What do I need to actually balance? Why is balance so important? How can we achieve more balance? Listen and find out.

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[01:00] A metaphor for balance
[02:23] Social relationships
[02:53] Mirror neurons
[03:53] Bowling et al., “What makes your life good?”
[06:13] Creating space for social relationships
[07:31] Meaning and passion
[13:20] Overwork
[15:41] Disconnecting from work
[17:43] Passions
[18:50] Creating space

References:

• Schnell, T. (2011). Individual differences in meaning-making: Considering the variety of sources of meaning, their density and diversity. Personality and Individual Differences, 51(5), 667-673. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.paid.2011.06.006
• Uddin, L. Q., Iacoboni, M., Lange, C., & Keenan, J. P. (2007). The self and social cognition: The role of cortical midline structures and mirror neurons. Trends in Cognitive Sciences, 11(4), 153-157. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.tics.2007.01.001
• Kuroda, S., & Yamamoto, I. (2019). Why Do People Overwork at the Risk of Impairing Mental. Journal of Happiness Studies, 20(5), 1519–1538. https://doi.org/10.1007/s10902-018-0008-x
• SONNENTAG, S., & FRITZ, C. (2015). Recovery from job stress: The stressor-detachment model as an integrative framework. Journal of Organizational Behavior, 36(S1), S72-S103. https://doi.org/10.1002/job.1924
• Bridekirk, J., Turcotte, J., & Oddson, B. (2016). Harmonious passions support cognitive resources. Motivation and Emotion, 40(4), 646–654. https://doi.org/10.1007/s11031-016-9561-y

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Today we are going to talk about three different papers assessing: healthy selfishness, optimism, and acceptance. These three papers provide the basis for three actions in A Happier Year. Let's dive into these papers and get a sneak peek of what's in A Happier Year. 

[00:00] Intro

[02:36] Healthy Selfishness

[06:25] Looking forward to tomorrow

[09:25] Is anything bugging you right now?

 

References:

• Kaufman, S. B., & Jauk, E. (2020). Healthy Selfishness and Pathological Altruism: Measuring Two Paradoxical Forms of Selfishness. Frontiers in psychology, 11, 1006. https://doi.org/10.3389/fpsyg.2020.01006
• Littman-Ovadia, H., & Nir, D. (2013;2014;). Looking forward to tomorrow: The buffering effect of a daily optimism intervention. The Journal of Positive Psychology, 9(2), 122-136. doi:10.1080/17439760.2013.853202
• Ford, B. Q., Lam, P., John, O. P., & Mauss, I. B. (2018). The psychological health benefits of accepting negative emotions and thoughts: Laboratory, diary, and longitudinal evidence. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 115(6), 1075–1092. https://doi.org/10.1037/pspp0000157

Those small interactions you have with strangers have quite a few hidden benefits!

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[00:42] Talk to strangers on your commute, it’ll make you happier

[07:15] Little social interactions make us happier

[09:19] Introverts still need to talk 

[11:45] Affective forecasting, the reason we don’t think we’ll enjoy eating spaghetti 

[13:28] Smile at strangers, it makes them feel included

[14:18] Put your phone down, you’ll smile more

References

• Epley, N., & Schroeder, J. (2014). Mistakenly Seeking Solitude, Journal of Experimental Psychology, 143(5), 1980–1999.
• Sandstrom, G. M., & Dunn, E. W. (2014). Is Efficiency Overrated?: Minimal Social Interactions Lead to Belonging and Positive Affect, Social Psychological and Personality Science, 5(4), 437–442. https://doi.org/10.1177/1948550613502990
• Zelenski, J. M., Whelan, D. C., Nealis, L. J., Besner, C. M., Santoro, M. S., & Wynn, J. E. (2013). Personality and Affective Forecasting : Trait Introverts Underpredict the Hedonic Benefits of Acting Extraverted, Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 104(6), 1092–1108. https://doi.org/10.1037/a0032281
• Wesselmann, E. D., Cardoso, F. D., Slater, S., & Williams, K. D. (2012). To Be Looked at as Though Air : Civil Attention Matters. Psychological Science, 23(2) 166 –168. https://doi.org/10.1177/0956797611427921
• Kushlev, K., Hunter, J. F., Proulx, J., Pressman, S. D., & Dunn, E. (2019). Computers in Human Behavior Smartphones reduce smiles between strangers. Computers in Human Behavior, 91, 12–16. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.chb.2018.09.023

 

Huge thanks to Ashley for suggesting this week's topic! :)

How do we stay happy while working?

 

[01:27] Overworking and happiness

[07:25] Self-employment

[10:20] Work Success

[14:57] National well-being

References:

• Kuroda, S., & Yamamoto, I. (2019). Why Do People Overwork at the Risk of Impairing Mental. Journal of Happiness Studies, 20(5), 1519–1538. https://doi.org/10.1007/s10902-018-0008-x
• Bujacz, A., Eib, C., & Toivanen, S. (2019). Not All Are Equal : A Latent Profile Analysis of Well ‑ Being Among the Self ‑ Employed. Journal of Happiness Studies, (0123456789). https://doi.org/10.1007/s10902-019-00147-1
• Laguna, M., & Razmus, W. (2018). When I Feel My Business Succeeds , I Flourish : Reciprocal Relationships Between Positive Orientation , Work Engagement , and Entrepreneurial Success. Journal of Happiness Studies, (0123456789). https://doi.org/10.1007/s10902-018-0065-1
• Ali, S., Mansoob, S., & Papyrakis, E. (2019). Happiness and the Resource Curse. Journal of Happiness Studies, (0123456789). https://doi.org/10.1007/s10902-019-00080-3

Social support is so important. It can even impact your physiology. 

 

[01:15] Friends make life good

[03:22] What is social support?

[07:40] How can social support make you happier?

[08:55] The biology of social support

[11:54] Hugs

 

References:

• Siedlecki, K.L., Salthouse, T.A., Oishi, S. and Sheena, J. (2014) The Relationship Between Social Support and Subjective Well- Being Across Age. Social Indicators Research, 117, 561-576. https://doi.org/10.1007/s11205-013-0361-4
• Hooker, E.D., Zoccola, P.M., and Dickerson S.S. (2018). Toward a Biology of Social Support. In Snyder,  C.R., Lopez, S.J., Edwards, L.M., and Marques, S.C. (Eds.), The Oxford Handbook of Positive Psychology (3rd ed.), doi:10.1093/oxfordhb/9780199396511.013.41 
• Cohen, S., Janicki-Deverts, D., Turner, R.B., & Doyle, W.J. (2015). Does hugging provide stress-buffering social support? A study of susceptibility to upper respiratory infection and illness. Psychological science, 26(2), 135-47 .

 

 

How can valuing things in our future make us happier?

 

[01:06] What is temporal discounting?

[03:33] Those that discount the future and those that do not

[06:00] Happiness and temporal discounting

[09:07] Expecting something negative

[11:30] So what can we do to stop discounting the future?

 

References

• Story, G. W., Vlaev, I., Seymour, B., Darzi, A., & Dolan, R. J. (2014). Does temporal discounting explain unhealthy behavior ? A systematic review and reinforcement learning perspective, 8(March), 1–20. https://doi.org/10.3389/fnbeh.2014.00076
• Kennedy, J. (2019). Subjective Wellbeing and the Discount Rate. Journal of Happiness Studies, (0123456789). https://doi.org/10.1007/s10902-019-00096-9
• Golub, S. A., Gilbert, D. T., & Wilson, T. D. (2009). Anticipating One’s Troubles: The Costs and Benefits of Negative Expectations. Emotion, 9(2), 277–281. https://doi.org/10.1037/a0014716
• Kim, H., Schnall, S., & White, M. P. (2013). Similar Psychological Distance Reduces Temporal Discounting. https://doi.org/10.1177/0146167213488214

 

Why are we sometimes less satisfied even though we have more? The peak-end rule can explain that!

 

[00:00] Introduction

[00:55] How can more pain be better?

[03:15] Quality of years, not quantity

[06:39] The order matters

[08:44] Why we sometimes are satisfied with less

[11:46] Vacation and happiness

 

References

• Kahneman, D., Fredrickson, B. L., Schreiber, C. A., & Redelmeier, D. A. (1993). When More Pain Is Preferred To Less: Adding a Better End, 4(6), 401–405.
• Diener, E., Wirtz, D., & Oishi, S. (2001). End Effects of Rated Life Quality: The James Dean Effect. Psychological Science, 12(2), 124–128. https://doi.org/10.1111/1467-9280.00321
• Do, A. M., Rupert, A. V., & Wolford, G. (2008). Evaluations of pleasurable experiences: The peak-end rule. Psychonomic Bulletin and Review, 15(1), 96–98. https://doi.org/10.3758/PBR.15.1.96
• Kemp, S., Burt, C.D., & Furneaux, L. (2008). A test of the peak – end rule. Memory and Cognition, 36(1), 132-138. https://doi.org/10.3758/MC.36.1.132

Let’s dive into what adventure is and how adventure contributes to your well-being.

 

[00:35] Intro

[02:25] Family adventures

[08:58] Adventure involves risk

[11:05] Outdoor recreation and connection to places

[12:52] Adventure and well-being

 

References

• Pomfret, G., & Varley, P. (2019). Families at leisure outdoors : well-being through adventure. Leisure Studies, 1–15. https://doi.org/10.1080/02614367.2019.1600574

• Kulczycki, C., & Lück, M. (2009). Outdoor Adventure Tourism, Wellness, And Place Attachment. In : Wellness and Tourism: Mind, Body, Spirit, Place (pp. 165-176). Cognizant Communications.

As a customer, your emotions can rub off on employees. As an employee, you can catch others emotions. Learn how this can affect you. As a customer, your emotions can rub off on employees. As an employee, you can catch others emotions. Learn how this can affect you.

 

[00:00] Introduction

[01:12] Your attitude can influence your customer experience. 

[05:23] Deep acting and reframing the situation

[08:00] Angry customers

[11:00] Fun detour: Psychopaths & emotional contagion

 

References

 

• Liu, X., Chi, N., & Gremler, D. D. (2019). Emotion Cycles in Services : Emotional Contagion and Emotional Labor Effects. Journal of Service Research, 22(10), 285–300. https://doi.org/10.1177/1094670519835309

• Hennig-thurau, T., Groth, M., & Gremler, D. D. (2006). Are All Smiles Created Equal ? How Emotional Contagion and Emotional Labor Affect Service Relationships. Journal of Marketing, 57–73. https://doi.org/10.1509/jmkg.70.3.58

• Dallimore, K. S., Sparks, B. A., & Butcher, K. (2007). The Influence of Angry Customer Outbursts on Service Providers ’ Facial Displays and Affective States. Journal of Service Research, 10(1), 78–92. https://doi.org/10.1177/1094670507304694

 

• Luckhurst, C., Hatfield, E., & Gelvin-smith, C. (2017). Articles Capacity for Empathy and Emotional Contagion in Those With Psychopathic Personalities. Interpersona. https://doi.org/10.5964/ijpr.v11i1.247

 

Emotions are contagious! Learn how and why so that you can be aware.

 

[00:00] Introduction

[01:06] Overview of how emotions are contagious

[03:02] What is emotional contagion?

[07:54] Exaggerating your facial expression

[08:54] Botox and emotions

[12:15] Talking on the phone and catching emotions

 

References

• Hatfield, E., Cacioppo, J. T., Rapson, R. L., Hatfield, E., Cacioppo, J. T., & Rapson, R. L. (1993). Emotional Contagion. Current Directions, 2(3), 96–99.

 

• Hatfield, E., Bensman, L., Thornton, P. D., & Rapson, R. L. (2014). New Perspectives on Emotional Contagion : A Review of Classic and Recent Research on Facial Mimicry and Contagion. Interpersona, https://doi.org/10.5964/ijpr.v8i2.162

 

• Neal, D. T., & Chartrand, T. L. (2011). Embodied emotion perception: Amplifying and dampening facial feedback modulates emotion perception accuracy. Social Psychological and Personality Science, 2, 673-678. doi:10.1177/1948550611406138
• Coyne, J. C. (1976). Depression and the response of others. Journal of Abnormal Psychology, 85, 186–193.

Empathy is walking in someone’s shoes. Compassion puts your empathy into action.

 

[00:21] What is compassion?

[05:07] Empathy vs Compassion 

[07:45] Compassion can make you happier

[09:50] Compassion can reduce anxiety

[11:50] Loving kindness meditation

 

References

• Singer, T., & Klimecki, O. M. (2014). Empathy and compassion. Current Biology, 24(1), 875–878. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.cub.2014.06.054
• Mongrain, M., Chin, J. M., & Shapira, L. B. (2011). Practicing Compassion Increases Happiness and Self-Esteem, Journal of Happiness Studies, 12(6), 963–981. https://doi.org/10.1007/s10902-010-9239-1
• Demorest, A. P. (2019). Happiness , love , and compassion as antidotes for anxiety Happiness , love , and compassion as antidotes for anxiety. The Journal of Positive Psychology. https://doi.org/10.1080/17439760.2019.1627399
• Fredrickson, B.L., Cohn, M.A., Coffey, K.A., Pek, J., and Finkel, S.M. (2008). Open hearts build lives: positive emotions, induced through loving- kindness meditation, build consequential personal resources. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology. 95, 1045–1062.

We can alter how we perceive time. Maybe you feel like time is really scarce, learn about the psychology of how to make time feel more plentiful!

[00:00] Intro

[01:49] Time and awe

[05:34] Time perception

[09:29] Buying time

[11:50] Making your life seem longer

[15:30] What did we learn today?

 

References:

• Rudd, M., Vohs, K. D., & Aaker, J. (2012). Awe Expands People’s Perception of Time, Alters Decision Making, and Enhances Well-Being. Psychological Science 23(10) 1130 –1136. https://doi.org/10.1177/0956797612438731
• Niiya, Y. (2019). My Time, Your Time, or Our Time ? Time Perception and Its Associations with Interpersonal Goals and Life Outcomes. Journal of Happiness Studies, 20(5), 1439–1455. https://doi.org/10.1007/s10902-018-0007-y
• Whillans, A. V, Dunn, E. W., Smeets, P., Bekkers, R., & Norton, M. I. (2017). Buying time promotes happiness. PNAS 114(32), 8523–8527. https://doi.org/10.1073/pnas.1706541114
• Zhang, J. W., & Howell, R. T. (2011). Do time perspectives predict unique variance in life satisfaction beyond personality traits ? Personality and Individual Differences, 50(8), 1261–1266. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.paid.2011.02.021
• Wittmann, M., & Lehnhoff, S. (2005). Age effects in perception of time. Psychological Reports, 97, 921-935. https://doi.org/10.2466/PR0.97.7.921-935

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Today we are learning about active leisure! Why do we feel so “blah” after watching Netflix and what can we do instead? What psychological needs are we missing out on?

[00:30] Something exciting!

[02:30] Active leisure vs passive leisure

[04:35] The benefits of active leisure

[06:25] How does active leisure benefit us (vs passive leisure)

[11:10] An example of active leisure: Rock climbing

[13:05] Finding active leisure that suits you

[14:06] What are you actually tired of?

[15:54] A Happier Year is on Kickstarter! bit.ly/ahappieryear 

 

References:

• Hu, X., Barber, L. K., & Santuzzi, A. M. (2020). Does active leisure improve worker well-being? an experimental daily diary approach. Journal of Happiness Studies, doi:10.1007/s10902-020-00305-w
• Kuykendall, L., Lei, X., Zhu, Z., & Hu, X. (2020). Leisure choices and employee Well‐Being: Comparing need fulfillment and Well‐Being during TV and other leisure activities. Applied Psychology : Health and Well-being, 12(2), 532-558. doi:10.1111/aphw.12196

How do we describe awe? I’m sure you’ve all experienced awe, but what exactly is it and why does awe contribute to a happy life?

[00:00] Introduction 

[02:13] What is awe? The six facets.

[08:40] Awe and happiness

[10:20] Awe and materialism

[13:35] What elicits awe?

Do likes and comments affect your happiness? What about aimlessly scrolling through your social media accounts? Does social media really improve your life?

[00:44] Intro

[02:30] Online pro-social behaviour...linked to prosocial behaviour in real life

[05:36] Social networks compliment your real life. Not a replacement. 

[08:17] Passive social network use.

[13:27] Likes and comments

[15:51] Summary

[16:50] Outro

How can we deal with our regrets so we can move on and be happy?

 

[00:00] Intro

[00:47] Better to have loved and lost: It’s better to regret the things you did

[06:35] Regret and quality of life

[10:25] How to handle your regrets!

[12:48] You’re bad at predicting regret: Affective forecasting

[15:03] How to fix that.

They say money isn’t everything, but what does the science actually say about money and happiness?

 

[00:00] Intro

[00:55] Wanting more, is it a trap?

[04:53] Financial stress can impact your happiness

[08:40] Materialism, what is it?

[14:04] Buy experiences instead of things.

Forest bathing...it’s not taking a shower in nature, it’s taking in the atmosphere of the forest. Learn some of the benefits and how to get the most out of your nature experience.

 

[00:00] Intro

[00:52] A forest bathing “how to”

[02:38] Slow down

[03:12] It’s about the journey

[04:36] Physiological benefits from nature

[06:21] Other nature benefits

[07:53] A bit of aromatherapy: Smell some nature

[09:57] Urban parks

[11:15] Plants

[12:06] Touching nature

[14:00] Listen to nature

Want a natural remedy with no frills, no chemicals, no additives? Best of all, it's free. Being in nature can make you happier and can even do some great things for your body.

[01:50] Noticing nature

[04:15] Why can nature make us happier?

[04:45] Biophilia hypothesis

[05:55] Stress reduction theory

[09:16] Attention restoration theory

[10:51] Combine nature with social interaction and exercise

[13:00] Urban parks also are a part of nature!

[15:18] The perils of noise pollution

[16:00] Outro

Zest is being energetic, enthusiastic, and excited about your life and things in it. Learn how zest can help you in your career and how to cultivate zest.

 

[00:52] What is zest?

[02:27] Zest and happiness

[02:45] Those that are zestful, are more likely to be satisfied with their work

[04:50] Zest and work commitment

[06:40] Zest and healthy ambitious

[08:06] Zest combats burnout

[09:06] How do we cultivate zest?

[12:07] Be adventurous

Self-care isn’t sitting on your couch, watching Netflix, and eating a pint of ice-cream. Self-care involves challenge yourself, improving yourself, and doing some things that you don’t want to do.

 

[00:00] Introduction

[03:55] Self-care is refueling

[05:34] Self-care is a habit

[06:53] Self-care by challenge

[08:44] Self-care by self-improvement

[10:30] Benefits of self-improvement: You’ll take feedback better

[12:19] Self-care by working on your passion

There are many ways to be creative, it's not all about painting a picture. Learn how to flex the creative muscles in your brain!

 

[00:34] What is creativity?

[02:07] Everyday creativity

[02:43] Why do we have negative stereotypes about creative people?

[04:10] Creativity and happiness are actually correlated

[05:20] Broaden and build theory of emotion

[06:20] How can I put this to use? Flex your creativity muscle!

[08:00] Creativity at work

[09:40] How to foster creativity and keep that creative spark burning

“Humility is not handsome people trying to believe they are ugly and clever people trying to believe they are fools." -Buri

[00:00] What is humility?

[00:00] Ingredients for humility

[00:00] The hot sauce study! Humility can make you nice & tolerant.

[00:00] Intellectual humility

[00:00] Cultural humility

[00:00] Social humility

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What is joy? We dig into how we define joy and talk about a strategy to add more joy to our lives.

[00:00] Intro

[1:10] Exciting Happycast news!

[02:28] What is joy?

[05:25] Joy as an emotion 

[08:32] Joy as more than an emotion

[11:25] Appreciative joy 

[13:55] Joy journal

[15:08] Tears of joy

[20:05] Outro

 

References

 

• Casioppo, D. (2019). The cultivation of joy: practices from the Buddhist tradition, positive psychology, and yogic philosophy. The Journal of Positive Psychology, 1–7. doi:10.1080/17439760.2019.1685577 
• Emmons, R. A. (2020). Joy: An introduction to this special issue. The Journal of Positive Psychology, 15(1), 1–4. https://doi.org/10.1080/17439760.2019.1685580
• Zeng, X., Sun, Y., Deng, Y., & Oei, T. P. S. (2019). Appreciative joy rooted in Chinese culture: Its relationship with strengths in values in action. The Journal of Positive Psychology, 1–10.
• Zeng, X., Wang, R., Oei, T. P. S., & Leung, F. Y. K. (2018). Heart of Joy: a Randomized Controlled Trail Evaluating the Effect of an Appreciative Joy Meditation Training on Subjective Well-Being and Attitudes. Mindfulness. doi:10.1007/s12671-018-0992-2 
• Matthew Kuan Johnson (2020) Joy: a review of the literature and suggestions for future directions, The Journal of Positive Psychology, 15:1, 5-24, DOI: 10.1080/17439760.2019.1685581

• Oriana R. Aragón & John A. Bargh (2017): “So Happy I Could Shout!” and “So Happy I Could Cry!” Dimorphous expressions represent and communicate motivational aspects of positive emotions, Cognition and Emotion, DOI: 10.1080/02699931.2017.1301388
• Matthew Kuan Johnson (2020) Joy: a review of the literature and suggestions for future directions, The Journal of Positive Psychology, 15:1, 5-24, DOI: 10.1080/17439760.2019.1685581
• Aragón, O. R., & Clark, M. S. (2018). "tears of joy" & "smiles of joy" prompt distinct patterns of interpersonal emotion regulation. Cognition and Emotion, 32(5), 913-940. doi:10.1080/02699931.2017.1360253’

What you say to yourself matters! How can we change what we say to ourselves? How can this help us?

[00:35] What is self-talk?

[02:00] There’s many kinds of self talk, but not all are good.

[02:51] Too much self-critical self-talk is bad

[04:15] The windshield and rear view mirror metaphor

[05:45] A high level of self-reinforcing self-talk is good

[06:48] Study: how positive and negative self talk can impact stressful situations

[10:47] Super positive self-talk CAN be harmful if you have low-self esteem

[13:50] Steps to better self-talk

[17:45] How self talk can get you to where you want

[18:30] Outtro

Emotions can be good and bad. Learn some steps on how to understand your own emotions so that you aren’t a slave to your own emotions.

[00:36] Intro

[01:15] Emotions are good

[01:45] Emotions are bad

[02:24] Emotional intelligence helps keep you in control

[03:40] What is emotional intelligence?

[07:54] But I suck with people, can you even increase your EQ? YES!

[10:07] Emotional intelligence and coping

[13:43] Social relationships and emotional intelligence

We should be curious about what other people have to say, and about what other people think. You don’t have to agree with them, you just have to be genuinely interested. Let people share their interests, hopes, dreams, and desires with you, it can make a world of a difference.

[01:08] Intro

[01:16] What is social curiosity?

[02:40] Social curiosity helps you understand others better

[04:16] Social curiosity can help you in conversation too

[08:13] Why does social curiosity matter? Reciprocity!

[11:19] Curiosity in your relationships

[13:41] Be interested in what other people have to say.

 

Curiosity will help you thrive and flourish in life. Find out why, and how to unleash your childlike wonder.

[01:00] Intro/story

[03:23] What exactly is curiosity?

[03:51] Types of curiosity: Curiosity can be driven by many things.

[09:30] Travel and curiosity

[10:44] Curious people are happier

[14:27] Curiosity leads to personal growth

[15:39] Kids and curiosity

[16:47] Curiosity helps you leave your comfort zone

[17:45] Curiosity and goal attainment

[19:26] How do I become more curious?

[00:00] Outtro

 

You can easily become more patient. In this episode, there are multiple science based tips and tricks on how to become more patient in your everyday life.

[00:00] Intro

[00:50] What is patience? The character strength of patience.

[02:46] What are the benefits of being patient?

[04:48] How do I become more patient?

[10:12] Patience and your goals

[13:32] What else can I do to become more patient? Making time drag by less.

[14:48] Can you be too patient?

Hope doesn’t appear out of thin air. It’s something you create for yourself by finding a viable pathway, and taking at least one tiny step to get to what you want.

[01:00] What is hope?

[02:33] What about false hope?

[05:10] Why does hope matter?

[07:15] Hope will help you think positively

[08:48] Hope in the face of failure

[12:07] Hope and illness

[14:24] How can I have more hope?

 

Why are we so hung up on what we aren’t good at? Why not focus on what we are already great at? I’ll talk about 24 strengths you could be using, and some science proven ways to foster those strengths.

[00:20] Introduction

[02:52] Using your strengths is important

[04:42] Study: My Weaknesses Will Go Away, but My Strengths Are Here to Stay.

[06:53] 24 strengths

[09:57] Why these 24 strengths stick with you wherever you go.

[12:13] Are some strengths better than others?

[13:10] What are some examples of things you can do to improve your strengths?

[15:50] There are more than 24 strengths though

[17:00] How to use your strengths even in business and entrepreneurship

When bad things happen, you should feel upset. Don’t turn that frown upside down...right away. You heard that right. Science shows suppressing negative emotions is bad for you. Learn the science of negative emotions, and why being okay with feeling bad doesn’t contradict anything about positive psychology. Rather, there’s a harmony between the positive and negative.

[00:00] Intro

[01:54] Study: Avoiding negative emotions = less happy

[05:12] Negative emotions are like pain

[05:32] Study: Avoiding negative emotions = more lonely

[07:20] Study: Suppressing negative emotions is bad

[09:15] Travel and negative emotions

[10:48] Confirmation bias: If you’re expecting everything to suck, you will find evidence.

[13:00] Study: Here’s what’s bad about confirmation bias

[14:33] The reticular activating system: train your brain

Courage means doing something despite your fear. Courageous acts don’t have to be grand, you can be courageous everyday of your life.

[00:00] Intro

[00:34] What is courage?

[03:16] 4 dimensions of courage

[06:22] Values & beliefs shape courage

[07:00] Travel and courage

[11:00] Our previous courageous acts shape the story we tell ourselves

[12:15] Recalling previous experiences facing fears makes you more likely to face fears again

[14:25] Courage may be stronger for things that are important to you

[16:30] Broaden and build: Being courageous opens us up.

Journaling can help you understand yourself and your life. What hidden stresses are you carrying around that you could let go of? What positive things can you write about? Learn the benefits of journaling, why it works, and how to journal in this episode!

[00:45] What is journaling?

[02:24] Why does it matter and how does it work?

[03:46] Self-reflection and insight

[05:04] Insight, but not self-reflection, is related to subjective well-being

[07:10] How can journaling provide insight.

[08:33] How often should I write?

[09:45] Study: Journaling about stressful events

[12:07] Study: But you can also write about good things too

[13:46] Insight and goals

[16:00] Morning pages

A Happier Year is now available —  an illustrated calendar with 366 science-based actions. Use the code "happycastlistener" for 10% off at checkout on http://ahappieryear.com

We are all feeling a little anxious and overwhelmed right now. Here are some science backed tips on how to feel a little better during these weird and scary times.

[00:18] Intro

[02:35] Stay social with video chats!

[08:40] Get moving

[13:24] Focus on what you can control

[15:30] Disconnect from the news a little

[17:44] Outro

 

References

• Tsai, H., Cheng, C., Shieh, W., & Chang, Y. (2020). Effects of a smartphone-based videoconferencing program for older nursing home residents on depression, loneliness, and quality of life: A quasi-experimental study. BMC Geriatrics, 20(1), 27-11. doi:10.1186/s12877-020-1426-2
• Lathia, N., Sandstrom, G. M., Mascolo, C., & Rentfrow, P. J. (2017). Happier people live more active lives: Using smartphones to link happiness and physical activity. PloS One, 12(1), e0160589. doi:10.1371/journal.pone.0160589

 

Reciprocity, aka you scratch my back I scratch yours. The secret to being liked is to like. The secret to happy employees is the appreciate them and fulfil your promises. The secret to good friendships is sharing vulnerabilities.

 

[00:00] Intro

[01:00] The secret to being liked is to like

[03:42] There is no rule people have to give back

[04:51] Reciprocity at work.

[06:04] Dan Ariely’s study: Shredding your work

[09:01] Perceived psychological contract violation

[12:50] Reciprocity and friendships

[00:00] Reciprocity in self-disclosure

A high self-esteem and being able to love yourself doesn’t make you a narcissist. In fact, there’s many benefits to having a high self-esteem and many disadvantages to being narcissistic.

A Happier Year is now available —  an illustrated calendar with 366 science-based actions. Use the code "happycastlistener" for 10% off at checkout on ahappieryear.com

[01:54] What is self-esteem?

[02:30] Self-esteem is not narcissism

[03:15] Story time: Self-esteem and middle school science projects

[06:03] Study: Self-esteem and reading magazines

[07:40] Self-esteem and happiness

[08:47] Study: Self-esteem and presenting your true self, flaws and all.

[11:02] Narcissism and criticism

[12:15] The criticism sandwich

[14:05] Study: Low self esteem can lead to self handicapping

[16:46] Activity: self compliments

How do we stop procrastinating? I'll share some step by step instructions on how to reduce your procrastination.

A Happier Year is now available —  an illustrated calendar with 366 science-based actions. Use the code "happycastlistener" for 10% off at checkout on ahappieryear.com

[01:20] What is procrastination?

[02:30] The car study: Unconscious thought and decision making

[06:43] The job applicant study: further proving unconscious thought

[08:10] Active and passive procrastination

[12:29] Activity: Engage in productive procrastination

[14:10] Activity: start for 10 minutes only

[14:48] Activity: How to make any hard and complex task easy.

[17:11] Procrastination and perfectionism

Listening is a skill that is often overlooked, or a skill we think we don’t need to learn. However, by the end of this episode you’ll probably realize you aren’t listening as well as you could be. With listening comes understanding, I’ll talk about a couple studies that show why understanding is key to human connection.

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[01:20] Intro to listening and why it matter

[06:10] SOLER listening

[09:10] Don’t try to listen with an intent to reply

[10:19] Be okay with silence.

[11:25] Multi-tasking is a myth!

[12:40] Study: Feeling understood makes people happier

[14:20] Study: Happier relationships when you feel understood

Empathy is the ultimate perspective. However, empathy also requires vulnerability. Learn the benefits of being empathic and why it matters. Also, emotions are contagious. Find out why and how this affects you.

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[01:11] What is empathy??

[03:07] Why does empathy matter?

[04:25] What is positive empathy?

[06:37] Mirror neurons: Our brains are actually wired for empathy!

[08:03] Emotional contagion

[11:25] Empathy at work...an empathic manager can boost employee well-being.

[13:21] Activity: Be more motivated to be empathic.

[14:20] Activity: How can I be more empathic?

You might not even realize thats some of your everyday behaviours are habits. Habits affect your happiness, success, and productivity.  I’ll share how to tap the science of habits so that you can use your habits to your benefit.

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[01:33] Intro to habits

[04:00] Cues - the science of breaking habits

[07:06] Study: Stopping a habit once its been cued

[08:07] How strong can cues actually be? A study on cues and voice

[10:30] Activity: Use cues to your advantage

[12:20] Study: Habits will win when intentions fail

[15:24] Study: Habits will win when you’re stressed

[17:55] How to make happiness a habit.

Passion is essential for a life full of happiness and success. However, how do you find balance with the things you love doing? How will you benefit from more balance?

A Happier Year is now available —  an illustrated calendar with 366 science-based actions. Use the code "happycastlistener" for 10% off at checkout on ahappieryear.com

[00:00] Intro

[03:45] What is passion?

[05:40] Two types of passion: Obsessive and harmonious passions

[09:30] Problems with obsessive passion

[10:50] Why is harmonious passion good?

[11:10] Harmonious passion and concentration

[11:46] Harmonious passion and decision making

[13:25] Harmonious passion and happiness

[14:48] Harmonious passion and success

[16:15] Burnout and why harmonious passion is key to overcoming burnout.

[18:40] Balance is key. A quick tip on how to find harmony.

What does it mean to be authentic and why does it matter? Being authentic is associated with more happiness, better relationships, and generally better functioning. This episode includes an activity to boost your everyday authenticity.

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[01:43] What is authenticity? The 4 pillars of authenticity (according to scientific theories).

[07:58] What are the benefits of authenticity?

[08:52] Study: Social networks and authenticity

[10:32] Study: Being an authentic introvert in an extraverted society

[13:38] Study: Authenticity is key in relationships

[17:02] Authenticity activity. What do you value?

Is the glass half full or half empty? Why does optimism matter? Does it really make that big of a difference? I’ll end the episode with an activity that can help you learn optimism!

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[01:24] What is optimism and why is it good?

[02:20] Myths about optimism

[03:40] There’s a study that shows overly optimistic people run the risk of not seeing dangers

[5:50] Thoughts on the glass being half full

[07:16] Pygmalion effect

[09:30] ABCDE, steps for learning optimism

Maybe you don't want to forgive, but this episode might change your mind. I will bust common myths on what forgiveness is and isn't. I'll talk about the benefits of forgiveness, the harms of revenge, and then I'll give you some step-by-step directions on how to forgive. 

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[01:07] What is forgiveness?

[01:49] What isn’t forgiveness?

[03:25] Punishing the offender may actually cause you more distress

[05:38] Study: How forgiveness will help you heal, a study on emotional abuse survivors

[09:45] Forgiveness and health

[11:00] The REACH model of forgiveness

[14:08] Forgiveness activity, write a forgiveness letter.

A Happier Year is now available —  an illustrated calendar with 366 science-based actions. Use the code "happycastlistener" for 10% off at checkout on http://ahappieryear.com

How can we gain more control of our feelings and of our lives?

[00:00] Intro

[01:20] What is control? 

[03:43] You can’t control everything

[04:45] Study: Control helps older adults through stressful times

[08:25] How to feel more in control

 

References:

• Thompson, S.C. (2017) The Role of Personal Control in Adaptive Functioning In C.R. Snyder, Shane J. Lopez, Lisa M. Edwards, and Susana C. Marques (Ed.), The Oxford Handbook of Positive Psychology, 3rd Edition. doi:10.1093/oxfordhb/9780199396511.013.22 
• Dulin, P. L., Hanson, B. L., & King, D. K. (2013). Perceived control as a longitudinal moderator of late-life stressors on depressive symptoms, Aging and Mental Health, 17(6), 718-723. https://doi.org/10.1080/13607863.2013.784956

Self-efficacy is believing in your ability to be successful at something. Listen to learn what influences your self-efficacy and easy tips on how to be more self-efficacious. This belief can impact your patterns of procrastination and impact your ability to problem solve.   A Happier Year is now available —  an illustrated calendar with 366 science-based actions. Use the code "happycastlistener" for 10% off at checkout on ahappieryear.com

[01:10] "The little engine that could” explains what self efficacy is.

[03:47] 5 things that influence self-efficacy.

[10:00] Study: Self-efficacy and procrastination.

[12:50] Study: Self-efficacy and problem solving.

[14:35] The take-home message on self-efficacy.

How is gift giving associated with our happiness? Short story, it's not the gifts that matter, but your friendships that matter. What makes for a quality friendship?

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Studies show resilience is related to your happiness. When life throws you a curveball, resilience will help you overcome stressful life events. What is resilience and how can I become more resilient? 

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[00:55] The hedonic treadmill: how we habituate to the good and the bad

[02:37] Study: Happiness of lottery winners and accident victims

[05:10] Dan Gilbert study: how you can manufacture your own happiness.

[06:35] What is resilience?

[09:34] How do I foster resilience?

[09:45] “This too shall pass:” Emotion regulation

[11:50] Resilience activity: days, weeks years

[12:30] Think of the silver lining: cognitive reappraisal

[13:30] Resilience activity: how to do a little cognitive reappraisal 

Expressing gratitude can make you happier, and can benefit your social relationships! In this episode, you'll hear about three gratitude interventions that can make you happier.

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[01:17] What is gratitude?

[04:00] How to make a gratitude list (happiness intervention)

[06:11] Gratitude and negative emotions

[08:00] Gratitude and coping

[09:38] How to do a gratitude visit (happiness intervention)

[11:00] How gratitude can make romantic relationships better according to science

[12:10] How gratitude can “find remind and bind.”

[14:15] How expressing gratitude is good for creating relationships

[14:50] One last gratitude intervention (social gratitude)