Welcome to The Encore Podcast – honest conversations about life, relationships, identity and what happens when you realise you're ready for something different.
In this episode, I'm joined by Elizabeth Hammond, a neuroscience coach who understands something that fascinates me:
Why we can know we need to change - and still find it incredibly difficult to actually do it, because starting again isn't just about changing your circumstances, sometimes you have to change the thinking that created them.
We talk about what happens to our brains as we move through major life transitions and why familiar patterns can be so difficult to break – even when those patterns aren't necessarily making us happy.
Why do we keep choosing the same type of partner?
Why can confidence disappear after divorce, rejection or a major life change?
Why do intelligent, successful people sometimes remain stuck in situations they know aren't right for them and perhaps the biggest question of all, can we actually rewire ourselves?
We explore confidence, fear, self-belief and the stories we tell ourselves about who we are, we openly talk about the difference between being alone and being lonely, the emotional baggage we carry into new relationships, and why starting again can feel simultaneously terrifying and incredibly exciting and we ask whether, by the time we reach our 40s and 50s, our life experience makes change harder - or whether knowing ourselves better actually gives us an extraordinary opportunity to do things differently.
Just because your past may explain your patterns, it doesn't necessarily have to dictate your future.
This is a fascinating conversation about our brains, our behaviour and the possibility of becoming something different - not by pretending the past didn't happen, but by understanding what it taught us.
If you've ever found yourself thinking, “Why do I keep doing this?”, this episode might make you look at the answer rather differently.
Welcome to Encore - because sometimes starting again begins with changing your mind.