Explore every episode of the podcast Getting Kinky, with Phylystyne
| Title | Pub. Date | Duration | |
|---|---|---|---|
| BDSM 114 - Sadist calling | 11 Mar 2026 | 00:25:58 | |
This whole SM part of BDSM; what does that all mean? What does it mean to be a Sadist? Or indeed a Masochist? As your venerable host is indeed a Sadist, expect several episodes on this theme, starting with an overview of what sadism is about, not just the application of pain, but the playing with a submissive's mind as well... welcome, to My quirky little corner of kink! | |||
| BDSM 113 - It's hypnotic, isn't it? | 07 Mar 2026 | 00:28:34 | |
Well done if you recognised the quote from Roxanne, you're officially as old as Me. A break from the fundamentals, to get into a kink I really enjoy; erotic hypnosis. What is it? Can anyone be hypnotised? How does it work? What's it for? These and other questions will be answered - or maybe you'll just think they have been - and please, don't drive for the last bit, a guided hypnosis example... | |||
| BDSM 104 - Planning The Scene | 31 Jan 2026 | 00:21:59 | |
So, negotiations and preparation have been done, and it's time to think about what happens in the scene. What planning needs to take place? | |||
| BDSM 103 - Consent, Safewords and Managing when things go wrong | 26 Jan 2026 | 00:21:22 | |
Better safe(word) than sorry... Consent isn't just a simple yes, and when things go awry, it's always better to be prepared. Join Me as we look at getting ready to scene by understanding consent, setting the right safeword, and being prepared for when the unexpected happens. | |||
| BDSM 102 | 20 Jan 2026 | 00:31:30 | |
Yay, we want a Ds dynamic, and we even found someone to do it with! Now what? This episode looks at how to negotiate the bounds and structures of the dynamic. What negotiation is - and isn't - and how to shape that potential. | |||
| BDSM 101 | 18 Jan 2026 | 00:19:47 | |
Welcome. In this first episode, we look at what this podcast is all about, and cover some of the basics of BDSM dynamics | |||
| BDSM 112 - It's over. Now what? | 04 Mar 2026 | 00:14:47 | |
Endings are shit. But they happen. Whether it's a one-time thing, a brief encounter, a scene, a relationship, or somewhere in between, things end. So what does good, mediocre and crap look like in an ending? From ghosting to relationship aftercare, how we end things says a lot about us and our ethics. So let's take a look at the end of things, and try to be better about them. | |||
| BDSM 111 - Ethical non-monogamy in all its flavours | 28 Feb 2026 | 00:22:44 | |
It's not cheating, but what does ENM look like? What forms do honest open relationships take? Jealousy and compersion - what are they, and are they really opposites? And how do we tell when either jealousy or compersion is a positive or a negative emotion? | |||
| BDSM 110 - Punishments | 25 Feb 2026 | 00:37:16 | |
When we have Rules - or any other form of structure to the dynamic - and one of those Rules gets broken, what are the consequences? Does it matter the nature of the infraction? Does every consequence have to be po-faced and serious? Join Me as we explore how punishments and discipline can be expressed in different ways, and what the headspace of punishment is like for both sides of the D/s slash. | |||
| BDSM 109 - Rules and Rituals | 21 Feb 2026 | 00:28:35 | |
OK, we have looked at protocol, but how is protocol implemented? And what about how behaviour is directed? Well, Rules are the basis of structure for the dynamic. But what do we mean by a Rule? What does it govern? What's the scope, context and meaning for them? Yes, I capitalise Rule. And I commit a lot of other crimes against grammar, too, as you'll know from previous episodes. Sorry not sorry. But Rules and the rituals that accompany them are how the dynamic - especially in the early days - gets a structure, a shape, and a meaning. Sexual and non-sexual, private and public. And sometimes, even across groups of like-minded kinky folks. | |||
| BDSM 108 - Collars, and other protocols | 17 Feb 2026 | 00:18:41 | |
Ah, the BDSM collar; who doesn't want to earn one? But what do they really signify? are there different types? (yes) And collars are only functional in the context of protocol, so let's have a dive into what protocol is all about, why it can and sometimes does make sense, and what all that Sir and Ma'am stuff is all about. Protocol is a kink all of its own, but is also a tool for establishing the power dynamic. And like all tools, it needs to be used the right way. | |||
| BDSM 107 - Who are these submissives? | 14 Feb 2026 | 00:21:36 | |
In this episode, we look at the archetypes that submissives present as. Not a one-size-fits-none, most actual people will blend some of these in how they are. But the archetypes give us a map to understand responses, reactions, behaviours, and the headspace that they are seeking from the Dom and from the dynamic. Submissive archetypes, then, and how to identify, engage with and deliver a positive outcome for them. Well, a positive outcome for that aspect of them, at least... because in the real world a submissive will always be more complicated than that! | |||
| BDSM 106 - The shapes of D/s | 09 Feb 2026 | 00:17:30 | |
D/s can be a language between two people, so what are the dialects that might be in place, and how do those nuances impact the perception and experience of that dynamic? In this episode we delve into the various shapes and models for D/s, and look at the different headspaces that can be engendered through those different models in practice. | |||
| BDSM 105 - Aftercare | 04 Feb 2026 | 00:23:16 | |
Episode 4 ended as the scene came to a close, so now it's time for aftercare. Fundamental, but not everyone needs the same level, so what does good look like? | |||
| BDSM 115 - B is for Bondage | 14 Mar 2026 | 00:23:49 | |
The B in BDSM. And it covers such a wide variety of things, so here's an introduction to all things Bondage, of which we will delve into detail in future episodes. So, blindfolds, hoods, gags, cuffs, restraints, and then all manner of rope... the possibilities are almost endless, as are the effects of restraint on sub and Dom. | |||