Explore every episode of the podcast Get Your Marriage On! with Dan Purcell
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| 274: The Challenge to Grow Up with Dr. Corey Allan | 14 Nov 2025 | 00:30:00 | |
In today's episode, Dr. Corey Allen joins us for a deep dive into fictional, but incredibly common, marriage scenarios that reveal surprising truths about desire, conflict, and emotional maturity. We explore how sexual and relational struggles aren't mistakes—they are intentional invitations to grow up, become more courageous, and see our spouse more clearly. In this episode, we cover:
If you're ready to see your marriage challenges from a whole new angle, this episode will change the way you think about intimacy and growth and the purpose of marriage. Links Mentioned:
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Disclaimer: The opinions and values expressed by guests on the Get Your Marriage On! podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the opinions and values of the host. Appearance on the podcast does not imply an endorsement of the guest or their products by Get Your Marriage On or its host. While we work hard to bring you quality and valuable content, listeners are encouraged to use their own best judgment in applying the information or products discussed on this podcast.
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| 273: Financial Foreplay: The Unexpected Way to Build Trust and Turn On Intimacy, featuring Dan Ockey | 07 Nov 2025 | 00:34:19 | |
Money and intimacy have more in common than most couples realize. In this episode, we sit down with financial coach Dan Ockey to talk about financial intimacy — how the way you manage money together reflects the way you handle trust, communication, and teamwork in every other area of your marriage (yes, even the bedroom). You'll hear Dan Ockey's incredible story of turning debt, secrecy, and shame into a story of honesty, unity, and freedom — and how money challenges can actually strengthen your relationship if you face them together. In this episode:
If you've ever argued about money, felt shame around spending, or struggled to get on the same page with your spouse — this episode will help you see finances not as a source of stress, but as a powerful tool for connection and intimacy. 👉 Learn more about Dan Oakey and Sensei Financial at www.centseifinance.com
Disclaimer: The opinions and values expressed by guests on the Get Your Marriage On! podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the opinions and values of the host. Appearance on the podcast does not imply an endorsement of the guest or their products by Get Your Marriage On or its host. While we work hard to bring you quality and valuable content, listeners are encouraged to use their own best judgment in applying the information or products discussed on this podcast. | |||
| 264: Sexual Arousal and Sexual Confidence | 12 Sep 2025 | 00:21:04 | |
Do you know what arouses you? Knowing that could completely change the way you show up in the bedroom. In this episode, we dive into the difference between desire and arousal, and why understanding your own arousal triggers is the missing link to greater confidence, deeper intimacy, and more passionate sex in marriage. We cover the history of our scientific understanding of arousal and the sexual experience, including our most recent insights on how context, trust, and emotional closeness play a huge role in arousal—especially for women. We'll also explore how positive sexual experiences build on each other, creating momentum for more intimacy and joy in your relationship. By the end, you'll not only understand the science of arousal better, but you'll also walk away with ideas you can use to strengthen your connection, boost your sexual confidence, and build a marriage that feels more alive and passionate than ever! Don't miss . . .
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| 173: How to Initiate Sex Like a Pro, Featuring James Christensen | 09 Feb 2024 | 00:45:26 | |
We recently hit a major milestone with this podcast: 1 million downloads! Thank you for your support! Let's be honest here. Initiating sex is not easy at all. We want the other person to take charge and initiate, right? We worry, how are we going to be received? There's also so much of ourselves wrapped up in what it means to initiate, or not initiate, sex. And past experiences tend to influence our reluctance to initiate as well. Yet, the reality is if one of you doesn't initiate sex, sex is never going to happen in your relationship. So why is initiating sex so hard? What are some common reasons why people, me included, struggle to initiate sex sometimes? How do we get better at this very intimate act of bidding for sexual connection? I've been pondering these questions lately, and I'm grateful to meet up with James Christiansen, a licensed marriage and family therapist from Roseville, California. You'll quickly find out that he has a brilliant sharp mind and quickly cuts right to the heart of the matter. And this episode, we're going to talk about what's at the heart of initiating sex, because it gets a lot deeper than what you're probably thinking. And by the end of this episode, hopefully you'll take more courageous action to cherish your spouse more than before.
Links referenced in the episode: ⬇️ Download the Intimately Us and get in on the Sextimacy Challenge before it's over! 🌟 Get info on the DIY Boudoir Date Night Box 🙋 Snag the last spot at our couples retreat coming up in just 5 weeks! | |||
| 172: Vagina & Pelvic Floor Power with Pauli, Physical Therapist | 02 Feb 2024 | 00:35:48 | |
Do you wish you could have more powerful, more pleasurable orgasms? Or to not need to cross your legs when you sneeze? Or jump on the trampoline like you used to before kids? Our special guest Pauli Hannan is a Pelvic Floor Physical Therapist that specializes in helping women have a better life with a healthier pelvic floor. She's created No Kegel University, where she debunks the idea that you need to do more Kegel exercises or buy vaginal ben-wa balls to strengthen your pelvic floor. This episode is an abridged version of a live 90-minute workshop, and you can watch the full replay on our website. Although this content is directed towards women, men are invited to learn along. After all, men have pelvic floors that need strengthening too! | |||
| 171: Would You Rather…? Sexy Edition & Embracing Your Eroticism | 26 Jan 2024 | 00:24:03 | |
Today I want to talk about embracing your eroticism. This is a beautiful part of being human; your eroticism is going to be unique to you just as your fingerprints are unique to you! In this episode, we're going to address the following common questions:
And, we also give you some fun "would you rather" questions you can use as a spring board to understand your own and your spouse's erotic interests. --- Resources we mentioned in the episode: DIY Boudoir Date Night Box: We've teamed up with EveryLove Intimates to bring you this kit that brings the magic of a professional boudoir photoshoot right to the comfort of your home! Couples Retreat (only 3 spots left!) Picture this: sunny days, red rock landscapes, and outdoor adventures, coupled with a perfect balance of powerful instruction on sex and intimacy, personalized expert coaching, relaxed downtime (wink wink), in a supportive environment. So why not register today before someone else takes your spot? Come join us in March! Just Between Us app: This app is linked directly to your spouse and it encrypts everything so you never have to worry about your intimate photos or conversations accidentally going to someone unintended! | |||
| 170: Behold Your Beautiful Body Through the Lens of Boudoir Photography! | 19 Jan 2024 | 00:42:13 | |
DIY or professionally done, boudoir photography has the potential to empower women and open their minds and hearts to their own inherent beauty, as well as add an extra spark and intimacy to a marriage. I discuss this and more with my guest today, Sierra Beltran, an experienced photographer from Arizona. In this podcast episode, we talk about the following in our deep dive on boudoir photography:
If you're interested in DIY boudoir photography at home, I have two fantastic resources for you!
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| 169: 8 Reasons Why Sex in Marriage is Hard (But Also Worth the Effort!) | 12 Jan 2024 | 00:29:19 | |
Sex can be hard for couples for many reasons. And if you feel like it's hard for you right now, you're not alone. Sex is so highly personal and it's a very anxious behavior, yet it's also at the core of who we are. So it's like this dichotomy: we want to be close to another person, yet, in order to get there, we have to overcome a lot of nervousness and anxiety in order to enjoy that. And by the way, sex is so much more than just two bodies bumping into each other; our minds and our spirits are highly involved in sex as well.
Humans are the only species on earth capable of making meaning in sex. Dogs don't have sex and think, "Oh, he really loves me." Or, "She was really into that." Dogs and other animals don't do that. It's a very human thing to find meaning in sex. And, that's a double-edged sword for a lot of people.
The anxiety in sex make sex a horrible experience or a difficult experience to enjoy for some people. But the flip side of that is the transcendent capacity for deep connection that can come through sex. It is one of the most unique human and wonderful things about being a person.
So in this episode, we dive deep into why sex can be hard for couples. Understanding our hangups and why we have them is the first step to overcoming them! -- Valentine's Day is coming up, and that means so is our 14-Day Sextimacy Challenge! Watch the Intimately Us app for more details! Our free workshop coming up on January 19 will be all about increasing pelvic floor health. Strong pelvic floors benefit us in so many ways. I hope you'll join us! Details will be hitting your inbox soon. The life-changing Get Your Marriage On! couples retreat is coming up just around the corner. There are only a couple weeks left to sign up before registrations are closed! Grab your spot today! | |||
| 168: How Your Marital Power Dynamics Are Affecting Your Sexual Relationship | 05 Jan 2024 | 00:49:30 | |
Who in your relationship has more of a say in general, who in your relationship organizes themselves around the other more? Are there any unaddressed resentments that you deal with in your relationship right now, do some things feel just one sided in your marriage? Couples that thrive have a shared sense of power in the relationship power in this context is defined as note shared power shared influence. One person can receive the influence from the other. The moment we start creating hierarchies in our relationship. Meaning one person is more important than the other, or the general order of things goes like, no, God husband, wife, for example. When we create these hierarchies in our relationship, we set ourselves up for power struggles and this often undermines sexual desire and intimacy in the marriage. I work with couples that want to grow their sexual relationship. And that's one of the purposes of this podcast. The reality is you grow the sexual relationship by strengthening the marriage and upgrading the relationship dynamic. One way to quickly improve your sex life is by paying close attention to the power dynamics at play in a relationship. And some of them might be invisible to you or very covert. My guest today is Bonnie Young. She's a licensed marriage and family therapist licensed in Utah in Washington state. She's also currently working on her PhD. She's super smart, caring. And as you'll get to know, very experienced in this topic we're going to talk about today. She's also a mom of two, almost three children and runs a mental health clinic with almost a dozen therapists working for her in two states in her spare time. --- Ready to level up your marriage this year? Check out our romantic and life-changing marriage retreat coming up this March! --- For more fun, connection, and intimacy daily, download our free app: Intimately Us
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| 167: Successful Vacation Sex & Romantic Getaways, According to a Romance Consultant | 29 Dec 2023 | 00:36:35 | |
Five years ago, around the campfire with friends, one man told me about this amazing trip he and his wife made to Thailand where they camped out on the beach in this pristine tropical bay. And another friend told me about his trip to the Dominican Republic at is all inclusive resort, just he and his wife. And another guy talked about this cruise, he and his wife went on and all these fun and exciting trips with just their wives. And I was so, feeling sorry for myself. I had extreme case of FOMO. I wanted to get away with my wife, but I just felt like I couldn't because of the circumstances in my life. Long story short, we finally made that trip happen. We had so much fun and we just really needed this time together, this time away. And that experience of getting away just the two of us really nourished our relationship and boosted us like nothing else. So since that time we've gone at least on one weekend away together every three months, about four times a year, and it's become something we really look forward to doing in our marriage. And it's become a staple for helping our relationship thrive. In this episode, you get to hear a little bit more about this vacation my wife and I finally went on, but you also hear from a Romance Consultant, Joise McEwen, about how to plan your own romantic getaway, how to make vacation sex successful, and hopefully gain inspiration to make a getaway a goal for your marriage. --- If you want to take you getaway up a level, check out our couples retreat coming up in March! Get all the details at getyourmarriageon.com/couples-retreat/. And if you're looking for ways to add fun and spice to the bedroom on the regular, on vacation or not, check out the Intimately Us app!
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| 166: 12 Ideas to Make Christmastime Extra Sexy | 22 Dec 2023 | 00:20:25 | |
For a lot of couples, Christmastime is a really stressful time of the year. There's a lot of end of year projects for work and school; there's also gift shopping and preparations for guests and meals and Christmas cards and dinners and parties, and the list just keeps going on and on and on. And if you have children, it just multiplies the complexity by every child that you have in your home. But Christmastime can also be a very special, sexy time of year. Think about it. Think of all the romantic, Christmas-themed movies that we love. Think about the time you get a snuggle by a fire. Think about the fun that you can have with your spouse when the world kind of slows down for a little bit. It can become a very sexy time. In fact, a friend pointed out to me that, in the United States at least, we have the highest birth rate at the end of August, early September. I didn't believe him. So I double checked it. And it's true! In the United States, we have the most births in late August, early September. Which means most people are being conceived around Christmas time. And I want this to be a very sexy time for you too! So I'm going to offer you 12 sexy Christmastime tips in this episode!
Helpful links: Get Your Marriage On! Couples Retreat
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| 165: How a Marriage Retreat Rescues, Renews, and Revitalizes Your Relationships (5 case studies) | 15 Dec 2023 | 00:25:50 | |
There's something magical about setting aside three to four days away with your spouse, where you can relax and have fun and enjoy working on aspects of your relationship that are going to give you a big boost and forward momentum. And our Get Your Marriage On! retreat next March could be just the thing to help renew and revitalize your marriage like it did for the past attendees you'll hear from in this episode. Find out more about what is included, what the retreat is like, and most importantly, the results for the couples who have come in the past. (Hint: they were transformative!) I hope you'll join us in March 2024 for this life-changing experience! Get all the details here: https://getyourmarriageon.com/couples-retreat/ | |||
| 164: Creating Space for Moms (and Dads) to Feel Like They Are in Control Again with Ariel Finlinson | 08 Dec 2023 | 00:39:06 | |
Picture this: It's a typical day. You're lying in bed. Snoozing your alarm clock for the third time, your resolve to get to the gym weakening. You were interrupted again last night from a child that needed you. And as you awake the demands of the day, press on you. Lists appear in your mind what shopping needs to be done, which child has which appointment, the field trip that you volunteered to go on, the assignment at church you agreed to do, and so on and so on.
You get out of bed already tired to go about your morning routine. But today, a genie appears and grants you a special wish for one day. You can do what you want to do. What would you decide? What would you do? Have you lost yourself?
My friend and guest, Ariel Finlinson, years ago was in a situation where her husband and kids are going to be out of town for a few days.
And she had an entire weekend to herself. She had no idea what she'd do with her time. That's the day she realized that she had somehow lost herself in motherhood. She had lost touch of herself, lost the relationship with herself in her busy and noble life of mothering.
As you know, this podcast is dedicated to helping Christian couples get out of a rut in their sex life. Today's topic isn't sexy, per se, but it's really important and ties into developing a stronger sex life. The relationship with ourselves is crucial to our relationship with others. You can't give from an empty well, and you can't lift others to higher ground if you're not on higher ground yourself.
Ariel recently received her master's degree in family life education. She's super fun, sharp. And the host at the Ladies Talking Love podcast.
Today, we're going to talk about five ideas for mothers to reconnect with themselves in their life. Click here for Ariel's free download, "Find Yourself After Kids," that we mentioned in the episode. Take Care of Yourself and Your Relationship
Something you can do to nourish yourself, get some rest, have fun and connect with your spouse in a deeper, profound way is to get away once in a while together.
And there's no better way to do that than to attend our upcoming couples retreat in March. Registration is open and you won't want to miss it.
During the retreat, we'll do a deep dive into your relationship and give you real practical tools to help you get out of a rut, do away with resentment and free yourself from the frustrations and limitations you currently face.
You'll walk away from this retreat feeling rejuvenated with lots of hope in your relationship and just feeling great together again. And this retreat is also balanced with a lot of fun activities like ATVing in the desert or canyoneering near Zion national park. To make this an unforgettable weekend, sign up today! | |||
| 263: Mindset Shifts for Better Than Happy Intimacy, with Jody Moore | 05 Sep 2025 | 00:43:06 | |
What if the biggest blocker to a thriving sex life isn't desire, kids, or schedules—but your mindset? In this episode, master coach Jody Moore joins me to show how small shifts in thinking can create big changes in intimacy. We cover:
Sextember is on!
Ready to think differently and feel closer? Hit play—and let's get your marriage on. | |||
| 163: Overcoming Newlywed Hesitations, Expressing Desires, Premature Ejaculation, Masturbation Views - Q&A | 01 Dec 2023 | 00:33:34 | |
Today is a Q &A episode. I get anonymous questions, which you can send me through my website, and I go through those regularly. And today we're going to address a few of the common questions that I'm getting in this podcast episode. Today, we're going to cover topics such as the following:
Now I have a very special invitation for you. You're invited to join us for our next marriage retreat that we will have here in my hometown, St. George Utah. St. George is like a Mecca for outdoor living. It's got red rocks. It's in the desert. It's got world-renowned canyons, like the Zion National Park and Snow Canyon. We're going to spend some of that time outside ATVing in the desert or canyoneering out by the national parks. We'll also have this beautiful location that we've picked out. It's private. We've rented out the entire resort. And you get to have instruction with me and my team. We talk, we do a deep dive in your relationship, taking it apart, putting it back together and upgrading your marriage. Make this time in March, be the thing that would give you forward momentum in your relationship to build a strong you in 2024. We only have 20 spots for this. So the time to act is now you can register at, get your marriage on.com and click on couples retreat. And while you're there, look at some of that testimonials and videos of others that have attended the retreat. So you get an idea for what it's like. | |||
| 162: How to Keep Your Marriage Hot in the Middle of Raising Little Kids with Kingdom Sexuality | 24 Nov 2023 | 00:49:57 | |
One pernicious thought the often gets in the way of our intimacy is a thought that we can put the romance and desire side of our marriage on the back burner while we raise our children. The reality is the greatest gift we can give our children right now is for us as parents to have a thriving marriage and erotic relationship that feels alive. Prioritizing desire in our relationship, within reason, has done wonders for our marriage. So today I've invited three, yes, three guests onto my podcast. This trio is part of Kingdom Sexuality, where their mission is to help Christian couples see God's design for sex. They also have a great Instagram account, by the way. Alana, Kyle, and Tiera each are married and have children. And we're going to have a frank conversation about practical things to keep strong desire while you're still raising young children. Take some time just for the two of you! And the other thing you can do for your marriage and for your children is to get away once in awhile with your spouse. And there's no better way to do that than attend our next couples retreat in March. Registration is open and you won't want to miss it. We'll do a deep dive into your relationship and give you real practical tools to help you get out of a rut, do away with resentment, and free yourself from the frustrations and limitations you're currently facing in your marriage. We do this by building on top of your strengths and helping you see a clear path forward so that you have hope and excitement in the future of your marriage. This is all, of course, in balance with fun activities to do on the retreat, like ATV in the desert or canyoneering near Zion National Park. To make this an unforgettable weekend, register today on our website. | |||
| 161: Whole-hearted Lovemaking and Stage 3 Sex, featuring Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife | 17 Nov 2023 | 00:42:15 | |
To love and be loved wholeheartedly. It's life's sweetest gift. Marriages thrive when there's two forces working together love and desire. By love, I mean, the qualities like attentiveness, which is like being a good listener, kindness, a feeling of home and belonging in the relationship and loyalty.
On the other hand, by desire I mean a sense of passion, excitement, pursuit, adventure, mystery, and fun. We need both of those things in a good marriage. And to really love someone and to really desire someone with all of your heart, it's often a function of how developed and mature we are. Did you know that there are stages of development and romantic and sexual relationships as there are in other aspects of life? And how do you grow from whatever stage you are now to your next stage and become a better lover?
I've been podcasting consistently every week without fail for almost three years now. Can you believe it?! And one of my personal most favorite teachers of all time is Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife, who you'll get to meet in just a moment. We recorded this podcast a long time ago. And because we have so many new listeners on this podcast, I've gone back to the archives to make sure you all get a chance to hear it! Keep Your Marriage Burning Bright
Marriages need more help to stay strong today than ever. And that's why we just opened registration for upcoming marriage retreat in St. George Utah for March, 2024.
Retreats are an exciting way to spend some time away and we give you the tools you need to build a stronger sexier marriage and you get to meet other couples, have good food, go on excursions and just have this amazing experience to keep the fires of love and passionate desire burning bright in your relationship for years to come. Register today on our website. | |||
| 160: I Don't Need You (But I Want You), and Mindful Loving | 10 Nov 2023 | 00:46:30 | |
Oftentimes in our quest to have a deeper, more intimate marriage, it's really not a question of whether you want to be loved or loved more. It's really a question of a capacity to love or be loved more. In my work with couples and individuals, helping them grow intimately in their marriages, one of the very first things I teach them is how to be more mindful. Most of us cruise through the day on autopilot, not quite aware of the thoughts that go through our head.
However, when we develop the skill of slowing down and observing our thoughts, we can then shape our thinking to higher levels. In the past, as a Christian, I thought that the whole mindfulness and meditation thing was for Zen Buddhists, but the more I dive into my own beliefs, I see mindfulness built right into my religious practices because what is prayer, the Sabbath, time in God's word, but an invitation for stillness and mindfulness.
Higher levels of thinking are required in order to grow one's capacity to love and be loved. And this has nothing to do with IQ. It has everything to do with learning how to be more present and honest with your thoughts.
That's why I'm so excited about my guest today. His name is Dr. Ty Mansfield. Ty is a licensed marriage and family therapist, and a professor of marriage and family life at Brigham Young University. I first came across Ty's work when I read his book on mindfulness and it changed the way I approached my life in so many aspects. *** COUPLES RETREAT: I am so excited to announce that registration is now open for our next couples retreat March 14-17, 2024 in beautiful, sunny St. George, Utah, which is also my hometown. This retreat is ideal for couples that want to take the intimacy in their marriage to the next level. Watch some testimonials here! *** COACHING: Register any time for our coaching program, Next Level, for coaching resources, and a great community. *** WORKSHOP: Join us for our next workshop all about slow sex on November 22! And remember that all of our guides and workshops are 20% off this month! | |||
| 159: For the Men: Embracing Your God-given Sexuality for an Intimate Marriage | 03 Nov 2023 | 00:23:24 | |
Are you looking for a big shift in your relationship?
The men in my coaching program continually see these shifts in amazing ways. They feel more grounded. They see themselves more clearly. They feel more confident in their own skin. They stand on their own two feet better. They're at more peace with their God-given sexuality and who they are, and their wives take notice and often make changes and adjustments themselves too.
I am so excited that we are starting another men's coaching cohort on Sunday, November 8! In this episode, you'll learn all about the program and what kind of things you can expect to learn and ways you can grow to achieve the marriage you've always dreamed of.
Register now for the men's only coaching program! You can also hear from other men who have gone through this program.
I look forward to seeing you next week! | |||
| 158: The #1 Limiting Factor in Your Sex Life, According to a Marriage Expert | 27 Oct 2023 | 00:35:42 | |
I have a background in computer science and I love writing code. Nerdy, right? The better the code, the better the program. A program can't run better than the code it's written from. The way we express our sexuality is the same way. We can't out-sex ourselves beyond the thoughts we have about sex. This is one reason why I am a big believer in marriage and sex coaching. I help my clients to recognize their current thoughts about sex and their marriage, and invite them to reprogram their thoughts to elevate and improve their thoughts about sex so that they can live happier, more fulfilling lives. So many marriages can do better if they take the time to think about what they think about sex and their relationship. If more couples did this, we could eliminate poverty from bedrooms everywhere! My guest today is Heather Flake. Heather is a fellow life coach that helps married women love who they are in their marriage more.
If you like this content, check out getyourmarriageon.com for more:
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| 157: 7 Ways To Put the PLAY back in FOREPLAY and Make Sex Fun, Not Work | 20 Oct 2023 | 00:26:46 | |
Today I want to talk about what to do when you want to want to have sex but you don't feel in the mood for it yet. Although it would be nice to get in the mood, you know that it's going to take time and energy to get there, and it's tempting to just postpone sexy time to another time when you'll have more energy. But when you think about scheduling sex, it feels like yet another thing to add to the to-do list. So there it goes again: sex feels like work rather than play, and it gets put on the back burner. Again. This episode covers reasons that couples struggle with play and foreplay, and then 7 actionable ways to add relaxed playfulness into your relationship and sexual encounters! Remember that if you plan on building an exciting, intimate marriage that lasts a lifetime, it requires healthy doses of newness injected into your marriage regularly. We all go through seasons, but the best way to keep your sex life out of a rut is to keep things fresh and new. Some of the suggestions in this episode are going to take some effort to prepare. But even the preparation can be part of the fun! It builds anticipation! Here are links to some of the resources discussed in today's episode: | |||
| 156: How the 9 Personality Types Influence Your Sex Life, According to Relationship Expert Christa Hardin | 13 Oct 2023 | 00:34:37 | |
The famous psychologist Carl Jung once said, "The meeting of two personalities is like the contact of two chemical substances: if there is any reaction, both are transformed." Intimate marriages require a lot of intimate contact in terms of body, mind, head, and soul. It's also why I believe marriage, especially sex in marriage, is the most sure-fire path to grow up and mature to attain your best and highest version of yourself. The principles I want to share with you in today's episode is that when you have a better grasp of your own light and shadow, and your spouse's light and shadow, you can work with each other's strengths to create a remarkable marriage. This requires self awareness and practice of course. One of the tools I've found that has helped me understand myself and my wife better is the Enneagram personality typing. Today I've invited Christa Hardin to my podcast to talk more about it. I've read her recent book, The Enneagram and Marriage, and I wanted her to share some of her insights and experience with you to help you get your marriage on. You can learn more about her book and purchase it on her website or Amazon. Free enneagram test: https://personalitypath.com/free-enneagram-personality-test/ If you like this content, check out getyourmarriageon.com for more:
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| 155: Sex is Weird: Embracing the Awkward, Fetishes, Butt Stuff, and Building a Marriage for Two - Q&A | 06 Oct 2023 | 00:22:26 | |
I love hearing your success stories! If you would like to share yours on the podcast, please fill out this form. This episode covers six of the anonymous questions I've received this month. You all sure send me some really good questions! If you would like to submit an anonymous question, you can do so on our website. Today we answer questions about fetishes, shame, anal play and how we overcome awkwardness and the "gross factor." I also address talking to our partners about the hard stuff, what to do when we don't share their perspective or want them to do something differently. Ultimately, it's all about how we can know and be known by our spouses and make room for both spouses to be equal partners in all things. Thanks for listening! If you like this content, check out getyourmarriageon.com for more:
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| 154: Good Vibrations: How To Close the Orgasm Gap in Your Marriage Tonight, Featuring Amanda Louder | 29 Sep 2023 | 00:41:57 | |
I strongly believe one of the paths to a stronger marriage is by doing the work necessary to have a great sex life as a couple.
Why start with sex? It's because there's such a strong link between pleasure and connection. When you increase and broaden the pleasure you experience as a couple, you'll find your emotional and spiritual connection deepen as well.
Besides, doing the work necessary to have great sex forces individuals to learn how to deeply love their spouse like they've never loved before; it requires trust, self-confidence, and an open heart. In short, developing your sexual relationship leads to more personal growth than anything else.
Unfortunately, there's an orgasm gap in many marriages. Although orgasm isn't the only measure of a great sex life, it's a good enough proxy measure for the pleasure a couple enjoys in sex. I believe women are just as capable of sexual pleasure than men, if not more capable than men. And even though just about every person on the planet is capable of experiencing the pleasure of orgasm in sex, in far too many marriages women aren't experience orgasm as frequently as men do.
Today my guest is my friend Amanda Louder. Amanda is a fellow marriage and intimacy coach. She is the host of the podcast, Sex For Saints. We're going to talk about practical strategies to help you overcome your orgasm gaps in your marriage today. We're also going to talk about sex toys that are used as an aid for pleasure as a couple. Did you know that over 70% of those that responded to my poll on Instagram say that they have used or currently use a vibrator? Many people are curious about trying a vibrator but don't know where to go to buy one without feeling weird about it. If that's you, open the Intimately Us app and go to the Learn Section, then Products We Love for my personal recommendations from trusted companies and brands. | |||
| 262: Masturbation: Connection or Division? A Perspective You Haven't Heard | 29 Aug 2025 | 00:28:28 | |
Masturbation is one of the most controversial topics in marriage—especially in conservative or religious circles. In this episode, we're not going to tell you what to believe, but we will offer a new perspective and framework for thinking about it. Here's what you'll discover:
Whether you ultimately say yes or no to masturbation in your marriage, this episode will help you replace shame with honest conversation and build safety for true intimacy. 👉 Want to go further? Download the Intimately Us app to reset your intimacy in September with our "Sextember" challenge, and join our upcoming events and coaching programs to take your intimacy to the next level: | |||
| 153: How a Sexy Bedroom Game Took Our Sex Life to the Next Level with Dan & Emily Purcell | 22 Sep 2023 | 00:42:07 | |
RETREAT FLASH SALE: We've sold out of the main hotel (Hotel Lucy), but we're offering some spots at an overflow hotel next door at a discounted rate! It's $300 off right now through Sunday, September 24. PLUS, if you send us a DM on Instagram @getyourmarriageon, we'll send you a code to get another $100 off! This is the best price you'll get, so don't delay! Get the details here. *** We're going back in time a couple years today as I'm bringing back an episode from our archives. I'm doing this for a few reasons:
We were interviewed by a friend, Ariel Finlanson, who hosts the podcast Ladies Talking Love. I do the Get Your Marriage On! podcast because I want to share what I'm learning with everyone. The reality is I'm not that different from many of you. I am on this journey and I'm just so excited that you can come along with me for the ride as I share the things that I'm learning alongside with you. | |||
| 152: Your Sexual Fantasies: Once Upon a Time in a Bedroom Far, Far Away | 15 Sep 2023 | 00:30:12 | |
Just a few spots left for our retreat! Register today! After Dark Role-Play Workshop is tonight (Sep 15)! Sexual fantasies can let you explore and try on new ideas to break away from the mundane and ordinary. When used properly, they can deepen your appreciation for what you have as well as take your relationship to new heights! I hope by the end of this episode you're convinced of the value of sexual fantasies in your relationship as well as specific tools on how you can use your sexual fantasies to deepen your intimate connection as a couple as well as make sex really fun and exciting! Along the way today, I'm going to answer questions I've received from many of you such as these: "I'm embarrassed to tell my husband that I fantasize during sex. Is there anything wrong with that?" "How do I tell my spouse about my fantasies?" "I asked my wife what her sexual fantasies are. She said she doesn't have any. I find it hard to believe anyone doesn't have sexual fantasies. Does she really not have any or is she just reluctant to tell me?" "I'm embarrassed about my fantasies. They're inappropriate! What's wrong with me?" "My spouse keeps telling me about his fantasies and I'm put off by it! How do I tell him how I feel about it?"
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| 151: How a "Good Girl" and Her Husband Bravely Chose a Better Sex Life: A Sextimony | 08 Sep 2023 | 00:35:43 | |
Any of you with children are quite familiar with stages of child development. However, less talked about and less understood until recently are stages of adult development. As adults, our bodies may have grown, but our mind and spirits still continue to grow. I love this interview you're about to hear with my friend Tammy. It's an inspiring and relatable story about Tammy and her husband, Jake, and how they grew and progressed in their relationship. Tammy talks about her journey to break out of a limiting mindset and to embrace her own sexual desires and needs. She mentions that a turning point was when her husband enrolled them in a course related to sexual development and introduced her to a couple's retreat. These experiences opened her eyes to the possibility of change and growth in this area. We also discuss how curiosity, open-mindedness, and gradual steps were key components of Tammy's journey. She describes a process of shedding her need for external validation, which allowed her to change and grow without being dependent on other people's opinions. She also emphasizes the importance of self reflection learning how to love herself. I hope this episode also inspires and gives hopes to listeners who wish their spouse would step up more in the sexual arena in their marriage. Listen closely to what Jake did that gave room for Tammy to grow and try new things. If you're looking for support in your growth and intimacy in your marriage like Tammy and Jake did, I highly recommend you get on our website and book a spot at our upcoming couples retreat in Texas at the end of October. Our retreats are romantic, they're fun, as well as really in depth. They're a perfect balance of instruction and unstructured downtime to really enjoy a getaway with your lover. It's right around the corner, and spots are filling up quickly, so please register today. | |||
| 150: Black Belt Sex Tips 3.0 | 01 Sep 2023 | 00:48:05 | |
SEXTEMBER STARTS TODAY (September 1)! Read here for more. Many of our podcast episodes are interviews with guests. I often invite my guests to share what I call a black belt sex tip. The idea for this comes from my own martial arts training I did for 13 years, and it applies to building a great sexual relationship with your spouse in your marriage too. It's that there's always going to be a next level. Your growth never stops. You must master the basics before enjoying the higher level tactics in training. So, this is episode number 150. And I want to give you a roundup of the best black belt sex tips that my guests have taught me over the last 50 episodes. It's geared towards couples that have mastered the basics and are ready for their next level.
We have just a few openings left for our October Marriage and Intimacy Retreat in Granbury, Texas, which is just outside of the Dallas Fort Worth area. It's limited to about 20 couples only. You get to spend 4 days and 3 nights with your sweetheart, receive great instruction, enjoy good company, eat excellent food, participate in fun activities, and enjoy beautiful surroundings. Besides, we take you on a deep dive into your relationship to help you unlock your next level to a closer and more intimate relationships and better sex in your relationship. Sign up today! | |||
| 149: Afraid Your Husband Will Reject or Ignore You AGAIN tonight? Featuring Dr. Laurie Watson | 25 Aug 2023 | 00:41:57 | |
What popular media has taught us
The media and stereotypical culture norms show that men are the ones usually sexually pursuing while the women are seducing and being pursued. Our culture is saturated with these tropes and themes: think James Bond, Indiana Jones, or many other shows that show this theme.
But what happens if you're in a marriage where you, as the wife, find yourself often pursuing him? And he's the one withdrawing, needing to be wooed? Or you're the one with more acceptance and freedom about your sexuality, eager to explore and pursue novelty and sexual fun while he's not so sure about his sexuality or has a lot of hangups? Is it because you're not attractive enough?
It's common for women in these marriages to feel like they must not be attractive enough. You might have gone through a lot of effort to look and dress pretty (or undress) for the occasion and his rejection can really hurt. It's disregulating to feel rejected, and you wonder what's wrong with you. It's easy to get reactive in these situations, and start a downward spiral. You may even be wondering what you can do to get him interested in you sexually, or wonder why he withdraws, encouraging you to pursue even more. Let's ask a therapist AND higher desire wife
My guest today is Dr. Laurie Watson. She's a sex therapist and marriage therapist and also a married woman who is the one with more sexual desire and the pursuer in her own marriage. I figured she's uniquely qualified to answer questions I've had about higher desire wives. I've found this conversation enlightening and refreshing. Laurie even gives very specific step-by-step suggestions on how to approach the subject with your spouse and how to build a better sexual relationship. Get Help
If you're in a marriage where there's hard feelings because of a gap between the pursuer or distancer, or find differences in sexual desire levels to be a sore topic, don't stay there in misery. Get help. Check out Next Level, my coaching program for couples. You can meet with me and my team. It's really affordable, flexible, has TONS of value, and geared towards busy couples.
Another option is our in-person intensive in Dallas Forth Worth Texas area this October. Our retreats are 4 days, 3 nights and are in-depth and challenging in a good way. They're also really fun and romantic too! We have a few spots left. You can reserve your spot here! Free CoachingCome experience what coaching is like with my free marriage coaching hour on September 1. Register here! | |||
| 148: How Hannah Learned to Love Sex and Her Body (Next Level Sneak Peek) | 18 Aug 2023 | 00:18:27 | |
Expert marriage coaching can facilitate accelerated growth, overcoming obstacles in weeks or months that might otherwise take years to do on your own. Coaching has made a huge impact on my marriage. Two years ago, I went back to school and learned how to coach others too. I'm now full time with Get Marriage On! and I desire nothing more than to help you have a fulfilling, intimate marriage!
Today, you get to be like a fly on the wall, listening in to a real coaching session with a wonderful couple, Hannah and James. (Note that these aren't their real names and I have permission to share this excerpt with you.)
I want to invite you to try marriage coaching with me. I have an extremely affordable program unlike anything else out there.
I call it Next Level because I believe no matter where you are or where you think you are in your marriage now, there's always going to be a next level. My program is designed to help you reach your next level through our weekly calls, a private podcast, its own dedicated mobile app that ties you to the community of hundreds of other next levelers.
And it comes with tons of bonuses. There's also a men's and women's private group, and you can be as anonymous as you would like to be and participate as much or as little as you're comfortable doing.
And if you're still unsure, on Friday, September 1st at noon Mountain Time, I'll be hosting a free marriage coaching hour, where you can come and get coached at no charge to see how it can benefit you. And if you'd like a more intensive experience, check out our couples retreat coming up on October 26! It's going to be amazing! | |||
| 147: The Penis Episode with Joshua Savage, PA-C | 11 Aug 2023 | 00:49:40 | |
I've been looking forward to this podcast episode for months! As I think ahead into my 50s, 60s, 70s, 80s, and beyond, I want to have a healthy and vibrant sex life. I want my body, specifically my penis, to serve both of us in creating pleasurable and intimately connecting experiences for many years to come.
Lots of men, and I'm in this category too, really like their penis and get concerned when it doesn't function as they expect. Good strong erections are indications for a man's health and vitality, as well as a means to pleasure too. Many men and their lovers have questions about erectile dysfunction, lasting longer in bed, testosterone, and much more relating to men's sexual health. So how do we take better care of our sexual health, and when we get sick, how can we get better?
My guest today is Joshua Savage, a friend of mine who also is a urologist. Thanks in advance to many of you that shared your questions about male sexual health via our Instagram account. If you don't follow me yet, I recommend you do so now! There's lots of great content and some funny reels there too.
After listening to this podcast, you might have questions about your own sexual functioning from a psychological point of view. If you're interested in getting coaching to help you through mental struggles interfering from all the pleasure you could be enjoying in your sexual relationship, contact me about marriage coaching. It's like getting a personal trainer for your marriage, and you're just one coaching session away from a more meaningful, pleasurable, and intimate sex life.
Which leads me to my next point: getting away for a weekend once in a while can really nourish your marriage. Especially if it's a marriage retreat where you can learn about how to have a more intimate and fulfilling sex life, develop closer friendships, meet other couples on a similar journey, learn new skills to deal with conflict, and most importantly to have fun together! Our next retreat is four days and three nights, October 26 - 29, in the Dallas Fort Worth Texas area. Register now so that you don't miss it! If you're on the fence, go to the web page anyway | |||
| 146: Female Orgasm, Premature Ejaculation, and Why It's So Hard To Be a Higher Desire Spouse - Q&A | 04 Aug 2023 | 00:26:19 | |
I have to say, Wow! I invited my listeners and readers to submit anonymous questions to me, and I've been blown away by the response. You have all asked some great questions! So this episode will be another session answering some of those questions that you've asked. Each day, the questions accumulate, and I don't think I'll ever be able to answer all of them on this podcast or my email newsletter, though I will do my best to be consistent on all those platforms. However, I would recommend that if you really desire to get your marriage and sex questions answered and get some help moving forward to moving that needle in your relationship, that you give my next level coaching program a try.
In this episode we discuss the following:
Other things to know: In Next Level, which is a coaching program, not only are your questions answered, but we're there with you every step of the way to help you build a more intimate and joyful marriage.
If you'd like to experience coaching, to see how it works, I'm offering a free coaching session on September 1st. Sign up here!
On August 16, I'll be hosting a workshop all about navigating differences in sexual desire. This is probably the most common issue couples have in their sexual relationship. So we'll be diving deep into how and why sexual differences happen and solutions for couples to overcome those differences and create greater connection and intimacy in the relationship.
We recently published a new digital product called the Ultimate Guide to Pleasing Your Husband, which is a companion to our previously published Ultimate Guide to Pleasing Your Wife. We also have several other guides and products on our website.
Lastly, as you make plans for the fall, why not schedule a weekend away for just the two of you? Better yet, why not make your getaway even more meaningful by attending our marriage retreat coming up in October in the Dallas Fort worth Texas area? These retreats are in depth and designed to challenge you as a couple while balancing it with fun and romance. | |||
| 145: Yes Dear, Size Does Matter (if we're talking about your heart) featuring Dr. Clifford and Joyce Penner | 28 Jul 2023 | 00:49:13 | |
My wife and I both grew up in good homes, but stereotypical to most that grow up in a conservative Christian culture in the 80s and 90s, conversations around sex were usually limited to biological reproduction or staying pure from sexual thoughts. These messages served me well before we were married but after we were married, we realized that these models led to anxiety about sexuality and difficulty with our sexual relationship. These issues didn't really surface until after a decade into our marriage, when we weren't so entrenched in survival mode from raising a young family any longer and could actually take a breath and focus on our relationship again. I'm grateful for the many resources that helped me grow my understanding of marriage and sex in marriage. Specifically, where at first I thought spirituality and sexuality were incompatible, the examples of teachers like my guests on today's podcast helped me see that spirituality and sexuality actually go together. Fast forward a few years I'm grateful for the privilege of coaching other couples in growing their marriage intimately. It's now what I do for work full time, and I hope this podcast, our apps, retreats, workshops, and other resources are helping you build a stronger marriage. One of the common issues I see with my clients as a marriage coach is how "duty sex" or viewing sex as something just for the man for example often limits a couple's ability to grow sexually. Another has to do with one's interpretation of biblical teachings around sex growing up, and how those views are often antithetical to building an intimate marriage. Another has to do with sexual performance pressure. And sexual dysfunction. We get to talk about all of these things and much more in this episode with Dr. Clifford and Joyce Penner. As my guests will attest, getting away for a weekend once in a while can really nourish your marriage. Especially if it's a marriage retreat where you can learn about how to have a more intimate and fulfilling sex life, develop closer friendships, meet other couples on a similar journey, learn new skills to deal with conflict, and most importantly to have fun together! Our next retreat is four days and three nights, October 26 - 29, in the Dallas Fort Worth Texas area. Register now so that you don't miss it by going to getyourmarriageon.com, click on Retreats, and then DFW retreat. If you're on the fence, go to the web page anyway and check out the videos shared by past retreat attendees sharing their experience to get a feel for what it's all about.
For more great content like this, check out the following resources: Next Level!: https://getyourmarriageon.com/next-level/ Couples Retreat (Dallas/Ft Worth area): https://getyourmarriageon.com/couples-retreat-dfw/ Website: getyourmarriageon.com Instagram: @getyourmarriageon Fun and Sexy app for couples: Intimately Us | |||
| 144: Learning to Love Sex, Higher Desire Wives, Sexual Imagery - Q&A | 21 Jul 2023 | 00:31:12 | |
Today is a really fun episode that I have planned with you. I emailed my mailing list a few weeks ago, asking for anonymous questions and I got a ton of questions. So today we're going to go through a lot of these great questions that you asked. There's a lot of value in asking good questions. First, it opens your mind to other possibilities. Second, it invites you to change. Even if it's just microscopic, it changes your lifestyle or your attitude about certain things. And number three. It puts you in a position where he can receive instruction, receive coaching or whatever it is for you to really level up things in your relationship.
For more great content like this, check out the following resources: Next Level!: https://getyourmarriageon.com/next-level/ Couples Retreat (Dallas/Ft Worth area): https://getyourmarriageon.com/couples-retreat-dfw/ Website: getyourmarriageon.com Instagram: @getyourmarriageon Fun and Sexy app for couples: Intimately Us | |||
| 261: Bonus: 30 Days to a New You and a More Intimate Marriage | 28 Aug 2025 | 00:13:16 | |
What if you and your spouse chose one area of your relationship to focus on—and committed to it for 30 days straight? That's the heart behind our tradition at Get Your Marriage On called Sextember—a month dedicated to intimacy, playfulness, and connection in marriage. In this episode, I share the surprising backstory that inspired Sextember, including a 30-day experiment that transformed not only one woman's marriage but also her happiness and even her appearance. You'll hear how this idea grew into a challenge for couples everywhere, why September is the perfect time to reset patterns, and how you and your spouse can join in this year. Plus, I'll tell you about our upcoming Virtual Getaway: The Anatomy of Arousal—a spicy, nourishing, two-day experience you can enjoy together from home or a hotel. If you're ready to have fun, grow closer, and see the before-and-after difference in your marriage, this episode will show you how to make Sextember your best month yet! | |||
| 143: How Seductive Are You? featuring Dr. Michael Sytsma | 14 Jul 2023 | 00:33:32 | |
This episode is for anyone interested in investing in their sexual relationship from an early stage to set the foundation for a fulfilling and intimate connection in the future. My wife and I are beginning our fifth decade in life. We had a discussion the other night about what kind of sex life we want to have in our 50s, 60s, 70s, and 80s and beyond! Having a long term vision for your sex life will bring up things that are important to address. For example, you might find it difficult to find sex pleasurable, have some hang-ups around sex that you want to overcome, or you might have a tendency to withdraw emotionally when you feel rejected, or it might be time to finally address the underlying causes of premature ejaculation. Today's guest is Dr. Michael Sytsma, a licensed sex therapist and evangelical pastor. Michael is the author of an excellent book called The Secrets of Sex and Marriage. I absolutely loved his insights about the importance of exploring sensuality and pleasure in various aspects of life, not just sexual experiences. In this episode you'll hear us talk about the role of mindfulness and being present in one's body, as well as the significance of connecting arousal with emotional intimacy and connection within the relationship. We'll emphasize that a healthy and fulfilling sex life requires a holistic approach that considers spiritual, emotional, physical, and relational aspects. Most of all, we'll talk about being seductive to our spouse, and what that means. And sometimes building a great sex life requires grieving the things you're not going to be getting.
For more great content like this, check out the following resources: Next Level!: https://getyourmarriageon.com/next-level/ Couples Retreat (Dallas/Ft Worth area): https://getyourmarriageon.com/couples-retreat-dfw/ Website: getyourmarriageon.com Instagram: @getyourmarriageon Fun and Sexy app for couples: Intimately Us | |||
| 142: Expressing Your Preferences Without Offending, Sex Ed for Your Kids, Novelty & Pleasure - Q&A | 07 Jul 2023 | 00:51:53 | |
My friend Hailey Reidhead from the She's a Lady podcast recently reached out to me about a number of topics related to sex and intimacy in marriage. I love these questions. They're genuine and honest. And I'm grateful to Hailey for allowing us to share this discussion on the Get Your Marriage On! Podcast today because I think you might be wondering about many of the same questions that Hailey was asking, such as these:
For more great content like this, check out the following resources: Next Level!: https://getyourmarriageon.com/next-level/ Couples Retreat (Dallas/Ft Worth area): https://getyourmarriageon.com/couples-retreat-dfw/ Website: getyourmarriageon.com Instagram: @getyourmarriageon Fun and Sexy app for couples: Intimately Us | |||
| 141: Hormones and Female Sex Drive with Cody Sanders | 30 Jun 2023 | 00:34:38 | |
*COMING UP NEXT WEEK: NEW "After Dark Series" special evening workshops, July 5 and 6. Check it out on our website (links below)!* Even though half of the people on the planet have menstrual cycles, it's a taboo topic in many cultures. My guest today is Cody Sanders, a functional medicine and holistic health practitioner that's devoted her professional life to helping women feel more like themselves especially when it comes to their hormone balance, menstrual cycle, and libido (or sex drive). Cody is a founder of Mixhers, a company devoted to women's health. In this episode, you'll get to hear:
And of course, Cody shares her black belt sex tip.
For more great content like this, check out the following resources: After Dark Series Workshops (Fellatio and Cunnilingus) Next Level!: https://getyourmarriageon.com/next-level/ Couples Retreat (Dallas/Ft Worth area): https://getyourmarriageon.com/couples-retreat-dfw/ Website: getyourmarriageon.com Instagram: @getyourmarriageon Fun and Sexy app for couples: Intimately Us | |||
| 140: Entanglement and Toxic Individualism with Aimée Gianni | 23 Jun 2023 | 00:30:05 | |
Intimate relationships are a breeding ground for growth and development, because they're really REALLY hard work to make great. But it's work worth doing. In my own personal experience, as well as working with other couples, there's a pattern I see of entanglement: where you and your spouse are emotionally wrapped up in each other like a tangled ball of yarn, not able to see which end is which. Then there are other couples that distance themselves emotionally from their spouse. In the world today there seems to be an over emphasis on ME-culture, which leads to toxic individualism. That isn't healthy for a relationship either. My guest today is Aimée Gianni. She's a friend of mine as well as a marriage family therapist. She's very wise, experienced, and has spoken at a couple of my marriage retreats in the past as a guest speaker. In our conversation today, you'll get to hear about:
For more great content like this, check out the following resources: Next Level!: https://getyourmarriageon.com/next-level/ Couples Retreat (Dallas/Ft Worth area): https://getyourmarriageon.com/couples-retreat-dfw/ Website: getyourmarriageon.com Instagram: @getyourmarriageon Fun and Sexy app for couples: Intimately Us | |||
| 139: Building Intimacy while Building a Business with Monica Tanner | 16 Jun 2023 | 00:34:48 | |
In my program, Next Level, I've come across several couples that are struggling in their marriage because one or both are entrepreneurs. There's a lot of stress that happens in the marriage relationship, especially in the sexual relationship for entrepreneurs. And I want to do a podcast episode dedicated to all listeners where one, or both of you are in the middle of building a business.
As Americans we love a good underdog story and often romanticize the entrepreneurial journey – especially those that make sacrifices, take risks, overcome obstacle after obstacle, and eventually come out on top. As a career entrepreneur myself, I've come to realize that the entrepreneurial journey isn't as glamorous as it seems to be.
Another thing people don't talk about is that entrepreneurship is often very hard on marriages, in fact, as you'll hear in this episode, divorce is more common among couples where one or both spouses are entrepreneurs.
My guest today is Monica Tanner. She's a marriage and intimacy expert and runs several programs for couples to strengthen their marriages. She's also an entrepreneur, married to a successful entrepreneur.
In this episode we'll talk about the following:
For more great content like this, check out the following resources: Next Level!: https://getyourmarriageon.com/next-level/ Couples Retreat (Dallas/Ft Worth area): https://getyourmarriageon.com/couples-retreat-dfw/ Website: getyourmarriageon.com Instagram: @getyourmarriageon Fun and Sexy app for couples: Intimately Us | |||
| 138: 9 Sex Tips for International Lovemaking Day and Beyond | 09 Jun 2023 | 00:26:16 | |
Because it's 6/9 day, I want to share with you nine ideas to strengthen your sexual relationship! The nine things that are on my mind that I want to share with you today are the following:
I hope you enjoy celebrating International Lovemaking Day today!
For more great content like this, check out the following resources: Next Level!: https://getyourmarriageon.com/next-level/ Couples Retreat (Dallas/Ft Worth area): https://getyourmarriageon.com/couples-retreat-dfw/ Website: getyourmarriageon.com Instagram: @getyourmarriageon Fun and Sexy app for couples: Intimately Us | |||
| 137: Blowjobs Aren't Just For Husbands with Danielle Savory | 02 Jun 2023 | 00:38:11 | |
According to a recent Instagram poll on our Instagram account, I learned that 80% of couples incorporate oral sex into their lovemaking, and 77% of them said they'd love tips on how to make it better. So let's talk about blowjobs today. Let's discuss how amazing they are, why we like them, how to overcome hang ups around giving your husband oral sex if you want to, and more specifically for women, how giving your husband oral sex can be as much if not more of a turn on for yourself than your husband. My guest expert is Danielle Savory, a sex coach for women. She's taught thousands of women how to prioritize pleasure and specifically how to make sex more pleasurable for themselves. I learned in this interview that my guest Danielle loves giving her husband oral sex, so much that she's had just as many orgasms for herself just from giving them. She teaches that women can step up to embody a turned-on person and create a richer, juicer life and marriage.
For more great content like this, check out the following resources: Next Level Loving Virtual Intimacy Retreat: https://getyourmarriageon.com/next-levels-virtual-lovemaking-retreat/ In-Person Couples Retreat in the Dallas/Fort Worth area: https://getyourmarriageon.com/couples-retreat-dfw/ Next Level!: https://getyourmarriageon.com/next-level/ Website: getyourmarriageon.com Instagram: @getyourmarriageon Dowload Intimately Us to particiapte in the Free Internartional Lovemaking Day challenge starting next week! | |||
| 136: Sex When Aging with Natalie Wilton | 26 May 2023 | 00:37:44 | |
I realize that as I age, my sex life is going to change. I don't think I'm alone in having some anxiety over changes that might come. Yet sex when aging is a topic you don't hear a lot of people talking about or addressing. You might be going through some transitions right now as you approach menopause, health issues, or other changes connected to aging. Some things you used to enjoy sexually may not have the same enjoyment as before. Or certain paths towards arousal may not function like they used to. And then there's the question of what to do when you're your spouse's caregiver, dementia, bereavement, or other common issues that older couples face. I've wondered about these things. I've searched high and low for a specialist that works with aging couples, and I got really lucky to find an expert in this field! My guest today is Natalie Wilton, a registered Social Worker in Waterloo, Ontario. She has worked in the aging field for over 20 years. She has worked at retirement homes, long term care homes, and in the community in a variety of roles in geriatrics and mental health. She has a private practice in which she sees adults across the age spectrum for sex therapy, and other mental health concerns. For more great content like this, check out the following resources: Next Level Loving Virtual Intimacy Retreat: https://getyourmarriageon.com/next-levels-virtual-lovemaking-retreat/ In-Person Couples Retreat in the Dallas/Fort Worth area: https://getyourmarriageon.com/couples-retreat-dfw/ Next Level!: https://getyourmarriageon.com/next-level/ Website: getyourmarriageon.com Instagram: @getyourmarriageon Dowload Intimately Us to particiapte in the Free Internartional Lovemaking Day challenge starting next week! | |||
| 135: Talking to Your Teenagers About Sex with Sheila Wray Gregoire | 19 May 2023 | 00:32:21 | |
I have six children, including 3 daughters, and I want to raise them well. I want to set them up for success in their future marriages. Research shows how we talk to our children, especially our daughters, about dating, sex, and relationships can affect the type of person they marry and how satisfied they'll be in their marriage. After doing this interview you're about to hear, I realize there are a few areas I can improve in.. Sheila Wray Gregoire is a friend of mine, as well as the author of several books on the topic of sex and marriage. Her books are awesome for those seeking helpful and accurate information from a Christian perspective. She's funny too. She has two daughters and an angel son and two grandchildren. I didn't know this until this interview, but according to Sheila Wray Gregoire's research, my generation – the millennials – grew up with the least comprehensive sex education compared to Gen X and Baby Boomer generations. I learned that the most important thing is to have a great relationship with your children. There are also things to consider about how we talk about modesty, agency, arousal, consent, and self-definition to our children, especially our daughters.
For more great content like this, check out the following resources: Next Level!: https://getyourmarriageon.com/next-level/ Next Level Loving Virtual Intimacy Retreat: https://getyourmarriageon.com/next-levels-virtual-lovemaking-retreat/ Website: getyourmarriageon.com Instagram: @getyourmarriageon Fun and Sexy app for couples: Intimately Us
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| 134: When Developing One's Sexuality Leads to a Faith Crisis | 12 May 2023 | 00:43:07 | |
Crises aren't necessarily a bad thing in and of themselves. Although they're very unpleasant, they can lead to forcing us to grow up and better define ourselves and where we stand. They can serve as catalysts that anchor our moral compass internally within ourselves rather than external – outside of us. This process can lead to more freedom and greater agency, and a fuller life.
I've talked to many people who have gone into a faith crisis to some degree as they work to develop their sexuality. I'm personally one of them.
Today my guest is Jacqulin Guernsey, a bright and talented woman, who is a life coach turned fantasy romance novelist. She has a degree in Psychology and a Masters degree in English. She shares an incredible story about her growth journey over the last 15 months, about how sexual challenges in her marriage lead to faith challenges, and how she's grown in the midst of it all to reconcile the two.
For more great content like this, check out the following resources: Next Level!: https://getyourmarriageon.com/next-level/ Next Level Loving Virtual Intimacy Retreat: https://getyourmarriageon.com/next-levels-virtual-lovemaking-retreat/ Website: getyourmarriageon.com Instagram: @getyourmarriageon Fun and Sexy app for couples: Intimately Us | |||
| 260: When the Higher Desire Spouse Stops Initiating - What to Do in Four Steps | 22 Aug 2025 | 00:23:24 | |
What happens when the spouse who usually initiates sex suddenly stops—and weeks turn into months of silence? This painful "sexual standoff" can leave both partners feeling stuck, rejected, and disconnected. In this episode, I'll explain exactly why this pattern happens, share a real couple's story, and give you four practical steps to break out of the cycle. You'll learn how to shift focus off of blame, calm the reactivity that kills intimacy, and start rebuilding connection layer by layer. If you've been caught in this cycle—or fear you might end up there—this episode will show you how to untangle the knot and spark intimacy again in your marriage. 👉 Want to go further? Download the Intimately Us app to reset your intimacy in Sextember, and join our upcoming events and coaching programs to take your intimacy to the next level: | |||
| 133: Slip into something a little more authentic tonight! with Amber A. Price | 05 May 2023 | 00:34:00 | |
In any intimate relationship, we want two things, which paradoxically seem to be at odds with each other: we want to belong to ourselves (that is, autonomy), and we want to belong to someone else. In many marriages though, it's easy for one person to fold into the other and that person ends up losing themselves in the marriage. What we want instead are marriages where there's more authenticity. We want marriages where we can be real with our spouse and ourselves, and own our desires while building a marriage worth getting excited about. Authentic marriages have more honesty, freedom, and a much more satisfying sex life. My guest today is Amber Price. She's a mom-turned-graduate student (and a cool story behind how that came to be) sharing what she's learned about creating a more real and authentic marriage for herself. I learned a lot of great things from Amber, which you're about to hear, such as:
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| 132: Praying For Your Sex Life with Dan Purcell | 28 Apr 2023 | 00:18:54 | |
Today. I just want to get honest with you and talk about marriages and why they are really difficult sometimes. Frankly, marriages take a lot of work. A wedding may have just been a day; but building a marriage, especially an intimate marriage, is a lifetime pursuit. And let's be honest, there's a lot of pain and suffering that goes on inside of a lot of marriages. I can't think of anything more challenging, stretching, testing, and at the same time, more fulfilling than trying to build an intimate marriage. In reality, at least for me, it hasn't all been just roses. It's more like a rose garden. There's going to be a lot of thorns there amongst the roses. There's going to be weeds to pull. There's going to be rainstorms, and like any rose garden it requires a lot of attending, fertilizing, and just waiting. It makes the flowers that bloom that much more precious.
For more great content like this, check out the following resources: Next Level!: https://getyourmarriageon.com/next-level/ Next Level Loving Virtual Intimacy Retreat: https://getyourmarriageon.com/next-levels-virtual-lovemaking-retreat/ Website: getyourmarriageon.com Instagram: @getyourmarriageon Fun and Sexy App for your Marriage: Intimately Us | |||
| 131: How to Be a Power Couple with Melanie Studley | 21 Apr 2023 | 00:34:14 | |
When you hear the term, Power Couple, what comes to mind? To me I think about a couple that is dedicated to each other and committed to building a marriage in which they know they can tackle every challenge that comes their way.
My guest today is Melanie Studley. She's been on our podcast before (check out the episode we did last year on how to talk dirty without feeling dirty or awkward). I admire how she's taken growth and development in her marriage so seriously. I'm inspired by her - considering how dysfunctional things were between her and her husband, and where they are now, it's like saying, "If THEY can make it, so can I."
Several things stuck out to me in this episode. Melanie emphasizes the need for systems and processes, the importance of giving both people in the marriage partnership their voice, recording your wins and struggles, and the value of consistency and persistence.
For more great content like this, check out the following resources: Next Level!: https://getyourmarriageon.com/next-level/ Next Level Loving Virtual Intimacy Retreat: https://getyourmarriageon.com/next-levels-virtual-lovemaking-retreat/ Website: getyourmarriageon.com Instagram: @getyourmarriageon Fun and Sexy App for your Marriage: Intimately Us | |||