其实已经计划了好久要录这一期节目，这次终于得以实现！

Levi是我上一家公司的前同事。在德国待了12年之后，她在2023年底只身一人去了加拿大魁北克，在当地体验了一年左右的不同人生和经历。今天这一集，晶姐，Levi还有我三个人一起来听她的经历，所感和所想。

大家聊的真的很开心，而且东北同胞真的是太能聊了，气氛贼棒！

Music source: https://pixabay.com/

• Soft Jazz Piano Music - Clavier-Music
• Who Are You - MondayHopes
• Short ukulele jingle - cheerful, happy and bright - ShidenBeatsMusic
• Are You Sleeping Jazz B - Music_For_Videos
• Paris Montmartre - Jean-Paul-V
• French Accordion Acoustic Guitar Paris Waltz - Denis-Pavlov-Music

在这一集里，晶姐和我共同回顾并分享了我们这些年各自在德国职场上所经历的得与失，以及我们各自学习到的教训和个人收获。

希望我们的分享能够帮助到曾经或者现在正在经历低谷的朋友们。

赠人玫瑰，手留余香。

祝我们大家都有美好的未来！

Music source: https://pixabay.com/

• Podcast Jazz Waltz Cozy Relaxing Vibes - Denis-Pavlov-Music
• Short Acoustic Guitar Prelude - Intro - Ending for Film and Video - JuliusH
• Short Warm Piano Prelude - Intro - Ending for Film and Video - JuliusH
• Soulful Modern Jazz - Sunsides
• fat chillin - LazyChillZone

Anyone who has watched "Mean Girls" must have recognized the line in the title of this episode. :D

Yes, I'm late to the "big party" after 3 years: COVID has finally caught me. Unfortunately, we both are not one of those who don't show any symptoms. Instead, we've suffered from pretty severe chest pain, coughing, headache, and fever (only me).

Obviously, I'm not fit to work at the moment, and I had to take sick leave. All of a sudden, it occurred to me that after having worked for over 6 years in Germany, this is my very first time of taking sick leave. Why is that?

Then I got triggered to have a discussion with Nelli on the differences of "sick leave culture" between Germany and China, hence this episode.

My head still hurts. Get well soon.

Music source: https://pixabay.com/

• Little Break / LoFi Beat - SoulProdMusic
• I am sad and melancholic (IG version Loop 02) - Lesfm
• Who are you - MondayHopes
• Where the light is - lemonmusicstudio

Currently, the weather in Germany has been a bit of everything: sunny, rainy, snowy (?!) and of course for the most part, cloudy.

Vivienne joined me in today's episode. Just like the weather, we shifted from one topic to another, covering my most recent trip to Liechtenstein, to her upcoming trip to the Netherlands, and then to anxiety, etc.

Do we have to have a fixed topic for each episode? No, we don't. :)

The first quarter of 2023 is almost over! Hope you guys have made it worth your while so far. Take care!

Cheers.

Music source: https://pixabay.com/

• Little Break / LoFi Beat - SoulProdMusic
• Be Free - Vladislav Kurnikov

Time always seems to go by faster than you might think.

In a blink of an eye, I've been in Germany for 10 full years already.... What a ride it has been! Damn, 10 years? And just like that? Sometimes, it does feel like as if I had been here for my whole life, but when you look back, it's been "only" a decade. Not sure how exactly I should feel...?

10 years are enough to shape someone into a new person, yet something also has never changed. Looking back, I absolutely had no idea how my life would turn out, where I'd be, what I'd be doing, and what kind of life I'd be living. Sometimes I think, maybe it's easier to move forward when one doesn't set a specific goal and just go wherever life might take you. Nahhh, that's probably something one only dares to do when they're still young.

10 years are a short period of time when compared to one's whole life. I'm only glad and grateful for the old me in 2013 for having made the boldest decision to come to Germany, paving the way for many decades to come. These past 10 years have witnessed the entire process of me growing, maturing and also countless struggles. During these 10 years, I went from a more or less lost undergraduate to a Master graduate in Germany, and then to an employee here, and then went on to become a husband of a not perfect but great man, building own own family with 2 cats and a dog (as of today). Would I be living the same life, if I did stay in China instead of going abroad? Unfortunately, there's no way to find out, and there's no "if". What I do know is, I've earned what I have today, and I cherish that.

I've done pretty well during this first 10 years! And I know it's a cliché to say I can't wait to see what the next 10 years have in store for me, but I am indeed looking forward to that! :D
Here's to the 10th year anniversary in Germany to myself and also to those who have loved and supported me all this way with their faith in me. Cheers!

With love.

Happy Chinese New Year 2023 everyone! :) New year and new style of this podcast! Some of you might have noticed that there's now even a new intro in the beginning. I recorded 13 different versions and finally decided on this one. I think it sounds kinda cool. :D

It's crazy how fast time always goes by. Due to the pandemic and everything else going on in the world, I haven't been able to celebrate the CNY with my parents and the rest of the family for over 3 years. This year, though I'm still not physically yet, my spirits are with them. Hence this episode together with Vivienne and Paul, celebrating this biggest tradition for all Chinese in our own way.

Vivienne went to Portugal with her boyfriend to brace the advent of 2023 not long ago, during which they had a serious car accident. Fortunately, they both were safe and sound and returned to Germany without a glitch. This experience of hers basically kicked off our episode today, and then it also "resonated" with me and I shared an incident I had when I was much younger. It's so sad but at the same time also funny, because we're talking about such horrible experiences on such a festive day. But why not? Who said one cannot talk about unfortunate encounters on a festive day? :D

Quoting Vivienne, "It doesn't matter whether your memories of the past are good or bad, you're now writing your new memories for tomorrow."

Wishing you all a happy, prosperous and healthy year in the year of the rabbit! Cheers!

Music source: https://pixabay.com/

• At the side of an RPG village - Katzen Tupas
• LoFi Acoustic Guitar with HipHop Beat 0133 - TuesdayNight
• Little Break / LoFi Beat - SoulProdMusic
• Chinese Music - Traditional, New Year Celebration - SoundGalleryByDmitryTaras

Today is December 31st, 2022. It's the last day of the year.

I always believe that, to be able to brace the future, one has to bid farewell properly to the past first. It also applies to the soon-to-end 2022 and the upcoming 2023. Hence this episode to wrap up 2022 just for the sake of having to wrap it up. :)

This past year, the launch of this podcast brought me a great deal of joy and satisfaction, even though there is just a very small audience. Monetizing this channel was never my intention anyway.

Lots of crazy things have happened in the past 3 years. Physically, we've never been so far away from each other. However, we've also never been so close to each other at heart.

Right now, wherever you might be, whatever you might be doing, or however your 2022 might have been, I'd like to wish you a happy new year 2023.

Surprise surprise! This weekend is a double-episode feast, simply because we want to spoil our amazing audience! (What audience...? :D)

My podcast-launch guest Nelli and I are trying something new with this episode by recording today's session remotely, because it is just not always practical for my friends to come over to my place to do the recording face-to-face. Not to mention that even when we record on site, still, the audio quality can be very poor, see the S01E06 with Fei, though we enjoyed the content greatly. And to our surprise, the audio from this remote recording is incredibly good! That means in the future, I can do remote sessions with my guests more often regardless of the physical distance.

In terms of the content for this episode, Nelli goes down a "dark" path (that's what she called it) to share her personal experience of being a German but at the same time not feeling like a German at all. She says she needs to get it off her chest. So, if a German finds it already difficult when it comes to self-identity and integration in Germany, what are we complete foreigners supposed to do? I assume everyone might have their own answers to this question.

In any case, this remote recording experiment has opened new doors for my podcast, where I am more than happy to provide a platform for my guests and friends to express themselves and share our memories, personal stories as well as their ups and downs in Germany. With that being said, that's what makes this podcast meaningful, extremely so.

Fei was probably the first person I had discussed the idea of launching my podcast with earlier this year. I believe I sent her a voice message about this, but she never responded to that one...awkward...

We started our friendship as classmates in our master program back in 2013, and my first impression of her was horrible. However, over the past years, our friendship evolved to what it is today, somehow. She has been one of those who have witnessed my ups and downs as well as my growth along the entire journey in Germany since the very beginning. It was great to travel back to the past with her in this episode, while she came with her husband to visit us (and eat with us).

Last but not least, I am, again, disappointed in the audio quality of this episode. Having two mics is not working so well as expected. The voice is not clear at all compared to the past episodes where I only used one mic and recorded directly on my phone. In addition to that, there's a whole lot more echo. Maybe from the next episode on, I will simply go back to the way I started for a better audio experience. In any case, I wouldn't want to toss this 2-hour episode away, because we really enjoyed the content.

In the end, I don't want to jinx it, but I do want to say that December 2022 in Germany does not seem as difficult for me as it was in the past. I hope this positivity will stick around as long as it can. Peace.

By popular demand, my friend Vivienne came back to join me in this episode (she was eager to anyway lol). She has been in Germany for almost 20 years, and in my case, soon it will be 10 years. Therefore, we figured it would be a good cause for us to both take a look back at how and why we came to Germany. If only we could tell time to go slower.

This episode is in Chinese, in case you didn't notice ;)

We enjoyed the process of revisiting our journey to Germany in this episode, and there's simply so much to talk about that we cannot go through everything in a couple of hours, hence we covered as much as we could today. After all, it's an episode for ourselves, and we hope it could resonate with some of you in the audience.

This episode is together with my life partner Paul. As always, we just took it as we went, with no preparation in advance. The title of this episode was inspired by our walk-in closet at home, which was kinda funny, because there is no way we will ever go back into the figurative closet. ;)

This episode is in Chinese, and I have my close friend Vivienne to join me :) We talked about random topics without any planning in advance and wanted to see how it would go. In the end, it was kind of weird to hear ourselves speaking Chinese in the playback, but it was a great experience with my friend. Enjoyed it.

We travelled to the north of Germany this past weekend to visit Nelli, during which we spontaneously talked about our personal experiences of integration in Germany as individuals.

And we also spontaneously decided to watch the new movie "Inside Out 2", which resonated with us and unexpectedly brought us to tears, especially considering Paul and I didn't even watch the first one.

In the end, we concluded that it's crucial to stay true to yourself and also allow yourself to feel all your emotions. In the end, you're each one of your emotions, and you're all of your emotions.

Music source: https://pixabay.com/

• Afro Blue Five 004 - Pixabay
• Happy Tune - Pixabay
• SMOOTH VIBE MUSIC LOOP ALTERNATE - Pixabay
• Walk Down Sesame Street Acoustic Gtr Loop 91bpm - kamhunt
• 90's R&B Guitar Loop - kamhunt
• alalaika-esque - Pixabay

The launch of my podcast was a result of mixed reasons. In this episode, I try to elaborate on some of the most important ones. I even purchased a professional microphone for my podcast today!

Just a pilot

In this episode, Fei joined me to share our experiences of working in Germany.

As usual, we had no script, and it was surprising to see that we both reached the same conclusion: these days, except for a few highly specialized roles, it's increasingly important not only to be a good technical or professional fit but also to be a great cultural fit. Sometimes, the latter even outweighs the former.

We have a saying in Chinese, "要学会做事，但是更要学会做人", which translates to, "It's important to learn how to perform your tasks, but it's even more important to learn how to be a person." Navigating society is complex, and being a person can be multi-faceted, especially today.

Do you agree with our views? If you're working in Germany or any other country, what's your take on this?

Music source: https://pixabay.com/

• Sparks in Hand - moodmode
• Rumba - Lesfm
• Orange Juice on the Table - MondayHopes

In today's episode, we explore the intricate dynamics of friendship and the often overlooked relationship we have with ourselves. Joined by Mei and Jing (Vivienne), we navigate the complexities of friendship through different stages of our lives, particularly as Chinese living in Germany.

We've all had our own fair share of moments of solitude, where we've had to learn to spend time with ourselves, be our own friends, and deal with our own emotions, because friends keep coming into and leaving our lives. Sad but true, and it's not easy to tell them goodbye.

Ultimately, this episode serves as a gentle reminder to cherish the connections we have, while also recognizing the enduring friendship we cultivate with ourselves.

"Why are the protagonists in all of your films alone in the end?" - "You think you won't be alone in the end?"

Music source: https://pixabay.com/

• Latin Summer - William_King
• Feel Bossa Nova - William_King
• I am sad and melancholic (IG version Loop 02) - Lesfm
• Start slowly - Darockart

We've been binge-watching the Apple TV show Slow Horses lately, and before we realize it, we've been imitating to speak with a "British accent" with each other at home. And that's the trigger of this episode.

On social media, I've noticed some trolls and comments bashing other people for not speaking a foreign language "like a native speaker", "native speakers will never use terms like this", etc., as if they could appear more superior than others, even though they themselves don't even speak that foreign language. Well, I guess making oneself feel good about themselves by laughing at others doesn't cost anything.

This idea hit me when I was driving back home from work. As far as I could recall, in my generation, we were always taught that we should sound like an American or Brit when speaking English, because that would be the only standard of evaluating whether your English was good enough, or not. People speaking English with a thick "Chinese accent" would always be ridiculed. That was the case back then, and nowadays, it's still not going away.

However, time has changed, and people have changed as well. Speaking English with a non-American or non-British accent is not anything to be ashamed of, why should it be a shame to begin with anyway? I somehow have the impression that many people then to draw an equal sign between language and communication. Yes, language is an essential part of communication, but there's way more to communication than just the language and the accent. I've met and worked with native speakers of certain languages whose language skills are on the native speaker level, yeah no doubt, but some of them are also horrible communicators. A good command of a foreign language is equal to being good at communication? Well maybe, but not always.

Therefore, Nelli, Paul and myself decided to record this episode to have this discussion.

And since we all watched the box office blockbuster "Barbie", we found a link between this movie and the theme of our episode today: don't let anyone put you in a box, or in any box! Because you're great, and don't make it easy for them.

Have faith in yourself, and have no fear.

Music source: https://pixabay.com/

• whooo - Pixabay
• Once In Paris - Pumpupthemind
• Oh, No! - SergeQuadrado
• COTTAGECORE - Pixabay
• Call To Attention - UNIVERSFIELD
• Pleased Crowd.flac - Pixabay
• Best Time - FASSounds
• Lights , Camera, Action.WAV - Pixabay

So, following the previous trip in September, I had the chance to fly back to my hometown in China again at the end of November. Well, this time, it was a very smooth ride, because I was able to pick up where things left off! That literally set everybody in the best mood possible.

I took my mom to Shanghai as well. It was her first time there, and I'm really glad that she had a blast. <3 Things got funny as I took mom and my college friend to do a professional photo shoot, where I was basically "insulted" by the photographer from the beginning to the very end. Pretty much everything about me was wrong, or, not right, according to his aesthetic standard, except my skin tone was "still ok". This is a very specific experience providing an interesting perspective, through which one can clearly tell there's a huge difference in how the east and the west define "good-looking" respectively, especially in the photo studios. As for the photo shooting process itself, it was loads of fun, and we really enjoyed the spontaneity. Still, over the years, I've experienced things myself and come to realize, at least for myself, the confidence from within is the best accessory/make-up, and that's just something one can't fake (for long).

CoCo Lee, one of the best singers and performers of my generation, left us back in summer, and her passing impacted more people than one can imagine, just like the positive influence she had on all of us when she was alive. I took the opportunity this time to visit her tomb and pay my respect in person. May CoCo rest in peace! You were loved by the many, you're missed by the many, and you'll never be forgotten. You were one of a kind.


Music source: https://pixabay.com/

• Sunshine - lemonmusicstudio
• Aesthetic Boomopera - Podcast LoFi Lounge intro Music (15s) Seconds - Lidérc
• Shouldn't be sentimental - guitar - musix_relac

Another episode in one week! :D

Today, this episode was recorded remotely with Nelli who just got married and started with her new job. Congratulations Nelli! We're so happy for you! <3

The title of this episode stemmed from a quote Nelli shared with me during the conversation: "At work, everybody's darling is everybody's a**hole", with which, we entered a talk about our jobs.

I landed a new job starting from 2024, and with extreme reluctance, I resigned from my current job. And I ugly cried on camera, while telling my boss about this. This has been 2 years where I found myself, recognized myself, and loved myself as a human being. I truly felt seen. Yet, all good things come to an end.

No specific topics were chosen for this episode, but we have a great talk, spontaneously.

Get well soon with the finger, Nelli! Keep up the good work!


Music source: https://pixabay.com/

• Little Break / LoFi Beat - SoulProdMusic
• Celtic Folk Song - Caffeine_Creek_Band
• Hopeful Piano 2 - Music_For_Videos
• French Jazz Music - William_King
• Romance - Music_For_Videos
• Storytelling - Music_For_Videos

So yeah, after 3.5 years, I was finally able to go back to China at the end of August 2023.

Before I got on the plane, I had pictured this trip in my head thousands of times: how I'd react when I'd get to see my mom again, my cousins, and my friends. I was feeling excited, anxious, nervous, and even a bit scared all at the same time.

Well, there were indeed moments which I enjoyed a lot while being back in my hometown again after such a long time. However, after all, the entire stay was not as good as I had expected. There were multiple reasons, and one of them hit me hard, feeling that that placed I once called home for over 20 years is no longer "my home", but rather "my parents' place". It feels really subtle but somehow also weird in my head.

Vivienne joined me in this latest episode to hear my thoughts and reflections regarding this long overdue trip. And she stayed for dinner of course, which was also why she came here in the first place XD

Music source: https://pixabay.com/

• Little Break / LoFi Beat - SoulProdMusic
• Rumba - Lesfm
• Orange Juice on the Table - MondayHopes
• Home Logo - MondayHopes
• Start slowly - Darockart
• City Traffic (Outdoor) - Pixabay

Today, I had the pleasure of having a new guest, Mei, join me in this episode, sharing her own first-hand experience of being a mother.

And what a coincidence! It's mother's day today! Perfect timing for a perfect topic!

Along with her husband, Mei was introduced to us back in early 2017 by Nelli. Over the years, we somehow managed to stay in touch and maintain a "visit frequency" of at least once a year. Each time we met, we seemed to have something new to share with each other, witnessing the process of growing up on both sides. And this time, Mei brought her story of spending 4 months with her baby back in China, while the quarantine policy there was still not lifted in December 2022.

When I was younger, I always thought I'd also have to have children, because that's the idea and the "plan" we were raised with. However, over the years, I learned the fact that one could actually choose, whether they want to have children, or not. After all, it's no longer a path that everyone has to go down.

However, we're happy for Mei and her husband for becoming parents. because that's what they both want, and we're firmly convinced that they'll do a great job at it! <3

Happy mother's day, Mei! And happy mother's day to all the mothers, including my own!

It's mother's day today, and it's mother's day every day!

Music source: https://pixabay.com/

• Little Break / LoFi Beat - SoulProdMusic
• Mother - Music_For_Videos
• Cartoon Intro - Muzaproduction

有将近半年没有更新了，这期间发生了很多事，尤其是工作上的事。

没想到我们2024年9月的第21集居然可以出续集！真可谓是人外有人，坑外有坑，一坑还比一坑深。

晶姐遭遇了裁员潮，而我本人也第一次经历了德国的Aufhebungsvertrag(解约协议)，其实就是公司在没有办法走正常程序辞退我的情况下变相要我走人。在这一集里，我们各自回顾了过去这半年各自的经历，以及和公司还有上司的各种斗智斗勇，到现在各自顺利跳槽的种种细节。无论如何，到最后, Ende gut, alles gut! 只要结果是好的就行。

我们都为自己的成长感到惊喜，开心以及十分的欣慰。

人在江湖，身不由己。且行且珍惜。

Music source: https://pixabay.com/

• Let's Groove (Funk Soul Upbeat Intro) - Villatic_Music

• Alarm - 8footdino_on_scratch

• Bluesy Hip Hop Loop - SergeQuadrado

• Latin Tropical Loop - SergeQuadrado

• Spring Easter Day Music - andriig

• Spring Vlog - prettyjohn1

前两个月在工作上和生活中经历了不同程度的不愉快瞬间，导致触发了我脑子里对于我是否正在经历一场“人际关系”的危机？

还好，最近通过真诚和平等的对话，让我逐渐打开心结，也让我意识到，以事物和人的本身的面貌去接受他们，并且对之产生相对应的期待值，或许对我本身来说是一件更容易，让自己压力更小，也相对更轻松的事。

由此，晶姐和我进行了一场深度的和彼此的对话，让我俩都受益匪浅。

既然“所有问题都涉及人际关系“（Alfred Adler - “Alle meine Gedanken und Sorgen sind die Gedanken und Sorgen von Beziehungen”），那么，愿我们最终都拥有被讨厌的勇气。共勉。

Music source: https://pixabay.com/

• Wistful Beginnings - AudioBay_BGM
• Latin Jazz - Brazilian Background - ENDING - zec53
• In Jazz Short - moodmode
• Blooming Harmony (15s) - Universifield
• Autumn Acoustic Guitar Music - HitsLab

时光飞逝，岁月如梭。

三年前的今天，我由于感到某种existential crisis而觉得整个人非常空虚无助，然后我在没有任何规划的情况下开始了这档播客。三年之后，这档播客虽然是佛系更新，但是仍然在继续存在着，不得不说这也是一种坚持。

这次请来了播客创建的元老嘉宾Nelli一起来回顾这三年的过往，以及我俩过去两三年的经历和感受。我们两个都是纯纯的文科生，但是现在都在IT行业工作，不得不说真的是很奇妙的经历。

Music source: https://pixabay.com/

• Midnight Thoughts (Lo-fi Hip Hop)_30sec - Grand_Project
• Chill Cat (Relaxing LoFi Hip Hop) - 15 Seconds Edit - Musinova
• Short ukulele jingle - cheerful, happy and bright - ShidenBeatsMusic
• Jazzy Memories (Cool 90s Chill Hip Hop) - 30 Seconds Edit - Musinova
• Call Me Bossa 30 Seconds - ominique_GARNIER

我们在这一集中一起来聊了一些我们各自那些尴尬的瞬间，然后我们意外地发现，我们对于“尴尬”的理解都不甚相同，之后由此更是引发了一轮深奥的讨论。

非常欢乐的一集，谢谢大家的分享！

Music source: https://pixabay.com/

• LoFi Acoustic Guitar with HipHop Beat 0133 - TuesdayNight
• Lofi girl - lofi hiphop beats - lofidreams99
• SMOOTH VIBE MUSIC LOOP ALTERNATE - saintsamael (Freesound)
• A few moments later - sofiamorgado1 (Freesound)
• Happy Jazz with Friends - Novifi
• Crow - CrimeInc (Freesound)
• IHAVENOIDEA - StudioOneBeatMakers (Freesound)

Video featured in this episode:

• How to Pronounce Versace? (CORRECTLY) Italian Pronunciation (Gianni & Donatella) - https://youtu.be/s_KlEYWkWnw?feature=shared

By the time I've finished editing and publishing this episode, Carolyn has been on her 4-month world cruise trip for almost 3 months already.

She was my English teacher in an after-school program for half a year, when I was in high school back in the day.

Almost 2 decades have passed, and I'm still amazed by the fact that we're still in touch and have met multiple times in both China and Germany (hope we get to meet in Australia soon in the near future!)

I thought I had known a lot, or at least enough, about her, until she proved me wrong this time. I discovered so many things I didn't know about her!

She's a world traveler, she's a truck driver, and she is my friends. <3

Music source: https://pixabay.com/

• Afro Blue Five 003 - freesound_community
• SAMPLE | guitar intro jazz melody | Dmin 140bpm - attic13
• GENTLE OCEAN WAVES #3 - MIGHTUSER
• Bleep Censorship Sound (WAV) - freesound_community
• Short ukulele jingle - cheerful, happy and bright - ShidenBeatsMusic
• Aesthetic Boomopera - Podcast LoFi Lounge intro Music (15s) Seconds - Lidérc
• Relaxed Meditative Acoustic Solo Guitar - 15 Seconds Edit - Musinova
• Sneaky Feet - geoffharvey

We've known Christian and Mei for quite a few years so far, and in summer 2024, they finally had their wedding in China after a few postponements.

This is our first episode in German, and Christian shares with us his experience of being a foreigner in China, why he decided to learn Chinese and go to China among all choices available in the first place, and what he thinks of some stereotypes about China, Chinese people, and Chinese food in general.

Music source: https://pixabay.com/

• Breaking News Intro - Humanoide_Media
• Lofi Guitar JAZZ - u_n7v1z5vo08
• Easygoing (15sec) - Loksii
• Podcast Intro Logo - lsMusic