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Influencer and Coach (Enneagram & Coaching) Hillary McCaskey, 9w8 joins Christa to explore how her Enneagram type shapes her marriage to an 8. Together they discuss how Hillary's 972 Tritype influences her ability to support her Type 8 husband's dreams while finding her own voice—culminating in both a healthier and more attuned marriage as well as their bold decision to embrace a comfortable life on the road as the traveling duo @VanKaskeys on YouTube. Hillary also shares her powerful journey through grief and strength rising after losing her mother, a pivotal experience that awakened her strong 8 wing and transformed her approach to life and relationships. She opens up about navigating the challenges of conflict styles with her husband as well as fatigue as a 9 while accessing newfound strength. This episode offers valuable insights into the harmonious yet dynamic 8-9 pairing, showing how different types can complement each other while maintaining individual growth. Between these meaningful discussions of personality and relationships, Hillary and Christa share lighthearted moments about dogs, favorite coffee, and the unexpected joys of intentional living. Listen here to be inspired! Explore Hillary's Coaching Practice: https://enneagramandcoaching.com/ Explore Hillary's Popular Enneagram & Coaching Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/enneagramandcoaching/?igsh=NzM2eDgxd3B2Yzdl# Follow the VanCaskeys on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/vancaskeys or at their website here: https://www.youtube.com/c/vancaskeys To sign up for the membership group for time live on Zoom with Christa, ⁠visit here!⁠ To sign up for the Enneasummit on Subtypes, ⁠sign up here!⁠ Get the all-access pass to the summit ⁠here! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Christa takes you on a journey through the subtle influences of Enneagram wings in marriage relationships. In this illuminating episode, she explores how our wing tendencies can sometimes take over our interactions with our spouse without us even realizing it. From the silent withdrawal of a 1w9 to the stubborn resistance of a 9w8, Christa breaks down real examples of how each type's wings manifest in marriage - both helping and hindering connection. Discover practical strategies for finding balance and appreciating your partner's full Enneagram makeup while learning to temper your own wing influences when they become domineering. You're also invited to join our Enneagram + Marriage membership community where we dive deeper into these dynamics every month! Plus, don't miss the upcoming EnneaSummit this summer - tickets are available now. Listen for all the summer fun and relationship wisdom packed into this episode! To sign up for the membership group for time live on Zoom with Christa, visit here! To sign up for the Enneasummit on Subtypes, sign up here! Get the all-access pass to the summit here! Join E + M Coach Alicia Larkey's retreat here! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this powerful episode, former megachurch pastors Jimmy and Irene Rollins share their raw journey from a marriage that was "surviving, not thriving" to genuine transformation after addiction threatened everything they'd built. For fifteen years, the couple maintained a thriving public ministry while privately struggling—Irene battling alcohol addiction and Jimmy confronting generational patterns of dysfunction—until their 2015 breaking point forced them to seek authentic healing. Through an Enneagram lens, we explore how different personality types experience addiction, support recovery, and establish healthy boundaries. The founders of TWO=ONE Marriage Ministry offer rare insight into creating safety for vulnerability, maintaining hope during crisis, and rebuilding trust after betrayal. Their story illuminates how true connection emerges only when we risk complete honesty, making this essential listening for anyone navigating addiction in relationships or seeking to transform any marriage from functional to flourishing. Watch on YouTube! Follow the Rollins here on their website! https://www.twoequalsone.com/ Follow Irene, type 9 on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/irenerollins/?hl=en Follow Jimmy, type 7 on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/iamjimmyrollins/?hl=en For the Enneagram & Marriage membership, click here! https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/membership For more on EnneagramandMarriage.com, visit here! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Just in time for Mother's Day, this special episode features Wall Street Journal bestselling author Jessica Turner sharing hard-earned wisdom about rebuilding when life veers dramatically off-script. Whether you didn't get to have kids, your marriage is different than what you wanted, or like Jessica, your marriage took a turn in a different direction, Jessica discusses how to navigate heartache, as she had to at the end of her 16-year marriage after her husband came out, transforming heartbreak into a powerful story of resilience that's now the foundation of her upcoming book "I Thought It Would Be Better Than This." As Mel Robbins notes, Jessica's journey will "speak right to your soul if you're wrestling with disappointment, heartache, or the curveballs life throws at you." Through a heartfelt lens with Jessica, today we process grief, reclaim identity, and find moments for self-care during life's biggest transitions. This conversation goes beyond typical Mother's Day sentiments to honor the strength it takes to write a new story when the original draft falls apart. Jessica's authentic insights offer both practical strategies and emotional permission to anyone standing at the intersection of "this isn't what I expected" and "where do I go from here?" Get Jessica's powerful book here for a mom you love: https://a.co/d/1BgPDuy Follow her blog and visit her website here: www.JessicaNTurner.com Follow her on Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/jessicanturner/?hl=en Learn more about Enneagram & Marriage right here! www.EnneagramandMarriage.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this illuminating mini-episode for anyone who finds themselves in a reactive Enneagram Eight space, Christa unveils tools for finding and accessing the hidden vulnerability healthily beneath the Eight armor. Whether you're an Eight, have an Eight wing or arrow connection, or love someone with Eight energy, this episode offers crucial insights into navigating those critical moments when an Eight hits their wall. Learn why fight-or-flight responses are so instinctive for Eights and discover the powerful "3-3-3 Method" for processing emotions without feeling exposed. This episode goes beyond basic type descriptions to explore how Eights can access their strength through acknowledging vulnerability, and how loved ones can create safe containers that honor the Eight's need for both power and authentic connection. A must-listen for anyone seeking to understand the complex interplay of protection and vulnerability in the protective Eight's journey. Find more relationship tools at www.EnneagramandMarriage.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In today's episode, we challenge the common assumption that men always want more sex than women in marriage. Join us as we speak with J. Parker, author of "The Higher-Desire Wife," about the estimated 25% of marriages where wives have a higher sex drive at various seasons of marriage. We explore multiple causes of mismatched desire beyond stereotypes, from hormonal factors to relational dynamics, and discuss practical strategies for navigating these differences with compassion. This episode brings validation and hope to women and men who have felt isolated, bewildered, or ashamed of their sexual desires or lack thereof while offering insights for all couples experiencing desire discrepancies in their marriages. Watch on YouTube Get J's book, The Higher Desire Wife" here: https://a.co/d/boAliTx Visit J's website: https://hotholyhumorous.com/https://hotholyhumorous.com/https://www.hotholyhumorous.com Find more relationship tools at www.EnneagramandMarriage.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this stance episode, Christa helps you to explore how our emotional regulation patterns impact our closest relationships through the lens of stances. This episode dives into the three stress stances—moving against, moving away, and moving toward—and how understanding these unconscious reactions can transform your marriage. Whether you're caught in criticism-defensiveness cycles or pursuer-distancer dynamics, you'll discover practical tools to recognize your patterns, regulate your responses, and create deeper connection with your spouse. Learn how to turn triggering moments into opportunities for growth and intimacy in this thoughtful exploration of emotional intelligence in marriage. Find more relationship tools at www.EnneagramandMarriage.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

It's all been done. I can't start until it's perfect. What if the critics come? In this episode, Christa talks with Mary Marantz, Enneagram 4, about her journey from growing up in a trailer in rural West Virginia to becoming a Yale Law graduate, successful entrepreneur, and author, only to learn she was still underestimating herself. This empowering conversation explores how to overcome self-doubt, silence your inner critic, and stop playing small. Mary's powerful message will help you move from stuck to start, providing both inspiration and practical steps to push past fear and excuses. Join us for this transformative discussion with the host of the iTunes Top 200 podcast "The Mary Marantz Show" about embracing your worth and creating the impact only you can make, just as Mary shares insights from her perspective as an Enneagram 4 and discusses her brand new book "Underestimated" releasing tomorrow! Watch on YouTube Follow Mary here: https://marymarantz.com/ Get Mary's brand new book, Underestimated, here! https://youtu.be/bwETc01Hdtw https://www.instagram.com/marymarantz https://www.facebook.com/groups/marymarantzshow Find more relationship tools at www.EnneagramandMarriage.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Ever wonder why personal growth seems to follow predictable patterns of progress and plateau? In this illuminating episode, we dive into one of the Enneagram's most fascinating but rarely discussed aspects: moving around the whole Enneagram system. Learn how this powerful concept applies to everything from skill-building to relationship development, and why certain growth points require conscious attention to move forward. Whether you're an Enneagram enthusiast wanting deeper understanding beyond type descriptions or someone curious about the hidden rhythms of personal transformation, this episode offers practical insights for recognizing where you are in various growth cycles and how to navigate the journey more consciously—both individually and in partnerships. Join us as we decode relationships and explore how we can continue to find personal growth, relationship challenges, and spiritual development. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this illuminating episode of the Enneagram and Marriage Podcast, we welcome Philip Nation, Vice-President/Publisher of Thomas Nelson Bibles and acclaimed author (Enneagram 4) to explore the powerful intersection of faith, scripture study, and marital connection. Philip shares his expertise on making the Bible accessible in relationships, offering practical wisdom for individual study as well as couples engagement on how to engage with scripture together. From his insights on The OPEN Bible's 50th Anniversary Edition to tailored study approaches that honor different personality types, this conversation provides individuuals and couples with tools to deepen both their spiritual journey and relationship intimacy. Whether you're newlyweds or celebrating decades together, Philip's balanced perspective on scripture study as a relationship practice will inspire meaningful connection with both your spouse and sacred texts. Philip Nation is the Vice-President/Publisher of Thomas Nelson Bibles. He has served as a pastor, church planter, and education minister in local churches. He frequently travels to speak in churches and for conferences. Philip earned a Doctor of Ministry from Southeastern Baptist Theological Seminary. He has authored and edited numerous books and Bible studies. Philip is a University Fellow for Arizona Christian University and has been a professor for Union University and Houston Christian University. Show links: View the Bible, including the Open Bible and the Abide Bible Phil recommends: https://www.thomasnelson.com/bibles/ Thomas Nelson Bibles: https://www.facebook.com/NelsonBibles/ The NKJV Bible: https://www.facebook.com/TheNKJVBible/ Nelson Bibles: https://www.instagram.com/nelsonbibles/ The NKJV Bible: https://www.instagram.com/thebiblenkjv/ The Open Bible https://youtu.be/Wx-uV4o7r9M Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this special mid-week mini episode, Christa explores the ancient practice of biblical lament as a pathway to deeper intimacy with God and our spouses. Discover why expressing honest sorrow and questions to God isn't just permitted but modeled throughout scripture—from the Psalms to Jesus himself on the cross. Learn how each Enneagram type bypasses lament or grief differently, and how understanding these patterns can help couples create sacred space for lament together. The episode offers practical day-by-day guidance for Holy Week, from a movement from mourning to dancing —not rushing to resurrection but finding Christ's presence in the shadows of the cross first. A timely reminder - listen here! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this engaging episode, Brad and Sarah Johnson, Triad Partners, reveal how life as an entrepreneurial couple (Brad is the co-founder of Triad Partners) creates both unique challenges and extraordinary strengths in their marriage, family, and business. Brad and Sarah (types 7 and 6 pairing) share candidly about their journey and deep dive with us to the dark night of the soul moment of their marriage to climbing metaphorical mountains together, recognizing their different approaches to risk, planning, and connection to leveraging these differences to lead a thriving organization serving top 1% financial advisors and most importantly, making sure they don't lose their connection in the process of building their dreams. Discover their weekly relationship check-in ritual that's transformed their communication, how they navigate Sarah's security-seeking Type 6 energy with Brad's spontaneous Type 7 spirit, and practical insights for any couple balancing work and life together. The triad motto "Do Business, Do Life" comes alive through stories of how they've built a 100+ employee company while nurturing their relationship. If you're interested in how different Enneagram types can create powerful partnerships at home even amid work challenges, this conversation offers wisdom for turning potential friction points into your relationship and business's greatest assets. Watch on YouTube: https://youtu.be/wT8PKMkIzHQ BRAD & SARAH’S SUNDAY CHECK-IN QUESTIONS Where did I show up for you this week or what do you appreciate about me as a partner? What feelings of hurt, frustration, or misunderstanding are left over from this week for you? What do you need me to hear or understand about them? How can I support you well as we go into a new week? What might you need from me? Can you tell me something you’re proud of yourself for this week or share with me something you did well? Date night plans for this week? More Links: Follow Brad on Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/bradjohnson.dbdl/ Visit Triad's website: https://triadpartners.com/the-movement/ Follow Triad on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/triadpartners/ Visit Brad's website and the DBDL podcast here: https://bradleyjohnson.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this heartfelt episode, discover the transformative power of "holding vigil" for your spouse through prayer and presence in a way that reallly costs, but also really gives, both to you and your spouse. Learn both general tips and how each Enneagram type uniquely supports their partner during difficult times and what challenges they face in staying present. Drawing from literary examples like Frodo and Sam, Atticus Finch and personal experiences, Christa explores how true empathy creates sacred space in marriage, and your faith journey, reflecting on Matthew 11:28. Perfect for couples seeking deeper connection through life's challenges. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Who can get in a sexy state of mind when they're dealing with the triple threat of emotional load, cognitive load, and the physical demands of partnership and parenting, too. Mental load inequity is now recognized as the leading source of relationship tension through research, but what can we do about that when not one but both partners feel equally burdened? In this enlightening conversation, we answer just that with relationship psychologist Dr. Morgan Cutlip (Type 9), as we explore the principles from her BRAND NEW book on a long-awaited topic, an already #1 Christian Marriage early marriage bestselling book "A Better Share: How Couples Can Tackle the Mental Load for More Fun, Less Resentment, and Great Sex." Drawing from her expertise in relationship psychology and her peacemaker perspective, Dr. Cutlip offers practical strategies for mental load sharing that honor each partner's strengths and abilities realistically. Discover why traditional approaches to division of labor often fail, how to recognize invisible contributions and specific communication tools that prevent resentment. Whether you're struggling with household management, parenting responsibilities, or emotional labor imbalance, this episode provides a framework for creating harmony without sacrificing anyone's well-being. Learn how a better share of responsibilities can lead not just to more equitable partnerships, but also to more fun, less resentment, and yes—even better sex. Watch on YouTube www.DrMorganCutlip.com If you're listening on our E + M podcast release date of Monday, April 7th, you can also use this to get the pre-order bonuses! https://drmorgancutlip.com/bs-preorder Get the new book, A Better Share: How Couples Can Tackle the Mental Load for More Fun, Less Resentment, and Great Sex here! https://a.co/d/g7e3qKv For more help discovering your relationship healing journey, visit www.EnneagramandMarriage.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

When your personality seems to straddle multiple Enneagram types, it can feel confusing or even invalidating. In this illuminating episode, we explore what it means when you identify strongly with two or more Enneagram patterns, referencing insights from Dr. Dan Siegel's previous conversation on the show. Discover why this "multi-type resonance" isn't a flaw in the system but potentially a more nuanced understanding of your personality structure. Learn practical approaches to growth when you're navigating multiple type patterns, how to discern which pattern might be tripping you up in specific situations, and how the Enneagram's Law of Three and Law of Seven provide a framework for understanding these complex dynamics. Whether you're a coach working with clients who don't fit neatly into one type or someone personally struggling to find your type home, this episode offers clarity, validation, and a path forward for your Enneagram journey. Watch on YouTube Here! For more help discovering your relationship healing journey, visit www.EnneagramandMarriage.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Is a clean house a spiritual obligation? In this liberating conversation, Dana K. White, author of the brand new book, "Jesus Doesn't Care About Your Messy House," challenges the shame and spiritual baggage many attach to home management. This book is for you, if no matter how competent you feel in other parts of your life, you still feel overwhelmed and defeated by your messy home. While it’s true that keeping a clean and organized living space can contribute to a sense of peace and well-being, it should never be equated with your worth, moral standing, or what Jesus thinks about you.With her characteristic honesty and practical wisdom, Dana reveals how our homes often become measuring sticks for our spiritual worth—and why this connection is both damaging and unbiblical. Drawing on her own journey from drowning in clutter to finding sustainable systems, Dana shares insights particularly helpful for those with creative personalities who may get scattered as well as analytical, information-gathering tendencies similar to Enneagram Type 5 traits. Discover why "how you're made" is different from "just the way you are," how to create systems that work with your natural tendencies rather than against them, and why "technically helping" differs from "actually helping" your household. This conversation offers both practical home management strategies and spiritual freedom for anyone who has ever felt judged—by others or themselves—for the state of their home. Find Dana's book here: https://a.co/d/auuIYEI Find Dana on Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/aslobcomesclean Find Dana's website here: https://www.aslobcomesclean.com/ Visit www.EnneagramandMarriage.com for more relationship resources! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

How does your Enneagram type influence your experience of anxiety? In this insightful episode, we explore the unique ways each type encounters, processes, and responds to fear. Discover why Head types (5,6,7) intellectualize anxiety, Heart types (2,3,4) emotionalize it, and Body types (8,9,1) somaticize it—creating entirely different anxiety experiences. Learn how your type's core fears amplify specific anxieties and the unconscious strategies you've developed to manage them. Through compassionate exploration and practical tools, this episode offers a personalized approach to understanding your relationship with anxiety. Whether you're seeking to support a partner through anxious moments or develop greater self-awareness, these type-specific insights provide a roadmap for transforming your relationship with fear. With concrete practices for each type, this episode empowers you to recognize anxiety's early signals and respond with presence rather than reactivity. Find more at www.EnneagramandMarriage.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this compelling conversation, bestselling author Ian Cron discusses his new book "The Fix," revealing how addiction in its many forms affects us all. Ian moves beyond stereotypical views of addiction to show how everyone struggles with attachments that promise fulfillment but ultimately leave us empty. With wisdom and compassion, he explains how isolation fuels our addictive cycles, while genuine community creates the environment for healing. Ian shares practical wisdom about how the steps of recovery offer a universal path toward grace and growth, regardless of what form our struggles take. This conversation offers hope for anyone feeling stuck in patterns they can't seem to break, illuminating how vulnerability and connection provide the foundation for lasting transformation. Watch the full interview on YouTube Resources mentioned in this episode: Ian's website: www.IanMorganCron.com Typology podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/typology/id1254061093 Typology Enneagram assessment: https://typologyinstitute.com/assessment "The Fix" on Amazon: https://a.co/d/e2nWVsv Visit Ian and Typology on Instagram For more great episodes and relationship help, visit www.EnneagramandMarriage.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this transformative and quick episode, we walk together through several powerful practices to develop genuine internal validation. If you constantly seek others' approval or question your decisions, this episode is for you! Learn practical techniques to strengthen your self-trust and break the cycle of external validation right here. YouTube the episode here! Here we explore: Deliberate Self-Acknowledgment Practice Lived Evidence Documentation Faith-Based Self-Compassion Strategic Disengagement And more! This episode offers concrete tools to help you recognize and honor your inherent value—regardless of external opinions. Perfect for spouses, anxiously attached individuals, parents of unruly kids, people-pleasers, and anyone ready to build unshakable confidence from within. Visit www.EnneagramandMarriage.com for even more tools to help you along the way! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this captivating episode, we're joined by Jim Zartman (Type 8) and Joel Hubbard (Type 7), creators of the groundbreaking Hunters, Farmers, and Teamers framework and book. This innovative lens reveals our survival instincts as well as helps us adapt in them, speaking of how our core drives shape everything from our leadership styles to our marriages. Discover whether you're primarily a Hunter (similar to Sexual/SX instinct, focused on intensity and risk-taking), a Farmer (aligned with Self-Preservation/SP, oriented toward resources and sustainability), or a Teamer (comparable to Social/SO, driven by connection and collaboration), and how to work with your strengths and blindspots, whatever the stackingg order of your instincts. Through illuminating stories and practical insights, Jim and Joel explain how recognizing these patterns can transform relationships, reduce burnout, and resolve persistent conflicts. Learn how instinct-diverse partnerships can leverage complementary strengths while navigating inherent tensions. Whether you're struggling with communication breakdowns or seeking to understand your own reaction patterns, this revolutionary framework we share on today's episode offers a compassionate path toward greater self-awareness and connection. Watch on YouTube: https://youtu.be/I1vvmZVVRMQ Get the book Hunters, Farmers, and Teamers here: https://a.co/d/5tZcJDA Find their website here: https://www.theartofgrowth.org/ Find their Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/artofgrowth/?hl=en Find the Art of Growth podcast here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-art-of-growth/id1404087288 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Many couples avoid "relationship check-ins" because they feel awkward or turn into criticism sessions. This episode offers a completely different approach - a structured 30-minute blueprint that creates safety, deepens understanding, and builds practical solutions together that Christa shares both here and in this mini-episode. You'll learn: The reminder that research backs how healthy addressing and communication dramatically improve relationship satisfaction A simple 3-part framework for your monthly meeting (Connection, Exploration, Solutions) How to adapt the process for different Enneagram types Practical tips to ensure the experience feels positive and productive Whether you've been together for decades or just starting out, this monthly blueprint provides a sustainable way to stay connected amidst busy lives. Download the accompanying PDF guide from Christa's website to make implementation easy. Listen now! Give just 30 minutes a month to intentional connection, and watch your relationship transform! Get the 30 Min Monthly Relationship Blueprint meeting here! >> https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/the-monthly-blueprint-meeting. << Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

What happens when we make our partners the center of our emotional universe? In this insightful episode with Christa walking us through the concept of decentralization, we explore the delicate art of "decentralizing" your partner—a powerful practice that counterintuitively strengthens intimate connections. Through the lens of marriage theory, including but not limited to the Enneagram, we discover how constant emotional monitoring can suffocate even the most loving relationships. Learn to recognize signs you've over-centralized your partner, understand how your Enneagram type influences this tendency, and best of all, walk through a practical anxiety exercise with Christa to help you create healthy space while maintaining deep connection. Whether you're feeling anxious about your partner's every mood shift or struggling with boundary issues, this episode offers compassionate guidance for finding that sweet spot where both individuals can thrive within the relationship. Find resources and coaching info at www.EnneagramandMarriage.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

What happens when we open our hearts and homes to others? Craig and Laura Cooper join us to share their extraordinary journey of faith and generosity that inspired MercyMe's song and Walker Hayes' music video "Craig." The Coopers discuss how their Type 3w4 and Type 9 Enneagram dynamics shape their approach to hospitality, and how a simple act of giving a minivan to a family in need sparked a profound spiritual transformation. Learn how small acts of generosity can create ripple effects of change, and discover practical ways to cultivate a spirit of giving in your own relationships and community right here! Watch on YouTube Find the song with Walker Hayes/MercyMe written about Craig and Laura on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5pLNTewIfrg and Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/track/1S9Yxo8bniCYywEMCposAl Find Craig's book here with Mercy Me/Walker Hayes: https://www.amazon.com/Glad-Youre-Here-Unlikely-Breaking/dp/0802424716 Find Craig's Instagram here! https://www.instagram.com/craigallencooper/?hl=en Join the special free women's event beginning today at the Wholehearted Abundance Summit where Christa will be speaking this week here More: Craig Allen Cooper is a USA Today bestselling author and keynote speaker. He co-wrote the book "Glad You're Here" with Grammy-nominated country singer and songwriter, Walker Hayes. "Glad You're Here" instantly became a Publisher's Weekly, ECPA, and USA Today national bestseller and has been featured on The Today Show, People Magazine, The 700 Club, Jesus Calling, and Family Life Radio, as well as various other news sources, radio and television programs and podcasts, including That Sounds Fun with Annie F. Downs and Dream Big with Bob Goff.  Craig served as one of the founding pastors of Redeeming Grace Church in Franklin, Tennessee and is the founder of Glad You’re Here Ministries. He is the subject of the song "Craig" by Walker Hayes, and he resides in the greater Nashville area with his lovely wife, Laura, and their four kids. You can follow Craig on Instagram @craigallencooper and for more information or for speaking inquiries, please visit www.craigallencooper.com/speaking. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Join us for a powerful conversation with Justin and Trisha Davis about breaking the cycles that hurt our relationships. From navigating infidelity to rebuilding trust, they share how understanding their Enneagram dynamic as an 8w7 and 3w2 couple has transformed their marriage and ministry. Discover practical wisdom for breaking free from shame, resentment, and fear while creating new patterns of connection. Whether you're facing betrayal or seeking to prevent it, this episode offers hope for lasting change—one choice at a time. 🌟💫 Watch on YouTube: https://youtu.be/HuWf6-oE3h0 Get their brand new book, One Choice Away from Change: Break the Cycles That Hurt Your Relationships and Hold You Back, here! https://a.co/d/8ybdlXf Find Trisha and Justin at Refine Us Minstry: https://www.instagram.com/refineus/ Visit them at www.justinandtrisha.com or www.refineus.com (download the first two chapters, free!) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Join Christa and award-winning writer and professor Kimberly Phinney for a tender yet powerful conversation about navigating suffering in marriage. Through her own journey with critical illness and her work as a poet and literature scholar, Kimberly shares how pain can become a doorway to deeper connection. Discover how writing becomes medicine, how presence matters more than perfection, and how to find unexpected gifts in life's darkest seasons as spouses by one another's sides through sickness and in health. Whether you're in the midst of suffering or supporting a partner through pain, this episode offers hope, practical wisdom, and a gentle reminder that beauty can grow in broken places. 🌱💫 Listen on YouTube: https://youtu.be/r8M0OKRAWDg Kimberly is a professional helper and artist completing her doctorate in community care and counseling. She is a professor, writer, editor, and counselor. During her critical illness in 2021-2022, she began dreaming about The Way Back to Ourselves and founded it in August of 2022. She is an award-winning and Pushcart Prize Nominated poet, and her writing has been published in Christianity Today, Ekstasis, Fathom, Truly Co, Radix, Calla Press, Humana Obscura, The Dewdrop, and many others. Her debut poetry collection, Of Wings & Dirt, which is inspired by her health journey, infertility, and miraculous motherhood, was published in April 2024 with Wipf & Stock and was a #1 New Release and Best Seller on Amazon. She is also at work on her next poetry collection and a nonfiction book on suffering and healing. She has been featured on Good Morning America and ABC News. Visit Kimberly's website here: https://www.thewayback2ourselves.com/about Visit Kimberly on Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/thewayback2ourselves/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Join us for this powerful conversation with Julie Menanno, LMFT (@TheSecureRelationship), whose work has helped millions transform their attachment patterns. From her national bestseller, Secure Love: Create a Relationship That Lasts a Lifetime, to her viral Instagram insights, Julie brings practical wisdom about creating lasting security in relationships via the attachment lens and her emotionally focused therapy couples work. Whether you're navigating anxious or avoidant patterns, or seeking to build deeper trust, this episode offers hope and concrete steps toward secure, lasting connection. Get ready to transform how you love right here! 🌟💫 Watch on YouTube: https://youtu.be/XAn7LnsM0oQ In this powerful episode, discover: Why certain patterns keep showing up in relationships How to move from anxious or avoidant to secure What security actually looks like in daily moments Practical steps for building lasting trust Find her website and podcast here: https://www.thesecurerelationship.com/ Read Dr. Julie Mennano's best-selling book here! https://www.amazon.com/Secure-Love-Create-Relationship-Lifetime/dp/1668012863 Looking for coaching help? Don't forget to sign up for the Enneagram Intensive for a deeper dive with Christa here! https://enneagramandmarriage.myflodesk.com/intensive Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Ever wonder why your partner acts completely different under stress? Join Christa as we explore the Enneagram arrows - your map to understanding relationship patterns in both stress and growth, as we move expansively from just your main type to see other typical moves we can expect from each Enneagram pattern. Whether you're navigating challenges or building connection, discover how these natural movements affect your marriage. Perfect for couples seeking deeper understanding of their relationship dynamics! 🌟💫 Watch on YouTube: https://youtu.be/RYZRehYmep4 The Wholehearted Summit free sign up is here for you! https://www.simplywholehearted.com/2025-wholehearted-abundance-summit-registration-page?ref=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.simplywholehearted.com%2Fa%2F2148060925%2FMhoTboBT Looking for coaching help? Don't forget to sign up for the Enneagram Intensive for a deeper dive with Christa https://enneagramandmarriage.myflodesk.com/intensive Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Join us for a powerful must-listen conversation with bestselling author Sheila Rae Gregoire, 8, about creating true partnership in marriage. Using evidence-based research and biblical wisdom, Sheila and her team challenge outdated stereotypes while offering practical paths to genuine intimacy! Whether you're seeking deeper connection or wanting to build a stronger team approach with your spouse, this episode offers fresh perspective and real hope. Get ready for truth that transforms! 🌟💫 Listen on YouTube: https://youtu.be/PhcocdJomLw Get Sheila's book here on pre-order! https://a.co/d/8yqOfgU (Ships out March 11, 2025) Join the Enneagram Relationship Intensive (Limited Space!) https://enneagramandmarriage.myflodesk.com/intensive We would love to hear from you! Leave your questions or messages for Christa or contact us for coaching or other questions right here: https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/contact-us For more freebies and fun, check out the website, www.EnneagramandMarriage.com and our Instagram @EnneagramandMarriage Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Join Christa as we explore the transformative power of letting your partner be exactly who they are as we pair the Mel Robbins' "Let Them" theory with the Enneagram. Discover how releasing the need to fix, change, or perfect your spouse creates deeper connection and authentic love. Whether you're learning to release control or seeking to understand differences, this episode offers practical wisdom for creating more freedom in your marriage. Get ready to transform your relationship through the power of permission! Perfect for couples ready to exchange improvement for acceptance. 🌟💫 Watch on YouTube! Join the Enneagram Relationship Intensive (Limited Space!) https://enneagramandmarriage.myflodesk.com/intensive We would love to hear from you! Leave your questions or messages for Christa or contact us for coaching or other questions right here: https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/contact-us For more freebies and fun, check out the website, www.EnneagramandMarriage.com and our Instagram @EnneagramandMarriage Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Timing can make or break a crucial conversation in marriage. Learn the science-backed best times for difficult discussions, understand your partner's readiness signals, and discover type-specific approaches to timing-sensitive conversations. Transform potential conflicts into opportunities for deeper connection. We talk about the tips through the lens of the most powerful marriage systems, Gottman, EFT, CBT, IFS, and of course, Enneagram! Listen here! Watch on YouTube: https://youtu.be/n6o3naNkaYs Join the Enneagram Relationship Intensive (Limited Space!) https://enneagramandmarriage.myflodesk.com/intensive We would love to hear from you! Leave your questions or messages for Christa or contact us for coaching or other questions right here: https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/contact-us For more freebies and fun, check out the website, www.EnneagramandMarriage.com and our Instagram @EnneagramandMarriage Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Join us with bestselling author Tori Hope Petersen as we explore breaking free from patterns that hold us back in relationships just as she launches her new book, "Breaking the Patterns That Break You: Healing From the Pain of Your Past and Finding Real Hope That Lasts". From foster care to flourishing family, Tori shares powerful insights about healing generational wounds while building healthy connection. Whether you're carrying childhood patterns or supporting a partner through healing, this episode offers hope and practical wisdom for breaking cycles and building love. Get ready for deep truth and transformative hope! 🌱✨ Tori Hope Petersen is a bestselling author, sought-after speaker, Bible teacher, and lover of people. Since coming to faith, she has shared her testimony and life as authentically as she can to offer hope to others. Named by Outreach Magazine as one of “20 Rising Leaders for This Generation and the Next,” Tori is known for her compassionate voice on the topic of healing juxtaposed with her fierce advocacy work for the vulnerable. At home she is a wife and mama who enjoys cooking with her children. With a deep value for family, community, and hospitality, Tori and her family love to make extra food for whoever might stop by. Watch on YouTube! https://youtu.be/bNtGjN9d9ec Find Tori's brand-new book right here! https://www.amazon.com/Breaking-Patterns-That-Break-You/dp/1400250048 Find Tori's website here! https://www.torihopepetersen.com/ We would love to hear from you! Leave your questions or messages for Christa or contact us for coaching or other questions right here: https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/contact-us For more freebies and fun, check out the website, www.EnneagramandMarriage.com and our Instagram @EnneagramandMarriage Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Join us with EJ Kerwin, LPC and Terah Kerwin, LMFT (5-2 pairing), founders of Relationship Renovation as we explore how every couple can build secure, stable connections together. Drawing from their work with countless couples across seasons and temperament combinations, join us for an episode filled with wisdom for creating unshakeable bonds. Whether you're naturally anxious or avoidant, an external processor or internal thinker, this episode offers hope and concrete steps for deepening your connection. Get ready to transform your relationship's foundation! 🏠💫 Watch on YouTube Find help with Relationship Renovation here: https://relationshiprenovation.com/ Follow EJ & Terah on Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/relationship_renovation/ We would love to hear from you! Leave your questions or messages for Christa or contact us for coaching or other questions right here: https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/contact-us For more freebies and fun, check out the website, www.EnneagramandMarriage.com and our Instagram @EnneagramandMarriage Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Join Christa as we explore the delicate dance of healing childhood wounds within marriage. Discover how to create safe spaces for growth, understand your partner's healing journey, and navigate triggers with grace. Whether you're supporting a partner through their past pain or seeking understanding of your own patterns, this episode offers practical wisdom and hopeful strategies for growing together. Let's transform old wounds into deeper connection! 🌟💫 Watch on YouTube ✨Join the Enneagram & Marriage Coaching and Masterclass Certification with Christa here! https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/the-e-m-coaching-masterclass We would love to hear from you! Leave your questions or messages for Christa or contact us for coaching or other questions, connect right here: https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/contact-us For more freebies and fun, check out the website, www.EnneagramandMarriage.com and our Instagram @EnneagramandMarriage Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Ready to move beyond theory into real transformation? Join us as bestselling author Stephanie Barron Hall unpacks how different types accidentally trigger each other, why some people love conflict while others run from it, and what to do when communication styles clash. Whether you're new to the Enneagram or a seasoned explorer, this episode offers fresh insights and practical tools for real-life growth. Get ready to understand yourself and others in a whole new way! 🌟💫 Watch on YouTube Find Steph's website and book bonuses here! https://www.ninetypes.co/enneagram-in-real-life Find Steph on Instagam here! https://www.instagram.com/ninetypesco/ We would love to hear from you! Leave your questions or messages for Christa or contact us for coaching or other questions right here: https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/contact-us For more freebies and fun, check out the website, www.EnneagramandMarriage.com and our Instagram @EnneagramandMarriage Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Ever feel like your partner's Enneagram patterns are pulling you into a dance you didn't sign up for? In this transformative episode, we explore how to support your partner's growth journey without losing yourself in their challenges. Using real-life examples (including a story about a faulty airplane seat!), discover practical ways to love your partner through their growth edge while staying grounded in your own path. Get ready for freedom, joy, and deeper connection! 🌟✨ Watch on YouTube ✨Join the Enneagram & Marriage Coaching and Masterclass Certification with Christa here! Use code MARRIAGE for $500 off! https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/the-e-m-coaching-masterclass We would love to hear from you! Leave your questions or messages for Christa or contact us for coaching or other questions right here: https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/contact-us For more freebies and fun, check out the website, www.EnneagramandMarriage.com and our Instagram @EnneagramandMarriage Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

What happens when your kids grow up and start their own families? How do you maintain boundaries while building bridges? In this heart-warming episode, Ro Elliot shares wisdom about using the Enneagram to navigate family transitions with grace. Whether you're becoming a grandparent, welcoming new in-laws, or simply watching your family dynamics evolve, this episode offers practical insights for growing together through life's changes. Get ready for stories, strategies, and soulful wisdom about creating a legacy of love! 🌟👨‍👩‍👧‍👦✨ Find Ro on her website here: https://www.roelliottconsulting.com/ Find Ro on Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/roelliott/?hl=en We would love to hear from you! Leave your questions or messages for Christa or contact us for coaching or other questions right here: https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/contact-us For more freebies and fun, check out the website, www.EnneagramandMarriage.com and our Instagram @EnneagramandMarriage Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Think you know the Enneagram? Think again! This myth-busting episode challenges common stereotypes about each type, including the often-misunderstood Types 6 & 9. We're diving deep into why behavior doesn't equal type, how health levels change everything, and why motivation matters more than actions. Perfect for both beginners and experienced Enneagram enthusiasts who want to move beyond surface-level understanding. Get ready to challenge what you think you know about each type! 🔍💫 Watch on YouTube: https://youtu.be/NNTT12VY8xI Helping the LA Wildfire victims here: https://www.empoweredwithgina.com/lawildfire We would love to hear from you! Leave your questions or messages for Christa or contact us for coaching or other questions right here: https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/contact-us For more freebies and fun, check out the website, www.EnneagramandMarriage.com and our Instagram @EnneagramandMarriage Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Confused about your Enneagram type? In this beginner-friendly episode, we're exploring three powerful ways to understand your type: through Intelligence Centers (Head, Heart, Gut), Harmonic Groups (how you handle problems), and Harmony Groups (how you move through life). Whether you process through thinking, feeling, or doing, this episode will help you find your home in the Enneagram. Get ready for clear, practical insights that make type-finding feel less overwhelming! 🧭 Watch on YouTube: https://youtu.be/FcMgb2WjgII Help the LA Wildfire victims here: https://www.empoweredwithgina.com/lawildfire ✨Become an Enneagram & Marriage Coach and come to Zoom class this semester with Christa here! Use code MARRIAGE for $500 off! https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/the-e-m-coaching-masterclass For more freebies and fun, check out the website www.EnneagramandMarriage.com and our Instagram @EnneagramandMarriage Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Ever wonder why your partner's different approach to life - the very things that sometimes drive you crazy - might be exactly what you need? In this energizing episode of Enneagram and Marriage, we explore the beautiful paradox of how our partner's contrasting Enneagram type isn't just a challenge - it's actually our greatest opportunity for personal growth! Whether you're a detailed Type 1 married to a spontaneous Type 7, or a peace-keeping Type 9 with an assertive Type 8, discover how these differences are secretly sculpting you into your best self. Get ready for powerful aha moments and practical strategies to transform relationship friction into personal gold! 🎯✨ Watch on YouTube: https://youtu.be/bblX2C-rFPA Become an Enneagram & Marriage Coach and come to Zoom class this semester with Christa here! Use code MARRIAGE for $500 off! https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/the-e-m-coaching-masterclass For more freebies and fun, check out the website, www.EnneagramandMarriage.com and our Instagram @EnneagramandMarriage Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Ready to unlock the hidden superpower your Enneagram type brings to your marriage? This week on Enneagram and Marriage, we're diving into each type's unique gifts that can transform an ordinary relationship into an extraordinary one! From the Type 2s emotional intelligence to the Type 5s depth of insight, every type has a special gift that can revolutionize your connection. Whether you're new to the Enneagram or a seasoned enthusiast, you'll discover fresh ways to leverage your natural strengths and appreciate your partner's contributions. Get ready to supercharge your marriage with type-specific wisdom! 💪💑 Watch on YouTube: https://youtu.be/-fNMmM715Aw We would love to hear from you! Leave your questions or messages for Christa or contact us for coaching or other questions right here: https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/contact-us For more freebies and fun, check out the website, www.EnneagramandMarriage.com and our Instagram @EnneagramandMarriage Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Here on the very first episode of the year on the Enneagram & Marriage Podcast, we're exploring what meaningful resolutions look like for each Enneagram type within marriage. We'll talk about why blanket advice like "communicate better" might resonate differently with a One than it does with a Seven. We'll discuss how a Four's path to being more present looks vastly different from a Three's journey to the same goal. Most importantly, we also focus on authenticity. Because the most powerful resolutions aren't about changing who you are - they're about becoming more fully yourself in your marriage. They're about understanding your unique gifts and challenges, and using that awareness to grow closer to your partner. So whether you're an Eight learning to embrace vulnerability, a Two discovering healthy boundaries, or a Nine finding your voice in your relationship - this episode is about crafting resolutions that honor your true self while strengthening your marriage. Let's move beyond the surface-level changes that don't stick, and instead, dive into the kind of intentional growth that transforms relationships from the inside out. Are you ready? Let's dive in - together! Also, our E + M Membership, the Collective, is here and open for membership now Jan 1-8th!! Join here for only $29 a month and get four extra joy-filled, practical marriage coaching new episodes a month just for you along with a monthly training Zoom call with Christa, and more here! https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/membership-join For more freebies and fun, check out the website, www.EnneagramandMarriage.com and our Instagram @EnneagramandMarriage Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Ready to celebrate your love story? In this intimate year-end episode, Christa guides you and your partner through capturing your most precious moments of 2024. From belly laughs to breakthrough conversations, you'll preserve the magic of your journey while planting seeds for an even deeper connection in 2025. With our free interactive prompts (and worksheet for Collective members), you'll discover the beautiful wisdom hidden in your everyday moments together. Don't let these memories fade - let's turn them into gold - together!! Watch on YouTube! https://youtu.be/KS1il2uPg20 Make sure you visit www.EnneagramandMarriage.com. Use the code for your own HOLIDAYLOVE for $10 off any product this holiday!! Use the code NEWYEAR2025 for your E + M 52 Week Couple's Planner for $20 off here!: https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/enneagram-glow-planner You can also get the deals on Dating Divas sexy subscription and more here! https://shop.thedatingdivas.com/?sca_ref=6272364.4hv7IY3580 We would love to hear from you! Leave your questions or messages for Christa or sign up for coaching RIGHT HERE: https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/contact-us Sign Up For the E + M WEEKLY NEWSLETTER here: https://enneagramandmarriage.myflodesk.com/olivbuf96o We share new posts each week @ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/enneagramandmarriage/?hl=en Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/772026686525647 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@enneagramandmarriage?lang=en Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

On today's soul-stirring episode, Christa welcomes a special guest – her husband Wes. As a social dominant, Wes has spent years mastering the delicate art of balancing his natural pull toward community and connection with the equally vital needs of self-preservation and one-on-one intimacy. Join us for an intimate conversation that weaves through the landscape of instinctual drives, exploring how we can honor our core nature while growing into our blind spots. Whether you're social-first like Wes or simply curious about the dance between giving to others and nurturing yourself, this episode offers wisdom, vulnerability, and practical insights for anyone seeking to harmonize their instinctual drives. Tune in for a conversation that might just change how you understand yourself and your relationships. Watch on YouTube https://youtu.be/MOejYRMyuWs Use code SAVE50 here for 50% off of the Discovering Your Desires (Instincts) PDF for a spouse stocking stuffer!! https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/discovering-your-desires-together/p/the-three-desires-a-deeper-dive-wthe-enneagram-instincts-in-relationship Make sure you visit www.EnneagramandMarriage.com. Use the code SAVE50 for half off this holiday!! You can also get the deals on Dating Divas sexy subscription and more here! https://shop.thedatingdivas.com/?sca_ref=6272364.4hv7IY3580 We would love to hear from you! Leave your questions or messages for Christa or sign up for coaching RIGHT HERE: https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/contact-us Sign Up For the E + M WEEKLY NEWSLETTER here: https://enneagramandmarriage.myflodesk.com/olivbuf96o We share new posts each week @ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/enneagramandmarriage/?hl=en Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/772026686525647 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@enneagramandmarriage?lang=en Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Tis the season where you can get SO busy with trying to wrap things up at work or school that you can forget the kind of things you can wrap up in terms of presents for your people - and the kinds of gifts that just can't be wrapped up, too, like fun experiences together. This holiday, take our team’s reminders of some of the classics that each of the Enneagram types enjoys being gifted this season, as well as for some tips to help you simply appreciate the gift-giver themselves. Listen right here! Get today's 5 for 500 session package for the year ahead! https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/buy-a-coaching-session-or-package/p/5-session-glow-up-coaching-package-rl2xy Make sure you visit www.EnneagramandMarriage.com. Use the code for your own HOLIDAYLOVE for $10 off any product this holiday!! You can also get the deals on Dating Divas sexy subscription and more here! https://shop.thedatingdivas.com/?sca_ref=6272364.4hv7IY3580 We would love to hear from you! Leave your questions or messages for Christa or sign up for coaching RIGHT HERE: https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/contact-us Sign Up For the E + M WEEKLY NEWSLETTER here: https://enneagramandmarriage.myflodesk.com/olivbuf96o We share new posts each week @ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/enneagramandmarriage/?hl=en Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/772026686525647 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@enneagramandmarriage?lang=en Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

The people in the fictional town of Pawnee, Indiana try their best to make sure the world is run according to the best of their ideals on one of the world's favorite shows to binge, Parks and Rec. The show, a political satire, is ultimately a tribute to loving your neighbor even when your neighbor is frustrating for you and has different ideals. Today, Christa and Melody are taking a fun time-out during the holiday rush to collaborate on typing the show's biggest personalities. We hope you’ll enjoy typing them with us in this just-for-fun E + M episode! Music added by Jack Hardin Watch on Youtube! Get on the email list here for the 12 Days of Christmas sales! https://enneagramandmarriage.myflodesk.com/kcxt8k7431 Make sure you visit www.EnneagramandMarriage.com. Use the code for your own HOLIDAYLOVE for $10 off any product this holiday!! You can also get the deals on Dating Divas sexy subscription and more here! https://shop.thedatingdivas.com/?sca_ref=6272364.4hv7IY3580 We would love to hear from you! Leave your questions or messages for Christa or sign up for coaching RIGHT HERE: https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/contact-us Sign Up For the E + M WEEKLY NEWSLETTER here: https://enneagramandmarriage.myflodesk.com/olivbuf96o We share new posts each week @ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/enneagramandmarriage/?hl=en Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/772026686525647 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@enneagramandmarriage?lang=en Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

When something really hard hits you around the holidays, you need both help and hope. Today’s mini-episode delivers both, and adds a spark of joy to ground you as many times as you need it as you reflect, heal, and honor the harder days and moments in your life and what they mean. Join Christa here for three important tips during or after a dark night of the soul. Watch on YouTube! https://youtu.be/L7wyHt8ORWo Get on the E + M email list! https://enneagramandmarriage.myflodesk.com/kcxt8k7431 Make sure you visit www.EnneagramandMarriage.com for all of our freebies, goodies, and gift ideas. Use the code for your own HOLIDAYLOVE for $10 off any product this holiday!! We have so many products, including our new MBTI rollout over at www.MyersBriggsandMarriage.com! You can also get the deals on Dating Divas sexy subscription and more here! https://shop.thedatingdivas.com/?sca_ref=6272364.4hv7IY3580 We would love to hear from you! Leave your questions or messages for Christa or sign up for coaching RIGHT HERE: https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/contact-us Sign Up For the E + M WEEKLY NEWSLETTER here: https://enneagramandmarriage.myflodesk.com/olivbuf96o We share new posts each week @ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/enneagramandmarriage/?hl=en Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/772026686525647 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@enneagramandmarriage?lang=en Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

"The way to unity is not through uniformity, it is through understanding and loving the other." - Lore Ferguson Wilbert. Whether it’s your spouse, family member, or your neighbor, it’s not always easy loving someone with differences. Yet chemistry is not sameness, and today we are grateful to have Christianity Today book award author Lore Ferguson, 9 (9w8 and 6w5 pairing), Wilbert on the pod today to encourage us in a Christ-like loving of the other - whatever that means - in our lives. We also enjoy talking about Lore's beautiful book, The Understory as she helps us to see the parallels of Christian faith in the resilience and rootedness found in the minutiae and cycles of the natural world. May we truly find the courage to step into the community and love those who believe differently as we learn from Lore here on today's show. Watch on YouTube: https://youtu.be/NmkQQHVh-bI More about Lore: Lore Ferguson Wilbert is an award winning writer, thinker, learner, and author of the books, The Understory, A Curious Faith and Handle With Care. She has written for She Reads Truth, Christianity Today, and more, as well as her own site, lorewilbert.com. She has a Masters in Spiritual Formation and Leadership and loves to think and write about the intersection of human formation and the gritty stuff of earth. You can find Lore on Instagram @lorewilbert. She lives with her husband Nate and their pups, Harper and Rilke, in southeastern Pennsylvania. She really has read all the books on her shelves. Find Lori’s community of Substack members over at: https://lorewilbert.com/ Make sure you visit www.EnneagramandMarriage.com. Use the code for your own HOLIDAYLOVE for $10 off any product this holiday!! We have so many products, including our new MBTI rollout over at our sister site www.MyersBriggsandMarriage.com! You can also get the deals on Dating Divas sexy subscription and more here! https://shop.thedatingdivas.com/?sca_ref=6272364.4hv7IY3580 We would love to hear from you! Leave your questions or messages for Christa or sign up for coaching RIGHT HERE: https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/contact-us Sign Up For the E + M WEEKLY NEWSLETTER here: https://enneagramandmarriage.myflodesk.com/olivbuf96o We share new posts each week @ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/enneagramandmarriage/?hl=en Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/772026686525647 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@enneagramandmarriage?lang=en Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

The busy times over the holidays can truly take a person -- and a marriage -- down to an unhealthy level if they're not intentionally stepping into life with faithful steps. Don't miss this refreshing take on how the Enneagram Instincts/Desires can help you fall into rhythms of being present to rest, loving, and giving this season and beyond in this E + M Mini-Episode! Watch on YouTube: https://youtu.be/IEbo4wm-AwM Resources Mentioned In This Episode: The Desires/Instincts Freebie is here: The Three Desire: A Deeper Dive w/The Enneagram Instincts in Relationship is Here: https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/discovering-your-desires-together/p/the-three-desires-a-deeper-dive-wthe-enneagram-instincts-in-relationship Make sure you visit www.EnneagramandMarriage.com. Use the code for your own HOLIDAYLOVE for $10 off any product this holiday!! We have so many products, including our new MBTI rollout over at www.MyersBriggsandMarriage.com! You can also get the deals on Dating Divas sexy subscription and more here! https://shop.thedatingdivas.com/?sca_ref=6272364.4hv7IY3580 We would love to hear from you! Leave your questions or messages for Christa or sign up for coaching RIGHT HERE: https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/contact-us Sign Up For the E + M WEEKLY NEWSLETTER here: https://enneagramandmarriage.myflodesk.com/olivbuf96o We share new posts each week @ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/enneagramandmarriage/?hl=en Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/772026686525647 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@enneagramandmarriage?lang=en Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Advent begins in the dark, and at this weary time of year, we truly need reminders of what we can hope for and how we can remain with one another, despite the hardest hurts that make us want to draw away. As we do so, we're joined by the exquisitely talented, award-winning writer and senior editor at Harper One, Stephanie Duncan Smith, 4 (4-8 pairing) as she talks about her new book that addresses finding light even after darkness, Even After Everything: The Spiritual Practice of Knowing the Risks and Loving Anyway. Today we get to process what Advent means as we enter the season, but moreover, we get to hear Stephanie‘s rich stories about the ways that she has encountered finiteness and loss and also opened herself up to joy even after harrowing experiences of both live births and pregnancy losses during the Advent season. During Advent and beyond, do not miss this journey of sharing our hopes and desires to cope after our losses. Join us for a beautiful and hope-filled episode right here. Watch on YouTube: https://youtu.be/ZYIyTVmdx8k More About Stephanie: Stephanie Duncan Smith is a writer and senior editor at HarperOne who has spent her career developing award-winning and bestselling authors. She is the creator of Slant Letter, a bestselling Substack email newsletter for writers looking to deepen their craft and do it in style. Duncan Smith completed her master’s in theology at Western Theological Seminary, where she was the winner of the Frederick Buechner Prize for Excellence in Writing. She lives with her husband, Zach, a professor, and their two children in Harrisburg, Pennsylvania. Show Notes: Get Stephanie‘s brand new title here this Advent: Even After Everything: The Spiritual Practice of Knowing the Risks and Loving Anyway : https://a.co/d/f5w6z5Z Follow Stephanie on Substack, the Slant Letter right here: https://substack.com/@stephanieduncansmith Find Stephanie on Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/stephduncansmith/?hl=en Also, make sure you visit www.EnneagramandMarriage.com for all of our deals using the code HOLIDAYLOVE for $10 off so many products, including our new MBTI rollout over at www.MyersBriggsandMarriage.com! You can also get the deals on Dating Divas sexy subscription and more here! https://shop.thedatingdivas.com/?sca_ref=6272364.4hv7IY3580 We would love to hear from you! Leave your questions or messages for Christa or sign up for coaching RIGHT HERE: https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/contact-us Sign Up For the E + M WEEKLY NEWSLETTER here: https://enneagramandmarriage.myflodesk.com/olivbuf96o We share new posts each week @ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/enneagramandmarriage/?hl=en Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/772026686525647 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@enneagramandmarriage?lang=en Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Often couples have a mismatch in their sexual desire, and sometimes that desire is stronger in the females, not just the males, contrary to popular belief, and the reasons are complex, no matter the case for either spouse. Whatever your story is, today's episode reminds you of ways you can discuss and work through your mismatched sexual desire as you walk through through this busy season with beautiful connection as well. Also, make sure you visit www.EnneagramandMarriage.com for all of our deals using the code HOLIDAYLOVE for $10 off so many products, including our new MBTI rollout over at www.MyersBriggsandMarriage.com! You can also get the deals on Dating Divas sexy subscription and more here! https://shop.thedatingdivas.com/?sca_ref=6272364.4hv7IY3580 Watch on YouTube: https://youtu.be/yQ4t3GG8g20 We would love to hear from you! Leave your questions or messages for Christa or sign up for coaching RIGHT HERE: https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/contact-us Sign Up For the E + M WEEKLY NEWSLETTER here: https://enneagramandmarriage.myflodesk.com/olivbuf96o We share new posts each week @ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/enneagramandmarriage/?hl=en Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/772026686525647 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@enneagramandmarriage?lang=en Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices