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29 mars 2026
00:29:07
Youāve heard the womenās stories. Now what? You donāt have to be an expert or a superhero.
Rabbi Barry Dolinger, executive director of the International Beit Din, and Anna Cable, a social worker and trauma expert, offer some concrete advice. Change is possible.
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In This Episode
How to offer support to someone in a coercive relationship
What to do when a friend is trying to escape an abusive marriage
Ways to address domestic abuse in the Jewish community
The role of public actions in influencing gett refusers
How to hold Batei Din accountable
Overview of the work of the International Beit Din
Key Moments
[00:01:46] What to do if someone you know is experiencing coercive control
[00:05:18] How to intervene if you see red flags
[00:07:07] How to help a friend considering escaping from their abusive husband
[00:09:24] How to help a community member whoās fled their marriage
[00:16:48] Ways to address gett refusal and domestic abuse on a community level
Julia, Melissa, Amit, Alla, and Helen continue their stories. How do they get out? We walk through all of the strategies and reveal what works ā or doesnāt ā for each of them.
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An anonymous agunah shares her experience when her husband was shamed publicly.
Amit turns to advocate Adina Sash, aka Flatbush Girl, for help getting her gett.
A beit din in Israel gets creative to convince Helenās husband to give a gett.
Melissa discovers her husbandās deception, and pursues a heter.
Julia comes to the International Beit Din for help.
Key Moments
[00:02:50] Emily explains the impact that public shaming had on her family.Ā
[00:04:30] Amit turns to advocate Adina Sash for help.
[00:10:39] A beit din gets creative to help Helen.Ā
[00:16:02] Melissa discovers her husbandās past.Ā
[00:21:04] The IBDās mission isnāt to help women remarry, itās to help them heal from abuse and trauma.
[00:24:38] Julia comes to the International Beit Din for help.Ā
Many family members and rabbis insist that the women make things work, despite violence, verbal, and financial abuse. Not only that, but they support the husband in his gett refusal, expecting or even encouraging extortion. Why are we letting this happen?
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Allaās situation gets worse, and she decides to leave.
Even when women face abuse and violence, people they trust tell them to stay in their marriages.Ā
If gett refusal is against Jewish law, why do community members encourage it to happen?
When the Jewish community acts like this is normal, what does it do to the women?
Key Moments
[00:00:29] The moment Alla decided to leave.
[00:03:31] How Allaās family reacted to her decision.
[00:07:16] Rabbis encourage the women not to rock the boat.
[00:10:53] Why rabbis sometimes put the interests of the community over the needs of agunot.
[00:17:57] Why do the women think the Jewish community tolerates gett refusal?
They donāt want their wives back. Itās been years since they lived together. But the husbands wonāt grant a religious divorce. Why stay married to someone you despise? What motivates gett refusers? We hear from the men.
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Arguments from men who say refusing a gett is ok.Ā
Results from an International Beit Din study looking at how many of our clients experience abuse during their marriage.
Rabbinical rulings on when husbands should give the gett.
What we hear when we talk to gett-refusing husbands.
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Key Moments
[00:01:25] Meet the most famous advocate for gett refusal: Meir Kin
[00:05:07] Meet Nathan Gettisberg
[00:06:44] Is there a ārightā to remain married in Jewish Law?
[00:12:33] What Jewish Law says about conditioning a gett
[00:12:54] The ruling of Rabbi Yosef Eliyahu Henkin
[00:14:55] Rabbi Barry Dolinger talks to gett refusers.
Why does this religious divorce matter to the women? Why donāt they just walk away? They explain, in their own voices. Advocates and legal experts also weigh in on the abuse and violation of Jewish law that fuels the agunah crisis.
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In This Episode
What the gett process should look like
Why donāt agunot just leave the marriage without a gett?
The practical consequences of not having a gett
How controlling husbands use this process to delay and extort women
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Key Moments
[00:06:00] Why not leave your marriage without a gett?
[00:10:40] How is the gett process supposed to work?
The women fall in love, or they decide to give a nice guy a chance. But red flags start to pop up. Thereās abuse. And the women escape. A normal divorce story would end there, but theyāre still trapped. Theyāre agunot- āchained women.ā Thatās because their husbands refuse to give them a religious divorce, known as a gett.Ā
Ā The women in Getting Free are professionals, mothers, neighbors, and leaders. This is where their fight for freedom begins.
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In This Episode
Why withholding a religious divorce (gett) is abuse and a violation of Jewish law
What it means to be an agunah ā a āchained womanā
Why the agunah crisis affects women across denominations and levels of observance
How coercive control escalates and what finally pushes women to leave
Meet the five women of Getting Free. āThey come from different parts of the United States and different cultures, but they have one thing in common- after escaping miserable marriages, they faced one last impossible hurdle: getting their abusers to agree to a Jewish divorce.