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Did you ever think that improv could apply to dating? Repeat guest Miriam Katz is back this week, a fun, hands-on conversation about how to feel lighter, more confident, and more authentic on dates…using improv! They talk about tone and enthusiasm, how to practice presence in low-pressure everyday moments, and why “being good” is not the goal if you’re trying to connect like a real human. Ali flips the usual script and lets Miriam run a few playful prompts to demonstrate how loosening up and staying curious can pull you out of performance mode and into actual connection - especially when nerves start to spike. This interactive episode features tools you can use before dates, interviews, and any situation that triggers self-consciousness. And ps: FMH The Pod is now on Youtube so you can see these exercises in action!

But first, we hear from Tony and Katy in Dating Diaries as Tony navigates an energy shift with someone new and Katie shares a promising update ahead of a fourth (!) date.

Where to find Miriam: On Instagram @theexappealpodcast, on TikTok @exappeal, at www.miriamkatz.com.

Timestamps: Miriam joins us at around minute 22.

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In this New Year episode, Ali shares her word for the year, foundation, and the theme guiding how she’s setting up the year ahead: less chaos, more intention.

She explains her process for reflecting on the past year and talks through the unglamorous but powerful changes she’s focusing on in her daily life, including routines, work structure, habits, and health.

Ali also answers listener questions about building routines without burning out, staying consistent when motivation fades, and how to pursue stability without slipping into stagnation.

At the end, she teases last week’s Patreon episode with Skyline, where they talk about building a future intentionally and a big event coming this year.

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In this episode, Ali is joined by Skyline for a continuation of last week’s year in review episode, this time focused on their relationship. Using a framework from her friend Talia, host of the Dating Intentionally podcast, they reflect on the past year as a couple. It’s an honest, conversational look at what stood out, what worked, what surprised them, and what the year actually felt like when you zoom out and look at it together.

They talk through big-picture moments, favorite memories, travel, routines, energy, and what quality time really means in day-to-day life, before looking ahead to the year to come. Plus, a little recap on life at home with Mama J and a preview of deeper conversations on the Patreon.

Timestamps: Topic talk begins at around minute 4.

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In this solo Year in Review episode, Ali shares an honest recap of 2025, including the wins, the messy parts, and why this year felt more like a quiet level-setting season than a highlight reel. She reflects on how Finding Mr. Height has evolved, what surprised her about self-employment, and what it looked like to grow “offline” while seeing online growth around her.

Ali also gets real about the hardest parts of 2025, from building confidence around consulting to navigating self-doubt and struggles. She closes with the biggest personal lessons from the year, how her perspective on partnership and routines has changed, and the intentions she’s calling in for 2026, plus a takeaway for anyone feeling behind heading into the new year.

In Updates, Ali reflects on her trip to Costa Rica plus a wild 48 hours of travel. Plus, we hear from Katy & Tony! From mismatched energy to reflecting on how communication styles can stall momentum and signal it’s time to walk away. The conversation ends on a hopeful note with new post-holiday dates, clearer standards, and reminders that feeling safe, seen, and energized matters more than chasing inconsistent effort.

Timestamps:

Katy & Tony's updates begin at around minute 18.

Topic talk begins at around minute 44.

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Ali is joined by her mom (aka Mama J) from their girls trip to Costa Rica for a real, funny, and super practical convo about holiday logistics when you’re dating someone. They start with trip updates (a crab in the hallway, a fully gluten-free resort, and the upcoming “48-hour travel day + cats” marathon), then dive into what listeners said in IG polls about where they’re spending the holidays, when people talk about plans, and what stresses everyone out most.

Ali and Mama J unpack how holiday decisions actually get made, why spending holidays apart isn’t automatically a red flag, and how to communicate with your partner and your family without resentment. They talk about merging traditions, the difference between “the actual day” vs “the feeling,” and why being in your partner’s family space can feel like performing. Plus: a legendary Akavit story, Norwegian Christmas customs, and the surprisingly emotional power of something as small as a stocking with your name on it.

P.S. The two Costa Rica hotels are Occidental Papagayo and Hotel Hacienda Guachipelin

Timestamps: Topic talk begins at around minute 13.

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Content note for this episode: we talk in detail about menopause, infertility and IVF, chronic pain, medical dismissal, and depression.

This week, Ali is joined by longtime listener Sara, who shares a powerful Storytime about discovering she was essentially in menopause at 36. After years of symptoms like debilitating periods, anxiety, depression, fatigue, Sara finally got answers when fertility testing revealed primary ovarian insufficiency likely caused by endometriosis.

Sara walks us through her journey from “something feels off” to tracking her cycle, being dismissed by multiple providers, finally landing in a fertility clinic where she uncovered what had been happening to her body all along. She opens up about the emotional toll of IVF with very low ovarian reserve, moving to egg donor, navigating failed transfers, and what it has meant for her identity, her mental health, and her marriage.

In Updates, Ali is back in NYC and reflecting on relational skills she’s grown while in a relationship with Skyline.

Where to find Sara: On Instagram @blankplatepod, on TikTok @blankplatepod, at www.blankplatepodcast.com.

Timestamps: Sara joins us at around minute 22.

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Katy & Tony are back this week to share their updates from the dating trenches. First, Tony tells us about the guy he’s surprisingly started dating long distance - we unpack mixed signals, hookup-to-date pivots, and how long distance might work better for him.

Then we chat with Katy, whose dating life is serving a completely different flavor of excitement. Think: texting energy, red flags, self-check moments, friends meeting your date, and more. Plus, we send a follow-up text live on the mic!

In Updates, I’m reflecting on my first holiday spent with Skyline’s family (and the first spent away from mine in 20 years).

Timestamps: Katy & Tony joins us at around minute 21.

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This week, Ali welcomes the brilliant and endlessly curious Miriam Tinberg, a content creator who describes herself (rightly so!) as a conversation starter. If you like discussions that make you say, “wait, I’ve never thought about it like that,” you’re in the right place. We dive into unspoken rules, etiquette, communication patterns, and the gray space we all actually live in - not just in dating & relationships, but in all of life!

The two also chat about this week’s Media Mention, “Good Conversations Have Lots of Doorknobs” by Adam Mastroianni: https://www.experimental-history.com/p/good-conversations-have-lots-of-doorknobs

In Updates, Ali is back from vacation, where she and Skyline relaxed, reset, dealt with a surprise back injury, and started dreaming up future trips. They also tackled some big home and routine changes now that he’s back in an office five days a week.

Where to find Miriam: On Instagram @miriam_tinny, on Substack.

Timestamps: Miriam joins us at around minute 22.

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In this episode, Ali sits down with somatic sex coach and author Rachel Overvoll for an honest, expansive conversation about divorce, desire, and learning to feel safe in your own body. The two talk about the shifting stigma around divorce, why “it might end” is not a reason to avoid marriage, and how women are often conditioned to over-function in relationships until they burn out.

Rachel also breaks down what it means to be relational in partnership, how to tell the difference between fighting for your relationship and staying out of obligation, and practical ways to work through resentment when a partner is finally stepping up.

Then we get into sex and embodiment, including how to recognize performative sex, why pressure kills pleasure, and simple somatic tools you can use to get out of your head during intimacy.

In Updates, Ali is on vacation in Mexico and using that time to chat shifting domestic roles with Skyline.

Where to find Rachel: On Instagram @rachelovervoll and at www.modernintimacy.com.

Timestamps: Rachel joins us at around minute 11.

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Ali is solo this week answering questions submitted by you, the listeners! Our question round up includes: navigating comfort vs spark chasing in a new relationship, starting to date when you’re still getting over your ex, how Skyline and I establish de-escalating tactics in every day life, finding a partner who appreciates your independence, and more.

In Updates, Ali had a wonderful time at the Red Door Community gala - plus we hear from Elyse!

Timestamps: Topic talk begins at around minute 25

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Therapist and creator of Detangling Divorce, Stacey Sherrell, joins Ali to talk about the role of self-trust in finding a strong partnership, her own path to divorce, and how couples can set themselves up for success long before a crisis. Topics also include: respect as a non-negotiable and how to spot corrosive conflict, the invisible mental load, when to start couples therapy, the questions to ask yourself before having kids, and talking money with your partner.

In Updates, Ali is recovering from food poisoning and reflecting on feeling safe to be triggered in a relationship (a very timely reflection with this week’s guest!).

Where to find Stacey: On Instagram @detanglingdivorce and at www.detanglingdivorce.com.

Timestamps: Stacey joins us at around minute 17.

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Katy & Tony are back on the pod for a deep dive into their dating app profiles (plus a sneak peek at some upcoming updates). In this Dating Diaries episode, Ali reviews each of their profiles - Hinge for Katy, Tinder & Grindr for Tony - and the three come away with some great updates to make. From dimly lit photos to making bios sound like your unique voice…there’s a lot to cover! And the vibe between these two friends as they review each other’s profiles is amazing, too.

But first, Ali recaps her housewarming party with Skyline featuring a new kind bar, plus looks ahead to how division of household labor will need to change with Skyline’s shifting work schedule.

Timestamps: Katy & Tony join us at around minute 13.

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If you haven’t come across the Hot Chef saga on Threads…first of all, how?! Second of all, you’re truly missing out. But not to worry - this week, Ali sits down with the woman at the center of it all, Katherine Wela Bogen. We dive into this joy-filled, captivating, and refreshingly real modern-day romance from start to finish. After a string of disappointing dating experiences, Katherine shares how a trip to Paris — and one bold move into a restaurant kitchen — led her to where she is today. In this heartwarming episode, we’re unpacking how intuition, risk-taking, and a little romantic courage can change everything.

But first, in Updates, Ali is back from Japan and preparing for her housewarming with Skyline (with a few cranky moments along the way!). We’re also looking forward to upcoming pod topics and previewing a new guest!

Where to find Katherine: On Instagram @k.w.bogen, on Threads @k.w.bogen, and on TikTok @sexualityscholar. Pre-Order Katherine's book Queering Him here.

Timestamps: Katherine joins us at around minute 31.

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Ali is collaborating in the studio with Rory Uphold, host of the Crimes of the Heart podcast! The two set out to chat about their most and least favorite pieces of dating advice, but quickly realize that this conversation is the start of a new friendship. Topics range from who should pay on a first date to why dating is so hard right now to the specific difficulties women face in navigating today’s world. It’s their first time talking but certainly won’t be the last!

In Updates, Ali is coming to you live from Japan!! She chats a bit about the trip so far, what she’s enjoying most about the country (hint: it’s edible), how Skyline is faring with the cats at home, and more. Plus, she’s caught up on the first 6 episodes of Love Is Blind and can’t believe what she’s watching (no spoilers though).

Where to find Rory On Instagram @icouldbeblonder, on TikTok @roryuphold, the Crimes of the Heart Podcast and her book Dating is a Horror Show. Be the Final Girl. Use code HEIGHT15 to get 15% off your copy. 

Timestamps: Rory joins us at around minute 28.

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It’s the final part of our three-part series on new relationships! Ali is joined by Talia Koren, host of the Dating Intentionally podcast, to dive into navigating each phase of your budding partnership with confidence. Check out part one (ep # 234.5) and part two (ep # 238.5) for tips on navigating the first three months and first six months.

In part three, Ali and Talia explore what reaching the one-year mark in a relationship looks like. Topics include: moving in together, starting engagement conversations, navigating career shifts and family introductions, and keeping the spark alive after a year. They also reflect on celebrating anniversaries, working through anxieties, and the key conversations that helped their relationships grow. Listener questions cover whether it’s too soon to talk marriage, how to handle changes in sex and intimacy, and what to do if you’re still unsure about long-term commitment. Overall, we’re chatting about reflection, growth, and alignment as couples enter a new stage together.

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We’re meeting two new Dating Diaries participants this week…and they’re recording together! Real-life friends Katy & Tony introduce themselves to the pod and give us all some background as we look forward to following their dating journeys. From divorces to scarcity mindsets to pattern breaking…we hear it all (and they chime in on each other too).

But first, Ali is preparing to leave for Japan and racing to get as much done as possible in her new shared space with Skyline before she leaves. Plus, a quick update on focus groups!

This week’s Media Mention is from The Gottman Institute and titled "How to Maintain Individuality in Shared Spaces.”

Timestamps: Katy & Tony join us at around minute 22.

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Did you know that perimenopause can start in your 30s and last up to 10 years?? Many people (your host included, until recently) do not and Mandi Dixon, LPC is here this week to talk about it. In her work as a therapist, she also focuses on navigating ADHD during this time of life and how those hormone swings can hit especially hard. Without us even realizing it! She sits down with Ali to break down why so many women are diagnosed with ADHD later in life, how estrogen impacts dopamine and executive function, and what all of this means for your relationships (plus much more!).

But first, in Updates, Ali reflects on a long weekend with her family (and Skyline) as they continue to organize their home and prepare for a housewarming. Plus, we hear from Elyse in a Dating Diaries update section!

Where to find Mandi: On Instagram @adhdmenopausetherapist, on TikTok @adhdmenopausetherapist, at www.mandidixonlpc.com.

Timestamps: Mandi joins us at around minute 41.

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It’s a Hot Topics episode answering listener questions!! Ali is diving into three listener topics: navigating dating in small cities when friends match with the same people, reassessing long-term friendships as values and priorities evolve, and combatting feeling shallow on dating apps with a “no photos” experiment that prioritizes prompts and compatibility.

In Updates, we’re catching up on a week away with Skyline’s family and how meaningful moments strengthened the partnership. Plus, an exciting update on the Finding Mr. Height Patreon - productivity, budgeting, and organization content!

Timestamps: Hot Topics begins around minute 26.

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What happens when you interview every single person you’ve ever dated (or even kissed?!)? Miriam Katz joins Ali to talk about her bold new podcast The Ex Appeal, where she sits down with everyone from her fifth-grade crush to a rabbi, a stripper, and even a semi-famous ex. We get into the nerves, surprises, and emotional moments along the way while exploring the entire concept of closure. What is closure even and is it really all it’s cracked up to be?

In Updates, Ali is on vacation with Skyline’s family! She’ll be back next week with a full debrief on the week.

Where to find Miriam: On Instagram @theexappealpodcast, and on TikTok @exappeal. Listen to Miriam's podcast The Ex Appeal, launching September 21, 2025.

Timestamps: Miriam joins us at around minute 7.

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It’s part two of our three-part series on new relationships! Ali is joined by Talia Koren, host of the Dating Intentionally podcast, to dive into navigating each phase of your budding partnership with confidence. Check out part one (ep # 234.5) for tips on navigating the first three months.

In part two, Ali and Talia discuss the significant milestones and experiences that occur around the six-month mark in a relationship. Topics include: milestones like traveling together and experiencing first conflicts, understanding if someone is marriage material, the importance of relationship check-ins, discussing future plans/timelines, and handling family dynamics. It’s all about communication and alignment in relationships, providing listeners with insights and tips for fostering healthy connections while building trust and intimacy in building a future.

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In this raw and deeply honest episode, Ali speaks to listener Sarah as she shares her story of loving her children while still questioning whether she would make the same choice if she could go back in time. She opens up about the invisible labor of motherhood, not feeling fulfilled by it when all her friends seem to be, and what she wishes she’d thought about it before becoming a mom (while striving to be the best mom she can be). If you’re feeling how Sarah does - you’re not alone!

This week’s Media Mention is Rini Frey, @ownitbabe, on Instagram, who shares super vulnerably about the challenges of motherhood (and other parts of life!).

In Updates, Ali is one week into cohabitation and reflects on her first “Weekly Stand Up” (cue eye rolls) with Skyline. Plus, they’re prepping to go on vacation with each of their families, back to back!

Timestamps: Sarah joins us at around minute 19.

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In this episode, Ali is joined by Sabrina Bendory - author, creator, and voice behind some of the internet’s most-shared advice on healing, self-worth, and emotional detachment. Together, we dive deep into what it really means to reclaim your power in dating and relationships. Highlights include: the turning point in Sabrina’s own (v relatable) story, why detachment isn’t cold or avoidant, and how to let go of someone who isn’t aligned.

In Updates, it’s move-in week!!! Ali shares how the day went moving Skyline into her condo and a bit about what’s to come.

Where to find Sabrina: On Instagram @sabrinabendory, on TikTok @sabrinabendory, at www.sabrinabendory.com.

Pre-order Sabrina's book Detached: How to Let Go, Heal, and Become Irresistible, available September 9th.

Timestamps: Sabrina joins us at around minute 23.

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Are you burned out on dating apps? Or not even interested in swiping left and right on a bunch of strangers in the first place? The founders of the new Cerca dating app have been there, and this week Ali is taking you behind the scenes of building their app. Three members of the Cerca team - Myles Slayton, Carter Munk, and Campbell Arnone - sit down in Ali’s living room to talk about why Gen Z is shunning the apps, how apps can evolve to meet them where they’re at, and how they’re positioning Cerca to address all of this.

In Updates, it’s move-in week!!! Ali prepares for the big move and is feeling like everyone is talking about the topic. Including this week’s Media Mention from The Gottman Institute, titled “20 Essential Questions to Ask Before Moving In Together.”

Download Cerca in the Apple app store and check them out on IG @cercadating and on TikTok @cercaofficial.

Timestamps: The Cerca team joins Ali at around minute 25.

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Ali is joined by Skyline this week on what is soon to be their shared couch! The move-in date is fast approaching, and they’ve both come with a list of things they’re thinking about as the day draws closer. From cleaning schedules to alone time to compromising on decor…they’re talking it through for you! Plus answering listener questions and sharing some of your best advice from past experiences.

But first, this week’s updates are all about Elyse! She kicked off her week with a failed Facetime date but then made it out onto a first date from an app! Hear whether there will be a second and also what’s going on with Coco Jones…

Timestamps: Topic talk begins at around minute 24.

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New relationships come with so much to navigate! In this three-part series, Ali is joined by Talia Koren, host of the Dating Intentionally podcast, to dive into navigating each phase of your budding partnership with confidence.

In part one, Talia and Ali discuss the complexities of the first three months of a relationship, and give advice while sharing insights from their own personal experiences. The two cover: common challenges with shifts in affection and communication, the need for calibration in how partners interact with each other, the transition from a single mindset to a couple's mentality, and more.

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We hear about the benefits of therapy SO often, but how does one even go about finding a therapist? There’s no how-to guide…until now! Ali chats with Nancy Walters, LICSW all about how she, as a therapist, recommends selecting one for yourself. She lovingly refers to her approach to therapy as Hot Mess Therapy: real, raw, intuitive, and deeply human. And is encouraging our listeners to find a real & raw therapist relationship for themselves, with actionable tips plus a step-by-step guide creating just for FMH. You can find that at https://tinyurl.com/fmh-therapist-guide.

Our Media Mention is S7 E31 of the Shrink Chicks podcast, “When Therapy Isn’t Working (Or So It Seems)”

This week’s Updates are all about our Dating Diary participant, Caeli! We hear about what she’s been up to since we last spoke as well as chat about the future of her segment and what she’s learned from sharing publicly.

Timestamps: Nancy joins us at around minute 23.

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Sarah Intelligator runs her family law practice like she runs her yoga studio - with a holistic approach that looks to make people feel stronger leaving than they did entering. In this frank conversation, we get into what Sarah sees most in divorcing couples - and how she advises couples avoid it based on her experience. And prenups? You might be surprised by her opinion on them! But as always, it’s all about communication.

In Updates, Ali shares a special weekend away with Skyline in her one true happy place and reflects on how she feels inviting him into that space.

Where to find Sarah: On Instagram @sarah.a.intelligator.esq, and at www.lafamilylawpractice.com.

Timestamps: Sarah joins us at around minute 22.

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Last week on our Patreon live, Ali shared about navigating feedback - both constructive and otherwise - in such a public sphere. This week, she’s bringing that conversation to the main pod in the spirit of transparency, accountability, and vulnerability. She’s working on focusing on the constructive and appreciates those of you who have shared your thoughts so openly. If you’d like to contribute to the podcast feedback survey, you can do so here: https://tinyurl.com/fmhsurvey25. And if you’d like to join a focus group, please shoot Ali a note on IG!

Before Topic Talk, this week’s Media Mention is an episode of NPR Life Kit, “How To Make Decisions You Won’t Regret.” Ali also chats a bit about an upcoming trip!

Timestamps: Topic talk begins at around minute 25.

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Are you struggling with the decision to have children or not? Or worried about making that decision in the future? Clarity coach Keltie Maguire is here to help! She and Ali chat about Keltie’s personal journey with the decision that led her to her current work, how societal pressures impact the choice, and how to have more grace with ourselves during indecision. Is there data on future regret on both sides of this choice? What if you never “just know” one day? What’s the best way to navigate this decision with a partner? These are just a few of the questions this episode gets into!

Before Keltie joins, Ali chats a bit about her own journey being undecided about kids and how her recent binge of Southern Charm’s early seasons brought this topic to the forefront of her mind.

Where to find Keltie: On Instagram @kidsorchildfree, on TikTok @kidsorchildfree, at www.kidsorchildfree.com.

Timestamps: Keltie joins us at around minute 18.

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Caeli & Elyse are back on the pod this week with updates for us and a whole lot of relatable discussion on dating burnout.

First, we hear from Elyse about a recent first date and how a string of those has left her feeling really dejected about dating apps. IRL dating, though? That’s feeling much better and she has an update (and a goal for herself) with Coco Jones!

Caeli has some huge personal news that’s leaving her with a couple months of down time before life really ramps up. Ali challenges her with a goal to bring some magic back into her dating life.

In Updates, Ali shares a story about a chaotic afternoon from Emmy’s adoption week and chats new benefits on the Patreon!

Timestamps: Caeli & Elyse join at around minute 20.

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Ali went to one of the best shows she’s seen in a LONG time - Love Isn’t Blind, a comedy dating show where the men can’t speak - and she’s on the pod with the creator and host this week! Alli Goldberg created Love Isn’t Blind as an antidote to her own cynicism in dating and it’s truly taken off. Not only do we have Alli in the house - one of the suitors from the recent NYC show, Sascha Mombartz, is here too! The three chat dating IRL, the state of dating apps, cultural dating differences between the US and Europe, strategies for meeting more people offline, and more.

In Updates, Ali & Skyline are one week in with baby kitten Emmy and looking forward to introducing her to Rory & Logan. Ali also reflects more on one of last week’s AITA discussions plus ponders about the future of dating apps with the recent news of Bumble’s layoffs & Hinge’s partnership with Esther Perel.

If you’d like to apply to Love Isn’t Blind as a bachelor or bachelorette, visit loveisntblind.co where you can also grab tickets for an upcoming show in a city near you! Alli is also on Instagram @alli_goldi.

And ladies, Sascha is single! If you’re interested in chatting, you can reach out to him @supermombartz.

Timestamps: Alli & Sascha join Ali at around minute 30.

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We’re bringing back Am I The Asshole discussion episodes, this time featuring Skyline going back and forth with Ali on 5 different AITA submissions! The submissions include: red flags in early dating app conversations, boundaries within a relationship, dealing with a friend’s partner whom you don’t like, losing a friend to their relationship, and navigating childcare disagreements.

But first, we’re chatting about our very eventful week - from getting caught in a thunderstorm on a lake during surprise date to adopting a kitten! And doing a name reveal…

Timestamps: AITA begins at around minute 15.

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We’re talking about co-regulating this week: where two people help each other navigate their emotions. It’s a solo episode with Ali featuring a deep dive into her week away with Skyline that ended with a cancelation of the music festival they were at and a lot of stress surrounding the logistics. She shares a few stressful situations from the weekend, strategies that work for them when navigating conflicting opinions or tough situations, and a moment where she struggled to self-regulate herself. Plus, a listener sent in a question about how anxious attachment might tie into craving structure in relationships, and it’s super relevant to this discussion.

This week’s Media Mention is an article from Psychology Today titled, “The Secret to Resolving Relationship Conflict: Co-Regulating.” It goes into an example from a couples therapist about co-regulating and shifting perspective to prioritizing each other’s needs vs just your own.

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Our two Diary Daters are officially meeting for the first time! In this week’s Dating Diaries episode, Ali brings Caeli & Elyse together to share updates plus swipe together on each of their dating apps. The three discuss how each dater approaches swiping and some best practices to address patterns they’re discovering. Plus, we chat dealbreakers, initial messages, first impressions, and more. And we end up with one potential match for each dater!

In Updates, Ali is meeting Skyline’s family for the first time at his aunt and uncle’s in the South. She reflects on family meetings past and how this feels compared to those. Plus looks forward to leaving for Bonaroo!

This week’s Media Mention is from The Atlantic and titled, “Dear James: I Miss Being On Dating Apps.” You can read it here: https://www.theatlantic.com/culture/archive/2025/03/dear-james-dating-app-fomo/682071/

Timestamps: Caeli & Elyse join around minute 25.

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TW: Grief/Death discussion from around minute 4 to 16.

Have you heard of Human Design, a framework that can help you navigate your unique, innate way of operating in the world? After this week’s conversation with Erin Claire Jones, you’re going to want to look it up ASAP. Ali first learned about Human Design years ago, but it’s only recently that she’s been realizing how much she can apply it in her every day life. Jone’s book, “How Do You Choose?” is the perfect place for anyone to start - it spans romantic relationships, work style, friendships, self care and so much more. Tune into their conversation this week for a sneak peek into how you yourself can apply Human Design to your relationships and discover a more aligned way of moving through the world.

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In Updates, Ali has an emotional moment reflecting on her dad’s birthday and how her recent mental health struggles remind her of how she was feeling when he passed.

This week’s Media Mention is the May 28th episode of Victoria Garrick Browne’s (@victoriagarrickbrowne on IG) podcast, Real Pod. It’s titled, “28th Birthday Reflections: Healing My Hustle Era, Ditching People Pleasing, & Learning to Trust Myself Again.”

Where to find Erin Claire Jones: On Instagram @erinclairejones and @humandesignblueprint, at www.humandesignblueprint.com.

You can find Erin's Book "How Do You Choose?" here: https://humandesignblueprint.com/order-book/

Timestamps: Erin joins us at around minute 23.

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Our Diary Dater Caeli re-joins us on the pod after a whirlwind couple of weeks in her life, from a big interview to a new job. Ali & Caeli revisit a first date that never materialized into a second and debate Caeli’s potential next steps. Then, the two dive into Caeli’s Bumble and chat opening lines, messaging approach, and how to avoid getting overwhelmed by too many matches. Through it all, we may have identified a pattern that Caeli would like to work on as she moves forward!

In Updates, Ali is back from a baby shower trip to San Diego and a last-minute volleyball trip to Denver. She reflects on conversations about the decision to have kids or remain child free and bonding across generations.

This week’s Media Mention comes from the Gottman Institute’s newsletter, titled “Finding a Culturally-Relevant Therapist

Timestamps: Caeli joins us at around minute 20.

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Elyse, one of our Diary Daters, is back on the pod and full of updates to share! First, she goes on a first date that hits a snag when the dude won’t stop looking at his phone. Then, we go back in time to hear some history about a guy who may be entering the picture. But she wonders: should she move forward with getting to know him given some new information she learns?

On Ali’s end, she’s taking Skyline’s advice to heart and approaching her mental health journey with baby steps. She chats about some concrete moves she’s made this past week plus ones she’s looking to put into place moving forward.

This week we have two Media Mentions, both from one of Ali’s favorite podcasts, The Daily. First, from The Daily’s interview with Whitney Wolfe Herd (founder of Bumble) about her take on the future of dating apps. Then, a Modern Love episode revisiting the 36 Questions To Fall In Love, which has Ali reminiscing about when she first knew she was falling in love with Skyline.

Timestamps: Elyse joins us at around minute 34.

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Skyline joins Ali on the pod this week to chat about relationship “rules” (aka agreements) coming out of the Vacation Rules ep a few weeks ago. The two talk about rules they’ve come up with in their relationship, both communicated and otherwise - for example, Ali realizes in real time that they have a rule when they order take out. Then, it’s time to hear from the experts as three friends of the pod chime in on agreements they have in their own relationships. Thanks to Talia Koren, Sabrina Zohar, and Charisse Cooke for their input! They close out the show with input from the listeners - including rules surrounding bedtime smooches, gift giving, conflict resolution, and more.

In Updates, Ali shares some mental health struggles she’s been facing lately and Skyline opens up about why he relates to her feelings - plus offers some advice!

Timestamps: Topic talk begins at around minute 19.

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Ali is answering listener questions in a dedicated Hot Topics episode this week! First, a listener receives a no ghosting script after a fourth date and wonders if she should ask for more clarity. Then, we talk about sarcastic/negative answers on dating app profiles - are they a dealbreaker? Our third listener has an old hook-up come back into the picture, and she’s struggling to see it objectively. Then, a listener worries that her partner isn’t aligned with her five-year plan. And finally, we chat about proactive communication in early dating - what to do if you haven’t heard from someone after a great second date?

In updates, Ali is back from Morocco and enjoying being home for a while. She chats highlights like surprise date night and makeup lessons, and lowlights like a triggering moment that has her reflecting on past experiences (TW: SA).

This week’s media mention is from The New Yorker article, “The New Business of Breakups.” (for Apple pods, link here: https://www.newyorker.com/magazine/2024/12/09/the-new-business-of-breakups)

Timestamps: Hot Topics begins at around minute 30.

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We’re hearing from both of our Dating Diaries ladies this week!! First, Caeli joins to update Ali & the listeners on Executive Chef, plus a new (gentle)man enters the picture. Then, Elyse has been busy with two first dates in one night last week. Plus the main reason we’re here: reviewing her Hinge profile! Ali goes through her photos and prompts, providing insight along the way on brevity, calls to action, and incorporating more of Elyse’s hobbies. Check out the Patreon for full video if you’d like to see Elyse’s profile for yourself!

Timestamps: Caeli joins around minute 7 and Elyse at around minute 30.

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Ali is fresh off her one-year anniversary trip with Skyline and dishing about her favorite parts (and not so favorite parts) of the trip. She shares the “vacation rules” that she and Skyline have come up with to help them best enjoy their trips and how some of those “rules” have expanded into every day life. Plus, a stressful moment provides an opportunity to reflect on managing low-level conflict and responding vs reacting in relationships. Ali also answers two listeners questions: one about a friend who consistently brings down the vibe at events and one from a listener who’s debating if she should reach out to a former situationship.

This week’s Media Mention comes from the IMO Podcast with Michelle Obama & Craig Robinson - it’s their episode about joyful dating with Tracee Eliss Ross from April 16th.

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Ali and Skyline are on their first anniversary vacation and he’s just been introduced on social media…no better time to introduce him to the podcast! This week, you’ll hear an interview that Ali & Erica did on the Patreon back in February.

Skyline joined us to answer your questions and introduce himself to the community he’s heard so much about. Our discussion includes: his version of how he met Ali (and what her nickname would have been if he’d given her one), how he was listening along to the pod during early dating, his thoughts on dating someone who talks about dating so openly, how being divorced has impacted his approach to his relationship with Ali, and lots more.

But first, we hear updates from Elyse (one of our Diary Daters) who went to visit a guy in NYC. Will he make good on his nickname as Three Minute Makeout Man?!

Timestamps: Topic talk begins at around minute 24.

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Caeli from our Dating Diaries segment is back on the podcast this week and we’re diving into her Bumble profile! We walk through her bio, prompts, and photos and discuss where she can make improvements to set herself up for more success. Through Ali’s notes on photo guidelines, best ways to elicit a reply with your prompts, and ways that different people swipe you’ll get some great tips for crafting your own profile! Plus, Caeli fills us in on a first date she went on and the two debate whether she should go on a second. Note: Ali’s mic wasn’t hooked up properly for the updates section, we apologize for the less-than-stellar audio.

In Updates, Ali is back from Colombia with a renewed zest for creating community through travel and is looking forward to this month’s surprise date (planned by Skyline) and their anniversary trip to Mexico. She also reflects on Love On The Spectrum in this week’s Media Mention.

Timestamps: Caeli joins us at around minute 22.

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It’s time to meet our second Dating Diaries participant…Elyse! A 26-year-old living in a major east coast city, Elyse is ready to dive back into dating after recovering from her longest relationship to date. In this introduction episode, you’ll learn about Elyse’s dating history as a self-proclaimed “late bloomer,” how her last relationship played out, plus a very recent development that’s hot off the presses. Stay tuned as we hear more from Elyse and offer her some big sister advice on her journey that’s unfolding right here on the podcast.

In Updates, Ali has a rough week in her personal life and sets out to have a rejuvenating weekend with Skyline - from new outfits, to sunshine-filled park walks, to yapping with friends, and ending with a relaxing belated birthday present.

Timestamps: Elyse joins us at around minute 26.

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Feeling burned out by dating apps? Jessica Hope, founder of Bored of Dating Apps, has BEEN THERE - and she created an entire company to deal with it! Coming to you from Ali’s living room couch, Jess chronicles the dating frustrations that led her to focus more on dating in person and start her own IRL dating events…a journey that ultimately led to her now partner. Ali and Jess chat flirting strategies, how to approach dating events, and much more in this super fun conversation.

But first, Ali is still glowing from her birthday week (plus a surprise date!), feeling so celebrated and loved by everyone in her life. She introduces a relationship check-in lens to her updates, opening up about an emotional moment from last week.

This week’s Media Mention comes from one of Ali’s faves: The Gottman Institute. The article is called Accepting Influence: Find Ways to Say “Yes” and you can find it here: https://www.gottman.com/blog/accepting-influence-find-ways-to-say-yes/

Where to find Bored of Dating Apps: On Instagram @boredofdatingapps on TikTok @boredofdatingapps, at www.boredofdatingapps.com.

Where to find Jessica: On Instagram @jessica.hope.boda.

Timestamps: Jessica joins at around minute 25.

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It’s our very first Dating Diaries episode, a new segment following listeners along their dating journeys. We’re kicking things off with two listeners, and our first Diary Dater is Caeli, a 32-year-old living in the Chicago suburbs who is ready to start dating intentionally. In this intro episode, you’ll learn more about Caeli’s story including her dating history (and some nicknames), what she’s looking for, her current dating goals/challenges, and more. Stay tuned in future episodes as we follow along with Caeli’s dates and help her get some outside guidance.

But first, in Updates, Ali is having an emotional day (okay, week) while recording and shares her release from that. But the week kicked off celebrating her best friend’s birthday starting with a group trip to New Orleans and wrapping with a relaxing day at a bath house!

Timestamps: Caeli joins at around minute 19.

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We’ve got part 2 of my re-introduction this week - both for newer listeners and even our OG crowd as I pick up where we left off last week and dive deep into my live since starting FMH. We chat toxic relationships, career changes, regrets, and much more in part two of this two-part series to kick off my solo podcasting journey. Plus, I share some exciting news on the Skyline front (and promise to highlight more about our relationship in future episodes, including with him as a guest!).

This week’s media mention comes from Josh Lora, @tellthebeees on TikTok and IG, discussing The Cut’s article “My Friends Abandoned Me When They Had Kids.”

Timestamps: Topic talk begins at around minute 12.

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TW: Grief and SA (see below for more). It’s my (Ali’s) first official solo episode and we’re starting things off with a re-introduction to my background - both for newer listeners and even our OG crowd as I share deeper insights into my childhood/early adulthood & the things that led me to who I am today. We chat friendship wounds, anxious attachment origins, grief, and much more in part one of this two-part series to kick off my solo podcasting journey. Plus, we get into some early days nicknames from before FMH as you know it existed and chat about a strategy I recently learned for managing overthinking!

Trigger warning: I discuss grief/loss throughout the episode, beginning around minute 15, and briefly discuss SA around minute 27 lasting for 35 minutes (both are called out verbally before they are mentioned).

This week’s media mention comes from episode 11 of Felix Levine’s podcast, Unlike Me, and the clip is posted to his TikTok @felixlevine.

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We’re saying goodbye to Erica as a Finding Mr. Height co-host on this week’s episode of the podcast, and it’s definitely an emotional one! After getting the latest Roommate update, Ali interviews Erica using questions from both you the listeners and ones Ali has herself. Topics include: Erica’s highlights and learnings from her journey on the podcast, her favorite (and least favorite) piece of dating advice, what she hopes for her career moving forward, advice she has for Ali on the pod moving forward, and more. Erica, we will miss you SO much. We love you!

Timestamps: Topic talk begins at around minute 23.

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For Erica’s second to last episode on the pod, we’re doing one of our favorite formats one last time together…Am I The Asshole featuring submissions from Reddit! This week we have: a man wonders if he’s being unreasonable in wanting his girlfriend to loosen up her 50/50 view of household chores, the finances of a long distance relationship causes resentment, and a husband and wife clash over whose responsibility it is to wake themselves up in the morning.

In Updates, Erica is still traveling and reflects on her communication and connection with The Roommate while she’s been gone. Ali celebrates Valentine’s Day with Skyline and the gals reminisce about Valentine’s Days past.

Timestamps: Topic talk begins at around minute 23.

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