165   If you are tired, as so many women–and especially highly sensitive women—are these days, then it IS affecting your relationship – for the worse.

When we are tired, depleted, or burnt out, we HSPs tend to feel especially burdened, irritable and even resentful.

And unfortunately it is just so easy to get tired, depleted or burnt out in our modern lives with all the societal and real-life pressures. And you likely feel you have to just keep go-go-going. Especially if you are a mom or have a full time job (or both!).

If any of this is rigging a bell, please listen to this episode. Because you deserve to feel good in your life and relationship!

And I want to give you deep permission to rest. Listen in to hear why, how, and what that looks like. And take up my loving little challenge for you this week.

You’ll be on track to lose the exhaustion, the irritability, and even the sense of ongoing burden and resentment, and start replacing it all with a sense of nourishment and vitality. This is essential listening for all highly sensitive people.

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164  All marriages have ups and downs. It's in large part how you handle the downs that determines the overall quality of your relationship, and whether it grows more deeply loving and stays that way, or it disintegrates.

In this episode I candidly share how I recently applied my own coaching teachings to my own marriage during one of those harder times (when I was feeling like my husband wasn't supporting or caring for me well), and how I coached myself into feeling not just supported again, but even cherished.

As vulnerable as this is to share with you, I really wanted you to be able to see that even people with skills like mine go through harder times, and that instead of that being something to weaken your marriage, it is an opportunity for more growth, both personal and as a couple–WHEN you apply the coaching (and self coaching) I teach you and my clients.

You’ll not only hear the exact process I went through, but also how I dealt with resistance to doing my end of the work, how I took ownership over the hard emotions I was feeling, and how I shed the anger and hurt and began to feel loved and supported again–in just 10 or 15 minutes of my time! – so you can learn from me and even use this same process yourself.

I truly want you to be able to know just how to move out of those inevitable harder times in your marriage and get back to the love, connection and mutual supportiveness you cherish, so you can feel more fulfilled and secure, and keep evolving in the best ways both personally and as a couple. So listen in!

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155   Sometimes you hear something that changes everything, and puts you in a state of mind that leads to finally being able to bring a big dream to life. This must listen episode may very well be that for you.

Because if you are like most of the women I talk to and work with, you want a new level of intimacy with your spouse: a real partnership that is tender, connected, deeply supportive and nurturing in all realms– intellectually, physically, emotionally, domestically, in terms of each other's dreams and inner life. You want to feel like your significant other is a true team with you in life.

And it's really important that you get this! For you, for our world, even for your partner.

But, this is really a NEW paradigm when it comes to committed relationships and marriage. It's still just emerging.

And, unfortunately, the old and recent paradigms of marriage that still live on in many of us (which I will explain today), are making it harder to bring our partners onboard and make this new, beautiful vision we have of marriage come to life. So we are left frustrated, disappointed, resentful, and questioning if we can have the kind of relationships we really want with our current partner.

It doesn't have to be this way. You CAN (in most cases) open the door for your partner to be that full partner you want, and your marriage to be the NEW supportive and nurturing-in-all-realms marriage we women want. Especially as an HSP.

To do so, it will help you SO MUCH to understand the old school paradigm of marriage, and how it still colors so much in our marriages, and also the recent (or current)  paradigm of marriage–both of which are, though perhaps empowering for one individual in the relationship, very relationally disempowering overall! We dive into this today.

Then you’ll learn about what it takes to leave those old painful paradigms behind, step into relational empowerment (not just individual empowerment), and finally birth the new marriage we want so badly.

This is an essential and healing episode that will soften and sweeten your world with forgiveness and understanding, as well as empower and compel you to relate to your partner in such a way that gets him collaborating to bring this new paradigm of marriage very much alive between you. Listen in.

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070  As a sensitive woman, you likely love feeling connected to your significant other—and want to feel that way more often, yeah?

Trouble is, especially if you are married to a man, he may not be as into connecting in the ways you most love. He’d rather spend less time having deep talks and such, and more time doing other things. Or he outright resists spending time with you in the ways that bring you the emotional closeness you want…

Research shows this is a common difference between males and females.

Luckily, If this is the case in your relationship, you can still experience the connection you want. In this episode we talk about how.

We cover:

• The different ways, in general, males and females naturally connect.
  
  
• the one rule to follow to create satisfying connection for both of you.
  
  
• How to apply it step by step in daily life. 
  
  
• How to apply it when it comes to sex and physical intimacy. 
  
  
• Real life examples from clients and my own marriage that demonstrate how you can use this rule successfully.
  
  
• Why this naturally leads to more connection YOUR way.
  
  
• Stories of clients who use this to experience the emotional closeness they want with their partner.
  
  
• How to handle things when you feel you are the one compromising all the time, and he isn’t meeting you in the middle.
  
  
• Support to help you communicate about it all.
  
  

My clients and I use this “connection hack” to bring the emotional closeness we want with our husbands right into our marriages. Now you can, too! Listen in.

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If you’re considering getting professional support now or in the future for your marriage–or for anything related to your mental emotional well-being and life goals– you will want to understand what kind of support is best for you and your unique situation and goals.

I've seen too many women waste precious time, energy, money – and even lose hope in things changing in their marriages all together, simply because they didn’t understand when to choose a therapist for support, and when to hire a marriage coach…and so they chose the wrong type of professional support. 

Let’s not let that be you! This episode will clear things up for you.

Neither Coaching or Therapy (or Counseling) is better than the other. But both have their place, and each can be amazingly effective at their different goals. 

To maximize their benefit, get the changes you want, and not get discouraged, you need to educate yourself about the difference, and understand what they each work best for.

In this episode, I break that down for you, explain the difference between them, and help you identify what will be best for you, and perhaps your partner, to choose so you can have the best life and marriage possible.

If you’ve been considering working with me, definitely listen in to find out if I’d be the right choice for you in your situation. 

And even if you aren’t planning to find professional help right now, listen in so you can be educated to help point others in the right direction, listen to and follow the free content of right fit professionals for you, and get the best advice for your challenges and goals. 

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068  Want some super actionable–and fun! – ways to bring more connection, trust, cooperation and a sense of synchrony into your relationship? (Of course you do, as a highly sensitive woman who loves feeling connected to the person you love! )Then you’ve got to listen in.

In this episode, we dive into how moving together is a powerful doorway to feeling closer, and how you can incorporate this research-backed understanding into your marriage starting today for a stronger connection for the rest of your lives.

We dive into:

• What I mean by “sharing motions” or “moving together”, and examples to try out
  
  
• A bit of the (fun and even laughter-inducing) science behind how sharing motions leads to sharing positive emotions
  
  
• How my clients and I have harnessed this knowledge to our and our husbands benefit
  
  
• A few of the best ways to communicate with your partner to get him on board to putting this into practice in your lives.
  
  
• And why if your husband isn't into this idea, there is no reason to despair, and still SO much that you can do to make sure a deep loving connection is at the heart of your marriage.
  
  

You’ll come away from this episode with a clear understanding of how you can use this “connection hack” to bring more love and joy into your marriage, and confidence that you can increase the intimacy you want between you and your significant other.

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067  One of the biggest causes of discord, conflict, and the cycle of feeling less and less love and connection in a marriage is caused by what we call Assuming Negative Intent.

If you’ve ever had thoughts like: “My partner doesn’t care about me”, or "He’s just so irresponsible”, or “He doesn't value our marriage”, or “Xyz  [parenting, time together, a nice home] must not be as important to him as it is to me”, etc…

. . .you, too, assume negative intent. It happens for most –if not all– of us (especially as highly sensitive people).

The thing is, it happens automatically below the level of our conscious awareness –until we learn to catch it happening.

If we want a conflict-proof, secure, trust and love filled marriage, we’ve got to learn how to stop this automatic functioning of our brain from taking over, and learn how to assume positive intent. 

I lay out the basics for you here in this episode.

With a little bit of gentle discipline and effort, you can learn to work with your own mind in order to feel so much more at ease, cared for, and loved –and much better about your partner, too!

Dive in to guide your marriage into a realm of more understanding, acceptance, respect, compassion, and love.

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066   This is for you if you feel disconnected, irritated, or resentful towards your partner, or you don’t like who you become sometimes in your communications with him, or you experience a lot more conflict than you’d like –or you just want to create some freshness and more intimacy with your significant other (and inside yourself!)

Our feelings lead to so much of how we interact and are reacted to in our marriages. I think of them as the FUEL in our marriage.

Certain ones naturally lead to great interactions, while other ones tend to lead to interactions that go south.

The best news is that we can generate the ones that serve us in our marriages on purpose. And curiosity is one of the best of them all. 

Curiosity is powerful in so many ways to make our marriage and lives better–especially when it comes to communicating and connecting with your partner.  

It fuels great listening, great self and other-understanding, great problem solving –and makes you way less likely to get reactive, judgmental, or walled off from each other. And it helps us, ultimately, have more intimacy and deep love for the real person our husband is, in all his humanness.

 Listen in to:

• Learn about the magic that curiosity offers you in your marriage  when it comes to  communication and connceting.
  
  
• Hear stories of others powerful use of it, 
  
  
• Be empowered to start tapping into it yourself, 
  
  
• Learn exactly how to begin doing so, and the 3 steps to bring it directly into your marriage
  
  
• And embark on the little challenge I offer you to make it a much more regular part of your life
  
  

 – so your marriage can reap the huge rewards it brings.

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065  Often feel a little (or a lot) irritated, annoyed, disdainful or indignant, frustrated, exasperated, resentful or disappointed with your partner?  Or just generally hardened against this person you ultimately really want to feel soft and open to?

This is likely what I call “Should Pain.” 

Although very normal to the human brain, “should pain” is one of biggest barriers to love in our marriages. It feels bad to  both you and your partner when either of you are struggling with it.

Worse, it can run rampant for many of us when left unchecked, and lead to a culture between you and your significant other of disrespect, non-understanding, tension, and unhappiness.

Luckily, Should Pain is “curable”. From within yourself (Meaning, your hubby doesn’t need to do anything to make it go away. Super good news!). And the cure has to do with sensitivity –which you,  HSP friend, are a master of. 

So join me today as we dive into just what Should Pain is, where it comes from, and what you can do about it to begin to loosen it’s grip in your marriage, so you can feel open again to love and connection, communicate more effectively, and show up in a way you feel really good about.

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064  Without knowing where we want to go, how can we ever get there? We can’t, at least not without a ton of meandering and getting lost along the way.

So having a clear vision of what you WANT in your marriage is always the very first step to creating it. 

I want you, my friend-- and all sensitive women who are in a partnership (or want to be) to have what they feel is an amazing relationship, an amazing marriage. 

And I bet you want that, too.

Creating that requires some learning and skill building, and also some UNLEARNING– of what we’ve been taught that doesn’t work.

So we need to start  with not just a vision, but a re-envisioning of how we want our marriages to be–one that takes into account the VERY REAL HUMANS we are, in this current moment in time.

In this episode, I offer you that: a re-envisioning of what an amazing marriage realistically looks like for us as sensitive humans. A vision that I’ve brought to life in my own marriage, and my clients have in theirs, too...

...It's a vision that YOU yourself can achieve with your partner, too!

Slow down and really take and SAVOR this one. It will be the start of a sea-change of more love, connection, support, and ease in your marriage. It will be the beginning of you making your  marriage one that gets more amazing for the rest of your life.

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063  If interactions between you and your significant other are laced with negativity, even slightly….or if you just want to bring more connection and love in your relationship, this episode is for you. 

In it, I share one key thing (backed by decades of research) that you can do, or rule you can follow, to not just improve the culture in your marriage, but to maintain a strong loving relationship into the future. It’s so simple to keep in mind and to do. 

I break down

• The exact formula to follow 
• Why to do it
• Ways it could look in your marriage
• The most important thing to keep in mind
• How to take it all further 
• And how to make it come naturally.
  
  

Listen in to learn how to follow this important guideline that will help you steward your marriage back to love and happiness.

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062  Today we dive into a 4 step formal process to release the urge to control your partner in the moment.

Because the cost of trying to control our partner in a marriage is intimacy –and feeling a whole lot of icky emotions, whereas releasing control is a huge step towards gaining more intimacy and harmony with your honey.

Yet, even if you intellectually know this, old habits die hard (and your human brain is naturally wired to want to control). So releasing control is easier said than done.

Which means it's really helpful to have a clear cut step-by-step process (a process that really zones in on all the feelings that drive control) that you can come back to over and over in any situation to help you decide whether or not you want to try to control, and if not, to release the urge right away.  

I lay out the 4 steps right here in this episode, and illustrate them with personal stories and work I’ve been doing around my own urges to control.   

This is the 3rd episode in a 3 part series on control in relationships, but it is also a stand alone episode. We do a quick review of why control causes more problems than rewards, what it looks like, why we aren’t bad for acting on our human urge to try to control our partner, and what actually serves us way better in our goal of having a loving, mutually respectful, connected marriage.

Join me to learn a process you can easily use if you’ve realized you’d prefer intimacy and harmony over following that impulse to try to control what really isn’t controllable anyway.

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061  How can you have more genuine influence in your marriage and way more control over your experience of it? 

Today, I shed light on this as we continue our series on our human urge to control in our relationships.

In this episode, I offer you an important intermediary step you can take to be great at releasing control and ultimately creating MORE of the fulfillment, support, and authentic love you really want in your marriage

It can be totally life-shattering (in both good and not so comfortable ways) to finally get that we cannot control our significant other--and so much in our lives– that it was all just an illusion that brought us more pain than good. 

But as we accept this, we are able to open the door to more loving influence in both our own internal landscapes and our marriages (and other important relationships).

Listen in as I share a rarely talked about but important piece of this process,  illustrate it with a vulnerable story of my own, and offer you a chance to take this healing step yourself.

This episode will take you one healing step closer to connecting to deeper love and your capacity to actually influence things in the direction you’d love for them to go on your marriage.

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154   Other people in your life  ( friends, family members',  and even professional "authorities" in your life) are going to have opinions on your spouse and your relationship, and they may share them with you. If you don't know how to handle this well, you may end up making things even harder in your relationship.

As highly sensitive people it can be all too easy to let our other's opinions –especially if they are in any way negative–color our own experience. And unfortunately, when it comes to our marriage's health and happiness, this can be quite problematic–even if they meant well.

I can't tell you how many times my clients have told me they felt EXTRA doubt and confusion about their marriage because someone in their life said something along the lines of “I don't think he’s right for you” or “I don’t know what you see in him.” (And sometimes it’s just what they THINK their friend thinks of their partner that causes pain, fear, and doubt.)

This can be crazy-making, and a total power-leak if your goal is to have a really good loving marriage.

So today you're going to learn how to handle other people's thoughts and opinions when it comes to your relationship–so you can grow the health of your marriage, instead of diminishing it.  We dive into: 

• What to do about other people’s opinions and advice, including how to discern when to take it on or not.
• How to stop something someone said about your spouse or marriage from seeping into you and giving it damaging weight or authority.
• Why their judgments and opinions are NOT that accurate (or important)
• Whose opinions really matter
• Who and what IS a trustworthy source of authority, wisdom and truth about your relationship and spouse. 
• And specific ways to get your friends and family to help you grow the marriage you want, instead of accidentally making things harder for you.

Even if you haven't ever been subject to hearing negative opinions about your spouse or relationship, if you have friends or family, this episode will help you, since all I share here can be applied to any opinion anyone shares with you about any realm of your life.

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In this fundamental episode (the 1st in a 3-part series), we dive into an essential-to-look-at issue--one most sensitive women will need to face and learn to work with if we want to feel more like our husband’s “lover” (someone for him to love and cherish and someone for him to feel loved and cherished by) rather than, well,  his “mother”.

With a whole lot of compassion and honest sharing of my personal journey with it, I address and help you solve this very common challenge: 

Our own urge to control what we cannot control: another adult.

So many of us women fall into this habit unintentionally--and for good well-intentioned reasons. But, it alway backfires and makes marriage a burdensome, duty-bound, sparkless experience that wanes in mutual respect and enjoyment every day. 

And the ironic thing is that our efforts to control our partner actually make us LESS capable of bringing ourselves the loving experiences we want with him.

If you think you don’t have any issue with this, I invite you to listen in to find out for sure. Because, the kind of control I’m talking about shows up in subtle ways, and is completely pervasive in modern marriages--and it slowly kills the love and romance in them.

Learn how to not let it do so, and how you can actually start truly influencing your marriage in a more loving direction, in this episode.

 Listen in to learn:

• the two general categories in which control commonly manifests 
• the signs to look out for that indicate your veering towards control 
• the effect it has on you, your partner, and your marriage
• How to begin moving out of controlly and “mother” energy and into more “lover” energy

So you and your husband can have a marriage that you both love.

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059   The way to make truly lasting positive changes in your marriage is by addressing the SOURCE of the things that a) keeps you from doing or saying things that lead to a loving relationship, or b) drives you to do things that lead to misunderstanding, hurt, and disconnection.

By making root-deep positive cognitive and emotional shifts, you’ll naturally have way more interactions with your honey full of respect, love, and connection. This podcast, and most of my focus as a teacher and coach, emphasizes this in a big way. (Dive into any episode to start making such shifts today.) 

But there are also some simple actions you can take that have the power to sway things between you and your significant other in big delightful ways--IF you do them. 

Today I share one thing you can do that takes only 6 seconds. Sprinkle this into your daily life together to start feeling more calmness, lightness, connection-- and even a reigniting of passion.

My husband and I make it a basic part of our marriage maintenance, and it seriously juices things up. 

Listen in to find out what it is. Oh, and it’s fun.

If it isn't as easy as it sounds, find out what to do to make it naturally part of your life together.  ( Hint, I shared the answer above.)


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There are certain feelings that are like gold when it comes to having a marriage you love. Because feelings are like fuel: they take us places! 

Some feelings lead to spats, disconnection and negative cycles with our partner (resentment for example). 

Others lead to lots of positive interactions and the creation of a culture of more and more love and connection with our husband. Generosity is one of these feelings. It is magic when it comes to love.

Unfortunately, without awareness, it can be so easy to totally unconsciously approach our marriages from the opposite of generosity (simply because we are human!), and therefore end up in a marriage that feels UNgenerous in love.

But the good news is that we don’t have to just wait for love-generating feelings to happen to us. We can choose them, cultivate them, lean into them. To our own benefit, and to the benefit of our marriage.

Today we do so with generosity. So you can have a marriage that generates more generosity for both of you.

In this episode I offer some mindset shifts to help you access this most love-inducing emotion, and make it easy to act it out in your marriage, so you can ultimately invite in more reciprocal generosity and GAIN a whole lot more of what you want to be experiencing in your marriage.

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Today I offer you a fun, very actionable thing you can do to re-set your system, gain some valuable perspective, and re-invigorate your sensitive self AND your marriage.

My clients who have implemented this have loved it, and found it so nourishing-- and I myself make it a regular part of tending to my sensitive mind-body-heart system and love life!

In this episode, I share the whys, hows and whats of it, including how it can benefit your marriage.

We also look at the things that tend to get in the way of many of us doing this most nourishing thing for ourselves, and how to get around these obstacles, including some important little mindset shifts you can make to include this love-and-life-benefitting activity as a regular part of your life.

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056  If you ever take things personally, feel hurt by your partner’s words, or get defensive (hello fellow HSPs!)—or if your partner can be critical towards you— this is for you.

You probably feel like you need to stand up for yourself.... Yeah?

But let’s be honest. Most of us do so by getting defensive. I get it! Standing up for yourself by defending yourself feels like a way of not letting your partner walk all over you and treat you poorly.

I don’t want you to feel mistreated, ever. But you know what they say about defense? “Defense is the first act of war.” It tends to fuel the fire of disrespect. Both ways. 

There is a better way. And it involves revising our definition of standing up for ourselves. 

What if “standing up for yourself” doesn’t mean what you’ve always thought it means?

It doesn’t! At least not when it comes to making your marriage one you love. Standing up for yourself in marriage means something way more conducive to love and harmony and having a rock solid relationship with your partner.

Listen in to find out exactly what I mean, and learn the 3 step process that helps you become a master at disarming criticism and standing up for love in your relationship.

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055   If there's a sense of lack-of-luster in your relationship, or you find yourself feeling disinterest, irritation, or disconnection with your husband, or you wonder if your marriage will ever feel good, alive, and totally loving again, it is not necessarily because there is a huge problem between you.

It is more likely because of some very harmless-seeming little things you might not even notice:

Your simple, unremarkable, everyday thoughts.

In this episode, I illustrate this deeply and clearly by sharing a very personal experience of this over the summer, and exactly how I worked with it to feel so much more joy and connection again with my husband (and with myself, too!).

Then I share exactly how you can identify and overcome the same connection and passion-killing thoughts in your own life, so you can move back towards more of the vibrancy, love, and joy in your own marriage.

Listen in to uncover a “gold mine” for a more vibrant marriage, one you can mine over and over for a more and more thriving marriage and life.


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Our Love Is Fragile Syndrome is a silent “ syndrome” ( not a scientific term!) that lurks invisibly in the background of so many relationships and causes a lot of pain and disconnection --where there could instead be lots of love.

If you tend to find yourself wondering if your love can last, or if your partner really loves you, if you tend to read a lack of love into your husband's actions, or you feel you need to avoid conflict or not let your partner know certain aspects of you, you may be suffering with this syndrome to some degree.

It causes couples to miss out on experiencing the love that is there between them and leads to bigger conflicts, lots of misunderstanding, shame and hurt feelings, weaponizing the concept of love languages, and to both of you feeling alone in your marriage, and ultimately CAN lead the marriage to a place of fragility.

This “syndrome” comes from the default natural way our brains tend to work, along with a very normal misalignment in many couples “love languages”.

Luckily, all this is curable.

Listen to this episode to learn just what The Love Is Fragile Syndrome is, identify if it may be lurking in the background of your marriage,  and learn the 3 step remedy process to get you back to feeling a foundation of loving security in your marriage.

Healing this syndrome is marriage saving. Because it is from that renewed sense of love that it's easier to improve communication, solve typical problems, be your authentic full-hearted selves with each other, and ultimately build deeper and deeper physical and emotional intimacy over the course of your lives together.

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053  As much as most of us would love to feel tons of love for the person we’ve chosen as our partner in life, it’s not always so easy to do. In fact, feeling loving feelings can seem very far off sometimes in our marriages.

In this episode, we talk about one of the biggest reasons you may feel disappointed and frustrated about a variety of things your partner does (or does not do): a trick our brains play on us that leads to having a misunderstanding of humanness. 

In order to really deeply love the real human in front of you, you must learn to embrace humanness, the messy flawed tenderness of it all. Because in our marriages there is simply no way around humanness.

This episode defines “humanness” ,  shifts your thinking around it, and walks you through the 2 stages you’ll need to go through to fall in love with the humanness very alive in your marriage.

Listen in to create more space inside you to really love the person by your side and feel a deep sense of being a team in this wild life together--- with all his and your messy imperfections.

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052   Often , for highly sensitive people,  trauma is or has been a part of our lives, and can have a negative impact on our relationships. 

But trauma and autonomic nervous systems responses to stressful events do not have to dictate our lives and keep us locked into painful reactions and patterns, as, Karen C.L. Anderson (a master-certified life coach and author who helps women use the troubled relationships they have with their mothers as a catalyst for their own growth), and I dive into in this episode.

We discuss that there are various ways to work with trauma and help heal the nervous system, making it more resilient and responsive, instead of reactive.  We give you some basic essential understandings and tools to help you begin unwinding it, so you can feel more at ease in your skin and in all your relationships.

With personal stories and candid conversation, in this episode,  we help you:

• Understand what trauma is and isn’t (this can easily get confused)
  
  
• Decipher when you may need a trauma specialists help
  
  
• Grasp how, rather than something to be ashamed of, trauma is a very normal human thing (this is so important to understand, and we share why)
  
  
• Understand why you may feel and act how you do with your loved ones (so you can reduce any guilt about it!)
  
  
• Identify how your nervous system stress responses may look, and how they may show up in your closest relationships, so you can have way more self- awareness and the knowledge to begin making healing shifts
  
  
• Ways to kindly and lovingly tend to your own nervous system and gently begin unwinding trauma patterns 
  
  

Often, when we learn we may have trauma, we feel stuck with it, helpless to change things. We want you to know that that is not so, and you have so much more agency over your own mind-body-heart system than you may feel right now. 

Join us to start making the littlest changes that will add up to feeling so much more at peace and in control of your mind, emotions, nervous system-- and ultimately your marriage and other relationships.

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051  Knowing how and when to set a “Relationship Boundary” is an essential part of blazing the trail to a more respectful, loving, high-integrity marriage for both you and your husband.

Setting appropriate boundaries are, 1st, a way to take loving care and be respectful of yourself and the relationship, and 2nd, they teach your significant other to understand what’s okay by you and what isn’t, helping eliminate his disrespectful behaviors.

“Boundaries” are often misconstrued or not used correctly, and when that's the case they don’t work, or even backfire. This episode clarifies for you exactly how and when use them, and teaches you the essentials of what you need to know when it comes to Relationship Boundaries, including:

• What the intention behind must be for them to work well in love
  
  
• The difference between true appropriate boundary-setting and control (these get confused all the time! Knowing the difference is key, because one works, and one makes things worse!)
  
  
• When to use boundaries versus when to use requests.
  
  
• How to not overuse boundaries, what to do instead, and how to decipher when your work is not boundary setting, but actually something else (more internal).
  
  
• What state of being is most effective for using boundaries successfully
  
  
• The 4 steps to set healthy boundaries in your relationship
  
  
• Why communicating your boundaries ahead of time may be beneficial and more effective
  
  
• The very most important part of boundary setting that often gets dropped- and makes them simply not work.
  
  
• The most common obstacles that may get in the way of setting boundaries in a way that works, and solutions to overcome them

We ALL need to set boundaries from time to time, especially as an HSP. 

If you never set boundaries and are ready to bring some fierce love to your marriage, or you use them a whole lot, or have tried without much success, this episode is for you. 

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153   As women, we often go to our friends and other people in our lives when something isn't going as well as we want with our partner, or when an issue comes up. And it’s only natural to want to get support that way. 

But, it is all too easy when we do that to fall into the toxic trap of griping, venting and male-bashing — even WITH the big sensitive conscientious hearts we tend to have as HSPs.

Some things in our culture are so widely practiced that they're accepted without any thought that they might be damaging. And this one is such a sneakily toxic part of our culture, with such damaging effects to our men,  to us and our relationships,  that it needs to be talked about, and faced.

So today we are going to dive into it, along with why it’s a problem for your relationship (and the world), why to stop doing it, and what to do instead to help your marriage become the loving, connected, fulfilling one you want–and still being able to go to your friend to get support and commune about your relationships!

I know you want to live in a world where relationships are filled with mutual respect, deep care, kindness, and real love, so come take a step towards bringing that to life in your own marriage today, and be part of leaving this emotionally destructive habit forever in the past.

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Episodes to better understand men in relationship: 

• Revolutionizing Men, Their Feelings, And Love With Casey Desharnais  
• Men, Emotional Maturity, And Love (Or How To Invite Your Husband To Evolve)
• Men Being Honest About The Hard Stuff With Casey And Will

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#050  We modern women expect more out of marriage and men than ever. We tend to want our husbands to be a more mature, evolved, supportive partner with whom we can regularly connect intimately on a deep physical and emotional level. 

But, in many cases, our men don’t seem to be able to rise up and meet us in that place as much as we want. 

Today, we dive in and look at why— and what you can do about it.

The bad news is fighting for and trying to get him to BE who we want creates tug-of-war, misery, and powerlessness over our own happiness.

So, how do we create the space for him to grow into the best version of himself in partnership--a man who appreciates you, opens up to you, is a thoughtful, empathetic, full-hearted ally in your life? Listen in to find out.

In this episode, I dive into 2 important keys that will:

• begin dislodging and eliminating outdated unconscious culturally inherited mindsets that lead to a whole lot of pain for both you and him
  
  
• free you up to own and use the relational power you, as a woman, have naturally to make your marriage one you love (you’ll hear the science that backs this up)!
  
  
•  ultimately allow you to make your marriage one you feel so much better in, and one that gives your man the best chance at evolving into the most mature loving version of him possible: a man who responds, considers, feels, and loves consciously.
  
  

This is a fiercely truth-telling episode that, if you let it, will burn a hole in your frustration and resentment and open the doorway to having the supportive deeply loving marriage you want--and a husband who is likelier than ever to evolve in a positive direction right alongside you into the future.

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If you feel resentment or annoyance often, if you feel burdened by all that you have do for your marriage, or if you feel you get walked all over,  it’s quite possible you aren’t saying “NO” enough to your husband. 

But the trouble is, you may also feel guilty or uncomfortable:

• saying no
  
  
• not doing what he wants you to do
  
  
• or doing what you prefer over what he prefers. 
  
  

What if you could say no and not tolerate things you don’t want to from him --and feel good about it? And even get him on board with it, too? 

What if you could see yourself as a good and loving partner even if you don’t do things just to please your husband?

Listen to this episode to learn how you can do just that with 4 simple shifts in how you think about and do things, and thereby, surprisingly, make your marriage more respectful, genuinely happier, and more loving!

It starts by clearing up a big confusion many of us sensitives have about what being a loving wife looks like, and learning what being loving really means. 

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048   Sometimes we find ourselves in a dynamic we do not like with our partner: we may feel disrespected, looked down upon, controlled. This may be even more common for us HSPs than non-sensitives.

Is there hope to change this dynamic? Can you ever feel like your partner respects you, values your opinion, and sees you as an equal? 

Can you stop him from controlling you?

Yes, you can. Without controlling him in return!

In this podcast, we dive into what it takes from your end--which is likely all it will take to totally change this icky dynamic! Just YOU.

I was once someone who felt controlled by men. But I haven't felt an ounce of that in decades! It took some internal work, but I changed myself so I was no longer controllable. 

This podcast episode lays out the specific The words and actions you can take to stop your husband from exerting control over you.

We also dive into 3 underlying mental-emotional shifts you will need to make in order to keep this up and feel like a natural at it, so you can gain more respectful treatment from your husband and feel on equal loving ground with him.

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As modern women, we’ve been encouraged to not let ourselves be “doormats” in our relationship with men. 

And we want to be strong, to not tolerate criticism or unkind treatment, and to stand up for the respect we deserve. 

All of which is so important to have a healthy loving marriage, especially as a sensitive person.

But sometimes we do this in a way that actually makes us feel even more walked all over, more like a doormat--and in more pain than ever. 

So how do we stop being a doormat for REAL?

Listen in to find out how.

Hint: it has to do with understanding what we can control and what we cannot ...and then learning how to control what we ourselves have dominion over--which is our own selves….and becoming Un-walk-over-able!

Even if your man is sometimes unkind, uncool, and disrespectful,  you can put an end to feeling like a doormat-- without FIGHTING, and with dignity, self-containment, confidence, and rooted in love for all involved.

In this episode, I break down the specific of what this entails and  get you started on the path to feeling strong, empowered, respected, and being treated with the kindness, care, and love you deserve.

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The fact of the matter is there’s a lack of empathy, understanding, attentiveness, care and compassion--in other words, SENSITIVITY!-- in our world and intimate relationships. 

And so many women right now are hungry for more of this sensitivity in their marriages.

I want this for them deeply, too. It's high time to usher into our marriages, and ultimately into our world, the love and sensitivity we deeply yearn for. It’s time to bring about a sensitivity revolution.

So what does that entail and where do we start? 

In this episode I break it down for you, cheer you on and empower you to invite way more of this life-and-love enhancing sensitivity into your own love life and world.

We cover:

• What’s keeping the sensitivity we want just out of reach in our marriages and world
  
  
• Mindset shifts to help you feel empowered, ready, and inspired to put yourself behind your dream of a marriage full of empathy, support, and loving attentiveness.
  
  
• Essential and overlooked understandings about yourself as a sensitive person to grasp, so you can start to deepen into how YOU are naturally the exact the force to bring about these changes  
  
  
• Insights into specific aspects of our sensitivity trait, which may at first glance seem detrimental, but are actually powerful gifts perfectly designed to bring about the kinds of changes we envision. 
  
  
• Why, once you learn to honor and work with your sensitivity, you are perfectly positioned and even meant to successfully lead loving sensitivity in your own mini-realm.
  
  
• And how that doesn’t mean being a doormat, or being nice and sweet all the time, but rather requires strong loving self-advocacy, not tolerating mistreatment, and fiercely standing up for the respect you deserve.
  
  
• How the work to make these big changes is actually very intimate and accessible, as it starts right here in you and your marriage.
  
  
• And how by working to bring more sensitivity into your marriage, you’re actually bringing about the exact medicine the planet, as a whole, needs to heal. 
  
  

If you want to bring about a sea-change of sensitivity in your marriage and in the larger world— one that will make both into realms you are naturally much happier in—this is a must listen episode!

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We live in a world where so much focus and energy is directed into our career or work and being productive. This doesn't work well for highly sensitive people, nor does it support having a great marriage or an overall fulfilling life. 

It does not have to be this way. If we want a life we actually enjoy living, we HSPs need to make the shift from life supporting our WORK to work being in service to our lives and relationships! 

This is totally possible! Today, Laurie Carlson, a Life Coach who helps HSPs and Empaths nurture their sensitivity so it can be the foundation of their success, and I talk about how.

Listen in to hear:

• Why our “normal” approach to work doesn't work so well for HSPs (or most humans, actually!) and what it costs us in the other areas of our life
• How our relationship to our work life has a direct impact on our love life
• Why our sense of value is so intertwined with having a successful career 
• Steps to disentangle your sense of value from your work and productivity
• Small but essential changes you can make today as an HSP to start claiming your time to support the relationships, career, and life you really want 
• Stories from our own lives and our clients lives of how we are all, as HSP women with families and careers, working on doing this, and the beneficial impact it's making all around.

Laurie and I are both here to help HSP revolutionize the way we relate to the things that matter most to us in our lives. Join us in this episode to get clear direction and deep insights to chew on that will steer you towards having a life filled with relationships and experiences you love.


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044 If you've ever felt unhappy in your marriage, if you ever look back on the early days or your relationship --or even your single days-- with a longing for those happier times, or if you ever feel like you’ve lost a part of yourself in this marriage, this episode is for you.

Where does our happiness really come from in our marriages? Whose job is it to bring pleasure and enjoyment to you? Whose devotion to your joy and fulfillment matters most in your marriage?

There's one answer that many of us subscribe to unconsciously that paves the way for LESS happiness and fulfillment, and one that is the route to MORE vibrancy and joy in ourselves and our marriages.

So often we think our man is the source of our happiness in our marriages (don't think that's you? It can show up in subtle ways. Listen in to find out more). But when we do this we totally overlook the deep well of happiness available to us all the time, no matter what’s going on with our partner.

When we hand off this job to our man, it’s almost always a love, joy, and attraction downer. But when we reconnect with our own capacity to bring ourselves a sense of fullness and happiness in our lives, we most often end up inspiring more devotion from our husbands.

Listen in to hear me break this all down with fun stories and metaphors, a 2-step process that clarifies where your own focus needs to be, and real life examples of how powerful the effect all this has on your fulfillment, pleasure, and happiness in your life and marriage.


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043  As Highly Sensitive People, traveling or even day adventures can pose some extra challenges, (i.e, be hard)--especially when traveling with a non-HSP partner.

But, seeing new places, visiting loved ones, and having a change of scenery are not only things many of us would like to do, but things that actually benefit us and our marriage if navigated in a way that honors our sensitivity.

So how do we approach trip-taking in a way that WORKS for us sensitives, and makes them really enjoyable for both ourselves AND our partner?

In this practical episode, you will learn 8 specific things you can do to make any trip with your partner so much easier, more connecting, and more fun, and even return to “regular life” feeling refreshed (instead of like you need a vacation from your vacation!)

We cover: 

• The challenges many of us HSP’s face when it comes to getting out in the world and traveling--especially when our partner is along for the ride.
  
  
• The effects of overstimulation on our mood and ability to engage well, and why it’s so common for highly sensitive people when we travel
  
  
• Ways to work with your partner’s higher interest for go-go-going and seeing and doing all the things, and your need for decompression, so you both feel happy and satisfied with your trip.
  
  
• Ways to think intentionally, plan ahead, and things to bring to make your time the most relaxed, refreshing, joyful adventure possible.
  
  
• The most important thing to know about communicating to your partner about your travel needs as an HSP
  
  
• The positive impact on our marriage  and for all involved when we tend lovingly to our sensitivity when we are away from home
  
  

I illustrate this whole thing with stories and my own personal learnings from my recent anniversary trip with my husband, which started off hard, but wound up being deeply connecting and fun for both of us.

Listen in to learn how you can have the same experience on all your future travels.

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042  You've asked him to be more romantic. He isn't doing it. Now what?

There’s not a whole lot more frustrating in a relationship than asking your partner for something (especially something vulnerable like more romance) and have him not agree --or agree and then not follow through!!

It can leave you feeling helpless to get your desires for intimacy and connection met. It can even be a deal breaker. 

But wait. You have way more sway here than you may feel. EVEN if you’ve already asked him in the highly effective ways I shared in episode 30, and it isn’t “working”.

In todays episode we dive into 3 essential steps to take if you want your partner to be more affectionate, more flirty, more loving, or to initiate sex more, or speak more of YOUR love language. 

We dive into:

• What’s most often at the root of this issue 
  
  
• The opportunity that lies in this challenge
  
  
• How to set the stage for effective communication around this
  
  
• Specific ways to approach your husband to make sure you’ve communicated in ways he’s most likely to understand and get on board with…
  
  
• How to improve things in this area even if he says no or isn’t able to do the things you want (which is totally empowering and important to do anyway—even if your communicating works to get him to do more of what you want!)
  
  
• The immense possibility that taking empowered actions around this will lead to in your life
  
  

If you want to feel more desired by your partner, if you want to feel more cherished, if you love romance and affection ….and you feel it’s insufficient in your marriage, give this episode a serious listen. Take notes! And then put these 3 steps into action.

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Reactivity, tension, and emotional and physical pain can be so normal in our busy day-to-day lives. Yet they totally undermine our ability to enjoy our lives, connect with our loved ones in the deeper ways we want, and reach our goals.

So how do we move back to a calmer, clearer, and more connected place (and stay there more often) --without taking hours out of our days, or making a giant overhaul of our life?

It’s all about the tiny moments--or micro-moments! Join Amy Lepage, Somatic Movement & Functional Movement Therapist, and I as we talk about the micro-interventions you can integrate into your daily life to shift out of any form of emotional or physical pain, so you can experience a much more connection and enjoyment in your life.  

Listen to this candid conversation to learn:

• How connecting to yourself directly for just 1 minute here and 30 seconds there leads to feeling way more centered and relaxed overall and positively enhances connection with others in your life.
  
  
• How our natural tendency to solve things out there is the exact opposite approach to what actually works to shift things for the better…and what to do to really “fix” things. 
  
  
• Why bringing our focus to our internal experience makes all the difference in how things go “out there” with our family and partner and even career.
  
  
• How using micro moments starts to create an overall more calm connected environment in your partnership and family.
  
  
• What awareness’s role is in reducing tension and stress
  
  
• How attending to the body is a fundamental part of creating positive emotional shifts
  
  
• Different types of micro-interventions you can try out to develop more emotional agency and feel better all day long. 
  
  
• Our own experiences of working with my micro moments to move out of pained, reactive spaces on a daily basis, what that actually looks like in our personal lives, and the profound benefits each of us have experienced by doing so.
  
  
• How using micro moments is a beautiful way to gently and lovingly look at the more difficult aspects of ourselves and build a more compassionate relationship with ourselves— which is foundational to having a great relationship with your partner, feeling lighter, more relaxed, and playful every day, and showing up fully for the things that matter to you most.
  
  

Amy is a beautiful example of someone who’s building a loving relationship with herself in the micro moments, and enjoying the ripple effect of sweeter connection, and making a deeply positive contribution to the world. 

Dive in to learn how you can do the same.

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152   Not feeling as connected as you want to with your spouse? Feeling like you're not on the same page much these days, or you have sort of evolved AWAY from each other? I have been there and it doesn't feel good. But there is a way back that’s simple and straightforward. 

In this episode, you’ll hear a great remedy to bring more connection into your marriage–in ways BOTH you and your partner look forward to. It’s a process I’ve done myself that really helped me and my husband not just feel more connected, but also have a clear path to more of it forever into our future together.

Today's episode will share exactly how to make sure you have plenty of ways you and your spouse can be together that are fun and fulfilling to both of you. When you apply what I share, you will have the grounds for a more resilient, connected and fun life together into the future.  Dig in!

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040  Falling in love is easy, effortless. Staying in love isn’t. Today we talk about staying in love (or falling back in love), and how it's about being intentional in the tiniest moments.

You don’t have to wait to learn something fancy, or to have a giant change of heart to feel better with your partner. You can make an instant little shift right now that will move you in a more loving, more fulfilling, happier direction.

In fact, that is how we actually create sustained change. By thinking about things a tiny bit differently right now; by paying a slightly different kind of attention right now; by seeing things through new eyes at this moment. And then this one, too. 

The more we do this, the more change we affect in our marriage.

Making use of what I call “Micro Moments” is a PRIME way I make my marriage amazing every day, whether to move out of a more stressful emotional place or to consciously create more connection with my man.

Today we dive into Micro Moments of LOVE:  one tiny moment-- and then another-- of warmth, of connection, of love, at a time. 

String many of these together throughout your day and week, and you will have a much richer, more love-filled experience of your marriage for the rest of your lives together. 

Dive in to get the details.

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039  The biggest barriers to love come from within our own brains. Today we are talking about a very common one:

The wired-in instinct to want to be right. To see ourselves and our way as right, and others ways as wrong. 

Why is this being right thing so tenacious and tempting? Listen in to find out and start to let it go...

Because, though totally normal, this instinct is counterproductive to creating a more loving fulfilling marriage. It causes conflict and struggle in our relationships:

When what we consciously or unconsciously believe is the right way to be is challenged by our partner’s behavior, it's easy to feel like he's doing things wrong, to fall into judgment and even contempt.

Then we may find ourselves trying to impose our ways onto our partner, trying to get him to do things the “right” way, trying to convince him and entice him into thinking and behaving the way we think he should, in an attempt to feel on the same team.

This approach, ironically,  steals understanding, respect, and genuine connection right from under our noses.

If we want real connection and deep love, we need to stop the right/wrong thing and open up to accepting differences, big and little.

In this episode, I share client stories, mindset shifts, and 2 specific ways to work with this desire to be right, so you can put an end to the divisiveness it creates and come back to actually feeling on the same team in a deeper way than ever with your partner.

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 Sex and physical intimacy. They are the prime things that distinguish marriage from a roommate situation.

But, many women, especially us highly sensitive women, often find that we just don't’ feel like being sexual with our partner at the end of a long day--or ever!

If that’s a common experience for you, and you feel like it’s putting a damper on the connection and fulfillment you or your husband is experiencing in your marriage, this is a must-listen episode.

We cover: 

• How nothing is wrong with you if your desire tank is low
  
  
• WHY that may be the case and is so common
  
  
• 3 essential things to understand about women’s physiology when it comes to sex that dampens desire 
  
  
• 3 keys to working with your unique sensitive physiology and mind to fuel desire and get you in the mood for sex again
  
  
• Tips and insights to make your time with your husband in the bedroom more luscious and passionate again.
  
  

The capacity to feel desire starts in YOU and you have total sway over it. The only thing standing between you and it are some very important understandings (which aren’t common knowledge) about how your own body works.

So if you’ve been worrying something is wrong with you or your marriage because you’re rarely in the mood for sex, this episode will set your mind and body at EASE. . .

. . . and give you the understandings you need to regain feelings of attraction, desire, and to enjoy and look forward to lovemaking again right away.

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As a human being, especially a highly sensitive person, you’re going to have lots of feelings, many of which will be “negative” ones. Especially when it comes to the things we care most about, such as our marriages and relationships.

Does this mean you have to suffer through them, grin and bear it, or resign yourself to having an unhappy life and relationship? Of course not. You can, of course, thrive in life and love. 

But that will depend on how healthy your relationship with your own emotions is. 

 This episode is a deep but quick dive into how to safely feel your feelings, so you can develop a great relationship with them and feel safe and confident no matter what comes up in your love life.

For you, HSP, with your big feelings (or long-lasting-won’t-let-up-easily feelings), this episode is gold! So buckle up and bring a pen and notebook, because there are so many gems to take note of today. We cover:

• 4 reasons you want to learn to safely feel your emotions and the benefits that you’ll start to experience when you do 
• Why doing so will be one of the best things you’ve ever done to have a great marriage
• What emotions actually are and are NOT 
• A specific process to get you started
• What feeling your feelings does not mean and the mistake it's so easy to make 
• Troubleshooting and tips for how to develop this most essential skill
• Little adjustments for those with trauma
• A great metaphor to help you get the feel of this skill so it feels like the loving peace-inducing approach it is (instead of torture!)

This is at the very top of the most essential skills we can learn as HSPs --and humans-- to have better relationships and be more successful in any arena in our life. 

If all of us become masters of this, our world would be such a different and more loving place. It starts with you learning it and reaping the rewards in your own life and marriage.

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As highly sensitive people, we feel deeply. So when something happens with our partner that we don’t like, and negative emotions are stirred up, it can lead to reacting strongly. . .

 . . .often in ways that lead to more strife and conflict (think: withdrawing, running out of the room, snapping, criticizing, yelling, crying, ranting, going on and on trying to figure things out and feeling unable to stop talking, and other big displays of anger or despair). . . 

. . . and an inability to resolve an issue effectively.

In this episode, we're going to look at why this happens, and what we are trying to do instinctively with our big reactions (it’s a positive intention, but just not so effective or helpful).

Most importantly, we're going to get practical and very specific about: 

• Little life adjustments and bigger internal changes you can make to prevent this from happening in the first place,
  
  
• Exactly what to do when you’re experiencing such an upsurge of emotion (instead of reacting out of it)  
  
  
•  A very tangible process that actually works to calm yourself down and regain access to that wise mind and heart of yours! 
  
  

You will walk away from this episode with a very clear understanding of how to get yourself back to the emotionally calm place to most effectively resolve an issue with your partner or move beyond it, so you can come back to feeling close again and on the same team with your husband.

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035  We all have a biological imperative to feel worthy, to feel good enough. This need drives us in all aspects of our life. It is part of what pulls us towards love. 

But it is also in love that our sense of not being quite good enough, not being worthy, is most highlighted. 

Having a strong sense of self-worth is a big part of having a marriage that feels like the safest most loving zone possible…

And having low self-worth is the source of so many marriage problems, such as feeling easily hurt, easily triggered, not loved enough, defensiveness, lashing out, not being honest and authentic, and even being critical of your partner. 

Not feeling good enough on some level (low self-worth) is, unfortunately, so common for hsps. 

Fortunately, you can change that. Listen in to learn how.

In this episode I share:

• How simple (not necessarily easy) it actually is to develop a solid sense of self-worth.
• How a lack of self-worth affects your love life and how feeling worthy benefits it.
• Why low self-worth happens and is normal.
• What gets in the way of developing self-worth.
• Where exactly it comes from (and doesn’t come from).
• What to know if others don’t see you as good enough.
• Specific things you can do to start feeling more self-worth right away.
• What deepens and sustains it over time.
  
  

Once I learned what I share here, I began to feel better than I’ve ever felt about myself. And that changed everything for the better-- in my marriage, as a parent, in my career, and every realm of my life.

Listen in to make an instant and long-lasting improvement in your sense of self-worth --this most important emotional foundation for a deeply fulfilling life and marriage.

This episode piggybacks on last week's episode, so have a listen to that one, too!

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034   What if you consistently felt like you were important, cared for, valued and like you deeply matter to your partner, and to all the people you care about? Like, all the time...no matter what happened?

How would that change your marriage….your life?

In a nutshell, it would free you up to have so much more fun, lightness, connection, love, and passion in your marriage, and simple enjoyment of your partner day in and day out. 

Listen in to learn how!

Unfortunately, most of us, especially as HSPs, don’t feel this steady sense of being valued, and loved enough. Not even in our marriage, where we want to feel that way the most. 

Yes, we can sometimes feel it when others applaud us for something, or when we finally reach that goal we had...

But that feeling of validation comes and goes...right? To maintain it, or feel more of it,  we often end up chasing it, doing things to earn that validation….or working to get our partner to show us we're valuable…

This is a setup for an exhausting power struggle and endless emotional turmoil, because…

• your husband, like so many, might not be so good at always saying the loving thing, listening well, complementing or hugging you, and appreciating you out loud for all that you are and do. 
• It puts a lot of pressure on your partner and totally disempowers you.
• it leaves you super vulnerable to feeling unimportant and unvalued.  
• And you’re likely to feel resentful, super frustrated with your man, and quite disappointed in him and your marriage, to boot...
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….Because (today or one day down the road)  he’s going to be bad at this job of making sure you feel valued all the time!

If this sounds at all familiar, you are outsourcing your value. Most people do! But it’s a completely unsustainable, unreliable way to go about feeling how you deserve to feel as a highly sensitive woman: deeply valued, valuable, and like you matter!

And guess what? Even if your partner does well at this job much of the time, he’s actually never the reason you feel valuable or not. This turns out to be very good news for you and your marriage...

Listen in as I teach you where your sense of value really comes from, how much better you --and your marriage will feel-- when you know how to insource your sense of feeling deeply valuable in your life and marriage, and how easy it actually is to do once you learn how to begin.

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033 Love flourishes when we feel safe. A sense of emotional safety is foundational to having a great - or even decent-- marriage. When both partners feel safe with each other, the real heights of love and connection are available. 

From that zone of love and safety in a marriage, communication is easy, conflict gets resolved quickly, and playful, passionate, tender ways of interacting just naturally effortlessly happen.  We can bring more compassion,  patience, understanding, and presence to each other, making our relationship an ever-deepening culture of safety, love, and nourishment in our lives.

But, because we are human, and especially as sensitive women, we may NOT feel so safe much of the time, or when it comes to certain things that happen in our relationship. We may feel insecure, unsettled, anxious, untrusting, uncomfortable in our skin, unable to let our guard down in this way or that way. In other words: unsafe.

The amazing news is that you don’t have to wait for conditions to be just so for you to feel so much safer in your relationship. 

Listen in to this essential episode to learn:

• Where safety and lack of safety really comes from (it might surprise you), 
• How to avoid the most common mistake about how to feel safer, 
• How to identify when you don’t have enough emotional safety 
• Why you want to build more of it 
• Why you have control over how much of a culture of love and safety your marriage is,
• Specific steps to begin building WAY more of it inside yourself and, ultimately, in your marriage, and how developing a kind relationship to your own mind is the one of the main keys to doing so..
  
  

You can learn to feel deeply safe inside of yourself. When you do, you will be freed up to enjoy your relationship --and truly your whole LIFE--so much more.

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032   Many highly sensitive women feel so uncomfortable when their partners get upset, angry, triggered.

Often, they get upset themselves! 

Or else, they may tiptoe around in order to avoid emotional upheaval, feeling like they need to stop doing certain things (like asking for time to themselves), or start doing certain things...or they hold back on bringing up important topics because their husband may not handle it well.

If you do any of this (and you may not be super aware of it, so listen in to find out!), it’s is a roundabout (and not very honest or successful) way of trying to prevent yourself from feeling bad. 

Not only is it not your job to try to keep your partner from having feelings, but we simply can’t stop anyone from having them! Your husband WILL get upset and be unhappy--sometimes with you. 

So let's answer this question:  How can you stop being so upset by him having negative feelings? 

The good news is that you don’t need to modify your own behavior or avoid topics of discussion to prevent him from feeling bad.

There is a shortcut you can take to feeling at peace when he gets angry or experiences any other feeling. 

You might even find, like I have, that what comes out of this is the ability to let upset and negative emotions bring you closer with him, into more understanding, more security and ever deeper love. 

Listen in as I break it down for you in this episode.

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031   Today we are talking about Communication and Authenticity Inhibition (which is one of the biggest things that stops many HSPs from actually having the relationship we want) and their cause: Negative Emotion Aversion.

We dive into how this all gets in the way of healthy effective communication (like asking for what we want), makes it hard to be honest and authentic in our relationships, adds a whole lot of unnecessary suffering to our lives, and ultimately prevents us from growing a deeper love and understanding of each other in our marriages.

Unfortunately, Negative Emotion Aversion has been perpetuated by the messages we receive from our society, and from our brains' natural biases.

Luckily, you can change all that.

 It starts with understanding how aversion to negative emotion is harming you, and beginning to think about negative emotions in a way that will bring you so much more peace and ease, and a sense of being free to be you --and loved for it-- in your life and marriage.

Listen in to hear me break it down for you in this episode.

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151  Most of the highly sensitive women  I talk to mention wanting their relationship to feel "lighter"-- easier, more carefree, more warmhearted.  And that IS a place where a lot of joy  can be found in our intimate relationships--if we can access that lightness. . .

The challenge is, as HSPs, we can tend to take things pretty seriously. Not a bad thing, by any means, but it can make it harder to feel that lightness so many of us long for.  So I made you a very "light" ( short and sweet) episode to give you a drop of that lightness right now.

Listen in to hear the one question that can open up a sense of lightness right away, and make space for more and more lightness to enter into your relationship--and whole life--as you let this way of seeing things integrate into you.

Please note that NONE of what I offer here is meant to dismiss or belittle the hard stuff that can comes along with intimate relationships ( that is very real and important to acknowledge). In fact, it is meant to help you navigate through any of that with more ease and peace. 

Let this episode seep into your cells over the coming week or more. . . and see what shifts in you and your marriage from there.

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030   Being willing to ask for what you want from your husband, whether it’s help with chores, or time to connect with him, is simply an essential part of feeling supported in your relationship. 

Many women, though, have resistance to asking for what they want, or simply go about it in ways that aren’t very successful, and then end up feeling discouraged, resentful, and unsupported in their marriage.

This episode helps you turn that around and empowers you to have a high success rate in getting the responses you want, the loving gestures you want, and things done around the house. 

 I share 2 specific highly effective communication tactics to make requests (along with a couple of things to avoid), so you can compel your man to WANT to do the things you want him to. 

Listen in to learn how to get more support from your partner, feel so much more satisfaction and connection, and anything else you are wanting to experience in your marriage.

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029  If you’re a sensitive woman who loves connection and wants to feel closer to your partner, this episode is for you.

There is so much connection available to us in our intimate relationships. And yet so many of us aren’t experiencing it --often, tragically, to the point that many women question if their relationship is worth continuing.

But it’s most often not that connection is unavailable in our relationship, but because we’re going about trying to get it in the wrong way, with approaches that backfire!

It’s kind of like being given a new car before you get your license, then trying to learn to drive it on your own; and when it jolts when you hit the brakes or press the gas, you say, “Take this vehicle back. It’s no good!” But the vehicle was never the problem. You simply hadn’t yet learned to drive.

Just like it takes some learning to be able to drive a car smoothly, it can take developing some skills to gain access to the connection you want in your marriage, instead of pushing it away.

In this episode, you’ll learn what to stop doing that creates disconnection: speaking to what you don’t want, otherwise known as complaining. This was an old go-to backfiring tactic of my own and oh-so-common for HSPs.   

Then you’ll learn what to do that DOES create connection: speaking to what you DO want.

This requires embracing the magic secret sauce, which I share all about, that gains you access to the yummiest, sweetest, most tender connection possible.

(Hint: it can feel uncomfortable, but it will gain you the kind of strength and security you most want: that of genuine, lasting, loving closeness with your husband.)

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028  To get what we want in our marriages, many of us HSPs unconsciously fall into using some tactics that...backfire. In this episode, I share what those are and dive deep into 2 of my personal old go-to’s: blame and criticism.

 They were at the heart of my first marriage's demise. From my end. I want to help you to avoid that experience. 

Blame and criticism can be sneaky, and insert themselves into our patterns of behavior just below our conscious awareness. So it’s important to take a kind close look at where and how they might show up for you.

It’s also so key to know that these tactics aren’t BAD. They don’t make you bad for getting caught in their sticky net. They just don’t work well. They leave you with a hardened heart and powerless to improve things. And they ultimately feel awful to use. 

Once we catch ourselves using them, we can stop using them and learn better ways that actually work.

In this episode, we discuss: 

• The problems with blame and criticism and why you really don’t want to do it chronically.
• Why it’s not your fault if you use these tactics
• How to recognize blame and criticism and some of the sneaky ways we do it without realizing it. 
• How to avoid making the common mistake many women fall into that stops them from changing the habit or makes it all worse…
• The antidote to blame and how to break the habit
• And what you need to know and do instead that will free you up to feel lighter and more energized, and way more empowered to learn and implement effective strategies to have more of what you want in your marriage.
• what to do if you revert into the habit again in the future to make your marriage ever more into a zone of loving safety.

 Though not a FUN topic, the reward on the other side of being willing to look at and free yourself from these tactics is delightful. I’m living it now: being a woman I feel great about being, with a marriage I love! I celebrate you for taking steps towards creating the same for yourself.

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Related Episodes Mentioned:
#22 How To Encourage More Of What You Want From Your Husband
#11 The HSP Mind-Body-Heart-Slump
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