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Trigger warning: Abuse doesn’t always start with obvious violence — it often begins with intimidation, manipulation, and control. The slammed fist into the wall beside your head, a plate hurled that just misses, your car blocked in so you can’t leave, or the threat of suicide if you try to walk away. These are deliberate tactics designed to dominate, silence, and keep you trapped in fear.

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Many victims minimise these behaviours, telling themselves “at least they didn’t hit me.” But coercive control is abuse, and when it escalates, the danger becomes very real. 

This episode is validating, emotional, and at times confronting. It sheds light on the insidious ways narcissists create dominance and control through fear — and what it feels like to live under that constant threat. 

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If you’ve ever questioned whether what you’re experiencing “counts” as abuse, I want you to know this: coercive control is abuse, and it can become dangerous. Your story matters, and your safety matters.

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For a narcissist, the most terrifying moment isn’t when you argue, fight, or even walk out the door. Their real breaking point comes when they finally realise you are never coming back.

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In this episode of Fake Love and Flying I explore the collapse of the narcissist’s carefully constructed world when they lose control over you. What does that breaking point actually look like from their side? 

I unpack:

✅️How narcissists sense when they’ve truly lost their grip

✅️Why love-bombing, begging, and false promises intensify when you won’t budge

✅️The terrifying rage and character assassinations that surface when charm fails

✅️The emptiness and collapse they face when their supply is permanently cut off

If you’ve ever wondered why it feels so hard to leave, or what happens when you finally stand your ground, this episode is for you!

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Ever wondered why some friendships leave you feeling drained, anxious, or doubting yourself? It might not be you — it could be a covert narcissist hiding in plain sight. In this episode, we dive into the subtle but serious dangers of having a covert narcissist friend.

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You’ll also learn about the infamous “flying monkey” effect — when narcissists recruit others in your social circle to do their emotional dirty work — and how it can leave you feeling isolated and confused. We share relatable examples of how covert narcissists operate, the emotional toll they take, and why it’s so hard to spot them until the damage is done.

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If you’ve ever felt drained, manipulated, or unsure about a friendship, this episode will give you clarity, validation, and practical guidance.

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Ever find yourself constantly second-guessing your reality, apologising for things you didn’t do, or walking on eggshells to avoid someone’s anger? These are not just “relationship problems” — they may be signs you’re caught in the cycle of narcissistic abuse.

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In this episode of Fake Love and Flying Monkeys, I break down the red flags that often go unnoticed until it’s too late. From subtle gaslighting to love bombing, manipulation, silent treatments, and emotional withdrawal, I’ll walk you through the patterns that reveal whether your partner, friend, or even family member might be a narcissist.

Narcissists thrive on confusion — but once you start seeing clearly, you reclaim your power.

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If you feel like you’re losing yourself in love, it’s not love — it’s control.

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The female narcissist is often compared to a black widow spider — alluring, seductive, and deadly to her prey. In relationships, her weapon of choice is emasculation. She strips her victim of confidence, ridicules his masculinity, and weaves a web of control that leaves him doubting his worth.

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In this episode, I break down how the black widow narcissist operates. From playful “jokes” that cut deep, to public humiliation designed to belittle, to sexual manipulation that punishes and rewards, every move is calculated to dominate. 

This is a raw, eye-opening exploration of a form of narcissistic abuse that’s rarely talked about: the quiet, calculated destruction of a man’s sense of self. If you’ve ever felt mocked, belittled, or stripped of your masculinity by a partner, this episode will shine a light on exactly what’s happening — and why it was never your fault.

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To outsiders, narcissistic families often appear flawless—supportive parents, successful children, and a picture-perfect life. Yet beneath the surface lies manipulation, control, and emotional abuse that remain hidden from the public eye. 

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This episode explores how narcissistic parents craft the illusion of perfection, the roles family members are forced to play, and why friends, relatives, and colleagues rarely see the dysfunction.

Listeners will gain insight into toxic family dynamics, covert abuse, parental narcissism, and the lasting psychological effects on children and spouses. By understanding how these families maintain their public image, you can begin to recognize patterns of narcissistic behavior, validate lived experiences, and see beyond the mask that conceals the truth.

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What do you do when the narcissist’s texts flip between “I love you” and radio silence? In this episode of Fake Love and Flying Monkeys, I break down the real meaning behind their late-night messages, sudden love bombs, ghosting tactics, and manipulative wordplay.

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 Important Fact - Their texts aren’t random — they’re part of a calculated cycle designed to pull you back in.

We’ll talk about why narcissists text at the weirdest times, how they hook you with just a few words, and how you can finally step off the merry-go-round. If you’ve ever stared at your phone wondering, “What does this even mean?” — this one’s for you.

📖 Don’t forget to grab a copy of my book Fake Love for deeper insights and strategies to heal. 👇https://mybook.to/F3gm

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Ever been hit with anger that comes out of nowhere — and somehow leaves you questioning yourself?

In this episode of Fake Love and Flying Monkeys, I dive into narcissistic rage: what it really is, why narcissists explode over seemingly “nothing,” and why it’s never your fault.

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You’ll learn:

How narcissistic rage shows up — from screaming and cold silences to passive-aggressive digs and public humiliation

Why narcissists react this way — fragile egos, control, and power plays

Real-life examples in relationships, parenting, and work

Practical strategies to protect yourself, set boundaries, and stay sane.

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Have you ever had a narcissist in your life say, “Let’s be friends” after a breakup or fallout? In this episode, we dive deep into what they really mean, why it’s not about genuine friendship, and how these manipulative words keep you trapped in the trauma bond.
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We explore why victims often think staying friends is a safer alternative to a committed relationship, the hidden motives behind this classic narcissistic move, and what actually happens when you accept “friendship” with someone who thrives on control and emotional supply.

I’ll share real-life examples from my counselling practice, practical strategies for setting boundaries, and ways to protect your emotional health without guilt.

Learn why saying “let’s be friends” is often just another way narcissists hoover, test boundaries, and maintain access, and discover how to respond in a way that supports your healing.

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Struggling with narcissistic abuse? Learn the 6 damaging lies narcissists tell others behind your back to manipulate, isolate, and control the narrative.

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In this episode, I reveal six things narcissists commonly say about you behind your back to protect their image and control the story. These lies are designed to isolate you and turn others against you, making it harder to be heard and believed.

You’ll learn why narcissists spread these damaging narratives and how they impact your relationships with friends, family, and colleagues. With relatable examples and clear explanations, this episode offers validation and insight for anyone dealing with narcissistic abuse such as:

✅ Them calling you “crazy” to make others question your sanity

Discover how to stand firm in your truth even when the narcissist is working hard to rewrite the story.

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 If you’ve been wondering why healing feels like a rollercoaster, why your body stays on high alert long after the abuse ends, or why everyday moments can trigger intense emotional reactions, this episode is for you.

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In this Part 2 episode of Fake Love and Flying Monkeys, we take a look at what Complex PTSD (CPTSD) really feels like after surviving narcissistic abuse.

I break down CPTSD in plain language, share relatable examples, and offer gentle guidance on how to start reclaiming your peace and safety.

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Whether you’ve listened to Part 1 or this is your first time here, you’ll find validation, hope, and practical insights for navigating life after narcissistic abuse. Healing isn’t linear, but it is possible — and you don’t have to do it alone. 

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If you're still feeling anxious, jumpy, or emotionally raw long after leaving a narcissistic relationship, you're not alone.

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In this 2 part series of Fake Love and Flying Monkeys, I break down 7 common emotional triggers survivors experience after narcissistic abuse — and explain why these intense reactions may actually be symptoms of Complex PTSD (C-PTSD).

I look at how they all trace back to what you endured in that toxic dynamic.

I walk you through how narcissistic abuse rewires the brain, why emotional flashbacks are so real, and how to start healing from the inside out.

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If you’ve ever asked yourself,
👉 “Why am I still like this?”
👉 “Why do I freak out over the smallest things?”
👉 “Is this PTSD?”

Then this episode is for you.

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Ever feel like the narcissist got away with everything while you were left to pick up the pieces? 

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In this powerful episode, I unpack the brutal aftermath of narcissistic abuse—why they seem to be thriving, why you're stuck with all the trauma, and why it feels so damn unfair.

Whether it's a narcissistic ex, parent, boss, or friend—this episode will help you see behind the mask and understand what’s really going on. We dive into smear campaigns, emotional shutdown, and the silent grief survivors are left with. You'll hear real-life scenarios, empowering insights, and a much-needed reality check.

Because healing? That’s the real power move.
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Why does the narcissist feel so threatened by the person they once love-bombed, idealised, and tried to control?

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 In this powerful episode, I dive into the rising phenomenon of the Super Empath — the highly intuitive, emotionally intelligent individual who eventually wakes up, sees through the narcissist’s manipulation, and walks away with clarity and strength.

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Whether you see yourself in the term "Super Empath" or you’re simply someone who’s had your empathy used against you, this episode will validate that shift you’ve felt — that awakening — and remind you that your ability to feel deeply isn’t your flaw, it’s your freedom.

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Do narcissists actually believe the stuff they say? 

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In this episode of Fake Love and Flying Monkeys, I break down 7 of the most common—and most mind-bending—delusions all narcissists believe.

This is the deep dive every survivor needs to hear if you’ve ever found yourself:

Arguing with someone who rewrites reality in real time

Wondering if you’re actually the one who’s “too sensitive”

Shocked at how confidently they lie about you.

If you're exhausted from trying to reason with someone who lives in their own fantasyland, this episode will feel like a warm cup of clarity.

📚 Grab your copy of Fake Love—the must-read guide for breaking free from narcissistic abuse and toxic relationships https://mybook.to/F3gm

💬 Tell me what hit home in this episode, leave a review, and don’t forget to share this with someone stuck in a narcissist’s alternate reality.

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What really happens when the narcissist loses control of you, and realises their grip on you is gone?

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In this episode of Fake Love and Flying Monkeys, I break down the moment every survivor of narcissistic abuse eventually faces—the moment the narcissist knows you’ve figured them out… and they start to unravel.

This is when the power shift begins. You stop reacting. You stop defending. You see through the gaslighting, manipulation, and charm.

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✅️ Expect a deep dive into:

How narcissists behave when they feel exposed

What happens when they lose emotional control over you

Why smear campaigns ramp up post-escape

The mind games they play to claw back power

How silence, boundaries, and no-contact drive them wild

What your healing journey really triggers in a narcissist

Whether you’ve just woken up to the narcissist’s true nature or you're deep into your healing journey, this episode will validate everything you’re feeling. If they’re panicking, it’s because your peace, clarity, and confidence are growing stronger.

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Ever had someone say, “I’m sorry you feel that way,” and leave you feeling more dismissed than understood? If so, you might have just encountered one of the covert narcissist’s most manipulative tactics in action.

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In this episode, we pull back the curtain on the classic non-apology used by covert narcissists to dodge accountability while appearing calm and reasonable. These aren’t just awkward conversations—they’re calculated moments of emotional manipulation. When a covert narcissist says “I’m sorry you feel that way,” what they really mean is, “Your reaction is the problem—not what I did.”

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If you’ve ever walked away from an apology that wasn’t really an apology at all, this episode will help you spot the manipulation and protect your peace.

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Think it's just romantic partners who can be narcissistic? Think again.

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In this episode of Fake Love and Flying Monkeys, I’m diving deep into how narcissism shows up in all types of relationships—not just the romantic ones. That charming coworker? The controlling parent? The friend who always plays the victim? Yep, narcissism can hide in plain sight, and you need to know what to look for.

From coercive control in the workplace to gaslighting in families, we’re breaking down the red flags of narcissistic abuse and how it can completely distort your reality—no matter who it’s coming from. You’ll hear real examples, practical strategies, and straight talk to help you finally see through the manipulation and protect your peace.

🔍 Topics we cover:

Subtle signs of coercive control in any relationship

Why narcissists don’t always look like villains

How they twist your words, rewrite history, and make you doubt yourself

Why they act so differently in public vs private

How to break free and rebuild your self-worth

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Whether you're dealing with a toxic parent, a partner, a boss, or a so-called “friend”, this episode is your survival guide to spotting narcissistic abuse before it drains you dry.

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Ever had a “friend” who seems supportive, checks in on you sweetly… and then somehow everything you say magically makes its way back to the narcissist? Yep—that’s the flying monkey friend. 

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In this episode, we’re breaking down one of the most confusing betrayals survivors of narcissistic abuse face: the friend who pretends to care but secretly reports back to the narcissist.

We’ll cover:

What flying monkeys are and why they’re so dangerous

How to spot the sneaky “sweet” ones

Signs your friend is double-dealing

Why some people choose the narcissist’s side (and why it’s not your fault)

How to handle betrayal, set boundaries, and protect your peace

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Whether it’s a mutual friend, a family member, or a “neutral” third party stirring the pot behind your back, this episode will help you stop doubting yourself and start reclaiming your power.

💥 If you’ve been manipulated, gaslit, or hurt by someone pretending to be in your corner—this one’s for you.

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They act like your best friend in the meeting... and your worst nightmare behind closed doors.

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In this eye-opening episode of Fake Love & Flying Monkeys, I dive deep into the manipulative world of the workplace narcissist—those coworkers or bosses who charm the room and crush your confidence when no one’s watching.

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You’ll learn how to spot the signs of narcissistic abuse at work, including gaslighting, sabotage, triangulation, and reputation-smearing—and how to protect yourself with strategies like grey rocking, boundary-setting, and documentation.

Whether you’ve got a narcissistic boss, a two-faced coworker, or you're still trying to recover from a toxic work environment, this episode will validate your experience, help you reclaim your sanity, and remind you: you’re not the problem.

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 Narcissists are obsessed with power, praise, and control—and the workplace is their playground. But once you see their game? You stop playing. And that’s when you win.

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Have you been blamed for the very abuse you endured? Did the narcissist tell everyone you were the toxic one—while playing the victim themselves?

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In this episode,  I break down one of the most devastating tactics narcissists use after a breakup: DARVO (Deny, Attack, Reverse Victim and Offender) and the smear campaign. Learn how they manipulate others, twist reality, and destroy reputations—while leaving you to pick up the pieces.

(My apologies in advance for my naughty fur babies you can hear in the background.  I tried EVERYTHING to edit them out to no avail! 🤣🐶!!)

We’ll talk about:

Why narcissists accuse you of the very things they’ve done

How smear campaigns are set up and why people fall for them

What to do when no one believes your side of the story

How to reclaim your identity, peace, and power—without needing to prove anything to anyone

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Whether you’re co-parenting with a narcissist, navigating a false narrative, or trying to heal in isolation, this episode will give you the validation, strategy, and support you need.

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They ghost you, block you, abuse you—then pop up like nothing ever happened. Why?

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In this eye-opening episode of Fake Love and Flying Monkeys, we unpack one of the most confusing behaviours in narcissistic abuse: when the narcissist reappears with selective amnesia and zero accountability. Whether they send a flirty text, a casual “hey,” or act like everything’s fine after days (or weeks) of cruel silence, there’s always a strategy behind it.

I explain exactly what this behaviour means, why it’s not love or remorse, and what you can do to protect yourself when they try to slither back in.

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We’ll cover:
– Why they come back after hurting you
– What hoovering is and how to spot it
– How trauma bonding keeps you hooked
– What their silence, blocking, and ghosting are really about
– The dangerous cycle of abuse and false reconciliation

This one’s for anyone who’s ever been left confused, heartbroken, and manipulated by the narcissist’s fake “return.”
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What happens when the narcissist doesn’t just come after you—but starts poisoning your child’s mind against you? And worse—what happens when the court system believes it’s your fault.

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In this raw, eye-opening episode of Fake Love and Flying Monkeys, we’re diving into the heartbreaking experience of narcissistic parental alienation—when the narcissist manipulates your child and weaponises them to hurt you, isolate you, and destroy your bond.

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This isn’t just messy co-parenting. It’s psychological warfare.  They don’t co-parent. They counter-parent.

We also unpack how this manipulation often gets misread in family court. Protective, loving parents—who are desperately trying to shield their kids from harm—are often accused of parental alienation, while the narcissist walks away with a smile and a custody agreement.

If you've ever felt like you're being erased from your child’s life by a narcissist who’s playing the long game… this episode is your validation. You’re not alone. You’re not imagining it. And no—this is not your fault.

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Have you ever noticed how the narcissist in your life seems to get annoyed—or even angry—when you’re finally doing well? When you’re smiling, thriving, feeling peaceful... they suddenly go cold, start a fight, or make a snarky comment that sucks the joy right out of the room?

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In this episode of Fake Love and Flying Monkeys, we unpack the painful truth behind why narcissists hate when you’re happy.

Narcissists feel deeply threatened by your confidence, independence, and emotional growth—because it reminds them of what they’re lacking and what they can’t control. Your happiness represents your freedom, and freedom means they’re losing power.

We explore:

Why narcissists are triggered by your good mood, laughter, and lightness

How they subtly (or not-so-subtly) sabotage your joy

The emotional manipulation tactics they use to steal your peace

Why they downplay your wins or guilt-trip you for having fun

The connection between your happiness and their loss of control

What it really means when they pick a fight right before you leave for an event

Why your joy makes you a “threat” in the eyes of a narcissist

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If you’ve ever felt confused about why someone would punish you for being okay, this episode offers clarity, validation, and insight into one of the most emotionally draining patterns in narcissistic abuse.

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Narcissists don’t just leave you—they discard you with intent. And it’s never kind, never clean.

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 In this powerful episode, I reveal 7 of the most horrific ways narcissists discard their victims—each one designed to shock, shame, and cause maximum pain.

From cold ghosting and public humiliation, to triangulating with the new supply and recruiting flying monkeys to finish the job—this isn’t love. It’s emotional destruction disguised as a breakup.

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If you’ve been discarded and feel like you’re losing your mind, this episode will show you:
⚠️ You’re not crazy.
⚠️ You’re not alone.
⚠️ You were targeted by someone who needed control, not connection.

🎧 Learn the 7 discard tactics narcissists use to make it “memorable”
💔 Understand why they do it—and why it was never your fault
🧠 Get your power back by seeing the discard for what it really was

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What happens when your mother-in-law acts more like the jealous ex than the proud parent? 

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In this eye-opening episode, we dive deep into one of the most emotionally exhausting dynamics a woman can face: navigating life with a narcissistic mother-in-law who sees you as competition—not family.

We explore how narcissistic mothers-in-law undermine parenting decisions, interfere with your relationship, and create chaos under the guise of “just being helpful.” We also talk about the damage it causes when your partner is either completely oblivious to the manipulation—or worse, supports it.

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If you’ve ever been made to feel like the “other woman” in your own marriage, if you’ve walked on eggshells around family gatherings, or if you’ve questioned your sanity after being emotionally sidelined by a manipulative in-law, this episode is for you.

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Struggling with narcissistic abuse recovery as an adult child of a narcissist? Do you feel overwhelming guilt when setting boundaries with toxic parents—even when you know it’s the healthiest thing you can do?

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You’re not alone.

In this episode of Fake Love and Flying Monkeys, I dive deep into the emotional conditioning that narcissistic parents use over a lifetime to keep you trapped in fear, obligation, and guilt. I explore the complex reality of being one of many adult children of narcissists, where saying “no” feels wrong, loving yourself feels selfish, and healing childhood trauma means unlearning everything you were taught about love, loyalty, and guilt.

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I break down the psychological tools narcissistic mothers and fathers use—like emotional abuse from parents, trauma bonding, and guilt after going no contact—to keep you stuck in patterns of people-pleasing and self-abandonment.

You’ll hear:

Why narcissistic family dynamics are built on control, not connection

How toxic parent relationships make you feel responsible for their happiness

Real stories from survivors working through narcissistic parenting wounds

Why choosing yourself isn’t selfish—it’s survival

Practical steps for surviving narcissistic parenting and reclaiming your power

If you're navigating the pain of breaking free from family manipulation, or still wondering why you feel so guilty for protecting your peace, this episode offers the clarity and validation you’ve been searching for. 

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Trigger Warning: This episode contains discussion of domestic violence, murder-suicide, and police-perpetrated abuse. Please take care while listening.

In this powerful and heartbreaking episode, Bruce Bieber joins us to share the story no parent should ever have to tell — the murder of his daughter, Hillsborough County Sheriff’s Deputy Abigail Rose Bieber, by her boyfriend and fellow deputy, Daniel Leyden, in an officer-involved domestic violence (OIDV) murder-suicide in January 2022.

Abby had planned to end the relationship during a weekend away in St. Augustine. What neither she nor her family knew was that Leyden had a prior domestic violence history — one that was known to the Hillsborough County Sheriff’s Office but never acted upon meaningfully. When Bruce and his family began asking questions, they were met with silence, deflection, and eventually complete shutdown by HCSO.

Bruce shares the gut-wrenching journey from grief to advocacy — his fight to uncover the truth, the betrayal by law enforcement leadership, and his mission to push for mandatory OIDV policies and accountability nationwide.

This conversation is not just about Abby. It’s about the wider, deeply hidden epidemic of domestic violence committed by those sworn to protect — and the systemic failures that allow it to continue.

If you’ve ever wondered what happens when the abuser wears a badge — this is the episode you need to hear.

📞 If you or someone you love needs help, please reach out to one of the following services:

🇺🇸 United States
National Domestic Violence Hotline
📱 1-800-799-SAFE (7233)
🌐 www.thehotline.org
(24/7 confidential support via phone, chat, or text)

🇦🇺 Australia
1800RESPECT – National Sexual Assault, Domestic and Family Violence Counselling Service
📱 1800 737 732
🌐 www.1800respect.org.au
(24/7 support and information)

🇬🇧 United Kingdom
National Domestic Abuse Helpline (Refuge)
📱 0808 2000 247
🌐 www.nationaldahelpline.org.uk
(Free and confidential, 24/7 support)

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Weddings should be one of the happiest days of your life—but when you have a narcissistic parent, they often become a masterclass in manipulation, guilt-tripping, and sabotage.

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 In this episode, we’re unpacking the emotionally exhausting tactics narcissistic mothers, fathers, or in-laws use to hijack your big day and make it all about them.

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From passive-aggressive comments during the engagement, to dress code drama, unsolicited planning control, and even last-minute emotional meltdowns—this episode explores the subtle and not-so-subtle ways narcissistic parents attempt to stay centre stage. We’ll also dive into how they use weddings to maintain power, enforce control through financial strings, and stir conflict between you and your partner or in-laws.

If you've ever felt like your wedding was more about managing someone else’s ego than celebrating your love, you’re not alone. This episode also explores why your partner may not see the manipulation, how trauma bonding and childhood conditioning can create blind spots, and the emotional impact of facing smear campaigns or guilt after the wedding is over.

Whether you’re planning a wedding, reflecting on one that didn’t go as planned, or trying to support someone in this exact situation, this episode offers deep insight into narcissistic family dynamics, emotional abuse, and the psychology behind sabotage during milestone events.

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Ever been accused of cheating by a narcissist — even when you’ve been nothing but loyal? This episode dives into one of their most toxic manipulation tactics: projection.

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We explore why narcissists often blame their partners for cheating while they’re the ones actually betraying the relationship. This behaviour is deeply confusing and emotionally exhausting, often leaving victims in a cycle of denial, guilt, and over-explaining. But behind the false accusations lies a calculated strategy to control, distract, and destabilise.

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Learn how projection protects the narcissist’s false self, shifts blame, and keeps you in a constant state of defence. We unpack how this tactic ties into narcissistic supply, gaslighting, and the broader cycle of emotional abuse.

If you’ve ever questioned yourself after being unfairly accused, this episode will help you understand the deeper motives behind the narcissist’s behaviour — and why it was never about you.

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Why do narcissists discard their partners in such sudden, cold, and brutal ways? Why is there never closure — only silence, blame, or replacement with someone new? 

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In this powerful episode, we dive deep into the psychology of the narcissist's discard phase and why it feels so horrific.

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This stage of the narcissistic abuse cycle is where the mask truly drops. After months or years of manipulation, gaslighting, and emotional control, the narcissist walks away without empathy, explanation, or remorse. Whether you were ghosted, publicly humiliated, or immediately replaced with new supply, the discard is designed to destabilise and devalue you one final time.

We unpack:

✔️Why the discard is so sudden and savage

✔️How narcissists use new supply to inflict pain

✔️The emotional aftermath for the victim

✔️Why trauma bonding keeps you stuck post-discard

✔️How to start untangling from their control

If you’ve ever been discarded by a narcissist, this episode will help you understand that it was never your fault — it was part of a toxic pattern rooted in control, not love.

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Why does it feel like the covert narcissist always knows how to ruin your mood—right before a party, dinner, or important event? 

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If you’ve ever found yourself crying in the bathroom or cancelling plans because of a last-minute argument, this episode is for you.

In this episode of Fake Love and Flying Monkeys, I (Nova Gibson, narcissistic abuse counsellor and author of Fake Love) unpack exactly why covert narcissists pick fights before you go out—and how this emotionally manipulative tactic is actually a form of social sabotage and control.
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In fact, I was recently interviewed by Mamamia, Australia’s largest women’s media platform, to talk about this exact phenomenon—known as “Occasion Theory.” You can read the full, incredibly relatable article here 👇
https://www.mamamia.com.au/occasion-theory-spotting-a-narcissist

Covert narcissists may not scream or yell. Instead, they play the victim, sulk, guilt-trip you, or twist your words—right before you’re about to go somewhere that doesn’t revolve around them. The goal? To control you, keep you emotionally off-balance, and make sure you never fully enjoy yourself without them.

In this episode, we explore:

✔️ Why covert narcissists always pick fights before happy events

✔️ How these “arguments” are designed to isolate and control

✔️ The emotional toll of being sabotaged before you even walk out the door

✔️ Real stories from clients who’ve experienced this pattern

If you’ve ever asked yourself, “Why can’t they just let me have one good night?” — you are not overreacting. It’s calculated. It’s common. And you’re not alone.

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Why do narcissists seem obsessed with keeping access to your emotions—even after they’ve discarded you or moved on to someone new?

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In this powerful episode of Fake Love & Flying Monkeys, I break down why narcissists hoard your emotions as a form of control, dominance, and emotional manipulation. From love bombing to passive-aggressive guilt trips, I expose the ways narcissists use your emotional reactions as narcissistic supply—fueling their ego and avoiding their own emptiness.

Learn:

• Why narcissists panic when you detach emotionally
• How your anger, tears, and even silence serve their need for control
• What emotional hoarding looks like post-breakup
• How to protect your energy and fully detach from the narcissist’s grip

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If you're feeling drained, confused, or like you're still "on the hook" emotionally—this episode will give you clarity, validation, and practical strategies to take your emotional power back!

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If you’ve escaped a relationship with a narcissist, you know the damage runs deep. From shattered self-worth to constant self-doubt, the aftermath of narcissistic abuse can leave you feeling like a shell of who you used to be.

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 But healing is possible—and it starts with real, practical steps.

In this episode of Fake Love and Flying Monkeys, host Nova Gibson—lead trauma-informed counsellor and author of Fake Love—shares 6 concrete, no-fluff healing strategies you can begin using right now to rebuild your confidence, trust your gut again, and reconnect with your true self.

You can order your copy of Nova’s best-selling book Fake Love  - Understanding and healing from narcissistic abuse here 🩵  https://mybook.to/F3gm 🩵

💔 Narcissistic abuse doesn’t just affect your mind—it gets into your body, your choices, your relationships. Healing requires more than time—it requires action. Let’s take those first steps together.

🎙️ Fake Love and Flying Monkeys is your safe space for understanding narcissistic abuse and learning how to truly heal. Hosted by Nova Gibson, Director of Brighter Outlook Counselling Service and leading voice in narcissistic abuse recovery.

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If you’ve ever walked away from a narcissistic relationship feeling confused, unstable, or like you’ve lost your grip on reality, you’re not alone.

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 In this episode, we break down why narcissistic abuse leaves you feeling crazy, emotionally exhausted, and unable to trust your own instincts. From gaslighting and manipulation to trauma bonding and cognitive dissonance, we unpack the psychological tactics narcissists use to keep you stuck in a cycle of self-doubt. 

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Whether you were in a relationship with a narcissistic partner, parent, or coworker, this episode will help you make sense of the chaos, regain clarity, and understand how emotional abuse impacts your nervous system, mental health, and sense of identity.

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Are you constantly second-guessing yourself in a relationship that once felt perfect? Do you find yourself apologising for things you didn’t do or trying harder just to keep the peace?

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 This episode dives deep into the covert, subtle, and often overlooked manipulation tactics narcissists use to control, confuse, and emotionally exhaust their victims.

From disguised insults and emotional withdrawal to rewriting history and passive-aggressive forgetfulness, narcissistic abuse isn’t always loud or obvious — and that’s exactly why it’s so dangerous. This episode explores specific narcissistic abuse tactics that are often mistaken for everyday relationship dynamics, including conditional affection, guilt-tripping,  and sabotage masked as concern.

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If you’ve ever felt like your reality is being distorted, your independence threatened, or your confidence slowly eroded, you may be dealing with covert narcissistic behaviour. We explore how narcissists weaponise your vulnerability, punish autonomy, and use “jokes,” comparisons, and passive-aggressive behaviours to chip away at your sense of self.

These manipulation tactics go far beyond classic gaslighting and love bombing — they are calculated forms of psychological control that leave long-lasting emotional scars. This episode is essential for anyone wanting to understand the complex and insidious nature of narcissistic relationships, emotional manipulation, and toxic abuse cycles.

If you've ever wondered why you feel off around someone — but can't quite put your finger on it — this deep dive into lesser-known narcissistic tactics will give you the clarity you’ve been searching for.

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Dating a narcissist can feel like a rollercoaster of confusion, self-doubt, and emotional highs and lows.

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 In this powerful episode, we unpack the 10 most common signs you're dating a narcissist—signs that are often disguised as love, charm, or even care. From love bombing and gaslighting to emotional withdrawal and future faking, these patterns are subtle at first but deeply damaging over time.

This episode explores how narcissists use manipulation, charm, and psychological tactics to gain control and erode their partner’s sense of reality. We take a closer look at the emotional abuse cycles that often go unnoticed in narcissistic relationships, helping listeners recognise the red flags before they escalate. If you've ever felt like you're walking on eggshells, constantly questioning your worth, or doubting your own perception of reality in a relationship, this episode will bring much-needed clarity.

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Listeners will learn how to identify covert manipulation tactics, why narcissists behave the way they do in romantic relationships, and how emotional dependency is created through trauma bonding. This deep dive reveals not only the surface-level behaviours but the psychological reasons behind them—so you can spot the difference between genuine affection and narcissistic control.

This episode is especially relevant for those dealing with a narcissistic partner, wondering if their relationship is toxic, or healing from emotional abuse. It’s a must-hear for anyone questioning whether they’ve been love-bombed, devalued, or discarded by someone who never truly loved them, only controlled them.

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If you’ve ever found yourself being accused of things you didn’t do, or being labelled with traits that clearly belong to the narcissist themselves, chances are you’ve experienced this toxic psychological trick firsthand. 

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In this powerful episode, we explore one of the most insidious tactics narcissists use to manipulate and emotionally destabilise their victims – projection

Projection is a defence mechanism that allows narcissists to avoid taking accountability for their actions. Instead of owning up to their own flaws, behaviours, or toxic attitudes, they shift the blame onto you. Suddenly, you’re the one who’s "too sensitive," "selfish," "lying," or "manipulative." It’s a calculated move designed not only to confuse and disarm you, but to make you question your own reality and integrity.

We break down exactly how and why narcissists project, with real-world examples drawn from counselling sessions, survivor stories, and lived experiences. You’ll learn how this tactic often shows up in narcissistic relationships – from romantic partners and parents to workplace bullies and toxic friends – and the emotional toll it takes on victims.

This episode also highlights the emotional confusion and cognitive dissonance that projection creates. Narcissists are masters at using it to gaslight and distort the truth, making it incredibly difficult for victims to identify what’s real. We’ll talk about the circular arguments, the deflection, and the rage that often accompanies projection when you dare to stand up for yourself or question their narrative.

We also unpack why narcissists rely so heavily on projection. Whether it’s to preserve their fragile ego, avoid guilt, or maintain their false self-image, projection serves as a smokescreen that keeps the narcissist in control while leaving you doubting yourself.

If you’ve ever felt like you were being punished for someone else’s behaviour, made to feel responsible for the narcissist’s emotions, or gaslit into silence by relentless accusations, this episode is a must-listen. Understanding projection is a crucial step in unravelling the narcissist’s manipulation and reclaiming your voice, clarity, and confidence.

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Why do narcissists seem to lash out when you're at your happiest? Why do they ruin birthdays, holidays, family events, or moments of personal success? 

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If you've ever found yourself asking “Why can’t they just let me enjoy this?”, this episode is for you.

In this deep-dive episode, we unpack the disturbing reality behind why narcissists can’t stand your joy. Whether it’s your graduation, a promotion, a peaceful family gathering, or simply a quiet moment of contentment, narcissists have a way of inserting chaos, guilt, or drama—ensuring that the spotlight shifts back to them.

We’ll explore:

• The narcissist’s pathological envy and need to undermine you
• How they weaponise special moments to create emotional confusion
• The psychological reason your joy feels threatening to them
• The difference between support and sabotage in toxic dynamics
• Common tactics: disappearing acts, passive-aggressive comments, arguments out of nowhere

“They see your joy as a reminder they can’t feel theirs.”

Narcissistic sabotage isn’t random—it’s a patterned behaviour used to reassert control and destabilise you emotionally. These moments of sabotage are often followed by gaslighting, blame-shifting, or false apologies that keep you questioning yourself and walking on eggshells.

You’ll also hear real-world examples from my counselling practice, helping you identify red flags and understand the deeper emotional manipulation at play.

“They won’t let you have the moment—unless it serves them.”

This episode is a must-listen for anyone who has ever felt emotionally ambushed during what should’ve been their happiest moments. I’ll help you see through the manipulation and take the first steps toward emotional freedom.

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They live right next door—but your life feels like a psychological battleground. 

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In this episode of Fake Love and Flying Monkeys, we're diving into one of the most overlooked forms of narcissistic abuse: the narcissistic neighbour from hell.

If you’ve ever had your boundaries trampled, your privacy violated, or your daily peace destroyed by a toxic neighbour, you’re not imagining it—this is real, and you’re not alone.

"It’s not just petty disputes about fences or noise. A narcissistic neighbour plays a much bigger game—the long game of power, control, and psychological warfare."

As a specialist narcissistic abuse counsellor, I sharethe red flags, manipulation tactics, and deeply distressing psychological games these neighbours play—from covert sabotage to blatant intimidation. Whether it’s smear campaigns in the street, passive-aggressive “niceness,” or constant efforts to provoke you, this episode gives you both validation and strategy.

We’ll explore:

Why narcissistic neighbours target certain people

How they use neighbourhood dynamics to isolate and smear you

The emotional toll of living next to narcissistic chaos

What NOT to do (and why reacting fuels them)

Boundaries, grey rocking, and legal strategies that protect your peace

"You don’t have to justify your need for peace, safety, or space—especially not to someone who thrives on taking it away."

Whether you’re dealing with noise complaints used as weapons, creepy surveillance, or subtle community manipulation, this episode will help you reclaim your power and sanity.

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They poke the bear—then cry victim when the bear roars.

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In this episode of Fake Love and Flying Monkeys, I’m pulling back the curtain on one of the most manipulative narcissistic abuse tactics out there—narcissist baiting and bashing. If you’ve ever been provoked, poked, or pushed to your emotional limit by a narcissist only to have your reaction twisted against you, this episode is for you.

We’re diving deep into how narcissists bait you, why they do it, and how it connects to their larger smear campaign strategy. I’ll walk you through the red flags of baiting—those sly jabs, passive-aggressive comments, and guilt-tripping setups that are meant to elicit a strong emotional reaction. Once you take the bait, the narcissist flips the script, painting you as unstable, aggressive, or even abusive—this is what I call the narcissist’s bash phase.

“They want you to break—so they can blame you.”

In this episode, you’ll learn:

What narcissistic baiting looks like in romantic, family, workplace, and co-parenting dynamics

The emotional and reputational damage that occurs when you react

How baiting is often the first step in a calculated smear campaign

Why staying silent, not stooping, and emotionally detaching is your greatest defence

Grounded strategies to protect your peace and reputation

How to reframe your mindset so you stop reacting and start reclaiming power

Whether you're co-parenting with a narcissist, working with one, or trying to disengage from a toxic ex, knowing how to spot narcissist baiting before you take the hook is essential for your healing and safety.

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Are you constantly second-guessing yourself, walking on eggshells, or feeling like you're going crazy in a relationship? 

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You may be experiencing narcissistic victim syndrome—a deeply damaging psychological response to ongoing emotional and psychological manipulation by a narcissist.

In this eye-opening episode of Fake Love and Flying Monkeys, I break down exactly what narcissistic Victim syndrome is, how it develops, and the red flags you should never ignore. As a trauma-informed counsellor who specialises in narcissistic abuse recovery, I’ll guide you through the real signs of narcissistic abuse and Narcissistic  Victim Syndrome, and help you understand the emotional rollercoaster that victims often experience—confusion, anxiety, hypervigilance, low self-worth, and trauma bonding.

Whether it's a narcissistic partner, parent, friend, or boss, this episode will help you identify the manipulative tactics narcissists use—like gaslighting, love bombing, intermittent reinforcement, and devaluation—that leave you emotionally drained and psychologically trapped.

In this episode, we’ll cover:

What narcissistic Victim syndrome really is

Common signs you're being emotionally abused by a narcissist

How narcissistic abuse affects your mental health and identity

Why victims stay and how trauma bonding forms

Steps to begin healing and reclaiming your sense of self

Narcissistic abuse isn’t always obvious—but its effects are long-lasting and real. If you've ever been made to feel like you're the problem, this episode will validate your experience and give you the clarity and language to understand what’s really happening.

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By the time you realise what’s happening, you’re no longer you.

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In this eye-opening episode I dive deep into how covert narcissists slowly chip away at, and dismantle your personality, piece by piece.

We’re talking about the subtle manipulation tactics that don’t leave bruises but completely rewrite who you are:

Why covert narcissists target your self-esteem and independence

How they use gaslighting, guilt, and fake concern to erode your confidence

What it feels like when your values, beliefs, and even your sense of humour no longer feel like your own

How survivors often don’t recognise themselves anymore

“You’re not ‘too sensitive’—you’re being conditioned to question your reality.”

Whether the narcissist is a partner, parent, colleague, or friend, the long-term psychological effects of narcissistic abuse are real—and they’re devastating. This episode explores how your core identity is gradually overwritten by a covert narcissist’s control.

“Their goal isn’t to love you—it’s to control who you become.”

If you’ve ever felt like a shell of your former self, or like your personality has been “trained out” of you, this episode will help you make sense of the confusion, reclaim your identity, and start the healing process.

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What if everything you thought you knew about narcissists was just the tip of the iceberg?

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In this eye-opening episode of Fake Love and Flying Monkeys, I’m revealing 10 of the darkest, most tightly kept secrets narcissists don’t want you to uncover—because once you know, their power starts to crumble.

"A narcissist’s greatest fear is exposure. The moment you see through their mask, the game changes."

These are the secrets they use to:

Manipulate your perception of reality

Keep you hooked through cycles of idealisation and devaluation

Pretend to be the victim while destroying your reputation

And maintain control long after you’ve walked away

Whether you're dealing with a narcissistic partner, parent, co-worker, or friend, this episode will equip you with the insights you need to see their behaviour for what it really is.

"They don’t want you to heal. They want you to doubt yourself forever."

Expect to hear the truth behind:

Why they seem so confident (but are actually deeply insecure)

How they mirror you to win your trust

The real reason they never take responsibility

Why their charm is a calculated act

And how their ‘love’ is just another form of control

"The moment you stop playing their game, they panic."

It’s time to take your power back. The more you understand these dark narcissist secrets, the less influence they’ll have over your mind, emotions, and future.

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Why can’t anyone seem to understand narcissistic abuse — no matter how hard you try to explain it? 

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In this validating episode of Fake Love and Flying Monkeys,  I break down why victims struggle to put their experience into words and why outsiders often dismiss, minimise, or misunderstand what’s really happening.

I unpack powerful tactics like gaslighting, love bombing, and covert emotional abuse — all designed by the narcissist to stay hidden from others while destroying you behind closed doors. You’ll learn why survivors are left feeling isolated, disbelieved, and even blamed, and how this adds to the trauma.

If you’ve ever felt crazy, exhausted, or alone trying to explain your abuse — this episode will give you clarity, validation, and support. Your pain is real, and it matters.

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In this powerful episode of Fake Love and Flying Monkeys, I’m joined by none other than Dr. Sam Vaknin, the world-renowned expert on narcissistic personality disorder and author of the groundbreaking book Malignant Self-Love: Narcissism Revisited. With over 300,000 YouTube subscribers and millions of views, Dr. Vaknin has become one of the most recognised voices globally on narcissism, drawing from decades of research, clinical observation, and personal experience.

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Together, we take a deep dive into the narcissist’s destructive cycle of idealisation, devaluation, and discard — the pattern that leaves victims confused, traumatised, and trapped. Dr. Vaknin explains why narcissists go from love bombing you with intense idealisation, to cruelly tearing you down during the devaluation phase, before abruptly discarding you when they’ve extracted everything they need. You’ll learn the psychology behind this cycle, why it repeats, and most importantly, how to recognise it early and protect yourself from further harm.

Dr. Vaknin brings his signature no-nonsense insight, blending clinical knowledge with raw truth that resonates with survivors around the world. Whether you’re dealing with a narcissistic partner, parent, boss, or friend, this conversation will validate your experience and empower you with practical understanding.

Please follow Dr Sam Vaknin on his YouTube channel at https://youtube.com/@samvaknin?si=9L6UYK8vr63gfIEg

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Ever wondered how a narcissist loves — or if they’re even capable of real love at all?

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 In this episode of Fake Love and Flying Monkeys  I break down the hard truths about what narcissistic love really looks like in romantic relationships, families, and friendships.

You’ll learn why narcissists appear so loving and affectionate at first with intense love bombing, only to later devalue and discard you. I explain the difference between real love and narcissistic love, and why narcissists make you feel like you're walking on eggshells, doubting yourself, and constantly trying to win back their affection.

We explore how narcissistic parents show conditional love through the golden child and scapegoat dynamic, and why narcissistic partners shift from idealising you to tearing you down with silent treatments, manufactured conflict, and emotional manipulation. I also cover the key signs that you’re dealing with narcissistic love — and how to protect your self-worth and reclaim your peace.

If you’ve ever been stuck in the cycle of confusion, asking yourself, Did they ever really love me? this episode will give you the validation and clarity you need to start healing

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Have you ever wondered why certain people seem to become prime targets for covert narcissists? 

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In this revealing episode of Fake Love and  Flying Monkeys I break down exactly what kind of personality traits covert narcissists are drawn to — and why.

From the outside, it might seem like bad luck, but I explain the deeper psychological reasons why these manipulators select partners, friends, and even colleagues who display certain appealing traits. Are you overly empathetic? A chronic people-pleaser? High-achieving but secretly struggling with low self-worth? 

Expect to learn:

The top 5 personality traits covert narcissists actively seek out

How your strengths — like kindness and loyalty — can be twisted and weaponised against you

Why boundary issues are often at the core of the narcissist-target dynamic

Red flags that signal when your good nature is being exploited

This episode is packed with insight, validation, and practical strategies to help you recognise the patterns — and break free from them. Whether you're currently stuck in a toxic relationship or reflecting on past encounters, this conversation will empower you to reclaim your self-worth and stop being an easy target.

"Your empathy is your strength — but without boundaries, it becomes your weakness in the hands of a narcissist."

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Ever felt like you were suddenly competing for someone’s love, attention, or approval—without knowing why? You might have been caught in the toxic game of covert narcissistic triangulation.

In this eye-opening episode of Fake Love and Flying Monkeys, I dive deep into one of the most painful and manipulative tactics narcissists use: triangulation. Whether it’s with an ex, a friend, a sibling, or even your own child, covert narcissists thrive on creating emotional chaos by pulling in third parties to control, confuse, and hurt you.

I’ll break down what triangulation really looks like, why narcissists do it, how it affects your mental health and self-esteem, and—most importantly—how to recognise it and shut it down. From silent treatment and comparisons to backhanded praise and fake alliances, this episode exposes how narcissists use others to punish you, keep you off balance, and maintain power.

You’ll hear real-life examples from my counselling practice and learn practical tools to detach from the drama, protect your peace, and heal from the emotional damage this cruel tactic leaves behind.

This episode is for you if:

You’ve been compared to others constantly

You feel like someone’s always being used against you

The narcissist in your life brings up their ex way too often

You’ve been turned against someone you once trusted

You're stuck in a toxic triangle that leaves you drained and confused


"The narcissist doesn’t want peace, they want power—and triangulation gives them both."

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What happens when the abuse doesn’t leave bruises—but instead rewires your nervous system?

In this episode of Fake Love and Flying I dive deep into the reality of Complex PTSD (CPTSD) as it relates to narcissistic abuse.

"Narcissistic abuse doesn’t just hurt—it conditions you to expect pain as love."

Whether you’ve left the narcissist or are still untangling from the trauma, this episode breaks down the long-term psychological and physiological effects of prolonged exposure to emotional abuse, gaslighting, control, and coercive manipulation. We explore how CPTSD develops differently from PTSD, how the narcissist's cycle of idealise–devalue–discard contributes to emotional injury, and why survivors often feel confused, hypervigilant, or stuck in shame.

You’ll learn:

What CPTSD really is and how it develops from repeated emotional trauma

Key symptoms including emotional flashbacks, dysregulation, and shame spirals

How narcissists create the "perfect storm" for CPTSD

Why healing requires more than just going no contact.

"CPTSD is not weakness. It’s your brain’s survival response to ongoing emotional warfare."

This episode is for anyone seeking to understand the neurobiological toll of narcissistic abuse, how CPTSD keeps survivors locked in fear and confusion, and—most importantly—what recovery really looks like.

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