Daniel Coombes and Jo Harrison discuss how to protect children’s mental health when their parents are in family court proceedings, or any process where a third party needs to make a decision for them, such as arbitration.
Whether proceedings are about the children themselves, or the parents’ finances, Daniel and Jo agree that both the parents and the lawyers should do as much as possible to insulate children from the process and stress associated with it.
They talk about direct ways to look out for children, as well as practical strategies to help parents protect themselves and support everyone’s wellbeing.
This in-depth conversation covers, but is not limited to:
· When and how to speak to children about family proceedings
· The value of giving children a voice and how to do this in an age-appropriate way
· The difference between feeling heard and being stuck in the middle
· The importance of communication and trust between parent and child
· Spotting signs that a child is struggling with their mental health
· Getting help from third parties such as family, school and experts
· Children’s involvement in proceedings, such as CAFCASS interviews
· The benefit of boundaries and why parents should set them with their lawyers
· The impact of stress on decision making
· Dealing with disappointing outcomes
· Managing handovers when you’re in conflict
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