#289: Why does it feel so cozy to think in extremes? All-or-nothing thinking limits the possibilities available to us and is a habit we can fall into without ever realizing it. That’s why this week, I challenge you to step out of your own unintentional thinking and start seeing the glorious, grey middle ground that will help you create a life you love.

 

Join me this week to learn why you might be spinning in all-or-nothing thinking and how to break free. I show you what happens when you buy into all-or-nothing thinking, why it both fuels and is fueled by emotional outsourcing tendencies, and practical remedies that will help you take a more nuanced approach to life

 

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#288: We can’t heal hurt with more hurt, so when life feels way too life-y and you’re spiraling in your shame stories, this is the tool you can lean on to introduce a little gray into those negative thoughts.

 

Join me on this episode to hear what my GRACE protocol entails, and how it will shift you out of the story that says shame is who you are, into an identity where shame has just been a part of your history. I show you how to systematically recognize and shift out of the shame identity, so you can foster a healthier, more resilient self-concept. 

 

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#280: It’s easy to talk about somatics solely within the context of stress, distress, and trauma, but the applications of this practice extend far beyond trauma. In fact, healing trauma wasn't my goal at all when I started doing somatics work! In this episode, I'm showing you how this somatics can help you, even if you haven’t identified some big bad wolf wreaking havoc on your life.

 

Join me to hear why the practice of mindful body awareness benefits everybody, how somatics act as a bridge that connects you to a deeper understanding of yourself, and some of my favorite practical applications of somatics that you can begin trying in your everyday life. 

 

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#191: If you’re ready to stop letting your old thought habits rule your life and give yourself the gift of choice in how you relate to yourself and the world, I invite you to try the thought exercise of getting to neutral. You’ll discover why this is an especially important tool for us folks with codependent, people-pleasing, and perfectionist habits, and how to begin implementing this in both small and big-feeling moments. 

 

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#190: Join me this week to discover why it makes so much sense that we’re detached from our biological impulses, and how to start connecting with your body’s deep intelligence so you can start giving yourself the basic attention every human needs. And to do that, I’m offering a list of guiding questions you can ask yourself in the midst of a thought spiral.

 

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#189: Join me this week as I invite you to question what it would be like to just decide you’ve done enough for right now. I’m showing you why we folks with codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing habits tend to work ourselves to the bone, the consequences of doing so when your brain and body ask for a pause, and my favorite tools and practices you can lean on when you find yourself unable to get to work or take action. 

 

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#188: Discover the many reasons we take things personally, what becomes possible when we stop taking things personally, and the keys to reframing this habit. I’m showing you the role of codependency, perfectionism, and people pleasing in this cycle, and all of my favorite tools for beginning to slowly remove negative self-talk from your inner and outer dialogue. 

 

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#187: Join me this week as I show you what drama is, what it isn’t, why you may find yourself at the center of drama more often than you’d like. And of course, I share what you can do about it and the remedies to creating or participating in drama so you start to see it more as a choice rather than an inevitability. 

 

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#186: I’m sitting down with one of our members of the most recent cohort of Anchored, Natalie, to share her experience of being inside Anchored and the transformations she’s witnessed since being a part of our community. In her work as a management consultant and as a busy mama of two, she felt it was her work to prioritize deeper connection and growth, and as you’ll hear, that’s exactly what she did.

 

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#185: Tune in this week to understand the murky waters of disorganized attachment, and see how we can develop more secure ways of moving through the world. I’m sharing how to see where disorganized attachment might be showing up through your habits, or those of the people you love, so you can show up with compassion, curiosity, and care for yourself or anyone else who needs it.

 

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#184: This week, I’m diving into avoidant attachment and grounding you in what secure attachment can look and feel like so you have a vision of what’s possible. Discover the hallmarks of avoidant attachment and the remedies so you can start your journey into a more secure attachment style. 

 

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#183: Join me this week for the first of a three-part attachment styles deep dive. You’ll discover how attachment theory often shows up, why attachment styles don’t mean anything about who you are, and how you can apply them to shift your relationships. And make sure to keep tuning in over the coming weeks as I continue nerding out on this topic. 

 

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#182: This week, I’m delighted to share a conversation I had with Sarah Gottesdiener of the Moonbeaming podcast: a show for the modern witch and magical critical thinker. We had a conversation over on her podcast about all things nervous system healing, codependency, and the patriarchy, and we’re continuing our discussion here. She’s showing us what it can look like to use magic for healing, connection, and making heart-centered decisions.

 

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#279: For the longest time, I thought I was the only one rolling around in my emotional outsourcing, completely disconnected from my body. The truth is we often disconnect from our bodies as a way to get through life, and I designed The Somatic Studio to show folks how to use body-based practices to establish stronger connections to their magical selves.  

 

This week, I'm sharing a delightful conversation I had with a recent member of The Somatic Studio, Kyra Sutherland, who is here to tell us about the discoveries and healing she experienced there. We discuss how the brain-body disconnect was showing up for Kyra, the beauty of becoming aware of your patterns, and how the community aspect of The Somatic Studio has been the greatest gift. 

 

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#181: If you hear that voice telling you to just watch Netflix, relax, and ignore the world, I’m showing you how to feel grounded, present, and calm while you sit in that resistance, so you can move toward life’s challenges while honoring your nervous system, feeling connected, and creating safety.

 

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#180: Discover why the way we typically address resistance is one I find problematic from a nervous system standpoint, and how to shift how you think and talk about it. I’m offering my five-step process for lovingly supporting yourself in the presence of resistance, and I’ll be back next week to get into the nitty-gritty how-to remedies.

 

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#179: Tune in this week to discover the power of healing in community. Ghostwriter Roxanne Darrow is sharing how being in the Anchored community and using the tools we teach there helped her prioritize her human needs, and shift her lifestyle to align with what she wanted and needed in her life.

 

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#178: Discover how to start imagining your future self, and why calling on that version of yourself keeps you focused on the growth and healing you’re seeking. I’m showing you how I like utilizing the concept of my future self and why we’re able to become agents of massive change when we step into a loving relationship with our past, present, and future selves.

 

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#177: Join us this week as Anchored community member Monica lets you in on their favorite takeaways from being inside the Anchored community and alumni program. They’re sharing what helped them most in creating profound shifts in their life, and the deep wounds and patterns they’ve healed to find so much freedom in who they truly are in this world.

 

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After processing my own emotions and response to the overturning of Roe v. Wade last week, I feel ready to talk about it with you, my loves. This ruling feels gut-wrenching to so many of us. You might also be feeling numb, angry, sad, overwhelmed, helpless... I understand, my darling, I do, and I want to honor all of those responses.   Listen in to hear what you can do - even if you think there's nothing you can do - for yourself and the future of all humans with uteruses if you are so called.   Please consider donating to one of these amazing organizations:   Equality Federation   The Brigid Alliance

#176: If you want to live a more present, embodied, and intentional life, I invite you to love on your past self. I’m showing you why going down a road of self-flagellation does no good for you, how to be kind to your past, present, and future self, and the remedies for the habit of self-judgment that is keeping you stagnant in old self-concept stories. 

 

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#175: This week, I'm joined by powerhouse life coach Molly Goodman to talk about what bought her to Anchored, the changes she made while she was inside the group, and how being inside helped her understand her purpose as a coach. She’s speaking to the power of our community, and how true, sustainable healing comes from a slow and steady progression in a different direction. 

 

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#174: This week, I guide you through polyvagal theory and nervous system regulation. I’m showing you how to get present with your felt experience, and how, from there, you can interact with, regulate, and have ownership of your nervous system patterns so you can stop living from the neck up and come home to your body.

 

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#173: I am beyond delighted to share a conversation with one of my Anchored clients with you this week. Ali Zamora is a nurse practitioner in family medicine who works in San Bernardino County, California. Her story is an incredible case study in overcoming codependency that I know you’ll all find super inspiring, and she’s here to share her experience with us. 

 

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#278: Losing touch with the ability to tune into and trust your bodily signals, especially in the context of emotional outsourcing, is super common. In parts one and two of this mini-series, we’ve defined embodiment and some reasons for struggling to cultivate it. This week, as always, it’s time for the remedies. 

 

By engaging in practices that nurture our physical presence, we can enhance our ability to live more fully in our bodies, and I’ve got some simple strategies to get you started. Join me as I outline five key ways disconnecting from yourself manifests in emotional outsourcing, and learn my favorite remedies for beginning to bring yourself back into embodiment. 

 

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#172: This week, I wanted to take a moment to discuss the collective grief and specific suffering of families who have lost loved ones. Holding loving, compassionate space for our painful feelings is so important. It’s the key to opening your heart to all the joys of life. Life is, after all, both light and shadow. But how do we feel our feelings while staying grounded, without totally spiraling out in the pain of it all? 

 

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#171: Tune in this week as I show you why and how we embody the trope of the rescuer. You’ll discover the difference between the desire to rescue and supporting, and why recognizing this difference is crucial for healing codependent thought habits. I’m also sharing the remedies for stepping out of the rescuer role, and how supporting others is the basis for an interdependent framework for living.

 

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#170: Tune in this week as I invite you to shine a light on your own thought patterns so you can better understand your nervous system, reparent your inner children, and ultimately, move forward in whichever way you choose. Hard truths can be challenging to face, but I’m guiding you through the remedies so you can hold yourself in a high enough regard to go after what you truly want. 

 

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#169: This week, I’m showing you how to lean into your intuition and discernment as you approach challenging relationships. I’m guiding you through the remedy to feeling stuck in wondering if this relationship is serving you, and how to get real with the complexity of it all. Make sure you tune in for part two next week!

 

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#168: Tune in this week as I show you why living in regret is a form of self-exile and self-abandonment. Discover how regret is a self-centered and short-sighted way of being, why getting mired in regret is not the solution, and instead, how to live a less painful life full of love and compassion for yourself and others. 

 

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#167: Tune in this week as I walk you through the paradigm of emotionally immature parents. You’ll discover why labeling your parent(s) as emotionally immature can be helpful here, how to tell if you’re doing the lion’s share of emotional labor in your relationship, and what to expect when you decide to stop taking responsibility for their emotions. 

 

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#166: Listen in this week as I invite you to embrace your perfect expression of cakey-ness and show you what it means to be the cake in your life. You’ll discover the telltale signs you’re not being the cake, and why letting other people in your life be the icing on your cake is so incredibly powerful. 

 

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#165: This week, hear stylist and Master Certified life coach Judith Gaton unpack the beautiful rebellion it is to understand your style and to embrace it confidently. We discuss the difference between fashion and style, why style does not make your activism less impactful, and how to show yourself love and care through clothes. 

 

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#164: This week, I offer my favorite remedies for healing the self-abandonment cycle. I’m sharing my tips for how to intervene when you notice the cycle playing out in your life, and I’ll be guiding you through using somatic work, tuning into your nervous system, as well as when and where to practice thought work.

 

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#163: Join me this week as I lay out the self-abandonment cycle so many of us unwittingly put ourselves through. I’m showing you what the self-abandonment cycle sounds and looks like, why years of pent-up feelings of not being seen or appreciated often come out sideways, and how to start raising your awareness about how this cycle might be playing out for you.

 

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#277: We can have different levels of embodiment and self-attunement at different times and in different settings, but how do you know when you are disembodied? In this episode, I share some subtle signs that you may not be as embodied as you could be, and what can happen when you truly start paying attention to your body. Discover some reasons you want to cultivate embodiment, and how to reconnect with your capacity to be at home with and in yourself.

 

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#162: Join me this week as I give you the lowdown on what Clean Fight Club Rules are, and a list of my own that you can borrow from. I’m sharing some of the limits I set, and why recognizing and honoring these limits makes it easier to be vulnerable, open, and available for real-talk conversations.

 

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#161: Join me this week as I show you how to rethink conflict to have a healthier relationship with it. I’m offering some of the most common ways we tend to relate to challenging conversations, and six ways I help myself stay present, calm, and grounded when it comes to conversations where there might be differing points of view. 

 

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#160: Find out what conflict is and how we tend to approach it from our codependent thought habits. I’m sharing eight ways we actually cause conflict without knowing it, and why we’re so terrified of engaging in what might be a disagreement or argument. 

 

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#159: Listen in this week as I re-share one of my favorite episodes with you all about the hazards of false positivity. I’m showing you why we feel the compulsion to gloss over our true feelings with false positivity, why this is especially prevalent amongst marginalized identities, and how to begin letting it go so you can live an authentic and intentional life. 

 

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#158: This week, find out how vital quality friendships are. I’m showing you why it’s not kind to our romantic partners to expect them to be everything for us, how to start fostering intimate friendships, and what I personally value in all of my friendships.

 

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#157: Discover why we subconsciously gloss over relationship red flags and why they’re actually gifts not to be ignored. I’m offering some powerful questions to help you get curious, and from there, you’ll be able to start healing your scripts about safety and belonging in all of your relationships.

 

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#156: Tune in this week for a conversation with the amazing AstroTwins. They’re sharing how their work and discoveries as astrologists have influenced their feminist outlook on the world and continues to do so. We’re discussing how even a true skeptic can take a scientific approach to playing with astrology, and how the planets can guide you to true self-acceptance. 

 

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#155: Discover why privacy matters, the immense benefits of developing a robust private life, and examples of healthy privacy in relationships. I’m showing you what you should be sharing with your partners, what is yours to keep, and how to navigate privacy within different attachment styles. 

 

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#154: For years, I believed keeping things secret was the smarter, safer way to live because if no one saw the real, true, vulnerable me, they couldn’t hurt me, right? The topic of secrecy is an incredibly important one to get clear on for those of us with codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing habits, so this is what we’re diving into today.

 

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Get ready for a nerd-out session with me as I dive into inner child science, how it’s not about blaming our parents, and why we want to embark on this journey of rewriting our relationships with ourselves. I’m showing you the clues to look out for that signal doing this work could be supportive for you, and the key takeaways I’ve learned from doing this work in my own life.

 

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#276: I love talking about embodiment because it’s truly the most life-changing thing in my practice. It's a multifaceted concept that integrates psychological, physiological, and social dimensions that shape the way we inhabit and experience our bodies. It behooves us to recognize and understand what it means to be embodied, and we’re starting today.

 

Tune in this week as I explore an inclusive and comprehensive definition of what it means to be embodied. You’ll hear why choicefulness is the greatest gift of embodiment, how our bodily experiences are deeply political in nature, and the power of somatic practices in reconnecting with embodiment.

 

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January feels to me like a sacred invitation to go inward, to slow down, do less, and support myself in ways I may not have been allowing myself to. Wintering has been on my mind a lot lately, so this week, I’m giving you permission to pause, breathe, and give yourself the gift of quiet and stillness.

 

Join me this week for a short and sweet episode as I encourage you to winter and discover what’s possible for you on the other side of rushing and busyness.

 

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Tis the season where, for many of us, our thoughts turn to making wildly perfectionistic and fantastical New Year resolutions. You’ve probably experienced setting these grand goals and giving up shortly after. 

 

This week I offer some remedies to spinning in resolution-setting so you can commit to the changes you want to make this year.

 

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Be they romantic, friendships, work, familial, or otherwise, thinking about your wants and needs in this context matters. This week, I offer five reasons you might have a habit of expecting other people to meet your emotional wants and needs and vice versa.

 

As always, I’m sharing remedies for this thought error so you can stop turning over your agency to somebody else, and instead, state all of your beautiful wants and needs and meet them yourself.

 

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