Christa takes you on a journey through the subtle influences of Enneagram wings in marriage relationships. In this illuminating episode, she explores how our wing tendencies can sometimes take over our interactions with our spouse without us even realizing it. From the silent withdrawal of a 1w9 to the stubborn resistance of a 9w8, Christa breaks down real examples of how each type's wings manifest in marriage - both helping and hindering connection. Discover practical strategies for finding balance and appreciating your partner's full Enneagram makeup while learning to temper your own wing influences when they become domineering. You're also invited to join our Enneagram + Marriage membership community where we dive deeper into these dynamics every month! Plus, don't miss the upcoming EnneaSummit this summer - tickets are available now. Listen for all the summer fun and relationship wisdom packed into this episode! To sign up for the membership group for time live on Zoom with Christa, visit here! To sign up for the Enneasummit on Subtypes, sign up here! Get the all-access pass to the summit here! Join E + M Coach Alicia Larkey's retreat here! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this powerful episode, former megachurch pastors Jimmy and Irene Rollins share their raw journey from a marriage that was "surviving, not thriving" to genuine transformation after addiction threatened everything they'd built. For fifteen years, the couple maintained a thriving public ministry while privately struggling—Irene battling alcohol addiction and Jimmy confronting generational patterns of dysfunction—until their 2015 breaking point forced them to seek authentic healing. Through an Enneagram lens, we explore how different personality types experience addiction, support recovery, and establish healthy boundaries. The founders of TWO=ONE Marriage Ministry offer rare insight into creating safety for vulnerability, maintaining hope during crisis, and rebuilding trust after betrayal. Their story illuminates how true connection emerges only when we risk complete honesty, making this essential listening for anyone navigating addiction in relationships or seeking to transform any marriage from functional to flourishing. Watch on YouTube! Follow the Rollins here on their website! https://www.twoequalsone.com/ Follow Irene, type 9 on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/irenerollins/?hl=en Follow Jimmy, type 7 on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/iamjimmyrollins/?hl=en For the Enneagram & Marriage membership, click here! https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/membership For more on EnneagramandMarriage.com, visit here! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this engaging episode, Brad and Sarah Johnson, Triad Partners, reveal how life as an entrepreneurial couple (Brad is the co-founder of Triad Partners) creates both unique challenges and extraordinary strengths in their marriage, family, and business. Brad and Sarah (types 7 and 6 pairing) share candidly about their journey and deep dive with us to the dark night of the soul moment of their marriage to climbing metaphorical mountains together, recognizing their different approaches to risk, planning, and connection to leveraging these differences to lead a thriving organization serving top 1% financial advisors and most importantly, making sure they don't lose their connection in the process of building their dreams. Discover their weekly relationship check-in ritual that's transformed their communication, how they navigate Sarah's security-seeking Type 6 energy with Brad's spontaneous Type 7 spirit, and practical insights for any couple balancing work and life together. The triad motto "Do Business, Do Life" comes alive through stories of how they've built a 100+ employee company while nurturing their relationship. If you're interested in how different Enneagram types can create powerful partnerships at home even amid work challenges, this conversation offers wisdom for turning potential friction points into your relationship and business's greatest assets. Watch on YouTube: https://youtu.be/wT8PKMkIzHQ BRAD & SARAH’S SUNDAY CHECK-IN QUESTIONS Where did I show up for you this week or what do you appreciate about me as a partner? What feelings of hurt, frustration, or misunderstanding are left over from this week for you? What do you need me to hear or understand about them? How can I support you well as we go into a new week? What might you need from me? Can you tell me something you’re proud of yourself for this week or share with me something you did well? Date night plans for this week? More Links: Follow Brad on Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/bradjohnson.dbdl/ Visit Triad's website: https://triadpartners.com/the-movement/ Follow Triad on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/triadpartners/ Visit Brad's website and the DBDL podcast here: https://bradleyjohnson.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

When infidelity wounds a couple, in the wise words of our guest today, Dr. Harrison Scott Key, Ph.D, best-selling author and the winner of the Thurber Prize for American Humor, there's a marriage murder mystery to be solved: Who killed this marriage, is it really dead, and can it come back to life? Join us for a riveting and deep-diving episode with Key, surrounding the events of his unexpectedly vulnerable marriage epic about when his wife confessed to infidelity that comes out this week in paperback“How to Stay Married: The Most Insane Love Story Ever Told”, a book the Washington Post calls shocking, “shot through with sharp humor”, and a spiritually profound story of his journey through hell and back when infidelity threatens his marriage. Join us for this serious chat which also manages to bring Key's lighthearted wit and eloquence in as we discuss the long and winding road to healing, red flags, seeing one's own part in the story, and also affair prevention right here in this must-listen episode. SHOW NOTES: Find Harrison’s book, newly in paperwork starting 6/4/24 on Amazon here!! https://www.amazon.com/How-Stay-Married-Insane-Story-ebook/dp/B0BHTP1S6Y?ref_=ast_author_dp Find his website and other books here, including his award-winning "The World's Largest Man" at www.harrisonscottkey.com Dive deeper into your pairing and Enneagram & Marriage love! 🥳💕 Leave your review of "The Enneagram in Marriage" book right here: https://www.amazon.com/Enneagram-Marriage-Thriving-Together-Pairing/dp/1540903370 Spread the word about the podcast here! 📣🥳 Leave your review of this podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/enneagram-and-marriage/id1493137938 Join Christa virtually on your own time in the Enneagram in Marriage 5 week course here! https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/the-enneagram-in-marriage-5-week-course-for-sale We would love to hear from you! Leave your questions or messages for Christa or sign up for coaching RIGHT HERE: https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/contact-us Sign Up For Christa's WEEKLY NEWSLETTER here: https://enneagramandmarriage.myflodesk.com/olivbuf96o Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/enneagramandmarriage/?hl=en Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/772026686525647  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@enneagramandmarriage?lang=en Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

It feels so good to be known and seen for who we are, as well as to have clarified spaces from which to grow. To this end, today’s special shorter episode is a walk-through of the Enneagram type Eight and who they are, as well as who they can become as they walk toward health. If you're an Eight, learn how to become the healthiest version of yourself in relationship and take a special mini-peek at how Eights relate with each and every type in marriage or relationship of any kind. Enjoy this episode as you learn more about yourself, your partner, or your family members right here! Dive deeper into your pairing and Enneagram & Marriage love! 🥳💕 Leave your review of "The Enneagram in Marriage" book right here: https://www.amazon.com/Enneagram-Marriage-Thriving-Together-Pairing/dp/1540903370 Spread the word about the podcast here! 📣🥳 Leave your review of this podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/enneagram-and-marriage/id1493137938 Join Christa virtually on your own time in the Enneagram in Marriage 5 week course here! https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/the-enneagram-in-marriage-5-week-course-for-sale We would love to hear from you! Leave your questions or messages for Christa or sign up for coaching RIGHT HERE: https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/contact-us Sign Up For Christa's WEEKLY NEWSLETTER here: https://enneagramandmarriage.myflodesk.com/olivbuf96o Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/enneagramandmarriage/?hl=en Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/772026686525647  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@enneagramandmarriage?lang=en Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

What a necessity it is to have great tools to process our conflict and trauma together in marriage, parenting, and relationships, and yet often in the moments of great felt threat or pain, our very bodies rise up in protective styles, even possibly blocking us from doing this work. Today we get to talk about bodywork or somatics and to learn some helpful trauma tools both in general and type by type with coach Melissa Kircher, Enneagram 5. Melissa is not only an author and artist, but she also shares from a very personal space about her 5-3 marriage, her journey of seeking fertility, adoption, and so much more to sit in the very real work with us. We are so grateful to share in conversations of healing depth with Melissa and you today too as we celebrate this vital episode during Mental Health Awareness Month! Stay tuned this Wednesday for our Type 8 episode! Watch on YouTube here! Find Melissa here: Melissa's website is here: Her Instagram at EnneaPaths: https://www.instagram.com/enneagrampaths/?hl=en Spread the Enneagram & Marriage love! 🥳💕 Leave your review of "The Enneagram in Marriage" book right here: https://www.amazon.com/Enneagram-Marriage-Thriving-Together-Pairing/dp/1540903370 Spread the word about the podcast here! 📣🥳 Leave your review of this podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/enneagram-and-marriage/id1493137938 Join Christa virtually on your own time in the Enneagram in Marriage 5 week course here! https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/the-enneagram-in-marriage-5-week-course-for-sale We would love to hear from you! Leave your questions or messages for Christa or sign up for coaching RIGHT HERE: https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/contact-us Sign Up For Christa's WEEKLY NEWSLETTER here: https://enneagramandmarriage.myflodesk.com/olivbuf96o Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/enneagramandmarriage/?hl=en Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/772026686525647  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@enneagramandmarriage?lang=en Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

It feels so good to be known and seen for who we are, as well as to have clarified spaces from which to grow. To this end, today’s special shorter episode is a walk-through of the Enneagram type Nine and who they are, as well as who they can become as they walk toward health. If you're a Nine, learn how to become the healthiest version of yourself in relationship and take a special mini-peek at how Nines relate with each and every type in marriage or relationship of any kind. Enjoy this episode as you learn more about yourself, your partner, or your family members right here! 💕 Learn more about the Nine an all the types in Christa's new book, "The Enneagram in Marriage" book right here: https://www.amazon.com/Enneagram-Marriage-Thriving-Together-Pairing/dp/1540903370 Spread the word about the podcast here! 📣🥳 Leave your review of this podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/enneagram-and-marriage/id1493137938 Join Christa virtually on your own time in the Enneagram in Marriage 5 week course here! https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/the-enneagram-in-marriage-5-week-course-for-sale We would love to hear from you! Leave your questions or messages for Christa or sign up for coaching RIGHT HERE: https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/contact-us Sign Up For Christa's WEEKLY NEWSLETTER here: https://enneagramandmarriage.myflodesk.com/olivbuf96o Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/enneagramandmarriage/?hl=en Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/772026686525647  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@enneagramandmarriage?lang=en Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

May is mental health month, a time dedicated to bringing awareness to those struggling or wondering what may be going on with them on days when you feel less healthy. On today’s podcast, we are statistically shedding some light on which mental health struggles each type has significantly reported, including depression, anxiety, ADD, neurodivergence, and more. We’re also helping couples to understand more about how they can support one another with these mental health concerns if they’re relatable in any way as well as some prevention tips. Don’t miss this important episode with the fabulous Scientific Enneagram researcher Danielle Fuller, MS, as she helps to ground our community with her findings, tips for finding not just the "me" but the "we" of relationship, and a very special offer just for our audience from the Paired App. Watch on YouTube here! Here is the Scientific Enneagram Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/scientificenneagram/ Here is the Paired App 25% discount for the Pro version just for E + M fans! https://www.paired.com/partners/eandm?utm_source=influencers&utm_medium=paid_influencer&utm_campaign=eandm&utm_term=podcast Learn more about your Enneagram & Marriage glow together! 🥳💕 Get the book or share your review of "The Enneagram in Marriage" book right here! https://www.amazon.com/Enneagram-Marriage-Thriving-Together-Pairing/dp/1540903370 Spread the word about the podcast here! 📣🥳 Leave your review of this podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/enneagram-and-marriage/id1493137938 Join Christa virtually on your own time in the Enneagram in Marriage 5 week course here! https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/the-enneagram-in-marriage-5-week-course-for-sale We would love to hear from you! Leave your questions or messages for Christa or sign up for coaching RIGHT HERE: https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/contact-us Sign Up For Christa's WEEKLY NEWSLETTER here: https://enneagramandmarriage.myflodesk.com/olivbuf96o Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/enneagramandmarriage/?hl=en Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/772026686525647  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@enneagramandmarriage?lang=e Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

So many times we relate with characters in a song or media outlet and we don’t get to process them further. Today you have a chance to do this with Christa and guest Dana Lawson, Enneagram 9 (9-4 pairing) as they walk through This is Us with you! Join Christa and Dana with a cup of coffee or tea for a meaningful chat as we discuss the Pearson family, including but not limited to the Big Three! Listen right here and cast your vote on which types characters are by writing to us on Instagram in the DMs! Learn About Relationships & the Enneagram! 🥳💕 Get Christa's "The Enneagram in Marriage" book right here: https://www.amazon.com/Enneagram-Marriage-Thriving-Together-Pairing/dp/1540903370 Spread the word about the podcast here! 📣🥳 Leave your review of this podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/enneagram-and-marriage/id1493137938 Join Christa virtually on your own time in the Enneagram in Marriage 5 week course here! https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/the-enneagram-in-marriage-5-week-course-for-sale We would love to hear from you! Leave your questions or messages for Christa or sign up for coaching RIGHT HERE: https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/contact-us Sign Up For Christa's WEEKLY NEWSLETTER here: https://enneagramandmarriage.myflodesk.com/olivbuf96o Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/enneagramandmarriage/?hl=en Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/772026686525647  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@enneagramandmarriage?lang=en Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

It can be so hard deciphering what your God-given dream is and then trying to get the steps just right, especially when you’re in the throes of motherhood or another busy season of life. Today we are joined by author and Enneagram 3w2 (3-6 pairing), Becky Kiser to talk about how she has learned to stop striving to slow down and listen with discernment about which steps to take in her busy life. Becky shares not only biblical wisdom but examples of how she has come to a place of both rest and production by listening and pausing to allow God to open and close doors with healthy packing. Join us for this life-changing conversation as you find your way to your own creative dreams coming true!  Get Becky’s book here: But God Can: How to Stop Striving and Live Purposefully and Abundantly https://a.co/d/iIUv5kR Find Becky’s website here: https://www.beckykiser.com/ Get to know Becky on Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/beckykiser/?hl=en Learn About Relationships & the Enneagram! 🥳💕 Get Christa's "The Enneagram in Marriage" book right here: https://www.amazon.com/Enneagram-Marriage-Thriving-Together-Pairing/dp/1540903370 Spread the word about the podcast here! 📣🥳 Leave your review of this podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/enneagram-and-marriage/id1493137938 Join Christa virtually on your own time in the Enneagram in Marriage 5 week course here! https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/the-enneagram-in-marriage-5-week-course-for-sale We would love to hear from you! Leave your questions or messages for Christa or sign up for coaching RIGHT HERE: https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/contact-us Sign Up For Christa's WEEKLY NEWSLETTER here: https://enneagramandmarriage.myflodesk.com/olivbuf96o Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/enneagramandmarriage/?hl=en Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/772026686525647  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@enneagramandmarriage?lang=en Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

We often find ourselves struggling when we have a spouse with a different way of solving conflict than we have. Today we talk about having conflict with our passionate 4s (artists) 6s (loyalists) and 8s (protectors) and what we can each to do find not only common ground but also passionate, enduring love! Don't forget! Mother's Day is coming! Get your beautiful free Mother's Day card download from Alisa here! https://alisataylordesign.etsy.com?coupon=FREEDOWNLOAD Find Alisa's beautiful art here otherwise: https://www.etsy.com/shop/AlisaTaylorDesign Gift the Moms in Your Life some Enneagram & Marriage love! 🥳💕 or spread the nurturing love to others with hurting marriages by leaving your review of "The Enneagram in Marriage" book right here: https://www.amazon.com/Enneagram-Marriage-Thriving-Together-Pairing/dp/1540903370 Spread the word about the podcast here! 📣🥳 Leave your review of this podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/enneagram-and-marriage/id1493137938 Join Christa virtually on your own time in the Enneagram in Marriage 5 week course here! https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/the-enneagram-in-marriage-5-week-course-for-sale We would love to hear from you! Leave your questions or messages for Christa or sign up for coaching RIGHT HERE: https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/contact-us Sign Up For Christa's WEEKLY NEWSLETTER here: https://enneagramandmarriage.myflodesk.com/olivbuf96o Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/enneagramandmarriage/?hl=en Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/772026686525647 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@enneagramandmarriage?lang=en Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Happy Mother's Day to you and yours! In this Mother's Day week coffee chat with Christa and her dear friend of over twenty years, artist Alisa Taylor type 9, we both celebrate the gift of mom friends as well as discuss ways we can serve our children the very best nourishment across all levels of their emotional, spiritual, mental, and physical palates. Today we talk about what moms of each personality type have on their metaphorical table or plate and what they can share with joy as well as what they can keep working on to make sure we don't pass down the unhealthy traits and overlays of our types! BONUS: Get your beautiful free Mother's Day art download from Alisa here! https://alisataylordesign.etsy.com/?coupon=FREEDOWNLOAD Find even more of Alisa's beautiful art here: https://alisataylordesign.etsy.com? Gift the Moms in Your Life some Enneagram & Marriage love! 🥳💕 or spread the nurturing love to others with hurting marriages by leave your review of "The Enneagram in Marriage" book right here: https://www.amazon.com/Enneagram-Marriage-Thriving-Together-Pairing/dp/1540903370 Spread the word about the podcast here! 📣🥳 Leave your review of this podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/enneagram-and-marriage/id1493137938 Join Christa virtually on your own time in the Enneagram in Marriage 5 week course here! https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/the-enneagram-in-marriage-5-week-course-for-sale We would love to hear from you! Leave your questions or messages for Christa or sign up for coaching RIGHT HERE: https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/contact-us Sign Up For Christa's WEEKLY NEWSLETTER here: https://enneagramandmarriage.myflodesk.com/olivbuf96o Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/enneagramandmarriage/?hl=en Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/772026686525647  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@enneagramandmarriage?lang=en Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Across the personality spectrum, we each offer different giftings, and Type Threes offer us the reminder of holy Hope - the reminder that the race is not over even when it's hard or even if it feels like a marathon. Today we are given hope today afresh as we are joined by author, pastor, and founder of Sandals Church, Matthew Stephen Brown, Enneagram 3 with the refreshing reminders of faith in the midst of constantly scanning for negativity, especially in hard times. If you could use some encouragement and a reminder to stay strong to hold onto your marriage and to faith amidst all the hard work you’re doing, join us for the special of sharing stories and relationship-building tips from Matthew's newest book from Thomas Nelson here. Find Matthew’s book here (including the QR code): https://www.amazon.com/Every-Day-Miracle-Trusting-Inside/dp/0785240829 Spread the Enneagram & Marriage love! 🥳💕 Leave your review of "The Enneagram in Marriage" book right here: https://www.amazon.com/Enneagram-Marriage-Thriving-Together-Pairing/dp/1540903370 Spread the word about the podcast here! 📣🥳 Leave your review of this podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/enneagram-and-marriage/id1493137938 Join Christa virtually on your own time in the Enneagram in Marriage 5 week course here! https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/the-enneagram-in-marriage-5-week-course-for-sale We would love to hear from you! Leave your questions or messages for Christa or sign up for coaching RIGHT HERE: https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/contact-us Sign Up For Christa's WEEKLY NEWSLETTER here: https://enneagramandmarriage.myflodesk.com/olivbuf96o Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/enneagramandmarriage/?hl=en Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/772026686525647  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@enneagramandmarriage?lang=en Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this heartfelt episode, discover the transformative power of "holding vigil" for your spouse through prayer and presence in a way that reallly costs, but also really gives, both to you and your spouse. Learn both general tips and how each Enneagram type uniquely supports their partner during difficult times and what challenges they face in staying present. Drawing from literary examples like Frodo and Sam, Atticus Finch and personal experiences, Christa explores how true empathy creates sacred space in marriage, and your faith journey, reflecting on Matthew 11:28. Perfect for couples seeking deeper connection through life's challenges. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Many couples are frustrated by differing conflict styles and miss getting to resolution because of it. In this mini-episode, Christa assesses how to deal with conflict with someone who is positively-wired in the 2 (the Giver), 7 (the Enthusiast), or 9 (the Peacemaker) personality spaces. In this mini-episode Christa gives both general and type-specific tips for you to relate better with these types in your life and relationship! Come check it out! Spread the Enneagram & Marriage love! 🥳💕 Leave your review of "The Enneagram in Marriage" book right here: https://www.amazon.com/Enneagram-Marriage-Thriving-Together-Pairing/dp/1540903370 Spread the word about the podcast here! 📣🥳 Leave your review of this podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/enneagram-and-marriage/id1493137938 Join Christa virtually on your own time in the Enneagram in Marriage 5 week course here! https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/the-enneagram-in-marriage-5-week-course-for-sale We would love to hear from you! Leave your questions or messages for Christa or sign up for coaching RIGHT HERE: https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/contact-us Sign Up For Christa's WEEKLY NEWSLETTER here: https://enneagramandmarriage.myflodesk.com/olivbuf96o Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/enneagramandmarriage/?hl=en Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/772026686525647  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@enneagramandmarriage?lang=en Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

How much emotional pain do couples have to endure before making the healthy changes that often feel so scary to initiate? This is a question many need to ask themselves since it's so vulnerable to break deep patterns of trauma together. Today Christa helps you to work through toxic relationship patterns with London-based psychotherapist and influencer Charisse Cooke as we talk about healing toxic bonding and trauma bonding. You CAN learn to find health and healing again or for the very first time and you're going to learn how right here! Find Charisse: Find Charisse's Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/charissecooke/ Find Charisse's website right here: https://charissecooke.com/ Spread the Enneagram & Marriage love! 🥳💕 Leave your review of "The Enneagram in Marriage" book right here: https://www.amazon.com/Enneagram-Marriage-Thriving-Together-Pairing/dp/1540903370 Spread the word about the podcast here! 📣🥳 Leave your review of this podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/enneagram-and-marriage/id1493137938 Join Christa virtually on your own time in the Enneagram in Marriage 5 week course here! https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/the-enneagram-in-marriage-5-week-course-for-sale We would love to hear from you! Leave your questions or messages for Christa or sign up for coaching RIGHT HERE: https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/contact-us Sign Up For Christa's WEEKLY NEWSLETTER here: https://enneagramandmarriage.myflodesk.com/olivbuf96o Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/enneagramandmarriage/?hl=en Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/772026686525647  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@enneagramandmarriage?lang=en Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

On this special surprise mini-episode for Swiftie fans and for inquiring minds otherwise, Christa takes you on a journey of finding ways through pain to post-traumatic growth, analyzing through the lens of The Tortured Poet's Department Album (TTPD) from Taylor Swift. Join us for therapeutic lessons, fun, and a few meaningful takeaways for healthy ways to process grief, love, loss, and angst. In this episode we analyze Taylor's vulnerable path forward to healing, adding tips for post-relationship hurt growth healing for you and yours as well! Bring your journal to this pod! SHOW NOTES: Can you spread the word on the book tour? 🥳🙏 Leave your review of "The Enneagram in Marriage" book right here: https://www.amazon.com/Enneagram-Marriage-Thriving-Together-Pairing/dp/1540903370 Join Christa virtually on your own time in the Enneagram in Marriage 5 week course here! https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/the-enneagram-in-marriage-5-week-course-for-sale We would love to hear from you! Leave your questions or messages for Christa or sign up for coaching RIGHT HERE: https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/contact-us Sign Up For Christa's WEEKLY NEWSLETTER here: https://enneagramandmarriage.myflodesk.com/olivbuf96o Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/enneagramandmarriage/?hl=en   Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/772026686525647  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@enneagramandmarriage?lang=en Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

How do you go from busy and overloaded to present in marriage and family, especially when we know that "turning towards" behaviors are what make relationships succeed or fail long-term, especially when we differ SO much after a long span of time together in marriage? As we strive to connect in a truly frenetic world when we have so much to do along with all of these differences, today Christa is sharing a meaningful and uplifting conversation with you and top podcast expert on the massively successful The Minimalist Mom Podcast and Instagram influencer, Diane Boden, Enneagram 7 (7-5) pairing on the pod! We analyze the 5-7 pairing deeply and then Diane to help us with the gift of her pairing as she gives realistic and life-giving tips for minimalism and experiences so you can truly simplify in an overly complex world! Specific convos here are: Diane's 5-7 pairing and what she's learning in her second decade of marriage about becoming less scattered with friendships Setting systems into place to help everyone in the family, not just one person Starting in spaces with less sentimental items Talking with your spouse for 5 min each week to get settled into the rhythms Finding what you're both on board with in terms of minimalism and getting focused and organized Find more free mental and physical space with your systems How to work with the busy chaos and say no more How to find the jomo (joy of missing out!) Find Diane's Minimalist Mom Podcast here on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/minimalistmomspodcast/?hl=en and on her website here https://minimalistmomspodcast.com/about Can you spread the word on the book tour? 🥳🙏 Leave your review of "The Enneagram in Marriage" book right here: https://www.amazon.com/Enneagram-Marriage-Thriving-Together-Pairing/dp/1540903370 Join Christa virtually on your own time in the Enneagram in Marriage 5 week course here! https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/the-enneagram-in-marriage-5-week-course-for-sale We would love to hear from you! Leave your questions or messages for Christa or sign up for coaching RIGHT HERE: https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/contact-us Sign Up For Christa's WEEKLY NEWSLETTER here: https://enneagramandmarriage.myflodesk.com/olivbuf96o Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/enneagramandmarriage/?hl=en   Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/772026686525647  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@enneagramandmarriage?lang=en Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

So many couples hold secrets from one another, but it's not healthy for either of you and you're not likely to tell one another the truth if you don't feel safe. Today we're joined by Laurie Gerber, Type 6 (6-2 pairing) who tells us how she worked from struggle to truth and freedom in her own marriage and gives you tangible tips to thrive from a place of truth. Questions we cover are: "How do you start becoming more truthful?" "How do you tell harder truths?" "How can you welcome truth from your spouse so they're more likely to be open?" Visit Laurie's website for her support here: https://lauriegerber.com/ Laurie is offering you a FREE GIFT with lots more expert dating advice: "3 Secrets to Finding and Maintaining Healthy Love without Repeated Disappointments" In this webinar, you will learn: ✓How to be Ready to Date Like You Mean It in 30 Days or Less ✓The #1 Ingredient to Finding A Suitable Companion without Repeated Disappointment ✓Essential Elements to Effective Communication even about the Most Awkward Topics ✓PLUS: The Key to Finding Your Soulmate in Way Less Dates! REGISTER HERE: www.lauriegerber.com/webinar Visit www.EnneagramandMarriage.com for all of your relationship needs! Leaving a show review is HUGE! Leave one here! https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/enneagram-and-marriage/id1493137938 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Whether at home or the office, your work life is an enormous part of the day and deserves rich contemplation and optimization. Today Christa invites you to a conversation to greatly benefit you by bringing joy into your work rhythms by discovering your own Enneagram intelligence, emotional, and instinctual work strengths and areas for growth. With the new assessment that today's guest, Marty Munger, CEO of WorkCoach.co and her team developed just for you, you'll be able to thrive with clarity and direction. Make sure to tune in as we talk with Marty not only about relationships (of course, and she's in a systematizing 5-7 pairing!) but also how your work typology can be both a strength and a liability you must pay attention to if you want to thrive! Christa shares her work temperament as well! ALSO: Marty and her team have an INCREDIBLE offer for our wonderful E + M Community (you!) right here! >> https://workcoach.co/marriage 📣 Take Marty's assessment and get a FREE intro coaching session! 📣 Here's her Instagram for a follow there as well! 📣 Don't forget to get Christa's book here too for all of your relationship needs! 📣 https://www.amazon.com/Enneagram-Marriage-Thriving-Together-Pairing/dp/1540903370 or visit the website at www.enneagramandmarriage.com Did you like today's episode and offer? It would be awesome for you to leave a review here! ❤️https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/enneagram-and-marriage/id1493137938 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Each of us needs to understand the other in conflict and yet our personalities get in the way. This listener-requested episode helps you to walk through conflict with those people with temperaments who do not show as much emotion and/or prefer to solve problems logically or linearly. You'll learn ways you can develop a healthier internal narrative as well as prevent and repair conflict, building understanding together, too! Make sure you get a copy of "The Enneagram in Marriage" also here to get Enneagram and conflict tips. https://www.amazon.com/Enneagram-Marriage-Thriving-Together-Pairing/dp/1540903370 Make sure you connect with us at 941301-8420 if you'd like to connect with a coach or counselor or visit https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/contact-us Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Troubleshooting your life and intimacy stresses also includes understanding the rhythms of your own unique sensory up and down regulating at work and in your marriage dance as well! If you want to truly ignite your love and work in the best ways possible, you’ll pay attention to these rhythms and honor each precious week across the month for what it really allows for versus forcing everything all at once. Yes, every week truly has a sacred gift of its own, whether rest, reflection, or revving you up and although we can push through, allowing for some nuanced microtweaks helps a great deal! To do this with order and fun, we're strategizing with occupational therapist Renae Fieck, Enneagram 9w8, in a convo about how to walk through the month with healthy, healing, and joyful systems for passion and productivity. Join us as we round out and troubleshoot in our final episode of the Igniting Your Sexual Instinct series. Join Renae on Instagram here! https://www.instagram.com/renaefieck/?hl=en Join Renae on her helpful email list right here! https://renaefieck.com/ Get Christa's new book, "The Enneagram in Marriage" here! https://a.co/d/bU7BNqy Catch all of our blogs and goodies at www.EnneagramandMarriage.com and make sure you're on our email list for all the fun freebies and sales! Watch on YouTube here! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Often, couples are too uncomfortable to ask their pastor or marriage counselor about how to build their love life in marriage in the areas of not just building attraction and desire and also how to successfully approach sexual arousal and resolution, especially since statistically women experience about half the full sexual arousal as compared to men. Improving your sexual intimacy together in the bedroom takes not only guesswork but active research and tips that begin outside of the bedroom as well so you can understand a healthy sexual response cycle in marriage. Today, Christa walks you through some of the most important tips for building intimacy and enjoying mutually pleasurable sex in your marriage. This is a very important episode for your marriage and for more life-giving relationship-building tips, make sure you grab Christa's book right here! Watch on YouTube here! Find more relationship tips overall here! www.enneagramandmarriage.com and for more sexual tips. Research from Sheila Wray Gregoire's book, The Good Girl (and Guys) Guide to Sex Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Rest is the most underused, safe, and chemical-free alternative to relieve stress, and it's about way more than just sleep. Today we cover seven different kinds of rest you need with our esteemed guest author, researcher, and physician, Dr. Sandra Dalton-Smith, MD, Enneagram 3 (as featured on TedX, CNN, Fox, MSNBC), to tell us how we can and must get rest (and we even offer you a free test to find your rest deficits!). Join us for a vulnerable conversation where we reveal the types of rest Christa needs most, too, as you figure yours out as well! Tune in to truly learn rest for you, your marriage, and your family right here! Watch on YoutTube here! Take the Rest Quiz free here! https://www.restquiz.com/quiz/rest-quiz-test/ Get a copy of Dr. Dalton’s book, Sacred Rest, here! https://www.amazon.com/Sacred-Rest-Recover-Energy-Restore/dp/1478921676 To join the E + M Collective membership, join here! https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/membership-join Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Who can get in a sexy state of mind when they're dealing with the triple threat of emotional load, cognitive load, and the physical demands of partnership and parenting, too. Mental load inequity is now recognized as the leading source of relationship tension through research, but what can we do about that when not one but both partners feel equally burdened? In this enlightening conversation, we answer just that with relationship psychologist Dr. Morgan Cutlip (Type 9), as we explore the principles from her BRAND NEW book on a long-awaited topic, an already #1 Christian Marriage early marriage bestselling book "A Better Share: How Couples Can Tackle the Mental Load for More Fun, Less Resentment, and Great Sex." Drawing from her expertise in relationship psychology and her peacemaker perspective, Dr. Cutlip offers practical strategies for mental load sharing that honor each partner's strengths and abilities realistically. Discover why traditional approaches to division of labor often fail, how to recognize invisible contributions and specific communication tools that prevent resentment. Whether you're struggling with household management, parenting responsibilities, or emotional labor imbalance, this episode provides a framework for creating harmony without sacrificing anyone's well-being. Learn how a better share of responsibilities can lead not just to more equitable partnerships, but also to more fun, less resentment, and yes—even better sex. Watch on YouTube www.DrMorganCutlip.com If you're listening on our E + M podcast release date of Monday, April 7th, you can also use this to get the pre-order bonuses! https://drmorgancutlip.com/bs-preorder Get the new book, A Better Share: How Couples Can Tackle the Mental Load for More Fun, Less Resentment, and Great Sex here! https://a.co/d/g7e3qKv For more help discovering your relationship healing journey, visit www.EnneagramandMarriage.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

As you aim for a healthy and loving sexual intimacy life in your marriage, in this second installment of the Igniting Your SX Instinct Series of the Enneagram and Marriage podcast, we're not only discussing what attracts us to one another and what builds our love and chemistry up, but also about what builds desire biologically, psychologically, and emotionally for a healthy love life together just for the two of you in your marriage! Watch on YouTube here! This week only, join the Enneagram & Marriage Membership here! https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/membership-join The sensate focus exercise is here: https://health.cornell.edu/sites/health/files/pdf-library/sensate-focus.pdf For even more details on the research behind this episode, check out www.thepauselife.com and www.hubermanlab.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Right now in our highly curated culture, individuals are desperately seeking authenticity, depth, and understanding together. This is because we all need connection as we process hard pieces of life and grief together if we want joy, love, and laughter to genuinely emerge from a healthy space. To tackle this huge topic with joy and depth both, Christa is joined by the highly authentic (and highly humorous) author and podcast host Molly Stillman (The Molly Stillman Show), author of the deeply personal account, If I Don't Laugh I'll Cry: How Death, Debt, and Comedy Led to a Life of Faith, Farming, and Forgetting What I Came into This Room For. Tune in to hear Molly's tips for other 2-8 couples and for all of us walking through communication issues, and life crises, including finances, losing parents, and potentially losing ourselves too, if we step into the light of connection and faith. Watch on YouTube! Purchase Link: https://www.stillbeingmolly.com/if-i-dont-laugh-ill-cry/  Website: https://www.stillbeingmolly.com/  Social Media Links:  https://www.facebook.com/stillbeingmolly https://www.instagram.com/stillbeingmolly To join our Enneagram and Marriage Collective membership group for more authenticity and vulnerability, join us here for only $29 a month for four extra pods a month, Zoom meetings, and more!! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Marriages are often broken down by unhealthy sexual intimacy triggers and practices and in your quest to get healthy intimately together in your sexual instincts, you need to address your connection from a foundation of goodness. In this new E + M Series, you'll learn to connect through intimacy that starts with foreplay both outside and inside of the bedroom. Here we begin to ignite your passion again by laying intimacy building blocks as you and your spouse to build a safe emotional landscape together, one step at a time. Tune in as we gently and respectfully explore how to nourish your sexual intimacy life from the foundation up, bringing a baseline of goodness versus rigidity, perfectionism, and especially as you let go of hurtful practices that ultimately leave you in shame or addictive cycles. Tune in to create a baseline for true, heart-stopping intimacy goodness together here in this primer for the SX instinct new series! Show links: Here's the Heart of Parenting seminar mentioned on the podcast! Here's our Relationship Bundle where we go type by type through tips for spouses in the bedroom type by type + bonuses as well! For our deeper dive podcast on Sexual Desire & Arousal Change Across the Monthly Cycle, visit Apple Podcast Subscriber Series here! Watch on YouTube here! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Though compassion and gentleness are wonderful traits, when these traits are paired with codependency, enabling, and a lack of healthy boundaries, vulnerable individuals, namely empaths, often repeat familiar trauma cycles by pairing with a mate who has high narcissism markers in relationships, sometimes even pathologically so. This high tolerance for unchecked inappropriate behaviors can lead to fawning or freezing when it's time to set boundaries, get help, or leave a dangerous relationship. If you find yourself or someone you love shamed or scared to leave but being threatened and gaslighted in a marital, dating, or spiritual situation, this episode is for you! We are joined by NPD expert Melissa Thompson, Enneagram 2, who is here giving us the very best tools for healthy empowerment! Watch on YouTube! Find Melissa's FB Group here! Follow Melissa on Instagram Follow Melissa on TikTok Find Melissa's website here! Find all of your relationship needs at www.EnneagramandMarriage.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this just-for-fun E + M on Spring break episode, we ask you to kick back and enjoy a relaxed and endearing episode as we discuss the enemies-to-lovers trope of Jane Austen's Pride and Prejudice as well as what types we think the most romantic couple of all time are, Mr. Darcy and Elizabeth Bennet. Don’t miss this chance to explore the hilarious cast of characters we will discuss with love and fun here on this E + M meet-cute of literature and love! Watch on YouTube here! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Now that daylight savings time has come and you’re finding energy wherever you can, you'll also need rest so you can truly thrive together for the long haul. Here Christa helps each type set the tone for healthy and much-needed restful rhythms, which differ for individuals of each personality type both in life and in relationships. Listen and learn how to find healthy rest amidst the hard work for you and also your partner right here! Watch on YouiTube here! Get your Enneagram Glow pairing guide here! For all of your relationship needs, visit www.EnneagramandMarriage.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

  As humans, we desire to use our energy well so we can tend to our families, and today we talk about putting this into place practically with joy. Since each type has a very particular way of over (or under) expending their energy, in this mini-episode, you're also getting a few brief tips for you type by type. Learn to use your energy to the very fullest for your relationships to thrive here! Watch on YouTube! Sign up to watch Apple Podcast Myers Briggs + Enneagram today also! https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/enneagram-and-marriage/id1493137938 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

If you’re serving clients, patients, kids, families, students, or helping at work in a fast-paced environment, inviting in restful rhythms in life or marriage may feel audacious and impossible next to your never-ending to-do list. However, those who are natural givers often deeply struggle to thrive because of this tendency to serve until burnout. Here you're invited to lean into practices that will help you to give for the long haul as we chat with Holly Oxhandler, Ph.D., MSW, author (Soul of the Helper) Enneagram 2 (2/9 pairing), mom, wife, associate professor and associate dean at Baylor University’s school of social work. Don’t miss this chance to learn how it’s truly possible to slow down as well as love your people well. Watch on YouTube here! Holly K. Oxhandler, PhD, LMSW, is an associate professor and the associate dean for research and faculty development at Baylor University’s Diana R. Garland School of Social Work. Dr. Oxhandler has developed various instruments to measure the integration of clients’ religion/spirituality in mental health treatment, the integration of the helping professionals’ faith in their work, as well as clients’ views toward discussing their spirituality in treatment. Learn from Holly on her website with her offerings right here! Here is her Instagram also! Get her book on Amazon here! It's here! Sign up for the FREE Enneasummit on Love & Relationships right here! Get the All-Access Pass to the Summit here! Get on the email list at www.EnneagramandMarriage.com for all of the fun news and events, too! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Although the Enneagram is a wonderful tool to assess our relationship depths, other personality assessments also offer us excellent insight for our relationship love styles. Here Christa introduces you to Myers Briggs (the MBTI) in this listener-requested mini episode to give you a brief tutorial on how you may grow in love and work life together using this robust system. Explore Introverting versus Extroversion (I/E), Sensing versus Intuition (S/I), Thinking versus Feeling (T/F), and Judging versus Perceiving (J/P). As you learn, allow yourself to lean into your partners' type as well as to your lesser activated styles of relating too as you consider your differences for a fuller life experience. Don’t know your types?  Watch On YouTube Here Take the TypeFinder/16 Personalities (their free MBTI variant) on Truity.com Sign up for the FREE Enneasummit on Love & Relationships right here! Get on the email list at www.EnneagramandMarriage.com for all of the fun news and events, too! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Often you want so desperately to relate well and with joy together, but when a relational rupture happens, we don't know how to repair it with healthy shifts and boundaries. Here we are joined by neuroscience expert and licensed marriage and family therapist Juliane Taylor Shore to help us sort out how to handle more difficult experiences together. Juliane takes us through the heavy lifting of relationships at their best - and their worst - with comfort, empowerment, and a head, heart, and body approach to help us discover what we can do when we are lost and feeling unsafe in our relationships. Watch the uncut version on YouTube here! Join Juliane Taylor Shore at her website with her offerings right here! Get her book on Amazon here! Sign up for the FREE Enneasummit on Love & Relationships right here! Find your pairing's light/glow together here! https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/store/c4/enneagramglow Get on the email list at www.EnneagramandMarriage.com for all of the fun news and events, too! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

When your personality seems to straddle multiple Enneagram types, it can feel confusing or even invalidating. In this illuminating episode, we explore what it means when you identify strongly with two or more Enneagram patterns, referencing insights from Dr. Dan Siegel's previous conversation on the show. Discover why this "multi-type resonance" isn't a flaw in the system but potentially a more nuanced understanding of your personality structure. Learn practical approaches to growth when you're navigating multiple type patterns, how to discern which pattern might be tripping you up in specific situations, and how the Enneagram's Law of Three and Law of Seven provide a framework for understanding these complex dynamics. Whether you're a coach working with clients who don't fit neatly into one type or someone personally struggling to find your type home, this episode offers clarity, validation, and a path forward for your Enneagram journey. Watch on YouTube Here! For more help discovering your relationship healing journey, visit www.EnneagramandMarriage.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Humility is the absence of pride and conceit in a relationship, and unfortunately, the underbelly of an individualistic Western philosophy is often a lack of it. Yet, sometimes we believe that if we’re humble, our partner will take narcissistic advantage of us, and if they’re not healthy, that may well just happen. Tune into this must-listen mini episode for tools for both of you to truly find the essential virtue of humility as well as steps to get there right here healthily for each and every personality type! Watch on YouTube! Sign up for the FREE Enneasummit on Love & Relationships right here! Get the conference all-access pass here! Find your pairing's light/glow together here! https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/store/c4/enneagramglow Get on the email list at www.EnneagramandMarriage.com for all of the fun news and events, too! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

When you share the gifts you have, the whole world is improved, little by little. In contrast, when couples and individuals get caught up in the dark desire to get ahead for themselves despite what happens to others, those who are weaker, elderly, less affluent, less desirable or otherwise more culturally marginalized get forgotten and discarded. In this episode, Christa walks you through sharing your light, even through discouragement, through the lens of the magnificent WWII novel, "All the Light We Cannot See" along with her husband Wes, who joins in for a conversation walking through the important elements from the accompanying Netflix series. Tune in here for reminders of how to love in each of our own very small but also very significant ways! Watch YouTube here! Sign up for the FREE Enneasummit on Love & Relationships right here! Get the conference all-access pass here! Read or watch All the Light We Cannot See here: Netflix Series:  https://www.netflix.com/title/81083008 Book: https://www.amazon.com/All-Light-We-Cannot-See/dp/1501173219 Find your pairing's light/glow together here! https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/store/c4/enneagramglow Get on the email list at www.EnneagramandMarriage.com for all of the fun news and events, too! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

What do women find attractive long-term? How do you show strength and softness as a man? How do you allow for femininity without becoming weak? Join us today for this special love episode as we give tips for all of this, and moreover, as we give your love just the boost it needs in this mini-must listen episode on ascending the peaks of your relationship together! Watch on YouTube here! Sign up for the FREE Enneasummit on Love & Relationships right here! Get the conference all-access pass here! Join the E + M Coaching Certification here! Use code MASTERCLASS for $500 off! https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/the-e-m-coaching-masterclass Get on the email list at www.EnneagramandMarriage.com for all of the fun news and events, too! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

So many times in marriage there are arguments that don't get resolved, underlying anger that doesn't get diffused, and tempers flying out of control, depending on your personality type. Today we are joined by world-renowned mediator and attorney Hesha Abrams who is an expert at not only helping you to find your power and self-control, but also in truly finding intimacy through actually resolving the conflicts at hand together in your marriage and other important relationships. Tune in here! So many times in marriage there are arguments that don't get resolved, underlying anger that doesn't get diffused, or tempers flying out of control, depending on your personality type. Today we are joined by world-renowned mediator and attorney Hesha Abrams who is an expert at not only helping you to find your power and self-control but also in truly finding intimacy through actually resolving the conflicts at hand together in your marriage and other important relationships. Tune in here!Watch on YouTube! Get Hesha's book Holding the Calm: The Secret to Resolving Conflict & Diffusing the Tension here on Amazon Find everything you need at Hesha Abrams' website here! Join the E + M Coaching Certification here! Use code MASTERCLASS for $500 off! https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/emcoaches Get on the email list at www.EnneagramandMarriage.com for all of the fun news and events, too! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Music can speak to us in a way that words alone often cannot. In this week between the Grammys and the Superbowl, we're having fun sharing songs by Taylor Swift for each and every Enneagram type to enjoy in love, life, and times of lament, too. Watch on YouTube here!   Enjoy this E + M curated Taylor Swift & the Enneagram Spotify Playlist here. There are 2 songs for each type, in order 1-9, per the episode here! Join the E + M Coaching Certification here! Use code MASTERCLASS for $500 off! https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/emcoaches Get on the email list at www.EnneagramandMarriage.com for all of the fun news and events, too!   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Parenting requires nuanced architecture and then releasing kids to learn for themselves bit by bit - and all of this as you're navigating mood changes that start becoming real even in the grade school years. To help us through this sensitive topic, we are gifted with parenting expert Nellie Harden of Family Life, Enneagram 2, who shares her relational and brain-based biological expertise, as well as what she's gained from parenting four teen daughters along with her husband. Recollect your own teen years and learn what's ahead with kids or grandkids as we approach parenting with peace, grace, and wisdom. We dig into some of the most important questions together, including how to walk through hormonal moments with kids, dads and daughters, and how we can launch healthy and regulated adults one day, too. Don't miss it! Watch on YouTube! Nellie Harden's book and steps! https://www.nellieharden.com/ Leave a review on Apple here if you enjoyed this episode! https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/enneagram-and-marriage/id1493137938 Join the E + M Masterclass here! Use code MASTERCLASS for $500 off. https://www.enneagraminyourmarriage.com/emcoaches Sign up for the Equip + Activate Leadership Conference below!  https://www.simplywholehearted.com/2024conferenceregistrationpage?ref=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.simplywholehearted.com%2Fa%2F2147770674%2FkFLz5sF6 For all your relationship needs, visit here! www.EnneagramandMarriage.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Emotional agility is a necessary skill for relationship-building, so that when we find ourselves dysregulated, we can self-soothe. We need this practice time and again considering all of the ways we lose our footing in life and relationships. Enjoy and save this episode so you have a special practice to help you find your way back to joy and peace time and again. This guided imagery and relaxation episode helps you move from stress to finding your steps again when you feel triggered. Watch on YouTube here! Leave a review on Apple here if you enjoyed this episode! https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/enneagram-and-marriage/id1493137938 Become an E + M Certified Coach here! https://www.enneagraminyourmarriage.com/emcoaches Sign up for the Equip + Activate Leadership Conference below!  https://www.simplywholehearted.com/2024conferenceregistrationpage?ref=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.simplywholehearted.com%2Fa%2F2147770674%2FkFLz5sF6 For all your relationship needs, visit here! www.EnneagramandMarriage.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

How do you balance work and life? How do you grow at work but also leave room for family? What do successful leaders wish you knew at the beginning of an entrepreneurship journey? Today Christa is joined by superstar Amy Wicks and they are not holding back as they share tips for those wanting to create a better work-life balance. Join the chat here and sign up for the Elevate and Activate conference also! Watch on YouTube here! Find Amy's website here! Sign up for the Equip + Activate Leadership Conference below! https://www.simplywholehearted.com/2024conferenceregistrationpage?ref=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.simplywholehearted.com%2Fa%2F2147770674%2FkFLz5sF6 Become an E + M Certified Coach here! https://www.enneagraminyourmarriage.com/emcoaches For all your relationship needs, visit here! www.EnneagramandMarriage.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

When you or your spouse are experiencing mood shifts, don’t forget that between ages 35-55, perimenopause may beat work. Today we talk with Bria Gadd aka “Bria the Period Whisperer” about her specialty of perimenopause as she helps to identify symptoms and also helps to support families through this often foggy period. Here we invite empowering conversation around shifting health rhythms and personal and couple’s empowerment as you remobilize for thriving and rest in perhaps new ways. Bria also reminds us of what we can expect and plan for across a 4-week cycle as well as ways to open up conversation around the sometimes sensitive topic. Whatever your type/or pairing, join us as we walk through whatever the next days and decades hold together in this fun, candid, and grace-filled convo about bringing awareness, normalcy, and love for the ups and downs of ALL of our seasons. Watch on YouTube here! aQuiz:  tinyurl.com/IsItMyHormones  Daily Hormone Checklist:  https://www.briatheperiodwhisperer.com/pl/2147912583 https://www.briatheperiodwhisperer.com/ Sign up for the Equip + Activate Leadership Conference below! https://www.simplywholehearted.com/2024conferenceregistrationpage?ref=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.simplywholehearted.com%2Fa%2F2147770674%2FkFLz5sF6 Become an E + M Certified Coach here! https://www.enneagraminyourmarriage.com/emcoaches For all your relationship needs, visit here! www.EnneagramandMarriage.com   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

When you're in a really thin season with your temperaments both on override and also hiding vulnerabilities, you're bound for difficult marriage territories you hardly recognize, territory where you're tempted to blame your spouse or lose your marriage altogether. For Josh and Katie Walters, it was too, and it was a big something: infidelity. Today as guests on the pod, Josh and Katie speak to the pain behind infidelity and more importantly, how to courageously walk forward in actually loving your spouse versus merely following your feelings, as they listeners who feel exactly the way they did: lost, hopeless, and unsure of how to fix their marriage. This episode lays out the principles Josh and Katie Walters learned in that season when God healed and restored their marriage and they're sharing them here for you to glean from their story and the pages of their book, Same Couple, Different Marriage: Don't Let Your Worst Days Be Your Last Days. Watch on YouTube here Find Josh and Katie's website and book here! Katie on Instagram Josh on Instagram Join early bird rates for the Wholehearted Empower and Equip Leadership Conference with Amy Wicks Become an Enneagram & Marriage Coach this Feb 15, 2024 (use the code COACHINGFUN for $500 off)  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Is a clean house a spiritual obligation? In this liberating conversation, Dana K. White, author of the brand new book, "Jesus Doesn't Care About Your Messy House," challenges the shame and spiritual baggage many attach to home management. This book is for you, if no matter how competent you feel in other parts of your life, you still feel overwhelmed and defeated by your messy home. While it’s true that keeping a clean and organized living space can contribute to a sense of peace and well-being, it should never be equated with your worth, moral standing, or what Jesus thinks about you.With her characteristic honesty and practical wisdom, Dana reveals how our homes often become measuring sticks for our spiritual worth—and why this connection is both damaging and unbiblical. Drawing on her own journey from drowning in clutter to finding sustainable systems, Dana shares insights particularly helpful for those with creative personalities who may get scattered as well as analytical, information-gathering tendencies similar to Enneagram Type 5 traits. Discover why "how you're made" is different from "just the way you are," how to create systems that work with your natural tendencies rather than against them, and why "technically helping" differs from "actually helping" your household. This conversation offers both practical home management strategies and spiritual freedom for anyone who has ever felt judged—by others or themselves—for the state of their home. Find Dana's book here: https://a.co/d/auuIYEI Find Dana on Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/aslobcomesclean Find Dana's website here: https://www.aslobcomesclean.com/ Visit www.EnneagramandMarriage.com for more relationship resources! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

During these winter months when everyone is hibernating, it can be tempting to turning inwards and shut off your love. In this mini-episode, Christa helps you to rev up your love together again as you learn tips to relight the fires of desire. We’ll talk about safety, sex, and society as you warm up by the glow of your love! Let us also know if you’d like to join us in our E + M Certified Coaches Course that starts February 15, 2024, and runs for 12 weeks! Let's dig deep together! $500 off with coupon COACHINGFUN here: https://www.enneagraminyourmarriage.com/emcoaches Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

When we're feeling weary, our temptation is often to run away from the very things that heal - authenticity, community, sacred daily rhythms, and most of all, Christ. We can even allow our creative outlets to be another way of escapism, or move so fast into the "post-human" world of bots and "ten easy steps" that we miss relating and sharing Christ's love. Today we get to talk about this human tendency and about finding our truest mission - and solace - in real community and giving as Christ shows us how to do. We get to talk about all of this and more with the incredibly talented and world-renowned couple, husband and wife duo and four-time-Grammy Winner and musician and producer Charlie Peacock and gifted award-winning writer Andi Ashworth together as they discuss their new beautiful book, "Why Everything That Doesn't Matter, Matters So Much: The Way of Love in a World of Hurt" as they teach us lessons they've gleaned across five seasons of marriage from Carnegie Hall to the jitcken, and so much more! Watch on YouTube Pre-order their book at Amazon:  https://www.amazon.com/Everything-That-Doesnt-Matter-Matters/dp/140033764X For all your relationship needs, visit www.EnneagramandMarriage.com   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

The 4.5 space in marriage is a beautiful place to create, plan, dream, and think, yet this pensive space can keep partners lonely without healthy habits and movement. Today we give our audience tips for finding safety and respect in the depths of the heart and mind with the generous help of the wildly popular husband-and-wife podcast host team, Sharleen Joynt, 4w5, and Andy Levine, 5w4 of the Dear Shandy podcast, as they humorously but soulfully and honestly allow us to plunge the depths of their relationship space. In this extended episode, we also cover how Sharleen was also on "The Bachelor" and performs across the world as an award-winning opera singer, and we talk about what Fours and Fives bring to media spaces as well. Tune in to this unique, comedic, and deeply thoughtful episode here! Visit the Dear Shandy Podcast here or search "Dear Shandy" The story of how Andy and Sharleen met on the pod Visit the Dear Shandy Instagram here (the link in bio links out everything!) For those who may want to enjoy Sharleen's opera pieces, visit here Find the Enneagram in Marriage Course here!   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices