Have you ever wondered if people in the public eye feel bouts of not-enoughness? And if so, how they handle it? 

Janette Manrara is a former pro dancer on Strictly Come Dancing, a television show watched by 12-18 million people each week. Janette now hosts the TV programme, It Takes Two, and recently published Tiny Dancer, Big World: How to find fulfilment from the inside out. 

In this conversation, Janette and I discuss her unusual entry into professional dance (her “wiggly career”), her moments of not-enoughness resulting from the rejections along the way, and how she finally learned to relate to moments of imposter syndrome and self-doubt (because – spoiler alert – they never go away). There’s a secret insight from Janette in the Outro, so listen to the very end.

(3:18) Mandy’s experience of ballroom dancing.

(6:18) Self-love has been a quest for Janette.

(7:31) Janette shares her career moments of not feeling enough.

(14:11) LA is the most ruthless place on earth for rejection.

(18:57) Janette’s first year on Strictly

(20:56) Her inner critic and not feeling good enough or liked on the show.

(23:26) What Janette would say to her younger self.

(24:42) Lenny Kravitz also has bouts of not-enoughness.

(25:28) Defensive pessimism and a recap of Janette’s points.

(27:28) Imposter syndrome – Janette had no “specialty”

(32:15) Adam Grant’s Overblown Implications Effect, and ‘what are you listening for?’

(34:38) Wiggly careers/skill stacking.

38:52 Emma Reid Turrell: 3 reasons your imposter syndrome might get activated.

(40:20) How Janette handles moments of imposter syndrome.

(44:16) Gratitude (it works, even if it sounds “old hat”).

(47:08) The biggest takeaway Janette readers experience from her book.

(49:00) Enoughness is a practice. Recap of Janette’s practices.

(50:36) Janette’s Brick of Wisdom.

(51:25) Outro and secret bonus insight from Janette on what dance is like for her.

LINKS

Janette Manrara’s book.

Janette on Instagram.

Mandy Lehto on Instagram.

IG video of Lenny Kravitz discussing his moments of self-doubt.

Poet Alix Klingenberg on IG.

Episode 64 on Imposter Syndrome.

 

In this conversation, Emma and I dig into what’s keeping us “bound”, overwhelmed, and feeling not-enough. We touch on the types of happiness (Emma’s been researching happiness for 20 years) and why a contemplative practice is the foundation of having a more life-affirming relationship with yourself. You’ll hear about how people get “committed to burnout,” and how to break out of what Emma calls the “Matrix” that’s keeping you stuck and exhausted. There’s also a cameo from Dr Anna Lembke, best-selling author of Dopamine Nation, and Stanford professor. Emma and I get into the programs that are running our behaviours and thoughts – including one scenario where a salesperson insulted me, and I opened my wallet, fully aware of what I was doing (and I did it anyway!). Emma, why do we do this? Emma’s practical, evidence-based suggestions give you a path back to freedom, energy and your power. 

Links

Emma Seppälä’s website (and books)

Emma on Instagram

Mandy on Instagram

Sky breathing technique

Anna Lembke’s book, Dopamine Nation

 

If you’ve ever achieved a big goal, was it everything you’d hoped? Probably not. Callum Wilson dreamt of representing England’s national rugby team since he was a kid, but when it happened, it didn’t change his life the way he’d hoped. Sidebar: This is NOT an episode about rugby. It’s a powerful, tender conversation about how a tattooed, 113kg overachiever handled “arrival fallacy” – the concept that if we just achieve that big goal, THEN we’ll be happy. You’ll learn why diversifying your “goal portfolio” can create a positive shift, and how to handle the negative inner chatter when it insists you’re not enough. 

Links:

Callum Wilson on LinkedIn.

NYT article on Arrival Fallacy, with Dr Ben-Shahar

 

You’ve heard of burnout, but ever heard of bore-out? Apparently, it’s a leading cause of why people leave their jobs. I’m not talking about things feeling a bit drab. I’m talking about the loss of meaning in your work, and the adverse effects this can have on your mental and physical wellbeing. As you become more senior, maybe your days are full of admin, politics, and none of the juicy stuff that used to light you up. In today’s episode you’ll meet Kristi Turner, a former tech CMO, whose work stress was mainly due to boredom. Kristi took a pause from work, had a “Soulbbatical” (more on this in the episode), and found a new-found vigour to re-enter the corporate in a way that felt more aligned with her values. You’ll also meet Shelley Paxton, former CMO of Harley Davidson and founder of the Soulbbatical, who gives you some techniques to tackle bore-out – no resignation letter required. Pacey and practical, you’ll leave this episode tooled up, and (hopefully) enlivened. Join us!

Links:

Kristi Turner’s website.

Shelley Paxton’s website.

Soulbbatical book.

Brené Brown’s list of values.

Forbes article: Why boredom at work is more dangerous than burnout.

BBC article with Dr Lotta Harju’s comments.

Mandy Lehto on Instagram.

 

Do you have BLS? (Beige Leadership Syndrome). I just made that up, but it’s a thing. If you work in corporate, you know the meetings that are soda-cracker dry. The BS buzzwords. The slow death by Power Point. The lack of relatable, inspiring leaders at the top. What gives? Enter Erin Hatzikostas, ex-CEO turned author, TEDx speaker, podcaster and coach-sultant. We talk about how to start practicing authentic leadership, and before you roll your eyes, or think you know what that means, strap in for the ride. This is authenticity as you’ve never experienced it. You’ll leave with some radically practical ways to experiment with authentic leadership, and a new, life-changing tool: the 50% rule. I think I can safely say, this episode will rid the corporate world of BLS. Join us. You career will thank you.

 

 

Links:

 

Erin Hatzikostas’s website. Please watch her cool 2min video!

Erin on LinkedIn. Mandy on LinkedIn.

Me on Erin’s podcast (episode 233).

Dr Jeff Spencer is the man behind more than forty Olympic gold medals, and stellar performances by Tiger Woods, Lance Armstrong, and many other elite performers who are household names. In today’s conversation, you’ll get a sneak peek at some of the techniques Jeff uses with them. Hint, hint – it’s NOT more striving or hyper-focus. You’ll learn to do “Chameleon Eyes”, a process that opens more opportunities and more of your untapped potential. You’ll also learn to shift gears from striving into receivership, and how “resonant recognition” can be a new navigation system in your life. This is especially important as you leave your 30s, the decade of “conquest and acquisition.” Wise, experienced, and just the right amount of intense, Jeff will challenge how you go about success.

 

Links:

Dr Jeff Spencer’s website.

Jeff on LinkedIn.

Mandy Lehto on LinkedIn.

Dr David Yudis on LinkedIn.

David Brooks’ book, The Second Mountain.

Want to learn the real deal on your inner critic from a Stanford-trained neuroscientist? You’re in luck. Today’s guest is Dr Irene Salter, whose inner critic (named Draco) was taking too much airtime in Irene’s life. You’ll hear Irene’s hypothesis on where the inner critic comes from. Then she takes us through a real-life scenario of how she turned the volume down on Draco. You’ll learn about popcorn brain – and my favourite part of the episode, how to connect with your subconscious brain to find out what the heck is going on with that inner voice and the extreme behaviours it demands of you. Lab coats at the ready. 

 

Links:  

 

Microsoft research on short breaks for your brain 

 

Dr Irene Salter’s website 

 

Irene on Instagram 

 

Mandy on Instagram 

When work isn’t working, it’s easy to question yourself, “Why can’t I hack it? What’s wrong with me?” Maybe you’re feeling stagnant, exhausted, or even burnt out. Is it a capacity issue or are you high net growth? (stay tuned for what that means). I’m in conversation with award-winning author and podcaster, Jenny Blake. During her career at Google, she looked at her management and thought, “I don’t want that job.” If you’re languishing, and can’t see a way forward, what do you do? Jenny offers a refreshing perspective on our obsession with promotions, and what she calls “the sea of shiny shoulds.” You’ll learn about project-based purpose, how you can “turn into a goo” after leaving a company that has brand halo, and why an energy audit can be a big reveal. Join us.

 

 

Links:

Jenny Blake on Substack

Pivot podcast episode with Mandy Lehto

Article on Languishing

NYT article on Languishing, Adam Grant (subscription required)

If you love an act of kindness, this episode is gonna feel like lowering yourself into a hot mug of chocolate, with itty bitty marshmallows. Acts of kindness have proven health effects, but I’ve also noticed something else. They are a splendid antidote to feeling self-critical, not enough, and being too zoomed in on your own inner world. This episode originally aired in 2021, and I loved it so much, I wanted to give it a second life. I asked a bunch of guests back to the pod to share a collection of acts of kindness – either given or received – and the impact it had on them. Warm fuzzies guaranteed.

 

Links:

BBC article with University of British Columbia research.

 

 

Former litigator (and firefighter) Shannon Sedlacek is back by popular demand. She featured in episode 53, one of the most downloaded episodes of the year. She’s back to share what happened to her identity when she was forced to leave her impressive job. She shares how her sense of self shifted so dramatically, that at one point, she didn’t even want to be alive.

She also shares the two things that helped her transcend those difficult times. You’ll hear a cameo from a previous guest. You’ll also hear what I learned from a man in burgundy robes that messed with my thinking. If you’re highly identified with your job, but know deep down that you have a tough choice ahead, this episode is for YOU. 

 

Links:

Shannon Sedlacek’s website.

Gelong Thubten’s book.

Jessica Maguire’s website.

Nicole LePera’s workbook.

Mandy Lehto on Instagram.

If you’ve ever downplayed your success at work, felt like you didn’t belong, or attributed your career wins to luck, you’ve likely experienced Imposter Syndrome. Stats show that 70 per cent of us have experienced its wily grip at some stage of our careers. In this fast-paced solo episode I share three key things that might be causing imposter syndrome in your life. We’ll also explore what might be GOOD about it, and what three-step technique you can try when you’re feeling it. I’m also curious if the term itself is outdated (it originated in the 1970s). Oh, you’re wondering about the banana. You’ll hear how a banana kicked off a shame cycle for me. True story.

 

 

Links:

Mandy’s imposter syndrome QUIZ.

How the Queen would eat a banana.

YouGov stats on Brits and imposter syndrome.

Stats 70 per cent have felt imposter syndrome.

KPMG research.

Emma Reed Turrell on podcast (refers to Visibility, Novelty, Minority).

Stylist article with MIT prof quotes.

HBR article: Stop telling women they have imposter syndrome.

If you’ve ever been labelled too loud, too intense, TOO MUCH, this episode is for you. I’m in conversation with two guests who, for years, felt the need to shrink themselves to be more acceptable for others.

 

You’ll meet Karen Goldfinger Baker, who had a stellar career in fund-raising, and now coaches pro athletes and executives at organizations such as Apple and Disney. You’ll also meet Dr Sarah Madigan, author and clinical psychologist, who leads coaching groups that look ridiculously fun.

 

Both women share where their too-much beliefs came from, and how they’ve learned to relate to that belief differently, letting their authenticity shine through. You’ll learn techniques from Sarah with her clinical psychologist hat on in case you’ve been holding back, worried about being too much.

 

Trigger warning: There is mention of childhood sexual abuse, and the death of a baby.

 

Dr Sarah Madigan’s website.

Karen Goldfinger Baker’s website.

How many Mondays do you have left? You’re about to find out. Coach and author, Jodi Wellman and I hang out with the Grim Reaper in today’s conversation. We start with a pre-mortem, a pulse check of where you are right now, while you’re still on this side of the lawn. What areas of your life are in the Dead Zone? What teeny tiny steps can you take right now to zhuzh up those parts that are ho-hum? You’ll rate yourself on Jodi’s Astonishingly Alive quadrant and discover if it’s more meaning or fun (or both) that will defibrillate your existence. Uplifting and thought-provoking. 

Links

Jodi Wellman’s website (includes book and QUIZ)

Jodi Wellman on Instagram

Mandy Lehto on Instagram

Zizou and Roger Federer video

Episode 62 of Enough, the Podcast

We Croak app

3:11 Jodi and Mandy riff on why they think so much about death.

10:11 “Fine” is the most dangerous f-word. The three stooges of bore-out, and how our lives grow stale.

13:06 Only 16.6% of people Jodi polled would feel like they had lived fully if they died tonight.

16:48 Use the pre-mortem to diagnose the “dead zones.”

19:11 Jodi’s Astonishingly Alive framework

21:45 Are you Meaningfully Bored or Vitally Empty?

23:52 Jodi’s alive-alicious sentence stem to play with.

24:50 Start small – don’t go gangbusters!

32:13 Zizou & Roger Federer story.

35:08 The Astonishingly Alive Zone (do we have to live here? Sounds exhausting).

38:38 Sometimes we don’t take action on a dream because it’s safer to keep it pristine…

43:03 Calculate how many Mondays you have left & Brick of Wisdom

 

You’ve spent decades making sacrifices and pushing yourself towards success. You love the thrill of the chase. But lately you noticed that you’re just not that into it. The bonuses, shiny things and lures of more status and power leave you flat, and you can’t explain it. You’re a little bored, maybe even burnt out. How do you get your spark back? That niggle in your gut is telling you to pay attention, but you’re afraid to listen to it. In this solo episode, I put my coach hat on and offer three invitations to recalibrate your thinking. Big change can feel terrifying, so let’s start smaller, by thinking through some foundational questions that might jiggle loose a new perspective.

 

 

Links:

Arthur Brooks’ book

David Brooks’ book

A More Exciting Life

Sahil Bloom’s newsletter

Article on growth without goals

Episode 46 of Enough, the Podcast

Mandy on Instagram

Anger feels like the baddie of emotions. Many of us deal with anger by numbing it, or pushing it down, hoping it’ll magically disappear. But it’s still there, trapped in the body. Instead of stuffing it down, let’s talk about anger, and learn a more effective way of processing it.

Today’s guest is Dr Caroline Boyd, Chartered Clinical Psychologist and author who is frequently quoted in the press on women’s rage and maternal anger. We focus more generally on anger in this conversation, whether or not you’re a mom (or even a parent). You’ll learn how our complex relationship to anger starts early. You’ll learn practical ways to manage those ‘flip your lid’ moments, and why you’re encouraged to start turning TOWARDS your anger, instead of pushing it away (counterintuitive and brilliant!) Join us.

 

 

Links:

Dr Caroline Boyd’s website.

Caroline's Workshop

Caroline on Instagram.

Dr Dan Siegel explains flipping your lid.

Guardian article (including Rage Rooms).

Soraya Chemaly’s TED talk.

Are you addicted to the buzz of work — the pace, the adrenaline, the excitement? The insidious thing about work addiction is that it’s often praised by others, giving it a very different “feel” than being addicted, say, to cocaine or pornography.

 

In today’s episode, you’ll learn how we become addicted to work — is it the result of childhood trauma, for instance? How do we know if work has become an addiction? And if it has, what can we do about it?

 

My guest is Dr Anna Lembke, professor of psychiatry at Stanford University. She’s a world-leading expert on addiction, and is also the author of the New York Times bestseller, Dopamine Nation: Finding balance in an age of indulgence. Practical and thought-provoking. Join us!

 

Anna’s book, Dopamine Nation.

“I just need to get through this project, and then I’ll slow down.” Who knows that lie? 

 

You can love your job AND still be exhausted by it. Today I’m talking about the exhaustion during those ultra-intense periods when we push down the red flags from our body. 

 

My guest is former Disney executive, Dr David Yudis. Disney is the happiest place on earth. It’s a place with no limits – as he discovered. 

 

In his early 40s, David was living the dream in that buzzy, chronically exhausted state. “I just need to get through till the holidays…and THEN, I’ll recover.” David’s body had other plans.

 

In this episode you’ll learn about the hot little motor burning underneath David’s relentless drive (I did not see that one coming!)

 

You’ll get three takeaways from David’s experience that you can apply to your own life right away. Join us.

 

 

 

Links:

 

Book: On Self-Hatred (School of Life)

 

David Yudis’ website

 

Mandy Lehto’s website

 

Author and psychotherapist Katherine Morgan Schafler and I dig into self-criticism, judgment, and comparison.

 

I share a real-life scene from a “Wild Woman” retreat, and what a cringey conversation (involving a sarong and hand-held mirror) taught me about how I handle challenging situations. I suspect this will be a useful insight for you too. 

 

How do you speak to yourself when you’re WAY out of your comfort zone? If you’re listening to this podcast, I suspect your inner voice ain’t exactly Mary Poppins. If you’re critical of yourself and others, what can you do? Katherine shares a technique that you can action right away. I’ve been trying it all week. Solid gold!

Links:

 

Katherine Morgan Schafler’s website.

Katherine on Instagram.

Mandy on Instagram.

Mandy on LinkedIn.

Have we got perfectionism all wrong? Is it something that we need to eradicate?

Today’s guest is Katherine Morgan Schafler, psychotherapist, and former on-site therapist at Google. In her new book, The Perfectionist’s Guide to Losing Control, Katherine says we don’t need to “recover” from perfectionism to be happy and successful. We need to learn how to be with it in a way that empowers us. You’ll learn to distinguish between healthy and unhealthy perfectionism (and how to course correct, when it’s the latter). You’ll also learn about the five types of perfectionists, and which one you might be. This is part one of my two-part conversation with Katherine.

 

 

LINKS

Types of Perfectionist Quiz

BBC article

Katherine Morgan Schafler’s website

Katherine on Instagram

Mandy on Instagram

Sarah Norrad episode

Mandy Lehto’s website

Maybe you’re purchasing status markers, like red-bottomed shoes or the latest gadgets to signal your success (and hey, no judgement! I do it too!) Maybe the title and the pay reaffirm your identity. You tell yourself that “one day” you’ll arrive at a certain paygrade or career milestone, and THEN you won’t need the validation anymore. THEN success will feel different. Less empty and fleeting. Uh huh.

 

I’m in conversation with Shelley Paxton, ex-Chief Marketing Officer of Harley Davidson, and Tracy Yates, ex-CEO of an 8-figure marketing agency, serving brands like Google and Amazon. They were success-FULL but felt hollow inside. What does it look like to start redefining success, decades into an established career? And how do you start weaning yourself off of external validation?

 

You’ll learn how both women did the inner work and loosened the grip of external validation. The best part? You can start playing with their ideas right away, without leaving your job. 

Links:

Shelley Paxton’s book, Soulbbatical.

Shelley’s TEDx talk.

Shelley’s website.

Shelley on Instagram.

Tracy Yates’ website.

Tracy Yates on Instagram.

Brené Brown’s VALUES sheet.

Arthur Brooks’ article on satisfaction.

Arthur Brooks’ article on choosing specialness over happiness.

Mandy Lehto’s website.

Mandy on Instagram.

When you’ve spent years in survival mode at work, your body starts perceiving this as normal. A recent article in Forbes mentions a new profile of burnt-out employees, the ‘engaged-exhausted.’ They continue to function at the highest levels, but inside they’re highly stress and have mixed feelings about their careers. Why do some people continue to push themselves to breaking point?

I’m in conversation with Tatiana Poliakova, ex-Managing Director at Nomura, an investment bank. Tatiana was addicted to success and adrenalin, but her body started sending up flares. You’ll also meet Consultant Clinical Neuropsychologist, Dr Antonia Kirkby, who explains why someone who is highly identified with the status and the buzz of the job, can lose touch with red flags from their bodies. Join us. Your nervous system will thank you.

 

Links:

Tatiana Poliakova’s website.

Forbes article on the “engaged-exhausted.”

Dr Antonia Kirkby on Instagram.

Jessica Maguire on Instagram.

Mandy Lehto on Instagram.

What happens to your sense of self when you leave an important job at an iconic brand? It can feel like a loss of identity when the corporate perks and the business card are gone. There can be grief, relief, and a cocktail of other emotions. In today’s episode, you’ll hear from three women who left big jobs at Nike, Rothschild, and IBM. You’ll hear their unfiltered truths about the discombobulation they faced, and what the mess of figuring out next steps felt like. You’ll also learn some techniques to try if you’re on this journey of separating your sense of self from what you do.

 

 

LINKS:

Dr Neil Talkoff’s quote in the HBR. See also for Difficult Conversations book.

Megan Carle’s book.

Find Alina Addison.

Sahil Bloom’s deathbed regrets exercise.

Mandy Lehto’s website.

Mandy Lehto on IG.

Mandy Lehto on LinkedIn.

You’ve spent years pursuing a career, and it’s been tough. Then again, so are you. You’re exhausted, and your mental health is fraying. But you can’t even contemplate upending your life now that the money’s good and you’ve got status and titles. Sound familiar? Today’s guest, Shannon Sedlacek, was a litigation attorney whose career looked enviable from the outside. On the inside, she was barely holding it together. She tells her powerful story of (literally) falling off the career ladder, and the insights that bubbled up during her forced reflection time as she recovered. You’ll learn how she dealt with her over-achiever and feelings of not-enoughness as she navigated into her next, very different career. You’ll also hear her advice for YOU if you’re on the golden gerbil wheel, wondering how long this can go on. Poignant and practical. Oh, and there’s some spicy language, so headphone up and join us.

  

 

Links:

Shannon Sedlacek’s website.

Mandy Lehto on Instagram.

School of Life book that Mandy reads from.

As a high achiever, you’ve probably spent your career optimising for productivity, efficiency, and the bottom line. But there comes a time when that old winning formula no longer cuts it. Maybe you’ve been promoted, or you’re leading a bigger team. Maybe you’ve been told to bring more energy, charisma, and presence to your leadership so that others want to follow you. Research shows that bringing play, fun, and creativity to work can help to retain colleagues, and inspire more innovative ideas. Before you freeze and say, I’m the most un-fun person I know (shriek emoji), stay with me. I promise, there’s no juggling or stand-up comedy required. Today’s guests are going to teach you how (and WHY) to bring more energy and fun to your leadership. Richard Medcalf is an author and coach who heads CEO circles with fun and a lightness of touch. Consultant clinical neuropsychologist, Dr Antonia Kirkby explains our brains on play, and why you want to be optimising for connection in meetings. The episode is full of ideas you can try right away.

Richard Medcalf

Dr Antonia Kirkby on LinkedIn

Video of the Restaurant of Mistaken Orders.

Forbes article, “Elevating Leadership Through the Science of Fun.”

Forbes article, “The Forgotten Art of Having Fun.”

HBR article, “Leading with Humour.”

 

Black. Gay. Christian. Shermain Melton spent much of his life hiding his sexual orientation and not feeling good enough. In this powerful 26-minute episode, you’ll learn how Shermain spent years trying to push down his truth so that he’d fit in. One day he returned home to find his room upside down, bed flipped, drawers turned out, and he knew his truth was out.

Shermain faced his biggest fear (tune in to hear how it went!) Learn how he took the powerful lessons of owning who he was, including his fears and vulnerabilities, and how he leads from this messy, imperfect place. Moving and highly practical. Join us.

 

Links:

Article referring to University of Southern Illinois research.

Shermain Melton’s website.

Mandy Lehto on Instagram.

Why is it so hard to put yourself out there? – especially if you’re prone to feelings of imposter syndrome and perfectionism.

Before I share some tips and tricks from today’s expert, let’s go deeper on what might be influencing your feelings around visibility. What social, cultural, and familial aspects might be at play? This bit was a game-changer for me. You too, I hope!

Then I invite Darrah Brustein, business coach and strategist, to get radically practical. She shares some techniques you can action right away at work.

If you’re new here, welcome. I’m Dr Mandy Lehto, executive coach, and recovering perfectionist and overachiever. This is a show for anyone whose life looks shiny and successful from the outside, but inside, you’re burnt out and wondering how long this can go on.

 

So back to today’s episode…

*Cue up the Olivia Newton John vocals: Let’s get visible. Visible. I wanna get visible.

Sorry. I had to.

The episode is serious, I promise. Press play and join us!

 

 

Darrah Brustein on IG.

 

Anita Feron Clark on IG.

 

Kanchan Prinsloo on LinkedIn.

 

Reshma Saujani’s TED talk.

 

Lisa Olivera’s article.

To celebrate my 50th episode, we’re having a quick but deep-n-real conversation about how some of the changes in middle life might be stirring up feelings of not-enoughness. If your self-identity is based on your appearance, your heroic work ethic, and success after dazzling success at the office, what happens when those pillars start shifting? I share why Jennifer Lopez inspired this episode, and why perfectionists and success addicts can have a particularly challenging time in mid-life. We end on a high note, when I reveal what truly makes a life well-lived. It’s not status, promotions, or money…Join us to find out more.

 

 

Mark Hyman’s podcast with Robert Waldinger.

Jennifer Lopez article in Vogue.

Arthur Brooks’ website.

Sarah Normandin’s episode, (she’s the Imperfection Specialist).

Today’s guest is Darrah Brustein, a coach and business strategist who has interviewed the likes of Seth Godin, Bobbi Brown, Adam Grant, Jen Sincero, and Shaquille O’Neal. She’s also one of my coaches!

 

We do the conversational equivalent of the Christmas Cracker, a festive custom in Britain, dating back to Victorian times. A modern-day cracker usually contains a ridiculous paper hat, a corny joke, and something useful, like a key ring, or dice. 

 

Darrah and I share our wisdom of 2022 – a learning with “bang,” something useful we’ve onboarded or purchased, a discussion (paper hats on, of course) of how to take ourselves less seriously, and our best Christmas jokes for you to inflict on your own holiday gathering. Delight your teens!

 

The cracker theme is a fun wrapper for a deep, yet light, conversation to help you reflect on your year. Take a nourishing break from the merry-making to join us for this final episode of Enough, the podcast, for 2022.

 

 

 

 

Darrah’s website.

Darrah on Instagram.

Arthur Brooks’ website.

Goodbye 2022 Hello 2023 Guided Journal.

Mandy on Instagram.

You dream of reconnecting with the things you once loved. Erm, what were those things again? For years, it’s been all about work, and managing an array of things and other people. You’ve all but disappeared. You’re busy and getting busier. Something’s got to give, and you’re afraid it might be you.

 

That’s what happened to today’s guest, Paden Hughes. She was a CEO navigating the pandemic, with two small kids in tow. She shares how she went from face planting of exhaustion and burnout on her kitchen floor, to creating a life that’s no longer built on the hustle and grind. 

 

Prepare to have your thinking challenged around creating spaciousness, no matter how busy and important you are. No fairy tale godmothers were involved. 

 

Join us!

 

Paden Hughes’ website.

Paden on Instagram.

Mandy Lehto on Instagram.

Mandy Lehto on LinkedIn.

Dr Mark Goulston’s episode.

Charlotte Fowles’ episode.

You’re an overachiever. Maybe you’re often referred to as a badass. Everyone’s in awe of how much you get done, and how in control of life you seem to be – and admittedly, that admiration feels good. In fact, you live for it. What almost nobody knows is that you’re fizzling with anxiety, up at night ruminating on things, quick to anger, and you struggle to relax.

We’re discussing High Functioning Anxiety (HFA). It’s not an officially recognized diagnosis, because the person continues to function – quite well, in fact. That doesn’t mean the struggles with anxious thoughts and feelings aren’t real, or even debilitating.

My guest is adventurer and coach, Charlotte Fowles, who is no stranger to overachieving and busy-ness addiction. Charlotte experienced a decade of trauma, including divorce, depression and cancer, which meant she had to change her overachieving ways. She now helps executives and leaders to manage their own inner challenges, including HFA.

Sidebar: We also debunk the concept of badassery as looking like you’ve got everything together. So fun!

Join us for this thought-provoking and radically practical conversation.

 

Daisy Goodwin’s article on HFA in the Times.

Ellen Hendriksen’s book: How to be yourself.

Brené Brown’s Atlas of the Heart.

Charlotte Fowles’ website.

Charlotte Fowles on IG.

Mark Silverman’s episode.

Mandy Lehto on IG.

This is an experiment! I’m bringing together some key moments from a selection of episodes in the show. These clips were chosen based on listener feedback or moments that made me think, wow, that was something special.

I’ll guide you through some heart-opening stories and wisdom drops that’ll hopefully make this a feel-good episode, and a self-compassion refresher.

You’ll get the gist of episodes you may have missed, and even if you’ve heard every single one, you’ll be reminded of a few key things: How to worry less about messing up and what people think about you; remembering that you are not broken; and understanding that wholeness is not about perfection.

Mostly, I’m hoping you’ll feel freer, more okay with yourself, and less alone as you listen to these shares today.

 

Once you’ve listened, let me know if you like this format, which I’m thinking of adding now and again (hello@mandylehto.com).

You’re setting more boundaries. You’re using your voice more than ever before. Something’s rising inside of you.

But setting boundaries and standing in your power challenges existing dynamics – meaning not everyone’s going to be delighted by your new-found voice.

How do we build that inner robustness as we start speaking more of our truth? — especially with the inevitable criticism, conflict and occasional meanness that’ll happen.

How do we start building our capacity to hold not being liked or agreed with? — especially if this is what you’ve been encouraged to do since childhood.

In this solo episode, I invite you to consider why you might hesitate to speak up in the first place. I also share a practice you can try when you’re in a situation that feels challenging.

 

Practical and immediately implementable. Join us!

 

 

Tara Brach’s book, Radical Acceptance.

Kasia Urbaniak’s book, Unbound: A Woman’s Guide to Power.

Mandy Lehto on Instagram

If you’ve ever been told something unkind, and it still replays in your head years later, this episode is for you. 

 

Maybe you internalized someone’s rude comment about your nose being too big, and ever since that, it’s something you secretly fixate on.

 

Or maybe someone did something to you, and you’ve carried that painful experience because you didn’t know how to stand up for yourself. 

 

So, you’re holding the shame around it, not knowing why – or how to dislodge it. You might be wondering, how did this become MY problem to hold?

 

This conversation explores why those hurtful words and experiences stick, particularly if you’ve grown up not feeling good enough. My favourite part is what we can do to heal and release those hurts.

 

I’m in conversation with Sara Milne Rowe, author, podcaster and performance coach. 

 

We get real about the verbal sticks and stones that’ve been hurled at us — and how we’re finally choosing to release them. 

 

Gritty, honest, and freeing. Join us.

 

 

 

 

Sara’s website: https://www.coachingimpact.co.uk/who-we-are

 

Sara’s podcast: https://www.coachingimpact.co.uk/better-under-pressure

 

Dr Caroline Leaf on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/p/CjVLSbULpnb/

Are you scared of being “ordinary”? — as if that relegates you to the dull, low-achieving, not-living-life-to-the full bucket.

Or maybe you’re afraid of failing, so you only do things you’re already good at. You’d love to take more risks, but only if you don’t look bad.

Or maybe you’re scared of really shining bright, because that would mean you’re a bit full of yourself. So, you dim your light and play it safe.

If any of these conundrums have you nodding, you’re in the right place. I’m doing a Q&A with author and clinical psychologist, Michaela Thomas.

Michaela specialises in perfectionism and helping busy, stressed-out people find balance over burnout. She also runs the Pause Purpose Play podcast.

You’ll learn where the pressure to be extraordinary can come from.

You’ll learn techniques to take the sting out of failure.

And you’ll consider if you’re dimming your light with your accomplishments, even if you are pushing so hard for success.

 

Join us! Practical and pacey. Michaela is a real delight.

 

Michaela Thomas’ website: https://thethomasconnection.co.uk

Michaela on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_thomas_connection/

Cristiano Ronaldo video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8H_DSErYUZk

Catherine Gray’s book: https://www.amazon.com/Unexpected-Joy-Ordinary-Catherine-Gray/dp/1783253371/ref=tmm_hrd_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1664287683&sr=8-4

Gay Hendricks, The Big Leap: https://www.amazon.com/Big-Leap-Conquer-Hidden-Level/dp/0061735361/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1664207990&sr=8-1

Quiz on Mandy’s website: https://mandylehto.com/quiz-waiting-for-the-other-shoe-to-drop/

Me on Michaela’s podcast: https://thethomasconnection.podbean.com/e/overcoming-perfectionism-with-mandy-lehto/

Today's guest is Jen Mann, ex-ballet dancer and co-author of the international best-seller, The Secret Language of the Body. In this conversation we discuss how Jen’s early life contributed to the perfectionism, people-pleasing and self-criticism that would ultimately end in chronic illness that traditional medicine was unable to solve. Frustrated and anxious, Jen started connecting the dots between the mind-body cross-over with the clients she was supporting after her ballet career ended. She pieced together insights on how to heal herself by increasing her vagal tone and somatic experiencing, alongside talk therapy and physio. She shares 3 key tips for longer-term healing, as well as 5 practical things you can do right away to decrease your perception of stress during days of back-to-back meetings.

3:52 My childhood was a perfect set up for anxiety

9:21 Jen becomes a professional ballet dancer

13:31 What came after Jen’s ballet career 

14:50 Jen spots connections between her clients’ work stress and their physical pain

16:00 The symptoms she was seeing in her clients – and how her own chronic illness symptoms started

20:50 Unresolved feelings of not-enoughness and emotional repression cause illness

25:40 Jen’s body said “Enough!”

28:42 Window of Tolerance

35:17 Conventional medicine didn’t work for Jen, and what she discovered instead

39:57 Vagal tone

44:39 Three tips for longer-term change

51:15 Five strategies you can use at work to soothe your nervous system during hectic days

1:03 Jen’s Brick of Wisdom

Links:

Jen Mann and Karden Rabin’s website (with book and program)

Jen Mann on Instagram

Mandy Lehto on Instagram

Episode 55 with Tatiana Poliakova

You’re someone who holds yourself to ridiculously high standards, and there’s a weird sort of pride in that. You’re known for going the extra mile. It’s helped to make you successful.

What happens when the ideals that you hold yourself to become unsustainable? How do you reconcile the very human feelings that you’re experiencing with the image of who you think you have to be?

Today’s guest is author and psychotherapist Anna Mathur. She has featured in the Daily Telegraph, Marie Claire, Stylist, Mother and Baby, and on BBC Radio 4’s Women’s Hour, amongst others. Her most recent book is The Little Book of Calm for Mums.

We do touch on parenthood, but this episode is much wider.

You’ll learn about self-acceptance. It sounds so unsexy, I know. Sorry ‘bout that. AND I think you’re really doing to dig Anna’s take on this. 

You’ll learn about the Fish Oil Burp Effect, a new term we coined — that alone is worth listening for.

And you’ll learn two tools that’ll help if you struggle with the impeccable standards that you set for yourself.

 

Anna’s funny, relatable, and wise. Join us!

 

 

Anna on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/annamathur/

Anna’s website: https://www.annamathur.com

 

The Serenity Prayer:

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,
The courage to change the things I can,
And the wisdom to know the difference.

Do you ever notice that you’re completely clenched up? As in, your neck has gone missing. Your jaw is a vice grip.

What IS it about the neck and jaw area? And I’m curious if this part of the body might be particularly “clenchy” for people with tendencies towards perfectionism and people pleasing.

Is this area a proverbial lint trap for all the things we don’t say, for fear of confrontation or being disliked?

My guest for this exploration is Dominique Antiglio, an acclaimed Sophrologist, best-selling author of “The Life-Changing Power of Sophrology”, and Founder of leading online Sophrology platform, BeSophro. She’s a regular speaker for Amazon, Asics, the World Economic Forum, the UK government, and gives master classes to the Soho House, Lululemon and many others. 

You’ll learn why we tend to hold tension in the jaw and neck area, and some brilliant techniques to unclench.

Oh! There’s also a cameo with a special guest.

Punchy, practical and jaw-changing. Join us!

 

Dominique Antiglio’s website: https://be-sophro.com/about-dominique/

Dominque on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/besophrolondon/

Suzy Reading’s website: https://www.suzyreading.co.uk

Suzy Reading on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/suzyreading/

Julie Peters’ article: https://www.spiritualityhealth.com/the-spiritual-meaning-of-jaw-pain

Bessel van der Kolk’s book: https://www.amazon.com/Body-Keeps-Score-Healing-Trauma/dp/0143127748/ref=sr_1_2?crid=8RQYLPDG2IHJ&keywords=bessel+van+der+kolk%27s+the+body+keeps+the+score&qid=1661101611&sprefix=bessel%2Caps%2C178&sr=8-2

Mandy Lehto on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mandylehto/

Today’s episode is a practical, fast-paced conversation about how to raise daughters who know how to be with their emotions. Maybe you were discouraged as a child from being angry, and were told things like, “Calm down” or “that’s not very lady-like” or “good girls don’t behave like that." My hope is that with more awareness, we can help to raise a generation of girls who self-advocate and speak up.

 

My guest today is Natalie Costa, speaker, coach and author and founder of Power Thoughts, a coaching service designed to give kids power over their own thoughts. She’s featured in the Sunday Times, the Telegraph, Good Morning Britain, and BBC Breakfast, amongst others.

 

You’ll learn a brilliant technique that’ll help your kids to see that they are not their emotions (works on all genders – and try it as a grown up too).

 

You’ll learn to help your girls to build their assertiveness and boundary-setting muscle – and that might get a little uncomfortable. But it’s worth it.

 

Join us!

 

 

Natalie Costa’s website: https://www.powerthoughts.co.uk

 

Natalie on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/powerthoughtsnc/

You work for a challenging boss, and you’re struggling. You’ve tried working harder. You’ve tried working smarter. But you’re still feeling undermined, angry, and your self-belief is taking a nose-dive. As someone who “gets things right”, you just can’t figure this situation out – and secretly, it’s unravelling you.

 

Enter Dr Laura Crawshaw. She’s been researching and coaching abrasive leaders for more than 40 years. She’s the author of Taming the Abrasive Manager: How to End Unnecessary Roughness in the Workplace, and her clients range from the UN to NASA. 

 

We get to grips with the following:

 

If someone’s already hard on themselves, are they more susceptible to the damage an abrasive leader can cause?

 

You’ll learn about what the abrasive leader is usually afraid of (erm…YOU!).

 

You’ll learn how to avoid the "boiling-the-frog effect" that makes the dynamic with an abrasive boss especially insidious.

 

Practical and provocative, you’ll get tools (and relief) from Dr Laura. Press play – let’s go!

 

 

 

 

www.whisperingfortheworkingwounded.org

 

Laura Crawshaw’s website https://www.bosswhispering.com

 

Laura on LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/bosswhispering/

 

Megan Carle’s website https://www.megancarle.com

 

Megan Carle on LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/megan-carle/

 

Let’s get real about your relationship with work. You’re praised for your stellar work ethic and revered for your awe-inspiring wins. But there’s a dark side to achieving that no one talks about. This episode probes that space.

My guest is Dr Mark Goulston, a former professor of psychiatry at UCLA for 25 years, who also trained FBI and police in hostage negotiation. He’s written nine books and has featured as a behavioural expert in The New York Times, Oprah, The Wall Street Journal. Mark is also the inventor of Surgical Empathy, a process that unlocks and frees people from attachment to dysfunctional mindsets.

 

You’ll learn where addiction achievement might come from – something Mark calls ‘psychological adhesions.’

You’ll also learn how to apply Surgical Empathy to yourself with a delightfully unorthodox tool -- which works, I’ve been trying it!

This conversation is intelligent, tender, and radically practical. 

Join us.

 

Sidebar: Not sure if you might have achievement addiction? I’m not sure any online test can definitely answer that (always seek professional help), but the link below can get you thinking.

 

Do you have achievement addiction? https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/cutting-edge-leadership/201511/are-you-achievement-addicted-person

 

Dr Mark Goulston’s website: https://markgoulston.com/about/

 

My Wake Up Call podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/my-wakeup-call-with-dr-mark-goulston/id1439752757

 

Emmy Brunner’s book: https://www.amazon.com/Find-Your-True-Voice/dp/0241474531/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1656532862&sr=8-1

 

It’s hard to be playful when you feel the need to get things right.

And yet, deep down, you’d love to lighten up. But it’s not that simple, is it? What if you try telling a joke, or striking up a social conversation, and it pancakes? The fear of looking stupid is kryptonite to levity.

Fear not! I’ve called in the magical unicorns of playfulness (AND they’re both highly accomplished in serious things as well – go figure!) 

Meet Em Stroud, professional clown, coach, MC, TedX speaker, host of the top-rated podcast, Clowning Around, and author of Lessons from a Clown. She’s also the founder of the Laugh, Think, Play movement.

Guest number two is Jason Goldberg, performance and leadership coach for celebrities, change-makers and CEOs. He’s the best-selling author of Prison Break: Vanquish the Victim, own your obstacles, and lead your life, and the host of the Jason Goldberg is Ruining Podcasting Podcast. Oh, and he’s shared his ha-ha’s and AHA’s on major international stages, including Mindvalley.

Em and Jason share their refreshing perspectives on how you can lighten up a little. Practical, deep, and deliciously light-hearted. Join us.

 

Em Stroud’s website: https://emmastroud.london

Clowning Around podcast: https://emmastroud.london/clowning-around-podcast/

Jason Goldberg’s website: https://thejasongoldberg.com

Jason Goldberg is ruining podcasting: https://thejasongoldberg.com/thepodcast/

Welcome to the SCAM SHOW, a special edition of Enough, the podcast. In this solo episode, I’m talking about the scams that are shrinking down your joy, self-worth, and sense of possibility till your life is so teeny weeny that it fits inside of a match box.

What are scams, you ask? They’re the beliefs that you’ve internalized over the years, that feel like the TRUTH – but they’re anything but.

These beliefs have scammed you, and we’re busting free (or at least getting free-er) in this episode.

You’ll hear three of the scammiest scams on my list, including I AM NOT ALLOWED TO FAIL, and learn what you can do about your own.

Light-hearted with a powerful message. Join us.

 

Brianna Wiest’s book: https://www.amazon.com/When-Youre-Ready-This-Heal/dp/194975944X/ref=sr_1_3?crid=1PDPZHBZE6YBN&keywords=briana+wiest&qid=1653853577&sprefix=Briana%2Caps%2C134&sr=8-3

Have you ever pushed down parts of yourself to fit in? I’m guessing we all have.

What if you’re a person of colour? How does that complexify the story?

Today’s guest is executive coach Kanchan Prinsloo.

You’ll hear how Kanchan learned to fit in, because true belonging didn’t feel accessible to her – neither in society, nor in her own family.

Kanchan learned to “perform” vulnerability, connection and belonging.

She created a “second self” that felt acceptable and believable. Maybe then she’d feel enough.

But pushing down her truth (and the secret she was hiding) felt too much, and Kanchan realized that true belonging meant exploring who she REALLY was, under the façade of the performer and the “fitter-inner.”

Now in her mid-50s, Kanchan is owning her story – much of it for the first time, here on the pod. She’s still in the mess of the process, which is precisely why I invited her to speak to us. She offers practical tips for “women of culture” to help navigate their own explorations.

Poignant and thought-provoking. Join us.

 

 

Kanchan Prinsloo’s website: https://kapriconsulting.ca

Kanchan on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kanchanprinsloo/

Resmaa Menakem’s website: https://www.resmaa.com

This episode is for anyone who manages their image during intimate moments. Maybe you aren’t fully in your body. Or you’re more concerned about being good enough (sexy enough, skilled enough…) than you are about dropping into true (often messy and unpredictable) intimacy.   

The “I must perform and be good at everything I do” includes sex and intimacy for overachievers and perfectionists.

 

Today’s guest is Catherine Topham Sly, a coach and therapist. She says, ‘Good sex is not a performance.’

 

You’ll learn about why so many of us perform intimacy. 

You’ll hear Catherine’s definition of sex (game changer!)

You’ll learn why it’s so challenging to be in our bodies, and what you can do about it.

You’ll get ideas on how to rekindle some ooh-la-la if sex has become an item on your to-do list.

 

Tender, thought-provoking and practical. 

Join us!

 

 

Catherine’s website: https://insightconnection.uk

 

Catherine on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/insightandconnection/

 

Not mentioned, but a great read: Esther Perel and Mary Alice Miller article https://www.estherperel.com/blog/intimacy-and-your-5-senses

Can clothes and accessories help us to get to know ourselves better? Can style be an experimental tool for how we create and embody our sense of self in this season of our lives?

 

Today’s guest, international stylist Anita Feron Clark, didn’t grow up feeling good enough. She was mercilessly bullied at school and criticized at home for being “too dark and too round.” In her late 20s, she said “ENOUGH,” and experimented with style to find her own look – and she’s never looked back.

 

Nowadays Anita has helped more than 5,000 men and women to express their authentic selves in how they dress.

 

Sidebar: How we look on the outside, of course, has precisely zero bearing on our wholeness and good enoughness. From that perspective, it doesn’t really matter if you live out your days in sweats.

 

But the right clothes can help us lessen the gap between knowing we’re enough, and actually feeling it. Need a little more strut in your life? More sass? More “Oh yeah, that works…”?

 

Press play…We’ve got you.

 

 

 

 

Anita Feron Clark’s website: https://feronclarkstyle.com

Anita on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/feronclarkstyle/

Christina Glickman on IG: https://www.instagram.com/christinaglickman/

Iris Apfel on IG: https://www.instagram.com/iris.apfel/

What are sub-routines? Author, coach, and “CEO Whisperer” Jerry Colonna adopts a term from computer programming, referring to the software that runs under an application, likening this to our belief systems laid down early in life. Jerry uses radical self-inquiry on me (unexpectedly) to probe my belief of “I must be constantly productive to be worthy” – a common sub-routine in high-achievers. Jerry invites us to consider the beliefs we’ve inherited from our ancestors in attempts to belong (as well as the subroutines those ancestors might’ve been running). How might these sub-routines be running under your leadership? We end with Jerry’s suggested practice and the core question to use in your own self-inquiry. The vibe of this episode? Deep, reflective, thought-provoking. 

*Explicit. Mentions suicide. 

4:03 Mandy’s Sedona ancestry experience

9:54 What does ‘belonging’ mean? – “To whom do I belong as a white, cis-gender man?”

11:50 Radical self-inquiry

14:55 Who am I? How did I come to be? Why do I do things that I do?

15:24 Sub-routines

17:20 Jerry’s career in VC (and working himself to death)

20:25 Examples of sub-routines

24:30 How Jerry worked through his sub-routines

30:00 Jerry does radical self-inquiry on Mandy

35:07 Behaviours persist when they provide a benefit

47:09 Relevance of sub-routines to working life

47:45 Jerry’s suggestion of what you can try – his core question to sit with

52:55 Jerry’s Brick of Wisdom

Links:

Jerry Colonna’s Reboot website.

Jerry Colonna on Instagram.

Mandy Lehto on Instagram.

Jerry Colonna on LinkedIn.

Gay Hendricks’s book The Big Leap.

 

You push yourself too hard, too regularly, for too long. You’re use harsh inner self-talk to motivate yourself because, hey, it works and feels familiar.   You’re incredibly successful, but you’re tired. Like bone tired. You secretly wonder how long this can go on…But you don’t think about it much, because day after day, you’re sucked into the vortex of your diary.

 

Today’s highly practical episode is about how you can learn to better regulate your stressed-out mind and body. 

 

You’ll learn about why stress gets stuck in the body, leaving you in that fried, spacey state. 

 

You’ll learn how to motivate yourself with self-compassion, instead of harshness. 

 

You’ll learn practical ways to get stress out of your system, including a kissing technique you’ve gotta try.

 

My guest is Sarah Norrad, a coach and mindfulness guide who’s certified in MBSR — that’s mindfulness-based stress reduction. Her other accolades include reiki master, yoga teacher, and trauma-informed educator. You’re in good hands.

 

Let’s dive in...

 

 

 

Sarah Norrad’s website: https://www.sarahnorrad.com

 

Sarah Norrad on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarah.norrad/

 

Emily and Amelia Nagoski’s book: https://www.penguinrandomhouse.ca/books/592377/burnout-by-emily-nagoski-phd-and-amelia-nagoski-dma/9781984817068

 

Thais Sky’s comprehensive podcast episode on the nervous system (this is on her own podcast): https://www.thaissky.com/podcast/174

 

Andrew Huberman on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/hubermanlab/

 

Mandy Lehto on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mandylehto/

 

Subscribe to my microblog: https://mandylehto.com/subscribe/

How does a confident, highly experienced senior executive end up in a hotel room, laying in the bathtub all night, fully clothed, having dragged the desk behind the door because she’s sure someone’s coming to hurt or kill her?

This episode is about what it’s like working for a boss who’s a bully — and the effects that can have on our self-esteem, feelings of enoughness, and on our mental and physical health.

Today’s guest, Megan Carle, who had a 30-year career at Nike — her last role being the Head of Basketball for North America. 

Megan’s story is so important and so eye-opening because her instinctive response was to try and fix the situation by people pleasing and working harder (Spoiler alert: It didn’t work).

Find out what happened when the bullying took Megan to the brink of her mental and physical health.

Gripping, thought-provoking, and practical. Join us.

 

Megan Carle’s website: https://www.megancarle.com

Megan Carle on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/meganmcarle/?hl=en

Mandy’s website: https://mandylehto.com

Trigger Warning: This episode makes reference to severe childhood trauma

 

Perfectionism is a typical addiction pattern, says today’s guest, Dr Shoshana Garfield.

The pattern goes like this: If I can just do or get (fill in the blank with your chosen item or accomplishment), THEN I’ll be happy. Or at least less unhappy.

The tragedy is that the fix, once achieved, never truly satisfies. It’s a moving target. Sound familiar?

In this episode, you’ll learn how to start extricating yourself from the addiction pattern that’s obscuring your wholeness and magnificence underneath.

• Learn how Shoshana recovered from the four addictions that developed on the back of her childhood trauma.
• Understand the difference between buying items from a place of perfectionism vs from a healthy place of enjoyment.
• Learn a powerful practice to bring you back to wholeness in this moment.

Moving and highly practical.

 

Join us!

 

Dr Shoshana Garfield’s website: https://shoshanagarfield.com

Mandy’s microblog, The Juice: https://mandylehto.com/subscribe/

Mandy on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mandylehto/

Do you have the next-ies? Erm, the what?

Say you’ve just aced a work project, and instead of pausing and reflecting how well you did, you’re already onto the next thing.

Or you’ve just published a book. And you’re already outlining the next book, feeling flat that this one wasn’t an overnight New York Times best-seller. THIS one will be, for sure.

The inability to feel that anything you’ve achieved is enough, or is worth celebrating, is its own special kind of hell.

In this short, radically practical solo episode, you’ll learn why you might be a next-er (spoiler alert: It’s a neurotransmitter), and 3 things you can try to alleviate that chronic feeling of never quite arriving.

I’m experimenting right alongside you. Hit play. Let’s go.

 

Dan Lieberman’s book: https://www.amazon.com/Molecule-More-Chemical-Creativity_and-Determine/dp/1948836580/ref=sr_1_1?crid=29AQI29NM4XS4&keywords=the+molecule+of+more&qid=1645445288&sprefix=the+molecule+of+m%2Caps%2C158&sr=8-1

 

BJ Fogg on Ted:

https://ideas.ted.com/how-you-can-use-the-power-of-celebration-to-make-new-habits-stick/

 

Suzy Reading’s new book: https://www.amazon.com/Breathe-Journal-Self-care-Suzy-Reading/dp/1783254831/ref=sr_1_4?crid=U5MGVEVZ0KGK&keywords=suzy+reading&qid=1645448637&sprefix=suzy+reading%2Caps%2C149&sr=8-4