Welcome to HEART REACTS, an advice podcast for all of us trying to remain emotionally functional through the collapse of late capitalism. 

This week, we're wondering how--and whether--to try to convert your loved ones to anti-capitalism, and considering intergenerational friendships, loss, and loneliness. Thanks as always to our letter writers!

Stuff We Talk About:

Bull Durham

Mark Fisher: K-Punk and Capitalist Realism are the classics.

We are Craig Gent, a writer and researcher living in Leeds, and ⁠Sarah Jaffe⁠, a journalist and author based in New Orleans.

Buy Craig's Book: Cyberboss

Buy Sarah's Book: From the Ashes

You can send us your questions at ⁠www.askmeanything.cc/heartreacts⁠.

This episode was produced by, well, us! We apologize for any inconsistencies in audio quality. If you liked it and want to help keep us going, and help us improve our recording process, you can support us at ⁠patreon.com/HeartReacts⁠. You can subscribe to the show wherever you get podcasts, and please do rate us on those podcast apps!

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Welcome to HEART REACTS, an advice podcast for all of us trying to remain emotionally functional through the collapse of late capitalism.

This week, we consider whether feminist theory--or porn--are useful tools in figuring out sexual ethics, and then we do some follow-up on the problem of dating while undocumented.

Stuff We Talk About:

Heather Berg, Porn Work

Lynne Segal, Straight Sex and Slow Motion

Simone de Beauvoir, The Second Sex

Susan Faludi, Stiffed

The Good Robot podcast, with Maya Indira Ganesh,

Laura Mulvey, Visual Pleasure and Narrative Cinema

The Celluloid Ceiling

Sarah at Huck Magazine, Daddy Issues

We are Craig Gent, a writer and researcher living in Leeds, and ⁠Sarah Jaffe⁠, a journalist and author based in New Orleans. You can send us your questions at ⁠www.askmeanything.cc/heartreacts⁠.

This episode was produced by, well, us! We apologize for any inconsistencies in audio quality. If you liked it and want to help keep us going, and help us improve our recording process, you can support us at ⁠patreon.com/HeartReacts⁠. You can subscribe to the show wherever you get podcasts, and please do rate us on those podcast apps!

Our music comes from “Casual Outrage” by New Orleans-based Basher, featured on their new album May Day, coming May 31, 2024 to Sinking City Records. For more about the band, visit⁠ byronasher.com/basher⁠.

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Hello and welcome to HEART REACTS, an advice podcast for all of us trying to remain emotionally functional through the collapse of late capitalism. 

This week, we answer a question about election fatigue, trauma, triggers, and movement work: how much is too much? And why is election-related journalism so godawful, anyway?

And then we dive into an advice column perennial: what do you do when your sex drive doesn't match your partner's--but with a sidebar question of what it means, anyway, to be a "good man."

Referenced in this week's episode: Lester Spence, The Counterpublic Papers, Vol 8 No. 20

Lynne Segal, Slow Motion: Changing Masculinities, Changing Men

We are Craig Gent, a writer and researcher living in Leeds, and ⁠Sarah Jaffe⁠, a journalist and author based in New Orleans.

You can send us your questions at ⁠www.askmeanything.cc/heartreacts⁠.

This episode was produced by, well, us! We apologize for any inconsistencies in audio quality. If you liked it and want to help keep us going, and help us improve our recording process, you can support us at ⁠patreon.com/HeartReacts⁠. You can subscribe to the show wherever you get podcasts, and please do rate us on those podcast apps!

Our music comes from “Casual Outrage” by New Orleans-based Basher, featured on their new album May Day, coming May 31, 2024 to Sinking City Records. For more about the band, visit⁠ byronasher.com/basher⁠.

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Hello and welcome to HEART REACTS, an advice podcast for all of us trying to remain emotionally functional through the collapse of late capitalism. 

We're back and (mostly) on a regular schedule now! Thanks again for all of your kind words, sharing, reviews, support, and most of all your questions!

This week, we're addressing a question about shame, kink, and finding love, and then diving into the thorny issues that arise when money is an issue in relationships: how do we deal with financial inequality? And how do we avoid letting the fact that the rent is too damn high push us onto the relationship escalator?

We are Craig Gent, a writer and researcher living in Leeds, and ⁠Sarah Jaffe⁠, a journalist and author based in New Orleans.

You can send us your questions at ⁠www.askmeanything.cc/heartreacts⁠. 

This episode was produced by, well, us! We apologize for any inconsistencies in audio quality. If you liked it and want to help keep us going, and help us improve our recording process, you can support us at ⁠patreon.com/HeartReacts⁠.

Our music comes from “Casual Outrage” by New Orleans-based Basher, featured on their new album May Day, coming May 31, 2024 to Sinking City Records. For more about the band, visit⁠ byronasher.com/basher⁠.

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Hello and welcome to HEART REACTS, an advice podcast for all of us trying to remain emotionally functional through the collapse of late capitalism. 

Thanks to everyone who checked out our pilot! We’re hoping to be out every two weeks from now on, and if you want to help us to do that, supporting us on Patreon is the way to go! 

On this week’s episode we talk about the travails of platonic soul mates through major life changes, and we offer some advice to someone who’s been devastated by their partner’s self-discovery. 

We are Craig Gent, a writer and researcher living in Leeds, and ⁠Sarah Jaffe⁠, a journalist and author based in New Orleans.

You can send us your questions at ⁠www.askmeanything.cc/heartreacts⁠. 

This episode was produced by, well, us! We apologize for any inconsistencies in audio quality. If you liked it and want to help keep us going, and help us improve our recording process, you can support us at ⁠patreon.com/HeartReacts⁠.

Our music comes from “Casual Outrage” by New Orleans-based Basher, featured on their new album May Day, coming May 31, 2024 to Sinking City Records. For more about the band, visit⁠ byronasher.com/basher⁠.

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Hello and welcome to the pilot episode of HEART REACTS, an advice podcast for all of us trying to remain emotionally functional through the collapse of late capitalism. We’re here to answer all of the questions about love, friendship, family, and even work that you might want to ask two people who have spent adulthood trying to apply their radical political analysis, more or less successfully, to their personal lives, with pessimism of the intellect and optimism of the feels.

We are Craig Gent, a writer and researcher living in Leeds, and ⁠Sarah Jaffe⁠, a journalist and author based in New Orleans.

You can send us your questions at ⁠www.askmeanything.cc/heartreacts⁠. 

This episode was produced by, well, us! We apologize for any inconsistencies in audio quality. If you liked it and want to help keep us going, and help us improve our recording process, you can support us at ⁠patreon.com/HeartReacts⁠.

Our music comes from “Casual Outrage” by New Orleans-based Basher, featured on their new album May Day, coming May 31, 2024 to Sinking City Records. For more about the band, visit⁠ byronasher.com/basher⁠.

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Welcome to HEART REACTS, an advice podcast for all of us trying to remain emotionally functional through the collapse of late capitalism. 

This week, we break our streak of talking about polyamory--mostly. Instead, we try to help a listener deal with overwhelming grief and clutter, and then answer a question about substance use and how to support a friend without judgement.

And we have a special request for those of you who can: if you've been enjoying our music, which comes from “Casual Outrage” by New Orleans-based Basher, you can help out the man behind the music. Byron and his partner just lost everything in a devastating house fire, and there's a gofundme page to support them getting back on their feet. Thanks for your support and for sharing. For more about the band, visit⁠ byronasher.com/basher⁠. 

We are Craig Gent, a writer and researcher living in Leeds, and ⁠Sarah Jaffe⁠, a journalist and author based in New Orleans.

Buy Craig's Book: Cyberboss

Buy Sarah's Book: From the Ashes

You can send us your questions at ⁠www.askmeanything.cc/heartreacts⁠. 

This episode was produced by, well, us! We apologize for any inconsistencies in audio quality. If you liked it and want to help keep us going, and help us improve our recording process, you can support us at ⁠patreon.com/HeartReacts⁠. You can subscribe to the show wherever you get podcasts, and please do rate us on those podcast apps!

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Welcome to HEART REACTS, an advice podcast for all of us trying to remain emotionally functional through the collapse of late capitalism. 

We talk up front about Trump winning again, and then advise a listener who is worried that all the good politics in the world don’t change society's perception of them. And of course, we have another installment in the Polyamory Chronicles.

Stuff We Talk About:

Hamilton Nolan, The Hammer

Woman behind 'incel' says angry men hijacked her word 'as a weapon of war'

Dropkick Murphys, "Boys on the Docks"

Moo Deng

Craig, "I remember MSN"

Rosa Luxemburg's Letters

Big Mood, Little Mood, "Compassion Fatigue"

We are Craig Gent, a writer and researcher living in Leeds, and ⁠Sarah Jaffe⁠, a journalist and author based in New Orleans.

Buy Craig's Book: Cyberboss

Buy Sarah's Book: From the Ashes

You can send us your questions at ⁠www.askmeanything.cc/heartreacts⁠. 

This episode was produced by, well, us! We apologize for any inconsistencies in audio quality. If you liked it and want to help keep us going, and help us improve our recording process, you can support us at ⁠patreon.com/HeartReacts⁠. You can subscribe to the show wherever you get podcasts, and please do rate us on those podcast apps!

Our music comes from “Casual Outrage” by New Orleans-based Basher, featured on their new album May Day, coming May 31, 2024 to Sinking City Records. For more about the band, visit⁠ byronasher.com/basher⁠.

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Welcome to HEART REACTS, an advice podcast for all of us trying to remain emotionally functional through the collapse of late capitalism. 

This week, we answer a question about despair, and solidarity with the people of Palestine, and consider the limitations of hope. Then we switch gears and muse on the issue of parenting while polyamorous, and whether people on the left should have more kids.

Stuff We Talk About:

Theodor Adorno and Max Horkheimer, Dialectic of Enlightenment

Gaza: Poetry after Auschwitz, Hamid Dabashi

Rodrigo Nunes, Neither Vertical Nor Horizontal

Stuart Hall Doing Childcare

Sarah, Family Planning

We are Craig Gent, a writer and researcher living in Leeds, and ⁠Sarah Jaffe⁠, a journalist and author based in New Orleans.

Buy Craig's Book: Cyberboss

Buy Sarah's Book: From the Ashes

You can send us your questions at ⁠www.askmeanything.cc/heartreacts⁠. 

This episode was produced by, well, us! We apologize for any inconsistencies in audio quality. If you liked it and want to help keep us going, and help us improve our recording process, you can support us at ⁠patreon.com/HeartReacts⁠. You can subscribe to the show wherever you get podcasts, and please do rate us on those podcast apps!

Our music comes from “Casual Outrage” by New Orleans-based Basher, featured on their new album May Day, coming May 31, 2024 to Sinking City Records. For more about the band, visit⁠ byronasher.com/basher⁠.

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Welcome to HEART REACTS, an advice podcast for all of us trying to remain emotionally functional through the collapse of late capitalism. 

This week, we take on a question on "polyamory? in this economy?" We muse about hierarchies within and around relationship styles, love when the rent is too damn high, and what it means to think politically around sex and gender and the economy. And then we look at a question that Sarah's been getting asked a lot on book tour: how do you grieve when the thing you're grieving isn't over, or never ends?

Stuff We Mention:

Ordinary Unhappiness Podcast, featuring Sabrina Strings on The End of Love

Natasha Lennard, The Uses and Abuses of Politics for Sex

Chal Ravens, Monogamy is Cool, Actually

Sarah, Beyond the Nuclear Family

Cara Daggett, Petro-Masculinity and the Politics of Climate Refusal

We are Craig Gent, a writer and researcher living in Leeds, and ⁠Sarah Jaffe⁠, a journalist and author based in New Orleans.

You can send us your questions at ⁠www.askmeanything.cc/heartreacts⁠. 

This episode was produced by, well, us! We apologize for any inconsistencies in audio quality. If you liked it and want to help keep us going, and help us improve our recording process, you can support us at ⁠patreon.com/HeartReacts⁠. You can subscribe to the show wherever you get podcasts, and please do rate us on those podcast apps!

Our music comes from “Casual Outrage” by New Orleans-based Basher, featured on their new album May Day, coming May 31, 2024 to Sinking City Records. For more about the band, visit⁠ byronasher.com/basher⁠.

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Welcome to HEART REACTS, an advice podcast for all of us trying to remain emotionally functional through the collapse of late capitalism. 

We are back and we have a special guest with us! This week, in lieu of giving YOU advice, we asked one of our favorite advice-givers, Brandy Jensen, writer, editor, and "Ask a Fuck-Up" columnist, to talk to us about the whole business of advising strangers. We discuss being a romantic in 2024, how to tell when you're in love, the current media fascination with polyamory, and some of Emma Goldman's best takes.

Stuff we mention in this episode:

Brandy Jensen on Twitter and her Substack advice column.

Brandy at the Yale Review: The Polycrisis

Emma Goldman, Jealousy: Causes and a Possible Cure

Emma Goldman, Marriage and Love

Toni Morrison, Jazz

Before Sunset

We are Craig Gent, a writer and researcher living in Leeds, and ⁠Sarah Jaffe⁠, a journalist and author based in New Orleans.

You can send us your questions at ⁠www.askmeanything.cc/heartreacts⁠. 

This episode was produced by, well, us! We apologize for any inconsistencies in audio quality. If you liked it and want to help keep us going, and help us improve our recording process, you can support us at ⁠patreon.com/HeartReacts⁠. You can subscribe to the show wherever you get podcasts, and please do rate us on those podcast apps!

Our music comes from “Casual Outrage” by New Orleans-based Basher, featured on their new album May Day, coming May 31, 2024 to Sinking City Records. For more about the band, visit⁠ byronasher.com/basher⁠.

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Hello and welcome to HEART REACTS, an advice podcast for all of us trying to remain emotionally functional through the collapse of late capitalism. 

This week, we're talking about what we owe each other as friends, as partners, as family, and as therapists. (We're still not therapists.) Our first question asks how to maintain close friendships when you're becoming a parent, and the second wonders if someone is using therapy to justify bad behavior.

Stuff we mention in this episode: Power of Self Care parody instagram

Eva Kittay, Love's Labor

Hannah Proctor, Burnout: The Emotional Experience of Political Defeat

David Graeber, Debt: The First 5000 Years

Jonah Hill and Sarah Brady's Relationship Sparks Conversation About How to Set Boundaries

We are Craig Gent, a writer and researcher living in Leeds, and ⁠Sarah Jaffe⁠, a journalist and author based in New Orleans.

You can send us your questions at ⁠www.askmeanything.cc/heartreacts⁠.

This episode was produced by, well, us! We apologize for any inconsistencies in audio quality. If you liked it and want to help keep us going, and help us improve our recording process, you can support us at ⁠patreon.com/HeartReacts⁠. You can subscribe to the show wherever you get podcasts, and please do rate us on those podcast apps!

Our music comes from “Casual Outrage” by New Orleans-based Basher, featured on their new album May Day, coming May 31, 2024 to Sinking City Records. For more about the band, visit⁠ byronasher.com/basher⁠.

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Hello and welcome to HEART REACTS, an advice podcast for all of us trying to remain emotionally functional through the collapse of late capitalism. 

On this episode, we dive into the world of work, and talk about when and how to unionize your workplace to manage your bad boss. And then we dig into the thorniest of questions (particularly in an election year): when and how to have conversations with relatives, friends, acquaintances, neighbors who hold political views you just can't countenance. When is it worth it, and when is it time to walk away? We have thoughts.

Referenced in this episode: British Trades Union Congress Find a Union page.

AFL-CIO Form a Union page.

We are Craig Gent, a writer and researcher living in Leeds, and ⁠Sarah Jaffe⁠, a journalist and author based in New Orleans.

You can send us your questions at ⁠www.askmeanything.cc/heartreacts⁠. 

This episode was produced by, well, us! We apologize for any inconsistencies in audio quality. If you liked it and want to help keep us going, and help us improve our recording process, you can support us at ⁠patreon.com/HeartReacts⁠. You can subscribe to the show wherever you get podcasts, and please do rate us on those podcast apps!

Our music comes from “Casual Outrage” by New Orleans-based Basher, featured on their new album May Day, coming May 31, 2024 to Sinking City Records. For more about the band, visit⁠ byronasher.com/basher⁠.

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Hello and welcome to HEART REACTS, an advice podcast for all of us trying to remain emotionally functional through the collapse of late capitalism. 

This week, we tackle two questions about difficult conversations and decide that talking about "having the bandwidth" for friends, lovers, difficulties, and all the rest of the struggles of life is a lousy metaphor. We suggest some other ways to imagine ourselves in community.

Mentioned in this episode:

Lily Scherlis, Boundary Issues. Note that this article is mentioned in the episode as being published in the Guardian, but that was actually a reprint and it was originally from our friends at Parapraxis Magazine.

Hannah Proctor, Burnout: The Emotional Experience of Political Defeat. And if you're getting this on the day it goes out, you can attend a live virtual event with Sarah discussing the book with Hannah.

Mark Fisher, Ghosts of My Life: Writings on Depression, Hauntology and Lost Futures

David Graeber, Debt: The First 5000 Years.

We are Craig Gent, a writer and researcher living in Leeds, and ⁠Sarah Jaffe⁠, a journalist and author based in New Orleans.

You can send us your questions at ⁠www.askmeanything.cc/heartreacts⁠. 

This episode was produced by, well, us! We apologize for any inconsistencies in audio quality. If you liked it and want to help keep us going, and help us improve our recording process, you can support us at ⁠patreon.com/HeartReacts⁠. You can subscribe to the show wherever you get podcasts, and please do rate us on those podcast apps!

Our music comes from “Casual Outrage” by New Orleans-based Basher, featured on their new album May Day, coming May 31, 2024 to Sinking City Records. For more about the band, visit⁠ byronasher.com/basher⁠.

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Welcome to HEART REACTS, an advice podcast for all of us trying to remain emotionally functional through the collapse of late capitalism. 

This week, we have a follow-up from a listener who shared a story of lost friendship, and then we consider the question of political breakups, maintaining friendships, and building the broader ecology of the Left.

Stuff We Talk About:

Alva Gotby, They Call It Love

Rodrigo Nunes, Neither Vertical Nor Horizontal

Jodi Dean, Comrade

About "Platformism"

ACFM Podcast: Political Commitment 

Sarah, "The Most Important Labor Story Right Now Is in Minnesota—It Might Be the Model We All Need"

We are Craig Gent, a writer and researcher living in Leeds, and ⁠Sarah Jaffe⁠, a journalist and author based in New Orleans.

Buy Craig's Book: Cyberboss

Buy Sarah's Book: From the Ashes

You can send us your questions at ⁠www.askmeanything.cc/heartreacts⁠.

This episode was produced by, well, us! We apologize for any inconsistencies in audio quality. If you liked it and want to help keep us going, and help us improve our recording process, you can support us at ⁠patreon.com/HeartReacts⁠. You can subscribe to the show wherever you get podcasts, and please do rate us on those podcast apps!

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