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The date seemed to go well—conversation flowed, and there were no awkward silences. Yet she texted you those painful words: “I just didn’t feel a connection.” In Part 1 of this two-part episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett explains why many men end up in the Friend Zone. He also shares how changing the way you communicate with women creates the spark that leads to second dates, first kisses—and a lasting relationship.

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If fear of rejection keeps you from taking romantic chances—sending that text or approaching an attractive stranger—Thais Gibson has a solution. Gibson has helped more than 70,000 people build thriving relationships, both through her book, “The New Attachment Theory,” and as founder of the Personal Development School. Gibson joins dating coach Connell Barrett to share practical exercises to help you overcome rejection anxiety, build lasting confidence, and create healthier relationships.

Episode Highlights:

01:55: Why the “Perfect” Opener Won’t Fix Deeper Insecurity

09:18: 3 Steps to Stop Feeling that You’re Not Enough

17:57: How the 4 Attachment Styles Affect Your Dating Life

27:13: Why Guys Panic When a Woman Doesn’t Text Back Right Away

41:01: She Went Quiet? Here’s What a Securely Attached Men Does Next

44:22: Do This When You Want to Go for the Kiss

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You see an incredible woman you want to talk to, but you’re not sure what to say—and the pickup lines you’ve heard sound cheesy or creepy. On this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach Connell Barrett gives you 11 natural, non-cringe opening lines you can say to any woman. Get ready to break the ice in charming, genuine ways, and start getting dates.

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If you’ve ever wondered, “What do I say? How do I flirt?” Tony’s story will resonate. In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach Connell Barrett talks with Tony, a divorced dad and software engineer who had some flirting breakthroughs that helped him win over Jennifer. If Tony can go from struggling to talk to women to finding his dream relationship, so can you!

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When you get good at flirting, you’ll be shocked by what you can achieve. Dating coach Connell Barrett sure was. Once a dateless introvert stuck in the friend zone, he never imagined his love life would include instant make-outs, fun flings, and beautiful women pursuing him. In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” Connell shares five brain-breaking flirting moments that shattered his dating limitations. What might be possible for you?

03:11: “You Want Me to Approach Her? She’s with that Guy!”

09:39: Three First Dates, Three First Kisses

18:20: Why So Many Women Prefer Older Men

24:54: The Date that Truly Broke My Brain

36:17: How to Manage a Ménage: It’s as Easy as One, Two, “Toi”

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Imagine never struggling to come up with a good online dating opener. In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach Connell Barrett shares seven proven, playful dating-app openers that you can use every day of the week! You’re about to learn what to message women, and how to keep the conversation flowing after they reply.

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There’s one dating skill that will help you smash through almost any dating challenge, from rejection to ghosting to approach anxiety. The skill? Resilience. In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach Connell Barrett reveals why resilience is the least sexy but most powerful skill in dating—and how it can help you to finally find the one. Listen now.

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You can’t get great at flirting without making mistakes, as dating coach Connell Barrett learned the hard way. In this candid and hilarious episode, Connell shares 7 huge flirting mistakes he made—including the time a woman poured a pitcher of ice-water down his shirt. He also shares 7 lessons that helped him crack the code on male-female connection.

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You texted, but she didn’t reply. So you assume you’re ghosted. Not so fast! Dating coach Connell Barrett says that one unanswered text isn’t ghosting. It’s just dating in 2026. On this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” Connell breaks down why most “ghosting” isn’t actually ghosting—and he shares 22 funny, playful follow-up messages that get women writing you back and going on dates with you. Listen now.

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Most guys struggle on first dates by playing it too safe. Same dull questions, same dull answers, same text she sends the next day: “I didn’t feel a connection.” In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach Connell Barrett shares a drastic, powerful solution. “Blow up” your next first date! Connell breaks down the three rules to take your dates from forgettable to explosively fun. He also explains why the “risky” move is the smartest one you can make. Listen now.

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You want to meet women in the real world, but you you worry that it’s weird or socially creepy. In this episode of the “How to Get a Girlfriend” podcast, dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett explains why now is the best time ever to meet women “in the wild.” He shares how he and his clients are proving it every day. Listen now so you can stop overthinking and start approaching women in your day-to-day life.

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Nothing kills a date faster than running out of things to say—and the awkward silence that follows. In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach and author Connell Barrett breaks down 8 great first-date topics that lead to free-flowing, flirty conversations. You’ll learn how to keep conversations going, banter with charm, and get a lot more second dates.

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You see a woman in the real world you want to meet—but you freeze, get stuck in your head, and have no clue what to say. On this episode of the “How to Get a Girlfriend” podcast, dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett shares 31 flirty, funny things to say to break the ice with women. Listen now for 31 openers that are charming, playful and NEVER creepy.


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Do you want to meet women without sounding like some weird pickup artist? In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett shares five pickup lines for men who hate pickup lines. You’ll hear how his client Taylor went from overthinking approaches to confidently meeting and dating Cassie—no cheesy pickup lines needed. And if Taylor can do it, so can you!


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If you feel you’re just not handsome enough to get a great girlfriend, this episode will change how you think. Dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett sits down with his client Shekar, who used to feel like he wasn’t handsome enough to date wonderful women. Then he flew to New York City for Connell’s Wingman Weekend approaching bootcamp. Now he can meet women, get numbers, flirt—and he finally feels worthy!

Episode Highlights:

4:31: The “Hand of God” Approach That Changed Shekar’s Confidence

14:14: Why It’s Not Creepy to Approach Women at the Gym

24:45: The Secret to Playful Banter on the Dating Apps

36:35: The Surprising Link Between Self-Improvement and Getting a Girlfriend

1:03:25: How Much Does Where You Live Impact Your Love Life?


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Robbie was once so anxious around women he couldn’t even say hi to his crush, the cute cashier. And the idea of approaching women felt impossible. Then came one unforgettable Friday night. With dating coach and author Connell Barrett as his wingman, Robbie grabbed seven phone numbers and soon met his romantic partner. On this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” Connell and Robbie unpack the aha moments that changed Robbie’s love life.

EPISODE HIGHLIGHTS:

08:25: The Cute Cashier Robbie Was Too Anxious to Talk To

14:15: A Simple Mindset Shift that Made Approaching Simple

24:50: The Playful Opener that Unlocked Robbie’s Confidence

34:15: “I Was in God Mode!” How Robbie Got 7 Phone Numbers in One Night

50:37: How Approaching Women Changes Your Entire Dating Life

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Not knowing what to say or how to flirt on first dates can get any guy trapped in the dreaded friend zone. In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett shares 37 flirty things to say that spark chemistry and help her feel a real romantic connection—without using any manipulative pickup artist tactics. Listen now so you can confidently flirt and start getting second dates.

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You see a woman you’d love to meet… and you freeze, overthinking the “perfect” line. And you’re left kicking yourself. In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach and best-selling author Connell Barrett helps his client Evan flirt so good that women can’t stop thinking about him! From bold openers to “wolfish” eye contact that women love, you’ll learn how to create instant sparks with women.

07:45: How to Get Out of Your Head & Meet Women at Your Local Bar

10:46: Approaching Isn’t Creepy—But Doing THIS Is

19:53: What Stops You From Approaching Women

40:32: “How To Spark Attraction With Eye Contact

55:01: Why Women HATE “Interview Mode”

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You want to date women in your social circle, but you don’t want to be “that creepy guy.” In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett helps his client A.J. navigate meeting women in social groups. You’ll learn how to read the room and know what to say, without crossing any lines. Listen now—your future girlfriend might be in your yoga class, waiting for you to say hello.

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If you struggle with what to say to women, this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend” is your flirting cheat sheet. Dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett gives you exact lines to use in 7 tricky dating situations. Plus, he shares his flirting philosophy (“Flirting is playing”) so you can stop freezing and start confidently attracting wonderful women.

Episode Highlights:

02:25: What to Say at the Gym (without Being Creepy)

05:40: The Playful Dating App Opener Women Love

09:20: What to Text Her When She Goes Quiet

14:27: How to Ask Her Out and Get the Date

17:36: The Easy Way to Never Run Out of Things to Say

21:45: The Simple Sentence that Frees You from the Friend Zone

26:33: Just Say This… to Get the First Kiss

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You see quality women you’d love to meet—but anxiety gets in the way. In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach and author Connell Barrett lays out the 7 mileposts that take you from freezing up to confidently getting numbers and dates. Listen to learn why you’re stuck—and what it takes to meet attractive women in real life.

Episode Highlights:

04:15: Milepost 1: Destroy Your Limiting Belief

13:13: Milepost 2: Approach Often (Reps, Baby!)

16:45: Milepost 3: Reach the the 2-Minute Mark

21:27: Milepost 4: Low Anxiety, High Confidence

23:41: Milepost 5: Getting Numbers & Dates (Results!)

28:25: Milepost 6: Confident, Fearless Approaching

31:27: Milepost 7: Your Amazing Outcome: Confidence, Dates, and Meeting Your Dream Girlfriend

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If you struggle with what to say and how to flirt, help has arrived. In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett gives you 47 simple, actionable ways to spark attraction with women, without cheesy gimmicks. Learn how to be playful, authentic, and confident, so you’ll never run out of things to say—on dates, over text, or when approaching women.


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Do you feel clueless about flirting, and worry that one wrong move might creep her out? On this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett breaks down 7 flirting mistakes that kill attraction, including one psychologists call the “Slime Effect” (11:12). You’ll also learn exactly what to say to confidently create chemistry. Listen now.

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Things seem to be going well—and then she says, “You’re nice, but I don’t feel a connection.” Friend zone. In this live coaching session of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach Connell Barrett welcomes his client Matt to work through this exact issue. Connell breaks down how flirting actually works and shares a simple fix you can make so women start seeing you as more than just a friend.

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There are 6 Levels of Flirting—and if you don’t get second dates, you’re likely stuck at a lower one. So what’s your flirting level? And how do you level up? In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach and author Connell Barrett brings the 6 Levels of Flirting to life through real-life stories. It’s time to stop overthinking, flirt with charm, and get a lot more second dates.

Episode Highlights:

02:24: The Fun Role-play Approach that Sparks Instant Interest

06:53: Ben’s Bold “I Want to Kiss You” First-Date Moment

11:15: How Connell Finally Escaped the Friend Zone

15:55: The Secret to Making Emotional Connections on Dates

18:45: How Trevor Ignited Attraction with Becca

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Being creepy is every man’s worst fear in dating. In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach Connell Barrett shares five moments when he accidentally creeped women out. Learn what went wrong, why it happened, and how to avoid these mistakes so you can flirt with confidence, authenticity and charm.

Episode Highlights:

01:45: I Tried Being a Jerk… and Got Ice Water Dumped On Me

04:39: She Looked At Me and Said, “Does This Tactic Actually Work?”

07:45: One Crass Joke and the Whole Table Went Silent

12:05: I Handed Her a Note and Literally Ran Away

19:07: She Came Over with Wine, and I Totally Blew It

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If dating apps don’t work for you, you likely assume that you’re the problem. You’re not. In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett breaks down six common lies that sabotage your results. Get ready to fix your profile, attract better matches, and finally turn swipes into dates.

Episode Highlights:

01:39: Lie #1: You’re Just Not Attractive Enough

05:00: Lie #2: You Have to Be Really Good-Looking

08:03: Lie #3: You Need Amazing Openers

11:21: Lie #4: You Need to Say a Lot in Your Bio

14:10: Lie #5: More Matches = More Dates

20:02: Lie #6: Dating Apps Want You to Find Love

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Online dating is a battlefield, and some bios are self-inflicted wounds. In this episode, dating coach Connell Barrett roasts a dozen of the worst online dating bios. Your profile sounds like Shakespeare compared to the guy who tells women “I want to taste the yum yum.” Plus, Connell shares a dating app strategy you can use today to stand out in your city and finally get some good matches. Listen now!

EPISODE HIGHLIGHTS:

01:10: How to Make Your Profile a “Unicorn” in Your City for More Matches

14:35: Dating Coach Connell Barrett Roasts the Worst Online Dating Bios Ever

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Fifteen years ago, he was ready to quit approaching for good. He hated it. Nothing worked. Then a night in Miami changed everything. In this episode of the “How to Get a Girlfriend Podcast,” dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett talks about this fateful evening. He also shares inspiring success stories from his clients Ken, Jason, and Ray. If you freeze up around beautiful women, this episode is for you.

EPISODE HIGHLIGHTS

01:59: The Night in Miami that Changed Connell’s Dating Life

17:01: How Ken Went from Shy Virgin to Getting His First Kiss and First Girlfriend

30:08: The Moment Ray Stopped Freezing Up and Started Confidently Meeting WomenB

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Do you not know how to flirt with women? Have you ever heard those brutal words, “I’m just not feeling it”? Your confusion ends today. For the first time, dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett shares the 6 Levels of Flirting Mastery, giving you a clear, revolutionary roadmap so you’ll always know exactly how to talk to women. Whether you want basic competence or true mastery, get ready to start hearing, “So, when can I see you again?”

The 6 Levels of Flirting:

02:00: Level 1: Play

05:50: Level 2: Clear Statements of Romantic Interest

10:31: Level 3: Banter16:10: Level 4: Emotional Connection

21:50: Level 5: Physical & Nonverbal Expressiveness

27:22: Level 6: Integration & Calibration

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There are pivotal moments in dating that determine whether you create romantic sparks with a woman or lose your chance with her entirely. In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett breaks down 7 make-or-break moments that will determine when and if you find the relationship you want.

Episode Highlights:

02:45: Make-or-Break Moment 1: To Approach or Not to Approach?

07:30: Make-or-Break Moment 2: When and How to Ask Her Out

12:15: Make-or-Break Moment 3: THIS Makes Her Swipe Right

16:45: Make-or Break Moment 4: Use Your First-Date Superpower to Escape the Friend Zone

23:20: Make-or-Break Moment 5: The Secret to Pre-Date Texting

26:05: Make-or-Break Moment 6: How to Pass Her Tests

30:10: Make or Break Moment 7: A Texting Move to Stop Getting Ghosted

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“I want to date you… you remind me of my mom.” Yep, a guy actually sent that as an opener. In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach Connell Barrett breaks down 15 real messages and sorts them into three categories: magnificent, meh, and mortifying. You’ll laugh, you’ll cringe, and you might even steal a line or two that actually works.

EPISODE HIGHLIGHTS:

01:47: The Insult Opener That Somehow Got a Reply

02:43: Say This on the Apps—It’s Genius

04:25: The One-word Christmas Message that She (Rightly) Hated

08:50: A Line Only Hannibal Lecter Should Use

13:43: The Most Painfully Boring First Message on Earth

20:02: The Secret to Writing Charming Openers


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If you’re an introvert who freezes up around women, help is here. Dating coach Connell Barrett welcomes Charlie, a client who went from from doubting his romantic worth to meeting his dream girlfriend Rachel. Connell and Charlie cover the mindset shifts and real-world wins that worked—and they talk some baseball, too. If you want to find your person, this episode is your roadmap.

Episode Highlights:

11:38: The Two Toxic Thoughts that Kept Charlie Stuck

17:23: The Weekend of Approaching that Changed Everything

21:12: The Dating Lesson he Learned from MLB Baseball

34:44: The Moment Rachel Saw Him Differently

47:05: When He Destroyed His Fear of Rejection

53:11: Charlie’s Advice to Introverts who Feel Left Behind

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You see women you want to meet IRL, but you freeze up, and you don’t know what to say. So you beat yourself up for missing another chance. In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach Connell Barrett shares his What-to-Say Method. You’ll learn three simple, authentic ways to confidently start conversations—no cheesy pickup lines required.

Episode Highlights:

01:40: Why You Freeze Up—and How to Break the Cycle

04:45: How the What-to-Say Method Gets You Out of Your Head

07:45: What to Say at a Coffeeshop09:49: What to Say at a Bar

12:04: What to Say at the Gym

25:03: Still Hesitating? Here’s the Real Reason You’re Not Approaching and How to Fix It

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You get matches, but then you’re not sure what to write for your opener. You don’t want to sound boring or try-hard, so you overthink it, and the conversation dies before it begins. In this live coaching session, dating coach Connell Barrett welcomes his client Evan, who got great at writing openers that women reply to. Plus, Evan gives some tips on how to meet women in coffee shops and get instant dates, just like he does.

Episode Highlights

03:20: From Shaking Hands to 80+ Confident Approaches—Evan’s Transformation]

06:01: What to Say and Not Say When You Approach

09:15: The Coffee Shop Icebreaker that Led Evan to a Make-Out in Just 30 Minutes!

18:45: The Funny Hinge Opener that Gets Women Writing You Back

1:01:02: The One Dating Tip Every Guy Needs to Hear

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Are you ready to flirt with women without coming off as “creepy”? In Part 2 of his 26 New Rules of Dating, bestselling author and dating coach Connell Barrett reveals the invisible blind spot that makes good guys accidentally seem creepy—and he helps you fix it. Learn how to flirt with confidence and authenticity, and make 2026 the year you meet your dream girlfriend.

Episode Highlights:

01:47: The Classy Approaching Move that Women Find Fascinating

06:58: Do This to Get Girls Texting You Back

13:13: The Right and Wrong Way to Use A.I. on the Apps

16:34: The Flirting Flaw that Makes Decent Men Seem Creepy

20:37: The Question to Ask on Every First Date


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Be mysterious. Don’t double-text. Use “tricks” to make her chase you. Yuck! Most dating advice is as outdated as flip phones and Fax machines. The old playbook just doesn’t work. In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach Connell Barrett unveils his 26 New Dating Rules for 2026. In part 1, he shares how to be kind and confident, why texting “like a girl” is a good thing (seriously!), and reveals the playful dating app opener that women love.

Episode Highlights:

02:05: Why Women Want You to Talk to Them IRL (and How to Do It)

07:05: How to Channel Your First Date Nerves to Spark a Connection

09:14: The Dating App Opener You Must Try

20:50: The Dreaded Mistake to Stop Making on Dates

24:51: Talk about This to NEVER Run Out of Things to Say


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You see women you’d love to meet IRL, but you just don’t know what to say. So you freeze up. In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett shares his What-to-Say Method, a simple, rejection-proof framework that makes it easy to meet women in bars, coffee-shops, or the gym. Learn how to start light, flirty conversations without memorized scripts or awkward pickup lines—and finally feel confident talking to women anywhere.

Episode Highlights:

02:17: The What to Say Method: 3 Simple Ways to Break the Ice Anywhere

05:52: Option A: The Charming Compliment

07:15: Option B: The Insightful Question

10:39: Option C: The Playful Observation

17:15: Client Win: How Robbie Went from Anxiety to Instant Coffee Dates

20:45: What to Do if You STILL Freeze When You Want to Talk to Women

BOOK A FREE CONSULTATION CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN HOW TO APPLY HIS WHAT-TO-SAY METHOD AND MEET WOMEN IRL:www.DatingTransformation.com

Andrew was the dateless, anxious guy who never approached women. Now, he gets numbers and dates—and after one especially bold effort, two strangers literally applauded him. In this live coaching session with dating coach Connell Barrett, Andrew breaks down the simple, practical strategies that changed everything. Andrew isn’t a natural extrovert. He just did the work. And if he can do this, you can too.

EPISODE HIGHLIGHTS

02:10: From Anxious to Approaching Women Anywhere

35:55: The Daily Confidence Ritual that Changed Everything

38:25: Exactly What Andrew Said to Her that Sparked an Instant Make-out

43:47: The Exact Moment Andrew’s Fear of Approaching Vanished

46:42: What to Say When A Woman You’re Dating Asks, “Are We Exclusive?”


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EMAIL CONNELL TO GET A FREE COPY OF HIS BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”: connell@datingtransformation.com

Ever had a jaw-dropping dating disaster? Wait until you hear about the guy who sent a cringe-worthy voice note about his date’s breasts… directly to her! But what if a screwup like that gets her MORE into him? In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett answers listener questions, reveals why dating disasters happen, and shares how to recover with confidence and class.

Episode Highlights:

00:54: The Vexing Voice Note: How Screwing Up Can Actually Help You

02:35: Whoops! Connell “Hits On” a Stranger—in Front of His Date

05:40: The 3-Step Framework to Recover from a Dating Disaster

16:47: The Do’s and Don’ts of Sexting

21:58: Exactly How Many Texts to Send to Get a First Date


BOOK A FREE CONSULTATION WITH CONNELL TO LEARN HOW HIS 1-ON-1 COACHING CAN HELP YOU ATTRACT YOUR DREAM WOMAN: www.DatingTransformation.com

Online dating is changing faster than you can say “swipe.” And not knowing what works on the apps in 2026 will cost you matches, dates… and even keep you from finding love. In this episode, dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett reveals the rest of his 26 new rules for online dating success in 2026. Apply these practical tips to go from frustration to finally getting great dates—just like Connell’s clients do.

Episode Highlights:

01:45: The New Way to Use Audio Prompts on Hinge

10:10: How the “3 Passions Rule” Makes Your Bio Magnetic

12:00: What Causes Swiping Fatigue—and How to Fix It

16:41: How to Set Up a First Date in Just 3 Messages

19:23: Connell’s Texting Framework to Stop Getting Ghosted


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You’re exhausted by the dating apps, right? The endless swiping, the scarcity of matches, the ghosting. The problem? Online dating has changed, and most guys are still using outdated strategies. In this two-part episode, dating coach Connell Barrett breaks down his 26 new rules for online dating in 2026. It’s time to match more, get ghosted less, and finally find your dream woman in the new year.

Episode Highlights:

03:30: The Biggest Myth About Online Dating that Changes Everything

07:20: How to Choose Photos You KNOW Will Work (Backed by Data)

13:27: Survival of the Spiciest: The Prompt Women Respond To

19:02: Replace Your Opening Photo with This

33:12: The Secret to Taking Your Bio from Boring to Swipe-able

BOOK A FREE CONSULTATION WITH CONNELL TO LEARN HOW HIS COACHING CAN HELP YOU MEET THE GIRLFRIEND YOU’VE ALWAYS WANTED: www.DatingTransformation.com

Chances are, you freeze up around women because you’re afraid of seeming weird or creepy. You just don’t want to give women “the ick,” right? In this episode, dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett proudly unveils his new framework: The 6 Icks—the 6 core behaviors that creep women out. Once you know them, you’re free to make confident, calibrated moves without seeming pushy or inappropriate.

Episode Highlights:

02:45: The Moment Connell Learned How to Approach with Charm, Not Creepiness

12:15: The Sex Object Ick: Leading with Sexual Comments that Objectify Women

13:05: The Too Timid Ick: Hesitant, Fearful Energy that Feels Uncomfortable

14:20: The Me-First Ick: Making It About What You Want, Rather than a Win-Win

15:22: The Try-Hard Ick: Desperate Bragging, Instead of Authentic Core Confidence

16:35: The Signal-Blind Ick: Missing or Ignoring Her Cues and Escalating the Wrong Way

20:01: The Agenda Ick: Using Manipulative Tactics & Ignoring Her Boundaries

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Dating sober raises real questions: Will women find you less interesting without alcohol? How do you handle social anxiety at bars or parties without “liquid courage”? And is liquid courage even real? In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett answers 10 questions from sober (and sober-curious) men, revealing how to unlock core confidence, enjoy great dates, and make sobriety your new edge in dating.

WANT TO MEET YOUR DREAM GIRLFRIEND IN 90 DAYS OR LESS? BOOK A FREE CALL WITH CONNELL TO SEE IF HIS 1-ON-1 COACHING IS RIGHT FOR YOU: http://DatingTransformation.com

Most guys need alcohol to approach women. But what if meeting women in bars actually gets easier when you’re sober—if done the right way? In Part 2 of his Sober Dating series, dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett shares his 5-step framework for reaching a fearless flow state when out meeting women, no booze required.

Episode Highlights:

01:58: What Happened When Connell Approached Models Sober

10:03: Getting “Drunk” on Action: the Natural High that Beats Booze

13:48: The 5 Master Steps–Your Framework for Confidently Approaching Women

23:25: How Robbie Went from Frightened to Getting 5 Numbers in One Night

29:30: The Truth about What to Say When You Approach

BOOK A FREE CONSULT WITH CONNELL TO LEARN HOW YOU CAN APPROACH WOMEN WITHOUT THE CRUTCH OF ALCOHOL: DatingTransformation.com

If you struggle with dating, you’re probably addicted to something. Maybe it's “liquid courage,” or settling for so-so relationships, or choosing porn over approaching women. In this 3-part sober dating series, dating coach Connell Barrett shares his 1,000-day journey of sobriety—and offers 3 steps that can help you beat almost any addiction. Whether you want to date sober or get out of your comfort zone, this inspiring episode shows you how to upgrade your love life.

Episode Highlights:

06:54: How a 30-Day “Booze Break” Became 1,000 Days—and a Whole New Life

13:04: “This Is Not Me”: The Moment Connell Knew He Had to Change

19:01: The Liquid Courage Lie

28:00: The Lasting Way to Destroy an Addiction

37:30: Three Steps to Kick Any Habit—and Transform Your Dating Confidence

FOR A FREE CONSULTATION WITH CONNELL BARRETT TO SEE IF DATING COACHING IS RIGHT FOR YOU: Go to DatingTransformation.com

If you struggle to start conversations with women, this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend” will help. While taking questions, dating coach Connell Barrett gives you a simple, reliable ice-breaker you can use anywhere to talk to women—without it feeling awkward. He also reveals how much height and looks actually matter to women (hint: not much!). And you won’t believe what one guy is willing to do to his body to become taller.

Episode Highlights:

01:32: “Connell, How Do I Make Women Chase Me?”

08:25: “How Do I Start Conversations without Making It Awkward?”

11:55: “What Actually Makes Women Attracted to Men?”

17:30: “How Important Are a Guy’s Looks to Women?”

22:57: “Should I Get Leg-Lengthening Surgery to Become Taller?”

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Do you feel like you’re just not charismatic? It’s frustrating to see outgoing guys succeed with women, while you feel stuck. But what if you could become charismatic to women today, without changing who you are? Dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett reveals his Charisma Code—the 3-part formula that helps introverts become magnetic to women. Get ready to discover the E=MC² of dating to unlock real charisma.

Episode Highlights:

01:48: The Charisma Code Formula: AE + P + Pl = Charisma

02:40: How Connell First Applied it for a Great First Date

07:37: Authentic Expression (AE): Why Your Uniqueness Unlocks True Charisma

12:42: Presence (P): How to Get Out of Your Head when Talking to Women

19:05: Playfulness (Pl): The Flirting Secret Women Want You to Know

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Are you unsure how to flirt with women? Dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett shares 5 flirty banter secrets that help you create chemistry, avoid awkward silences, and get her into you. These simple techniques work both in-person and on the dating apps. It’s time to go from boring to being great at banter.

Episode Highlights:

2:11: Secret #1: How to Tease Her without Crossing the Line

6:48: Secret #2: Make Her the Seducer (A Fun Roleplay that Women Love)

10:40: Secret #3: The 5 Best Banter Topics that Ignite Chemistry

17:12: Secret #4: How to Spark Attraction with Sarcasm

20:28: Secret #5: The Playful Pivot: Never Run Out of Things to Say Again!


TO TAKE YOUR DATING RESULTS TO A WHOLE NEW LEVEL, BOOK A FREE CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN ABOUT 1-1 COACHING:
http://www.DatingTransformation.com


EMAIL CONNELL FOR A FREE COPY OF HIS NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”:
Connell@datingtransformation.com

Have you ever liked a woman who chose a total jerk over you? It stings and makes you wonder, “What does he have that I don’t?” In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett helps a listener learn why the woman he was dating went back to her toxic ex—and what to do differently to attract the wonderful relationship he deserves.

Highlights of this Episode:

01:31: The Real Reason Women Sometimes Choose Jerks Over Good Guys

07:12: Why Nice Guys like You Can Date Wonderful Women—If You Do One Thing

26:15: How to Fearlessly Ask Out Your Crush


TO TAKE YOUR DATING RESULTS TO A WHOLE NEW LEVEL, BOOK A FREE CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN ABOUT 1-1 COACHING: http://www.DatingTransformation.com


EMAIL CONNELL FOR A FREE COPY OF HIS NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”: Connell@datingtransformation.com