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How to Break a Habit and Why It's So Hard to Do28 Nov 202400:13:27

What are habits, and why are they so hard to break? In this episode, we break down what a habit is and how to overcome unwanted habits, even when it's challenging.

Listen to the podcast to learn more about how our brains work and discover how you can start reshaping your habits today!

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A Self-Coaching Tool That Works20 Nov 202400:17:46

You might have thoughts about your child with OCD, and these daily downloads will help you figure out how to create the results you want.

Download the worksheet here

Get curious about your thoughts, and give yourself time to get the hang of this process.

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OCD Therapist Tracie Ibrahim Tells Her OCD Story17 Sep 202400:47:51

It's a delight to welcome back Tracie Ibrahim. Tracie is an OCD/ERP therapist and practitioner. She also serves as the Chief Compliance Officer for NOCD. 

In this episode, Tracie shares the story of spending over 8 years of her childhood in inpatient psych facilities, and NO ONE--not one treating practitioner--ever considered the diagnosis of OCD.

Don't miss this episode!

You can learn more about OCD and find an ERP practitioner here. https://www.treatmyocd.com

You can follow Tracie on Instagram @TabooTracie

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Sugar and OCD11 Sep 202400:08:39

Could eliminating sugar from your help manage OCD? That's the topic for today.

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Who is the True You?04 Sep 202400:09:50

 In this empowering episode, Dr. Vicki Rackner dives into the powerful question: Who is the true you? She explores how our identities are shaped by experiences, societal labels, and, in the case of people with OCD, often by misleading thoughts. Dr. Rackner draws on her personal experience as a mother of a son with OCD, as well as her background as a physician and life coach, to discuss how those with OCD—and their families—can reclaim their true identity.

Using engaging stories and reflections, Dr. Rackner highlights how false beliefs about ourselves can take root early in life, and how identifying the truth of who we are can help break these limiting perceptions. She shares a story about her son proving his math teacher wrong and a moving example of a woman with chemical sensitivities owning her truth. Dr. Rackner also discusses how people with OCD may be particularly vulnerable to forming false identities due to their neurodivergent experiences.

Key Takeaways:

  • False Identities: Our sense of self is often shaped by others' perceptions and false assumptions, especially for those with neurodivergent brains. These false narratives can be challenged and replaced with empowering truths.
  • Truth of Who You Are: Identifying the truth of who you are is key. It's important to ask whether beliefs about yourself are rooted in fact or misconceptions.
  • Safety and OCD Management: The feeling of safety plays a crucial role in managing OCD. Creating environments and practices that foster safety can help empower individuals to regain control over their thoughts and behaviors.
  • Practical Steps: Dr. Rackner encourages listeners to reflect on the lies they've accepted about themselves, replace them with truth, and explore the environments where they thrive.

Actionable Tips:

  1. Challenge False Beliefs: Take time to reflect on any limiting beliefs you have about yourself. Are they true?
  2. Find Your Environment: Identify the conditions where you thrive and take steps to spend more time in those environments.
  3. Prioritize Safety: Focus on creating safety in your daily life. Whether it's emotional or physical, the more secure you feel, the better equipped you are to manage OCD.

Inspiration for Families: If you or someone you love is struggling with OCD, know you are not alone. This episode offers hope and practical insights into managing this challenging condition while celebrating your true self.

Final Thoughts: Dr. Rackner leaves listeners with a call to action: Be the true you. Reclaim your identity, challenge false narratives, and spread the message of hope for families navigating OCD.
Resources:

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The Secret Power of OCD28 Aug 202400:08:46

In this uplifting episode, Dr. Vicki Rackner flips the script on OCD by exploring how the same qualities that make OCD challenging can also serve as powerful gifts. From persistence and empathy to creativity and attention to detail, people with OCD possess remarkable strengths that can be harnessed and celebrated. Drawing from personal stories, including the inspiring tale of Gus Wahl, Dr. Rackner explains how reframing OCD from a liability into a potential superpower can lead to a deeper understanding and appreciation of the unique strengths of the condition.

Key Takeaways:
- Persistence and Dedication: People with OCD are often incredibly determined, even in the face of discomfort. This persistence can lead to breakthroughs in many areas of life, from professional to personal.

- Empathy and Insight: Individuals with OCD are highly empathetic and can read subtle emotional cues, which makes them skilled at understanding others in ways that can be valuable in relationships and various professions.

- Problem-Solving Abilities: OCD wiring equips people with the ability to anticipate and address potential problems, making them invaluable in roles where foresight and prevention are key, such as in aviation, emergency preparedness, or security.

- Attention to Detail: The keen observational skills of people with OCD allow them to notice details others might overlook, which can be an asset in fields such as medicine, design, or quality control.

- Creativity and Completion: OCD often fuels imaginative thinking and the ability to follow through on tasks, making individuals with OCD excellent partners in creative collaborations and project management.

Actionable Tips:

1. Reframe Your Thinking: Recognize and celebrate the unique strengths that come with OCD, from empathy to problem-solving skills. These traits can serve you in countless ways.

2. Find the Right Environment: Like choosing the right car for your journey, the key to managing OCD lies in understanding your brain and finding the environments where it can thrive.

3. Manage with ERP: Actively managing OCD with Exposure and Response Prevention (ERP) can help keep obsessions and compulsions in check, allowing your unique gifts to shine.

Final Thoughts:
Managing OCD is a journey, but it’s important to recognize that alongside the challenges lie incredible strengths. Whether you’re living with OCD or supporting someone who is, take time to celebrate the gifts that come with this neurodivergent wiring. Remember, you are not alone, and there is hope for a better tomorrow.

Resources Mentioned:
- https://www.treatmyocd.com/
- Rocket Fuel by Gino Wickman and Mark C. Winters (Book on visionary-implementer partnerships)

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Thoughts about Thoughts 2 of 220 Aug 202400:18:53

In this episode, Dr. Vicki Rackner explores the power of thoughts and how they shape our lives. Building on the previous episode about the origins of thoughts, today’s focus is on the importance of intentionally choosing your thoughts and thinking on purpose. Through relatable stories and practical exercises, Dr. Rackner explains how thoughts create feelings, actions, and ultimately, the results in our lives. She offers actionable steps for shifting from reactive thinking to strategic thinking—helping you take control of your mental landscape and create the life you want.

Key Takeaways:

- You Are Not Your Thoughts: It’s important to understand that thoughts are separate from who you are. You are the thinker of your thoughts, and just because a thought arises doesn’t make it true or define you as a person.

- Curiosity Over Judgment: Rather than judging yourself for having certain thoughts, adopt a curious mindset. Ask yourself why certain thoughts pop up and how they might be influencing your actions and feelings.

- Choose Which Thoughts to Keep: Like fishing, you can decide which thoughts are worth keeping and which ones to throw back. Not every thought needs to stay.

- Thoughts Create Your Results: Our thoughts influence our feelings, which in turn affect our actions and inactions. Those actions then shape the results we experience in life. Learning to swap out unhelpful thoughts for more empowering ones can help change your life trajectory.

- Working Backwards: If you want a different result in your life, reverse engineer it by thinking about the actions, feelings, and thoughts that would lead to that result. Practice replacing limiting thoughts with ones that support your goals.


Actionable Steps:

1. Daily Thought Download: Write down the thoughts running through your mind each day without judgment. This will help you recognize which thoughts are shaping your actions.

2. Differentiate Thoughts and Facts: Learn to separate facts (things that can be objectively proven) from the thoughts you have about those facts. This distinction is crucial to understanding how your interpretation of facts can shape your experience.

3. Replace Judgment with Curiosity: When a challenging thought comes up, ask yourself: What feelings are associated with this thought? What actions does it prompt? What are the results of holding onto this thought?

4. Practice Thought Swapping: If you want different results, practice replacing limiting thoughts with empowering ones. For example, instead of thinking, “Things never go my way,” try, “I am open to things working out for me.”

5. Be Patient with Thought Transitions: Changing thoughts is a gradual process. Start by taking small steps toward your desired thought rather than forcing an immediate change.

Final Thoughts:
Thinking on purpose may sound simple, but it requires consistent practice. By intentionally choosing the thoughts you entertain, you can reshape your emotional and mental well-being. Remember, you are in control of your thoughts, and with time, you can cultivate the mindset that leads to the life you want.

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Thoughts About Obsessions and Other Thoughts 1 of 208 Aug 202400:19:24

In this episode, Dr. Vicki Rackner explores the critical role thoughts play in shaping our lives, especially for those living with OCD. She breaks down how thoughts, whether they are fleeting or obsessive, create feelings that drive our actions, which ultimately shape the results we experience in life. Dr. Rackner shares personal insights from her experience as a mother to a son with OCD and discusses how understanding and managing thoughts can help take control of OCD.

Key Takeaways:

- Thoughts Are Powerful: Obsessions, the O in OCD, are just thoughts, and they have the power to shape your feelings and behaviors. Recognizing thoughts as mere sentences in your brain can be a crucial step toward managing them.

- You Are Not Your Thoughts: Just because a thought arises doesn’t mean it’s true or that you are defined by it. Your thoughts are separate from who you are, and you have the power to choose which thoughts to hold onto and which to release.

- Thoughts Shape Results: Your thoughts create feelings, which drive your actions and ultimately the results in your life. If you’re unhappy with your current circumstances, consider the thoughts that might be contributing to them.

- Where Thoughts Come From: Thoughts come from various sources, including biology, childhood lessons, peer groups, and external marketing. Each of these influences shapes how we interpret our world and the beliefs we hold.

- The Danger of Unquestioned Thoughts: When we don’t challenge our thoughts, we may stay stuck in limiting beliefs that hold us back. Thoughts like “I’ll never find a partner because of OCD” or “I’ll never succeed” create feelings of resignation, leading to actions that make those thoughts self-fulfilling.

Actionable Steps:

1. Understand the Source of Your Thoughts: Recognize that thoughts come from various places—your biology, family upbringing, peer groups, and societal messaging. Once you see where thoughts originate, you can begin to question them.

2. Challenge Your Thoughts: Instead of accepting every thought as truth, ask yourself: Is this thought helpful? Is it factual? What evidence do I have that this thought is true or false?

3. Pay Attention to the Connection: Realize that your thoughts create feelings, which then influence your actions. If you want different results in your life, start by examining and changing the thoughts that drive those results.

4. Practice New Thoughts: Just like anything, thinking new thoughts takes practice. Identify thoughts that will serve you better and intentionally practice them regularly. Over time, these new thoughts will lead to better results.

Final Thoughts:
Understanding the role thoughts play in your life, especially when living with OCD, is key to managing compulsions and moving toward the life you want. Dr. Rackner encourages listeners to start paying attention to their thoughts, question them, and practice choosing thoughts that will lead to the results they desire.

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6 Steps for Successful Difficult Conversations 31 Jul 202400:24:48

Welcome to the Free Me From OCD Podcast! If you or someone you love has OCD, you know that OCD can hold you hostage, taking control over your thoughts and emotions. But here, we’re all about reclaiming that control and learning how to face life’s challenges with confidence. I’m your host, Dr. Vicki Rackner, and today’s episode will focus on something that many of us struggle with—having difficult conversations.

Whether it’s a conversation with a loved one, a coworker, or even ourselves, difficult conversations can stir up anxiety and leave us feeling vulnerable. But these conversations, when approached thoughtfully, can lead to growth, deeper understanding, and healing.

In this episode, I’ll walk you through 6 steps to have a successful, honest, and compassionate conversation, especially when the topic is tough.

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How to Get What You Want 2 of 205 Jul 202400:14:18

The best fuel to drive your efforts to be freed from OCD is a focus on what you want. In this episode, you will learn the three steps to getting what you want, and the powerful Freedom Formula self-coaching tool to make them happen. 

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How to Get What You Want 1 of 225 Jun 202400:11:28

Do you have a hard time getting what you want--especially when OCD enters your life? In this  episode, Dr. Vicki shares the top three reasons it's so hard.

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Retelling Your OCD Story08 May 202400:14:07

What is your OCD Story? Is it helping you or holding. you back? In this story, Dr. Vicki Rackner offers tips about how to retell you OCD story.

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Are You Anxious about the Election Results?13 Nov 202400:09:30

If you have anxiety about the election results, you are not alone. In this episode Dr. Vicki offers some tips about moving forward in the face of the our future leadership.

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My Top OCD Tips02 May 202400:29:13

Episode Title: My Top OCD Tips
Host: Dr. Vicki Rackner, MD

Summary: In this episode of Free Me From OCD Podcast, Dr. Vicki Rackner reflects on the past decade of living with and supporting a family member with OCD. She shares the single most valuable lesson she’s learned through her journey of helping her son manage OCD and how it transformed her family’s life. Dr. Rackner emphasizes the importance of becoming an empathic witness, staying present, and managing your own emotional bus to better support your loved one. She also introduces the OCD Freedom Formula Bootcamp—a program designed to provide practical skills and strategies to help OCD caregivers and warriors effectively manage OCD in their lives.

Key Topics Discussed:

  1. The Complexity of OCD:
    • Understanding OCD as an unwelcome passenger on the "bus" of life.
    • How OCD sees danger everywhere and creates persistent anxiety through obsessions and compulsions.
    • Why traditional instincts of fixing or helping often worsen OCD rather than improve it.
  2. The Number One Lesson Learned:
    • Manage Your Own Bus: The most helpful way to support a loved one with OCD is to manage yourself.
    • Resist the urge to fix or control your loved one’s OCD. Instead, focus on being an empathic witness, offering love, presence, and belief in their ability to manage OCD.
  3. How to Show Up as an Empathic Witness:
    • Be present and convey the message: "I see your pain, and I believe in your ability to rise to the challenge."
    • Avoid trying to control or solve your loved one’s OCD. Instead, work on your own emotional regulation and provide a safe, non-judgmental environment.
  4. Building New Skills:Learn to manage your own emotions, thoughts, and actions while witnessing your loved one's struggles.
    • Develop strategies to feel and regulate your own feelings rather than avoiding or fixing pain.

Actionable Takeaways:

  • Manage your own bus: Focus on yourself and your emotional responses instead of trying to fix your loved one’s OCD.
  • Show up as an empathic witness: Be present, compassionate, and supportive without trying to control the situation.
  • Invest in skills for self-regulation: Develop tools to manage your thoughts, emotions, and actions so you can be a source of calm for your loved one.

Quotes:

  • "OCD is like an unwelcome passenger on the bus, creating chaos. The best way to help your loved one is to manage your own bus."
  • "Show up as an empathic witness, saying, 'I see your pain, and I believe in your ability to manage OCD.'"

Final Thoughts: Dr. Rackner emphasizes that managing yourself and becoming an empathic witness are the most powerful tools you can use to support someone with OCD. Rather than trying to fix or control the situation, focus on providing a safe, calm, and loving environment. By doing so, you’ll be a stronger source of support, helping your loved one manage their OCD more effectively.

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4 Pillars of OCD Success10 Apr 202400:18:32

Episode Title: 4 Pillars of OCD Success

Host: Dr. Vicki Rackner, MD

Summary: In this episode of Free Me From OCD Podcast, Dr. Vicki Rackner introduces the Four Pillars of OCD Success—four foundational principles to help OCD Warriors and their caregivers thrive. These pillars provide a structure that supports healing, growth, and freedom from OCD. Dr. Rackner draws from her experience as a physician, mother of a son with OCD, and certified life coach, offering listeners valuable insights and practical tips to support their journey toward overcoming OCD.

Key Takeaways:

  1. Pillar 1: Connection to the Science of OCD and Best Practices
    • Understanding OCD through a biological model removes judgment and stigma.
    • It’s important to replace myths with facts about OCD, such as the role of obsessions and compulsions.
    • Therapy, especially Exposure and Response Prevention (ERP), is essential in managing OCD effectively.
    • Explore new scientific discoveries about the nervous system, microbiome, and how they relate to OCD management.
  2. Pillar 2: Connection to Yourself
    • Knowing yourself—your needs, desires, and brain wiring—helps you become a stronger caregiver.
    • The goal of OCD management is to keep OCD at bay, like an annoying buzzing mosquito.
    • Learn to manage your thoughts, regulate your nervous system, and embrace self-compassion to better support your loved one.
  3. Pillar 3: Connection with Your OCD Warrior
    • Reclaim leadership in your family by fostering an environment of love and support, not one controlled by OCD.
    • Be an empathic witness, showing up for your loved one with empathy and encouragement.
    • Support your OCD Warrior in a way that empowers them to manage their own OCD.
  4. Pillar 4: Connection to Community
    • Feeling isolated is common for OCD Warriors and caregivers.
    • Finding a safe, supportive community can make a significant difference in managing OCD.
    • Dr. Rackner emphasizes the importance of caregivers connecting with others who understand OCD to share experiences, insights, and encouragement.

Actionable Steps:

  • Educate yourself about OCD: Replace myths with a deeper understanding of OCD's biological roots and best therapeutic practices.
  • Focus on self-awareness: Know what you need to thrive, and learn tools to regulate your own emotions and thoughts.
  • Be a supportive force for your loved one: Create an environment that helps your OCD Warrior feel safe and understood.
  • Join a supportive community: Don’t navigate this journey alone—connect with others who understand and can offer support.

Quotes:

  • “People with neurodivergent brains, like those with OCD, thrive when supported by solid external structures.”
  • “The best way to help a loved one with OCD is to manage yourself first. Be the empathic witness they need.”
  • “You have the potential to be a key force for healing in your loved one’s journey with OCD.”

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The Connection Prescription: How to Plug into a Person in Pain without Shorting Out05 Apr 202400:32:02

Episode Title: The Connection Prescription: How to Plug into a Person in Pain without Shorting Out

Host: Dr. Vicki Rackner, MD

Summary: In today’s episode of the Free Me From OCD Podcast, Dr. Vicki Rackner discusses how to effectively connect with a loved one in pain, particularly those struggling with OCD. Drawing from personal experiences as a physician and mother of a son with OCD, she shares tools for reaching out with confidence, clarity, and compassion. This episode focuses on what caregivers can do differently to support their loved ones without feeling overwhelmed or "shorting out." Dr. Rackner introduces the Connection Prescription©️, a powerful method that helps caregivers provide comfort, strength, and hope.

Actionable Steps:

  • Set Your Calm: When your OCD Warrior is in pain, calm your own nervous system first before responding.
  • Be Present: Listen deeply and acknowledge your loved one’s pain without trying to fix it or minimize it.
  • Stay Regulated: Learn tools to stay in a calm, regulated state even when your loved one is dysregulated.
  • Join a Community: You don’t have to do this alone. Join a support group or community to share your experiences and learn from others.

Quotes:

  • "Human connection is powerful medicine."
  • "When you set your emotional thermostat to calm, you help your loved one catch your calm instead your catching their chaos."
  • "The best way to help someone in pain is to say with your words and actions, 'I see you, I’m here, and together, we’ll get through this.'"

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2 Kinds of Pain: Part 2 of 3 - OCD and Pain15 Mar 202400:13:29

Episode Title: 2 Kinds of Pain: Part 2 of 3 - OCD and Pain

Host: Dr. Vicki Rackner

Summary: In this second episode of a three-part series on pain and OCD, Dr. Vicki Rackner explores the difference between primary pain and poisonous pain. She explains how our natural responses to pain, especially when dealing with OCD, can either help us move forward or keep us stuck in a cycle of suffering. Dr. Rackner also shares insights into how our brains react to pain and offers practical advice on how to manage it more effectively, leaning into primary pain to heal and avoiding the traps of poisonous pain.

Key Takeaways:

  1. Understanding Primary Pain:
    • Primary pain is a natural response to real loss or difficult circumstances. It's the immediate pain we feel when something important to us is disrupted—like the loss of something meaningful, whether that’s a rose garden or a loved one’s peace of mind due to OCD.
    • Primary pain is an unavoidable part of life, but feeling it and moving through it is the path to healing. It’s like letting the body heal a cut—natural and necessary.
  2. The Danger of Poisonous Pain:
    • Poisonous pain occurs when we try to avoid, numb, or distract ourselves from the natural pain we feel. This includes avoiding situations that cause discomfort, numbing the pain with food, shopping, or other distractions, or blaming yourself or others for the situation.
    • Avoidance, distraction, and self-blame keep you stuck and add layers of suffering to the primary pain.
    • These responses come from the Paleo Brain, which interprets pain as dangerous and tries to help you avoid it, but in doing so, makes the situation worse.
  3. The Role of the Paleo Brain:
    • Your Paleo Brain has three main strategies to protect you from pain:
      1. Avoidance – It tries to keep you away from things that might trigger pain, like looking away from the skeleton of a rose bush that was eaten by goats (or avoiding OCD-related triggers).
      2. Numbing – It encourages you to escape painful feelings through distractions like binge-watching TV, eating, or shopping.
      3. Blame and Resistance – It focuses your attention on fighting against what’s already happened, or blaming yourself or others for the pain.
    • These strategies keep you stuck in poisonous pain, preventing you from moving forward and healing.
  4. The Importance of Leaning Into Primary Pain:
    • Moving through primary pain is the key to growth and healing. Avoidance and distraction only increase suffering.
    • In the context of OCD, trying to avoid the discomfort of obsessions through compulsions only strengthens the OCD cycle.
    • Learning to feel your feelings—such as anxiety, sadness, or frustration—and trusting that you can survive them is a crucial step in overcoming both OCD and poisonous pain.
  5. Practical Tips for Managing Pain:
    • Identify Primary vs. Poisonous Pain: Ask yourself, "Is this pain a result of my current circumstances (primary pain), or is it my brain's attempt to avoid or numb the pain (poisonous pain)?"
    • Challenge Your Thoughts: Be mindful of thoughts that cause you to blame yourself or others, or to avoid the pain. Redirect your attention back to the primary pain and let yourself feel it.
    • Be Kind to Yourself: Treat yourself with the same compassion you would offer a child. Avoid harsh self-judgme

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The 5 Pain Personalities: Part 1 of OCD and Pain01 Mar 202400:11:40

OCD is associated with different kinds of pain. Your experience is shaped by your Pain Personality. In this episode, you will:

  • Learn Dr. Vicki's 5 Pain Personalities


  • Discover how your Pain Personality shapes your experience with OCD


  • Understand how you can modify your innate response to. pain so you get a better result


  • See how different Pain Personalities contribute to family conflict about OCD.

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How to Manage Perfectionism...with or without OCD23 Feb 202400:19:32

Episode Title: How to Manage Perfectionism...with or without OCD

Host: Dr. Vicki Rackner, MD

Summary: In this episode, Dr. Vicki Rackner explores the concept of perfectionism and its impact on people with and without OCD. 

Key Takeaways:

  1. The Difference Between Healthy Striving and Perfectionism:
    • Healthy striving is about personal growth and aiming for excellence based on what you value.
    • Perfectionism is about fear of judgment, driven by external validation and the belief that by being perfect, you can avoid blame or shame.
    • While healthy striving leads to growth, perfectionism leaves you stuck in cycles of anxiety and disappointment.
  2. Perfectionism’s Backfire Effect:
    • Perfectionism often leads to procrastination, missed deadlines, and exhaustion.
    • Perfectionism is harmful not only in your professional life but also in personal relationships.
  3. Perfectionism and the Brain:
    • Perfectionism is linked to the fear-driven response from our evolutionary Paleo Brain, which sees mistakes as threats to survival.
    • In people with OCD, perfectionism can manifest as compulsions, increasing anxiety rather than alleviating it.
    • Social media can exacerbate perfectionism by constantly presenting "perfect" images that fuel unrealistic expectations.
  4. Exercises for Overcoming Perfectionism:
    • Examine Your Language: Stop identifying yourself or others as a "perfectionist" and view perfectionism as a behavior, not a character trait.
    • Identify Your Perfection-Seeking Habits: Reflect on specific examples of perfectionism in your life and the fears driving them.
    • Weigh the Costs and Benefits: Ask yourself how perfectionism serves or harms you, and challenge the belief that perfection leads to better outcomes.
    • Have a Conversation with Your Perfectionism: Imagine perfectionism as a being you interact with and ask why perfection is necessary in your life.
    • Practice Making Mistakes on Purpose: Try "mistake therapy" by intentionally making mistakes to desensitize yourself to the fear of imperfection.
    • For Those with OCD: If perfectionism is linked to compulsions, work on them with your therapist using ERP (Exposure and Response Prevention).

Actionable Steps:

  • Reflect on where perfectionism shows up in your life. Is it about what you value, or is it driven by fear of judgment?
  • Practice making small, intentional mistakes each day to break the cycle of perfectionism.
  • Shift from a fixed to a growth mindset by celebrating efforts and progress, rather than chasing the unattainable goal of perfection.
  • Seek support from a therapist if your perfectionism is intertwined with OCD compulsions.

Quotes:

  • “Perfectionism is not a badge of honor. It’s a set of behaviors that will keep you stuck.”
  • “Healthy striving is about you. Perfectionism is all about what others think about you.”
  • “Once you know you can live through a feeling, you have nothing to fear anymore.”

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A Powerful OCD Thought Swap Inspired by the Super Bowl16 Feb 202400:15:00

In this podcast episode you'll take away one thought to swap to make it easier for you to be freed from OCD. It was inspired while watching the Super Bowl.

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When Someone Says NO to OCD Treatment09 Feb 202400:31:54

If you have OCD, you might arrive at a day when you say NO to treatment.  What do you do then In this podcast episode, Dr. Vicki Rackner explains how and why people with OCD get stuck, and offers some thoughts about getting unstuck.

The Article:  Letting Naomi Die.

Send in an OCD Confessions Postcard

Join the "Get Unstuck from OCD" Challenge

Learn about ERP

Reach out to NOCD to find an ERP practitioner

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How to Manage Disgust--With or Without OCD31 Jan 202400:20:20

Disgust is one of the strongest, most common and most commonly misunderstood  emotions we have. In this podcast episode, we’ll explore what disgust is, how it helps us and how it harms us. Specifically, let’s address how to manage disgust if it’s part of the OCD picture—or part of your life even if you don’t have OCD. 

Click here to download the Exploring Disgust Worksheet

Click here to learn more about the OCD Freedom Formula Bootcamp.  This 28 day program kicks off 5/7/24. 

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Common Feelings about OCD--and How to Manage Them23 Jan 202400:28:47

When you or someone you love is diagnoseds with OCD, you may have strong feelings. In this episode, Dr. Vicki Rackner shares common feelings, and offers ideas about how to manage them.

Click here to download a worksheet about your thoughts and feelings.

Click here to learn more about the OCD Freedom Formula Bootcamp.  This 28 day program kicks off 5/7/24. 

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Who is Your OCD Monster?06 Nov 202400:10:12

Have you named your OCD monster? This episode explores embracing the parts of ourselves we hide while reclaiming control over the voices that don't define us.

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OCD's #1 Question: "Am I safe, am I in danger or am I gonna die? 11 Jan 202400:34:05

Feeling unsafe is woven into the fabric of OCD.

AND feeling unsafe makes it harder to manage OCD.

In this podcast, you'll get some tips for avoiding the dangers of the danger response, and seeking safety more safely.

Click here to download a worksheet to explore what contributes to your sense of safety.

Click here to learn more about the OCD Freedom Formula Bootcamp.  This 28 day program kicks off 5/7/24. 

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How to Yell Less --and Recover Faster27 Dec 202300:24:44

If you are the parent of a child with neurodiverse brain wiring--OCD or ADHD or autism--you might lose your cool and yell at your child or partner or friend. You might even yell at yourself!. Do you want to yell less? Would you like to recover faster when you do? Dr. Vicki Rackner, physician founder of Free Me from OCD, offers some tips.

Click here  to get on the waiting list to be notified when we open membership to the OCD Haven. It's a virtual online community for people with OCD-- and the people who love them. You'll find a safe place to become educated, share stories, get coached and know you are not alone! 



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OCD and Money: Taking on a Taboo Topic23 Nov 202300:25:20

Do you know someone with OCD who struggles with money? Join us as we reveal the financial challenges faced by individuals living with OCD and their families .

Click here to learn more about the OCD Freedom Formula Bootcamp.  This 28 day program kicks off 5/7/24. 

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Unraveling Trauma30 Oct 202300:30:08

What is trauma?
What's happening in the brains of people with trauma?
How do you know  if you have it?
What's the connection between trauma and OCD?
What is intergenerational trauma?

In this podcast episode, Dr. Vicki Rackner offers some answers.

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What is ERP?18 Oct 202300:14:14

In almost every podcast episode I mention ERP. Today I would like to share with you what ERP is, how it works and speculations about why it's so effective.

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A Story About How the Human Brain Works15 Sep 202300:21:28

Our brains are obsessed with answer to a singular question: Right here and right now, am I safe? 

In this podcast episode you'll hear a story about how the brain works,  and how and why being safe is still a top priority.

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How a Diagnosis of OCD Can Help You--Or Harm You30 Aug 202300:21:49

Finally your healthcare professional delivers the three little words. Obsessive compulsive disorder. 


You might have heard. “You have OCD.” Or “Your child has OCD.”


The diagnosis of OCD does not have magical powers. Your brain wiring is the same the day before and after a health care professional delivers the diagnosis.


However, the meaning you ascribe to the diagnosis and what you do with a diagnosis can radically transform your life.


So today, let’s discuss:

  • Why a diagnosis is so important, especially when a diagnosis describes how neurodiverse brains work. 
  • What is the value of an accurate diagnosis?
  • How and why do people use the diagnosis against themselves and do more harm than good?

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What To Do When Your Kids Are Disappointed14 Aug 202300:22:04

Do you feel uncomfortable when your kids are disappointed? You are not alone!

In this  podcast episodes you will find:

  • Insights into why our kids’ disappointment tends to be such a problem for us parents.
  • The high cost of an unwillingness to live with the discomfort of disappointment.
  • What you CAN do when your child is disappointed.

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How to Manage Disappointment Part 130 May 202300:16:38

We all face disappointment at some point in our lives, and it can be challenging to manage those feelings. In this podcast we will:

  • Explore what disappointment is 
  • Identify common  ways of managing disappointment that are NOT effective
  • Lay out a process for effectively managing disappointment.


This is Part 1 in which we help you manage your own disappointment. In the next episode we'll talk about how to help your child manage his/her disappointment. We'll also address what you say and do when someone disappointment you, or someone expresses their disappointment in circumstances in which you are involved.

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Are You Burned Out? 11 May 202300:19:34

By the time parents of adult kids with OCD find me, they are almost uniformly burned out. In this podcast episode, you’ll find:

  • A working definition of burnout
  • The most common and most commonly overlooked cause of burnout
  • What one thing you can do TODAY to break through burnout.

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Halloween: Fun or an OCD Nightmare?31 Oct 202400:11:46

What is Halloween like for someone with OCD? In this Free Me From OCD podcast episode, we take a closer look at Halloween—a holiday celebrated for its thrills and chills, yet one that can be particularly challenging for those dealing with OCD. We’ll dive into three key questions:

1. Why is Halloween so much fun for many?

2. Why isn’t Halloween as enjoyable for people with OCD?

3. How can someone manage OCD effectively during this spooky season?

For those interested in the psychology behind Halloween’s appeal, check out the Harvard Business Review article, The Psychology Behind Why We Love (or Hate) Horror.

Whether Halloween fills you with excitement or dread, tune in to gain insight, understanding, and strategies for navigating it with confidence.

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Postpartum OCD: Insights from OCD Expert Jenna Overbaugh20 Apr 202300:32:34

Welcoming a new baby into the family is a joy-filled event. However, human brains can pose challenges. You already know about postpartum depression. In this podcast episode you will learn about postpartum OCD. My guest, Jenna Overbaugh, is a licensed professional counselor and NOCD therapist. Jenna shares her own experience with postpartum OCD and demystifies this taboo condition. 

Do you know someone who might be struggling with postpartum OCD? Here are some helpful resources.

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Is Your Child with OCD Broken?10 Apr 202300:16:49

Has your child learning to manage OCD ever told you, “I’m broken?” Have you ever thought about your child as broken? This podcast is for you. We’ll explore the high cost of thinking of people as broken. Then I’ll show you a different path.

Click here to watch the basketball challenge. 

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What to Know and Do When Your Child with OCD Applies to College04 Apr 202300:54:06

College application is the source of anxiety.  In this podcast episode, you'll hear a conversation with our guest Dan Ulin.  For the past 35 years, Dan has helped kids get into the college of their dreams and set them up for success in adult life through his company Elite Student Coach.   

In this episode, Dan offers answers to the following questions:

1. What do college admissions officers want?
2. What are some tips to help a college applicant be successful?
3. Should the diagnosis of OCD be disclosed on college applications?
4. What if the student likes a college, but there are no resources for students with OCD?

Questions for Dan? He invites you to email him at dan@elitestudentcoach.com

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What to Do When You Think, "I'm to Blame for My Child's OCD." 30 Mar 202300:25:37

Have you ever thought, “I’m to blame for my child’s OCD?” 


It seems like such an innocent thought; however, it is not.


In this podcast episode I will help you understand the the high cost to hanging onto the thought, “I’m to blame for my child’s OCD.” Or any variation of “I’m a bad parent.” You’ll see why it’s downright dangerous. 


You’ll also learn and what to do when you have this thought, or your in-laws tell you that you are responsible for your child’s OCD. 


We’ll also explore what to do when your child blames you for their OCD.

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Family Feuds Part 3: What to Say to Your Child Instead of Engaging in Power Struggles08 Mar 202300:19:16

Would you like an alternative to power struggles with your kids managing OCD? In this episode, you learn the third stage of the Relationship Reboot. Here you'll learn what to say to you kids instead of getting into an emotional tug-of-war about how your adult child managed OCD.

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Fighting Family Feuds, Part 2 of 313 Feb 202300:19:25

Have you ever been in an emotional tug-of-war with your child or other family members about how OCD is managed? In this episode, you'll learn to unplug from OCD-related power struggles with the Relationship Reboot. This is the second of a series of 3 podcasts.

 Click here to listen to the first in the series.

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Family Feuding About OCD? Try Something That WORKS!17 Jan 202300:23:12

Have you ever been in an emotional tug-of-war with your child or other family members about how OCD is managed? In the next series of 3 podcasts, I’ll uncover the origins of the most common conflict within families—which are usually power struggles— and show you how power struggles do more harm than good. Then I’ll lay out an alternative I call the Relationships Reboot.

Click here to listen to the podcast episode in which I interview NOCD's Tracy Ibrahim about EPR--the evidence-based treatment for OCD proven to work.


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How to Manage Harm OCD with Guest Tracie Ibrahim26 Aug 202200:28:07

What do you do if OCD obsessions take the form of thoughts or urges of harming yourself or harming others?

In this podcast interview,  Dr. Vicki interviews NOCD leader and therapist Tracie Ibrahim. Tracy helps us understand what harm OCD is--and what it is not.

Here are the main take-away messages:
1. People with OCD can have thoughts and urges about harming themselves or others.

2. These thoughts about harm are usually obsessive thoughts or urges.

3. Harm themes are managed in exactly the same way other OCD thoughts or urges are managed.

4.  It's critically important to be evaluated and treated by a therapist skilled at managing OCD harm themes. Reach out to NOCD to get connected with such a therapist.

NOTE: If you have any question about whether your child is suicidal, err on the side of safety and bring your child to the ER.

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Debunking the Top 5 Myths About OCD12 Aug 202200:21:59

I would like to nominate OCD as one of the 5 most misunderstood condition in medicine.

Lack of information can lead to suffering as the OCD diagnosis and treatment are delayed.

In this podcast episode I will debunk the top 5 myths.

Click here to visit the International OCD Foundation.

Click here to listen to the podcast about ERP.

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Click here to get on the waiting list for The OCD Haven. This is a safe place to educate yourself, talk about your experiences with OCD, pose your questions and get support.

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OCD and Shame25 Jul 202200:28:43

OCD and shame seem to be tied at the hip. 

In this podcast episode we'll explore what shame is, where it comes from and how to manage it. You’ll see that shame can sabotage you as you learn to manage OCD—-or serve you.

Here are the main take-away messages:

Shame is just a feeling.  It will not kill you, although it might feel like it! Shame communicates the message that you have not lived up to the standards you set for yourself. When you have guilt, you say to yourself, "I made a mistake." When you have shame, you say to yourself, "I am a mistake." You get embarrassed when you worry what others will think of you. Click here to  listen to the podcast episode about embarrassment. 

If you think you have to earn your worthiness, you are vulnerable to feeling shame. OCD makes you more vulnerable to experiencing shame.  When you have shame, you will want to hide. The hiding can prevent you from getting to the other side of OCD. 

Shame is triggered by circumstances; however,  shame is caused by a thought that you are unworthy.  Shame leads to hiding and lying. the hiding makes shame worse. 

Here are some thoughts to manage shame:

1. Recognize the feeling of shame.

2. Don't judge yourself for having shame.

3. You can replace the thought "I'm unworthy" to "I'm worthy." The "thought ladder" can help you get there.

4. Don't hide. Speak your truth. You can send an anonymous postcard to 

Here's the mailing address:

OCD Confessions

Dr. Vicki Rackner 

2355 Fairview Ave N #219

Roseville, MN 55113   

Can't wait to share them with you!

 
 

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Helping Someone with OCD: It’s Not a Suicide Mission23 Oct 202400:09:40

If you parent an adult child with OCD, you might think that your job is to protect your loved one from the pain associated with unmanaged OCD. 


This is a suicide mission. 


In this podcast episode, see the more effective way to make a positive difference when someone you love is learning to manage OCD.


Your secret weapon that will make the biggest difference for your loved one with OCD is forming a trusting relationship.


In this podcast episode you will find four tips to do that. 


Listen to this podcast episode to learn more about stepping into the role of the empathic witness. My Top Tips for Helping a Loved One Manage OCD : https://www.freemefromocd.org/season-01-episode-42

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How to Manage OCD Sexual Themes with Guest Tracie Ibrahim 24 Jun 202200:42:39

It's the ultimate taboo topic---OCD sexual themes.  Listen to this podcast conversation with NOCD therapist Tracie Ibrahim . You will find:

  • Unpleasant and disturbing sexual thoughts and images are very common with OCD.
  • OCD thoughts are often lies.
  • Sexual OCD obsessions are managed in the exact same way any other obsession is managed.

Would you like to break the conspiracy of silence about your OCD sexual thoughts?  Send an anonymous postcard to

OCD Confessions
2400 NW 80th St #216
Seattle WA 98117


Click here to listen to my conversation with Tracie about ERP.

Please feel welcome to leave your thoughts or comments.

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What Do You Do When You Feel Stuck?13 Jun 202200:12:30

Have you ever tried to achieve a big goal and felt stuck? Maybe you're even moving backwards. What do you do?

In this podcast episode, Dr. Vicki offers a suggestion about how to get unstuck.

Click here to watch a video of Dr. Vicki's son deadlifting 550 lbs https://youtu.be/8wEjkQiFCAA




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Why Is Managing OCD So Hard?18 May 202200:21:29

If your child has OCD, you might wonder, "My child is exhausted from responding to all the demands his 'OCD Monster' makes. He wants to get back in the driver's seat of his life.  He knows what to do to manage OCD. Why isn't he doing it?"

There are good reasons. Here are the top three you will learn about in this episode:

1. Your child's biology.
2. Limits of medical science that make it difficult to get a diagnosis of OCD and then find the right treatment.
3. Beliefs that transformation should be fast, easy and relatively free from discomfort.

Managing OCD is HARD WORK.  The evidence-based treatment proven to work is ERP.  To learn more, I invite you to visit NOCD.

Do you like the idea of creating a family culture in which members do hard things?  You're invited to be a Founding Member our "Do Hard Things and Get Results" Community.

The goal of this community is to help you evolve into the best version of yourself--no matter what.  We want to help you:

  • Be who you  are
  • Know what you  know and 
  • Do what you need to do.

Here you will:

1.  Set a goal--whether it's losing weight, or becoming more fit or stop overspending.
2.  Have a community who holds you accountable.
3.  Celebrate wins and overcome hurdles.
4.  Participate in training calls where we address specific topics like:

  • How to resist urges
  • What to do when you fall off the wagon
  • How to manage hard feelings
  • How to deal with perfectionism or people pleasing
  • How to create a protocol that works for you.

5. Join group coaching calls. You can get in the hot seat and get specific ideas about how to get unstuck.

Click here to learn more about becoming a Founding Member of the Do Hard Things and Get Real Results Community.  The membership fee covers all members of your family. Each family member can set different goals.

Membership includes participation  in the general community. We will also have breakout groups for:

  • People who want to lose weight.
  • People who want to get fit.
  • People who want to respond to their kids with OCD more effectively .

We will open other topic-specific groups as the needs arise. 

We look forward to working with you!

 




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What is ERP? An Interview with NOCD's Tracie Ibrahim 28 Apr 202200:33:42

In this episode I have the pleasure of interviewing Tracie Ibrahim. Tracie is the Director of Clinical Risk Management at NOCD.  She's also a therapist who uses ERP in her OCD toolbox.

You will hear Tracie's personal and professional journey with OCD. She will also share with you what ERP is, and why she uses it as she treats her clients with OCD.

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