When a narcissist begins to devalue you their texting habits will change dramatically. From abrupt changes in tone to love-bombing through text messages, we analyse the key patterns that make communication with a narcissist so confusing and unsettling. Learn how their erratic messaging is part of a broader manipulation strategy, and gain valuable insights into protecting your emotional well-being. Tune in for expert advice on recognising and managing a narcissist’s texting behaviour. Perfect for anyone seeking to understand and navigate the complexities of narcissistic communication.

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Narcissists use their kids to boost their ego, treating them like extensions of themselves rather than individuals. From lacking empathy to always needing control, narcissistic parents don’t give the unconditional love and support children need. We’ll talk about how If you've ever wondered how a narcissist impacts their children’s emotional well-being, this episode dives into the hard truths, offering insights and tips to help make sense of it all. 

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Gaslighting makes you feel crazy! In this episode, we explore 10 Gaslighting Phrases the narcissist manipulates you with, shedding light on the subtle and damaging tactics used to distort your reality. These manipulative phrases are designed to control, confuse, and erode your self-esteem. 

In this episode we explore...
* text book gaslighting phrases used by all narcissists.
* Why Gaslighting makes you feel crazy!
* how narcissists use these gaslighting lines and phrases to maintain control, keep you questioning yourself, and make you feel powerless.
* How to recognise these harmful phrases and protect yourself from emotional abuse. 
And much more!...

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Whether you're just considering going no contact or are already in the process, this episode offers valuable insights, validation, and support on your journey to recovery from narcissistic relationships. In this episode, I explore the life-changing decision of going no contact with a narcissist and why it's a crucial step for healing.  When survivors maintain any form of contact with a narcissist, whether direct or indirect, it can have devastating effects on their emotional and psychological well-being.Learn how to overcome the challenges of cutting ties with a narcissist, set healthy boundaries, and protect your emotional well-being. I share practical strategies to help you break free from narcissistic abuse, reclaim your power, and start fresh. 

In this episode we unpack.....

* The importance of going no contact in your healing journey.
* The mistakes people make trying to go no contact with their abuser
* How to go no contact like a boss!

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Vanessa is best known for running in a wedding dress, the state of New York (285 miles in 11 days), to raise awareness for narcissistic abuse. Vanessa M. Reiser is a licensed clinical social worker (LCSW), licensed in New York, New Jersey, Massachusetts, and Florida. She is a psychotherapist and the founder of Tell a Therapist, LLC as well as the founder of the nonprofit, Tell a Therapist, INC. She is also the Author of  - "Narcissistic Abuse: A Therapist's Guide to Identifying, Escaping, and Healing from Toxic and Manipulative People"

 Vanessa specializes in narcissistic personality disorder, and her practice focuses on treating victims and survivors of cults, narcissists, domestic violence, and narcissistic abuse. Her insights are both personal and professional, giving her a unique lens into this insidious form of domestic abuse. .

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Narcissists expertly avoid accountability and deflect blame, while making you question your own reality. In this episode of Fake Love and Flying Monkeys, we dive deep into the narcissist's favourite tactic—blame shifting. We'll explore how narcissists twist the truth to keep control, leaving victims trapped in self-doubt and confusion. Learn the key signs of blame shifting, understand why it's such a powerful tool in narcissistic abuse, and get practical tips to protect yourself from their toxic manipulation. Reclaim your power and stop the cycle of emotional abuse today!

In this episode we discuss the following narcissistic blame shifting strategies....

1. Turning the Tables
When called out for their wrongdoings, a narcissist will quickly flip the script. 

2. Playing the VictimThis tactic shifts attention away from their misdeeds and redirects sympathy towards them. 

3. Bringing Up the Past
When confronted with a present issue, a narcissist will often dredge up old arguments or mistakes you've made in the past. 

4. Minimising Your Feelings
 By diminishing your emotions, they invalidate your experience and make you question whether your reaction is justified.

5. Blaming Outside Circumstances
 This makes it seem like they're powerless to control their actions, which excuses their wrongdoings.
And much more!

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 Whether it’s Christmas, your birthday, or a long-anticipated holiday, you can almost guarantee that a narcissist will find a way to ruin it. One of the most common tactics that narcissists use to maintain control is to sabotage any event that brings you joy. This pattern of behaviour is not accidental—it’s part of a deliberate strategy to manipulate, control, and undermine you. But why do narcissists do this?

In this episode we unpack.....

*the narcissist's agenda in ruining special occasion 
*Narcissism traits such as envy when you're happy. 
*Techniques the narcissistic person uses to ruin the day 'discretely'.
And much more!......

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The daughter of a narcissistic mother spends their whole life trying to please a toxic parent, who can't or won't love them unconditionally. To a narcissistic mother, their daughter represents a threat to their grandiose view of themselves.   They hang in there however,  thinking one day,  ONE DAY, their mother will change. They feel a sense of duty and  obligation to keep trying to love a toxic parent who will never love them back.

In this episode we unpack...
* How narcissistic mothers view their daughter.
* The competitive nature of the narcissistic mother's feelings towards her daughter. 
* The long term negative emotional, psychological,  and adult relationship issues that daughters of narcissistic mothsers face.
*Healing from, going minimal contact, and escaping the toxic relationship. 
*Grieving the loss of a mother who is still alive.   

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Narcissists love to keep as many exes as they can waiting in the wings so they can recycle them. But why do they do this? Why do they want to keep someone around whom they professed to hate so much?  If you have been abused by a narcissist in the past then it's really important to understand the how and why narcissists recycle their ex-victims so you can protect yourself, and this episode will help you to do just that.

In this episode we unpack...
* Why the narcissist discards their victim and comes back when they feel like it
* Why it is so hard to resist the narcissist's attempts if you haven't blocked them.
* The importance of understanding the 'recycling' process so you never fall victim to it.
* Why some previous targets secretly wish the narcissist will come back to them.
* How to make it impossible for the narcissist to come back.
And much more!

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A narcissistic boss or colleague, workplace bullying and covert measures of abuse make your life hell when you have to see them every day! 
What do you when this is your job, you can't leave,  and you spend more time with these people than you do with your family?
In this fascinating episode I talk with David Gillespie, the Author of 'Toxic at Work - Surviving Your Psychopathic Workmates from the Dominant Boss to the Charming Manipulators', to answer this question.

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Spotting a narcissist isn't as straightforward as we'd like—it’s not like they wear a sign that says "Stay Away!" The overuse of the word "narcissist" in society often dilutes the experiences of true victims, making it harder to recognize genuine narcissistic abuse. The emotional scars left by these toxic individuals are profound, and the mere thought of encountering another narcissist can be terrifying.  So how do you tell if the person in front of you is someone you can take at face value  or if they're someone who is manipulating you? When you have been in a relationship with a narcissist, you want to know how to protect yourself. You 'fell for it' once, and you know what narcissistic abuse does to you, and you want the heads up so it NEVER happens to you again!

In this episode we unpack....
* Can you easily spot a narcissist?
* What sort of narcissist are you more likely to recognise immediately?
* How do you take precautions when you're not sure if they're a narcissist?
* What signs should you look out for when you're unsure if they're a narcissist?
* Do narcissists always reveal themselves straight away?
And much, much more!

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The narcissist always has an agenda when they attend counselling with you.
That agenda NEVER involves fixing themselves or repairing the relationship with the person they love. The narcissist's agenda is always self-serving. 

In this episode, we unpack....
*Will counselling with a professional make the narcissist accountable?
*Will a therapist always be able to see through the narcissist's manipulation?
*What happens when the narcissist chooses the therapist?
*Is it different if the narcissist suggests therapy?
*What happens if a therapist confronts the narcissist?
And much more!  

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Narcissists use food as another way to control and manipulate the people in their lives. The complex relationship between narcissists and food. In this episode, we explore how control, indulgence, power and manipulation often intertwine with their eating habits and yours. Tune in to learn how food becomes a weapon for dominance and what it reveals about their desire for control and their own self-gratifying, ritualistic behaviours centred around food.  

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Narcissists use "flying monkeys" to get to you when they can't. These individuals, whether aware of it or not, are manipulated to do the narcissist's bidding. But are all flying monkeys toxic? In this blog, we’ll explore what flying monkeys are, how they function in narcissistic dynamics, and how to protect yourself from their influence.

In this episode we unpack...
*Are all flying Monkeys toxic?
*Should you go no contact with the narcissist's Flying Monkeys?
*Why does the narcissist need Flying Monkeys?
*How does the narcissist use Flying Monkeys to abuse you?
*Who will the narcissist use as a Flying Monkey?
And much more!!

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A victim finds evidence of the narcissist's lies and betrayals and confronts them.  It is natural they would feel a sense of vindication. But what ACTUALLY happens when you confront the narcissist with your evidence?  Find out in this episode!

In this episode, we discuss....
* How does the narcissist react to your proof?
* Will your evidence result in accountability?
* Will they continue to deny when they know you know?
* Is it worth presenting the evidence you have to the narcissist?
And much more!

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Going no contact with a narcissistic, toxic parent is difficult.  It takes time to understand this parent is never going to change and that you have the right to stop the abuse. The fear, obligation and guilt the narcissistic parent instils in their adult child keeps their child stuck in the abusive environment, where they can never pay off the debt for being born.
In this episode I speak with Dr Sherrie Campbell, a TED speaker, and world expert on toxic families, who provides incredible insights and practical strategies to escape, and heal from this familial abuse.

In this discussion with Dr Sherrie we unpack......
*How the toxic parent conditions their child to 'tolerate' the abuse out of a sense of obligation. 
*How the toxic parent attempts to destroy your self-worth, and why they MUST do this.
*The important of accepting who they are and grieving, and soooo much more!

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Narcissists have a way of reappearing in your life, often when you least expect it. After enduring the pain and chaos of narcissistic abuse, it's natural to ask yourself, "Why do they come back?" The narcissist will 'hoover' you back to regain control of you and to make sure you never forget about them. (Hoover meaning to suck you back, the term being coined from the Hoover vacuum cleaner)
Whether it's a sudden phone call, an unexpected visit, or a chance encounter at the grocery store, the narcissist's return can be bewildering, especially when they seemed so eager to move on with someone else.

In this episode we unpack...
* Why does the narcissist hoover you?
* The Trap of the "Let’s Just Be Friends" Line
 * The Confusion of narcissistic Hoovering
* What are the classic strategies the narcissist uses to hoover you?
* What does it mean if you don't get hoovered?
* Does every victim of narcissistic abuse get hoovered?
* What happens each time you potentially fall for the hoover?
* How do you stop the narcissist from hoovering you?
* The Danger of Unblocking   

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It is so important to get the right lawyer when you are dealing with a narcissist. In this episode I speak with Karin Walker. Karin is an award winning lawyer who understands the narcissistic abuse cycle and her expertise in representing victims has also culminated in her being the author of several books that provide invaluable information around navigating court with a narcissist. 

 Karin's advice in this episode will be invaluable for narcissistic abuse victims who are being litigated by their manipulative abuser who uses the family court system to extend the domestic violence. 
 

In this episode we discuss......

* Picking the right lawyer

* Preparing for court and managing expectations.

* The fears that the court may believe the manipulative narcissist

* Letting the lawyer take control and not negotiating with the narcissist

* Mediation expectations

*practical strategies for taking back your power

* Child custody issues including orders and parenting plans 

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The Narcissist will cause chaos in the relationships of their children to bring the focus back on to them. The narcissist experiences feelings of envy, abandonment and subsequent anger toward their child and will sabotage the relationships of their adult children. 
 They need the unlimited source of attention from their adult child, and it is a betrayal when their child is in a relationship that makes them happy. 

In this episode we unpack...
* The obligation and guilt the adult child feels to continue to tolerate the abuse
* The pressure from outsiders to continue to tolerate the abuse.
* The struggles that adult children experiences trying to put boundaries in place with a toxic parent.

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After everything the narcissist put you through, seeing them seemingly happier, more affectionate, or even more committed to someone else can feel like a dagger to the heart. One of the most painful and confusing questions survivors of narcissistic abuse often ask is: “Will the narcissist treat the next person better?” And it’s no wonder — 

In this episode of Fake Love and Flying Monkeys, I break down the truth behind the narcissist’s new relationship and explain why things may look different on the surface, but the cycle of abuse remains the same underneath. We explore the real purpose behind the narcissist’s “glow up” with the new supply — whether it's love bombing, flaunting their relationship online, or suddenly becoming the person you wanted them to be when you were with them.

You’ll learn:

• Why narcissists appear to move on quickly (hint: they never really stop looking for supply)
• How the new person is often being used as a tool to hurt you
• What really goes on behind closed doors in the narcissist’s new relationship
• The painful truth about why they’re “treating the next one better” — and why it won’t last

If you’ve ever caught yourself spiralling with self-doubt, comparing yourself to the new partner, or wondering if you were the problem — this episode will validate your experience and empower you to stay focused on your healing.

“The narcissist didn’t love them more. They just loved how much it hurt you.

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An understanding of coercive Control, domestic violence, and narcissistic abuse are not issues that the average person associates with police. Historically, discrimination, racism, and domestic violence stereotypes suggest the police 'have no idea' and take the situation in front of their domestic violence call out, for what it seems.

In this episode I discuss with Detective Police Officer Brandon Wootan the gaps in helping victims of domestic violence, not only with the first call from the victim,  but an understanding, empathic response that validates the victim’s trauma and helps them to realise a better and more worthy ffuture.  
 (Apologies for the audio quality! There was no capacity whatsoever to reduce noise reduction. The discussion however, between myself and Brandon on the other side of the world will be worth it!)

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The Narcissist will destroy all that is good about you because all of those amazing traits and qualities make them feel bad about themselves. Once the narcissist has hooked you in, the devaluation stage must and will begin. They devalue you to punish you for being 'better' than them in any way, and to bring you under their control.

In this episode we unpack....

*   Why does the narcissist devalue you?
*   The strategies they use to devalue you that you don't recognise at the time.
*   What devaluing strategies does the narcissist use? Eg. Isolation, Gaslighting and financial abuse.
*   Is the devaluing stage inevitable?
*   How do you as the victim, fall for their devaluation strategies?
*   How do you recognise the times you are being devalued?

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A Counselor reveals her own experience with narcissistic abusers. Mental health professionals are not immune to the powerful trauma bond and the manipulative tactics of the narcissist. 

In this episode I talk to Barb. She bravely talks about the trauma she endured and how she used her own trauma to support other victims. Barb is clearly a counselor who 'gets it'. 

I hope you feel validated listening to Barb's story knowing that there are therapists out there who can help you, because they have been there. 

🎧 Tune in now and learn how to stop the manipulation before it controls you! Don't forget to subscribe, leave a review, and share this episode with anyone dealing with narcissistic abuse. Your healing starts with knowledge—and I’m here to guide you every step of the way.

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In their book "Framed  - Women in the Family Court Underworld ", Dr. Christine and Amy Polacko expose the disturbing realities within the family court system. In this episode, they discuss their new book FRAMED: Women in the Family Court Underworld which highlights the struggles of mothers facing coercive control and narcissistic abuse. Learn how abusers manipulate the system and why family court often fails to protect victims. Tune in for an eye-opening conversation that aims to inspire change and support those impacted by these injustices. 

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In the LGBTQ+ community, victims of narcissistic abuse/domestic violence do not have the same support as victims of domestic violence in a heterosexual relationship .

David, a young gay man tells his story,  revealing the trauma he suffered as a victim of narcissistic abuse.  He also offers much needed insights into the lack of trust the lgbtqia+ community has in a system that has not protected them in the past, which prevents them coming forward to report their abuse. 

David also gives valuable advice around how we actually CAN support victims of domestic violence and narcissistic abuse in the LGBTQIA + community, which begins with listening to them.

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What if you have proof they're a narcissist? You've done the research, and they tick all the boxes and appear to have at least 5 of the 9 traits for narcissistic personality disorder, and you want to tell them you know! 
Narcissists don't usually take kindly to criticism as we know, and In this episode, we look at what happens when you tell the narcissist you're on to them. Let me know in the reviews if you enjoyed this episode and what happened when you told the narcissist YOU were on to them!
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The narcissistic sees any attempt to discuss the children's needs as something that will benefit YOU. The challenges of co-parenting with a narcissist are immense.  Co-parenting can be difficult and requires work when there are two non-disordered parents trying to establish a new life for themselves and their children. Throw a narcissist in the mix and all bets are off. 

In this episode we unpack...

* Manipulative tactics of the narcissist to sabotage your plans
* The challenges in trying to communicate with the narcissist about the children's needs.
* Child support arrangements.
* The narcissist weaponises the children to hurt YOU.
* You DON'T have to give the narcissistic parent 24 hours a day access to you.
* Alternatives to co-parenting - PARALLEL PARENTING.
* Parenting plans - Can they work?
* Court orders and parenting apps.
* Ways to minimise contact with the narcissist and have peace.

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In this powerful episode, we share the story of "Marie," a courageous survivor of domestic violence and narcissistic abuse. Despite fearing her abuser and choosing to remain anonymous, Marie bravely recounts her journey from trauma to recovery. She sheds light on the challenges she faces within the United States' family court system, highlighting how it often remains ill-informed about personality disorders. Marie's experience reveals the harsh reality where victims are punished twice and abusers exploit the legal system to continue their abuse. Join us as we delve into her story of resilience and strength, providing a voice for those who are still fighting to be heard.

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Gaslighting is used by the narcissist to confuse you and make you feel crazy. The cunning abusive strategy that narcissists use to manipulate their victim's reality and control their perceptions by eroding their self-confidence and fostering dependency. In this episode, discover effective strategies to recognize and resist gaslighting tactics, reclaiming your truth and empowerment.

In this episode we look at:
1. Textbook gaslighting lines and phrases
2. How Gaslighting makes the victim not trust their instincts
3. What Gaslighting actually means
4. How gaslighting is used out of context and the true damage that gaslighting does to the victim

and much more.

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The narcissist's smear campaign is designed to isolate the victim and destroy their reputation. The narcissist's number one fear is exposure. The smear campaign is a pre-emptive strike to destroy the victim's credibility so no one believes them when they go to talk about their abuse.

In this episode, I unpack...

1. What is a smear campaign? 
2. When does the smear campaign begin? 
3. How does a narcissist use a smear campaign to manipulate the perceptions of others? 
4. Why do intelligent people believe the narcissist? 
5. Should you defend yourself against the smear campaign? 

If you found this episode informative, I would absolutely love it if you could please leave a review,  and If you would like to support this podcast,  the best thing you can do is share! And tag all the people in your life who need to hear this information.

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This pervasive question arises because victims of narcissistic abuse are frequently manipulated into feeling like the abuser through tactics like Reactive Abuse and DARVO (Deny, Attack, Reverse Victim and Offender). This is the question we answer in this life-changing episode.

In this episode, we delve into this crucial question that plagues survivors of narcissistic abuse and domestic violence, providing comprehensive answers.

We explore:

1. What is Reactive Abuse? Understand how victims are provoked into reacting, which is then used against them.
2. What is DARVO? Explore the tactic where offenders deny the abuse, attack the victim's credibility, and reverse the roles to portray themselves as victims.
3. How does a narcissist use Reactive Abuse and DARVO to manipulate victims into believing they're the abuser? Uncover the psychological tactics used to distort reality and victim-blame.
4. How can we distinguish between the true abuser and the victim when both parties exhibit toxic behaviors? Examine the complexities of identifying the dynamics in abusive relationships.
5. How do narcissists manipulate others into believing they are the victim? Explore the strategies used to garner sympathy and support while concealing their abusive behaviors.
6. Do narcissists ever question if they themselves are narcissistic? Discuss whether narcissists introspect on their behavior and self-image.
7. How can we educate others about DARVO and Reactive Abuse to prevent unjust restraining orders against victims? Highlight strategies for raising awareness to support true victims and prevent further harm.

🎧 Tune in now and learn how to stop the manipulation before it controls you! Don't forget to subscribe, leave a review, and share this episode with anyone dealing with narcissistic abuse. Your healing starts with knowledge—and I’m here to guide you every step of the way.

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Why don't victims of abuse just  leave? Victims often struggle to break free from abusive relationships. In this eye-opening episode we answer this critical question. We explore the complex dynamics of narcissistic abuse and domestic violence in the context of trauma bonding, and NOT Co-dependency.  Join me as I dive deep into the concept of trauma bonding to understand why .

We unpack...

1. What is trauma bonding?
   • Explore the psychological mechanism behind trauma bonding and how it ties victims to their abusers emotionally.
2. How does a trauma bond form and how does it override the victim's logical knowledge of the abuse?
   • Detail the process by which repeated cycles of abuse and intermittent reinforcement create powerful emotional bonds that defy rationality.
3. Can anyone become trauma bonded?
   • Discuss the vulnerability factors that make individuals susceptible to trauma bonding, regardless of their background or personality.
4. Is it difficult to break a trauma bond?
   • Highlight the challenges victims face when trying to break free from a trauma bond and reclaim their autonomy.
5. How do statements/questions like 'Why don't you just leave?' impact the victim’s capacity to actually leave?
   • Analyze the detrimental effects of victim-blaming questions on a victim's self-esteem, sense of agency, and ability to seek help.
6. How do we support victims to leave/stay away for good?
   • Offer practical strategies and emotional support mechanisms for empowering victims to make safe choices and rebuild their lives.
7. How do you break a trauma bond?
   • Provide actionable steps and psychological insights into breaking free from trauma bonds, emphasizing long-term healing and recovery.

By addressing these questions in-depth, we aim to shed light on the complex dynamics of trauma bonding and provide valuable insights for both victims and supporters in the journey toward healing and liberation from abusive relationships.

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How can someone who professes to love you be so cruel?  It's a  horrifying thought, the possibility that your entire relationship was built on lies and the love you felt was entirely one-sided. Understanding the complexities of narcissistic relationships can be overwhelming, but I'm here to help you make sense of it all.

I unpack:

1. What love means to the narcissist
   Discover the unique and often twisted perception of love from a narcissist's perspective.
2. What a narcissist means when they say, "I... LOVE... YOU."
   Learn the true intent behind a narcissist's declaration of love and how it differs from genuine affection.
3. Did they ever love you?
   Explore whether a narcissist is capable of true love or if their emotions are merely a facade.
4. How to differentiate between "LOVEBOMBING" and genuine affection
   Understand the signs of love bombing and how to distinguish it from someone who genuinely wants to make you happy.
5. Do they love you if they only make you miserable a small percentage of the time?
   Delve into the confusion of intermittent positive reinforcement and its impact on your perception of love.

🎧 Tune in now and learn how to stop the manipulation before it controls you! Don't forget to subscribe, leave a review, and share this episode with anyone dealing with narcissistic abuse. Your healing starts with knowledge—and I’m here to guide you every step of the way.

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What is a Narcissist? It's just a buzzword to many, but for the victims,  it's a devastating,  often very covert form of abuse that destroys their lives, and their is little support and understanding for them.  
In this 1st full length episode I explain what a narcissist actually is. It's become a buzzword and so many people use the word without knowing the true meaning, which minimises the trauma of victims and makes it hard for them to get support.  
The behaviours and traits of the narcissist that we discuss in this episode are NOT isolated incidents.  They are consistent patterns of behaviour over space and time,  and they're 100% intentional!
We also answer the question "What is a Flying Monkey, and how the narcissist uses them to abuse you.

I unpack....
* What is a narcissist?
* Covert vs Overt Narcissists
* Who can be a narcissist?
* What if I don't have a diagnosis 
*Can the narcissist change?
*Who and what are Flying Monkeys?
* Who can be a Flying Monkey?
* Are all Flying Monkeys toxic?
*Should I go no contact with the Flying Monkeys as well?

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Narcissists keep their partners trapped in a cycle of manipulation and control. We discuss 5 crucial things you will never experience in a relationship with a narcissist in this episode. These are things that you would normally take for granted in a healthy relationship such as emotional support and genuine love. Learn how these missing elements can leave you feeling empty, confused, and stuck in a toxic cycle. Tune in as we explore recognising the signs, breaking free from the cycle, and reclaiming your self-worth. This episode is a must-listen for anyone looking to understand the impact of narcissistic relationships and heal from their damaging effects. 

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Well Fake Love is finally here! In this introductory episode of Fake Love and Flying Monkeys, Nova Gibson gives you a breakdown of what you can expect in this podcast relating to all toxic relationships involving a narcissist. This episode '#0', is uploaded at the same time as episode #1 so you don't have to wait! Subscribe now so you never miss an episode.  P.S. If you have a narcissist in your life??? Then you also have their flying monkeys!

🎧 Tune in now and learn how to stop the manipulation before it controls you! Don't forget to subscribe, leave a review, and share this podcast with anyone dealing with narcissistic abuse. Your healing starts with knowledge—and I’m here to guide you every step of the way.

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Narcissists uses blocking as a form of punishment while unblocking you re-establishes their control over you. In this episode we dive deep into why narcissists use this strategy, examining the cruel psychological games they play to keep you hooked in cycles of confusion, hope, and desperation.  We also take a deep dive into how to avoid their games in the first place.

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Betrayal trauma can be excruciating for those involved in abusive relationships with narcissists, leaving them struggling to rebuild trust. In this insightful episode, we dive deep into the concept of betrayal trauma within the context of narcissistic abuse. We unpack the emotional toll this hidden form of trauma takes on survivors. We also look at the narcissist's strategies that ensure their betrayals inflict maximum pain to their victim.

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Dealing with a narcissist who turns your family against you can feel isolating and devastating. In this eye-opening episode, we explore the heartbreaking reality of when a narcissist turns your family against you. In this episode, we explore how narcissists use manipulation, smear campaigns, and gaslighting to create a wedge between you and your loved ones, common tactics used by narcissists to manipulate and divide families. Learn how these calculated moves isolate victims, erode familial bonds, and leave you feeling betrayed by your family.

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 Dr Christine is a Coercive Control Educator, Researcher & Survivor. In this episode, I speak with Dr. Christine M. Cocchiola, DSW, LCSW.  She is a college professor teaching social work for the last 20 years and a social justice advocate for a local domestic violence agency, since the age of 19. Her expertise is in the areas of coercive control and the traumatic experiences of adult and child victims, diligently supporting these vulnerable populations. Dr. C., a Founding Member of the International Coercive Control Conference and a Board Member of the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence, has supported codifying coercive control, writing numerous policy briefs supporting these efforts. Dr Christine , together with Amy Polacko, are the Authors of the soon-to-be-released "Framed - Women in the Family Court Underworld".

 You can contact Dr Christine through her website here

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While "I love you" may seem genuine, narcissists often use these words as a tool for control and manipulation. In this episode, we unpack the hidden meaning behind the phrase "I love you" when spoken by a narcissist.  We'll explore how their version of love differs from healthy relationships, and why these declarations often come with strings attached. Learn to identify the red flags and protect yourself from emotional manipulation, as we delve into the true intentions behind a narcissist's "I love you." Tune in to gain clarity and reclaim your emotional well-being. 

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Tired of constantly being pulled into arguments and mind games with a narcissist? In this must-listen episode, I unpack five ways to shut down a narcissist and protect your peace.
I explore the psychology behind the narcissist’s need for validation and why your refusal to play their game is the ultimate win.
It’s time to stop falling into the traps of justifying, arguing, defending, and explaining (aka JADE-ing) yourself to someone who thrives on control and chaos. I explain why these behaviours backfire when dealing with a narcissist and how they exploit your need to clarify or "prove" yourself.

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If you're facing a narcissist in your life, whether it's during a breakup, divorce, custody battle, or even in a work-related dispute, one thing is clear—you need a lawyer. Narcissists are experts at manipulation, twisting the truth, and using the legal system as a weapon to control or punish you. In this episode, Courtney explains why getting legal support is not just a good idea but a necessary step to protect you.

You’ll learn practical tips for finding the right attorney, what to expect during the process, and how having legal representation can help you stay one step ahead of a narcissist’s tactics. Whether you're at the beginning of your legal journey or deep in the trenches, this episode is packed with insight to empower you to take back control.

Tune in and arm yourself with the knowledge and tools to protect your rights and your peace of mind!

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Do you ever find yourself thinking, “Do they miss me?” even after all the hurt they’ve caused? It’s a question so many survivors of narcissistic abuse struggle with — and it can feel impossible to shake. In this episode, I'm diving into why you might still be thinking about them and what’s really behind that nagging question, “Do they miss me?”

I’ll break down why it’s so common to have these lingering thoughts, especially after dealing with a narcissist. From trauma bonds to the need for closure, these feelings often go way deeper than you realise. Plus, we’ll get into what’s really going on when the narcissist reaches out with mixed signals, making you wonder if they care after all.

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Coping mechanisms like minimizing and denial often develop as a way to survive the narcissistic abuse. In this episode, we're unpacking some of the most complex coping mechanisms people develop when they’re stuck in a narcissistic relationship: rationalising the abuser’s behaviour, blaming themselves, and defending the narcissist.  constant chaos.
 These survival techniques are incredibly common but often misunderstood, leaving many people feeling confused, stuck, and isolated.
I dive deep into why these behaviours develop, how they protect us in the short term, and why they can ultimately hold us back from true healing. 
Understanding why these survival mechanisms develop is essential to making positive changes.

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Narcissists have a way of twisting words to make you doubt yourself, and in this episode, we break down those common phrases they use and reveal the hidden intentions behind them. In this episode, "10 Things Narcissists Say vs What They Really Mean," we dive into the confusing, manipulative language narcissists often use to control and distort reality. 

You’ve likely heard things like, “You’re too sensitive,” or “I never said that,” but what do these statements really mean? Why do narcissists say them? From the manipulative backhanded compliments to gaslighting remarks, we’re decoding their words to help you understand the real message behind the façade. We’ll explore how narcissists use language as a tool to maintain control and keep you off balance, as well as how you can respond to reclaim your power.
 Tune in to learn how to stop second-guessing yourself and start seeing things clearly. You deserve to feel confident in recognising the truth!

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Have you ever found yourself in the passenger seat with someone driving aggressively, not for fun but to make you feel scared or helpless? In this episode, I shed light on a terrifying but often overlooked tactic that narcissists use to dominate and terrorise their victims: Reckless driving. This is no accident—it’s a deliberate form of control that narcissists use to assert dominance and make you feel powerless. I unpack this dangerous behaviour, explaining how it fits into their broader manipulative patterns. 
If you've ever felt trapped behind the wheel with a narcissist, this episode is a must-listen! 

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More victims are realising they’re with a Covert Narcissist. It's just a buzzword to many, but for the victims, it's a devastating, often very covert form of abuse that destroys their lives, and there is little support and understanding for them.  So what’s driving this surge in narcissistic talk on social media? 

In this episode, I dive into why narcissistic abuse is all over social media and what’s behind its sudden rise. From viral videos to trending hashtags, discussions about narcissists are everywhere.  Join us as we break down why the topic of narcissistic abuse has gained so much traction online, what it means for survivors, and how social media is playing a role in spreading awareness and misinformation. Don’t miss this insightful chat packed with helpful tips on spotting narcissistic behaviours and protecting yourself.

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In this episode, I speak with Chris Daw KC who provides incredible insights and discussion around stalking behaviours, the impact to victims and the resources needed to protect victims and address future stalking behaviour. Stalking is one of the most alarming and pervasive issues affecting countless lives today. Stalking is not just about unwanted attention; it’s a serious and sometimes life-threatening behavior that leaves victims feeling trapped, isolated, and terrified. Whether it happens in person or online, stalking is a form of abuse that often gets overlooked or minimized, but its impact can be devastating. So, how do we stop it? And more importantly, how do we protect the people being targeted?

This episode is a must-listen if you have been the victim of stalking or you know someone who has. With the rise in cyberstalking and the blurred lines of digital harassment, this conversation is more relevant than ever. Tune in to learn how we can all play a role in addressing the stalking epidemic and ensuring victims receive the support and safety they deserve.

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Narcissists thrive on control, and each time you come back, they feel like they’ve won—so they push the boundaries even further. In this episode, we dive into why narcissists become more abusive each time you go back. I explain how the cycle of love-bombing, gaslighting, and control escalates with every return. We’ll talk about why narcissists push boundaries even further, how emotional abuse intensifies, and why it becomes harder to break free. 
We’ll explore the emotional rollercoaster they put you through, why they up the ante with every reunion, and how their behaviour becomes more intense and damaging over time. 
 This episode offers insight into the toxic dynamics of a narcissistic relationship and why leaving for good is crucial for your healing journey.

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