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Together, Frank and Fiona explore:

– How music, neuroscience, and ancient wisdom converge to unlock human potential
– Why we confuse identity with performance and what it costs us
– The difference between peak performance and living a fully human life
– What Frank learned from burnout, breakdowns, and building himself back up
– The critical role of energy, movement, and emotional rhythm in daily life
– Why community is more powerful than we realize and more essential than ever
– The surprising truth about purpose (hint: it’s not what you do it’s who you are while doing it)
– How to reframe technology as a tool for humanity, not a substitute for it
– The overlooked magic of music — not as entertainment, but as medicine, memory, and emotional architecture

This episode is about thriving. Not by doing more, but by remembering who you are, how you connect, and what it means to be fully alive.

 

To learn more about Frank go to:
🔗 Frank’s work and writing: www.frankfitzpatrick.com
📖 Amplified: Unleash Your Potential Through the Power of Music
🎵 Explore Amplified and upcoming work on the future of music, AI, and human flourishing

For more from Fiona: www.fionamurden.com

For Fiona's substack go to: https://substack.com/@fionamurden

Frank Fitzpatrick is a Grammy-nominated music producer, best-selling author, filmmaker, and founder of Amplified and EarthTones. He is a global leader in using music and neuroscience to transform well-being, performance, and human connection across industries. Frank’s mission is simple but profound: help humanity flourish and co-create a ripple effect for good.

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

Together, Aoife and Fiona explore:

– How anticipatory stress affects cardiovascular, immune and cellular function, including signs of accelerated aging
– Why the brain can’t always tell the difference between real danger and imagined fear and how the body pays the price
– The often-overlooked power of social connection, even in fleeting micro-moments
– How visualisation, when used intentionally, can help the body step out of threat mode
– What Aoife’s research into a PTSD app and psychedelic therapy is revealing about trauma, healing, and personalisation

This is a conversation about stress but also about imagination, memory, connection, and the biology of feeling safe.

For more from Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com

Aoife's research can be found here UCSF Profiles

Aoife is Associate Professor of Psychiatry and Behavioral Sciences and Director of THRIVE Lab at the University of California, San Francisco and San Francisco Veterans Affairs Health Care System. Dedicated to uncovering the mechanisms by which psychological stress causes ill health and developing new treatments for stress-related health conditions.

 

Here are key takeaways from the conversation:

1. Small social interactions matter. Even brief, friendly interactions can positively impact your physiological stress response.

2. Practice resilience during calm periods:

• Build social relationships
• Engage in physical activity
• Try meditation and mindfulness
• Practice visualization techniques
• Learn breathing exercises

3. Start small with physical activity. If a full workout seems overwhelming, just start by moving a little - standing up, walking for a minute, or doing a short activity.

4. Recognize that stress is inevitable, but you can manage your response:

• Distinguish between threat and challenge perceptions
• Practice constraining anticipatory stress through visualization (see Fiona's book Defining You for more on how to do visualisation)
• Understand that your body responds similarly to imagined and real stressors

5. Prioritize physiological health to support psychological interventions:

• Exercise can help improve mental health
• Good physical health supports learning and memory
• Small, consistent actions can build resilience

6. Be compassionate with yourself and others:

• Understand that mental health symptoms are normal
• Small acts of kindness can significantly impact someone's stress response
• Helping others can also benefit your own mental health

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

Christian reveals a game-changing insight most people overlook: every time we listen, we bring an intention. Maybe to fix something. Maybe to understand. Maybe just to connect. But unless our intention matches what the other person actually needs, we miss the moment.
We can be kind, empathetic - and still leave them feeling unheard.

Drawing from his book (written with psychologist Robert Biswas-Diener), Christian introduces six distinct listening intentions - learning, understanding, solving, appreciating, connecting, influencing - and shows how choosing the right one can transform relationships, trust, and connection.

This isn’t just theory. Fiona and Christian share honest stories about when they got it wrong - and what it taught them about emotional intelligence, ego, and psychological safety. From leaders in the workplace to partners at home to fleeting interactions with strangers, this episode makes a bold claim:

Radical listening - when done with the right intention - is one of the most powerful relational tools we have.
And one of the most underused.

Whether you’re leading a team, raising a family, or just trying to build better connections in a noisy world, this conversation offers something rare:

A framework for listening that doesn’t just improve communication - it changes the way we are with others.

For more from Fiona go to:

www.fionamurden.com

Christian's book is out March 25 2025 

For more from Christian go to 

www.coachonmotorcycle.com

 

Practical Take-Aways from the Podcast on Radical Listening:

Matching Listening Intentions:

Before conversations, pause and consider: What does the other person want from this interaction?

Acknowledgement Techniques:

• Look for strengths in the other person
• Highlight things you admire about them

Quieting Inner Dialogue:

• Notice internal thoughts that might distract from listening
• Focus fully on the other person
• Minimize interrupting or thinking about your response

Practical Listening Experiments

• Listen to appreciate someone
• Ask "How can I be most helpful in this conversation?"
• Track the impact: How good did the interaction feel? (1-10 scale)

Connection Strategies

• Genuinely ask "How are you?" in everyday interactions
• Look people in the eye
• Show real interest in their responses
• Be open and curious
• Relationship Investment
• Practice listening as a way of building future relationship networks
• Invest time in quality interactions

 

 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

What We Cover in This Episode:

The Story Behind the Book

• Jenny explains how her Instagram community sparked the writing of Permission to Come Home.
• The book is a call to reclaim mental health, dismantle shame, and give ourselves permission—to question, feel, rage, play, and heal.

Cultural Nuance in Mental Health Care

• Why standard psychological approaches often fail Asian American clients.
• The importance of cultural humility, not just cultural competence, in therapy.
• How mental health systems must be decolonized to truly support diverse communities.

A Journey of Resilience and Defiance

• Jenny shares her path to becoming a clinical psychologist, including moments of discouragement—and the mentors who made all the difference.
• The role of persistence, privilege, and resilience in navigating academic and professional barriers.

The 10 Permissions We All Need

• Fiona highlights the structure of the book: ten chapters that grant “permission” to explore different aspects of mental health and identity.
• Jenny reflects on the vulnerability required to write the book—and why modeling that vulnerability matters.

Intergenerational Trauma & Healing

• A poignant story from Jenny’s mother’s childhood—and how those wounds are passed down, often unconsciously.
• The power of breaking cycles and choosing new, more loving ways of relating across generations.

Why Play Matters—Especially in Adulthood

• Jenny and Fiona explore how cultural dynamics often suppress play in favor of achievement.
• Play as a form of fuel, joy, and self-connection—especially for those in midlife.

Grief, Migration, and Identity

• The hidden grief of migration and the quiet loss of language, heritage, and belonging.
• Jenny speaks movingly about the emotional complexity of existing between two cultures—and the importance of honouring that experience.

Redefining Home

• What does it mean to truly come home to yourself?
• Jenny introduces her four core elements of “home”: safety, belonging, authenticity, and compassion—and how we can cultivate these in our relationships and communities.

Final Reflections

This episode is a heartfelt, illuminating conversation that touches on themes many of us carry but often don’t have words for. Whether you’re exploring your own identity or supporting others on their journey, Jenny’s insights offer a gentle but powerful guide.

 Here are some practical takeaways from the conversation:

• Practice Play: Integrate play into your daily life as a source of energy and sustainability, not just as a reward after hard work. Start with small activities that bring you joy and help you recharge.
• Embrace Vulnerability: Be willing to share your authentic experiences and emotions. This can help break cycles of shame and silence, especially around mental health.
• Reflect on Cultural Identity: Take time to explore your family history, understand intergenerational experiences, and appreciate the complexity of your cultural background.
• Create Conditions of Home: Cultivate safety, belonging, authenticity, and compassion in your relationships and personal spaces.
• Challenge Achievement-Based Self-Worth: Recognize your value beyond professional achievements. Practice slowing down and tolerating the discomfort of being less productive.
• Practice Cultural Humility: Approach different experiences and perspectives with openness, listening, and a willingness to learn.
• Break Negative Cycles: Consciously choose to parent, communicate, and interact differently from generational patterns that may have been harmful.
• Prioritize Mental Health: Seek support that understands your unique cultural context and validates your experiences.

These takeaways can help individuals develop more compassionate, balanced, and fulfilling lives across various cultural backgrounds.

Connect with Dr. Jenny Wang

• Website: www.asianformentalhealth.com
• Instagram: @asiansformentalhealth
• Book: Permission to Come Home — available wherever books are sold.

Connect with Fiona

• Website: www.fionamurden.com
• Instagram: @fionamurden
• LinkedIn: Fiona Murden
• Books: Defining You and Mirror Thinking

 Thank You for Listening

If this episode resonated with you, please consider subscribing, leaving a review, or sharing it with someone who might benefit from the conversation.

See you next time on Dot to Dot, where we continue to explore the patterns, insights, and human stories that connect us.

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

We talk about his fascinating background growing up in Singapore with the expectations that loomed over him. He shares a point where he felt he had failed, the shame that he experienced and the reflection that ensued in what some may consider unusual circumstances – in the jungle during 2 years military service. Nabil’s creativity started early in life but was further ignited by time spent at London College of Fashion, followed by roles held with three globally iconic brands – Urban Outfitters, Selfridges and most recently (at the tender age of 28) the position at Soho House. 

 

Nabil is hungry for growth, deeply committed to continually stretching himself and explains in simple terms how earlier on in life a lack of role-models while pursuing the creative route was hard… 

“I'm the guy who would, who would stay back sewing things or painting or whatever it might be. It was always a creative pursuit. It was always about expression. Definitely not football and definitely not playing with the lego set. That was My brother. And I guess at that point, I thought, Okay, this is what being a creative means, but I didn't have role models, then per se, to say, Oh, this is a career path, I couldn't make a living out of this. And Singapore back then was the be all and end all for me. I hadn't really travelled elsewhere, to say oh, you could be a creative director, whatever that means. So, at 15, you, you have a feeling, and you try to manifest as best as possible by eliminating options. And I think that's the hardest thing to do.”

But also, how having role-models as an adult enables him to craft his career with even more care. 

“One of the benefits of having role models in your career is that you get to reverse engineer your way? Checking is it OK? If you have 50 years of work life - how do you want to make the most of that time? How can you pace yourself? Most importantly, so that you are peaking at absolutely the right time, when you have the most to give.” 

 

If you are curious about who you are, your brain and the role-models and influences in your life then you may enjoy my most recent book Mirror Thinking – How Role Models Make Us Human. 

https://bit.ly/MirrThink

For more from me go to: 

https://fionamurden.com

 

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Jacob Nordby joins me to discuss his personal journey from feeling trapped in an outwardly successful entrepreneurial career to finding fulfillment through creativity and self-discovery. He reflects on how stepping back from societal definitions of success allowed him to reconnect with what truly mattered - expressing himself and helping others do the same.

We dive into:

• Creativity as a Life Force: How creativity is not limited to art or traditional “creative” work - it’s about feeling alive and expressing who you are, whether that’s through painting, sports, problem-solving, or how you show up in everyday life.
• Making Room for Creativity: The importance of carving out time for creative activities - even if they’re not your primary job - and how this can bring more energy and joy into every area of your life.
• What Blocks Creativity: Jacob explains the three biggest barriers that often shut down our creativity:
• Reconnecting with Your Creative Self: Why self-discovery, self-acceptance, and self-expression are key to breaking through these blocks - and how creativity often requires us to re-learn how to trust ourselves.
• A Balanced Approach: Jacob talks about integrating both left and right brain thinking - combining structure and logic with freedom and imagination - to nurture creativity in all aspects of life.

Jacob also shares insights from his book, The Creative Cure, which offers practical tools and exercises to help readers reconnect with their inner creative selves and find greater freedom and fulfillment.

If you enjoyed this episode, please rate, review, and follow the podcast—it helps others discover the show!

Tips to Take Away:

To apply the concept of "creating in the moment" to your daily life and work: 

• Be present and attentive to the current moment. Notice your senses, your thoughts, your feelings. Don't get caught up in the past or future.
• Look for opportunities to create something, even if small - a thoughtful email, a doodle, a new recipe, an engaging conversation. Focus on the process of creating, not just the end result.
• Approach tasks and challenges with a mindset of curiosity and exploration, rather than just trying to check things off a to-do list. See each moment as a chance to bring your creativity to bear.
• Take short breaks to reset and reconnect with your inner sense of aliveness and creativity. Even a few minutes of deep breathing or freewriting can help you tap into that energy.
• Experiment and play. Don't get attached to perfection. Allow your creations to be imperfect and evolving.

The key is to shift from seeing creativity as something you produce to a way of being present and engaged in each moment. This can help you feel more alive and fulfilled in both your work and personal life.

Resources:

• The Creative Cure by Jacob Nordby
• Find Jacob Norby at www.jacobnorby.com
• Follow Jacob Nordby: Facebook or Instagram @jacobnordby

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

Fiona is joined by friend, sports psychologist Lou Jones on this episode. They talk to Russ about how Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) can reach aspects of trauma that are otherwise so hard to treat. Russ explains how when people have experienced trauma and it is deeply held it’s far more difficult to reach and heal through words. Although it’s not impossible, it takes a lot longer and a match with the right therapist. While words can create pain, we don’t experience pain in words. The ACT approach to trauma goes first to the body and emotions which enables a much quicker recovery leading to what is known as Post Traumatic Growth. 

 

Links to Russ's books we refer to:

The Happiness Trap: Stop Struggling, Start Living by Russ Harris

Trauma Focussed ACT A Practitioner's Guide to Working with Mind, Body, and Emotion Using Acceptance and Commitment Therapy

 

For more from us follow these links: 

If you are curious about who you are, your brain and the influences in your life then please dip into my more recent book Mirror Thinking – How Role Models Make Us Human. 

My book Defining You - How to Build Your Unique Personal Profile and Unlock Your True Potential can be found at via the link and in all good book stores.

 

Connect with us/ask us any questions on:

Instagram:www.instagram.com/fiona_murden

Twitter:https://twitter.com/fionamurden

Facebook:https://facebook.com/fionamurden

 

Or for Lou

Instagram:www.instagram.com/loupylou78

Twitter:https://twitter.com/louisejones78

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

Referred to: 

Humankind by Rutger Bergman

https://www.hachettebookgroup.com/titles/rutger-bregman/humankind/9780316418553/?lens=little-brown

Bill Burr on People Online Commenting on the LA Fires 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=r7wcU4W4tDE

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Andrew explains the need for officers to know themselves really well, to know how to optimise their own recovery which is in part something helped through profiling and in part a process of self-discovery. In light of this Fiona and Andrew explore psychological profiling and how important it is to fit the right personality to the right operations and delve into the use of MBTI (Myers Briggs Type Indicator) as a tool used to help every officer in the CIA understand themselves. Andrew explains his view of the world as a former spy, that ‘every human being you meet is either a source or some kind of support asset or some kind of network capability.’ And they touch on various other topics such as the elite leader, elite surgeon, elite athlete or elite in any field who is perhaps less used to failure than the average joe, or more able to plough on in spite of failure. Andrew shares his view of this, that "their failure is not in their skill. Their failure is seen in the rate of alcohol abuse, that they have substance abuse, the divorce rates, the lack of sleep, the sociopathic tendencies, the psychopathic tendencies."

Andrew describes himself as an improvement junkie. He’s also a former covert CIA intelligence officer, US Air Force combat veteran, and Fortune 10 corporate advisor. He surrounds himself with knowledge, experiences, and people who help him grow and he look for opportunities to share what he’s learnt with others. 

For more from Fiona, her books, free resources and more go to www.fionamurden.com 

 

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Fiona and Robert explore the importance of intellectual curiosity, self-understanding, and the trade-offs between traditional careers and entrepreneurial pursuits. They delve into the concept of hospitality, its impact on life satisfaction, and discuss practical advice for increasing happiness and emotional resilience. Robert introduces his research on hospitality, examining its role in well-being and social trust across cultures. The conversation also covers the complex relationship between happiness and economic context, offering practical advice for increasing life satisfaction and emotional agility. Finally, they highlight the importance of connection and belonging for well-being and the need to teach social and emotional skills in schools and workplaces.

Dr Biswas-Diener is a leading authority on strengths, culture, courage, hospitality and happiness. His extensive research, has taken him to places like Greenland, India, and Kenya and resulted in over over 60 peer-reviewed academic articles and seven books, including The Upside of Your Dark Side. His expertise in cross-cultural psychology and well-being policy, have led to him contributing regularly to the Global Council for Happiness and Wellbeing. His work has also made a lasting impact on the coaching profession. When he’s not researching, he enjoys rock climbing and drawing, and lives in Portland, Oregon with his wife.

For more from Fiona go to:

www.fionamurden.com

For more from Dr. Biswas Diener go to: 

www.robertdiener.com 

 

 

 

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In 1942, Viktor Frankl faced unimaginable adversity as he was sent to Auschwitz. Amid the horrors of a Nazi concentration camp, Frankl observed a remarkable truth: those who found meaning and purpose, even in the darkest moments, displayed an unshakable resilience.These profound insights became the foundation of his groundbreaking work,Man’s Search for Meaning.

Building on Frankl’s work and modern psychological research, this episode of Life Connected™ unpacks the third pillar of resilience: Significance. 

Significance, purpose, and meaning are integral to resilience because they provide the "why" behind our actions, helping us navigate life’s toughest moments with clarity and determination. They ground us in our values and passions, offering a sense of direction when everything feels overwhelming. These elements do more than just help us endure—they empower us to grow, adapt, and find ways to contribute to something greater than ourselves. Viktor Frankl’s experiences remind us that even in the most harrowing circumstances, a connection to meaning can transform suffering into strength and purpose, offering an anchor of hope when we need it most.

Explore the power of the 3Ss—Self-Awareness, Social Connection, and Significance—to build your resilience muscle and create a life of deeper meaning and fulfillment.

To learn more about the Life Connected framework, read blogs and find upcoming courses go to:

www.fionamurden.com 

Mentioned in the podcast

Fiona's first book Defining You

Russ Harris' podcast discussion on Dot to Dot first episode 

Russ Harris' podcast discussion on Dot to Dot second episode 

The Values Exercise which can be found on Fiona’s website as a free resource. 

The Connection Tips which can be found here

The Strengths Exercises can be found here

 

 

 

 

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Fiona shares her 3S framework with the key elements to building emotional resilience —Self-Awareness, Social Connection, and Significance (the "3 S's"). Each episode will unpack one of these elements, providing you with practical strategies to enhance your emotional toolkit. This first episode is focussed on Social Connection. 

 

Throughout this podcast, you’ll discover science-backed methods to build your resilience, including giving to, receiving from and growing social connection. 

 

Tune in as we explore what it means to live a Life Connected—because you deserve to feel happier, more fulfilled, and truly in touch with what matters most to you.

To learn more about the Life Connected framework, read blogs and find upcoming courses go to:

www.fionamurden.com 

 

Mentioned in the podcast

Fiona's first book Defining You

 

 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

Fiona shares her 3S framework with the key elements to building emotional resilience —Self-Awareness, Social Support, and Significance (the "3 S's"). Each episode will unpack one of these elements, providing you with practical strategies to enhance your emotional toolkit. This first episode is focussed on Self-Awareness. 

Throughout this podcast, you’ll discover science-backed methods to build your resilience, including self-monitoring techniques, stress relievers and mindset strategies. We’ll also discuss how creating a sense of “home” within yourself can serve as a foundation for exploring your emotional landscape.

Tune in as we explore what it means to live a Life Connected—because you deserve to feel happier, more fulfilled, and truly in touch with what matters most to you.

To learn more about the Life Connected framework, read blogs and find upcoming courses go to:

www.fionamurden.com 

 

Mentioned in the podcast

Fiona's first book Defining You

Tasha Eurich's podcast episode on Dot to Dot

Kelly McGonigal's Ted talk about Stress

It was Daniel Siegel who used the term Human Family

 

 

 

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Calarco shares insights from her research, highlighting how the pandemic intensified the already heavy burdens placed on women revealing how they often became the primary caregivers when formal systems fell short. She discusses the impact of structural barriers within the USA, like underfunded social support systems, and how societal norms and expectations further pressure women into these roles, leading to feelings of guilt and exhaustion.

The conversation also explores the deep-rooted issues of gender roles and economic inequality, emphasizing the need for a reimagined approach to support networks. Jessica reflects on how these challenges connect to a broader history of individualism and inadequate social policies that have left women disproportionately carrying the load, especially within the United States.

Listeners are invited to reconsider the narratives around caregiving and to think critically about the collective responsibility needed to build a fairer, more supportive society. This episode serves as both a revealing look into modern motherhood and a call for systemic change.

For Jessica Calarco's site click here

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To connect with Fiona on social media go to:

Instagram

Linkedin 

 

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In this episode, we dive into the concept of authenticity versus emotional labor, exploring the powerful difference between "being" and "seeming." Drawing from psychology and real-world examples, we discuss the hidden costs of faking emotions, both on our mental and physical well-being. We explore how leaders and everyday interactions are impacted by emotional labor and why choosing to be authentic can lead to stronger connections, better leadership, and a healthier, more fulfilling life. Tune in to learn how embracing your true self can transform the way you work, connect, and thrive. For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

Fiona and Jude discuss the power of verbalizing problems, the initial awkwardness of applying coaching techniques, and the value of experimentation and feedback. Jude outlines the two main steps of her model for coaching - the coaching two-step: asking someone to tell you more and reflecting back what you hear. Jude emphasizes that coaching is a natural skill we can all benefit from, much like cooking, and shares strategies for giving effective feedback and handling difficult emotions with empathy. 

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Biography Jude Sclater

Jude Sclater is a coach, author, and trainer. Her book, “Think Like a Coach: How to empower your team through everyday conversations,” introduces the innovative Coaching Two-Step model that simplifies coaching down to its core principles, enabling you to swiftly adopt a coaching management style.

Over 20 years her career she has worked for companies such as Deloitte. Pearson and Penguin Books. She draws on this vast experience to coach and train managers from consulting, legal, and financial service industries, guiding them from individual contributors to great team managers. 

Find out more at www.thinkwithjude.com

 

 

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For Fiona's blog which explores how values can help reduce the 'Fear of Failure' when setting goals go to

Goals Are Great Until Life Takes a Detour

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The Connected Psychologist 

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In this episode, we delve into the journey of Leila Rezaiguia, a passionate advocate for equipping coaches with the skills to effectively serve both individuals and teams. With her extensive experience in corporate roles spanning learning, development, and talent management across various industries, Leila emphasizes the transformative impact of one-on-one and systemic team coaching in fostering trust, collaboration, and a shared purpose within organizations.

Leila also voices her concern about the lack of understanding and awareness around coaching in her region, highlighting the risks posed by unqualified individuals labeling themselves as coaches. She champions ethical coaching practices that empower clients and honor their resourcefulness, steering away from overly directive or prescriptive methods. Additionally, she distinguishes between mentor coaching, which develops specific coaching competencies, and coaching supervision, which deepens the coach's self-awareness and their influence on the client relationship.

With her international background, particularly in the Middle East, Leila addresses the often-taboo subject of menopause in many cultures, especially in some where the stigma can be more pronounced, and how coaching can provide crucial support for women navigating these challenges.

 

For more from Leila go to https://www.linkedin.com/in/leila-rezaiguia/

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Bio for Leila Rezaiguia (MCIPD, PCC, ORSC, NLP, STC)

Leila is a highly sought-after multi-lingual Executive, Systemic Team Coach, ICF Mentor Coach & CSA accredited Coach Supervisor with over 24 years, in public and private sectors, working with leading organisations, and individuals to enhance productivity, maximise performance, and accelerating growth across 5 continents. 

She is renowned for her high energy, enthusiasm, passion, fun-loving nature, and love for building connections, empowering, and working with people from diverse cultures. She is passionate about 1:1 & Systemic Team Coaching, Coach Training, Coaching Supervision, and Women in Leadership. 

Leila integrates cutting-edge learning techniques to deliver the most effective evidence-based solutions to her clients and strives to help her clients from graduate to C-suite levels reach higher performance personally and professionally.

Leila is passionate about Coaching, Mentoring, Women in Leadership, and Leadership Development and has created successful performance, coaching, and mentoring cultures across different industries.

She is based between Dubai and Turkey and leads both Kompass The Coaching Company & the Academy of Executive CoachingUAE.

 

 

 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

If you're feeling overwhelmed by life's challenges I'm hoping this may help. Join us on this episode as we dive into practical strategies and psychological insights to help you regain control and find calm amidst the chaos. Whether you're facing personal or professional hurdles, discover how to navigate them with resilience and grace. For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

Tori's journey reflects her commitment to resilience and compassion, shaped by her experiences at Smith College and Harvard Divinity School, where she learned about the importance of empathy across cultures and religions. Her work with marginalized populations, including running a shelter for homeless women, led her to pursue a law degree to advocate for change. But perhaps more notable are her personal challenges, including growing up with a brother who has developmental disabilities. It's these which have fueled her passion for social justice and healing. 

A pivotal influence in her life was Muhammad Ali, whose compassion inspired Tori to overcome her own struggles. He encouraged her to finish what she started, leading to her successful second attempt at rowing across the Atlantic Ocean. But there were other lesser known figures from a boy at school who stood up for her brother to a teacher who taught her persistence who've also played a huge role in the values she holds closely even today. 

Join us as we explore Tori's incredible story, her insights on compassion, and her mission to inspire others to rise above their challenges. This is a conversation filled with wisdom and inspiration that you won't want to miss. 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

Discussion Points:

• Psychological Vitamins: Dr. Keyes and Fiona discussing the importance of "psychological vitamins"—activities such as helping others, continuous learning, and forming meaningful connections and how these activities are crucial in fostering a healthy and fulfilling life.
• Small Changes Big Impact: They discuss the fact that very small changes in lifestyle, if focussed on the ‘right’ things can create a significant difference in mental health. 
• Impact of Childhood Trauma: The lasting impact of childhood trauma on mental health is explored, with Dr. Keyes sharing firsthand experiences from his own life. This personal insight highlights the long-term effects of trauma and the importance of addressing it early.
• Mental Health in Healthcare Workers: Dr. Keyes emphasizes the critical role of mental health in supporting healthcare workers. Ensuring their mental well-being is not only vital for their own health but also for maintaining high-quality patient care.
• Preventive Mental Health Care: A significant portion of the discussion focuses on shifting society's approach from solely treating mental illness to preventing it. Dr. Keyes' research indicates that individuals who are flourishing are less likely to develop PTSD, depression, or anxiety, especially during stressful events like the pandemic. In contrast, those who are languishing are more vulnerable.
• Critique of Medication-Only Approaches: Dr. Keyes critiques the current approach of relying heavily on medication to treat mental health issues. While some individuals benefit from medications, many treatments are primarily placebic and expensive. He advocates for a preventive approach that promotes overall mental well-being to reduce the likelihood of relapse.
• Promoting Flourishing: By fostering flourishing, individuals are more likely to maintain long-term recovery from mental health issues. Dr. Keyes underscores the importance of promoting positive mental health alongside treating symptoms of depression and anxiety.
• Historical Perspective: Reflecting on his career, Dr. Keyes notes that despite recognizing depression as a major public health challenge in 1996, societal approaches to mental health have not significantly changed. He stresses the need for a proactive mental health care system to improve outcomes and reduce the overall burden of mental illness.
• Role of Education and Societal Change: Fiona and Dr. Keyes discuss the importance of education and societal shifts in promoting mental well-being. In the UK, some doctors now prescribe social activities to improve mental health, but broader educational efforts and societal changes are needed for long-term impact.
• Analogy with Athletes: Dr. Keyes draws an analogy with athletes who prepare their bodies and minds to withstand challenges. He suggests that individuals should adopt similar preventive measures in their daily lives to ensure long-term health and resilience.
• Future Vision: Dr. Keyes envisions a healthcare system that monitors individuals' mental health proactively, much like a pit stop team in a car race. Such a system would detect early signs of declining mental health and provide timely interventions to prevent crises.

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

The discussion delves deep into the paradoxical nature of perfectionism, exploring how it often leads to hiding our struggles and hopes out of fear of disappointment or perceived failure. Jordana reveals how keeping challenges secret, particularly in sensitive situations like IVF, can actually deprive us of crucial support rather than protect us from disappointment. Throughout the episode, Fiona and Jordana explore the importance of selective vulnerability, the power of social support, and the journey of overcoming perfectionist tendencies. They disxuss how society feeds us with certain beliefs that we pursue They touch on various aspects of personal growth, including empathy, creativity, and the process of changing ingrained behaviors to align more with personal well-being than societal expectations.This episode offers valuable insights for anyone grappling with perfectionism or facing personal challenges they're hesitant to share, emphasizing the strength found in vulnerability and the importance of allowing ourselves to be supported.

 

Key Takeaways:

1. Perfectionism often leads to hiding struggles, which can prevent receiving necessary support
2. Selective sharing with trusted allies can provide crucial emotional support
3. Social support is vital both in pursuing goals and facing adversity
4. Overcoming perfectionism involves embracing vulnerability and allowing support from others
5. Changing ingrained perfectionist behaviors is possible and beneficial for personal growth

 

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By deepening your understanding of yourself and your relationships you’ll begin to find more joy and success. Connecting the dots on your life one step at a time.

To find Jordana Confino and the resources she offers click here 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

At 16, Corey Keyes seemed to be thriving after a brutal childhood. He excelled in school, played quarterback on the football team, and lived with his loving grandmother in Wisconsin, USA. However, as he writes in his book, Languishing: How To Feel Alive Again in a World That Wears Us Down, he felt a "restless emptiness" whenever he slowed down. Determined to understand this feeling, he became a sociologist. 

Corey explains that languishing is a normal reaction to life's challenges but can become debilitating if not addressed. He describes it as “the absence of wellbeing…the absence of the really good things that make life meaningful and worth living.” He goes on to explain that “We all languish in a slightly different way. You may feel you don’t have purpose in life. You don’t belong. You’re not contributing. You don’t have warm relationships. You’re not growing as a person.”

Dr. Keyes identifies 11 qualities essential for well-being, including social and psychological aspects. The discussion delves into how mental illness impacts functioning and the importance of preparing for adversity. Corey highlights the significance of mental health preparation, emphasizing the need for social support.

Corey and Fiona discuss importance of social support in healthcare, encouraging professionals to acknowledge and appreciate their colleagues. They also discuss trust in high-performing teams, offering strategies like daily check-ins to build trust and openness. The conversation addresses languishing and ghosting in the workplace, stressing the need for consistent communication and connection. 

 

 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

Jordana is full of energy, a joy to listen to and as one might expect of a Yale Law School grad she really "Knows her stuff".  She's also brutally honest explaining her own struggles through a seemingly ideal life of high achievement and how much of her perfectionism stems from a mother who herself "was a ruthless perfectionist, and she tried to perfect me." 

Jordana and Fiona also discuss the critical role of trust and vulnerability in effective mentoring and more importantly in simply being human - highlighting how these qualities are often overlooked, especially by professions where they are most needed. They debunk the idea that success requires sacrificing well-being, revealing instead that well-being fuels success. Jordana explains that positive psychology involves acknowledging negative emotions to fully experience positive ones, helping to explain the key differences between positive psychology and toxic positivity. She also explains that acknowledging negative emotions is crucial to fully experience positive ones. They also discuss the impact of positive emotions and how they enhance cognitive function, creativity, and resilience. 

Jordana is a certified positive psychology coach and the founder of JC Coaching & Consulting. She helps lawyers, doctors, and other high achievers transform their lives for the better.

To connect with Jordana go to:

Website:jordanaconfino.com

 

 

 

 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

Gelmi and Fiona begin the conversation with an exploration of personality development for leaders and leveraging psychometrics as a tool to uncover innate qualities and potential. Gelmi uses the analogy of nurturing plants to illustrate how individuals can flourish given the right conditions. He also emphasizes the importance of mentoring, self-reflection, and creating safe environments where people feel valued and heard, in order to drive high-performance teams.

 

The discussion examines the significance of perspective, empathy, and emotional intelligence in leadership and workplace culture. Gelmi stresses the need for consistent modelling of desired behaviours by leaders to effect change across workplace cultures. He encourages embracing human emotions rather than shying away from them, highlighting the role of authenticity, self-awareness, and effective communication in fostering trust and openness.

 

Throughout the episode, Gelmi provides practical advice and thought-provoking insights, offering listeners a roadmap for personal and professional development in today's dynamic world.

 

Gelmi’s website is a great resource for anyone wanting to explore this topic further. You can find it at:

 

https://gelmi.coach/en/

 

And to find Thomas on Linkedin go to:

 

https://www.linkedin.com/in/thomasgelmi/

 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

During the podcast Alex shares her inspiring journey and the inception of the foundation. Coming from a family with a deep love of sports, Alex's early exposure to hockey instilled in her a profound love for the game. She embarked on her own sporting journey with a fervent desire to represent England in hockey. Supported by her family, coaches, and teachers, Alex pursued her dream with unwavering determination. However, her path took an unexpected turn when she faced rejection at the under-16 England trials. This setback deeply affected Alex, leading to a struggle with her mental health as she grappled with the loss of her identity as a hockey player. Reflecting on her experience, Alex realized the need for young athletes to have a holistic relationship with sports, one that goes beyond performance on the field. She recognized that while sports play a significant role in shaping individuals, they are just one aspect of a person's identity. Fueled by a desire to support young people facing similar challenges to herself, Alex founded The Mindtridge Foundation. 

The foundation aims to help young individuals develop positive relationships with sports by harnessing the power of positive role models, including Olympians and Paralympians and providing young people with the guidance needed to navigate the world of sports while maintaining a strong sense of self-worth and identity. Her vision is to ensure that no young person experiences the isolation and struggle she faced, but instead finds fulfillment and empowerment through sports in any capacity. So far the charity has helped 88,000 young people. Concluding the episode, Alex and Fiona share their shared vision for empowering youth and overcoming obstacles through preparation, determination, and a commitment to fostering inclusive and supportive environments within the sports industry. 

Fiona is lucky enough to be one of the Mintridge Squad – part of the team supporting the amazing work that Alex and the charity are doing for young people. 

To learn more about Mintridge or to donate to this worthwhile charity please go to:

https://www.mintridgefoundation.org.uk

 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

Zoiey is a trailblazing inclusion activist who has made significant contributions to the world of sports. With over 20 years of experience in the industry, she has worked her way up from being an athlete to becoming a highly respected inclusion consultant. In 2017, Grazia magazine recognized her as one of the top Black British influential figures in the UK.

Zoeiy's journey is one of unwavering determination and resilience. She shares insightful anecdotes and personal experiences, highlighting the importance of embracing one's identity and advocating for inclusivity in sports and beyond.

Throughout the episode, Zoeiy also reflects on the challenges she's faced, from childhood encounters with racism to navigating gender biases in the sports industry. Her candid insights shed light on the importance of creating inclusive spaces and challenging societal norms. Zoeiy's dedication to promoting diversity and inclusivity, her impact on the industry is undeniable. 

 

For more from Zoeiy you can find her at:

https://www.linkedin.com/in/zoiey-smale/

To find out more about Oka and how we can help to improve DEI within your work place go to:

https://www.oka.life

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

Through her work with bloss.m, Lola is breaking barriers for underrepresented groups in the workplace and addressing systemic obstacles to success. She emphasizes the importance of mentorship, personal growth, and self-awareness in achieving long-term goals.

Join us as we explore Lola's impactful journey, her commitment to empowering women and girls, and the transformative power of mentorship and self-reflection. Lola radiates warmth and inspiration, illuminating every room she enters or, in this case, every airwave she graces. With her fearless approach to life's journey, she charts paths less traveled, guiding others along the way and encouraging others to discover their true potential. We can all learn from Lola's insights and be inspired to make a difference in our own life and the lives of others.

For more from Lola go to https://www.linkedin.com/in/lolaolaore/

 

 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

For more from us go to:

https://oka.life or https://fionamurden.com

 For more from Dr Russ Harris go to:

https://www.actmindfully.com.au 

Or find him on YouTube at 

@dr.russharris-acceptanceco972

 

 

 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

In this episode we discuss the complexity of taking care of yourself and a newborn, and explore the unique challenges and experiences that come with motherhood. As Garrett shares her own experiences, she also delves into the products that made a difference in her life and how she and her family decided to create a company to provide solutions for other moms. Garrett shares that “The early stages of postpartum life redefined the word “comfort” for me and now I'm on a mission to help others get cozy while doing the hard things including but not limited to parenting, birthing and business building.”

 

She also touches upon the need for support and understanding in those critical moments, emphasizing the role of men as allies in this journey. This is something that we’re all too aware of at Oka, as well as matching women to mentors who have been through similar experiences (like for example returning to work after having a baby) we guide the allies (e.g. male colleagues, partners) in how to provide the best support while also looking after themselves. 

 

Prior to kozēkozē and motherhood, Garrett wrote and published a novel based-on-true events from her own life called, "Dare To Move." She also hosts the kozēkozē podcast where we bring in experts doing the hard things, like birth and business, to share their vulnerable stories on business and self-development. 

Garrett’s first career was in real estate development and she helped with the US rollout of Caffè Nero. Her love of fitness guided her to teach at Shred415 in Chicago and also Barry’s Bootcamp in Boston for 7 years.

 

Join us for this insightful episode as we explore the challenges and opportunities that come with motherhood, entrepreneurship and personal growth.

 

To find Garrett’s products go to: 

 

https://www.kozekoze.com

 

To sign up to Oka where we can help you back on your journey to fulfilling your potential in a way that fits or to support another woman through your own experience please sign up to

 

https://oka.life/waitlistpage

 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

In our conversation, we delve into the essence of Michelle’s beliefs, emphasizing the importance of seeking support when needed and shattering the stereotype that Olympians must always be infallible. At the heart of our discussion is the recognition of the 'whole person' behind every champion. Michelle's perspective is firmly rooted in the value of hard work, as she aptly puts it, "You might be a natural at languages, math, or even athletics, but beneath it all, there's still a need to put in the effort."

 

And she also acknowledges that her own story and the stories of countless other successes go far beyond mere talent and effort. Embracing vulnerability and reaching out for help when necessary is, as she believes, a hallmark of strength. She articulates this beautifully by saying, "Being strong, in my very humble opinion, is accepting the need to raise your hand and say to those closest to you, 'I need support today.'" In her own words, she humbly states, "I'm not just an Olympic medalist; I am a girl who dared to dream." Daring to dream and unwavering tenacity are the driving forces that carry champions through the toughest times, "when it's hard, when you're injured, when you stumble, when you feel you can't go on."

 

Michelle also encourages each of us to discover our unique sources of joy and pursue them with unwavering determination. She shares her own daily life as an example of what this entails.

 

This episode is a genuine wellspring of inspiration, featuring a truly remarkable woman.

 

 

To find Michelle go to: 

 

https://michellegriffithrobinsonoly.co.uk

 

To join the Oka waitlist and find a mentor or coach to support you on your journey go to

 

https://oka.life/waitlist

 

 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

In our discussion, we delve into how social media affects adolescent well-being across diverse societies and demographics. With his background in social work, Sebastian sheds light on the intricate interplay between individual differences and societal context, offering a holistic perspective on this complex issue.

We explore the nuanced impact of social media on adolescent mental health. While research indicates a small negative impact on average, we delve into the vulnerabilities that adolescents face during the transition from childhood to adulthood, when social media's influence can be most pronounced. The discussion extends to how social media affects children's development, and we emphasize the need for empirical data to hold social media platforms accountable for hosting abusive content.

Social media regulation is a hot topic, and we explore the challenges it presents. Sebastian highlights the importance of thoughtful policy changes and societal action, especially in the global South, to address issues beyond individual control.

Workplace pressure is another pressing issue. We examine how excessive pressure can erode trust and lead to mental health strain among healthcare workers, especially in child protection services which has a broader knock on impact.

To sign up to the Oka mentoring app follow this link: https://oka.life/waitlistpage 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

Discover practical strategies to savour every step of your personal and professional growth, no matter how big or small so that you end your working life with no regrets. Whether you're leading a global corporation or tending to your garden.  

"A series of studies have shown this….when you ask people at the end of their working lives to look back, 'What are the main regrets or lessons or advice that you would have for others?' And three things emerge, typically, and are really quite significantly ahead of all the other kinds of regrets."

1. Embracing Risk: "I wish I'd taken more risk in my life, more risk in doing what I really wanted to do, more risk in relationships.”
2. Enjoying the Journey: "I wish, instead of just going down tramlines on autopilot, I'd ask myself, am I enjoying this journey? Am I really being satisfied here?"
3. Legacy and Fulfilment: "I wish I'd thought about the legacy I was going to leave behind."

Mentorship as a Catalyst: But here's the most exciting part for me. When it comes to embracing risk and crafting your legacy, mentorship is a powerful and positive way to achieve both. Mentors guide you in taking those leaps of faith, and they inspire you to envision the lasting impact you can create. And being a mentor also allows you to enjoy your own journey more and ensure that you’re passing on your learning and legacy to the next generation. Join the Oka waitlist to be part of our psychologically backed mentoring. 

Biography

Gurnek Bains was born in Bhangal, a relatively poor village in the north of India. Although his parents and three sisters slept in one room with no electric lighting, Gurnek’s father grew up believing that they shouldn’t be as poor as they were. He dedicated himself to bettering his family’s life chances and became school principle at the age of 32. When he and the rest of Gurnek’s family eventually moved to the UK, he worked multiple jobs and always encouraged his children to learn.

Watching his parents make huge sacrifices, Gurnek developed what he described as a huge “compensatory drive”. He managed to make it into grammar school and after many years of hard work went on to earn a PhD in social psychology at Oxford University.

While he first practised as a clinical psychologist, it wasn’t long until Gurnek moved into business psychology and set up Britain’s first consultancy dedicated to harnessing the power of psychology, YSC. Two decades later he and his colleagues had built YSC from a company of two to employing over 250 people in over 25 offices around the world, and were working with over half the FTSE 100. His company became known as one of the best for driving performance, improving cultures and unleashing the power of potential at work. To be “YSC’ed” became a familiar verb in business circles around the world.

Gurnek has always been interested in how psychology can serve society as well as business. While he continues his consulting work at his smaller boutique firm, Global Future, he also leads its sister think tank NOUS  and works privately with a number of senior political figures. He has written two books; ‘Meaning Inc.’, which explores how to build meaning and purpose into work, and ‘Cultural DNA’, a book dedicated to helping people empathise with different cultures. He also regularly contributes as a writer and commentator to Psychology Today.

Gurnek is hugely grateful to the UK for the opportunities it has given him, and feels a strong need to give something back. Over recent years he has become dedicated to helping people understand how we can navigate the turbulence of modern society with purpose and investment, with our mental wellbeing intact and ultimately, with optimism.

 

 

 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

In this episode, we embark on Andrew's incredible journey into the world of social media and sports. From the fast-paced business of sports streaming to the art of storytelling in the realm of Major League Baseball, we uncover the secrets of connecting with diverse audiences.

But that's not all. We delve into the transition from professional athlete to entrepreneur and explore personal development gems. Andrew shares insights on finding the right job, the ever-evolving journey of self-awareness, and the power of learning from mistakes.

Join us for a thought-provoking conversation that promises valuable takeaways for your own journey.

To find out more about progressing your personal growth with the help of a mentor or to be a mentor find us at Oka Life. 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

Schneider’s journey will resonate particularly with those navigating the entrepreneurial realm, where challenges and triumphs often intertwine. Refreshingly Schneider challenges the conventional mindset that success breeds happiness, advocating for a shift from "Have, Do, Be" to "Be, Do, Have." finding contentment within, propelling purposeful actions, and allowing rewards to naturally follow.

Schneider describes how with age, the entrepreneurial journey becomes a dance with escalating stakes. He highlights the crucial interplay between challenges and mental well-being and underscores the power of faith, whether in oneself or the universe, as a resilient foundation against life's uncertainties.

In the pursuit of success, Schneider spotlights the significance of valuing relationships. He counters the corrosive nature of comparison, advocating for a focus on authentic impact and in finding solace in outward focus. By extending kindness and support to others, he has experienced personal growth. While he acknowledges personal milestones he also underscores the profound fulfilment derived from aiding others on their journeys.

Mentorship also emerges as a guiding light in Schneider's narrative. Learning from those who've trodden similar paths mitigates avoidable missteps. He emphasizes the transformational power of translating mentorship into actionable steps.

 

 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

Esme Verity supports founders, those who are 'Zebras'. The insights she shares throw light on to a world which favours a cookie cutter approach to success, even within the area of start-ups where our expectation may be different. Fiona explores Esme’s journey and the interesting experience she’s gained on “building a business that doesn't fit into this mainstream mould that we now have, a sort of Silicon Valley mould.” Why by investors looking only for businesses that offer a 10x return on investment leads to so many startups that are critical to the world being disregarded and left struggling to survive. 

Esme ran an antique jewellery business from the age of 18 and throughout university. When she left, she sought funding to help grow that business, and that’s when she was thrown into the world of Venture Capital. The VC world is very much focussed on finding the next unicorn business, something that’s going to grow incredibly big, very quickly. But Esme explains how she thinks that this reflects ‘a very limited definition of ambition’ and just ‘because you don't want to build a huge giant business doesn't make you not ambitious, it just means that you want something different.’ Wanting to do things differently and support the diversity of people within the start-up world, not just the unicorns, Esme has been on a mission ever since to advance her understanding of alternative approaches to growing a business that’s sustainable and to share that knowledge with others. 

Esme teaches about alternative funding and has worked with hundreds of purpose-driven start-ups, non-profits and governments to help democratise access to alternative funding sources.  Prior to founding Considered Capital, she was Director of Chapters at Zebras Unite, an international and intersectional hybrid cooperative dedicated to creating new financial instruments for the next economy. Esme is an active angel investor and was named one of the Top 100 Women in Social Enterprise by Pioneers Post. Esme is the founder of Considered Capital, a platform for start-ups and organisations seeking alternative funding. Considered Capital simplifies and speeds up the journey to finding and accessing the right funding fit through courses, community and content.  

 

To find Esme go to Linkedin or her website Considered Capital

For Zebras Unite click here 

For more from Fiona and her startup Oka click here.

 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

Bhavin Visavadia is a senior and experienced Consultant Oral and Maxillofacial Surgeon and Clinical Leader. He is a surgical educator teaching around the world and was a member of Council of the British Association of Oral and Maxillofacial Surgeons (BAOMS). He was also Chairman of the Consultants and Specialists Group here. Bhavin has the position of Regional Director for London (NW) at the Royal College of Surgeons of England. He is also President of the Oral Surgery Club of Great Britain

 

Bhavin qualified in medicine and dentistry at King’s College London and undertook his specialist surgical training at Queen Victoria Hospital in East Grinstead, Royal Surrey County Hospital in Guildford and Guy’s and King’s College Hospitals, London. Bhavin is highly committed to surgical training supporting mentoring and pro-actively engaging with the development of surgeons, doctors, nurses and dentists.

 

For more on opportunities to get involved in mentoring or to be mentored go to:

 

https://oka.life

 

For more from Fiona go to:

https://fionamurden.com

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

For more on the Comfort Zone go to my book Defining You - Build Your Unique Personal Profile and Unlock Your True Potential

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

Hannah has observed the pop-culture messaging of "love yourself”, “reduce stress”, “avoid burnout”, “safe spaces”, “take it easy”, and “hack culture". All of which are promoted with good intentions. However, Hannah is passionate that these messages lead to adverse outcomes.

Because of her diverse experience and when looking through the prism of a female soldier (or those taking on demanding physical challenges) Hannah promotes tremendous success by doing the opposite.

Hannah is on a mission (pun intended) to convince people to seek out discomfort, to take a leap of faith when feeling overwhelmed by emotions and continually action their goals. Hannah’s simple strategies and lived experience can cut through some noise, helping all walks of life!

 

Hannah's Bio: 

At the tender age of 18, Hannah joined the army and has served for 12 years, including two operational tours in Afghanistan. During this time,Hannahhas lived in Germany, worked for NATO, and was also privileged to serve the late Her Majesty Queen Elizabeth II on ceremonial duties, including Garden Parties, Diplomatic Receptions, the Duke and Duchess of Sussex’s wedding and the late Prince Philip, Duke of Edinburgh funeral.Hannah's versatility extends beyond military service. She is also a skilled ski instructor and has participated in various adventure training activities, including parachuting and a military competition where she carried 40 pounds of weight over 40 miles. Also, Hannah placed 2nd in her age and gender group in the military section of an Ironman competition.

Her passion for personal growth and resilience has led her to establish Simple as Hannah, where she hopes to help individuals enhance their health and well-being, build their stress tolerance, and reach their full through regular exposure to discomfort with simple and actionable protocols to help along the way. With her unique combination of military discipline and physical challenges,Hannah is well-equipped to guide others on their journey of self-discovery and growth.

 

For more about Hannah please go to: 

https://linktr.ee/simple_as_hannah

For more from Fiona go to:

https://fionamurden.com

 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

 

The books I refer to are:

 

Mirror Thinking  https://bit.ly/mirrorthink

 

Defining You https://bit.ly/DefiningYou2ndEd

 

Other references made can be found in Defining You. 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

Giles is an award-winning author, podcaster and screenwriter. Giles' first novel for adults One Hundred and Fifty-Two Days come out in March 2020. Author of several books for children and two adult novels, with a third on the way. His book One Hundred and Fifty-Two Days has been adapted by Giles and Elizabeth Morris for Arclight Films and Future Artists Entertainment. Giles is the writer of six short films for Little Angel Theatre. Giles’ children’s books include The Fearsome Beastie, winner of The People's Book Prize 2012, Heart of Hawick Children's Book Award 2013, Bizziebaby Gold Award, The US Forward National Literary Award and Shortlisted for The Rotherham Children's Book Award 2012. Tamara Small and the Monsters' Ball is shortlisted for The People's Book Prize 2013. He has written several picture books, including Things You Never Knew About Dinosaurs, Princess Stay Awake and a collection of nonsense poetry. 

Giles' is co-host and producer of the award-nominated Blank Podcast and regularly writes for Aquila Magazine. He’s also co-host of the ‘A Little Bit of Positive’ podcast with Julia Bradbury and co-host of ‘Things I forgot were good for me’ with Dr Radha Modgil.

Giles lives with his wife and two sons in East Sussex

To pledge for Gile’s next book go to: 

https://unbound.com/books/gigantium/

To connect with Giles on Twitter go to:

@eliistender10

For more from Fiona go to:

https://fionamurden.com

 

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So while Sophie’s subjects are animals, her ability to watch people and question why people are doing what they're doing, whether they're doing what they should be doing, or think they should be doing, or whether they're actually being kind of authentic to themselves must have influenced her ability to so accurately reflect not just the image of the animals but the emotion that comes with that. As she says herself:

“It is impossible to admire the beauty of the natural world without also reflecting on its vulnerability.” 

Sophie has dedicated her time and artistic work to raising awareness for issues surrounding animal welfare and the environment. Her art is magical, emotive and so realistic that it’s hard to believe it’s not a photograph stepping out of the canvas toward you. Sophie says:

Throughout her career as a fine artist and since founding the online gallery and art store, Art Basket, Sophie has donated 10% of her profits to wildlife & conservation charities and has worked closely with foundations such as IFAW, The David Shepherd Wildlife Foundation and Explorers Against Extinction to help to make a difference.

In 2021, Sophie was awarded the ‘medal of excellence’ by the Artists for Conservation foundation for her outstanding work in the wildlife & conservation sphere. Sophie was also the winner of the Leisure Painter People's Choice Award 2020 and 2021, runner-up in the BBC Wildlife Magazine People’s Choice and was deemed ‘highly commended’ in prizes such as the Wildlife Artist of the Year competition, the Sketch for Survival Award and the Ashurst Emerging Artist Prize. In 2021, Sophie was selected to be one of 20 Artists to exhibit at COP26 in the Blue zone.

To see some of Sophie’s brilliant work go to:

https://www.sophiegreenfineart.com/

For more from me go to

https://fionamurden.com

 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

Fiona explores how gambling became a drug for Patrick. How the biggest thing for him was learning how to show his emotion, the importance of self-awareness. Patrick now works for Epic Risk Management which was formed in 2014, when the CEO of the company had ended up in prison, having attempted suicide, and stolen £434,000 from his employers, which was one of the world's biggest banks to fund his gambling addiction. Whilst he was in prison, he recognised that actually, he wasn't the only person who had suffered from an addiction of this kind who must have done things like he had done and ended up in the situation that he was. Patrick says that he realised that there were a lot of organisations that dealt with people once they'd kind of fallen off the cliff but that there weren't enough trying to prevent it in the first place. Patrick explains how gambling carries such stigma that what they try at his company is to try and break down those barriers and ultimately allow people to make more informed decisions, to understand how to spot signs in themselves and probably most importantly what to do if they do need help.

Patrick’s book is called - Might Bite: The Secret Life of a Gambling Addict

 

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

We explore psychological profiling and how important it is to fit the right personality to the right operations and delve into the use of MBTI (Myers Briggs Type Indicator) as a tool used to help every officer in the CIA understand themselves. Andrew explains his view of the world as a former spy, that ‘every human being you meet is either a source or some kind of support asset or some kind of network capability.’ And we touch on various other topics such as the elite leader, elite surgeon, elite athlete or elite in any field who is perhaps less used to failure than the average joe, or more able to plough on in spite of failure. Andrew shares his view of this, that ‘their failure is not in their skill. Their failure is seen in the rate of alcohol abuse, that they have substance abuse, the divorce rates, the lack of sleep, the sociopathic tendencies, the psychopathic tendencies.’ 

 

More about Andrew

 

Andrew describes himself as an improvement junkie. He’s also a former covert CIA intelligence officer, US Air Force combat veteran, and Fortune 10 corporate advisor. He surrounds himself with knowledge, experiences, and people who help him grow and he look for opportunities to share what he’s learnt with others. For more from Andrew go to everydayspy.com 

 

For more from Fiona go to www.fionamurden.com 

 

 

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Fiona and Dermot discuss what Alan was really like, from his utter brilliance through to those areas that he was less adept. The truth about his relationships with a few close friends which stands in deep contrast to the portrait drawn of him as a loner, by Hollywood and many biographers. Of course we also talk about the people who impacted Alan Turing from shaping his thinking to the decisions he made. We also cover Dermot's own incredible career and how much Alan Turing influenced the course that he took.  

Dermot Turing – like his celebrated uncle Alan Turing – was educated at Sherborne School and King’s College, Cambridge. After a doing a D.Phil in Genetics at Oxford, he concluded that scientific research was not for him, and moved into the legal profession.

Dermot worked for the Government Legal Service and then the international law firm Clifford Chance, where he was a partner until 2014. His specialism was financial sector regulation, particularly the problems associated with failed banks, and financial market infrastructure.

As well as writing and speaking, Dermot is a trustee of The Turing Trust and a Visiting Fellow at Kellogg College, Oxford. He continues his interest in the financial world.

Dermot lives in Kippen in Stirlingshire. He is married with two sons, and as well as history his interests include cooking, gardening and opera.

To read more about Dermot and find links to his books go to DermotTuring.com  

For Fiona's book that Dermot wrote an endorsement for click here Mirror Thinking - How Role Models Make Us Human 

 

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Pat’s interest in Mental Health, Resilience and more specifically Mindfulness started in 2009, whilst on operations in Afghanistan.  He completed an Open University degree in Psychology after noticing the lack of a ‘therapeutic relationship’ between soldiers returning from operations and their counsellors.  He ran weekly online Mindfulness sessions throughout the COVID-19 period and continues to do so. Currently he is leading the implementation of Physical Attention Training (PAT), an innovative approach to bringing Mindfulness based coping strategies into the existing culture of physical training. 

 

More about Major Burgess 

 

Major Burgess was brought up in Wells, Somerset, joined the Army in September 1992 and started his career at The Second Royal Tank Regiment in Fallingbostel, Germany. He served with the regiment in Germany, Northern Ireland, Canada, Poland, Iraq and Afghanistan in a career that saw him from Trooper, through Tank Commander to Regimental Sergeant Major.  He was recently promoted to Major as Officer Commanding the Combat CIS School. 

 

He was awarded an MBE in the 2020 New Year's Honours List in recognition of his tireless work in bringing mindfulness to Defence and has more recently been awarded an Honorary Degree of Doctor of Science (DSc) by Glasgow and Caledonian University. He is a member of the Defence Mindfulness Steering Group and his course content and delivery are endorsed by the Counselling and Psychotherapy Central Awarding Body (CPCAB). 

 

For more on Major Burgess go to his website www.oneworldmindfulness.co.uk

 

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We talk about having an ‘elite education’ and how when Sarah went to Harvard she ‘saw how the sausage is made’. “And by sausage, I mean, how elite people are made, and who runs the universe, so to speak.” Sarah also explains how through her studies at Oxford she has seen that “the way that political thinking is just not very much like other forms of thinking. It's deeply tied into our sense of who we are, whether we're good people. And not only that, but it's tied up in our sense that we need to kind of feel okay about the immediate opportunities for action available to us in the future.” We also discuss how the School of Life shaped Sarah’s thinking, whether there are ever any ‘new’ ideas as opposed to a reshaping of those that have existed sometimes for centuries, we explore nudges and the extent to which they are all that they are cracked up to be and many, many other topics. 

 

More about Sarah. 

Sarah is a writer, content strategist, learning designer, and researcher at Oxford University. Her academic research focuses on the role of emotion in political communication, and specifically on cognitive dissonance. Another string to her bow is that she’s the Head of Content Strategy at the Future Narratives Lab where she works on projects related to policy and politics. She also serves on the Institute of Imagination’s Global Imagination Board. For many years she was also the Head of Content at The School of Life, where she is still a faculty member and learning designer. To read more about Sarah click her to go to her website. 

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Kimmel is an Emeritus Professor of Sociology and Gender Studies at Stony Brook University. Among his many books are Manhood in America, Angry White Men, The Politics of Manhood, The Gendered Society and the best seller Guyland: The Perilous World Where Boys Become Men. With funding from the MacArthur Foundation, he founded the Center for the Study of Men and Masculinities at Stony Brook in 2013. He has delivered the International Women’s Day annual lecture at the European Parliament, the European Commission and the Council of Europe, and has worked with the Ministers for Gender Equality of Norway, Denmark and Sweden in developing programs for boys and men. He consults widely with corporations, NGOs and public sector organizations on gender equity issues. 

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I’ve been wanting to record an episode with Nabil for ages, but there simply hasn’t been time. He moved from one fast paced role to another most recently holding the position of Global Chief Creative Officer at Soho House. I’m pleased to say that finally he’s taking a breather (although even that involves a course at Harvard University) so I caught him just long enough to share his story with you. 

We talk about his fascinating background growing up in Singapore with the expectations that loomed over him. He shares a point where he felt he had failed, the shame that he experienced and the reflection that ensued in what some may consider unusual circumstances – in the jungle during 2 years military service. Nabil’s creativity started early in life but was further ignited by time spent at London College of Fashion, followed by roles held with three globally iconic brands – Urban Outfitters, Selfridges and most recently (at the tender age of 28) the position at Soho House. 

 

Nabil is hungry for growth, deeply committed to continually stretching himself and explains in simple terms how earlier on in life a lack of role-models while pursuing the creative route was hard… 

“I'm the guy who would, who would stay back sewing things or painting or whatever it might be. It was always a creative pursuit. It was always about expression. Definitely not football and definitely not playing with the lego set. That was My brother. And I guess at that point, I thought, Okay, this is what being a creative means, but I didn't have role models, then per se, to say, Oh, this is a career path, I couldn't make a living out of this. And Singapore back then was the be all and end all for me. I hadn't really travelled elsewhere, to say oh, you could be a creative director, whatever that means. So, at 15, you, you have a feeling, and you try to manifest as best as possible by eliminating options. And I think that's the hardest thing to do.”

But also, how having role-models as an adult enables him to craft his career with even more care. 

“One of the benefits of having role models in your career is that you get to reverse engineer your way? Checking is it OK? If you have 50 years of work life - how do you want to make the most of that time? How can you pace yourself? Most importantly, so that you are peaking at absolutely the right time, when you have the most to give.” 

 

If you are curious about who you are, your brain and the role-models and influences in your life then you may enjoy my most recent book Mirror Thinking – How Role Models Make Us Human. 

https://bit.ly/MirrThink

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Amongst other things we discuss the impact of having a family on friendship, the devastating outcomes associated with social isolation and the issue of avoiding the difficult conversations that could improve friendships. 

 

Denworth is a contributing editor at Scientific American and the author of Friendship: The Evolution, Biology, and Extraordinary Power of Life’s Fundamental Bond, which was named one of the best leadership books of 2020 by Adam Grant and called “the best of science writing” by Booklist. She is also co-author, with Dana Suskind, of the New York Times bestseller Parent Nation, and has written two other books of popular science: I Can Hear You Whisper and Toxic Truth. Her work has also appeared in The Atlantic, New York Times, Wall Street Journal, Newsweek, Time, and many other publications. She lives in Brooklyn, New York with her family.

 

For more about Lydia and her work – here is the link to Lydia's books page. 

 

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