You are in for a juicy treat, friends! In today's episode, we bring on shareholder and family law attorney Kara Chrobak who specializes in high-net-worth divorce to talk about various infamous celebrity divorces! That's right- We touch on Jennifer Lopez & Ben Affleck, Channing Tatum & Jenna Dewan, and Billy Ray Cyrus & Fire Rose. We explore legal intricacies such as the lack of prenups, intellectual property disputes, and contested spending, equitable vs. community property states, importance of identifying intangible assets, and understanding alimony. You DON'T want to miss this one.

Connect with Kara:

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Our Divorce Crash Course was designed to hold your hand through the process and help you avoid major and expensive mistakes. Learn more here: https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com/divorce-crash-course

Our Family Wizard is another fantasitc resource for those who need help navigating the "fun" world of coparenting. Head to this landing page to see how we work closely with them to support our listeners! http://www.ourfamilywizard.com/notsuck

Friends, slide into our dms, we love love love hearing from you. We are always here to listen and help in any way we can. You've got this and we've got you.

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Mentioned in this episode:

Smarter Way to Sell Your Jewelry

After my divorce was finalized, I sold my old engagement ring to a jeweler — and honestly, I was stunned by how little I got for it compared to what it originally cost. If I could do it all over again — which is kind of the theme of this podcast — I would have sold it through Worthy. Worthy is a modern, smarter way to sell your jewelry online. Their process is incredibly easy: they cover shipping and insurance, professionally clean and photograph your jewelry, and have it graded by experts to help maximize its value. What makes Worthy different is that they create a competitive auction environment where buyers bid against each other for your piece — meaning they are motivated to help you get the highest price possible. It’s completely risk-free and honestly something I wish I had known about sooner. Get started today by heading to worthy.com/divorcepod and lock in an extra $100 when your jewelry sells for more than $1,500.

We're baaaack! And today we're talking about common divorce myths and you know how we do- we're providing practical advice for navigating high-conflict separations. The episode addresses misconceptions about co-parenting, alimony, legal advantages for moms, and the impact of infidelity. We also examine the realistic limitations of court intervention in cases of emotional abuse and share personal success stories to inspire hope for post-divorce happiness.

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Our Divorce Crash Course was designed to hold your hand through the process and help you avoid major and expensive mistakes. Learn more here: https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com/divorce-crash-course

Our Family Wizard is another fantastic resource for those who need help navigating the "fun" world of coparenting. Head to this landing page to see how we work closely with them to support our listeners! http://www.ourfamilywizard.com/notsuck

Friends, slide into our dms, we love love love hearing from you. We are always here to listen and help in any way we can. You've got this and we've got you.

Instagram: @hownotosuckatdivorce

Follow Andrea: @theandrearappaport

Follow Morgan: @divorceattorneychicago

Mentioned in this episode:

Smarter Way to Sell Your Jewelry

After my divorce was finalized, I sold my old engagement ring to a jeweler — and honestly, I was stunned by how little I got for it compared to what it originally cost. If I could do it all over again — which is kind of the theme of this podcast — I would have sold it through Worthy. Worthy is a modern, smarter way to sell your jewelry online. Their process is incredibly easy: they cover shipping and insurance, professionally clean and photograph your jewelry, and have it graded by experts to help maximize its value. What makes Worthy different is that they create a competitive auction environment where buyers bid against each other for your piece — meaning they are motivated to help you get the highest price possible. It’s completely risk-free and honestly something I wish I had known about sooner. Get started today by heading to worthy.com/divorcepod and lock in an extra $100 when your jewelry sells for more than $1,500.

Listen to this episode BEFORE you go into mediation.

It IS possible to have a positive outcome from mediation, even if you feel like your soon to be ex spouse agree on NOTHING.

And before we get into the nitty gritty: Do you have our Divorce Crash Course?

It literally holds your hand through ALL major divorce decisions!

Get it here: https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com/divorce-crash-course

Here are 3 EXPERT tips, (from a mediator herself- Joy Rosenthal-https://www.joyrosenthal.com/), to help you reframe your mind before entering mediation:

1) You don't have to RESPECT your soon to be ex, but you still need to have some DIGNITY for them. In other words, treat them like a human who also has wants and needs (even if their wants and needs are questionable and they're acting like a total tool)

2)Start to think of the problem as something that's outside of you and your soon to be ex. Meaning, the issue is "who gets the kids this Christmas?" or "who gets the lake house?" or "who's going to get the collection of ketchup bottles?" (yes, that was an actual issue for one of Morgan's cases). The issue is not about YOU, and it's not about you soon to be ex, it's simply a "problem" that needs to be "solved".

3)Think about why you want what you say you want. This one is kinda about checking ego, and also just gaining some perspective on the situation.

It's important to keep in mind that everyone loses something in a divorce. You're not gonna come of this thing with EVERYTHING you want, it just doesn't work like that.

In fact, the old divorce joke goes, "if both parties are unhappy and feel they got cheated, then the attorneys did their job" I (Andrea) HATE that joke and it makes me want to scream, but that's the way it goes!

And remember, mediation, divorce- all of this mess-is just going to be ONE event that happened in your life. It's not your life, you have a lot more life to live when this is all behind you.

Our Family Wizard is here to help you though your coparenting journey. Learn more about them here: http://www.ourfamilywizard.com/notsuck

Mentioned in this episode:

Smarter Way to Sell Your Jewelry

After my divorce was finalized, I sold my old engagement ring to a jeweler — and honestly, I was stunned by how little I got for it compared to what it originally cost. If I could do it all over again — which is kind of the theme of this podcast — I would have sold it through Worthy. Worthy is a modern, smarter way to sell your jewelry online. Their process is incredibly easy: they cover shipping and insurance, professionally clean and photograph your jewelry, and have it graded by experts to help maximize its value. What makes Worthy different is that they create a competitive auction environment where buyers bid against each other for your piece — meaning they are motivated to help you get the highest price possible. It’s completely risk-free and honestly something I wish I had known about sooner. Get started today by heading to worthy.com/divorcepod and lock in an extra $100 when your jewelry sells for more than $1,500.

Today, a dear listener is sharing her divorce story with us. Welcome to the show, Zoe!

Zoe talks about how she stayed in her deteriorating marriage for 6 years. She recalls the control her ex had over her, how finances and religion played a role in her staying, and the moment she knew it was finally over.

Morgan shares some great tips if you're overwhelmed by all the paperwork and Andrea talks about finding the humor in a family therapy session over zoom with her ex-husband.

We know divorce is hard and draining, and that’s exactly why we are here. We are a part of your community now, and we got you.

DM us your stories and questions, we are here to help you.

@divorceattorneychicago

@theandrearappaport

Check out our shiny new website and let us know what you think!

https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com

Mentioned in this episode:

Smarter Way to Sell Your Jewelry

After my divorce was finalized, I sold my old engagement ring to a jeweler — and honestly, I was stunned by how little I got for it compared to what it originally cost. If I could do it all over again — which is kind of the theme of this podcast — I would have sold it through Worthy. Worthy is a modern, smarter way to sell your jewelry online. Their process is incredibly easy: they cover shipping and insurance, professionally clean and photograph your jewelry, and have it graded by experts to help maximize its value. What makes Worthy different is that they create a competitive auction environment where buyers bid against each other for your piece — meaning they are motivated to help you get the highest price possible. It’s completely risk-free and honestly something I wish I had known about sooner. Get started today by heading to worthy.com/divorcepod and lock in an extra $100 when your jewelry sells for more than $1,500.

This week on How Not To Suck At Divorce, we're having wine at 2:00. We're also listening to you, the best audience ever. Many of you have asked us to break down the steps to get a divorce so today we are diving in.

Listen in to find out about the 10 main steps needed to get divorced.

We will answer:

How many lawyers should you meet with before deciding to move forward with one?

What information do you need for the financial affidavit?

Who should you consult when filling out the parenting agreement?

What's it like that final day in court when your divorce is finalized?

Plus, Andrea shares her own story of getting divorced over zoom during the pandemic with her kids e-learning in the next room. Spoiler...it was bizarre.

We LOVE hearing from you so please dm us with your questions, stories or if you just need to be seen and heard.

Morgan on Instagram

Andrea on Instagram

You can also reach us on hownottosuckatdivorce.com

You got this, and we got you.

Mentioned in this episode:

Smarter Way to Sell Your Jewelry

After my divorce was finalized, I sold my old engagement ring to a jeweler — and honestly, I was stunned by how little I got for it compared to what it originally cost. If I could do it all over again — which is kind of the theme of this podcast — I would have sold it through Worthy. Worthy is a modern, smarter way to sell your jewelry online. Their process is incredibly easy: they cover shipping and insurance, professionally clean and photograph your jewelry, and have it graded by experts to help maximize its value. What makes Worthy different is that they create a competitive auction environment where buyers bid against each other for your piece — meaning they are motivated to help you get the highest price possible. It’s completely risk-free and honestly something I wish I had known about sooner. Get started today by heading to worthy.com/divorcepod and lock in an extra $100 when your jewelry sells for more than $1,500.

Out of all the podcasts in all the world, we’re in the top 5%! What?! How did this happen?! Thank you so much to all of our listeners, especially the 6 of you in Wyoming.

Today's episode is like divorce meets CSI as we welcome Tracy Coenen. You may have seen her on CNBC On the Money, CBS, NBC, and in the Wall Street Journal. Tracy is a certified public accountant, certified in financial forensics, a master analyst and fraud investigator. If you're wondering what all this means, Tracy finds money. Money that has disappeared that you want back.

Tracy breaks down:

-When is hiring a fraud investigator or forensics accountant necessary?

-Common red flags like when a spouse is having an affair.

-How to trust your gut during your divorce.

-What to do if your spouse is telling you “we have no money”.

-If you should be concerned about the spouse who is quiet about finances or has changed passwords.

-If you should you confront your spouse about missing money or being suddenly locked out of accounts.

-What is a lifestyle analysis?

-Would Tracy rather wave a red flaeg or a white flaeg?

You will also hear Tracy's story about the infamous Instagram investigation.

This is a don't-miss episode for sure.

Tracy knows not everyone can afford to hire a private forensic accountant or investigator so she has developed a tool people can use to do it themselves.

Be sure to sign up to be notified when Tracy’s tool launches at sequenceinc.com

You can also connect with Tracy on LinkedIn

Slide into our dms and tell us what you thought of today's episode! Have you found red flags with your finances?

@theandrearappapport

@divorceattorneychicago

Hownottosuckatdivorce.com

I know anything having to do with finances during a divorce is scary, but remember, you got this and we got you.

Mentioned in this episode:

Smarter Way to Sell Your Jewelry

After my divorce was finalized, I sold my old engagement ring to a jeweler — and honestly, I was stunned by how little I got for it compared to what it originally cost. If I could do it all over again — which is kind of the theme of this podcast — I would have sold it through Worthy. Worthy is a modern, smarter way to sell your jewelry online. Their process is incredibly easy: they cover shipping and insurance, professionally clean and photograph your jewelry, and have it graded by experts to help maximize its value. What makes Worthy different is that they create a competitive auction environment where buyers bid against each other for your piece — meaning they are motivated to help you get the highest price possible. It’s completely risk-free and honestly something I wish I had known about sooner. Get started today by heading to worthy.com/divorcepod and lock in an extra $100 when your jewelry sells for more than $1,500.

Today we’re doing something a little different; we’re answering listener questions. And they are good. This podcast is for you and so we love when you dm us your questions and stories. Thank you for being vulnerable with us.

Just a few of the questions we answer are:

How do you support a friend who is going through a divorce when you’re happily married?

What’s the best way to organize your documents for divorce?

How do you answer the dreaded question from acquaintances “how are you”?

We’ll also hear one more way Andrea sucked at her divorce. Learn from her mistake-this is a don’t miss episode.

Wyoming, are you out there? Slide into our dms!

@divorceattorneychicago

@theandrearappaport

Mentioned in this episode:

Smarter Way to Sell Your Jewelry

After my divorce was finalized, I sold my old engagement ring to a jeweler — and honestly, I was stunned by how little I got for it compared to what it originally cost. If I could do it all over again — which is kind of the theme of this podcast — I would have sold it through Worthy. Worthy is a modern, smarter way to sell your jewelry online. Their process is incredibly easy: they cover shipping and insurance, professionally clean and photograph your jewelry, and have it graded by experts to help maximize its value. What makes Worthy different is that they create a competitive auction environment where buyers bid against each other for your piece — meaning they are motivated to help you get the highest price possible. It’s completely risk-free and honestly something I wish I had known about sooner. Get started today by heading to worthy.com/divorcepod and lock in an extra $100 when your jewelry sells for more than $1,500.

We are back with part two with the fabulous Dr. Randy Heller. If you missed part one, you'll definitely want to listen to last week's episode first.

Today we're talking about how to co-parent effectively and why co-parenting should be viewed as a business relationship.

Dr. Heller answers:

How is a family therapist different than a regular therapist?

How can we co-parent effectively?

How can we protect kids during a divorce?

Will kids be ok if we get divorced?

How can I get my spouse or ex to agree to family therapy?

What if my spouse or ex is a narcissist or has bipolar disorder?

How to find a family therapist in your area.

The best ways to manage the business of co-parenting.

We love hearing from you so slip into our dms!

Andrea Rappaport

Morgan L. Stogsdill

Where you can find Dr. Randy Heller:

familynetworkflorida.com

familynetworknewyork.com

646-717-6718 (NY)

954-236-4490 (FL and CT)

Mentioned in this episode:

Smarter Way to Sell Your Jewelry

After my divorce was finalized, I sold my old engagement ring to a jeweler — and honestly, I was stunned by how little I got for it compared to what it originally cost. If I could do it all over again — which is kind of the theme of this podcast — I would have sold it through Worthy. Worthy is a modern, smarter way to sell your jewelry online. Their process is incredibly easy: they cover shipping and insurance, professionally clean and photograph your jewelry, and have it graded by experts to help maximize its value. What makes Worthy different is that they create a competitive auction environment where buyers bid against each other for your piece — meaning they are motivated to help you get the highest price possible. It’s completely risk-free and honestly something I wish I had known about sooner. Get started today by heading to worthy.com/divorcepod and lock in an extra $100 when your jewelry sells for more than $1,500.

This week we are excited to welcome Dr. Randy Heller to the show. Dr. Heller is a licensed mental health therapist, collaborative divorce therapist and a mediator. A true unicorn.

Today we're discussing the three conversations Dr. Heller recommends people have before filing for a divorce. We'll also be addressing the biggest concern parents have, "will the kids be ok?"

We love hearing from you so feel free to slide into our dms @theandrearappaport and @divorceattorneychicago

Where you can find Dr. Randy Heller:

familynetworkflorida.com

familynetworknewyork.com

646-717-6718 (NY)

954-236-4490 (FL and CT)

Thank you for 10k downloads (11.8k to be exact)! Your support means the world to us.

Today Morgan and Andrea are stuck in a snowstorm talking to wealth advisor Franco La Marca.

Earlier this week Andrea posted on Instagram about financial abuse in a marriage and throughout the divorce process. So many people reached out sharing similar stories and many women said they didn't realize what they were experiencing was actually financial abuse.

So they decided to have the financial expert himself, Franco La Marca, join in on the conversation and share 3 essential things everyone should be doing to protect their finances.

We would love to hear from you after today's episode. Please feel free to message Morgan @divorceattorneychicago and Andrea @theandrearappaport.

You can find Franco La Marca at:

www.bernstein.com

franco.lamarca@bernstein.com

Mentioned in this episode:

Smarter Way to Sell Your Jewelry

After my divorce was finalized, I sold my old engagement ring to a jeweler — and honestly, I was stunned by how little I got for it compared to what it originally cost. If I could do it all over again — which is kind of the theme of this podcast — I would have sold it through Worthy. Worthy is a modern, smarter way to sell your jewelry online. Their process is incredibly easy: they cover shipping and insurance, professionally clean and photograph your jewelry, and have it graded by experts to help maximize its value. What makes Worthy different is that they create a competitive auction environment where buyers bid against each other for your piece — meaning they are motivated to help you get the highest price possible. It’s completely risk-free and honestly something I wish I had known about sooner. Get started today by heading to worthy.com/divorcepod and lock in an extra $100 when your jewelry sells for more than $1,500.

Warning: Our favorite F bomb is dropped at 8:52 (thanks Rob!)

Just in time for Valentine's Day, Andrea and Morgan are talking love! The love you had, the love for your kids, the excitement of future love and the love for dress shirt on top/pjs on bottom.

We are so excited to welcome our special guest Rob Roseman from the popular podcast WTF Divorce. Rob gets really real with us as he talks about his own divorce. Rob hasn't spoken publicly about his experience and we're so honored he chose to share his story with us.

Morgan, Andrea and Rob discuss how you decide if you should stick it out for the kids, how checking your ego at the door can help you have an amicable divorce where the kids thrive and the truth about what dating is like in the aftermath.

Where to find Rob:

WTF Divorce podcast

Insta: @wtfdivorce

https://www.wtfdivorce.com/

Mentioned in this episode:

Smarter Way to Sell Your Jewelry

After my divorce was finalized, I sold my old engagement ring to a jeweler — and honestly, I was stunned by how little I got for it compared to what it originally cost. If I could do it all over again — which is kind of the theme of this podcast — I would have sold it through Worthy. Worthy is a modern, smarter way to sell your jewelry online. Their process is incredibly easy: they cover shipping and insurance, professionally clean and photograph your jewelry, and have it graded by experts to help maximize its value. What makes Worthy different is that they create a competitive auction environment where buyers bid against each other for your piece — meaning they are motivated to help you get the highest price possible. It’s completely risk-free and honestly something I wish I had known about sooner. Get started today by heading to worthy.com/divorcepod and lock in an extra $100 when your jewelry sells for more than $1,500.

From the floor of Morgan's son's closet, Andrea and Morgan toast Andrea's grandma, talk olive martinis, and how not to suck at divorce.

This week they're discussing the importance of taking your time when you're going through the divorce process so you're not reacting from an amped up mental space. You are going to hit a point where you just want to wrap it up because you're exhausted, but there are parts of a divorce that are irreversible and you don't want to make mistakes. So take a breath.

Don't forget the SUCK acronym:

Set aside an hour before you respond. Don't react.

Utilize help. You don't have to go this alone. Lean on your lawyer, your therapist, your friend.

Calm yourself. You will make the best strategic decisions when you are level-headed.

Knowledge, get it. Don't be afraid to ask your lawyer if there is something you don't understand.

Ok friends, tell us what you want to know about Morgan and Andrea and maybe we'll include it in "Decline to Comment" on a future episode!

Email your questions to hntsadpodcast@gmail.com

Remember, you got this and we got you. And Morgan has Enrique Iglesias.

Mentioned in this episode:

Smarter Way to Sell Your Jewelry

After my divorce was finalized, I sold my old engagement ring to a jeweler — and honestly, I was stunned by how little I got for it compared to what it originally cost. If I could do it all over again — which is kind of the theme of this podcast — I would have sold it through Worthy. Worthy is a modern, smarter way to sell your jewelry online. Their process is incredibly easy: they cover shipping and insurance, professionally clean and photograph your jewelry, and have it graded by experts to help maximize its value. What makes Worthy different is that they create a competitive auction environment where buyers bid against each other for your piece — meaning they are motivated to help you get the highest price possible. It’s completely risk-free and honestly something I wish I had known about sooner. Get started today by heading to worthy.com/divorcepod and lock in an extra $100 when your jewelry sells for more than $1,500.

We're so excited to be back for Season 2! Today we have a very special guest, Michelle Dempsey-Multack, author of Moms Moving On, divorced mom, certified divorce specialist and coach and podcast host. If you're not yet following Michelle on Instagram, you'll definitely want to check her out @themichelledempseyJoin the Moms Moving On community for free here. When you preorder Michelle's book, you'll receive access to a live summit with Michelle and other divorce experts.

Be sure to stay until the end for our fun new segment "Decline to Comment".

As always, our dms are open. You got this and we got you (unless you need someone to pump your gas, then you're on your own).

Morgan

Andrea

Mentioned in this episode:

Smarter Way to Sell Your Jewelry

After my divorce was finalized, I sold my old engagement ring to a jeweler — and honestly, I was stunned by how little I got for it compared to what it originally cost. If I could do it all over again — which is kind of the theme of this podcast — I would have sold it through Worthy. Worthy is a modern, smarter way to sell your jewelry online. Their process is incredibly easy: they cover shipping and insurance, professionally clean and photograph your jewelry, and have it graded by experts to help maximize its value. What makes Worthy different is that they create a competitive auction environment where buyers bid against each other for your piece — meaning they are motivated to help you get the highest price possible. It’s completely risk-free and honestly something I wish I had known about sooner. Get started today by heading to worthy.com/divorcepod and lock in an extra $100 when your jewelry sells for more than $1,500.

Summer’s almost here folks, and you know what that means...camps, vacations..and your divorce, oh my!

Not to mention: the DREADED parenting agreements. One of Andrea’s least favorite topics but something we HAVE to talk about. We talk about the significance of communication and flexibility in establishing summer parenting schedules, and the legal implications of these changes. We also dive into the complexities of co-parenting during summer, including summer camps, child support, and travel logistics.

In this episode you’ll learn:

*The challenges of balancing work and children's needs during the summer, especially for working and single parents

*Suggestions for getting help with childcare during the summer

*The importance of creativity and flexibility

*Examples of creative modifications to summer parenting schedules and the importance of communication between parents

*Practical approaches to managing summer activities, like summer camps, co-parenting logistics, and managing expectation

*Strategies for initiating conversations with co-parents about travel plans and managing summer camp choices.

And friend that barely scratches this surface in this jam packed mini episode!

Don't forget to check out the DCC, honey, you need this! : https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com/divorce-crash-course

And, go sign up for Our Family Wizard's free newsletter! http://www.ourfamilywizard.com/notsuck

And finally, join our private community! http://www.facebook.com/thehownottosuckatdivorcecommunity

Mentioned in this episode:

Smarter Way to Sell Your Jewelry

After my divorce was finalized, I sold my old engagement ring to a jeweler — and honestly, I was stunned by how little I got for it compared to what it originally cost. If I could do it all over again — which is kind of the theme of this podcast — I would have sold it through Worthy. Worthy is a modern, smarter way to sell your jewelry online. Their process is incredibly easy: they cover shipping and insurance, professionally clean and photograph your jewelry, and have it graded by experts to help maximize its value. What makes Worthy different is that they create a competitive auction environment where buyers bid against each other for your piece — meaning they are motivated to help you get the highest price possible. It’s completely risk-free and honestly something I wish I had known about sooner. Get started today by heading to worthy.com/divorcepod and lock in an extra $100 when your jewelry sells for more than $1,500.

Join us for our 1st annual holiday party and season 1 finale! From the floor of Morgan's son's closet. We play divorce "would you rather", discuss family dynamics, covid hangovers, and regular hangovers and Andrea sings. Make sure you're subscribed because season 2 drops in January!

Mentioned in this episode:

Smarter Way to Sell Your Jewelry

After my divorce was finalized, I sold my old engagement ring to a jeweler — and honestly, I was stunned by how little I got for it compared to what it originally cost. If I could do it all over again — which is kind of the theme of this podcast — I would have sold it through Worthy. Worthy is a modern, smarter way to sell your jewelry online. Their process is incredibly easy: they cover shipping and insurance, professionally clean and photograph your jewelry, and have it graded by experts to help maximize its value. What makes Worthy different is that they create a competitive auction environment where buyers bid against each other for your piece — meaning they are motivated to help you get the highest price possible. It’s completely risk-free and honestly something I wish I had known about sooner. Get started today by heading to worthy.com/divorcepod and lock in an extra $100 when your jewelry sells for more than $1,500.

This week we're talking about how not to annoy your attorney. We're kidding! Kind of. You want to make the most of your time with your legal counsel because, as we're sure you've guessed by now, divorce is a bit pricey. We discuss divorce concierge service, texting your attorney, the importance of a strategy call, why your attorney has junior associates helping on your case and how to best communicate with your legal team. We will also get very real about how much a typical retainer fee will run you, and the broad range of hourly rates.

Stay tuned because our holiday party is coming up. Will Cardi B be there? We'll see.

Be sure to subscribe, rate and review!

Mentioned in this episode:

Smarter Way to Sell Your Jewelry

After my divorce was finalized, I sold my old engagement ring to a jeweler — and honestly, I was stunned by how little I got for it compared to what it originally cost. If I could do it all over again — which is kind of the theme of this podcast — I would have sold it through Worthy. Worthy is a modern, smarter way to sell your jewelry online. Their process is incredibly easy: they cover shipping and insurance, professionally clean and photograph your jewelry, and have it graded by experts to help maximize its value. What makes Worthy different is that they create a competitive auction environment where buyers bid against each other for your piece — meaning they are motivated to help you get the highest price possible. It’s completely risk-free and honestly something I wish I had known about sooner. Get started today by heading to worthy.com/divorcepod and lock in an extra $100 when your jewelry sells for more than $1,500.

On today's episode we're talking about the documents you need for divorce, why they're important to get right and all the feelings you may be feeling as you work through them. We'll walk you through each document so you don't feel overwhelmed.

Andrea opens up about her own experience getting divorced during the pandemic and Morgan gets real about how long the whole process can take.

As we mention in today's episode, please feel free to DM us on Instagram (unless your name is Chad). We're here to help and support you! @divorceattorneychicago and @theandrearappaport

Mentioned in this episode:

Smarter Way to Sell Your Jewelry

After my divorce was finalized, I sold my old engagement ring to a jeweler — and honestly, I was stunned by how little I got for it compared to what it originally cost. If I could do it all over again — which is kind of the theme of this podcast — I would have sold it through Worthy. Worthy is a modern, smarter way to sell your jewelry online. Their process is incredibly easy: they cover shipping and insurance, professionally clean and photograph your jewelry, and have it graded by experts to help maximize its value. What makes Worthy different is that they create a competitive auction environment where buyers bid against each other for your piece — meaning they are motivated to help you get the highest price possible. It’s completely risk-free and honestly something I wish I had known about sooner. Get started today by heading to worthy.com/divorcepod and lock in an extra $100 when your jewelry sells for more than $1,500.

Today we're talking about how to prevent things from spiraling out of control. We'll discuss high conflict divorce and the steps to take to maintain your sanity and your safety. Morgan and Andrea will walk you through how to communicate and through which methods, what BIFF means, if a judge can read your emails, how to respond when the other person gets nasty and the hilarious/immature Seth Rogen gifs NOT to send to your soon-to-be ex.

Mentioned in this episode:

Smarter Way to Sell Your Jewelry

After my divorce was finalized, I sold my old engagement ring to a jeweler — and honestly, I was stunned by how little I got for it compared to what it originally cost. If I could do it all over again — which is kind of the theme of this podcast — I would have sold it through Worthy. Worthy is a modern, smarter way to sell your jewelry online. Their process is incredibly easy: they cover shipping and insurance, professionally clean and photograph your jewelry, and have it graded by experts to help maximize its value. What makes Worthy different is that they create a competitive auction environment where buyers bid against each other for your piece — meaning they are motivated to help you get the highest price possible. It’s completely risk-free and honestly something I wish I had known about sooner. Get started today by heading to worthy.com/divorcepod and lock in an extra $100 when your jewelry sells for more than $1,500.

This week we’re talking about maintenance (aka alimony). Spoiler alert - high maintenance is a good thing here. This is a topic everyone wants to know about but is afraid to ask so we're breaking it all down. We'll answer your burning questions:

How is alimony (or maintenance) different than child support?

Who gets maintenance?

How do you qualify for maintenance?

How easy it is to qualify for maintenance?

How much alimony will I get?

We'll also discuss the top factors a judge will consider when determining if you’ll get maintenance and how mediation can help both parties get creative to meet the needs of the family.

If you're enjoying our podcast, we would love it if you rated and reviewed.

Mentioned in this episode:

Smarter Way to Sell Your Jewelry

After my divorce was finalized, I sold my old engagement ring to a jeweler — and honestly, I was stunned by how little I got for it compared to what it originally cost. If I could do it all over again — which is kind of the theme of this podcast — I would have sold it through Worthy. Worthy is a modern, smarter way to sell your jewelry online. Their process is incredibly easy: they cover shipping and insurance, professionally clean and photograph your jewelry, and have it graded by experts to help maximize its value. What makes Worthy different is that they create a competitive auction environment where buyers bid against each other for your piece — meaning they are motivated to help you get the highest price possible. It’s completely risk-free and honestly something I wish I had known about sooner. Get started today by heading to worthy.com/divorcepod and lock in an extra $100 when your jewelry sells for more than $1,500.

Today we're talking about how to cope with stress while you're going through a divorce. Going through this process is a marathon, not a sprint, and we're here to coach you through it. We'll discuss the importance of optimal cognitive function, and if watching Japanese bug fighting on youtube will help you feel better. Spoiler alert: It will. Maybe.

Mentioned in this episode:

Smarter Way to Sell Your Jewelry

After my divorce was finalized, I sold my old engagement ring to a jeweler — and honestly, I was stunned by how little I got for it compared to what it originally cost. If I could do it all over again — which is kind of the theme of this podcast — I would have sold it through Worthy. Worthy is a modern, smarter way to sell your jewelry online. Their process is incredibly easy: they cover shipping and insurance, professionally clean and photograph your jewelry, and have it graded by experts to help maximize its value. What makes Worthy different is that they create a competitive auction environment where buyers bid against each other for your piece — meaning they are motivated to help you get the highest price possible. It’s completely risk-free and honestly something I wish I had known about sooner. Get started today by heading to worthy.com/divorcepod and lock in an extra $100 when your jewelry sells for more than $1,500.

Today we're talking all about the notorious financial affidavit. This is a really important document you'll want to be prepared for so this is an episode you do not want to miss. We'll discuss spending shame, being judged by the judge (does she/he care about your monthly root touchup?), do you need to hire someone to help figure out your finances, how to fill out the financial affidavit, do you include your dog's masseuse as well as our favorite crazy divorce stories. It's a daunting document but we're here to help you not suck at it.

Mentioned in this episode:

Smarter Way to Sell Your Jewelry

After my divorce was finalized, I sold my old engagement ring to a jeweler — and honestly, I was stunned by how little I got for it compared to what it originally cost. If I could do it all over again — which is kind of the theme of this podcast — I would have sold it through Worthy. Worthy is a modern, smarter way to sell your jewelry online. Their process is incredibly easy: they cover shipping and insurance, professionally clean and photograph your jewelry, and have it graded by experts to help maximize its value. What makes Worthy different is that they create a competitive auction environment where buyers bid against each other for your piece — meaning they are motivated to help you get the highest price possible. It’s completely risk-free and honestly something I wish I had known about sooner. Get started today by heading to worthy.com/divorcepod and lock in an extra $100 when your jewelry sells for more than $1,500.

On today’s episode, we’re talking about the different types of divorce. Who knew there was more than one?! We’ll discuss collaborative divorce, mediation and litigation and how they differ, pros and cons of each and which may be the right fit for you.

If you’re wondering how to get a divorce, should I file for divorce, how can I suck less at divorce and if you should saw your house in half like one couple did, this is the podcast for you.

www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com

Mentioned in this episode:

Smarter Way to Sell Your Jewelry

After my divorce was finalized, I sold my old engagement ring to a jeweler — and honestly, I was stunned by how little I got for it compared to what it originally cost. If I could do it all over again — which is kind of the theme of this podcast — I would have sold it through Worthy. Worthy is a modern, smarter way to sell your jewelry online. Their process is incredibly easy: they cover shipping and insurance, professionally clean and photograph your jewelry, and have it graded by experts to help maximize its value. What makes Worthy different is that they create a competitive auction environment where buyers bid against each other for your piece — meaning they are motivated to help you get the highest price possible. It’s completely risk-free and honestly something I wish I had known about sooner. Get started today by heading to worthy.com/divorcepod and lock in an extra $100 when your jewelry sells for more than $1,500.

Today we're talking about the parenting agreement. You won't want to miss this one. This is one of the toughest parts of divorce and Andrea gets really real and almost didn't want to record this episode. Anna helps make sense of this agreement and how to get through it in one piece. We'll talk about:

What is a parenting agreement?

What should I include in the parenting agreement?

Should we get a mediator?

Holidays during and after divorce

Visitation during and after divorce

Who pays for the kids' things when you get divorced

Cohabitating during divorce

We make it easy to understand. Be sure to stay until the end for our favorite segment: Wild divorce stories that are a lesson in what NOT to do. Hopefully we'll make you laugh and feel less alone.

Mentioned in this episode:

Smarter Way to Sell Your Jewelry

After my divorce was finalized, I sold my old engagement ring to a jeweler — and honestly, I was stunned by how little I got for it compared to what it originally cost. If I could do it all over again — which is kind of the theme of this podcast — I would have sold it through Worthy. Worthy is a modern, smarter way to sell your jewelry online. Their process is incredibly easy: they cover shipping and insurance, professionally clean and photograph your jewelry, and have it graded by experts to help maximize its value. What makes Worthy different is that they create a competitive auction environment where buyers bid against each other for your piece — meaning they are motivated to help you get the highest price possible. It’s completely risk-free and honestly something I wish I had known about sooner. Get started today by heading to worthy.com/divorcepod and lock in an extra $100 when your jewelry sells for more than $1,500.

On today's episode we're talking about moving out. This part of the process isn't easy but we're here to help you through it. We discuss how to handle this moment with children, if you should hire a divorce coach, therapist or mediator and the difference between the three and the role the attorney plays. We also talk about the differences between low conflict and high conflict divorces when it comes to this decision. People typically don't talk about all the nuances that go into moving out of the shared home. That's why we're here.

We would love it if you followed, rated and reviewed our show on Apple Podcasts or wherever you listen.

Mentioned in this episode:

Smarter Way to Sell Your Jewelry

After my divorce was finalized, I sold my old engagement ring to a jeweler — and honestly, I was stunned by how little I got for it compared to what it originally cost. If I could do it all over again — which is kind of the theme of this podcast — I would have sold it through Worthy. Worthy is a modern, smarter way to sell your jewelry online. Their process is incredibly easy: they cover shipping and insurance, professionally clean and photograph your jewelry, and have it graded by experts to help maximize its value. What makes Worthy different is that they create a competitive auction environment where buyers bid against each other for your piece — meaning they are motivated to help you get the highest price possible. It’s completely risk-free and honestly something I wish I had known about sooner. Get started today by heading to worthy.com/divorcepod and lock in an extra $100 when your jewelry sells for more than $1,500.

Alright, here's one of Andrea's least favorite topics...but probably the most important: the parenting agreement. Below are the show notes for a special re air episode, all about the parenitng agreement.

Remember, our Divorce Crash Course holds your hand through ALL of the important decisions you make during your divorce process. Grab you DCC, right here: https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com/divorce-crash-course for only $97, you can save up to THOUSANDS and avoid making MAJOR mistakes. The cost of our crash course includes 5 short videos, which are wildly informative and entertaining (if we do say so ourselves) AND includes a printable guidebook, that has mental health break exercises built in!

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We're getting into some real, REAL stuff in this episode. This is one of the biggest concerns our listeners have so we wanted to dedicate an entire episode to how to put your kids first in your parenting agreement.

Today, we have therapist Dr. Malissa Tigges with us to talk about how to create a parenting agreement that prioritizes the welfare of your kids. Dr. Tigges is a licensed clinical and forensics psychologist with over 10 years of experience working as a psychotherapist and an evaluator. She helps people make the best decisions possible when developing their parenting agreements.

Dr. Tigges, Morgan and Andrea answer:

What do divorcing couples need to understand when putting together their parenting agreement?

How to design the parenting agreement so it's appropriate at each age of the children.

The biggest mistake divorcing couples make when creating their parenting agreement.

What is the main difference of a parenting plan that involves a younger child vs. a teenager?

Can you modify a parenting agreement?

Who should you consult with to ensure your parenting agreement is the best for your child?

Should you open the parenting agreement email after having a few drinks?

What is co-parenting therapy and is it necessary?

What do you do when your rights are being violated during the divorce process when you're drafting the parenting agreement?

What's the best schedule for co-parenting? 50/50? Week on, week off? Every other weekend? The answer may upset you, but it's important to understand.

Is there wiggle room in a parenting agreement if there's a special trip or long weekend planned?

Dr. Tigges also shares her absolute "must-dos".

Here is where you can connect with Dr. Tigges:

@drmalissatigges on instagram, tiktok and facebook

Dr. Tigges is licensed in Florida but if you're not in Florida, your state may allow you to do telehealth with Dr. Tigges so if you need guidance, reach out!

Also- Our Family Wizard is here to help make your coparenting journey a whole lot easier. To learn more about them and to get access to an article that we cowrote, visit them at: http://www.ourfamilywizard.com/notsuck

Mentioned in this episode:

Smarter Way to Sell Your Jewelry

After my divorce was finalized, I sold my old engagement ring to a jeweler — and honestly, I was stunned by how little I got for it compared to what it originally cost. If I could do it all over again — which is kind of the theme of this podcast — I would have sold it through Worthy. Worthy is a modern, smarter way to sell your jewelry online. Their process is incredibly easy: they cover shipping and insurance, professionally clean and photograph your jewelry, and have it graded by experts to help maximize its value. What makes Worthy different is that they create a competitive auction environment where buyers bid against each other for your piece — meaning they are motivated to help you get the highest price possible. It’s completely risk-free and honestly something I wish I had known about sooner. Get started today by heading to worthy.com/divorcepod and lock in an extra $100 when your jewelry sells for more than $1,500.

Today, we're talking about how to find a divorce lawyer. Andrea shares how it all went down when they decided to file and what it was like to find an attorney. It's overwhelming and emotional but we can help and make it less scary. What we talk about in this episode:

How to find a divorce attorney

What questions to ask a divorce attorney or a divorce lawyer

Where do you find a divorce lawyer or attorney

Should you google "tough divorce lawyer"

How do you vet a divorce lawyer or divorce attorney

What steps do you need to take if you don't have a financial advisor

How much do divorce lawyers charge and what's included

What is a divorce mediator

This is a lot but we promise you, we make it easy to digest and we'll make you laugh. Be sure to stay until the end for our favorite segment - wild divorce stories that are a hilarious lesson on what NOT to do.

Mentioned in this episode:

Smarter Way to Sell Your Jewelry

After my divorce was finalized, I sold my old engagement ring to a jeweler — and honestly, I was stunned by how little I got for it compared to what it originally cost. If I could do it all over again — which is kind of the theme of this podcast — I would have sold it through Worthy. Worthy is a modern, smarter way to sell your jewelry online. Their process is incredibly easy: they cover shipping and insurance, professionally clean and photograph your jewelry, and have it graded by experts to help maximize its value. What makes Worthy different is that they create a competitive auction environment where buyers bid against each other for your piece — meaning they are motivated to help you get the highest price possible. It’s completely risk-free and honestly something I wish I had known about sooner. Get started today by heading to worthy.com/divorcepod and lock in an extra $100 when your jewelry sells for more than $1,500.

In today's episode, Morgan and Andrea talk about how they got here. Here being the place where they decided to launch a podcast about divorce and all the good, bad, ugly, and hilarious things you need to know so you don't suck at yours.

Help us help others going through the divorce process by following, rating, and reviewing our show!

Mentioned in this episode:

Smarter Way to Sell Your Jewelry

After my divorce was finalized, I sold my old engagement ring to a jeweler — and honestly, I was stunned by how little I got for it compared to what it originally cost. If I could do it all over again — which is kind of the theme of this podcast — I would have sold it through Worthy. Worthy is a modern, smarter way to sell your jewelry online. Their process is incredibly easy: they cover shipping and insurance, professionally clean and photograph your jewelry, and have it graded by experts to help maximize its value. What makes Worthy different is that they create a competitive auction environment where buyers bid against each other for your piece — meaning they are motivated to help you get the highest price possible. It’s completely risk-free and honestly something I wish I had known about sooner. Get started today by heading to worthy.com/divorcepod and lock in an extra $100 when your jewelry sells for more than $1,500.

Today’s episode is about something we get asked about A LOT - recording your ex.

The truth of the matter is there are some major things you MUST think about before hitting that record button, and yes, EVEN if your attorney suggests it. However, there is a time & a place for capturing what you need to help your divorce proceeding.

We answer:

• What legally admissible means and how it applies to you
• When we would recommend you recording your ex
• What does it mean in your state? Is it legal? And what does it mean?
• When would it be appropriate to record and when would it not be?

And, why we LOVE Ring doorbells (not sponsored...yet..hit us up, Ring!)

This episode is not only insightful but a resource for you that you may need at some point & we want to equip you with the information you need.

And remember, Our Family Wizard is here to help you with your coparenting journey. To learn more about Our Family Wizard, please go check them out, you'll also get access to a special (and funny) article we co wrote with them!! http://www.ourfamilywizard.com/notsuck

Do you have the Divorce Crash Course??? It's going to help you- BIG TIME.

https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com/divorce-crash-course

You've got this, friends, and we've got you!

Mentioned in this episode:

Smarter Way to Sell Your Jewelry

After my divorce was finalized, I sold my old engagement ring to a jeweler — and honestly, I was stunned by how little I got for it compared to what it originally cost. If I could do it all over again — which is kind of the theme of this podcast — I would have sold it through Worthy. Worthy is a modern, smarter way to sell your jewelry online. Their process is incredibly easy: they cover shipping and insurance, professionally clean and photograph your jewelry, and have it graded by experts to help maximize its value. What makes Worthy different is that they create a competitive auction environment where buyers bid against each other for your piece — meaning they are motivated to help you get the highest price possible. It’s completely risk-free and honestly something I wish I had known about sooner. Get started today by heading to worthy.com/divorcepod and lock in an extra $100 when your jewelry sells for more than $1,500.

Friend, let’s be real, we know that you're tired of pretending that everything is okay.

We know that your gut is telling you that your marriage is not going to work.

So, now what???

If you have EVER wondered:

"What do I do if I think I want a divorce?" - this episode is for you.

If you're considering divorce but don't know where to begin, this episode is for you.

If you're just miserable in your marriage, but feel stuck, this episode is for you.

Don't forget: The DCC is here to help you save up to THOUSANDS on your divorce AND help you avoid making MAJOR mistakes. Get The Divorce Crash Course HERE!

Join our private community: Here!

And remember, Our Family Wizard is here to help you make coparenting easier. Believe us, you want to check them out: http://www.ourfamilywizard.com/notsuck

This podcast was designed to give you information, entertainment and empathy as you embark on the divorce process.

We know that divorce is hard. We know that it's a long and draining process. We also know that life is so much better on the other side.

Don't give up. Everyone deserves to be happy.

You've got this and we've got you.

Mentioned in this episode:

Smarter Way to Sell Your Jewelry

After my divorce was finalized, I sold my old engagement ring to a jeweler — and honestly, I was stunned by how little I got for it compared to what it originally cost. If I could do it all over again — which is kind of the theme of this podcast — I would have sold it through Worthy. Worthy is a modern, smarter way to sell your jewelry online. Their process is incredibly easy: they cover shipping and insurance, professionally clean and photograph your jewelry, and have it graded by experts to help maximize its value. What makes Worthy different is that they create a competitive auction environment where buyers bid against each other for your piece — meaning they are motivated to help you get the highest price possible. It’s completely risk-free and honestly something I wish I had known about sooner. Get started today by heading to worthy.com/divorcepod and lock in an extra $100 when your jewelry sells for more than $1,500.

With divorce, there are things that you might feel you have zero control over, right?

Maybe you’ve thought before, “My attorney's not fighting me.”

OR maybe you're frustrated that your attorney's bills are insanely high and you wish there was SOMETHING you could do so save money.

Friend: I hope you listen to this episode with an open mind because we are going to give you very concrete steps that you can take to help your attorney help YOU so that you can make the most out of your attorney.

And, if you haven't grabbed our DCC yet, go get it here. DCC = Divorce Crash Course

Divorce Crash Course

In today’s episode, we cover-

-Saving money

-Getting your attorney to fight for you

-Supplying your attorney with the necessary information to really get the best outcome for your case

-Why it’s important to pay your bill on time

-Why it’s important to stick to the FACTS and leave your emotions out of it

-A clear example of what it looks like to HELP your attorney HELP you

Andrea asks some JUICY questions to Morgan, that you don’t want to miss!

And remember, Soberlink is here to help you if you're concerned about a coparent's alcohol use. Save $50 off your device and learn more here: https://www.soberlink.com/notsuck

Join our private community, we'd love to have! http://www.facebook.com/thehownottosuckatdivorcecommunity

Mentioned in this episode:

Smarter Way to Sell Your Jewelry

After my divorce was finalized, I sold my old engagement ring to a jeweler — and honestly, I was stunned by how little I got for it compared to what it originally cost. If I could do it all over again — which is kind of the theme of this podcast — I would have sold it through Worthy. Worthy is a modern, smarter way to sell your jewelry online. Their process is incredibly easy: they cover shipping and insurance, professionally clean and photograph your jewelry, and have it graded by experts to help maximize its value. What makes Worthy different is that they create a competitive auction environment where buyers bid against each other for your piece — meaning they are motivated to help you get the highest price possible. It’s completely risk-free and honestly something I wish I had known about sooner. Get started today by heading to worthy.com/divorcepod and lock in an extra $100 when your jewelry sells for more than $1,500.

In today’s episode, boooooy did we shed some light on the top asked questions when navigating a divorce. From the quirky laws about eavesdropping, (did you know in Illinois recording someone on the phone without consent is a no-go but in public, it’s fair game?), to seeking multiple opinions like you would for a tricky medical condition – this episode has it all.

And here's your place to grab access to the DCC: The Divorce Crash Course, yes, you need this! :The Divorce Crash Course

And hey, for those wondering about GALs and child representatives in custody battles, we've got the lowdown right here.

In this episode we answer:

• HOW to tell your spouse you want a divorce (and the big reason why we suggest NOT doing it on a weekend)
• What to do when you feel like your spouse has been hiding finances and is it worth it to continue digging?
• Trial separations before filing! Doing the right thing or putting off the inevitable?
• GAL - what it is and the role that it serves
• How do you know if a GAL is going to help or hurt your case? When do you advocate that you want one? Do you say “I want one”, or is it something that you wait for a judge to slap on to your case?
• Difference between GAL child rep - How would you know when you need one and not the other?
• Who does a GAL speak to and who does a GAL not speak to? And is a GAL the same thing as a custody evaluator? Are they going to come into my home and see what my home looks like?
• What does parental alienation actually mean?
• What happens if your ex records your conversations? Are they allowed to do this?
• How late is too late is too switch attorneys?
• Experience requesting an order from the judge

I promise we’re in your corner and here for you and remember, you’ve got this and we’ve got you!

**And remember, if alcohol use is a concern with safe parenting time, then Soberlink is a tool you need in your toolbox. Learn more and save $50 off your device here: https://www.soberlink.com/notsuck ***

To join our private community, head here: The How Not to Suck at Divorce Community

Mentioned in this episode:

Smarter Way to Sell Your Jewelry

After my divorce was finalized, I sold my old engagement ring to a jeweler — and honestly, I was stunned by how little I got for it compared to what it originally cost. If I could do it all over again — which is kind of the theme of this podcast — I would have sold it through Worthy. Worthy is a modern, smarter way to sell your jewelry online. Their process is incredibly easy: they cover shipping and insurance, professionally clean and photograph your jewelry, and have it graded by experts to help maximize its value. What makes Worthy different is that they create a competitive auction environment where buyers bid against each other for your piece — meaning they are motivated to help you get the highest price possible. It’s completely risk-free and honestly something I wish I had known about sooner. Get started today by heading to worthy.com/divorcepod and lock in an extra $100 when your jewelry sells for more than $1,500.

Oooooh friend - today you are in for an absolute TREAT. We (Andrea & Morgan) uncover the 5 BIGGEST MISTAKES that we see happening when it comes to getting divorced.

AND, to put the cherry on top, you can get even more access to these topics and so much more "hands on help" with: The Divorce Crash Course.

Literally - this will be your divorce playbook. You want this crash course, you need this crash course. And, like we said in the show, we priced this guide at a low pricepoint so it's accessable to everyone. Most divorce "courses" are hundreds of dollars and take HOURS to complete. Our crash course is different.

We also made sure that your privacy is protected. The credit card charge shows up as "DCC150", so nothing about divorce is mentioned.

There's also an Afterpay option, so you can pay in installments.

And if you're on the fence about getting divorced: This course will help you.

Okay, here's the link: ➡️ https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com/divorce-crash-course ⬅️

In this episode, we cover some of the goods inside of the The Divorce Crash Course including:

Hiring a divorce attorney

Kids and the mistakes that people make when it comes to kids

If you should sell your house

Communication with your ex (Andrea’s personal fav)

How to NOT rush through signing those important documents

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And if you're concered about your coparent's alcohol use, Soberlink can help: https://www.soberlink.com/notsuck.

This link will give you more information and a coupon for $50 off your device.

And please join our private community for more support! http://www.facebook.com/thehownottosuckatdivorcecommunity

Mentioned in this episode:

Smarter Way to Sell Your Jewelry

After my divorce was finalized, I sold my old engagement ring to a jeweler — and honestly, I was stunned by how little I got for it compared to what it originally cost. If I could do it all over again — which is kind of the theme of this podcast — I would have sold it through Worthy. Worthy is a modern, smarter way to sell your jewelry online. Their process is incredibly easy: they cover shipping and insurance, professionally clean and photograph your jewelry, and have it graded by experts to help maximize its value. What makes Worthy different is that they create a competitive auction environment where buyers bid against each other for your piece — meaning they are motivated to help you get the highest price possible. It’s completely risk-free and honestly something I wish I had known about sooner. Get started today by heading to worthy.com/divorcepod and lock in an extra $100 when your jewelry sells for more than $1,500.

In today’s episode, we have a very first for this podcast & an incredibly special guest - Retired Los Angeles Judge Dianna Gould-Saltman. That’s right - a VERY recently retired divorce judge! (who BTW, has divorced several celebrity couples)

Let's face it- nobody wants to go to court. It’s just not a fun experience. If you're navigating the divorce process, going before the judge is likely a step that you are trying to avoid for several reasons. But for one reason or another, it happens for a lot of divorcing couples.

So, what do you do you to get the judge "on your side"???

In this episode you’ll learn:

* An easy thing you can do to help yourself get in the right headspace for court

* What do to and not to do when you’re actually in front of the judge in court

* Does it matter if the judge *knows* the attorney who’s representing you or your spouse

* What are some mistakes that Judge Dianna saw in her courtroom over and over

*What's a "private divorce"??

If you’re going through this nasty thing called divorce and ready to learn how to prepare for court in the eyes of a retired divorce judge…this epiosode is for YOU.

AND! If you're wanting to hire Judge Dianna Gould- Saltman as your mediator or your private judge...guess what? You can do that! Find her here: https://signatureresolution.com/neutral-CPT/hon-dianna-gould-saltman-ret/

And friends, if your case is going into court then you likely need some more emotional support. Look no futher than our private community. You can find it right here: http://www.facebook.com/thehownottosuckatdivorcecommunity

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Do you know about Our Family Wizard?? Because if not, you really need to go sign up for their newsletter. Our Family Wizard makes coparenting A LOT easier by helping you organize your calenders, expenses, AND monitor communications : and best part, it's looked upon HIGHLY in the courts as a way to help families do divorce better. To learn more, go to: http://www.ourfamilywizard.com/notsuck

Mentioned in this episode:

Smarter Way to Sell Your Jewelry

After my divorce was finalized, I sold my old engagement ring to a jeweler — and honestly, I was stunned by how little I got for it compared to what it originally cost. If I could do it all over again — which is kind of the theme of this podcast — I would have sold it through Worthy. Worthy is a modern, smarter way to sell your jewelry online. Their process is incredibly easy: they cover shipping and insurance, professionally clean and photograph your jewelry, and have it graded by experts to help maximize its value. What makes Worthy different is that they create a competitive auction environment where buyers bid against each other for your piece — meaning they are motivated to help you get the highest price possible. It’s completely risk-free and honestly something I wish I had known about sooner. Get started today by heading to worthy.com/divorcepod and lock in an extra $100 when your jewelry sells for more than $1,500.

In today’s episode, as crappy as it is - we talk about when the abuse gets worse during divorce. It’s not a fun topic, but we would be doing you a disservice if we didn’t talk about it.

We bring in Katharine Rupp, a family law attorney based in California, who shares insights on the legal process of divorce, the significance of being organized and prepared for legal battles, and the usefulness of tools like Our Family Wizard app (hollaaa!) in co-parenting and divorce documentation.

Expect to hear strategies for dealing with emotional abuse and conflict, learn the importance of communication and documentation in divorce proceedings, and get practical advice for navigating the divorce process more effectively - as per usual!

Main Takeaways:

*Importance of Our Family Wizard - (OFW) is a valuable tool for organizing divorce-related information in one platform

*Responding to Attacks (so hard- but DON'T attack back)

*Avoid Escalation and Emotional Response (again, so hard)

*Documenting and Communicating

*Seek Support and Guidance

If you want some more information on how to respond to your POS ex, (hee hee) head here:

http://www.ourfamilywizard.com/notsuck

Ask your attorney if Our Family Wizard would be right for your case. In our opinion, it can only help give you the boundaries you deserve.

Join our private community for more support. http://www.facebook.com/thehownottosuckatdivorcecommunity

Mentioned in this episode:

Smarter Way to Sell Your Jewelry

After my divorce was finalized, I sold my old engagement ring to a jeweler — and honestly, I was stunned by how little I got for it compared to what it originally cost. If I could do it all over again — which is kind of the theme of this podcast — I would have sold it through Worthy. Worthy is a modern, smarter way to sell your jewelry online. Their process is incredibly easy: they cover shipping and insurance, professionally clean and photograph your jewelry, and have it graded by experts to help maximize its value. What makes Worthy different is that they create a competitive auction environment where buyers bid against each other for your piece — meaning they are motivated to help you get the highest price possible. It’s completely risk-free and honestly something I wish I had known about sooner. Get started today by heading to worthy.com/divorcepod and lock in an extra $100 when your jewelry sells for more than $1,500.

In this important re-air, we're here with Dr. Meaghan Boston Daly to talk about divorce and physical wellness. Dr. Meg is a concierge internal medicine doctor in Chicago and has quite the resume. We're so excited to be able to pick her beautiful brain.

**And if you're already contemplating divorce, go check out our crash course.

Our Divorce Crash Course was designed to hold your hand through the process and help you avoid major and expensive mistakes. Learn more here: https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com/divorce-crash-course

We'll discuss how being in an unhappy marriage really wears us down. Dr. Meg will tell us all about the subtle physical symptoms of emotional stress, Morgan will answer if your spouse can find out if you're on medication for your mental health during the divorce process, and Andrea will share about the connection between her body pain and being in a toxic marriage.

Where to find Dr. Meg: www.harper-health.com

Our Family Wizard is another fantasitc resource for those who need help navigating the "fun" world of coparenting. Head to this landing page to see how we work closely with them to support our listeners! http://www.ourfamilywizard.com/notsuck

Friends, slide into our dms, we love love love hearing from you. We are always here to listen and help in any way we can. You've got this and we've got you.

Mentioned in this episode:

Smarter Way to Sell Your Jewelry

After my divorce was finalized, I sold my old engagement ring to a jeweler — and honestly, I was stunned by how little I got for it compared to what it originally cost. If I could do it all over again — which is kind of the theme of this podcast — I would have sold it through Worthy. Worthy is a modern, smarter way to sell your jewelry online. Their process is incredibly easy: they cover shipping and insurance, professionally clean and photograph your jewelry, and have it graded by experts to help maximize its value. What makes Worthy different is that they create a competitive auction environment where buyers bid against each other for your piece — meaning they are motivated to help you get the highest price possible. It’s completely risk-free and honestly something I wish I had known about sooner. Get started today by heading to worthy.com/divorcepod and lock in an extra $100 when your jewelry sells for more than $1,500.

Friends. Listen up. You need to make sure that your divorce attorney is going to GUIDE you through the long, winding road that is divorce.

Take a listen to the dynamic duo, Sarah Jacobs and Jamie Berger, family law attorneys and owners of Jacobs/Berger LLC, located in Morristown, New Jersey. Their mission is making the divorce process less nerve-wracking by focusing on the human side, rather than getting caught up in legal battles. Isn’t that what we all want?! (Yes, it is..)

Sarah and Jamie express why it's so importatnt to find a relatable attorney who communicates well, knows your goals, and speaks your language.

Episode highlights:

*Jacobs and Bergers’ approach to making divorce less stressful

*The concept of redefining the family through non-aggressive strategies

*The importance of a divorce attorney understanding and addressing your needs and goals

*The necessity for attorneys to be relatable and communicative

*Positive outlook on divorce as a new beginning

*Being a divorce "tour guide"

*A Real Housewives of New Jersey divorce story....(this sh$t is GOOD)

If you are in the NJ area and looking for representation- reach out to Sarah & Jamie.

Here's the site again : http://www.jacobsberger.com

Aaaaaannnndddd, ya'll - you KNOW you want some glowing skin, who doesn't?? Andrea and Morgan are LOVING their results from Dermamade, and we know that you will, too. This skincare line is so effective and not super $$$. For a limited time, you can save 50% off (which is INSANE) with code AMY50. Head to http://www.dermamade.com

And don't forget: Our Family Wizard is here to help make coparenting easier. And if you want some tips on how to communicate in a more effective way that won't make you want to pull out your hair extentions...go to http://www.ourfamilywizard.com/notsuck - pop in your email address and you'll get an article from US that maps out a plan for you!

Join our private community: http://www.facebook.com/thehownottosuckatdivorcecommunity

We love you, we're here for you, you can do this.

Go get yourself a good attorney.

Mentioned in this episode:

Smarter Way to Sell Your Jewelry

After my divorce was finalized, I sold my old engagement ring to a jeweler — and honestly, I was stunned by how little I got for it compared to what it originally cost. If I could do it all over again — which is kind of the theme of this podcast — I would have sold it through Worthy. Worthy is a modern, smarter way to sell your jewelry online. Their process is incredibly easy: they cover shipping and insurance, professionally clean and photograph your jewelry, and have it graded by experts to help maximize its value. What makes Worthy different is that they create a competitive auction environment where buyers bid against each other for your piece — meaning they are motivated to help you get the highest price possible. It’s completely risk-free and honestly something I wish I had known about sooner. Get started today by heading to worthy.com/divorcepod and lock in an extra $100 when your jewelry sells for more than $1,500.

Okay, real talk. Getting your head straight for divorce is NECESSARY.

It’s crucial to seek the proper legal and emotional help when going through a divorce. In this episode, we chat with Dr. Ashley Southard and she has you covered! Straight from a licensed marriage and family therapist, you’ll learn in this episode:

* Professional guidance during divorce

* Defining worst and best-case scenarios

* Managing emotions during divorce

* Focusing on children, career, and supportive relationships

* Addressing the struggle of over-functioning individuals to seek help or delegate responsibilities

* Importance of seeking therapy before starting the divorce process

* Over-functioning women in unfulfilling relationships

* Identifying emotional and practical needs during challenging times

This episode is for you if you’re ready and determined to get your head on straight when it comes to divorce! (Trust us, you can do this!)

You can find Dr Ashley on her viral IG account: http://www.instagram.com/drashleysouthard

And friends, remember, Our Family Wizard is here to help with you all of your coparenting issues. Go read our co written article! It's funny and really helpful! http://www.ourfamilywizard.com/notsuck

And keeping with the real talk. Ya'll. Your skin takes a BEATING when you're stressed, and that just plain SUCKS. However, we have a way to help you! Dr Amy Brodsky developed an amazing line of EFFECTIVE skincare- and guess what?? She's giving our listeners 50% off for a limited time. Take a sec right now and go check out Dermamade. Use code AMY50 at checkout. http://www.dermamade.com

(Morgan loves the anti aging set and Andrea is digging the Vitamin C serum, as well as the Retinol serum. )

We're here for you. Join our private community http://www.facebook.com/thehownottosuckatdivorcecommunity

Please DM us with any questions!

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Mentioned in this episode:

Smarter Way to Sell Your Jewelry

After my divorce was finalized, I sold my old engagement ring to a jeweler — and honestly, I was stunned by how little I got for it compared to what it originally cost. If I could do it all over again — which is kind of the theme of this podcast — I would have sold it through Worthy. Worthy is a modern, smarter way to sell your jewelry online. Their process is incredibly easy: they cover shipping and insurance, professionally clean and photograph your jewelry, and have it graded by experts to help maximize its value. What makes Worthy different is that they create a competitive auction environment where buyers bid against each other for your piece — meaning they are motivated to help you get the highest price possible. It’s completely risk-free and honestly something I wish I had known about sooner. Get started today by heading to worthy.com/divorcepod and lock in an extra $100 when your jewelry sells for more than $1,500.

Okay, let's hash out everything you need to do BEFORE you file for divorce, sounds like fun, huh?

Listen, let us start by saying: mental preparation is crucial and there is NO perfect time for divorce, and every case is different!

And before we forget, go join our private communities:

http://www.facebook.com/thehownottosuckatdivorcecommunity

http://www.patreon.com/notquitereadytodivorce

This episode helps you get your head straight if you’re thinking about divorce.

You’re going to hear:

*The Importance of timing in divorce decisions

*Consideration of length of marriage for potential alimony or maintenance

*Permanent support after around 20 years of marriage

*Setting up for success in the next chapter of life after divorce

*Tools for Organizing Expenses and Communication During Divorce

*Impact of job loss or significant career advancement on divorce filing and financial implications

*Retirement and its impact on support and financial division in divorces later in life

*Discussion of prenups, children's ages, length of marriage, employment, and retirement for awareness and discussion with an attorney

*Confidential ways to consult a divorce lawyer, such as through advance consultation fees or using a separate credit card

*Emotional Support During the Divorce Process

*Encouragement to seek professional advice from a divorce attorney to address individual concerns

This episode is for you if you are ready to get your head on straight if you are considering or currently navigating the complexities of divorce and seeking expert advice, support, and camaraderie during this challenging time.

And remember: Soberlink is THE tool you need if you suspect alcohol is going to be an issue with safe parenting time. Get $50 off your device by visiting: http://www.soberlink.com/notsuck

Our Family Wizard is here to make coparenting EASIER. To their FREE newsletter AND an article that we cowrote to help you not suck at communicating with your ex, visit: http://www.ourfamilywizard.com/notsuck

Follow us on IG! http://www.instagram.com/hownottosuckatdivorce

Mentioned in this episode:

Smarter Way to Sell Your Jewelry

After my divorce was finalized, I sold my old engagement ring to a jeweler — and honestly, I was stunned by how little I got for it compared to what it originally cost. If I could do it all over again — which is kind of the theme of this podcast — I would have sold it through Worthy. Worthy is a modern, smarter way to sell your jewelry online. Their process is incredibly easy: they cover shipping and insurance, professionally clean and photograph your jewelry, and have it graded by experts to help maximize its value. What makes Worthy different is that they create a competitive auction environment where buyers bid against each other for your piece — meaning they are motivated to help you get the highest price possible. It’s completely risk-free and honestly something I wish I had known about sooner. Get started today by heading to worthy.com/divorcepod and lock in an extra $100 when your jewelry sells for more than $1,500.

Andrea and Morgan answer the question that you’re probably wondering if you’re going through (or about to go through) a divorce: Will the kids be okay?!

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To get FREE tips on coparenting communication (believe us, you'll want this) head to:

http://www.ourfamilywizard.com/notsuck - pop in your email and you'll get access to BONUS tips, direct from Andrea & Morgan.

We get real about the impact of divorce on children and invite: Meg, and sisters Eden & Larissa on the show. They share their personal stories of coming from divorced households, navigating blended families, and the challenges of balancing different parenting styles.

This episode gives you insight if you’re contemplating divorce or worried about the effects on your kids.

Expect to hear:

*Tips on communicating with challenging co-parents and using "Our Family Wizard" for organized co-parenting, including expenses and messaging.

* The importance of prioritizing the well-being of the children involved and creating a supportive environment for them.

* The challenges and misconceptions of parenting during and after a divorce

** The impact on children and the importance of parental happiness for the well-being of children

***The answer you all want to hear: Will the kids be okay? Answer might suprise you.

**and BONUS !!! What can you do to give your skin that glow you had before your life turned upside down!! (hint: it's Morgan's obsession)

Get up to 50% off (which is INSANE!) If you go to www.dermamade.com and enter in code: AMY50

This episode is filled with real stories, hope, and honesty to help answer your question: are your kids going to be okay?

You can do this. We've got you.

Join our private community:

http://www.facebook.com/thehownottosuckatdivorcecommunity

Follow us on IG:

http://www.instagram.com/hownottosuckatdivorce

We'll see ya next week.

Mentioned in this episode:

Smarter Way to Sell Your Jewelry

After my divorce was finalized, I sold my old engagement ring to a jeweler — and honestly, I was stunned by how little I got for it compared to what it originally cost. If I could do it all over again — which is kind of the theme of this podcast — I would have sold it through Worthy. Worthy is a modern, smarter way to sell your jewelry online. Their process is incredibly easy: they cover shipping and insurance, professionally clean and photograph your jewelry, and have it graded by experts to help maximize its value. What makes Worthy different is that they create a competitive auction environment where buyers bid against each other for your piece — meaning they are motivated to help you get the highest price possible. It’s completely risk-free and honestly something I wish I had known about sooner. Get started today by heading to worthy.com/divorcepod and lock in an extra $100 when your jewelry sells for more than $1,500.

In this episode: Andrea, Morgan, and James Quigley dive into the world of divorce and family law, AND contempt of court. Listen to get some strategies for dealing with violations of court orders, and the emotional toll of navigating divorce.

* Examples of non-willful violations of court orders and the importance of making reasonable efforts to comply

* Situations where pursuing contempt charges for financial issues in divorce cases may be warranted, and the process of filing a petition for the court to consider contempt charges

* Assessing the teamwork of law firms, understanding lawyer agreements, and maintaining credibility with the court

* Communication strategies with challenging co-parents, using co-parenting apps, and documenting interactions.

* Acknowledgment of the emotional toll of divorce, abuse, and gaslighting, and the recommendation to seek mental health support.

* Stressing the importance of addressing emotional issues with support, as lawyers are not therapists.

This conversation is filled with real-life anecdotes, practical advice, and a touch of humor, all aimed at providing support and guidance for those going through a divorce. Join us as we tackle these complex issues and share resources, all while navigating the intricacies of divorce with honesty and levity.

To find James Quigley online, head to: https://www.beermannlaw.com/team/james-m-quigley/

and follow the guy on IG, it'll make his day. https://www.instagram.com/quigleyondivorce/

And remember:

If you're concerned about your children's safety during your co parent's parenting time becuase of alcohol, Soberlink is here to help. To learn more visit: http://www.soberlink.com/notsuck and get $50 off your device.

Our Family Wizard is here to my coparenting EASIER, how awesome is that??!! To get FREE access to an article that we co wrote with the Our Family Wizard team that gives action steps on how you can better communicate with you ex, go to: http://www.ourfamilywizard.com/notsuck

We have private communities, don't forget!! Join us. We're helpful and, like, way fun:

http://www.facebook.com/thehownottosuckatdivorcecommunity

http://www.patreon.com/notquitereadytodivorce

http://www.instagram.com/hownottosuckatdivorce

Mentioned in this episode:

Smarter Way to Sell Your Jewelry

After my divorce was finalized, I sold my old engagement ring to a jeweler — and honestly, I was stunned by how little I got for it compared to what it originally cost. If I could do it all over again — which is kind of the theme of this podcast — I would have sold it through Worthy. Worthy is a modern, smarter way to sell your jewelry online. Their process is incredibly easy: they cover shipping and insurance, professionally clean and photograph your jewelry, and have it graded by experts to help maximize its value. What makes Worthy different is that they create a competitive auction environment where buyers bid against each other for your piece — meaning they are motivated to help you get the highest price possible. It’s completely risk-free and honestly something I wish I had known about sooner. Get started today by heading to worthy.com/divorcepod and lock in an extra $100 when your jewelry sells for more than $1,500.

In this episode, Andrea and Morgan give advice on creating parenting schedules and what you need to keep in mind to ensure the best interests of the children are at the forefront.

We dive into some of the most common custody issues:

*50/50 arrangment

*right of first refusal

*asking for more than 50% custody

*difference between custodial custody and parenting time

*best parenting time schedules for younger kids

*more creative parenting time schedules

And speaking of kids, Our Family Wizard is here to make coparenting easier! And trust us, you want Our Family Wizard as a tool in your divorce toolbox. Head to: http://www.ourfamilywizard.com/notsuck to get access to a FREE article that we co-wrote with Our Family Wizard on how to best communicate with a challenging ex spouse!

And remember, our private community is here to support you. Join us at: http://www.facebook.com/thehownottosuckatdivorcecommunity

And if you have not yet filed for divorce and would prefer to listen to our episodes privately, you can do so here: https://www.patreon.com/NotQuiteReadyForDivorce. Our entire library of episodes can be listened to discreetly for $4.99 a month.

Follow us on Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/hownottosuckatdivorce

See you next week, friends!

Mentioned in this episode:

Smarter Way to Sell Your Jewelry

After my divorce was finalized, I sold my old engagement ring to a jeweler — and honestly, I was stunned by how little I got for it compared to what it originally cost. If I could do it all over again — which is kind of the theme of this podcast — I would have sold it through Worthy. Worthy is a modern, smarter way to sell your jewelry online. Their process is incredibly easy: they cover shipping and insurance, professionally clean and photograph your jewelry, and have it graded by experts to help maximize its value. What makes Worthy different is that they create a competitive auction environment where buyers bid against each other for your piece — meaning they are motivated to help you get the highest price possible. It’s completely risk-free and honestly something I wish I had known about sooner. Get started today by heading to worthy.com/divorcepod and lock in an extra $100 when your jewelry sells for more than $1,500.

In today’s episode, Andrea and Morgan discuss what happens AFTER you’ve been served with a petition for divorce…aka “dissolution of marriage”.

So if you’ve wondered:

How do I choose the right 🤷🏻‍♀️divorce attorney?

How do I manage 🤦🏼‍♂️ divorce stress?

Who can help me understand 🙅🏻‍♀️ divorce documents?

Then this episode is for YOU.

You deserve the right guidance and mindset is CRUCIAL.

Divorce is a journey that can be navigated with resilience and grace, and we’re here to support you every step of the way. How Not to Suck at Divorce offers you practical advice, and a much-needed dose of humor.

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If alcohol is an issue and you’re concerned about your kids’ safety during your co-parent's parenting time, please check out Soberlink. http://www.soberlink.com/notsuck Vist the link to get $50 off your device.

And if you want more guidance and support in regards to co-parenting, head over to Our Family Wizard. Our Family Wizard is here to make co-parenting EASIER. Click on this → link ← to get free access to communication tips that will save you time, money, and a big fat headache!

Please visit our private communities for more.

http://www.facebook.com/thehownottosuckatdivorcecommunity

http://www.patreon.com/notquitereadyfordivorce

And follow us on IG!

http://www.instagram.com/hownottosuckatdivorce

Mentioned in this episode:

Smarter Way to Sell Your Jewelry

After my divorce was finalized, I sold my old engagement ring to a jeweler — and honestly, I was stunned by how little I got for it compared to what it originally cost. If I could do it all over again — which is kind of the theme of this podcast — I would have sold it through Worthy. Worthy is a modern, smarter way to sell your jewelry online. Their process is incredibly easy: they cover shipping and insurance, professionally clean and photograph your jewelry, and have it graded by experts to help maximize its value. What makes Worthy different is that they create a competitive auction environment where buyers bid against each other for your piece — meaning they are motivated to help you get the highest price possible. It’s completely risk-free and honestly something I wish I had known about sooner. Get started today by heading to worthy.com/divorcepod and lock in an extra $100 when your jewelry sells for more than $1,500.

You gotta hear this episode.

The end of Moncia's marriage involved betrayal, alcohol abuse, and porn addiction. What's fascinating about her experience is not what she went through, but how she CHOSE to heal.

When Monica and her now ex husband entered couples therapy, they also did individual therapy, and Monica join a support group. In that support group, she found perspective and reflection. With that, she was able to see that there was a role that SHE PLAYED in the breakdown of the marriage. Now, it's not to say that anything that Monica did or didn't do caused her husband to make his choices. Rather, Monica was able to see that some of her behavior came from a strong desire to control a situation, what wasn't helping anything.

Once she was able to let go and accept her husband for who he was, everthing changed.

Yes, their divorce process began, but so did Monica's beautiful healing process.

Fast forward to the present day: Monica is sharing her dinner table with her exhusband, their children, AND her new boyfriend. You can see for yourself on her IG: https://www.instagram.com/monicaleighblog/

She now hosts her own podcast: Choosing to Heal with Monica Leigh

She also runs her own support community for other women looking to heal! Check it out!

https://monicaleighblog.com/community

This episode should give you hope and inspiration. Please visit our private communities for more.

http://www.facebook.com/thehownottosuckatdivorcecommunity

http://www.patreon.com/notquitereadyfordivorce

And follow us on IG!

http://www.instagram.com/hownottosuckatdivorce

Mentioned in this episode:

Smarter Way to Sell Your Jewelry

After my divorce was finalized, I sold my old engagement ring to a jeweler — and honestly, I was stunned by how little I got for it compared to what it originally cost. If I could do it all over again — which is kind of the theme of this podcast — I would have sold it through Worthy. Worthy is a modern, smarter way to sell your jewelry online. Their process is incredibly easy: they cover shipping and insurance, professionally clean and photograph your jewelry, and have it graded by experts to help maximize its value. What makes Worthy different is that they create a competitive auction environment where buyers bid against each other for your piece — meaning they are motivated to help you get the highest price possible. It’s completely risk-free and honestly something I wish I had known about sooner. Get started today by heading to worthy.com/divorcepod and lock in an extra $100 when your jewelry sells for more than $1,500.

if you are not quite ready for divorce and want to listen to this episode without downloading it to your device, you are welcome to subscribe to our Patreon channel, where, for $4.99 a month, you can access our entire library of episodes

Trauma makes a home in our bodies. Recent studies have shown that traditional talk therapy might not be enough to help people recover from trauma.

(eye roll) Great. So, now what??

This episode of How Not to Suck at Divorce features Dr Melissa Kalt. Dr Melissa is a triple board certified physician turned trauma healer. Dr Melissa offers group programs and 1:1 services for people wanting to heal from their trauma. She even met with Andrea in December. Be sure to listen to Andrea's experience and how Dr Melissa was able to pinpoint her pain and help her release it.

Something to note is that the trauma lives in our bodies because of the story we told ourselves about the traumatic event, not so much the event itself....food for thought.

(Poor Morgan found this topic to get a little too "woo woo" for her at times...what do you think??)

The takeaway here is that if you are suffering, you deserve not to suffer. If trauma healing can help you, why wouldn't you try it?

You can access Dr Melissa's FREE 5-part masterclass, "Hack the Confidence Rollercoaster" at confidencerollercoaster.com Join Antifragile Rebels at antifragilerebels.com **Remember to use coupon code NOTSUCK50 for 50% off each month! Learn more on her website at melissakaltmd.com You can also find Dr Melissa at the below sites:

https://www.quora.com/profile/Dr-Melissa-Kalt-MD

https://antifragilenarcissistsurvivorswithdrmelissa.quora.com/

https://medium.com/@MelissaKalt

https://www.facebook.com/melissakaltmd/

https://www.linkedin.com/in/melissa-kalt-md/

https://www.pinterest.com/melissakaltmd/

https://twitter.com/melissakaltmd

https://www.instagram.com/melissakaltmd/

And remember, our private FB community is here to support you. Please join!

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You can do this, friends. It won't be easy, but we'll help you through it.

You've got this. And we've got you.

Mentioned in this episode:

Smarter Way to Sell Your Jewelry

After my divorce was finalized, I sold my old engagement ring to a jeweler — and honestly, I was stunned by how little I got for it compared to what it originally cost. If I could do it all over again — which is kind of the theme of this podcast — I would have sold it through Worthy. Worthy is a modern, smarter way to sell your jewelry online. Their process is incredibly easy: they cover shipping and insurance, professionally clean and photograph your jewelry, and have it graded by experts to help maximize its value. What makes Worthy different is that they create a competitive auction environment where buyers bid against each other for your piece — meaning they are motivated to help you get the highest price possible. It’s completely risk-free and honestly something I wish I had known about sooner. Get started today by heading to worthy.com/divorcepod and lock in an extra $100 when your jewelry sells for more than $1,500.

For many people getting divorced, it's inevitable that you're going to be stuck for a certain period of time, living with your ex. And yes, that's going to suck.

Luckily, we have some insight on the situation that we want to share with you. This episode is a re air from a few seasons ago. We are coming to you with a FRESH, BRAND NEW episode next week!

So take a listen to "When You're Stuck Living with Your Ex" to get your questions answered.

Questions like:

Can I date other people before I get divorced?

Can I spend money on myself and going out if I'm still living with my ex?

How will my ex and I figure out kid time?

How do I make sure my ex and I are splitting household chores evenly?

And friends, we know that divorce is hard. We know it's long and draining. We are here to help guide you, offer you information, entertainment, and empathy and ultimately, help you not SUCK at getting divorced.

Please rate and reivew our show!!

And message us on social, we would love to hear from you!!

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And join our private communities!

https://www.patreon.com/NotQuiteReadyForDivorce - for those needing to listen to our private library

http://www.facebook.com/thehownottosuckatdivorcecommunity - for those looking for community and a place to ask quesitons!

Mentioned in this episode:

Smarter Way to Sell Your Jewelry

After my divorce was finalized, I sold my old engagement ring to a jeweler — and honestly, I was stunned by how little I got for it compared to what it originally cost. If I could do it all over again — which is kind of the theme of this podcast — I would have sold it through Worthy. Worthy is a modern, smarter way to sell your jewelry online. Their process is incredibly easy: they cover shipping and insurance, professionally clean and photograph your jewelry, and have it graded by experts to help maximize its value. What makes Worthy different is that they create a competitive auction environment where buyers bid against each other for your piece — meaning they are motivated to help you get the highest price possible. It’s completely risk-free and honestly something I wish I had known about sooner. Get started today by heading to worthy.com/divorcepod and lock in an extra $100 when your jewelry sells for more than $1,500.

Oh friends, you won't want to miss this episode. Morgan and Andrea are back this week (with an amazing re-air) with top Dallas family law attorney, Rebecca Armstong, find her here! talking about the things you SHOULD and SHOULDN'T do after you file for divorce.

First off, do you have the DCC???

If not, you 100% need this tool so you don't totally screw up in your divorce process. It will save you THOUSANDS of dollars!!

GET IT HERE!

Rebecca, Morgan and Andrea answer:

-What 3 things should you do after you file for divorce?

-What 3 things should you absolutely NOT do after you file for divorce?

-Do I need a therapist if I'm going through a divorce?

-Can being in therapy be used against me if I'm going through a divorce?

-Why should I go to an annual checkup at the doctor during a divorce?

-Can I record my spouse during an argument and use it during divorce proceedings?

-Will my spending habits be scrutinized during a divorce?

-What advice did Oprah give Andrea about her own divorce?

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Let's talk about co parenting, shall we??

Our Family Wizard is here to help you with your co parenting journey and we are HUGE fans of what they do.

http://www.ourfamilywizard.com/notsuck

Mentioned in this episode:

Smarter Way to Sell Your Jewelry

After my divorce was finalized, I sold my old engagement ring to a jeweler — and honestly, I was stunned by how little I got for it compared to what it originally cost. If I could do it all over again — which is kind of the theme of this podcast — I would have sold it through Worthy. Worthy is a modern, smarter way to sell your jewelry online. Their process is incredibly easy: they cover shipping and insurance, professionally clean and photograph your jewelry, and have it graded by experts to help maximize its value. What makes Worthy different is that they create a competitive auction environment where buyers bid against each other for your piece — meaning they are motivated to help you get the highest price possible. It’s completely risk-free and honestly something I wish I had known about sooner. Get started today by heading to worthy.com/divorcepod and lock in an extra $100 when your jewelry sells for more than $1,500.

This episode of How Not to Suck at Divorce is sponspored by Better Help. Give online therapy a try at http://www.betterhelp.com/notsuck and get on your way to being your best self.

We want to help you survive the next few weeks. The holiday season is a stressful time, in the BEST of situations. But if you're also navigating a divorce or considering divorce, then you're managing and extra set of stress and unhappiness that's likely making the next few weeks a really tough time.

Here's how we can help. Here are 6 pro tips from Morgan and Andrea. You ready for them? Let's go!

1. Set some realistic expectations. Surprises make for more unhappiness.
2. Keep busy.
3. Prep your family on how to handle themselves around you (tell Aunt Beatrice to not ask you questions) and possibly your ex.
4. Watch the cheesy holiday movies, we're talking the REALLY cheesy ones, Hallmark channel style. Nothing bad happens in these movies and it makes for great background noise
5. Just say no to parties you don't want to attend. Nobody really cares.
6. Move your body. It's so damn important. If it's really cold where you live, walk around the mall, or even around a Target.

And please, join our private communites for extra support!

Here are the links:

http://www.facebook.com/thehownottosuckatdivorcecommunity

And if you need to listen to our episodes discreetly (for those of you who aren't ready to file for divorce and don't want this show popping up on your subscription list)

https://www.patreon.com/NotQuiteReadyForDivorce

FYI: it’s a private community that does have a small fee. $4.99 a month to get all of the episodes discreetly. Ideal for if you don’t want your spouse seeing that you’re listening to the show.

We’re adding to this channel everyday- so soon there will videos there too.

The charge shows up as “Patreon” which is just a platform for additional podcasts.

Also! Our Family Wizard is here to make coparenting EASIER. AND, you can get free information on coparenting and handling sticky situations!

Head here: http://www.ourfamilywizard.com/notsuck

Mentioned in this episode:

Smarter Way to Sell Your Jewelry

After my divorce was finalized, I sold my old engagement ring to a jeweler — and honestly, I was stunned by how little I got for it compared to what it originally cost. If I could do it all over again — which is kind of the theme of this podcast — I would have sold it through Worthy. Worthy is a modern, smarter way to sell your jewelry online. Their process is incredibly easy: they cover shipping and insurance, professionally clean and photograph your jewelry, and have it graded by experts to help maximize its value. What makes Worthy different is that they create a competitive auction environment where buyers bid against each other for your piece — meaning they are motivated to help you get the highest price possible. It’s completely risk-free and honestly something I wish I had known about sooner. Get started today by heading to worthy.com/divorcepod and lock in an extra $100 when your jewelry sells for more than $1,500.

Kate Anthony, host of The Divorce Survivial Guide, is chatting with us tonight to offer another tool to help you at the beginning of your divorce process.

The "D" Word, a new book out by Kate, will offer you a lot of insight and guidance as you decide, "should I stay or should I go?"

Should I stay married for my kids? Does this count as abuse? Why am I so unhappy? What does a healthy relationship even look like?

If the above quesitons sound familar to you...go grab a copy of Kate's book. 

https://www.amazon.com/Word-Making-Ultimate-Decision-Marriage/dp/0806542357

Our hope is that this conversation helps you feel like someone gets what you're going through. We know that the decision to divorce is not easy. We know that there there are a multitude of emotions that fly through your head and heart and that you likely feel an incredible amount of weight on your shoulders. 

Our advice? Talk about these thoughts and feelings. Get your butt in therapy. Start getting honest with yourself about what you want for your life and for your kids' lives. Take responsibility in the role that you play in not only your marraige but also in your life in general. 

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"I'm just going to make it through the holidays"

"I think I can hang on a little bit longer"

"It's just not the right time."

There's no good time to get divorced. But there's (of course) a TON of reasons that come into consideration when someone decides when to file.

So what should you do when you know you want to leave, but you're not quite ready for divorce??

1- EDUCATE YOURSELF. This is your time to gather as much information as possible. Listen to this show, ask questions..join our private communites.

2- TALK TO AN ATTORNEY. In most cases, you don't need to hire someone until you're ready to file, but you should certainly start the interview process. Remember, we suggest you interview 3 attorneys before hiring someone.

3-START PAYING MORE ATTENTION TO MONEY. We're talking about money coming in and money going out. (see our previous episodes about $$ to get more guidance here)

4-THERAPY. Get your butt in therapy. Now. In fact, stop this podcast and go. You deserve support and BTW, so do your kids. In fact, the waitlsits right now for childrens' therapists are INSANE so start doing research now and get on those lists for therapists that would right to help your family. Being proactive vs reactive is ALWAYS the better choice.

What should you NOT do??

1- Take to social media. Don't change profile pictures or start bringing attention to yourself until you know exactly what you're doing and prepared to answer questions

2- Go spending a ton a money.

3-If you're already in another relationship- DON'T make extravegant purchases or travel plans. Especially depending on the state you live in. And if you are in another relationship, don't conceal this fact from your attorney. You need to have an open and honest relationship with your divorce attorney and they cannot fully support and advise you if they don't know all of the facts.

And if you need more insight and want the most discreet way to listen to this show, join our community on Patreon. This community offers you our entire library of episodes that you can access without needing to suscribe to our show. This channel will also hold bonus interviews and conversations that will help you as you make your decision and support you along the way. http://www.patreon.com/notquitereadyfordivorce

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Our Family Wizard is here to make coparenting easier. Make sure you sign up for their free newsletter at http://www.ourfamilywizard.com/notsuck

Mentioned in this episode:

Smarter Way to Sell Your Jewelry

After my divorce was finalized, I sold my old engagement ring to a jeweler — and honestly, I was stunned by how little I got for it compared to what it originally cost. If I could do it all over again — which is kind of the theme of this podcast — I would have sold it through Worthy. Worthy is a modern, smarter way to sell your jewelry online. Their process is incredibly easy: they cover shipping and insurance, professionally clean and photograph your jewelry, and have it graded by experts to help maximize its value. What makes Worthy different is that they create a competitive auction environment where buyers bid against each other for your piece — meaning they are motivated to help you get the highest price possible. It’s completely risk-free and honestly something I wish I had known about sooner. Get started today by heading to worthy.com/divorcepod and lock in an extra $100 when your jewelry sells for more than $1,500.

For those of you who are facing the holidays WITHOUT your kids, let us reassure that your feelings dread and sorrow are completely normal. Even if you're feeling mixed emotions, THAT'S completely normal.

It's a dramatic change from how things used to be. It can feel strange...empty...and just plain wrong.

We can promise you this: you WILL get through these holidays...even though they might be challenging.

Listen to this special re- air episode with our friend, Lisa McGregor, to hear her take on what she did to help herself get through those first few years...you hear Andrea weigh in as well- her take is a little different.

And here are some updated action steps from Andrea:

1. Let yourself feel sad. Pretending you're okay when you're not does you no favors.
2. Move your body. We're not asking you to run a mile, but we are asking you to go for a walk.
3. Do something, anything. You don't need to go our and party all night, but grabbing a fresh Starbucks at least gets you out of the house.

And now, a word from our sponsors:

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Mentioned in this episode:

Smarter Way to Sell Your Jewelry

After my divorce was finalized, I sold my old engagement ring to a jeweler — and honestly, I was stunned by how little I got for it compared to what it originally cost. If I could do it all over again — which is kind of the theme of this podcast — I would have sold it through Worthy. Worthy is a modern, smarter way to sell your jewelry online. Their process is incredibly easy: they cover shipping and insurance, professionally clean and photograph your jewelry, and have it graded by experts to help maximize its value. What makes Worthy different is that they create a competitive auction environment where buyers bid against each other for your piece — meaning they are motivated to help you get the highest price possible. It’s completely risk-free and honestly something I wish I had known about sooner. Get started today by heading to worthy.com/divorcepod and lock in an extra $100 when your jewelry sells for more than $1,500.