morethanmoveon

Feeling suffocated by your intense attachment to something, only to see it slip further away 
(like your ex)? In this powerful episode, we dive into “the attachment cycle” and how it's keeping you stuck, whether it's a relationship, a goal, or a dream. Discover how understanding and navigating the attachment cycle can help you collapse the timeframe to bring your desires into reality. Learn practical steps to recognize when you're gripping too tightly, move through resistance, cultivate curiosity, and ultimately release attachment. Join me as we explore how to create safety in your mind and body, propelling you toward the life you've always wanted (regardless of what your ex is doing). Don't miss this transformative discussion—click to listen now!

With a special announcement from Breakup Coach Dorothy that long time listeners will love! 

PS. The LAST ENROLLMENT for the Get Over Your Ex in 3 months or less program is open. The deadline to enroll is Friday, June 14th at midnight: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourexcelebrate/

After a devastating heartbreak, Cara has ZERO answers about why or what happened. Crying all the time, missing him, knowing deep down that she had a good life but at the same time she had a really strong desire for her ex. At 46 years old, she wanted to find someone who was committed to her but felt so lost when it came to this area of her life.

In today’s episode:

• Learn how to commit to getting over your ex no matter what your breakup situation is
• Understand what’s kept you from the bigger and better life 
• Become certain about your ability to do more than move on but to live a life your ex regrets leaving

www.breakupcoachdorothy.com/morethanmoveon

Now that you’ve learned that thoughts create feelings and you’ve been working on yourself since the breakup, you want your ex to see how well you’re doing. Maybe if they saw great you were doing they would want to come back? Or at the very least they would prove to them that you learned and are doing great after the breakup. 

In today’s episode:

• Learn what the real problem is in wanting your ex to see how great you’re doing because it’s not what you think it is
• Understand the one thing you need to do that will ensure your ex witnesses how great you are
• Become the version of you that doesn’t even care if your ex notices

It’s not about the “doing” when it comes to getting over your ex. It’s about the “being”. Learning to “be” the powerhouse you already are. Learning to “be” the powerful, purposeful and peaceful self that already exists inside of you is where it’s at. And that comes from changing your brain. Literally changing the neuro pathways that have been embedded in you since you started your relationship with your ex. Changing the brain may feel effortful right now but that doesn’t mean it can’t be effortless.

In today’s episode:

• Learn let changing the stories you’ve been telling yourself for so long doesn’t have to be effortful forever
• Understand what’s been keeping you from making this new belief system effortless
• Become someone who more than moves, she builds a life bigger and better than the one she had with her ex

“Wanting” to get over your ex is the first step to actually getting over your ex. For some of us this step is more difficult than others. You may be someone who knows they shouldn’t want to be with this person but they feel addicted to them.. Or maybe you’re the person who truly thinks your ex is the most amazing human on the planet and that keeps you from committing to truly getting over your ex. Regardless, learning to decide to get over your ex because you want to is important.

In today’s episode:

• Learn the secret mind hack I’ve used with myself and many clients to get yourself to a place of “wanting” to get over your ex
• Understand what’s been holding you back from “wanting” to get over your ex
• Become the version of yourself that commits to truly getting over their ex and building the life that’s bigger and better than the one they had with their ex

If you’re feeling defeated in love, today’s episode with Garrett, author of Dare to Move is a must listen! Her breakup stories and dating experiences are not only interesting but inspiring. Learn all about the love story that inspired me to move into my own fairytale. Leave the episode feeling alive and full of fresh air around your love story.

In today’s episode:

• Learn what kind of dating experience is right for you
• Understand how heartbreak can fuel your love story
• Become reinvigorated around love within 30 minutes

Learn more about Garrett:

Website: https://www.garrettnicolewood.com/

Instagram: 

Dare to Move Book: https://www.garrettnicolewood.com/dare-to-move-book/

Accepting the reality of a breakup when you didn’t want it in the first place is such a big pill to swallow. Today I’m going to go into the specifics around acceptance. I’ll show you why acceptance doesn’t have to be something difficult or scary and exactly how to get there.

In today’s episode:

• Learn what’s keeping you from acceptance
• Understand the key components of creating acceptance 
• Become the version of you that finds acceptance and is able to move forward

Sometimes we must live with an ex before we can move out. It can be difficult watching your ex go on and live their life like nothing’s wrong while you’re completely devastated. Today I’ll show you the ins and outs of what it’s like to live with an ex and how you can navigate this sort of short term situation. 

In today’s episode:

• Learn how to remain confident in yourself while living with an ex
• Understand how living with your ex can actually catapult your healing
• Become immune to what your ex says and does before moving out

Dreaming about your ex is bound to happen. The interesting part is what you do when you wake up from the dream. Too many of my Bravehearts spend countless hours ruminating about what the dream meant or wallowing in how they feel after waking from the dream. But here’s the simple solution when you’re feeling alarmed by the dreams you have about your ex.

In today’s episode:

• Learn why you’re dreaming about your ex 
• Understand what to do with the dreams you have about your ex
• Become someone who doesn’t spiral into negative emotions after dreaming about your ex

As a society we have gotten used to using the word “failed” when speaking about a completed marriage or relationship. This has led many of my Bravehearts to believe that the ending of their relationship means “they are a failure”. No matter how many completed relationships you’ve had, telling yourself you’re a failure won’t get you closer to the kind of relationship you actually want.

In today’s episode:

• Learn why your divorce/breakup doesn’t mean you’re a failure
• Understand what a divorce/breakup actually means about you
• Become someone who changes the narrative around divorce/breakups 

Cool article about the history of marriage sited in the episode: https://www.livescience.com/37777-history-of-marriage.html

Do you feel like your ex isn’t who you thought they were? Maybe they said they wanted children and to get married and now after years of dating they no longer want that. Or maybe they’ve had a hidden life the entire time you’ve dated. Either way - being stuck on how he wasn’t who you thought he was is super frustrating. 

In today’s episode:

• Learn why we get super fixated on who our ex was or wasn’t after a breakup
• Understand what we can do about it
• Become who you want to be regardless of who your ex is

Struggling to manage anger after a breakup? You're not alone. In this episode, we tackle the challenge of dealing with post-breakup anger head-on. Learn why it's essential to let yourself be angry and how to channel that anger through physical movement. Then, discover how to identify the root causes of your anger and decide if you're ready to shift out of it. By following these steps, you'll find a healthier way to process your emotions and move forward. Tune in today to gain practical insights and exact steps to managing YOUR anger after a breakup.

5 months of healing in 5 days at the How to Get Over Your Ex 5 day training starting today! (June 3 - 7): https://dorothyabjohnson.com/5daylivetraining/

The last enrollment is open this week for the Get Over Your Ex program. Enrollment will close Friday, June 14th at midnight, if you’ve wanted to work with Dorothy, this will be the last chance for the remainder of 2024: http://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourexcelebrate

Grief is a natural part of life. During heartbreak it feels heavy sometimes almost debilitating. Join us in today’s episode with expert grief coach Krista St. Germain. She coaches widowed moms and will talk to us today about post traumatic growth and a new way of handling grief during heartbreak. 

In today’s episode:

• Learn the basics about grief in a way you’ve never heard before
• Understand what it would look like to use post traumatic growth in your heartbreak
• Become the kind of person who moves through grief differently

Find Krista St. Germain here: https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/

“I wasn’t enough” “I will never be enough” “he’s become the man I always wanted and now I’ll never find a partner as good as him” – these are common thought patterns that happen in breakups and divorce. In today’s episode learn to how turn these common thought patterns into productive problem solving to help you create a life bigger and better than the one you had with your ex. 

In today’s episode:

• Learn what productive problem solving in your breakup is and why you haven’t been doing it
• Understand how not using productive problem solving is hindering your progress
• Become someone who uses their default thought patterns to their advantage to problem solve in a way that creates a life their ex regrets leaving

Leaving an on again off again relationship is difficult. You’ve built up a reward loop in your brain that makes it feel like an addiction. You’re not crazy, you’re simply human. Join us today as Monique talks about her experience finally leaving her relationship for the last time. She’ll discuss her biggest obstacles like guilt about leaving and how she overcame them with certainty, clarity and confidence.

In today’s episode:

• Learn why you haven’t left for good even though you really want to
• Understand what’s holding you back and how to overcome it so that you can leave and start fresh in a healthy and kind way
• Become certain, clear and confident in your decision to leave 

Building everything on your own doesn’t mean you’re alone forever. I talk about the concept of building a bigger and better life than you had with your ex. Learning to build that on your own so that no one can take it away like your ex did. People get this confused and think I’m saying … let’s get good on your own so you can be good in a relationship. Close, but not that’s not exactly what I’m saying. 

In today’s episode:

• Learn what it looks like to build the life you always wanted regardless of what your ex is doing
• Understand how to build that life on your own while also finding “the one”
• Become the person who has everything they ever wanted with or without a partner

In today's episode real parents share their real advice on parenting dos and don'ts while experiencing a divorce/breakup. 

These parents have been through the Get Over Your Ex in 3 months or less program and have been avid listeners of the podcast just like you! 

Today's episode is with my friend Daisy (11 year old) author and illustrator of the book called "A Kids Guide to Divorce and Life After It". 

Her book releases on Thursday, April 28th 2022 and you can sign up here to be alerted when it goes live for 99 cents on Kindle! 

http://www.daisyfreestone.com/

How do I help my kids process the change? What do I do when my child is constantly asking to go back to live with my ex? How do I help them through emotional turmoil? Some childrens’ first heartbreak is the heartbreak of their parents. In today’s episode learn how to help your kids while going through your own heartbreak. 

In today’s episode:

• Learn what you can do to help your children with their emotions during a time that is emotional for you
• Understand what is most useful for them during this time
• Become the kind of parent you want to be while experiencing heartbreak

Teen Coach Sami can be found at: https://knowingup.com/

She thought buying a home after her divorce was impossible. The data was stacked against her odds. Money, time, what her ex had done - there was no way. But in 3 short months of healing, getting over her ex, and believing in the not yet seen - she did it! In today’s episode join fellow Braveheart Sara as we show you how to create the impossible when all the odds are stacked against you.

In today’s episode: 

• Learn how to believe in what feels impossible to you when getting over your ex
• Understand what’s been keeping you from what you REALLY want
• Become the person who creates the impossible when all the odds are stacked against you

Have you wanted to feel indifferent towards your ex? Like no matter what he did or didn’t do, it just didn’t affect you? You don’t have that knee jerk emotional reaction to seeing him, his words, or anything about him? Join me today as Bravehearts Emily and Heather talk about how they got to indifference when it came to not only their ex but everything else in life too. 

In today’s episode:

• Learn how to feel indifferent about your ex
• Understand what’s been holding you back from feeling indifferent
• Become the person who doesn’t care when someone doesn’t message you back or want to hang out because you truly just enjoy being on your own.

Hey Braveheart!

We have a special announcment that we are excited to share! 

If you'd like to take part in working with Breakup Coach Dorothy to be over your ex before summer for $17 - we can't wait to see you inside!

REGISTER HERE: (April 11-15, 2022)

www.dorothyabjohnson.com/bb-live

Join us in this week’s episode as we discuss what it’s like to grieve together and dream together. Friendship plays a huge role in the healing journey. You don’t have to go through this terrible heartbreak alone. Leave this episode feeling connected to others and confident in your ability to grieve and dream in a brand new way. 

LIVE 5 day How to Get Over Your Ex training! Happening June 3rd - 7th. Come join Breakup Coach Dorothy and other bravehearts taking the work from the podcast and implementing these tools over five days completely free! 

Accomplish 5 months of healing in just 5 days! https://dorothyabjohnson.com/5daylivetraining/

Many Bravehearts think that their ex was the best they could do, that there’s no one else out there for them. But Braveheart Robyn realized that in reality, she could now get married. That she now could have a step dad for her children that would actually BE and SHOW up as the dad she always wanted her children to have. This realization changed the game for her getting over your ex journey. What would that be like for you?

In today’s episode:

• Learn how to overcome the constant thought that your ex was the best you could do
• Understand what’s holding you back from feeling content, calm and proud when it comes to life after your ex
• Become the version of you that knows their ex wasn’t the best they could do - it was just the beginning

Getting negative feedback is difficult, especially when it’s from your closest friends/family/loved ones. If your ex said negative things about you during or after the relationship ended take a listen to today’s episode where we get clear about what negative feedback is and what to do about it. Sometimes we want to work on the things we got feedback on and other times it’s simply mind drama that we can become aware of and address. 

In today’s episode:

• Learn the difference between the simple fix or mind drama when it comes to negative feedback from your ex
• Understand how to use negative feedback to fuel a life your ex regrets leaving
• Become the person who doesn’t let negative feedback from her ex get to her

I spent an entire month letting my inner voice make the decisions. Here’s what happened. How I navigated a number of big losses and huge successes while building a deeper connection with my inner voice/intuition/inner alien. 

Learning to utilize the inner voice during deep sadness, pain, grief, and loss is a tool that has been overlooked. It can be used in processing emotions, making decisions, and finding guidance in times that are filled with overwhelming uncertainty. 

In today’s episode:

• Learn how to use the inner voice in your breakup
• Understand how using the inner voice in your breakup will lead to a life bigger and better than the one you had with your ex
• Become someone who turns inward more often than seeking validation from outside world

Find Dana Evans at: https://www.instagram.com/dana_evans/