We might feel young, but when it comes to the fashion, technology, lingo and trends that our kids are hip to, we are completely out of the loop. In this episode, Khadeen and Devale talk about how they are trying to keep up with what their kids know, so that they can be better parents. Dead Ass. 

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The first time sexologist and author Shan Boodram was on the show, she played the role of referee in a heated conversation about sex between this Ellises. 5 years, another child, and a vasectomy later, the conversation is a lot different. Dead Ass. 

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Sanya Richards-Ross is a mom, wife, entrepreneur and an Olympic medalist, many times over. For 18 years, she has been the fastest woman in America. But this year in at the Olympic games in Paris, we'll be watching to see if that record will make it to 19! In this episode of A Day With Kay, Khadeen talks with the world class athlete about her rise to track stardom, her family life, and being the owner of the official pajama line of the 2024 Olympic Games. Dead Ass. 

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The Dead Ass live tour kicked off in New York City and a time was had. The Ellises share some New York nostalgia, meet more couples, and answer more listener questions live!

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Khadeen and Devale are LIVE at The Buckhead Theatre in Atlanta, GA. The Ellises shared a night of love and laughter in ATL. Surprise guests Regina Hall and Sterling K. Brown stopped by to talk about their new movie Honk For Jesus. Save Your Soul. And the star of the new Sistas spinoff, Zatima, Crystal Renee Hayslett came through and blessed the stage with her soulful voice. 

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It's time for our favorite part of the show...For the whole show! In this episode, Khadeen and Devale read your listener letters and give their best advice. Dead Ass. 

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The passing of a central family member is never easy. Especially if they've left their assets behind without a plan. In this episode, the Ellises discuss what to do when you receive an inheritance, so that you can leave the next generation better off. 

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We rep our city, our town, our hoods – but you don’t know what you don’t know until you’ve been somewhere else. During their trip to Europe, Khadeen and Devale gained some major insight on what America looks like from the outside. In this episode, the Ellises talk about the growth they’ve experienced through traveling the world.

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Millennials have done the work to reclaim the power in our own sexuality. Wearing what we want. Not waiting until marriage to have sex. And taking pride in dating around before settling down. But can playing the field cost you your chance at long lasting commitment? The Ellises talk about it. Dead Ass.

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When it comes to making our dreams a reality, the real measure of success is your will to work. Discipline over everything. In this episode, Khadeen and Devale what habits help them to grind as hard as they do. Dead Ass.

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Black entrepreneurship is more popular than ever before as millennials learn how to build generational wealth. In this episode, Khadeen and Devale discuss bringing your business into your marriage, what it takes to leave your children set, and all the tea about running a business with your spouse. Dead Ass.

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When two become one, things get a little complicated. That’s why Khadeen and Devale think it’s important to take time and space for yourself when you’re in a relationship. In this episode, they discuss how they make time for themselves to keep their marriage strong. Dead Ass.

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"Value can only be determined by those willing to pay that cost." We're not talking about clothes, cars or jewelry. When it comes to choosing a lifetime partner, the way we value the attributes of another can be a distraction to sift through. In this episode, Khadeen and Devale talk the real meaning of high value when it come to romance. 

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When it comes to social media, the trolls be trolling! But when you live authentically, ain't nothing nobody can tell you, that you haven't already said. In this episode, Khadeen sits down with comedia, social media star and podcast host, B. Simone, about her journey to not giving AF about what the comments say. Dead Ass.

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Fame can be prosperous, glamorous and inspiring to others. But fame can also make a person feel like they are untouchable and above morality. In this episode, the Ellises talk about the true price of fame and what it takes to keep your integrity even when you're "famous". Dead ass. 

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In marriage, the obligations you have to your partner can be wearing. Especially if your main goal is not to serve your partner every day. But for the Ellises, their pursuit of peace outweighs any pressure they feel. In this episode, they'll tell you why. Dead ass. 

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While Black men are becoming more and more successful, the disproportionate rates of illness and death due to illness are also climbing. In this episode, Dr. Kelvin Brown breaks down the numbers and the ways Black men can prioritize their health now. Dead ass. 

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When it comes to physical fitness, the Ellises each have their own agenda. Devale’s gotta stay fit for the camera, Khadeen wants to snapback after her 4th child, Jackson is preparing to become the next Steph Curry, Kairo wants to be better than Jackson, and Kaz….well, Kaz doesn’t give a damn. But with all their different opinions on fitness, the gym is another place the Ellises build strong muscles and family values. Dead Ass.

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One thing the Ellises will do is take care of their mental health. And in this episode, they've invited licensed therapist Kier Gaines to help talk through some of their latest challenges. And yours too! Dead ass. 

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So you want to be an entrepreneur. But do you really know what it takes to build a business from the ground up? Khadeen and Devale give you the keys to entrepreneurship. Dead ass.

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You can never really know your partner until you live with them. Unlike their parents’ advice, the Ellises think shackin’ up is a good idea. Dead Ass.  

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The conversation about who foots the bill in relationships comes up every day on social media. Some think, if a man is a true provider, he’ll take on all of the financial responsibility. But others think, if a woman truly wants equality, she’ll be willing to split the bills 50/50. In this episode, Khadeen and Devale discuss what they think, and how they’ve made money work in their marriage. Dead ass.

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Social media can be a tool that you use for knowledge, inspiration and connection, that enriches the life you already love. Or social media can be a nagging reminder of all the things you hate about yourself. It all depends on what you choose to believe. In this episode, Khadeen and Devale talk about the ups and downs of social media. Dead Ass.

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Sometimes you have to take the road less traveled to get to your dream. In this episode, Khadeen chats with her sister, Sakari, about her unconventional route to the nursing career of her dreams. Dead Ass.

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We all like to feel helpful and important to our friends and loved ones. We help them when they’re sick, give them comfort when they’re sad, and advice when they complain. But all advice ain’t good advice. That’s why the Ellises have learned to keep people outside of their marriage out of their married business. Dead ass.  

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It’s Khadeen’s favorite part of the show…for the whole show. In this episode, the Ellises are getting all in your business to answer your listener letters!

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They say, when you’re up, your friends know who you are, but when you’re down you know who your friends are. The burden of being the one who made it is heavy, and in this episode, the Ellises talk about what it’s like to carry the weight. Dead ass.

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The same thing you do to get him, is what you gotta do to keep him, right? In this episode, Khadeen and Devale reveal all the little things they did during their days of dating that turned them into #MarriageGoals almost 20 years later. Dead ass.

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In moments of high frustration with kids, and there are many frustrating moments, parents can let their emotions get the best of them. Khadeen and Devale explain how they admit when they’re wrong and apologize to their kids. Dead ass.

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When a man is available and willing to be a father, his child’s mother should let him do so. Do you agree? In this episode, Khadeen and Devale discuss the challenges of trusting Dad to do what Mom can. Dead Ass.

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When it comes to family, the Ellises are sure to put theirs first. But with Khadeen’s parents living with them full time, it can get tough. In this episode, Khadeen and Devale tell us the whole truth about what it’s like to live with their parents. Dead Ass. 

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We all know someone that’s too clingy. Or we’ve had a partner that can’t or won’t express how they feel. But what you may not know, is that a person’s emotional response in relationships is an attachment style that they developed in their first 18 months of life! This episode is like group therapy when Khadeen and Devale talk to licensed therapist, Delena Zimmerman about attachment styles and how our childhoods determine the way we move in our adult relationships. Dead Ass.

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The term “Black excellence” can be a double edged sword. The pressure to be twice as good, and the burden of being Black enough can be a heavy task to bear. But in this episode, Khadeen and Devale explain the way they encourage and embrace their Princes on their journey to becoming Kings. Dead ass.

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When it comes to religion, Millennials are questioning what we were taught to believe. From the judgment we faced in church, to the condemnation of people whose lifestyles don’t gel with church folk, nowadays, adults are finding their own way to connect with God. In this episode, author, mother and born again Christian, Christina Price, shares her story. Dead ass.

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A Day With Kay is going on tour this September, and we're looking for the movers, shakers, motivators and stars in your city to tell their story! Write in to nominate yourself or someone you know to be feature in Chicago (9/5), Houston (9/8), Fort Lauderdale (9/20), or Los Angeles (9/22). Tell us why you think they should be featured. Send those letters to DeadAssAdvice@Gmail.com. #DeadAss

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Traditions are the cornerstones of a family. But sometimes those traditions are things like: keeping secrets, validating abusive behavior, and upholding toxic patterns. Khadeen and Devale think it’s time to break those family traditions and settle into some healthier traditions of your own. Dead ass.

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When you have a spouse, a job and multiple kids, it’s hard to find a moment for yourself. That’s why some parents are opting to hire help with their newborn’s needs while they take a few hours to do other things. But how much help is too much? In this episode, Khadeen and Devale discuss their method for getting help at home.

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The access we have to information in today’s world has created a generation of people who are much more equipped to deal with life’s ups and downs. And for social media personalities like Katryce Pedro AKA The Funny Momma, sharing their journey through hardships and triumphs helps create communities of people all over the world who are dealing with similar issues. In this episode, Khadeen and Devale talk with Katryce about her journey through motherhood and social media.

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Now that the Ellis crew has added another whole boy, are Khadeen and Devale done having kids? In this episode, the couple discuss if they’re done populating their village. Dead ass.

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When a woman is handling the changes in her body during pregnancy, her partner may want to be creative with ways to keep her feeling good and sexy. In this episode, Devale shares the ways he kept Khadeen feeling sexy to make sure the intimacy never wavered during pregnancy. Dead ass.

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After 40 weeks of pregnancy, the work of having a baby isn’t over. Khadeen and Devale bust the myths and discuss the facts to prepare you for the 4th trimester. Dead Ass.

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The line between life and death becomes its thinnest during childbirth. In this episode, the Ellises discuss their brush with death after Khadeen developed postpartum preeclampsia. Dead ass.

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Baby E4, Dakota Marley Ellis is here and the Ellises are savoring each moment with him as he starts to make his mark in the world. In this episode, Khadeen and Devale share their experience giving birth at home to their fourth whole boy. Dead Ass.  

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Congratulations to the Ellises who welcomed baby Dakota to the world! Come back for a new episode of Dead Ass on Wednesday, December 8th!

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The countdown to baby E4 is almost over, and the Ellises are getting ready for another home birth. In this episode, they answer all your questions about exactly what takes place during the birthing process and what’s different about giving birth at home. #DeadAss

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Devale is a star with a glow that can be seen from outer space. But don't get it twisted, Khadeen is the sun! In this episode, the Ellises talk about why A Day With Kay is a project they are pursuing now. Dead Ass.

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From Brooklyn to Atlanta, and hospitals to home births, the Ellises have stories for days about how the births of their 4 boys have been different. How’d they prepare for each of them? In this episode Khadeen and Devale explain. #DeadAss.

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Well into the third trimester, Khadeen’s ready for Baby E4 to make his appearance. But as Devale plays super Dad to make sure she’s ready for delivery, Khadeen’s got her hands full keeping Devale’s head in the game. In this episode, Khadeen gives her top 10 suggestions for what Dad needs during pregnancy. #DeadAss

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With 15 years of friendship and 9 kids between them, Khadeen and her bestie Bianca Smith have shared a lot of life. This week they’re letting us in on their lives and some of the craziest moments in their friendship. #DeadAss

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In a society where masculinity is synonymous with hardness, where does a man get to be open? Devale makes space for masculine vulnerability with his Sistas co-stars Kevin Walton and Trinity Whiteside in this episode. #DeadAss

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