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Have you ever looked back at a relationship and thought, “Why didn’t I walk away sooner?” You’re not alone — and it’s not about weakness or denial. In this episode, Dr. Gemma Gladstone explores seven powerful psychological reasons we tend to ignore red flags in relationships — especially in the early stages.

Drawing on schema therapy, attachment theory, and decades of clinical experience, Gemma breaks down why patterns like schema chemistry, abandonment fears, self-doubt, and people-pleasing keep us stuck in emotionally harmful dynamics — even when we know something feels off.

Whether you’re dating, in a relationship, or reflecting on the past, this episode offers deep insight and gentle guidance to help you recognize what’s really going on beneath the surface.

You’ll learn:

• What schema chemistry is — and how it hijacks your attraction radar
• Why self-doubt and schemas like defectiveness or dependence make it hard to trust yourself
• The role of the abandonment schema in keeping you hooked
• How emotional deprivation creates low expectations in love
• Why people-pleasing, guilt, and over-responsibility make it hard to leave
• What it means to rewire your “love template”
• How to start showing up for yourself in new ways

Mentioned in this episode:

• The Red Flag Project Course — our online course to help you break toxic patterns and spot red flags early
• Love Wisely Group Coaching — now closed for enrollment. Join the waitlist here for the next round starting September 2025

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Let’s break the cycle — together.

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theredflagproject.com

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Meet Sophie, a 37-year-old woman who spent years feeling stuck in painful relationship cycles. Like many women I work with, she kept attracting emotionally unavailable or narcissistic men — despite knowing, deep down, that something wasn’t right.

In this episode, I’ll walk you through Sophie’s journey: from identifying her relational schemas (like abandonment, emotional deprivation, and subjugation), to understanding how her childhood shaped her “love template,” to the powerful moment she made a clear commitment to change.

We’ll explore how she:

• Finally ended a 7-year relationship that drained her emotionally
• Identified red flags and stopped rationalising harm
• Rebuilt self-trust by healing her inner vulnerable child
• Let go of the idea that she had a specific “type”
• Started dating with emotional clarity, rather than fear or old patterns

This transformation is exactly the kind of work we do inside Love Wisely. If you’ve ever asked yourself “Why do I keep ending up in the same kind of relationship?” — this episode is for you.

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💻Schema Circle Vault – Get your essential schema therapy resources here!

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goodmood.com.au

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theredflagproject.com

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Happy New Year! In this first episode of 2025, Gemma invites you to reflect on the life scripts and recurring patterns that no longer serve you and take intentional steps toward rewriting them. Life scripts are the unconscious stories and patterns that shape how we think, feel, and behave, often holding us back from living authentically and joyfully.

By unpacking and letting go of these outdated narratives, we create space for personal growth, healthier relationships, and a life aligned with our true selves.

In This Episode, Gemma Discusses:

• What Are Life Scripts?
  • How they differ from schemas and influence our decisions and behaviors.
  • Examples of common life scripts, such as people-pleasing, perfectionism, and self-doubt.
• The Connection Between Life Scripts and Schemas:
  • How schemas like abandonment, defectiveness, and unrelenting standards often underpin these scripts.
• Three Common Life Scripts:
  1. People-Pleasing: "I need to make everyone happy to be loved."
  2. Perfectionism: "If I don’t do this perfectly, I’m not good enough."
  3. Self-Doubt: "I’m not capable or as good as others."
• How to Let Go of Limiting Life Scripts:
  • Identify the Script: Recognize the recurring patterns or schemas that are holding you back.
  • Visualize Change: Imagine life without the script—what would it look like?
  • Create a Mantra: Use affirmations to focus your intention and remind yourself of your growth.
  • Take Small Steps: Start with achievable actions, like setting a boundary or reframing a critical thought.
• Real-Life Examples:
  • Gemma shares powerful success stories of clients who rewrote their scripts and transformed their lives.

As we begin 2025, this episode is your invitation to reflect, reset, and take steps toward letting go of the old scripts holding you back.

P.S. If you’re ready to go deeper and tackle your life scripts with focused 1:1 coaching, Gemma has limited spots available for new clients. Reach out at reception@goodmood.com.au to enquire. 

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goodmood.com.au

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theredflagproject.com

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Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast!

In this episode, Gemma shares her experience and impressions of working with clients who have had the unfortunate experience of being 'diagnosed' with "treatment-resistant depression".  Gemma believes this is a dangerous and disempowering label which does nothing to help people get to the bottom of what's driving their depression. 

Gemma has been doing therapy with people in a clinical practice setting since 2001. In 2005, she finished  an eleven-year association with a tertiary referral clinic for mood disorders, where she worked in various positions in a clinical research capacity.   During those eleven years, Gemma came in contact with hundreds of people referred for depression. Many of those patients had some type of mood disorder, like major depressive or bipolar disorder, and they were often referred to as treatment-resistant.

In this episode, she shares her thoughts centering around people coming to therapy when they have been spending years struggling with a mood disorder like chronic depression or recurrent bouts of a major depressive episodes. She talks mainly about the psychological nature/risk factors and the psycho-social aspects of depression.

Recommended books: Reinventing Your Life  by Jeffrey Young and Complex PTSD by Pete Walker

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😊Good Mood Hub Website
goodmood.com.au

🚩The Red Flag Project Website
theredflagproject.com

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Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast!

In this episode, Jen Hoey joins us as our guest on the podcast. This episode is the first in a series where we will be discussing the dangers that our kids face online. In the series, we will be highlighting some pertinent things that we need to think about and look out for in that area.

Over the years, Jen has developed a passionate interest in the topic of kids online. And she has become knowledgeable about how to protect kids in the online space. Unfortunately, her interest stems from a personal experience with her daughter. In this episode, Jen will tell us the story of that experience to highlight what goes on with kids online. 

In response to what happened with her daughter, Jen started a Facebook group called Not My Kid, where she shares lots of information about the problems with our children and their online experiences and how to protect them. Be sure to stay tuned today to hear Jen’s story and learn how to protect your kids in the online space.

Links and resources:

Jen's Story:-
Online predators: Brave mums shares her true story | North Shore Mums
https://www.facebook.com/groups/NotMyKid.parentgroup/

The Cyber Safety lady:-
https://thecybersafetylady.com.au/

Gabe Deem, Reboot Nation (discussion around pornography)
https://www.rebootnation.org/

General Recommended Books:
Glow Kids, Nicholas Kardaras, PhD
Breaking the Trance, George Lynn with Cynthia Johnson
The Collapse of Parenting, Leonard Sax, MD, PhD
Ten-Ager, Madonna King

Dateline, Digital Predators:-
https://www.sbs

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Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast!

We have been getting some comments, queries, and questions in our mailbox recently. So in this episode, we will be introducing a new mailbox segment that we will have on the podcast from time to time. 

With this podcast, we strive to raise awareness about some common topics that many of us have to deal with. So, if you are struggling with something or have an issue, the chances are that many others will be in the same boat. One of the things we received in our mailbox was an email from someone who listened to our podcast about narcissistic parents. In her email, she reflected on what that podcast meant for her regarding her narcissistic parent. She has kindly permitted us to read her email out on the show today and talk about it. Be sure to stay tuned to find out what our listener had to say.

Recommended reading:

Reinventing Your Life (A self-help book for schema therapy) by Jeffrey E. Young and Janet S. Klosko

Children of the Self-Absorbed by Nina W. Brown

Disarming the Narcissist by Wendy Behary

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😊Good Mood Hub Website
goodmood.com.au

🚩The Red Flag Project Website
theredflagproject.com

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Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast!

Last week, our Red Flag Project went out, and what we talk about in this episode of the podcast is related to that. We will be talking about the pleasures and pitfalls of online dating today. The dating process can be hard for some women to live through. It can be quite an emotional rollercoaster, and it can also trigger lots of schemas.

The world of online dating is the way to go right now. However, people looking for partners are doing something hard because they have to maintain a state of hopefulness and willingness. And they need to face date after date, week after week, trying to find what feels like a needle in a haystack because it is not easy to find a guy who is a good match and who can give a woman what she wants. Some women come across all kinds of problems and difficulties in themselves, and the guys they meet could also make it difficult for various reasons. That makes it very hard at times to maintain your emotional equilibrium. Be sure to stay tuned today to learn how to avoid some of the pitfalls in the current world of online dating.

Much of what we talk about in this episode pertains to both men and women. However, this podcast is geared mainly towards women to follow our Red Flag course.

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🩷Love Wisely - Doors are now closed. Join the WAITLIST to be the first to know when the doors open for the next cohort (Sept, 25).

🚩The Red Flag Project online course >> Get instant access.

💻Schema Circle Vault – Get your essential schema therapy resources here!

😊Good Mood Hub Website
goodmood.com.au

🚩The Red Flag Project Website
theredflagproject.com

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Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast!

We have been talking a lot about narcissism on the podcast recently because we have found that one of the main themes that people come to therapy with falls within the realm of narcissism. Coming to terms with narcissistic parents is a big issue that many people face, and it can be hard to do.

In our last episode, we spoke about the nature of the different dynamics of relationships with a narcissistic parent. In this episode, we will be talking about getting to the point of seeing your narcissistic parents for who they are and accepting them just as they are. Acceptance does not mean approval, however. Nor does it mean condoning someone’s unacceptable behavior or letting them off the hook. Acceptance is about accepting the reality of what is. And that can be very hard to do because it brings up many emotions around grief and loss. Listen in today to learn about coming to terms with having a narcissistic parent and the process you need to go through around that.

Books mentioned:
Will I ever Be Good Enough by Caroline McBride
Disarming the Narcissist by Wendy Behary
Children of Self-Absorbed by Nina Brown

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🩷Love Wisely - Doors are now closed. Join the WAITLIST to be the first to know when the doors open for the next cohort (Sept, 25).

🚩The Red Flag Project online course >> Get instant access.

💻Schema Circle Vault – Get your essential schema therapy resources here!

😊Good Mood Hub Website
goodmood.com.au

🚩The Red Flag Project Website
theredflagproject.com

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Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast!

From the annoying to the serious, Justine and Gemma focus on Red Flags in the world of dating and relationships. 

In this episode Gemma and Justine introduce their new online course.  A short, affordable course for women who want to sharpen their radar for detecting early signs of emotional unavailability, relationship disinterest , narcissism and even more pathological or potentially dangerous signs in a new or potential partner.  

When getting into a new relationship, there are many signs that indicate whether it is going to work. In today’s episode, we share the most common red flags you will see when entering into a new relationship with a partner who many be not good for you.  We tend to see many women getting stuck in these relationships. Prevention is better than cure!

Some of the most common flags we see in emotionally unavailable men is ghosting or love-bombing. While both on different ends of the spectrum, both indicate the need for control and the lack of commitment. Many of these relationships have signs such as space invaders or suffocating attention in the beginning. Due to the nature of these relationships, they are often not sustainable, and can lead to physical or emotional abuse. We are very passionate about helping women avoid these cycles, and that’s why we started the Red Flag Project. The Red Flag Project is a course designed to help you improve your relationships and avoid toxic interactions. If you find yourself struggling with any of these issues, join us in this episode for more information.

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🩷Love Wisely - Doors are now closed. Join the WAITLIST to be the first to know when the doors open for the next cohort (Sept, 25).

🚩The Red Flag Project online course >> Get instant access.

💻Schema Circle Vault – Get your essential schema therapy resources here!

😊Good Mood Hub Website
goodmood.com.au

🚩The Red Flag Project Website
theredflagproject.com

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Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast!

We have another podcast in our series on narcissism for you. For this episode we will stay with the topic of the narcissistic parent and discuss the types of relationships you might be having with your narcissistic parent and the kind of dynamics you might find within that relationship. Clinically, we tend to see four categories of those kinds of relationship dynamics. In this episode, we will go into some detail about each of those categories. Stay tuned for more.

The first dynamic that we see quite often is where you get stuck in constantly clashing with your parent. In the second category, you don’t fight very much with your parent, you tend to accept things as they are, and you do a lot of internalizing. The third category is the estrangement category, where we see those who have deliberately chosen to cut themselves off from their narcissistic parent. And the fourth category is where you attempt to manage your narcissistic parent. Sometimes, some of those categories tend to overlap. Be sure to listen in today to find out more detail about each of the four different categories of relationship dynamics that you might find yourself in with your narcissistic parent. 

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🩷Love Wisely - Doors are now closed. Join the WAITLIST to be the first to know when the doors open for the next cohort (Sept, 25).

🚩The Red Flag Project online course >> Get instant access.

💻Schema Circle Vault – Get your essential schema therapy resources here!

😊Good Mood Hub Website
goodmood.com.au

🚩The Red Flag Project Website
theredflagproject.com

🌻Help support our continued production. Are you a regular listener who loves our show? Consider supporting us with a contribution each month to help us keep going!